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[ - ] Excited about dim sum tmrw. It's been YEARS. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:19 AM Flag
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You need to live a little [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Okd or nokd: private school upbringing. Attended elite, well-known high school. Went to an Ivy for college. Majored in art history. Earned a master's degree at a private university in New England, also in art history. Smart. Type A. Slightly overweight. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Definitely OKD. Of course the middle classes from Staten Island and Long Island look at you with absolute contempt for having lots of money and no acheivement. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm reading this from SI, and just like to chime in. No contempt! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:17 AM Flag
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NOKD: overweight, poor [ Reply | More ]
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you are nokd [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just found out a close friend is a closet alcoholic but she is so thin. How is that possible with all of the extra calories from drinking? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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She doesn't eat [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously? You find out your friend is an alcoholic and this is the first thing that comes to mind? [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:17 AM Flag
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Either genetic, she throws up a lot, or she doesn't eat much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:09 AM Flag
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Most of my heavily drinking (well, compared to non-drinking self) friends are thinner than I am. [ Reply | More ]
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Drinker here. When you drink you loose your appetite. Not completely but enough that you won't want anything sweet after dinner. I am a moderate drinker - several glasses of wine per week and thin. If I don't drink wine I crave chocolate and cookies. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 5'7.5 how much should I weigh? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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125lbs [ Reply | More ]
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I am 5'0". How much should I weigh? [ Reply | More ]
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100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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Get your own post fatty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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How about 125.6? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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Nah 125.25 max [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! I will put down the grape now! [ Reply | More ]
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You may eat one half, darling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:53 AM Flag
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125 - 140 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:58 AM Flag
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This is my height and I weigh 145 at the moment. I gained 10 pounds this winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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135 is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:51 AM Flag
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Yes. 135 is great [ Reply | More ]
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OR> The question stands how do I get back there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:15 AM Flag
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125-150 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Describe yourself and lifestyle and well determine if your OKD or NOKD 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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hell to the no [ Reply | More ]
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Jessica?! [ Reply | More ]
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as if [ Reply | More ]
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THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS! [ Reply | More ]
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I don't care what you think of me. [ Reply | More ]
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boring..... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm 5'3". How much should i weigh ( really) 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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110 not kidding. that's what i wish i weighed. might need to be 105 b/c older and less dense. [ Reply | More ]
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105 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Ridiculous. That's right on the border of being clinically underweight. You women are insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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Yeeesh. Low bone density? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:57 AM Flag
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115 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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115-140 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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no! [ Reply | More ]
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of course. depends on her build. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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just no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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ok anorexic mom [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! This is the exact range of normal bmi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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5'5 160 [ Reply | More ]
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115 [ Reply | More ]
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115 [ Reply | More ]
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Anything up to about 125. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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i'm 5'3" and 115 tops. and i'm already about 2 pounds over. it's horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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OMG, get a problem. Has nothing of substance ever happened to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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luckily, this is weighing on my mind heavily these last few weeks, though i do have a slight health worry or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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125 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 AM Flag
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I've always heard you should weigh 100 lbs for the first 5 feet, 5 lbs for each inch after that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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Not necessarily accurate. People have different levels of muscle mass. My dd is 140 and 5'5" but she looks thinner because she has more muscle. She has the same mesurements as I fid when I weighed 125 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:01 AM Flag
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I'm 5'2" and 114 lbs and I feel curvy, but basically ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:04 AM Flag
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Same. Need to lose some weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] My neighbors are have a little stoop party. Every sound lit up, and the music is loud. Sigh...I'm stepping out for a corona and nachos. If you can't beat 'em.. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Everyone sounds [ Reply | More ]
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definitely join them. Bring a bottle to share! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Sounds fun! [ Reply | More ]
