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[ - ] Does the princess have a name yet? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Not yet. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If we renovated a townhouse in a nice neigborhood in Brooklyn, and then sell it, would we make a good profit or break even? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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This is dependent on so many variables. Your question is so naive. You'd definitely lose money. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is your shero? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sheryl shandberg [ Reply | More ]
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joan jett [ Reply | More ]
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What is wrong with the word hero? Why do women need a different descriptor for the same accomplishments? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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+1 reminds me of a very judgmental "friend" who used to criticize anyone who used the "woman", "mankind", etc. She preferred "womyn".... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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My mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably my MIL. She's the one I try to be most like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Have a close friend whose husband is in jail for a few months...was busted looking at porn at work, and there were some images of children. She is getting divorced but there is a danger he will try to worm his way back into her life when he is released. She needs to "jumpstart" her life, get new habits/patterns/relationships before his release. What advice would you give her? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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Ew. You remained friends?? Why? She obvs. Knew about this habit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:18 PM Flag
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She didn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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To simply not accept his calls, texts, or emails. She has an attorney; if he needs to discuss the divorce or the children, he can email the attorney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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I don't think she can afford that long term. Because they have children, she will have to see him. In the forseeable future, he will not have unsupervised time with them. There is no evidence he abused the children btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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She can afford it until the divorce is final. If she uses this as an excuse for taking his calls, then it's her problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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Easy for you to say what someone can or cannot afford [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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Anyone who has an attorney for a divorce can tell the soon-to-be-ex to send all correspondence to the attorney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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+1 I have a friend whose divorce settlement includes an order that her ex is only allowed to contact her by email and is only allowed to send one email per day and four emails per week. I could not believe the courts would get involved at that level, but I guess they will when harassment gets bad. but not quite RO bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:26 PM Flag
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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This, sort of like a modified version of a restraining order. Is she afraid of him, or are you more worried he's going to be intensely manipulative and she'll cave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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Manipulation. she's not afraid of him..they just have a toxic past and he's a narcissistic charmer type [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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Can she start going to a church, if she does not already? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Eewww. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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np. I'm not even religious but I don't know why you would just throw such a stupid, unhelpful comment out like that. It's actually a fairly decent suggestion for finding a new environment and support system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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I thought so as well. This woman needs a pretty drastic overhaul of community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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The last thing she needs is brainwashing and proselytizing while she's in the middle of social, emotional, and financial upheaval. If she isn't already religious, she should not turn to religion while she's desperate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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Wow, I woudnt go to any extreme religious group, but mainsteam, like say Episcopalean or Reform jews can be helprul. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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lol "Mainstream" That shows just how brainwashed much of our society is. Thinking any of these religions is "mainstream". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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The Unitarians are pretty chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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I think the Congregationalists are as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Episcopalian isn't mainstream ?! Of course it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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Really mature to respond "ewww" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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Or however you spelled it. Cow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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+1 Talk about NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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So going to church is NOKD? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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Turning to "Jesus" to fix your life is definitely NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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Was it a few images or more? That is weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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Just a few [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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Was it purposeful? What was his excuse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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He recieved images but was going for something else. Had very weird interests but evidence doesn't indicate the interest was kids in particular [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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I find this hard to believe. Did he pay for access to the porn site? If he received child porn, did he cancel membership after receiving the child porn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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do they have kids? if just her, she needs to join thing, refuse calls/tell him to discuss with attorney - serious therapy if they have kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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Yes they have three kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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She needs to get a good lawyer, hopefully she can only supervised visitation when he is out. In the meantime, she needs to join new groups, etc. If church or temple doesnt work for her, sports, alumni, charity, whatever. BTW, edgemont mom here, one dad did go to jail for child porn, MANY people were supportive of the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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It is more common than people think! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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I think that if you have friends, if the dad is in prison, your friends will stick by you. The problem is they wil NOT let kids at your house if the guy gets out and is back in the house. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have about 5 mil in assets but live like your average middle class person. Not out of some sort of puritan modesty but because this is all I can afford. How much money do you need to responsibly live rich? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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Shush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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I don't think you understand what an "average middle class person" really lives like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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I don't think you understand the stratospheres of the wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Define "live rich"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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Clearly it isn't "all you can afford" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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What does average middle class person mean? And what is the composition of your assets? If they are very illiquid, that may explain things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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Actually this does explain this a bit. Most of my assets are liquid but inherited. I feel like it's more insurance money but should not be frivolously spend. We only spend what we earn typically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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You are boasting about inheritance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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I think she's actually complaining about her inheritance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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Not really. I just don't think about it as my money. If my parents gave this money to me, I should give it to my kids, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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yes you should pass some along to your kids, but invest it wisely and you can grow the money to a more substantial asset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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the earning off 5 mil are nice, but not enough to live off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Things that are nice about being moderately rich: We own our home in a nice but middle class suburb, our children will not have to limit their college search but they currently go to public school. We don't even have nice cars. We do vacation well, and minor emergencies are no big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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Sound very much like UMC to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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STOP POSTING THIS RITCHY RICH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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I'd say 25 million (40 would be better). That would allow you the ability to live off of interest and investments while still having enough to allow intergenerational wealth for your children. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I think my number is somewhere north of 20mil. Otherwise I have to work. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone have any unusual hobbies? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I take trumpet lessons. Don't know if that's unusual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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It's pretty cool! And different [ Reply | More ]
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Ha, thanks! Started at 35 with the goal of being able to play decently by 40. :) [ Reply | More ]
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I take a belly dance class and love it. People around me feel that this is very weird (flyover regular old white girl here) DH gives full support though ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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Always wanted to try that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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My mom and I make quilts for charity - I cut all the fabric for the patterns and send it to her, she sews and quilts everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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That's really wonderful. My mom is a quilter. That cutting is no joke. Would frustrate me! [ Reply | More ]
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OR: awww, thank you. It's our fun little project together. My mom hates the cutting part and I hate the sewing part, so it's a match made in heaven! I love the cutting, it's actually very relaxing for some reason. It's like meditation because you can't focus on anything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:03 PM Flag
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I play the mandolin...badly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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I grow orchids [ Reply | More ]
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Neat [ Reply | More ]
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+ i have recently started paring down my collection giving them away because I have gotten so many, told myself I have to stick to only 10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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So do I. I never considered it a hobby, though. I have about 40 plants. Most are outside hanging on shady palm trees. I position them so I can see the flowers from inside the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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wish i was in fl for my orchids, but since i am in a nyc burb, i have lots of plant lights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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Ha. on any other message board I'd say I mess around here on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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I have a 4 acre garden mini-farm. I sell some to local restaurants, donate some to food banks. This time of year it consumes me. I can't wait to retire so I can do this full time. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do I get a telecommute position? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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Try to work out an arrangement with your current employer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:52 AM Flag
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Become indespensible and ultra reliable. [ Reply | More ]
