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[ - ] How would you feel if you went to a bar, had a few drinks, chatted with a cute stranger and kissed him. And then over the course of the conversation, he casually told you he was 19. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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I'd rub my COOGASTANK all over his BOYBASKET and leave feeling like a BOSS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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boy basket doesn't even make sense. man, troll, you gotta try harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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not a troll. just like em young! [ Reply | More ]
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Omg lol [ Reply | More ]
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How could you not spot a 19 year old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:36 PM Flag
[ - ] So sick of seeing "NOKD" here! List some things that are "OKD" instead: 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Dining at "Ronald's" instead of "McDonald's" [ Reply | More ]
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good one [ Reply | More ]
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Volvo station wagons [ Reply | More ]
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Farting. [ Reply | More ]
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Not talking about money [ Reply | More ]
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
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Canyon ranch [ Reply | More ]
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classic names, no NNs as names [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you notes. [ Reply | More ]
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Handwritten [ Reply | More ]
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Dining at le bernadin, Daniel or 11 Madison [ Reply | More ]
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Writing "thank you" notes. [ Reply | More ]
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Old cars/houses/Barbours [ Reply | More ]
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Wine; being a functional alcoholic with wine. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] McDonalds to launch casual dining chain, "Ronald's", in 6 cities 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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LOL. So you get to tip for the privilege of eating shit while sitting down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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It sounds awesome, actually. As long as they have McDs fries, I'm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm tired of winter. Where can I live that sees all 4 seasons and gets snow, but the winter is short? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Asheville, NC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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I grew up there and I can completely agree with this... always enjoyed snow, but it was overall mild. Enjoyed the 4 seasons and it's a beautiful city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Virginia. Beach, mountains [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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This. I'm in VA and it's cold and we got a little snow this week,but nothing compared to up there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] my dc is 2 and i want to take a shower. he doesn't want to take a shower with me. is it ok if i shower and just leave him in the apt to play? chances are hes not going to turn on the oven/stove right? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Bring him in the bathroom with a few toys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Put him on a baby's eat in the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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how long of a shower? put him in crib with a few toys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Only you know your kid. Just keep the door open and set dc up with toys right outside the door so you can talk through the entire shower [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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This. I do it nearly every morning. Make sure to keep door open so you can see him and be prepared to get out and run after him if he leaves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Put the TV on and take a quicky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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It's either this or toys in the bathroom. I'd prefer the latter bc I would worry about him being out of sight and earshot otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Not trying to be rude but I'm wondering how he's 2 and this question has only come up now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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haha true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Playpen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Just turned 2 or almost 3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the "etiquette" for leaving negative ebay reviews? I received something that had a stain on it, contacted seller who said she didn't know that it was stained. Wondering now if I should leave a negative review? Should I be nice and believe her? She did not offer any sort of refund and I don't feel like paying return shipping and going to the PO to box it up and mail it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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It's not rude if it's the truth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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What is it? Maybe we can get stain out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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It's the ink mark on the white wool coat that I posted about last night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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I didn't see that. A dry cleaner should be able to get that out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I would leave matter of fact feedback like you did above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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I guess I will leave a negative review. It just seems harsh to me (sorry, I am a WASP and giving negative comments makes me uncomfortable). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Say you want a refund or you'll neg her. If she doesn't give one, leave the neg. -np who ebays tons of stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Did the posting for this item say if items are returnable for a refund? Some sellers include this info when they list an item. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] The first time I knew I was "different" was in kindergarten. We were standing in a circle and the teacher asked us each to say something we liked about ourselves. When my turn came, I proudly said "I'm a tall." I can still remember the hateful look of surprise that washed over their faces. The kid to my left actually started laughing. "No you're not. Look, we're the same height." The rest of the class piled on, "I'm the same too! Well I'M taller!" I was in shock. I'd always thought it was normal that I saw myself as a tall. My parents had provided a supportive environment at home, but I quickly learned that the world was not so kind. And as I grew older and eventually hit puberty, the misery of my situation deepened. I just couldn't help being interested in "tall guy stuff," like playing basketball and having sex with human women, but whenever I tried to express these interests, my peers reacted with confusion and anger. It gets better, but life is still difficult. I experience daily microagressions from coworkers (including subordinates) who refuse to accept my stated height despite my attempts to educate them on transheight issues. Strangers are worse. Do you know how it feels to be standing next to a natural tall and be completely ignored? I do. My 4" lifts make me passable in the right crowd, but, as any trans person knows, technological trickery only gets you so far, and I'm still a very long way from my psychological height of 6'9". The surgeries are expensive and painful, but I intend to go ahead with them despite the negative reactions of a number of bigots. Even then, will I feel whole? Or will I remain a 6'9" person who was born and remains trapped in a biologically 5'9" body? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Thank you for this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Stop whining. You sound like a homo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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This is the second time I've seen this but I still think it's scarily apt. We are heading into a very dark and confused future. Tptb are really pushing this agenda to the kids and trans related mental illness is showing up earlier and earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Lololol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] So a Bard student has the Measles and was at Penn Station a few days ago. