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[ - ] this isn't spam I swear! But any feedback on Three Dot tops and dresses? Super cute online and not super expensive but how's the true-to-sizing and quality? Looks fun as I try to get back to pre-preggers wt but not sure of buying online without trying on first. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I love three dots and wear their stuff all the time. expensive but they wash well and hold their shape [ Reply | More ]
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In general, cotton dresses don't last as long as other fabrics. After several washes they lose their color and start to pill. In my experience, the three dots dresses are good for a year, maybe 2 years at most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] on a health kick and feel like I need a solid veggie burger recipe that I can freeze the extras of because they are labor-intensive to make. I am looking online and overwhelmed by the varieties. Anyone have one they like and can link me to that you use and freeze? Love the store-bought ones bc they are convenient but hate how processed the ingredients are. TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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there was a Melissa Clark recipe for veggie burgers in the Times dining section yesterday [ Reply | More ]
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wow! thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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I made these last night. I tried baking and pan frying. Definitely recommend pan frying http://weelicious.com/2010/06/29/veg-wee-burgers/ These aren't exactly veggie burgers but they taste awesome! My whole family loved them http://weelicious.com/2013/07/07/broccoli-cheese-patties-2/ [ Reply | More ]
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has dairy tho' [ Reply | More ]
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True, but you can always sub out. check the comments on the burger. You could use vegan cheese if you want or remove entirely for the veggie burgers. i would just make sure you taste and that the flavor works for you. weelicious has lots of veggie burger recipes. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] need to buy a new nice casual shirt today. can get to either a banana republic or j crew today. which has better stuff now? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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J Crew [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Banana [ Reply | More ]
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Easy solution. Go to both banana and j crew. Done. [ Reply | More ]
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I only have time to go to one store. [ Reply | More ]
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J Crew [ Reply | More ]
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Banana Republic [ Reply | More ]
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banana repulic has $50 off if you spend more than $100 right now. I would go there and buy a few shirts to get the deal. [ Reply | More ]
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They're basically the same store. [ Reply | More ]
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lol, good answer. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] There was an astonishing amount of camel toe in the disco era. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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All the lycra [ Reply | More ]
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further proof the Koch brothers are bad for society. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Risk-benefit analysis? DH and I won a small lottery the first year we were married. We leave the principle in several investment accounts, and after fees, taxes, and reinvestment, we have enough to live on, about $50k-$60k each year. We are both SAHPs. My parents are pressuring us to go back to work and save the money, in case our investments crash in the future. But we love being with DCs (6 & 5yo), and want to put off work until DCs are in high school, and then quit again when they are out of college. I just don't see working now and missing all of the freedom, "just in case" I have to work later. After all, what if I never have to work at all? Am I really taking such a big risk here, or are my parents just being protective, cautious parents? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Well first I'd say you didn't win a 'small' lottery because that's a lot of time to be out of work. Congratulations!! I think your parents are just being parents and worrying that you won't have enough to last. If you guys know you're fine if you live till 90, then great. But it might be fun to take on some freelance projects from time to time. That way you don't commit to a staff job, but pull in some money from time to time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Principal, not principle [ Reply | More ]
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^^and I agree with your parents. I don't know what work you expect to do for 4 years that would provide for college, retirement etc. $50-60K today isn't worth much 10 or 20 years down the road [ Reply | More ]
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If we are both work for that 9-10 years, that leaves the investment income free to help pay for college. If they need more than $200k each for college, I'm sure they can earn it themselves. Plus, no guarantee they'll both go to college and do a traditional 4-year degree. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm assuming that's OP's point - as long as they never touch the principal, and live within their means, they already have retirement covered. [ Reply | More ]
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Darn! How much did you win?? I am astonish there are actual winners, thought all lotteries are scams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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We won a little over $4M. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you have healthcare [ Reply | More ]
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It depends how you are investing the principal in order to earn that 50-60k/year. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd say you're taking a very big risk. One of you needs a job. [ Reply | More ]
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major VBA [ Reply | More ]
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How do you live on 50-60k? [ Reply | More ]
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np Most people in NYC live on this, after taxes & childcare are paid. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you really have enough to last until you're 90? If you're a risk taker, then take the risk, it's your life and your parents will be long gone and never know whether you die in poverty or not. [ Reply | More ]
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FAKE FAKE FAKE [ Reply | More ]
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I think it depends how much you have saved. Did you win $2m, or $20m. [ Reply | More ]
