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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:21 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:21 AM Flag
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True. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:18 AM Flag
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Manhattan is too expensive. Duh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:26 AM Flag
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yes but click on the link [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Twila. Conservative moms-- don't bother replying, we probably won't agree on any names at all. The other top ones on my list are Matilda, Artemis, and Djuna. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:20 AM Flag
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Djuna? Huh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:22 AM Flag
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Djuna Barnes is a famous author [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:24 AM Flag
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I know someone named Djuna - love how it sounds but don't like that the spelling isn't intuitive... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:18 AM Flag
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Child abuse in utero [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:24 AM Flag
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I'm conservative in some ways. Like Twila. Artemis is ok. Matilda (if you use tilda and not matty). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you move from NYC to SF? Why/why not? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:14 AM Flag
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Yes - for a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:25 AM Flag
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No - because DH wants to engage in gay sex in the Castro [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:25 AM Flag
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I would if finances permit. SF is even more expensive than NY in many ways. The public schools SUCK there. NY is manageable, but SF has a really draconian lottery system that is a complete pain in the ass. You need to have the money for private. Also, there is less of a kid culture. But... SF is beautiful in every way. So much more than NY. And I think you get more bang for your buck out there in terms of housing-- the stock is just way nicer. And the weekend trips you can take... I would move to SF in a heartbeat if it weren't for economics/our jobs being in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:20 AM Flag
[ - ] DH told me today that he does not want a second DC because I still have not gotten my body back after our first and he is afraid something bad will happen, like losing the baby or a birth defect. I am so hurt. I am at my pre-pregnancy weight and I really want one more baby. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:11 AM Flag
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He is linking your post-baby figure to miscarriage and birth defects? Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:18 AM Flag
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No, two different reasons. One reason is the body. The other reason is the idea of quitting while we are ahead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:20 AM Flag
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the other sounds like a nice affair going on on the side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:15 AM Flag
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you lost the weight yet don't have your body back? does that mean you have health complications? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:19 AM Flag
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My stomach is not the same. It's not a huge difference. All my clothes fit, but not as flat as it was before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:21 AM Flag
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This is normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:24 AM Flag
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Wait. Is the body issue of yours different than the "bad" thing that may happen? (And fuck him on the body thing.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:19 AM Flag
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Your dh doesn't sound very nice. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Best questions to ask nanny and her references? TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:08 AM Flag
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Do you mind making me a salad, will you use the 1/2 bath toilet, and if I ask you to cook, will you promise not to kill anyone in the house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:03 AM Flag
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Bitch, you're not going to wear my sweater, are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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Does she drink the Fiji water? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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How much time do you spend on the phone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:12 AM Flag
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Do you hug husbands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:13 AM Flag
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Are you an indoor or outdoor nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:13 AM Flag
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Observe her with the children. Does she get down on their level. Does she talk to them in a normal tone of voice? Does she seem comfortable? Does she seem interested in what they are doing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:18 AM Flag
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In checking references, I'd ask what the family did for child care after the nanny left - did they hire a new nanny, kids were old enough not to need the nanny, one parent stayed home, etc. and I'd also ask a question like "what kind of a family would NOT be a good fit for this nanny?" which would hopefully give them more latitude to talk about weaknesses since it would be couched in context. For the nanny herself, ask lots of scenario questions - "what would you do if...?" "OK, what if that didn't work, what would you try next?" "How would you choose between X and Y if....?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:16 AM Flag
[ - ] My almost 7yo has gotten into the disgusting habit of going to poop and come back without flushing the toilet, asking hands or, the worst, wiping his own ass. I am so upset with this behavior, I gave him a single angry spank in the butt and send him to take a bath. Can anyone give me any adv Ice how to deal with this. It really get me angry, he is too old for me to be taking care of cleaning his butt 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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Yes he is. Put him in the shower the next time he does it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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Tell him we wipe or we'll get worms in our butt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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that is not true. why would you do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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Because I need him to wipe himself. This has being going on for months, and I have put him to wash his own underwear when it comes soiled, be he continue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:13 AM Flag
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so you make up some absurd lie? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:21 AM Flag
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I just told him that and it seems to make a huge impression, he ask several questions and did my bet to sound convincing. Txs!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:11 AM Flag
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Brilliant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:11 AM Flag
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If you act like a baby, I will treat you like one. You can pick earlier bed time - not sleepovers, whatever you think is a big boy thing that babies can't do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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He does not have sleepovers and he goes to bed at 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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then use the "whatever you think is a big voy thing that babies do get to do" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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Make him wear a pamper one time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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I would try not to flip out over this, stay on him but don't freak out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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Honestly I just get utterly disgusted about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:12 AM Flag
