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[ - ] Why am I the only one who thinks its good that my boys act like, well, boys? No, they don't run around restaurants or hit people or grab toys, but they constantly run, they jump, they ride their bikes too fast and leave their Nerf guns on the lawn and will fight you to get to the soccer ball first in a race. It seems like all around me I see these boys raised by SAHMs (in my town there are A LOT of them) with fathers who are rarely around who are taught to act like little Fauntleroys. No running! No picking up sticks or rocks! No digging in the mud! Then my boys come around and people act like they're savages because they don't immediately try to share everything they have with the other kids and make sure to not mess up the gravel on the driveway with their bike tires. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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I agree. The day care kids are so much more masculine! [ Reply | More ]
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I know you're trying to be nasty, but yes, actually, they are. Because they learn how to deal with other kids instead of having mommy within arms length refereeing all of their play behavior. [ Reply | More ]
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My DS is a mix -- there is a time and place for everything. He loves to climb and jump off of things, to race, to dig in the dirt, play with trucks, collect rocks and bugs, etc. But we're careful about being safe too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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just stay in your lane. if you're happy with your own kids, that's enough. [ Reply | More ]
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Be careful or they will grow up to be nothings! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 this is my boy also. Remember, these types of boys are the ones that will make a girl happy some day in the future. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I've been exploring religion for the last year. now that I am really grappling with the hard questions, studying the bible/history, and going to a church that has my values my cynicism is cracking. Our pastor is a mathematician so very much science-minded. I obviously don't believe a lot of the stories in the bible (there is a large element of folklore, allegory, etc) But I think there might be something to it 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Oops meant to reply to mo [ Reply | More ]
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If it gives you comfort, go for it. [ Reply | More ]
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that's what all libtards say [ Reply | More ]
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Which religion? There are so many to choose from. I am partial to the Japanese Shinto religion, worshipping rocks and trees and nature. [ Reply | More ]
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I think we all are. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] s/o "Men do weird things when bored." 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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So do dogs. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just need to vent. Feeling defeated as a parent a lot of the time. He's only 11 and I'm exhausted. He pushes back on everything. Super sneaky, unmotivated and thinks he knows everything. We are each other's public enemy. I'm completely scared to face the future. Sigh. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My ds just turned 12; dd just turned 10. I hear you. Keep telling myself that this is normal and will pass (with patience and guidance), and reminding myself that they are great kids in general...but yes, it is exhausting. Hang in there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Take away everything except his bed, a set of sheets, and one week's worth of clothes and a pair of shoes. Every day that he behaves respectfully, he can earn back one item; every day he behaves like a brat, he loses three. Also, you aren't giving him enough chores to do. He should have at least an hour of housework or yardwork to do every day at his age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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WRONG! Stop fighting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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I agree on giving more chores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Sometimes people have incompatible personalities and it's especially hard when it's parent and child. The biggest gift you can give him is unconditional love and that often can take the wind of out of the sails of rebellion. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I try to do this but the quiet conversations in my head have him falling through the cracks academically, being a social lemming to "fit in". Drugs/alcohol, lying, cheating and general apathy and dysfunction. Down the rabbit hole I go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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He is still young and you can create a self-fulfilling prophecy by giving voice to these fears, especially if he catches wind of it. Better to predict a great future for him and be optimistic to him, telling him that you believe he's got what it takes to do this or that. Delight in anything he does well or when he tries hard. It's been tough for you both lately so try to have a few days of making him feel like you like him, finding whatever shreds of good stuff you can find. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Yes, I give him a lot of support and encouragement. And I don't want to futurize or catastrophize but I am tired of the movie in my head. Thank you for your kind words. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Maybe it's you too. You sound a bit dramatic - public enemy??? Quiet conversations in your head??? Maybe if you calm down a bit, so will your DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Stop fighting. He's doing it because he wants the fight. Let him be late to school. Let him go hungry. Let him explain to the coach why he wasn't at practice. I see a lot of parents who demand behavior from their kids so they're not embarrassed. Act like the adult. Tell him - look, I'm an adult and I don't have time for this. I don't react to childishness. Remember - he really, really wants you to be his parent. Not his sparring partner. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: This really caught my attention. My DD is eight and does things because she seems to want the fight and the conflict and the negative reaction. I'm trying to focus on my positive feedback whenever I can, to try to encourage that behavior, but it's not enough. And our personalities are so different, I don't understand the idea of wanting a fight! Can someone please explain to me? Why do things intentionally to frustrate and sadden the family ALL THE TIME? tia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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1. She is testing her limits to see if she can break you; 2. She wants more attention (even if you give her a lot of attention all ready); 3. She will become an excellent lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Thanks for answering this. Can you explain #1. Why test limits to see if you can break your family?! I honestly don't get this. More attention, I get (and I'm trying). And I love your third point. Such a positive spin on this tendency... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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It's attention seeking behavior. Kids figure out early that getting you riled up is a great way to get your attention. I really do highly recommend acting like kind a jerk to your kids when they get like this. Imagine walking into a very, very rich and powerful person's home and saying "hey, I HATE this wine! I only drink Pinot Grigio! And what's with this cheese? It's AWFUL!" What would they do? They'd politely just walk away from you because they don't have to put up with your nonsense. Same with your kids. Don't fight them any more than you'd get into a screaming match with the clerk at CVS. Just act like you have better things to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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I can totally relate, I have been having a rough time this summer. One of my children is sooooo argumentative. Do you ever try to learn about one of his hobbies? I recently sat with him and we learned how to draft a fantasy football team together. We play Xbox. We play soccer in the yard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I get so tired of being the brains of my house. Everyone (including dh) is CONSTANTLY asking me quesitons. How old is this (food)? What should I pack for lunch? WHere are the granola bars? Where are my shorts? What can I have for breakfast? WHere should I put this? WHat time are we going? Are you busy on Tuesday? What time? What are you doing? Can I go out? Which babysitter should I call? What temperature should I cook this on? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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are you pms'd? that's the only time I get crazy about these type of "annoyances" usually its just part of the day. If you have things like group calendars etc then push back if you feel you must [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Omg tell me about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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I try to put the food items and clothing items in the exact same spot so the men and boys can find them without a bazillion questions. Otherwise, they won't "see" them even if they are under their nose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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'so the men and boys can find them'...that totally cracked me up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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my son will say he can't find a shoe that is literally right on the floor in front of him. [ Reply | More ]
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I get this from 4 and 5 year old DD and DS. I answer a fair amount, but if it's questions they can easily find the answer to, I just say something in a nice tone like 'I bet you can find your backpack if you look around a bit.', etc., etc. Just stop answering BS questions that are more lazy than real. Be nice about it. Just don't keep waiting on them. Just smile and say 'I know you're smart enough to figure that out.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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np: I like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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nnp: I have this same issue with my DH. What would you say to him? Usually when I know my DH is asking me "lazy" questions, my first reaction is to give him a look that says "seriously?" and then he gets pissed. So I try just saying "I don't know" but I know it comes off snarky. Trying to find a better way to address this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Do you work? [ Reply | More ]
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np: I work and it saves my sanity not to have deal with the petty demand of my family all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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Where exactly are you going with this? Let me guess. If she's a SAHM then she needs to answer inane questions like 'where are the granola bars?' But if she's WOHM, then it's ok for the kid to look in the pantry where they ALWAYS are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Presumably if she is a WOHM they know not to ask her non-important questions and to stick to things more suitable to her lofty intellect. [ Reply | More ]
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I do, and I have been working a lot lately, and I need my brain for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Yeah, I remember my mother shutting those questions down very early and very quickly. I don't blame you for being over it. When it's a ridiculous question, just ignore, do not even acknowledge. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do you deal with overly sensitive people? I'm trying to implement the slow fade to the friendship but our kids are in preschool together for the next year so there will be a lot of run ins. Tired of walking on eggshells around this friend because she is constantly paranoid that I'm mad at her, misinterprets things I say, etc. Everything was fine and dandy but the second guessing and being overly sensitive is starting to bother me now. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Keep her at arm's length. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Hopefully she will get some new medication over the summer and join the army of wide-eyed dazed women walking the streets of NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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If you really do have a year left of interactions, maybe now isn't the best time to full fade. Just keep at arm's length like top poster said, and just be happy and cordial. I have one friend that is always wondering if I'm mad at her for something which is cuckoo. I just don't text people back within 5 seconds of receiving one. I always just smile and say 'Carol, rest assured I am never mad at you. Don't ever sweat that. I just don't ever get offended. If you need me for something super urgent, stalk me. But if I haven't responded yet, I'm probably just on a work call or slammed.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] So consider this. Genetically speaking, fat people are actually superior to naturally skinny ones. Your body is supposed to store excess calories as fat in the event that food is not available in the future. It's the hallmark of a properly functioning body. Skinny people would be the first to die off as recently as 100 years ago, as they have little ability to store energy for the times when food became scarce. So people who are fat have to actually counteract their body's natural, genetically advanced nature to store calories as fat by eating as little as possible and forcing their bodies into starvation. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Depressing, but probably true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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Or not, because they lack self control? Some people aren't fat because they don't eat. In fact, 30 years ago, almost nobody was fat. I don't understand why it is suddenly a genetic issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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Highly adapted bodies will store as many calories as possible. The rapid change in lifestyles over the last century means that unless we all go back to being farmers half-starving in the winter months the way we live now will lead to obesity among many people who are genetically evolved specifically to make them obese. So sure, those people now have to hijack their bodies to starve them into a healthy weight, but let's not pretend that it's normal to have to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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that's like saying blacks are superior cause their dumb brains have to work harder to do things that come naturally to whites like don't sit around doing drugs all day, or don't post pictures of yourself committing a felony on twitter under your real name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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oh shitt [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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That fat is only useful if it is used up during times of scarcity. Remaining fat over long periods of time (more than 6 months) leads to many health issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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+1. While the overweight person may live longer in a time of scarcity, we also evolved in a way (either through agricultural means or technology) which allows us to forego the need to store fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Yes of course that's true. But my point is - the people who struggle with their weight are actually genetically and biologically the most adapted. So they have to deliberately counteract their body's desire to do exactly what millions of years of evolution have developed it to do since its only in the last 70 or so years that food has become plentiful at all times. [ Reply | More ]
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If that's the case, then they need to adopt a lifestyle wherein the store fat for the winter, and then lose it all in the summer months. The fat storage was for hard times during periods of cold and hibernation. This even happens with squirrels and bears. There is a purpose for this cycle. [ Reply | More ]
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If you think about it, if all the skinny people suddenly died of starvation, then the fat ones would be the skinniest, comparatively speaking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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This made me laugh out loud. [ Reply | More ]
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Haha - whatever you need to tell yourself. It's a *stretch*. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Bruce jeber quif a lot 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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he replace lingam with false yoni [ Reply | More ]
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in my home we feces on floor but brice genner have it too. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Bruce Jenner's queefs are known all over the world! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dds birthday yesterday. Dh got mad at me in the morning, bombarded me with texts as soon as I left to prep party stuff. We talked and I thought it was fine but at the very end of the day he unleashed telling me how upset he was. He made a few mean comments to me throughout the day and wouldn't take any family pictures at the party. Started bringing up all sorts of old stuff to support his "you always do this" rant. I'm so upset that he put a dark cloud over what should've been a great day. He, of course, says it's my fault for pissing him off... :( 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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why was he mad at you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Because I replied vaguely to a text from someone he was trying to ignore, this person reached out to me to see if he was okay. Fil is dying, I did not tell the person this, just that Dh is dealing with stuff and needs some space. [ Reply | More ]
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Well you had to respond to the person if they reached out directly to you. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh disagrees and thinks I should've known that or asked him how to respond. [ Reply | More ]
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how did dh know you responded? and did you know DH was actively ignoring this person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Because then the guy texted him saying I'm here for you, sending good thoughts. Dh ignores a lot of people right now and I'm left to explain or maintain relationships. He knows and appreciates this but thinks I should've known that this particular person is in a different category. [ Reply | More ]
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put it behind you - you will not "win" this one, extenuating circumstances with FIL have put him on edge it looks like. Maybe in a few days you can address the situation in a non confrontational way and remind him you have his back [ Reply | More ]
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Why was he trying to ignore this person? I guess he thought you were being disloyal? [ Reply | More ]
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He's a former coworker and Dh didn't want him asking around to people who he still works with. Trying to avoid taking about it at the office at all. I had no idea, there are plenty of people he does discuss it with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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So you think it was an innocent mistake on your part? I can see why he is upset. Sometimes people need to see that the other person is as upset as they are. So if it was an innocent mistake, you tell him how awful you feel and how upset you are that you did that. [ Reply | More ]
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I was VERY upset last night. It turned into a huge thing. Obviously the last thing I want is to make anything more difficult for him and he knows this. What upsets me the most is that this was bigger than dds birthday for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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I don't think he heard from you yesterday how horrified you were that you sent that e-mail. So then it dragged out into an all day thing where he ended up retaliating. If you want to make it better, tell him you've done a lot of thinking and we're preoccupied with the party yesterday but now totally get how he feels and regret sending the text. [ Reply | More ]
