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[ - ] Enough with UES & P33 drama!! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] relatives in their 60's are coming to NYC next week, they are city people (bay area) but don't know NYC at all. what would you give them to help enjoy their visit -- i was planning on metrocards, subway and street maps. other ideas? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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Zagats, time out new York [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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Travel umbrellas, comfortable shoes. [ Reply | More
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double bus tour downtown loop all the way they can get on and off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Didn't tell my doc that i've been abusing laxatives for the last 10 years. How bad is it? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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can you take a dump without them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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Op: rarely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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then, that's bad. I was a lax abuser in college. when you are physically dependent on them that's an issue. stop. cold turkey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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You can't lie to your doctor. They have heard everything. Tell her/him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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How often do you take them? How many? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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Op: every day, 4 a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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That is insane, and you should tell your doctor so you can break that habit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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OP: why insane - seriously, are they THAT big a deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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I posted ^^^^ about dependency. You could really be screwing up your colon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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YES! and you never thought about this for 10 years???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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Op: no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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why now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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Yes, it is that big a deal! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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^^^Here is just one of the many possible effects: "Internal organ damage may result, including stretched or “lazy” colon, colon infection, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, and, rarely, liver damage. Chronic laxative abuse may contribute to risk of colon cancer." http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/laxative-abuse-some-basic-facts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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np: can someone explain why it's such a big deal? also, why is OP doing them? are you losing/keep weight down with them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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You have no idea how much damage you are doing to your body. You may never be able to shit normally again, due to colon motility issues. You have opened yourself up to multiple colon diseases, as well as possible liver and kidney dysfunction, along with severely skewed electrolytes and minerals. You will hate yourself in 10 years if you don't stop immediately. You may not think it's that bad, but your quality of life is almost certain to be compromised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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NP--I don't get this. Do they make you skinny? I took some in college after a big meal because that's what I thought but they didn't do crap except make my stomach hurt. Never took them again. Ick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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why? I don't understand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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This is very very serious. I abused laxatives too in the past. They cause severe metabolic imbalances. You may lose too much potassium for example whic could cause heart problems. Not to mention you may experience horrible constipation when withdrawing. Please tell your doc asap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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What brand do you use? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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What brand do you use? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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I don't understand, why would someone abuse laxatives? There's better things out there to abuse, like cocaine or meth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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Nothing feels so wondrous as a good, clean shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] So blue. Just found out my mom's tumor indicator markers are up. She has an aggressive form of cancer with an 18% 5 year survival rate he e prognosis is terrible. She doesn't know this-prefers to live in the dark, which I support because the facts can drag you down in these situations. I am my parents #1 emotional and physical support and have two young children. Headed to oncologist tomorrow morning, but have a feeling this is the beginning of the end. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. This was me 3 years ago - I remember only too well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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Thanks. So sorry for your loss. I guess it always feels too soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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Very sorry OP. It will be hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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I am so, so sorry. I lost my mom years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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Pray. Even if you're not a believer, what can it hurt at this time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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Sorry to hear this, OP. Wishing your Mom best of health! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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Going through this now with MIL. Prognosis very bad. Very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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Sorry, going through this myself. Is this the first result that has risen, or is it a trend upwards? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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This is the first uptick. She is on weekly maintenance chemo after having a recurrence four short months after completing first line chemotherapy. The quickness of her recurrence reduces her odds even from the dismal 5yr 18% to less than 10%. I am sorry, too for your journey. It sucks so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry :( Sending good thoughts your way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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Thank you. It is surprising how comforting strangers on an anonymous message board can be. Truly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Piers Morgan hit a whole new level of assholery tonight. He's talking of James Gandolfini's death as though he were his best friend ever. He just referred to losing a member of his "family." What a fucking douche. Too bad Piers didn't croak today. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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You're just as douchey, frankly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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Why is she douchey? Piers Morgan is a dick. I agree with op [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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Do you wish him dead because you don't like the way he talks about some actor you don't even know? If not, you're OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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he's an ass. i don't understand why we have to have british telecasters in the US. can't he keep a job across the pond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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He's here because the English HATE him. I lived in London for nearly 1- years. He was reviled as you cannot imagine. Read Vanity Fair's article on him, published last year. It nailed him. And, like the op, too bad it wasn't to a cross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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Maybe they were close friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Those 550,800k thread makes me so sad. I mean some people here says they works so hard and they deserve it. I know a lot of real smart people in Thailand, Guatemala and some part of Africa. They make tiny money compare to those who makes 880k in manhattan. My husband work in hedge fund and I know he work less than my friends from undeveloped countries or poor family. I have wealthy life style but I never thought that I deserve this. I all the time think I am just so lucky. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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U Asian? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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OK, if you're real, prove it: Tell us all about your volunteer work (and it better not be planning "events" for museums) and donations to public, underfunded establishments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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I work in Asian company. I mostly go back and forth between japan and america for my work. I don't volunteer right now. But I donate money to my country. Can I ask you question? Why do you think i am fake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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take some of your money and invest in grammar and writing skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:06 AM Flag
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Are you upset that some immigrants who have broken english have better life than you? I hope you can speak some other language? Good for you that you born in here and english is your native language. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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I agree that I'm sick of people who make this amount of money congratulating themselves for 'winning' at life. There are so many forms of success. And many fields that require intelligence, education, and outrageous amounts of hard work that contribute more to society than HFs and are paid so much less. I wish income distribution wasn't so wildly skewed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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How hard you work never corresponds to what you earn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] My almost 3 YO DD has strabismus surgery in the morning. Anyone BTDT? I am trying to remain calm. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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i think it's quite routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I think you are right, but it's still nerve wracking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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You will be fine. Had surgery on my 9 year old 5 years ago on both eyes for exotropia. Dr. Campolattaro - amazing. Great results. Just be prepared for the possibility of repeat surgery if needed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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Heard good things about him. We went with Steele at our ped's recommendation, but I hear those are the two go-to docs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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one quick question: were your kid's eyes bright red after procedure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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She'll be fine. Not a big deal (but I know how you feel). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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it will be right as rain. All will be fine. Be strong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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Thank you. That helps :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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I have personally has the operation twice. Once at 15 and once at 25. It is a quick operation and an easy recovery. Non worries, mama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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I had it twice too. Age 1 and 12. It is so common. I know it is still hard to see your kid go through any procedure, but this one isn't bad at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] I've been away since last week. Any updates from bloody underwear mom? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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Husband was taken into police custody. We're waiting on an update. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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Are making this up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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Link please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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NP: I missed that. That sounds absolutely gut-wrenching. Last I heard, the investigator didn't get a concrete story from her dd. What else happened to confirm suspicion about her dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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SA Mom: I can tell you that nothing else needed to happen. His story absolutely did not add up, that's for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:04 AM Flag
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Sexual Abuse Survivor Mom here: I hate to post this but... I told y'all so. The signs were so very clear. I hope those following this have learned something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:56 AM Flag
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Yeah, saying "I told you so" at the expense of a little girl is horrible. As someone who claims to have gone through this, think about what a callous fucking remark you just made. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:15 AM Flag
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I think it was the boyfriend, or was he not the girl's father? Just the mom's husband? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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Wait, what???????????????????????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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I missed this, sounds bad, link anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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Yes! They arrested the boyfriend and found his DNA on the daughter's bedsheets ... it's not in the news yet but will be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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She was married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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^ poster above you is a troll, disregard... ditto for the asshole posting the 'cherry tomato' shit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:06 AM Flag
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Whose boyfriend?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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You are an asshole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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She died and was reincarnated as a cherry tomato. Say "hi" to her the next time you have a Bloody Mary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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WHAT??? Link! [ Reply | More
