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[ - ] s/o How many tuxedos does DH own? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Four. Two "fat" tuxedos and two "thin" tuxedos. He's a classic yoyo dieter. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] This is not meant to be a racist post. I'm just curious. Is it considered normal for Korean parents to openly brag about their kid and compare their kid to yours? I met this woman at the park today that made me so mad, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe its a cultural thing to which I am just not accustomed? She was relentless- she went on for 10 minutes about how her 3.5 year old can do algebra and is starting violin, best swimmer in his class, etc. etc. (Sorry if this sets off the trolls). 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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why do you assume she's obnoxious because she's korean? fyi- assuming that link pretty much IS the definition of being racist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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her behavior was obnoxious. I'm asking if its not considered rude in that culture to brag about your kid in such a relentless way. [ Reply | More ]
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You're not sorry, you're hoping for trolls. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do suburban teachers who have been out of college 10 years really make 6 figures plus pension and summers off? Why didnt I become a teacher? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I ask myself this often enough, and then I remind myself that I'd be the ring leader to a 15 to 30 member circus. Yikes! [ Reply | More ]
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no they really don't. There are a very small minority of teachers who do that and they typically have a masters and almost 20 yrs experience. [ Reply | More ]
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I think some of them make $150 k, but it's in districts like Scarsdale. [ Reply | More ]
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My college roommate's dad made 180k in the Somers school district. I saw his tax returns. I couldn't believe it. This was 10 years ago, maybe things have changed, but holy crap! [ Reply | More ]
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Did he coach or do summer school and such? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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THey do and I wish I had made the same choice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Not in NYC. Max out at 100k. And you can't just land a job in the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
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They do, but it's a tough job so they deserve to be compensated. But I don't think this is everywhere, just affluent districts. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm thinking about it, for real. :-) [ Reply | More ]
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Because I hate kids [ Reply | More ]
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Yes - in a wealthy district - sure. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My friend is making $215k as a lawyer and claimed she is being underpaid compared to other firms. Wtf? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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depends on the firm, her practice area and her seniority. [ Reply | More ]
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She graduated in 2009 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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she could be fairly paid or not. depends on the other two things i mentioned [ Reply | More ]
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Then it is a true statement if she is comparing herself to BigLaw salaries. She should not have complained to a non-lawyer though. [ Reply | More ]
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sigh. [ Reply | More ]
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She might be depending on field, experience and location. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How to treat seasonal allergies in a 2 yr old? Is there infant Claritin or something along those lines? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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My two year old takes Claritin for children. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who should buy MIL mothers day gift? Who actually does? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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OP: DH should, I always do [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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we send flowers - sometimes I do it sometimes he does it (both mothers get the same thing) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Neither of us. We skip it. [ Reply | More ]
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Whoever has a good idea. DH bought my mother a bday present because he had the good idea. [ Reply | More ]
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i usually help the kids get a card to send her but he's the one that calls her with them. no gifts to any grandmas and i don't get one usually either. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Every night we do take out or delivery and every night nanny stays for dinner. I don't invite her. She just hangs out to the food arrives. Today she texted me and asked what's for dinner tonight? Wtf this is out of control but it has been a few months. Can I stop it now? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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Just say no. [ Reply | More ]
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I would start eating better, as a first step. [ Reply | More ]
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I would say, I am glad you sent this, I have been meaning to talk to you about this. As you know we care about you and appreciate everything you do during the day, but (add husbands name) and I have been talking about how little alone tome we get with the kids, so going forward we feel it is important that just the family eats together. We just need to do what is right for the family and know you will understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Nice [ Reply | More ]
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theism but skip adding husband's name- too much- but everything else is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Lol, sounds fun! At least you eat together! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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How late are you keeping here there to start? If you keep her pretty late then you should feed her. [ Reply | More ]
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My NF does the same, but I leave. I am not allowed to bring any food to work with me. They expect me to eat the same processed crap every day for lunch. It's so irritating. Order stuff she doesn't like. Why do you order stuff for her? Why isn't she cooking for the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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What's an NF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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what are her hours? just tell her to go home that you and your husband want time alone with out her [ Reply | More ]
