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[ - ] At what age can you start putting a baby on a schedule? 1 mos? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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First day [ Reply | More ]
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I started at 6 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
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My baby is 11 weeks and we are just sort of getting into a schedule but its still pretty loose at this point. Breastfeeding is harder in my opinion. I pump/bottle feed so I feel like its been easier to create a schedule. Breastfeeding/clusterfeeding makes it harder in my opinion! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Divorced moms, did you do anything special after your divorce or was it just too depressing? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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my BFF threw her rings in the Atlantic. [ Reply | More ]
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my BFF threw her rings in the Atlantic. [ Reply | More ]
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that was stupid. she should have sold it to the higest bidder and donated the money to charity [ Reply | More ]
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I put my wedding dress in the good will box. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Stop! Stop answering the SAHM troll below. Ugh, I love you guys but you're so clueless sometimes! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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But she's infuriating! [ Reply | More ]
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It's game. How long does it take the troll to get to: "Men and women are different. Because they JUST ARE." [ Reply | More ]
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^^^In this case, roughly 20 minutes [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My ex loved bjs and he loved anal. Sex- eh, not the same. We had regular sex but not as much as the other stuff- bjs and anal. WTF? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Are you dense? Gay. [ Reply | More ]
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op: he loved my breasts though, my ass-- touching! went down on me! I'm not dense. [ Reply | More ]
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There are different levels of being gay. Some still like some lady parts! Those are a few years away from coming out! [ Reply | More ]
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My ex never liked anal or even going near it, but only liked bj's. It was almost impossible to get him do regular sex. He would beg me to finish with bj and not do regular. (before and post baby) [ Reply | More ]
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see!!! [ Reply | More ]
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It is very possible I am dating your exDH. [ Reply | More ]
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OR and you don't think gay? [ Reply | More ]
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my dh likes bj's and anal. he also watches porn. i accused him of being gay. he schooled me immediately. he pointed out that gay men dont watch straight porn. i would never have thought of that [ Reply | More ]
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op: I was thinking- ass is so tight- it has to be better that the V. AND bjs must be so much feeling and stimulation. In this was, makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
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i think it is the tightness and BJ's are imp to men becuase it is very intimate for them and it shows that you are very into them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Are your BJ's essentially hand jobs? [ Reply | More ]
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op: NOT AT ALL. [ Reply | More ]
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No truth to that. My sister is gay and watches straight porn; I'm straight and watch gay male porn. [ Reply | More ]
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Looking for tightest options. Masturbates too much. [ Reply | More ]
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op: mmm and how should I have gotten him to like regular sex better? SO CURIOUS! [ Reply | More ]
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direct him to your vagina [ Reply | More ]
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Your jay jay stinks [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you are over 45 or 50, tell me what you do and how much longer you think you can do it. I am 38 but I really don't see many women over 45 around. Those who are still working are in higher roles, but what do regular women do? Babysit their grandchildren? Work in retail? I am freaking out about future. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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I know I am 37 and I feel like I have a long time left but not sure they will keep me! I do not have nearly enough in savings! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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Are you kidding me? [ Reply | More ]
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np: Why would she be kidding? Young women are a dime a dozen in the office but women above 50? Few and far in between. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, once you turn 45 you are an invalid only capable of watching the grandkids (do you know 45 you why grandkids). If you are lucky, you get to leave the house and work in retail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Are you freaking ignorant????? [ Reply | More ]
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You took that literally? Too much ass burgers around here. [ Reply | More ]
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np: UBers used to have better sarcasm detectors. [ Reply | More ]
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lol!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Not fair. This is true in many industries. I work in fashion and I am 45 and don't think i can go for much longer. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. To answer OP's question: regular women are nurses, doctors, lawyers, secretaries, artists, real estate agents, saleswomen, clerks, assistants, business owners, just to name a few. Where are you that you don't see "elderly" women working? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Hmmm….biglaw, fashion, finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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They work as lawyers or doctors. They work as college professor or teachers. They work in government or media. That being said, I do know a number of women who are in mid-50s who seem to be at the "expendable" stage in offices and get laid off and have a hard time finding work. These are women with 30 years experience in good jobs -- it's not as if they are hard to deal with or don't know what they are doing. But there is always someone cheaper or willing to work much longer hours. Some of them are talking about starting a business together and I bet they would be great at whatever they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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10x as many women working as lawyers at age 25 than at age 50. [ Reply | More ]
