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[ - ] Do you try to wear clothes that flatter your body type? Do some people just not care? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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I think most people try not to look bad. I don't know if I wear what flatters my body type, but I also wear what I like. I'm plus size and if I went all-out with belted floral dresses and skirts I'd look absolutely ridiculous. I kind of have an idea of how I want to look that I'm comfortable with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a math tutoring center in Manhattan that is NOT Mathnasium. I despise their churn-and-burn attitude towards kids and parents but can't find another service for elementary age. Any leads? TIA! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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We had our so do online homework help with a friend's son who was at WPI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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How educated are you? You can't do elementary school math? like you seriously can't do simple algebra and division? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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My 3d grader's teacher pointed this out to me. I said is there math tutoring. She said "how bad at 3d math can you be with a degree from Harvard." She had a point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Yikes! Easy Boris... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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We had success with a Sylvan. I think there is still one on the upper west side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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Do you have Russian Math? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 11:05 PM Flag
[ - ] If you import a British car into the US, do you have to do drive-thrus in reverse? Because the steering wheel is on the side further from the window? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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banned from drive thrus actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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In every state or just NY? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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The whole world. Except Turks and Caicos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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Haha. Things that make you go hmmmmm. I had American left-hand drive cars when I lived in the British West Indies. In all those years (and 5 different countries), I don't recall ever going through a drive-through. ;) Interesting fact that many people don't know: Japanese cars have right-hand drive. There was a big business importing high mileage cars formerly used as taxis in Japan into the islands. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, if you have a passenger, they can handle things. And if you don't you can lean over I suppose. If you are fancy enough to be importing cars from another continent, how often are you drive-thruing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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banks, pharmacies, toll booths [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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I guess with living in NYC and having an Easy Pass I just never drive up to anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Don’t know but I thought there was a rule that unless the car is considered a classic care (over a certain number of years old), the car has to be converted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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Car, not care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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You think there are drive-thrus where you can go the wrong way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I had a freelance contract with a major company. I delivered based on the contract. They rejected the work saying I didn’t meet a specific objective. That objective was NOT in my original contract. I have it. I’m am so irritated. Time lost. Money not coming in. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you have a network of other freelancers that provide the same service? If this happened to me (freelance producer), I would let everyone I know....know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling very taken advantage of at work. Promotion with no pay increase. Should I ask for a raise or just quit? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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Find a new job. When you get an offer you can go back to them and say--I'll leave unless I receive similar compensation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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Is the pay increase coming in January? I am going to promote someone on my team and we have zero budget to give effect to the economic promotion until January. She can wait for both until then if she wants but this is what I am going to be able to offer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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Nope, I can ask in february for a raise in august [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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Did they specifically say no raise? Maybe they assume HR is taking care of it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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Ask. This happens all the time with my company that it has become a bit of a joke. Of course they’ll be happy to keep paying you the same amount for more work. It might even be a strategy to never offer, I’m sure some people don’t ask and the company wins. Research comparable salaries for you’re new position either internal or external and go in with a number in mind. Take charge. If you want to leave for other reasons, then find a job first before you quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:50 PM Flag
[ - ] On a local neighborhood list-serv, someone posted a complaint about a pet-sitter who left her house a mess. She posted the sitter's name and photo. People followed with sympathetic posts, but one poster asked why she thought she'd get good care for 11 (!!) animals, including four dogs, for $50 per day. What does UB think? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Without being privy to the full story, I don’t know what to think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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The dogs are the real issue. You can visit cats once a day and take care of all of them within 20-30 minutes, if it even lasts that long. The dogs are a completely different proposition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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op--yes, I agree. It's hard to imagine four dogs alone in this way. I want to be sympathetic to a neighbor, but the expectations seem unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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I stay at home full time, retired. I have 5 dogs and they put 5000 steps on my fitbit every day. I really manage them all day long. [ Reply | More ]
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omg they should be reported. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Going on a 4th date with a guy. For first 3 dates- 1 was a walk and he paid for the other 2 dates for dinner. . Should I offer to pay for this one or not? We are both 50 fwiw. Thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sure! I picked up the tab for a date with DH when we were dating and he thought it was a nice move [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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Yes or cook? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:38 PM Flag
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No. You "pay" by being a good date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Does the salary of a biglaw partner go further in dc than nyc? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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Does the partner live in DC and send kids to Friends or live in VA or MD and send kids to public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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YES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Prob but you have to live in DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone recently heard from Soho House about membership invitations? I hear their decisions are being made soon. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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I wish this was my biggest concern! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Boy are you helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:50 PM Flag