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POST A LINK ALREADY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
[ - ] How much would you pay a handyman to paint a 1200 sq ft apartment. My SIL recommended her guy, but said she paid $4300 for painting and a few minor repairs. That seems crazy high to me. Are my expectations skewed, or did SIL get ripped off? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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we have a guy who charges $300 a room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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unfortunately, this is what my super quoted me too. We decided not to paint [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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Ridiculous. Get someone from Craigslist for less than half (including paint) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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What she said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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$1500 at most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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OP thanks that's what I thought. I keep thinking maybe I don't understand the scope of her repairs, and that really added to the cost. She did have one wall wallpapered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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Depends on if you rent or own. If you own hire a professional and get it done right, especially if you are doing molding etc. If you rent and just need color slapped on the walls 1500 is prob doable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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One of my door man did ours for 200$ a day. Took him 2 days. Our concierge service quoted us $3000. I thought that was insane (apt is 1100 sq ft). [ Reply | More
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I paid $1000 to two handymen for this ($500 each) and I bought all the paint and supplies. Took one day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
[ - ] VEEP? Does anyone watch it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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Don't have HBO. Thus, the answer is NO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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Love it! Best writing on TV this season. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
[ - ] I honestly wish that I could check into one of those clinics they have for anorexics, but mine would be for compulsive over eaters. I feel like if i could have someone monitoring my intake and I could do even two weeks without emotionally eating, i could kick the habit and FINALLY, have a normal relationship with food. Does anyone know if these places exist? Are they covered by insurance? I just feel like i've been struggling with this since i was a teenager - i binge, i deprive, i use laxatives. I can go from 125 to 160 in 3 months. it's just exhausting, humiliating and I'm exhausted. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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Go to an eating disorders doctor. You definitely have an ED. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:41 AM Flag
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OP: do i just look under eating disorder doc under my insurance carrier? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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Look up local ED clinics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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I think you should first start with a therapist. This has nothing to do with food. Gl to you and I hope you really do seek help and feel better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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Eating disorders are not about food. Ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:49 AM Flag
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Op: no, i know that. I know i am eating and stuffing down pain. I have tried therapy and I'll do okay for a while but then something sets me off and i'm on a binge and using laxatives, sneaking food. its a psychotic cycle of hell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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Eating disorder clinics cover a variety of eating disorders-from anorexics to bulimia to binge eaters to ednos. Check in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:49 AM Flag
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^^^if in the city try renfrew center. Mine was not covere under insurance because I refused to do the intensive outpatient and only did appts with therapist. I think intensive outpatient program is covere by some insurance companies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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OP: thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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OP: okay good. i need that. SO i will look them up. now what do i tell my boss? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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You be honest. If you go in for your intake and they say you need int. outpatient-it is usually from 8am to 2pm three times a week. There is also group therapy that meets in the evenings which is usually better for people who work during the day. They will Leo You find a program that fits best for you. I was just too sick and stubborn to participate in the group sessions or the morning outPatient program [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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^they will HELP you find a program [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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Two weeks will not do it. You probably need therapy with someone who specializes in this area and takes a behavioral approach, with using a food journal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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OP: tried that, i just do what i want and don't do what they say, hence i need the monitoring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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OR: Then 2 weeks in a food rehab won't fix the problem. It's all about maintenance, and the only way is to be real with the food journal. Also, make sure you don't keep temptation in your house. You need coping skills to replace the overeating. I could go on, but you know what I mean. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:49 AM Flag
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I can't imagine it would be so easy. What would keep you from going back after the two weeks were up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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Do you have OCD? I do. for a time in my life, my obsessions revolved around food and I was anorexic then bulimic. But the real problem was my OCD. I went on meds for OCD and all the eating issues in my head just went away. Now I don't have any weird food issues at all. But I was never the type of anorexic who would stare at my body in the mirror or try to look a certain way. I just obsessed about food (eating or not eating it). [ Reply | More
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OP" i don't know... i mean i know what OCD is but what are some of the signs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:07 AM Flag
[ - ] If you are doing atkins, what's your typical day? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:36 AM Flag
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Craving bread.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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Having a colonoscopy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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Eggs scrambled with spinach and feta. Lunch, salad with avocado, chicken, blue cheese, and balsamic dressing. Dinner, grilled fish or meat, salad, and vegetable like an artichoke. Dessert, strawberries with real cream. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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You eat fruit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:49 AM Flag
