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[ - ] I am so glad all the former Trump voters now adore Bernie Sanders and dislike Trump so much. BernieSanders2020. And I'm not just saying that because I am a former Trump voter. Every Trump voter I know is now supporting Bernie Sanders. He's going to win. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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This is the stupidest post in the history of UB. Bern agrees with Trump on only one issue.. the issue of open borders, On most other issues Bern hates Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Bernie said that if you open your borders to illegals from Central America all black men will wind up unemployd and in prison [ Reply | More ]
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
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bernie sanders said that mental illness needs to be treated so the cia will be knocking on your basement door said bernie sanders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Trump's VOTERS now love Bernie. Trump hates Bernie and Bernie hates Trump. However Bernie's voters used to love Trump and now they see he is in it for himself and conned them like he conned the people who enrolled in Trump U. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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so boring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Get real- Bernie will turn 80 the yr of the 2021 inauguration- he got destroyed by Cruz in that debate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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lol! A little fake news - I loved seeing Cruz face when Bernie said "I want tax reform, work with me on reform that gives 80% of the benefits to the middle and working class instead of the .01%". And Cruz says oh no the very richest Americans are going to get the most money and that is what the people want! lol! Keep fighting for "tax reform" where 80% of the benefits go to the .01% and Bernie will fight for reform where the benefits go to the middle class. Let's see who wins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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You've been brainwashed by a generation of class warfare by the Democratic Party. You deserve your taxes raised after experiencing none since 1990. The rich paid for the 2013 tax hike; they deserve the 2018 tax cut! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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I know!!! That's what Cruz is running on! The rich have made billions but they pay too much in taxes so we're giving them a big tax refund and you middle class people will pay for it! You don't really need Medicare or social security anyway! Or children's health care. The rich need that money more! They have been suffering, and you greedy middle class people are nasty says Cruz. Oh yeah, that will be a popular platform. More for the rich! Middle class is greedy! Vote for Cruz and give more money to the rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Stanford/Oxford scholar Schweizer (who writes about corruption on both sides of the aisle): Uranium One ‘May Turn Out to Be the Biggest Scandal in American Political History’ 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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As big as DJT's prong in his kids poopshute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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nice [ Reply | More ]
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He clearly meant to say "Uranus". Get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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Lots of scatological humor I'm noticing, in response to this one. Hmm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Bigger than Trump's campaign staff and his own family conspiring with Russia? And co opting foreign policy to what Putin desires? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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---------------->>>>>*******YES*******<<<<<-------------------- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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K-CHINGGGGG! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
[ - ] 10 yo dd is driving me nuts with the attitude, eye rolling, and just nasty behavior. WWYD? I need to nip this in the bud before it gets worse in the teenage years. Please help. Tia. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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Consequences for every eye roll. Remove priviledges for each offense. Remove devices, games, toys, clothes, whatever it is... does not get them back until behavior has consistently improved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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Let the attitude go, that's just asserting independence. If DD is doing what she should be doing, then, just ignore, ignore, ignore. The game is getting you to react...don't play it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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Op: I try to ignore but it's really hard. I ignore for a while and then I just explode and yell. Then she starts crying and it's a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:44 PM Flag
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Sometimes all this is just a cry for attention. What if she rolled her eyes, and you said: Honey, this seems to bother you. Do you want to tell me why? And, then, let her speak, listen and then say: Okay, I hear you. This is just something we have to do and I glad you told me your feelings. She's 10 now, but in a few years, she'll be a teen...get into the habit of asking her to tell you how she feels now. You don't have to cave or give her her own way, you just need to let her know you value her opinions and feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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Op: thx. I will try this but sometimes I will get an eye roll for something as simple as not wanting to eat a sandwich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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^^^how do I ask about her emotions for something like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Honey, why the eye roll? Tell me what's going on. Just listen. You don't have to agree. She may not make sense. She still may have to eat the sandwich, but at least she feels heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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Op: thank you. This is better than me yelling at her to just eat the damn sandwich. I will breathe, ask God for patience, and ask her about her feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Are you giving her enough control over her life? She's 10 now, not 5. (I know that sounds harsh, but I don't mean it that way.) You don't have to be her servant, but tell her that she can chose and make her own lunch (assuming the sandwich is lunch). I'll say to DS: Do you me to make you a sandwich or do you want to make your own lunch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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Op: i am trying to remember her age n give her some independence. I feel like she's going through puberty so her emotions are all over the place. It's really hard. Everything is so hard now. Even buying a costume. She's a bit