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This is what I think. In some jobs (doctors, lawyers, professors etc)age doesn't matter; in fact you have more credibility as an older person. But most jobs are not like that-you get easily replaced with younger people, especially if you are in a client faced role. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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I am 48 and during the day I stay in locked closet. I'm only allowed out in the dead of night, so i don't offend you young'uns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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This is a valid question and you know it. Don't get all offended and answer the question if you think you have something to say. I work in Recruiting and I don't see that many mature candidates, men or women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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OR - I also work in recruiting, and I agree that there is terrible age discrimination out there. However, the way your phrased your concern was ignorant and insulting. [ Reply | More ]
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Part of that may be that people are already established in their careers and sticking to that. [ Reply | More ]
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Life does not end at 45. [ Reply | More ]
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I am 45, a professor and is expecting a baby soon. I hope my life is not over yet :-) [ Reply | More ]
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We do the same as we did before 50. I didn't die the second I turned 50. I work, I play, I live my life. I chase my passions. My children are raised and I do whatever the hell I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Do NYC private girls schools redshirt? IF so which ones do, which ones don't? DD is a June bday. thanks! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They all do. It's just not a given. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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absurd- they are so shortchanging their DDs long-term [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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agree. I know for the boys schools it's automatic..but I didn't think the girls schools were on the same bandwagon? [ Reply | More ]
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All privates do it for the money. [ Reply | More ]
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What does that mean? They get 13 years out of you no matter how old dd is in K. That's it, unless she has to repeat K. [ Reply | More ]
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They convince you that your DC is "emotionally immature" or "not ready" for the next grade, or some variation, and you pay an extra year tuition while your DC unnecessarily repeats a year. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't happen more than once per year, if that, and sometimes those girls leave. Hardly a moneymaking scheme there. No, that is NOT why they redshirt. That would be the opposite of redshirting. That would be taking a chance on a young summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Is it really automatic for boys schools? Like to hear more... [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. The majority of the country has a September cut - off date. Holding back a summer dd doesn't do anything. [ Reply | More ]
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Sure it does- studies show younger kids within a class have higher scores and lifetime earnings than ones on the older end. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] TMI alert, look away sensitive people. Ahem - how long did it take for sex to feel normal again post-baby? I'm doing Kegels like a madwoman, but I can barely feel them. Had a nearly 4th degree tear which has healed nicely, but overall I feel like I'm flapping in the wind here. Give me some hope! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Dh is very large. Things fit better for us after baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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6 to 9 months. I know it sounds long, but it can hurt for a long time. Maybe even longer than that. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't have sex for a few months and do kegels religiously. I was so tight by the time I attempted again, my dh said it felt like I was a virgin. Do oral instead for awhile or take it from the back until then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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^^^don't have sex for about 6 months in the front. [ Reply | More ]
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This was not true for me with 2nd DB. I had no tearing and was back up and running in a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Have you ever taken a job that seemed way over your head? Did you learn it quickly or fail and regret it? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Hello? No experience with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Yes, and I did just fine. I think it is very important to have a good mentor and clear goals. [ Reply | More ]
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Richard Brandon basically advises one to take the job and sort it out later [ Reply | More ]
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Branson* [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with this and I think that men are more likely to do this, while women want to make sure they can do the job perfectly before they take it. To make some sweeping generalities. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree 100%. Men take a Jon that they are barely qualified for and women wait to see if it is a perfect fit. [ Reply | More ]
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Mr. DeBlasio? [ Reply | More ]
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You can do it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Yesterday I had lunch with a friend that I was really close to years ago. As we sat catching up on the time that passed, i felt really sad for her. She is a high level banking excecutive, recently returned from living overseas on her co's dime, she looks really good but her eyes were sad. We always thought that she would be the one living my life - happily married with children and I hers. It was awkward because she basically through herself into her career when a man she had been having a long distace realtionship for three yrs dumped her. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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At least she has the career. It would be sadder for her if she had no DH, no kids, and just a "job". [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
