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[ - ] Do you and DH feel comfortable using ethnic slurs around each other? For example, DH regularly refers to Asia as "Chinkistan." I don't care, but if someone overheard it might be a problem. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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No, absolutey not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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I never say this, but...NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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good rule of thumb: imagine how you'll feel if the school calls you in because DC is repeating these things at school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Your dh is a tool. I would stop associating with you if I overheard this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff DH asking for divorce post: Do you know where all the bank accounts, investments, etc., are for you and for DH? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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Divorced mom, cpa, yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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^^^on top of that, I understood exactly how his deferred comp worked, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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^^^and teeheehee, his new little honey did not understand what he gave to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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I do, because DH is terrible with money and I have to make all the decisions about it. I would bet, though, that my mom never knew where everything was (parents are married so moot point I guess). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I am sooo tired of dealing with dh's negativity. It's just one of those days. I've been dealing with it for our whole relationship, but sometimes I just want to throw the towel in. It's sooo draining. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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If he's always been this way why did you marryhim? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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Because it wasn't never that pronounced when he was working as a fry chef at the burger place (we met in college) and because he has a lot of strong points (he's an incredibly honest, ethical, just a great person, really)…it's just that now that he's more senior at work there is always someone who is causing him great stress…in different ways…but it's constant. Every night, every day, he's raging about his person or that. It's just incredibly draining, as I said, for me…and just to stop the trolls, he makes a decent amount but he's in a service industry so getting it from both ends…customers and higher-ups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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^^^sorry…wasn't ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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and I work full-time too…and by decent amount, I mean WAY less than finance people but we don't require much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Mom with kids, can you try this Chinese baby gender predictor and let me know if it is correct for your kids? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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It's accurate for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Correct [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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Incorrect for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Right for one kid, wrong for the other. So... 50/50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Correct for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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1st prediction right, 2nd and 3rd wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Wrong for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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Correct. Boy, then girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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well, it's 50/50, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Op: trying to see if it is really 50:50. It is correct for me. Thinking of TTC for 2nd... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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both times, it has been correct for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] If I feel relief that I'm not raising a child, that's probably a sign that I'm not meant to be a parent, right? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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I felt that at 25. At 35 I was beyond thrilled to be a parent. It's not about being a parent in a vacuum though. It's about your kids whom you will probably love more than anything once you have them, even if you're not a kid person now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Yeah, I gotta go. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
[ - ] So sad. DH has asked for a divorce. I want to vomiting at the thought of telling DCs. DH is a very involved Dad. This is awful. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:44 PM Flag
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Sorry. What is his reasoning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:46 PM Flag
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Not in love, marriage is constraining [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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How long have you been married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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15 yrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Wow. Sorry. This sucks. He can definitely still stay involved with the dc's lives if you work together. TBH I would gently prepare yourself that he's either seeing someone else or is going to start seeing other people immediately. Men with kids who have been married this long in a non-awful situation where you're not fighting all the time don't usually leave unless there is another woman nearby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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He swears there is no one else. He constantly is home and leaves his phone unlocked, email open, etc. My guess is he wishes there was some other woman but he hasn't acted on it. I have no idea how I would prevent him from acting on it anyways. I am at a loss. Right now anything I do or say is seen by him as negative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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how is your personal financial situation? Do you have a job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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I have a fairly successful career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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OK well, I am glad to hear that. Whatever you do, don't leave the family home. Let him be the one to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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Yes, this. He wants out, he can go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Very sorry--were you surprised? He can remain an involved dad if you both decide to be civilized about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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this. it's hard to see now but this is true. OP I am so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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I was shocked and still am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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Ugh, sorry. You need an attorney and probably also a counselor to help you through this--when your head clears and your lawyer gets your ducks in a row, focus on how you can both continue to parent when you're no longer married. I have two friends who went through mediation for this and they have the most decent divorces I've ever seen. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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Save him from himself? Say not an option? Do you love him? So sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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I love him very much. He refuses to even try to work on the marriage. Says he is done and nothing I can do or say will change his mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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there is someone else. No man leaves for no reason without trying to work on it. Do you fight? DO you have alone time/ dates? Tell him you insist he give it 1 month to work on and stop seeing the other woman for the sake of your children and the 15 years you invested together. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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In the meantime, see a lawyer privately to see how you can protect yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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He swears there is no one else and refuses to have any alone time with me that does not involve discussing the logistics of divorce. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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That makes no sense if he's not involved with someone else--I would get that lawyer and start trying to figure out what's really going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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did you have alone time/dates with him before this announcement? Were you doing things as a couple? What was your life together like before this? I am trying to understand why so sudden. They ALWAYS insist there is nobody else. You will discuss the divorce but he needs to meet with you to discuss your life together/family. What changed? What made him fall in love with you originally. You need to revisit this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:05 PM Flag
