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[ - ] Garden House or TE? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] dh wants to have sex every night. is this normal? i don't mind, just wondering if it's temporary. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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We usually have sex once a night, or maybe 5 nights a week. Fantastic-o for a marriage! [ Reply | More ]
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Not normal, but not bad. [ Reply | More ]
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how long does he last? [ Reply | More ]
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Married how long? Kids? [ Reply | More ]
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Lucky. [ Reply | More ]
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Every night would be a bit much for me but I wish we did it more than once/week. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] what should i get my sister who is turning 60 next month. she's much older than i am, lives in jersey, grown kids.... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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what does she like? budget? [ Reply | More ]
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she's a homebody. she likes cats. she watched jeopardy. 100 bucks? [ Reply | More ]
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Gift card [ Reply | More ]
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impersonal. she'd rather have something, something she wouldn't buy herself. but not something too showy... she already thinks i'm her rich snotty nyc sister. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
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Newspaper from the day she was born? Coin set from the year of her birth? Memorabilia stuff that can get passed down to the kids too. [ Reply | More ]
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Neat-o [ Reply | More ]
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ooh, the newspaper idea i like. maybe framed... hmm. [ Reply | More ]
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She's 60, not 90. Signed 52 year old. Get her an experience...spa day, series of massages, weekend away if your feeling generous. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DS is 18 months and really likes those le sport sac diaper bags with the giraffes on them. Should I get one? Are they decent quality? Would keep it on the stroller. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Who gives a f#%k? Sorry, but really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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I have a Le Sport Sac diaper bag and love it. Very light, durable, and washes up easily. Have had it for years now and no complaints. [ Reply | More ]
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Giraffes are NOKD [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Non New Yorker here. If you couldn't live in NYC, where would you live? 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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Sydney? [ Reply | More ]
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sf [ Reply | More ]
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I live in and love california, but I personally wouldn't live if SF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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This. School situation is a disaster, homeless population out of control, housing is pricey, weather is bad, public transportation awful and traffic lousy. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, in a nutshell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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so, i'd feel right at home!. signed, native nyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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No way. BART isn't remotely as good as the subway and MUNI buses are terrible too. The homeless population in SF is extremely aggressive and self-righteous. It's cold pretty much all the time in certain "microclimates". And don't get me started on the traffic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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You have a point with the public transportation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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I will say, however, that the sourdough bread and Dungeness crabs are good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Haha, yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:37 AM Flag
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so, i'd feel right at home!. signed, native nyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Hah, possibly. But I'd rather be in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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good privates in SF or good publics in marin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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That still doesn't outweigh all the other problems. This town is so overrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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DS is 18 months and really likes those le sport sac diaper bags with the giraffes on them. Should I get one? Are they decent quality? Would keep it on the stroller. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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chicago, london, hk, tokyo, sf. maybe melbourne [ Reply | More ]
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Pick one. [ Reply | More ]
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for "retirement" post kids? chicago....with kids SF maybe (i've lived in them all except melbourne already) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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Ty for answering [ Reply | More ]
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Laguna Beach [ Reply | More ]
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Not bad. A lot of stupid blonde bimbos though. [ Reply | More ]
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LB mom here: untrue. Too expensive to live here for the dumb ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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That's good, a bit hard to believe though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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I'm not LB mom, but I agree. Walking around the popular areas, probably over 75 percent of the people you see aren't LB residents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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Nah, they tend to congregate at Javier's in Newport Beach. [ Reply | More ]
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Philly [ Reply | More ]
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Barcelona [ Reply | More ]
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Do it! [ Reply | More ]
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Vancouver [ Reply | More ]
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Asheville, NC; San Diego; overseas lots of places [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Hmm. What's ashville like and why did you choose that? San Diego is nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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Asheville is great. More of a 'local'/artsy vibe but a nice mix of history, culture, southern traditions and beautiful mountain views. Very small but nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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Sounds nice. I like local and artsy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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South Pasadena - currently living in regular Pasadena. Even if money was no object, I don't think I'd willingly live anywhere east of the Rockies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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*were. Sorry, very long weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Yeah, I'm a west coaster too. I'd like to live in NYC sometime though, just because. It's nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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I love visiting, I just don't think I have the right mindset to live there. I get claustrophobic if I don't get to see wide open deserts every so often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Yeah, I'd miss living on the ocean and near the redwoods. Hence, why it would only be temporary. Still think it'd be an amazing experience and visiting wouldn't be enough time. Unfortunately, expensive. Too damn expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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South Pas is cute! Looks modest, but very pricey! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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I can at least walk there, even if I can't afford it's charming craftsman houses or excellent public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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I love Pasadena, too. But as you know, the public schools suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Yeah, we certainly won't be using them - that was a requirement of moving here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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Old Town Alexandria. In a heartbeat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:37 AM Flag
