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[ - ] Follow up- What would happen if the money you expect to get from your parents doesn't come? For example, a long term illness befalls them and its all goes to care? Or your parent's remarry and leave the money to some new spouse. Things happen all the time. How can you count on inheritance? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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When my parents got divorced, my mom made him tie up most of his estate in trust for me. If he earned more after his divorce that could go to next family. [ Reply | More ]
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Smart mom! [ Reply | More ]
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I never count on any inheritance. It is their money. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am in a really weird situation. My gay friend donated sperm so that I could have 2 dc. We agreed to keep it between ourselves because we didn't want his family involved. His only sibling was just killed in a car crash (did not have dc yet), and now my friend wants to tell his parents about their only grandchildren. Wdyt. I want to do this, but I have this paranoia they will try to take my kids away or something. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Did you have a written agreement? If the children are not in his life, they are NOT his parents' grandchildren. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes we had a written agreement. I'm just paranoid I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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^^btw the kids are in his life. He sees them regularly, but they don't know he is their father (they are 3 yo and 17 mo) [ Reply | More ]
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Consult a lawyer. Know your rights. Then if ok, offer the grieving parents the solace of knowing they have a grandchild. Also FAKE!! [ Reply | More ]
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It's not fake. I think I will consult a lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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i think i saw this on lifetime [ Reply | More ]
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They cannot take your child away from you. And it would bring them some comfort to know that they do have a grandchild. Why did you guys not want his parents involved? [ Reply | More ]
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My friend didn't think they would be supportive of the arrangement, since I'm a single mother. They are extremely traditional wasps. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have 2 dc, one average and one who is chubby. My neighbor is a doctor and I get the feeling she judges me. Am I imagining things, or are people really this judgmental?? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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how old is the chubby one? [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean by chubby (which is often a euphemism for obese?). Fwiw, I'm fat, but my kids aren't. [ Reply | More ]
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He is overweight, probably obese according to bmi. Listen, I have no delusions about this, I know my kid is not at an ideal weight. Not sure what your weight or your kids have to do with my situation. [ Reply | More ]
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They are unfortunately. Everyone in my family tends to be chubbier as kids and then thin out at puberty. DD is the same way. I get so many looks from people. I guess partly I'm paranoid but not totally. [ Reply | More ]
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They are unfortunately. Everyone in my family tends to be chubbier as kids and then thin out at puberty. DD is the same way. I get so many looks from people. I guess partly I'm paranoid but not totally. [ Reply | More ]
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^^sorry for the double. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, people can be judgmental. but if you can't put your finger on a clearly judgmental thing she's said or done, it is probably in your head. you may not want to admit you're embarrassed about dc's weight, and are projecting. it's true that a chubby child is really the fault/responsibility of the parent. [ Reply | More ]
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oh, they definitely judge you. i have one son of normal build and one who tended toward being "husky." i received fat shaming from every direction over his childhood - doctors, teachers, friends' parents. he was always active and ate a healthy diet. he eventually grew into a 6'5" muscular guy. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my "fat" dc is also off the charts in height, his pediatrician predicts he will be 6'4 [ Reply | More ]
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Yes we are. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok is the child chubby or fat. There is a distinction I knew a 4yo that was starting a 3 triple chin so yes I judge her [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] s/o Do you expect to leave money to your children? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes. And we'll pay for college and grad school. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Both DH and I came from LMC backgrounds but we've had a lot of luck in our careers and with investments. We've led a very modest lifestyle though and kids are very grounded. [ Reply | More ]
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They'll get property and some money but I have (almost 4 kids) so it'll be spread thin. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope not. I have always said I hope to die on the day I spend my last penny. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, plus the house. We'll also pay for college. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Americans owe $1.2 trillion in student loans - it's the next bubble 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yep. [ Reply | More ]
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You can't declare bankruptcy and get rid of your loans, right? So what happens when you just can't pay? Do people go to jail? You don't hear about that. [ Reply | More ]
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you can't escape student loans through bankruptcy. your pay can be garnished. they will keep your tax refunds. they'll take your federal benefits. and the government can sue you. http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/default-student-loan-29859.html [ Reply | More ]
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Move abroad. [ Reply | More ]
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Gosh, no one has ever said this before! You're a visionary! [ Reply | More ]
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But isn't the average amount owed relatively low? [ Reply | More ]
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RM: This is a bete noire for me. Only 15-30 percent of the population has an iq that benefits from college education. Only liberal iq deniers think that every social outcome can be equalized through education. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My sixteen year old daughter is pregnant. No flames, I'm not looking for 'omg so fake' or 'cbs' right now. 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