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In what industry/career? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking at FB...I do not understand why people allow their kids to become obese. I don't mean the chubbiness that precedes a growth spurt. Obese. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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The parents are usually obese (or have crappy eating/exercise habits and have good enough genes that it doesn't show yet) - agree, it's disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know...it seems very cruel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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You can't control their eating habits completely past a certain age. Definitely not past middle school, unless you go to school with them and take the food out of their hands. I know many fat kids with exasperated athletic parents. You can't make your kid run. [ Reply | More ]
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the problem is just the sheer awfulness of the food they can get their hands on. There is a McDonalds where I live straight across from the high school. Kids are not supposed to leave campus at lunch but they do, every day. Dollar menu. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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Op: I'm not talking about fat high schoolers. I'm seeing obese elementary aged children. It's the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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Of course you can. Parents control the money. Don't give your kids money to buy junk food. Solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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Says the mother of one 3 y/o [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:12 PM Flag
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You clearly have fat kids and a whole list of excuses about why you can't parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:14 PM Flag
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Are you saying your kids make their own money and you can't control how much money they have and how they spend it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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yes - don't be an ass....if kids want something badly enough, they find ways to get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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lol If your kid is finding ways to get enough junk food behind your back to get obese, you're a bad parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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Aren't parents on UB constantly told that their older dc's should have jobs? Is your logic now that they should have jobs but the parents should confiscate their $? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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A 16yo with a part time job is not the problem here. If that 16yo is already fat, and is now spending job money on more junk food, the problem started with the parents, 16 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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So now you're saying yes, the kids should have jobs, and no, the parents shouldn't take the money but if the parents were actually good at parenting, the teenagers wouldn't WANT to spend money on McDonald's food? Eye-roll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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Exactly. What kind of example do you set for your kids? Do you let them grow up thinking junk food is the norm every meal, every day, and that's how money should be spent? Because, talk about "sounding fat"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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What are you even talking about at this point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Do you let your teenager squander her job money on McDonalds? We have 2 DDs, 14 and 12, and they are starting to work (babysitting, computer support for our relatives and friends, yardwork, etc), but we taught them to make plans for the money. They have to put half in their HS grad funds (for college, or to travel or start a business, something worthwhile) and we encourage them to make goals for the rest, like new clothes or bikes or things to do with friends. I can't imagine letting a teenager get a job and not teaching her how to budget and plan and think bigger than junk food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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You understand that "things to do with friends", i.e. social stuff, involves food, right? I just don't believe that you'd make teenagers work and then make them account for where every penny goes, unless you're taking helicoptering to a whole new level - which is possible. The whole point is that McDonald's is so cheap w/its dollar menu that kids can eat there without violating any major "spending goals". You're making this all up as you go along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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You don't need money to get junk food. Their friends bring it to school all the time and they trade. Not to mention all the school parties - there are 20 birthday parties a year plus one holiday party nearly every month. Ice cream social fundraiser $5 all the ice cream you can eat, Fall Barbecue, Bake Sale, Papa Pizza Party $10 all you can eat, Papa Pasta Party $5 all you can eat. The schools encourage all this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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Sure you don't have to give your kid money for the fundraisers or even attend - but everyone does because you suck as a parent if you don't show up, and you can't tell your kid they can't eat along with all their friends. I mean I guess you could, but doesn't seem too efficient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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We don't go to the school fundraisers. Every year when we do our taxes, we figure out what we can afford to donate to school and charities, and make one donation then. And we definitely don't go to every birthday party, but that's not because of the food; it's because I'm not screwing up every weekend trying to schedule around the parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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Eating a little bit of junk food at lunch does not make a kid fat. Kids get fat because they are allowed to eat junk food all of the time and they don't get enough exercise. Don't blame the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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having birthday cake and pizza every now and then does not make you fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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Not every now and then. But from ages 4 to 7 we got invitations almost every week of the year. That's too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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+1 Also, it's bad habit to teach kids that celebrating always = junk food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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You can't make your kid run, but you can make it very uncomfortable and boring to sit around doing nothing. Take away the electronics and the soft places to lie around, and send them outside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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You can try, but it hasn't worked for the people I know. In all the cases it's just one of their kids. The other problem is that it gets to the point where they try so hard that the kid goes into a shame spiral and it just gets worse. Weight is such a perilous issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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Only for people who like drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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kids like drama or at least do not know usually how to lessen drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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Which is why they have parents to teach them. [ Reply | More ]
