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[ - ] Fiction favorites. Recommend a book I won't be able to put down. Miss a good read!! Any fiction is fine. Suspense drama romance thriller crime anything 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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Calypso, Cutting for Stone, Small Great Things, A Thousand Splendid Suns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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Try Paris in the Present Tense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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off the top of my mind, page turners I've read in the past few years (variety of genres): Exit West, Station Eleven, The Sparrow, Crossing to Safety, Handmaid's Tale, The Martian, State of Wonder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Are you still at work? Werw you able to get out early? What are you having for dinner tonight? Will you be cooking tonight? I am already home and will have little sandwich rolls with cold cuts, soup for those who want it. Saving space for the turkey and heavy stuff tomorrow. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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I'm still here. My parents are hosting tomorrow, so I will just be making a side and a cake. Going to eat a regular dinner tonight (tofu and vegetables with some kind of starch). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:01 PM Flag
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And I'm thinking of cutting out in a few minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:03 PM Flag
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Been gone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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I was going to do breakfast for dinner, but now I’m think I’ll send DH out for In n Out or to our local Mexican place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you and your kids get a flu shot? Have you? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:48 PM Flag
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yes yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:50 PM Flag
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Yes for dc. Me, not yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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Only in the years we don't want to get influenza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:01 PM Flag
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Yes and yes. I still remember the flu I had about 8 years ago, so DH and I get it as well as the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:56 PM Flag
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No and no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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Yes, yes. One dc hasn’t gotten yet but will. We all got the flu last year (and 4 yo and I got both flu a and flu b) and we learned our lesson. The kids actually rebounded quickly but I was in horrible shape for months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a mom of 4 dds. I have my nephew with us today and geez, I could not deal with a boy full time. He's not a brat or anything,just so much energy and I just cannot relate to him at all. Anyone else? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:42 PM Flag
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I feel that way about anyone else's kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:43 PM Flag
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I have three boys and the thought of whiny, high maintenance girls who need specific clothing items scare me. But like pp anyone else's kids would probably be annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:49 PM Flag
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I have two boys and some days I'm just beat. They do NOT stop moving lol And when you have more than one, they tend to wrestle. They're sweet though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] How do lovers meet at hotels? They have no luggage. Do they just walk in together? Meet in the room? Meet in the lobby? People don’t question them?? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:34 PM Flag
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do you carry your luggage every time you go in and out of your room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:35 PM Flag
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Well when you check in! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:37 PM Flag
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one person has a backpack maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:40 PM Flag
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We used to just check in together. No luggage. No questions asked. Even hookers get visitors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:36 PM Flag
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Omg, what kind of hotel are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:37 PM Flag
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Anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:38 PM Flag
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With your husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:40 PM Flag
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No, affair. Not proud of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:40 PM Flag
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How long was the affair? Did your DH find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:42 PM Flag
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Were you nervous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:43 PM Flag
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Only about 2 months. No, nobody found out. I just could not deal with the guilt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:44 PM Flag
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Why did you do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:48 PM Flag
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Dh had cheated and was abusive. I was mentally done with him but not ready to divorce. I eventually did file. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:54 PM Flag
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Oh wow. I would NOT feel guilty cheating at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:02 PM Flag
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Well, affair guy had a dw and toddler at home. I felt for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:03 PM Flag
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Oooh, how was the sex? ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:43 PM Flag
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It was actually really, really, really good. The emotional part of it messed me up. Not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:45 PM Flag
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I could see that. So sex was better than with DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:48 PM Flag
