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[ - ] Blue hair is trashy. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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It's better than tattoos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I am absolutely worthless in the kitchen. can anyone enlighten me as to the fastest way to cook pinto beans? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Buy a can. Heat in microwave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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i have dried ones....i'm an idiot i know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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No really fast way (other than opening a can). If you have a pressure cooker, they are supposed to be good. Otherwise, the standard is to soak overnight, then drain and cook in fresh water for... lets say 45 minutes to an hour depending on the size and age of the beans. I actually don't soak them, I just put them in a lot of water and cook for about an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Do kids from Brooklyn privates ever leave to go to boarding schools? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Definitely from St. Ann's. Don't know about others. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do i lose 5 lbs in a week. ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Colonoscopy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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guillotine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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if you lost it on the scale -- you prob still wouldn't be 5lbs thinner. Get a lot of exercise, drink tons of water and eat a diet of salmon, spinach -- no carbs etc and you will look better in a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
[ - ] The problem is not so much that Philip Seymour Heroin was a junkie, though that was hardly ideal. It is that he was a DEGENERATE and selfish junkie without even the basic self-control to dose himself properly, and thus avoid death. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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And what is your problem? [ Reply | More ]
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Central obesity. But at least I'm not a junkie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Wouldn't that be a food junkie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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dose himself properly? fool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Is there a "proper" dose of heroin?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Yes. It means you stay below around 50% of the lethality range. It prevents both death as well as non-fatal CNS episodes which could affect breathing and the oxygen supply to the bloodstream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Why are you thinking about this today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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self medicating depressed man - so sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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You know there is some question about the quality of the heroin he was using. Like, it may have been somehow different/more lethal than the typical heroin people usually use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk me out of this RE idea. Huge house in neighborhood I want. House needs work. Owner wants to sell out 50% of the house (inherited and selling off relatives portion). His two requirements are a in-law apt and 12K "income" rent per year. Talk him down to 25% ownership minus any maintenance that goes into the house. We would not require any money from him but any "renovation cost" would be taken out of his portion of the sale proceeds (split at 75/25%). Crazy right??? House price very undermarket. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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this sounds like trouble to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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+1. 100% ownership and tenancy in IL apartment until you sell and if you do, you give him 25% of after tax/fees profits. Anytbing else is a recipe for disaster. What happens when you want (need) to sell and the only way to do so is to find someone willing to sign onto your deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you! That makes sense and is structured better. I can still see a million things wrong with it but getting closer. Current deal is crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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really crazy. this is priced in, hence undermarket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a liberal, but I don't think self-described "Christian bakeries" should be legally compelled to make wedding cakes for gays. That's just silly. It should be up to them whether or not they'd take that business or reject it. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Should they have to make cakes for black couples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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I don't particularly care, but that's materially different from being gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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No it freaking isn't!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Yes it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Both things are something you are inherently born with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Not at all, they are deciding to not provide their services because of something the people were born as. What about bi-racial couples, or couples that are physically handicapped? Can they claim that their religion says they can discriminate against them? All the anti-gay arguements are the same ones that used to be used against blacks. That's really telling, isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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So a bakery should, in theory, have to bake a cake for a group of pedophiles who want to celebrate being pedos? Note that I don't mean MOLESTERS or lawbreakers; merely a group of NAMBLA-style people who feel that they were born with those tendencies. Or would that somehow be different? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Unfortunately yes. You don't get to judge your clients poor taste. The cake isn't illegal, nor is the message. No different from someone coming in and wanting a "satanist" cake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Why shouldn't private businesses be able to decline those requests? That's the entire point. It should be up to the individual businesses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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They would certainly have a legal case if the bakery refused. But how about cakes celebrating drug dealing etc? I think the bakery would have a better argument if they were refusing to create something that celebrates law breaking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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What church forbids serving blacks cake? FFS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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That's not part of their religious beliefs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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It use to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Interracial marriage used to be. And when that was a standard belief of the religion I'd have argued they should have been allowed to say no to that, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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You need to be more specific. It's not about "feeling" like it. It's about imposing an undue burden in the free exercise of religion. I agree. But I don't agree that if you are a restaurant owner you can refuse to serve a gay couple. But wedding ? Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Let's pretend it's not a bakery, but a Christian-owned car dealership. would you be okay with that dealership not selling a minivan to a lesbian couple who have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Selling cars doesn't violate a religious precept. Gay weddings do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Baking a cake doesn't violate a religious precept either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Facilitating gay marriage. Like it or no, legitimate churches are ardently opposed to gay marriage and have been forever. People who believe this should not be compelled to act against their conscience. And the constitution protects them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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a church is not a bakery with good to sell to the public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Except the baking a cake part has nothing to do with the actual vows of marriage. It is serving a type of food to celebrate an event. An event that would be no different than a Mormon marriage that believes in forever and goes against the tenants of certain religions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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It's funny, the person who baked the cake for my wedding just made a cake. He didn't attend the wedding or perform any part of the ceremony. I guess "christian" bakers also perform the ceremony? Who knew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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OR - Okay - would you be okay with not allowing a lesbian couple to buy a car seat for a kid that will clearly be raised by the two of them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Again - nothing to do with a religious precept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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??? It's the exact same "religious precept" - marriage and procreation should be limited to opposite sex couples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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You think the religions that don't want to allow two women (or men) to marry would be okay with the two of them living together and raising kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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You are okay with pharmacies requiring you show your marriage license before getting BC. And remember sometimes there is only ONE in town so there is no other option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Does the bakery also refuse to make cakes for divorced people, non-virgins, people with prenups, people getting married at city hall, etc, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Are you always this annoying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Winning response there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Half the problem is gays being stupid enough to go to Christian bakeries to start with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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I have no idea what religion my bakery is. Like one of the ORs said, they aren't churches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Seriously. When I step into a business selling cakes, I'm not concerned with the owner's religious preferences. I'm interested in fondue vs frosting. And the owner's job is to sell me a cake...not a cake and Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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excellent point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Should they be legally barred from refusing those things if they choose? I think not. It's up to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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They should be a church and not a business of they want to act like a church. Signed, Conservative Christian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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WTF are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Does a muslim have the right to refuse to serve a woman who's head isn't covered? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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In many contexts yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Name one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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Admission to a mosque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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You're actually not a liberal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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How so? Gay activists aren't the arbiters of liberalism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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No, they aren't. But no liberal or rational non-bigoted person has looked at this law and said "Great idea!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I asked doctor wife to handle the three year old for three hours this morning since I had a ton of work that I needed to get done for this upcoming week. She agreed and now she's taking a nap, presumably because she had such a taxing day. And before you shit on me, I have talked to mothers with husbands who nap on the weekends and none of them say that their husbands deserve it because they spent a few hours with the kids. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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You know what? This is your situation and the woman you married. Just accept it and stop bitching. So she took a nap? Who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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What does being a doctor have to do with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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You are the saddest excuse for an adult I've encountered in awhile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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What the hell are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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what do you mean deserve it? Are you begrudging her a nap? When she gets up you nap if that's what you want to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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You're mad that she used a little time on the weekend to nap? Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Parents of young children should not be napping, ever. That's why I don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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No one is forcing you to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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I think you two should clock in every time you watch the kid and clock out when shift is over. Coffee/bathroom and nap breaks should obviously be timed and deducted from the shift. Marriage is all about tit for tat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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She did what you asked her to do, and you're still complaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Seriously...just get divorced already. You have annoyed the shit out of me and I'm not even married to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Because I should just shut up and be happy to be the on call housekeeper, babysitter, mechanic, and laundry worker, while also contributing money every month that she spends on massages and clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] More masculine: Asian males or a basket of fluffy kittens? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Kittens have pretty sharp claws. I'd go with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Male or female kittens? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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asian males have a high fertility rate and very high populations across the world. it ay nit be western style masculinity, but fat white frat boys are not exactly sexy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Asian guys are petite which is never sexy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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lol. are you trying to suggest white men with their micro penises and psychological issues are somehow more masculine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Asian men are micro. [ Reply | More ]
