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[ - ] I have no particular specialized knowledge about anything and am in fact quite ordinary. Questions? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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Ironically I am something people always have questions about but I would NEVER give advice to strangers- so creepy [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think colleges will move back toward the old "in loco parentis" model due to all the rape stuff? Segregated-gender dorms with curfews, etc.? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Isn't that how most of them are already? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Most are definitely gender segregated. Not sure about curfews. [ Reply | More ]
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should do [ Reply | More ]
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should do [ Reply | More ]
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I would have benefited from that. I partied way too much and I guess I'm lucky nothing bad ever happened. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DS is in 7th grade a school that is very academic and kids are well supervised and a bit sheltered. I have noticed that the girls are beginning to be quite sexually aggressive. They actively seek out attention from the boys and compete with each other for the boys' attention. I am betting that most parents are not talking to their 12-year-old girls about their sexuality and desire for boys' attention. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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no, usually the blame falls on the boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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Ha. When my son was in 7th grade a girl in his class sent out a little phone video of ever sled masturbating. You're clueless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Are you discussing this with DS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Yes, he is very confused by the behavior, but also interested in the attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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These are the girls who will have a lot of issues later on - the ones whose parents ignore everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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100% normal for this age...its called hormones [ Reply | More ]
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I agree, but most parents of the girls are in denial and therefore I don't think they are addressing the aggressive sexuality of some of these girls. I think that's often where trouble starts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Yes, I have a 5yr old DD and I will be having the talk with her at 11 and putting her on the pill at 16. [ Reply | More ]
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You are more open-minded than most. I think the fear of the "slut" stigma prevents some parents from just addressing the normal sexuality of young girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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I remember being 16yrs old and all my friends were having sex and these were the ones considering "the good ones" but I waited till I was 17. I also remember being afraid of getting a bad reputation but getting pregnant was truly the WORST thing that could happen to a girl so I'll at least protect my DD from that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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This. And girls mature before boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] What's going on in Missouri? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Nothing good... [ Reply | More ]
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After the 4.5 minute of silence, they will burn the state down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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No huge loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Ex mentioned taking DCs for holiday several weeks ago. Have not heard a word from him since that time. Should I go ahead and make plans for us to spend Thanksgiving with my family? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Ask him [ Reply | More ]
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Good grief. Ask him, not us. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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He's not the father? One of us might be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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You should ask him... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Want us to ask him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Ask him! Being passive-aggressive causes more strife between people, I swear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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You didn't want to reach out to him and nail this down, like, a month ago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Want to know why your dds get raped 20 minutes after hitting campus? Because you've sat on them 24/7 since birth and kept them on a 6 inch leash. They develop zero social skills, zero ability to handle themselves, zero ability to assess situations and respond appropriately. You're sending your daughter to college with the social acumen of a 10 year old. They're not "innocent", they're unnaturally sheltered and socially retarded. You want your 18 yo to know way to do with a college boy? Let her go to a movie with some friends when she's 13. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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stfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Let's not blame the victim. I hear you to some extent, but a lot of these girls did nothing stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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She's not blaming the victim. She's blaming the parents of victims. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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This. Reading comp issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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uh, just keep her from drinking to oblivion. don't be retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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I had a lot of freedom. Too much by common standards. I think that puts girls at a higher risk. There's a happy medium and we all aim for it as best we can... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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I completely agree with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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That's why I buy my DCs lots of liquor and cocaine and then let them use the apartment unsupervised for weeks at a time. Why leave the training wheels on? Jump right into the deep end, I always say! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I'm sure that when she has her first beer as a college freshman, she'll make one or 6 lucky guys very happy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Disgusting. Really fucking disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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Gang bang or DP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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The word you are looking for is rape. Gang rape. AKA- What I hope happens to you in jail one day (not your DS. I can tell you are not a mother, or a woman). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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And the parents of the rapists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Right. Now can you post why your DSs rape girls within 20 minutes of hitting campus? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Meh, I think he was a junior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the most horrible thing you've ever done? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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I put chocolate ex-lax in cookies I made for my pledge master in college. She had a bad night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Had an abortion after seeing the heartbeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Nothing horrible about that. Be good to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Got a huge tattoo on my back when I was 20 and fucked up on drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Can you remove it? Does that work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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I've started the process years ago but it was so incredibly painful and I had scarring. Waiting for the technology to get better (it's all different colors) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Thats rough. Thats why I never got one. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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np: I had a tattoo on my shoulder blade removed, but it was medium sized, not large, and there was no scarring (thankfully) but it hurt like a son of a bitch coming off (I think I had 5 treatments to remove it) - much worse than having it put on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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I lied I was pg and made a guy give me $. I was very young and evil. Still feel icky about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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cheated on a boyfriend because I didn't have the guts to break up with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Shot a unarmed black teenager with his hands up in the air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Drove drunk and got a DUI. Well, everything that came from my drinking was the most horrible I have ever done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Yes, I did this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't imagine sitting down to take questions on UB. It seems so conceited to me. Thoughts? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Touché [ Reply | More ]
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I find them helpful sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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When I first joined UB, I was a little thrown by those posts because they all seemed so boring/fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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Not bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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OP- I would be inclined to fuck with them.... Kindergarten admission director here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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How is it different than sitting down and writing this post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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One is asking for advice or you opinion while the other is offering some murky knowledge and soliciting for questions. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see it as so different. Either way you're expecting people to have an interest in your post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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i never could think of, "i'm xyz. any questions?" i bet if i were pediatric endocrinologist, an oncologist or an orthodox jew or something different, i'd have a chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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I like them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Some are very useful to me. For instance, Make Up Mom offers great advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Dear New Englanders the word "mine" is pronounced "myne" not "my in". 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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In New England each vowel gets AT LEAST it's own syllable, maybe two... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Boston burbs mom here. My 5 yo dd counts like this. One. Two. Three. Four-OR. [ Reply | More ]
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What "TOMATO?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. Friend had a baby about three months ago. Her other dc is 3, both are boys... Yet I just got an invite to a baby shower for the three month old. Am I right to be annoyed? She also just sent a group message on fb letting us know where she is registered. "If you'd like to bring a gift for [Baby] (not necessary) we are registered at..." 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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tacky. do they not have much money and she needs the stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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I assume they still have everything from the first baby. She had a nice shower three years ago and I was happy to give, but this just seems so odd to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like she needs attention, or needs the gift, or something. If you are good friends, send her something from the registry that's a token gift? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I order Turkey legs only? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Trader joes had them no ordering required and so did stop and shop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Kinds of posts you collapse or just skip over? I'll start... Anything that says Kardashian, RM, or TT private school. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Anything reality TV-related, obvious troll posts ("I was the OW and my DH left his ex wife because she was a SAHM and was too fat"), post from people crying poor while living above their means [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Anything longer than 100 words [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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but that won't collapse the op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I collapse anyone who uses terms "flyover", retarded", "i'm not racist, but...", "which bag should I buy"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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that sounds totally retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I skip anything to/from "psychic mom", or circumcision debates, or sahm/wohm debates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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This, and the any questions post. [ Reply | More ]
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"Any questions" posts are skipped over as quickly as possible! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Single women, divorced women, women with cheating husbands. Don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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Schools, name polls, posts where the OP sounds unhinged. Needless to say, I skip over A LOT. I wish it would default to collapsed mode and I could expand only the posts I am interested in reading. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Agree. I also wish there was an option to completely hide posts, not just collapse them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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Absolutely anything involving Success Academy. Everyone involved is deranged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of thread in UVA Most Popular post: Several posters seemed incredulous that a poster's sister (who became pregnant during a one-night stand) college freshman would not have "felt" that the male had no condom on (despite him claiming he was wearing one). Seriously? This is a whole level of victim-blaming. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Totally agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Condom feels different than no condom. Hardly victim blaming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Not everyone has had enough c*ck in them to know the difference, Slutty McSlutteron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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I'd say if you can't tell you're pretty worn out down there. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: So, an inexperienced 18 yo is supposed to have that level of sophistication? I'm decades older and not sure I would know the difference unless I were seriously concentrating on that. [ Reply | More ]
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Incredulous posters can not relate to a sexually-inexperienced drunk 18 yo. Either they were very experienced sexually by that point or just don't remember. [ Reply | More ]