on heavier side so nothing fit. I'm trying to help but am just getting yelled at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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I follow my son eyerolling him for 10 minutes. Telling him m we all know how to eyeroll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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The opposite of this. They want you to ignore and let them react how they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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I disagree. This is the age when they start to have complex feelings about mom. You need to still be the mom...the person who cares about what they feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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Just tell her that her attitude is not nice. The more you yell etc the more they get points. Just tell her to go to her room if she's feeling like that. She can come out when she's pleasant to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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Maybe she's rolling her eyes b/c you are hard to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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What's that a photo of ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:46 PM Flag
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Trump f*cking his dd Ivanka in the ass. sitting on a statue with 2 parrots screwing. Palm Beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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From DJT: I moved on her and I failed. I’ll admit it,” Trump says. “I did try and fuck her. She was married. “And I moved on her very heavily... I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:47 PM Flag
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Oh no, a man tried to fuck a woman. Someone call the authorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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???? You're supporting sexual predators? Weird. Someone should report YOU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Had a job interview recently. Interviewer asked if I've ever cried after receiving negative feedback. Is this a strange question? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:26 PM Flag
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LOL, he/she probably had a crier and doesn't have time for these emotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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Very odd....what did you say? I would've asked whether there was inappropriate behavior going on with feedback? Wth?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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I said no (which is a lie...I have). His follow up question was, "but have you ever felt like you had to leave a place to collect yourself?" wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Omg.....that's so weird. Did interviewer provide any insight into the reasons he/she was asking this question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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Later on he mentioned that some employees have had issues with negative feedback. Without going into details, this is a very high stress field where this kind of stuff happens but is looked down upon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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Well you are explaining yourself why the interviewer asked then. If you dont like how he approaches it, dont take the job. They are basically admitting they apply the industry standard and possibly more enthusiastically than avg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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Or: I think crying is frowned upon everywhere. Sounds like you know what you're getting into and your response was fine. Still odd question though and I would research the co before accepting an offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:40 PM Flag
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Very odd....what did you say? I would've asked whether there was inappropriate behavior going on with feedback? Wth?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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Bizarre [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Jimmy Carter: ‘I would rather see all the players stand during’ anthem 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:26 PM Flag
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He's entitled to his opinion. He also would rather white police to stop shooting and killing unarmed black people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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The alt right Trump lovers only like to present the information most favorable to them. So that Trump is a god. He is perfect. He is wonderful. Every single ex-President like Jimmy Carter bows down to him and wants to join them in their parents' basements to light candles and worship the great god Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Ya gee willikers, no tunnel vision on any other side of the aisle. No sir. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Hey, I agree with you that Trump is god and all people like you believe it. You should thank me for it. Right after you pray to the god Trump with your new Jimmy Carter fan pals! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Dinner with relatives last night. One of the teen sons said he didn't want to live in the city cause he didn't want to be a minority. These are educated people..how do you raise someone with that attitude? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:26 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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OP's teen relative is afraid of minorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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This. We live in the city and he wouldn't even go into a Starbucks with us because there were black students having a meeting there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Well, I think we all would...but I admire that they are willing to be unpopular to make a point. How many unarmed African American men have been killed by cops, and then the cops get nothing more than a slap on the wrist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Oops, sorry, this was to the Jimmy Carter post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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Wait, is he a minority? Or he doesn't want to be near them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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Nope, white kid raised in a white burb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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bronxville? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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So if he's a white kid in a white suburb he WOULD be in the minority if they move to the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:36 PM Flag
