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[ - ] is the man who brought Ebola to Texas African? Not trying to be culturally insensitive, but if he said he just came from Africa and has an Africa accent and e whole shebang... I think people are trying to hard not to "profile" that they lose common sense. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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but he was from an area of dallas where there are a lot of african immigrants. so docs prob didn't think about it too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Yes. African. Sick, told drs he was just in Liberia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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I thought I heard that he was Liberian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Someone recommended books for an 11 year old the other day -- the _____ of ______. Thought I'd find the post, but can't. Do you know? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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The Chronicles of Narnia. The Diary of Anne Frank. The Wizard of Oz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] What are you grateful for? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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Don't we see enough of this crap on Facebook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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humor the woman, why not? we humor all sorts of stuff here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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financial security, rheumatoid disease in remission, kids not hating school, husband a decent human being, parents still in relatively good health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] You know what's weird? The somewhat-popular but never especially well-known American rock band 16 Horsepower became quite popular in Greece after several of their 90's songs were used as theme music during various scenes in a highly-rated Greek TV drama series in recent years. The producer had spent time in the US during college or something and came across 16HP back then. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Yes. The first Greek show to use 16HP's music was called "Μαύρα Μεσάνυχτα" (Black Midnight/Mavra Mesanyxta). Other series such as "Ο 3ος νόμος" (The Third Law) then followed suit, along with some Greek TV movies, daytime TV show intro segments, etc. Here is a portion of the song "Haw" being played in Black Midnight - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqllba5oyTU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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I often wonder if you write for some Rock magazine or blog and just try stuff out on us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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rock mags do not dish about fly by night bands from 20 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Sorry, but I am not that impressed w/Trinity. Most of their grads end up going to liberal arts colleges (e.g. Colgate, Amherst) and not HYP. Pass. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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that's prob true for all schools in the US now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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It's like the Iphone, you don't need to get that model to feel special anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Hunter SB 5 test tomorrow. What should DC eat for breakfast? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Protein x3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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Brains [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Oatmeal with cinnamon and raisins (and a little ground flaxseed and ground nuts, if you have it). A banana. Fruit juice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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thx!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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DC will crash from all that sugar. High glycemic. Need protein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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Maybe OR has kids taking test too and wants this dc to fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:03 AM Flag
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Seriously. You know what we used to call people like you in college? Throats. As in, cutthroat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:14 AM Flag
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^^I meant that response for the mom who suggested sugar for breakfast [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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+1. Who the fuck gives all this to a kid for breakfast? Make him an egg and bacon breakfast sandwich, and let him have a chocolate chip cookie on the way over to the test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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lox on a bagel or eggs. protein protein protein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Out with bunch of moms from kids school. Some dad's come by for drink, people mingle, some leave. One couple asks another to go to dinner. There were five people in this conversation. Two couples and a single mom. Two couples agree to go to dinner and don't invite single mom. Kind of mean. Right ? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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yes, but prob should get used to it. couples and singles don't ususally mix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Why get used to it? People are getting ruder and ruder. Truly classy people would have invited the single mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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but apparently, that's not the milieu at that school, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Yes, rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Rude. Single moms like to have dinner too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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Unspeakably so, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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^and I am married [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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*dads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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As a single guy, i usually try and invite the husbands out but not the wives to give them a break. Not trying to be mean, just guys need to breath before going back to reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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One of the moms in the couple should have included. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
[ - ] A poll- 2 numbers- In NYC, at what net worth does one pass from not rich to rich but still think one is not rich. At what net worth does one now think they are rich too? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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$4MM. $15MM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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I'll buy this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Da fuq? Go to bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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HAHAHAHAHAHA you really did just make me LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Jew or non-jew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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attagirl! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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When i don't have to think about the price of adding avocados to my sandwich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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You must not have IBS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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Tell me more. Lately I've been reacting funny (not really so funny, IFYWIM) to guacamole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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This. I used to say when I can not look at the price of cherries and just throw them in the cart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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i have like $150MM+. i still won't buy cherries unless they are on sale. some habits just won't die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Awww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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i think i need help in some ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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why? this is how the rich stay rich! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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$1.5M (95th percentile net worth), $25M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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$1.458M, $9.875M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
