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[ - ] 9 weeks pg and spotting red. I need to look at something very comforting and cute right now, like a baby chick. Any websites to recommend? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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psst. google "baby animals" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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OP: Wow... this is the best Google query ever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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Richard Scarry books. Their characters are so sturdy. [ Reply | More ]
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puppy videos [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moms who had fist db after 35, how long did you wait until having another? I have a number of frozen embryos that I can use (ironically, I got pregnant with db naturally) so I feel like I have a little bit of tim, but not much. I'm 39. Would like to enjoy some alone time with the baby we have before everything becomes a blur. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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Had first DC by emergency C Section at 40. Started trying again at the six months post surgery mark, when Dr. said we could. Even if it had been immediate, we would have had over a year with DC1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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How old is DB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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#1 was 2 weeks before 38 and #2 was 39+10 mos. I mint have waited slightly longer if I was using frozen embryos, but glad I didn't . Several years later, timing and spacing is perfect for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:28 AM Flag
[ - ] did we talk about Tom Cruise leaving Scientology? http://www.esquire.com/entertainment/movies/news/a36209/tom-cruise-leaving-scientology/ 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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omg. no way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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The slant of the article is hilarious. Summary: "Scientology has taken away everything he loved! Nicole! Katie! Now they're going to take away Suri and he can't handle it!" -- Cruise has amazing PR, that's all I can say. No mention of the delusions... [ Reply | More ]
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huh [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Name poll: Emily or Amelia? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Emily [ Reply | More ]
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Amantha [ Reply | More ]
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i love them both, but emily was ultra popular 10-15 years ago, i'd worry dd would be mistaken for older than she is (like young linda/patricia/pamelas are today) [ Reply | More ]
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Amalia [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I missed my period (it's been ten days) but a pregnancy test is negative. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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menopause [ Reply | More ]
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summer [ Reply | More ]
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the moon [ Reply | More ]
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stress? same thing happened to me a few weeks after i was mugged... [ Reply | More ]
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:( hope you are ok [ Reply | More ]
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thanks i'm fine. it was a while ago. actually the stress reset me - my cycle had been irregular and frustrating for years before then and it was like clockwork after [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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Mercury in retrograde [ Reply | More ]
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40s? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a Taurus perhaps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:25 AM Flag
[ - ] A friend of ours just hosted us at their club for the entire day. They were super nice and gracious. How can I say thank you? Would a gift basket seem odd? Should we offer to take them out for dinner or something? Just want to do the right thing. Thanks. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Trying to give you a good response. Define "hosted" and "us". When we were members at a country club, that could mean: golf + snack bar for kids by the pool + overpriced underwhelming dinner inside. Sounds like you do not have a reciprocal venue. Bare minimum is have them over to your house for dinner. Do you have access to premium tix for Yankees game where men and DCs could attend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Hosted means lunch sandwiches by the pool and a nice dinner buffet with drinks at night. I do not have a club membership myself where we can host them. Do not have access to any game tickets either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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ok then -- are you closer to her or DH is closer to him? Because if the relationship came from the men, I would suggest DH take the host husband out for golf and you arrange a fun playmate for DCs so the mom has time off. Fun for everyone! Except you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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fun "playdate" (not playmate -- no porn suggested) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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I am friends with the mom. Should I give her like a spa certificate or perfume set? DH does not golf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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Yes that's nice! Totally good gift. Spa certificate is always welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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For the men? Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Yes -- if the relationship sprang from the men's friendship -- the man did a nice thing for OP's family; the reciprocal should be for the man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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What made you think that was the case? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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Did you read the word IF? Guess not. You can't read. When you go to a restaurant, do you order the specials? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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OMG. Overkill. I would never want more than a thank you and maybe take me out to coffee for this. Maybe if dinner was really expensive, a reciprocal dinner sometime, but honestly -- if I invite you it's because I like your company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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This! Have them over for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Tarot mom are you here? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Funny Kennedy fact - the brothers John F. and Robert would often refer to the effeminate and slightly-built black author/activist James Baldwin as "Martin Luther Queen," and would sometimes giggle while doing so. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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I saw James Baldwin. He is one of the great Americans of the 20th century. He asked questions we are still answering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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"What you say about anyone else, it means you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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He was kind of a goofy guy because he tried to act "hard" (or to do some Malcolm X-style "mau-mauing" as it was called back then), but he was just so fey and queeny that he became more known for that than for his actual writings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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That's why they're dead now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Any moms go through divorce in NY and deal with who pays what for college? In the final stages of negotiations with ex. He has said he will not pay for either DC's college. After googling same question, it seems to be a negotiable item subject to SUNY cap and relative income. Anyone with direct experience? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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Few judges will order it. I know I'll be paying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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No experience but everything is negotiable. Any cap would only come into play if you were seeking a court award. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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A shame he doesn't want to pay for your DC's college. No advice but I hope he does have to pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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This will come back to haunt him when his kids are saddled with loans or see you struggling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Thanks. I'm not going to hide it anymore. I told both that I have to cut back on what I give them because Dad won't pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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OP: thanks for responding. At least now I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a completely clueless DH? I work FT in a stressful job, while he stays at home, doing some part time degree. I just invited the family for a trip (no financial contribution from him, of course) and asked DH to put the kids to sleep. I only ask this of him once every mint or every other month. I was exhausted from cooking for DCs, taking them to playground etc after a full day of work. We have a lot of help. The whole bedtime was dramatic because he destroyed a puzzle that took DC and me over an hour to make. He then stormed off into his "home office" leaving 2 screaming kids in my bedroom. Wth?!? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Dump him now. It will only get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Ha ha ha about the home office. Sorry OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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You guys are obviously not on the same wavelength and probably have been checked out for some time. I'm guessing you expect so little if him and enae him so much that anything remotely grown up like makes him feel put upon. You made him a child. No real way to fix this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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He made himself a child by not getting a new job for the last 5 years. I used to take care of DCs by myself with a nanny and he never did anything. But I had to ramp up my career to provide a decent life for DCs. I would have preferred to sahm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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He is a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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HHI? What did he used to do and what did he earn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh and I hosted ds and 2 of his college friends a few weeks ago. We cooked for them, entertained, etc. I did not get a thank you note from either kid. I find it odd. Wdyt? 64 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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I think boys and men haven't been taught as well as females when it comes to writing think you notes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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At one point people have to stop using their upbringing as an excuse and start deploying good manners no matter how they were raised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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Thank you. This. (Signed, mom of 2 ds) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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I did the same recently. I got a text -- amazed to get that. They don't think of it. The boy was part of DS's frat. I think that explained the social courtesy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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I would never expect a thank you note from a college kid. Were they courteous in your house? Did they thank you as they left? That would be fine for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Np. Wow. I hope you teach your own dcs to write thank you notes. I absolutely expect this from anyone over the age of 12. (Younger than that, I'd expect the note from their parents) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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I wrote thank you notes in high school and college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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+1 and I still write them now, lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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The old joke -- why don't Junior Leaguers have orgies? Too many thank you notes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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same. If I got one it would be a very pleasant surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Was the invitation and all logistics communicated through DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Op. No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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I read that as DH's college friends. In any event, it would have been nice but I wouldn't think it's a problem for your son's buddies not to have sent s thank you notes for his bringing them Home for the weekend, so long as they were polite and said appropriate thank yous in person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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You think a college age boy is going to send you a thank you note after he crashes at his friends place for a couple of days? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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It was more than just "crashing." We took them out to dinner one night, and cooked them a fairly elaborate meal the second night. We also let them use our pool, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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Oh well if you let them use the pool.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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I mean that we went to a lot of trouble and gave them full use of the house. I would hope that a 22 year old adult would know to write a thank you note for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Let them use your pool? Do you think it would have been OK not to? Elaborate meal that you prepared was your choice, college kids are going to be oblivious to the effort that goes into sushi you prepare v order in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Wtf? You think her son's college friends are entitled to the pool?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Of course they are. They are guest of her family. Should get son get to use the pool while they are visiting? Or no only on the second visit if they sent thank you notes the first time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Do you have a pool? Just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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Wtf..? No, a guest is not "entitled" to anything. Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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Actually, yes, if he was raised correctly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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I wouldnt have known to do this. Id let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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Wow. How were you raised? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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I wrote thank you cards for gifts, but not staying at someones home in college. I did offer to clean up/help all that, just the thank you notes thing wasnt something i would have thought of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Np: I wouldn't have either (European not American). Where I grew up you brought a gift to the parents (flowers or wine) acted mannerly during your stay and helped clean up after meals. No one got their knickers in a twist over a thank you note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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+3. My mom always had me send thank you notes for gifts. I once went to visit a friend who had moved away while I was in prep school. I came with brownies I had made in the microwave but it did not cross my mind to send s thank you note afterward. I imagine it would have been the same in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Me either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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I have to admit I'm not a frat guy and I have gotten so bad about thank you notes. This is a good reminder! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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I am not a college male. I have become lazy about writing thank you notes. Wouldn't write one to you if I were Miss Manners, however. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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My sons know how to write a thank you note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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I'm glad at least one boy out there still knows to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Well, I have three of them. :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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Really, in the grand scheme of things who gives a shit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Op. I don't care, I was just surprised. I have drilled it into my kids' heads to write thank you notes. It's not even a question in our house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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Same here but for presents at Xmas. Not for staying over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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Wtf? A house guest should always send a thank you note!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Do you expect thank you notes from guests all the time? Where do you draw the line. I never thought about this when people come and stay with us, a thank you and a hug when they leave works for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Np. I expect, and receive a note 100% of the time. With close friends, it's usually an email. With first timers and people we know less well, they usually write a handwritten note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Okay, I don't have people I don't know very well stay over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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I think you set up these expectations because you enjoy seeing other people fail in your eyes. I like a thank you note as much as the next, but college kids? Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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Did you expect thank you notes when your kids had sleepovers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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Mine would bring a gift and send a note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Why are these important? I'm sure they thanked the host when leaving, a note is overkill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Did they say thank you at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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What else do you need? They said thank you to your face right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Odd? No. Rude? Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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I remember bringing friends home from college and I was sort of embarrassed when they didn't bring my parents a gift or write a note. These are things I was taught to do growing up. Manners have served me well in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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I think it's odd you expected a note. I would never expect a note, so wierd. Who cares about this crap?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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I think at that age, it's not really the norm. I don't remember writing a note to the parents of my my college friends when they would host me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I need help. Have Verizon fios. Want to watch game of thrones. It says it starts at $2.99. We have HBO. Should it be free or do I have to pay for the old seasons? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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It's free. HBO go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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Sign into HBO on Demand with your Verizon log on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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Watch it on HBO Go for free if you subscribe to HBO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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I'm the nanny. I don't have that info. But working overnights all week. Is it ok to ask boss for this?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Yes, as long as you communicate that it's strictly for after the DCs go bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Confess a feeling that you wouldn't tell people in real life: 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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I come to UB to feel a sense of community and belonging. I don't feel like I fit into any group or stereotype that makes sense to most people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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Me too :( [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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I think I may have married my DH for the money. I love him and I found commonalities at the time, but if he weren't as rich as he is, I doubt I would have married him. if I would have had a large trust fund, I would have married my starving artist ex boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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I like you a lot for your honesty. You did the right thing. HOWEVER do not tell anyone this in real life - it can only come back to bite you in the ass! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Thanks. And yes, you're right. I would never tell anyone IRL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Np: you did the right thing. signed married a poor dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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I work hard to justify being a SAHM. I read parenting books, sign the kids up for lots of extracurriculars, and keep a mom blog, but the truth is I think I could be equally as good a mom if I worked. I just don't want to work and don't have to, so I dont. But I feel pressured to agree with all my fellow SAHMs that choosing this path was THE BEST option for the kids when in fact it's just hat I wanted most [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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I'm scared this will be me. If i had a job I truly loved I would have stayed. I feel like I need to find my career again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Does it matter? Kids are happy, that's all that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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I don't enjoy sex. I do it to make my DH happy and so he won't eventually leave me, but every time we have sex I count down the minutes until it's over. It's not painful or anything, I just don't enjoy it at all. I never have with any guy after the novelty of "I'm having sex with this guy!" wears off. I guess I'm asexual, but I am emotionally attracted to my DH and find him sexy, so I doubt I'm a lesbian. But sometimes I wonder.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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I could have written this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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I read up on divorce law and have a rock solid plan in place of my DH ever wants to leave the marriage. Some people on here said this is pessimistic and a bad way to live, but I think it makes me happier in the marriage to know that I have a back up plan of shit hits the fan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Wow! that is smart. You are doing the right thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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I really hate being a parent 80% of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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+1. I feel a huge part of me died when I became a mom and what's left of me is bleh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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I'm wondering if the people I thought were my friends are actually my friends or if they are just people who happen to have parallel lives to mine at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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I feel this often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Really not sure if the whole thing is worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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What whole thing? UB? Parenting? Life? Your job? Your marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Life. Not to be a downer, but dealing with so many stressors on every front -- money, work, divorce, relationships. I'll stop now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Np: soooooo this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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I'm trying to have all my kids as soon as possible in case my DH decides to divorce me. I don't want two baby daddies. I don't plan to get remarried if he leaves, so I want to have the family I want before that happens of it does happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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That sounds smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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ITA. I'm doing the same thing. I wanted a four or five year age gap between my kids so I could have time to focus on them when they are young one at a time, but I'm TTC with number 2 after just 2 years since the first now since idk if DH will be around in 2 more years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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I think my DH would have an affair in a hot minute if I stopped working out every day and putting as much effort into my appearance as I do. Hoping this doesn't happen at least until I'm done having kids with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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What do you do to keep up your appearance? Does your DH ever make comments? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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Yes, he makes comments constantly. If I gain a few pounds he points it out. As for what I do for my appearance, I have a personal trainer for an hour a day, go to group work out classes for an hour a day, hair appointments every 2 weeks, nails every 2 weeks, and I do my make up and hair for about 90 minutes after my work out before he gets home from work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Woah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Jeezus christ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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Is it worth it just to stave off cheating by someone who would cheat on you for getting a little off track? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Sounds terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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I'm a man and I really, really wish I could be a SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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Hey DH -- is it completely binary? Could you work from home some days/enjoy the DCs/do your own entrepreneurial thing while still contributing financially/domestically? Is there some give in your lifestyle? Worth talking to DW about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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I'm a SAHM and I wish I was a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Why not be a SAHD? Or a retired dad with a SAHM wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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What is it about SAHMs that you wish you had that you don't already have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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np: SAHM are understood by society (though mocked by WOHM), SAHD are ridiculed by the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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I married my husband because I was trying to escape my promiscuous, dysfunctional past and I was attracted to his super stable family. Now I'm trapped in sexless marriage. I had an affair with the one man I have loved since I was 13 years old. Turns out he just uses me for an ego boost and sex. I would commit suicide but I'm the child of suicide and I would never inflict that kind of pain on my children. Now I'm just going through the motions of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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I'm sorry OR and I can relate to a lot of what you say :-( Can you find fulfillment in other places? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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OR: Trying to but I think the illusion is up. Nothing in my life has not been a struggle. I have parents who don't love me, siblings who use me, work has proven to be a glass ceiling. I'm tired and just done with picking myself up and pretending that around the corner is something better. It isn't better for some of us. I don't want to use my children as means of fulfillment because that is a huge burden to put on them. You would never know looking at me but I welcome death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Np: try to find help - either therapist or spiritual leader. Sending virtual hugs. Xoxoxoxoxo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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So so sorry for everything you have been through. We can't escape our past, but we can outlive it. Do you find joy in something? Would you consider talking to a good therapist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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So sorry to hear that. I went through a suicidal stage after my former fiancé left me. I had loved him for so long I thought I would never love anyone else. Would you have left your DH and kids for this man you loved since age 13? Maybe his asshole-ness was a blessing in disguise as it allowed you to keep your family intact and have a fresh start and marriage with the guy who actually loves you, your DH. Why not view this as a fresh start? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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My younger sister never took my side when she knew out step dad was abusing me. She wanted to be Mommy's good little teacher's pet type girl. She recently failed out of medical school and got dumped by her boyfriend in the same year. I answer the phone and act sympathetic when she calls, but in reality I don't feel bad for her and don't really care about her anymore. She wasn't there when I needed her most, and ever since then I've just been going trough the motions of being her sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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I go through the motions with my sister as well and it's exhausting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Why even bother going through the motions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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I always knew that nobody would ever want to marry me and I don't know why. On the outside I'm normal and attractive. I'm a single mom because I got pregnant but never married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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I am really frustrated with a friend of mine (and in our large group) who has tried to ice me out. It was over something very minor I did (something you might be annoyed at for a day or 2 and then get over). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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I come here to feel like I have mommies who actually give me advice and guidance in life. I never had that growing up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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I am becoming really paranoid and socially anxious. Think everyone hates me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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Wow. I can relate to so many of these and would probably really like a lot of you, IRL. Why does everyone seem to be mean and catty with an agenda IRL. Wish we could all just wear it on our sleeves a little more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:29 AM Flag
[ - ] My god, what happened to Isaac Mizrahi? He used to be a designer to the stars. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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Not really he never truly made it. He was all hype [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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for a time in the 2000s, he was huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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I think he's more of a personality. I think he sells his brand at low end places or qvc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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he's on qvc right now and he looks bedraggled and grumpy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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He has a show coming out. Scripted show that is supposed to mimick a reality show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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haha, thanks for letting me know. i'm not sure how well that's going to go. he looks bored and tired already just selling his clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Do you remember that one episode of SATC where he made a cameo? It was at Carrie's book party and he had some lame line like "You heard it here first: Books are back! Isaac Mizrahi says books are back". Now picture 30 mins of that, and that's the show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Targay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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It was downhill after he sold his line to target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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He was very good at selling himself. He was never a great designer... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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