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[ - ] When I married DW she had dark brown shiny hair. Now she dies it with henna streaks and it is getting frizzy and dowdy. I want her to dye it dark brown and shiny again, with no loose ends. For her it's a measure of her independence and sense of identity to self-dye it red-yellow. Am I within my contractual rights to demand a return to the original color? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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Only if you live in a Muslim state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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fAAAAAAAke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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the frizzy/dowdy might be age. you can't dye things shiny or you'd never see bad hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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Dye things shiny... Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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Yep. That should work out well. Demand it then please post an update, telling us how it went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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Ummm. I think if she is deliberately dyeing her hair a color you hate, then the hair is a symptom of a bigger problem in your marriage. Therapy, perhaps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
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Depends on what your contract says. Mine didn't mention hair color [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
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How old is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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Buy her Morrocan Oil deep conditioning treatment and the daily hair oil. That will help a lot. Does she know you hate her hair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Just started tracking my calories. I felt like I ate so healthfully today, but the app said I am 75g over on sugar. Other than the spoon of sugar in my coffee, and spoon of honey in my yogurt, the only sugar I've eaten has been fruit. Is this unhealthy? Or more likely is My Fitness Pal a crappy app? Can anyone recommend a better one? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Did you eat any carbs? Carbs are sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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I had some nuts. I haven't even had dinner yet I have 500+ calories left. This is really frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:03 AM Flag
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Nuts are not carbs. 500 calories for dinner is a bit light unless you don't work out at all. Have some salad and a good size portion of protein to curb hunger. Some yogurt and fruit for dessert. Screw that app, sounds like junk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:07 AM Flag
[ - ] really truly need a great dermatologist that takes insurance. anyone? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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Just go to regular doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:50 PM Flag
[ - ] DH tells his family far too much about our personal finances and as much as I tell him how much this bothers me, he doesn't stop. FIL has a huge mouth too! So annoyed! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:50 PM Flag
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are you guys poor/rich or why is this a prob? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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First, I don't think it's their business. Secondly, they seem to think we have far more than we do, and it's ok to ask us for money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] I think something is wrong with my boss' newborn baby. Should I contact him to ask how things are going and what I can do to help him at work? He was supposed to return Wednesday (I was out, planned) and today I found out he didn't come back due to complications and will return next week. I hope he is just enjoying an extra long weekend, but I am worried too. :( 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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People share personal information when they want to. Fine to send a note of congrats and ask how everyone is doing - nothing more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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depends on your relationship with him. If I were in your shoes, yes, I would reach out and ask how things are going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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I report to him...very very odd he didn't touch base with me and let me know he wasn't in on Wednesday AND Thursday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:06 AM Flag
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stop spazzing out. could be as simple as jaundice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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I hope it as simple as Spring fever, but he hasn't left me any directions, and there isn't much I can do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Mom if three here - 5, 3, and 6 months. Third kid really threw me off and I feel like I'm spinning out of control. How should I handle bedtime? Neglecting reading to my oldest dd because the baby is crying and three year old is climbing everywhere. Do moms of three stagger bedtimes from youngest to oldest? Should I have alone time with each or just my oldest? Really need help, feeling like I really bit off more than Icould chew. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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is it possible to hire a babysitter around bedtime to help you out a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:54 PM Flag
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I don't know if that's possible. I can afford it, but I don't know how I would find someone who is available just for an hour or two each night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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I live near Columbia University, so there are many young girls who are looking to earn a little extra money and willing to take on babysitting jobs. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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Where do you find them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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This is common and you'll feel like this a lot. Many, many people stagger their kids at 2-3 years. You just soldier through. If they're all alive and unharmed, you're doing OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:50 PM Flag
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Stagger! Can you do the youngest first, say 7pm? 7.30pm for 3 year old & 8pm for 5 year old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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Read all together - each of the older kids picks one book. Put DB in a carrier or sling and rock while you read if they're fussy - or nurse during the story. Both 3 and 5Yo should be adept at turning pages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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this is a good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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it's going to be impossible to have alone time with the 5 yo unless they go to bed very late! here's what i did: put 6 mo to bed first (they should be going to sleep around 7 or so anyway), then read to the 5yo and 3yo at the same time. Once they get into the routine, it will be easy! good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted last week about finally admitting that I have an alcohol problem and that I was going to seek rehab. Anyway, just came out of the hospital from a two day detox (which went well because I didn't have acute withdrawal), and will now start out-patient rehab tomorrow in a program set up for professionals who wish to continue to work during rehabilitation. Thanks to all the posters who offered me support in my prior post. Right now I'm feeling a bit under the weather but I'm so grateful to be this far. Being in a detox unit, however, was a huge eye opener. I knew that people had problems, but there's nothing like seeing it first hand. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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Good luck! You can do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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your post makes me want a drink right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:55 PM Flag
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OP: that's mild compared to the chick who complained to the nurse that I was an FBI agent and was sneaking around looking for people to arrest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:54 PM Flag
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you mean they are not only drunks, but cuckoo in the dry tank? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:06 AM Flag