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np- think about how good sex was with DH when you first started. novelty is always fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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Yes, much better. I had no connection with dh, hated having sex with him. Ended up divorcing him anyway. I think texting affair for months prior and the anticipation building up to it made the sex better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:53 PM Flag
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Sex with my husband is awkward and not good. We been married 10 years. I’ve talked to him, tried lots of things. I’m sexually frustrated. I guess this shouldn’t lead to me having an affair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:04 PM Flag
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I will not be a hypocrite and tell you what to do. I've been there and understand the frustration. It's hard not to get at least a little involved emotionally with affair guy, so be prepared for that and keep your emotions in check. I would also recommend you find someone who is single. Too much drama if the dw finds out, etc. And if your marriage sucks come up with an exit plan. Not fair to live a life full of secrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] My DS is applying to colleges and did not write a "challenges I overcame" essay. He is applying to private and UC schools. What schools are requiring the "woe is me" essay? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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It's one of the Common Application topics: 2. The lessons we take from obstacles we encounter can be fundamental to later success. Recount a time when you faced a challenge, setback, or failure. How did it affect you, and what did you learn from the experience? I don't see this as "a woe is me" topic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:34 PM Flag
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OP: There were multiple prompts. No need to pick that one for a "First World Problem" kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:35 PM Flag
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That's pretty much the definition of "woe is me." "I don't dwell on things that happened in the past" makes for a good mindset IRL, but doesn't work well for this essay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:36 PM Flag
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NP: Maybe you don’t understand what “woe is me” means? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:53 PM Flag
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Yes I do and this question reminds me of that super depressing show on TV called "Queen for a Day." Tell the most depressing story possible and win a prize. I would LIE if I had to write about challenges I overcame. Just fabricate the most awful thing imaginable. It's like those bullshit job interview questions. Just LIE. It's all bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:07 PM Flag
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Anyone watch This Is Us last night? I wonder how many essays will now begin with "Your question is flawed" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:41 PM Flag
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Actually, not a good idea. The rest of the essay was fine, but there was no need to start with that sentence. Would be just fine without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I haven't smoked pot in years. I have a two year old and five month old. Horrible if I smoke pot tonight after they go to sleep? DH wants to watch Planes, Trains & Automobiles and smoke. I'm tempted. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:22 PM Flag
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It’s stronger these days than “years” ago. You may not like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:27 PM Flag
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It’s not a like or not like thing - if you like to smoke pot, you like it. But it is much stronger. Last summer I had 3 long hits off a joint and was non functional for the rest of the day. You have to be on your game. No more than 1 hit, then wait 30 minutes for the next one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:05 PM Flag
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Can you get edibles? I find them so much more pleasant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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First of all, I don't think there's anything morally wrong. Probably worse to get drunk. But how many years has it been? If it has been a really long time it might not be that great. "They" say it's stronger now than it used to be. I got high after many years and had a horrible paranoid time but that's just me. Hope it all works out and you have fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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I say its fine, just take it easy if you haven't done it in a while. And be ready to just fall asleep! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:30 PM Flag
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I do not understand the attraction to pot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:31 PM Flag
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Have you tried edibles? For me it basically feels the same as taking pain pills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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I did this a few months ago and it wasn’t fun, I was waaaaaay too high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:32 PM Flag
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You're the one who ppsted about never being able to go to a restaurant anymore? And kids will need to sit nicely tmrw? Sure, go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:36 PM Flag
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This sounds so fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:37 PM Flag
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If you want to try an edible instead of smoking, look up the recipe for firecrackers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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Why would it be horrible? Does 5 months old sleep through the night? If so, I say go for it! Like someone else said, you might fall asleep though. So make sure you get everything done beforehand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Intermittent fasting - when does it get easier. I am on day 3, first 2 weren't bad, I had black coffee and then broke my fast with green juice at 12 and had lunch at 1. Today was a different story, I felt like crap all morning, beyond starving, headache, felt dizzy. As a result I ate way too much at lunch which seems counterproductive 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:13 PM Flag
