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[ - ] What do those of you with nut allergic kids do on Halloween? Is it okay for them to eat Hershey bars, etc. without nuts? Do you let them touch/accept all the candy and then just sort through it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I sort through all the candy after the night is done, I let them eat some candies during the night that are ok, but I usually don't let them keep much of the candy anyway, it ends up being way too many bags. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] DS in 1st grade still hasn't found his "group" of friends in school yet. When I ask who he plays with on the playground, he tells me that he can't find anyone because the school is so big, or he roams from one group of kids to another. Other kids seem to play consistently with the same group over and over. My son seems to befriend one boy, and then is left alone when that boy is in a different class or leaves the school/ out sick, etc. WDYT? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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stop hovering. it's first grade. [ Reply | More ]
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I wish. The teachers are so focused on dissecting every nuance of a child's personality at our school that I can't help but do a little of the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Do boys really have a group? Seems like boys typically just jump in on whatever game is currently going on and it's the girls who stand around chatting in their groups. [ Reply | More ]
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Boy mom (6th/8th grade). This is so true. Especially in the early grades. I think it is so activity/interest based. If he feels like playing soccer, that's the group of kids he'll hang with that day, etc etc. My older son really didn't start having "friend groups" until about 6th grade. Don't worry. if there are certain kids he wants to spend time with, have a playdate. Unless he is unhappy, don't mess with this. He'll be fine! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thank you. This is the kind of advice I wanted to hear-- much appreciated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Maybe your kid is just weird. Someone's gotta be the mom of the weird kid, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Allegedly Finland has the same number of teachers as NYC with half the students. Thoughts? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Irrelevant. NYC has much bigger problems than class size. I am sure reducing class size would make very little difference on the overall performance of NYC schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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That is obviously a superior strategy for schools. Also, does Finland have the private or parochial school culture we have in the US, or do most (even the wealthy) attend public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Their teachers are also more highly qualified not the airheads that go into teaching here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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The smartest women were teachers before women could become doctors or lawyers or anything else they wanted to be. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You gotta pay more than $45,000/year to attract the non-airheads away from their six-figure corporate jobs and into the classroom. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. Pay them like lawyers and only accept the brightest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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That is only entry level salary for working 10 months a year. Also who wants to raise salary of current teachers when they are typically the least intelligent of college grads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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ITA. You get what you pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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They also have a homogenous populace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Bingo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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If US teachers can't teach twice as many kids as in Finland, it is because they are terrible. We can't compare apples to oranges. US teachers just suck because they belong to a union. The teachers who teach at charter schools that aren't unionized are the only teachers that we need to praise. But pretending that class size matters is ridiculous! What idiotic private school would try to have small classes? They all know that large class sizes are fine, and if a teacher needs a small class, that teacher is just no good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Wrong. Teaching only accepts the top 10% of students in Finland. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Yes, but the budget here goes to the armed forces not education. Big difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] DD's classmate's mother contacted me asking for a play date. DD has no interest and says she will not do a play date with this girl. What should I tell the mother? (2nd grade btw). 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Why doesn't your dd want to play with her? At that age I had my dd get to know everyone. If they don't want a second pd that's fine but they have to have one. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: She just simply doesn't like her. My DD is nice to her in school. But she has zero interest in a play date. [ Reply | More ]
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Why the hell do parents get involved in their children's social lives like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Maybe to help their children make friends? Its great that OP's DD has so many friends that she doesn't care to grow her circle. Perhaps the other girl does not have as many friends, so her mom is still trying to help her out with some playdates early in the year. Doesn't seem so bad to me. I would do the same, perhaps. The bigger question is why are other moms so mean about it? They may be 7 years old, but they are just kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Because they are to help. My dd doesn't have friends and is lonely and sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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There is something seriously wrong if by second grade kids can't make their own friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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NP: It sounds to me like there is something seriously wrong with You. My child just started 1st grade, so I can't speak to 2nd grade directly. But at 6yo they are still SOOO young. I can't imagine that by 7yo they magically mature into social masters. Some kids might (perhaps you did our your DC did). But others are still getting a little support from teachers, parents, clubs, playdates, etc. Nothing wrong with that. No reason to pathologize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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My daughter is nice, so I would ask her why she doesn't want to. Unless the kid is abusive, I would suggest to my daughter that the kind thing to do is to play with her. She may like her eventually and the other kid may be sad that she doesn't have any friends. It can't hurt. That would be enough to convince my dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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+1 That's how we roll in our family too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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I would encourage one short-ish playdate. If it doesn't go well, she doesn't have to do another. Even if she doesn't like this girl very much, there's a good chance they will interact well 1 on 1 and come to a better understanding of each other. If it doesn't go well, it's what, an hour of her life? And at least you'll know why. [ Reply | More ]