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I know...it is painful to see online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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I don't want to make anyone neurotic but I've been up front with my kids that they must choose junk food/desserts wisely, get exercise daily, and it's not okay to be fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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The first two are fine, the last one is neurotic, crappy parenting AND completely unhelpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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Are you talking about actual obesity or just "not thin"? I have to ask because it's UB where I've been told an extra 20 lbs on an adult qualifies as obese. [ Reply | More ]
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Obese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:11 PM Flag
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Young elem girls with puffy faces, pot bellies and early puberty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:12 PM Flag
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obese kids and their parents are disgusting. i consider it child abuse unless there is some underlying medical condition. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I finally admitted to myself and DH that I am good with being one and done. Why do I feel so weird now? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:48 AM Flag
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Because you haven't decided what to do next, and how to fill the time you were hoping to spend on more pregnancies and children. Once you decide what you *do* want to do, everything will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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op: interesting, that's probably true. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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One and done with a teen almost off to college, it's the best.... [ Reply | More ]
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op: aww, tell me more! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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We never really needed a sitter to go out, when she slept over a friends or went to sleep away camp we did stuff. Way easier to travel with one, she is very independent, but also likes her time with us, understands it's the 3 of us that make the family function. So never had to give her a job, she just does what needs to be done in the house etc. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I like this, thanks. :) GL to DD at college! [ Reply | More ]
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thank you, cornell here we go, far enough away to have to live there, but close enough to visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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So you were able to keep your leisurely lifestyle. You had only one child for yourselves, not her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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It always feels weird at first to close a door or take an option off the table. Part of our human nature is being enamored of possibilities. Like when you buy a lottery ticket, you aren't really buying a serious chance at winning, you're basically just buying the feeling that you *could* win. What you are describing, OP, is the day you decide you are going to stop buying tickets at all. Nothing is really different, but it's a new feeling you have to get used to. [ Reply | More ]
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op: thanks, good perspective. [ Reply | More ]
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Nicely stated [ Reply | More ]
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You don't want to give DC at least one sibling? Why? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm 37 with a 2 y.o. My husband is a narcissist and often, a serious a-hole. We have not gotten along for years. He is an OK dad when he wants to be, but the controlling, selfish aspects of his personality sometimes come out in dealing with our daughter. We started the divorce process a few months ago, trying to settle through mediation. Still living together in the meantime, which sucks. When we decided to divorce I was sad about not being able to give my daughter a sibling (I have three and we are all close). My husband, too, wished we weren't raising an only—she doesn't even have any cousins. But that was the way it was going to be. As far as me meeting another man post-divorce and being able to get pregnant (before I was too old), I knew the chances of that were also slim. Well, we had sex once and now I am PG. Of course I am going to go through with it but ... shit!!!!!! Any advice? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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Well, I know what my GP would say, which is, go with it. If the mediation looks like it's going to be able to support you financially during maternity leave, and your sisters are close, and you can afford a nanny post-divorce, why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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What a weird way for a kid to grow up though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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I would look it as a sign you are meant to have this 2nd baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
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If you have not got along for years, how did you manage to have a child two years ago? [ Reply | More ]
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Many ppl do this [ Reply | More ]
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this, now she will selfishly bring another kid in to the mess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so depressed about being so fat. I can't work out because my foor is killing me and my hip too. I am 20 pounds overweight, my gut looks like a huge blob of a 6 month pregnant lady. I just can't ever make good eating decisions, and I can't work out. If I do, it lasts three days, maybe, and I lose an ounce. It's not worth it, and I'm so depressed. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:30 AM Flag
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can you swim? [ Reply | More ]
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Can you walk? Get a Fitbit or similar device and just start there, getting your 10,000 steps. Today is going to be a beautiful day. Every little bit helps and maybe starting slow will give you the boost you need to get going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:31 AM Flag
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np: if walking is too tough with foot and hip soreness, try biking or stationary bike, or perhaps swimming if you have access to a pool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:34 AM Flag
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Good advice. You must MOVE! 30 min 2x a day. Go on a plan like Whole 30. Get the junk food out of your house. Esp sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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Jazzercize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:33 AM Flag