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What do you snack on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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Bacon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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Fellow low carber: you can't have strawberries during the induction phase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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Oh, the humanity! [ Reply | More
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cheating [ Reply | More
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[ - ] How much would you pay for professional photographer to come to house and photograph dd? I found one for $300 for 2 hours and unlimited photos? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:36 AM Flag
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Why is this even necessary?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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Are you a reality TV person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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No!! Photographer that does weddings and such. Cute pics of baby! Sorry maybe I was not clear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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That is good price depending on what you get (disk of photos included or is purchasing of images extra). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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Disk included! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:41 AM Flag
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Go for it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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make sure you get high-res images. They might only include low-res images (pretty much useless) on disk and you may need to pay extra to get high-res. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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That seems reasonable. I payed my wedding photographer 3K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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Perhaps the money would have been better spent on a his & her course in spelling. [ Reply | More
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No, I'm hopeless. No amount of money can fix my poor spelling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:06 AM Flag
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I dub thee "Payed Mom." Who gets this wrong? Yet I see it on UB over and over and over again. I think it's one poster. PAID PAID PAID PAID [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:09 AM Flag
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Photographers are a dime a dozen. You're paying way too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:56 AM Flag
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How narcissistic are you? Take some photos of your spawn and call it a day. No one cares. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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I care and they are for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone on here helped their child do something unethical to get into college? Or knew their child was doing something unethical to increase their odds of getting into a top university but turned a blind eye. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:35 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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Then you don't know all of us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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Do tell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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What's unethical? I'm stumped there. Is it hitting your figure skating dd's rival in the knee? What's unethical? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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I can't believe you're stumped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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I think prepping for erbs and annual testing is unethical but everyone seems to be doing it. I think having little Johnny do the charity that you made up so it looks good on his resume is unethical. It's a long list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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I don't even know what erbs are, this is a retarded thread, you obviously don't know what's involved in getting into college. Call us back when you have a clue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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Yuck. No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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nepotism [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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Like what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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women here claim/allow to claim that they are hispanic when they're really not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I was the product of a short and terrible marriage. Both parents remarried and I was unwanted. I lived with my mother. My half sister and my mother are always commenting about everything I do wrong. Yesterday, my half sis called my a dyke and my mother laughed. I feel like I am still a teen stuck in that hoyse. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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Sorry to hear that. Seek therapy and distance yourself from your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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well, i'm sorry. they are cruel assholes and you need to stay away from them. they are not worth your love or energy. it sucks and you need to mourn that loss, but it is their shit and not you. move on and focus on loving the people that deserve your attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:21 AM Flag
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What do you do for a living? Are you single? Where do you live? Friends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:29 AM Flag
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I am a sahm, married, with a db. I have a degree from an ivy, and I live in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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Jesus, cut them off. You don't need them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:30 AM Flag
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np: Cut off contact with your family. This is the only thing that worked for me, and I resisted for years even though everyone, including therapists, told me to do it. It's hard to do it b/c of course you want to be close with your family and society says shit like "but it's family." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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I know I should, but I don't have the guts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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Good luck! It sounds like you are in the same place I was for years. I hope it works out for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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Thank you:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:35 AM Flag
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THEN send them both a handwritten letter exactly how you feel and say good bye. I am in the same position. The least favorite and the most successful. I wrote the letter and said good bye. Who needs them? I don't I have my own family There is nothing like the power of good bye [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:30 AM Flag