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Explain please? I thought you just contacted them and applied for membership. There's more to the process? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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np: I heard you have to be recommended and they do in fact turn people down. I know someone who was turned down - teacher colleague. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Most people are turned down. You must know people and not be too financy or low class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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I work in media and a lot of my sales colleagues are members... none of them know people, per se, but I do think the intent was for it to attract more creative type industries for networking (i.e. I could see how a teach wouldn't necessarily fit here). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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*by "know people" I'm sure they had a reference, but they're not like sceney/society types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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So do they have and admissions season? Since OP is asking if they're deciding soon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, it's once per quarter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Aren’t you too old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Let's bet on which colleges will be out of existence or merged in ten years. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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The Big Ten will have finished changing its name to The Big One by then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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It's the little ones that are disappearing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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My predictions: Hampshire (obvs), Bennington, Simmons, Ithaca, St. Anselm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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I'll be sad if Simmons goes away. I got a grad degree there. Is it really at risk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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Simmons has actually revitalized itself with a top notch online grad degree program. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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St. Anselm and Rivier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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I know someone who went to Rivier a long tine ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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I've seen it. It's a dying campus. My kids' school used to hold 'retreats' there with the empty dorms. It's a Catholic college with the most bleak DMV of a central chapel you've ever seen, which kind of sets the scene. The facilities are abysmal. A lot of these colleges are going to be taken over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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yikes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Two schools I really do not like (Penn and Duke) seem to be creeping toward top of my kid's list. I know they are both long shots for anyone, but do you think I should explain what I don't like or let her apply? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Seinfeld's daughter just went to Duke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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??? And that should change ops mind? [ Reply | More ]
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That's funny. My son's in college, too. One Macy's Thanksgiving parade we were on the south corner of CPW & 67th and Seinfeld and his family were in the 2nd floor unit at the north corner. DH figured out that it was Seinfeld and we all made our toddlers wave at each other. [ Reply | More ]
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My dd went to camp with sasha and she was very kind and nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Very interesting. My dc likes one of the above and it is not the right fit. I readily explained why I fought so. DC will still apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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Those are really popular schools. Let her apply, it should be her choice unless $ is an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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those are both excellent options. what is top of your list? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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No school is right for every student. Why oh why do parents not realize this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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of course I agree. just curious what OP has in mind as ideal if Duke and Penn aren't her cup of tea [ Reply | More ]
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Neither are a good fit for my child either. Doesn’t mean they are “great” schools. My child lines up much better with another Ivy and high profile private [ Reply | More ]
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Doesn’t mean they AREN’T “great” schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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What don't you like about them? They are great schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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I know what you think: both attract douchey gunners who want to go into finance and make a lot of money. Wharton dominates the culture of Penn, even at the undergrad level. [ Reply | More ]
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Troll plant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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?? I went to professional school at Penn and observed it pretty close up. Went to a different ivy for undergrad that had a completely different culture. There is a such thing as a culture of a college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Yet you didn’t become clairvoyant. You don’t know what op thinks about them [ Reply | More ]
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Happy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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You went to grad school there and think you have some great insight into the undergrad experience?? BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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Why so defensive? I know lots of people who graduated from Duke and lots of people who graduated from Penn. Please disagree with what I'm saying and provide reasons, instead of just objecting to my saying it. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn’t have the experience you described. I was not interested in finance, so I found communities at penn that were interested in other things as well and I never felt pressure to work for jpmorgan or McKinsey etc. It’s a big place with tons of undergrads and to generalize about the interests and goals of 10,000 young people is completely unfair. You find your own space in college and plenty of people do that just fine at penn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Not at the undergrad level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Wharton absolutely does not dominate the culture of Penn. it is a small subset. And it is very international (Wharton), so it doesn’t actually have a “douchey” feel. . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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My daughter recently graduated from penn and loved it. She wasn’t part of the whole Wharton/pre professional scene and tells me you don’t have to engage if you don’t want to. She is a sweet, smart young woman and had a wonderful four years. The reasons you don’t like penn are probably because of overblown stereotypes. She and her friends found their place; your dc can too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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^happy to answer any other questions; I really love the school because she did. [ Reply | More ]