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I would not put a diaper on him. Its demeaning. Keep teaching him what he is supposed to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:19 AM Flag
[ - ] DD and I are allergic to cats (just found out about DD) - where can we post to find new home for our 7 year old cute brother/sister cats? Bummed, but it needs to be done. In Manhattan. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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This make me so sad, Please people do not adopt animals if you are not ready to commit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:59 PM Flag
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This. So not fair to the cats. You knew you were allergic and still got cats. Poor cats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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People - it's been 7 years and I've been doing shots every week - not going to put my dd through it - please give some advice and not judgement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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At this age those cats are more likely to be out to sleep than to be adopted. Not like you care much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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Put to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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Jesus people, I'm picking my daughter over the cats - we rescued them from a terrible situation 7 years ago. You're telling my you would all take a 5 year old for shots for the next ten years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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Ignore them, this is their version of trolling. Trust me, I HAVE ripped some people on this board a new one for saying things like, "I am so bored with this dog/cat and it needs to go," but you sound like you are being decent about this, and your excuse is legit IMO. Not fair to expect a 7 y.o. to deal with an allergy being aggravated and not reasonable to expect a cat owner to avoid having children lest the dc be allergic as is being implied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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THIS. Sad. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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She said DD as well. I'm allergic to cats and have cats. I deal. However, it's not fair to inflict an allergy on a child who didn't sign up for it, and my cats would be gonzo if my child who postdates the cats had an allergy. It's a sad situation, but don't demonize OP. Odds are those cats would've been euthanized years ago had she not adopted them, so save the sermon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:05 AM Flag
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Don't be ridiculous, Odds are those cats would be with a family right now. I know that people like you or Op see animals like a pair of old shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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You're a troll, and you need to stop. Either that or you're hopelessly stupid. Which is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:24 AM Flag
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This is really not fair. The woman presumably has had the cats for seven years - hardly afraid of commitment. If the choice is kid or cat, what is she supposed to choose?!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:03 AM Flag
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Well, she shouldn't had adopted them if they would become an inconvenience for her later on. And older cats is less liked to be adopted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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Shut up, you saint. I would give them away too if I had to choose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:04 AM Flag
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I know you would. A lot of people would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:11 AM Flag
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You're a shithead who can't read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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Yes, because OP obviously ignored the crystal ball that told her what her circumstances would be 7 years after the adoption. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:27 AM Flag
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np: You know, in general I agree with this, but she just found out that her 7 y.o. is allergic. The kid could be having daily asthma attacks. She sounds committed to re-homing them safely. You are too rigid in your thinking about this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:04 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:03 AM Flag
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They are too old. What breed ? You can try an animal shelter but they would probably put them to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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Yes, I think this is going to be the best route, specially a 7 yo cat. Families are more prone to adopt a younger cat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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petfinder.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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this is a good website. I found my cat there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:05 AM Flag
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Put up signs at local vet's office, email friends to ask them if they know anyone and post on Facebook and ask your friends to share the status. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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Is there a retirement community near you, assuming they're lap cats who are friendly? Older people may not want a rambunctious kitten. Otherwise I agree, may be too old. If you MUST get rid of them without a home lined up, OP, try to do it as humanely as possible... no putting them on the street to starve or fight, please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:06 AM Flag
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Op, my kid will aways go first, if the cats need to be euthanized so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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I don't think is the op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:14 AM Flag
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Sorry this wasn't op, i was talking to the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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Are you op? Or talking to op? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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I think this is someone impersonating op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:16 AM Flag
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My DH would never allow them to be Euthanized. Need to find a situation for them. Would seriously pay someone to take care of them at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:12 AM Flag
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My DH would never allow them to be Euthanized. Need to find a situation for them. Would seriously pay someone to take care of them at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:12 AM Flag
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OR: I was in a similar situation, and a vet won't euthanize a healthy cat. It's a really tough spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:26 AM Flag
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Family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:05 AM Flag
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Facebook friends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:14 AM Flag
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We asked, no one will take them (my sis is also highly allergic). We've asked neighbors, no dice. Retirement community and vet is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:16 AM Flag
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We had to face this choice. Heartbreaking but DS was so allergic we had to find the cat a new home. OP, sounds like you are doing what is best for your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:14 AM Flag
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Some nursing homes now have mascot pets because they have a positive psychological effect on the elderly and sick. Maybe you can try that route, they may like that they are brother /sister and already house trained. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking over what my new schedule would be when I get back from maternity leave: 9 to 3, three days a week. Is it worth it? I really like my job but we don't absolutely need the money. I just feel selfish, especially because it is only 18 hours a week. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:55 PM Flag
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Since losing my job I have been working zero hours per week - would give anything to work 18 hours a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:50 PM Flag
