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[ - ] i need girl's name ideas. nothing too modern, something more traditional. help? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Josephine, Beatrice, Rosamund, Clara, Miranda, Georgia, Corinne, Fernanda, Hope, Imogen, Miriam, Ursula, Virginia, Margot, Penelope, Daphne [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Did OP of SIL update? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^^SIL most popular post [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any private MS school moms on? At HM kids who gets a couple of Ds (not sure of the exact number or timing) may not get a contract the next year. Is it the Same at other NY privates? The workload is medium not too hard or too much except occasionally. Just wondering how this compares....heard Trinity is also hard starting at 5th grade. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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you would already know if this were in the realm of possibility. nobody gets cut without the school raising it with you in advance. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I am not worried about DC. Just wondering if this is harsher than other NY privates. What are the policies at other schools regarding counselling out. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] We currently pay our mother's helper $25/hr, on the books, but she only works 20hrs per week. We are thinking of giving her a raise to $30/hr, but DH thinks that we should offer to pay health insurance instead. Thoughts? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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You should pay her 200K, all benefits including health insurance and also put her in your will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Why not $80/hr? [ Reply | More ]
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Heck, round it off at a 100 bucks. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - what is with the sarcasm? [ Reply | More ]
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$30 is way too cheap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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health benefit is better than money in the case. You want a healthy employee. [ Reply | More ]
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What kind of "mothers helper" is not on her family's insurance? Doesn't that term imply HS or college kid? [ Reply | More ]
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don't you think she has already opted into Obamacare this year? can you opt in and out like that without a qualifying event? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you think of Michelle Obama not covering her head in Saudi Arabia? Okay or not? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm okay with it. Pleased, in fact. [ Reply | More ]
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This was discussed earlier today and it appears that most people were okay with her decision. [ Reply | More ]
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Didn't see. I like it - she's sticking it to them and their sexist beliefs. [ Reply | More ]
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well then Laura Bush did too. (and I am fine with it; it wasn't a religious event) [ Reply | More ]
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No she wasn't if you look at the pictures there were other women without head coverings and there is no controversy or political statement. Move on! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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We're cool with it. Discussed it about an hour ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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fine with it, also heard (probably on here an hour ago) that Laura Bush did the same. [ Reply | More ]
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There was no expectation that she cover her head this is a fake controversy. She also looked gorgeous IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I think it's incredibly disrespectful. Signed, international business mom. [ Reply | More ]
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"international business mom"? for real? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you have morbid curiosity? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Not about everything. True crime stuff gets me though. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Also love Edgar Allan Poe. [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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OP I do. I feel kind of bad about it. I read books about disasters a lot. I used to read a lot of true crime when I was younger, I have lost my taste for that. But things like Lockerbie and 9/11, I am regularly drawn to articles about them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Same. I read anything I can get my hands on regarding 9/11. Dh thinks it's a bit morbid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Oh yeah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the worst thing DH has ever said, either to you or/about someone else? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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I overheard him call me "obedient" once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Countless. He had an acute bout of depression after his dad died, maybe even a psychotic break and was horrendously verbally abusive. Can't even bring myself to drudge up the memories. Called me everything from loser, fuck up, white trash, piece of shit... [ Reply | More ]
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He called me obese [ Reply | More ]
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Are you? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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np: he's awful, and I'm being serious [ Reply | More ]
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np: he's awful, and I'm being serious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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That I was jealous of my flat assed, saggy boobed, thick waisted SIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Who thinks and talks this way about other women? Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
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No I never said it until he said that to me [ Reply | More ]
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called me a f*&%king c%^nt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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That I am like a child and contribute nothing to our family, that I am cruel and cold, that I wanted to discover him getting hand jobs at massage places because I didn't love him, and that if I did love him I would have cried more and not been so angry, claimed I ignored our daughter all weekend right in front of her (I went to a yoga class and showered afterward being absent for all of 4 hrs), claimed I hate him, hate all his family and friends, claimed last week I punched him when I did not. He took most of these back and apologized, but basically gets angry and says awful things and it isn't clear what he really believes because he seems to say whatever suits his mood, so when he wants to be mean or feels rejected he says something mean and then when he wants to be forgiven and act like it wasn't that bad he is super nice. Who knows what he really believes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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... That sounds a little crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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"I don't think about what would make you happy or want to smell you on me." "I understand why (my estranged father) abandoned you." He was an extreme narcissist and was all about maximum meanness when we fought. [ Reply | More ]