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Stay strong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:55 PM Flag
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You should be proud of the steps you have taken. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Any dentists on? My 3 year old fell into the door 3 weeks ago and hit his upper gum just above his teeth. A lot of blood, but it healed and he is fine, eating normal, etc. Urgent care doctor that saw him the day after the accident gave his teeth a tug and said he will be ok. However, I recently noticed that the one tooth seems slightly grey. What is going on? Should I worry or leave it be? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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it's "bruising." very likely will disappear on its own. my ds's did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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go see park ave pediatric dentistry in the am. they are the only people i trust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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she doesn't need to do this. she already went to a dentist and anyway, nothing she can do at this point unless she wants a root canal which isn't recommended for baby teeth. it is very likely just bruising. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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tooth root might have died. Watch in case he seems in pain for an abscess, in which case you need to get it pulled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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This happened to my dd. Dentist said it could either stay gray until it falls out or turn back to white. It turned back to white after a few months. Do watch for swelling, bleeding or pain. Abcess could develop. But as long as gum looks healthy he is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone (or any CPA's) get this letter from IRS? Our acct says not to worry, but it sure feels worrisome! Dear Taxpayer - We have received your income tax return and are in the process of conducting a thorough review of your return information. This review is part of an ongoing program the IRS conducts to ensure the accuracy of return information. Your return was selected bec we are reviewing one or more of the following - income you reported, income tax withholding amts you reported claims for tax credits, business income you reported 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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HHi ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Are you a republican? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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Are you a Tea partier? If so, you can start worrying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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So fucked up but so true v [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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Yeah? And how would the IRS know she was a Tea Partier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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What fucking planet are you on? The Cincinnati IRS Office demanded names of donors to Tea Party groups. They SAY now they have destroyed that information. They haven't said they didn't do anything with names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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Where is your rock located? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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donor list is public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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501(c)(4) donor lists are not supposed to be public, but IRS demanded names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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yeah. it's completely illegal now to disagree with the president. so you can always expect payback. so sad. but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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We got something like that a few years ago. Accountant said it was random and not to worry. I was worried because at the time we were both self-employed. Acct. sent them what they wanted and it was fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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p.s we had low HHI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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Are you self - employed ? HHI ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:37 PM Flag
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I didn't get that letter this year, but I have in the past. You'll probably get a thick envelope and you'll have to submit all kinds of additional info to them by a certain date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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Don't panic. I have always found the IRS is very reasonable. This sounds random. They may ask for more info. Just send it to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:44 PM Flag
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We had one last year. They said we had taken a deduction that was undocumented - our mortgage interest deduction - stupid because it is just such an obvious deduction that we can prove. It was for $25K. Accountant said not to worry, he handled it, a few months later we received a notice saying the issue had been resolved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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OP here -Thanks..HHI about 1.3.. also filing jointly for first time this year so maybe something to do with that? Both work for large corps and fairly straightforward income, stocks, mutual funds etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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The IRS has said they are stepping up enforcement wrt households with over 1M income, although this seems like a matching issue to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I tell a guy I want him to ask me out on a date without scaring him off? Been chatting to him online for a week, I'm super interested, he is too I think (he pinged me first!) He said either the weekend or next week bec of work but I can't wait. My curiosity IS getting the better of me. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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Don't ask him to ask you. Just ask him out for something specific and time-bound. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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Stay calm. Act like you have a full, busy life with lots of other plans and are not sitting around waiting for him to get in touch. Read the rules until they become second nature. Relax. If he's interested, he will orchestrate a meeting eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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do nothing. maybe not answer him back rigt away the next few times if you want to play games. but he doesnt sund interested so if i were you, i'd just leave it alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Ink isn't even dry on BIL's job offer, and SIL is already bragging to me about buying 7 bedroom houses, a second vacation home, and a boat. I'm serious - she isn't even talking in hypotheticals, she's actually itching to start buying stuff. Kicker - they're going to be living with and mooching off of my in-laws for a while yet. Anyone want to trade families? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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Bankruptcy in 5.4.3.2.1... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:37 PM Flag
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My SIL is the same. Bragging about a new house and we just found out my FIL is helping them out with the mortgage payments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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It's the nice, hardworking parents who get taken advantage of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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I won't trade, but my SIL is weird in the other direction. BIL got a great new job, hey had to relocate but SIL insisted on a teeny house, insists that they don't have $$$ for classes for Dcs and only 1 vacation every 5 years("they can go on their own dime!"). It's like she is getting off on acting poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] help me find a nice, light colored clutch for evening - something that will go with jeans and a dressy top, or dresses/skirts. Need to fit wallet, phone, keys, in it, and easy to carry (either with a strap or a hole through the bag that makes it easy to carry). I have looked online everywhere but can't find anything. Budget is $200. TIA! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Isn't this what department stores are made for? I like Lord and Taylor, go and they'll have a ton of different choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Sadly, the only time I can look is in the evenings and everything is closed. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Where do you live? Macy's is open late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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OP here - this is the one I found that I liked the shape and color, but it looks like plastic (probably because it is). I'd like something similar but that looks a little more adult. Oh, I just moved to burbs, so that causes some of the issues for me shopping now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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[ - ] Most egregious or ridiculous brag you've heard lately? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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A mom friend was "complaining" she couldn't get into her prepreg jeans. She has a 10mo and is a size 00 with what is becoming more and more obviously an eating disorder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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Mom brags that her son is such a good walker. Child is 4, no physical issues. But he walks better than any other child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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sounds harmless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