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How old is she? Why can't she get married now? [ Reply | More ]
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early 40's. she can but i believe she is jaded. she actually dated a wonderful guy out of college but she didn't think he was going to be successful. she was wrong and i think he was the one that go away [ Reply | More ]
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OK but that was 20 years ago. If she wanted to meet a successful man, she could have between then and now. [ Reply | More ]
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the point is she has met - her last relationship she beleived he was the one. spent three years with him to learn that he wasnt ready. she became crazed with moving up the corporate ladder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Good for her [ Reply | More ]
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+1. She could be in her early 40s, married to the wrong man, stuck in an unhappy marriage, unfulfilled in her career, divorced, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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She was sad or her eyes looked sad? If the later, you are reading way too much into her eyes. [ Reply | More ]
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she was sad. i know her. we were inseperable for years. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound jealous that you don't have the career she does [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone -- and I mean everyone -- goes through ups and downs in their life. You don't judge a life by one or two years. I know SAHM who get dumped by their dh's when their last kid graduates high school and they look sad. In a few years your "friend" might be in a great relationship and seem to have it all and you might be at a down point. So support her and hope that she supports you when she is up and you are down. But don't judge her. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Her relationships did not workout...good thing she didn't count on one to support her for the rest of her life. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Name an interesting international place to vacation with young children--someplace safe, obviously, yet off the beaten path 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Always wanted to visit Iceland. [ Reply | More ]
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good idea [ Reply | More ]
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Greenland would be even better. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a sucker for Icelandic wool. [ Reply | More ]
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How young? How long can you be gone? [ Reply | More ]
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just one 3 year old...for about 2-3 weeks [ Reply | More ]
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np: london and ireland. [ Reply | More ]
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Not really off the beaten path. [ Reply | More ]
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i wouldnt do that with a 3 year old. [ Reply | More ]
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Singapore [ Reply | More ]
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Copenhagen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Corsica. [ Reply | More ]
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Belgium, West Flanders in summer. Stay in Bruges and Ghent, take short train to the beach cities. Ride bikes along canals and ocean. All the beach cities are connected by bike path and beach train. [ Reply | More ]
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Planning to take 7 year old dd to Argentina this winter. [ Reply | More ]
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Santiago de Compestela is a beautiful city in Spain. Americans usually visit Barcelona or Madrid, but Santiago is far prettier IMO [ Reply | More ]
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Croatia [ Reply | More ]
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Cusco [ Reply | More ]
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most places outside the US. America, and especially, NYC is not very kid-friendly. We took DD to Italy when she was 2 and had a great time. Everyone was so warm and friendly. [ Reply | More ]
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Buenos Aires/Patagonia, Japan, Thailand [ Reply | More ]
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New Zealand..rent a camper van and tour [ Reply | More ]
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St Thomas [ Reply | More ]
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gross [ Reply | More ]
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Belize is great. You can spend time in a jungle lodge without electricity and see all kinds of wildlife on easy hikes, and then spend a few days on the beach. They're more famous for diving the amazing reef than huge beaches, so they don't seem to get the huge resorts you see on the Mexican coast. It's safe, people speak English, and if you're really ambitious you can easily take a day trip into Guatemala to see ruins or shop at the markets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a great pumpkin muffin or cake recipe you can post the recipe or link to? I want to bake this weekend with DD. Thanks!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Anyone? Maybe I'll repost this for the late night crowd. [ Reply | More ]
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trader joes pumpkin cake mix is amazing [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! Love the smell of it baking in my apt [ Reply | More ]
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I tried this one recently and it was good. http://m.allrecipes.com/recipe/6732/chocolate-chip-pumpkin-bread [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is there a certain age when your metabolism noticeably slowed down? Assuming you continue to eat healthily and exercise, do you think it would be possible to avoid any weight gain in middle age/old age? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Looks like plenty manage to do so in NYC. I think post-menopause is the hardest time. The hourglass figure morphs into fat around the belly. Very easy to see who is pre and post menopause. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think this affects women less who are not hour-glassed shaped to begin with (i.e.. those with more boyish figures?) [ Reply | More ]
