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[ - ] I was raised by my father and I have had little to do with my mother. My mother has another daughter and we recently connected through the internet, and I just met up with her. It was crazy, the whole time she talked about my father 'I'm really not sure how you put up with living with HIM all these years' and 'he never even gave our mother a dime, it's a real shame' etc. I interrupted and said I wasn't here to have the only parent who cared about me insulted, took my stuff and left. After that my mother (who I haven't spoken to since 06) called me up and yelled at me about making my flesh and blood upset. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Let me guess, there are very distinct cultural differences (nationalities, money, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Not too different in terms of nationality, but I did grow up in a wealthy family and my mother is middle class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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He didn't give your mother money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Not to my knowledge. I never lived with her and he supported me 100% so why would he? [ Reply | More ]
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Is the other daughter HIS child? or another man's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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The sister is my half sister. We have different fathers (she is the daughter of my mother's husband, the situation is pretty messed up). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Ah... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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Then why on earth would he have given your Mother money? Assuming she got whatever was agreed to in the divorce (also assuming they were married), she wasn't entitled to anything else. He was raising you. In fact, he was probably entitled to child support FROM her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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I have no idea, maybe they feel like he owed her something or maybe it is just because he has money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Sorry OP. But good for you for standing up for yourself and sticking up for your father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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*And she made all these comments about my father being negligent because I went to boarding school. It was creepy, she painted this whole fantasy "cinderella" styled world when describing my childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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You may be in denial about the boarding school thing... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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I'm pretty sure I know my own emotions, thank you very much. I loved boarding school, some of the best years and memories were made there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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I'm sure this is what she grew up hearing. Sucks. Your mother sounds like a piece of work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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the other woman doesn't think he is her biological father too does he? who left whom? alimony was fairly common years ago, but there was likely some reason she didn't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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My mother and father were never married. The sister is my half sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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who left whom? sound slike your mom felt she should have gotten money in the break up. hard for us to analyze. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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I'm really not sure. The whole thing is pretty messy and the actual details of everything are a little fuzzy to me. It's not something that is discussed all that often. They were never all that serious. To be honest, when I was younger I thought that I may have happened while she was involved with her current husband or some other man. It seems like something like that, but I may just be over analyzing it. I'm not 100% sure on the actual details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Did she not get custody bc he had the money/influence? She may have felt used and hurt by him and then in turn, your half sister also wound up feeling like you thought you were superior to her so it was happening all over again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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I don't think she was ever that interested in me. When I was a child she never really had anything to do with me. Other than very rare visits (where she just acted like I was wasting her time) we have very little contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Is the other daughter also your father's or different father? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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np - the op has said the other daughter is from a different father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Here is a good one. My mom decided not to come over for passover because she was under the weather. She texted me to tell me she was sad today. I told her I was sorry to hear that, have been busy with work but will call later. She responded she's insulted that my MIL did not call her to find out how she was feeling. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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her exact words via text were "you would have thought your MIL would have called me when she heard I was not feeling well" - I think my mom looks for reasons to be upset or pity herself. MIL and her are not close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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I just can't! What do I say to her other than tell her to please stop this?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Hey mom, do you call MIL when she is ill? No? then why should she call you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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funny you say that. Without me saying that, my mom said "I would've called her!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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rats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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I just don't even know what to do any more. Can't deal with this passive-aggression (often just her anger and aggression) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Oh, I told her that you would want some quiet to recuperate, but I'm sure she'd welcome a call from you once you feel up to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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This is a good one but not sure how my mom would respond. She's got many narcissistic qualities. At DC's birthday party, she just sat in a room with the security guard, talking about herself and her great taste, while the rest of the grandparents were doing the kids' activity. Other times, she claims she is sick and leaves events or get-togethers early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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I think she wants validation or something. She'll often blurt out "I volunteer. I am a good person." She wants constant praise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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Then consider asking your DH to ask his mom to call your mom or, if you're close, asking her yourself, and tell your mom a variation on the line above with "I'm sure MIL will call once you've had a chance to get better". Hopefully your MIL is normal and will oblige and call your mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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She sounds like my MIL. There is no winning with this type of person. I am so sorry. The only thing that is worse to a MIL like this is to have a mom like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Sorry you have to go through this. My mom causes me so much stress. I am so patient and calm with her and she turns that around to tell me "well, maybe I'm not perfect like you" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Tmi: I noticed 8 yo dd has a few few pubic hairs, but no other sign of puberty ( she is v thin, no breast buds, ect). She is somewhat hairy, is this connected to puberty? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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A girl in my 3rd grade class got her period at 8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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Op: I guess what I want is someone to tell me a few stray hairs do not equal puberty..... I was10 fwiw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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there was an article in time or newsweek about this topic a couple years ago. I think biologically speaking, no it's not puberty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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i had a few stray hairs in 5th or 6th grade...but didn't get my period until 14 i think. it might be puberty, who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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if I remember correctly, it was a pretty long road between a few pubic hairs and period for me. I would say 2.5-3yrs. Got my period at 13. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] One of our submarines, is missing, tonight. Seems she ran around, on manœuvres... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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*yawn* [ Reply | More ]
