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[ - ] Would you be annoyed if someone makes it a point to thank you almost daily, but doesn't do much to actually help you out? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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No, I would really appreciate the "thank you." Not only Dh does not help out, he does not even thank me. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It feels almost like a daily to do list to check off a box. I think it annoys me because it feels insincere somehow? [ Reply | More ]
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That's not enough information. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why do the preschool moms think it is either high school or a sorority? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no other life? [ Reply | More ]
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For the win [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Feeling depressed. Social worker mom here. I was at a graduation party last night at a group home. This one is particularly awful and I noticed one of the kids was Jewish. I asked him if someone from a local Jewish family services organization knew that he was at this group home. He said that no one had come to speak with him. I contacted them last night to let them know that a Jewish kid was at this group home - in our state, group homes are run by faith-based organizations, but the Jewish one is actually secular and the best one around. They have academic tutors, organic lunches and play-based therapists for the kids. It's everything that you would want a group home to be for kids. Anyhow, I called this morning to follow up on the kid and it turns out that someone from the Jewish group home picked him up last night. I am happy that he's in a much better place, but sad for the kids who are left behind. Depressed that I was able to get one kid out. They do take non-Jewish kids, but they are at full capacity right now, so I can't get anymore kids in. :-( 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Well, you saved the important one? I'm not sure what you are saying. [ Reply | More ]
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it's a vba. for herself and her religion. and not even very well veiled. [ Reply | More ]
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Can the kids be converted in judaism? I know it does not seem like the right solution but I wish there was some way to do that and get the kids into better places. [ Reply | More ]
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No, the Jewish place takes non-Jewish kids. It's also a secular home, but it's run by a Jewish organization. [ Reply | More ]
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Go to the Jewish home. Meet with them. Tell them how great you think they are, and give them your card. Tell them to let you know when they have a space, and continue to sneak kids out of that awful home. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can someone explain Passbook? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sometimes at an airport, you use the e-ticket you accessed on your iphone. you don't want to do it live on the internet each time b/c the internet wifi may be down or require a password. so you flip it to your passbook once you do your electronic check in and then it's there and whatever weird wifi stuff the airport does doesnt matter. signed, ff mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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You become a member and you can take exercise classes as many times as you want with the facilities who are affiliated. The cons are that you can never get into the classes you want. Don't waste your money. [ Reply | More ]
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isnt that classpass? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] daycare vs. nanny for infants? Any thoughts? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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grandma [ Reply | More ]
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+2, but it will come with strings attached. That's what we did and it was good for DB, but bad for my marriage. [ Reply | More ]
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you do it for only the first few years. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, we only did it for 2 years and it still caused problems. [ Reply | More ]
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SAH husband. [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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live in nanny who you can trust [ Reply | More ]
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NANNY [ Reply | More ]
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each has pros and cons. to me, the pros of nanny are: in your home, you don't have to deal with pickup and drop off, and often hours can be more flexible; will care for your sick child; genuine one-on-one care. Cons are that it is just one person with no supervision and,if she gets sick, quits abruptly or has other issues, you are SOL. daycare: kind of the opposite, you have to get your child there and back, hours less flexible, and sick kids have to stay home;OTOH there's more visibility/supervision of caregivers and, especially for older kids, the socialization is nice. Some people also really don't want anyone else in ther home, so choose daycare. [ Reply | More ]
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daycare germs will be really really awful for that poor baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Planning my wedding & wondering what you all think of two options. Sit Down Dinner (traditional) or passed passed hors d'oeuvres plus a nice buffet. I know buffet sounds yucky, but I've been to a lot of great weddings w buffet and think the food always tastes better on buffet. My thought is no one has to be chained to seats and everyone will be on the dance floor w our awesome band. Thoughts? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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Go with your gut. Enjoy your special day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Personal preference, but I like the sit down dinner better. Usually nice to eat before dancing starts. My real issue with buffets at weddings is that you sometimes get called by table..if you're at table 27, you watch - starving - while other people fill up their plates and you're told to sit there. Can you do some passed hors d'ouevres during cocktail hour, then have the sit down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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I've never been to one where they call the table. The two weddings I went to where it was done very nicely, and both very nice weddings were like 150-180 people and people just went up. The food was awesome. The wedding I went to last weekend was traditional sit down and the food was dry and salty b/c it is hard to cook a perfect cut of meat for 150+ people in my opinion. I think at both weddings it was listed as "stations" not buffet. They had like a raw bar, lobster, steak, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Do you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Buffets are tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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What's wrong with a buffet, especially for a smaller wedding. We've been a to a couple like this. There is assigned seating, but we were called up by table to the buffets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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so tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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I hate buffets. I don't want to walk to and from my table with a plate in hand when I am dressed up. So fucking lame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Either is fine. Sounds like you prefer buffet so go with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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One more option I've thought of but didn't list. Family Style. Still sit down by big shared plates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] MET GALA: Who are your best and worst dressed? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Anna Wintour was the worst by far, followed by SJp's ridicules hair piece. [ Reply | More ]