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He did! That's the first thing I said when we spoke but he chose to believe that I didn't mean it and was just trying not to fight. This is partially true... he was also bombarding me with texts while I was busy and couldn't talk so his anger grew thinking I wasn't taking it seriously. Even though he knew my hands were literally full and I could not respond. After the text escalation I called him to squash it but he was already so worked up [ Reply | More ]
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or: sorry op but dh sounds like a douche. Either that or he's just extremely stressed over his father's situation. Only you know what's really going on. I can tell you though that when my FIL was dying, I thought dh and I were going to get divorced. My dh is a douche, and with the stress of his father's illness, his behavior became unbearable. I tried b/c I understood that he was going through a lot, but it was tough. Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
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This is exactly what I'm afraid. It's as if this incident switched me from confidant to enemy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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That is a stupid thing to get mad about. You handled it. You are not him, you handled it your way, and you handled it fine. What a dramaking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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I apologized just to squash it. Not sure what to do with someone who is so emotional? He was upset about theoretically having everyone at work ask him about it. He says how dare I speak to anyone about it, that it's not my news to share, he would never respond if the situation were reversed... [ Reply | More ]
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np: I don't think it's stupid. She's tell people who have no business knowing that he is "having a hard time". No man wants that broadcasted, especially for the gossip and enjoyment of other people. If she didn't feel like crap for having done it, it would be natural for him to be livid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Ugh. Sorry:( Not fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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I feel bad for you. DH acted poorly and it ruined the day. But this is what you get when you marry a guy for money or other characteristics and not his personality. You chose this kind of guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Holy assumptions batman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Does he have anger issues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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He has. He's been in therapy and I haven't seen anything like this in years. It's a hugely stressful and emotional time but I'm also terrified that he's going down this road... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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He sounds like a mad teenage boyfriend, sort of immature. I'm sorry he couldn't pull it together and make a nice day. [ Reply | More ]
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he's dealing with a lot and acted poorly. remember, it's not you, it's the situation, and I bet he feels a bit out of control. don't let your argument ruin the lovely memories you have of yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
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That's the thing- I remember him calling me "fucking dumb" and a "fucking idiot" and my parents asking why we didn't take any family pictures. Oh and then being berated after dcs went to sleep [ Reply | More ]
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he's not himself. I would still tell him, I know you're upset, and I know a lot of this just has to do with the situation, but you are not to talk to me that way. Ever. Draw some boundaries and enforce them. That doesn't mean he shouldn't get a pass for acting immature -- he does get a pass within reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Your husband is a young boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Boyfriends Best friend ask me out for dinner and drinks. Its harmless but i feel awkward. He dislikes BF and aim one foot out the door. Should i go? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Wait, what? Your boyfriend's best friend hates him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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well they were close when young. Not anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, this will work out well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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It's not harmless it's totally inappropriate. This guy is NOT a friend to your bf and apparently neither are you. If you want to go out with this guy break up and go right ahead [ Reply | More ]
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fake [ Reply | More ]
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You may be friendly and lovely but keep in mind he may want to just fuck up your relationship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Sure, sleep with both of them so they can compare notes. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course not. Just say I'll see when boyfriend is free. Play dumb. [ Reply | More ]
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Why would you call him your Boyfriend's Best Friend if your boyfriend dislikes him? Does he have no other friends??? This makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] getting apple desktop. would your recommend wired keyboard or battery-operated keyboard that is smaller? tia. sorry for boring post, but need to purchase today and appreciate learning from others' experiences! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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wireless. love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Can't see moving a keyboard around all that much and batteries are a nuisance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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so in conclusion, either the wired or wireless keyboard is probably the best choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] We're going to a dinner party next weekend and I am nervous because I started staying home with my kids a year ago and feel like I have become a "boring" person. Kids are 1 and 3. I don't keep up on the news as much (not enough time) and I am too exhausted at night to pursue hobbies. This is probably an excuse. If you have toddlers, what are your personal hobbies? I need ideas. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Reading and baking. But don't be silly. you are still you. have some confidence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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OP: thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Well, good for you for acknowledging the situation. Take a look at the websites of the New Yorker, Atlantic, and Harper's magazines. You should be able to pick up enough interesting topical things to engage in fun discussion. [ Reply | More ]
