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General Topics 07.02.15, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I would not be surprised if these cases of "black church arsons" are a hoax. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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One was caused by lightening [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Social Justice warriors invent fake crimes like this in order to extract money. Remember when social justice warriors invented the Duke Lacrosse hoax or the Tawana Brawley hoax or that crazy bullshit in Rolling Stone magazine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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I smell balls again. MRA troll, since you're around, could you help me buy some deodorant for my 12 yo son? he's starting to get BO and he doesn't like what my husband uses. Since your on a parenting board you can pull your weight and help out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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OP: exactly. I would bet money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Me too. Just ignore the snark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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Very often the members of these churches will set them on fire themselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What should I get for dinner at Panera? Not my choice 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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MMMMMM [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Never understood the fuss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Broccoli cheese soup! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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the baked potato soup, and there used to be a turkey artichoke sandwich that was good, might still have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Pick 2. French onion soup and Cobb Salad with chicken. Dressing on the side. Yum. [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't be happy about it either, but the chicken cobb salad is pretty good if you like meal-salads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is Emily. Bil and SIL just named baby Emma Leigh. Weird? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Who cares. I honestly don't understand why people get so upset about these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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Not really. There are two important women in my family, and nearly all of the girls in my generation use at least one of their names in some form, as a means of respect. [ Reply | More ]
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Nah. [ Reply | More ]
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Not weird until his other brother names his kid Emmy Lee [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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or Tommy Lee [ Reply | More ]
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Emile Ee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Yes, it's weird, but not in a negative way. They may have had the name in mind for years and were not necessarily riffing on their niece's name. My brother and his wife gave their daughter our grandmother's name as a middle name and we did the same years earlier with our own daughter. I didn't mind and I didn't think they were copying me since that's a very common practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Dear anthropologistmom@gmail.com: Why do you not use a .edu email address? If you didn't want to use your real name, but you wanted to recruit on UB, your university would give you a temporary .edu email address that didn't include your name. I want to talk to you, but I would like these questions answered first if you don't mind. Thanks. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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WHY would she want her university to know? Come on. Universities are politically correct and her discussion with you may not be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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op: Why would she want her university to know? Because she says she's running a study and has IRB approval. If that's the case, I don't see why they wouldn't give her a temporary .edu email address to conduct the study. I would be fine with giving her information using my fake email, but she says she can't use it unless it's my real email/real name. Sure I could lie and still use a fake name and she would never know, but in the interest of science and honesty, I wouldn't want to do that. But if I'm going to give her my real name, then I want assurance she won't out my real name on UB, and the only way to have that assurance is to know that her study is in fact real and she would thus be penalized for outing anyone and breaking the rules of confidentiality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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Athro mom is a nutter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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op: elaborate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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np: she is unlikely to be a real anthropologist in the normal sense, i.e., university-affiliated and active in research. My guess is she studied it in college, works in a completely different field, but still wishes she had pursued an academic career in anthro, and so lives out a fantasy alternative life on UB. Don't engage her, she's no more an anthropologist than I am a ballerina - NASA mom posting from Jupiter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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there are several. I pretended to be anthro mom as a joke and like six nut jobs got pissed off and said they were "her". [ Reply | More ]
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FYI I talked with anthro mom like a year ago. It's no big deal. She did not "out" me on UB. And yes, it's IRB approved. I signed the consent form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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op: You used your real name? I don't really get why we can't use fake names if our information is otherwise still valid to the field of anthropology. If the names will be changed anyway when she writes about us, then why does it matter if the name we tell her is fake? I feel like people would be more honest and open if they were allowed to use fake names. If I use my real name, then I'm going to be less likely to tell her more personal details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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op: which is sort of the whole beauty of UB. freedom to be completely honest without having our names attached. If she wants to study that phenomena with primary source interviews then taking away the fundamental trait that makes UB unique doesn't seem to lend itself to as accurate a representation of the demographic and the overall UB philosophy. But maybe she would prefer not to but her university requires it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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pp. If you have an issue then don't do it. Why are you so hung up on it?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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op: idk why you view my straightforward question as being "hung up on it". I would like to participate in the study, but I would like this simple question answered first. Unless there is nefarious activity going on, it doesn't seem like that difficult of a question. Also, anthropologist mom personally asked me to email her in a thread I posted earlier today and just checked back on, so I'm posting again now to see if she is here and can answer me. I did sort of leave her hanging after our original email exchange, and I feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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You realize that there are several of these "anthro moms" right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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op: I doubt it. Her writing style and stance on issues seems pretty consistent to me. As do her areas of interest. I notice she posts her email when certain themes come up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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I think you have to study it a little more carefully. Many academic anthropologists have an agenda and will twist the data to serve their agenda [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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What sort of agenda? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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op: +1. What sort of agenda do you think anthropologists have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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She is writing some bullshit article on the mating habits of Tribeca vs the mating habits of Greenpoint [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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NP, I am married and live in Manhattan, so I am somewhat out of the loop on this, but my younger sister and her friends all live in Greenpoint and things are different there. The guys there have no money and really expect booty calls, not dates. I mean these guys will not spend a penny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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That anthro moms are fugly and their dh's don't make much money. Like the fake anthro Wednesday whoever who likes to make other women feel bad. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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YOU ARE RIGHT. SPOT ON [ Reply | More ]