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I did it for 3 weeks and gave up. It got pretty easy after about 3 days since my body adjusted (kind of like when there is a time change). I just ate two meals per day and no more that I would have usually eaten. I was not that energetic before my window, but not bad. During the 3rd week, I started having these adrenaline surges. I would get very keyed up after eating and almost jittery/panicky. I looked them up and some people do get them. It happens to those who are susceptible to hypoglycemia mostly. I decided that was really not good, so I stopped. I ate so meny fewer calories during that time (1200 per day vs 1600), but I didn't lose any weight at all. Maybe the cortisol from the fasting made me keep the weight on. I am just not cut out for it, though I know people who have done very well with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:32 PM Flag
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Here's a secret. ANY time you are thinking about what you eat, you will lose weight. So if you are doing IF, or cutting carbs, or counting calories, or doing weight watchers, or keto, etc, etc. You are paying attention to what and how you eat. So your choices will be better bc the mindless eating will stop and everything you eat is planned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:38 PM Flag
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Have you tried different windows? I am having trouble waiting until later too. I’m a morning person. But if I stop eating at 3/4pm then I miss out on family dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I just like being alone. Stresses me out when other people are in my house, including my family. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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Same, somewhat. I definitely need more alone time than normal people. And I can’t for the life of me fathom people who enjoy shopping or doing other errands with others. She travels fastest who travels alone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:06 PM Flag
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Same! Hate going shopping with other people. DD always wants to shop with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:07 PM Flag
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Shopping with friends or family members is hellish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:27 PM Flag
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+1. I'm an introvert. So at social gatherings whether friends or family, i need to take a minute and collect myself locked in the bathroom or hiding in the kitchen.. i can't handle too much people.. also like to do errands alone, don't like anyone slowing me down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:08 PM Flag
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Same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:09 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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I also need down time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:10 PM Flag
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Me too. We do holidays just dh, dc and me. No pressure. Finally after years we decided to do what makes us happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone besides me still at work? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:59 PM Flag
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me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:01 PM Flag
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No, but I started at 6AM and worked the full 8 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:04 PM Flag
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Me. I could leave, but have stuff to catch up on and I find it the loneliest evening of the year. Kids are with their dad. I have plans with family tomorrow, but tonight . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:10 PM Flag
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me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:11 PM Flag
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Just left. Now waiting for the 6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:21 PM Flag
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me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:40 PM Flag
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I’m working from home for another few hours - I’m on the west coast, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:04 PM Flag
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Running errands. Just went to pick up the kids (my 4 yo’s preschool had an extra day option, and I sent both her and 6 yo) but they wanted to stay longer. Woohoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:04 PM Flag
[ - ] First time turkey maker here - my recipe calls for breast side up - can you help me identify? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:55 PM Flag
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The fat part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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No. Skin side [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:12 PM Flag
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The whole body has skin. wth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:18 PM Flag
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Dude, call the Butterball line. or watch the Melissa Clark videos on the NY times cooking section. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:07 PM Flag
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The side that has nipples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:12 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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The part that is on top in every photo of a turkey on the cover of every magazine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:19 PM Flag
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Was just thinking this! Google image search roast turkey, what you see, that is the breast side up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:48 PM Flag
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The not flat side. So the legs are sticking in the air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:19 PM Flag
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look for the bra cups [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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There's a youtube for everything "How to identify the parts of a turkey"...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UYm1qTTt1Mc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone treated latent constipation to deal with bedwetting/daytime wetting? I just started reading this book, "It's No Accident," and it is describing my DS exactly. Any advice? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:41 PM Flag
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Yes we briefly has this issue when DD was 9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:57 PM Flag
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How did you treat her, if you don't mind sharing? Miralax? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] This is why poor people stay poor. I'm almost 40. We have less than $40,000 saved for retirement. I've had three goals for years: pay off our student loans, put $11k a year in IRAs or 401ks, and save up six months of rent (just rent) as an emergency fund. We only put $7800 in IRAs this year, still only make minimum payments on the loans, only have a little over 4 months rent saved, and DH just took out 6% of our emergency fund so he can buy a new TV and the Nintendo switch on black Friday. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:34 PM Flag