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Why isn't she prepping dinner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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THIS! You can text her back and ask if she wanted to make anything! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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lol- "what's for dinner" would annoy the shit out of me. she better be a GREAT nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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Start making dinner. She'll go away. Use tofu. That'll work. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] North Fork vs Hudson Valley for 1-2 rental? Just want to relax, have access to good food, etc 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think the drive will be easier and less stressful to HV from NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Most weekly rentals are Sunday to Saturday, so I would imagine traffic won't be a huge issue. [ Reply | More ]
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LI traffic sucks any day, any time IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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Hudson Valley can be way more relaxed but it depends what you consider "good food" many people turn up their nose on what HV has to offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Access to good farm stands and a few decent restaurants. [ Reply | More ]
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you can find that in HV. would recommend new paltz, woodstock or rhinebeck [ Reply | More ]
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Then yes you will like the HV. I've been going for over 40 yrs and it has changed a lot. [ Reply | More ]
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HV had much better food than the North Fork. It is known for its food. It is a lot more rustic so it depends on what you prefer. [ Reply | More ]
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Non New Yorker here... Is Hudson valley a town? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How often do you worry about your child, socially? My 11-year-old son is very quirky and I worry quite a bit about how he's faring or will fare in terms of friends as he hits the prime of MS and HS. I don't worry about him being popular but I am very sensitive when kids aren't 100% kind to him, etc. Anyone else like this? Wish I wouldn't "feel" things so much. PS I don't let DS know any of this 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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social skills group? [ Reply | More ]
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OP. my DS doesn't have a problem interacting with others. He's just nerdy and likes what he likes. he isn't a typical jock and the majority of kids at his large suburban school do indeed happen to love sports. [ Reply | More ]
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I went to a large suburban school and the benefit of the size is he can find a small group (drama club, track?) that aren't into the big team sports. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm very sensitive to this as I was really bullied around that age and up through middle school. DD seems different, though, very confident despite her nerdy ways. I think she'll be fine. It's hard to step back and be objective, though. [ Reply | More ]
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OP. have you found any ways to control your fears? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think it is so much about controlling my own fears, as much as just being there to talk if she needs me. When I was that age, I felt very alone. [ Reply | More ]
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I am like this. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 and my kid is only 4 [ Reply | More ]
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You need 2 new friends and a hobby. [ Reply | More ]
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It sounds like you aren't worried about your son so much as projecting your insecurities onto him. Leave the kid alone. He will be able to sense that you think he's a loser if you don't snap out of this and that is more damaging than a quirky kid not being Homecoming King. [ Reply | More ]
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op/ good advice. to be honest, i had a wonderful MS and HS experience. loved every minute of it and just really want him to enjoy those years like i did. clearly, i can't control his happiness in this regard so i guess feel powerless. [ Reply | More ]
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That's an interesting twist. If you had a good experience, why do you fear that he will not, because he isn't like you? [ Reply | More ]
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you sound like a good mom. Just keep the lines of communication open with him. Maybe its not bothering him like its bothering you. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I try. And i do think you'r right. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree! I have a quirky DS who I worry about socially. He doesn't worry at all! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] To the mother changing her 2 year old's diaper on a table in the middle of the cafe at the Bronx Zoo this weekend. I hope you're reading this - you are so repulsive. As a PSA to everyone, wipe down those tables! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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is this a joke? omg gross [ Reply | More ]
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Not a joke at all. It was so foul. [ Reply | More ]
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My MIL does this with our DCs are her house. My DH tried to do the same at my parents home. I put a stop to that immediately. [ Reply | More ]
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Horrendous. It was so disgusting. And the bathroom is so close! They have a family restroom too with a changing table! [ Reply | More ]
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I never understood mom's who do this [ Reply | More ]
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Me either, the bathroom is 10 feet away! [ Reply | More ]
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Ewww [ Reply | More ]
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Ewww [ Reply | More ]
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Nasty. [ Reply | More ]
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That was me. It wasn't a doody, so I didn't think it was a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
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I wish I had the guts to walk up to people like that and call them out. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: DH stopped me from walking over to them - it was a huge family just sitting there laughing it up and eating while she was changing the freaking diaper on the table!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank your DH. You may have been grossed out, but you would have looked completely trashy if you would have approached her about it. [ Reply | More ]
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Disagree - I would have stood up and cheered. [ Reply | More ]
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Who made you two the police of the world? You do you, they will do them. If the restaurant had a problem with it (and they should have), they should have addressed it. Some nebby random person starting a drama is never the answer. [ Reply | More ]
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Signed, mom who changes child on table in public eating area. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Prices on almost everything have increased since 2008 - yet professional salaries have remained stagnant. How does everyone deal with it? Do you notice the effects in your life? Think of law firm associates - their salaries haven't changed since 2006. That's almost 10 years! 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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"law firm associates - their salaries haven't changed since 2006. That's almost 10 years!" Sorry, not into law. What's the range of salaries these people get? [ Reply | More ]
