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[ - ] When are gender reveal parties usually held? What month? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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October [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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No what month of pregnancy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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6th month. That way the parents can start decorating the room and buying the clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Thanks. Facebook friend just posted that she ordered a cake for one. They are a cute family. I am little excited to see what they are having. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Ideally never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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+ a million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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OP : I wouldn't but a Facebook friend is doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Which preschools are doing the best job this year of getting kids exmitted to TT who are not sibling/legacies? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.08.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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how can anyone say this? Even at our TT preschool it's not acceptable to just walk up to parents and hear where everyone is going, given so many are still playing WL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Too early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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York Ave Preschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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really? tell me more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Is living in the nyc metro suburbs really that much cheaper than the city? It seems to me that once you add in taxes, second car and insurance, the maintenance and upkeep for a house, lawncare, etc., it probably isn't that much different. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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going through this right now. just bought a house and yes, mortgage is significantly cheaper than rent, but factor in taxes, second car, commuting costs, etc... and we are in the exact same scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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But with a lot more space and probably better schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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It is more expensive. As well, you are constantly fixing something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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THIS! Suburbs are NOT cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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True. But you do have a house, a year and a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Article few years ago said Brooklyn was cheaper than burbs. If you are paying for private, yes burbs cheaper. If not, maybe not, but you get much more space for that same amount of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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I think having a comparable lifestyle is about the same cost, but you get more for your money and everything is a lot less complicated other than commuting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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It's true... life is less complicated but the commuting part is VERY complicated. Wake up super early, drop DB off at daycare, get on 45 min train ride, rush out of work to make train, get home and DB is asleep :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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By being in burbs, I could have aupair, works really well for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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It all depends on your lifestyle choices. I think people who choose to live outside the city don't do it because it is cheaper overall but because they are making tradeoffs. For example, they get a bigger home cheaper than in the city but as you pointed out other expenses increase. It just depends what is more important to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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We moved from the city to burbs and YES it is cheaper. No city tax or common charges. Food is cheaper in the burbs. Yes we have 2 cars but are paid off. Lawncare is not that much. Taxes are higher but we send to public. Maintenance not that much. And let's not forget a million dollar house is much nicer and bigger than a 1 mm apt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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You are missing a bunch of costs here - cars might be paid off but you still pay insurance, gas, maintenance (plus time for all of that and time is money). If you have someone clean your much bigger house, it costs more than having someone clean apt. Electric is higher to heat/cool bigger home. Etc. ETc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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YMMV. Yes, higher property taxes, but no city income tax (only state, yes you pay city income tax, but on state form). Yes, second car, but parking much less (zero at house, station under 100/month), should pay for increased insurance. Upkeep -- depends. No coop assessments, no tips. I think if you look at same size places, burbs will be cheaper, BUT people decide that 2,500 SF in burbs not big enough, even if they were living in 1,500 in city. IMHO, trick is look hard, and do not get more space than you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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It is for me, though I'm not exactly in a suburb. We have an apartment and don't need a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Many people move to burbs to not have to deal with insanity of schools. Your kid goes to MS and HS. No applications, etc. If you want to take off a week when you kid is in lower grades, it doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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If I moved to same size space in burbs it would be cheaper, but as another poster mentioned, you 'need' more once moved out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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You get more for your money. I have a 4-bedroom, 3-bath house in a good school district, worth about $700K. What would that buy me in NYC? And a lot of the expenses you describe can be kept in check or even eliminated: We clean our own home and mow our own lawn. Cost: $0. Imagine that. We do own two cars, both purchased used and we paid cash. You have to be a little counterculture and not cave into keeping up with the Joneses, but I feel like it's easier to save money in the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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I had certain reduction of costs when we moved to burbs. School provides instrument and private lessons, school taxes much less than private, groceries are much less, I had a car in the city so that was expensive… [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] RELEASE your spots people. its just selfish to sit on them while you flip flop around the two you know you want. Ditch the ones you know for certain you dont need and let the rest of us get something!!!!! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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YES I already spoke to someone this morning holding onto 3 offers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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why?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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It's Monday. Give it a rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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I agree but you do realize that schools over admit anyway so just because people give up spots doesn't correlate into more kids getting spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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it won't make much of a difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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we notified schools first thing this AM to release WL and 2 other accepts. Agree it's the right thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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I think that if you're hoping that you're number 3 or 4 on the waitlist to get your kid into a school you might want to start making other arrangements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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holding my spot with deposit until citywide results come out - check back in June [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Finance Moms: What the hell is happening to the markets? As a 49 year old, should I be concerned if most of my retirement money is in index fund IRAs? Have lost like $60k over past month. Also kids 529s suffering heavily. Why is this happening and when do you think things will bounce back? TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Don't worry. You are only 49 and not 65. It will bounce back in a couple of year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Thanks. Feel like we should put savings elsewhere than our Chase-managed IRAs even though they have us in bonds too. Where do smart people invest their money these days other than the stock market? Real estate? If so, where and how? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Vanguard Index funds. If you can buy now, you're getting a great discount compared to a few months ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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NP Unfortunately I am 65. Hoping we can live on my DHs pension and the small pension I will get to give the market time to come back. Had thought we might defer my SS until 70, but that may not be feasible now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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we are suffering from the ripples of the global economy and oil. brazil and china are killing us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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This is my first correction where I have real money in the market. I've stopped looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] There seems to be this dynamic on UB which I think is reflective about how certain groups of people (but not anyone I know) must think and act, which comes across as really ironic sometimes. It goes something like this. Person A says "Is it true that girls at Spence are really obsessed with Instagram?" Then person B says "All kids are obsessed at Instagram." Then person A, with the support of others, will finally make the point that "No, not every girl is obsessed with Instagram, it's just your perception because it's all that you see, in your own setting, and you are extrapolating that to every situation" Then person B will inevitably say "well that must be because they is sheltered or nerdy" or some kind of insult. For those of you who say there is no difference between publics and privates - from my experience with good privates - it's this sort of ignorant taunt and bully groupthink that you can successfully escape at a good private. The parents and kids both do it, but not if you get into the right school. And you can take that to the bank. I know, 'csb.' 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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^Just to add, then person B is going to respond to this by saying 'well kids need to be bullied and taunted, because that's what it's like in the real world.' Well it's not. Not amongst all of us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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csb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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If you're so superior, why are you here with the rest of us? Just to slap everyone on the wrist with your pronouncements of how inane and awful we are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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which really if you think about it, is a form of bullying by OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yeah, that's a stretch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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There's two schools of UBers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Just educating you. There's a lot of ignorance on this board, and I just thought I would tell you all how it is, for once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Yes. This is how UB works. Not sure why I bother. No one is ever right--it's totally about bullying--whether racists, SAHM/WOHM, public/private. A lot of insecure people making grandiose pronouncements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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hoping for the bottom soon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Is real estate market price coming down? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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No. Interest rates are still low, so not until that happens or market really tanks (which it hasn't - correction isn't tanking) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] So the average test scores in public schools in NYC are around 30%. Bad schools have scores around 10-15%, top schools around 85-90%. Can an average to bright DC who works hard get a good education and well above average scores in a 30% school? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Yes. I teach in a school where less than 20% of the kids pass and we get kids in specialized every single year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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That's hopeful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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And how do you get them into specialized? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Of course. I didn't pay much attention to test scores -- so many factors come into play that simply looking at a chart is rather meaningless. Look at a school - look at the work in the upper grades. Get the feel for administration - the vibe from other families - how happy teachers seem to be... Do the math and see how many children (not %) are getting 4s. How many 3s if you MYST decide based on test scores. A handful of really bright children is perfectly acceptable. Your bright child will do great. But I have to say it again, scores are a silly thing to base school choice on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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ITA scores are not the only thing to base decision on, but seeing that only a small % of kids are at grade level makes me wonder why. Good idea to check for numbers not percentages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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You just said that 30% of the students are scoring well. Even if 15% of the students are scoring well -- that generally means that the majority of them probably come from at-risk families. But the ones who do well still do well. It is ELEMENTARY school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the best strategy to deal with a competitive, possibly jealous, kid who tries to put down my DS at every occasion? The other kid is older than my DS. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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We had one of these. Have your ds stay far away from them. If the kid reaches out to him via social media or text, tell your ds to ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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For you? eye rolls, avoid. For your ds, advise the same. Look at this as an opportunity, if your child can learn to avoid pissing matches it will benefit him his whole life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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He cannot always avoid him as they are in the same school. The other kid laughs at him loud for no reason when my DS says something. Sometimes, he says "shut up" to my DS when my DS speaks. My DS tried to ignore him, but it doesn't stop him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Find out who the parents are and go knock on their door. Tell them to have a talk with their son about being an asshole to your kid. Don't be PC about it, show them your crazy side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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The kid is Junior in HS. I don't know if I should talk to his parents about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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What's the worst that can happen? Do you want this to continue or do you want to step up and help your child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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How old? The kids we knew who did the one-up thing in first grade (I think it was insecurity) have grown out of it by 3rd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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HS. Can you imagine? The other kid is a couple of years older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Why are two grades ahead and your ds interacting in HS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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club activities etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Flatter the older kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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How do you flatter him when the kid says "shut up!" to my DS in a group meeting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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That would not be the moment. Isn't an adult in charge of