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And I don't know what I did wrong here. We talked about birth control, she is a smart girl? Straight A student, well liked, birth control is not rocket science... Why did this happen to us? [ Reply | More ]
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Uh it happens all the time. My sister got an abortion at age 17. She is now a surgeon. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. This. When I was in med school, I had several classmates who had abortions in HS and college. It happens. People make mistakes. You deal and move on. [ Reply | More ]
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it happened to her, and to her boyfriend. you need to get some perspective and start thinking about how to support her through this, not wringing your hands over your own misfortune [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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csb [ Reply | More ]
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Abortion an option? [ Reply | More ]
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That is what we would like her to do, but I don't feel comfortable pressuring her. She wants to keep the baby, of course, but I don't think she knows what she is getting herself into. She is a child. I don't get it, she has always professed how she never wanted to get married or have kids.... [ Reply | More ]
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What? She wants to have the baby? Either your family is Nokd or this is fakkkkeee [ Reply | More ]
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First of all, your use of the term NOKD in relation to this situation speaks volumes. Second, her fantasies about this baby cannot be controlled. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course she does, she's 16 its like a dolly. No reality. [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
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Sign her up to babysit full time over TG weekend. Four days with an infant; no parties, no breaks, no studying, no phone, no spare cash. [ Reply | More ]
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Troll. Go away. Nobody talks like this in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
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tough spot to be in. can you afford to help her keep the baby? [ Reply | More ]
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We are in the financial position, but that does not negate the fact that she is a child. [ Reply | More ]
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no, it does not. i didn't say it did. but countless sixteen year old have had babies. if you keep the baby, i doubt anyone will regret it. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry op, that's tough. What is she going to do? Fwiw, a friend of mine from HS had a child at 16 and they are both doing great. [ Reply | More ]
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Every one here thought I was an idiiot when my DH and I adopted a baby that was the granddaughter of an admin in my office. Both parents very smart, made a mistake. [ Reply | More ]
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Abortion. Obviously. Unless this is an attempt by a pro-life troll to stir the pot. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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It's a troll. [ Reply | More ]
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That was my suggestion. We are pro choice, and at this stage in her life she is in no position to raise a human being. She has some fantasy about keeping the baby, which goes against everything she has always said. It is so strange. [ Reply | More ]
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Give her some credit. It's not ideal, but it's not impossible either. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not "strange". It happens ALL THE TIME. Please stop labeling it this way and focus on how you can help your DD. [ Reply | More ]
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Perhaps try asking a question or saying what you ARE looking for, then? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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sorry to hear that [ Reply | More ]
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Can i ask, what is your HHI? And education? [ Reply | More ]
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We do very well financially. My husband and I both have advanced degrees from pretty good schools. [ Reply | More ]
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NP- this is irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
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Find her a baby to care for every day over thanksgiving break. That should cure her of her want to keep it. [ Reply | More ]
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Abortion is the only option. I had one at 19, never looked back. Best decision ever. [ Reply | More ]
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A better decision would have been bc or abstinence. [ Reply | More ]
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A little late for that! Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Also, now that they have the pills you can take, it's easier than ever. [ Reply | More ]
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Sad. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her to watch some episodes of 16 and Pregnant. She'll be first in line for an abortion. [ Reply | More ]
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Who is the father? [ Reply | More ]
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Her best friend/boyfriend. Smart kid, very similar to our daughter. Great family, good parents, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. You should be in contact with the boy's parents about this. [ Reply | More ]
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I got pregnant at 17. My father said, "I am not going to sit by and watch you ruin your life." My parents heavily pressured me to have an abortion, which I did, and I am very glad. Why did I get pregnant? Because I didn't want to admit to my boyfriend that I wanted to have sex so much that I was planning birth control in advance. I wanted it to seem as if I just got caught up in the moment. I was afraid that planning in advance made me seem easy, or, what people in my high school called "a whore." [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My niece, and keep in mind, this is a girl who wore a dress that barely covered her ass to her grandmother's funeral, is crying innocence in regards to her stalker ex-boyfriends. Come on! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i know. i'm sick of this myth that women do NOTHING do provoke harassment from men. [ Reply | More ]
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i'm also sick of the myth that any form of unwanted attention is tantamount to harassment [ Reply | More ]
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Both these things. [ Reply | More ]
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Both these things. [ Reply | More ]
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Harassment is never acceptable, regardless of how you 'provoked' him. [ Reply | More ]
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What are they doing? A had a stalker ex boyfriend who threatened to kill me and himself. I don't think a skimpy dress had anything to do with his mental illness. [ Reply | More ]
