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[ - ] Now i am craving papaya and DH just came back from buying groceries. Damn you whoever kept inserting "irresistible" into that thread 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Dh does the grocery shopping? EW [ Reply | More ]
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np lol why "ew". FWIW my DH never does grocerry shopping either. just curious why you think its ew/. Does he buy like gross stuff liek canned orange juice and ragu pasta sauce... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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My DH shops too...and thats a problem why? [ Reply | More ]
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After you send him back to get a few, be sure to write your name on them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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I don't understand the love for papaya. They have very little flavor, even if you add a squirt of lime on it. Mango and guava are where it's at! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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+1 Mango. And kiwis - so easy to eat, in their own little bowl! [ Reply | More ]
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OR: No, I can't get down with kiwis. More for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for somebody to come to my home to give my 6 year old recorder lessons - downtown Manhattan - any rec's? thanks! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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recorder lessons? are you kidding me, get a book and do it together... [ Reply | More ]
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isn't 6 old enough for a real instrument? [ Reply | More ]
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the recorder is a real instrument ... [ Reply | More ]
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Not as real as a flute [ Reply | More ]
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Not as difficult is more accurate. My father taught woodwinds and played all of them, including the recorder. When he died I inherited all his sheet music. You'd be surprised at the sheet music out there for the recorder. Lots of 16th century stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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lol this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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I'll save you time, money and a headache: Open a window, toss the recorder out of the window, close the window. A win/win all around. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: Be sure not to hit anyone with said recorder. Carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Any derm mom on? I have a raised birthmark that got irritated by a new bra (I fell asleep in it and guess it pressed or rubbed) and was bleeding a little this morning. Skin cancer runs in my family so I get checked every six months, most recently in December, and all was clear. Is the bleeding something to be alarmed about and get checked right away, or is it just like a normal cut? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Even though you injured it, the protocol is that if it is bleeding it must be biopsied now. That's what my derm said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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I don't want to scare you, but the exact same thing happened to me last summer. It turned out to be a basal cell skin cancer. I would get it checked out right away, especially since skin cancer runs in your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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np. I had one a little while ago. I posted about it here. Same thing, a mole I had missed because it was right at my bra line and on my back. DH took it off (dr.) and had it biopsied and it wasn't anything. I hope you have the same result OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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OP: ok, will try to get an appt tomorrow. Thanks (and ugh, now so worried). To PP, hope you are all clear now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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What kind of birthmark is it? Is it something like seborrheic keratosis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Not sure - from the pics I just saw looking it up online, maybe... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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You can have those removed very easily. Since you're going in anyway, you might just want it scraped off. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. Yes, will ask Dr about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] There is some seriously bad Dr. Laura style advice going on here this morning. Praise your man! Don't criticize him or he will leave you! Thank him for the air you breathe! You're lucky to have a man! Please. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Eh, I don't think there is anything wrong with being positive and grateful as long as it's reciprocal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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Yeah, I didn't say that at all. I basically said that for years I made really bad choices when it came down to how I related to my DH. I could have done A, and I did B. Someone mentioned Jon Gosselin below. Well, for years I was Kate. Everything was kids, kids, kids, DH was an idiot because he gave them pepsi, DH was using too much lighter fluid on the barbeque, he was late coming home, why didn't you kiss me goodbye, why didn't you use the coupons I gave you ... if anyone watched that show, she pretty much believed every day she was a great mom and she was obviously a great wife because she was raising that guy's 8 kids, dammit. She probably thought they had 8 kids, where's he going to go, so she treated him like a 9th child. And guess what? I bet that guy did not start out to be a bad guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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I fucking hate dr. laura [ Reply | More ]
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But some people need to hear her blunt advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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NP I actually really like her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands because she gives you real insight into how traditional minded men think i.e they want to take care of you and their family and feel like they are a successful provider warrior man...and if they feel like this, it will make them provide more financially emotionally, child care, household help-wise. they don't want to feel like a downtrodden kicked down sad guy who is getting bitched at all the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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True. But I think 99% of women nag whether they work or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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YEah I do not like how in this book she says that all women woudl LOVE to be SAHM and if you are SAHM you should be so thankful to your DH for allowing you to do this by making enough $. But I have foudn that the info regardng the male psyche are useful even if you and DH both work. [ Reply | More ]
