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[ - ] Is there a West coast equivalent to UB? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] WHAT DO BLACKS WANT?? What do they WANT??? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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they want white privilege [ Reply | More ]
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Did something terrible happen?? [ Reply | More ]
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no just processing things [ Reply | More ]
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Not to get shot in the head for not having a front license plate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:56 PM Flag
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The be treated like ordinary people here in America not like targets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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they just want to lay around all day getting drunk or high. we should send them all back to africa and let them drink jet fuel while getting as many women pregnant as possible [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just ate 5 chocolate cookies : ( 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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did you enjoy them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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yes but feel grotesque now : / [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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drink a big glass of water and then go for a walk. its cooled off outside. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
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you should Jabba. (that's a little tough love from me to you) [ Reply | More ]
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you should do a towel flagellation for your cellulite [ Reply | More ]
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you inspired me to finish a pint of ben and jerry's. thanks for the reminder! [ Reply | More ]
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you didn't eat it in one sitting? weak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I was reading (fine, snooping) through some text messages that DS had sent to friends. In one of them, he referred to a Chinese girl in one of his classes as a "pan-faced gookette." How should I warn him that he could get in trouble for that sort of language without letting him know that his messages were being read? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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You can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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honestly, you should let him know that you're snooping as a lesson that nothing is truly private these days. anything he sent to his friend could be shared by them. But you should also ask him and yourself where you went wrong that he thinks its ok to talk about people like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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Agree. Kids get expelled over stuff like this. So what if he knows you were snooping.. You are the parent. That is your job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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getting expelled, sure, a concern. But what about raising an asshole? isn't that a bigger concern? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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I'm sure you're practically perfect in every way as a parent but teenagers, especially boys, say and do asshole things. Our job is not raise kids without faults but to steer them away from harmful behavior and help them become responsible adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:57 PM Flag
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Good advice. The next person who snoops at his phone will not have his best interests at heart like a parent does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
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You're only concerned about him getting in trouble? No wonder he said it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I am engaged and marrying a doctor. My sister is very jealous. My mother is always taking my sister's side. How do I deal with this? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Um, tell them about his student loans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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ignore, and then introduce her to some of dh's friends . . . [ Reply | More ]
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Doctors are weird and poor. Op's sister is an idiot for being jealous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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Jelous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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This. What sides are there to take? You sound 6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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Jealous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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Move to another state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Are you a man or woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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I am a woman. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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How is there a side to take exactly? Like sister says something shitty about your fiancee and your mom agrees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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lol, exactly, what side? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.15, 12:01 AM Flag
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Nod and smile, then ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:52 PM Flag
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What side is there to take? You are leaving something out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.15, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Totally judgmental post here: my 10 yo niece probably weighs 160 lbs (and wears an adult size 10) and BIL and SIL let her eat and guzzle down sodas nonstop. I don't feel like it's my place to say anything, but I feel sad for her and wonder why her parents don't do anything about it. Kids are already picking on her for her weight, and motto is that she should love and accept herself as she is. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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^^"her parents'" motto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Do they keep soda in the home for daily consumption, or are you witnessing this at special events like bbqs, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Both. Last weekend, we went out to dinner and she had three large glasses of regular come, a burger and fries and a large sundae for dessert. They always have chips and soda in their house and never say no to the kids. They tell her she is "big boned" and is always going to face rude comments about her weight and needs to find the inner strength to love herself as she is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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^^regular Coke. Sorry, spellcheck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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Np. I have an overweight child and I pretty much allow them to eat whatever they want when we go out to dinner. It's a special treat and I don't want to make an uncomfortable scene around other people. I am a bit stricter at home. But truthfully, a lot of it is genetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Well, then I understand. I never let my kids have meals where there is come served together with sundaes AND chips, even if they are small boned [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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What? Really? My kids eat like that whenever we go out. They are all thin and fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Well, good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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Large glasses of come seem inappropriate for a 10 year old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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How do you know kids are picking on her. I have a 10 year old niece and I see her like every 2 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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It's probably op's kid picking on her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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OP: her mom has told me about it. My kids love her and are younger, so they would never! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Be a normal SIL and sit back and eat popcorn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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OP: I try, but I was a chubby kid, and it's left me with a lot of issues I guess and wonder how my parents allowed me to be like that. (I am now on the thin side bc I watch what I eat.). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Ok so you are projecting. It's hard to control a 10 yo when it comes to food. When she is ready to lose, she will. It's more important to teach self esteem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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I'm totally projecting, I know, but kids are so cruel and I don't know why you wouldn't encourage your kids to eat healthier if they came home crying that other kids were making fun of their weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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Is she coming home crying? Or are you projecting again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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That's the story her mom told me....one of the mean girls in her class started calling her "fatty", and she came home crying about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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How close are you with BIL and SIL? Can you tell them, "You know, I was a chubby kid and sometimes I am angry that my parents never helped me get to a healthier weight. Being the fat kid sucked." If you can't say something along those lines because you don't have that kind of relationship with them or whatever, fine. But if you are close, say something...but only once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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Ugh. Don't do this. Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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My SIL offends very easily, so I would be afraid of the fallout if I dared criticize her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Don't do it, you have to myob on this one. It will come across as you criticizing their parenting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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I know.....that's why I am venting on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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I can't understand why anyone with an overweight kid wouldn't forbid sugar soda and at least use Diet soda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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how tall is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Almost 5ft [ Reply | More ]
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then she's not a size 10, i'm 5'2" and weight 130 and i'm a size 8/10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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It's Old Navy size 10, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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then she is wearing a bigger size for sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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THIS. I'm also 5'2" and around 135 (decent amount of muscle) an 8/10 even at Old Navy. Five feet and 160 is huge for 10 year old (obese for anyone)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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Are the parents fat? If the mother is fat, then she isn't going to do shit to help her daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Yes, they are. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where can I find an interior designer to help us with a remodel? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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houzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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I checked there, but there's no way to sort and limit by style/genre. any other websites that do allow you to limit by style? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What should I pay my nanny an hour? She has been with us for 4 years and cooks for the family and keeps the house immaculate. (We have another cleaning woman twice a month). She is moving to part time and will be working 30 hours a week. The kids are 4 and 6 so will be in school the first two hours she is home. Also, I am home two days a week and I tag team with her. We were set on 22 an hour but she now says that she needs more or needs to stop making the kids' lunch and folding laundry. I want her to be happy but we just raised her salary at her request from 18 to 22 an hourwhen we moved her from full to part time 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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"Just raised her salary at her request" is the crux of the problem. She is back to renegotiate. It is not about what is a fair rate, it's about what you can do without destroying the relationship for either of you. That includes either of you saying "my way or it's over": you saying "we settled this" or her saying " I was wrong, I actually need full time." You cld help her find another nearby pt family. Any solution that feels Ok goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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I have helped her find part time positions. Several. She hasn't likes them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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How would not making lunch and folding laundry help her? Would that shorten her hours or is this retribution for what she perceives as not enough salary? I would ask her how much she thinks is fair. If you don't want to pay that much, you may be in the market for a new nanny, but at least you know that she's unhappy and she's likely looking for another position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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She says she is tired from all we ask her to do. So she said she would like to do less or get paid more. Like 23 an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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22 is more than enough and she just got a raise. Give her any more and you are getting fleeced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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She had her hours cut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:56 PM Flag
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tell her that you think this is much more than reasonable and understand if she needs to find a new job with 40 hrs. I suspect what she really needs is more pay to get her closer to what she was making before. Can you offer more hours instead? Friday night sitting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] All these bushes we planted are finally growing into a nice solid hedge and the gardener trims them all into separate little mini trees again, leaves a naked stem at the bottom so the soil is all exposed and just has a ball of leaves on top. I wanted to do it myself (at least start it off right) and dh insisted on hiring this guy... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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That's such a shame, I can only imagine your disappointment. Whatever will you do to help DH undertand it's not quite your aesthetic [ Reply | More ]
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Lol, I know I know. Dh wants the same but the gardener is the one with other ideas [ Reply | More ]
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Is this post about something sexual? I feel like I am missing something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to get a gossip fix. Why did Nicole Krauss and Jonathon Safron Foer break up? Know I am years too late on it but just read he's now with Michelle Williams and 'rumours' regarding their break up were referred to. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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What?! This is sad. When did this happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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At least a year ago, it came out when they sold their house in Park Slope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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I think for the same reason many celebs break up - two big egos do not go well together. I know them both and he's quite an ass. She's aloof and not terribly friendly but doesn't seem like an egomaniac. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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She's very pretty though. And talented. And rich, so I guess she'll be . . . just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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I'm sure she will. But she's also 40-something with two young kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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She looks younger than that though. And has million dollar book deals. She will probably have a lot of fun if her ex is good to their kids. Wishing her luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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They seem like good parents and still do a lot together with their kids. I wish them both well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Maybe she can now become more famous than him. Win one for the ladies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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How does she get million dollar book deals? Her books are not that successful commercially nor critically unless I'm missing something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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She thinks she's Marilyn and that he's Miller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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She seems very understated compared to him. Not showy like Marilyn at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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Seriously I've seen him around Brooklyn in a New Yorker Festival "talent" T-shirt, which feels a little ego-y. Poor guy is probably going to be emailed this. It's a pretty close social line. Sorry, Foers, gossip is the price of minor fame. Or maybe it IS minor fame. Same thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Their fame is pretty major--he doesn't really have to write another book for the rest of his life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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OP: not by me or anyone I know. I'm just a garden variety mom gossip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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I want to hear why he is an ass... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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Who are these people even? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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+1 I'm just someone who put a college sticker on my car. Don't know who these people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Famous fiction writers who live in BK. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Attorney moms: if a company wants to issue a new series of shares, do they have to amend the articles? TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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Yes, unless they have blank check preferred authorized under the charter and can do so via board vote. [ Reply | More ]
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K [ Reply | More ]
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yes -- and this is the case for most public companies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] When would one say, I seem to have gotten myself into a sticky wicky? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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Don't you mean sticky wicket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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when they're 2 [ Reply | More ]
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I've screwed up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:28 PM Flag
[ - ] 14 month old just got her first cold and has been very congested (working on that with humidifier and aspirator). She had been an absolute champ sleeper for most of her life but all of a sudden it's up in smoke. Can't get her to nap more than 30 min and it takes an hour for her to go down for the night. She was previously sleeping 7-7, a nap at 9 most days for about 40 min and a nap 1:30-3/30, no drama. What do I do? She's been passing out around 11:30 - should I drop the first nap and try to get her to nap longer at11:30? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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nap at 9 am? two hours after she wakes? Yeah, may want to stretch it out a bit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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Op. I know it seems weird but it was what she needed for a long time. It's been hit or miss for about two weeks. She's also much more active now and walking a lot. I think it's probably time to drop that first nap but do I just push to 11:30? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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Np that's how my dd was. All bets are off while she's sick. Reevaluate when she's better. I had great luck letting dd sleep when she needed to, was a disaster when I tried to force a schedule change [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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I used daycare and at that age nap time was either 11 or 11:30 (don't recall exactly) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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She's sick. All bets off. I used to let mine sleep in stroller by my bed when congested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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& use saline nasal spray followed by nosefrida [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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I didn't do that. Humidifier and stroller worked for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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Great, good for you guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:57 PM Flag
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Yes push the nap later. It's probably time anyway - she's kept it early more than most kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:57 PM Flag
[ - ] On the next "I Am Cait"... Bruce wants Kanye to motorboat his fake boobs! He says he "won't feel like a real woman" until Kanye does! Kanye tries to get out of it by saying he's married but Kim Kardashian gives him permission so now he's trapped! Way to "stand by your man," Kim! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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wtf [ Reply | More ]
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Kanye is a cross dresser too they say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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sick autogynephile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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Fuck this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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I actually just watched the other show E is trying to promote, which was hilarious for a first episode. They literally had everyone in a totally broken, 3-4 marriage addiction and affair riddled family somehow coincidentally meeting in a kitchen where everyone hugged everyone whether they had fucked around on each other or not, and there's a blonde Kris Kardashian with batwing loose skin who shambles up to one of the ex-husbands like skeleton in a wig. The two girls look ... ok. All the male kids look like they've got stray eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I just found the DC equivalent of UB.....101 pages (as of now) discussing a local radio host's messy divorce. I've been reading all day! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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link pls [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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I love DC urban mom. It's almost like UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Also same arguments: why would you be reading if you aren't from DC area ?! Because it's hell interesting. That's why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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op: I'm from the DC area, so even more interesting to me! haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My children spent 4hrs in the pool from 11-4. None appear tired. I would love for them to fall asleep earlier. I'm hoping for an early bedtime for all, myself included. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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From 11-4 is 5 hours...you'll flunk in your K admissions test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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Op-ha, too much sun for me as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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Haha you can't add [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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Op-yes, ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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Start bedtime routine earlier and put them to bed earlier. They will pass out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Op-ha, like I said, I am tired from the sun too. Fail for me. [ Reply | More ]
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