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[ - ] Shrimp pizza. Lmao 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Once overweight but now fit moms: What routine or exercise program/diet worked best for you to lose the weight? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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This is me. I started with weight watchers and jogging. Lost 20 pounds last year. Now I'm doing my fitness pal and added some weight training, would like to carve off another 5-10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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I took a month's leave from work and did two workouts/day to jumpstart, then when I went back to work, I did 4 different workouts/week. The variety kept me from getting bored and getting lazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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"work"? What job allows this for your workout schedule?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Anorexia. Sorry, it's my truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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This. Maybe not so extreme, but damn you have to just zip your lips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Update: went to see dying mentor. It was sad but he was upbeat and I tried not to be too morose in his presence. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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Did you ever find out whether he knows you are being considered for the post he may eventually leave open? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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Slightly off topic, buy how did you find your mentor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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not the point, truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Sheryl Sandberg's husband dying is freakign me out -- just 3 days ago I said to my friend how this woman is ALWAYS traveling, never home, and how sad she never sees her kids…in my mind no amount of money or fame would ever get me to leave DCren or DH that much….now this happens. Regret is SUCH a hard thing to live with….REALLY think about your decisions people. This is it. You have 1 chance to get this right. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.03.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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Everyone dies eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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some don't even get to eventually. -OP with 55 yo dying mentor that I can't seem to get out of my mind ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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Np: Are you the one who was asked to submit CV for mentor's job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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Sorry for the hijack but create a new update post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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Story was interesting, want to hear how you managed with mentor, with pursuing his job, and how the relationship is going. You posted the story, why surprised that people want an update? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Thanks for taking an interest. It is significant part of my inner life these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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I posted after your most recent update, when you were worried about going for the job, that your mentor might have recommended you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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Pretty sure he did not. On the advice of others here I did not mention it in the social call and it did not come up. Really just about catching up and expressing fondness/condolence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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Good thing his death is really all about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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op: excuse me? It has nothing to do with me…but everything to do with what choices we make in life. You think for one minute she is not thinking now about how many dinners she missed with him and how many more family trips they could have gone on or even a simple hike they four of them as a family could have taken? And really wondering now that her heart has been ripped out of her chest….was it really all worth it in the end? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Maybe it is what they both wanted and they were happy? Maybe you don't know anything about their relationship? Maybe you just are savoring the schadenfrude? You suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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This x1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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No, I don't think that's what she's thinking. She's thinking, "We had opportunities individually, as a couple, and as a family that most people in the world will never have. We had a great time during the time we had." You can't pay for family trips with simple hikes as a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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Op, you are a big fucking loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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np: You are assuming quite a lot about their lives. And let me add that I generally subscribe to the same approach to life as you, that I'd rather live a "smaller" life focused on the people around me and not expend energy that could have gone toward these moments towards the pursuit of extreme greatness and wealth. But you don't know these people, you have absolutely no idea how much time they got together or how she feels about any of this. I would imagine her level of devastation right now is probably just about the same as if he'd been, say, a teacher who was around most of the time and abruptly died in the prime of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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I have had so many people in my life die young that I have accepted that this commonly happens. If DH died tomorrow my life would go on. In fact, it would be freeing. I would sell the house and move where I have always wanted to live. It would be a new chapter in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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This is a bizarre yet healthy perspective. i think I still have a rather childlike shocked view when people die young even though it has happened several times in the past few years to people I know well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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So basically yo are waiting for him to die so you can be free? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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As someone who was widowed young, this strikes me as a flip but basically healthy attitude at its core. I'm always amazed when I meet people who have not experienced any sort of loss--they're the ones who seem to fret the most about what is basically out of your control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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Shit happens. Usually, to everybody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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You make your choices, and then you live with them. You can't make choices based on the chance that any one random tragedy could happen tomorrow. She's created a solid foundation for her family that she wouldn't have as a widowed SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Exactly. if she was going to be widowed anyway thank god she is in a basically solid position even if bereaved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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This. Op is a jealous bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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ITA and I am SAHM myself. It is one thing to have the tragedy of losing your husband and your kids to lose their father. It is another to have that tragedy compounded by sudden financial insecurity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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You need to get out more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Of course she is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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No one lives without regrets. Every decision you make closes off other options and paths and leave you with "what if" questions. If you get hung up on those possible regrets, and if you believe you only have "one chance" to make decisions to have a good life, you'll end up paralyzed and you'll never do anything at all. If Sheryl Sandberg is happy with her life every day, she should not make different decisions just because she might have different