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[ - ] I understand that Gaza is striking against Israel, but if Israel has such a strong military and are able to protect their citizens, why do they continue to bomb civilians in Gaza? I know Hamas is bombing them, but isn't it sort of like an adult punching a child bc the kid keeps jumping up and trying to hit them? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Looks like Israel blew up a school in Gaza. The longer this goes on the shittier Israel looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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the un found missiles hidden by hamas around and in the school that was bombed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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The kid has more than his fists. He has progressively better rockets every time they fight every 2-3 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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OP: I see your point, but why are they bombing school? Is that where Hamas is harvesting their weapons? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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but sometime that child could hit you in the nuts or give you a bite... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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They're trying to destroy the complex tunnels Hamas has built from Gaza into Israel. It's not easy. It's not like Hamas gave them a map. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Oh please. Israel IS the aggressor here now. People are finally getting it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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really, Israel is currently in a ceasefire...what will hamas do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] If you WAH FT - is it better to actually work in your home (assume apartment, no dedicated office) or rent an office space or desk somewhere outside the home? DCs are in school, so childcare duties at home are not a factor. Any pros/cons appreciated! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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If your home is quiet, why waste money on renting an office. Set up a dedicated space- desk, computer, phone, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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I hear what you are saying, but what about being around other people, getting out of the house, etc.? Also afraid I will be distracted by household stuff that *needs* to get done... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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I would rent. I procrastinate too much at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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It depends on where you can concentrate better. I had office space and realized that I work better at home, even though I don't have a dedicated office in the apartment. I miss water cooler socialization some times but probably get much more done at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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OK interesting, can you tell me more? Like what does your daily routine look like? TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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No routine really, if I have stuff with a deadline I just get it done. Often I don't even shower if I don't have to leave the house. I get in the zone and do it. When I am not busy, I watch tv, spend more time on making myself lunch and so forth.....I some times procastinate, but that wouldn't be any better in an office. I'm a lawyer btw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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np i cannot work from home at all, too many distractions even if i'm alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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check the tax implications with your accountant, you could get some extra $ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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By renting or working at home? TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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both, this can help you decide which one makes more sense in your specific case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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I prefer home -- but that is irrelevant. Where will you work best? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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Ideal for me would be office 3 blocks from home. No distractions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Depends on your personality. If you are the kind of person who can self motivate and not get distracted by domestic stuff you can work at your dining table. I worked from home sometimes as part of my job and I made sure I commit to schedule. I got up at normal hr, showered, had coffee/breakfast. No turning on the TV. Worked all day as I would in the office until DH came home around 6pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I am an SAHM. I had fulltime help the first 6 months after db was born; I also have a 3 - year-old ds. I switched to a sitter 8 hours /week--mostly so I can do things like go to doctor's appointments/run errands that are a pain to run with two little kids. I am so much happier with just a little help v. Someone fulltime. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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and you just wonder how mothers lug around 3 kids in the 50's all by themselves, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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Op--no, I don't wonder. I could bring the kids with me, but why? They don't particularly enjoy going to get new glasses for me, or going to the ob/gyn, so why would I bring them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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My mom had five kids in five years and never had help. I don't know how she did it. I would have shot myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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you're a veal mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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She probably wanted to. Back in the day women weren't encouraged to find living their own loves overwhelming and impossible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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"She goes running/for the shelter/of her mother's/little helper..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm almost 39 weeks pregnant and have now started working from home. I'm generally an incredibly hard worker and very dedicated to my job, maybe even too dedicated... but I've started to check out and it feels soooooooo good. I should probably feel bad about it, but I don't. I'm glad that I've worked as hard as I've done over the years, but this impending leave has made me realize how much more important being happy and letting go of control at work is sometimes. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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What took you so long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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ha, I don't know! better late than never! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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You're about to work harder than you've ever worked in your life, so don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Thanks. I actually cannot wait. The reward is just so much better :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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talk to us in 6 mos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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By then she will be OK again. 