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[ - ] Reading the Marissa Mayer post from earlier today. I cannot believe all the idiot posters on that thread. Phyllis Shafly types 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think you're the only idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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Hi, SAHM. Hope you don't have daughters [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can someone tell me what the going rate is to have someone come to your house and spend the night to walk the dog in the evening and in the morning? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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we pay our dog walker $100/day for this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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where do you live? that seems pricey [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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We pay $75 per 24 hrs but that includes a midday walk as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Why not let them take the dog to their house. It is easier for them. Friends of ours do this, and pay $40 per day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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+1. I do this for my friend for free, but I never was willing to do it when she wanted me to stay at her place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Wouldn't it be cheaper to just pay someone to bring their dog over when you actually wanted to play with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] S/o at what age did dc stop napping?3.5 just stopped. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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Both of mine stopped at 2.5. I was devastated with #1 and glad with #2, naptime was a PITA with the second kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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Mine naps about half the time now, just turned 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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Still napping, 3.5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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2.75 stopped napping regularly but at 3.5 still takes a rest every day and nap maybe 1 in 7 days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] My DH just told me that he's been followed by a bunch of random people on the street and in the subway over the last few days. He thinks it has to do with his new short beard, which makes him look Jewish. Btw, he is Jewish. I am cracking up here but he may have a point. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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Why would they follow him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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he doesn't know. he thinks it's the beard as it makes him super Jewish. he thinks it's something antisemitic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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He sounds paranoid. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How many of you weren't stressed about getting married and having kinds and honestly think you would have been fine if it never happened? How do I get to that place? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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That was not me. Always wanted to have kids, couldn't wait to be a mom since I was a little girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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I didn't care if I ever got married or had children. If it happened, it happened. Otherwise, I had a pretty amazing life and I was going to live it. I think you have to get to that place a long time ago. These were never life goals for me. Ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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I did not care either way. It's not a place you get to, you're either there or you are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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This. Totally agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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I never stressed about it, but I was 26 when we met, so it was really too early to stress. I am really happy to be married and have kids, and would have been really sad to miss out. However, I'd a thousand times rather be single than be in a bad marriage, and there are other ways to get kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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I'm not a single-girl hater, but if I were you, I would spend less time on UB because the bitter trolls will get to you. Repeat after me: The best time to get married is when you meet the right man. For some people, that's at 16. For some, it's at 36. You don't have to pretend like you don't care either way, but you do have to not freak guys out by reeking of desperation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.02.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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I agree with everyone else. I have always wanted kids and can SAY I would have been devastated. However, having them with the wrong person is one of the worst things a person can do as a human being. I have an optimistic personality, so I would have dealt with it (whatever "it" was) and moved on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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I didn't want to get married. And I didn't want to have kids. I did both and I like my life today but I think I could have had a perfectly happy and satisfying life if I hadn't done either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Df just told me she and her dh have never traveled alone together except for their honeymoon. Together 12 years. They only travel with his family. This is so weird to me on top of the fact that the dh works for his father so could get time off and is oddly dependent on his parents in a lot of ways. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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I know a couple like this. Are they getting divorced? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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It's odd to me that you care. Mind your own business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Sounds horrific. Way too much family togetherness and not enough time alone as a couple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Dogs LOVE beer 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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that's cruel. you shouldn't have a dog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Are receiving blankets useful for newborns? If so, how many to get? (I already have 5 swaddling blankets, so wondering if I also need receiving blankets . . .) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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I had a ton but I used them for various things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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Does that mean you thought they were worth it? Or were you using them for various things because they were otherwise useless? (I've been reading a lot of commentary and some people find them useful, but many people found them to be a waste and ended up using them to dust, use as burp cloths, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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no no you don't have to buy a lot! just buy 3,4 . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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and you will get so many blankets from gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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Best blankets are Aden Anais [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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ty! just added some to the registry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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+but make sure not the Aden ones, that's their budget line and quality is way down. The bamboo ones are amazingly soft. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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And the ones they encourage you to steal from the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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I used them as burp cloths [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] NP: I completely disagree 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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A great beginning. Tell us more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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PP: you sound unhinged. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I live close to Columbia University.The last couple of weeks the area has been crawling with new students from China. They hang out together in groups that are exclusively Chinese, and speak Chinese. I am amazed at how many there are. I know NYU (college) has admitted more than 300 this year. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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I've noticed it too. Are they real undergraduates or doing special grad programs. They all live in the Avalon building, and are rude and entitled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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I don't know. I assumed they are regular undergraduates, but a special program would make sense in sheer numbers. I don't know how their parents afford it. Especially with the devaluation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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They pay full price in cash--they can't get FA. They are banking those universities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Not true. I know a girl from China who just started at NYU this week, and she got a scholarship/FA from NYU for about one third of the price. It is still crazy expensive though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you consider it rude to text after a certain time? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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Not rude but I try and avoid it after around 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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Depends on the relationship. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:44 AM Flag
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I think 100% of my friends keep their phones on silent, so I don't think it's rude, but I don't have anything important to say late at night that couldnt wait until morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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No. People who don't want their phones pinging put them on silent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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No but don't expect an answer right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:52 AM Flag
[ - ] What would you consider the jewish Ivy? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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None of them. All Jews = evil trash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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This. ITA. Hitler did NOTHING wrogn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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Cornell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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Brandeis. Hands down. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have thrown out half of my DH's clothes and he won't even notice. lol 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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kill him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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Going to be hard to break up with him! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you and or Dh went to grad school how old were you? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Went from age 25-29 (doctorate). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Both, 22, 24. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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I'm a single mom but I started grad school later in life (the year I turned 30). I already had two children by then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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23 to 26 for me, 24 to 27 for him. both id's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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i meant jd's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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I was 27 when I went to b-school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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I went 23-27 and DH was a lot older. I don't even know. 35-ish? [ Reply | More ]
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22 [ Reply | More ]
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DH - went from 25-29 [ Reply | More ]
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24 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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I wear a cute fanny pack from Eddie Bauer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.02.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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For me 22 the first time, 35 the second. DH 22 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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what's your field? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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I started at 25; dh started at 21. 8 yr phd program [ Reply | More ]
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24 and again at 28. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] A lot of nannies never get married. Is it because they are losers? On social outcasts would want to spend all day with kids? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Don't think this statement is true at all. My nanny is married, as are all of the nannies of my friends' kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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This. What a weird statement to make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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no, watching a married couple with kids is the best cure for marriage fever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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Lol this [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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Not sure about that...my nanny just got married (age 27). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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Is she white? It's the fat white ones that tend to stay single. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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She's not white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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That's what I suspected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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Wow, you're a piece of work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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almost all of the nannies I know are married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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A lot of nannies are married with children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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Not getting married makes someone a loser? What a stupid premise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that age of consent is only 14 in Italy? My DD has been asking to do a semester there and I wonder if she knows this 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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Probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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weirdo. stop posting this over an over, If you are not some creep and fake, ask your dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Again with this?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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many kids have sex at this age anyway these days, so it could happen anyway regardless of whether your kid is in Italy or here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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She wants to get raped. You need to put her in a sanitarium [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Gave guy I am dating a blow job last Tuesday. He's made no effort to see me since. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Consider it a worthwhile investment in ascertaining his true character. Don't respond if/when he contacts you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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^Ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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np - maybe she was completely awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Op. This might be true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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So? Is that any call to be rude? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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how is it rude? she never said he was avoiding her, just that he had not made an effort to see her. could be busy with work. what effort has she put in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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It's rude to engage in sexual activity with someone (especially as the non-reciprocating recipient) and then ghost with no contact for a week. He sounds like a loser, and if I were OP I would immediately delete his number and have no further contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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She gave him a blowjob, ffs the least he can do is call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Disagree. Much nicer for him to not call than to keep her on the hook as his personal blow job giver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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Those are not the only options. If he doesn't want to see her any more, he should break up with her like an adult rather than skulking off like a a socially maladapted weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Sucks to suck, dear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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I find all of this confusing. Why are you giving random guys blow jobs in an attempt to get them to see you again? Really gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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We've been dating for a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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If you're using sex as a manipulation tactic, you're not in a good place. If you feel badly that he didn't reach out to you in a week after giving him a blow job, you're not in a good place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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But how do I get better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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Blow jobs are for boyfriends, not rando guys you're kind of dating. At least sex you get something out of if it doesn't work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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You have no evidence that her intent was to manipulate; very likely their sexual contact was spontaneous and developed organically. Prior to that, they were "dating", which means she was seeing him consistently, with no reason to suspect this would change (certainly not in response to a BJ!) His behavior indicates that he is perhaps not in a good place, but says little about OP as written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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He asked for it. I didn't want to seem prude. Was on my period, so got nothing in return. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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I am praying you are under 25. Please please please tell me you are under 25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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She didn't say "I haven't heard from he guy I'm dating in over a week"- she's specifically complaining about the fact that she gave him a blow job and he hasn't contacted her since. He's a jerk, no doubt about it, but if you are using blow jobs as a means to get a guy to call you back, you are not in a good place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Next time wait 2-3 mos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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This no longer works in 2015. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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NP. This hasn't worked in at least 20 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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Disagree. I'm in my 20s an unmarried, but in a relationship. I don't mean to attack you personally, but it really upsets me to see girls say this. Why should I blow some guy who isn't my boyfriend? Is he going to not ask me out again if I don't? I say good riddance. OF COURSE you can wait to give a blow job. Why do you believe men have all of this power? They only have what you give them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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pp: I'm in my 30s and married, and I sort of agree with you, but not completely. The issue is more that many people today - men and women - would see someone who isn't interested in sexual contact as likely to be repressed or overly religious or simply boring. You are of course under no obligation to hook up with someone you're seeing casually until it gets more serious, but some people will not want to get more serious until they have assessed whether you are sexually compatible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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He's just not that into you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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He was. Until I gave him a BJ. How do I get better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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np: you get better by practicing with a competent and dedicated lover, which obviously this loser is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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See above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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Correction: gave guy you *were* dating a BJ. Don't ever speak to him again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Before that, how often would you talk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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He would call once a week. See each other once a week. We both have been traveling a lot for work and on weekends. Text not every day but a couple days a week a few exchanges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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Why would you give this man a blow job? Did he go down on you? If you've been dating for a month and you see each other once a week and call once a week, that means youve seen him 4 times and spoken to him 4 times. He got what he needed then he left. A guy who is into you will at least make an effort to keep himself top of mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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OR: would it have been understood that you would have seen him on the weekends? It bugs me that there was a weekend in between and you still didn't hear from him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Never give before receiving, dear. It sets the wrong tone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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+1 million. Time to learn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:46 AM Flag
[ - ] DC is starting school - originally got into a 3 day a week PM program at a school we loved, but we really wanted AM. Just got a call from the school that an AM spot opened up, but it's only 2 days a week vs. 3. Should we take the 2 day AM slot or stay in the 3 day PM class? DC is 2.5 and still naps, which is why we think AM is ideal... but wish it was 3 days. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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I would do AM if he is 2.5 yo and still naps. My son still naps at 3.5 and is a total nightmare without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Take the am. You can supplement with other activities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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Two days a week is kind of a waste but so is an afternoon program. Which school is better long term? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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When my two yo did two day she went once a week of that from thanksgiving to Easter due to illness and holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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AM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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BTDT. Take the am, for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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Do the morning schedule if he's only 2.5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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Won't you still have to pay for the program you already accepted? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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Never mind - I just saw it is the same school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 01:51 AM Flag
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AM for sure. [ Reply | More ]
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