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do what makes you happy. having free time is an amazing thing, and makes for great quality of life. If you are worried, can both work PT? [ Reply | More ]
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That might be a good compromise, now that DCs will both be in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Ladies, I can use some good advice. I'm recently divorced and new to dating. I went on about 6 dates with a man, whom I really like. He was at my place last night, and we were watching a movie and another woman called him! He made a point of Showing me his phone and saying his friend used to date her. But he didn't specify what his relationship is with her. He also made a point of not taking her call. I didn't want to seem the jealous type or clingy after 6 dates, so I said its fine if he wants to pause the movie and answer his phone. He obviously didn't. He made it sound like he couldn't care less she was calling and wanted nothing to do with her. Later that night, he invited me to his friend's party this weekend. I'm kind of confused here. Do you think he's dating other people and why the fuss over the phone call? Couldn't he have just ignored it and not make such a scene about it? It's strange and not sure what to make of all of this. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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he is insecure - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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He likely had a thing for her but never acted on it and now he has moved on to you. I wouldn't worry about it. If he is invited you to a party to meet people he knows which means he is in to you. [ Reply | More ]
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He probably told you about her so that you wouldn't feel weird and wonder whether that's his "other" GF. If he'd ignored the call and not said who it was, you would still be wondering whether it was a woman. I think it's good that he told you who it was. Have you guys discussed exclusivity? [ Reply | More ]
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ITA I think he was showing you that he isn't interested in someone else and was trying to be polite about it. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: no, we never discussed being exclusive. We never slept together but last night, we had some intimate moments, but didn't sleep together. So I never saw dating others as an issue. But now, i feel differently. I don't want him makes with other women. That phone call incident is very weird. [ Reply | More ]
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I prefer men who rarely receive phone calls at night [ Reply | More ]
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Guy: it could be that his friend blew off the woman/ended it, and now she is calling him to try to get through to the friend. It's happened to me while on a date. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't like the "couldn't care less she was calling and wanted nothing to do with her". Either he's hiding something or rude behind people's backs. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, not buying the story that his friend used to date her. That's a stretch! I'm not as dumb as I look. ;) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Yesterday someone posted about their private school doing one to one music lessons and their kids being fluent in 2nd language after 2 years language immersion in the school. I am new to the private school process and would love to know which schools offer these type of services. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Fluent in two languages after two years of language immersion school=impossible. It is astounding to see how little some students progress in immersion settings. Before you say 'no', I'm a language teacher; I not only see it firsthand, but this is the conclusion of a lot of research: immersion schools are a great idea in theory, but you need to radically adjust your expectations. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: yes I didn't get a chance yesterday to inquire about the school, but I was very surprised to hear that the poster's child was both fluent in the language and playing an instrument through school lessons. My niece takes private piano lessons and has to practice daily and the my sil sits in on all the lessons and practices with the niece. The instructor insists that this is the only way to progress and master the correct technique. Some of this would obviously not be possible if the lessons were conducted through the school. [ Reply | More ]
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How old is your niece? I am not the poster yesterday, but my child have attended public school and is now in private school. We found they are very different in many aspects, but I think it depends on which schools you are talking about. [ Reply | More ]
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My niece is 7. I would love to hear your perspective on the differences you personally experienced. [ Reply | More ]
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Another language teacher: Perhaps at the Lycee Francais the kids are fluent after two years. Chapin and Brearley start Spanish and Chinese, respectively, in K, but while they sometimes tout that they use an immersion-method, they are not immersion schools. As opposed to an immersion school, where the kids speak only that language throughout the day (or for most of the day), at B and C they just speak the language during language class, which is like twice a week. As a result the kids are certainly not becoming fluent through the classes. [ Reply | More ]
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UNIS and Avenues for language. [ Reply | More ]
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The best privates like Trinity, Brearley and Collegiate are not immersion schools, but they are very strong in language. Most students take two foreign languages (one modern like French, Mandarin + one classics like Latin, Greek, etc). They start kids on foreign languages and music lessons as early as K, so they become second nature in their learning abilities. [ Reply | More ]
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My dc came into a private for 6th grade that supposedly offered language instruction from K. Dc was fine, despite having no language instruction. Except for a school like Lycée Francais, the 2nd language instruction in private K-5 is not going to make most students fluent. Nor will it make them a musician. My guess is that if a student is, they are getting outside lessons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are NYers so mean and angry? Even in Westchester County? I could kind of understand NYC, but generally speaking, people in NY metro area are not nice. Now I understand why, before moving here, I heard so many people say they can't stand New Yorkers. 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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in my experience, new yorkers aren't particularly mean. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not that they're mean. They just all genuinely believe that they should express every thought as they have it, and they count on other NYers to have thick enough skin that it will just roll off. [ Reply | More ]