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I think that both partners should be equally grateful and appreciative of everything that both do for a good relationship/marriage. nagging, complaining, bickering, criticizing is not good for any relationship. from either partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Dr. Laura doesnt think that men are excluded. She just thinks that it starts with the woman becuase the guy is going to want to follow her and please her. Woman sets the tone and the guy will follow, and if you treat him right, he will treat you like a queen because guys are programmed to want to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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Dr. Laura is a divorced WOHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Third date last night with much older beau (43/64). I think we're going to end up married. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Trollicious! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Nope, totally really. I've been posting updates throughout the whole relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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Your relationship has consisted of what--2 or 3 dates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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3 dates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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I should say, I've bern posting about it since I first met him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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What happened? Details! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Dinner at his house, wine, brandy, talking, lovemaking....lovely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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Do either of you have kids or want them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Shockingly, he brought up having a baby last night! He said he'd loved raising his daughter, and would love to do it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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Good luck! My parents were also a second marriage for my dad who had grown children and was 20 years older than my mom. They were a bit younger but she had me at 40 (32 years ago when that was very rare) and they're both still doing great and I had a lovely childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Oh thank you for telling me that! So, your dad is now 92? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Yes! He's had some health issues in the past 20 years but is still active and engaged in his life and friends. Most of his friends are my moms age now (they moved from when he'd lived most of his adult life about 25 years ago and became friends with other parents from my school). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Oh, nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Why do you want to be married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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I think he and I could make each other very happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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But why do you want to marry? Have you been married before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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I have not. He has. I want a partnership, and the commitment of marriage. I want to share a home and family life with someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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OK, that explains it all. That explains why you are so obsessed with this budding relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Not "so obsessed," just happy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Obsessed. [ Reply | More ]
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You asked me why I wanted to get married; is there any answer that wouldn't have provoked nastiness from you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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It's just like having daddy take care of you again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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Lol. Gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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so happy for you! i've been following your posts. anything come up that made you feel the age difference last night? [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! The age difference is only a problem when I step back and look analytically at the future. When we are together, in the moment, I don't notice it for the most part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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good. everything sounds great so far. GL. [ Reply | More ]
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Candidly, the sex wasn't all that great, but I think it was more about me being surprised at my shortcomings at age 43 than about him. [ Reply | More ]
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what do you mean by shortcomings? [ Reply | More ]
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She got to have lots of shortcomings she has to date a guy 20 yrs older [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Well, I realized that *I* wasn't as energetic and, um, proactive? as I used to be...and I realized that with an older man more responsibility for the hotness factor would fall on me. It's the first time I've ever thought "huh, sex for me isn't what it used to be." [ Reply | More ]
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i think sometimes it takes a few tries before 2 people get in sync. i wouldn't think this has anything to do with his or your age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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Yep. When you're 43 and never been married but want to be, this is your last hurrah. Always accept the blame in order to increase the odds of trapping your man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:14 PM Flag
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what is your story? are you fat or undesirable in some other way? Why did you have to go so old? [ Reply | More ]