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Hush, these people want to blame the victim and rational talk won't stop them. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where should I go for a deboned leg of lamb that I'll be stuffing to roast? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If you've got guests, get a turkey. Lamb isn't everyone's thing. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for not answering the question...? [ Reply | More ]
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lol. Better than the other answers. [ Reply | More ]
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To the bike shop around the block. [ Reply | More ]
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this sounds disgusting [ Reply | More ]
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A butcher [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you expect your parents to leave you money? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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No, they expect us to start taking care of them so that they can stop working. And we likely will [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, probably 3-4mm [ Reply | More ]
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They plan to. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. My mother inherited all her money from my grandmother and great, great grandparents. She's never worked. All her jewelry was left to her for life-long use. Ditto silver. Everything to be split between sister and me. [ Reply | More ]
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hahaha no [ Reply | More ]
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^i'm glad inherited debt isn't a thing [ Reply | More ]
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
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I plan to start supporting them in about 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I expect to inherit about 1-2M from my mom, 3-4 from my dad (they are divorced), probably about another 1-3 from aunts and uncles with no children, and my DH will likely inherit about 7-10 from his parents. But most UBers wouldnt think much of us, we are from a public burb, good, but not TT colleges, and we live in an HDFC building. [ Reply | More ]
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that's okay, they'll like you after you inherit. as long as you buy the right bags and shoes. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like nobody would post you a second thought because you have accomplished nothing on your own [ Reply | More ]
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What makes you think we have accomplished any more or any less than anyone else? [ Reply | More ]
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No. They used to plan to, but all four of my grandparents lived past 85 and needed a lot of late-life care. Pretty sure my parents will need all of their money and will not leave much behind. Which is as it should be. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine left me no money, but very valuable SF Bay Area real estate. [ Reply | More ]
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I already send my parents money every month to help keep them afloat. I guess there's a small chance we'll inherit 1/3 of their home. [ Reply | More ]
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No, they don't have any. [ Reply | More ]
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Financial planner here. Expect zero. You're going to be surprised. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. I don't get this- so many things can happen! My sister's DH died very early and their whole retirement plan was his family's inheritance - they cut out my sister and now she's a widow with nothing but a smallish 401k. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. I get a spot in my mother's side's mausoleum though. [ Reply | More ]
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ha [ Reply | More ]
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es [ REPLY | MORE ] »No, they expect us to start taking care of them so that they can stop working. And we likely will [ Reply | More ]
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Mine already did :( [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do I know if I have a drinking problem? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Your dh throws out all the alcohol and tells you so. [ Reply | More ]
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lol +1 [ Reply | More ]
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if you have to wonder, you prob do [ Reply | More ]
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np Not necessarily. Plenty of people wonder whether they're insane when they're not. If drinking (or drugs) are adversely affecting your life (dwi, or other anti-social behavior, for instance) or your kids' and dh's lives, that's when you should look at it being a problem, imo. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed [ Reply | More ]
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NP. I was just having this conversation with my husband tonight. My father is an alcoholic. He stopped drinking before I was born and my parents never had alcohol in the house. When I was in my late teens and early 20s I drank a lot as part of my social life. Then that stopped. Now I drink maybe 4 drinks a week, sometimes more during a vacation or a holiday season, sometimes less. Never more than 3 drinks in a night and I have wondered this because I always hear that voice about how evil alcohol from my mother in the back of my head. I have wondered, and I probably don't have a problem. [ Reply | More ]
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np My father was a drunk (he left when I was 3 and I only ever met him a few times). His father was, too. He, Grandpa, lived in my hometown, and I never saw him drink. I went to my grandmother's funeral back in '92. Grandpa went back to a niece's house, but uncles and I returned to the house. There was a ton of booze in 26 oz bottles in the cabinet with $1.99 and $2.99 stickers on it. Good stuff, too. Had to have been 40 years old at the time. He just decided to stop drinking, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Spinoff. I have a coworker who is 25 and such an incredible prude. I mentioned that my 18 yo dd is on birth control pills and she freaked out. Is this common among millennials? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Fake. Collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
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Ummmm not fake. What is wrong with you. [ Reply | More ]
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hmm, a sample size of one. how much grant money are you asking for? [ Reply | More ]
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Np. I hate these types of comments. I come here to shoot the shit and relax. I get enough stats talk at work. Signed, science mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah this site has totally bombed. The people in here are bitter, old and ugly and have nothing interesting to say anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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STEM mom? [ Reply | More ]
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I am a stem mom and or is just annoying. [ Reply | More ]