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Causes cancer. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is DeBlasio out to destroy G&T? NEST has lost 56 minutes of instruction time a day. Math is now including common core rather than staying with Singapore Math. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Was it the principal's or PTAs call or did it come from DOE? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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The new teachers' contract for the shorter hours. DOE for common core [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I am very thankful to the DOE for common core. The common core is why TERC and EDM can no longer be used. Singapore aligns beautifully with CC. If NEST administration is stupid enough to do away with Singapore that is what you should look at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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If you don't like Common Core, blame Andrew Cuomo. Hey, there's an election -- you can vote for his opponent, who has campaigned against the common core standards. That would be far more worthwhile then pretending that de Blasio destroyed g&t. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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each mayor has done his part in destroying g&t for years now, dB is no different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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No, it's Cuomo who is pushing common core. You can vote against him in 2 weeks, luckily. ITTA with you that Cuomo's obsession with common core has ruined public education with his focus on testing, testing and forcing schools like NEST to change their curriculum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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DB does have an agenda against specialized schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Singapore Math aligns with Common Core. I hate DeBlasio but I think this decision is to be blamed on NEST. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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It does not, its just a really wordy way to compute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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My dc is at another G&T. Common core standards are a huge improvement. Most people who criticize common core do not get what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I don't get why its better to teach kids multiple, long convoluted ways of "proving" that 53-8=45, rather than just simple algorithms/ borrowing like we all did. [ Reply | More ]
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The common core standards mandate that the kids learn the standard algorithms. Before it, my kids (using TERC) were not taught the algorithms. I am so glad the CC forced the school to start teaching those again. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Thank you! At least I am not along in understanding this. Thank God! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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You sound like someone who has not actually reviewed the standards and may not understand the difference between curriculum and standards. Do a little reading. It is quite interesting and eye opening. Many schools have chosen some poorly written new curricula which is partly why you see the pushback that you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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That has NOTHING TO DO WITH CC. THAT IS WHY POSTS LIKE YOUR ARE SO FRUSTRATING. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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stop screaming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Stop spreading nonsense that will bring the best thing that happened to NYC educational system to an end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Yours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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yes yours [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I agree, drawing 36 circles is not better than simple computation. Its the tail wagging the dog [ Reply | More ]
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And that is what is great about CC. It is exactly what you want. It expects kids to know the algorithms. The damn circles has nothing to do with CC. [ Reply | More ]
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Its a Visual representation - it is CC because the stupid workbook says it is [ Reply | More ]
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Blame the publisher of the workbook. The publisher your school chose claims to align with CC. CC is not a curriculum it is a set of standards and they are much more rigorous than what was there before. [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. I am disappointed that Cuomo is backing away from it. It has been such a huge improvement over what was there before. [ Reply | More ]
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He should stay away for G&T. He has no clue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Common core does not exclude Singapore Math, OP. Know what you're talking about before you spread false information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Its 50% of Math at NEST, it used to be 100% Singapore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Thank NEST administration. Has nothing to do with anything else. If they are using CC as an excuse to not do Singapore math that is just a lie they are using for an uneducated parents like you to spew this nonsense on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Not because of Common Core requirements. That is a NEST issue not a common core issue. [ Reply | More ]
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Teachers' contracts did not shorten hours, NEST decided that (I'm actually not a big fan of unions but I also want to be truthful) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Happy Diwali! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Diwali Mubarak!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Happy Diwali! Dh gave me a new sabyasachi sari SIL is going to be so jealous I can't wait. [ Reply | More ]
