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[ - ] Need a nice place for a celebratory dinner with large vegetarian selection. Any ideas? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm vegetarian and am fine in almost all places (except maybe steak places). I find mexican food to be the easiest. [ Reply | More ]
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Nobu [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Advice needed: there are a few houses in an area in which I'm interested (generally a 2nd home market in the NYC area). The houses have been on the market for a while and if they've had a price change at all (some haven't) it's been a while ago with a price change of 2-3%. I need the prices to go down 15-20% to be appropriately priced (and what I want to pay). We have a few properties in mind (3-4). Do you think I should wait for a price drop then bid 10+% below ask or go in now with 15-20% below ask? We aren't using a broker so that could save seller 2+% if they negotiate with agent. TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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This is why you should be using a broker. They can get a feel through the other agent how desperate the sellers are. Unless there is a divorce or loss of job, people with 2nd homes typically don't slash their prices but wait. [ Reply | More ]
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20% gonna be tough. not see it happening. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, I would approach the seller's broker for each property you are interested and explain where you are. Seeing as there is no broker on your side, they may be willing to negotiate to get the property sold. Even if the buyer won't come down now, the broker will no who to call when they are. Be clear that it is just a matter of what you can afford not trying to get a "deal". [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you like Smitten Kitchen recipes? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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love them. [ Reply | More ]
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Best for desserts. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O to the interview thread: I interviewed someone last week that had an error in her resume. It was a commonly confused word that was used incorrectly. She won't get the job, for reasons unrelated to the error. She's interviewing for relatively senior level legal positions, so not good to have a mistake like that in your resume. Is there a way to tactfully her know about the mistake so she can correct it? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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MYOB. Peter principle. [ Reply | More ]
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How does the peter principle work here? [ Reply | More ]
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Post the mistake here. Maybe she is on UB? [ Reply | More ]
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I would want to know. Maybe frame it in such a way as to say you understand it's a typo (not an error) but you want to bring it to her attention. I'd be embarrassed but this would not offend me if worded tactfully. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
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make sure you're right, though. I've seen more than one person purport to correct someone and they were totally wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't want to post the actual mistake b/c I don't think she has been officially told she didn't get the job, but I am 100% sure I'm right. [ Reply | More ]
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I pointed out a spelling mistake to an applicant during an interview once - I just pointed it out. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it would be really nice of you to let her know. Say it how you said it here. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/o SA video- I cannot stop thinking about it. I think if you are an UMC family in Cobble Hill with options like 29, 58, 261 and you choose SA for your kid, you are nuts, and I think you are going to regret it. But it's your choice. However, I don't want to pay for it! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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you're paying for all sorts of shit. you should advocate vouchers. [ Reply | More ]
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I know several families with kids there. All were zoned for 261 or 38 and didn't like those schools. Couldn't afford private but wouldn't have gotten aid (or enough). They have all "drunk the kool-aid" and are huge SA supporters even in the face of this type of criticism. I don't understand it either. [ Reply | More ]
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It's crazy, I'm sorry. It's draconian and backwards to treat children like this. [ Reply | More ]
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But those familes don't care because THEIR child would never be treated that way! They watched the video and could not muster a single word of sympathy for the child (who they probably don't like because they agree she is "ruining" their own child's education by her lack of getting it right away. ) I don't know if all the parents are like the ones who were interviewed, but what a group of the most selfish women I have ever heard. "Oh she treats my little girl like a princess" so I know she just ripped up the paper of another child but hey, that child isn't mine and is NOKD so if she leaves, I'm happy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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did you see those kids with their hands raised high when the teacher said, "can someone else show the class how to do it?" the teacher is stern, stern, stern. but she obviously lavishes praise when due. that's why the kids vie to be picked. it's both negative and positive reinforcement. it doesn't seem the hell you seem to be concluding it to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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This. It is like training a puppy, you have to be firm [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. It is positive reinforcement for the students who know the answer who are fawned over. But you can't "negative reinforce" education! You have to TEACH! If a child does not know the answer -- obviously she just isn't smart enough to learn it quickly --- how does HUMILIATION and ripping up her paper make her understand the concept at age 6? It is so typical that these children are punished severely for EFFORT because that is a marvelous excuse for punishing a child who doesn't understand. It's not my teaching, it's you -- it's all you and now you must be punished. And the other kids see this and learn to agree! A bully teaching a class to be better bullies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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of course you can negative reinforce. i do it all the time myself. [ Reply | More ]