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that was disappointing, actually. she is typically so spot on. [ Reply | More ]
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SJP looked so lame. It was actually sad [ Reply | More ]
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I saw the picture and wondered if she was actually appearing in the opera itself [ Reply | More ]
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I liked Anna. No where close to worst. [ Reply | More ]
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agreed. [ Reply | More ]
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Beyonce, Kim Kardashian -- do they really think people want to see that much of their flesh? So gross. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. They both looked like broken down old showgirls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Do those dresses have a sheer fabric? [ Reply | More ]
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illusion netting. often deployed for figure skating costumes [ Reply | More ]
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This - enough. We have seen it all from both of them [ Reply | More ]
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Beyonce, lololololololol [ Reply | More ]
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best: Diane Kruger. worst: the bare naked ladies (Bey, Kim and JLo) [ Reply | More ]
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Those 3 always dress like that it's embarrassing. [ Reply | More ]
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Best: Fan Bingbing, Bee Shaffer, whoever that is in the Dolce looking hold polka dot dress, Helen Mirren, Cara Delevingne, Sienna Miller, Zhang Ziyi. worst: Everyone else! Especially Beyoncé and Rihanna. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^gold not hold [ Reply | More ]
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agree on cara, sienna and zhang. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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loved rihanna, anne hathaway, fan bing bing [ Reply | More ]
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rhianna for sure best. kim k and beyonce definite worst. [ Reply | More ]
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Rihanna FTW. On theme, dramatic, promoted a relatively young (and Chinese) designer. Flawless. [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Rihanna looked like the lion in the wizard of Oz. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't understand couture. [ Reply | More ]
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Where can I view the outfits? [ Reply | More ]
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NYT has some, vogue has some more [ Reply | More ]
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Kim K. from the rear was so disgusting looking. [ Reply | More ]
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I would not want to sit on her seat after she vacated it [ Reply | More ]
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Worst: Sarah Jessica's headpiece is totally bizarre. was she trying to be funny? Maybe she was inspired by the Native American art exhibit. Ann Hathaway - I don't like that headscarf, burka look but the dress looks pretty. Georgia May Jagger - dress looks like a bathrobe. selena Gomez - looks like she's wearing a white bra and nothing else on top. Miley Cyrus, also ugh. Best: Like Kate Hudson and her gold dress. Amal Clooney's red dress. [ Reply | More ]
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Best: Bee Shaffer and SJP. It takes guts to strut around in a massive Chinese opera headdress and she nailed it. Bee Shaffer's dress was exquisite. Worst: Too many to list, but here's a start: FK Twigs followed closely by the barely dressed Beyonce, JLo, KK and Miley Cyrus. [ Reply | More ]
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Who is Grace Coddington?? Wtf? Why did she wear her pajamas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms with HS kids? Is dc taking any AP tests this week? If so which ones? And can you say grade and type of school (public/private). Just heard from a friend with HS junior that is taking 5 of them this week, hoping that is far out of normal. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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when i was in HS i'm pretty sure i took 4 in a week once, and i had friends who did more. this was 30+ years ago. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 If you're smart & hardworking enough for the AP courses, the exams are not a problem. [ Reply | More ]
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He is a super smart kid that killed the PSATs. Yet talking chemistry, physics 1, physics 2, BC calculus and US history exams all in one week is sheer insanity to me. And then SAT a cople weeks later. I don't think my kids could stomach this. [ Reply | More ]
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5? omg. how can you possibly do well on all 5? [ Reply | More ]
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IN college you may well take 4-5 finals in one week. its kind of the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And in most parts of the world, students still take full-on leaving exams that cover the last 4-6 years of school, all in one week. Teenagers are not delicate. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I did this (grew up in Europe) but we did a lot to prepare in class, so not much cramming was needed. [ Reply | More ]
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10th grade dd at specialized high school is taking two. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Beyoncé looked absolutely desperate last night. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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that was really awful. it may turn out to be her jump the shark moment. [ Reply | More ]
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I think Tidal was a big JTS [ Reply | More ]
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i don't know who that is, sorry. signed, pop culture loser. (and OR) [ Reply | More ]