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Wharton is a small subset of Penn. it is a more competitive and international bunch of kids. It in no way dominates the culture and it is like its own small school within a larger one. [ Reply | More ]
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My assistant graduated from Penn 4 years ago. She HATED it because she said the DOMINANT (note dominant, not only) type of boy was a douchebag headed to Finance and the dominant girl was a sorority type with brains. Of course, there were other type of people but those were the dominant types. And you could only really survive if you found a teensy little niche group. [ Reply | More ]
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I think both attract douchey gunners who want to go into finance and make a lot of money. Wharton dominates the culture of Penn, even at the undergrad level [ Reply | More ]
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Flagged [ Reply | More ]
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You’re not attending, she is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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Penn is one of my DS's choices. Unfortunately, we can't visit until mid-October as we live in California. is interested in being a premed and wants to major in something biology related and minor in political science. Is Penn good for these purposes? [ Reply | More ]
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i wouldn't do Penn for premed because the competition is so tough. Your kid will kill themselves to get the grades needed for med school. State school is better for that. I know a few Penn grads who had a tough time getting into med school. They did eventually, but not at top schools. One had to prove that they could hack it with a master's before applying again. Penn is great for just about anything else but that unless your kid truly is one of the top top and has done research outside of high school when they apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think the blue angels air show tomorrow will be visible from Staten Island? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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Seems far still - it would probably be little boops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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If they're turning near the Statue of Liberty, it should be visible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Be in place by 9:30. This will be the multi-forces flypast. Blue Angels, RAF Red Arrows, Thunderbirds and F-35 Demo Team. The Air Show is at Stewart AFB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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The Hudson Flight will approach from the north over the river in a procession of four team formations. The Blue Angels will lead in 6 aircraft delta formation, followed by the Red Arrows in their signature big battle 9 aircraft wide formation. Two F-35 Lightning II Joint Strike Fighters will trail the Red Arrows followed by the Thunderbirds in their delta formation. The Red Arrows will have red/white and blue smoke coming out from the back of their aircraft. The Hudson Flight will fly south to New York Harbor where the formations will all make a sweeping right turn and the proceed back up the river. They will make a pass over West Point Military Academy prior to landing back at New York Stewart International Airport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone wanna play “Chance me” for colleges?? Give key stats (race, GPA unweighted/weighted, SAT or ACT score, #APs, and any special “hooks” your DC has) and we will chance you for your college choices. I will start : Chance my DC for Penn: Asian/white, 4.8, 1560, 10 APs (all fives except one 4), a lot of leadership and math but no other hooks. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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10 APs before senior year? Dear Lord, my child has no chance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Other factors include gender and geographic location and perhaps legacy status with Penn. The single most important factor in an application is the school the applicant attends. Your child is compared to other applicants from that school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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This is overblown imho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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I agree. Except that they won't accept too too many from one school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Of course not. But this fear of fellow classmates is stupid. If they need a tuba player and you fit the bill... be the best you you can be and let the chips fall. It’s about you and what the college needs to fill their class. If they need a dancer who won a science award and a big donor has that you aren’t getting in thru NO FAULT OF YOUR OWN [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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np. Penn kind of has rough quotas for particular school at least in the NYC area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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And ... this is why these posts sound like trolls to me. Sorry. You can't be this out of touch. And I'm really uncomfortable with a discussions on college admissions and race. I'm not participating in this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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Huh [ Reply | More ]
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You are so uptight. It’s a reality and pretending it doesn’t exist is burying your head in the sand [ Reply | More ]
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Why would this be trolling? You might not like the discussion, but many of us have older teens and are interested in the experience/perspective of others. Further, it's a college discussion, not a race discussion. It's obviously a bit of a game because we're not experts, but the issues/concerns re. college admissions are real and a legit topic. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh no! We were so hoping you’d participate! What are we going to do without you? You’re so valuable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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You'll get better info on college confidential. Check out stats for accepted kids at each of these schools. Obviously there's false info too, but I found it helpful when I started seeing patterns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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Why waste your time and energy on this nonsense. Go help somebody or make a memory with your kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Says the person spending time on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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You krazee [ Reply | More ]
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Must apply ED or will be rejected unless from sparse country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Probably will get in but did he do anything that showed initiative or did he compete in STEM things at a high level or participate in impressive internships? As presented, he seems like someone very bright who did whta he was asked to do. Need to see something more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Is he applying ED or not? Has a decent chance with ED and next to no chance without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 10:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh shit fam! I got a tornado warning on my phone for the next 30 minutes. Now let's watch all my neighbors go outside to see if they see anything ... 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Local news says it's a radar tornado so they're warning people on the ground as it passes over them. I think I'm good but they are literally telling people to get underground right now. [ Reply | More ]
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I love a good storm. But be careful! [ Reply | More ]
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op. they are tracking it neighborhood to neighborhood - I looked out through my window where they said it was and I got a legitimate pic of a funnel cloud. I sent it into the local news. Supposedly all the next town is out of power. The whole town. [ Reply | More ]
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THEY ARE PUTTING MY PICTURE ON THE NEWS [ Reply | More ]
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Nice [ Reply | More ]