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link to video? [ Reply | More ]
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I am a working class married woman of color and I agree with OP. UMC whites have so many choices and really should not choose SA. But for my two daughters, Success Academy is what I want, So please please white women, you do what you want and let me do what I want [ Reply | More ]
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Plus one [ Reply | More ]
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there ya go. what do you like about it? you don't have to go into it if you don't feel up for it. [ Reply | More ]
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I worked hard this week and am tired and I do not want to justify my family to white people. Let's just say I like Success Academy because it weeds out disruptive boys and my daughters appreciate that [ Reply | More ]
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I'm white but grew up wc/immigrant---really? I grew up in a mixed neighborhood with almost all friends who were black/Hispanic and I really wonder why the parents insisted on being so strict. It didn't work for most of my friends, btw. It only piled on more adversity where there was already more than enough. [ Reply | More ]
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I listened to the audio that someone posted where the parents (most of whom sounded college educated and middle class) raved about how kindly that teacher treated their children. Guess what? I believe them! If you are middle class and your child is an easy learner, the teacher fawns all over you. If you are a minority and your child is an easy learner, the teacher is fine. If you are a minority - and especially if you are poor - and your child struggles to learn, the teachers are encouraged to make the child feel "misery" until he acts out and they can suspend him. Cobble Hill suspended 14% of their 5 and 6 year olds and how much do you want to bet that it wasn't the affluent parents who Success Academy brought in to rave about the school. It's actually sickening that none of them cared about the child who was so obviously bullied. She is NOKD and they are more than happy to have her bullied until she leaves. if she is perfectly behaved AND learns quickly, they don't mind her in the classroom with their precious kids who the teacher fawns over. [ Reply | More ]
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It is just like illegal immigration. All upper middle class white women want more illegals because illegals mean low priced cleaning ladies. But working class black moms like me are often against illegal immigration. You do not speak for me and I do not speak for you [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Firing up the oven today for an-all weekend baking marathon. Any good recipes that require 4-5 hours in a slow oven, beside baked beans? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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God. Why would you spend 4 hours and only come away with baked beans? [ Reply | More ]
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The idea is to have something going all day. After the baked beans, I'll need other recipes. [ Reply | More ]
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Brisket [ Reply | More ]
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i'm making stew with brisket - takes forever but makes the house smell great and tomorrow it will be just perfect. Also making spaghetti sauce this weekend. I just have to get to the store to get the couple of things needed. [ Reply | More ]
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^^and although I start the stew on the stove, I finish it in the oven for a couple of hours [ Reply | More ]
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Pears poached in red wine. That's 5-7 hours in the oven, according to Elizabeth David. [ Reply | More ]
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Do it yourself dried fruit or tomatoes [ Reply | More ]
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Turkey [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any suggestion on good therapists? I have been doing psychonanalysis for the past year but think I am going to switch 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What are you focusing on? Therapists usually have a "specialty." [ Reply | More ]
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long term sobriety, marriage issues, perimenapause, old childhood issues... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] unBREAKable ... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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She's alive damn it! Females are strong..... [ Reply | More ]
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It's a miracle ... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] let's say one spouse uses a word incorrectly. let's say the other spouse corrects them. this is at home, not in front of anyone else, etc. is that a negative thing to do, or not? the spouse that says it's a bad thing says it doesn't matter all that much, who cares, correcting spouse is just trying to prove their smarts/that they're right. The spouse that says it's not a negative thing struggles to understand that perspective since they do it out of love, not from some negative place, and that it actually seems bad and passive aggressive to let someone use a word in a way that's patently incorrect. Who is right? Assume both spouses WOH and are equally accomplished but in different fields, if that matters. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i would say the spouse that corrects is right. happens with dh and i all the time. when i correct him, i tell him it's because i love him and wouldn't want him to make the same mistake at a dinner party, for ex. he corrects me too and i appreciate it [ Reply | More ]
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happens with dh and *me*. and I say that with love :) [ Reply | More ]
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dh and i say, "is that how you say it? i've been saying 'xyz.'" [ Reply | More ]
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^^ how you say it, not what you say. [ Reply | More ]
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good point. that could work for some things, but may not work for others. [ Reply | More ]