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People always want to think the girl is in the wrong because it makes them feel this couldn't happen to them. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I know! I thought I had seen all the victim-shaming on UB, but this was a new low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Oh please. Everyone's a "victim" on UB. The word get abused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:24 PM Flag
[ - ] This isn't going to be popular.... If you took payouts for years because you were raped by Bill Cosby, you're a prostitute. You can't have your cake and eat it too. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Bill Cosby I's a hypocrite, I can't stand the man. I do agree with you, there's no about of money that would keep my mouth shut about being raped. [ Reply | More ]
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I hear you, but I think if you're up against someone as powerful as Cosby was, no one is going to believe your claim. So some compensation is better than nothing (maybe can pay for therapy?). Who can say what they would do in the same horrible situatipon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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You're an asshole. Look at the terrible things people are saying about these women and at this point we're up to what, dozens? Any single woman coming forward would have been ripped to shreds. Stop assuming to know the inner workings of a rape victim's mind, unless you are one yourself, and probably not even then. This is a disgusting post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Paid for sex is paid for sex. They shouldn't have taken the money then. [ Reply | More ]
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
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i agree. they were put in a distasteful situation but took it because they wanted something from him. i also think if he had made a movie star of any of them, we wouldn't have heard from them because the "payoff" would have been adequate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Not a prostitute...it's called being paid for pain and suffering. Would you call the children that Michael Jackson messed with prostitutes for taking money to pay for their therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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they were taking payments while continually being "abused." not all of them, like janice dickinson, but some of them, like that actress wanna be barbara bowman who came back for more for 2 years from 17 to 19. [ Reply | More ]
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sometimes, it might not have been money. it might have been the spoken or unspoken promise of a career or an introduction, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe they were smart to accept the money, in hindsight, as to me that reads as admission of guilt from bill cosby ... [ Reply | More ]
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It's compensation for pain and suffering, asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you do? I am a flexibly employer and give a lot of time off = we travel or don't use nanny for up to 5 weeks a year and also she gets to pick her own vacation time and she also gets certain holidays (. We also guarantee payment for a certain number of hours per week and rarely use all the hours. Nanny frequently asks to leave an hour early and I almost always make it happen because she is a night student and I want to be supportive - she always tells me that she can't make up the time on a certain day. So for example she will say - can I leave early thursday and make up the time but never is available to make up the time. I am starting to feel taken advantage of but she is fabulous with our kids and has many great qualities. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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After a year or so, many nannies get lazy. Getting to be that time -- to repalce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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It would depend on how much longer I needed to keep a full time nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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OP - until next september - kids will be in school full time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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September 2015 as in 9 months from now? If so, and she is fabulous otherwise, I would just let it go and make it work until then. Make plans accordingly. [ Reply | More ]
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I think so it is frustrating though. Yes, september 2015. I think she realizes her time is limited with us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Plan that summer time at your parents for August and let her go early. I am assuming 5 weeks of vacation isn't her formal amount of vacation so you can save $$ there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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It is standard to pay the nanny during your vacation, and also allow her some time of her own. It is also standard to garuntee payment for a minimum number of hours. None of this is particularly exceptional. But the letting her go home early thing...that you can deal with by explaining it will be docked from her weekly garunteed hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Not many families (unless really wealthy) give 5 weeks of vacation AND let nanny choose on top of it. Only on UB bot not IRL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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OP - I agree it is not normal. We are not uber wealthy but I am able to work from home so I spend a few weeks of the summer at my parent's house to spend time with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Most people who employ FT nannies get this much vacation, so most of them give their nannies this much time. I worked as a nanny for 15 years (though not currently) and never came across a family offering less than this by more than maybe a week. [ Reply | More ]
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(My point is simply that this is not unusual...I do think that OP should start holding nanny accountable for leaving early) [ Reply | More ]
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My point is that it IS UNUSUAL [ Reply | More ]
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It's not. Not in my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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Only nannies who work for wealthy employers do. We have had nannies for 12 years and never give more than 2 weeks. Very few people can take 5 weeks off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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pp The employers I worked with were very middle class by UB standards and still got 4-5 weeks vacation/year. I don't ever recall interviewing for a job where this was not part of the package. But maybe I just had a really unusual experience? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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OP - I never said that it wasn't standard to pay those things so I don't know where you are getting that from. What isn't standard is regularly getting hours off and employer adjusting her schedule to fit your personal and academic needs. This is what I mean by flexible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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It just seemed like you were using that as examples of how you're generous. The example of how you're generous is letting her leave early. If this bothers you, stop doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Don't listen to nannies on UB. They will soon have you believing that you should sign over all you have to them because they are taking care of your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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I get that though. I do believe that taking care of my kids is a very important thing and I want the nanny to feel trusted and valued. It is a fine line though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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The nanny just said OP should dock her pay if she leaves early. What are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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So why don't you change the number of hours you garuntee if she frequently asks to leave early? Or dock those hours from her pay. This is not hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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OP - I could do it but when our needs went down DH and decided to guarantee her 40 hours a week in order to not have to make the change for the last year we needed full time help. I should do what you say though. I might have made a mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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have a makeup time in mind for when she asks to leave early. "Sure, but can you be here at 8pm on Sat?