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^ NYers all have a high self-esteem problem. [ Reply | More ]
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what are you talking about? are we emotionally expressive, yes, but i can't think of more than 1-2x in 25 years that anyone said anythign to me that was vaguely hurtful. [ Reply | More ]
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OP did not say hurtful. She said mean and angry. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you lower middle class? As you move upwards in class/money, I think the meanness increases. [ Reply | More ]
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no, i am not LMC. and i really have not had the experience of people being mean to me, or hurtful, more than a few times (and some of those times, i had done soemthing stupid). [ Reply | More ]
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+1 they are blunt no nonsense straight types but not mean per se IMO [ Reply | More ]
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Westchester mom here. I know what OP is saying. The moms here are MEAN. Not just blunt or no-nonsense, but straight up nasty. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thank you! I don't have time here to list all the experiences I've had... fortunately I've met a small group of women that are quite nice, as are their kids, and that's who we hang with. But generally speaking? It is NOT friendly here, not at all. I always thought NYers were this open, sophisticated, welcoming type of person. So many are just not that, not at all. It's been a real eye-opener for me. I love NY, I love NYC and I'm here to stay. But I approach people here very differently from when I first moved here. [ Reply | More ]
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what mean things have happened to you? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. I have seen moms almost come to blows at school drop-off. I've seen moms burst into tears after another mom makes a snarky comment. It's crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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i have been taking my kids to school for 10 years now and i have never experienced, seen or hard of anything similar. yes, in manhattan. a few crazy people do not a whole city make. [ Reply | More ]
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PP - I can only speak for Manhattan. Sorry you have to deal with mean Mommies, it sux. [ Reply | More ]
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I find it hard to believe that the moms at the TT NYC schools are any different. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't have children that age yet. Besides the post was about NYers in general not just moms [ Reply | More ]
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Ah. You'll see once your kids start school. [ Reply | More ]
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People who move to NY come here to social climb. It does not bring out the best in people. ANd yes they can be very mean. [ Reply | More ]
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ita. actually, they're pretty open and helpful. one of the most interesting things about ny is how open people are to meeting new folks. i have found smaller cities w/ more stagnant populations are seriously insular and socially much more challenging. [ Reply | More ]
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Westchester was not like this in the past. It used to be laid-back, respectable. It got bad in the 1990s with the influx of "new money" finance guys and their dimwit wives. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is what my chiro told me. He's born/bred NYC/WC. Said it was very different - and really nice - before all of that happened. 9/11 apparently sent a whole wave of them into WC as well. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep exactly [ Reply | More ]
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you realize that not so long ago this was what people said about jews moving in. "it used to be nice." [ Reply | More ]
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OR. omg. It's not about Jews or any ethnic group. It's about a certain "class" of people, for lack of a better word. They typically grew up middle-class or below (often in NJ or PA), came to NYC after college and made more money than God. It goes to their heads. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I think it's a class thing too. There are a lot of nouveaux riche in WC. Unfortunately, you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. My dad grew up there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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I never noticed that - have lived in both. Are you sure you aren't just seeing one small group of people and making generalizations? [ Reply | More ]
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I think NYers are some of the most compassionate people in the world. In times of crisis, I really believe we pull together as a community. We are often (not always) nice to tourists and help direct them if lost or if they have questions how to get places. I'm not just speaking for myself but from what I see others do as well. [ Reply | More ]
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True, but to be honest, I think a lot of being nice to the tourists comes as a result of NYC pride. New Yorkers love to tell everyone they are from NYC and to show their knowledge of the city. I do also agree the city came together after 9/11 in an unbelievable way, and I grew up in a time when I used to go the old ticker tape parades, which was also amazing. But I think a lot of the giving directions to visitors is both pride in being picked out as a native and a bit of vba [ Reply | More ]
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I'm just trying to be honest without being too cynical. People can have multiple motives for being nice, while still actually being nice. [ Reply | More ]
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Because there are so many people jockeying for position (social + financial + actual physical space) that there is no room to let down their guard. NYC is not for the weak. If you're not swimming, you're sinking. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yes, I came to realize this the other day. Everyone here is primarily set on striving for something, your list is pretty comprehensive. So relationships are really not a primary concern, other than for the most pragmatic purposes. It's very different from the rest of the world. [ Reply | More ]
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you are talking about, at best, a very small subset of new yorkers. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I'm talking about NYC/NY metro area, yes. And your point is? My post is about a specific area, not all of NY. [ Reply | More ]
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no, i am saying,the people you are talking about are a tiny percentage of the population of NYC, or the NYC metro area. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I disagree. The vast majority of people I've encountered here behave as I described. The nice, genuine, caring people are definitely in the minority. Quite a few on this thread would seem to agree with me. [ Reply | More ]