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No, I'm not. He is a well known in my community, and I had heard of him long before meeting him; so, when I did meet him I was intrigued and went out of my way to get to know him. We hit it off instantly. [ Reply | More ]
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So when you're 63 and ready to travel the world, but he's 84 and can barely walk around the block, how's that going to work? [ Reply | More ]
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I do recognize that as a problem. I don't know yet how that's going to work. [ Reply | More ]
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Posted above - my parents are now 72&92 and travel the world together. Happy and often with me and their grandkids! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My oldest dc is 11 yo and I have had 2 long term nannies and a few short term ones over the years. A good nanny cooks and eats with kids and you don't even notice food being gone. A bad nanny doesn't care about her employer and ears and dies whatever she pleases while aggravating the employer. The right management decision in this situation is to change nannies as fundamentally the type if nanny who is inconsiderate will be problematic in many other ways. No amount if talking, explaining or managing will fix this issue. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Did you have live ins though? They do get time off and should be allowed to eat without children. Plus that OP had a baby who I assume doesn't eat three cooked meals a day. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes I have. With a live-in it is even more important for her to grasp her place in the family. [ Reply | More ]
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You're the one who brought this person into the house. I still don't get how you think you won't notice food missing with an extra person there. Was your nanny permitted to eat food the children didn't eat or were you dictating Her meals for her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Since starting kindergarten, DS has become a nightmare. He throws temper tantrums and talks back. Is it possible this is a function of being in a SS school? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The scare tactics are starting [ Reply | More ]
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OP: huh? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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Tired is more likely. Plus it's a lot of time with all-new personalities. Have you scheduled any play dates? I've done them and that helped my kid's anxiety (he's at a coed) [ Reply | More ]
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This is a fake post. Nobody would mention the SS thing as the first possibility when so many other things are different [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is not fake. Maybe it's not the fact that the school is SS or maybe it's some other facet of the school but school is the other thing that changed around the same time he changed. He's never acted like a high energy typical boy so I wonder if being around all boys has encouraged him to act up. [ Reply | More ]
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But wasn't he around boys before - not all boys, but some, and I am sure he was playing with more boys in preK because the gender separation starts around 4-5c. It wasn't the longer day, greater academics, new environment etc? Come on ... [ Reply | More ]
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He is overtired [ Reply | More ]
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what does this term mean?? relatively new to ub and this is one i just cant guess from use and context [ Reply | More ]
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OP is trying to discourage others from picking single sex schools. Private kindergarten decisions come out in 12 days [ Reply | More ]
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SS=single sex school [ Reply | More ]
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jeez. Thanks. embarrassed how much I thought about this [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is the Gotham Tennis program a good way to start a 6yo boy? Is there a better program or should we take lessons? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm in the suburbs so not familiar with Gotham Tennis but I play a lot of tennis as various clubs throughout the area. Clubs in our area have tons of group lessons for young children. I think this would be a good starting point. See if he likes it and go from there as the possibilities are endless. GL! It's such a great sport : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Just saw gone girl. Well done on the fucked up measure. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I read the book and loved it. Was it as good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Yeah. I liked it. Rosamund Pike rocks it as one crazy ass bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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I never got why he didn't just leave her in the end anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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He really wanted a child, I don't think they made that clear in the movie. [ Reply | More ]
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I think I remember something like that from the book (admittedly I read it pretty quickly). But you would have to want a child pretty bad to stay with that level of crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, in the movie they made it more about his being trapped, because if he left her and the baby, he would be pilloried. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh. good point. I missed that. [ Reply | More ]
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I still don't understand how she did not get busted at the end. Did the police and FBI just completely forget about the gaping head wound she was supposed to have, that spilled two pints of blood all over her kitchen? [ Reply | More ]
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Those loose ends got tied up pretty loosely IMHO [ Reply | More ]
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This. I also thought it would be very easy to prove she did all of the credit card shopping. [ Reply | More ]