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Totally go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Who is this Jessica Girl? Why so much hate? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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The OW [ Reply | More ]
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because people are stupid. I don't know. I don't know her but she looks nice enough. I said as much earlier (and said that the exDW was probably a crazy bitch), and people accused me of being her. I live in WA state and am smoking a joint. I am not her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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LMAO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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she's skanky. come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Why swanky? Looks pretty to me and loves her kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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this is what I think. And she's far from skanky looking. Shit, I'm OR and I look skankier. [ Reply | More ]
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there's the girl, the skanky girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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she doesn't look skanky. she just looks ok. not ugly, not pretty. but she IS skanky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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hey, she changed her pic. she looks attractive there (but lower face too long). and no roots. but she isn't as pretty close up. but much more flattering with this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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Np. Horse face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:15 AM Flag
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Nose job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 AM Flag
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does the look go with the joint in hand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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first, the roots and bleached hair. two, home wrecker. enough said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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Roots are in style. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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post your photo and we'll all judge you by your hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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see, this is the idiotic argument you always get on ub. listen. olympic judges sometimes have zero, zero experience when judging the athletes. yet, they do. you don't have to be an athlete yourself, or a musician yourself or a beauty yourself to judge athleticism or music or beauty. so tarded. and yes, i can judge intelligence, too. [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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uh huh. it's not a style just b/c it's written up on some website. or maybe pants hanging down around your knees is cool, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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Droppa droppa low, girl Droppa droppa low, girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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DH: Here Yuu should be ashamed putting down a girl you don't even know. FYI She is pretty. [ Reply | More ]
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I must have missed something. Who is Jessica? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Apparently some NUT on here is pissed off because she publicly dislikes Success Academy. [ Reply | More ]
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i think this is the other woman who stole a ub husband, right? [ Reply | More ]
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She is very pretty. This must be scorned EX wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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and you must be that ocd poster who pose as various "np." she is far from pretty, forget very pretty. just avg. get real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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^^ she looks better in the new fb pic. but it's a distant pic. not as pretty close up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:33 AM Flag
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Puke. [ Reply | More ]
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PRETTY. [ Reply | More ]
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NOT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:16 AM Flag
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Very ugly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:15 AM Flag
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Perhaps it had nothing to do with SA and everything to do with her being a husband-stealing skank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:06 AM Flag
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Howdo you know she stole someones husband? You sound like a bitter troll. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm still skeptical of the detective work on this...I see one person in the comments called "Jessica D." and when I asked the person who posted this, how do you know "Jessica D." is actually Jessica Droppa they said something cryptic about how she has "gone public" with her problems with SA elsewhere, no description. It's possible but there's no proof. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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Oh I remember her post about being late to the breakfast chess game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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Yes, she was on here for days posting about it in all caps. She was NUTSO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:06 AM Flag
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She seems fine. [ Reply | More ]
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wtf get this shit off the front page [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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Is she someone's mistress. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ok someone pls just tell me - what does okd and nokd stand for?.. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not our kind dear and our kind dear [ Reply | More ]
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Ah ha. I wouldn't have figured that out - thanks! I am severely sleep deprived, and I probably would have been up thinking about it. [ Reply | More ]
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Newbie? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Watching "Blackfish" for the first time. It's beyond appalling and disturbing. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Is that the seaworld documentary? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Can't imagine why anyone would take their kids to those places. NOKD [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Yea. It was really good [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. Horrifying. People suck. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought you wrote "Blackish," as in the new ABC sitcom. I thought that you were reading too much into it. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you see the reaponse commercial from sea world? So awkward [ Reply | More ]
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nope, will google it. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Didn't know about the film. Seemed so out of left field. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:01 AM Flag
[ - ] dd is 11 and refuses to accept the changes that she is going through. Getting her to use deodorant is a nightmare (she needs it).Her eyebrows are horrible but she won't hear of doing anything about it. Now she has hair under her arm - I can't have her walking around with hairy armpits this summer. How do I get her to see the light? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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you're going to have to let her be. Sucks [ Reply | More ]
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Let me know if you figure it out. My 11 year old dd has so much grease in her hair, you could fry an egg with it. Her breath is disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here - I feel better now, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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You shouldn't. You and this OR are both bad parents, you need to tell your kids about these things [ Reply | More ]