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Going to MIL's tonight and my SIL is going to be jealous of my sari and that is going to be the highlight of my week. [ Reply | More ]
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you and your SIL sound sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Annoyed by the constant pushing by our school of Scholastic books. Was there a time when they had good books? It seems that most of their books are promotional materials for TV shows, game characters, toymakers and Disney barely disguised as educational. How did Scholastic get to be such a crappy company? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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IDK. To me a "good" book is a book that my kid is excited to read. It doesn't all have to be Newbery winners. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. We have bought some great books through Scholastic and I love the scholastic Soho store. [ Reply | More ]
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NP, that may be true, but it has gone way downhill. [ Reply | More ]
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Scholastic has Newbery winners too. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree, with my first kid we bought them occasionally because it seemed like kind of a fun little ritual. But I long ago stopped doing it. I recognize the school makes a bit of money with the orders, and even more with the book fair, but honestly I contribute to the school in multiple ways and this one just doesn't feel worthwhile. [ Reply | More ]
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Eva Moskowitz, is that you? I know you don't like Scholastic for some reason. Look, I also hate the toys and games, but there are many, many books to buy from there, and some are at reduced price. And many of those books are good classic children's literature. Why focus only on the trashy things when they also have other things? [ Reply | More ]
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Not Eva, I don't like it when schools push stuff indiscriminately on kids. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: LOL - no I am not EM, and I don't "hate" Scholastic. I just think think that they have lost sight of their purpose. I think it is a not-for-profit supposed to benefit children and reading, but now it mostly seems like a mill for substandard books. Sure - they have good books - about 10% of their books are ok, but the rest mostly seems like indirect advertising and branding of Disney, Lego, Angry Birds, Ninja Turtles. I am sure they get it cheap so they make a nice product, because for those manufacturers it is nothing but advertising materials. We live not too far from Bank Street Bookstore on UWS which has an amazing selection of children's books, and it just makes me sad to see how good a selection they could present, if the real purposed was to give the children good reading materials. [ Reply | More ]
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^ "nice profit" not "nice product" [ Reply | More ]
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They are pushing the books so much more than before. You wonder if there is some kickback action going on at the DOE. We always had the scholastic book sales and then were sent an order form home twice per year. now, they do it monthly and are aggressive about getting students to order. Also, did your school buy into that Stables Schoolkidz overpriced supply scheme? I really wonder if there is money chaning hand that we are not aware of. This is something the City Council should focus on, or maybe Scott Stringer. They should look for transparency and accountability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Slightly depressed and I want to buy a new coat, bag, and shoes that are basically as unremarkable as possible (live on UWS). Like a tan trench, one of those ubiquitous navy nylon tote bags with the leather handles, and some brown boots. Can you tell me what brand of each to get? I usually buy clashing patterns thrift store stuff but I think I'm getting too old for it. (36, UB fat but medically within healthy range, if barely) 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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good god woman, work on your self-esteem! UB fat? [ Reply | More ]
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Budget? I would probably go to Banana Republic or J. Crew if mid-range. I need to update these staples, too, so I will be watching this... [ Reply | More ]
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Budget: $100-200 for coat, $100 for bag, $150 for shoes. I'm housepoor but just sold some equities. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok you need a reality check, $450 budget for clothing is not poor stop trolling!!! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: oh believe me, I'm not even remotely poor, just UB poor. [ Reply | More ]
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Uniqlo IDLF collection for broke conformists. $100 for coat, $20 for bag. Spend the rest of the balance on the boots. Hope you feel better soon. [ Reply | More ]
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Calvin Klein [ Reply | More ]
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You are not seriously calling yourself fat because some eating-disordered crazies think you're fat? I'm sure you look great. Don't let anonymous losers rule how you feel about yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: ha, just trying to forestall the crazies. I am strong with great posture and people are usually shocked to learn I wear size 10. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are thinking of a longchamp tote [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, that's the one! ... Whoa. How on earth do they cost so much? For nylon?! [ Reply | More ]
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They last forever but at this point you're just buying the brand [ Reply | More ]
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Ah, good call. The used ones on eBay are <$100 and look like new. [ Reply | More ]
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And the leather bags... HOW CAN A BAG COST AS MUCH AS A LAPTOP? How do my neighbors afford their rent?! [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVE IT!! But it's exactly my style. My closets are full of this kind of thing and I flinch when I'm out on the street, I feel so visible and vulnerable. I know i need to up my dosage but help me find something nondescript to wear while the meds kick in! [ Reply | More ]