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^^it also leaves open the possibility that the way the spouse has said it could be correct, leaving them to keep going that way if they want to, which defeats the purpose. [ Reply | More ]
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oh, please. you just look it up. dictionaries have pronunciation now. [ Reply | More ]
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you are completely missing the point. the corrected spouse would feel the same way if the correcting spouse said to look it up or suggested looking it up. they would say it's just a ruse to demonstrate that the correcting spouse is right. [ Reply | More ]
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for what would it not work? [ Reply | More ]
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Total hypothetical here, but let's say it's over using the word "loath/loathe" in the wrong context. [ Reply | More ]
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but then can be easily verified on the web. and you could just say, "oh, i've been using it like this. maybe i've been doing it wrong all these years." [ Reply | More ]
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DH and I do this all of the time. We think that our marriage is about making each other better as individuals and as a unit. We don't have an imbalance however, we are equally able to "correct" each other and are both successful in our chosen fields. In this situation is there an underlying issue where one person generally feels superior to the other? Or on person generally feels inferior to the other? [ Reply | More ]
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The correcting spouse shares your view. The corrected spouse is EXTREMELY sensitive to criticism in any way, shape, or form, so they would say the correcting spouse is just trying to seem superior and make them feel stupid. The correcting spouse says they're totally flabbergasted by that statement and that the corrected spouse is projecting. [ Reply | More ]
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We like to use an Ingio Montoya accent and say to each other, "that word does not mean what you think it means!" [ Reply | More ]
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You killed my father, prepare to die! [ Reply | More ]
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I think that if the person who is making the errors has said that they do not want to be corrected then the other spouse should respect that request because at that point the correcting spouse is not doing it out of love but because they can [ Reply | More ]
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And if you are a person like OR, above, who believes that marriage is about helping each other be your best selves, how do you deal with letting something like that go? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How can I make crispy chicken fingers in the oven? Flour and Pablo?? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^* I meant Panko. lol. I don't know who Pablo is . [ Reply | More ]
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Don't know either, but flour and Pablo sounds dirty. [ Reply | More ]
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Slice chicken, dip in a little egg white, roll chicken in Panko bread crumbs mixed with a little garlic salt. Place on a tray that is lightly greased and bake for 20 mins. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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It's a little tough in the oven, but if you have a non-stick pan you can first oven bake (with panko is fine) and then finish them off without oil. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
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I always spray olive oil on the bread crumb coated chicken fingers to get it crispy. [ Reply | More ]
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Or just deep fry in lard. Yum. [ Reply | More ]
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jews can only use chicken fat. isn't it a shame? [ Reply | More ]
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chicken fat is pretty damn good too [ Reply | More ]
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cannot compare to pork fat, i am sure. [ Reply | More ]
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They have duck fat at the Union Square farmer's market. Also yummy. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Which are the best private K-12 with rolling admissions in NY? Don't want to move out of the city. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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That's doesn't exist [ Reply | More ]
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Dalton, Packer, Saint Ann's, Spence, Chapin, Collegiate etc etc [ Reply | More ]
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They don't have rolling admissions. Or else you have a different concept of rolling admissions than mine. [ Reply | More ]
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Sadly, this. It's over OP, until middle school. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe Leman. Possibly. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Cinderella Man kills me every time. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Any suggestions what to do 0 degrees out, one six year old, dha and I off on Monday. Quick weekend trips that are more indoors, not sure I just want to do kids activities looking for a happy medium. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Hire a babysitter and do a 4 hour boozy brunch with DH [ Reply | More ]
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You I like. [ Reply | More ]
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woodloch pines -- kids love it. [ Reply | More ]
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must be packed now this weekend, think it is possible last minute? [ Reply | More ]
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you can try to book online. we were always able unless fourth of july, labor day or memorial day. [ Reply | More ]
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everything's already booked this weekend.. you're too late! [ Reply | More ]