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ran aground? If this is known, how could it be missing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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[ - ] First flight with db (5 weeks old), dr said to feed during take off and landing, but don't they make you hold the baby for take off and landing in some specific position? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Why the hell are you flying with a 5 week old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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It IS my business if I"m flying next to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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np - not if she pays for a seat. Her money is as good as yours, sorry to break the news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Watching this post... flying with 2mo old next week and wondering the same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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The airlines want you to hold the baby in the burping position (with seatbelt around you only) but it hasn't been my experience that they enforce this too strictly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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I flew with both of my kids at 8 weeks. If it's a lap child, no one cares how you hold the baby as long as you're strapped in. If the baby has his/her own seat, the flight attendants could be militant about putting baby into that seat (typically in a car seat at this age). For a 5-8 week old, I highly recommend you fly with the baby in a baby carrier. Leaves your hands free, babies prefer it and feel comfy and snug next to you. And yes, nurse or give a bottle to take off/landing to prevent ear pain. I'll watch this post if you have any other questions on flying with a young infant, I'm happy to answer them. These were some of the best flights we had with our kids, super easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Airlines don't want babies in carriers during take off and landing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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OR - 8 flights with babies in carriers, airlines perfectly happy. Upright type carriers, not the wrap kind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Same here but they made me take her out. Weird. Would be nice if they were consistent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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+1 gets harder when they are toddlers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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Ugh, 15 months is THE worst! No sense, total need to move around and refuses to drink when you need her to! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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np - what did you do after DC outgrew infant car seat ? We plan to always do child's own seat but I am not sure what do you do after infant car seat. Do yo just strap DC into adult airplane seat ? Use different type of car seat ? Sorry, clueless FTM here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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you just belt them in the adult airplane seat, but in my past experience - good luck with that! but it IS better than trying to have them on your lap for the whole flight (1 YO for example) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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now that I think of it, I did try a few times with a convertible car seat, but sometimes it actually won't fit on the plane seat or down the aisle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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PP - is it better to bring some other kind (larger than infant type) car seat ? I don't want to do lap child for safety reasons at any point and like you said, better than holding them in your lap god only knows how long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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on a related note, why are you allowed to hold a baby in your lap, but not a purse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Because you can't put a baby under the seat! yuk yuk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Babies are more fun to watch fly through the air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:07 PM Flag
[ - ] What were you like before you met dh? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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The same. The only thing dh taught me to do was slow down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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Gorgeous, young, carefree ... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O post. Nanny playdates: yay or nay? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Do you mean 2 nannies getting together with their respective charges? Sure, why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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No, I mean nanny coming over when you're home, rather than the kid's mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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NAY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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I want to meet the kid's mom. And it's awkward for me to socialize with someone else's servant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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Servant? My,my..That said, there are a few nannies I enjoy talking with but usually I just say I have to do some work in the other room and leave for an hr or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Moms like to have playdates with Moms and Nannies like to have playdates with other Nannies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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sure, what's the difference. Lots of nannies are moms themselves, so we talk about the usual topics. I have met at least as many nannies that I like as moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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if that's how it works out,fine. the time of drop offs comes soon enough. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O - On a happy note, what is something that your mom or dad (or any family member) did that really touched you and made you know they've got your back always? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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My aunt who I know did not have much gave my dad (who's a surgeon) money for him to use towards my school fees. She has since passed away but that always meant a lot to me. She didn't have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I finished the Goldfinch. Now what to read next? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Gemini [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is better looking you or DH? Fitter? Smarter? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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OP: Me, Me and Me. [ Reply | More ]
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Equal, me, him [ Reply | More ]
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I was better looking when dh and I met. It is getting to the point where he is becoming better looking than I. Married 15 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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^^ He is smarter but I am a faster thinker if that makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