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Why were you talking about your daughter's birth control choices to a coworker? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Two out of my 3 dds are in college... 1 freshman, 1 junior. I cannot wait to have them home next week and have the family together again. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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csb [ Reply | More ]
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me too! [ Reply | More ]
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You say that now. Wait until they start fighting on Friday afternoon... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Poll: College, school debt status, income (not HHI) and where do you live? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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West coast liberal arts college, BU grad, no debt (have paid of $60k), my salary is $135k [ Reply | More ]
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^^live in Boston [ Reply | More ]
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GW, $0, $0 (SAHM), Live in NYC [ Reply | More ]
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small not UB sanctioned catholic liberal arts school. No student debt. Income 150K. Suburbs of major city. [ Reply | More ]
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What does it mean to go to an "non-UB sanctioned catholic liberal arts school?" [ Reply | More ]
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A school you can't brag about to parents at the private school your children are going to. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol- thats so stupid. Sometime I hate NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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Big Ten undergrad and grad. All debt paid off in my 20s. €45,000. Dresden. [ Reply | More ]
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Like Germany Dresden? [ Reply | More ]
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np. Income in Euros so probably yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Like Germany Dresden? [ Reply | More ]
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How do you like Dresden? DH and I have considered [ Reply | More ]
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The winters are a bit harsh, but the cost of living is below average for Germany & the EU, and there is access to everything we need and the things we like to do. [ Reply | More ]
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well-regarded state school, 0, 0 (early retirement), flyover [ Reply | More ]
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How old are you? How old were you when you retired? [ Reply | More ]
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Cheaper in a flyover state. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't answer the questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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that wasn't me - it was someone else's added comment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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late 40s - i stepped it down from running my company so worked pt for a handful of years and was fully out by early 40s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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^and technically my income isn't really zero since i have income from investments but no job income [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Jesus. This HHI thing is so played out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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hey, she said NOT hhi this time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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Stanford/Stanford, had about 250k in loans, hhi varies depending on stock market performance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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What is your income from your job? Are your loans paid off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Loans gone. Salary is 175k but most hhi comes from options [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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Colgate, $0 (parents paid in full), $90k, Brooklyn Heights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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This is why I would never pay for Colgate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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i think an important parameter missing from this poll is what % of your college tuition did you pay yourself; some people have 0 debt status because their parents ponied up the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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HYP, $3k, $62k, West Village. Dh makes a lot more, and I took a lower paying job at a university to get tuition remission for my MBA. Don't want more student debt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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I graduated from college so long ago that it's all irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o: My feeling is if you don't get into the top 20 you to public- I totally don't understand paying TT $ for midlevel school. I feel that way about NYC schools? Why would I pay the same money for York Prep as Dalton? You're not getting the same quality- why does it cost the same? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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"Quality" in education is NOT equatable to % of HYP admissions, contrary to UB opinion. That view of education is so tedious. Why did Matt Damon send his kids to Calhoun? Perhaps because he actually knows something about "education." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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Maybe he has low iq kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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I doubt that--he went to Harvard, after all. (Ha ha.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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God, this. I'll never understand posters like OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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She's a striver without any real knowledge of colleges and quality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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Because he wanted his kids in a smaller school with higher security than a neighborhood public school, and the freedom to work with that school to pull kids in and out per his work and travel schedules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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some kids really do benefit from a more nurturing/smaller environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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In the end, wouldn't ALL kids benefit from this kind of environment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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I think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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i agrees and i have money for either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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You seem to know the price of everything and the value of nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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York Prep its a fake school run by a money hungry fool. Its a holding pen for mediocre kids who can't get into any other schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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because there are enough people willing to pay York Prep's price, so York Prep prices it that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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The problem is that the "top 20" as defined by a crap organization like U.S. News means nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! I just found termites on a wood piece in the dining room and on a wood bowl! DH and I are screaming at each other.. I want him to fix the situation and he thinks he can salvage the bowl by spraying it with bug spray. I seriously want to kill him right now. What an idiot hoarder I married? What does one do in this situation?! 