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[ - ] 21 mo dd weighs only 20 pounds. She is an extremely active kid (always running/climbing/jumping), eats normally, and is clearly happy and healthy in every other respect. DH and I are tall (both over 6', normal build- i.e. not petite). Ped is "very concerned" at every appointment and has mentioned feeding specialists and other interventionist strategies that I fear will create issues where they don't exist. My gut says that she's fine, that this is just her genetic build. Anyone BTDT with advice? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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^She's also had bloodwork (normal) and a prenatal test for CF (negative). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Take her for a second opinion. Right now it is your ped against you, and you each have your own type of credibility. And by the way, a 21 month old won't get any psychological issues from treatment if she needs it. But she may have cognitive and physical issues if her body is not dealing with food properly. [ Reply | More ]
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What is her height? Are her height and weight percentiles proportional? That is what my ped is most interested in. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Height and weight not proportional. She's taller than average (I think about 65%) and 1% (if that) in weight- and has been this way since 4 mo or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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That's not very tall for a child with parents who are over 6' tall. Not to scare you, and she is likely OK, but worth looking into more. [ Reply | More ]
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well you can understand why ped has taken his/her stance then. The only way you tell me that ped is likely wrong is if you say you or DH were super thin well into childhood. [ Reply | More ]
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DH was also a 1% kid until age 2.5 or so, according to MIL. Perhaps a 2nd opinion is the best course here. I remain highly resistant to the idea of feeding therapy when I see dd capably eat multiple meals per day. The recommendation seemed so off base and made me doubt that our ped was listening to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe the problem isn't with the eating. Maybe the problem is with the metabolizing. What is it going to hurt to see an expert? Sounds to me as maybe you are in denial that there may be a problem. Hopefully your gut is right and there is no problem, but wouldn't you like that confirmed, rather than not treating an issue that may ultimately affect your daughter's overall development? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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NP: Are height and weight always proportional? My kids' definitely weren't, particularly as they went through growth spurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you be wary if your 8yr-old DD's tennis instructor were a tall, muscular Slavic man with a ponytail who seemed to scowl a lot? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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I'd be more wary of your crazy. What paranoid and racist conclusion are you jumping to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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What if he seems highly-competitive, perhaps too much so for young kids, and may be a steroid user? [ Reply | More ]
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Also, he drives a loud sports car and his girlfriend looks kind of trashy. [ Reply | More ]
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And that relates to your daughter and her tennis lesson how? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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Well the thing is, he comes highly recommended by other moms, but I wonder if he's giving them something "extra" on the side, and that's why they like him so much... [ Reply | More ]
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Earlier suspicion confirmed. The issue is with you, not him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Then maybe you should have stated this. Because I didn't really see anything wrong with being tall and muscular and having a ponytail. And I bet 90% of the women on this board scowl a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Milos? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think elementary school teachers in NYC are told the ELA and Math scores of their incoming students, or is that something just the school administration knows? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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I hope so. They can help students in areas that need improvement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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unfortunately it doesn't work that way - they get the results too late to be of use [ Reply | More ]
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the admin often doesn't know - all handled by doe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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I am on my school's SLT and this is absolutely untrue. The administration knows every student's scores --- it is important in creating the comprehensive education plan (CEP). There are certain kids that get remedial help and that is largely based on the test scores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] AT what age do kids normally learn how to tie shoe laces? My dc is 6 and a half and still doesn't know because I never bothered teaching her. She wears mostly flats and sandals this summer. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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Kindergarten [ Reply | More ]
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4-5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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This. Your kid will be made fun of if she can't do it in first grade. Teach her now. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Some schools insist that kids do not wear laced shoes because many kids cannot tie their shoes reliably until around 8. 4 is possible but early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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I refused to buy my child non-lacing shoes. Lace those suckers. It's life. (Barring a child having a disability of some sort.) Teach them how to tell time on a real clock too.~Old fashioned mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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This. Great for fine motor skills. [ Reply | More ]
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A range between approximately 5 and 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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if you are SN [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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No. Some kids are later with the manual dexterity. [ Reply | More ]
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Bother teaching her. It's not brain surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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My ds learned way earlier than my dd for what sounds like similar reason...dd just hardly ever wore shoes with laces. At 6 she isn't the only one who can't tie, but do her a favor and help her learn now, from experience I can tell you it may take some extra effort to make it happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] My 19 yo step ddIs pulling herself together after years of trouble and fighting her mom and her father (and me) at every turn she studied on her own and passed the GED. She does not seem to be hanging around loser friends anymore at least she doesn't mention them when she visits. She wants to go to community college and dh and I could pay for it her mom has said no way, she is still too immature. Dh doesn't want to get into it with his ex so we are staying out of it she is trying of it. Step dd Is trying to get a job.seems sad. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Sorry, hate my phone [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, hate my phone [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, hate my phone [ Reply | More ]