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I read that book and I have totally forgotten the plot. I remember the book totally fell apart about 3/4 of the way through. Was the last portion of the movie a bit more fleshed out than the book? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here. A good friend and I were lamenting our decision to marry Jewish women. (I am Jewish, he's not.) We both are very hard working, successful, and responsible, and are loving, involved fathers. But the expectations are sky high, and the complaining/criticism is non-stop. Whereas a gentile woman basically is trained to let the man do as he pleases... even to a fault... drinking problem develops, it is what it is. I think the demanding/never satisfied attitude probably does push us to be "better" fathers/husbands, but probably not happier ones. And ultimately may backfire. So I guess my message to all those Jewish DWs out there... please, for the love of God, for the long-term health of your husbands and families, stop with the constant kvetching. We are not Yiddish speaking immigrants who accept that their lives must be miserable. Stop acting like your mother and grandmother. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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What percentage of residents of Trollandia are Jewish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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It's possibly a troll here but the complaints are pretty real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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No, it's definitely a troll, and no points are valid. Did you notice how women lose in every instance? Gentile women- pathetic pushovers who let their DH's be bad husbands and fathers, Jewish women- nasty bitches who make sure their DH's are good husbands and fathers but make them miserable in the process. The only way to win is to NOT marry a guy like OP. [ Reply | More ]
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Does troll suggest I'm lying? Given your point about women losing, doesn't that reinforce the idea that I'm a man in the situation described? [ Reply | More ]
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Idk. I would ask a real man's opinion, but considering he woke up to a blow job and bacon today (not at the same time, natch), he appears to not have any criticism to add about wives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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are you Jewish? if not, you are proving my point. between the bacon and the blowjobs, you definitely don't sound Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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I'm not Jewish, but I'm not proving your point. Marriage is not a no-sum game that one spouse has to "lose" in order for the other to "win". I can do nice things for my DH without him reading it as a pathetic grab to keep him around. He does nice things for me that I appreciate as simply nice gestures- not as manipulation tactics. Sorry your marriage isn't like that- the problem is you and your wife, not women or the institution of marriage. [ Reply | More ]
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well said. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I meant men complaining about their wives like this. [ Reply | More ]
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I genuinely don't think my DH complains about me, nor I about him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Maybe not yours, but lots of men do complain. I used to work the bar at a golf course. [ Reply | More ]
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Non-Jewish wives I know complain just as much [ Reply | More ]
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True, but Jewish wives have a lock on a special brand of nagging. It is a stereotype for a reason. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't write like a man [ Reply | More ]
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Correct. Obvious bait fail. [ Reply | More ]
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Bingo [ Reply | More ]
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just writing with a female audience in mind. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like a loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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You clearly don't know many Irish women. We are ball busters. Although we will let you drink. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1. So we can drink with you. [ Reply | More ]
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Pearls here. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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I am Jewish and I do have high standards for my dh, myself and dcs. My dh knows where the door is... He is welcome to find someone who will have lower expectations of both him and herself. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like someone most people hate. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know of anyone who hates me. I am very direct though. [ Reply | More ]
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I am certain you are an uptight insufferable bitch who overestimates everything about herself. [ Reply | More ]
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Perhaps. Your opinion is if very little relevance to me [ Reply | More ]
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I hate people like this. You use the excuse of being "direct" as a way to be shitty to those around you and absolve yourself of basic decency. And I'm sure that you're the person who loses her shit if someone dares to be "direct" with you. [ Reply | More ]
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IA that we don't have to like each other [ Reply | More ]
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The nagging and "high expectations" would be worth it maybe for commitment and love, but the 'see your way out' bullshit means you really should be alone [ Reply | More ]
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There are two options: 1. I lower my expectations 2. You walk or you accept me for who I am. #1 isn't going to happen as it would mean I am no longer myself thus we are at door #2. I don't think I am this way because I am Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
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You realize you basically are saying, do everything exactly the way I want it, or we get divorced? [ Reply | More ]
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No, I am saying I am not going to change my personality for my dh. I don't expect things to always go my way which is different from having low expectations [ Reply | More ]
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applause for you! [ Reply | More ]
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so you are on here on a Sunday morning complaining about your wife instead of spending time with her and kids? So she is right to nag you. Why do so many Jewish men think they need to be indulged every second of every day? Ugh.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a birth control recommendation. For those over 40, what are you using? If the pill, tell me which brand. My boobs are swollen and miz on the pill and I need an alternative. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Mirena [ Reply | More ]
