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[ - ] What is your worst parenting fail? Or worst criticism regarding your parenting? Had a crappy day and need to know I'm Not alone :( 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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My 4 yr old is still having accidents. I don't know where i went wrong :( [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] is rye platland a fun place for a day trip 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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playland, i meant [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help with recommendations for books to get for my 2 year old DD for her birthday? Thanks 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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Dr. Seuss, Beatrix Potter come to mind. I like books for very little ones that have interesting text and artwork. The clerk at B&N children's book section will be able to give you good suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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My 2yo loves the Mo Willems books and Curious George. Also, she has a book that was a gift at birth that spells out her name, she asks for that one a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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Those are great - the pigeon books, also llama llama, angelina ballerina, dr. Seuss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Local libraries in NYC or other metropolitan areas are a good place to start. They carry the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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I'm a big fan of Sandra Boynton books for this age: Moo, Baa, La La La; But Not the Hippopotamus; and, especially, What's Wrong, Little Pookie? The latter book helps a young child learn empathy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Also The Tale of Peter Rabbit is a good, simple narrative with lovely pictures. A child this age can start to listen to a story. (And what child doesn't understand "You must never go into Mr. McGregor's garden!" as she watches Peter slip under the fence into the garden?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling blue. I've always had lots of friends. However, I have recently realized how unsubstantial most of them are, from the friends of 20 years to the recent ones I thought were going to turn in to long term friendships. My best friend these days is my husband. Which is great, but not the same. I'm tired of and irritated by being the one who always reaches to make a plan. I feel like letting all the relationships fall apart. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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Umm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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So will that make you happier or what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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I don't know. But I'm feeling both burned and burned out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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I get that. One sided relationships are not really friendships. More like acquaintances or superficial friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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I kind of did this and realized my husband and mother are my best friends. I have been meeting new mom friends to socialize with, which is nice and easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:35 PM Flag
[ - ] How amazing will it be when Kim is our FLOTUS?! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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kim and the two baby hippos protruding from her posterior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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They'll have to get bigger furniture at the whitehouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Haha! Thanks for the laugh. It will be amaaayzzing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What happened to Miley? She had potential. What made her this way, 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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She's plastered all over the subway. That's her potential kids' college education, is my guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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What don't you understand? She's still an item. Generating a lot of funds for herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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What does that have to do with kids college education? I don't follow you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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She made or is making her money. She'll have plenty at the end of the day provided she doesn't blow it. Then she can invest in real estate and pay for her kids' education. (unlike many Americans who struggle) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Like she cares about any of that. She is damaged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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She's probably more level headed than all the whiners and veal people here at UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Yeah go watch her new video. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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She is already very rich and she might never have children. I don't think she's in it for the money at this point. This looks like a case of projecting your hopes and fears onto celebrities. Try to not do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Oh believe me, I won't do it. I'm past that age. And I'm guessing that she'll eventually have kids. She's only 22. I didn't have a kid until I was 42. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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She might have children, but that has little or nothing to do with her professional/financial choices right now. She's doesn't have to save money. Her income, just from the assets she already has, is probably in the 8 figure range. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Her parents pimped her out when she was just a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Possibly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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I like Miley. She is going through a bit of a delayed adolescence, but that seems like a typical aftereffect of being forced to maintain a saccharine image for so long, as all child stars are. She'll grow out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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I agree. She's 22 and I see a little bit of rebellion there. She didn't have that opportunity in her teens and now she's exhibiting the wild side that many young people go through earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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There's nothing rebellious about it. Her parents seem entirely supportive of this behavior. They were sitting in the front row, ffs. This is, sadly, how she values herself. It's her parents' fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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I disagree (because it's not just about parents). But that's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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^^plus it's show business and people in the business are more tolerant of this. Her parents probably know that it's about theatrics, and so do I. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Her dad said they have always been very open people and told her to do whatever makes her happy. [ Reply | More ]