2-4 is brutal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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The only suggestion i have for you is try to relax and sleep as much as you can .After the baby arrives and your work restarts you really wont get any time at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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I know. Trying not to think that far ahead. Taking a 5 month leave, so going to try and enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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Babies change your priorities. I still work hard at my job (main breadwinner) but I'm able to see it for what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me to go for it. I keep holding back. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Tell us what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Applying for new position in company. May not get it and I don't want to be embarrassed after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Why would you be embarrassed? Are you worried other coworkers will judge you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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Normally I don't care if I'm judged, but it's a weird mix of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Also, your boss should be wanting you to progress. So remember that if you hang back and don't apply to open jobs in your company, that can look bad too. Carpe diem! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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OP: So true. It would make me look lazy or uninterested if I don't try. I think my hesitation comes from the personality of the boss. Very hot and cold. Very unpredictable. It's not me it's him however, I still hold back from having to deal with him too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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That's the worst type of boss. The inconsistency just kills you. If someone's a dick all the time it's almost easier than the jeckyl hide BS. Apply! Then maybe you'll get a new boss!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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You definitely WON'T get it if you don't try. And you shouldn't be embarressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Nothing ventured nothing gained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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You should not be embarrassed if you go for the job and don't get it. The fact that you've expressed interest in moving up will make people see you in a different way. Having tried for this job will give you a better chance for the next one. There is no reason to feel ashamed of having tried. Go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Turn off your brain and go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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You already don't have it, so going for it only has upside: you will either be exactly as well off as you are now, or better! There is no reason not to try [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:00 PM Flag
[ - ] My oldest is going to be a freshman in HS. Serious question - when did you parents of older kids start researching colleges? Just as a general matter and not being all Tiger Mom. Just getting a sense of where your child might eventually fit in. My child's not going to Harvard for the record. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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10th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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my dd is going to be a freshman too, after the high school process in nyc i learned that you should learn to relax and only pick schools that you child would like. my dd is really into horses so we will focus on good schools that have an equestrian riding time and are easy to get to from nyc...also not harvard... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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also look for schools with unicorn barns! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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you are an ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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They mentioned it on the very first day at a specialized HS, LOL. Research - i.e., visiting colleges etc. - didn't really start until junior year, but it's never too early to keep it in mind. For instance, if DD is doing an honors class as a freshman, then consider signing up for the SAT-2 in that subject in June to get one out of the way. Or if the school has the kids take the PSAT as freshman for statistical purposes, and she does poorly, consider a prep class. That sort of stuff. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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college stays fairly abstract until junior year. Before that it's more a question of doing the things that will put you into a position to make the most of the assets you have. Be a decent student, if you're good at sports, play a sport, if not, do something else, but don't get fixated on one specific college outcome, when there's really no way to know in advance anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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That's your child's responsibility, not your's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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yes and no, they figure out what they like and what they want to study and you are there for support and guidance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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What they want to study is almost irrelevant to the question, and in any even is quite likely to change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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really my dd wants to be a vet, so she chose an under grad school that was strong in science... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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She wants a vet at what age? Things often change once you get to college. And anyway how many otherwise decent schools are weak at science (or vice-versa). There are edge cases like Cal-Tech but by and large a good school is a good school, a moderate school is a moderate school and so on. Graduate programs are a different story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
[ - ] UB, thank you for convincing me to do a barre class at my gym even though I was afraid I'd look like an idiot. It was really fun and not nearly as hard, coordination-wise, as I anticipated it would be. I'm going again on Friday. Woo! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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hi spammarella [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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it's not spam, i remember her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Why would I spam about the general idea of a barre class? It's like spamming going for a jog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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This! I was accused of spamming when I asked for a recommendation for an eyebrow pencil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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How is this spam? She didn't mention the name of the gym and there are many types of barre classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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it's such a great workout. but i still have cellulite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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Yeah, nothing gets rid of that though once it's there. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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It's barre. Not a magic wand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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I love barre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Hunter College High School - we're hoping our DC will be admitted (but we know it's far from a sure thing). Anyone whose DC has recently been in 7th, 8th or 9th grade at HCHS willing to share their impressions of the curriculum, the teachers, the student body, the culture, the admissions process, or anything else of interest? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Parent of 9th grader here. It's a good school for the right super-motivated, competitive, academically mature kid. Not sure it is right for anyone else. Kids are pretty miserable, is my impression, once they get to 9th. 7th and 8th were much better. Oh, and the teachers are extremely uneven, and very hard to reach, generally. So: if you have the kind of kid who teaches him or herself, it is probably just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks - this is helpful. What percentage of parents do you think feel like you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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we were not happy there and transferred our child out for 9th grade. the teachers are not great, but the kids are and the pressure was too much when it came to grades and test scores not about learning... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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OP: Did you come from public or private? Did you leave for public or private? Did you think the general teaching quality, or uneven? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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prior poster here-did you transfer to private? I kind of wish we had done that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a FitBit? Do you like it, use it? Does it sit in a drawer? I'm a bit intrigued. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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I have several friends who koffee-klatch over theirs. I fucked up by getting the wireless version which I haven't been able to get to work with my Verizon phone just yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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what is koffee-klatch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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German: from Kaffee = coffee + Klatsch = gossip : an informal social gathering for coffee and conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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If you are going to use a foreign word at least spell it right so people can google it. It's kaffeeklatsch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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Oooh. Burn! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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Fitbit seems designed for people who want to give gifts to others. It's just a great little scam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Wore it for 3 weeks. It is now in my drawer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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i wear mine all the time! it's been a year and a half. i love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Have you lost any weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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got one for the DD, she used it for a few weeks and then jettisoned it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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I wore mine religiously for a few months in the winter. It did help me increase my steps for the day and I really enjoyed it. Eventually I just got a little bored of it. I'd feel dejected when I only had like 5000 steps for the day because I'd done spin class instead of going for a long walk or a jog, which is stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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i have one and love it when I use it, but realized it just made me feel really bad (and not in a motivating way) when I did not reach my goals each day - so I don't always put it on anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Does NYC have orphanages? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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No, NYC has foster care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Is it 1885? No, it's called the foster care system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Yes, we call them "group homes" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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NO, that's not for minors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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There actually are group homes for teenagers in foster care. Unfortunately a lot of foster families can't or don't want to take in teens so there are limited options. They are often not the best environment (fighting and stealing, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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What about babies who don't have a placement yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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There is always "emergency placement". People can elect to be emergency foster parents, where they can get a call in the middle of the night to accept a child who needs immediate placement. Then, after a week or a few weeks, the kid goes to their "long term" foster family once an appropriate placement has been figured out based on the kid's needs, the available families, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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They go to temp foster homes with temp foster families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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YES, that is for minors, generally kids over age 12 who they've basically given up placing in a home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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"Are there no prisons?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Are there no workhouses? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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"from what you said at first, I was afraid that something had happened to stop them in their useful course. I'm very glad to hear it." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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"If they would rather die then they had better do it and decrease the surplus population." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA: The McDonalds bacon and grilled Chicken ranch salad is actually really good and it is only 260 calories. I had it for luch and it was yummy. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Their salads are ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Good tip. I'll try it in a pinch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Op: TY. And i am so anti-fast food [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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I generally don't eat it either. Though I remember years back when I was on weight watchers, I somehow added mcnuggets (no fries) into my weekly plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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McD is nokd but thanks for playing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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oh settle down, wannabe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Striver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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There's no way its 260 calories after you put the dressing on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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i used reduced calorie french, not ranch. But according to their website, the number includes the dressing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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Factory food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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But bacon is haram. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] How much property can we afford with $50k down payment and around $1100k of available money per month? Is there a calculator that can tell me this? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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In NYC? A studio in Bed Stuy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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No, a second home. And I'm looking for a price range..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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a shack upstate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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ok, and the price of the shack might be.....???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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250k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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250k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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well the easiest way is you need a 20% down payment (if not 30%), so downpayment * 5 is $250k. However a $200k mortgage on a 4% rate for 30 years is a payment of $954 but your property taxes would likely push you above your $1100 limit. Use any online mortgage calculator to massage the numbers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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ily. thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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yes, but the tax deduction might take are of the property taxes. $250K is a good #. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Depends on what kind of loan you get. If you don't want to pay a PMI then you have to put 20% down. That would mean a 250K property. You can get loans that allow you put down less (VA Loan, FHA Loan)but then you ave a penalty fee (PMI). Look for a condo on the Jersey Shore maybe, or possibly a house in the Poconos or Catskills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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thank you! This gives me an idea of what we can even look at. ; ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Is there a typo? $1100k is $1.1M. You can afford almost anything with a million a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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oh oops yes type-o for sure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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just google mortgage calculator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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I couldn't find one that did this backwards for me.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Then you shouldn't be buying a second home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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^^^ jealous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Nanny here and even I know how to do this math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there things that you expect that your husband just won't do, and are OK with that? I was thinking this today. My wife will ask me "oh, the light bulb broke in the socket, I need you to fix it." With no thought at all that she could handle that job. She sort of just thinks - "no, that's your job to do that stuff. I don't know how to do that." She'd be seriously offended if I said "I'm sure you can handle that, it's not that hard" because it's MY JOB. But I don't ever say to her "no, decorating the house is your job. I don't know how to do that. That's YOUR job." Or "I don't know how to prune vegetable plants. That's YOUR job, don't even expect me to help." There's this expectation that there's certain stuff that only I should be responsible for, but there's nothing that only she should be responsible for. Do you know what I mean? 75 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Actually, she probably does a ton of stuff for the house and kids that she is the only one doing. You simply don't notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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+1. And also, I think we, as women, kind of guess that men like these 'you're needed' jobs. Am I wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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No, I get that she does stuff and I do stuff. But there's nothing I WOULDN'T do. There's nothing that I'd think "no, that's not my job to do that, that's your job." And just refuse to do it, you know? But there's definitely stuff that she would get mad at being asked to do because she thinks I'm the one who is SUPPOSED to do it. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Ok, buddy. You carry and breast-feed your kids and she can change the light bulbs. Suck it up, lazy ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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If you're doing less than 50% around the house, she's probably just trying to assign you some more work and figures something more fixity would lead to less rebellion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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That's bc you don't need to ask her to do the stuff she does automatically. Apparently, she ends to ask you to do stuff so that she doesn't wind up doing all of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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This x100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Name some things that you do on a daily or even weekly basis without being asked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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...then designate her jobs. Geez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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My DH has set jobs: anything to do with diarrhea, vomit, or bugs. Rest we can both do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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What a gem, that man! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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She does nothing? No grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, no household chores at all? You sign all the DC field trip forms. She is asking for your help. Nothing stirs the loins (or lions) like your man helping around the house, willingly and without whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Face it, women do waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more than men. If she wants to stay punched out for the lightbulb, let her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Is it because she designated certain things as "man" work? That would bug. But if it something simple and you know how to do it, why not just do it? It's teamwork. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Yes, thank you. This is exactly what I mean. There are things that are "men's work" - fixing things, carrying heavy things, dealing with salespeople and contractors, car maintenance, going out to the store when it's raining, things like that. Which is cool, I like to do most of that stuff. But there's nothing in our house that I would ever say is "women's work." That's exactly the point, thank you for clarifying it for me. I don't say "no, I won't do the laundry or gardening, that's women's work." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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How 'bout you just do the laundry, cooking, and cleaning for a week or so and see where it leads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Your'e starting a fight that I'm not trying to have. I'm not complaining about doing this stuff, just curious why it seems to be only me who can do these particular jobs. BTW- it's 2014. Men cook and clean now, just as much as their wives. In fact I clean and do laundry much more often than she does because I have a lower tolerance for clutter and mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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"Men" or you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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You do the family laundry including kids sheets and towels and all of that or you do your own? By cleaning , it sounds like you mean tidying up the clutter in the spaces where you spend time not cleaning the bathroom, kitchen or kids rooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Yes, that's what I mean. Are there people who just do their own laundry? That's weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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np: When we were in about 3rd grade my mom said 'ok, every man for himself.' I've done my own since then. I'll do the same method with my son. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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Not to mention the breastfeeding, diaper changing, school lunch packing, doctors appointment making, grocery planning... all things that my husband seems to think get done magically around our house by some sort of fairy. But, in his defense, he would never consider not being the one to clean the gutters, or to change the oil in the cars. Division of labor, baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Most men enjoy doing the "man work" in their home. At least most men I know. They don't bitch that their wives should be doing it 50-50 with them. Don't you have any pride?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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The 1950s called, they want you back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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Nope, sorry OP. Women still enjoy putting on makeup and doing their hair to look good when they go out, and it's 2014. And men still (generally, at least- obviously not you) take pride in being able to do something considered manly for their wives or families. Some things don't change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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NP (and a dh)- I take as much pride in my ability to cook fine food as I do my ability to fix the dishwasher. My skills in folding fitted sheets bring me no pride but so impress my dw that I do it just to make her smile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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It's kind of pathetic how there are people who wish they were born into a different era. Like the perpetual protesters who are upset they missed the Vietnam War or the SAHM that wishes she could have been born in the 40s. I'm sorry you were born in the wrong era. P.S. I'm not the OP and my wife mows the lawn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Ok the 30s called [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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You may not say it, but I'm sure she does plenty of things that fall under the category of women's work that you ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Teach her how to do those jobs. And make sure overall the division of labor between you makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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ugh. I don't need my DH to "teach" me these things. gag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Then don't ask him to do them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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I don't. I see you got my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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Tell her if she can fix the lightbulb, you'll handle the dishes the next few nights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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We have jobs in our house. I can do everything I've designated my DH to do, but it's his job. Like taking out the trash or cooking dinner. Then I have my jobs, which are laundry or cleaning the floors. Then we have things we both can do and take turns on. Early on in our marriage, we assigned jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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But who decided what your jobs are? Did your husband say "I'm not going to clean the floors, that's a woman's job." That's what I'm getting at. There are things that my wife just assumes are "men's jobs" and would get royally offended if I decline to do them, like she can't for the life of her figure out how else they'd get done, because only a man can do these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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NP I can get what you're saying, I really do, but honestly how much stuff does she do on a regular basis v you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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I think I may be the outlier based on these posts. Because I think I do more around the house than she does. I arrange the babysitters, I deal with the cleaning lady, I call the teacher when necessary to talk about my kid, I wash, fold and put away the laundry, I wipe down the bathroom every three days because I don't like it to look messy, I give the kids a bath 50% of the time, I clean the dishes by hand when the dishwasher is full because I don't like to have dishes in the sink, I potty train the baby when I'm home, I am constantly picking up the toys because I don't like having them all over the house. Yes, she does some of this, but not as much as I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Then you're the rare unicorn of a man who does 50% of the housework in which case then I'd agree with you that work shouldn't be assigned based on "it's a man's job." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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So you would do it if she asked you but she has to ask you first. Is that what you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Not really. I expect that it's my job to do these things. I'm not complaining about doing them. Really! I'm just thinking about why there are things that my wife would categorically refuse to do because "that's a man's job, to do that" but there aren't things I'd categorically refuse to do because only women are supposed to do that, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Is only sort of know what you mean bc I bet there are tons of things that default to her responsibility and she would never ask you to do them so they are kind of being disregarded here. Kid and household stuff - I'm the one who is cognizant of meal times and when DCs might need a snack/need to being water. It just defaults to me. He would do it if I asked but I would need to and I don't. My DH is the IT department. I need an Internet connection but I most certainly don't need the TV hooked up to the stereo system, so when something goes off with it, it's his job even though I'm sure it's not rocket science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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You're really whiny. Grow a pair of ovaries and a uterus and carry the baby inside you for 9 months and experience childbirth if you think women are giving you the short end of the stick by expecting you to change the fucking lightbulbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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That's your trump card for 40 years of marriage? I was pregnant for 9 months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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I'm saying there are things that your wife does exclusively that you take for granted, like give birth to your offspring. So... change the fucking lightbulb and stop being such a whiner! Listen to yourself, is this the man you hoped you'd grow up to be, a man who is whining that his wife expects him to change the lightbulb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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Sorry the "be a man" insult just doesn't have the same bite it used to. Credit or blame the feminists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Agreed. So lame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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You are talking about a man who is posting on a women's message