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Find another forum. Please. We dont care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Want to get a gift for my niece (she's in 4th grade). I have no idea what to get her. Her mother said she is picky about clothes, I know she likes reading. I have a 5 year old boy so I have no idea. Budget is around $30. TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Gift card? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I thought about that but her mother once mentioned she hates getting them because it's more to keep track of. I get it, I have lost so many gift cards through the years. I guess I can ask for a book suggestion. I was just hoping there would be something out there 4th grade girls love and I would be the cool aunt. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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According to....book series. I don't remember the full name but it's a book series told from the perspective of a hamster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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There are kits where you can write and illustrate a book send it off to get publishes and it comes back bound. I would buy a bunch of fun patterned tights hats gloves (should be on sale), you could inscribe a classic book, a necklace/watch, tickets to something, sushi lunch, movie tickets, personalized mug, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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A pocket book, or go shopping together... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to put dh in the HUMBLER 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Ok. I'll play. What's a humbler? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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It's also called the anal ripper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk me down, I am pissed. DH and I had plans for a skiing day trip today. We never go - first ski trip in 3 years. We likely won't have time for any day trips for a good number of months - was supposed to be a relaxing and fun day together. Plan was to leave dcs with sitter at 7:30 and hit the road. When we went to leave, DD (3 y/o) started freaking out and pitching a massive fit. 30 min later she was still hysterical and sitter asked us to cancel. So now we are sitting here at home, DD is playing by herself happy as a clam and I am furious. Kids suck. 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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it's like zero out anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Thanks. That helps, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Barring emotional issues, eventually the fit would have stopped. You should have gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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That's what I was hoping but we were standing down in the lobby trying to wait it out and we could still hear her. Sitter was wary of having to spend the whole day dealing with that and DH didn't want to disturb the neighbors on Sat morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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And if you kept going. in one minute, you would have been out of earshot. As long as the hysterical fits aren't continuous, most neighbors wouldn't mind. As for the babysitter, that's part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Meh. Not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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your babysitter sucks actually. And you do a little too. Your kid is just a kid. You sound like an immature, whiny unfit mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Forgive me for trying to reclaim one day of my life in 3 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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you suck, actually. np. why would you say something like this to someone? it is neither helpful nor productive. you sound like a bitter bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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I saw this only because I've been through it. You should have gone - she would have stopped eventually. Plus now she has learned that if she cries you will stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yes, I felt very stuck about it. If we go back in, she learns she can win. If we don't, the neighbors hate us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Child displaying leadership, taking control of family situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Yes. She sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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No she doesn't. She is a child. You are the adult with the responsibility to teach her. So who sucks now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Tell this story to everyone you know who is considering having children. If you aren't happy to trade ski trips for weekends at home with small children - in fact, if you wouldn't flat-out prefer spending the day with the children - you should just be an aunt or an uncle, and leave parenthood to people who really do like it. My mother's best friend told me when I was in college, and now I have a really good life with part-time stepchildren instead of being locked down all of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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She should not tell this story to anyone IRL, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Why not? People should know that having children is optional, and if you only feel a hormonal urge to get pregnant, but you never feel a real desire to spend a whole day playing with toddlers, you probably won't spend a lot of time being happy once you have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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OP isn't saying she doesn't enjoy weekends with her daughter. You can love your kids and still want a Saturday off once in every 3 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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People leave their 3 y/os all the time without screaming fits. It's not inherent to being a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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LOL. If everyone followed that rule, the species would die out in a couple of generations. It's fine to leave your child with a babysitter and go have fun with other adults - you don't have to be a slave or a martyr just because you have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Girls suck. If you'd just walked out, she likely would have snapped out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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We did walk out. We stood in the lobby for about 20 min listening to her carrying on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Why would you do that? Just leave, trust the sitter to calm her down. Sounds like you need a better sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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And now she knows that if she just carries on long enough, she will get her way every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Yes, that is our problem. But a neighbor complained about being able to hear her last month, so we feel that we have to do what it takes to keep her quiet and not be disruptive to the building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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And what are you doing to stop this issue? What do you do when she behaves like this? Are there consequences? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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First ignore, then redirect to another activity, then try ignoring again, then send to room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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So you're not going to parent your child properly because you're afraid of the neighbors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Why did you cancel? I would have left, the fit would have stop 5 minutes after your have left the door. Don't let the little brat dictate where you go, seriously. Not wonder she throws a fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Why did you cancel? I would have left, the fit would have stop 5 minutes after your have left the door. Don't let the little brat dictate where you go, seriously. Not wonder she throws a fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Nanny here: Huge mistake, you are sending the wrong message and from now on it won't get any easier. You shouldn't let your kid dictate where you can go. Did you at least disciplined her for behaving poorly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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No, I am too angry to engage with her. We feel stuck because a neighbor has already complained about the noise, so we cannot let her carry on for so long on a Saturday morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Ok, so you did nothing to correct her and are you pretty much telling your kid behaving like this is ok. Good job! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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As your kid grows up, this is going to get worst and more difficult to manage. Good Luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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+1. And I would think uoh have lost that sitter for good. DC has power over her at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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You kid knows that throwing a fit gets her what she wants. Next time leave the door and do not come back. lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Take your kid and have a chat with her, she should lose a privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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You are doing a disservice to your kid and to yourself, there is not excuse to behave so bad than even neighbors have to complaint. She throws a massive fit and she gets her way, wrong message, and she is only 3. I am telling you, you need to stop this non sense NOW! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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I think you need a better sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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i use to have my sitter take my dc out for a stroll around the corner or cafe and when they got back we were gone and they did not care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Sorry, that sucks. We just spent a week that was supposed to be for skiing. My husband got sick and whinged the entire time, I got stuck watching the baby (no skiing), my daughter refused to go and my birthday and our anniversary were ruined. Did I mention we have seasons' passes, and we've gone for a total of 2 days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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^ That said in sympathy. I think you need a better sitter and you should have left. You can't live your life hostage to your neighbors. I'm sorry you didn't get to go ski. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Is central park still sleddable? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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watching this! was working all day long on the day of snow so DS missed out on sledding....would be great if I could take him today.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] So good, have to repost: I had teachers of both my DSs comment their leadership qualities (or lack thereof!), but I hadn't asked about it. I was amused, particularly since a few weeks prior the head of lower school had politely warned parents to stop pestering teachers about whether their kids were leaders. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.31.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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Besides a bully or loudmouth, I've never seen an elementary school leader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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I have. [ Reply | More ]
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Csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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wtf? I don't even understand the point of this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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just ignore. it's not worth responding to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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You guys are really dense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Said the dirty cunt^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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she's making fun of parents who ask teachers if their kids are leaders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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But her kids, of course, are leaders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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My kids are babies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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You obviously can't read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Of course. It was so good she had to repost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I didn't write it. I just copied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Why would someone go with low ranked private over a good zoned public without ever touring the public or knowing anything about it other than the fact that it has a good reputation. Dc is normal ... Family's HHI is 1-2mm but they earn it and don't come from $$. I don't get it 82 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Why do you have to get it? It's their money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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How is this about money? Do you always assume the most expensive item is the best? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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It's their money to spend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Like I said, it's not the money that I don't get it's the decision to choose an inferior school just because of its private status [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Teaching to the test makes public inferior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Not teaching anything makes this private inferior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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I know that you need to believe that your child goes to a great school in order to reduce cognitive dissonance. But perhaps you could step out of your own head long enough to recognize that others value different things and can make different choices? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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My dcs are older. Do you really believe that any private is always better than any public school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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mine are older too. and i'm smart enough not to jump into your faux debate. perhaps you should ask yourself why this family's actions irk you so much. because i'm old enough to recognize that different families make different decisions. presumably you should be too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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I guess because I have known them for a very long time and they used to be very rational down to earth people but now they seem to be making decisions that aren't in the best interest of their own dc in order to maintain social status. I find this disappointing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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+1,000,000!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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sigh. you're just trying to back end yourself into a public vs private debate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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the board of education and the union, to be totally clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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This x1million [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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clearly, they strongly believe that the 3 tier private is superior to the public. many, many people have the same belief. the nyc public school system is no picnic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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What schools are 4th tear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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^tier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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You are so blind that you can't see it. The public school is clearly inferior in their view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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I understand that this is how they think but what makes it inferior other than social status. This is the only reason I can think of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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then you need to grow up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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Grow up = value social status more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Really? REALLY? You cannot think of a SINGLE other reason why they may prefer the private school? I don't know what school you are talking about but here's a few ideas to get you started: Not dealing with the DOE & constant