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Tidal was the alternative music streaming service that Jay Z and Beyonce and a bunch of other self-important windbags started where they would get more money than they were getting via spotify etc. They basically got mocked for it. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree she is done. [ Reply | More ]
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I think many people look dreadful, but you are absolutely correct. Do you think K and J have some kind of contest going to see how naked they can get a woman to dress? when Miley looks better and more on point, the shark has been jumped. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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Emperor has no clothes. [ Reply | More ]
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she looke bad. [ Reply | More ]
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i liked her dress better than jlos [ Reply | More ]
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or kim's [ Reply | More ]
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nauseating. it was truly awful. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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Jlo was awful but it is what I expect from her. Beyoncé jumped the shark. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ah!! I finally figured out who Amal Clooney looks like: MARC JACOBS! Lol 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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DYING, yes!!! They are separated at birth! [ Reply | More ]
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Same exact chin! [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry but no. She looks like JOHN KERRY. [ Reply | More ]
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Hortense the mule-face girl [ Reply | More ]
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hmmm [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] So tired of looking at the corpses of Mary Kate and Ashley. Must they always look so depressed? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Dressed in black like a Penny Dreadful [ Reply | More ]
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I actually like how they've branded themselves consistently over the years. They don't fall for the latest trends - they've had this modern boho goth thing going for years. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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It's one thing to have a style, it's another to cling to a style that doesn't suit you (or anyone) [ Reply | More ]
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totally [ Reply | More ]
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screw that, they're awesome. they had to be female fashion icons and still be taken seriously. they were perfect last night. [ Reply | More ]
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awesome? don't they have daddy issues (dating old men) and eating disorders? [ Reply | More ]
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One of them had an eating disorder about a decade ago and sought treatment for it. You sound like a bitch, though. [ Reply | More ]
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they have accomplished a ton. less than most of us ever will. we ALL have issues. every single one of us. they also have ginormous accomplishments. rock on! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Ginormous? How old are you? Are you flyover? [ Reply | More ]
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link? What happened with them last night? [ Reply | More ]
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they didnt wear see through dresses so the OP doesnt like the way they show up in her us weekly feed. [ Reply | More ]
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They look as though they died 3 weeks ago. [ Reply | More ]
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I want to defend them because it can't be easy growing up in the spotlight, but they could have tried a bit harder to stick to the theme. What does black goth have to do with China? And it was 80 degrees yesterday, why are they so covered up?? [ Reply | More ]
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because they're serious people and thought a naked body stocking might not give them much credibility in the merchandising meetings with saks in the morning, you twit. [ Reply | More ]
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Those aren't the only two options. But you either know that and are being purposely obtuse (aka an asshole) or you are a complete idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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only one person disliked them, OP. the rest of the posters agree with me. but keep calling us names. it's bound to make you more right. [ Reply | More ]
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What did you wear to the gala? [ Reply | More ]
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I hate people like you. If you walk a red carpet you are opening yourself up to comment. If you don't want comments, don't attend. Easy! [ Reply | More ]
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SNAP! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nanny sent me an email last night asking of dh and I would consider letting her taking the kids beyond the neighborhood. Since the weather is getting nice she would like to take them to the zoo or different parks. I'm not comfortable with this. What should I do? 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Speaketh the truth! [ Reply | More ]
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Umm you are the boss. Say "No, Im not comfortable with this" [ Reply | More ]
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I'm afraid she will quit. The kids love her and she's a good nanny. She comes to work everyday on time. [ Reply | More ]
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so talk to her about it. if she will quit over this (which seems unlikely to me), then you have to decide what matters more to you. [ Reply | More ]
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This. While I think it's short-sighted, if you don't like something say so. That's why she asked you first. Because she knows that you are neurotic. I hope you pay her well to deal with your bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 (in a nicer tone). [ Reply | More ]
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say exactly that and if it makes you more comfortable…add something like "Ya know we really like doing the zoo as a family on the weekends" [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Why not? My nanny takes the kids all over by foot, stroller, subway and/or bus. They are 3 & 5. Either you don't trust the nanny, or you are an anxious parent. Both of these issues should be resolved. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm afraid something would happen to my dc. [ Reply | More ]
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that wouldn't happen if they were in your neighborhood? I don't understand how proximity will make "hurting themselves" any different if it happens in your front yard or at the park. I'm asking again -- do you have medicated anxiety? [ Reply | More ]
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No I don't. [ Reply | More ]