board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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Bitch please. Every mammal on the planet does this. Bfd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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We play to each other's strengths. He's a great cook, so he does all the cooking (not typically a man's job). I am good at fixing things, so I actually handle light bulb replacements, putting furniture together (just built a crib for our nursery while DH made cupcakes for a pot luck!). We also just split the shitty tasks like taking out the trash (him) or cleaning the toilet (me). I am much more into my clothes and so I do the laundry. He's very into cars, so he handles anything car-related. He's very tidy and I'm not, so he'll tidy a room and then I'll vacuum it. Also if there are things he likes done a certain way then I tell him its his job to handle it. For example, he likes the fridge arranged a certain way, so its his job to put away groceries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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I expect my husband to change light bulbs because I am a midget. Can I do it? Of course, but he can reach while standing on a chair...I have to get out a ladder. Same for heavy things. He expects me to cook. Not because he can't but because I'm better at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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She's just delegating the stuff you won't screw up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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You sound really snotty for even keeping track of this. I predict divorce in your future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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I think the only thing I do, that DH doesn't is the laundry. Every other task we usually share or either one of us will do it when there is time. DH likes to cook, so that is usually 'his job', but I'll make a salad or side dish with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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let me guess, you had housekeepers growing up, or your mother did not make you do any "chores" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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On the contrary - my mother made us do everything in the house. I remember having to vacuum the house on Friday night before being allowed to go out in high school. So in a weird way I think I do a lot more housework because I am used to a very neat and orderly house, and was raised doing the things necessary to keep it that way. So mopping the floor or cleaning the bathroom is not "women's work" to me. But for some reason fixing the dishwasher when it clogs is "man's work." And I'm not complaining! Just curious why that difference still exists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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I knew I was lucky already, but my DH assumes he will change the lightbulbs. And a lot of other stuff like dealing with contractors and even paying bills. OTOH he will not prepare food if his (and our kids') lives depend on it. At least he will order take-out, but only when he is hungry and the kids have long since melted down. He doesn't handle their check-ups or sick visits or their schedules for school, buying their clothes or shoes, or interfacing with nannies or cleaning people. If he gets the mail and there is something about that, he puts it in my purse. So yes, there are things he assumes I will do and I do them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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No idea, but since I am better at the mechanical things, I do a lot of it - dh will help, but he is all thumbs when it comes to fixing things, etc. he was ready to throw a clock away one day because he did not realize all he had to do was put new batteries in it - but I let him handle all the investment accounts because that is what he does best. It's a give and take [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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I think you should focus on the "I need you" part rather than the job itself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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hahah I totally do this ALL THE TIME. I didn't even realize I was doing it until I got annoyed my DH hadn't put the WD40 in the baby's door hinge, then I realized WTF. I can totally do that! What's wrong with me?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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My husband does not repair ANYTHING around the house. I am the plumber, electrician, appliance repair person, landscaper, gardener, etc. At least he washes and irons his own clothes. I don't do that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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Does he help with the household chores at least? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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DH cannot do anything with money - investing, finances, taxes, etc. I do it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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Same. Mine pleads ignorance when it comes to taxes because he's British. He can't handle US taxes. His investment picks have been total dogs as well. I'm thinking really hard about what he *does* do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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^^I've got it. He barbecues meat well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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I'm not sure what you're complaining about. Does she do the decorating and the vegetable pruning without being asked? Then she knows it's HER JOB. Cooking is MY JOB and I'm ok with that because I don't want to eat Hamburger Helper or canned soup for dinner. Aren't there jobs she just does? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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I just assign DH the chores I'm pretty sure he already knows how to do. It's not that I can't do them or he can't do something else. But say there are four things that need doing. I'll do the things I'm good at and I'll ask him to do the things I expect he can accomplish without my input. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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Is she too stupid to know how to cut an apple or potato in half to get it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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Thank you for making me appreciate my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Most annoying thing your DH has done this week... 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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I've been waiting for months for him to shred a bag full of old papers that has followed us through 3 apartments....still sitting there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Why don't you take it to work and do it? I do this with all my shredding. I bring it in small batches at a time. Kind of like Shawshank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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or: I usually do that, but it's stuff he has to look through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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^or so he says. Yes, it's crucial that you review that insurance receipt from 6 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Tell him In one week you are taking to work and shredding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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I just might. So sick of looking at those damn papers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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If you keep moving it and he doesn't notice it's missing, shred it. He can always call for another one. Do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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blow job for shredding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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he cooked tacos knowing I am on a diet. Came home and the entire house filled with taco smells and it was hard to eat my salad while smelling temptation a few feet away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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Bastard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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what about the smell afterwards? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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What's he supposed to do given he has to eat too? I'd be happy he fed himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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This. These women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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So he should Starve himself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Snore. Be generally loud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Fart loudly during morning pee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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I'm potty training my 3 year old DS right now and every morning when he pees, he farts on my hand. Why, oh why am I not awake enough to realize that I should move my hand away from his bum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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DH - it's a guy thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Give me a break. I would like to fart but I don't. It's called restraint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Excuse my lameness, but... I am so sad about what happened to Nick on the Bachelorette. I know that a lot of people don't like him and I believe he got a bad edit, but I stupidly find myself feeling sad for him 2 days after this damn show ended. Anyone else? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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If your name begins with an N, I think you're my friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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I'm not your friend. I should also add that I think Josh is the typical bachelor franchise bonehead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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I agree. So our theory here at work is that basically Andi and Josh may be into each other, but also probably share the goal of just using this opportunity to try to be famous. So I feel like they don't mind hooking up for the next year while they try to get on Dancing with the Stars and what not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Nah, I think they are sincere about getting married, and perhaps they will, albeit with A LOT OF fighting. As sad as I am for Nick, I do think there is someone out there that is a better match for him. I think the show creates a lot of artificial emotions, which is why so many couples do not last. I don't think Andi and Nick would have lasted, either. But yeah, I still feel really bad for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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i don't really feel sad for him b/c i think he should have never forgotten that what happened could have been a possibility given the parameters of the show. But i do agree that he got a bad edit. the season lacked real drama (all the guys mostly got along, andi was not controversial, etc.) so the producers had to come up with something to spice it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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I agree that the show had to dramatize Nick in a negative way. Totally sucks and he's the type of guy to be genuinely hurt by it, too. I agree that whoever is in the final two, you must leave some emotional margin no matter how confident you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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he's got to have a million girls throwing themselves at him though now, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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2nd, he knew what it was about going in, no shock that she may have sex with all 3 left in the fantasy suite. He did get a bad edit though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Ridgewood, NJ, more down to earth than Scarsdale and Armonk and Tenafly, etc? Looking for great schools with a less cut-throat, materialistic feel. Thanks!! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Scarsdale Armonk and Tenafly are very Jewish. Ridgewood is very different and definitely more down to earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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Ok that came out pretty bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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ita S A & T are too Jappy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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I would say less Jappy, but more down to earth? How about that delivered lunch scandal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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? What was that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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That was hilarious. "Scandal", I wouldn't call it tho. The guy who stole the quarters...THATS a scandal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Any MD moms on? Or nurses? I want to buy a gift for a friend who's helped my mom during a medical crisis. She's now a 1st year resident doctors and wants to be a cardiologist. Was thinking of a really good stethoscope and a cute pair of scrubs. Any brand that I should look for? Totally clueless. TIA 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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This is an interesting one. The best stethoscope is a Littmann, about $100. BUT. Cardiologists have special stethoscopes that they alone use, to better hear the heart. Pediatricians and neonatologists have their own, too. But she's a way off from that anyway. If she doesn't have one already, go with the basic Littmann stethoscope. Scrubs are cheap and they give them to them at the hospital anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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I'm glad your mother's situation turned out well. I'm not in medicine, but it seems to me that a resident would already have those things. Perhaps just a card with a heartfelt message? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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She's not in the US and I know that the supplies in her country are not quite what you can find here. Not to mention the wages there would not allow someone to purchase a high quality stethoscope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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I believe we all bought littman stethoscopes, back in the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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a resident will have those things. if you think she is at all into pampering, get her a coupon for a blowout or a manicure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Actually not really true. Unless she already bought a really nice stethoscope during her clinical rotations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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I really think she already has a stethoscope if she's a first year resident. And since a lousy one is 50 bucks and an excellent one is 150 bucks, most med students get a nicer one because they don't want to risk not learning/hearing the correct things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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Gift card, really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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OP- thank you all. I saw Litman has most reviews so I will get that. As I said above she's not in the US and I know for a fact she does not have