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$125k-$160k in big law. [ Reply | More ]
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wow, after how many years do they get a promotion? or can they be stuck in that position ad infinitum? [ Reply | More ]
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Biglaw starting salaries may not have changed but someone who started at 160 in 2008 is making 250+ now [ Reply | More ]
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That's after 7 years of FT work, who many stay for 7 years at the same job at this point? [ Reply | More ]
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Depends where you work. When I started in 2003, it was with a small firm and I made $60k. Now I make 3 times that but I'm at a larger firm with more experience. [ Reply | More ]
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This is after 12 years of FT work, a FT teacher in the DOE gets less than half of this, summers off, a pension. You guys aren't getting paid more per hour work than a teacher. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not really thinking about it in those terms. [ Reply | More ]
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But it's the truth. If you add the pension, then all bets are off: teaching wins by a landslide. Weird that society don't see this though and think that teaching is for some reason undesirable. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see teaching as undesirable, I just don't want to do it. [ Reply | More ]
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Right, same here, not sure I'd like to hang out with kids all day long. But let's face it, it's not that law is super fun and entertaining either. Society seems to be under-appreciating teaching as a profession and over-appreciating law status-wise at this point. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not going to think that much about it. It wasn't my first profession and it won't be my last. It's just what I do now and I happen to enjoy it and it pays my bills. [ Reply | More ]
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Tech salaries have gone up, some professions go up, some go down. It's always been like this. You really don't want to be a journalist any longer, for example. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 nor a lawyer [ Reply | More ]
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BINGO, becoming a teacher with the DOE is a better deal!!! For real. [ Reply | More ]
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I hear you. [ Reply | More ]
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WHAT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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I don't stay at a job that doesn't raise my salary according to my work. If enough people walk away, employers will start offering competitive salaries. [ Reply | More ]
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"I don't stay at a job that doesn't raise my salary according to my work" BINGO! It's the people like you that keep the wage increases going. Not enough people are currently walking away. Having to replace people is expensive and a PITA for employers, similar for landlords when tenants don't renew. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 At my last review, I was offered a 1% increase. I showed my manager the numbers on the amount of money I had saved the company over the last year and the revenues from the two new clients I had brought on board, and asked for 8%. They refused, so I found a new job, at which point they offered the 8% if I would stay (which I refused, of course). [ Reply | More ]
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Total cumulative CPI increased 8.3% from 2008 to now. [ Reply | More ]
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Not a whole lot. [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
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Guess they don't teach supply and demand in law school. [ Reply | More ]
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Not much any lawyer can do about it when TTT schools keep churning out graduates. [ Reply | More ]
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Shouldn't TT reduce supply as well? or their awesomeness exempt them from any responsibility? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone's DC attending PPAS middle in the fall ? Will the class cap at 30? Is DC excited to get in after so many auditions ? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have a kid in PPAS middle and yes they cap the class at 30. School is wonderful but FYI the PA is a messy group of people , a couple of "PA Board" are currently under investigation for misuse of funds and some other stuff. I understand that an arrest is imminent. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. Thank you for the heads up. Would you mind sharing if you are happy with the academics ? The school made the academic cut first this year before auditions so I know there is a good cohort but what do you think of the teachers and the curriculum ? If a child is also interested in Math and Science, will he/she feel supported ? Hoping to transfer out for high school to La Guardia, is this commonly done ? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I would say the academics are okay. Many children stay, some go to Laguardia and others leave for Beacon. [ Reply | More ]
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Uh Oh. My child is in the middle school. I've been feeling guilty that I wasn't more involved in the PTA. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Finally looking pregnant instead of like I just ate two chipotle burritos 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Vba [ Reply | More ]
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Haha, far from it. I was chubby before I got pregnant so you couldn't tell for a long time [ Reply | More ]
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mmmm, burritos! [ Reply | More ]
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I was glad when that point came. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm still waiting. But I'm only 7 weeks so I'm just going to look fat for a couple more months. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] UB moms: My mood is greatly affected by the amount of homework dcs have every night. Is this normal? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Omg. Me too. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree, you're not alone. [ Reply | More ]
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The amount of wine I drink is greatly affected by the amount of homework DCs have. Normal. [ Reply | More ]
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Perfectly normal. Especially when you're expected to "help." [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. I love the heavy homework nights, when the tv is off and the kids are focused and I can sit in the quiet and read a book. [ Reply | More ]
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troll [ Reply | More ]
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Not even. If there's no homework, the noise level amps up considerably. Homework nights are the best - kids at the table or desk working, DH and I on the sofa with a big blanket, reading or playing a quiet game like backgammon, breaking once in a while to help with a hw problem. [ Reply | More ]
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YES! I could have written this. It's taking over our lives. I feel like I need to get a Xanax rx to get through it all. [ Reply | More ]
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And weekends too. It's really out of hand. Anyone think the pendulum will swing the other way soon? [ Reply | More ]
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