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[ - ] I eat healthy and walk a lot (size 2/4), but I dont work out. All my friends say, I should start working out or I will start looking skinny fat. Are they right? Why should I work out? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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You have weird friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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I have amazing 3 close friends, we can say anything to each other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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You should work out for your health. You need to be able to outrun the next person in case the zombie invasion every happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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NP: great minds think alike! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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As an older person (50), working out pays off in the long term since you start to lose muscle mass as you age. Good for your bones too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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+1 You do not want to turn 40-50, unable to do any push-ups and staring down osteoporosis. Strength, balance, and flexibility will prevent injury, and strong bones are key. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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39 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O SAHM post: What do you think are the essential skills of DW to run a happy household? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Not a SAHM but I am sure the same rules apply - stay organised, don't procrastinate, don't be a martyr and hire help if you can (whether it's a cleaning lady, a nanny or a gardener), clean as you go aka keep the apt/house reasonably tidy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Sounds good to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Happy household? Number one: be happy yourself. You can have all the skills in the world but if you're not happy, the household is not going to be happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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So true. So if you are tired everyday from cooking, cleaning, watching the kids without help, you won't be very happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Being a SAHM means you need to cook, clean and raise DC without hiring any help. Otherwise, what's the point of being a SAHM? And what is DW without skills to do household chores- gold digger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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The SAHMs of today are often isolated unlike the times when families lived in the same neighborhoods and the majority of moms stayed home. If your Mom and sister aren't around to help, you should certainly hire some help rather than be a martyr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Bitches like the SAHM on the post does that. The rest of us are self sufficient to do our own chores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Be organized and make sure you have enough help and support to be a happy person and have enough energy to support the other family members. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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She should know how to cook and prepare meals, she should be a gracious entertainer, she should be an organized planner who makes sure that family activities rotate to accommodate time spent on each family member's interests and socializing equally with everyone's friends, she should be neat and keep the home clean and well decorated, she should be aware of staying within a budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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The same skills a DH needs to run a happy household. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there any at-home Botox like treatments? I suffer from TMJ and really need to relax my jaw muscles. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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You need to go to the doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Wear a bite custom-made splint at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I tense my muscles during the day, not night. I consciously unclench my jaw many time a day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I work in software development. I feel the industry has changed so much that pay levels will go down and there will be access of workers in the industry soon enough. I am almost 40yo and have almost 20 years of experience. I need to continue making a good living. What do you think I can do to preposition my self? TYIA 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Not if you are very good at what you do. I just left my last job (I am 45) to start my own business (not in tech) but I can get a job in a heartbeat in a heartbeat. I kept my skills current, even switched to mobile apps. You will always be in demand. Those offshore resources are crappy and drone-like at best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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yes but the pay levels are dropping. app developers today don't make much. May I ask why you left the field to do your own non tech business? what gave you an idea for the business and are you doing well financially with the business? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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I was making 185/yr. I am sick of wall street and taking orders from morons. I want to be my own boss. I love this other industry as much and was dabbling in it on the side. I am just getting started so I will know how I do by next year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Sorry to hear this but welcome to our world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Your world? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Move to wearable software and internet-of-things software. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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these "cool" sectors have the lowest pay levels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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They are not "cool". They are practical and useful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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perhaps but they are considered "cool" in my industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I was in hardware development and I am now back in school, law school, to be an IP lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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This maybe a great idea. How much do you think you will make after law school? Given the expense of law school and loss of income do you feel it will be worth it? Is 40 too late for this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Good software design never goes out of style. While the technology may change, they always need people who have BTDT and understand how a development cycle works. Maybe move to consulting or management. I am in the same position and I have sort of made a second career out understanding the broader workflow/lifecycle. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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I totally agree with this. My strength is exactly in this area. However pay levels will still go down just the reality of supply and demand. Any idea of what I can do? I have kids to support. I really can't afford a downward slide [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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^^Basically I manage small teams/development process now while am still hands on enough to help if needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] "You are not my mom". Stepmoms, how do you respond to that? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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"I'm not your mom but I am responsible for you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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No, and I'm not trying to be your mom, but I do love you and I need to take care of you when you're here with me, and since your mom is not here right now, I'd like to do what I think she would do if she were. How do you think your mom would handle this situation? Would she let you _____? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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thank God [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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I'm not a stepmom but I would say "You are correct, I am not your mom but I am an adult member of your family who is responsible for your well-being. I care about you and we have household rules to keep you safe, healthy, and make you a productive member of society. This includes treating other household members in a respectful manner." - This assumes you are a good stepmom and not sexually or emotionally abusive like mine was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Not wanting to hear this phrase is why DH doesn't want to adopt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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I am not your mom but I love you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Not ONE Arab country will take in or aid the Arab Israelis, aka "Palestinians." Why is that? Take a look at this map, for a little perspective of the land mass issue: http://9gag.com/gag/5961367/stop-zionist-occupation 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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To the citizens of the USA, your ONLY ally in the Middle East is Israel. Every Islamic/Arab/Muslim country is ultimately an avowed enemy of The United States. So go ahead, bash Israel, the Jews, etc- you have the perfect chance to let your Anti-Jewish bias have free wing. Congratulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Yes 9gag is a great source for news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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np: its just a map picture. Is there something on the map that isn't accurate in your opinion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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The Arab Israelis already live in Israel. Don't you know that a significant portion of Israeli population are Arabs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Arab countries are steering clear because they know the difference between Hamas and Palestinians. Hamas is a terrorist group. No one wants anything to do with them, lease of all Arabs who want to live normal economically prosperous lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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They weren't all that charitable to Palestinians prior to Hamas either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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True enough. I never really understood that. Why wouldn't Arab countries like Egypt and Jordan take in their Palestinian neighbors and integrate them into their countries? Is it a Sunni/Shia thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Would it be a good idea to set up a charter school in every wealthy suburb with a good school, just so there would be "competition" to make those schools in even better? In other words, every elementary school in Scarsdale, Chappaqua, Great Neck, Westport, etc. would have to give up funding, and possibly some of their space, to a new charter school. The charter school could kick out kids but no public school could. Would parents in those suburbs support that? Maybe the charter could be for gifted kids only -- wouldn't that be a good idea? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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Waste of tax resources IMO, to create a "public" school that accepts only gifted kids and easily expels anyone they don't like. Really walking a slippery slope there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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You can't have a charter for gifted kids only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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This. What they really want is a Hunter or an Anderson for their town only, that's not the same as a charter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP: What I mean is that you have a charter that takes any child via lottery, but just encourages any child who can't keep up to leave, instead of spending the effort (and money) to teach them. If you just keep failing a child so that they are in their 3rd year of 1st grade, I'm sure they will leave. So it's basically like a gifted program for all the other kids, since there would be no obligation for the charter to teach all the kids who win the lottery if they aren't easy learners. They can just flunk them over and over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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It's called Success Academy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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That kind of contradicts the concept of public education, no? "If you can't keep up, we force you out." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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OP: Nope, charter schools that do this still claim to be public schools. And they don't force kids out per se. They simply suspend the little 7 year olds over and over, or they flunk them so that they are 8 and 9 and their parents are still being told they can't go to 2nd grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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no. parents would have no motivation to deal with charter school headaches in a place where all the schools are good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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1. The schools in the wealthy area already have gifted students and gifted classes 2. wealthy parents do need assistance with gaining more school choices, they have plenty 3. there is no magic in charter schools, they live or die based on the kids who enroll and their ability to cherry pick students [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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do not need assistance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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OP: But most elementary schools don't have gifted classes. And even in the best suburban schools, there will be a few students who struggle or misbehave a bit. The nice thing about the unethical charter schools is that they simply "encourage" those students to leave, so they other students don't have to deal with them. It is perfectly legal and it saves them lots of money, so there is more money for the smarter and well-behaved kids (and to pay administrator salaries, too.) There are some charters that don't act like that, but why would you leave your good public school for a charter school that wants to educate all students, including the more difficult ones. You'd only choose a charter school where the more difficult students aren't welcome, right? So that's the kind of charter school I am talking about that would locate in wealthy suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Charter schools fail in those areas. They are notoriously unstable and close unexpectedly. Also you have forgotten the obsession of the 'burbs :SPORTS. The charter schools can't put up decent teams for your kids. Suburban parents ignore charters. Charters are an inner city trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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How is the public supposed to compete, if they are playing the same game with different rules? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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My grandmother has commented several times that when she had DCs in school, the public schools were the ones that could expel problem students, so those parents had to get their DCs into private school, and the private schools had to deal with them. Now that model has been flipped, and the public schools are stuck with all of the problems while the funding goes to charters (or privately to privates). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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OP: This is true. That's because the charter schools have very wealthy boards who donate to politicians. The charter schools that are started by teachers or aren't big "chains" backed by millionaires do not do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Babysitter service has billed me for sales tax? is that correct in NY? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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Yes, unless there is some kind of exemption for that type of service, but I doubt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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That's wrong. Look at the post below- consistent with IRS site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Okay. My thought was that sales tax can't be charged on the particular babysitter's hours, but on the service fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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No. The nannies are independent contractors that work for the babysitting firm, who have total control of their own hours. The nannies are responsible for paying their own taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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What did she sell you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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she books sitters. not sure if that service warrants sales tax under NY law? she applied it to the total. hours plus service fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] If you had a close friend or family member who was unnecessarily strict (borderline mean) to her children, would you try to talk to her about it? I just spent some time with my SIL and her elementary-aged children. She was constantly yelling at them over the smallest things (ex. getting their clothes dirty while we were camping). They are good, sweet kids but I think all of her yelling gives them anxiety. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Absolutely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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No, mind your own business. ANd I would not conflate strict with being mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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No, you just have a disagreement over parenting styles. You wouldn't want to hear her advice about how you're being to slack with your kids, right? Absent abuse, it's not your concern unless she opens the discussion with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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You should definitely speak up if you're the perfect parent--which means you don't raise your voice AND that your children are disciplined little angels at all times (they can't be wild brats doing whatever because you don't want to break their spirit by saying "no"). Kinda Duggar-ish, I guess. Given this probably isn't the case, you should MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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not your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Try leading by example and show how parents can be nice to their kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Leading? The woman is strict. If more parents were strict, there wouldn't be so many obnoxious brats on the playground and at school! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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amen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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I usually diffuse the situation by saying "thats fine, kids will get dirty" in a good humored way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Talk about smug. Also tells the kids that their mother should be undermined. MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Its how you say it that counts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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You're either going to sound like a sanctimonious asshole OR a crazy person (picturing manic grin with "good humored" voice). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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It's really, really, not. Let her parent how she wants FFS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Why? It's not acceptable to the kid's mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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When you speak in a good natured way, moms are more receptive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Not really. None of your dang business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Uh No, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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That's like someone asking you "Wow, how did your kids get so filthy?" in a good humored way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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Ugh. I have a friend who does this. Her kids have terrible manners, which I would never comment on. But when my kids start to pick some up (and eat spaghetti with fingers to try to be funny like hers, for example,) I firmly tell them to stop. She'll say "Oh, it's OK" or "No, it's funny!" Um, no it is decidedly NOT OK for my 10 year old to eat with his hands at a restaurant for comic effect. My kids, my rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks for the replies. My inclination is to definitely mind my own business. I, personally, would never say anything but I was wondering if my husband (her brother- they are very close) could talk to her in a non-confrontational way. For the record, we lean towards strict parenting as well but the way she snapped at her kids made us think she was taking out her own stress on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Why? Her kids will be well-behaved and well-mannered in the end. There's nothing wrong with strict. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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I would maybe approach it about concern for her, rather than her parenting. "Is everything okay? You seemed a little tense on the camping trip." Tread lightly of course. Tone is everything to not put her on the defensive and also, this would only work if you two are close SILs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there a tactful way to ask a property seller how they came up with their price which is double the assessment as well as much more than the price that the identical lot next door sold for 10 months ago? Do we just assume that he just really doesn't want to sell? He is asking $500k for his little piece of lakefront property. It's assessed at $250k, and the lot next door sold for $215k. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Give up. He does not want to sell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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You can assume he's willing to sell for in the neighborhood of 500k but will hang on to property if you're looking to spent 200 to 250k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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My house is listed at 100k above market value. I wont sell for less and I asked my broker to take down the listing. He suggested to leave it up "just in case" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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just in case you change your mind. On the margin, this action hurts you because it advances the theory that the property is stale because it sat on the market for x months. Your broker is harming you for the outside chance of his own benefit if you change your tune. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Not really, the listing will expire eventually and I will relist in another 5-10 years when the market is better in that area. It will be ancient history by then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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if you arent interested in selling it for the real market price, why bother listing it for sale in the first place? No serious buyer is going to pay the ridiculous price you are asking for your property! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Assessments are based on past sales, may not be a reflection of current market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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10 months is a long time depending on the market your in. The old price may have been recession prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Not that I know of. Our apartment was on the market last year and a mom at DC's school printout out the Zillow listing of how much we purchased it for back in 2009 and the Zillow estimate of its worth (which was 100k less than we were asking). She thought this was fair and that she could make a deal. We got multiple bids for above our asking (which this woman thought was inflated) and ended up making a very nice profit. Woman was pissed off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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some people are not serious about selling, unless they feel like they can get some crazy price. You can always make an offer of any amount and see what they say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone try an at home chemical peel? Which one do you recc and what were the results like? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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bad idea jeans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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I was going to try one, read about them on Amazon, decided absolutely not to. Major potential for disaster. [ Reply | More ]
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I have done 50% glycolic peels at home. Honestly, though, they aren't magic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is 21 and I want to get her a nice purse that will last (thinking $300-400 range). Right now, she carries a large longchamp bag and loves it, but she wants something a little smaller and more 'purse' like (the longchamp bag has no pockets so you just kind of throw everything in and it annoys her sometimes). She wants a louis vuitton, but I'm not sure if that's in my price range. Any suggestions? Really looking for something classic and not trendy. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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LV not in range if budget is $300 or $400. Could you get her a smaller Longchamp with an organizer for the inside? You can customize the colors. I did this and had my bag in a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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jersey mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Marc by Marc Jacobs Hillier Hobo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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She wants a Louis Vuitton? Blech. 21 year old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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JCrew has nice leather bags in that price range. No logos, nothing crazy fashionable, more on a simple/classy side but you can go with a fun colour if you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Sport moms? I've had mild plantar fasciitis for the last four weeks. I've cut back a bit on my tennis workouts, but I am on my feet all day at work (baker), so I can't get the rest they need. I do a warm foot-bath and massage after work, and when I'm just sitting around I roll my foot on a tennis ball. Any other tips or tricks? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Wear arch supports even when barefoot at home. You can buy them in amazon that you strap on. Calf stretches. What do you wear on feet during day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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At work I wear running shoes. I have cross-trainers for the gym and tennis shoes for tennis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I would get arch support inserts. And go low impact for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Stretches BEFORE you get out of bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Spenco Polysorb inserts in every shoe you wear. Mine disappeared. Thick socks around the apt/house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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stretch by putting your toes on a riser of a stair and then let your heel fall below the stair. make sure you have a lot of support in your regular shoes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Don't do this, terrible for people that have plantar fasciitis because it torques your arch. Go to a PT and have them show you how to properly stretch your Achilles. In my experience this cures 90% of cases, that is to say properly stretching the Achilles out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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It's definitely not an Achilles tendon thing for me. Ankles, shins, and calves are perfectly happy and flexible. The only thing that's bothering me is under my heel, so it's all plantar