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maybe you should. Does this anxiety effect the rest of your life? You're afraid something might happen to them -- okay, what? Anything specific? And you aren't able to make a simple request to your nanny -- "No, I'd rather you didn't." If you cannot speak up and have vague anxiety about "something" that might happen to your children, then you need to work this out with meds or a therapist. [ Reply | More ]
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if they leave the neighborhood, or if they leave the neighborhood with the nanny? [ Reply | More ]
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Leave the neighborhood with the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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Why don't you trust your nanny? Does she not speak English? Is she a drunk? [ Reply | More ]
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She's born and raised in the city. She's not a drunk or anything, I just don't trust her taking my dc out of the neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a troll? Why can't you answer the question about WHY? And, if it's bothering you so much, then tell her. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm telling you why. I just don't trust her with my dc outside of the neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
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Then fire her. If she is not trustworthy, then fire her. What is the problem then/ Would any nanny be up to your standards? [ Reply | More ]
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I only trust me family with my dc, so no Nanny would be able to take them outside the neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
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Then you have your answer then. Why bother even having a nanny? And you know that this is a mental/anxiety problem, right? Even if you don't think so, it is, and this will always be an issue for you. What are you going to do when they are in school and have a field trip? [ Reply | More ]
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I never thought about that! [ Reply | More ]
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ok, why? because anything dangerous she could do with them at the zoo she can do in the park down the block, except the driving. (unless you think she'll toss them in the lion cage.) [ Reply | More ]
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if you aren't comfortable, say no. but it sounds like you think maybe you should be,in which case, why aren't you? how old are your kids? and how far is the nanny talking about taking them? [ Reply | More ]
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The kids are four and one. The zoo is far so she would have to drive I'm not comfortable with that either. [ Reply | More ]
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say no [ Reply | More ]
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where do you live?? can she start with closer by parks that don't require driving? [ Reply | More ]
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OP, I agree with you with kids this age. Schlepping a 1 year old to zoo, different park etc is not necessary during the week. [ Reply | More ]
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And the 4 year old? [ Reply | More ]
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Well nanny has to balance needs of both kids. The 1 year old doesn't need it so the 4 year old might not get it (during the week). [ Reply | More ]
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Do you live in NYC? What area? There are so many walkable playgrounds for a nice day, tell her to try different ones. [ Reply | More ]
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We live by two different parks, but she wants to do other things with children. [ Reply | More ]
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In NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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I ask because you could approve some shorter "jaunts", like a longer walk to try out a new park or playground (in stroller). That's obviously a lot less "out of the neighborhood" then if she took both kids out to the Aquarium near Coney Island on the subway, KWIM? Start small. By the time your kids are older you might feel fine with farther jaunts (on subway or whatever). Test it out by trying to bring both kids yourself alone to specific places? I have twins and at age 1-5 I had a strong sense of what one adult could SAFELY do with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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We live in Chicago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Then take the bus to the zoo. Why would you have to drive? (I'm from Chicago, I know that you need a car to get around.). But there is public trans, if that make you feel better. Or is the bus too scary for your precious snowflakes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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I don't want them to take the bus either. It will take too long for them to get there and back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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Fine. They keep them trapped in your basement so they never see the outside world. And keep hiring new nannies when yours inevitably quit on you for being crazy. I'm sure the constant rotation of caregivers will do WONDERS for your already mentally-fragile children who have to deal with you as their mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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It sounds like you live in the suburbs. How does nanny get to your house? Presumably she drives there. Do you think only you have magic driving abilities and no one else can do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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We live in the city. Not My. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Age of dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Why aren't you comfortable with this? I would be thrilled with a nanny who wanted to take the kids different places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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i agree. this is really strange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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I'm just not comfortable with it. I'm afraid something will happen to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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just a tip from an experienced mom...this anxiety won't serve you and also won't serve your children. work through it. maybe take a day off and take a day trip with the nanny and the kids. do something to get past it and get your comfort level up. your children will be happier and so will you. and if it turns out the problem is really that your nanny is incompetent, find out first hand and make a change. in neighborhood or not, incompetence is incompetence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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This. Either you trust her or you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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i once gave my nanny a credit