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[ - ] I just fell hard on the ice. I am so over winter. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Ouch. This winter really sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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I ripped my pants :-( [ Reply | More ]
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And quickly posted to UB before getting up? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm at my wits end with my kids. My 4 yo is 43 inches tall and weighs 55 pounds, eats everything in sight. My 18 month old will not eat. He literally will go days without eating. He's falling off the growth curve in both height and weight. I don't know what to do. Anyone btdt? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Which one are you worried about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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The 18 month old worries me the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Have you had an eval of the younger one? Does he have texture issues with food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Yes, we've had evals because he was also slow to hit most physical milestones, and is not talking yet. They said not to worry and he is probably just a "late bloomer". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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I would seek another opinion, in all honesty. I know kids who were late bloomers and it could definitely be a factor, but the not eating is unusual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Pediatrician visit for both. Let her/him direct you from there. [ Reply | More ]
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Btdt. She basically blamed me for both kids' issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Judge Judy makes $47 million a year. Who would have thunk. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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Books? [ Reply | More ]
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Too bad she's probably the kind of grandma who won't leave her estate to her kids, it will spoil them not to earn it on their own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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She is the type to leave it to her dogs. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVE JUDGE JUDY! [ Reply | More ]
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This makes me think there is a money making scam for me out there, I just need to find it. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. Syndication? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What size suitcase would a 9yo girl need for a week long international trip with friends. I need to buy DD her first suitcase since she will be traveling without me for the summer but I am unsure if I should buy a cute kids 20" or an adult size 25". Normally she travels with me and I always fit both of our stuff in my 28" and a carry on. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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one week in the summer? She should be able to do it with a carryon sized suitcase. All 4 of us managed 2 weeks in Scotland with just a carryon and a personal bag each. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Thanks, Yes she is going to Paris for summer with a family friend. This is her first time away from us so I just want to make sure she has everything she needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Unless they can do laundry the bigger one and if its not too full she'll have room for the treasures she will probably acquire. Lucky girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Good point. I will check into it. Yes she is lucky, I never been to paris and here she is going at 9. I hope she appreciates all we do for her. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Kids Fresh frozen foods with the hidden veggies are disgusting and the concept is stupid. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Agree most kids eat what parents eat, just put it on their plate and eventually they will eat it. All my kids eat veggies mainly because they always want to eat what I eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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A lot of dc nowadays do not eat dinner with their parents. Actually, they eat a completely different meal at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Has ESMS given out acceptances yet? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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For HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate Jersey people: "Oh I need to leave now because it is snowing so haaaaaaaaaaaaaard" ugh! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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The governor declared a state of emergency in NJ, the public schools are closed today and the storm is worse there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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This, glad I dont work with bigots like OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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leave now? most of the Joisey people I know didn't even make it in at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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Everything's closed in Kentucky, even the businesses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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NJ is different from NY. My mom lives out there and it takes forever to plow their roads. Sometimes they can't make it home if the roads are very bad. If they have kids then one of parents should have stayed home today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I need to talk to someone. For the past two years I haven't felt like myself. I'm moody, tired, i don't have sex drive. I basically feel like I'm just coasting along with no emotion. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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Did you give birth 2 years ago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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I don't have dc. I got into a relationship two years ago and it has it days where it more work than it should be. I did start a nanny job with a baby that cries a lot in August. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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What are the issues with the boyfriend? This doesn't sound good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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He's very nit picky. He will take an issue so small and make it this gigantic issue. I use to fight back, but I'm so tired that i just don't care anymore. I don't care about anything anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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height, weight, HHI, married, DC ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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5'8" 169, nanny, living with boyfriend, no dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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Sorry, 36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Get a physical first and ask the doc to check your thyroid. Be sure to tell him/her your symptoms--they may want to do other hormonal checks, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Op. I take being emotionless back. I do have one and it's anger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Check thyroid and iron. Ask yourself which things in your life give you energy and which things in your life are an energy suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] My boobs are so huge right now it's embarrassing. I have gone out today and caught a few perverts openly staring at my chest. Ugh. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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did you ask them if they liked what they saw? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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Were you rocking this look? http://cdn.papermag.com/blogs/Jwowww.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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I haven't see any boobs out in the NYC snowstorm today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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Op is topless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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maybe you need new shirts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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And a coat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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I'm in Miami, so no coat needed. Just gave birth a week ago and my milk has come in. I'm in basic tee shirts, but my boobs are monstrous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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i'm sorry. that stinks. i had the same problem. i was so happy when i stopped bfing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] When your child is an adult, do you expect her to share her medical problems with you? I'm surprised to find out that my daughter doesn't tell me everything. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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I have no expectations on that front. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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No. I tell my parents very little about my inner life. Just as it was when I was a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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Why would you expect this? I don't share anything like that with my parents. [ Reply | More ]