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selfish because you are shorchanging work or dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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Child-if we don't need the money and I'm just doing it for me. IDK weird pregnancy hormones! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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see how it goes - you might love it - and do both well or you might change later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:08 AM Flag
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Try it out for a year. If you don't like the balance then you can quit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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^^^^ This is great advice. You don't have to try it for a whole year--maybe put a six months date on it--but give it a try, particularly since you like your job [ Reply | More
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I agree, try it out. Give yourself a period of time after which you will evaluate (maybe 6 months?) FWIW that sounds like a GREAT schedule for the mom of a young child. If you like your job and this keeps you in the game, you will really be glad you did it in a few years when you are ready for more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:26 AM Flag
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why do you feel selfish? if you enjoy your job, you're probably going to be happier getting out of the house a bit. and a happier mom is going to be a better mom. try to ease up on the guilt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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I think this sounds great!!!! The amount of time you will be away is really ideal. As much as you will love your new baby, you may find that it's nice to be in an environment where people are focused on things other than being a mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:02 AM Flag
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I don't get it -- how is working part time selfish? Happy mothers --> happy children. You're not talking about an 80 week here. Have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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This is perfect. Just enough to keep you from being completely mommy-tracked and/or unemployable in the future. Plus you'll wind up loving the break from db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:08 AM Flag
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It really sounds like a great set-up, I would totally do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Ironically I became very aware of this reality as a second-year student at university, dating someone twice my age. In our case, the problem was not that he took advantage of me – far from it – but rather that the age difference meant our expectations and hopes for dating were very different. To me, he was a cool, smart guy with his own flat and car. Score! What it took me much longer to see is that he was losing out by getting involved with someone who expected casual dating, not a potential long term partner. Not too long after we split, he married…someone his own age. (We’re still friends by the way. At least he saved me from having to ever date any 18-year-old boys.) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:55 PM Flag
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Dr Brooke Magnanti published the above quote, advising college aged women to date men at least twice their age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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That is weird. Dating someone twice your age at 18 is creepy and inappropriate. He just wants you because you are a hot young thing to warm his old bones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:03 AM Flag
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Yes but Brooke says that 18 year old boys are so immature that she preferred men twice her age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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That sounds like a cop out. Most girls I knew who dated men that much older had daddy issues or messed up childhoods. You can find a guy your age who is on your level, she isn't Marie Curie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:09 AM Flag
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I would not trust someone in his mid-30's who wanted to date an 18 y.o. 18 y.o.'s, including the women, are legal adults, but not emotional adults 90% of the time. It's very different than, say, dating someone 45 when you're 30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Hate when my post doesn't get a single hit! Wah! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Hit! [ Reply | More
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Wahh wah bla bla [ Reply | More
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Boing, boing. [ Reply | More
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Buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More
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Ring a ding ding! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:17 AM Flag
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It can depend on who's on when you post. It does look lonely, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Put a bid in on a house on Friday. Seller came back within an hour with a counter offer. Turned around with a counter offer yesterday morning (halfway between what they were asking and my initial offer). We believe another offer was on the table as well. Now, well over 24hrs later we still haven't heard anything. Sellers are going through a nasty divorce and don't even live together. What does this mean? Do I even have a chance at getting this house? I'm super stressed! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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It's a sellers market. We just bought a place, they had 6 offers all above asking. The place we made an offer on prior to this they didn't even come back with a counter offer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:54 PM Flag
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Might I ask the OP where she is bidding? If in a cool metro area, there is no hope for her. if she is bidding in fly over land she will do ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Condescending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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Livingston, NJ. The house was listed at 1,050,000 but they lost 2 buyers at that price during attorney review due to buyers remorse. Our initial offer was 950. They came back with a counter at 999 and we went back in at 979. Thoughts? I'm sitting on pins and needles right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:08 AM Flag
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If you knew someone was else bidding you should have bid ask. Live and learn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have experience with shingles? Tonight I finally realized that the rash I thought was something I have had in the past from irritation under my arm may be shingles bc it is scabbed and there are other blister like things going down the side of my body. I have had some pain and burning, but I have a high threshold for pain so I was just grinning and bearing it. I have recently had a ton of stress at work and am now inspired to make some life changes (work out, cut down on hours) because this stupid job is not worth it. Can I go to urgent care to confirm diagnosis? DH had it a few years ago(mild case) with no long-term problems but wondering how long this will last. Thanks. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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Friends who had it said it was one of the worst and most painful experiences of their life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Op: that is awful, hoping does not happen to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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my dh had it and I had to sleep with dc because if I moved the sheet it hurt him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:14 AM Flag
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There is a med you can take but it HAS to be taken really early - or it doesn't help. I'd call doc asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:57 PM Flag
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and yes, you can go to urgent care and try script. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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Op: thanks. It has been a week at least since it first appeared so I think it is too late. Still painful but nothing my body that pushed out two kids under very painful circumstances cannot handle. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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np - from what I've heard of shingles, you are far underestimating what it can turn into. Run, don't walk, to the doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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what have you heard? it doesn't turn into anything. It's shingles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:11 AM Flag
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