priorities under different circumstances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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Speak for yourself. I don't need some stranger to die to motivate me to make good decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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Shut your pie hole. People live their lives their way. '1 chance to get this right' - the most unhealthy mindsets think this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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It is so strange how you purport to know all these intimate details of Sheryl Sandberg's life and relationships. What happened to being sorry for someone's loss? You are using this tragedy to make yourself feel better about your lack of success/ambition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] DH called me a "fucking jew" with DC present in the backseat yesterday. Screamed at me about how is outburst is my fault, slammed on the brakes when I had no seatbelt on bc I was about to get out of the car when it stopped. Passed his phone to him through a crack in the window (I had locked the doors with me & dc inside), he shoved it back inside bruising my face with it. I left house with DC, DH called 27 times I did not answer. I came home later & did not call, he worked this am. Today he comes in I am still ignoring him. He leaves and I see he smashed the screen on my phone. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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separate for a few day immediately. then counseling or just divorce this insane man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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WTF? File a police report and find a divorce lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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when you file a police report they take it to the next level. Already inquired. Not ready to do this till all ducks in a row. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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Give me a break. Everyone is dying for others to divorce here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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Calling your spouse a "fucking Jew" and bruising her face is completely unacceptable. Anyone who accepts this type of behavior has tragically low standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Hahah, the site is filled with diverse lawyers drumming up business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Lmao divorce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Do you think she should stay under these circumstances? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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I think they need someone to talk to if nothing else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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We did this early on. Spent a lot of money, behavior did not change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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so you stayed with him? why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:54 PM Flag
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Sorry that happened. Their situation might be different. If he doesn't improve then she should consider leaving. You at least gave your marriage a shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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Violence will escalate. Document. see lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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document how? is it enough to write it down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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Take pictures of damage and bruises. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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face bruise I can feel but can't see it well. Phone smash could have come from anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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STILL document. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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But how. Hand written, typed, third party -- is there a "right" way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Take pictures, email to attorney [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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you seem to like the drama of it all and not actually wanting to get out of your situation...that's fine, own it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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this cannot be an isolated incident...why do you stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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Interreligious coupling not recommended [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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Meh, friend was in similar situation with her also-jewish husband, left in terror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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This isnt about being Jewish. He is infuriated by something - what is wrong with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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on this occasion it was him suggesting we make a pizza for dinner. asked me what toppings I wanted, i said anything but pork, shellfish or anchovies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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No way. Are you serious. Man, he's a psychopath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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why do you put up with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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You can't control other people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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no, but you can control yourself, no reason to live like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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Gtfo. You lie. First, who has shellfish on pizza? Two, this is the first time your had pizza as a family? Three, he doesn't know about your aversion to anchovy on pizza already? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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a) I don't. b) shrimp, I don't know, people do. Just saying. c) No, and not the point. d) surprisingly he claimed not to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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No one has shrimp pizza. Does your dh eat anchovy pizza BC it wouldn't even occur to me to mention avoiding it or shrimp. I call fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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I call moron. Shrimp pizza is widely available and yes, he likes anchovies. You are pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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And he doesn't remember getting two pizzas or half pizzas before in your many years of marriage? Fake of you two are idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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Could you please get lost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Omg run [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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He has crazy anger issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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... this is a crazy situation. I am a big fan of working through things that others would have a huge issue with, but this isn't a situation i would recommend you stay in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Thanks. It's not always this crazy but not the first time either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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For me, I just feel like it is starting to cross bad lines. There are insults and then there's the one he used, which is actually not just about you, it is about the identity of your kids as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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he also insisted, twice when I tried to get out of the car, that I take DC with me and called him "that little maggot." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you choose: harvard vs. yale vs. Princeton and why? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Harvard- best city of the three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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Princeton. It's the prettiest and the most focused on its undergraduate program. Most of the people I know who went to Harvard from my boarding school were incredibly unimpressive intellectually and academically (we sent at lot of kids for sports and through legacy). Obviously I don't think Harvard students generally are subpar, but this really skewed my view of it. Plus the weather is terrible. And New Haven sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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^ That said, I would turn down all three in a heartbeat and without a second thought for Stanford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I think it is the strongest school at inculcating a sense of entrepreneurialism, and the grads are much cooler and more normal IME. Not to mention the location is 1000 times better than any of HYP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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Princeton because Cambridge and Hartford are not places I'd like to spend 4 years. [ Reply | More ]