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OP here - we talk non stop. Do you suggest that I tie her up and wax her eyebrows and armpits? [ Reply | More ]
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If necessary. [ Reply | More ]
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They're not bad parents but you are a bad person. [ Reply | More ]
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Omg. You are the parent. Tell her she has greasy hair and needs to wash it!! When I see a dc with dirty hair, i know it's the parents fault. [ Reply | More ]
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You are gross. Are you suggesting I join her in the shower and scrub her hair? [ Reply | More ]
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You tell her she isn't going to the next birthday party/lunch with the family/sleepover/art class if she doesn't wash. -np [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore the eyebrows. She's 11. The rest...ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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Troll [ Reply | More ]
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wha'ts the prob? leave her alone. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like you're the one who refuses to accept her changes. Let her deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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+2. She is growing up, OP. Explain to her nicely what needs to be done. You'll also find yourself reminding her abt some of these things on a ln almost daily basis (I do with my tween dd - have to remind her abt deodorant every single morning!) [ Reply | More ]
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How do you explain her that boys don't have to shave? [ Reply | More ]
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^to her [ Reply | More ]
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Did you suggest that she shave her pits? [ Reply | More ]
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OP here - it's just starting. I started talking to her about it but now need to take action with summer coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Get her on a swim team. Being in a swimsuit will make her want to keep herself in check. [ Reply | More ]
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I tell mine I won't take her to school unless xyz is done. Works like a charm for my girl...what will work for yours? [ Reply | More ]
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do 11 y.o. girls really need to shave their underarms? [ Reply | More ]
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you tel me, if they have hairy armpits - do they need to shave? [ Reply | More ]
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Is it really hairy or just a bit fuzzy? I'm just surprised the puberty starts so early now. [ Reply | More ]
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Need to? No. Their call. Clean and no odor is necessary. Shaving and plucking are a choice. [ Reply | More ]
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Focus on the deodorant and forget about the armpits and especially the eyebrows for now. [ Reply | More ]
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What is the best method for such a young girl? shave? cream? wax? laser? [ Reply | More ]
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Cream should do the trick. [ Reply | More ]
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I can't imagine anyone caring what an 11 yr. old's eyebrows look like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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I hope you're drunk and trolling. I'm trying to teach my 11 yo did that it is HER decision alone what she does with HER body. [ Reply | More ]
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Totally the individual's decision. But educating her on hygiene and skincare to accommodate for adolescent hormonal changes is what responsible caring parents do. [ Reply | More ]
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Make sure to point out to her the adolescent girl with a light moustache - now THAT's refusing to accept the changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Would this be a deal breaker for you? Married DH 13 years ago. He has 2 boys from his first marriage. He asked me to sign a prenup saying I don't have any rights to his money- before marriage, or after. Fast forward to today, we have 3 dcs together, have moved overseas twice for his job, making it hard for me to continue working. I am planning on going back to work soon (youngest dc is 2) but I asked him to revise the prenup to reflect our partnership over the past years. I don't want anything from before we were married or his retirement accounts, but I think that the savings we accumulated during the past 13 years should be in both of our names. As it is now, all I have is access to our Amex cards to pay for things like groceries and clothing- if I need cash there is a small checking account in both names where he transfers money. DH makes over 1.5MM a year. DH says he needs to protect the rights of his sons from his first marriage and therefore will never put any money in both names, not even the money he makes now, because he is afraid I won't give them their fair share if he dies. So literally the only way I can have anything in my name is to go back to work. I'm excited to go back and starting to job hunt- but it still stings bitterly to have been told that I have no rights- ever- to anything that he earned during those years I gave him 3 babies. WWYD? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Divorce his ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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^^^ I'm only half kidding. i would see a divorce/estate lawyer about this and then take him to marital counseling and seek individual therapy (putting it all on your amex, of course) and then see how you feel about him [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ and I would tell him that you're doing this. Put the fear of god in him. If you divorce him, he will have to pay so much child support that he will sign anything you put in front of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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OP here- how much child support do you think I would get? Since I signed away my rights to alimony or anything else... wondering... if he makes 1.5 MM, net worth of 10-11MM, our monthly bills are around 15-20K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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He would want to give you alimony since it's deductible to him and taxable to you. Child support he cannot deduct. And 12+ years of private school, 4 years university and he has to provide children with an equivalent home. That pre-nup is, i bet, full of holes. [ Reply | More ]
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according to this calculator, $391,000 per year, but he has two additional kids [ Reply | More ]
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WWID? I would consult an attorney and get something in place that protects all the children. And if he doesn't agree, I'd get that job and leave his ass. [ Reply | More ]
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get a time machine and never marry this person [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously...how lucky is his first wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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just make sure that your children with him will be provided for equally. Then maybe try to get him to agree to at least give you a million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Why weren't you think about this when you were pregnant with your dc1? I would be aggressive but not nasty about getting things sorted out. Don't let him stonewall you. I don't understand why he's not looking at the interests of his dcs with you? [ Reply | More ]
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guilt [ Reply | More ]
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Does he give you enough money to buy all of the stuff that you want (furniture, vacations, clothes, anything else)? If he does, then I would just go along with the status quo. [ Reply | More ]