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np: Jazz is no joke! I go with my MIL when I visit her in the 'burbs. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:34 AM Flag
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I go 4x a week and love it! I'm not a very athletic person and don't normally enjoy working out, so I recommend it whenever possible. I get a great workout and the people are nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:38 AM Flag
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pp: absolutely to all of this! It's so much fun, I really love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:40 AM Flag
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Agree, this is a fun and forgiving exercise. A good entry for anyone out of the workout loop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:52 AM Flag
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See a doctor about your foot and hip. You spund way more than 20# over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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Sound [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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You don't have to be heavy to have joint problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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while you're injured, focus on the food part. Get MyFitnessPal app and track your intake, it will help you pay attention to portions and healthy ingredients. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:36 AM Flag
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If your belly looks six months pregnant, you need to see a doctor. Fat is not firm and round like a pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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Subcutaneous fat is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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Stop saying "can't". Admit that you *don't* make good eating decisions and that you *don't* find alternative exercises that you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:42 AM Flag
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Weight loss is all about diet anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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Fist bump. I am in your boat. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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If you have the money, do a program with this woman - she's amazing: http://www.magenbanwart.com/re-boot-program-details.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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Please don't equate 6 months pregnant with "huge blob" and "fat". Most of us were not fat at 6 months pregnant and we didn't look like huge blobs. It's enough to just say you look like a huge blob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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[ - ] Is 165 a good LSAT? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:15 AM Flag
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166 got me into a few solid schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:25 AM Flag
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^and yes, agree with poster below. Also, what's the undergrad school and GPA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:26 AM Flag
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Harvard class of 2000, since then mostly odd tutoring jobs, ghostwriting kids' college application essays, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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or: okay, then why oh why would you go to law school at this point? Don't do it, please, I'm begging you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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Why not? My mom doesn't want me to go either, but I think she would just miss me (I do all the housework right now) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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37 and living at home??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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33 :( I was 15 when I got to Harvard. Bad decision [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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ha! fake!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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Before you guys get on my case for being on this board with no kids, it's because several of my RL friends are on here and told me about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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pretty good, not Harvard-good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:25 AM Flag
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Mediocre. It is below the median score of a place like ucla. The general cutoff for top 1 percent is 171 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:44 AM Flag
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Yep, even good schools are getting less appicants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Black kids are robbing Trevor Day kids and stealing iPhones, etc. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:03 AM Flag
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duh. That is why i would never love on the West side. Thugs are encouraged to run wild there. It is very different on the east side south of 86th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:06 AM Flag
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West side voted for Deblasio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:07 AM Flag
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What are you talking about? Trevor Day is on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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their bldg is on UWS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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kids should not have iphones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:31 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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Women who get raped bring it on themselves too. Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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Whatever. If the Trevor kids are over 10, they need to learn to stand up for themselves and fight back. If they're under 10, they shouldn't be carrying phones and other expensive things to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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How about: black kids should behave better? Or maybe getting robbed is just part of White Privilege [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:42 AM Flag
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So, your snowflakes are too delicate to defend themselves. Got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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I have a ds who walks that route and you know what? If he fought I think he would get in trouble for hurting minorities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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You poor thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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You are a total asshole. My dc goes to a public school and its actually kids from our public being attached most. People like you need to get hurt ASAP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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You're a bigot. You are so offended at having to share space with people whose skin is a different color and you blame them for everything, including your own weakness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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I don't want a bunch of 12 yo children attaching everyone they get their hands on. They happened to be black. I didn't make them black and I didn't tell them to become thugs. Your PC ass needs to get hurt so that your head comes out of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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^ attacking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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Poor people with no options will always attack and steal from entitled rich people (and the middle class people pretending to be rich) who live next door. Don't but stupid crap and don't show it off, and you don't have to worry about being mugged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:15 PM Flag