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Good idea but I am often taken by surprise and it is hard to think about it right when she asks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Say to her,"every time you do this, you are unavailable to make up the time, how can we handle this situation because it is not working for me?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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Don't give her an answer right away. Tell her you need to check to see if you can move things around and you will get back to her in a little while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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Tell her that she can leave early, but so far she owes you six hours for leaving early the past few weeks or months and which night can she babysit so you and DH can go out for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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This is actually what we did to keep the 40 hours per week but between her academic schedule and other obligations it hasn't been working out. She doesn't like to come in on the weekends which is why we never use her 40 hours a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Then start paying her for 35 or whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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OP - I appreciate all the thoughtful responses. I think I need to rework things starting in January. I think I will just make one late night a week and account for all 40 hours and also discuss the issue of making up hours not worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] The fact that the three elder Kardashian sisters have the big butt and the mom, and the baby sisters do not, proves that the Khloe is actually a Kardashian, don't you think? I was just looking at AMA photos and recalled the conversation yesterday regarding Khloe being the hairdresser's. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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Or half black... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Maybe same plastic surgeon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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They're mom has a big ass too. She just covers it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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I don't care. they don't interest me enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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I don't know why you bother posting then but whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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no the hairdresser guy who is her dad is a big dude [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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I think she got her butt done. It wasn't always that prominent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Even with plastic surgery it is not easy to replicate the Kardashian butt. She may have some work done...I'd guess they all do. But there is still a genetic baseline they all seem to have that most do not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o What would you NOT do for $100MM? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Be Bill Cosby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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give up one of my kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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But what if someone offered you that to surrogate for them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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np That woudn't be my child. It would be biologically theirs. I would consider that because I have great pregnancies, and it would be helping them out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Not my kid so no problem. Also I would give an egg for that, biologically mine but not raised by me so I could probably do it. I'm talking about the three kids I currently have. Hell for a 100mm I might give up the one I'm carrying, no, I wouldn't but see.. it crossed my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Really? I'm pregnant right now and cannot imagine considering this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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Incest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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What happened to the rest of my money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Uh, I assume she means for an additional 100mm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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Commit suicide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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good one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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You could leave the money to a good cause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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But why would I want to do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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I think a lot of money that even goes to the "good causes" is wasted here and there. I believe in the starfish theory. Help a starfish in front of you. Don't give money to someone else to spread it out. Obviously minds can differ but there's just too much corruption in charity for me to be comfortable. I'd rather pay the tuition of one kid to go to school than just give the money over to a private for broad use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Give up my kids or DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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You can have my DH for 1/2 the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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you can have mine for 1% - but you're not killing him right? I don't want to be part of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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$50mm, that;s pretty good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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$50mm, that;s pretty good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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I don't think I could eat poop for any amount of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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For $100MM? Sign me up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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I don't think I could do it. I would certainly try for that much money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Allow DS to become a douchey Investment Banker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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i would like my ds to become a douchey investment banker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Plump up my ass like a Kardashian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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A lot of things: Murder, giving up a child, leaving my husband, hurting puppies, I have a lot of lines I wouldn't cross. Being that crazy rich isn't important to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Murder, give up one of my kids (or put them at risk) or amputate a limb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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i doubt any of us will really know until it is in front of us. it also largely depends on the present financial situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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No. I think we can all know we wouldn't give up our kids. Haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] PS40 mom here. Any questions? I have about 20 min. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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No no I'm a ps40 mom... ask me!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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OP here. Hi! What grade is your child in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I have more than one- if I tell you'll know who I am. I'm sure. Its a small school. I do have a 5th grader! Thats always a horrifying topic because of middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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I have a 5th grader too! LOL!!! OK, we have to stop now bc we will find out who we are! (Sounds very deep) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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Easily. I'm sure. Where are you looking at middle? I'm so torn. I hate this so much I would love to sent DC private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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Just one: why would we have questions for you???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Because people are starting to think about moving to zones with good public schools in D 2 for K, silly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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PS 211 mom here. Also happy to answer questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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ok. If you could choose just one thing to change about the world, what would it be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I'd make myself omnipotent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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What makes you, you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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My spunk. (That's such an old word, haha!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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What would you NOT do for $100M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Give up my kiddos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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What is the difference between living and being alive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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passing by vs throwing yourself in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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What role does honour play in today’s society? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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It's perceived honour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Isn’t one person’s terrorist another person’s freedom fighter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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haha- THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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What is the meaning of life, the universe, and everything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Depends on what the Happy Hour Special is :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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If everything evolved from amoebas, how does the world still have amoebas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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They are mutated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Can we have happiness without sadness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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No- everything is relative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Guess her 20 minutes was up. This could've been so enlightening! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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You need to refresh, my dear. I answered all of the questions. Now my time really IS up! haha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that Cuomo has been POTUS of New York for a few years, what kind of job do you think he has done? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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I've worked somewhat closely with him and his team for a few years and he's the scariest politician I have ever seen in terms of his operation. Because he's smart enough to not make the dopey, ham-handed mistakes that all the other politicos make that out them as crass partisan hacks. He's like the Clintons, he's been in the game long enough that he's up to all the same shit (worse, actually) but he's savvy enough to hide his tracks so that you never really know what he's up to. He's playing a very long game and he's got pieces in place that he probably laid in the early 2000s that he'll just activate when it's the right time for him to do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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In other words, "He gets shit done". Whereas many people just talk about getting shit done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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He doesn't get anything done. He has no core principles, IMO. Doing the bidding of your biggest donors isn't the kind of "getting things done" that most people like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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This x 1,000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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OP: give it a rest with replying to your own posts. You are veery transparent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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OR: Who are you talking to? I posted that Cuomo had no core principles. That is my only post. Why would anyone pretend to agree with themselves on an anonymous board? Talk about being insecure! Who cares if no one agrees with you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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This is an incredibly interesting response. Almost sounds like the OP and OR are the same person. But again a very intriguing response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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ITA. He's a scarey bully rat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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I think he is out for Cuomo and only Cuomo. He has no moral center except for what advances him. No interest in the voters; it's all about the donors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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Do you know what POTUS stands for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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+2!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Meh, in his mind, Cuomo thinks he is POTUS of NY. np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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^I find him ridiculously self serving. It's all about maneuvering for his next ambition. IMO he cares little for NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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hilarious. OP obviously asked and answered, too, with 1st post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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And that somehow makes what she says untrue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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seriously. wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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This must be the person who talked about the "POTUS of Canada" a while back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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This is a troll. Kind of a weird troll, but a troll nonetheless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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he's the GONYS [ Reply | More ]
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