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Move out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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We won the house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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I found that most of the fur inside a pair of leather gloves DH had in his drawer had been eaten away by moths. It happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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When the eggs hatch they are going to eat your house- throw out the bowl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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Burn it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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I'm missing how one bowl equals hoarding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:47 PM Flag
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Because the bowl is useless now. It's a fruit bowl and it has termites so won't be used again.. And he wants to keep it around. He does this with everything.. If a shirt gets a hole or huge stain, he keeps it. I have to throw things away behind his back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Well in this case - you should. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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Throw out the bowl and call a termite service. If they're out in the open like that, you have an infestation somewhere else. Have you seen any "trails" hanging from the ceiling anywhere? In the basement, especially? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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+ and don't call him a hoarder, or cheap or anything like that. Talk about how you feel unsafe and you don't want to put the kids at risk with the chemicals in the spray. Even though all of the above are true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Thanks for talking sense into me. This is why UB is useful.. You guys tell it like it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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You're welcome. It really is good from time to time.Good luck with the gross termites! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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Thanks. No basement bc we live in LA. (I am from ny and never dealt a/ this before) calling termite people. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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They'll knock it down and probably won't need to spray--our guys didn't. They implanted a bunch of chemicals of some sort in canisters near where the termites were and monitored them for six months or so and they were gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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Hardly sounds worth screaming about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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Moment of stress. I never yell. But I have very rarely felt so annoyed with dh. Whenever there's an earthquake, he doesn't rush to action. Nothing rattles him. We discover termites and he's slow to move.. I guess more methodical than I am. Anyway, just ranting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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This does not seem like an emergency. You are overreacting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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go ahead and kill him, that's probably your best option since he's and idiot AND a hoarder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Unless he can perform magic or he is an exterminator, what the fuck do you expect the man to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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might be good firewood, if you have a fire going [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Not sure who is on on a Saturday evening but just in case: my dd is almost 2.5 and can't recognize colors. She doesn't seem to have difficulty seeing and really loves coloring but just can't seem to recognize any colors. Should I be worried? Anybody BTDT? Thank you 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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Doesn't know the names or can't distinguish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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Well how do I know? I think she knows colors as she seems to be opinionated, for example, in choosing what sweater to wear, but just can't name them AT ALL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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Does she know shapes? My 20 mth old can say blue, yellow , red and usually gets them correct. He does not know shapes yet. Reason I ask is some really are color blind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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If you said pick the red crayon out of a group of 8 crayons, could she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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extremely good question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Have you actively tried to teach them to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Well, she is a second ;)... We haven't been as good I guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Test for colorblindness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:20 PM Flag
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Which is usually red/green, occasionally blue, but not all colors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I live a boring life. Any questions? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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describe a typical day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:36 PM Flag
[ - ] DESCRIBE a society that is 50% Asian and 50% Black 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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TWIST: DeBlasio is the President. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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99% tax rate for people who work to pay for people who don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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THIS! And don't forget a special surtax to pay for unelected Chirlane's chief of staff--maybe the next one won't have a criminal boyfriend and kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:29 PM Flag