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I saw the most beautiful brown Frye boots at TJ Maxx yesterday. They were knee high, slight heel, a little slouchy and suede. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Wow! TJ Maxx around 6th ave/18th? How much were they? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope, the one on 8th/57th. They were just under $200. I was mad they didn't have my size. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] for nyc private schools, what is least desirable birth-month? Can't figure out how DS with Sept birthday will be affected. Is it August that is a tougher month to get in from? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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May or June for a ds. [ Reply | More ]
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Why May/June? Those are pretty far from September 1 cut-off, right? [ Reply | More ]
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Boys do better being the oldest in class. [ Reply | More ]
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July and August often wait a year and are the oldest. May/June run the risk of being too old if they wait a year and may be too young to start K. [ Reply | More ]
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Any month from summer onward is tough for the year DC is turning 5. September for the year DC turns 6 is great. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for this, can you explain further? I'm sorry if this is a basic question, I just don't seem to get it. Do September kids often get held back a year in preschool then? [ Reply | More ]
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np: Yes, that's the cutoff. After Sept 1 kids apply the next year. [ Reply | More ]
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The official cut off for privates is September 1, although for many in reality it is earlier. Your DS will be eligible for public the year he turns 5 but not for private until the year he turns 6. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not "held back." The cutoff is September 1st, so any kid born after that doesn't have a choice; he has to wait until the next year. You must be 5 by September 1 in most private schools. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't get held back at all. Fall birthdays usually end up doing 3 years of preschool whereas others may do just 2 years. [ Reply | More ]
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May-August, with May and June being the worst. [ Reply | More ]
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np: why are May/June the worst? Earlier than July/August? Different if you have a DS or DD? [ Reply | More ]
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Because the schools often force redshirting for July and August kids, so they May and June kids end up being the youngest in the class. [ Reply | More ]
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How do they do that? Suggest applying the following year? Not really accepting July/August even though they say they can apply? Can a good preschool help if you have a July/August bday? [ Reply | More ]
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Worse for a DS for sure. May and June are worse at schools that redshirt because they will almost automatically tell you to wait a year, then you are in good shape the next year. For May and June, he might be too young and then too old, although never officially. [ Reply | More ]
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UGH.... does that tend to be more from SS schools? Any schools that are known for this? [ Reply | More ]
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These are generalities and reputations: Hill schools tend not to redshirt but also tend not to take as many summer birthdays. So if your dc gets in there will be less of an age range. The SS boys redshirt the most, with the boys at Buckley being the oldest on average. SS girls redshirt to a lesser extent but will hold your dd back to repeat K if she proves to be less mature if they do take her. The young summer girls tend to be siblings. I'm BTDT with two of these types of schools and that's what I've noticed and heard over the years. Again, there are always exceptions just as there are classes that average young and other classes that average older. [ Reply | More ]
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September birthday? The holy grail! You have to be 5 by September 1st and your son will be 6 shortly thereafter. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] PSA: even if you don't like the show (which I love) the Spotify station for Ray Donovan is awesome. Perfect for this rainy day... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Thanks - will have to check it out. I love Ray Donovan. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: this season has been so good. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: We just finished season one. We have to get started on season 2 soon! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes you do!!! [ Reply | More ]
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who? [ Reply | More ]
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Showtime show. Liev Schreiber. It's excellent. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How old are you and do you live in NYC? If not, where do you live? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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34, Austin (formerly NYC) [ Reply | More ]
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32, St. Louis (formerly NYC) [ Reply | More ]
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My sympathies. From STL now in NYC. 28. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine too. WashU grad. [ Reply | More ]
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Ha, no worries. I absolutely love it. [ Reply | More ]
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41. NYC [ Reply | More ]
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39. NYC [ Reply | More ]
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42 UES [ Reply | More ]
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45. Yes and no. Have homes in NYC, LA, London, and Sewickley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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La di da [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzz and you waste your time on this board, great life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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I have the freedom to spend my time doing whatever I want. Actually, it is quite great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Not quite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 this is exactly what I would be doing if I were lucky enough to be you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Posting on UB? LOL! This is the Last place I'd be. I only come here when I am in a waiting room or airport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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She asked where you live, not how many homes your own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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OR. I live in all four places. They're HOMES, you see. That's what you do in homes: you live in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Which is your PRIMARY residence. You can't have 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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OR. None of them are "primary"; we split our time amongst all four pretty evenly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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That's bullshit. You pay taxes somewhere. You are registered to vote somewhere. You have a drivers license somewhere. FAKE (and pretty damned stupid, too). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Np. Some people live in more than one place. Is this really so bizarre to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Do you have school aged kids? How does the split work for the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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32. NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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48, Westchester [ Reply | More ]