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Yale's in New Haven [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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You know what, you're right. I think that's how much I want to block that place out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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You might be thinking of Trinity. Yale is in New Haven. Though I agree with you about both places. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd feel like I couldn't possibly go wrong. Once you are choosing at this level you can basically use any reason, I'd choose 1. Princeton for proximity to NYC then 2. H for the city. [ Reply | More ]
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I just toured all three for graduate school. I was surprised to much prefer Yale to the other two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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NP. Grad school is different and would completely depend on what program you're planning to complete, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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Right. I actually didn't apply to Yale, only Princeton because of the program specifics. As an overall impression though I loved Yale, wish I like the program more and could've applied! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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Princeton has rabid alums - they absolutely love the school. However, I think the eating club social scene can be tough and a little limiting. Harvard grads are insufferable and I think resources are skewed to the graduate school. Also not a fan of Boston but that's a personal thing. New Haven is gritty but for me, there's no better school than Yale. Love the arts, drama, music and it's a very accepting place to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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this. Harvard education worst of the three. Yale & Princeton nicer people IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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Harvard Princeton tie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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Yale because the people who go there tend to be more balanced than grads I know from the other two (including DH). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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TBH I would go to penn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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I would do the same if I qualified for in-state tuition. Otherwise Princeton. [ Reply | More ]
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Insufferable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I am MC (nokd) so cost matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:45 PM Flag
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What are the social scenes like at Harvard and Yale? I know it revolves around eating clubs at Princeton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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Princeton snobbiest about wealth and class (ugh). Harvard has overachieving competitive dicks. Yale has artsiest kids full of BS. That said, I wish dc had gotten into one of those schools for the connections. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Maybe we should take her advice. http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/05/03/opinion/sunday/what-black-moms-know.html?referrer= 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If her qualifications are only that she is black and a woman, not worth clicking thru. But thanks, NY Times intern!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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Ok. This is weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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NP: There is someone on this site who posts links to NYT stories all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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"One thing that makes it easier for us is that, unlike many white women, most black women in America come from a long line of mothers who worked outside the home, and have long been accustomed to navigating work and family. My mama worked, as did her mama and her mama before that. According to the University of Maryland sociologist Bart Landry, the author of “Black Working Wives: Pioneers of the American Family Revolution,” black middle-class wives, long before the feminist movement of the 1960s and ’70s, rejected the cult of domesticity for a threefold commitment to family, career and community. These families “ushered in a more egalitarian era,” and a lifestyle their white counterparts adopted decades later." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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Someone posted about the mommy wars yesterday and I lost it. They dont understand how good their life is, they have a choice to sah or woh. So please, stop with this imaginary issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it more environmentally friendly to recycle pizza boxes or burn them? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Apparently they have a lot of carcinogenic chemicals in them, so I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Really? It's cardboard. I ask because I go halfway. Right now I am burning, there's a stack of them I just want to see gone. Once the ashes are calm I turn those into the garden soil in my backyard, I think it makes the soil more alkaline and some plants do better there. But sometimes I have visions that I'm heating up the planet when I do this. [ Reply | More ]
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i did not think you could recycle pizza boxes because of the grease, is that wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Make your own pizza and don't use a box at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Oh please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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This. Making your own meals and skipping the packaging is a ridiculous proposition. What would America's early settlers have done without pizza delivery?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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And why do we need running water? The early settlers do without it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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No, they didn't. They used streams and rivers and groundwater for bringing fresh water in and taking waste water out. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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Stop eating pizza planet killer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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To say it properly, I believe it should be all shouty in FULL CAPS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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And body killer, amirite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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OP. My sons and their friends eat the pizza. It's an issue with the boxes stacking up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:14 PM Flag
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Interesting question. I went to look it up. Apparently when you recycle, "it gets picked up and dropped at the recycling center, then it gets packed into huge bales of about 1500 lbs. these are loaded into a semi, and transported to the mill (which can be 50 miles away or loaded on a ship and sent to China) at the mill, the bales are broken up, water and chemicals (to dissolve inks and glues) are added, eventually it breaks down the fibers which are then drained (the water is discarded, usually into the local rivers :mad: ) That pulp gets mixed with virgin pulp and made into new paper." [ Reply | More ]
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I say burn it. [ Reply | More ]
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Hi OP. Are you happy now that you found a way to post a fake question so you could show off the webpage you stumbled across? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:14 PM Flag