the group meeting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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Ignore . Don't rise to take the bait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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It didn't work so far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Ignoring doesn't work, it just makes her kids seem like an even easier target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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In all seriousness, tell your son to punch this kid in the mouth. He'll get in trouble at school but it's going to give him such a confidence booster. And a rather cool reputation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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I think my DS will be expelled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Fine, it's better than letting him go through another day being a p_ssy. There's other schools out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Best strategy is to let your kid deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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That's why I ask. What's the best way to deal with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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HS?! Mama back off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] WOH Mom's: If you had the opportunity to be a SAHM, would you? I enjoy working and am not sure I'd be happy being home all day. On the flip side, I absolutely hate not being the one taking care of my DB every day while I am at work. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Why do you feel bad you're not taking care of db? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Because I miss her and I want to be with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Sorry, I meant my comment as constructive. If you identify what you are trying to gain by staying at home, you can better strategize for a solution. The reasons people want to stay at home are varied [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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If I won the lottery I would stay home in a ny minute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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This was my fantasy for years. Stay home, have another kid, get a dog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Sure, but my kids are school age and almost school age. I'd have a lot of freedom, it would be amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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This. I would gladly SAH with school aged kids - and a nanny to make sure each get to their activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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^^Well gladly, only if I had something else. I just need something in my life other than kids and home and family. So I guess no, I would still want something else to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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i debate the SAHM/WOHM everyday on my commute. I honestly think i would be busy and occupied - have parents to take care of, 2 kids with tons of activities. I never get to work out. house is usually a mess. hard to justify walking away from my income making potential though. I make mid 6 digits (used to be more..) and DH is close to the $1MM mark so i know we could live on that. Just seems like all that schooling and work to get where I am would be wasted if i walked away. but some days i really want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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I stayed home until my kids were pre-k age. I was very lonely and bored when I stayed home. I was glad I got to do it but I did not find it fulfilling and I get along better with working moms (although I have no issue with Sahms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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No, I have this choice and I WOH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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I'm a SAHM because, anybody can do your job well, but no one will raise your child better than you. That thought helped me decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Depends on the mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Well if she's not the best woman for the job of raising her own child, then why did she give birth to it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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Because not everyone is suited to be a SAHM, but that has no bearing on how she is as a mom, overall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Exactly. DF is like this. She's an awesome mom, made it to all the parties, very involved. But would blow her brains out if she SAH. We don't expect men to be less dads if they can't be the FT caregiver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Her child deserves for her to give it a chance. Suited or not, she should be there for own child since financially they can afford the option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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What if she is ill-suited? What if SAH makes her depressed and impatient? What if her working 20 hours a week makes her a better mom? You have no idea what people's situations are. Children deserve a happy healthy home, and there's a myraid of diff ways to provide that. My mother never SAH, and I've always admired her for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I think unless the mom is totally incompetent, she is a better caretaker than nanny or daycare. That said, most kids will be fine either way, and there is no right way to do it. Depends on the family. But all things equal, I agree with OR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Does 'best' result in any meaningful differences? This is what I ask myself. I can't tell any difference between adults who had wohm or sahm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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IF this is true, that "best" results in no meaningful difference, why is UB in such a lather about school acceptances this week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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You can never know because there's no control variable. You just have to do what you think is best for your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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and the kid. Some would do well with anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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I don't mind my work/life balance, and I like working and my current job, but if I won the lottery or came into a ton of $ some other way, I wouldn't work. I could find things to do to keep me busy besides taking care of DC and home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Depends on so many factors. I would be perfectly content not working, but it would really need to be on my terms. I couldn't feel beholden to someone else or feel like I was not in control of my own finances or destiny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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OP: I am worried about this too. I don't want to feel like I am spending someone else's money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I always wonder why people think this. It's your husband and the father of your child, not some random person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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I only worked part time. It was the best of both worlds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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+10000 this is what I have. Love it so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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No, unless I had control of eight figures of my own money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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No. I would be so bored and lonely if I were sahm. I think you need to be really social and have lots of other sahm friends to sah, and I am a hardcore introvert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Nothing is perfect. I'm a sahm and I am really glad that I got the chance to do it, but there is definitely a lot of boredom and isolation, esp in NY where often I'm the only mom in the class or playroom. I wish I had a big circle of sahm friends but it's been tough to make that happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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I would think about both short term and long term. It sounds like you want this short term, but how will this choice impact your choices long term? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Diagnose me: I feel nauseated after lunch. Its hard for me to sit on my chair.. I feel better if i move. Could it be my tights which are i use as shapewear for my torso? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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You pull your tights all the way up to your torso? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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You pull your tights all the way up to your torso? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Its high waist thighs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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Of course that's it! Your organs are all mashed up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Definitely. I hate those things. I just squeeze into them for special events, and even then, they end up in a restroom trashcan halfway through the night. You wear them daily? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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Yes i wear them daily.Today i am wearing brand new pair. ughhh.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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i think my tights make my belly hurt sometimes. try rolling them down past your hip bone and see if that helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Yes, roll the waist band down as low as it will go and enjoy the relief. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Absolutely. A tight waistband was the issue with dh's reflux. GI doctor told him to loosen belt and move a bit after lunch to get colon moving. Corsets can actually damage your insides. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely. Shapewear is like a girdle or corset with a newer-sounding name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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I can't find non-control top stockings -- have the same problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Columbia Grammar vs. Trevor vs. UNIS and why? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.08.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Where do you live? Your geography is all over the place! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Midtown West [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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UNIS community too transient, Columbia Grammar very flashy, I would go for Trevor: sweet and nurturing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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UNIS being transient isn't true. Apparently it's 10%/year which if you think about classes being rotated year to year at most schools, isn't that big of a difference. I say go for UNIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Unis is a pain to get to, what grade are you talking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Trevor - nicest community of the three schools you mention and I like progressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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I know 2 kids who recently graduated, and they both said that there were a lot of unpleasant kids there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for moms of only children by choice who are now past childbearing age. Did you regret it later? I am 99.9% sure I won't but every so often I wonder. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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We have acquaintances who lost their only child in college. I've never asked them how they feel, but I cannot imagine how they feel about the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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I see what you mean but even if you had another kid, nothing could take away the pain of a child's death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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No, don't regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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My parents did not regret it for one second. MY dad's line is "We only needed one child to become parents. After that it's just extra work" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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No regrets at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What music are your kids into that you actually think is good? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Ellie Goulding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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oh yeah, she's good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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they are heavily into the Hamilton soundtrack right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Sheep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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putumayo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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There's no music that I think is bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O: I honestly don't get the discrimination towards shy kids in kindergarten admissions. As a former teacher, I wanted the chatty UMC white kids to STFU so I could lead the class. It really didn't help that their parents taught them that every word that fell out of their mouths was like manna from heaven. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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What discrimination? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Np: it's totally school dependent. Some schools make the effort to get to know the shy kids but many just x them if they are quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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I think she means discrimination against shy kids... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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They get rejected over extroverted kids who stand out during play dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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Most schools want a mix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Because it can be hard to tell if they are shy or just dim. I had a shy kid btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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As a SAHM, I hate when those chatty kids come over for playdates. They speak to me as if I'm their friend and on their level. Aren't parents teaching kids there's a respect that you give adults? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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+1 I can't stand those mini-adult kids. They tend to have an entitled, disrespectful air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Little assholes in the making is what I call them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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How do you ask them to address you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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Mrs._______ last name shortened [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I kind of love those kids, and admire their communication skills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Shy kids do better at upper-grade entry levels when they have their open records, test scores to fall back on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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That was dc's experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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It is funny. I have taught in Harlem for over 20 years. I prefer the old school Harlem kids to the more umc kids. Our UMC kids do not listen and their parents blame you when they are disrespectful because they are bored or you are not entertaining enough for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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^^I would prefer the shy umc kids to the outgoing ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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I have a shy kid but the flip side of the yappy, entitled UMC kids is that they tend to know what they want, take risks, and expect the best for themselves and that often leads to success. As much as I hate to say it, tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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I get that but sometimes I wonder because our umc kids do not follow any rules and I do not believe umc kids were raised like that years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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+100, you should read Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" on this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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I have a shy DD who did just fine this admissions season. They also give importance to the school report and most schools seem to observing in classroom too, so they are getting a full picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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I don't know that I would equate outgoing with being disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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