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I used to be better looking but now equal as DH is aging very well, me, me [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Have you ever disciplined someone else's kids? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Yes. By taking away toys or by restricting access to the room where the toys are. In response to undesired behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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No but I have intervened and said it's so and sos turn. Also, I told a K to take his hand off my boob. Does that count? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Lool. Yes, that counts. Good for you standing up for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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You know, I was going to let him get away with it but I decided F that! I deserve SOME respect here. He did have the nerve to ask "why?" He's going to be a ladies man for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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I bet he calls you by your first name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Come to think of it, he didn't even dignify me by calling me ANY name - first, last or some other term of endearment. Wow. I was used. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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yes, I am sure parents didn't appreciate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] How ripped off will I get if I sell a car to dealership ? Say if car is worth $22 - 24,000 , how much should I expect ? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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$1000 trade-in deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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funny. not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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it's only worth what someone is willing to pay for it. Do you think you can really get someone to pay $22-24k on craigslist? Or Roadfly or whatever kids use these days? So much better for cash flow for people to buy from a dealership. If you sell to the dealership, it's a bird in the hand. You won't waste another month payment waiting for the right buyer. Also,if you trade in, you pay sales tax only on the difference, which can save you thousands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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^^^ to answer your question, if you think it's worth $22-24, then you might be able to get $18-20 from them. They have to clean it, inspect, and service it before putting it on a lot and marketing it, and cross fingers someone buys it before they start to lose money on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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OP - TY. Do you think I get more in the City or in the burbs ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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depends on the car. It's all supply and demand. Are there a lot of the cars that you're trying to sell in the area, and is there a lot of demand for that car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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OP - I have no idea. It's a good car (would be considered "luxury") but not ultra expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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honestly, is it worth your time to shop it around? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Sell or trade-in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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sell outright. We are moving and can't take it with us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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majorly ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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you can look up a fair market value on Kelley Blue Book. We recently did a trade in and got right around what craig's list was generally offering it for. I think it depends on the dealer - one wanted nothing to do with the car, the other gave a fair value [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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TY, very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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I had a fully prepaid lease that I was trying to unwind. Dealership offered me $3k. It was worth $13k. After a few weeks I sold it to someone for $11k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:35 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you do when a fellow mom asks for a playdate and you don't want to and the school encourages playdates The kids are in kindergarten. WWYD? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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Why don't you want to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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Do a play date. What are you scared of? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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I ask my child if she wants one. She has never said, "no." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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the school has no jurisdiction on what you do in your spare time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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What about a suggestion of meeting at a park after school for an hour? That's what I do because I'm not a huge play date fan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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i avoid playdates with kids I dont like (e.g. selfish brats) and/or moms I can't stand [ Reply | More ]
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omg, you will save yourself so much grief. It took me years to just say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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^^ I also started refusing playdates for kids who lived inconveniently far or if I didn't see how the friendship could continue (the kid seen every day over vacation and never after). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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ITDA - play dates are for your kids not for you. [ Reply | More ]
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NP Who wants to play with selfish brats? Moms should make the call about who is a good kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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just say yes. i'd love to. then there is always a conflict. (score one for the wasps) [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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do what is best for your child, not you, and not the school. it is good for you to encourage friendships for your child. unless the other child doesn't treat your child well and/or your child really doesn't like the other child, I think you should do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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I would say no. I am not going to deny my emotions to please the school or the mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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I work. Kids play at the playground where kids belong. Inside or at a museum in bad weather. I can't stand the term play date and can't say that I've ever been on one. We have a big fam and the kids have tons friends who are always welcome at our place. Not sure why I would need to entertain their parents or nannies if they aren't my friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Just send DD. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] what do you do when a fellow mom asks for a playdate and you don't want to and the school encourages playdates The kids are in kindergarten. WWYD? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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You say "no". Now do you want us to tell you whether or not to touch a hot stove? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] having such a shitty day today. people suck! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sorry and yes, they do sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
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me too. My dh told me that he was depressed. Officially depressed. He's been holding head above water for so long. I feel helpless. [ Reply | More ]
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Away hugs to dh. [ Reply | More ]
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thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll for people with different nationalities - Is it proper to use first names? What are the customs for titles in your country? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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In Korea we never use first names, but to be honest it has always seemed a little outdated to me. Most of the younger crowd has moved towards first names, but older people get offended. [ Reply | More ]