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He says he never really loved me but got married because he thought it was time. All my friends confirm that this is BS that he actively pursued means was smitten. We have not done couple things for about the past 2-3 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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not for 2-3 years? THat is terrible. Why not? DId you fight? Did you communicate? What were his hours? Business trips? Marriages need to be nourished. They always say they never really loved you when there is someone else. How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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Don't want this attached to my original question! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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DCs are 10 and 12. Past 2 yrs has involved large work commitment and trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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NP - Just want to say how sorry I am, know how painful this is, BTDT. You will come out on the other side a happier person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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np ouch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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That's odd. I don't usually promote this kind of behavior but in this case I'd dig. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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open marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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The irony is we have a great sex life up until his announcement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Midlife crisis. Tell him to go away for a week and think. But no sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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I have tried. I even took the kids away for 10 days and left him to think. He is fixated on leaving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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There's someone else. Sorry. This is crappy but you will make it through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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Very sorry. Make copies of 2 years back tax returns, brokerage and bank statements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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Thx. Unfortunately everything seems to be online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:08 PM Flag
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Well the lack of pwds and unlocked phone will make things easier. Faker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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I wish it was fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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Do NOT leave the house. HE has someone else. YOu can write to the IRS to get copies of back returns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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These I can get through our accountant. The statements (his) are more difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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The tax returns should give a clue as to where he banks and brokers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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The interest and dividend schedules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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didn't you post before about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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+1. This feels familiar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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+1. Nothing wrong with re-posting, but it sounds like the exact situation that was posted recently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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sadly, I don't think this is that unusual [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Yikes. Get in there and get as much financial info as you can before you act. Agreed with others about someone else- could have different cell phone, email, etc just for that. There are some good parenting coordinators out there, and mediators too. You can mediate the child portion and do lawyers for financial, that's what I did. I would be sure to get right of first refusal so he can't leave kids with new girlfriend during his custody time- even though he says there isn't one. And absolutely do not leave the home until custody ironed out. Does he want 50/50? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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Also you can request the bank records formally (discovery) during divorce process. Hope it doesn't come to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Sorry, working a job goes against my deeply held beliefs 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Laziness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:45 PM Flag
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what beliefs are those? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:45 PM Flag
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I believe the world owes me more than I have gotten. i strongly believe this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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Hey, are you DH's ex?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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Or my ex's DW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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Unless you were a slave or a sex slave, nobody owes you anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Are you my ex-SIL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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Are you my SIL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey. So I found an iTouch I bought for myself a while ago when I was feeling bad about my DH taking his office girlfriend to Paris. I apparently purchased a cute little thing that is barely larger than a credit card but which still has 60GB of storage. It's not synced to any of my music since all my "old mom music" is through older windows software. And I don't know if I care to fill this up with music. I have it elsewhere. What would you fill this digital space up with? Audiobooks? Any apps to recommend? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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nice troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Actually I'm surprised. I typed this out then jumped in the shower and thought I'd have some responses. I tried spotify and pandora, which I've never used before, but I guess the operating system of my itouch is not up to date. I downloaded audible which works but I don't know what to buy. I don't play games much. There's no UB app. I don't know what to tell you, I can't think why this would be called fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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BTW I'm pretty sure someone can vouch for me here. I'm Paris mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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Oh, also, if you don't remember me, I'm divorced now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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How is this trollish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll Bella Brooke 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:32 PM Flag