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Everything? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't really have any expectations related to that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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I would hope so but people are funny about medical stuff. Some share openly and others have issues with fear (avoiding the doctor at all costs) or privacy. If she's not interested in medical problems, she may prefer to avoid talking about it. What's your guess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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I would hope that my dd shares most details of her life with me. That's the type of relationship I have with my mother. Ever since I was a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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No, I never did with my parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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Are you AIDS mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yes, but I realize that she doesn't have AIDS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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np: You come across as insane. I can see why your daughter is not that open/close with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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depends. My mother is very alarmist so dont want to get the gossip chain going [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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so is OP [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't want to know the little things actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA for parents waiting high school results today. Don't get hung up trying to parse the difference between average SAT scores of high schools or what the "cut off" for a specialized high school is. Once your dc has results, and assuming dc has a choice, just think about the kind of school that is right for your dc. There are so many great public high schools out there but they are very different. I know students who chose LaGuardia over Stuy, LaGuardia over Bx Science (and vice versa). I know students who chose Brooklyn Tech over LaGuardia, Brooklyn Tech over Bard (and vice versa). I know students who chose Millennium over Brooklyn Tech (and vice versa). I know students who chose ElRo over HSMSE and ElRo over Bx Sci (and vice versa). I know students who choose NEST+m over Bronx Science and NEST+m over Brooklyn Tech (and vice versa). All those high schools (and many more I did not list) are great and the top students from all those schools go to excellent colleges. So let your dc have some input and don't chose only because of "prestige". 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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^waiting FOR high school results.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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How do you have such specific knowledge about so many students? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: I am just thinking about the kids I know in high school right now, including my own dc. Students I know had these choices the last 3 years and their choices were all over the place for very different reasons. And they are all happy! (some more than others, but that may be more the kid than the school) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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I get you OP. I had 2 kids go to the same public K-8. After 11 years as a parent there you really get to know so many families. You get a lot of shared info about big transitions like HS admissions. I knew where every kid in my children's grades ended up and for most of them what their options were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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Thank you. You are right, of course. Assuming our dcs worked hard and have choices, it will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do I put an alert on my childrens SS numbers? I just went to get their passports and the woman that helped us took ss card and other information and into a room and was gone for a long time. Concerned about identity theft - any advice? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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relax... geez [ Reply | More ]
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Doesn't she see hundreds every week? [ Reply | More ]
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paranoid mom? [ Reply | More ]
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To do it for free you would need a police report to get permanent alerts with the credit reports. Otherwise we use protectmyID that we got for free from target losing our info. But there is a fee. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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She was shooting the breeze with her coworkers, relax. [ Reply | More ]
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don't blame you for being paranoid. [ Reply | More ]
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Call the three major credit agencies and request it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Happy birthday, Nina Simone! Diva! Diva! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Love her and her spirit-was awesome live. [ Reply | More ]
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I Wish I Knew How It Would Feel to Be Free [ Reply | More ]
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It's not her birthday. Her birthday was last month [ Reply | More ]
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oh oops! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] How to handle this politely? Good family friend who lives out of town just wrote and asked if we could put up her 22 year-old daughter while she studies in NY for three months this summer. We do have an extra room and bath in our home, but we usually rent it out for about $800/month. I had been planning on using the summer to turn it into a bedroom for one of our children, who needs her own room, or housing another family member (long story). We would have no problem with putting up this girl for free for a week (or two or three), but three months free room and board seems excessive. We've only met the girl once, about five years ago, and she was lovely, but still this seems a lot to ask of us. How do we tactfully broach the subject of payment for the room with our out-of-town friends? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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Wow this is crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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Tell them it will cost 800/momth. This is an inappropriate request. They are trying to use you for free. Don't feel bad about laying down the law. [ Reply | More ]
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If it makes any difference, we once stayed in their home for week, abroad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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Did they invite you? [ Reply | More ]
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Did they invite you to spend a week with them or did you invite yourselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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We were going to Europe, and they invited us to come stay with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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We were going to Europe, and they invited us to come stay with them. [ Reply | More ]