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This post is very unclear. What ethnic group are these people? If they are WASPS, for example, this teen would probably be in the minority living in parts of the city. I don't have any idea what this means...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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Parents are racists regardless of their education. Plenty of educated bigots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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This isn't necessarily racist. I have a sister who lives in Ridgefield Ct because they prefer to be with other people who are like themselves (white, upper-middle-class). I wouldn't call her a "racist". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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Or: what would you call this, if not racist? Wanting to be around others like you doesn't mean that you don't want to be around minorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:46 PM Flag
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I agree. I was also raised in the burbs, and all white. I wouldn't ever think of saying I don't want to live somewhere cause I don't want to be around minorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think you are overreacting and being judgmental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:38 PM Flag
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NP. The teen son was just being “Based” it is a new thing among teens of all races and all economic classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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It means to tell the truth, eve if it offends the older generation. For example the average black man is 100 times as likely to rape a white woman as the average white man is to rape a black woman. It is based to cite that statistic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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Isn't that because white men are too busy stockpiling guns and committing mass murder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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It means women of all races are better off living in an Asian neighborhood than a black neighborhood. Asians commit less violent crime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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[ - ] Called a BFF who lives in another state. She's always swinging between elation and depression. Today, she told me she was in a "dark place" and she couldn't rely upon me to listen to her. She refuses to take medication, though she does see a therapist. Now I feel guilt stricken. I asked her I could do anything, and she said I couldn't do what she needed. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:23 PM Flag
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Ok, nothing you can do. Call her family and say Jane isn't taking her meds. My friend is the same--also in total denial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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Your job is to be a friend not a mental health professional. She has a therapist. Just be a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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OP here: So, I've done enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Thank you. I just don't feel qualified to manage this, though I did say that she should let me know what I can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] If my wife counts my drinks am I justified in counting her bags of chips? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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Sure. Sounds like a great marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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And you post on UB. What a catch. Sounds like a healthy marriage you have there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:23 PM Flag
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np: Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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My DH does this. I feel the same way -- he's always making himself bacon and he's not thin. I should count his strips of bacon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Crazy embarrassing question, but I have no where else to ask anonymously so here it goes. I’ve been seeing a guy for about eight months. Until about a month ago I would always hold my poops until I left his apartment . I finally felt confident in the relationship that I pooped in his apartment. He laughed that I had been so self-conscious, but asked why I never gave a courtesy flush. He says that everyone knows the proper procedure is poop flush wipe flush. He was actually kind of rude about. I’m a 29 year old woman with a masters degree and never in my life have I heard of the courtesy flush. My parents were were well educated people with I think exception manners, and my mother is one of the most graceful women I’ve ever met. I believe that if the courtesy flush is standard practice the woman who taught me how to set a table for a formal dinner party and how to properly respond to an RSVP would have passed to tidbit of knowledge to me. So is my boyfriend crazy, or have I made it 29 years on this earth as an educated solidly UMC woman without learning the proper flushing sequence for BMs. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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Wait, so is the wipe flush actually you wiping the bowl down so there's no residual poop stain in the toilet? Or does he mean two flushes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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wtf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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I'm 30 and kind of surprised you didn't know this. Nobody ever told me to do this explicitly, but it's common sense. I think you might lack a little bit of common sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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I'm 53 and never heard of this, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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It's not about "hearing" about it. It's obvious. You flush immediately after pooping so you don't stink up the bathroom, then you wipe and flush again. How is this not obvious to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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#first world problems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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There's nothing obvious about it. You sound like you live in a very narrow minded world. Best of luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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Read the responses below. You are clearly in the minority on this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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I have a high IQ, it sounds like her boyfriend does too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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Good lord you sound uptight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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lol, as if [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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Meh - I've heard of it but only in the context of public restrooms. Then again, I grew up in CA and got used to conserving water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Okay, I'm not saying this to be mean... you do sound a little uptight about BMs. I can understand why he laughed. My only issue is odor. I don't care that I could tell by looking at bowl that you pooped but if you leave a big stank, then it's a little gross but so human so I'd never hold it against anyone unless truly noxious and then I might suggest some diet changes. And btw, 'everyone' does not know his rule and there are many ways to do it. I personally leave some paper floating on top if I've left too much evidence of my activity in there. I generally poop at home so I don't worry too much about stinking up other's spaces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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Is he an asshole about other things? I would dump him (pun intended). As an adult, if he can't handle body functions w/o making you feel like a moron then it's a no-go. Deal breaker. Lots of life is gross, unpleasant and ugly. Who wants a partner like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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Did he want you to flush first because it smelled? I didn't know this either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:21 PM Flag