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Asian men are tiny EVERYWHERE [ Reply | More ]
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aw, did you see a black penis and decide you wanted to pick on someone to feel more masculine [ Reply | More ]
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No, by everywhere I mean all of their body is small. The small penis is the least of my worries. I would never date them bc of their generally petite frame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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well, sasquatch, I don't think you'll have many objections to that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Hey, we've been waiting for you to show up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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No, we haven't. [ Reply | More ]
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More human, racist? Or cunt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Easter dessert: I'm in charge of dessert for Easter dinner. Any suggestion? I need something I can order but I want it to be nice? Would a coconut layer cake be nice? Anyplace have an 'egg' cake? Thanks. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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lazzzzzzy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Oh give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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haven't you had enough tee hee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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seriously, "in charge of" sounds pretty ridiculous when you're just ordering a cake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Op here: I didn't know I would be flamed over Easter cake. MIL delegates and said "you are in charge of dessert." I really didn't mean to imply that it is an important task. BTW I love my MIL. I'm also not lazy. What I am is a terrible baker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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oh please. one snarky comment is not getting flamed. stop being a crybaby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Then, why did she give this job to you? Bakery stuff is very rarely good. Maybe try Billy's or Magnolia cupcakes? Easter pastels if they aren't doing anything Easter themed. -NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Coconut sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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I love coconut, but agree people love or hate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Banoffi pie or carrot cake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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You could make a crepe cake - very easy. Make a double recipe of crepes (so, about 20-24). Make a lightly sweetened whipped creme and slice a couple quarts of strawberries. layer it up - crepe, creme, berries, ending with a crepe. Let it sit in the fridge for a few hours or overnight if you need. I make it in a cake pan so it's easy to transport, then invert it onto a plate. Dust with confectioners sugar and a couple of the berries. People go nuts for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Op here: Carrot cake is a great idea. Thank you. I was trying to find a themed, beautiful cake. Silver Moon on UWS looks good. Anyone know if they taste good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you google yourself every day or every week? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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I try to avoid it. They are not good memories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Rarely [ Reply | More ]
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Never, there are so many people with my same name who are far more prolific than me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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I google "Amazing SAHM once in a while to see pictures of myself. I google "Uptight Bitches and Cu%#s" when I want to see generic pictures of WOHMs. Yes. Trolling. So move on and if ire. [ Reply | More ]
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What? I'm not trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do when you need more energy? My energy is always just so low. I find things like doing laundry to be huge tasks. Thyroid levels are normal. I get 7/8 hours of sleep a night, eat healthy enough (vegetarian my whole life), and go to an exercise class for an hour a day. Still I feel so drained all the time. I hate it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Too many carbs of course. Always the answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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How's your mood? If that's not it, could you be dehydrated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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Drink a Red Bull. Instant energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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This was me until I gave up the strict vegetarianism. I don't eat much meat now, but some, and the improvement to my energy level has been huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Have you had your fasting glucose level tested? Diabetes can make you feel tired all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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I find when I take half a sleeping pill occasionally, and clean up my eating, drink more water, I get a boost in mood and energy. Obvious stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Some people are just naturally lower energy, especially when it comes to dealing with boring tasks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Coke. Diet Coke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Political moms, let's talk politics. 2016 election. Who do you think are the top three most likely republican contenders and the top 3 most likely democratic contenders? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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GOP top 3: Jeb Bush, Rand Paul, Bobby Jindal. Dems: Hillary Clinton and Joe Biden. I predict Jeb Bush vs Hillary Clinton with Hillary losing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Jeb Bush and Chris Christie vs Clinton and Biden. GOP will win [ Reply | More ]
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Hillary is only Democratic contender. If something should happen to her unexpectedly such as a Clinton scandal finally catching up, it could be anyone. It will not in any circumstance be Joe Biden though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Jeb Bush, Scott Walker, Rand Paul. Hillary Clinton, Jim Webb, Martin O'Malley. [ Reply | More ]