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NP. What a weird assumption. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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NP. What a weird assumption. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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I just found a message board. Relax. [ Reply | More ]
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I am amazed you have time to think of, much else write down, this question. [ Reply | More ]
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op. I'm sitting here burning pizza boxes, that's why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Have to do something while I tend the fire [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you stop 3 and 5 year old sisters from bickering? It's such a love/hate relationship right now. They never used to fight like this. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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My sister and I were like this. We never stopped. Not close at all. To my mother's utter disappointment. [ Reply | More ]
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That's encouraging. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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You suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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Everyone is always tooting on here about built in relationships because of siblings. The reality is, it is not a guarantee. This doesn't really have anything to do with OP's kids' bickering, but it happens. NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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Or: lol. I don't and my sister doesn't either. It's how it is with her and I. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Look at the book Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. You should expect the same behavior toward a sibling as you would expect your children to have toward a guest. [ Reply | More ]
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
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Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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And more and more parenting books recommended. Parents have raised their children for years without parenting books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Separate them. As soon as they start, they have to sit in separate rooms and each play by herself for an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Ok, thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Bad answer. Dont punish them, just seperate. Sounds like mom is too fucking lazy to parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Seperate them, tell them they have to be civil, but do not force them to be friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] You live, you die. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Prove it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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And life is long, enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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unless it's short [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Does going to the "right" nursery schools really matter? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Depends. If you want to get into that "right" pathway -- tt nursery, tt ongoing -- then yes, I think it does help to be in a tt nursery that's a feeder school with an experienced preschool director who will broker for your dc come K time. But that is not the only path forward. Plenty of people have happy, successful lives without following that particular path. It's a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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For some people yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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I think you are kidding yourself if you think that a PSD will "broker" to help you. More likely the Pre School admits legacies etc who will get in, wont help you. You are better off moving into good zone, applying for TT for HS or going to burbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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It matters to those to whom it matters. That's about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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We went and the K process was a total nightmare. Many of the DCs in the class were sinnings, legacies or extremely well-off/connected. Schools only accept so many from each preschool. We did get in eventually to a great school but it was not because of PSD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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^^LOL..siblings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Yep, this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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Not sure. DC starts in September. We had a few options, some with stronger exmissions than others but there are no guarantees. It just seemed like the weaker places could possibly close a few doors. My feeling is that you are generally going to have to pay for some form of external care (many people if not most), might as well try to get bang for your buck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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It will not affect your child's education, but he or she will always live with the stigma of the wrong preschool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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I never would have thought it but I have seen benefits -- especially when the you already know the mothers when you go into K and you know who you are dealing with and your friends already have friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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But if you are not legacy or sibling, your chances of following other kids are not great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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this applies mainly only to NYC….the rest of the world can usually if properly prepared and even say living in a zoned burb….know where their kid will go to school for K when they are in pre-school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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meant to say your kids already have friends on day 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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eh, my ds goes to a TT school, no one else from his preschool got in. They all make friends and so do the parents. This might be applicable for the first week or month of school but it's not a long term benefit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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Can you share the preschool and tt? To not out yourself you can share "schools such as" for each [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Np* btw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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You're screwed if there's a legacy or sibling in your small unconnected preschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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It depends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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I actually think 2T preschools are the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Stress incontinence seems to be getting more severe. At what point do I consider surgery? Any btdt? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Try pelvic floor PT first. It helped me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you know what surprises me about the bullies in my third grader's class? It's what lying brats they are. Growing up I remember the bully being the bigger kid who didn't give a fuck if he got in trouble or not. But these kids bully a kid and then when someone sees them immediately says - "he punched me! He hit me! That's why I had to tackle him and kick him while he's on the ground!" It's like they've figured out how to game the current system in which no one is ever the aggressor and any time you hit a kid it's because you both didn't just use your words and disengage thoughtfully. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Similar in dc's 4th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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My son is a sweetheart but he eventually lured his bully to the side of the building at recess and pushed him face down in the snow. I was kind of horrified but it solved si many problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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So [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Sometimes action must be taken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Exactly. Sometimes a punch in the nose is the only way to show you're not going to take it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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By the children. That's the key here. Parents today are do misguided [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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I would be proud. He used his smarts to outwit and retaliate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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I really am ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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same here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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well done! that's the least bullies deserve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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That is the only thing bullies understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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People's memories of their childhoods are rarely reliable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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say the pedophiles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Lol. So random. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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WTH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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The odds of more than one bully being in your DCs third grade class are astronomical. You are misusing the term. Bullying is serious. Over half the stuff parents label as bullying today is nonsense . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Perhaps, or perhaps people are taking more notice of things that were once ignored. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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Kids can be weasels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] My wallet was stolen and I'm in the market for a new one. I like a slightly larger style with a zipper area for change and room for cards and bills to be flat (not a folded style). They no longer make the one I used to have. Less than $250. Any suggestions? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Not sure what you mean - I like my thin zip style from everlane. I think it is a rip off from smithsonian but I'm not complaining. I also had a hobo wallet that got stolen but that was too big [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Sounds like the hobo I got at Nordstrom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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Good grief just go to Macy's and pick one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Right? How do some people get through life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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I'm thinking outside the box here, but: Go to a few shops and pick out a wallet you like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Get someone on Etsy to make one for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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My son's girlfriend bought me a Nine West wallet for Christmas that is embarrassingly more utilitarian and attractive than the one I spent a lot more money on several years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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How is that embarrassing? That you're a sucker for high-priced designer goods? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Yes, I believe that was the message that was buried somewhere in there. I liked her wallet better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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ebags has a great selection of wallets, i like the kate spade wrap around zipper one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Hobo international makes awesome wallets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Look at Kate Spade. I'm hate labels but found mine on sale at Nordstrom and love the way it's organized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you share links to beautifully designed NYC bathrooms? They are usually on the small size and I need to get inspired. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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What do you want to do? Are you just redecorating, or tearing it all out and starting from scratch? Or something in between? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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I redoing the bathroom, need inspiration s to what looks good in a small NYC apartment. Bathroom has a small window, not very significant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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What is "redoing"? Changing the color scheme? Or tearing out the tub and retiling floor to ceiling to install a walk-in shower? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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tearing out everything and starting from scratch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Large window for light and ventilation, high ceiling, white tiles, simple fixtures, keep uncluttered. No design required when keeping this in mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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in apartments you cannot always have large windows and high ceilings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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That sucks. I'm in NYC with a bathroom as I described. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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+1 I wouldn't move into an apartment without a good bathroom window. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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"They"? How many bathrooms are you doing? Are they small or not? Your question makes it sound like you are just putting together links for one of those "12 Ideas for..." for your blog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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I renovating an apartment with 2.5 baths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Are they small, or have you not even seen them yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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HOUZZ is your friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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I'm on it all the time, but all pictures of beautiful large bathrooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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i feel your pain, no matter how you search that damn site the bathrooms and kitchens they show are not small or compact [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Not true. I am redoing a very small powder room and I've found quite a few photos there. You just need to search. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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GIYF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I like Houzz too; I looked there and saved photos that I liked. You start to see recurring elements of what you want in a bathroom and that helps. I ended up doing an all white and dark brown color scheme with subway tile, modern fixtures and marble accents (all marble would have been too pricey, as it is a smaller, lesser used guest bath). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Watching this. Same boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] i start a new job tomorrow and i am more nervous than i thought i would be. do you have any advice for me? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Don't be late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Relax! You got the job because you're right for the position. They're going to be very happy to have you start. Be eager to learn, willing to help, and friendly with new coworkers (will silently making mental notes about who's who and any first impressions). You'll do great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Good luck! I start a new position in 2 weeks and already feel the nerves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Be cautious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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think down the line as in 90 days this will be same ol' same ol'…and don't forget the CEO of your company had a day one too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Don't listen to gossip. Don't believe what you hear. Don't make any immediate friends. Make your boss look good. That's your main job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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"Don't make any immediate friends." THIS THIS THIS. In fact whoever befriends you first is the office gossip/weirdo/trouble maker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How are Restoration Hardware beds? Good wooden sleigh bed recs wanted/no budget... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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We bought a RH bed (not sleigh bed, but a really nice cherry bedframe) about 15 years ago. It's still as good as new and looks really nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Good to know, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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