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[ - ] SAHM of 8 years who went back to work last month... Still like working, but now I hate to do anything at home (cleaning, cooking, shopping,..) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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Outsourcing. Keeps me sane. Do all your laundry on Friday nights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Forget that! Send the laundry out too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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No, go out and celebrate on Friday nights. Or stay in and relax. Do not do laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:37 AM Flag
[ - ] J here, been busy with work so I haven't been posting as frequently. The weight loss has definitely slowed, but it is still progressing. Finally made it to the 130s weighing in at 139! (From 148.) Hope everyone is having a great day! :) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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I'll also add that posting this just now made me close up my giant boxed salad that I was going to continue on eating even though I'm already plenty satisfied. For that I am pleased! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Hi J! I was with you, but you've been gone so long I got pregnant in the meantime lol. Way to go with the weight loss, keep it up! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Haha, well congrats! I hope you cook up a deliciously healthy baby in there. :) [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, that's the plan! I'll be back on the weight loss wagon in August! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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I'll be right there with you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Okay! Keep us posted in the meantime, I think you're doing great. 9 lbs is no small feat. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks so much! [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats J. You rock! Let us know how you do over the holiday season. It's a tough time food wise. Stay strong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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Thanks! Will do. The holidays can be hard. Luckily for me I don't really eat much if any meat (so no temptations of turkey/ham..etc) and I'm not a huge fan of pie. It's the wine and spiked eggnog I might have problems with ;) Hope you're doing well! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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How long did it take u to lose the weight? Are u calorie counting? Low carbing? Cut out food groups? Dairy sugar Alcoholmetc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on sending dcs to boarding school? Is is something you would consider-- why or why not? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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As a general rule, Waspy elite families are much much more likely to send kids to boarding school than Jewish elite families [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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Why do you think this is? The coddling Jewish mother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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More likely to have parents who went there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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I want to hear others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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np - I don't think that's accurate anymore. Historically it was a matter of tradition, but today most of the bluebloods are more progressive in mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Many Jews believe in the past that there was anti semetism at boarding schools. jews made a movie about this http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1046530/Woman-jailed-making-false-rape-claim-family-row-night-out.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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Just like the fears of false rape acusations, the fears of anti semetism were overblown. Exaggerated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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oh stop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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They are exaggerated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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based on your spelling alone, you are a moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Only if they beg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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What about non whites? Which non whites are more likely to send kids to boarding school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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My best friend is AA and went to boarding school. He was one of two in his class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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How did he feel about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Fine. He's very self confident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Fine. He's very self confident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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My husband definitely wants to. I did in theory. As it comes closer I am really having doubts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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Why does your husband want to so badly? Any school or only the elite ones? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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We both went to boarding schools. This is going to sound very snobby, but we would only apply to elite schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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It doesn't sound snobby. If you are going to bother sending your kids away, at least make it worth their while imo. Aside from Exeter, Andover, Hotchkiss, Groton, Taft, Choate, Deerfield what other schools do you consider elite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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I would not. Life is short and kids are out of the house for good so soon. I'm enjoying life with my teens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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only if you hate them and if home life sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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I know a lot of people who went to boarding schools... for the most part they seem a bit off to me. Often very self-centered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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I would not. I would miss them. They grow up fast and leave soon enough for college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:32 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O Stuy post. Is there discrimination at Spence? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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What do you mean? spence discriminates against asians and in favor of African Americans in the noble pursuit of diversity in admissions. is that what you mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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Nope, it's a spin off of a post in the most popular. Someone mentioned discrimination against AAs at Spence. I assume this is against admitted students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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What do you mean? Like the tachers give the african americans lower grades [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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in all schools the Asian boys feel discriminated against romantically, no girls will date them is that the discrimination you refer to? Really tall girls feel this discrimination too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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I don't think the Asian boys at Spence have this issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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Ok so you think it is just as easy for Asian boys in TT schools to get dates? Obviously Asian girls have no trouble [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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I was kidding. Spence is all girls. The two white boys I know who went to Stuy both have white girlfriends and seem to have mostly white friends. Since whites are a minority there that seems a little odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Well there was that whole Arnelle Cook ordeal. Google it if you want the background. There could certainly be differing opinions of how it was handled.