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that would suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:36 PM Flag
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what is your annual income? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:36 PM Flag
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Mine is $60k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:48 PM Flag
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Household? Or just you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:49 PM Flag
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Just me. He makes $90k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:56 PM Flag
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Do you have children with him? Because if not you should cut your losses and divorce him. If you do, you should at least separate your finances and work on your goals together. He’s dragging you down, and you are likely to outlive him and have no way of supporting yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:58 PM Flag
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He's younger than me so the social security life expectancy calculator says he'll outlive me. We do have separate checking accounts. I'm thinking of taking away his access of the savings account now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:25 PM Flag
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Is that total for household or just yours? You have saved more than 13% of your income in IRAs this year which is good for your income level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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Just mine. He makes 90k. I think it's really $89,500 or something like that. It was $70k or $75k a year until last month, but the raise was supposed to be backdated to July when he was at this job for a year, but they never did it and he just keeps saying he hasn't seen anyone from HR or that there's a new HR person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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^^^ because you may be beating yourself up over numbers that are not bad for your income level [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:49 PM Flag
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You might want to consider reading Dave Ramsey’s book The Total Money Makeover. He outlines things step by step, so instead of spending years and years attaking yur three financial goals simultaneously you would see faster progress on first one... and then the next... and then the next. It really works! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:39 PM Flag
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Also a tv isn’t an emergency, but I guess you knew that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes, I know a tv is not an emergency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:45 PM Flag
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I have read it. I read it in college and read it as a part of FPU. And then listened to it on audiobook with DH. He said it made him depressed and refused to ever listen to an audiobook with me again. He also did fall into a legitimate depression after listening to it, got on anti-depressants, said there was a day where he looked at a tree and contemplated how hard it would be to hang himself with the cords in his backpack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:44 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have a marital problem rather than a financial problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:46 PM Flag
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NP Please go to the we are debt free board on babycenter. You need help. A lot of people there have turned things around financially even with a reluctant spouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:48 PM Flag
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You read that book in college and then married someone without first nailing down how you two would handle the family finances? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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We talked about finances before marrying. One thing I liked about him was that he was willing to sacrifice and forgo nice things for financial goals. I did know he had a lot of debt and regretted it, but I met his parents and saw they argued with him what a great decision all his debt was while he was telling them they were wrong, and we exchanged glances. They may need to move in with us in 2019 because his dad is losing his job and they don:'t own or have savings, and his mom has never worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:09 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are trying to do all three goals at once. Savings for retirement, efund and SL debt. Of course it will take you longer to get there because all three are big goals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:52 PM Flag
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So you chose an melodramatic man who needs material stuff for emotional fulfilment. Suffer in silence Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:55 PM Flag
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what is your emergency fund (now) in terms of monthly budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:39 PM Flag
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I'd have to look up my spreadsheet for that. Our monthly budget varies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:46 PM Flag
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okay what is monthly income [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:47 PM Flag
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This is just estimates based on what I heard yesterday, but it should be as little as $8065 a month and as much as $12100 a month if the same ten months I get paid twice, he's paid twice and the same two months I'm paid three times, he's paid three times. He was paid semimonthly before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:22 PM Flag
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Can you persuade him to run the household off two pays per month and use the third, when it happens, for debt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:47 PM Flag
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He is afraid to put extra toward the debt because then that money "disappears" (his words). It's been hard to get him to contribute to retirement, too, because it makes him feel like the money "disappeared." He's only 32, so he really doesn't comprehend emotionally that a day will come where he will choose not to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:57 PM Flag
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What about all the money you are spending on interest? He sounds too immature to be married! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:00 PM Flag