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I know, fun right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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We're not in Kansas any more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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Essex County, MA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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Really?! My in-laws are there and FIL is obsessed with the weather. I'm sure he's loving this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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My dad's in FL, retired. I swear he moved to FL to be closer to crazy weather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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it is all fun and games until the wifi has been out for 4 hours (all kidding aside, hope everyone stays safe). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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thank you, I think we are okay. That's the only reason I took a picture of it, the news was already tracking it moving away from me. I was looking out the next window and saw this funnel cloud start to form and was like wtf ?! I have seen the Discovery channel. So I ran out to get a picture of it, but then the rain started in and I didn't want to mess up my phone so got only the one picture. But apparently it got approved by the meteorologist because they're running it now. [ Reply | More ]
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I know--we had 4 hurricanes in a couple of years in FL. I found it less fun when I was on that FEMA line trying to get some ice b/4 I lost my mind (week 3 without power) [ Reply | More ]
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Florida is real hurricanes. God bless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel terrible and wondering what I should do/should have done. I was just at a pediatric clinic in NYC and witnessed a dad with two boys around 6 and 8, harshly disciplining them. One of the boys tried to open the door and the dad yanked his arm and started yelling at him. The boy said "sorry" and the dad kept repeating, "say it again." They got on the elevator and I told the security guard I was concerned. The guard saw the whole thing and said it was a parenting issue. Should I have approached the dad? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:44 PM Flag
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No. Don't engage crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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op: the boys looked so terrified of him, I actually started tearing up. Feel so sad. [ Reply | More ]
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That is so very sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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I want my kids afraid of me. That carries weight when tweens/teens. I remember thinking “my parents would kill me if I did that”. Wonder how many kids think that today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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They'll remember it when it's time to decide how much to spend on dad's nursing care. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 My mother is in a crappy nursing home that medicare and social security cover, and no one goes to visit. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m just going to say this does not make me think dad is “crazy”. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:52 PM Flag
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Don't be so literal. The guy clearly has anger issues which he would aim at OP if she engaged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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I don’t agree with your dx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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I'm not seeing anything outrageous in the dad's behavior. Stop projecting your own issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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Same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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The people on here suck. You all must have been abused as kids or are heartless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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+1,000,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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NP: I was abused (including physically) as a child and when I hear stuff like this, I hope we focus on the real abusers. Maybe the kid was humiliated and maybe that is the kind of "abuse" that happens at home, but I personally would be careful with seeing a snapshot and assuming that it's abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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I am so sorry you were abused and hope you are right in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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Problem was, my mother was the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful person in public. People would even tell me: you're mother is fantastic. Little did they know what went on behind closed doors. I wish she had been a yeller, frankly, and limited it to that whether in public or private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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I am so sorry. I hope she got what she deserved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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The only justice in this story is that I refuse to continue the cycle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Uh huh? It's now we who suck? Yanking a kids' arm or berating a child is not a reportable offense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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It was reported. To the security guard. Who gave the right answer: MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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You are a dolt. If that is joint on in front of people, I can’t imagine what those kids are experiencing at home. Hope you are enjoying your relaxing afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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^^ going on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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The clinic is full of people mandated to report. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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I would feel the same way you do. I am sick reading this. I don’t know what you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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Don’t see anything to report. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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This. There are different parenting styles that have nothing to do with abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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I've seen some doozies. This seems milder than things I've witnessed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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If I really thought that the kids were in danger, I would have told the receptionist at the clinic to tell the doctors at the clinic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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This. Not a security guard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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I'm with you, OP. The issue is that you know the dad is MUCH worse in private, and probably pretty violent. You saw a milder form of his anger. You brought it up to the security guard, and that's it. Now put it to rest and understand that you cannot save the world. Again: I agree with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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I feel so badly for these kids! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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What about calling the clinic now and reporting it to a doctor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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They will think she is crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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Says you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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MYOB. This is far from abusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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-1. It’s emotional abuse and likely serious abuse while at home. Enjoy your relaxing cup of coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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Again, MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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The father was being a jerk but it doesn't sound like abuse. Back off, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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It’s astounding the amount of mothers who only care about backing off and not helping defenseless children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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You sound like a troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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You’re right. I’m standing up for defenseless kids. I’m the troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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You don’t know what you are talking about. Two boys that age can be a handful and OP does not know what transpired beforehand. Is it cool, no, but parents lose their cool sometime or some parents are better than others. What do you think, being shuffled among foster homes will be healthier for these boys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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You’re probably right. They’re better off being with their father, getting the shit beat out of them everyday. Enjoy your day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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You’re probably right. They’re better off being with their father, getting the shit beat out of them everyday. Enjoy your day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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You are an idiot. You think the doctor, who I presume examined them, would not have noticed the signs of getting the shit beaten out of them? Or their teachers or neighbors or relatives? The only thing you know for sure is that two kids got yelled at by their father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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PP you don't know what happened before you arrived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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You like being road raged on the highway? Or having jerk father follow you home later? My kids are precious and so is my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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He didn't cross a line that would have justified intervention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] If you hire an occasional babysitter and the babysitting time goes over a mealtime, do you usually provide the babysitter with a meal or is it expected they bring one? This has usually been over lunch, but I suppose it pertains to dinner too. I usually make my kids lunch, leave it in the fridge, and I tell the babysitter to help herself to any snacks or drinks, but should I be doing more? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:04 PM Flag
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If I haven't had time to cook/prepare something for everyone, I just gave babysitter money for lunch or dinner out with the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:06 PM Flag
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^^ "If I didn't have time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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No, I tell them to help themselves to whatever they want, but I don’t feel obligated to feed them. And I doubt they want the chicken nuggets or plain pasta I leave for my toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Never as a babysitter myself or a parent hiring them did I anticipate a sitter would bring her own food. Leave something prepared, easy to heat up, or money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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but how do you know what they like to eat? I would feel weird preparing the sitter a meal -- like "here is this turkey and cheese sandwich I made for you" when I don't know whether she is vegetarian, kosher, allergic to cheese or just plain doesn't like turkey sandwiches. Do you actually communicate with the babysitter regarding food preferences for when she comes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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I think it's weirder to prepare a sandwich for your kid that you expect the sitter to serve and there is nothing for her. What would make sense is to tell her there is stuff for sandwiches, fruit, and chips, and she should make lunch for herself and the kid but if she wants something else for herself she is welcome to bring it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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Former NYC babysitter here, families always either left me food, told me to help myself, or left money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:13 PM Flag
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I never provided meals for sitters. Sounds like people in NYC give them $ for takeout. I always told them they were welcome to whatever we had but that was never much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:13 PM Flag
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I had an open fridge rule -- she could have whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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Same. If she doesn't like your options, she can bring her own. If it is a regular babysitter, I will make efforts within reason to have things that I know she will eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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Lunch is "help yourself;" for dinner, we leave a binder of takeout menus and a $20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Our babysitter is welcome to whatever food we have in the house (except in the rare exception that something is reserved for an event or something). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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I usually leave some extra money for her to order something if we won't be back until late. But we're talking like pizza or chinese, nothing extravagant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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I make sure that they can eat what the kids are eating, or if that isn’t acceptable food then I tell them some items in the fridge they might like. If I truly have nothing, I’ll leave money for them to order something. If it’s on the cusp of a mealtime, I feel they should manage themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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I've had numerous after school sitters over the years, and while I ask them to prep or heat up dinner for the kids around 5:30, their day ended at 6 so I never offered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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It's been awhile, but whenever I left my kids with a babysitter anytime around dinner, I would always leave out prepared food to be heated for kids and sitter. I would tell her there was enough food for her too if she was hungry/wanted it. If I was leaving money to order pizza, I would leave enough so that she could order for herself too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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There is almost always yogurt, bread, cheese, frozen pizza and burritos, pbj, tuna, pasta, eggs, take out roast chix in the fridge. Usually some leftovers too. Any of that would be fine for a babysitter. I point it out as options. If for some reason my cupboard was bare, highly unlikely, I’d tell them to order a pizza or a sandwich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Most employers don’t provide a meal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Most employers aren't taking care of your children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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Everyone is supposed to take care of their lunch. In fact I will expect her to cook for kids and be clear about it. If my kids are picky eater and she is ordering food for them then I leave money for all. Dinner I mostly leave money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some help. I have to organize a networking/game/trivia game for a corporate conference. Will be about 80-100 people so will be multiple tables. I’ve googled the hell out of this and am coming up w only horrible ideas. Bingo previously done, so can’t do that. Any ideas?? Anything you’ve done at a conference for networking or game that you found fun? Only need to fill about 30 mins. Anyone? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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People hate this. Skip it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Sounds like it's an assignment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:01 PM Flag