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Wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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Yes, you poop then when the poop hits the water you immediately flush, then you wipe yourself and flush. We haven't covered material left in the bowl after the second flush, as it hasn't been an issue. Yes, it is to eliminate odor, he says that is why it is called a "courtesy flush" b/c it is a courtesy to those who might smell it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:25 PM Flag
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I've been married a long time and DH has never said this to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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Same here! Wtf, like there's a national pooping protocol or something? lololol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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"In the end, unless we are in love with the smell of our lover's shit, we aren't in love at all" -Billy Collins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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He's a serial killer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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He should buy some poop spray for the bathroom if he's so concerned about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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This really should be a nonissue. I'm surprised you waited so long to poop in the mans house. You sound very insecure. Pooping is normal and we all do it. I would never risk a stomachache for a man. Are you OK? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:36 PM Flag
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^^^and yes I've heard about the courtesy flush. 8months into a relationship do you really need courtesy flush? Lol maybe I've been married too long or am not so uptight about these things but I would've been pooping in the mans house a long time ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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It is his contention this is not a new relationship thing, this is standard practice in all aspects of civilized society. The rudeness was that he questioned my upbringing because I didn't know this. He is from a very WASPy family, but claims when he got to college everyone he went to college with knew the proper flushing sequence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:42 PM Flag
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He sounds like a jerk and someone that will have you questioning your upbringing for your entire life. I would re-evaluate this relationship. I mean if the courtesy flush was such a big deal I can't imagine real life shit (pun intended) lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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He's just weird. Not everyone does this. It's fine if he asks you to do this, but he's being an asshole by insisting that it's standard in civilized society. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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Um, you sound deranged. Leave her alone ffs. And no, you don't need a "courtesy flush". Maybe most males should stop pissing on the floor when they pee or they should sit down like a toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:42 PM Flag
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This guy sounds like a HUGE asshole to me. Who says something like this? And no, I have never heard of the poop-flush-wipe rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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(it doesn't exist). OP is a fetisher that likes to talk about poop. Constantly comes here with nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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Actually, he is a great guy and treats me and everyone with a great deal of respect. I've never been with someone who is so courtesy to everyone we encounter from homeless people to service staff at restaurants and bars to billionaires. It is literally just this one thing. (and he organizes his clothes by color in his closet which is a little odd but endearing.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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yes. odd. Key word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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This is gonna go straight to MP! congrats :)... Fwiw now that you mention it I do recognize the phrase "courtesy flush" but I have never in my life done that, and def don't consider it part of standard etiquette. I think etiquette would suggest you let people do whatever the hell they want in the bathroom and don't discuss it later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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When men start wearing bibs around their d(cks so the floor doesn't have pee all over it, I'll worry bout a courtesy flush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I just put goose down pillows in the washing machine. Am I going to regret this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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Nope. I wash my down comforters 2x/year. Be sure to dry with tennis balls so down does not ball up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:14 PM Flag
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^And of course wash them with a watermelon in the washing machine - but you know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Any overeaters on? Why do you do it? How do you stop? Telling myself to put the fork down isn't doing it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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My dh was. He saw a therapist that put him on low dose depression meds. It stopped him from eating too much. Lost 70lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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What meds? I am on one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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wellbutrin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Make sure you get enough sleep. Lack of sleep causes your body to produce hunger hormone. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ and reduces hormone that indicates satiety [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Make a vision board. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Former overeater. Realized that I no longer wanted to be overweight n unhappy. I stopped binge eating n started working out. I am much happier now. The gym is my time now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Jimmy Carter: Voted for Bernie. Hopeful re: Trump foreign policy. Slams Obama bombing Yemen. Doesn't believe Trump-Russia fake news. Says he didn't enrich himself like Clintons. No issue with Confederate statues. Wants NFL to stand during anthem. Says MSM treat Trump unfairly. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:07 PM Flag