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but by your own description you are encountering a small subset. high HHI people, right? not people living in yonkers or flushing or jamaica or inwood or canarsie. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound mean and angry. [ Reply | More ]
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I moved here from the Midwest and thought the same thing until I realized they are just in a hurry and do not mean to be rude. If you need help, directions, most will happily help you. [ Reply | More ]
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this. i'm happy to help if you don't waste my time. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I'm not talking about asking directions, really. Although in their daily, non-consequential interactions, they are quite brusque to the point of being rude, most of the time. I signed my daughter up for swim classes yesterday at my town's office. The woman there acted like every question I asked was 1/something I should know already (how possible, I wasn't born here??) and 2/seemed super annoyed to have answer any of my questions. I was like... I'm just trying to sign my daughter up for class, right? Whatever, I'm done with being surprised by this. Just pondering how/why they (in general) came to be so openly nasty with other human beings. Is it 9/11? Is it a history of competing in a very small space, like rats (lol!)? Is it a history of immigrant cultures? It's curious. [ Reply | More ]
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np Have you noticed they drive crazy and aggressive too? Every day, I am aggressively tailgated by some crazy mom trying to get her snowflake to soccer practice on time. I just hope no small animals run in front of my car. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: omg, yes, yes, YES! It's insane. They're all so freaking crazy on the roads. I pull over when one of those types is behind me. Don't they see all the accidents on the roads all the time? They are mean, angry and also kind of stupid... lol! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes when I first moved here, I assumed all these crazy drivers were asshole teenage boys. Then i started looking more closely in my rear view mirror, and I realized it was MOTHERS with kids in the car. lol [ Reply | More ]
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Yep, got tailgated & flipped the bird by a mommy in a mini-van on the LIE. It's LI so there is that. [ Reply | More ]
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I posted above. I think it's a couple of things. Number one (I will be flamed for this), most of the nasties did NOT grow up UMC in a nice place like Westchester. They grew up working-class (often had a divorced, working mother) and had to fight and scrap for everything. They moved to NYC after attending their state college, and met their finance DHs, who they saw as a meal ticket. Life has been about competing for them. Not about forming community or being kind. Being kind is not what got them that $4 million dollar house. They have an incredibly self-centered mentality. And when everyone is like that, it's contagious, because being kind and generous gets you nowhere. Everyone is a taker. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I won't flame you - ITA. This is exactly what I feel here - the taking mentality. Few seem interested in getting to know you, forming relationships, friendships. It's lonely. I was very, very lonely my first few years here. It's gotten much better. One of the nice NYers (she moved here when she was 16), was born in the Midwest. Go figure. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes I am the same way, I found a small group of people who I get along with. But most people have no interest in forming friendships unless they feel I can "do something" for them, either socially or professionally. They are very cold and calculating. And to be honest, they all seem miserable. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you give examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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I am not OP, but here is an example: I was at the gym the other day (Westchester). Some skinny blonde trophy wife was there with her 2 toddlers. She was on the elliptical and the kids were PLAYING on the equipment. When I tried to gently kick her kid off the treadmill so I could use it, she gave me the worst attitude. I'm like seriously? Your 4 year old has no right to this treadmill. HOw does this make any sense? What the everloving fuck? [ Reply | More ]
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^^It's not just manners and kindness per se, it's that they lack common sense and think they own everything. It's all me, me, me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Because rich people are mean [ Reply | More ]
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I've lived in NYC for 24 years (grew up in the South). It was an adjustment because NYers were a bit straight forward but it was something that I came to expect. We have lived in Brooklyn the whole time and honestly, the only time that I'm taken back by "mean" people is in Manhattan during the work day. I'm even a little less tolerant when I'm here during the day and I can just feel the stress level. Other than that, we know our neighbors and shop owners and I think that kind of familiarity is a positive. I can't imagine living in a place where the majority of people are strangers. That's just me. [ Reply | More ]
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NYC was ranked #1 on the Unhappiest Cities in America list. Less happy than Detroit. DETROIT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] So... Dilemma!! We just got notice of an amazing park avenue apartment on sale and it is NOT going to be here for long so we have to act fast. Problem is, we were really hoping to live on the UWS. I've spent barely any time on the UES... How is it? Are the restaurants/shopping as good? I'm thinking no... But our kid's school is here so that's a plus. If you live here, do you like it? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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UES is very uppity and striverish. I prefer UWS without a question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Shit. Thanks for the response... We don't know what to do!