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Like I said, your head is stuck in your ass. Do you even have kids. You don't sound dirt poor so maybe your dcs need to get some broken bones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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Do you want a solution to the problem? Or do you just want to prove you're "right" about people of other races? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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I grew up in Soviet Union. I know all too well that what you are proposing will not solve the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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Np DS attends the public school where multiple kids have been robbed. Not a showy school by any means and these kids were asked to borrow their phones whereupon they took them out for the attacker to use. You are an asshole and while I don't normally wish illl on anyone, I do in your case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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Did your child get mugged? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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Not my son but there were several emails that went out to parents detailing attacks. I was personally approached by a young boy and two of his friends while sitting at the bus stop outside of Michael's and asked to use my cell phone. I would normally have handed it over but thankfully I had read those emails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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They attached a woman and a man as well. I hope you are next because you will show them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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Did you study the French Revolution at any point in school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:53 AM Flag
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I did and there is no relationship between the two. Face it, "the man" isn't keeping people down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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These are the things that happen when poverty lives side-by-side with extraneous wealth and conspicuous consumption; eventually middle class people begin to think they deserve to live like rich people and poor people get sick of it and take what they want. The victims so far have all been age 12 to adult, so you can stop making this about "kids" getting targeted. Rich people with expensive toys are being targeted. Tell your teenagers not to show off how much expensive crap they're carrying around, and they won't have to worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:08 PM Flag
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They aren't doing it to get stuff. It doesn't sound like you live on the UWS and know for how long it's been going on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:11 PM Flag
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There is no mention of race in that article. Why are you such a bigot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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There is a reason why there is no mention... There are photos of the attackers that are sent around [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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it's like taking candy from a baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] It's almost 4am and dh isn't home. His phone is on but he's not answering or responding to texts. Freaking out, I've been up since 1 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:46 AM Flag
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Was this posted awhile ago? Hope he is home now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:48 AM Flag
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No. West coast [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:50 AM Flag
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Is he back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:49 AM Flag
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Are you in CA? Do you know who he went out with in the first place? If so, call him. The other guy should be worried to OR he already knows where he is so you aren't telling him anything he doesn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:51 AM Flag
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He was at someone's house with a bunch of guys he works with. I just texted him- please don't make me embarrass us and start asking your coworkers if you're okay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:53 AM Flag
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Call. Most people would sleep throigh a text,especially if passed out drunk. An incessantly tuning phine might wake him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:56 AM Flag
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I've called dh 10 times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:59 AM Flag
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stop being a drama queen. he drank too much and fell asleep instead of driving. yes, he was wrong for not emailing you to let you know. his coworkers know what happened. if you start calling them at 7am and acting like a shrew, the only thing he will get is sympathy for having a horrible wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:57 AM Flag
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He ubered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:59 AM Flag
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he's on the couch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:27 AM Flag
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You must run with a shittry crowd where guys treat their wives poorly and this is commonplace. When it's not, actual worrying IS normal and nobody would think she was a shrew for panicking a bit when her DH simply doesn't come home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:59 AM Flag
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oh look...another drama queen. lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:27 AM Flag
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I feel sorry for you. Must suck to live in a world where your DH staying out all night is normal. Hopefully, you're just too young to know better and think this is what you need to do to get a guy to marry you and you're not actually married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:49 AM Flag
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Maybe he's arranged for someone to cover for hom. I dithat when I had an affair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:57 AM Flag
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Did that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:58 AM Flag