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That's what a true Democrat looks like in 2017 - they all voted for Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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No, he voted for Sanders. Keep up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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Right, but you get the idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Nope. Bernie bernie bernie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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Sanders didn't run in the general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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Don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Nice. He's a great American. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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That's ... a very biased interpretation of that piece. He didn't slam Obama anything - he said he thought it was unfortunate. He believes Russia interfered with the election but doesn't think votes changed. Roslynn Carter says "it's obvious that the Russians purloined the election from Hillary." and that Trump needs a shrink in the White House. This is not a pro-Trump interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:14 PM Flag
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I agree, Carter is based. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Fuck him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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Wow, that's a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] This may sound odd but I'm kind of freaked out. Last week I had a dream that DH was strangling me and only stopped because someone saw him and intervened. Then last night, I had a dream that DH sat on top of me and I couldn't breathe and was saying, "please stop." Do you put any weight on your dreams or usually brush them off? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:03 PM Flag
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How is your marriage? Anything off? If it's fine, then this is just a symbolic dream that you are feeling stifled by him. If anything else... get some help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:05 PM Flag
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op: arguing a lot lately over everything. By help, do you mean I should get therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:06 PM Flag
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No, I meant if you sense that he is a possible sociopath or harboring violent feelings. Sounds like your marriage is undergoing some stress. I personally have found that working on your own stuff is much better than marriage counseling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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They reflect your anxieties- those anxieties may be legit or not but they are there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:06 PM Flag
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op: good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:07 PM Flag
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No, dreams are about you. Your dh could represent "all men" Could be about a man at work who is crushing your employment ability etc. Don't take it literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:14 PM Flag
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Yes and no. I would guess your marriage has hit a rough patch. Do you feel like you have little control in your marriage, that your husband is controlling? Your dream is the very embodiment of being smothered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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op: yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Repost afternoon crowd: what would you want to pay for the following (Fairfield County, CT, not NYC). I left in previous responses. Thanks. »French tutor »$75 »$50/hr »Music/Piano teacher »$75 »$30/hr »Math tutor (all levels) »$90 »$50/hr 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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French tutor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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Music/Piano teacher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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I pay $60 and am okay with that rate (1 hour) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:04 PM Flag
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$60 for 45min at teacher's house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Would you pay more if teacher came to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:21 PM Flag
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That would be $80 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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We pay $80 for 45 min, teacher comes to us (NYC) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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$125 if really good, $60-90 if just okay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:04 PM Flag
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$75-90 is the most I would pay in that area [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:23 PM Flag
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Math tutor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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$125 if really good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:04 PM Flag
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Can you keep tomato sauce simmering on the stove all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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I only pay $15/hr for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] How is your child prepping for the SATs? Thanks! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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My oldest is in college and didn't prep at all. My youngest, a junior, took a practice test recently and is planning to maybe take one more practice test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:56 PM Flag
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Mine read Kaplan books and did practice SAT tests. My youngest decided not to go to any school that relied on standardized tests so she elected not to take them. Is doing great in college--Mostly A's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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What colleges are these ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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Google colleges that don't require standardized tests. There are at least 20 that don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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np--This includes Bowdoin, Bates and Wesleyan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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skidmore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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Which school did the youngest attend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:21 PM Flag