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To him, because it's only 2.3% interest to start with, the interest was too minimal compared to the 7% it could earn in the market. But it keeps going up and now it's 3.7%, and he doesn't invest hardly more than the $200 a month to his IRA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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I understand the student loan part. Will have a substantial portion paid off this March and it's been a huge chunk of my income for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:41 PM Flag
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Stupid to buy tv and switch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:45 PM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:26 PM Flag
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People just don't understand what it's like to live frugally. I make nice 6 figure comp and could have bought a house priced 1.5 times higher than my house, but I did not. Could have leased a fully loaded luxury car or even bought one from my bonus, but did not. Instead, bought the bare bones car all cash and paid off house mortgage in 5 years by not touching a penny of my bonus for anything but the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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I wouldn't call this frugal. It's smart. Some people prefer flashiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:53 PM Flag
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i'm like this and send one kid to private, my neighbors who don't work and have big mortgages mock me behind my back for not having a mcmansion like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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mock me and my pt time job where i max my 401k and IRA^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:02 PM Flag
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I live very frugally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:23 PM Flag
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Tethering yourself to someone who spends money like a kid in a candy store is your mistake. Saving mobey, like all virtuous habits, takes dedication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:51 PM Flag
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this, he must have grown up poor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:01 PM Flag
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He grew up a military kid. His dad is a colonel with over 30 years in, but his parents are financial idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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this is common among people who will get a guaranteed pension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:42 PM Flag
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Yeah, they're freaking out now because they can't figure out how they're live on his pension. And then on top of it they financed a vehicle that costs more than a house in the Midwest, and all because they were afraid they wouldn't qualify for it if they waited until they were living on his pension. On top of getting something like $140k a year, they're getting over $3k a month for housing allowance. But they didn't buy a home and pocket the difference because that would have meant downsizing and the base gives them this huge four bedroom house to live in. And they need it because they have so much stuff because all their moving expenses are covered and it doesn't cost them anything to keep accumulating stuff that gets hauled all over the world at taxpayer expense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Wouldn't it be nice if for just ONE event that everyone would just grow the f up. Thanksgiving is one day a year. I'm doing all the work for my family. Everyone needs to just shut tf up and stop pissing me off. Parents canceled last minute. Sister doesn't want to stay long because she doesn't like other sister's husband. ILs are pissed that their DS is missing thanksgiving with them to spend with just 50% of my family. Everyone needs to just get along - it's ONE DAY. not even a full day. ONE DINNER. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:33 PM Flag
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Rent Planes, Trains and Automobiles. It will make you feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:34 PM Flag
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Also, for anyone who hasn’t seen Four Christmases, it keeps getting better every year I watch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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Why did your parents cancel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:37 PM Flag
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mom gave a bs excuse but it boils down to she didn't want to sit in a train for 4 hrs and it's going to be cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:42 PM Flag
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and my apartment isn't comfortable enough for her (won't get a hotel - too cheap) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:46 PM Flag
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I’m with your in-laws. In future, maybe just spend every year with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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Go troll somewhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:52 PM Flag
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Not trolling, just saying that if op’s family is so drama-prone she should opt out. of their holidays. Sister not getting along with BIL? Why cater to that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:54 PM Flag
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OP - they're not drama prone. The cancellation was an exception. And this is nothing compared to the crazy shit the ILs put me through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:01 PM Flag
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Okay sorry, I misunderstood. But one adult guest threatening to leave early because she can’t get along with another adult guest is a bit much, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:07 PM Flag
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Op - totally agree. She needs to grow up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:21 PM Flag
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and to be fair, BIL is an idiot... I just don't let it bother me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Bought my first costco pumpkin pie. Will I regret it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:31 PM Flag
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Won't be as good as homemade Libby's pumpkin pie, but it will still be very good. Costco has the best birthday cakes and pies. Seriously. Way better than upscale places that overcharge you for mediocre cake and pie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:35 PM Flag
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agreed. last year for DD bday i went to a fancy bakery ($4/cupcake) and the frosting tasted like chemicals and cake part was dry & stale. This year, got big box cupcakes at less than $1 each and they were fresh and delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:38 PM Flag