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33 in a few days, Montclair [ Reply | More ]
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42, NYC [ Reply | More ]
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31, NYC [ Reply | More ]
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37, Los Angeles area. [ Reply | More ]
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50, apts in NYC and Boston and home in NH. [ Reply | More ]
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44. Not in NYC anymore; have been living in the Boston area for the past 9 years. [ Reply | More ]
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37, Long Island [ Reply | More ]
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50, NYC [ Reply | More ]
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43, nyc. [ Reply | More ]
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37. Del Mar, CA. [ Reply | More ]
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32 Jersey City [ Reply | More ]
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31, Chicago. [ Reply | More ]
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32 Indianapolis, yay! Flyover here... [ Reply | More ]
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47 Ohio, me too [ Reply | More ]
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34, San Diego [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] There is a troll on right now. Ugh. Why can't they get rid of her. Nasty woman. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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if there's just one we're in good shape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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I think it's a guy troll one of those gamer jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Ha if only they realized how many of us on UB are gamers too (or should I just speak for myself). Surely I can't be the only one on UB with a Steam account ...? [ Reply | More ]
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Right now?? I don't see anything but spam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me I'm insane - saw on FB earlier this week that my HS boyfriend just had a baby. We've each been married for years, I have 2 DCs, but this news made me so upset for some reason. Now I'm caught up listening to indie music from the 90s and wondering what could have been. Make it stop!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I've had that happen too. I remember finding out that my HS boyfriend honeymooned in the exact place he and I often talked about visiting while we were together in HS and college. Even though I myself was married and had vacationed in so many cool places with my DH, this was such a weird knife in the heart to me. Indulge the feelings for a little while, then move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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OK good to know I'm not alone in my crazy. Thanks for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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The fantasy is always better than the reality. But there is sweet sorrow in mourning the never-to-be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Aww, perfect description. And I know his wife - they are PERFECT for each other, so I'm happy for them obv, but man it stings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Well written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Ha! Btdt. FB is so weird, we know info about people we really shouldn't know and it's tough to process those emotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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It's okay to get melancholy and to think of what may have been. It's good to still feel sentimental about an old flame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Same thing happened to me! I was not upset, but I did wonder what could have been, even though I am happily married and have changed so much since high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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FB sadness! We all get it (or leave FB) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Btdt, high school bf was married already divorced and moved in with his parents, trust me I don't even dare to wonder what could have been, It would be scary. :-) [ Reply | More ]
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i just saw on FB that my hs boyfriend built a deck for his wife! i had such an intense moment of jealousy for his wife. who i've never met. who lives in CA. then i dreamed about him that night. it totally happens. and i'm very happy in my life, too! (my apartment life that includes no handmade deck. maybe i was jealous of the deck.) [ Reply | More ]
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op - now I have deck envy too! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] 11yo DS told me that his friend sometimes ditches the afterschool tutoring his mother told him to attend to buy candy at the local mart and play basketball for an hour until tutoring is over. I am friends with this mother and torn as to whether I should tell her. My DS doesn't share much about his life with his friends and I want him to feel he can tell me anything. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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MYOB. Preserve the trust between you and DS. [ Reply | More ]
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so totally agree here. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. The boy will have to face the music when he's failing. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there some way you could casually walk by the basketball court and say, hey, Jack, aren't you supposed to be at tutoring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
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If I were the mom I would want to know. [ Reply | More ]