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Right. This is what happens when there are no boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Like Britney Amanda Bynes and lohan? Please. She will crash and burn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Hollywood exploitation and sexual abuse by Hollywood executives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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This is my guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Have you seen her new video? It's disgusting. It's of her mouth and she is clearly simulating eating semen the whole time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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This thread is hilarious. People here were born yesterday, obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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No we reconcile a screwed in the head person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Recognize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How can I tell if my negative feelings about ILs are rational, or if I just feel this way bc they aren't my own family? They visited our beach house last week and everything they did got under my skin and I spent lots of time in my room hiding. I hate that I feel this way, but can only handle them in very small doses. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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Third option, they may just be crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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I just find them annoying and rude - they show up for long periods of time and have no consideration for others. Don't leave the house, help with the kids, or plan meals; just treat us like we are running a hotel and lucky to have them there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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I totally get how you feel. I feel this way too. Basically, as long as they're not trying to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do, I think you have to let them just be them. What exactly bothers you about them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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"Let them be just them" that's so lame. Bad or inconsiderate manners are awful no matter what. Don't go the extra mile if u don't need yo. It won't be appreciated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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Can you give examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Whether or not your feelings are rational, they are normal. Many people have negative feelings about in laws, ranging from mild discomfort to all out hatred. It's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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when my in-laws come to visit i plan days out, i say i'm to xyz and if you want to come please do, most of the time they don't. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What happened with the new mom who thought her newborn wasn't hers and was switched at the hospital? Did she ever come back and let us know? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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If thw baby was switched she'd be here all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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No, it was fake I'm sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:08 PM Flag
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Seemed more like postpartum depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Agree. Panic. Very typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I thought my newborn had down's syndrome. I remember frantically calling her ped from Canada (I left a week after her birth). She looked EXACTLY like a DS baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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It's crazy. I understand. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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I remember having similar thoughts despite the CVS coming back with all normal results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Right. I had had an amnio after quad screen said 1/9 chance of downs. Amnio was fine, but after db got stuck in birth canal, face swelled up like balloon over next week, she could barely open eyes. It looked JUST like DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Clueless Dad here. Ladies of UB, help me out: My wife is always talking about how fat she is. She doesn't care when I say she isn't. She really isn't, but she is heavier than she was ten years ago. What is my role in this? She makes herself pointlessly unhappy and I just don't get it. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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Always preface what u say w reassurances that she's not fat. Ask her how you can support her in feeling happier about her weight. Ie watching the kids while she works out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Tell her she looks beautiful when she doesn't ask. Treat her like you are dating her again. Flowers. Men forget how they won us. We tend to think it's because we've become less attractive, not because you've gotten less attentive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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I do this but she says I am just saying it because I want sex. Of course I do but that is a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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You're damn right it is. When she needs to worry about her weight and attractiveness is when you no longer want to have sex with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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Do it after sex, and when you don't as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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I was always thin and prided myself on my ability to be that way. Then I hit 51 and everything is harder to maintain. I have feelings that DH isn't attracted to me anymore (which he denies). It's a tough hurdle. Just be there and continue to let your DW know that you love her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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I am 59 and am in the same situation. As for your feelings that "DH isn't attracted to" you anymore - I've thought the same thing. But my DH is 70 and, at a certain age, I think many men are less interested or not interested in sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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OR: that's funny, cause DH is 66 and he's always ready! For me, it's probably a menopausal thing going on as well as just feeling crappy about myself aging. He's a good sport though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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Np: DH is 50 and is never into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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You can borrow my DH if you want (OR). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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Deal :) You can take borrow mine too, but I must say, unless you like hearing someone prattle on about himself, you won't be getting much in return [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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Chuckling. That's okay, I tune things out rather quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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"don't go changing, to try and please me. You never let me down before.......I love you just the way you are." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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And "The Stranger" speaks. I love it! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the downshots and upsides of owning a feline housecat as a pet? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Upside: Low maintenance, not demanding of attention, doesn't need to be walked. Will likely stalk and get mice/pests. Downside: Litter box, may not be affectionate (depends on the cat), may be into sharpening claws on furniture and declawing them is cruel. Some will love to climb, but I have trained mine not to jump on counters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there a non-feline housecat? [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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My question too. Is that like a non-canine dog? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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You always have poop in a box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Just to make sure I would foster in the intend of adoption [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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Con: hair everywhere / pro: quiet companionship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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Cats are assholes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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I have two. A four year old and a kitten. They are holy terrors but at the end of the day, so nice to come home to these little ones. DD loves them, they love back and they're much easier than a dog. Downside: moodiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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What makes them moody? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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This has been the Big Question since Egyptian times or before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Upsides: cute, fun, pretty, provide good company, loving. Downsides: fur, litter, damage to furniture, pushing things off counters. I have two and think it's worth it. Two are easier than one btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] So this will be recognizable to anyone who knows me but I don't really care. DH is beyond livid and blames me for only having 1 child. We started dating about 9 years ago but it was long distance and on and off and after he and I both had breakups at age 40 we got back together. At 41 he finally proposed on the condition that I move to his city and we decided to try to get pregnant before anymore time wasted, wedding and got pregnant immediately. He had to move as I was working and he was not and was not the most father-to be to put it mildly. Immediately after the C-section birth of our amazing dc I explained to him that if he wanted another child he needed to do research as I was 42 at that point and was back at work at 5 weeks physically suffering and he was unemployed at a rental office space and we had a nanny. He did not do any investigation and I assumed it was one of those let it pass type of things since I nagged him a few times and he never picked up the phone. Fast forward we are almost 46 and he is aggressively accusing me that I did not want a child and was waiting out the clock and ruined his life long goal of having a big family. He would not even have 1 dc if I did not time it perfectly using clear blue and there was very little sex after. He was not excited about dc and did not tell friends or family until it was obvious. I am a bit dumbfounded even though he professed "wanting a big family" he never moved forward or took my advice that we would need help after giving birth at 42. Am I crazy or is he just blaming this on me? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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^Holy smokes sorry for that. Bottom like DH said he wanted a big family but did not act on it and is now so angry at me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Okay so no guy researiches how to cook up a baby. None. So he feels tricked cause that was never happening and maybe you didn't know that. Snap out of it and tell him you didn't "want" another chill bc with all you mentioned your plate was full. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Few women want a 2nd in these circumstances regardless of age and fertility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Is he working now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Yes. Just got a new job after being let go from last and is already bitching about this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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op: I know. He was talking like this last year and I was just thinking I really don't want to spend a ton of money to be a single and divorced mother of 2 to 3 children as opposed to 1. I have to work. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I thought I would have to do IVF and hoped to have IVF twins. The pregnancy came before the IVF doc appointment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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If a man reaches 40 and doesn't realize his 40 yo wife has limited time to get pg again, then I don't know what to tell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Lol this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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op: I know right. 2 weeks after birth of #1 I was so exhausted and delusional but still had the sense to explain to him that if he wanted another he had to look into the surrogacy and embryo freezing and both asap. He did not and now it is my fault. He says I was waiting out the clock because last year at 4 we had a brief separation and I did not think another baby, the hormones and the loss of work was going to be helpful if there was a chance I was going to be a single mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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op: and I was 41 and gave birth by C-section at 42 and it would not be safe to carry a pregnancy until 43. Aside from the fact that we could not afford to to go on bedrest or have a complication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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op: I was OK with someone else carrying a baby but the ob said I really needed to wait 1 year to get pregnant and carry a child which would put me at 43. They baby care was not that horrible as I had a nanny but I had and still have a full time job that was brutal with a very difficult pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I guess if the guy wants to cook up a baby he should google it or at listen to his wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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op: I did want another child but I physically could notbreastfeed, go back to a serious job at 6 weeks, figure out how to take care of a baby (we had no help from family), and go then research this stuff when I went back to work at 42 yrs old at 5 weeks post C-section. I figured I would have to suck it up and be grateful for one if the father had no job, a nanny and a rented work space. The ball was in his court and if he wanted another I did not want to force it but he could have done it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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He can still have a big family. I'd leave. He sounds like a lazy jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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op: He does not even have the money for the big family. He has me working ft without hardly a day off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:55 PM Flag
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Yuck. You sound awesome. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. I do love him and like having a traditional family. I wish he would just leave almost so I can pick up the pieces instead to be yelled at this 5x a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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You aren't crazy. He is blaming you and he sounds like a douche. Get your ducks in a row because he's going to leave you for someone younger under this premise since you "tricked him" into thinking you wanted a large family too. Take him to the cleaners. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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100%. He's a selfish ass who loves playing the victim. GTFO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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op: He says "I tricked him." He has friends who encouraged him to move forward with me and considering I got naturally pregnant the first try at 41 it would not be inconceivable that we could have had IVF twins or a child with a surrogate at 42. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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op: I wish there was something to take to the cleaners. He does not make that much and has trouble holding a job. We are financially better than apart and I hate to lose my small but nice apartment in a good school zone. He put down the down payment so will I lose it. [ Reply | More ]
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op: He will leave me for someone younger if he had the chance but he really does not like women and just wants a uterus and a babysitter. Unfortunately for him he does not make enough to afford this. We make the same but I will get at least partial custody and will get some CS. He is not young and he is a mule driver/lazy user and will never be with a woman who does not make at least as much as him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Bad place to be in. It's one thing to be a rich 42 yo man who wants lots of kids with a 20 or 30-something. It's a whole different ballgame if you have to convince a girl 10-20 years younger than you that she should have your babies AND support you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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I don't understand - what research was there to be done? You had first DC after 40, did you actually try to have #2 the old fashioned way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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op: That is what I said. If we were not having sex than maybe it is not "meant to be." Very little sex after #1. I did spend time calculating the right day on #1 but by #2 I was 43 and exhausted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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What about fostering? Or foster adoption ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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op: He has no interested an anyone elses's kid. He and his friends are in some kind of competition on who can put genes on earth. I offered to adopt and he said no way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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He's gaslighting you. Divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Gaslighting is purposely making you feel crazy while keeping plausible deniability. It's very manipulative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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What a jerk. I am sorry for you. How much do you love him!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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op: Very much but not when he wants to yell and be nasty because we have one perfect child and he did nothing to have another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I wish I could live at the MET. Favorite place in NYC. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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I think the Pierre or Carlyle would be more comfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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I feel the same way. Or the Frick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Mine too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:11 PM Flag