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She's 19. She doesn't need her mom's permission to go to school no matter who is paying for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Why not tie it to grades like other scholarships? Has to maintain a B avg. to keep going etc? [ Reply | More ]
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I love this idea [ Reply | More ]
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I love this idea [ Reply | More ]
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I love this idea [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Wait -- you cannot wear bootcut jeans? What kind of jeans am I supposed to wear? I'm not fat but still a pear. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Skinny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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That would look hellish on me. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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that's why i don't wear jeans at all now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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What do you wear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Skinny or straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Just because they sell them at Costco and write about them on HuffPo doesn't mean they're in style. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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I buy mine at Lucky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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This article is over a year old and some of the pictures used are even older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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An out of shape ass is going to look bad no matter what you wear. Sorry but it's the truth. My butt is not small but it's high, tight, and in shape. When it was flabby and misshapen there wasn't a thing I could do to dress it. If you are fat in skinny jeans you are more than likely fat in all jeans! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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You seriously don't realize that some jeans are more flattering than others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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If you look bad you look bad. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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You must be a sad person if you get off on telling fat people that they look bad no matter what. Then you couch it as if you are doing people a favor by being honest. You're absolutely not sorry, and the OP said she wasn't fat. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't get off on it at all. When I was fat I wish someone had said: no amount of "flattering" cuts, hairstyles, manicures, etcwould make me look good when my figure was a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Straight leg [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Skinny is out. Boyfriend in. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't know what the boyfriend cut is, but honestly the skinny jean trend is bad for most girls and women who wear jeans. I'm skinny and can pull it off, but I am also 43 and think that look is rediculous at my age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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Boyfriend is sloppy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Wear them if you like them and you feel like they are flattering to you. This place is not the be all, end all, about fashion. A lot of them just like making other people anxious. Keep that in mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Smartest person on UB award [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Great question. I'm an apple and skiiny jeans emphasize that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] How is Joan River doing? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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They put her on life support. :-/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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She is old and had a full life and career. Towards the end she was getting to be mean and trashy. I say bye Felecia to the current Joan and RIP to the trailblazing woman of the past. [ Reply | More ]
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np She's been mean for decades! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Ah. I hadn't realized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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She's only 81! According to UB she could easily have a kid in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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MD moms...any way possible she may recover?? [ Reply | More ]
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It sounds like she won't but if she does, she will likely have terrible deficits. [ Reply | More ]
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Lots of people don't like her. She's cruel, fame obsessed, and her desire for attention is fueled by her inherent inferiority complex and her husband's "fuck you" suicide. Her daughter, Melissa, although Jewish, has an ill-conceived ankle tattoo, is divorced, and electively dates a pornographer - Mr. Hirsch, the owner of Vivid Entertainment. Your husband watches his pornography. How do the Rivers' public presence benefit anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:08 PM Flag
[ - ] UB weirdest step mother contest, I'll go first. I'm 32, sister is 29 and dad's new wife is 30. Sister and I started off calling her by her first name, but then she decided that wasn't respectful enough and she now asks that we call her "mom"! LOLOLOLOL. Your turn. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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I don't even need to hear anymore. You win! Bravo for having a good attitude about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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That's almost like a bad sitcom plot. Is she foreign? She's gotta be latin american. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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how old and rich is your dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Similar story with a step mother around my age. When she got married she sent my sibs and I a memo of names she had reserved for her future kids with my father, yes, baby name dibs. I kid you not. Also, she was 38. Anyway, she never was able to have kids and my brother and SIL used two names from her no-no list. [ Reply | More ]
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sad for her, sad for you kids not nice. [ Reply | More ]
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Step mother and dad live overseas. Dad brought step mother over to NYC to meet me for the first time. She stayed with us, in my apartment, for 3 weeks. As a house warming/hostess gift, step mother brought me 2 pot holders which she had stolen from my recently deceased grandmother. She ordered special tv channels and borrowed my laptop for hours on end, made outrageous demands ,complained about everything and gave me the silent treatment when my dad wasn't around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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My step mother was the OW and all through my college years whenever I would visit she would ask me how many guys I was having sex with and told me that her professors were some of her best lovers. EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW [ Reply | More ]