fascia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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Look if you don't want to take my advice that's fine but I do specialize in this area. Nobody ever thinks they have a tight gastoc/soleus comes until they are made to properly stretch it with the arch support and their calcaneus in the correct position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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worked great for mine - you feel the pull/stretch on the bottom of the heel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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You were lucky then. It only works that way with a very specific foot alignment that most people don't have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Fill a cylindrical water bottle and freeze it. Then roll the bottom of your foot back and forth over the water bottle for a few minutes at a time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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+1 This one worked for me when I was training for a marathon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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this is going to sound odd but I have always suffered from plantar fascitis since my mid 20s and I dont have any problems with it as long as I take a Multi-vitamin and a B-Complex 100 vitamin daily. When I dont take them for a week, my plantar fascitis comes back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Wacky... I ran out of multivitamins in the spring and keep forgetting to pick up more. Might have to try it and see if it helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Fill a tennis ball can with water, and freeze it. Roll your foot on the frozen can instead of the tennis ball. Take an anti-inflammatory. When I had plantar fasciitis, my ortho said to take 4 Advil, 4 times a day, which is the prescription strength. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Thanks all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] On airplane right now with 2 DCs age 3 and under, one sleeping, one watching a movie on iPad. 2 kids behind me have been screaming and crying the entire flight. These aren't babies, they are 2 and up. I feel bad for the mother, but really it's probably a parenting issue, right? 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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What is the parent doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Yelling at them... Well, Quietly yelling, but attempting to discipline them. I am all for teaching lessons and parenting without bribes, but not on a plane. Kid cries on the plane, stick lollipop in mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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I know someone who goes from ignoring to yelling. It's bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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You'll be flamed but I say yes. I know a mom who lets her kid get away with murder. She was telling me how on one flight he refused to sit down and sat on the floor and she told the flight attendent "Well, what can you do." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Lol. They kick people off planes for stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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maybe she doesn't let her kids sit and watch TV all day like you do? Maybe a child has an ear infection? You sound pretty smug and very annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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np If that's the case, the tv would be a novelty and the kids would be glued to it. If the kid has an ear infection, she obviously should have postponed or canceled her trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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oh shut up. can you imagine canceling a trip because your young child, whom may be too young to speak, has an ear infection? Seriously, you women are all a bunch of smug b*^&es! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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From what I've heard, the symptoms are pretty clear. Mean (to kid and other passengers!) to fly with a child with an ear infection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Symptoms are not always clear at first and would be aggravated by flying. It is completely possible to get on the plane without knowing your child has an ear infection. Nice VBA by the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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LOL. I'm bragging because my kids have never had ear infections? Would it make it better if I told you they were ff? Or is that even worse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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What is ff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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formula fed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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No you're bragging that you have perfect parenting skills and acting like you know everything. I really don't care how you feed your children so please don't project your judgemental nature on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Of course you would cancel a flight for an ear infection with the pressure changes. You would know because they would be rubbing their ear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Not always, especially early on - MD mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I have postponed a flight for that exact reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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If you can get two under 3 to be quiet on a plane, you get to be smug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Many might consider letting your child watch movies on an iPad a "parenting issue". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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np. Flights are one of the rare circumstances when anything goes to keep the peace, imho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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OP: I rarely if ever let my kids use and iPad. Only on the airplane or very long car rides (over an hour or so). But out of respect for the other passengers, I do it on the airplane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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np An hour long car ride isn't "very long" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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She's on a plane!