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If it makes any difference, we once stayed in their home for week, abroad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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Staying for 1 week is definitely different than staying 3 months! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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+1. I believe in being generous with your friends, but 3 months is a really long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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I can't believe they would ask! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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Some people have no shame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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People in other parts of country don't think about space the same way. Lots of people I know would ask this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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This is too much to ask IMO. 3 months is too long. Tell her you had switched your kid to the room and so now there isn't room for her to come. But youd be happy to help research alternate accomodations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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Tell them you can do it for a week or two and after that you had plans to rent the room to someone. If they really want it they will offer to rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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oh, I like that, clever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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Being honest and direct is clever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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we were not planning on renting it--we were planning on using it for our daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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oh, I like that, clever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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nyu has dorms avail [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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write an email, copy and paste what you just typed here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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You stick to your original plans for the room this summer and tell them no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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Frankly, we wouldn't mind having the girl stay with us, if she acted like a family member-- we'd just like a small contribution towards room and board (not even the $800) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Tell them you usual rent the room during the summer but she can stay 1 or 2 weeks for free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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So say that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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So say that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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I would just tell her no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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That is a lot to ask. Maybe just be direct. "We've rented our extra room in the past, the going rate for housing in NYC is X. She can ask around, etc." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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I'd say almost this much. I've put up similar people for a month, and it's a bit of a hassle but okay. And elsewhere in the country, where space is cheaper, it's probably fine. But if I were using that room for income or for my own child, I'd offer the free week and just explain the situation. Reasonable people would understand.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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tell her what you've told us welcome for a week but you usually rent that space [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Just simply tell them that the room is rented and there is no space. You're really really sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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I agree with everyone about asking for the $. I do not think it is rude for them to ask though. Just say, while we would love to have her, we count on the revenue we get, and it is x. Sorry we can't do it for free! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: stramgely, I think they know we rent the room out. Maybe they were just assuming they would be paying for it when they asked if their daughter could stay? I just don't know how to clarify this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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That's great that they know. You are safe to go with the assumption they are paying and could generously give them a "discount." There is no way they could tell you they expected it to be free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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watch out. 3 months can turn into longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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Say what you just said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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Don't do it. Signed btdt with a FAMILY MEMBER, and it turned into a nightmare and caused tensions in the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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really, why? Because others didn't know why one family member was getting preferential treatment? This is op, and we've had a really nice experience with friends who came for extended stays and contributed to expenses. One friend stayed for two years (and always contributed what we asked). The set up of our house is ideal, as long as we don't need the extra room and bath ourselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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or: it was a disaster b/c she was young, single, and wanted to party all the time. After it became too much, I had to tell her that she had to leave. My uncle (her father) was livid that I "threw her out" of my home. He didn't speak to me or my mother for a long time. Fam member started spreading rumors that we kicked her out of the home etc etc. I still feel bit resentment towards her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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well, we would have to clarify that overnight guest are not permissible in our house with elementary-aged children. And that any other guests are "on approval." I.e., feel free to bring your professor or best friend to dinner, but don't bring anyone into our house that we haven't met. That is our usual rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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tell her your child is using that room and its no longer available [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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is the issue the money or that you have other plans for the room? If the latter just tell her you would be happy to have her for a week or so while she looks for housing, but the room is otherwise occupied this summer. If the issue is the money, then I would just say "sure, we usually charge $800/month but given our friendship we would be happy to give it to her for $700/month" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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The issue is both--we could really use the money, but if we are not getting the money, we'd like to use the room otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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also, saying that seems kind of mercenary. I would be more comfortable, I think, saying that she can stay for free for a couple of weeks, but after that we had had plans to rent the place out, and, since money is tight, we'd appreciate a contribution towards expenses if she wanted to stay the full three months. How does that sound? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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also, saying that seems kind of mercenary. I would be more comfortable, I think, saying that she can stay for free for a couple of weeks, but after that we had had plans to rent the place out, and, since money is tight, we'd appreciate a contribution towards expenses if she wanted to stay the full three months. How does that sound? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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You can be a friend and make money, tell her that certain weeks are booked but already the girl may have the room for free from A-Z. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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