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and that's more important than your child's trust, they don't forget these things if it gets out. also consider the reprecusions to the relationship between these boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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That's why I'm suggesting she do it in a way that would not indicate her ds told her anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Kids are not stupid. [ Reply | More ]
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The mom already knows her son is a slacker. Her finding out and "monitoring" him will only make him more sneaky in other ways. The little guy is an underachiever with poor character. Check back in 30 years and he'll be the same. [ Reply | More ]
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So you just give up? [ Reply | More ]
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No, you keep punishing the kid and giving him lectures until you're blue in the face. Then pay over $100K for his college education and then let him move back in with you. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, this is not a super-serious issue where Jack risks getting hurt or getting in trouble with the law. She is not Jack's mom, so she should stay out of this nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see the harm. If I just happened to walk by the basketball court and knew the kid was playing hooky I would say something. If I knew the family well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Say to the mom, "I saw Jack at the playground today." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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But that violates her dc's trust. [ Reply | More ]
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^Oh, wait, I misunderstood. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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I would tell the mother and tell her not to reveal how she found out. [ Reply | More ]
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right [ Reply | More ]
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won't the tutoring tell her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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No. It is offered by the school and the kids can just show up for the hour without scheduling in advance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Then it's kind of up to the mom to ask her dc what he did that day, can I see your work, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Oh geez. Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Who the hell cares? The candy and basketball is probably doing him better than the lame-assed tutoring would anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Signed, non-Ivy Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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If he's Ivy League material, he wouldn't need a tutor in the first place. Ugh this place is infested with strivers. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Not true. You can always do more to get ahead. What do you have against people working hard to better themselves? Are you anti-intellectual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Are you crazy? This boy is your son's competition in school. Do you WANT your friend's son to do better in school than your own son? Let the other kid screw up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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well, I think the mom should mhob but this interpretation of it is really mean. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not mean at all. It's being competitive and watching the competition self-sabotage. They didn't do anything, the boy is a slacker and won't be an achiever. [ Reply | More ]
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That's what I'm thinking too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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You're both amazing. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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We're not amazing at all. The boy is just spectacularly unamazing. [ Reply | More ]
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This is so minor - it's not your problem, and you shouldn't give it a second thought. If he was ditching to do drugs, that's another story. Buying candy and playing basketball is almost quaint. [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
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I'd be more concerned that my son is friends with such a slacker loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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he's just being a kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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An underachieving kid. Do you know how driven and conscientious some kids are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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oy [ Reply | More ]
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This is your chance to be your son's confidante! He's going to have so much more shit to share (or keep from you) in the next decade. You don't want to miss that by ratting out his friend today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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Did you ever think that maybe he wants his mom to rat out the other kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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never [ Reply | More ]
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^unless he wants to start something with this kid, it's non of his business either.^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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I wouldn't for that. My own policy is to not snitch unless it's something very important (like drug use, sending naked photos, etc) or they are putting themselves in danger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Exactly this. Don't say anything. The more important question is why the tutor isn't reporting this to the mother. That is odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Keep trust with your kid and don't get him labeled a snitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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This happened a few years ago with some kids in dc's class. Eventually they were found out. They didn't turn out to be slacker/losers in the long run. Who you are at 11 isn't always who you are at 16. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone tell me about the Weekday School? Is it hard to get into or more of a neighborhood school? I know it is play-based, but do they also teach some fundamentals? TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lovely school, a little off the radar, not so hard to get into because of where it is, good mix of kids - some go local publics, some top privates, and everything in between. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds nice. Is there a mix of some teaching of fundamentals (letters, sounds, a little math) or all play? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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