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I'd love to move back to Monterey, CA. [ Reply | More ]
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Carmel. In a heartbeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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I do love Carmel, too. I just found Monterey to have everything I wanted and it felt a little less touristy. I did spend a lot of time there, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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So you never loved in Monterey? [ Reply | More ]
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Lived* [ Reply | More ]
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I did - just for two years. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry - I spent a lot of time in Carmel while I lived in Monterey. [ Reply | More ]
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Nicest people and best service I've ever seen at the Intercon Monterey. [ Reply | More ]
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nice [ Reply | More ]
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Not bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:43 AM Flag
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LA [ Reply | More ]
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Los Gatos. [ Reply | More ]
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Good one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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Whoa. I grew up there. I have no desire to go back. I don't live in NYC anymore so I didn't respond to this post, but it's kind of freaky to see my hometown on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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London. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Let's join in on the debate. Is this dress blue and black or white and gold? vv 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I got blue and black. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
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So wierd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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White and gold. You are nuts if you're seeing blue and black. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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Dh said the same thing. Taylor swift saw blue and black. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 03.02.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Omg. White and gold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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It's white and gold, but if you stare at it long enough, it'll start becoming blue and black [ Reply | More ]
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I only see blue and black. Can't see white and gold no matter how hard I try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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^this [ Reply | More ]
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It's blue and black! Just bad light in the photo. [ Reply | More ]
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^this [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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I do not get how you can see white and gold. It's a fuzzy distorted image of a BLUE and BLACK dress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:35 AM Flag
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White and gold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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This dress is white and gold. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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I asked 3 ppl on the house I'm in and they all saw white and gold. I see blue and black. My perception is just more advanced. ;P [ Reply | More ]
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Hm. Strange. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh and I disagree on this one. [ Reply | More ]
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White and gold. How do you get blue and black from that? OK, people who see blue and black, what colors do you see through the window ito the right of the dress in the background? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:56 AM Flag
[ - ] I watched The Slap tonight, episode 1. I like it. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What is the slap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Just stop already. [ Reply | More ]
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people talk about tv here sometimes. quit telling them to stop. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 03.02.15, 04:35 AM Flag
[ - ] My 3.5 yo dd is driving me insane. She whines about everything. She's fussy about clothes, food, shoes, car seats, etc and she is never just happy. It's always something. How do I get past this? I can't give her what she wants all the time just because it mAkes my life a little less annoying. 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's a tough age. No easy answers, just wait it out. But it gets better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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I feel like she's about to get her period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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My DD was a tough toddler, especially the 2's. By the time she turned 3, it was a bit better because her verbal ability and dexterity was starting to catch up with her will and desire. It helped me to remember that life was highly frustrating for her and to have some compassion. She had ideas and was willful, but simply couldn't do some of the things she wanted to do. Also, those very qualities that showed up as a toddler are great now that she's a teenager. She's smart, opinionated, organized and motivated. Those traits can be annoying when they aren't coupled with good judgment (as is the case with toddlers), but they make for good qualities in older children and adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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Thanks. This is good advice. She is a very interesting and verbal person but lately she doesn't want to talk to anyone. She is grumpy and fidgety and reclusive. She won't say hi to people she used to love. She won't answer questions. It's like everything is a battle of will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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You know what gets me thru the tough days? Knowing that everything is just a phase. This too, shall pass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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Her whole life she has been grumpy but now it's excessive And everyone is noticing how morose she is. She is the opposite of fun loving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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boarding school [ Reply | More ]