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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My heart broke for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Do all 27 year olds act like they are a kardashian? I'm 41 and my cousins are 27 and when I'm around them I just wish I wasn't - every conversation is about some lux hotel or trip or what their boyfriends are buying them and it's all instagrammed anyway so I get to see that at 27 they are buying their boyfriends a rolex..I mean really? Sorry venting as I can't to my family who thinks its great they can have this lifestyle at 27 (but can they really?) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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No not all are like that. My younger sister is 27 and she and her husband are not materialistic. They are saving for a loft in 234 so their future kids can go to public school. They do not waste miney [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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No money waste [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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My 27 year old sister is not like this at all. She and her boyfriend both work hard and make good salaries, but they are so together. I was much less mature at 27! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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How do you think they finance this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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no they aren't all like that, but the market for luxury goods HAS changed. Single people without kids can drop a whole paycheck on designer shoes or bags and not really care that they aren't saving for the future [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married finally (we already have the kids). We have been looking at engagement rings and I just don't know if I really want us to spend the money on a big diamond. He thinks if we are going to do it lets do it right. Anyone think you can get a nice "faux" diamond set in gold or plat that would have most fooled? I would just think we could use the money in so many other ways. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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don't get a faux diamond, just get a wedding band [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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OP: DH doesn't love eternity bands and I do want something sparkly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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DH isn't going to wear it. Get what you like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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I stopped wearing my ring about 2 years after we married. Just get a nice band and save the money. Its a waste! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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There was an article in the Wall Street Journal last week that was picked up by the major news orgs about lab diamonds that fool diamond retailers. I saw some on TV and they looked good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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what are they called? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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google lab diamonds. i think it was pure something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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^Pure Grown Diamonds were on the Today show on 12/11. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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Lab diamonds from charles and covald [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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Go to the website of charles and covald, two of my best friends have their immitation diamonds, it is literally impossible to tell they are not natural diamonds unless you use a microscope. I recommend them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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Is it figuratively impossible to tell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:29 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend told me there was a public hs in NYC for pregnant girls. Is this true? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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longest pregnancies ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Maybe a transition school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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I read this as pubic hair for pregnant girls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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It's probably either a single HS with special programs or a special facility where they can work towards their diplomas or GEDs [ Reply | More ]
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Where is it located? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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Note that dirt poor chinese girls in manhattan are less likely to get pregnant than dirt poor girls of other races in manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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I don't think so. There is a place that very poor and or at-risk teens who are pregnant can go to get housing, care and support while still going to classes, some of which I think they do on-site. I think it's called Inwood House and it's on East 82nd Street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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There are several programs like this. They are great. I think that some of the transfer schools may have special programs for girls who are pregnant and parenting. Day care on site, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Thank you obama for ending the wat with Cuba. Does this mean i can smoke cuban cigars legally today 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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not today, no. [ Reply | More ]
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You can smoke them. You just can't buy or sell them. But seriously who's going to enforce that today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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true, that hardly ever gets enforced, but i think possession is illegal too isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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Ending the war [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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you know it wasn't a war, right? [ Reply | More ]
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i thought wat was a new linguistic twist, like thang or shawty [ Reply | More ]