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Breathe. He's drinking with friends and found a good after-party and his phone is on silent in a pocket or left in his car. Go to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:01 AM Flag
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He didn't drive and he's normally on his phone constantly. "Found a good after party" doesn't sound like him in the 13 years I've known him... he goes out drinking with his friends but comes home by 12-1am. It's now 4, he's supposed to take our dd to a birthday party in 6 hours. I'm sick and now worried and upset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:04 AM Flag
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You're being overdramatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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Well, I'd be calling the friends, but this behaviorwould be highly irregular for my dh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:05 AM Flag
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I know. I'm still hoping he just fell asleep, which has never happened before, but I don't want to make it a bigger thing than it is- hopefully nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:06 AM Flag
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It is already a big deal not to come home until 4 am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:25 AM Flag
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When this shit started to happen with my ex, he was cheating. He was just sleeping in, having sex doing whatever and he would turn his phone off and figure he'd deal with me later. He made a metric ton of money and I was a SAHM who had gained weight and looked like hell and he figured he was entitled to enjoy himself with his secretary and all of her "fun" friends over in staten island. What a winner. Anyway, hope this isn't your situation OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:07 AM Flag
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OP again. Just had an earthquake... Csb, I know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:11 AM Flag
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Just call his friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:24 AM Flag
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Put away the wine and go to bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:33 AM Flag
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Well the earthquake should jolt him awake to see your texts? I'd be calling...I would be too worried to have any dignity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:33 AM Flag
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Ugh another Baldwin hills earthquake.. The area of LA they are fracking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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Well, give us an update, OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:46 AM Flag
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She hasn't posted in awhile, so perhaps he returned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] DB is almost 8 months. He has no interest in eating solids. Tried all the usual - sweet potatoes, butternut squash, bananas, avocado, potatoes, peas. Spits everything out and borderline gags. Loves his milk. What am I doing wrong? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 09:48 AM Flag
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Nothing. They're all different. Just keep offering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:27 AM Flag
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+1 Eat in front of him. Eventually he want what you have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:39 AM Flag
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DD was the same way. She never ate any of the purées and at 3 is just not that into food. Maybe try baby led weaning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 10:50 AM Flag
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We all get there eventually - just keep offering. My 10 month old DD's interest waxes and wanes - sometimes the only solid she'll eat is yogurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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stop offering for 1 week. try again next week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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concentrate on foods that he can pick up himself, which aren't wet in any way, i.e. cheerios. He'll play with them and eventually put them into his mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been acting out sexually as a means of self destructive. Everything else in my life is going -apparently- disturbingly well and I'm self sabotaging with inappropriate men. Doesn't feel good. Just need to put it out there. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:01 AM Flag
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Are you single? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:03 AM Flag
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Yes, it's not my relationship status that's troubling me, it more the reason behind my actions/ the men I'm fooling around with. Not the healthiest of guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:07 AM Flag
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What's wrong with them? Always the same type or undesirable in different ways? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:12 AM Flag
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One is unavailable, too young and at times disrespectful. The other is overly coercive and also unavailable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:16 AM Flag
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Need more details. How old is "too young" and how is he disrespectful? What do you mean by "overly coercive?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:20 AM Flag
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23. He isn't disrespectful so much as insensitive, makes careless remarks, not an appropriate partner. By overly coercive I mean too pushy when it comes to physical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:22 AM Flag
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How old are you? Re the second guy, do you mean that he is insisting that you have sex at moments when you don't feel like it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:24 AM Flag
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yes, he's pushy. I'm 28. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:28 AM Flag
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Lol! :) Wow, Jesus! Okay, I do think that 23 is too young then! Unless you are just in it for the sex or something, in which case it is totally fine. But, idk, at 28 you will be so much more sophisticated than a 23 yo who is just out of college. Where do you two go on dates? Dive bars? How did you meet him? I feel like you at least need to aim for 25! Haha :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:33 AM Flag
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Say more about the pushy guy behind door number two. What's his story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:35 AM Flag
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We've been friends since December.. I thought we were close until we started fooling around and then he totally flipped the story on me and treated me differently, not at all as nice as he was. He has a lot of good qualities but he is totally self-hating and he projects it on to others and can be very mean and critical. I'm also not that attracted to him, I just like the comfort of being around him and how we seem to have an easy friendship when we hang out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:41 AM Flag