testing? Smaller class size? Enhanced specials/extras? Not dealing with public middle/high school admissions? Personalized attention? Focus on arts? Less HW in lower school? Focus on developing skills to learn rather than specific knowledge sets? Experiential learning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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See if they had listed any reasons such as you have I could at least see that they are considering their dc's interests in this decision. That however is not the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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MP: I wouldn't "list" any reasons to my judgy resentful self-righteous childhood friend so that she could "see that [I am] considering [my] dc's interest" either. You're a piece of work. Or that annoying attnetion-seeking fake poster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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How do you know? You are asking why they would make this choice - I just gave you a list of multiple reasons. Now you say that you KNOW that these weren't their reasons. So I guess you just asked a question to get people to agree with and support you. Maybe you should focus on your own insecurities and competitiveness instead of your "friends'" choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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^^Plus you've stated that the school is "inferior" and many people here have tried to explain to you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it is impossible to make such blanket statements - there are good and bad things about all schools. You need to deal with your issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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To evaluate one must know their options. If they don't even know what their zoned public is how can they be evaluating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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You have no idea. Maybe they did know the zoned school and didn't want to insult you by acknowledging that they specifically did not want it. I wouldn't share any real information with you either if you were my "friend." don't think they don't know exactly what you are like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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This is simply not the case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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OK, I thought you were fake but now I think you're just a snug know-it-all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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^^^ smug [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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The tuition is pocket change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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If you have 3 kids its 15-30% of net so still not pocket change + I don't understand why someone would choose an inferior education for their dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Maybe the parents went to a great public and then private and they know the difference. This is why my kids are in private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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They did not. Did you go to a private that is considered lowest tear safety and still found it better than one of the better public schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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Yes. I went to a suburban private after suburban public. Now my kids are in NYC private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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It sounds to me like your kids are in the zoned public and you feel like this family is "thumbing its nose" at the zoned public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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My kids are in middle school and high-school. Yes, I do feel this way in addition to knowing many kids from private and public schools who are now older. I absolutely would choose some private schools over most selective publics so I am not delusional here but frankly I don't get their reasoning and yes I think they are simply being snobs which I find disappointing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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you think they're looking down on you. and it bothers you. get over yourself. they didn't consider you one whit in their decision process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Why should they consider me in their school decision process? This is such a bazaar flame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Bazaar? And we are supposed to agree with your judgement about the quality of an education? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Why is that disappointing? They don't have to live by your standards (and I am far from wealthy). Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Because we where childhood friends and I have known them a very long time. I have the right to my opinion as well don't I? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Of course you do but your use of the phrase "disappointing" is odd IMO. If you're such good friends support their decision and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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I think their decision isn't in the best interest of their own child. I find this disappointing. I don't need to support their decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Honestly you sound annoying and overbearing. Obviously they think the decision is in the best interest of their child. Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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They think its in the best interests of their family which is very different. Obviously I will let it go. These aren't my kids after all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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her insecurity is palpable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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I am not insecure at all. I would absolutely choose many private schools over top public. I just don't understand the decision to choose one of the weakest private schools over top public. It's not easy to change from one private to another. They would have better chances of getting better private out if public from what I have seen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I'm not being defensive. Who says i'm being defensive? You're the one who's being defensive. -Martin Short [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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who. cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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LOL!!! Sweetie - please look in the mirror. Saying that you aren't insecure doesn't make it so. Only an insecure person would post the things you do. Please try to be a little self-aware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Your tone is disgusting. I guess you are exactly the social circle they seek. Barf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Np: op, you are the only smug, judgmental, condescending one on this entire thread. No wonder they might be trying to distance themselves from you and your nosy pettiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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They aren't trying to distance themselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Well they aren't letting you in on their reasons, so for friends, they certainly aren't treating you as a trusted confidante [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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You must know everything and u must be a dumb moron. Got it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Green does not become you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Why would I be jealous? I would not want any if my kids to go to this private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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They don't want to deal with rowdy kids. Our private is so quiet when they're walking in the hallway! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Project kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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There are no project kids in best NYC publics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Maybe they like the facilities better maybe they like the class size, maybe there are issues that you actually don't know about despite thinking you know absolutely every relevant details in their lives other than they would are a decision you disagree with, maybe they like the arts/music/theater/sports offering, maybe they don't want to stress about middle school, maybe they lived something about the school and don't care that it's not "tt" because it is a good fit for them, maybe they find the parents there actually less judgmental than their "friends" lime you who resent them? Just a few possibilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry typos - maybe they loved something, fiends like you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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They didn't want this school. It's the only one they could get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Apparently they did want it more than they want the public. But anyway, at this point I'm calling fake. I was going to say fake or an idiot, but the latter is a given either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Lol they didn't know what their zoned school was [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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And they didn't want to deal with it, and they didn't have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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It may not have been their top choice, but they obviously wanted it if they a) applied and kept their application open throughout the process and b) decided to send their kids there. We don't all get our top choice but that doesn't mean that our 3rd, 4th or even 10th choice isn't something that we also want, just perhaps to a lesser degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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I might be in the position (if lucky) if choosing a 2T private over Hunter. Lots of people would say it's insane, but it may make sense for us for reasons I feel no desire to justify to anyone. Certainly not because of snobbery. You don't know everything that's driving their decision, except in the land of fake posts where you know every detail because they're all made up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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No, I can understand some reasons of choosing 2T over hunter if you have money you don't care about. I don't understand choosing a 4th tier safety over a good public or not even knowing which public school one is zoned for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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I don't have money I don't care about - would choose it if FA comes through. Here's the thing: you don't have to understand their decision. You find it "disappointing" because you insist that the only reason is the one you invented, but that's your choice. You could just as easily shrug and assume they have a valid reason. That you don't says more about you than you care to recognize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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They told me that its for social reasons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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So then you have your answer. But jeez for their sake I hope they are reading this thread and drop you as a friend, and fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I am fine with it. People change and I guess we are very different now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I have to question your judgement regarding the quality of the respective schools, since you keep misusing words: Tear instead of tier, bazaar instead of bizarre. Maybe you can't discern what makes the private better than the public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Both of our families are immigrants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Oh Russians [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Probably because it means less contact with blax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Expect anything during this last week of the K process. My story . . . School said they wanted dc. PSD told us to send a FC letter to the school. Hand delivered to the school and confirmed with admissions they received it. PSD tells us about a week later that the school called and didn't receive your FC letter. So we faxed it over again. Yep, ended up a WL. BUT, got a spot at a TT school that we would have not pursued, but for this strange circumstance. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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So happy for you that it worked out. Very nervous going into this last week. Wary of what PSD says is going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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they know, but they don't, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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they have some facts. they get feedback. but things can really change at the last minute...even for them. if things change, the tendency is to shoot the messenger. but remember, they only know what the doa's tell them. good luck to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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I'm learning this already. We had good feedback, but then on Thursday school started hedging "lots of great candidates, but really like DD/family, would be a great fit. Feeling like its heading towards a WL. But if they wanted to WL why did DOA trek downtown to visit DD 8 days before decisions go out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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yeah, that's feeling w/listey to me too. if you have a trustee or a family friend who could stop by the admissions office and mention how excited your family is about the school, now is the time to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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The only thing I don't get is why DOA would come (preschool is not close by) herself if likely to be a WL when we are so close to decisions. Why not just send on of her staff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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They are obviously serious about your child but might not have a spot for her unless certain kids decline (connected, legacy etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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the legacies and siblings are already locked at any school that does early decision (basically all of them) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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We are legacy at TT and did not do early decision because we need FA. I know others who didn't for other reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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she wants to observe the marginal kids herself. some will be accepted, others will be high w/l. it's important, so she wants to get it right. fwiw, don't lose hope. it's hard right now, but as a btdt, i promise you, things work out. it sounds so trite, but it's really true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Thanks. Now I am worried we haven't shown our number 2 school enough love. Ugh. We sent FC letter to school that visited DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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the last week is always the hardest. if you have some friends that can speak up for you, at either of those schools, i'd do it. if you have a chance to stop by the psd's office and reiterate your preferences, that's good too. other than that, it's out of your hands. stock up on a good bottle of wine for friday night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Thanks, yes, I am drinking heavily. One thing I know is that PSD loves us and really sold DD on Thursday. I think she has pushed as hard as she can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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The worst part is, if this goes WL, which I think it's 50/50, it won't even be over on Friday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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I already had one family put in a good word. Sent FC letter. Should I have another family put in a good word, or is that overkill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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no downside. if it's a family that is well-liked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Thanks. This is an SS girls school that is known to look at the family as much as the girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Families have no sway, sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Then who does? Just trustees? And if so, how can so many people claim to be "connected" to so many schools. That many people are friends with trustees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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that's the hardest part...the folks who work in admissions aren't exactly rocket scientists. they're school administrative folks. and stuff gets lost. i remember a story from a mom of twins, and she walked in for the interview and they didn't know about the application for the second kid. the school called her director a week later and asked her to come back AGAIN. lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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