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[ - ] please recommend a great book - something with some substance or history, but not too dry. TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:38 AM Flag
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I hated Eat Pray Love, but apparently her new book is good. Historical fiction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] I am on vacation with my inlaws. Because I have been at my current company only 2 years, i don't have much vacation time. So I have to drive back and forth from the beach for a few days. DH is here with our DSs 12 and 8. I got yelled at (yes yelled at) by DHs aunt for not taking the whole week off. "You need to be here. This is a family vacation." I snapped and said "you do not tell me what to do. I could have stayed home this week." Who the hell does she think she is? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:35 AM Flag
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Wow. One of those controlling "family is everything" types. But try to stay calm and not engage. You have a long road ahead with dh's family, and this week will soon be behind you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:38 AM Flag
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If you were a man who had to work, I wonder if it would have crossed her mind to be incensed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:50 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:54 AM Flag
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Agree, but a calm answer would have worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:54 AM Flag
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Rude of her but did you explain the circumstances? Agree with PP she never would have said this to a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Getting laid off at work at a big bank. They offered me a standard severance package for someone at my level of 16 weeks' salary, no bonus. I've been working there just 18 months but I'm 56 years old. Should I negotiate for a better deal? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:10 AM Flag
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That's pretty good for only 18months. Maybe you can say, "thanks, I'll review it with my lawyer and get back to you." I think after a certain age, you have more time to respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:02 AM Flag
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16 weeks for 18 months is really good. I guess you can try for more but offer sounds generous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:03 AM Flag
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16 weeks for 18 months is really good. I guess you can try for more but offer sounds generous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:04 AM Flag
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Look at it this way-the company doesn't actually have to give you anything-very generous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:31 AM Flag
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What leverage do your have to get something better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:34 AM Flag
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This is very good severance for the amount of time worked. What basis do you think that you have to negotiate? It can't be age since they hired you only a year and a half ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:37 AM Flag
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Sounds like a decent severance. At 56 will you retire or look for another position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:58 AM Flag
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I've never heard of such a generous severance. The only thing I'd considering asking for - to boost chances of finding a job - staying on the payroll until X Date before severance kicks in. That way you may get an extra few weeks paid because you'll still be employed. Also, it is always easier to find a job while employed - and play the age card. Offer to keep your deal confidential (and then of course do) so not everyone asks for the same special treatment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] DH was having a hissy fit last night about kids, their mess, the state of the place etc. At one point he threw a skipping rope towards DD7 and it hit her in the leg (I saw him throw it, I didn't see it hit, DD says it hit her in the leg). When I said to him "You can't throw things at kids" everything escalated. He screamed at me "Are you calling me a liar" and I said "Yes, although you've probably convinced yourself that the bullshit coming out of your mouth is now the truth". He lost it, called DD out, asked her to repeat it etc etc. Then started picking on me about something else, brought up an ex-boyfriend etc etc. This happens maybe once a year. I felt afraid when he came near me. Not interested in therapy, have tried that over the years, he says he'll go but won't go. Actually I feel pretty much at the end of the tether, can't be bothered going around again. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 10:32 AM Flag
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He should not have thrown the rope at her, but you should not have escalated the situation in front of the kids. What he did wasn't OK either way but around the kids, safety first (physical and emotional). If you are done, but focus on a peaceful transition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 10:37 AM Flag
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He was telling her he didnt throw it, it didn't hit her, she was making it up. I felt the need to protect her reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:44 AM Flag
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Was the house, in fact, a mess because of the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 10:52 AM Flag
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Yes but also I didn't tidy for his homecoming like I normally do, I wahm and was crabby at him about his drinking and smoking and had brought that up with him earlier in the day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:46 AM Flag
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Ouch. If you end up getting divorced, your dd will think it is her fault. If you are done, I would talk to him and agree to wait a while and not speak another nasty word to one another until things smooth over and cooler heads can prevail. It will still screw up the kids' lives, but perhaps they won't think it's b/c of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 10:58 AM Flag
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Wtf. Kids aren't that easily screwed up. Parents fight, that's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:28 AM Flag
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Wtf? All kids get screwed up by divorce. Parents fighting in front of the kids is not my "life." And every kid questions whether it is his fault. Fighting OVER and involving the kids is a surefire way to solidify that fear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:37 AM Flag
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Oh brother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:46 AM Flag
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I think OP said that this happens once a year. Not ideal but it is not that big of a deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:47 AM Flag
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So given that this happens once a year, maybe but not likely twice, what is better for DCs, stay or go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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Listen, you all had a bad night. Everyone should go out to dinner tonight and the movies and ice crew, TIme to regroup. Shiat like this happens in EVERY FAMILY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:21 AM Flag
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This. I don't get the hysteria in the responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:28 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:18 AM Flag
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Speak for yourself. We don't scream in our house. We don't involve the kids in heated discussions. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:28 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:29 AM Flag
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Yeah, see I'm still seething about all the unrelated things he started ranting about in front of my kids, regarding an ex boyfriend, regarding touching a friends boobs when I was drunk plus more stuff he threw out to try to attack and discredit me. [ Reply | More ]
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