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Museum. Look up Chinese New Year activities [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have a super annoying, competitive SIL who is always obsessed with trying to lose the same thirty pounds. She does every fad that passes through including crash diets, coffee colonics, that belt you wear to trim your waist, fitness bracelets, HCG drops. For years I have been another thirty pounds heavier than she is, but have lost 20 in the last year by making the usual helpful changes. As usual, she gets upset when she sees someone else losing weight and is always determined to tell other people how unhealthy their weight loss program is. She never accepts reasonable responses (more out, less in) and is insisting that I must be doing *something* that I'm hiding from her. I know she'll immediately try anything I tell her I am *doing* and feel like coming up with something fake to get her off my case. What's something not harmful that I can tell her I am doing which will be amusing? Wearing a weighted vest? Eating tic tacs all day? I want to come up with something amusing. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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The weighted vest sounds hilarious, unless she asks to see yours [ Reply | More ]
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Tell them you are practicing mindfulness. That will shut her up fast. No one wants to talk about mindfulness [ Reply | More ]
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I wish more people were aware of that. [ Reply | More ]
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Being an asshole adds ten pounds. Just sayin. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not the asshole in this situation, just the fatter one. And she likes it that way. She is not at all happy that I am coming up on her weight, it makes her extremely uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
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Eh. You'll probably start gaining it back before you ever get there. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope not. I've been trying to take some weight off for medical reasons. I'll never be skinny but I'd like to have my numbers in a normal range so I won't die early. [ Reply | More ]
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Not in my experience. [ Reply | More ]
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hypnosis for weight loss [ Reply | More ]
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I've got it...sit tight..a few years ago I watched some special that had to do with tapping your face to lose weight, and I know I saw an article about it a few days later. I'll see if I can find it for you. totally weird but semi believable to the person who will try anything. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her to put butter in her coffee and call it a day. [ Reply | More ]
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she's already done that. [ Reply | More ]
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so tell her you thought you would try it anyway and you did not want to say anything since it is obviously working for you and sorry it did not for her [ Reply | More ]
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good one. [ Reply | More ]
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Have you seen the Prancercize video? Google it. Then set up a hidden camera to film her when she tries it. [ Reply | More ]
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NP - YES! [ Reply | More ]
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Here it is: [ Reply | More ]
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Oy, that camel toe [ Reply | More ]
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You actually engage with this person? [ Reply | More ]
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Make up some moon cleanse meditation ritual and chant. Please record yourselves when you teach it to her. Include a blessing over donuts or something. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My friend, who is an only child, refers to her cousins children as "nieces", should I correct her? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes absolutely. You're the word police to the planet, get on that ASAP. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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+1. My kids call my cousin Uncle and his wife aunt. As a result, they have three uncles with the same name - my brother, cousin and SIL DH. Would seem very strange for them to call my cousin and DH by their first name only and even more so say Cousin X instread [ Reply | More ]
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If they're more of the age to be nieces why do you care? Fwiw I grew up with several nieces who were my age and I call them my cousins. It often makes more sense than explaining the complicated generations to other people. [ Reply | More ]
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OP- Yes. She is in her thirties, they are 20-30 yrs younger. I think they may call her aunt x [ Reply | More ]
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I am sure she knows they are not actually her nieces. I have cousins I call "aunt" or "uncle". [ Reply | More ]
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why? I am sure she knows. My Aunt Barbara was actually my cousin, but since my mom's age I guess we called her Aunt [ Reply | More ]
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In some cultures, that is correct. Everything is done on a generational level. So to me, my cousins' children are my nieces and nephews. [ Reply | More ]
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This. You need to educate yourself OP before you embarrass yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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OP- they are sort of all-American, white New Englanders [ Reply | More ]
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If they have even a basic level of education, then they know the point you're trying to make, and their family has intentionally chosen to do it differently. you're not going to come out looking good, here. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. This can not go on one minute longer. [ Reply | More ]
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np: agreed, but simply stopping the insanity is insufficient. How shall they be punished? [ Reply | More ]
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I suspect she knows the correct term but prefers this one. For example, I know "It is I" is correct, but I often choose to say "It's me" anyway because I think "It is i" sounds ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
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Eh. "Correct" terminology gets weird with different generations. My DD is 32 years younger than her half-sister and about 25 years younger than her cousins, and we've just been very fluid with what people call one another (it is strange, after all, to hear "you shouldn't let your brother-in-law see your underpants" if you don't know the person being addressed is five years old). I'd just let it go. [ Reply | More ]