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*And it should be pointed out the offence at the use of first names is based off of a very archaic social ranking system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Indian here. We call people Aunty Ji or Uncle Ji. No first names, no last names. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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agreed, everyone is an Uncle or Aunty (or some variation of) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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In Norway it seems strange to call people by a "title" or last name. Unless you are in a business meeting (and doctor's office doesn't count, I'm taking a real board room styled event) it is considered "off" and cold not to call somebody by their first name. [ Reply | More ]
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will people get mad at you if you call them Mrs. Smith instead of Jane? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Not mad or offended, but they will wonder about you/look at you a little funny. People always introduce themselves with their first names though. I always found it odd to call people by a family name instead of who they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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We're taking 4yos here. Not adults. Still true that it's always first names only? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Yes, that's generally the case in most Nordic countries. We don't really have that type of hierarchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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I'm Russian. We have a wonderful invention called the patronymic. First name + Patronymic = appropriate for everything from your cleaning lady to your boss. Also we have a formal form of "you" so you can combine first name and use formal "you" and still be respectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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np: however Aunt/Uncle is also used for adults that are friends of the family in combination with the formal "you" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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Yep! Aunt/Uncle - everyone's an aunt or uncle. I was into my 30s and still calling my parents' friends that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Second generation Italian American. Mr/Mrs last name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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I am assuming OP means in Italy in your case and not in the US [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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In China we would never in a million years call an adult by their first name. EVeryone is Auntie or Uncle, Teacher Lee, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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^for a child, I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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West African- Never would dare call anyone older than you by first name. I have too many "aunties", and "grandmas" as a result :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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Ghana by any chance ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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nope. Nigeria [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Hey, fellow Nigerian - how now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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pp - Ah, I see. I was just guessing. I worked with a woman from Ghana who was the nicest person. Very kind, very hard working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Croatian. Never proper to use first names unless you're related or friends. And children always use "Mr/Mrs". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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Slovakia - first name only if family or friends. We have a polite version of "you" (akin to form used in French among other languages) that is always used in professional setting as well as in public setting (in stores etc). Man needs to ask if he can use "casual you" rather than "polite you." Titles are used in professional setting - Doctor Smith, Engineer Jones, etc. - and are always included on official documents, business cards, official ID's as well as on the doors of the private homes/apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Aussie here - often first name basis - even with a boss. Only time you are called 'sir' or 'miss' is if you're a teacher. Titles are too formal for us convicts :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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If you have close family friends, your kids can call them 'aunty' or 'uncle'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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What do kids use for adults that aren't family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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Goes back to the first-name rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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My husband is Filipino and they use Tita/Tito for adults (means aunt/uncle but used for most adults as a sign of respect), younger siblings call older brothers Kuya and older sisters Ate (ah-tay) and you call your godparents Ninang/Ninong. I love it, find it very respectful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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our next door neighbors growing up were filipino. we were embarassed years later (as late teens) when we realized we were calling people aunt and uncle, but I still think it is great and respectful. Loved playing Patintero growing up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to buy black out curtains for the bedrooms of the house we just moved into. I would love beautiful curtains. Any recommendations? I don't know where to start. Tx! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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I got some very simple cotton blend solid black-outs at Sierra Trading Company. Very happy with them. I wanted solid blue and they look nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Love Sierra Trading - they have some good prices on some stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm visiting UC Berkeley with DD and there are homeless people chilling all over campus. Is his normal for urban schools? Do homeless people hang out at NYU and Columbia? Not only are they all over campus, but they are all over the surrounding city. I've always lived in the suburbs. Is this just what you have to get used to if you live in a city? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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i live in nyc and i was shocked by the way the homeless population lives in sf. i don't think it's the same in every city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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ITS. City smells like urine and the homeless are all over the parks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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^^ ITA ^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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I have been to Berkeley many times and rarely have encountered a homeless person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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No one believes you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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op: I doubt this is true. I've counted over 100 today. What year were you there? 1940? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Homeless does not = dumb. It doesn't snow in Berkeley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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+1. Lots of homeless in northern and southern CA because of the weather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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No. This is how it is in SF/bay arwa. Very pushy/visible homeless population. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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agree- it's a Berkeley/Oakland/SF liberal city issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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NYC has liberal policies toward the homeless as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.16.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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