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This is irresponsible. OP, do not listen to this person. If he has a heart attack and has left everything to his ex's kids, then she will have nothing. Nothing is in her name, maybe not even life insurance. Her kids won't have a house or any semblence of the life they're used to living. They are entitled to his assets. She, as their mother, is responsible for protecting them, and that includes getting their fair share even if she has to divorce his ass to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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the kids do have rights to his assets if he dies. they go into a trust that has an outside 3rd party administrator. i don't have any rights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:32 AM Flag
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She has a prenup and his previous kids will get priority. Divorce will only make things worse. She was irresponsible to have kids with this person who doesn't trust her and doesn't care about his "2nd family." -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 AM Flag
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if she divorces him, she will get child support for 3 kids. She will have plenty of money until they turn 18. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ and I bet her divorce lawyer will make a case for a portion of the assets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:04 AM Flag
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I am in a 2nd marriage. Prenup splits dh's estate between me and his two daughters. Maybe you can do something similar. [ Reply | More ]
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Another perspective: He hardly sees his two boys from his first marriage since he has moved twice overseas in the past 13 years. He feels guilty about leaving their mom for another woman, having another family with you, and leaving them behind in the US while he sets up home with his new family in another country. He wants to make sure that they are well taken care of. He takes care of your daily needs and your kids have actually shared their lives with him. He thinks you are richer in that way. He may have a point. It does not sound like you are wanting for anything. Are you and your kids in his will? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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You are right- I can spend whatever I want on that damn Amex so he thinks that is all I should want. He DOES protect our kids- the estate planning splits his assets equally between them. It's about my relationship with him. It's strange to be in a relationship where I cannot ever save anything in my name unless I go back to work. Again, I am qualified to work and ready to go back- but for the past ten years we moved overseas TWICE and I gave birth 3 times. So. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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So try couples therapy or go back to work. Do not divorce this guy over this. He is actually trying to do the right thing, in his own way. What exactly is it that you want in your name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 AM Flag
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our savings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:45 AM Flag
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I think you need to go back to work and establish your own savings. You need to have assets for retirement. He has effectively disinherited you and you don't want to be in a position where you are living off of your won kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:48 AM Flag
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What if dh had a stroke? How could you access any money? Is there a second person on these accounts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:54 AM Flag
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Start buying traveler's checks. Slowly put aside cash and each time you have $500, buy checks. Put at a friend's house, don't trust dh. you would get a fortune in child support, remind dh of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 AM Flag
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Time for a post-nup and five trusts. If he thinks you won't give his to other children anything, then you must be the beneficiary of his estate. You will get social security and survivor benefits, but that's it. Why did you sign a pre-nup and BTW, you realize the pre-nup applies to you but not the dc? You certainly didn't sign away rights of unborn children, did you? Will you be inheriting any money? Don't even dare to co-mingle the funds. From what I can see, dh simply doesn't care enough about you and your three dc or he would protect you from hid death or disability. What if you died, what happens to dcs and the money they will need? I think you married the same uncaring jerk that I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:42 AM Flag
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kids get money, but i don't. prenups don't cover kids, ever. he has to pay child support, and if he dies, they are taken care of by a trust. the issue is that in all of those scenarios, divorce or death, i get nothing. that seemed ok to me when i was a young working girl, but as a mother of 3 it's not realistic to have expected me to work through all of our life changes and i lost tons of income [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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you will need to explain that to him and ask for a post up that gives assets in your name in case something happens to him or he divorces you (even if he swears he won't), or even if he ends up in a coma, because you sacrificed your prime earning ears and have nothing for yourself. But also be prepared for him to play hardball with you, so you need to be equally prepared to say then you have already booked an appointment with a lawyer to go over your rights and protect yourself since he won't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:11 AM Flag
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He's being cruel. I don't get how you get nothing id he dies. That makes no sense. I am assuming he is a good deal older than you and you will be a widow for 20 years. What are you supposed to live on if you have 't made an income or been able to contribute to a 401k or IRA all these years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:15 AM Flag
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ALL of his assets go into a trust for the kids if he dies?? None goes to you as widower? This guy is a total snake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:01 AM Flag
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Consult an attorney and see what your options are. Have attorney review that document thoroughly. If it is as you worded, you are in a bad spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:03 AM Flag
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I'll bet its not valid. OP, did you have independent council during the prenup review? I doubt any lawyer would let her sign this, and without a lawyer, it's not valid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:12 AM Flag
[ - ] To have or not to have a 3rd kid... SAHM, DH works too much so I'd have to hire a babysitter to get any breaks, 6 and 4 yo dcs... I'm in really good shape and dread ruining that since it took 2 years after last DC. But, id have another family member for life after the first 3 years of exhaustion were over... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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I did it at 42. The little guy is my toy, we all love and cherish him. Hardest part is I am still 20 pounds overweight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Your "toy"??? Wtf?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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No. Obviously no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Dear god. "Another family member for life". I so feel for you people's DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Why is this bad? Another sibling for DC's, another kid - close families are nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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first 3 yrs ship that baby to boarding school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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