card to make a purchase of something on an errand. she said, "you trust me with this?" i responded, "i trust you with the most important things in my life. i better trust you with my credit card." she got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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np: granted, i'm not a sahm by choice right now, but I would be absolutely nuts if I couldn't take the kids somewhere just about every day. We are not in NYC but do botanical gardens, science center, zoo, children's museum, etc. on regular rotation. I have a 1 and 3 year old. Sitting in the playroom or just going to the local park every day is so tedious and boring, especially bc the 1 year old gets into and tries to destroy anything the 3 year old is doing. We end up defaulting to hanging out and playing kitchen together. Shoot me. I'd really reconsider nanny's request- I could not watch 2 young kids within a small radius full time and keep my sanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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That's because you are sane. OP is not, and cannot imagine what a sane caregiver is thinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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right? good chance she quits if you say no as well, frankly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Totally depends on age of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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She sent an email so I think she knew you were going to say no. I don't think she'll quit over this particular incident but if it is part of a pattern she may not see you as a good fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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+1. She doesn't trust you to be a good parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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I'm not saying that OP isn't a good parent - she sounds like a helicopter mom who is afraid for her kids when they are out of her sight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Why aren't you comfortable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I think you should get over it. I love that my nanny takes my kids to explore the city! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:07 PM Flag
[ - ] 5 year old DS is athletically awkward, but wants to improve. Can anyone recommend and sports classes/teams where he could get experience playing with other kids without feeling embarrassed? He's inhibited now because he feels like other kids are so much better than he is. Thanks. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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ask dh to play with him on weekends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Didnt think of that. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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+1 I'm trying to imagine a 5yo who is so far behind athletically that he feels embarrassed and self-conscious. Almost all 5yos are clumsy and almost none of them have developed enviable skills or talent. I'm pretty sure either both parents are extremely unathletic and have never even thrown a ball around with DS, or OP is a total troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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yes how is it possible neither parent has bothered? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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I was going to vote troll, but I have met a couple of mothers who never let DCs do anything fun at the park, "in case they get hurt". Those DCs would have an awful time going straight from coddling to a soccer team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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OP should play with him on weekends, as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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a gymnastic class for general body sense and then just sign him up for teams. Explain that the only way to get better is to play, lots of other 5 year olds look like him on the field (even if he doesn't realize it, you do since you see them all; yes, some look great, but many are still learning) and that you don't opt out of something fun at 5; childhood is the time to try things and not be perfect. and play games with him yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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right? my yoga teacher once said the best thing about teaching kids yoga classes is that when they fall, they laugh. when the adults fall, they are embarrassed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Swimming, swim team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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He can be a junior "coach" for a kids' Special Olympics soccer team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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At 5 he really can improve at ANY sports which appeals to him and interests him. Choose based on his own interests or whatever kids he already knows are doing? Some sports are more pressure-filled (like baseball where he has to stand alone at plate to bat), others are less focused on one kids and he might find that an easier place to start. But he's 5! Nobody is amazing at any sport at 5. He won't be alone in learning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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call up those sports programs in the park for something he likes (kids in sports, bulldog ball club, super soccer stars) and tell them the issue. ask them if you can have a coach work with him one on one. they get those requests all the time. really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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^^^once he has the basics down and the fear is gone, he will practice w/ friends and dh and his confidence will shoot right up. NOBODY is a good athlete at 5. seriously, nobody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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5?!?!? What have you done to your child that he is already embarrassed at 5yo? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If I send an email as a "thank you" do I still need to send a card? It's a baby gift from dh's friends wife 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Yes. Please do so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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blah, ok. just feels a little redundant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help! UWSA, HH, or 165 g&t? We are Jewish so Hebrew is nice. We live next door to 165 so that's a big +. DC is very focused, well bahaved and academically inclined (right now) so SA would probably work well in that sense. dc's g&t score is such that we are likely to get 165 and have the other 2 options. TYIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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165 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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165 is a mixed bag. UWSA is extremely rigid. Don't know HH. You have to decide based on your DS personality. If he's sensitive, UWSA may not be the greatest place for him. My sensitive but well behaved DS had a rough time adjusting to all the rules (must have hands in lap at all times while on the rug, must walk in straight line and not look around, etc.) so we ended up pulling him out. [ Reply | More ]