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hated it [ Reply | More ]
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Love mine, although I know some have had bad experiences. Have been using it for about 7 years (you replace every 5). 45yo. [ Reply | More ]
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Generic lower-dose combination pill. No placebo week, so no hormone swings/pms/period/side effects. [ Reply | More ]
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name please [ Reply | More ]
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Amethyst (Levonorgestrel/ethinyl estradiol) [ Reply | More ]
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Dh got snipped. I highly recommend it [ Reply | More ]
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this. plus below [ Reply | More ]
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Menopause [ Reply | More ]
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np I wish! But I have heard too many stories of women who thought they were over the line and then got pregnant, and my mother and aunt both were 50 before they were fully mentalpaused. I don't need to be abortion shopping in my 40s! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have been feeling a lot of regret about sending my dd to K. She made the cutoff by 2 weeks. Lots of kids in the class were kept out a year so she is the youngest and there are many who are 1+ years older. She is handling herself fine now. She blends in well with the class, is reading at a 1st grade level, etc. We chose to send her because she is bright, energetic and always rises to a challenge. But when I think ahead to the middle school years and her being the youngest and classmates being 13 when she is 11 makes me very concerned. I feel like we made the wrong choice. I think she would do fine academically either way. It's not at all about competitive advantage but more emotional and social maturity. Can anyone share any insight? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It is WAYYY to soon to worry about middle school. My dd was among the very youngest in her class, but also became one of the tallest by MS. It was actually good not having her be among the very oldest then who were starting to try to adopt what they perceived as HS attitudes and behaviors, [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Thanks. I should add she's very small. :-( [ Reply | More ]
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No it isn't. This decision comes back and bites you in middle, high and even off to college. Now is the time to decide. You don't get another chance. [ Reply | More ]
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Move to private. They will have her repeat a grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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Op. Thought about it but we have two younger children and can't justify sending her and not the others. Right? Sending three would be so expensive. [ Reply | More ]
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Np- I went to private and my sister went public. [ Reply | More ]
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i can't imagine doing this. Was there any resentment from your sister? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Possibly at the time because of the $$, but not because she wanted to go private herself. There is nothing inherently better about private school to a child. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's very obvious though to a child that s/he attends a different school than a sibling. I won't address your comment that private school is not inherently better than public, but children can tell when a sibling receives preferential treatment. So in a child's mind it's Fancy School v NOT Fancy School. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Probably common in NYC but we are in nj public. [ Reply | More ]
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There is nothing wrong with having one in private and others in public. Every child is different and has different needs [ Reply | More ]
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I would not switch to private school for this reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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Send for a year or two and then go back to public. They will honor grade. [ Reply | More ]
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It seems like she must not be in NYC if other kids have been held back. They could hold her back for another year of K if really worried but it doesn't seem like they have anything to worry about [ Reply | More ]
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My dd is also the youngest in her K class and I'm glad of it! She is very tall for her age and likely always will be, so hopefully when she has her pre-puberty growth spurt she won't be the tallest kid in her class like I awkwardly was for 2 years. She's very verbal and socially "advanced" (I don't mean that in a bragging sense, just that she has had no issues navigating any social situations with kids or adults. She loves people and I'm always told she's a future politician with the way she works the room, God help me!). Academically she's fine, I'm not worried about that either. Are there actual signs you're seeing in your dd that are making you worry, or is it just because you think something could change in the distant future? My feeling is in 6-8 years she'll be so used to being with her class and peers slightly older that it will be normal for her. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. My dd sounds similar to yours. No trouble making friends of all ages instantly. Very confident. But some difficulty in the maturity department. Sometimes my just turned 3 yo is more mature than her. Emotional outbursts, refusing to help or cooperate, battles over dressing herself, chores, etc. I know that's nirmal 5 yo stuff but I can't imagine a scenario in which an extra year to play and mature wouldn't be better for her. [ Reply | More ]
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Wait til your 3yo is five. It is normal. Being in "academic" school all day is a challenge for kids. They need to get used to it and they will act out in new ways. Perhaps the year would help her but perhaps she is really ready and you just need to let go a bit. There is almost never a "perfect" time to do anything. She sounds like she's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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^ oh and if you talk with other parents of older kids in the class I bet they're having similar issues at times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Op. Thank you. I think you are right about the letting go. Maybe because she is my oldest I sometimes wish I could turn back the clock and have a do over. With my younger two I am making decisions based on experience so I feel better about them. She is like my guinea pig. [ Reply | More ]