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Not necessarily. They just tend to have a "thicker" stick figure. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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for me, late 40's. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I've known many women who are 50+ and avoided weight gain. In many cases, it seems to be as much about attitude as aging. A lot of women work hard to have good bodies from teens to 40s. Once they hit middle age, they feel justified in relaxing and worrying less about being physically attractive than actually enjoying life. [ Reply | More ]
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I started noticing a little weight gain in my late 40s (still not at menopause yet), but nothing that can't be solved by paying better attention to what I eat and exercising more. [ Reply | More ]
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For me, 40. I used to eat everything before that. Now I have to be really diligent to avoid weight gain. It's about calories; exercise is good for you but doesn't help me with weight management. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Grandmothers should never be too thin. If you don't gain a size or two by the time you have grandchildren, you're doing it wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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OP, I always wondered why so many of my mom's friends were thick in the middle. Then I hit menopause and gained a helluva lot more insight. Being active and watching food is much more critical, even for those of who coasted for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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Late 30s/early 40s for me. Had to pay much more attention to nutrition and exercise. Having DCs also gave me less time to focus on personal care. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Been reading a lot lately about the benefits of fermented foods.. If I make pickles w dd- sliced cukes, distilled white vinegar, salt - is that considered fermented? Does it have the probiotics? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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fermentation kills bacteria. that's why pickles last forever. [ Reply | More ]
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So is what we're doing "fermenting" ? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I made the best chilli today :) 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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what's in it? love me a good chilli [ Reply | More ]
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90 percent lean ground beef, dark red kidney beans, tomatoes , the usual spices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Well done. That said, chilli is hardly difficult cooking :) [ Reply | More ]
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That's the best part- its so good and it was so easy [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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good for you! [ Reply | More ]
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Perfect day for it. [ Reply | More ]
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Darn it, now I want chili. [ Reply | More ]
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such a perfect day for chilli too! [ Reply | More ]
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Love it! Especially with a cold beer. Do you put cheese or sour cream on the top? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: this is not an either/ or situation in my world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Taxi etiquette question - this morning I took 14 yo DD to a doctor appointment. We finished about 10 AM, and we went outside to find a taxi to send her to school. It was rainy out as you know. So I saw a cab that was discharging a passenger and ran up to it from behind. My daughter was just about to get in when a woman ran over from the other direction and said she was waiting for that particular taxi. I let her take it but my daughter thinks I was too nice and my daughter should have taken it. yes, this does happen to me where somebody just jumps out and takes a taxi I was waiting for. It took us a long time to find another one. What do you think? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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You were a push over- first come first serve [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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I didn't see the other woman at all. The taxi had stopped to let someone out so she was up ahead and I was coming from behind. [ Reply | More ]
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This is a poor policy. One should be reasonably considerate. [ Reply | More ]
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That's a had to be there situation it depends on where she was standing versus how you approached. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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This. I'm making up streets here, but let's say she was standing on 3rd at the corner of 50th, and you were on 3rd at the corner of 49th. If she flagged down the cab, and it stopped on 3rd between 50th and 49th, it's hers- the cab was stopping for her. However, if YOU were at 50th, and she was at 49th, the cab was stopping for you and it was yours, even if she was standing out there longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Ask the cab driver! [ Reply | More ]
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Oh FFS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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No right answer here. If the lady had her hand up first, it should go to her, but you don't know that. You could have asked the driver who he was stopping for. He could have told you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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He stopped to let a passenger out. I was already standing at the open door when the passenger exited. The other woman came up at the passenger side. There was no way she could get in unless I allowed her to. I could have just let my daughter in and it would have been a done deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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You went with kindness, and that can never be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Spoken like a sahm with no where to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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First come first serve. No hold barred. Whoever is in there first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Use uber next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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If the cab was already stopped and was discharging a passenger, you got there first. The fact that the other woman might have been waiting for the cab before you and just couldn't get there in time is her problem. On the other hand, if you ran up and flagged it down when she was already standing down the block a bit (I use the 1 block rule on that -- if the other person was there first on the same block then you wait), then she would be in the right, IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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OP This is good. I was on East 72nd between York and the River. The taxi made a U turn from the south side of the street and stopped midway between the corners to let the passenger out. This is a dead end street. Presumably, this woman was trying to flag a taxi while standing on the corner of East 72 and York. I did not see her at all until she popped up next to the passenger side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Unless she was obviously pregnant, with a young child, elderly, or disabled, definitely first come first serve. I would have taken the cab and told her to go eff off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone posted yesterday on an anti SAHM thread saying "It can't just be about your family. It has to be about the bigger picture?" How is working for some corporation "the bigger picture"? Family an love are the big picture. Slaving away in a cubicle is not helping the world, no matter how important you think your market research job is. The best way to help the world be a better place is to focus your all on raising the best possible humans for the next generation. And that means being there for your kids as much as possible. 81 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Oh FFS! You raise your family the way you need to and I will raise mine the way I want to. There is NO RIGHT WAY to raise a family. Jesus! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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She's just talking about herself. And most people think everyone else should be like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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Shut up. Get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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Sorry you have to work. This post must make you jealous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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Hmmmm. Sitting in my office looking out the window at the Capitol after a two-hour lunch, going home to my 10 year-old in about an hour and the best part? Making use of those six years of college. Incredibly jealous. Isn't "Ellen" on pretty soon? Must be the highlight of your day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Who has televisions these days? How old are you? 50? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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36! C'mon - most folks still have basic cable, right? We just have four channels, but Brian Williams and his sexy purple tie is must-see tv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Is that what you're going to tell your DDs? That your value is solely on the kind of children you can produce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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^^^ Should both parents stay home then? It's OK if DH is a market research cubicle-er? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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op: Kids should have one parent home with them. Whichever one the family decides is a better fit. Or if both parents can afford to stay home that's great too, but that doesn't often happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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So because DH has to work he should make you suffer and miss out on the kids childhood too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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op: Not everyone decides to have kids. But if and when you decide to have them, they should be the focus for the 18 years they live with you. You can work before that or after that but someone who loves them should be raising them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Why just 18? Maybe they stay at home until they are 25. Maybe they go to boarding school at 15. The best bet is never to leave the house, in case someone has to tie their shoe. That's a way to always fees useful, when you know you have a limited shelf life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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You don't think a mom is useful I her kids after they turn 18? Sad for you. You must have a bad relationship with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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sure, she's useful, but not 24/7. assuming you can take their calls you are being as useful as you need to be most of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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Yes, because she stayed home and I had no respect for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Says the SAHM wasting precious mommy time on UB. Arn't dc home from school? Or did you dump them in some 'enriching activity.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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op: Given that it's 12:17 pm, they are in school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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OR As it happens I agree with you, but you are only preaching to the choir. Your tone is judging. So either you want WOHMs to feel bad (in which case you are mean, you suck and you are a bad mother) or you genuinely want to win hearts in which case your approach is bad and you are kinda dumb. So dumb or mean. Sorry. I guess you were not parented well yourself... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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+1 touché [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Or she's a troll and you're the dumb one for falling for it lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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NP: She's the former. Every time there is a WOHM/SAHM debate, she reposts a different version of this same thread. You can tell it's her, because she always calls jobs "unimportant" and the career is ALWAYS marketing/advertising. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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And thinks lots of things are "gross" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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So this is the "gross" poster! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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See below. Having a job if your partner makes more than 50k is gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Oh, ok. That means she is also "Trust Fund Troll"- most recently Disney Princess troll, but she has lots of variations. Her MO is always the same though: 1) talk about money and having lots of it. 2) When someone gets upset, say "I didn't mean to upset you. I didn't realize this was such a sensitive subject :)" 3) Accuse everyone who disagrees with her of being jealous 4) Call lots of behaviors gross. She is very, very recognizable and I think we should all stop responding to her when we see it's her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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op: haha Do you frequently have this problem where you think multiple people are all one person out to get you? Don't forget your tin foil hat sweetie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Yep, definitely the same person. The "sweetie" is another dead giveaway. Sorry you're just not as good at trolling as you think you are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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op: haha I took the sweetie from a poster I see on here say that frequently. But tell me more about your magic hallucination of all my different personalities. It's entertaining. Am I also 8 months pregnant wife whose husband left her? Or cheating on DH and now pregnant with affair baby poster? It's like playing dress up. Who else do you think I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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So if the best way to help the world is to raise children, what is the purpose of those children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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op: To either raise children themselves or do something else and have their partner raise children. Maybe it would be easier to understand if you thought of it like banking. You can either invest money for the future or spend it right now, but spending it right now isn't going to improve future investment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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But that partner who is raising the children is doing something "wrong" according to you, because he or she is working for some corporation and not spending time with his/her family. Do you want your precious child to marry such a lout who would considering working instead of staying home. They you, OP, did not do a good job of raising your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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hey op you are mean or dumb. see above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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op: Let me restate the thesis to make it easier for you. One parent works, one parent says home. The kids get love from a parent who loves them and the bills are paid by the parent who works. When both parents work there is something wrong with that picture. Children deserve a stay at home parent to talk to when they get home from school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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So how to do you decide who gets to slave away at the meaningless, life-destroying cublic jobs while missing their DC's entire lives. Do you draw straws? Flip a coin? Rotate every few years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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op: You use facts and logic. The person who makes more money should work. Not that complicated. No need for coin flipping. Unless you have a vindictive DH who wants you I miss out on the kids lives too just because he does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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I'm not getting it. My child is in school I day and I pick her up from school (or afterschool program) and we talk. She's getting what you think she deserves. What am I doing "wrong" here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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No one deserves to be forced to talk to you every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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So the kids don't get love from the parent who pays the bills? WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Who are these women who have a choice? Almost every woman I know works because her family needs her income or stays home because the cost of childcare negates her salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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No. If one partner in the family makes over 50k a year, that is above average and the other partner doesn't "need" to work, they just want to so try can have more money to buy more shit. But buying more shit rather than spending time with your kids is gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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how are they paying for college? retirement? where do they live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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But that "partner" is working for that 50k, and therefore not home with his/her children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? There's no way my family of 4 could survive on 50k a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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np: some do.but they live in projects or subsiduzed housing or doubled up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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But does Mommy work? That's the only important thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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You've never met a SAHM with school age children? I highly doubt that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I agree. Is volunteering 10 hours a week enough, or do I have to work 40 hours a week for a boss in order to fulfill "the bigger picture"? What if I don't volunteer but donate to politicians who pursue worthy causes? Is that the bigger picture? You people who dictate how others should and shouldn't live their lives is so narrow minded and fails to see "the bigger picture" that in the end no job is actually worth sacrificing raising your own kids and if you think it is, then you really don't value your kids that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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Hows the air up on your pedestal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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Where the air is very very thin, and so is she. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Well, *someone* has to work, to provide food & shelter & clothing for the children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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One person works, one person stays home. Where are you getting confused? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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Why it's OK for any parent to work if working is a meaningful waste of a life at the expense of your children? That confuses me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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"no job is actually worth sacrificing raising your own kids" -- Is it your opinion that working parents are not raising their own kids? So if there's a SAHP, s/he is raising the children, while the working parent is expendable, apart from the paycheck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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How do you raise kids without money? A home? Food? Clothing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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I didn't see that particular thread, but based on you quotation, the bigger picture can also include financial security for the family as well as for yourself when you are older. Perhaps that poster was talking about something in particular, I don't know, but I doubt many people work so that the glory of the corporation or the "man" can be realized. There is always some underlying reason, even if it is just to put food on the table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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but someone has to work to pay the rent and buy the food. Are you advocating for more reasonable work schedules for all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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op: I'm advocating for the demise of the belief that more money is the goal. If you have enough money for food and shelter, the next priority should be family (ie time with your kids.) The two salary family is sad for kids. They don't need to be upper class to be happy. They would be happier with a middle class lifestyle and a stay at home parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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You sound lazy. Anyway, you send your DH to work while you focus on "improving" the world by raising your DCs. You sound so clueless. At least admit it that you have a great gig going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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op: I admit that I have an ideal arrangement. Why can't others admit that this would ideal for them too? Why pretend it's ideal to have both parents a working and a hired hand raising the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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It's the best arrangement for some (but by no means all) families, but not "ideal" by any means - very unbalanced for both parents AND for the DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Op: it's more consistent for the kids to know that one parent will be home. What do you mean unbalanced? Men and women are different. Should I cut my hair short so the kids don't get confused by the "unbalanced" looks? Division of labor an specializing are basic economic principles that lead to a more efficient household and better situation for the kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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OP if you don't have much to offer the world intellectually, this is a nice simple idea to make yourself feel good. It is, of course, what men want you to think. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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This. Keeps the men in power bc they know you have no other options. And women fall for it, because they want those guys to like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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op: How is raising the future generation not offering the world much intellectually? I have two ivy graduate degrees and am raising brilliant kids, so I'd say the world very much benefits from my motherhood. What do you mean by this is what men want you to think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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what do you expect your kids to do with their brilliance? raise kids, or work at "gross" jobs? because apparently those are the only choices in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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LOL "the world very much benefits from my motherhood" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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She has a magic coochie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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If DH leaves you, what do you have to fall back on? Who controls the purse strings? Who makes decisions? You can say whatever you want on UB, but you have to know that you are not in the power position here, especially as you get older, your kids leave you, and your husband gets bored. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Cue her story about a trust fund in 3 .. 2 .. 1 ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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What's the point of raising brilliant kids if they are just going to end up raising more brilliant kids and no one ever does anything but raise brilliant kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Why do you have two ivy graduate degrees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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+1. Not saying that all SAHMs have nothing to offer the world intellectually, but OP certainly doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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She's not even good at trolling. Repetitive and unoriginal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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op: you sound jealous. No facts to back up your name calling. Try harder, troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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Yep, you are definitely "trust fund troll". Please, keep going. Unless you get more creative, your troll time is almost up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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I think the bigger pix means circumstances may change and you may become the primary breadwinner. Your ability to do so is related to your experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Or circumstances could change and you could get sick or die and then you will have worked and missed your kids childhoods and all for what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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To not leave behind children who are both orphaned and destitute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] So .. What were your best costumes you ever did for dc? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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The best ones are always the homemade ones. DS built his own ironman suit out of an office chair back, bucket and silver duct tape. Admittedly, it looks more like a robot but it's pretty awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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I used to make their costumes w hen they were little- Big Bird, magician, Captain Hook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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I never made one for my own DC. Storebought costumes for us. My friend made her DS an iPad costume this year-- I got a peek at it and it's amazing. She's very crafty though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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