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Lol totally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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Nanny here. I have a little advice because this is very typical of this age and I've seen it over 50 times working with this age. You flat out tell her, DD, whining is not acceptable. Mommy will not listen or respond when you whine. If you continue whining you will be punished and in your room alone. Then follow through. Trust me, you will not be dealing with whining for very much longer if you CONSISTENTLY follow through with this. Do not cajole, appease, bargain, ask question "sweetie do you want to do this? do you want to do that?, or allow it to phase you. matter of fact. If you continue to whine you will be punished and sitting in your room yourself. So either stop right now and ask for what you'd like with proper manners and tone of voice, or go in your room and shut the door. Do not let parental guilt sway you. You will be so happy with the results [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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I can appreciate this advice but it's not really that type of whining. It seems like unhappiness....excessive whining when she never used to do it. She seems uncomfortable all the time and she is so stubborn. There have been days when I sent her to her room and she never came out...not for hours. (Not by my choice but bc she would rather stay in there alone then apologize for whatever got her there.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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She isn't unhappy. It's the age. It may help to know your child is not alone in this and will get to the other side. But what she learns during the process if up to you. I see parents ALL the time say "yes I understand this advice, but..." There is always a but. parents always think their child is the exception for everything and there are always reasons they can't discipline or teach or guide. Im telling you, I have seen this MANY times and the end result can be what you choose it to be. Take control. Detach yourself emotionally, and try it for a week or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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And do not make excuses for your child. Oh I think she is unhappy so I should give in....NO. She is not unhappy. She is 3.5 and testing boundaries. Not unique [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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This. So this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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Thanks for your input. I totally agree with you re parents and thinking their kid is the exception. I just wish she would smile a little more. It actually seems like the clothing and stuff is physically bothering her which I could understand but she still has to get dressed every day. Idk, I guess I was thinking she might be withdrawing or depressed but it helps to hear everyone say how normal it is. My friends think she's "Debbie downer." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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I hear you and understand, but I am telling you this is so typical. She is fine. The clothing is not physically bothering her. You can tell her DD your attitude is not good and I would like to see a more friendly and kind attitude from you. If you do not act pleasant you will be in your room. It won't last forever if you set the boundary. It will last a LONG time and start a very annoying precedent if you do not take control now. How she is disciplined at 3 and 4 is the model for the future. She is not withdrawing or depressed. She is being a bratty 3.5 year old and learning what those things are and she is looking to you to say this is not how we behave, and if we behave like this, we will sit in our rooms by ourselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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^^^ and by bratty I do not mean I'm judging. I'm just saying she is experimenting with bratty behavior and it is completely normal and typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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Does she get enough sleep? How is her diet? My daughter is a mess if she doesn't sleep enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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She dropped her nap a while ago but I wish I could bring it back. She does not get enough sleep but again, that's a battle every single night unless I just let her stay up until 9/930. I'm failing her, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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How much does she get? at that age mine needed 12 hours or she was a horror show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:46 AM Flag
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It depends. She was sleeping til 9 if I laid with her but lately it's been 730 so that's 9/930-7/730 definitely not enough. I give her the opportunity to rest with me in the middle of the day but she never falls asleep any more. Sometimes if I drive somewhere at 4/5 she will pass out in the car but then she's up until 11. [ Reply | More ]
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She may be too overtired by then. Can you get her down at 7pm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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I can try but it always takes me 2 hours if I try early. She fights it. Hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:57 AM Flag
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Do you ever role play with her? My kids are not natural glad handers. Make a happy face and a mad face when you pretend to say hello to her and ask her if she can tell the difference and how she made you feel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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Thanks, I will try. She is extremely verbal so she can tell me how she's feeling all the time. That's not really her struggle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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I just mean in the sense that she can understand how her unfriendly posture is perceived to others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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Good idea. She is hurting people's feelings left and right. I know they are adults but her aunts and uncles and grandma all feel a bit snubbed and don't want to hang with her as much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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Neither of my kids have ever been warm and fuzzy with extended family. Do you think anything else is going on with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:55 AM Flag
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^^^ Do not be afraid of your child. Teach your child how to enjoy her life and how to respect peoples boundaries. She will be much happier and much more flexible in the world. Parents think saying no is "mean" when actually stopping whining is giving your child a great start in life. Teaching communication skills, how we do and do not communicate, will benefit your child immensely. Do not allow excessive grumpiness or whining or other attention seeking ploys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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Very sound advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Stop giving even what you can give every time she wants it. You've spoiled her to the point she will not accept no as an answer because you rarely deny her. She has seen you go out of your way to do what she wants, she expects that now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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I feel for you. My six year old is not easy and never has been. You need to cede control wherever you can in areas like clothing. I had to shed my dream very early of my child wearing smocked dresses :) Her motto seems to be "We can do this the easy way or the hard way." But she is still BRUTAL at times but has gotten much much much better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Thanks. This winter has been so hard with clothes. I really don't care what she looks like but I care when she whines constantly walking from one place to another bc she's f*ing freezing!! I keep hoping she will learn but she's so stubborn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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OMG! You people. You have no control over your kids. It isn't that hard, honestly. You're making way too much out of this. You are the adult, and she is the child. She will wear what you tell her to wear. She does not get to choose. There is too much choice with kids when parents have no control and they end up unhappy because of it and thinking they rule the home, the classroom, the playground,etc. Do what is right for your child and keep the control. This is what children want. It is how they feel safe and reassured and learn good positive communication. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ I mean that the children end up unhappy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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I get what you're saying but you're coming off aggressive. Not all children are the same. I have nannied for several families myself and I have seen vast differences in personality, even among siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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+1. My daughter is extremely well behaved, polite, has plenty of friends. She does not rule the classroom or our house and her teacher adores her. She just happens to be extremely stubborn and always has been. She is not my only child and her brother is as compliant as can be. So go bark your orders somewhere else. Your kid is going to be the one slathering makeup on and changing her clothes in the high school bathroom because you run such a tight ship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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But your child is not what OP is describing. OP is describing CLASSIC 3.5 behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Op here, I know MANY 3.5 year olds and my dd's behavior is extreme. It's not typical at all among her friends and neighbors. She is very advanced verbally so she is describing things in much more detail than her friends about why she doesn't want to do something, why those socks bother her, etc so it makes it Much harder to just tell her "suck it up or go to your room" to everything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Same thing with my daughter. I felt like I was dealing with an attorney when she was 3. Very verbal and had a very well formed opinion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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How did your dd do in school? When did she start pre-school? We didn't send her this year for various reasons but I think that might have been a mistake. She could use the voice of another adult telling her what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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She started at 3.5 and went for two years. She was very shy at first but did great . Her teachers have always described her as reserved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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She has friends but she is very very particular. She is quick to find kids annoying and sticks to one or two favorite friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:42 AM Flag
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I can see this happening in the future. One of her best baby friends (I am friends with her mom) is the same age but not nearly as verbal and she is already "over" her and doesn't want to hang out with her. Hoping they all even out when they go to school together but I'm worried she will be Daria. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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Don't count on it :) I told DD she was smart the other day in context of something in her class. She asked are you just saying that because the rest of the kids in my class are so dumb? I asked her if she really meant that and turns out, yeah she thinks the are a bunch of dummies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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Im stating into my future :/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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LOL I think you are. But she is an awesome, smart little girl. She is very perceptive and she has a mind of her own. But she is.not.easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:53 AM Flag
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Thanks for the advice. I'm glad your dd is giving you some joy these days. There may be light at the end of this dark and gloomy tunnel after all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:57 AM Flag
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I do not mean to come off as aggressive and of course I know not all children are the same. But this trait, this specific trait of whining, especially about the clothes, and the bad attitude, is just simply classic behavior for this age group and I feel OP needs some support to not only know her DD is normal, but also know that it is ok and actually beneficial to DD herself, if OP sets the boundaries. I am sorry to sound aggressive. I am passionate about the topic I suppose because I love working with this age group and love seeing the transformations in children and how much more able they are to express themselves positively when this type of discipline happens at home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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You can make a rule that she can pick whatever she wants but it has to be weather appropriate. ie long sleeved shirt and long pants. We joked that DD should be a hostage negotiator, she can wear anyone down. She would refuse to apologize as well as a young kid. We used to joke that if she knew what the middle finger was she would be flipping it at us. She is truly one of the most stubborn children I have ever met [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Yeah that's pretty much what we do. I give her a time limit and she meets me by the door within 5 minutes wearing at least a pair of pants, socks, and a long sleeve dress (lately it's been the same one over and over!!!) then it is a battle over the coat. I have made her wear it before as the nanny above suggested and it made us all miserable. We tried to have an outing as a family and she moaned the entire time and really pissed all of us off. It wasn't fair and maybe it wasn't even worth fighting that battle considering that it ruined the entire day for a family of 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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Was she wearing no coat at all? I definitely run colder than my kids so I do let them select their outerwear to a certain extent. But I do insist on a coat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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She was wearing a coat and was miserable in it the entire time. Other times I've let her not wear one and she's miserable in the cold. I feel like I can't win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:35 AM Flag
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My daughter is definitely particular. She cannot wear uncomfortable shoes or scratchy things or things that are too tight. Cant see tell you what the issue is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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Yes, she does. The boots make her feet sweaty, the boots don't fit with THOSE socks, that shirt feels slimy, those pants are too stretchy, those pants aren't stretchy enough, I hate red, I like all colors except black, I hate zippers, etc etc etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Does my daughter live at your house part time? :) Was she a car screamer as a baby? I swear I used to think I would lose my mind if she did not stop shrieking at the top of her lungs in her carseat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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Omg she screamed for 2 fucking years. I used to check her car seat for pins at the end of the day. I think I had ptsd from the car. Literally the day we drove home from the hospital she screamed the entire way, first time we had heard her cry for real. It never stopped. She's still not great in the car. The car seat is a battle often and the coat + the car seat is like the perfect storm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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Yup. PTSD is a perfect description of listening to a child shriek for 2 f-ing straight hours in traffic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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My daughter will still cry so hard she pukes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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This happened to my dd a bunch. I thought car sickness, went to a chiropractor, thought reflux, nothing cured it. Eventually when I turned her forward facing and held her hand it was sort of ok (around 2/2.5) and she would never fall asleep for long car rides. She watched where we were going the entire time. I would try to lie to her (while she was screaming to go home) that we were turning around and she would tell me "we are still going noooooorthhhhh!!!" I wished so hard for a tranquilizer to become available ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] What age did you start botox? I started at 27. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.02.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Insanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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I know it seems that way, but so glad I did! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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you have to keep up with it. and no one will ell you this: your skin will look thick and haggard. i've seen it in fellow 40-something moms who have been doing botox for years. enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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Yes I am 35 now. My skin is flawless! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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Have been doing it every 6 months and it's great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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you think so. no one is telling you the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Ha! I look 24 :) Skin glows from lots of weight training and no sugar and lots of sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:35 AM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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Details ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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just speaking from what i see, and other friends experiences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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yeah, it looks very bad at this young age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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THIS. You look like Lindsay Lohan. It ages you dramaticalyl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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Word. Sad that these women will be doing this for 30, 50, 50 years. Saggy face from lack of muscle tone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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How does it make your skin look bad? When is it too early to start? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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So I guess I've been doing it now for 8 years...my skin looks awesome. I do not overdo it, and I don't do it every 3 months. I do it every 6-8 months and I get a natural amount for my naturally very expressive face. It looks awesome and I constantly am asked if I'm 22, 23, 24. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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^^^no kids yet though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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Causes muscle and fat loss. Skin and muscle sags [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] The work I do isn't hard, but after about 3.5 hours of planning my head hurts and I am exhausted. -Teacher 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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This is why people get tired of hearing teachers complain. You get all summer off. You only work until like 3 every day. But "planning" is too hard for you? Give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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I actually work in a unique situation and get two weeks of vacation a year. I typically work 7 days a week, and 70-80 hours a week. I work with students with disabilities. Like I said, what I do isn't hard, but it does require a lot of time to do it well. And so many people continue to hate on teachers. Your dc would be lucky to have me as a teacher. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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aw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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Spoken by someone who has never taught, and therefore has no idea of the dedication and challenging work involved for very low pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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Get some sleep - I am sure you will have a great day tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Getting older is ok. Looking older is NOT. (sigh) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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I know...my problem right now :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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My hair is getting old! So dried out and getting Brillo-y [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:52 AM Flag
[ - ] My 3 yo DS told me that his teacher made him sit in timeout outside of their classroom (in the walkway to their classroom, which is literally outside) without a jacket on in 40 degree weather on Friday. Granted, he's 3. He says a lot of stuff. He's also kind of a little snot, so I imagine any time out was probably deserved. STILL, to sit a 3 year old OUTSIDE in February? What would you say to the teacher on Monday? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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He probably made it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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OP: Maybe. But I asked him a few times about it over the weekend, and he kept the same story very consistently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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I would ask. Besides being cold, was the outside area protected by school walls--or to a street/road? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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OP: The outside area is fenced in and connects to the playground. However, I don't like that a) he didn't have a jacket, b) he says he was scared to be out there alone, and c) he was apparently unsupervised for however many minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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"I hear DS had a time-out Friday? Do you have a few minutes to tell me about it?" (without DS standing there). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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OP: Good idea. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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Seriously?? Be the grown up you are supposed to me and talk to the teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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OP: I am planning on it. I just haven't had to deal with this before, so I didn't know if the right idea was to go in with smoke coming out of my ears or to play dumb and ask about the whole scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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Neither. Come in saying that you know 3 year olds don't always explain things properly. Tell her what DS said and ask her for feedback. Be calm. No smoke and don't be dumb. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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Start by playing dumb. If teacher isn't forthcoming, then get more pointed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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You should also ask about ds' behavior and whether you need to work with him on any issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.02.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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