[ - ] NEST+m Lower School parents: Mr. Patrello, LS VP, isn't coming back, according to an email he just sent. Any info on whether it was his choice or otherwise? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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this is a public board. please don't give names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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Not sure. On a side note...Why is the lower school link sending me to outlook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Car owners: DH and I are debating whether to order black, beige, or gray leather seats for our new car. We expect to have the car for at least the next 3 years, during which time db will go from newborn to toddler stage. Which color seat hides spills, crumbs, etc. the best between cleaning/vacuuming? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Black. Always choose black carpet, no matter the color of the seats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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Black shows every little crumb though and is really bad with snow and salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Crumbs you can vacuum up. The drink that spills all over the beige stuff on the other hand... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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Can be wiped up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:55 PM Flag
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It's leather, not fabric. It comes up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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DH and I have beige yellow, it has been a fantastic choice for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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We have beige and blue jean rubs off on them. If it is a deep gray I would do that, otherwise black. Are you in the NE/ colder climate? If in the south don't get black seats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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I would not get black but I live in the South. [ Reply | More ]
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Black leather gets too hot in the sun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one who finds taylor swift so effing annoying? We get it, you have lots of girl friends....her whole crew reminds me of the 'popular girls' in HS who thought they were the shit and always made a huge deal of how much fun they were having. blech. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Yeah I agree - and that is probably why the middle school girls idolize her so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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She'll peter out in time. They all do, no matter how on top they are in any given time period. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. On behalf of all ESLs I thank you for usong the phrase "peter out". I never come across it. [ Reply | More ]
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^using [ Reply | More ]
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Madonna was on top for a looooong time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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I agree. There was a nytimes article about this recently. Let's see where those friends are in difficult times.. That's the true test of friendship. [ Reply | More ]
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How many different ways are you going to post this today? We get it, you're still not over high school, you never felt included, so to this day no one else is allowed to have a group of friends without you whining about 'mean girls'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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this is the first time i've posted this, i was at work all day....you sound a little oversensitive about this. [ Reply | More ]
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and FWIW, i was a cheer captain in HS and had plenty of friends........ [ Reply | More ]
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Sure you were. That's why you spend so much time on TMZ now. [ Reply | More ]
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you're insane [ Reply | More ]
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I heard somewhere she didn't have a lot of friends in high school. So she's doing this whole friend thing because she can. [ Reply | More ]
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Her bangs annoy me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:45 PM Flag
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Spend less time on teen pop websites and you won't notice enough to be annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
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Umm... They are young and rich. They ARE the shit, and they ARE having a boatload of fun. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] price per square foot in trendiest area of manhattan? higher than darien or bronxville? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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hahahah crickets [ Reply | More ]
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blows away anywhere in the united states [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you get your 18 yo daughter a nose job? My sister is being very judgmental and making horrible comments about the whole thing. My daughter has been insecure about her nose for a very long time and she got into her dream school, so I decided that it would be fine if she got the surgery before she went to college. She also got some fillers underneath her eyes (bad dark circles, my shitty genetics) and it has made her tremendously happy. What do you think? 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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I think it fine and pretty common. Sister is just jelly. [ Reply | More ]
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My parents, who are not into looks at all... agreed to get me a rhinoplasty the summer before college. It was a life changer confidence-wise and it wasn't even that severe. Ignore you sister and do what you think is best for your daughter. [ Reply | More ]
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your family, your adult dd. [ Reply | More ]
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My DD broke her nose as a child and we paid for her to get it fixed when she was 22. Her sister was horrible to her in the aftermath, but she has been very happy with it. [ Reply | More ]
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Why was her sister angry about this issue, if you don't mind my asking? [ Reply | More ]
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We're not sure if she thought it was a waste of money (although we have paid for things for her in that same price range too), or if she objected to it on some quasi-feminist "You're good enough as you are" basis, but she said some really hurtful things to her. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not fair. A broken nose needs to be fixed sooner or later. I have a friend, a guy who broke his nose as a child. He started having breathing problems, etc. He needed it. His nose didn't look that different either. [ Reply | More ]
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I always hated my nose and was happy to have it fixed for her. It used to sit diagonally on her face. Now it sits straight on her face but is still otherwise the same nose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Agree. No one's business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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LOL, thinking you look good like you are is a crazy, "quasi-feminist" concept? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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No, thinking there's something lesser or wrong with someone who wants to look better is the quasi-feminist concept [ Reply | More ]
