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[ - ] Any 267 parents on? How large is the K class? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.18.14, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Having the worst day/birthday ever. I was already feeling a bit depressed about turning 30 but DH is traveling, we're financially strained and have been for months and to top it off I may not have a job in a few months. I work for our family business and have been stressed for months that things are looking really bad although we've been doing everything we can to try and turn things around. My father confirmed last night that we may have to do another round lay offs. My department has already been cut to the minimum and it looks like I have to let go of someone tomorrow. I'm angry, sad, and scared. I may need to start looking for a job in the next few months but don't even know where to begin and am so f'in scared. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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No advice to offer, but I feel for you. Things will work out, they always do. Hang in there and happy birthday! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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Things will be much better next year. Hang in there! Why are you financially strained? Did you overspend on a house or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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OP: DH started his own business. It's very promising but new businesses take time and money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Most new businesses fail in a spectacular way. What is the back-up plan if it doesn't pan out? Can one of you find steady work elsewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP: I've started to update my resume and am thinking of starting to apply but can't make myself do it. I can't abandon my father and the business. DH's business could really take of in a few months based on the current situation but if it doesn't then he has had job offers recently. He wasn't actively looking but people have been seeking him out. I just don't want him to give up. He's work so so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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I know you don't want to abandon your father but it looks like he's about to abandon you. You've got a family to feed. I'd start looking for a job asap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Are you on board with him starting his own business or would you rather he had a regular paycheck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you but Happy happy happy happy Birthday! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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I feel you. At 30, I had no boyfriend, as living in a tiny studio apartment, recall falling down drunk on a tree in front of my apartment building and getting blown off by a guy I wanted to date. Within one year I was engaged and moving to NYC. So ... there's always next year! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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OP: I hope so. I feel like every year after I turned 25 and married DH has gotten worse financially. But I'm trying to be positive and thankful for what I have. We will be married 5 years next month. DD just turned 4. Everyone is healthy and we a have a roof over our heads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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The lead up to 30 is the worst. After that birthday, everything just seems to smooth out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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If this DH can give up his pie in the sky dreaming and start providing for his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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I felt sooooo depressed on my 30th birthday.....home with 2 babies, still fat, in a new city with no friends. It was pitiful! Hugs to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] So bummed, ds failed a Math assessment at school. I went over the material with him over summer and he seemed to know all the answers. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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What grade? Did he get nervous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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3rd grade, he said he did not finish it but he knew the answers to those that he did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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You did your best. Help him to keep plugging away at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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I am second-guessing myself now. I should have revised the material just prior to assessment. I got too confident that he would do well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Meant reviewed the material with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Don't beat yourself up. Just keep working with him on a more consistent basis. He'll be ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Did he switch schools? Also, this might have been a hard assessment on purpose so they know what to work on during the year. Don't beat yourself up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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I wish I knew what happened, I emailed the teacher who did the assessment but she has not responded yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Recently became a SAHM. I love it but I'll admit I need some more adult interaction and I miss having some of my own money. My SIL has been pushing me to join her Rodan + Fields direct sales team and it seems pretty tempting. Discounted beauty products that supposedly are nice but overpriced, I can throw parties as work and an excuse for more adult time, and maybe make some money on the side. Is there a downside to this? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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No ne you know will ever return your calls, texts, or emails again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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LOL, this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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your friends will hate you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Dont do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Just don't do it if you really want to have more adult interraction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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There has to be a better way to meet people then multilevel marketing, and most people don't make any money doing these things. It's not a bad idea to come up with some little side project to make money, just something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Please don't due this to your friends. Invite them over to pressure them to buy junk. Just invite them over for a good time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Yes, your friends become your clients and they resent you for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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I hate sales, so that would be a downside for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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People don't want to buy that stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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You SIL is trying to recruit you because she will get a cut of your sales. It's a pyramid scheme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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If you really feel that the household income is DH's money, I would not stay home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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The downside is people will resent you for it and the whole thing is super tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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R & F just makes money off of your friends. Your friends will start avoiding you! Your SIL wants you on her team because she will make money on your sales. Soon you will be pressuring your friends to join. UGH! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Do not do this if you want to keep your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, I admit it. I really want a Tibetan nanny. I am a Buddhist and I want DD to be with someone who models our family's values a bit better. But I'm worried about the English as a Second Language thing and whether the nanny will be able to really challenge and educate DD. (She is 3 and in full time preschool.) Till now I've only hired young American college grads but I'm tired of their entitlement and attitude. I WOH and don't have time to deal with twentysomething meltdowns on top of the toddler meltdowns. Should I take the plunge? Where does one even find a Tibetan nanny anyway? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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You don't sound like a Buddhist... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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She like yoga though, that totally makes her a Buddhist, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Sorry I don't fit your worldview but I am indeed a Buddhist, my parents are Buddhists, my grandparents were Buddhists, etc. Now that that's cleared up, do you have any thoughts on the topic at hand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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See, right there, not very Buddhist at all. Rather snarky and defensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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There's a Tibetan community in Jackson Heights, but it is not terribly big. There's no such thing as a nanny visa, although their are J-1 au pair visas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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advertise on IndiaAbroad.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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why not find a buddhist in your community that wants a nanny job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] When did you have your DC? Did you go into labor on your own/were you induced/scheduled C? DS was born at 40w1d, and I think I am in denial thinking DC2 will come around the same time but I know it could be much earlier this time. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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36w6d with both DDs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Interesting fact: most countries consider 41 weeks average length of gestation for first births. Good to keep in mind when considering your "due" date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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41 weeks with DS (induced), 38w5d with DD (went into labor) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Induced at 42 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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41w4d failed induction leading to ECS with DS1, 39w scheduled C with DS2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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32 weeks, twins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Most babies are born within 4 days of either side of the due date and if not then, 10 days on either side of the due date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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#1 was induced at 41 weeks 3 days. #2 came on her own at 40 wks, 3 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Induced at 38w. All good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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First Child 36+6, second induced at 40 exactly. I was really stressed with work before the first, and I think that's why I went into labor early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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Exactly on my due date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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36 emergency C [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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42 weeks on the day! Went in for an induction but baby came a few hours before- no pitocin. SO glad I pushed off the induction until the last minute- my OB wanted to induce starting at day 4 past but I don't believe in inductions unless medically necssecary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Both born within 4 days of their due date, easy peasy. The second one almost popped out on the subway! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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41w4d with dc1 (induced), 40w4d with dc2 (natural) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] There's something sad about the destruction of the old ethnic communities in NYC. I was in Dyker Heights (Brooklyn, right east of Bay Ridge), which used to be known as THE marquee "old country" Italian neighborhood. There are still traces, but the signs are almost as likely to be in Spanish or Chinese now. The percentage of people in Dyker Heights who speak Italian at home has been falling steadily, and is now barely above 10%. It's the end of an era. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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I hate to be the contrarian, but I think it's a stretch to say that Dyker Heights was THE Italian enclave in the City. Bensonhurst, probably? Or even Ozone Park, Howard Beach? But Dyker Heights has always had kind of a combo of Irish, Italian, and Scandinavian people living there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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I agree. Also, I don't think of Dyker Heights have having any kind of special commercial flavor. There are a few stores/bakeries but the thriving business districts are in Bennsonhurst (which has definitely changed in the last 25 years) and in Bay Ridge. As far as languages being spoken at home, that is always in flux in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Change happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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And before that, the Italians displaced the whomever was there. In 150 years, someone will post on the UB of the future that "it's so sad that the old Hispanic and Chinese neighborhood of Dyker Heights is now full of Russian oligarchs pushed out of Manhattan" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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Every generation says the same thing about the previous. Get. Over. It. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Sure its the end of an era. So what. We're in a new era. Things move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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They still have very Italian taste in Christmas lights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your favorite song? Mine is "I Fall to Pieces" by Patsy Cline. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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William Shatner's version of Common People. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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"Baby" by Justin Bieber. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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Jim's Big Ego - Stress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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Elmo song [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone out there find out the gender but tell everyone you werent finding out? We like the idea of surprising family and friends, but DH really wants to know and I'll admit I am curious. We did the verifi test so we can call at any time and find out. I'm 25 weeks and family thinks we are not finding out. Doable? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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We did this. NBD. It's your little secret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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i don't get this because who really cares that much besides you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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+1. This is why gender reveal parties are so stupid, no one cares besides you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Our families, especially my MIL, are crazy. Its the first grandbaby on both sides. They are way over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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If they are crazy you need to start dealing with it for real instead of just doing whatever/ giving in. [ Reply | More ]