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Two of the three best compliments I ever got were from him - the best ones I remember. At a huge event he said matter of factly I was "by far the most beautiful woman there" and once when I expressed insecurity over my looks he said matter of factly "you're a Greek statue ". Yeah he was a real mind fuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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posted the long answer right above you and mine is great with the compliments too. Similar with the looks, claimed I "stick out like a sore thumb" where we live regarding being attractive which is over the top sort of like yours. Estranged from my father as well...looks like we both married dicks too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Yeah he knew what buttons to push like he had the damn manual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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told me I sounded like my mother (and if you knew my mother, you would know this was not a compliment) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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That the chicken was a little dry. [ Reply | More ]
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"Obedient" wife from above. I was also once told "This meal wasn't your best work" :( [ Reply | More ]
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What!? And his meals are nonexistent, let me just guess. NP [ Reply | More ]
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PP: I don't think he even knows how to turn the oven on. [ Reply | More ]
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What a surprise. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, that would get under my skin. [ Reply | More ]
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He said he doesn't like how I look in tight jeans or pants, which meant to me that he thinks I look like a fat cow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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He likes to through the B word around about his boss and at me a couple times until I told him that I wouldn't stand for it anymore. He's also told me FU and go to hell. [ Reply | More ]
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^throw [ Reply | More ]
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My DH, referring to his stepfather's cheapness, made a crack about how SF might as well spend his money now because from the looks of him, he's not going to be around much longer. Two months later, SF was diagnosed with terminal cancer. [ Reply | More ]
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^sorry if I misread the post - thought it was asking for worst thing DH has said about you OR someone else. This wasn't about me but I thought it was pretty bad. [ Reply | More ]
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I was a waitress when I met him and during the divorce period he told me to "put on my apron and go back to the trailer park I crawled out of." A gross exaggeration of my origins... [ Reply | More ]
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That says a lot more about him than you, but I'm sure you know that. [ Reply | More ]
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"I don't love you anymore." [ Reply | More ]
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He once told me I sucked the joy out of life, and at the time, I think he meant it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moms of NYC public MS applicants, are you doing anything different to make sure your dc is ready? Is it completely crazy to limit activities a week before the test to make sure dc has a calm week and is getting the right amount of sleep etc? Am I being insane? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I had the same question, but there was so much going on that week including her birthday, there was no way to limit. All I can say is it will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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Am I a complete ass for not letting my dc go with friends to an overnight fun activity because of the MS tests? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Overnight sounds like a lot. How soon before test? If a day or two I'd say skip it. If a week before, fine. She'll catch up on sleep. Kids are resilient. [ Reply | More ]
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Test is on Thursday and the trip is on the weekend. The trip is to go skiing and I worry dc will get sick etc. Not a great skier and we wouldn't be there to monitor. Am I overprotective or am I right? Its 3 years of dc's future school... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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honestly I'd have her skip it too [ Reply | More ]
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I would skip. what if there are broken bones? [ Reply | More ]
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np--I had my dc skip a sleepover the weekend before the ISEE. A child needs good sleep for at least a week--not just the night before a big test. [ Reply | More ]
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Which test? [ Reply | More ]
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you are not insane [ Reply | More ]
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+1, i would limit activities also bc don't want dc to get sick. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] For K applicant moms- don't be fooled and pick schools bases on college placement. Most TT just kick out kids who can't make it, thereby inflating the % to Ivies placements. If your child can get into HYP from a TT, he/she will get into HYP from another school. Go with the fit. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Some people are helped by being around a competitive peer group, where high achievement is the norm rather than getting sucked into chilling out, smoking pot and underachieving where academic success is the exception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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if so, try public where you have to test in for MS and HS and ace the state tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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These are great options too. [ Reply | More ]
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TT are not the only ones that encourage achievements. [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely true. And many smart kids will do well anywhere. But other kids are more influenced by their peers and can be swayed one way or the other. [ Reply | More ]
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I am not a private school parent but I see that some really strong kids end up going to private for HS. I expect these kids are going to be very strong college candidates. [ Reply | More ]