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Trying to hard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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^^too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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Well what middle names with either Bella or Brooke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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sounds like an italian restaurant by the water. Or a ballet flat store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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Sounds like River Rose [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like a pageant child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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+[ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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I don't like either name and when you put them together it's even worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:46 PM Flag
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What about Taryn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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haha. this has to be a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:08 PM Flag
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Porn star name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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I like Brooke...maybe pair with something classic (Elizabeth, Katherine etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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This. Brooke Elizabeth could work. Or Bella Katherine. I think each name would sound nicer matched with something very classic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Based on its location, congenial climate, ample natural resources, and proximity to the world's largest economy, Mexico should be a lot wealthier than it is. It's not a poor nation by global standards, but at around $12,000/year per capita (nominal) GDP, it's definitely an underperformer. Why is this? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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Not helping you with your homework [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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read a book called capitalism and slavery to understand why the US is so rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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That wouldn't explain it. The "exploitation" model doesn't hold up well, because some of the most prosperous areas of the US in the 1800's were northern zones like Minnesota which did not have slavery. Production/prosperity was largely "endogenous." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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the world is unjust [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:44 PM Flag
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Lower IQ, on average, of Hispanics. Its and unfair playing field. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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^It's AN. Good heavens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Honestly? For too long the leaders were only interested in their own wealth. Corruption, drug cartels, corruption, etc. It's not a poor nation because the wealth depends on drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would the government/military do if they knew an airplane was hijacked? Shoot it down? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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That's the protocol in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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How do they shoot down a plane without endangering lives on the ground? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Bitter mom here, questions? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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Have you thought about meditation/yoga? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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I was the yoga fiend, 6 times a week, now with two young children, zero [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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you need to relax your mind a bit. i know its hard with young children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Nice to meet you. I doubt youre as bitter as me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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No, I beg to differ. I am beyond bitter, I am green with envy at your typically developing children, your normal worries about your normal children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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NP: Oh, sad. How many DC do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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2. This will sound so selfish, but I didn't have kids to deal with this s#÷t. I'm a full-time caregiver, not a mother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Can you get more support? Do you have a DH? [ Reply | More ]
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Kids are a crapshoot. Few of us, if any, think about it going in. I wish you peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:55 PM Flag
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What are the issues you are dealing with? Is it just having young kids? They do grow... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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I feel the same way all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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Hugs to you. I feel so alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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What's your biggest disappointment/regret? What current thing triggers your bitterness most? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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Please see above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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It's very obvious. On the internet all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:38 PM Flag
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posting multiple times a day on UB. Pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Lol, and that makes you.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Bitter lady on ub? How rare.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling shocked. DS had a new friend over today, the two were playing video games in our family room. I was casually doing some things in the kitchen when suddenly I heard a loud 'OH SH!T!' from the friend. I asked him if he wouldn't mind coming into the other room with me and told him that in our house we don't speak like that. The other mom had the nerve to call me later and say her DS is very upset and won't be coming over again. Ridiculous right? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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Yes, what an odd reaction [ Reply | More ]
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THIS! Not shocking that the kid said a bad word but shocking that the mom called you later with that cray cray reaction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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did she say it was over that? [ Reply | More ]