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grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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THIS! A great lesson for parenthood, by the way. No one cares as much as you do about any of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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+5. Once you know, it seems silly to hold everyone else in suspense, especially grandmas that are dying to buy little outfits and the like. Keep the name entirely to yourself though. You don't want any negative feedback on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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I think it's actually nicer to say you don't know then to say you aren't telling. The person is probably only asking to be nice anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Why do you want to withhold the information? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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My brother's family did this but then their oldest child would run around saying that mommy had a baby sister in her tummy. Oddly enough, I felt annoyed that they lied about not knowing. I would rather they told the truth and said they're not telling until the baby was born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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"So, are you having a boy or a girl?" -- "Oh, we know, but we're not telling." -- "So, what are you naming it?" -- "Oh, we know, but we're not telling." -- "So, who's the father?" -- "Oh, we know, but we're not telling..." -- Garfunkel & Oates, "Pregnant Women Are Smug" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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You nailed it. So annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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please dont tell people the name , whatever you do. I despise when people post on facebook "Xander James is kicking up a storm today!" when they are like 6mo pregnant. Its just weird to me that a baby has this whole identity before he is even seen by the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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It's a surprise either way- at 20 weeks or 40- no? Just saying. And to answer your question- sure, so whatever you want! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] How can I find a tutor for my 4th grader in Brooklyn? I have no idea where to start. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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where in brooklyn? local list serve...google... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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I have good one in manhattan, but he won't go to Brooklyn. Hope you find a good one!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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try these guys (not sure if they do 4th grade): http://www.brownstonetutors.com/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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Can you give more details? What does he/she need tutoring in? Public school or private school? We had luck at Brooklyn Learning Center but this was after having an educational evaluation done to figure out exactly what DD needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Can you ask friends at school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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They tend not to admit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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DD had a lousy third grade teacher, and did poorly on the state tests. I'd like to shore her up academically in general (and her confidence). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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just found one in manhattan and cant believe the charge $150 for 1 hour [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Wow. In manhattan and mine is 50.00. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I have had ongoing issues with my almost 4 yo ds preferring the nanny to me. He cries when she leaves, tells me he likes her better etc. I have worked very hard on minimizing the amount of time he spends with her so as to not traumatize him by having her stop being his nanny yet trying to shift this balance. She now spends a total of 12 hours a week with him. I WOH so this is the best I can do. My oldest is falling behind on school work and I need to be more involved in helping with the hw so I need someone else to help with bedtime with 2 younger kids. I can shift our nannies hours to later to help me with this or I can replace her with someone else. What should I do? I feel so torn between different kids needs. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Shift your nanny's hours. He is just going through a phase. The most important thing is that he feels loved and stable/safe. Don't switch to a stranger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Makes sense. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Don't take it seriously. All kids do this. They play nanny off you or mom vs dad. They go through phases with favorites. At least he likes her and she's good to him. Stick to the schedule that works best for your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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I remember being like this as a kid. I was definitely gaming my mom a little bit. I mean, as I was dramatically saying this stuff, there was a cooler-headed part inside of me that knew I didn't really mean it and that I was hamming it up, if that makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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At least you know he is being well cared for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever actually known someone who regretted having kids? Or regretted not having them? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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I know several people who regretted not having children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Why didn't they adopt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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np: my friend who sort of falls into this category had health issues plus her first marriage was terrible. by the time she got out of it and met her 2d husband, they both considered themselves too old and had too many other responsibilities (aging parents, etc). to have kids. i also have gay friends who would have liked to have families but haven't had happy longterm relationships in which that would make sense to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Who knows? I certainly am not going to ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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No, but I do have a childfree neighbor who told me wished she could have had children. For a variety of reasons, she didn't, but that is the only person who ever expressed sadness about it to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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I have a friend who regrets having her second. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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its hard to regret a child you have, since you do love them once they're here most of the time. but i know people who realize their lives would be a lot easier if they'd had fewer kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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This is why I'm afraid to try for #2. I feel so stretched with just one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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OR: that's whymy two are 4 years apart. but there's nothing wrong with deciding to stop at one, either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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PP: my one just turned 4 and I find myself wanting another one less and less. Thought it would be the other way around, but not I'm not sure I want another one at all. 36, kind of need to figure this out sooner than later. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: i had #1 at 36! [ Reply | More ]