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Someone told me that she was a star soccer player in HS. I asked if she played in college and she told me, no, she quit in HS because her coaches said she was so good that she was throwing off the entire league and making it unfair for all the other girls who weren't as good as she was. Did I mention this was my SIL? No? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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My MIL took dc 5 to Barnes & Noble and came back claiming the people there thought she was dc's mom because she looks so young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] I can't wait for dc's preschool year to be over! Cliquish parents, spoiled kids, entitled families. DC made a list of kids she wanted to invite to her party this summer and out of 25 only 2 were from school. It was only one year, but it was one year too many there!. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:23 PM Flag
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Oh go on tell us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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Sorry you had a bad experience. I love our preschool, will be sad when ds leaves next year. UES TT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:26 PM Flag
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Yes. Ours was two years, and it was the longest damned two years of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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Where was is so I can avoid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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UES TT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:52 PM Flag
[ - ] The moms of the kids who seem the most "gifted" to me never brag about it, even when someone mentions something to them (I.e. Timmy did such a good job at X." 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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They don't have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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People often tell me how smart dcs are--I learned from experience that you sound like a bitch if you say anything other than switch the topic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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np. Ditto. I save all my bragging for the grandparents and, once in a while, UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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I guess there are women who feel compelled to brag and volunteer information about their brilliant children and those who just don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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I think that most parents usually only talk about it in the context of schools and opportunities for their children to learn. Right? Gifted kids need a certain education, that's really hard to find in public or private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone use overstock.com? I'm moving and getting all new furniture. Can't spend a lot but want decent enough quality that will last around 3 years or so. Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:19 PM Flag
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Not cheap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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Well, I meant between $200-$1000/ piece. After the 400K is poor post, I thought that would be considered cheap. It definitely doesn't feel cheap, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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walmart.com had good stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Also downtownfurniturenyc.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Thanks- do they deliver cross-country or is it only NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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I don't know why, I just cannot do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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over-priced, bad quality, sucky customer service [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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really? Thanks for the heads up. I was considering buying their $20 card to get 5% off purchases but I want quality (of course not amazing quality but decent). Any suggestions? Oh and I am not in NY so it has to be internet based. Thanks again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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try sales/outlets. I got a crate and barrel upholstered chair and ottoman for $399! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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Yes I got my lighting, area rugs, dining room chairs. Always been happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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^^i got their card for the 5% off. I would compare their items and reviews to other sites...never an issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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Agreed. I've bought a lot of stuff from them and always had good success. As an FYI, almost every time you buy something they email you a 10% off coupon. So buy something small first and then use the coupon for something bigger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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I buy stuff there sometimes I don't find it cheaper than comparable websites. If you find a deal, go ahead, but I'd see if you can get it cheaper first. I got some nice stools a few years ago 2/$150 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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Overstock used to have great stuff in the very beginning (around 1999 or so). I scored some raging deals. Then I tried to buy rugs there. Total crap. Huge fight to have them eat the return costs because the rugs looked nothing like the colors online. I wouldn't buy anything there that was big, heavy or hard to ship back. You really have to see, touch and test out furniture in person. I wouldn't buy furniture at Overstock. No way. If you must, at least go through ebates for 5% back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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I got two occasion chairs there about a year ago that I am very happy with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.13, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] I am the disgruntled mom of an only. I love dd to pieces, but really wish I had another child. DH does not want more children. Every time a friend got pregnant with a second (or third, etc.), it made me a little sad inside. A friend just announced she is having a baby, and I'm truly happy for her. Maybe I'm getting over being disgruntled? I hope so. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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I never understood the mothers who were that upset over not having a second baby when they already had one. Be grateful for what you have; some women would be satisfied with just that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:14 PM Flag
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Goodness, people are complex emotional beings. One is able to be happy and grateful as well as wistful and sad - all at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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i also wish we had another, but honestly. i see so many of my friends struggle too with more than one. the only problem is it's hard work making sure your only isn't lonely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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I hope so! GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:23 PM Flag
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Use a donor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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I did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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