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war?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Maybe now he can do something useful for this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Like offer health insurance to people who are freelancers or don't work for huge corporations? oh, wait. He did that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Obama had the courage to end the stupid cold war with cuba. Let's hope he can bring peace to a few other places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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THIS. Finally! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I bet sony rues the day they ever gave those two clowns financing for this dumb movie. the whole "filmmakers freedom of speech" thing is all good and all, but the concept of this film has always struck me as a dumb idea. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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The no ie has been pulled. North Korea wins. [ Reply | More ]
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It's probably a stupid movie, but I think it sets a terrible precedent that Sony is caving to the threats and no longer releasing it in theaters. [ Reply | More ]
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but imagine if something happened i.e. the batman movie? and they had been warned? those responsible for airing it would never recover from that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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I agree! I posted below on this, but I was actually quite taken aback when I saw the preview (which was while with DCs seeing a PG-13 movie). A "comedy" about murdering a real living person just seems really off. [ Reply | More ]
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i heard about it a year ago when they were casting it and everyone was shaking their heads saying "only these two could get away with this…" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:27 AM Flag
[ - ] In my med school class, the smartest person went to a SUNY for undergrad. The bottom quintile was filled with ivy grads, including harvard. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not surprised at all really. [ Reply | More ]
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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She/he is probably the hardest worker too [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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Which SUNY? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Which SUNY? [ Reply | More ]
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Had to be stony brook or Binghamton [ Reply | More ]
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Not surprised by this. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you received FA for Hs and college and now make over 100k, would you donate to the schools? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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Yes but I would probably specify that it should go towards scholarships and FA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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that's me. i make token donations to my college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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How much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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so small its embarrassing on this board. $500. i make just over $125k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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I was thinking of $50. lol is that not even worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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sure. they also like participation numbers, so any amount allows them to include you in the % of alumni donating. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, sure. [ Reply | More ]
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sure that's worth it! [ Reply | More ]
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Definitely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Our nanny is also a grad student. She works fifty hours a week for us. She said she would like to continue working for us, but needs five weeks of vacation next year. She understands if it isn't all paid, but wants two weeks for a travel course, two weeks for a trip over xmas and new years with friends and a week of various days for her sister's wedding. Dh and I can probably manage. But should we give it all paid? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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give her what you usually give her, plus half of the difference, paid. [ Reply | More ]
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Waves to nanny. Nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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Not a nanny. I guess I am assuming some things, namely: it's a nanny who has been with the family a while, whom the family wants to keep, and the employers are reasonably generous people. Even if none of the extra time off is paid she is giving you lots of notice and it sounds like she is asking respectfully. [ Reply | More ]
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She has been with us one year and we would like to keep her. We will give her the time off, just unsure of how much to pay her. [ Reply | More ]
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imo, you needn't pay her more than her agreed upon vacation days, and half the difference would be a generous show of support for her, and you can feel good about helping provide "work-life balance" [ Reply | More ]
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I'm wondering how many extra vacation days we should give her? Maybe give an extra week as a new benefit, leave one week unpaid, but pay the days for her sister's wedding since it is a one time thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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One more time. Pay her for her contracted paid vacation. Then, pay her for half of the remainder of the days she has requested off. If you usually give her two weeks paid, give her three and a half paid. [ Reply | More ]
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Half the difference is nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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I would give two weeks paid, and accrue it over the year (in other words, do not pay her two weeks in January). [ Reply | More ]
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that's not what accrue means [ Reply | More ]
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uh, yeah, you accrue 10 vacation days over 12 months, so .8 day per month, so after 6 months, she gets one seek paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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sorry, misunderstood your onp [ Reply | More ]
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Is she willing to coordinate her vacation with yours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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Not really. She can't change the wedding, obviously. Dates for the travel course will be set in spring and they are likely near when Dh and I would take our summer break. And then my office is closed for one week around the holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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Do you pay her for the time when you are away? If so, I would continue the pay her for the days you usually pay her and allow her to take the additional time without pay. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. She has guaranteed hours and in her first year we have her two weeks of paid vacation. And six holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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Try to coordinate your vacations with hers. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds unreasonable. I wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