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Both reactions are weird - yours and hers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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This. They are 14!!! Mostly yours but weirdness begets weirdness... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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How old? My 8 yo and his friends think cursing is hysterical. Not much I can do when they think I can't hear, nothing I do can stop it. They know when they can't use it (school, in front of me) but it doesn't stop them from cursing when they can. Impossible to avoid, the words are in the songs they like, people on the street use them, parents slip up. Not something I chose to make a huge deal out of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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DS is 14, assume the friend is 13-14 as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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You are way uptight. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG you need to get over it. Just tell him no cursing. You probably treated this like the crime of the century. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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i just told him that different homes have different standards and while he may be able to use this language in his own home, here it's not okay. what's wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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You should never imply that his parents are doing something wrong. Tbh I can see why he thinks you're a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And pulling him alone into the other room like that was very bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+1,000 [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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That implies that he is allowed to curse at home and you have no idea if that's true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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Omg you are so weird and awkward. Your poor ds must be mortified. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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It's perfect. Ignore anything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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^though in truth, I would have stuck my head in, given the stink eye, and said "Dude, no cursing." Only if I got backchat would I take it further. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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There's no way I would have called out a teenage boy for cussing. You've got a long 4 years ahead of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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This. No ones ever going to want to come over :( [ Reply | More ]
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+++ [ Reply | More ]
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This. He's 14 not 4! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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Wow, I'm assuming your DS is going to quickly lose friends. I wouldn't come over again if I were he either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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DS is 14, assume the friend is 13-14 as well. [ Reply | More ]
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DS is 14, assume the friend is 13-14 as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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I probably would have just called out 'Hey, Brandon, language!" in a way that way that was light-hearted but chiding and still got the point across. Taking him into the other room... I see where you were coming from, but it probably made the whole situation more serious and embarrassing than it needed to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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this. i would be livid if someone decided to talk down to my 14 year old like that. very bad manners on your part. either a lighthearted "language!" or mention it to the parents but implying he came from a home with no manners was very poor on your part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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ITA. When teen DC's friends do that, I just say 'John, not here'. They get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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It's your house, OP, and if a 14 year old can't handle hearing a pretty tame correction, then that child is in for a harsh life. If my DS spoke like that at another family's house - and I don't care how much he curses at home or how much we do - I would be happy that the other mother said something and even embarrassed my DS. These others responders are raising bratty, entitled children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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Cursing is not "entitled". This word is so overused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Entitled meaning that he can't handle consequences of his behavior and thinks he is exempt from any conflict. Maybe disrespectful is a better word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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Disrespectful is probably better. I still think this isn't THAT big a deal, but yes, not respectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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He didn't curse at the mom, he just did it too loud and she overheard. A 14 year old that says shit is not entitled, that is normal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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This is not realistic. You must not have a teenager. No need to embarrass him. I agree with the posters above - "please don't swear!" is enough. The kid was playing a game, it obviously was an excited utterance. It wasn't like he swore at you, OP. I think your reaction was over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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This is a situation where you call out "Language!!" in a mom voice. You don't lecture the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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Bullshit. It's her home. Yes, I'd handle it differently, but "kids" don't get to choose whether they are "lectured" when they are guests in someone's home and behave like ruffians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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I would be embarrassed if my kid swore in the presence of friend's mother. She sounds like she's raising a very tacky snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] When my brother and I were kids, on NYE every year they would let us have a *tiny* bit of champagne mixed with Orange juice. Like 95% OJ and 5% champagne. And just one. Is that totally insane? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Not in Italy were I grew up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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^^ our parents, I mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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No, my parents let me do that to and I turned out just fine (like to drink a little wine but hate getting drunk) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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No - we had champagne - no juice.. and the older women would always mix us wine with 7-up on Sundays.. after 15 - you could have regular wine. We didn't drink much - never drank much actually - it wasn't a big deal because it wasn't against the rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Just curious, is your family American? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Nbd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Nope. Very common (except most probably don't even mix with OJ). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:35 PM Flag
[ - ] How old were you when you first put touched your BFs penis? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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15 or 16 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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+1 but only over clothes and we never had sex. We were good Christians lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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I honestly think the most turned on I have ever been is heavy foreplay but resisting sex until I was older, we would paw each other for hrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Lol same. My HS bf and I would make out like crazy after school in empty stairwells. There's no way I could make out for an hr + as an adult. Ah puppy love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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yes, me too! often wished i could go back to that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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Same, held out going all the way until 18 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Don't believe it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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why? i grew up in conservative country. I lost my virginity at 23 to my BF who turned my DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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np: I can believe this, especially if she's not American. I have friends from Asian countries and while we've never discussed it I can totally believe they were virgins when they got married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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17 or close to it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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