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Step mother is a mail order bride and will not speak English at all, to anyone, under any circumstances. My dad and brother and I can be having a conversation and she will interject with Chinese and laugh and then nod her head like she's following the conversation. She understands English perfectly tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Waiting for someone that wronged me to get what they deserve. However, I get so angry sometimes thinking of what they did and want to take my own revenge (know information that could be very damaging). Please tell me I don't have to stoop to their level and the universe will take care of them. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do it! [ Reply | More ]
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And it better be GOOD. I know some horrible things about my BIL and SIL but never outed hem despite hem both being soulless, nasty, gross people because I'm not so sure they aren't aware that each other is lower than pond scum. Now that they have procreated (a child I think they honestly believe to be the Messiah) I have no desire to out them because they are dogging their own graves by playing mr and mrs martey/the only people who have ever worked/had a child. Basically what I am saying is wait it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Whoa, typos galore. I don't care! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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Let it go...let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Like what? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think you should release the damaging information. I'd send a nicely wrapped gift box with shit inside. "To you, because you're a piece of shit". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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Let it go. So nuts of you. Karma works both ways btw [ Reply | More ]
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Karma is not real. I think about the people who wronged me and I said nothing while they harped in the slightest indiscretion of mine. If you are going to burn someone, own it. [ Reply | More ]
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It may not be immediate, but it is real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Nope. It's not. If you lived past 30 you realize that a lot of horrible people keep living, thriving, and succeeding despite themselves. If karma were real innocent children wouldn't starve to death, for instance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Maybe they are going to a better place sooner than the rest of us. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree, however, and not to sound new-agey, but I think when you put out a negative kind of energy, you draw negativity. Seriously, I'm not flaky, lol, I just think nicer people get nicer results in life. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree about the negativity for sure. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow! I posted something very similar to this the other day but this was not me. I feel you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some new every day dishes and I've not had great luck w/Crate and Barrel so far. Any thoughts about Fiesta? Is that just so overdone? Anybody have it and feel that it holds up well? (the new stuff at Macy's; not the antique stuff) 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I like Juliska [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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i hate fiesta - i used to work bloomingdales housewares, if I never see another piece of chipped fiestaware I will be a happy person. It's too bulky, heavy and takes up space and yes it chips easily. I prefer my williams sonoma apilco with blue band [ Reply | More ]
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Williams Sonoma. [ Reply | More ]
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I suggested Williams Sonoma. This is the line we use...http://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/apilco-tres-grande-porcelain-dinner-plate/?pkey=ctabletop-plates&cm_src=tabletop-plates||NoFacet-_-NoFacet-_--_- We have used them forever, and we are not careful in the least, banging them against a marble countertop, the faucet, in the dishwasher, microwave, kids, etc, and we've never had so much as a chip. We used another WS white dishware that we were happy with also (gave most to child who moved away) and they were great too. I like these, because they are a little thinner, and while still a casual plate, a little more "elegant" than the heavier ones I sent with my child. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree w/you that Apilco is fantastic. I have a few pieces my mom snagged off the W/S bargain bin. It's a bit out of my budget, though. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh wow -- I just looked up the blue band Apilco (different link than you posted) and I LOVE it! Maybe I will bite the bullet and get that. [ Reply | More ]
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Doooo itttttt! You won't regret it! [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, they can be a little spendy, but when you can, snag 'em. We have the large plates, but we rarely use them, we usually use the "salad" plates for everyday use. REALLY love those though and like I said, the durability is awesome and makes it worth the price. Heck, our kitchen floor is brick, and we've dropped them on the brick and no chips. [ Reply | More ]
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I inherited a bunch of currier & ives dishes from my parents. You can get tons of them on eBay. They remind me of the 60s. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I have some of those too, from my grandma! Do you use them for everyday use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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Indeed I do! Can't beat the price really. They were gas station and supermarket premiums back in the day so there are a metric ton of them available. I like them. I have nicer dishes inherited from my grandparents but they have gold leaf which will probably come off in the dishwasher so there they sit in the cabinets. When we entertain it tends to be really informal and outside on the stone pavers so we use the "good" disposables for that as well. [ Reply | More ]
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Corelle, or however it's spelled. Super cheap, available on Amazon. Lightweight and mine have never chipped. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Love my Corelle set. I've had lots of dishes throughout the years, but the only ones that lasted as long as my marriage so far (17 years) is my Corelle set. Love them (have simple white set). [ Reply | More ]
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We had a mix of crate and barrel white square dishes and bowls and some square tan accent plates from BBB. I am over the square and the ones we had were heavy. The dinner plates were too big to rotate in our microwave (we now have a non rotating microwave drawer so no longer an issue but still wanted new). I went in a totally different direction and got 222 fifth Eliza teal (not the peacock, just the regular). It's not for everyone but I really like them so far and they were really inexpensive so I won't feel guilty changing it up in a few years. I just was "over" the white square and wanted round, color and some interest. Not a fan of fiesta personally, they are so bulky and not my style. DH grandma who lives on a farm in rural Missouri collects them in different colors as does his cousin in Tx who collects them in UT colors and I have never been able to get into them. [ Reply | More ]