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Is this a negotiating position, is she hoping you come back with no travel course, but wedding, etc ok? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not sure. She sounded pretty firm that this was all pretty important to her and that she was going. But she seemed ok with not being paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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A few thoughts. The degree is likely to lead her to a "real" job, so you are paying for her exit plan. She may be incredibly valuable to your family for a ton of reasons, so it may be worth working something out. Your own needs may be developing and changing. She really wants this time so she should be willing to negotiate some significant scheduling -- I wouldn't start getting into dollars until you've used up time as a chip. Will she give you some weekends so you can go do something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Has she been with you a long time? When you say you can manage do you mean yourselves, without incurring costs? If so, I would pay it and tell her you want to support her education, so this year only you will do it. Then again, my nanny gets gobs of paid vacation (when I travel or take off, not when she chooses.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok looking to see if anyone has any insight knowledge on the following situation. Ds turns 4 on Dec 30th which means that he is supposed to start K next year and also means that he has to take G&T test in January which I registered him for. His older brother is in a G&T program and I have done a practice test with younger dc and confident that he can get 90 or higher to get into the program but he is extremely shy and has separation issues. I cannot imagine that 2 weeks after he turns 4 he will be ok sitting with a stranger. Older ds was similar at this age but he has April birthday and when he took the test he was much older. Anyone has been in similar situation? Is there really no way in holding him back if want to do G&T? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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I have heard -- but do not know if true -- that in very rare cases for a very late Dec (30th/31st) birthday, DOE makes rare exceptions if DC was born prematurely, has had other issues, etc. Like I said, no idea if true and probably a kid who simply is shy but capable would not fit that exception. You could always test again next year and try for a 1st grade slot, though I understand there may not be any. [ Reply | More ]
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This is true for holding off on gen ed. Really doubt if they would do it for g and t though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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There is a 6 yo on my child's G & T kindergarten class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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In NYC? How? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.17.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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Yes, NYC. I have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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Moved from somehwere else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Wow is this citywide or district? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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District. [ Reply | More ]
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Must have received an exemption. Any idea if he/she is a sibling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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I have don't know. [ Reply | More ]
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^^Sorry, I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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sibling wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Possibly the child was ill as a baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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If you have to hold him back he's not actually gifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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OP here: G&T is not really for gifted children and testing a just turned 4 year old who if born 2 days later would have been taken the test next year is by no means a measure of his giftedness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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They take his bday into account when scoring G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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I don't believe in testing for "giftness" at this age either, but gifted children don't need to be held back in order to do well on testing. What exactly do you think gifted education is for, OP, if not for "gifted" children. If you didn't want bragging rights to having a "gifted" child you wouldn't test prep the child for a test you admit is invalid for his age group. And if you do believe the test to be valid you would know it is age-normed and your child is compared to children of the same age in the same birth month. For people trying to game the system through red-shirting and test prepping? And fwiw I do not think my children are gifted necessarily and I don't think gifted education should start until after third grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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A kid can be gifted and too shy to sit with a stanger and take the test. Her DS is 3 years old still, ffs, turning 4 a minute and a half before the test. If he were born two days later, he would be in the next class. DOE is rightfully strict about their policy, but you can't be so dense as to believe your own comment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Of course I believe my comment although I also think testing at this age is valid based on all of the research done on the subject. If the child has a testing disability they should have an IEP which would give them testing accommodations. Otherwise, in the absence of an actual disability they shouldn't be allowed to play by different rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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PP: I didn't say he should be able to play by different rules - in fact, I said DOE was rightfully strict about the policy. Your post is belied by the things you wrote afterwards. If testing is invalid at this age, then a child being too shy to sit for the test has nothing to do with whether or not that child might be actually gifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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I agree that a test has nothing to do with it. However, an academically gifted child does not have to be held back to succeed. And if one does believe in this type of testing at this age it follows that one shouldn't believe they need to redshirt their child or prep their child in order for them to succeed on the test. I imagine you have heard of the devil's advocate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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you imagine correctly. but one can both "not believe in" this type of testing and recognize that to get into the desirably g&t programs in nyc, you have to take the test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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possibly he was ill as a smaller child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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How about a mock test (or two) at a testing service for the purpose of practicing separation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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I was actually going to ask a friend who has not met him to do this. But honestly even if he does get 90+ I still feel that he will probably be too immature to start K in September. I wish there was an option of him taking the test and if he gets the grade, deferring till next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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NP: I see what you are saying. I feel sorry for some of the late birthday boys in K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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But there isn't. A cut-off has to be somewhere and there will always be children that are more and less mature in any class as there are adults in your office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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