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no such thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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But how WOULD it be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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It would never be. Asians do not want to live with Blacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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The Asians would hate the blacks for asking for special favors and the blacks would hate the Asians for not understanding institutionalized racism that stems from the history of slavery. Same old, same old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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It would involve an impenetrable wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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they would live in segregated neighborhoods. Asians are quite racist against blacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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yes and they have to money to buy wherever they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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Blacks aren't exactly welcoming to Asians either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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The average black person doesn't give a hoot about asians. The ghetto/bully ones will target them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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As a black person I have received less racist comments or shunning from Asians than any other group. If you are well educated, and hard working they generally accept you quickly. I could name a dozen other groups that are way more racist than Asian. Wait to be specific I am talking about East Asians. South Asians on the other hand are in my top 3 of the most racist people I have ever met. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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They secretly think you are stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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Nice try but I know they don't. Keep trying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:15 PM Flag
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there aren't a dozen races.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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She said groups not races. South Asians aren't a race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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That's because they're, as a group, uber smart and work like dogs. My kid won a medal at a gifted program. The recipients were almost all Asian or Indian. White kids were the minority. There were maybe two AA kids out of several hundred. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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the most awesome couple i know-he's black, she's asian-just had a baby. that kid has a good life in front of her and she will be smart, likable and beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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How do you know? It's so condescending to state this simply because she is half black half asian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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because her parents are super intelligent, kind, generous, beautiful, lovable people. I'm not condescending, I'm betting that she'll be a reflection of her parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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lol. not every dc takes after their parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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how do you know that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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Very attractive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:47 PM Flag
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Like Tiger Woods? Yeah. Not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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It would be similar to Brazil, which has a high population of black and Japanese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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about right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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about right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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Not that high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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Asian in charge, black criminal underclass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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Embroiled in a civil war. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Mitt Romneys makers vs takers, squared [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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Who are you people? I am black and have several dozen Asian friends. I know quite a few people (about 20) who are black and Asian, or Black, Asian and white... The Black + Chinese mix is common in Jamaica as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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+1 Both my kids have BFF that are Asian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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PP. One of my bffs in middle and high school was Korean, another was Chines and Black. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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I forgot I had very good friend that was Korean in middle school. She was my BFF with my BFF. So we obviously all hung out with each other almost daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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+2 Another black woman here. I grew up in NYC and have quite a few asian friends as well. My boss is Asian and most of my coworkers are asian (finance middle office). I also know a few black/Asian couples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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Not too common but definitely happens: Historically, Chinese American men married African American women in high proportions to their total marriage numbers due to few Chinese American women being in the United States. After the Emancipation Proclamation, many Chinese Americans immigrated to the Southern states, particularly Arkansas, to work on plantations. The tenth US Census of Louisiana counted 57% of interracial marriages between these Chinese Americans to be with African Americans and 43% to be with European American women. After the Chinese Exclusion Act, Chinese American men had fewer potential ethnically Chinese wives, so they increasingly married African American women on the West Coast.[26] In Jamaica and other Caribbean nations as well many Chinese males over past generations took up African wives, gradually assimilating or absorbing many Chinese descendants into the African Caribbean community or the overall mixed-race community. (Wikipedia) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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rm, we all know wiki sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Blasianville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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