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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LMAO...UWS is not all that different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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or: UWS is much more laid back. Believe me. I went into some boutique store on Madison and the store clerk completely ignored me. That has never happened to me in any store, and I was born and raised in this city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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UES is loud and annoying with so much construction. Go UWS... SO much nicer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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UWS is so dirty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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School district MUCH better UES than UWS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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UES is fine and at the end of the day not all that different than UWS (and I say that as a long time UWSer). if you love the apartment grab it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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Her kids are a obviously in private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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I find it hysterical that people here are saying that Park Avenue is loud and anything but lovely. I don't know what cross street you are looking at, but if the school is there and you like the apartment, go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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*1, you're living the dream honey. I can agree that some parts of UES are not amazing (Lexington is great) but come on... It's better than UWS by a long shot IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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*isn't great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Grab the apt...crazy not to. The UWS is not all that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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See the Apt first, photos can be deceiving. If you like it, I would not bat an eyelash to move to Park Ave on the UES..close to the park, DC's school, decent restaurants and shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I think UES can be so nice. Esp if your children are already going to school there, it's so convenient! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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+1, why would you want to commute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Boring, but neighborhoody. But so is UWS. UWS restaurants SUCK, IMHO. You will be fine in UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do some people turn every little thing into a bloody tradition? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Vacationing with the ILs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yep..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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People don't get it's not a vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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You can say that again-it's close enough to noon right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Absolutely. Hang tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Shopping is now a goddamn tradition!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Reading the problems with nannies and teachers that UB moms have, I feel really fortunate that my dc had the best nannies, public school teachers, and music teachers. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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Congratulations. Where are they attending college these days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Still in HS :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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In almost every case, the problem is the UB mom, not the nanny or the teacher. It's like the dating advice posts - there's a reason those women are single. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Very interesting link: https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/fields/2256.html. The average age of first birth in the US is 25.4. It's higher in virtually all European countries. UK 27.8, Switzerland 30.2, Portugal 29.2, Netherlands 29.4, Luxembourg 30.2, Denmark 29.1, France 28.1, Germany 29.2, Greece 31.2, Norway 28.5, Italy 30.3. The only "European" country that has a lower age than the US is Russia, at 24.6. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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With the exception of the UK and France all of the countries you listed are very racially homogeneous. Extract the birth age of African-Americans and Latinas and compare to get an apples to apples comparison if you are trying to make some salient point about mc/lmc America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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^mc/umc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] how do most moms decide to stay at home vs. work? Is it mostly a function of finances or more a function of personalities? How does the math work out in NYC? 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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It's mostly personalities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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For us it's a function of personalities. I WOH, but this morning when DC said, "I miss you when you go to work every day." I almost came in and quit. Then I reminded myself that when school starts in the fall DC will not be bored home with nanny every day and won't miss me the same way. I should have done full time camp!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Only if you have enough/make enough for it not to be a function of finances! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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For us it's a function of finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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I wanted to stay home and we could afford it. The amount of money I am worth in the marketplace would not be worth the cost of childcare unless I preferred to work. Which I don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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So you made less than a nanny and you expect no career growth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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I made around 40K in the mid 1990s and did not expect to grow in a career that I did not want to pursue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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I have a college degree but no job skills to speak of. In the late 80s and early 90s I was a secretary because I could type, but these days everyone can type and I am not what you'd call proficient on any kind of software. I could probably work at a daycare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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What does your DH do? Hope you don't mind my asking, just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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VP in a tech company [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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NP: in regards to salary, nanny's pay comes out of our after tax dollars. At $750 a week (and some of them get paid much more), you'll pay about 40K per year, but must earn about 75K per year just to break even. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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What's cost of childcare these days in NYC for 2 toddlers? Assume FT. Mom works 50 hours a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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$400 per week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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On what planet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Planet Earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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What? No way. Much more than that, exp for 50 hours!