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Despite this guys flaws, he sounds better than the 23 yo imo. But if you aren't attracted to him, then what's the point? Could you just be single for awhile? Cut ties with both of them and just do your own thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:44 AM Flag
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You're exactly right but it's been weird.. I haven't been living up to my own standards lately.. I think that's why I'm worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:49 AM Flag
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No perfectionists can ever live up to their own standards... Are you a perfectionist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:54 AM Flag
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hmm. not sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:57 AM Flag
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Well better to date a 23 yo than a 50 yo, I guess... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:27 AM Flag
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agreed. although I wouldn't call it dating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:31 AM Flag
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Is it no strings attached sex? How long have you been seeing these two guys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:34 AM Flag
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one 3 weeks and one 6 months.. no sex with either.. pretty tame right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:57 AM Flag
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.... Are you a virgin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 08:04 AM Flag
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?? If you have not had sex with these men, then my sense is that you are really overexaggerating the importance and significance of these "relationships" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 08:06 AM Flag
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^ is this even the op? Major curve ball here. No wonder guy no. 2 is being "pushy" if he has been seeing you for 6 months and you still haven't had sex!!! Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 08:08 AM Flag
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This post just got a lot less interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 08:15 AM Flag
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Is there some reason that you can only date these two guys? If you want to keep self-sabotaging, couldn't you at least do it with a few more partners, so that you could increase your odds of eventually stumbling upon Simone who is right for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:26 AM Flag
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Hm.. not a bad idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:29 AM Flag
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A pushy 23 year old sounds rather nice. Signed a bored 35 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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What motivates you to hook up with these men? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:14 AM Flag
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I think part loneliness, part wanting/enjoying the attention, and part a nasty self destructive streak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:17 AM Flag
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Do you reject the advances of men who are more suited to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:21 AM Flag
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I have a hard time being attracted to available men who are treating me well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:28 AM Flag
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/stable men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:28 AM Flag
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Are you attracted to bad boys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:29 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:30 AM Flag
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Maybe start going to art events? Depending on the exhibition, receptions can draw a pretty wide range of people (from sophisticates to punks). Maybe you could meet a bohemian who at least has good taste? Would probably be better than a 23 yo frat bro. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:38 AM Flag
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hahhaah he is a frat guy too. Ughh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:44 AM Flag
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Do you want to get married or are you just trying to play the field for right now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:23 AM Flag
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I want to get married but am not very focused on that right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:27 AM Flag
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BTDT. My therapist used to say I was "self sabotaging". I still do it with DH, I just like him to be angry with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:24 AM Flag
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Mm hmm, I think I like to see if I can get a rise out of people to see if they care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:29 AM Flag
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I get something emotional, possibly sexual, when my partners are angry with me. I like to fuck things up for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:36 AM Flag
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Not sure where you are geographically, but maybe you need to relocate? Maybe the vibe of the city you are in just isn't right for you? Guys really vary by region-- maybe try a new city with a new dating scene? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:42 AM Flag
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I will be soon! Moving in July! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 08:00 AM Flag
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Why don't you just start doing drugs or something? Speaking from experience, that is a much more fun way to self-sabotage than dating losers! ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:45 AM Flag
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btdt my friend.. i'm dangerous with substances [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:48 AM Flag
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Even pot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:51 AM Flag
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Start seeing other people. Branch out from these two guys. You don't find these relationships meaningful-- chances are, if you try someone new, that relationship at least won't be any *less* meaningful than the ones that you are stuck in right now. Go out to a bar and makeout with someone inappropriate-- you won't be any worse off than you are now. And, who knows, maybe you'll hit it off with a handsome stranger! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:50 AM Flag
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Well, if the normals of UB land were on here right now (which they arent-- it is past their bedtime), they would say that you should try to meet a nice guy by joining private clubs and going to alumni events. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:53 AM Flag
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all good advice. thanks for listening everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 07:56 AM Flag
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Ask your girlfriends to set you up with someone. [ Reply | More ]
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