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Exactly! And no child in history has been on a plane without an ipad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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screw that. it's selfish. signed, screen time limiting mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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And you wonder why everyone is giving you dirty looks on the airplane? Just because you have to suffer with your brats don't make everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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^2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Not on a plane they wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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bullsh!t. i'm a complete luddite and severely limit electronics and screens for my kids (i.e. saturday morning only-2 hours only-even in the summer--and they're 10). all bets are off on planes. they can screen it up. planes are a different story altogether. it is a communal environment. you have to keep your kids quiet. period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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not many would consider watching a movie during a flight a "parenting issue" but many would consider not letting them so they can scream and torture people on the flight a self-centered rudeness issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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ok sancti mommy - your well behaved kids have never had an off day, right? never had to be awakened early and the sleepiness made them a mess? never cried in public? never are cranky for no reason? or had a belly ache, or something else? Its easy to judge. I try to think of my worst day and gage everything else by comparison. Also, as the mom of an easy and well behaved boy and also a high strung and temper tantrum prone boy, I know that the same parenting can yield different results due to temperament. STOP JUDGING and enjoy the quiet before your little angels freak out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Amen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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+1 Take a minute to download Gatsby and re-read that first paragraph again. Your post should have ended at "I feel bad for the mother". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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But what fun would that be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Yes, I know people have bad days, I was just seeing if I could rile up a few people. I guess it worked :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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You're pathetic. And karma will come back to get you! ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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This is exactly why UB needs usernames. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Demonstrating that you are the worst parent on that plane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Back pedaling at its worst - bitch please. Your smug ass got schooled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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From my experience, it is MUCH easier traveling with babies than 2 and up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. Kids are different. Don't be so smug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Well, it's fun to be smug on UB and I'm bored. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Hmmm....If only you weren't traveling by yourself, and your kids were with you, so you could do something together as a family.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Judge not lest ye be judged. Despite all your precautions, your kid could also throw a fit. Be kind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Why look for blame? Try compassion. It will be over in a few hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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NP: I find it hard to be compassionate towards noisy kids on planes.., [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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compassion is a word this smug mommy doesn't know, yet. wait until her kids grow up to be into drugs, early sex, etc. her time will come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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OP, Ok, this was not deserved, but you have a point here. In will not be smug. Time to sign off and enjoy time with my babies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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I recently flew with my 2.5 year old. On the trip there he was a perfect angel and several passengers complimented his behavior at the end of the flight. On the way back, he had a total meltdown. Same parenting each time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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No, not a parenting issue. I have flown with my kids when they have been perfect angels and when they have been screaming monsters. I parent the same. Sometimes iPads, toys, books, whatever you try just won't cut it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Whenever a stranger compliments my kids' good behavior in public, I thank them graciously, and then remind them how quickly things can swing the other way. Sometimes kids are little pricks. Have some compassion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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No, crying on an airplane is not automatically "a parenting issue". Stop looking for things that other parents are doing wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I've been on over 40 flights with my child and it's truly luck of the draw. Many went perfectly, others involved illness, bad behavior or vomiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you explain to a junior colleague that holding them accountable and expecting them to follow through is not micromanaging them? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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"It is my responsibility to hold all the staff accountable and ensure that they meet deliverables. This is a company wide policy. I am not micromanaging you since how the tasks are competed is ultimately up to you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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Thanks. This is my approach and you said it much better than I could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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You don't. YOu don't have to explain yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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I'm doing a performance review and in the person's self-assessment, she complained about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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"You have to earn trust, and I always say 'trust but verify' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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you tell them this is how it works at this company and at this time. if they want to be successful "here at IBM" this is what it means. (threat is implicit) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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are you micromanaging them as well as holding them accountable? I had a boss that had a long complicated way of putting a report together that was a lot easier if you used the technology available - but she insisted that I torture myself doing it the way she used to do it. Made me crazy that she was such an idiot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Not micromanaging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Most micromanagers don't think they are micromanaging. I would ask for specific examples of why employee thinks they are being micromanaged. At least then you know what the employee's triggers are and if they things you can easily avoid doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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