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It is an assignment and considering it’s a bunch of lawyers, I think they’d prefer it to a 30 minute panel on litigation trends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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This. I always manage to have an urgent phone call I have to take during those activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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Then the poster below who suggested the escape room has a point: you can't run out or take calls if you're in a cell... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Just don't goof and accidentally reveal the name of the branch that's closing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:01 PM Flag
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Go Fish at individual tables. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:04 PM Flag
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Spin the bottle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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Empty the bottle. With ice and a splash of soda, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Scavenger hunt where you have to find fun facts about the participants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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It may sound weird at first, but have you considered one of those "escape from jail" events? You get out of the conference room and everybody has to contribute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:11 PM Flag
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Lawyers might like it; they could experience the lives of their former clients, LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Is this to break the ice? I recently attended a meeting where they had a bunch of pennies on the table. Everyone picked a penny and had to say what they were doing that year. It was actually interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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What does pennies have to do with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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It has a date on it hello [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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I read this twice before I realized it was the year on the penny, not the current year, lol. I kind of like this idea, though. Do you get to choose multiple times? I hate this kind of shit but I wouldn't mind this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:28 PM Flag
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OR, yes sorry for the confusion. Yes, you go by the year on the penny. And you can do it multiple times. If you want to drag it out, you could have one person at each table speak to the larger group. If someone wasn’t born for the date they can swap pennies or pick a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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I wouldn't remember year to year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:29 PM Flag
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You wouldn’t be able to remember a single thing any given year ?? Weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Maybe i'm too old. I can't remember what great things I did in 1987 vs. 86 or 88. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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How about this. Provide an index card and the exact same type of pen at each place setting. Have each write down an interesting tie bit about themselves. I was charged by a rhino. I was a ranked athlete in high school. I married my spouse after 14 days.... whatever. Then one person at the table has to try and assign the fact to the right person. If this is something you like I can help you work out specifics. If you can get these in advance you can pepper them around the room and it will be a great conversation starter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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"I was going to say, you look like someone who went to college on full scholarship!" This could go wrong in so many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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This even seems more ridiculous as I type it, but I have seen adults do musical chairs, and the games have gone off with great success. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Bunco? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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OK, so I play trivia game on a weekly basis and it's a lot of fun. The way it's done, there are several teams, each team is 6 people. The announcer reads each question and the question also appears on the TV's. The teams have one minute to discuss the question and come up with an answer. Then they read the questions again and you have 100 more seconds to write down the answers on an index card which are then collected. There are 7 rounds, and the last round is a rapid fire one-7 questions, 100 second in total, 50 more seconds to write down the answers, and the questions are not repeated. The topics range widely, but there is always a round with music where they play a song, a soundtrack to a movie, TV series, or a classical music piece. There is also a round with visual items-photos, works of art, ads, kid pictures of famous people and you have to either guess the artist, what's missing from the photo,what the ad was for, who the famous person is. I wish I could give you the contact, but these games are not conducted in English language, although, the topics are from all over the world and I know for sure that they are very popular at corporate events in the home country. Believe it or not, these games are a lot of fun-brainstorming and finding the right answers provides a huge adrenaline rush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 09:50 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have an after-school sitter just 2-3 days a week, do you pay them when a federal holiday falls on their day? For example, if the sitter comes M/W/F, do you pay for MLK Day since it falls on Monday? WE always paid holidays in the past, but that was when we had full-time help. Not sure how it works for someone super part time. Thanks! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:31 PM Flag
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I think I would put kids in a school-based afterschool program on Mondays for this very reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:37 PM Flag
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I don’t pay our sitter for holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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If she has a set schedule, I do. If she just works a few random afternoons, I won't. So if she usually works Monday afternoons, I'll pay for Labor Day. But I figure the money means more to her than to me, and she's great, so I like to keep her happy. I don't think most people do pay in this situation, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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Yes, They’ve committed their day and time to me. Happy sitter, happy kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Yes and part time people have every incentive to leave. If they are working for you, paying a good hourly rate and paying for holidays is a smart decision. I also have them work on those days because it can be good for me to have a few hours to do things on those Mondays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:04 PM Flag
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This is what I did previously and you make good points for continuing it. You're right... it's small money to incentive someone to stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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I do - we pay a weekly salary for that is the same regardless of vacation days and pay overtime when she works more hours than her guarantee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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we do this as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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