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Not to mention a group of rich well-connected kids are probably going to HYP anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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rich well connected kids at every private school in manhattan. the tt ones have that reputation for a reason. the kids are smarter. (even the ones like brearley and collegiate that do not expand their class size in high school-gasp) [ Reply | More ]
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To be fair, the programs are also better. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, a person born on third base is "smarter." Shocking news. [ Reply | More ]
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just as many third basers at columbia grammar and hewitt as there are at spence [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you know people who are super high strung but pretend to be laid back. We have friends like that and I much rather they where honest about being competitive rather than pretend to be laid back. This is also coupled with them being judgmental when we aren't laid back even though we are just more honest about ourselves. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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YES! The self proclaimed laid back are the worst. So unaware. Whatever gets them through the day. This is my sil. Always late, always somehow way busier than anyone else even with her live in and sahm gig... [ Reply | More ]
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it's always the sahm w/ the nanny who is "super busy" and can't handle anything. find the accomplished wohm if you want to get stuff done. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm also a sahm with no help so her complaints to me are absurd. Oh that's what she does with her time- complain [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. My organic, glutten-free, vegan, homeschools-her-2-kids, off-the-grid cousin. [ Reply | More ]
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she is the poster child for uptight. [ Reply | More ]
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That's me [ Reply | More ]
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*I* [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I can't get over this! Posted last night about crunchy dw of dh's business partner who "can't" be around wifi. Spoke to her today, she believes she has a brain fungus but hasn't been to a doctor in decades. Is trying to heal herself with her homeopathic healer and is planning to write a book about it! This is Malibu fwiw... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ask that Sun turns people wacko. [ Reply | More ]
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*all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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read up on wifi before you dismiss it. my brother works from home ina samll home office and has been getting headaches and thinks its from wifi. every so often he unplugs it (it gets crazy hot) and takes a walk. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, that's pretty hilarious as the radiation from the sun has got to be about a billion times more intense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm not planning on having a c-section, but I like these underwear for post-birth as I always need the lower tummy support (see link inside post). The problem is that these are $40 each and I wanted to buy about 7+ pairs and I don't want to spend hundreds of dollars on underwear that I am only going to wear for a few weeks. Anyone have other recommendations? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Target always have alternatives, And amazon too. [ Reply | More ]
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What brand is good? I bought some last time that went saggy after a wash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Bought some like this from target. Also no c section. Great to have but you don't need 7 pairs, laundry will be going constantly with a newborn. Also- get black, no nude. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I'm trying to find them in black. I usually find that I need at least 7 pairs because sometimes I need to change during the day. Laundry is constantly going anyhow right now with 3 kids in the house and I hate waiting for my underwear to come out, so I like have multiple pairs on hand. [ Reply | More ]
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I wore the mesh underwear you get from the hospital for at least a week (got several pair from the nurse) [ Reply | More ]
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No, I don't like those. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any BTDT, can we still get into the TT schools if i don't write an iLU letter? Feeling too lazy to do anything right now. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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We didn't write one and got into a school. [ Reply | More ]
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Coed or SS? Girl or boy? TT? [ Reply | More ]
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SS girl [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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ask your psd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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PSD is not completely on my side. Some of these schools are highly sought after by other parents in our nursery. Not sure whom she wants to give the spots to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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look, even if you send an FC letter, the DOA calls the PSD and says "hey, will mary actually accept? is this really her first choice?" the DOA knows the PSD has to tell the truth because her word matters every single year. so you and the psd need to get on the same page. it is a RARE psd who would actually deliberately mislead you. they may not give you the exact specifics you want on the first try, but it would be strange that they would out and out lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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She did last time around with me and many others. You obviously have not been through this process before. No one can really fool around with FC, just the ILU letters. She can tell me not to write one when I really need one, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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OR here. i've been through it twice, but thanks for trying. i built a great relationship with my psd and she and i worked through it together. the relationship was so good that i also debriefed with her afterward and she shared with me some behind the scenes stuff that psd's know but parents don't. and trust me, they get a call on every FC letter. the DOA's don't trust the parents. but they do trust the psd's. so get her on your side or fail at her peril. (and yes, my kids went to preschool and ongoing at schools called tt on this board) [ Reply | More ]
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More people than you would guess send multiple FC letters to K. And if the PSD is connected, they will get caught. [ Reply | More ]
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do youreally not have a top 3 at this point? write the damn letters. [ Reply | More ]
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right? [ Reply | More ]
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my dd got into spence and we never even wrote a thank you letter after the interview. [ Reply | More ]
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