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Insist she say "once removed." It sounds more loving. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you honestly think she doesn't know what a niece is since she is only child? She has cousins so therefore one can assume she herself was a niece. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have a background working in the art world but I've been working as an archivist and personal assistant to someone in a related field for the past 5 years. Recently left that job and now have 2 different offers but I'm lukewarm about both. Any art world moms want to weigh in? One is for a major gallery as an executive assistant to the director. I feel that in some ways it would be nice to get back into the gallery world but not sure this is the right position. Other job is also an exec asst but for a real estate type, involving probably more autonomy as well as travel, which is interesting. This job also pays about 50k more than the gallery one. Money is important but not enough to be a deciding factor. Both offer health care and gallery offers a 401k plan. Thoughts? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Gallery job is dh is "moneyed" and you do not have to worry. Real Estate job if you want to be independent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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I'm not married. Both jobs offer similar type of work (it isn't actually real estate, but related), and my level of independence would be similar. I am eager to get back into the art world but not sure if this type of position is really the best way. But perhaps since I've been out of it for so long I need to start somewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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Artist mom here: Will you get to travel with the gallery? Do they do art fairs? Also how long have they been open? About 80 percent of galleries close. Do you have another source of means. If so gallery more interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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It's a huge gallery. Think one of the biggest players out there. So I'm not worried about it closing. They do many fairs and initially the job seemed to involve travel but the director told me in the interview that it wouldn't involve much, so that's a bit confusing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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What is your experience in the art world already? Is this contemporary art or secondary market? Do you have children? The art world has changed majorly in the past 5-10 years.... I am a professional artist showing in galleries etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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I worked in both secondary market and contemporary galleries in Europe and US from late 90s until 2011. I do not have children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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What would your role be in the gallery ? Assistant to director? Sales? Assistant director? Hmmm. By the way if you have no children why are you on here- ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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It would be an assistant to director position. Not sales or asst dir. And there are plenty of us without kids on here. A friend told me about it and I know some of you have good advice at times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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NP with no kids. This is exactly the type of question I come here for! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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go back to sleep -- who cares if she has children....why so nasty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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I can ask a question, not being nasty just curious why someone would spend time on a boring parents board without children- back to gallery, I am not sure do you know any of the artists, or other staff- galleries can be notoriously crazy, and the big ones go through lots of staff sometimes- do you know how long the person before was in that position, Why they left? Also, what are your goals- do you eventually want to own gallery, be art consultant, or something like that. This should be stepping stone to next thing? Wat do you think you want to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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Apparenly this position is typically held for a couple of years which doesn't seem terrible. I know that galleries like this one have crazy reputations and I'm not really interested in drama, which is part of my hesitation. I'd like to go into consulting or perhaps publishing or work in an auction house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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^^ I know the artists by reputation but don't know the staff. I expect I'm older than most of them (mid 30s) which also gives me pause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Hmmm, have to go today but will check in later. I suggest you really thinkof the end game in 5-10 years. Do you know consultants or publishers?Do you want to have that kind of life? Is money an issue? I find art publishing usually has little or nothing to do with the galleries... Sounds interesting though. Think and report back....I will check in tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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^^ I know the artists by reputation but don't know the staff. I expect I'm older than most of them (mid 30s) which also gives me pause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been feeling depressed to the point of being almost nonfunctional for a couple of weeks. I work and do stuff with/for DCs (single mom) but don't have energy or motivation to do anything else. I already take an antidepressant and think that this is a result of some enormously stressful things that were happening with my ex for the past bunch of months that may be done for a while. How do I snap out of it? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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hard exercise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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might sound silly. but some sunshine might help. if you have the money, it might be good to go to the keys for a few days. if not, just hang in there a couple more months. hope it improves soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Btdt and honestly I think the only way to get through is to lower your expectations. And stay around other adults. Make plans with friends or family or other moms and stick to them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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