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np The chocolate birthday cake from Stop and Shop in Connecticut is as good as the $40 Brooklyn Blackout cake from Ladybird in Park Slope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:40 PM Flag
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You have awful taste. Sorry. The blackout cake from Ladybiord is phenomenal. No way a supermarket cake compares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:42 PM Flag
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So you’re saying you haven’t tried it? You “just know”? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:47 PM Flag
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Oh stop it with your Stop and Shop in Connecticut! Please. just. stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:10 PM Flag
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It's really hard to screw up a pumpkin pie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:36 PM Flag
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I have had these and think they are passable, mine is better but I will buy them occasionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:36 PM Flag
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Costco apple and pecan are better but pumpkin is fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:38 PM Flag
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Pumpkin pie is nasty. Costco pumpkin pies are HUGE. You will have a lot of nasty pumpkin pie to consume. Better you than me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I dread holidays with my mom. She is in her 70s and obsessed with staying thin which means she barely eats and constantly talks about how she doesn't eat this, doesn't eat that because it is so bad for you. She is stuck in the 80s idea of low calorie food and eats everything plain, low fat, no taste (although she is a wasp so flavorful foods were never part of her diet!). She can't drink caffeine or alcohol because it affects her too much because she isn't eating anything. Seems like such a sad way to live out your later years, who cares that you are a size 2 when you have no fun! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:29 PM Flag
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I think it is healthier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:34 PM Flag
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I have an anorexic mother too. But she does drink. I too find it sad that she has spent her life focusing so much on weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:50 PM Flag
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Is your mom Barbara Walters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:53 PM Flag
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My MIL nibbles on lettuce and then insists we haul home buckets of leftover potatoes and stuffing despite that fact that we don’t want them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:29 PM Flag
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I think it’s fine to be a light eater and abstain from caffeine and alcohol....HOWEVER to constantly talk about it is obnoxious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:33 PM Flag
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Looks like her 80s way of eating works for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD = when would you depart? We have a 9:45 AM flight out of LGA tomorrow and live on UWS near Columbia. If you were us, when would you leave for airport? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:17 PM Flag
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LGA with the construction mess on Thanksgiving Day? 630am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:21 PM Flag
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oh wow. DH saying 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:24 PM Flag
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It was mess on Friday- people getting out on the roadway to make their flights. Unless you are taking Jetblue (different exit off the highway), dont risk a traffic jam. https://newyork.cbslocal.com/2018/11/16/laguardia-gridlock-delays-holiday-travel-season/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:28 PM Flag
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we are on jet blue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:33 PM Flag
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Oh- you can leave at 715am then- breeze to get to Marine Air Terminal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:36 PM Flag
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really? can't believe we would have any luck like that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:37 PM Flag
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There is no chance of traffic on roadways - except for whatever you mght run into at 7am on the Grand Central Parkway- budget for that and security. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:45 PM Flag
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I have a 1am flight at jfk. Will leave 9ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:25 PM Flag
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That's a bit overdoing it- there wont be traffic on the highways or the JFK roadway then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:31 PM Flag
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Going to eat dinner and drink. Could wait 20 min for a car to pick up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:47 PM Flag
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New poster here, but I always try to leave super early, because I'd prefer to not be stressed if there's crazy traffic or some other snag along the way. I also strangely enjoy parking my stuff at the gate and wandering around to browse the shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 09:00 PM Flag
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5:30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:27 PM Flag
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7:30 if domestic, 6:30 if international [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:30 PM Flag
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Between 6:15 and 6:30. If your flight leaves at 9:45, you board around 9:15. You need to give yourself an hour to get there, and another hour to get through security. Give yourself lots of buffer time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:30 PM Flag
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7:45 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:39 PM Flag
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We fly on Thanksgiving a lot - it is always easy to get there. We used to fly beforehand and it was awful. 7:15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:40 PM Flag
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The parade should not affect your departure. You can go across 96th, up 3rd Ave, to 124th and go across the RFK bridge. It should not be more than a 45-minute ride even with traffic. So, you can leave at 7:30, and that is plenty of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.18, 07:45 PM Flag
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