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All of these are just...sad . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever had an appendectomy? Both of my parents did (I think in their 30s), but I haven't yet at 54 and neither has DH at 58. Are we due or are appendectomies less common than they used to be? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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That's interesting. Right now I can't even think of anyone I know who has had one. Never thought about it before. [ Reply | More ]
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I did, just last week. My surgeon told me he's noticed an uptick among adults over the past couple of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Nobody is due an appendectomy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] OK so no flames, as I basically have zero serious relationship experience outside of a marriage that started at 18 and ended when I was young 30s. Been seeing someone for almost a year now, maybe twice a week. We go out to eat, hike, movies, cook at home, sometimes theater or museum, occasionally go to the beach. I guess this probably sounds pretty normal, but not sure if it is going to just keep going like this or...? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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How old are you now? What is the situation with the person you are seeing (age, previous relationship history etc.)? [ Reply | More ]
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I am now in my mid 30s and so is he. He hasn't been married before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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I guess this is where you have the conversation about where you think this is all headed. Your clock is ticking and you should be very serious about knowing his intentions. [ Reply | More ]
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Pretty I am an idiot. How do I start this conversation? BTW, no ticking clock, actually already have DCs. But am starting to wonder where this is going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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^^I meant pretend I am in idiot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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or. If you already have kids, do you want more? Does he? If he does, then making a decision to be with you long term or move on is one he needs to make. If he does not want kids, and you still want marriage, you should figure out if you are on the same page anywhere. There's no magic to starting the conversation. Just pick a milestone - like "so, here's the thing - we've been dating for about a year now. How are your thoughts on where this might be going? Because I really love what we have together and I like it. A lot. But we are both grownups and it would help me love to continue this journey with you if I have a better idea of where you think it's going." Just come right out with it, and take what you will from his response. You'll have to do it eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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How much do you like him? Was he your first since our marriage ended? What do you want to happen (remember You control your own life)..? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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First longer term relationship post-marriage, but I dated some others more casually. I like him but am not a "throw myself at a guy in the first month" kind of person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Meaning what? No sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Or what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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If you're not worried about having kids, what is your agenda? What do you want? Do you want o marry again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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I guess I would like a better read on whether he sees this as having longer-term potential. Especially because he hasn't ever been married and doesn't have kids, I wish I had a better sense of whether he feels like at some point that is what he is looking for or if he is OK with the idea of a relationship with me which would mean no more kids. I have tried to ask and basically, he tells me that he is happy and happier than he has been in a while and kind of leaves it there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Oh, communication seems poor. You need to decide what you want and to get a clear answer as to what he wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Just ask him. One night, towards the end of dinner, just say "I want to talk to you about something. I really like you, and am curious as to where you see this going.". See what he says. (Kinda old school, right?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the youngest age you have seen at a musical? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Infants. Then again, we were at Barbie in Fairytopia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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started taking second dc to Nutcracker at 9 months and Mary Poppins at 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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That's just silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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i think people have to stop taking any child under 4ish to a broadway musical, first of all, what a waste of money, second are they really going to last the whole show? they have ballets and kids plays that last 45min/1hr that are perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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I have seen very well bahaved 3 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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good for you, but why do you have to do that to them? plus there are more that are not well behaved than are...there should be an age restriction... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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np. "Do that to them?" You make it sound like they must be suffering. Mine went to the full length Nutcracker at Lincoln Center when she wa 3yo and loved it. She kept asking when we could go back and see it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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yes, do that to them...start small and move up, why had them the brass ring at 3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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The brass ring?? lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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never heard that expression? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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I've heard it, but the way you're using it is silly. It's the Nutcracker, first of all, and Balanchine or not, it's still a performance intended for families -- meaning children, too. And do you think this particular show is the be-all and end-all of public performances? DC have a lifetime of shows to look forward to; unless a kid doesn't have the ability to sit through the real thing, there's no reason to get them there in baby steps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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no it is not the be all and end all of performances, but the nutcracker at lincoln center is the be all and end all of holiday performances. yes it is for families, but a child is a child way after they are 3. i saw the nutcracker at 7 with mikhail baryshnikov and will never forget it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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Sure, and my dd happily goes to see the Nutcracker with her grandmother every year. That first viewing in no way made it less enjoyable or special for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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2 yo at Lion King. Mother had to keep leaving to take him to the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Took 1st dd to see the Nutcracker at 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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but they have 45min versions that are perfect for five year olds and you move up from there, why make them sit through the whole thing, do they really enjoy it or do you get a metal for having a child sit for so long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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^^^3 year olds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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I posted above. My kid loved the full length version. Why are you assuming a younger kid is suffering through it? I'm sure some would, but others wouldn't not. It's up to parents to know their kid well enough to plan reasonably and be ready to bail if it's not working out. And age restriction is ridiculous. (And it's medal, btw.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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most can not handle it and most do not bail making it unbearable for the rest of us... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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If someone's child is disturbing you and the parents aren't dealing with it, you can complain to the theater staff, who can do their job and escort them out -- just as they can when some idiot adult decides to have a cell phone conversation or otherwise disrupt the show, which has happened to me far more often than a kid being the disruprion. And I disagree that most of the kids whose parents take them to shows can't handle it; you just don't notice the well behaved ones because they're well behaved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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wow, you sound a bit holier than thou, children under 4 should not go to a full-length broadway show, the end... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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No, holier than thou is making the sort of pronouncement you just did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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I'm an actor, my kids are actors. Our rule is 6 and even then they don't appreciate it as much as an 8 year old. Love smaller shows for little ones, shows that they can sit close to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else find it interesting that American politics have become so dysfunctional as the Baby Boomers have cemented control over the institutions of power? Average age of a US Senator is 63; average House member is 58. The president is a Boomer. Boomers are in charge of the system, and they are doing a horrendous job of it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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senators have always been old, it's part of the job description. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Were George W. Bush and Dick Cheney boomers? Was Bill Clinton? Frankly, I think Bush/Cheney destroyed the economy, and the worst congressmen and senators are a little younger than boomers and have absolutely no sense of history and what made this country strong. They think Reagan was something other than what he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Bush and Clinton - yes. Cheney - silent generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Ted Cruz for president! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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LOL!!! You're killing me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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Actually, based on guys like Cruz and Marco Rubio and Paul Ryan, Gen-X might be even worse than the Boomers were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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I don't think that's it. But you are weirdly obsessed with Boomers. You post a lot about how much you hate them and how they are responsible for all the shit in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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I'm a boomer, good luck suckers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 40. I don't have little wrinkles, age spots or discoloration. I have clear skin - my problem seems to be the creases between my nose and mouth like my whole face is starting to sag - what can I do to correct this? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Collagen depletes as we age, and a major culprit is sun damage. Wear sunscreen everyday and that will help, but nothing short of injectables , e.g., juvederm, will correct it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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Filler [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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+1. That's it. It's part of getting older. Happens to us all. Anyone who says it doesn't has had fillers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Copper, iron, and zinc, plus calcium. They won't reverse damage, but they'll slow it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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I'm 41 and look like my license picture when I was 21. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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^just giving everyone a laugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Who here is house poor???? Would you do it again? I'm looking to buy and want to over-extend. Please talk me out of it 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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np: and also, please provide a reasonable price/HHI ratio that we should use when buying a house. thanks!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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House poor and I regret it. I til she accountant that the finances will work when I take into account the tax benefits. He said that if you have to count on tax benefits that it's too expensive. I've been bleeding cash ever since. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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np: that's great color. thx! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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We were tempted but wound up buying a place well within our means. Good thing, because shortly thereafter dh got very ill and we had huge medical bills. Then I lost my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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House poor here. In that 50% of our savings in now home equity, 50% retirement, with a big monthly bill. That said, we couldn't rent a place like this for the same monthly Interest+Maintenance, so we think we're as best off as we could be, hence our choice. Now, if DH lost his job, then we'd be in trouble... so we'd just downsize to a smaller NYC apartment, and rent this place out - likely for plenty more than the mortgage! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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A bit, we used more of our savings than I would have liked for a downpayment but it got us a good rate and a reasonable monthly payment as well as a great public school. Would do it again, my house has appreciated but they money I would have spent on private for elementary would not have given me a return [ Reply | More ]
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