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TY for posting. Can you please tell me what sensitive really means? May I ask where you pulled your dc to? IA with everything you are saying in regard to 165 and SA so would love to hear more thoughts since you have BTDT. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.05.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Don't flame, I swear by Garnier two in one moisturizer and serum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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^and Laroche Possay (sp?) sunscreen. [ Reply | More ]
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Ambi or neutrogena [ Reply | More ]
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Man Protein. [ Reply | More ]
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Boots - cucumber in the winter, tea tree in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
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First Aid Beauty products [ Reply | More ]
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Glam Glow thirsty mud at night. Sephora instant moisturizer daytime. [ Reply | More ]
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eminence organics. i have highly reactive ,very sensitive skin [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.05.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Re: Mayweather vs. Pacquiao "It is estimated that each boxer pocketed over $100 million from this fight." And that's just what the boxers took home. And yet, we can't come up with enough money to fund schools. People are so messed up. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Careful with that. There's a difference between funding schools and fully funded schools that don't perform. Throwing money at schools beyond a certain point doesn't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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In theory, you can go to an funded underperform school like Mayweather and still make $200MM a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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There are people on this board every week complaining about cut arts classes and teachers who have to pay for classroom supplies out of their own pocket and classrooms with 25+ students and one teacher and schools that don't have computers. Every year there is a system-wide report of repairs and maintenance that aren't done because of lack of funds. And we have a fair number of unemployed people who could be vetted and trained as classroom aides, crossing guards, and simply an adult presence on the school grounds and in the surrounding blocks. Money would solve a LOT of problems in the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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I hate this argument. "Hold on, now! Money wouldn't solve every problem in the schools, so let's not raise the funding that would solve some problems!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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just because it's action, it doesnt mean it's right. no matter how many times you hit a screw with a hammer, it won't do it's job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Zuckerberg dumped 100 million into Newark public schools. What were the results? What did that massive and sudden infusion of money achieve, in concrete terms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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NYC spends close to the highest per student on schools. yet did i read that only 25% of black kids graduate? (That can't be true). maybe the money is being wasted or not spent well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Tori Spelling is having a 5th kid with that guy ?! 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Eww! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Why do the grossest, dumbest people always seem to be the most fertile? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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The gods like to punish judgmental snobs with infertility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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or: that's already been done, thanks for reminding me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Baby is expected to save marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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LOL I have a bridge (or 1,000 copies of In Touch) to sell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Good one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Someone said she was doing it because her kids are in her mom's will but she is not, so she keeps having kids, but I didn't get that reasoning. Money would not be hers to control anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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I am afraid she may actually be having it to keep the marriage together. Now she's only going to be 3 short of Kate Gosselin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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link?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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It's on the internet in general, most of the gossip sites are reporting it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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eegads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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That is one flappy vagina. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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What the actual fu@k? Isn't she in the hospital having a breakdown like every other day ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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didn't she also have a lot of pregnancy problems? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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I think she had a hernia ... her c section scar came undone or something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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jesus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Huh? Isn't that the guy with the sex addiction who had multiple affairs, and convinced her to wear skimpy outfits all the time to please him? so sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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The problem is that none of us know how much of any reality show is actually reality. If it didn't have a lot of drama, it wouldn't be entertaining. Who knows whether Dean really had an affair????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Well, if you think about it, everyone knows he did ... it was just with Tori. So he's already a cheater. The question is only how many times. Curious, though, that no one's ever dug up this Emily Goodfriend person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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She is so Fugly, surprised some F!@#K her 5 times. [ Reply | More ]
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