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She may have also been upset because her sister became "better looking" and the power dynamic between them changed. I had a bad accident when I was a kid and had to get my teeth fixed over the years, implants, etc. No one gave me a hard time about it. A broken nose is similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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Oh my [ Reply | More ]
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That could be it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Yes. Not fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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What is she saying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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I'm training her to be fake and now she is going to think that every little insecurity can be fixed with plastic. That I'm going to make her vapid and silly. That I haven't instilled the "right" morals in my girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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np--Your sister has a point about fillers at age 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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I have terrible dark circles and I had surgery to fix it. DD doesn't feel the need to wear makeup now that she has the fillers. I remember absolutely hating mine and spending 30 minutes covering it up with concealer. It sucked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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She's only 18. Her skin is still changing. You are middle-aged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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Oh, they're just genetic. Tear trough is recessed or something. I've been doing all sorts of things to the area since I was her age. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ I would be suspicious of a doctor who would do this for an 18 year old. Do you think she will do this for the rest of her life? Who will pay for this every few months when your daughter is 20? When she is 25? When she is 30? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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I'll get her surgery when she gets older and her face matures a little more. Permanent fix if you go to a good doctor! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Interesting. What is the fix? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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Fat graft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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Hmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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So you passed on your insecurity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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It really depends on the nose type. Many rhinoplasties look worse than the original, and I say this as someone who had one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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What "type" is her nose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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She had a larger nose and they slimmed it down and made her tip a little smaller too. It fits her face far better than her old nose did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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she who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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She is 18. She doesn't need permission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Just cash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Well, we paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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Ignore your sister. You are doing what you think best. As good parents do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Do it, but know that nose jobs can be a really bad look. So do your homework and find someone who is a specialist in rhinoplasty. Ask to see a lot of before and after pictures. It is a combination of surgical skill and aesthetic sense that you are looking for in a doctor. think subtle. [ Reply | More ]
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She's already had the surgery, it's been months! It wasn't something we broadcasted, it just went through the family gossip chain and my sister came back from vacation and yelled to me about it. We went to a wonderful doctor and it looks very natural and fits well on her face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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I have a nineteen year old daughter. I want her to get her affirmation and happiness from herself, her hard work, her friends, teachers and family. I think cosmetic surgery for reasons of happiness and insecurity at age 18 is a very slippery slope. I would try to help your daughter be confident without the surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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I get what you're saying, but this has been a big insecurity throughout her life and feeling attractive plays a huge part in self confidence, like it or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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The slippery slope is that another "defect" will be the next reason she's not happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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A little late, know? Freshman orientation has already started at most schools. Can you have the surgery and enough healing in time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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OP said DD is tremendously happy with the result [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Fillers--not nose job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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Poorly written original post. Read posts below. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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If you tiny pic a profile pic/front (no eyes but chin) I will ask PS dh to offer an opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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I think that I am anti-plastic surgery except in cases of deformities, and very large noses/ears. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Nose job would depend if it was just her insecurity, or something others notice and make fun of. Fillers would be an absolute no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Why a no to the fillers? At her age, I would have far preferred the fillers to a nose job. Really bad dark circles suck and really age you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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np--An 18 year old is not worried about looking old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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When you look like you have two black eyes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Your response is why! You're worried an 18 y/o has dark circles that are ageing her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Not her particularly, it's just what they do in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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You bought the surgery for her particularly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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If her nose is really bad then a nose job is fine. The fillers, however, are ridiculous. You'll know you've created a plastic surgery victim when she asks to to pay for the next top-up of filler. The botox and lip fillers aren't far behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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If my daughter ends up with Dh's nose instead of mine and she wants it fixed, of course. Honestly it's not a big deal and it can be a huge boost to a girl who is insecure and uncomfortable with her nose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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I want to know what filler she got! I have the same thing and am looking into fillers too...I wish this was something that was an option when I was 18...I always have to wear so much concealer! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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I can't help thinking this is what jewish girls do when they want to look less jewish. The old waspy standard of beauty lives on... [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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so sad. i love prominent noses that slope downward - so beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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You did the right thing. Tell your sister to bugger off about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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