[ - ] During an argument, DH said I don't make any effort towards his family. I've been reaching out to his sister and mother more, chatting, texting, discussing holiday plans, and sending photos of our DC which his mother always asked him to do but he never did. This evening I mentioned our interactions so he knew I took what he said to heart, and he made some snarky comments essentially dismissing my efforts. We're going to divorce, right? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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snark is never good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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+1. He is disrespecting your efforts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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OP: Agree. It felt like a slap in the face. I have ZERO free time these days so by prioritizing them, I hoped he realized I care how he feels and want him to be happy. Instead, he completely dismissed the effort. We've only been married for three years but I think we're going to divorce because this type of scenario is not uncommon in our relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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stop making those efforts- next snark tell him to fuck off and you didn't feel it was worth making efforts that werent appreciated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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OP: Yeah this is pretty much the cycle we are in. Was trying to break it but I think this train is already off the rail. I better start working out. I think I'm going to be on the market soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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absolutely horrible advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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my advice to you is to fuck off too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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Great, thank you! Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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+ His family; his effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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What kind of effort does he make with your family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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this. efforts should be genuine. if you don't feel like putting forth efforts don't. Its his family -- not your responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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OP: He will call my Dad if I ask him to. He gets along and chats with them when we see them. That's about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Have you pointed that out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Therapy time, don't throw in the towel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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OP: He is a stubborn mule. Feel like this would be a waste of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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If that is your attitude then it is a waste of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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You have a DC with this man. You both owe it to the child to give this marriage your best shot. Get off your ass and drag that man to a counselor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] What's a good weight to shoot for? I'm 5'4", mid forties. Down to 142. Was thinking 132 would be good? Medium build. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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115, prob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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Not possible. Never. Never. Not built that way. Plus fighting osteo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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troll. try 125. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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my sister is 115 at 5'5" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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she is very thin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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well then 115 isn't the proper target then for medium build [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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that wasn't me, the OR. she is thin. but she is not small frame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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isn't that underweight? not good for osteo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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120. Five lbs for every inch about five feet tall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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OP: for a 45 year old woman? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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maybe you get a 5-10 lb grace :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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OP: That's fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Huh? Is the starting point 100lbs for this calculation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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yes math genius in the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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200 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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I agree 132 is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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ITA. Worry more about being fit than what you weigh. You should be putting on muscle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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OP: I am very muscular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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^^trying to maintain it while losing weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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If you are very muscular it sounds like you weigh a fine amount. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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135. But weight isn't everything, if you build muscle, you will gain, but will look better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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i am 5' 4", late 40's, and lost 10 lbs this summer to get to 145. I would be extremely happy at 135 at my age. Unfortunately, 5 lbs creeped back on recently. I say this as I am enjoying champagne and cheezits topped with monterrey jack cheese. Sometimes you have to say "f%$k it" and enjoy life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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delicious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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I'm 5'6. At my thinnest, at 19, I was 115-120, and my family started approaching my about anorexia, so I know that's too thin for me. At 135-150, I get hit on regularly and feel healthy, and can easily run & play tennis & keep up with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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at 5'6", 130 is ideal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Here, mid 40's, 5.5 and 118. Large built. So I'd say no more than 130 for a 5.4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:18 AM Flag
[ - ] So lemme get this straight. Dude shows up feeling sick in hospital in Texas, having helped carry an Ebola back in Liberia, and HE DOESN'T FUCKING TELL THIS TO THE DOCTORS! What in the actual fuck is wrong with people. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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^^carry an Ebola patient back in Liberia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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it's called life. it prob won't kill you so chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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it's called irresponsible and idiotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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that's what i said. it's called life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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not my life. perhaps you're an imbecile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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very likely, you are one and can't understand it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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ah, you're a fucking clever one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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i'm glad you finally recognized my genius. takes imbeciles a while but even they come around as my effulgence shines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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barf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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Well, it's quite the opposite, I think. He says he told them all that he had just arrived from west Africa. I guess, no one gave a shit at the hospital and released him with antibiotics in tow... Now the head of the hospital is apologizing for "miscommunication". Holy cow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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Doctors clearly to blame too, since yes, he told them his about his travels. But ya think he could have mentioned the carrying an Ebola patient part. JESUS H. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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Holy cow I didn't know he did that. You're right - seems like something that maybe should be mentioned [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you for the link. I thought that more contact than that was necessary, this is surprising - that he just helped carry her from the car to the house - he was carrying her legs. I thought it required much more close fluid contact than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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what about the people who were on his flight?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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his flight, the ER waiting room, the ER, the ppl he hung out with over the weekend. This dude himself did not realize he had Ebola after carrying a sick woman and put an infinite number at risk here and abroad. This is how it is spreading. Stupidity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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He told them he had recently traveled to Liberia. This fact is in numerous news articles- the nurse went through an "ebola checklist" or something, and it was marked that yes, he said he had recently been in Liberia. He was discharged anyways, because his symptoms did not seem consistent with Ebola at the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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I think OP is making the point that he didn't mention that he carried a person with Ebola. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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But he said he was in Liberia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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But he didn't tell them he CARRIED A PERSON WITH EBOLA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Hellllooooo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Yes, that is my point. If he had, I guarantee they would have quarantined him for observation. And if not, they'd be fully to blame. As it stands, his lack of revelation is startling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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He didnt tell them he lived there, helped an Ebola patient, and ppl were dying in his near proximity!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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You don't have it straight, he told them, but they discharged him home because it didn't look like ebola [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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That is heartbreaking- that they took her to a hospital by cab because no ambulances were available, and that the hospital turned them away because they were full. So she went back home, resigned to the fact that she would die soon (and she did). That's so, so terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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He didnt tell them he helped an Ebola patient and ppl were dying in his near proximity!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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Doesn't matter. Standard operating procedure still required them to keep him from observation because of being in Liberia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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YES. You are correct. Not arguing that fact. I'm just incredulous this guy did not think there was a real risk to him, and did not share the carrying patient part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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You are making the assumption that he is educated about the disease and it's transmission. The lack of education in this area has helped spread the disease in Liberia. I never assume patients have an adequate educational level about any medically related issue. I always assume they know nothing or very little, during the course of educating them you generally get a sense of where deficiencies lie so you can attempt to correct them. When he said he was from Liberia the physician should have asked follow up questions. I would not fault the patient though because this sort of thing (omission of important information) happens all the time and that is why physicians are trained to take a history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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Sad. So sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Enriched by diversity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:20 AM Flag
[ - ] For the moms who are feeling suicidal tonight, fight!! No man is worth it. No shitty boss is worth it! Become a fighter and save your life. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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i used to think like this, but really, we are going to die someday so what's the big deal? you shouldn't can out on your kids and maybe parents. but other than that, what's the big whoop? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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STFU if you cant be a force for good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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why do you have to be so retarded? it is a philosophical question. if you don't want to live, why should you? it's your life and you can do whatever you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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You do not value life. You are part if the problem not part of the solution. Seek help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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i'm not part of any prob. some people don't want to live. why should they? if someone had a disease that was painful but terminal, would you deny them suicide? why should mental anguish be differennt? maybe you can nip it with drugs. but what if you can't? why should people suffer and live just because it's not visible to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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So your kids dont matter to you? Your siblings and parents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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again, i did make a carve out for kids and parents. and you shouldn't do that do your spouse if at all possible. but everyone else has to deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Because it is a temporary feeling, and a decision is being made when a person can't think straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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Op: ty! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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but it isn't always a temporary feeling. sometimes, that's how a person is made. or maybe their circumstances are beyond redemption. after some point in your life, you can't really turn back time or open new doors or whatever. again, if it's something treatable with a pill, then fine. but sometimes, it's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Op: no joke. I am going to pray for tonight in my bed. Your struggle is real. Just know that you are not the only one struggling in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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i'm not planning on checking out anytime soon unless i get some uncurable but horrible disease. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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look, dh's aunt married not one, but TWO duds. Twice divorced, she got cancer in her mid-fifties. Met the love of her life at 57 and got married. Happiest she's ever been. It's never too late to open new doors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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that door wasn't too late to open. but what if you're a total loser? what if you've never made above minimum wage even though you went to college and got a degree in poli sci along with some real debt? what if then you had some kids out of wedlock that you couldn't support on your lame wage? what if you were a sahm and your husband died with no insurance and a big mortgage you couldn't support. what if the only housing you could afford was one in a crack project and you feared for your personal safety? what if you become homeless and it's been too long and you can't get out of it? what if you've been an alcoholic and you've lost everything yet you still can't quit drinking? there are all sorts of scenarios where things just aren't going to get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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Any one of those circumstances could change. Truly. Go to an AA meeting and you will hear stories just like that and these people have come back from those situations and have found happiness.