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I will check these out. [ Reply | More ]
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What on earth? Get a grip! [ Reply | More ]
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
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Laundry. [ Reply | More ]
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sleeping. taking 20 minute showers. those are toddler mom hobbies. don't sweat it. [ Reply | More ]
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True. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Use this as your conversation jumping-off point. "With two small children, my life pretty much revolves around naps and playgrounds. What have you been doing for fun this summer? What books have you read/movies have you seen? What news are you following?" People love being asked about themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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agreed. and have a sense of humor about it. if asked what books you've read this summer say "hop on pop". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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OP: good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Great advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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This; and no shame in saying "I am not up on X; tell me more!". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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This! If you honestly are looking for hobbies, reading material, etc., be honest and use the opportunity to ask for recommendations - it's a great conversation, and like PP said, people LOVE to talk about themselves, especially if they feel they have a receptive audience. "I've been dying to start reading regularly again now that DC is starting preschool - what have you been reading?" "Now that LO is 1 we're going to start traveling again... do you have any cool trips planned soon?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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I've been in this situation and I used it as can excuse to "read up" on the news on-line and skim a few recent articles in the New Yorker. But I generally just ask people questions about themselves and they always have plenty to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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It's temporary, fyi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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As much as I may lightly mock SAHM (out of jealously, I suppose), you are still a person. I WOH and am highly educated, but that doesn't mean that I discuss Satre or ISIS or DeBlasio or Cecil the Lion all day. I still talk about my kids and whatever celebrity gossip I've gleaned from UB. Nobody is "testing you" on current affairs. Just go and be a person. ' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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NP: So true! In fact, I LOATHE talking about my work and so much prefer to hear about cool places people I know have traveled to, interesting books people are reading, movies or plays people have seen. If it's an NYC crowd, things like real estate, restaurant openings, etc. are also usually fairly innocuous and universal topics of conversation that tend come up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I have two adorable kids. However, my son has white blond hair and crystal blue eyes. My little girl has very pretty brown hair and brown eyes. Almost daily, someone makes a comment about his eyes. Sometimes they catch themselves and say "Oh and you are so beautiful too" but that is almost more awkward. She recently started saying she wishes she had blond hair and blue eyes. I give her all the normal responses, you are beautiful too. You don't want to look like someone else...blah blah blah. I understand because I have brown eyes with a blue eyed sister as well. Advice? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Lol they're just saying that because it's not possible one kid could have blue eyes and another brown eyes if they have the same father and they don't know what to say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Ha! My secret is out! I guess my mom slept around too:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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You're not too bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Umm what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Alright idiot...Signed another mother who has one blue eyed child and one brown eyed child. Here is the kicker...my DH and I both have brown eye and brown hair. I also have a son with blond hair. I am one big slut apparently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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She is joking! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Ignoramous Magnificous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Every time you reassure her that she is beautiful, make sure you are also emphasizing that beauty is unimportant, and no matter how beautiful she is, it's more important that she lives up to her potential in kindness, ethics, intelligence, and talent. And don't forget to tell her that people just like to talk, and they forget that it is very rude to comment on someone else's physical appearance unless they have been asked to. Also, there's an episode of Little House on the Prairie about this issue - in the books and in the tv show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Thanks! I am surprised at how many adults will gush to one child with another child standing there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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I loved that episode!! Laura was all, "I wish I had pretty blonde hair and pretty blue eyes," and Pa was all, "um, excuse me? I have curly brown hair and brown eyes. Are you calling me ugly?" and Laura learned that love is all that matters. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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We actually did have a similar conversation. I was like "wait do you wish I looked different?" :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Bruce Jenner wears a special apparatus over his fake vag while he sleeps so he can smell the queefs he let during the night when he wakes up! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Wow, that's ridiculous, his obsession with queefs borders on the insane! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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+1 He likes to queef in people's faces but he never lets anyone smell his nightqueefs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I heard Kanye tried to smell the nightqueefs and Bruce called the cops on him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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That may have been while he was barely awake and was just scared that a black man was in his house! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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