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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^^The range I have heard is $650 to $950 a week, plus taxes, healthcare, etc for some on top of that. Plus cleaning help, which I would say most WOH people have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Full-time nanny for 2 DCs costs about $800 per week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Wow. I pay only $400 per week for 2 dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Where are you located? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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UWS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Do you like your nanny? I pay much more! Is it 50 hours a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Wow. I am on UWS and pay $750/week for 1 dc! That's after 6 years of raises but I didn't even start anywhere close to $400 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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I'm wondering the same. A lot of my friends from HS SAH in the NYC area and they are all keeping up with the Joneses (buying lots of stuff, don't appear to be living on a budget), yet I doubt any of their DHs earn more than 200k per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Agreed they must save ZERO. I don't know how people live like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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I don't know how people are ever so sure of how much other DHs earn or how much others spend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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finances are a big consideration but obviously not determinative for some people , since there are families with two parents workng who could live on one income, and families who cut their budgets significantly to have a parent at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Most of the women I know SAH because they hated their jobs but claim it's important for them to be at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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I stay home because DH works crazy hours and if I worked too, our kids would be raised by nannies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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My mom moved to Brooklyn and was very willing (read: pushing) to take care of our kids. Free child care pretty much sealed the deal for me to keep working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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I wish I had this! My mother doesn't live in the state, but she would 100% be my "nanny" if she lived here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Ha. My mother is unstable and thinks the world owes her. You are lucky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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From what I have seen, the stress of working and having reliable childcare, that both parents are happy with results in both parents saying that it would be better if the mom stays home then come the next two kids and 10 years has passed. Mom is intimidated to return, family has come to rely on her services, then everyone says...well at this point it's not really worth it, entry level doesn't pay.....and then you turn around and kids have left for college! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Personality, for us. DH wanted a big family, loves kids, and loved being a SAHP until they were in elementary. I did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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I love my job, I'm primary breadwinner, plus I wouldn't really enjoy staying home all day w the kids and house. In our case its math and sanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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on a side note - would most working moms agree a pt/flexible job is always preferable to a ft/non-flexible job? assuming finances aren't a huge issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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WOHM here and yes. I wish I could have a part-time or flexible opportunity. Full-time is just too much for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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+1. Wish I could work p/t. But also wish more DHs wanted to (and were willing to) pick up more childcare hours themselves. At one of my jobs there was a guy (very senior) whose wife also had a very senior career and they made the joint decision to split "reduced hours" schedules. Their clout at their workplaces made this possible. They each took about a 30% pay cut, he worked earlier hours and she worked later, and they had a part-time sitter for the middle of the day. Often the sitter would bring the baby to our offices. I had so much respect for that guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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NP Yes for me. I work pt (freelance) right now. It's ideal, but hopefully can pick up more hours and $ as my kids get older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Finances were a big factor for me. I got sick of my career, etc., but I never would have stopped working if I couldn't have afforded it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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I think this is a chicken and egg question. If you have the type of personality that wants to (not just can) excel in the work place you are more likely to end up in a situation (as I have) where you make more money than your spouse. So in my case it ends up being a function of personality that has led to a financial condition that makes it difficult to stay at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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you also see a lot of girls who are that personality but wind up meeting men who are extreme high earners, because that's what they ended up surrounded by. then it makes it very easy to stay at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Agreed. But, my experience is that many of the people I know who work at the level I do and are married to high earners don't quit b/c their income is so material that even with high earner dh it would make a material impact on lifestyle. My DH could technically support us but it seems really silly to give up my earning potential. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Financially it may make it easier but does not change the personality. My DH makes in the 7?figures, I make in the mid six figures, I could easily quit but I am good at my job and would be bored silly at home. I have friends in similar jobs that quit and they all lament that they wish they could go back to their jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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I guess I'm retired, since I busted my hump for 25 miserable years before throwing in the towel. I made a very good living and saved a lot of money along the way, so I don't have to work anymore. I don't miss work one minute of the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] There's a reason NYC is the most miserable city in the country, and that post by that bitch complaining that her husband is too nice illustrates is perfectly. NY draws unhappy people looking to remain the same. So much for the "tournament"...I'd imagine the big prize is a lifetime supply of antidepressants. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Yeah ... how's life in Happyland? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Happy as hell, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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She wasn't complaining he was too nice. I am very reserved and this kind of constant interaction with strangers would be very unnerving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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I have to respectfully disagree. I'm a very happy person and I'm drawn to NYC. I don't let others define my happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Ils golden retriever attacked my almost two year old this weekend. We were outside, fil immediately put the dog inside in the (large) laundry room. Mil let him out and demanded to know what dd had done (nothing, we were all watching, they were rolling around in the grass popping bubbles). They want us to come over again this weekend but mil refuses to keep the dog in another room. Sil also has two young dcs and says she will not come over unless the dog is locked up. Fwiw he did not draw blood but dd has a bruised ear and had teeth marks on her neck. WWYD? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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See them at your house. I grew up like this...my grandparents had a cocker spaniel who'd been abused and was fine with adults but hated and bit kids. All 4 of us cousins got bit by this dog...my one cousin BADLY. Now that I'm grown with grown kids, I ask my mother wtf she was thinking bringing us to that house. She had no balls where her mother was concerned though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Herein lies the problem, we are remodeling and can't host yet. In a few weeks this will be a solution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Then you don't go. Or meet at a restaurant. This is sort of a hotbutton for me, and I am a HUGE dog lover. But I had a dog that bit one of my ds when he was young and the dog was gone the next day. You simply can't have kids around a biting dog. But if they won't cooperate, that's it. Your kids safety > their stupid feelings. And how many weekends do you need to spend with inlaws anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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this this this. (another dog lover) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Thanks. Dh is of the same mindset but mil is making it out like we are totally unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Let her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Then just don't see them for a few weeks. You are the mom and run your own family now. You get to make the rules now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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And you can't go 3 weeks without seeing them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Lol, I could go forever... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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So. Problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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If only! That would solve A LOT of problems lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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what you are doing - don't go unless dog is in another room. That said, was the dog rolling around on the grass with them? Not sure I would let any dog roll around on the grass with my 2 year old. very easy for the dog to think play time in a way that is too rough for a small child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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this, it is not the dogs fault [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Playing too rough is one thing but the dog was attacking, I was sitting right there and picked dd up and even in my arms the dog continued to jump and snap at her. Teeth showing, snarling/growling, angry attacking. He has never done anything like this before and has always been around kids, since he was a puppy. You're right about how we were letting her play, we were totally trusting the dog and luckily we got a wake up call without her getting seriously injured. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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If the dog had been serious, it would have drawn blood. You are overreacting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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You're wrong. We are just lucky that we were close and could grab her and the dog so fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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So wrong. My dad worked in the ER when I was little. He is adamant that dogs never be allowed to get near children's faces, even if they're happy dogs. He fixed too many facial lacerations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Did the dog truly attack? teeth bared growling hackles raised and with ears & tail down? if not, then more like was he playing rough and DD got scratched by claws or teeth. just keep an eye on them next time and don't let kids get down on the ground w the dog. if so, then tell them that dog has to be kept away from kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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See above, it was scary, definitely NOT playing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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I wouldn't come over unless the dog was locked up, but my DH would probably have killed the dog, literally. He told me if my mother's dog ever hurt our kids he would kill it an I believe him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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This was my dh after the fact. He had a huge blowout with his mom actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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You have no choice. You don't go over there. Period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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ITA and I love dogs and have one, but this sounds dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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You can't go there. Once a dog bites it is really hard to stop them even with endless training. Teeth mark on the neck is really alarming. I love dogs and have had them my entire life but I wouldn't bring my young child into that environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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ITA other posters - whether dog meant to attack or was just playing (and I think if it was only teeth marks on the neck, not blood, it was play - a dog's jaws are well-evolved to crush and tear prey's/threat's jugular when they mean business!), you have to keep db away from sog. 2 is very little, an adult retriever is big, and this dog has not been adequately trained around young children or else just doesn't have the right disposition for young children. You have to avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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There is no question. Protect the HUMAN BEING from the ANIMAL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you bring this up? I have been carpooling with another mom for daycamp, she does drop-off and I do pick-up. Lately I have been having some issues with her 7 yo DS. Yesterday he refused to get in the car, lay down in the parking lot and started kicking me, laughing the whole time. One of the fathers had to come over and help me (the kid is as big as I am). I am not really close with the mother and I'm not sure how to tell her about this. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Carpooling is for convenience. This SUX. Break it off and tell her why, starting tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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"Jane, yesterday Johnny did X. Is there a good solution to dealing with this the next time because a father had to step in and keep Johnny from hurting me further. If this happens again and I can't deal with it, I'm not putting myself at risk. How do you want me to handle this? I won't leave him there but I can't take this on." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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ITA be nice about it and say something like "I'm sure he's tired after a long day" or something but no way can you do this again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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You are the same size as a 7yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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op. He is enormous. His mother is like 6 feet tall and 300 lbs, he takes after her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Just say this won't work out because of what happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Just tell her the facts, no your feelings. This happened yesterday. I can't keep up the carpool. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Tell her what happened and say to continue with carpool you will need to do drop off so she can put kid in car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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The mother knows that her son is a situation. If the carpooling set up is really essential for you due to work obligations then I would try to find a way to make it work. Next time you talk to her in person, why don't you ask her how she deals with her son when he resists getting in the car, etc. Ask her if she has any tips or perhaps a punishment that he will truly respond to. Maybe they have some sort of activity or toy at home that you can tell him his mother will take away. Probably not. But seems like it's worth a shot to figure it out before scrapping the set up entirely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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What is this DS's father like? I agree with the advice in post #2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Finished week 3 of Couch to 5K and I weigh 3 lbs more. What is going on?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Muscle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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It's impossible to gain 3 pounds of muscle in 3 weeks. Unless you are taking anabolic steroids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Water weight. I bet you will lose 6 lbs very suddenly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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you are eating too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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This. People exercise for half an hour and thing that translates into another 1000 calories. OTOH, it's unlikely you've put on 3 lbs of fat in 3 weeks...something else afoot here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Noting that most of the little kids flooding the Texas border were brought up in the Cathlolic faith, and noting that Catholicism champions the sanctity of life and large families regardless of economic circumstance (have that kid on the taxpayer's dime, just have that kid), do you think the Pope would consider altering Catholic doctrine - maybe say, "Hey, use a condom occassionally, the U.S. taxpayer is bleeding out supporting all of your Latin American kids?". 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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I DO think the Catholic Church position on BC has been problematic. Most Americans don't care, but others do. This is the Pope to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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^Problematic is an understatement! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Also Catholic doctrine says no sex before marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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This if your going to follow the contraceptive rules, then why ignore the no sex before marriage and no divorce rules? I'm not catholic myself, but it seems pretty selective to say god wants me to have many lovers and create many babies! I don't quite think that is the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Right. Catholic Church encourages the rhythm method too but many poor people aren't educated on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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A lot of people DO wait until they are married, in Mexico, but then have many kids, especially because they marry young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Hopefully, he changes the position. I don't think he will find your rationale compelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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No kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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The problem in those regions is not primarily one of population growth. It is one of violence and poverty. Both of which are -- at least partially -- due to external factors (drug trade and globalized agribusiness.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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No. WTF. The Pope is not going to tinker with 2 millenia of doctrine to accomodate a temporary immigration hiccup in the United States. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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I think MS-13 and the other drug cartels are more responsible for the kids flooding the border than the Catholic faith. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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the pope isn't changing centuries if catholic theology to help the US taxpayer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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