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well it sounds like despite your crappy upbringing you have managed to carve out a nice little life for yourself. Bravo! don't let them bring you down. Focus on your DH and DB. I know it's hard. I still cry in therapy every few weeks about the lack of interest my parents have in my life, but then i realize how fortunate i am to have my friends and siblings, dh and kids and it's okay to mourn that stuff, just don't let it overtake the good stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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how old are you? my parents have been married for over forty years but they kept having kids because they wanted a son. when i was born they were so miserable they treated me terribly for years, always angry and resentment towards me. for my whole 15-30yo i was so sad and angry about it, always trying to prove myself. then i realized that could never happen and i moved on. i have virtually no contact with them now and i've never been happier. i'm a wonderful wife, mother, friend..that's all that matters to me. take care of yourself xo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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27. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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why are you still sticking around? sometimes you just have to cut toxic people out of your life, even if they're family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:29 AM Flag
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Because they are my family, even if they are terrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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Read "Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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this is not relevant, as soon as you realize that you're better off without them your life will improve significantly. you need to be healthy as an individual to meet a healthy partner and be a healthy parent. fix yourself asap, lose those deadbeats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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That's how many abused women feel and they can never get out of their horrible situation. Family is supposed to provide unconditional love and support, no matter what. When they become toxic, family doesn't mean anything. look at your sister and mom. they call you a dyke and laugh at you???? your nasty neighbors don't even do that, do they? why is it ok if your sister and mother do it? why do you let them run over you? you gotta cut them off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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Family are generally the MOST toxic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:30 AM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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That sucks, I'm sorry. My sister was the product a short term and terrible marriage. Her parents constantly fought over her and wanted more time with her. I love her and we are very close, but I know I'll never live up to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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sucks. some people never get their shit together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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Hi, twin! I posted a couple times here recently about weighing the decision to cut off my family. I'm 28 and single. My mother is the main abuser, but everyone else falls in line at her orders. If I had a DH it would be so much easier -- I think you should do it now before your family starts in on your kid(s). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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It's better on the other side, trust me. It's a double-edged sword. It's hard being alone in the world. I'm guessing you're single, yes? The dyke remark alone is enough to tell me you grew up in a toxic stew, sweetie, and the sooner you cut, the sooner you begin to live in a very beautiful world where life is more or less good and you will get to choose to have only those who truly love you and appreciate you into your life. Yes, it's hard. But at some point, it becomes a question of survival. Do you think you are so worthless that it's okay for these people to drown you for the rest of your life in their sick behavior? If the answer is yes, then do nothing. If the answer is - hopefully - HELL NO!, then cut the cord. I have a huge immediate family, I will never speak to them again, ever. It took me two 'breaks' to get there, but I am officially done with them. Absolutely no desire to see them, I wish them well but want no contact. And let me tell you, while I sometimes feel melancholy over the loss... there are more good days than bad. You are not alone. Google 'estranged children new york times' and you'll find an article that generated so many comments (this shit is rampant, you are not alone or some kind of freak for being born into a family like this) they left the article up permanently. Thousands of people writing in, telling how they too suffered and finally cut the ties. It helped me make my final break. Be strong. You're worth it. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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I'm married to a man, actually. The comment was in reference to the way I looked that day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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Get the hell away from these losers. Find yourself. Family isn't about blood; it's about love. These people are venomous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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+1 BTDT I discovered and was welcomed into a wonderful family years ago in my early 30's. They are my rock. I never knew family could be or feel so good, so safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Going to register ds for district g&t tomorrow. Feel kind of sad to be giving up the idea of the neighborhood school/community. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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Oh God cry me a river. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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so don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:27 AM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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Same with me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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Why are you choosing G&T then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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Everything is a trade-off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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???? what is wrong with you? Didn't you decide district G&T because it was better for your dc? you can still get the neighborhood school and community from the G&T school. why sad? why so much drama? I don't get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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Let me guess you have him in a nice school with great teachers and now he go accepted to a school that is more urban? Maybe instead of flirting with men from Alabama on Facebook, you could of used more effort into getting him into the G & T at the school he is in now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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coulda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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Is it near trader joes? then you can buy the chocolate pomegranate seeds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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me too. I feel the exact same way. Where do you live and where are you registering? Me UES, ps 33 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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so why do it? if you are UES your zoned school is probably quite good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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so why do it? if you are UES your zoned school is probably quite good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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so why do it? if you are UES your zoned school is probably quite good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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Ugh. Know how you feel. We registered at nest this am, and little bummed to be giving up our cozy UWS zoned K. Convinced it is best option for bright, curious DD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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