-np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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come on. that's stuff we tell kids. but at some point, some doors will shut and never reopen. some events will turn your life onto a path that cannot be reversed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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For some people, yes. Others will find the strength (either inside of themselves of by asking for help) to pull out of the exact same shitty situation. Seriously, go to an AA or NA meeting and see what these people have survived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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ok, pollyanna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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Agreed. I have my suicide plan ready to go, assuming I live long enough to be finished with life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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what does "finished with life" entail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Accomplished everything I've wanted to do; low on money; facing down severe mental or physical health problems; etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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i don't think you should pull the plug just b/c you've accomplished everything or low on money (unless it's severe destitution and you can't work at all or receive ssi). but yeah, a health prob will do it. i think i would pull the plug in that case, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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Suicide really does effect every person who knows you. Co workers , friends, kids, everyone. I knew an adult who killed themselves when I was a kid and it was a formative experience. Not in a good way! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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This. It leaves behind a devastation like no other kind of death. My best friend killed himself 12 years ago. His family has completely fallen apart. It utterly destroyed his brothers and his mother, his father was a shell of the man he once was until his death. One brother has been in and out of rehab since. I still can't go a day without thinking about him. I think it was close to three years before I could get through a day without crying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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so he should have suffered for the rest of his life (maybe) for all you guys. why are people so selfish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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No, he should have gotten help. He would have gladly lived his life in agony rather than cause the destruction he caused had he only known. He was not in any unfixable situation. He was a young man in the throws of hormones and rash decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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you cannot know that. no one can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. In my extended family there have been 3 suicides. Devastating for many of us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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I'm very sorry. Have you ever done anything with AFSP? I did one of their walks and it was a really cathartic experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Unexplained, unexpected, apparently without-reason suicide devastates people. Well-reasoned suicide fully explained leaves people at peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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Complete horseshit. No suicide leaves people at peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Go read about Admiral Nimitz and his wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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no. there was a life piece in the times some years ago about two parents who took their lives simply because they were getting too old and didn't want to become dependent on others. the wife was fine but her eyesight was going and she didn't want to live if she couldn't read books -- b/f the kindle/audio books, i guess. not sure. the husband was fine but he was a little older. the entire family knew. they even chose to die in jan so they could write tax free checks to all their kids. the adult kids all accepted it and never thought of stopping them. sometimes, people just do things and you have to accept them and you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you stay in NY at a mediocre public school for your kids or move out of the city so they can attend a great private school (but at 1/3 of the price of TT schools in NY)? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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latter, obv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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even if it means leaving the city, you commuting, being isolated, and moving your kids to a new place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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your kid will like it. you have to make the choice to sacrifice yourself. you can also go to a good suburb with a good pub so you can afford to be a little closer. there's a will, there's a way. but of course, a kid will get out of any school what he/you put(s) into it, given that it isn't a physically dangerous school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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How long a commute? Honestly, I never think less time with kids is worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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Yes. You will all make new friends, and you can use the commute to learn a new language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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Whichever school has the most laid back homework requirements, to be perfectly honest. After reading the most popular about homework. No middle schooler needs a 12 hour work day every day of the week, followed by 4 hours of homework on the weekends. They aren't biglaw associates for fuck's sake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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they'll be ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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Signs point to no, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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that's your interpretation of the data, or rather the lack thereof. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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What do you think they're in training for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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lib art majors who are real *creative* -- think poetry or modern art -- who go on to bitch about making $38K even though they have an mfa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Probably because they were sick and tired of the 12 hour academic work days throughout their childhoods and teen years, and wanted to actually relax and use their imaginations now that they weren't being forced to drill and kill anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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let's say i buy your argument. how's that working out for them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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poorly. which is exactly my point. they used up all of their industriousness in their childhood, and they want to relax and play like children now as adults, because they never had the chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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Depends on the kid; throwing money at the school doesn't mean he/she won't still be a dumba$$. That's why all these kids are on meds nowadays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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I'd move out to where they can go to a great public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] We have a cleaning lady who comes every 2 weeks. I have a huge pile of clean laundry. I am exhausted but feel bad leaving it for her to fold. should I feel bad? we hired her to clean the house (no mention of folding laundry). house is very clean though for her every time she comes. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Are you sure she will fold it? Maybe send a text in the morning and ask and give her a little more this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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you should have. folding laundry is pita. why didn't you add it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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Have her do it. Not sure why people manage their staff with kid gloves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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too much bullshit in the media about workers' rights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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It's not part of her fucking job. She was hired to clean the apartment/house not fold laundry. If you want her to do that pay her extra. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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or ask then if she says no get a new cleaner. gotta be flexible. do you tell your boss, "that wasn't in my job descript"? how does that work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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How old are DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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This. If the kids are 4+, they should be helping to fold the laundry. Also, don't bother folding any kids' clothes that just go in a drawer. Have kids match & roll up their socks, and then sort & put everything else in their drawers without bothering to fold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Of course. She is your CLEANING LADY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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I'm sure she will but it will take time away from doing other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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If she works longer hours, pay her for the additional time. Duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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That obviously depends on whether she's being paid by the hour or by the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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It's simple, just pay her more and you won't feel guilty...oh yeah mention it to her of what you need her to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 04:16 AM Flag
[ - ] My ultimate sexual fetish is to fuck a boy who is 17 years and 364 days old 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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Jesus loves me this I know. For the bible tells me so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Jesus was a PEDO FILE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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May the Lord bless you and forgive your unholiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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two fucking idiots... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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So breaking the law, but barely, is your biggest turn on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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He's a guy so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
[ - ] An alcoholic man leaves his wife and 3 young (6mths, 2yrs and 4.5 years) children for a hot young party girl. After years with her, his alcoholism has hit an all time high, he was fired from his job (highly functioning alcoholic up to that point), he is bankrupt, had to sell his 2 houses at a loss and started selling wedding presents (after marrying the hot young party girl). Discovers that his parents have been sending money to his ex-wife for at least the two years (needless to say, he wasn't paying child support). Ex-wife works part-time, but with 3 young children, life is expensive and his parents didn't want to see the children go without. At the same time, the parents refuse to give him any money to bail him out, having already given him money several times over the previous few years and had it drunk away. Does he have a justifiable right to be angry with the parents or not? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:43 AM Flag
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Not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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He can be angry with whomever he wants, but most people would agree that the parents did what was both necessary and right. Although, him remarrying a "hot young party girl" has zero to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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well it kinda does - because she was a young, hot party girl, he wanted to impress her and go out partying with her, so this was the tipping point for him going from a highly functioning alcoholic to a full blown, can't cope, fired from his job, falling through a plate glass window after a 24 hour bender, spending money like it was going out of fashion in order to try and impress her (insane holidays, ridiculous engagement ring etc...) and because she wanted all the good stuff and our parents weren't about to send more money their way when she and he were spending it like crazy. On the bright side, 5 years later she has really come good and now they are expecting a baby together and he is sober, but he is still so so bitter at our parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:50 AM Flag
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Meanwhile he threw his own kids under the bus for new vagina. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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People get divorced and remarried all the time. I know you are upset that he picked a different woman over you, but leave his 2nd marriage out of it during your arguments. It just makes you look petty. This woman's "party lifestyle" (normal, if she was young like you say she was) was not what sent him over the edge- he didn't have to get wasted every day just because he was dating her, he chose to because he was ill and he could not help it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Divorce and remarriage is part of the problem! The kids get left behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Fine, be bitter. Ignore everything else I said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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addicts get pissed all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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The parents are loyal to their grandbabies. F*ck their son. He made his bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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He's angry at himself and passing the blame onto his parents. It's too painful for him to accept responsibility for this problem. His suffering is not caused by the person he is blaming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:50 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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sorry, I should add the extra: it is 5 years later, he is now sober, back on top of life (mostly) but still bitter as anything at our parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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There is something called a dry drunk. An alcoholic who doesn't drink but never attended a program and sorted their issues and is still miserable and angry. You have awesome parents! I am that wife expect my husband had a rx pill problem and my in laws totally turn their back on me and dd who was a baby. I can say with 100p certainty that I did NOTHING wrong except fight as hard as I could for their son. It wasn't until I realized I wanted sobriety for him more than he did and so I walked away. He's sober now probably because of me yet it was all too painful so dd and I were cut off. It's sad and lonely even though their A holes and I am better off without [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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Awesome parents indeed!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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he wants control and would have wanted control over how money is given to ex and children. your parents cut him out of that rightfully. he is bitter and angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Can he afford child support? If so, he can begin repaying his parents now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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Not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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no. a rational person would be happy his children are being taken care of. an alcoholic however cannot usually see beyond self and will blame everyone else for troubles. my brother is a recovering alcoholic. left his family. my parents have not stopped being there for him and supporting him. i don't think he truly appreciates and is happy taking. he is a very angry person as most are. they are self medicating for a reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Until you got to the parents parent, I was sure this was a slight spin on a Mad Men synopsis! No right to be angry at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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Not really; parents choose how to spend their funds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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