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PP: good to know! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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I am just starting to try for number 2 at 37. My DS is about to be four. I am okay if it doesn't happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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You're not Jeep mom are you? That was my favorite UB interaction. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Np - My two are also four years apart. I love my children but I definitely don't want anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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OR: ditto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Wait for a 4 or 5 year gap. Much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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My DS is 4 and it's so easy with just him now, I am scared to start over again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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It doesn't sound like you're ready. When (and if) you're ready, you'll know it. In the meantime, just enjoy your son. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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I know people who regretted not having them. It's not socially acceptable to regret the children you already have so I assume people would be hesitant to admit this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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This. I'm sure lots of people regret having children, but you aren't allowed to think that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Regret is the wrong word. I think my life would be just as fulfilling without my child. He adds something special and unique to it but I would have been fine childless and would have filled my life with other meaningful things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes, I have known people who regretted having kids. Usually it is because the kids turned out poorly and caused a lot of heartache. Drugs, in and out of prison, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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I don't have kids (and almost didn't date my now-husband because he has children). Three friends have told me that they love their children, but if they could go back and do it over, they would not have children. I don't think this is something they would say to their spouses or to anyone who has children; I think they just thought that I would "understand" or at least sympathize (and then never bring it up again). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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I'm also a SM with no kids of her own. When I married DH, everyone told me I would regret it, that I was too young to close that door, etc. FFW 15 years and I have friends confessing left and right if they could do it over, they would do what I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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It's not bad, right? I mean, I lucked out completely, because DH and his ex are about as amicable as a divorced couple can get, and his kids are well-adjusted and happy and we have fun when they're here. It could have been so much worse (although, if he had a nasty divorce or kids who didn't like me, I wouldn't have married him). And since they're away half the time, and I never have to be The Bad Guy parent, it's more like being the fun aunt than any sort of mother. And no diapers... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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My parents, most likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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+1 They definitely regretted not stopping at two kids, once I hit age 13. :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I have 2 friends who regret having children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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I don't know anyone of my generation who regretted having kids, but I definitely think there were women of an older generation, when getting married and having kids and SAH was your only real option, that regretted all of it and wished that they had been able to have a career and not be a mom. Most moms I know (and that's a very limited group) really wanted to be moms. I do know older folks who regretted not having children but not sure any of them had a choice in the matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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No kids by choice and a small handful of women have bent my ear about wishing they had no kids...a larger handful about wishing they had fewer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think parents are more crazy in the suburbs or in cities? I'm talking about parents who center everything on their children - activities, helicoptering over what they eat, being paranoid about dirt, etc. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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Can any parents Be more crazy than NYC parents?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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OP - not sure. i'm not in NYC but the competitiveness seems unmatched there. at the same time, parents are willing to expose their children to diversity and the urban realities which suburban parents shield their kids from (generally speaking). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Austin parents!! There was just a story on the news here about someone calling CPS on a woman for letting her kids play outside!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Fu#%ing moron who reported. Raise your own damn snowflakes. I hope people give her hell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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I know, it's horrendous! So typical South Austin though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I don't think NYC parents are crazy. They just live in a really extreme matrix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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I am a public school parent in Manhattan and I really don't see that. maybe it is our school? my friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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No, it's just a stereotype that suburbanites want to believe about NYC parents so they can feel better about their choices. So they like to pass us all off as crazed, cutthroat lunatics helicoptering over our kids when for the most part, it's just the opposite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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The fuck, Hello? I just said I don't think NYC parents are crazy. Now I just think you don't read very carefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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I live in the suburbs and grew up in NYC. I don't regret for a second not raising my kids the same way I grew up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Neither. The crazies live in both locations. They are a species unto themselves. They are legion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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older UMC parents everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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burbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Where you live doesn't matter. Society has become child centric. I do my best to fight it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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this is so true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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+4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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The parents in the burbs are nuts with sports [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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this. I find that the parents in the city have a little more sense of self (and have weekends as a family as opposed to driving around the county for a game). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] H.R. Moms, is there a day/time that's preferred for job offers? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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No. When it pops us as the top thing on the to-do list is when it happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I have sex with my husband practically every night. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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meant this as a response. oops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Good for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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And I have sex with him on the other nights! Ooops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter's boyfriends always seem to be ridiculously adorable/cute. She's a great kid, but not the type of girl these guys would normally be attracted to. Should I be worried? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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Why would you be worried? Do you think the boys are gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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Worried about what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Why would you say that about your own DD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Sit down with your dd and explain how ugly she is. Smh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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ILY. Poor daughter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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I'm more worried about YOU. What mother describes a teen boy as "ridicously adorable"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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+1 so weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Maybe these boys are less shallow than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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+1 Hoping this one is fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Oh sheesh! You are a piece of work. Thankfully your daughter doesn't have your ugly insecurities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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why do people keep posting this kind of thing? what is there to worry about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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you don't have teen daughters, do you? everybody knows how girls like this get boyfriends like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Someone posts this every few months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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yeah... it's a common issue. i see it a lot in the suburbs, the girls "do things" in order to get hot boyfriends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Michael Fassbender? Sexiest actor ever? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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He's good looking, but sexiest ever? Not for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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OMG I thought I was the only person that thought that. Yes, he is incredibly sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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not so sexy when you remember he's a girlfriend beater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Ugh I remember that. No idea why there's been no blowback for him on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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What?!! I didn't know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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more details please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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He was smokin' hot in Shame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Not to me. I like them dark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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[ - ] Why is everyone here so concerned about the death of the JEW Joan Rivers? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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flag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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Because she was from one of the 12 tribes of Israrel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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I am not concerned, I don't care tbh, but it is news because she was a public figure probably liked by thousands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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flag and collapse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you feel suicidal if others make more money than you? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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I've been suicidal before but for much different reasons. Oh hunny, please find a therapist. It will get better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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No, not my trigger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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You need help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Um. No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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OMG! Someone makes more money than I do????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Maybe you feel like you've failed? Most people feel kind of bad when they learn other people they know make more, but being suicidal is pretty extreme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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No. Can't even imagine this would every in a billion years bother me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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Ha! no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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no. somebody pretty much always will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Well... That is a silly reason to feel suicidal for, there is going to be always someone with more $ than you, not matter what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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IF??? Troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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You don't really understand the nature of suicidal thoughts. Do you think really think RW killed himself because Will Ferrell makes more money than he did? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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NP did someone say he did? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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