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Ds is not going to take the SAT, but if he was, he would do a bunch of practice tests from the College Board's SAT study guide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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taking the act? [ Reply | More ]
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khan academy, it is great and free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Sorting through old paperwork today and realize I have been divorced almost a decade. It was such a hard, painful decision at the time. To anyone in the dark part of that type of decision, GL as it really does get better with time. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting. I'm seriously considering filing now and feel very overwhelmed. Nervous about being on my own with DCs and sad that they won't have the childhood that I imagined for them with an intact family. How are your DCs doing now (if you have)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:56 PM Flag
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DCs are doing very well. The first year was the hardest. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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pp: thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] DH bails DS...if DS says he's too tired to fix his bed, DH does it. If DS can't finish his homework, DH does it for him. DH feels I push DS too hard, I think DH is enabling DS to be dependent for life. DS is 15. I don't want to be the Evil Mom, nor the Nagging Wife, but is there a peaceful resolution to this? Thanks! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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I agree with you, but isn't it a little late to be addressing this now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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I don't think it is ever too late. I would start small by encouraging DS to want to be independent by pointing out that he'll be on his own in 2 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:56 PM Flag
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They end up doing it their own way then. My ds never did the wash himself. Now he does his own on his own schedule. Not that big a deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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Sometimes helping a teen DC, or any family member, when they are really busy and stretched thin, is healthy and kind. As an example, if it is 10pm on a Sunday night and DC is trying to print off a paper and the printer runs out of paper I might offer to run down to Duane Reade to get some, so that DC can finish math homework (and for the record, I would expect teen DC to offer to do the same in a similar situation with roles reversed). But DH should not be doing DCs homework, not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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OP here: I don't disagree. 15 isn't 25, but 15 isn't 5 either. Any thoughts on how I can address this productively? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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Well, I would start by occasionally offering to do small, appropriate helpful things. It shows him you care, are supportive, etc. And paradoxically, I think that can lay the groundwork for less pushback and more normalcy around the things that you aren't going to be helping with (like doing his homework). Also, consider what is really important. If DS was up late doing homework, overslept his alarm, and is rushing to get out to school, I personally don't think getting on his case about making his bed makes sense - after all, if you were in the same situation, that is probably something you would let slide that one day too. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have any expectations for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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What are reasonable expectations at this age? My mom worked full-time, my dad did nothing, so from the age of 12 on, I did the housework and made dinners, and did my homework...all without any help, or even a thank you. I grew up to be a very competent adult. I see so many of my friends' kids who are 20 plus still expecting their parents to solve their problems for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:04 PM Flag
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I am a single parent and WOHM full-time. I do do a lot for my family, which includes two teen DCs. First and foremost, they are expected to be responsible for themselves, including full responsibility for schoolwork and sport(s) commitments. They also both have part-time jobs. At home, they are responsible for periodically cleaning their room but I let them do it on their schedule, unless there is some pressing need to have it done at a certain time. I also expect that they clean up after themselves if they cook and put away their laundry, which sometimes includes helping do it. I cook dinner, grocery shop, do major housecleaning, etc. which I am OK with, especially because between all of their commitments, it is not unusual for them to be busy from 6am wake-up to 10pm+ and like any person, they deserve a bit of down time here and there too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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OP here: I would like our son to be this way. How did you make this happen? My mother had no choice. At the time, I was resentful, but now I"m grateful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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Short answer is I role modeled it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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Okay, then I have to get DH on the same page. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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In our family it was the opposite. I don't honestly think kids need to worry about all this stuff we force. Mine are successful adults. I picked my battles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help me interpret my dream: I watched a small castle with lots of towers, big and small, that was build in the sea fall apart and sink. Nothing was left of it as the sea swallowed it. Any ideas what this means? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:51 PM Flag
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The seas is often a metaphor for women/birth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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Hendrix: 'and so castles made of sand fall into the sea, eventually...' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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castle: fantasy or privacy; ocean: your spiritual/psychological state [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.17, 04:07 PM Flag
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