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Watching. I have Crate and Barrel that have held up well, but they are 12 yrs old, back when they were made in England and not China. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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This is such a new money post. We're talking about plates your nanny will use to heat up a square of lasagna int he microwave, not the plates you use to server your boss dinner in your home. My mother's family is old money and their everyday dinnerware is just stuff from Target. They splurge on the fine dining ware for dinner parties. [ Reply | More ]
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OP. I am MC, not new money. And I don't own a microwave; we are very old fashioned. If I bought this dining ware it would be "nice" for me. So...stfu. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh and I don't have a nanny either. And I live in flyover. Believe it or not, you don't have everyone figured out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Getting a little thick -- I think due to perimenopause? Is there any hope for me if I get on the stick with exercising more? Please say yes. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
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ily! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Diet and exercise. As you age you need to eat fewer calories. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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Me too. I feel like I am losing the battle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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Definitely helps, but I admit to getting thick regardless. Even if it's not fat, you get more barrel shaped. Or at least most of us tend to. I never thought I would. I always had the flattest belly and when I would lie down, my tummy was so concave, it wasn't even funny. Also that was at a perfectly healthy weight. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:28 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o diabetes post. I am so paranoid about my oldest DC (9 yo) becoming diabetic or getting high blood pressure. DC is heavy and always has been (since birth). Are my concerns justified, or am I just being crazy? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What does the pediatrician say? [ Reply | More ]
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"Eat less, exercise more." Of course, not to dc's face. I have never brought up my concerns because I am scared about what the dr will say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Sounds like it's time for a heart-to-hear with the dr. If your DC's weight problem is such that s/he is now at risk for diabetes or high blood pressure, then it's time to take action. Also, before your child is a teen, it's a good time to make sure you're teaching and modeling healthy eating habits and an active lifestyle. You can't control everything your child eats, but you can set the stage (at home) for healthy choices. [ Reply | More ]
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We do model good eating/active habits. Mostly I just feel guilty because I think DC unfortunately inherited bad genes from me and DH. [ Reply | More ]
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do you and dh have diabetes and high blood pressure? np [ Reply | More ]
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No, but I work my ass off to maintain a BMI of 28-29. When I was heavier, I did have high bp but it has since normalized. DH is similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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I've struggled with my weight all my life. I will say that when I go to visit my parents, I'm struck by how much junk food they have around, even though when I was growing up, they thought that we had a healthy eating environment. Now, I look in their pantry/freezer/cookie jar/fridge and realize that if you prone to overeating (or poor eating habits), their house is a danger zone. Be sure you are REALLY looking at how the whole family eats and at the food you have around. I'm not blaming you, just suggesting that you take a very rigorous look at what you're serving/offering. If you had a nutritionist over your shoulder, what would they say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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I understand what you're saying. The truth is, I do not keep junk food in the house, period. We eat a lot of cereal, fresh fruit, yogurt, lean meats/cheeses, fruit, veggies. The biggest issue for us is portion control, and I admit I am very lenient when DC asks for seconds and third helpings. I don't want to give DC a complex about food and weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Yeah, it's hard. I think the biggest thing is to teach them to listen to their body. Stop eating when you are no longer hungry, not when you are full. Ask them to wait 10 minutes before taking seconds. Do that yourself so that they don't feel singled out. Also, consider eating at "times" of day--do you automatically offer a snack after school? Lunch at noon? Dinner at six? I realize that there are schedules at school and at home, but let your kids experience hunger and then eat something rather than eating preemptively to avoid hunger. Just a few thoughts from someone who continues to struggle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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P.S. Same goes for activity level. My parents were in favor of exercise for me as a weight management tool, not because everyone--heavy or thin--could benefit from moving and being active. It took me years and years to view exercise as a positive thing, rather than as a "punishment" for being overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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DH and I are both ex-college athletes and our kids are active in sports. I don't think activity is the issue, I think it's the eating. I've always noticed that DC eats more than peers, claims to be hungry right after meals, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm getting old. I have no idea who all these new musicians/artists are?!?! Who the hell is Ariana grand? I'm 34, jeez. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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I'm only 31 and who?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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You're not THAT old to be that far under a rock. Don't let yourself go. Ariana is icky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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I can't stand the pop music. So bad. I only know who Miley Cyrus is because she's all over the media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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You mean, Cat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Cat Valentine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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I know her but only because I have a 13 yr old dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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She's a screeching midget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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I'm 53 and I know who Ariana Grande is. Get with it, geezer! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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I'm 43 and I know who she is. And like her. Judge away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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And it's grandE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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She's a media "product," not an actual musician. She can be safely ignored. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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lol. I hate her music, but her brother is pretty amusing to watch on Big Brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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She is a Disney robot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I am over 300 pounds, diabetic, and I don't care. I have 3 young kids and pregnant with #4. I know this is messed up but I don't know how to change. I like being fat. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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are you the one who was toying with the idea of giving #4 up for adoption? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Yes but I have decided I can make it work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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Diabetes is no joke. You'll be lucky if you survive to see your kids graduate high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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How old are you? Have you been overweight your entire life? When did you get diagnosed with diabetes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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fake, nobody likes being fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Not fake. I actually do. I have been thinner in the past and allowed myself to get fat again. Part of it, I think, is I feel uncomfortable getting attention from men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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fake, nobody likes being fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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I think what she means is that you can like living the lifestyle you enjoy when you put up with being fat as a collateral result. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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You actually enjoy it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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I prefer to be fat rather than thin. I like being able to eat what I want and not worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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me too, I don't always like that I am fat, but I like it better than when I am thin - I just do not like the social aspect, since thin is always more socially acceptable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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np. I was a fat child and I was most miserable as an adult when I was thin. I was a drunkorexic and close to cheating on my husband with my boss. I am not thrilled with being fat now but I don't think being thin would make my life that much different. My friends are my friends and the things I fill my life with don't revolve around my weight. I can't think what being thin would "get me" at this stage in my life that I don't have already. I am in reasonable health and don't really care about living until 90. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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Diabetes has serious complications, such as foot ulcers and amputations. This is nothing to joke about. If you believe you look better as an overweight person, that is entirely up to you, but you do have 4 little ones who still physically need you. Make sure you are not depressed. Nobody enjoys being unhealthy and you will put an unecessary burden on your dh and dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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Congrats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Do you ever watch My 600 lb. Life. Amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] My parents do not have a will or any sort of plan for division of assets when they pass -- that I know of. I have two younger siblings. Is it awkward or rude for me to bring it up? My parents are those people who never ever talk about money with anyone, so nobody even knows what all they have. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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Talk to your sibs and approach it as the responsible thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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You can talk to them about medical wishes and long-term care plans. You can make sure they have a Will and ask who the executor will be. I wouldn't ask about the rest. None of your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Ita. My sister and I had this chat with our parents recently. We pointed out that we really did need to know who to contact etc when the time came and that it was better to discuss this when everyone was still in good health. I have no idea about my parents finances and I would never ask about them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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It is awkward ... Tell them about your friend whose dad went into a coma unexpectedly and left his affairs in a complete shambles. Her mom doesn't know where the money in the house came from or where it was going, there was no recent valid will and her mom did not even know what insurance policies were in effect or how or where to pay the premiums with sudden notice. She did not know their complete assets or liabilities or even the name of a lawyer. Tell your parents you are sure they would not want to do this to either each other or to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Good plan. You need to bring it up, esp the health proxy info and such. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Yes it is rude because it will sound like you are hoping to get something. Division of assets is none of your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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I disagree. This is a discussion families should have -not details of the will but is there one, health plans, location of accounts, power of attny. Awkward but irresponsible not to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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You can make it easier for them by getting them an estate planning book from Amazon. Just give it to them. Tell them you don't care if you ever see it but please tell you where it can be found in case of an emergency. In the meantime they can write out numbers and names etc. in their spare time. Invaluable resource. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:20 PM Flag
[ - ] 37, two kids, want a divorce. But - would love just one more baby. Solve this conundrum: 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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take your meds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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You sound mercenary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Ha, really? I work FT and make equal to my husband. More if you consider the benefits. Masochist I would understand. Gold digging, def not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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Doesn't matter if you make the same amount as your DH, if you get full custody, he'll have to provide child support for the 3rd kid for another 18 years. If you want one more baby, then you should tell him beforehand that you plan to divorce him and see if he agrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Don't divorce. You have 2 other lives you're responsible for, and you want another? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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Of course you have a final baby with him then get your divorce. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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So, screw up 3 kids. Perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Describe your financial situation..if you are the primary breadwinner and have enough $$ to raise DCs alone, go for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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Think about what you would want to have happen if you were one of your kids. Do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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