access to nice scrubs like you would find in the US [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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MD mom here- stethoscopes are actually a matter of taste, in my experience. Once you get used to a certain type, a different one can feel/sound a little foreign at first. For example, I prefer a heavier weight stethoscope that fits very tightly, almost to where it hurts my ears, and I've had the same Littman Master Classic (I think it's called) for about 10 years now and if I find myself using someone else's, it doesn't feel right. As a resident she likely already has a stethoscope that she's grown used to. In terms of scrubs- above posters are correct, hospitals will supply them, it's really nurses who wear "cute" scrubs with patterns, different fits, etc. She likely wouldn't be permitted to wear any other scrubs. I might suggest some fancy stationary with "Her Name, M.D." or something like that? Anything "useful" for her career she's already going to have in her possession from medical school, or will be supplied for her by the hospital where she is doing her residency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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Certificate from a nice restaurant sufficient to cover dinner for two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your life hacks? Little tricks that make your life easier. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Booze. Always booze. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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I love you [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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+a million...Can I start drinking now!!! [ Reply | More ]
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It's 5:15 here! Bottoms up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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Always carry a snack [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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+1. I always have a granola bar or similar on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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fatso alert! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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np: actually, skinny alert. keeps you from getting super hungry and binging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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np: I am a fatso and a lot of binges occur when you don't plan ahead and then get starving, so I think this is sound advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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np: I am a fatso and a lot of binges occur when you don't plan ahead and then get starving, so I think this is sound advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Seamless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Married a younger man [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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How has this made your life easier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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He has energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Do all laundry and general house cleanup on Friday night, even if I have to stay up late. Then it's done for the week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Yep, this is what happens in our home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Really? DH thinks I'm nuts, but I've done this since grad school. Friday night is cleaning night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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For us, too. We try to make Saturday date night if we have a sitter, but usually order in on Friday while we do laundry and clean apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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That's awesome, I'm so happy to have a twin out there....! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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i have mastered the art of the quickie shower in the AM. Total time from getting up from bed to the time I walk ot the front door is 27.5 minutes. This includes a quick shower, makeup application, doing my hair, and putting on work clothes and shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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That's impressive. What's your strategy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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PP: well I basically try to leave my clothes out that I plan to wear the night before. I keep all makeup and hair stuff in the bathroom. I jump in the shower and do the quick wash of necessary body parts..lol. After I get out of shower, I quickly dry off and powder up or body lotion depending on season, and then apply makeup which is liquid foundation, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick then a brush to even everything out (I love MAC stuff). Then unpin hair, brush it out, throw gel on it to style, hairspray, set. Then throw on clothes, shoes, then dash out the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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I beat you- I am out the door in 15-18 minutes (depending on if I have to poop). But, I am a nurse so I don't have to dry my hair after my shower or pick out an outfit- ponytail and scrubs, no makeup, and I'm out the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Get the coffee set up the night before, check the weather for next day and lay out all clothing and pack all bags for kids and me for next day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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takeout, bi-monthly house cleaner, don't wear make-up, have limited outfits for work, marry a guy that is not lazy and is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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My summer weather bag is a California innovations mega freezer tote (have a new one and just looked at the label for the name). When the sun is hot everything stays cool inside; when it rains it's waterproof; it does not stain. It's ridiculously lightweight and easy over the shoulder. On the plane I put the blanket and pillow inside and put it on my table tray in front of me and it's big enough to rest my head on like a pillow. Also very hard to cut through or pickpocket. I think they're like $13 at the grocery store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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Blow dry hair at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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I always travel with lots of ziploc bags. I always keep a roll of toilet paper; bug spray; a lawn chair and a golf umbrella in the car. Keep full bottles of water in the freezer and take them out for day trips. They keep everything else cold and turn into ice water several hours later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Two heavy duty pairs of kitchen scissors. One for food, one for opening bags, boxes, packages etc. So many meats, veggies and herbs can be easily cut with scissors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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that's a good one actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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Realize that people think better of you than you think. Don't sweat the small stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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Good one. I assume everyone hates me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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We do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Clean as you go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Buy part of a meal prepared and make the rest. Have a personally assistant help one day a week with various errands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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