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Or - she's my eldest too, but I used to be a nanny and also realize from my own experience growing up that there is no perfect and you can always make a change later if it becomes a problem. It is never a good idea to try to fix something before it's broken. [ Reply | More ]
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We held ds a year from starting K (August b'day, Sept. 1 cutoff). I'm being very honest by saying our biggest reason to hold him was the thought of him in 5th and 6th grade. The last thing we wanted at that time in his life was to realize we should have held him from the beginning, and now were having him repeat, while watching his friends going one way to the next grade while he turns and walks the other way where he (and the friends) had just come from. He's now in 7th grade and and is right where he should be. You know your child (and this ds was my 2nd child), whatever you decide I recommend you decide now. GL! [ Reply | More ]
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my DD (now 7) started K as one of the younger kids in her class and it's been absolutely fine. she naturally gravitates to some of the younger classmates who i think are actually a very sweet and kind bunch, somewhat less precocious than the older girls, which is fine by me! [ Reply | More ]
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Op. That is nice. My dd's best friend is actually over a year older than her but you wouldn't guess (except based on size). Thats fine now but what if she has all much older friends in 5 years and they are hitting puberty?? [ Reply | More ]
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That was me as a child. It's going to be fine [ Reply | More ]
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Or above - my dd's bf is also a year older. Honestly I don't expect them to still be bf in middle school, there's a ton of time befor then and girls go through puberty at very different rates anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is there going to be a snow storm in Boston? Will it hit Monday or Tuesday? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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go to the weather channel and find out. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, and they are saying Tuesday. Preparing for a snow day! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Will schools be cancelled tomorrow or just Tuesday 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.25.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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where? nyc, no [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't the storm starting Monday night? [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, Monday morning .. Yes nyc [ Reply | More ]
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starts monday at 1pm [ Reply | More ]
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nyc schools historically don't close unless it's very very very bad [ Reply | More ]
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Even private schools [ Reply | More ]
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i am not a fortune teller, so i can not predict the future, neither can the weather men [ Reply | More ]
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It's just a question [ Reply | More ]
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Definitely not tomorrow. We'll see about Tuesday... [ Reply | More ]
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just Tuesday. Snow isn't really starting until Monday afternoon [ Reply | More ]
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Not tomorrow, but possibly Tues if the snow removal is not good enough. If they are able to keep streets clear and the snow is getting lighter, they might be open. I kind of doubt it, though, since the snow is supposed to continue through Tues evening. I guess all these middle school tests we be rescheduled. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am getting married for the fifth time next weekend, any questions? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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are you a virgin? [ Reply | More ]
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Marry me? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. None. Zilch. Zero. [ Reply | More ]
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Will you save items for weeding number 6 to save on cost? [ Reply | More ]
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How did the first 4 end? [ Reply | More ]
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divorced, beheaded, died, divorced .... I guess this next one's getting the head cut off again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying instacart. Never shopped in Whole Foods before. List your favorite WF item/s and i'll buy it today. Thank you! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You mean that you will literally buy every item we post here? Everyone? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Everyone! [ Reply | More ]
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Tangerine juice [ Reply | More ]
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Love [ Reply | More ]
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I would only use this service for places like Costco. Why pay even higher markup on WF which is easily accessible [ Reply | More ]
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this. and they never charge you the sale price and WF has sales all the time. plus a much bigger in-store variety. [ Reply | More ]
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actually they have an agreement with Whole Foods that they will not mark up their items. Don't offer sale prices though [ Reply | More ]
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you guys gotta try max delivery .... one hour in ny. love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had (or been to) a kids party at Dave and Busters? Would this be fun for 8 year olds? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's fun but very crowded. My kids think it's a fun place to be . You could win cool prizes! I think if your kid really wants to go, you should. [ Reply | More ]
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Purell [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. It's parent torture. But the kids like it. Eat before you go. The food is repugnant. [ Reply | More ]
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