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How is antropology even relevant to NYC? Shouldn't she be studying cannibals in the jungle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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you're never taken an anthropology class have you. You clearly don't know what anthropology is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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She is a fake poster and she's trying to write a book like that stupid Wednesday woman. Women are always "anthropologists" and sociologists because they don't know what else to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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This. Even if she were "writing her thesis", it would be done by now. I'm guessing she's a bored SAHM (who may actually have an Anthro degree) and is half-heartedly thinking of writing a book, but the Primates of Park Ave came out ahead of time. Or maybe Anthro Mom IS Wednesday Martin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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op: I don't think so. I read Wednesday's NYT article, and her writing style and general IQ seemed far inferior to what I've seen anthromom write on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Wait a minute, Wedensday read UB and used the material here for a TV show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Oh geez. I'm not fake. I created the fake email so people would feel more comfortable talking to me. I outed myself at least a year ago. My name is Susan Tratner. I have IRB approval from my school SUNY Empire State College, and I'll happily talk to anyone who wants to on my email there susan.tratner@esc.edu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o would you sign a prenup? If your bf came from family money and would not consider marriage without a prenup, what would be your reaction? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Depends what the pre-nup said. The family money and any inheritance is separate property anyway so you're not giving up anything by confirming this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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does s/o stand for SHOUT OUT or does it stand for SPIN OFF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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She's asking Suze Orman if she should sign a pre-nup. [ Reply | More ]
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np: spin off [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. It's a spin-off from the meal and prenup thread. [ Reply | More ]
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typo, I meant NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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I would certainly sign the prenup because even if we divorce, the child support payments will be huge and thus my lifestyle will still be ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Is that true if he has a low (or no) income, but lives in the family manse and all bills are paid by mom and dad? So he does not have any money is his own name. [ Reply | More ]
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You should negotiate for that to be the case. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I think a guy with massive family wealth will be compelled by the judge to give child support even if he does not work [ Reply | More ]
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OP, are you Asian? I only ask because I have noticed my Asian friends being more willing to sign a pre nup than my white friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Sure [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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I mean, sure, I would sign, no problem [ Reply | More ]
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If you are really sure of him. [ Reply | More ]
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My niece is engaged, and they are planning on a prenup. While his family has more than hers, I suspect they spend more. [ Reply | More ]
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Precedent is that a rich guy clearly has to pay serious money in child support http://www.cnbc.com/id/102384854 [ Reply | More ]
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It depends on the circumstances, but family money is a circumstance under which I would sign a pre-nup. [ Reply | More ]
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I would sign it but retain my own legal counsel to make sure I wasn't left with nothing [ Reply | More ]
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Not valid otherwise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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In order for a prenup to be valid, the party signing it has to have access to competent counsel at a reasonable time before the marriage occurs. Not uncommon for the rich party to pay the costs of the fiance's lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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I would sign it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] If you don't want to pay for a date, be treated as one of the many, and have a date be simply a pre- cursor for sex, then start dating better guys. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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STOP [ Reply | More ]
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Why the hell is this relevant to UB? This is not a dating web site [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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Why so many posts about this today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Who do you think is the most "criminal" character in OITHNB? With rare exception (like V from last season) I feel like the backstories often lead one to conclude that these are not bad people, but people who have complex needs and have made (sometimes very isolated) mistakes. (Maybe that's hinted at in the show's name; things are NOT black and white?) I think that Daya's mother though seems so selfish and manipulate though she really deserves the punishment she has gotten. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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This is one of the things I like the best about the show [ Reply | More ]
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I am still working on the tail end of Season 1, but I want to know whether it's my imagination or has "Crazy Eyes" become more normal than she was portrayed right in the beginning? I still haven't come to the episode that explains her past, but what's the deal with her white parents (or are they her parents--I have no idea) and her references to literature? Is she supposed to be really well educated but just a little/lot of nuts? This may be revealed in Season 2, just wondering. [ Reply | More ]
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I was trying to remember if they ever showed why she is in jail. I remember the backstory, but not if we ever found out what put her in jail. [ Reply | More ]
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i think you're right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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You find out a lot about Crazy Eyes in Season 2. By season 3 she is definitely more normal/rational than in season 1, but they don't talk about it much. I don't want to say anything else that might be a spoiler. That actress was nominated for a golden globe for playing that role! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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OK. I'll keep on watching. I love that actress! She does an amazing job. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with you about Daya's mom. Terrible mother [ Reply | More ]
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+1 and Vee. That's all I can think of. [ Reply | More ]
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A great many people wind up incarcerated as a result of bad mistakes, Sugar. [ Reply | More ]
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Hi, IM! [ Reply | More ]
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Hey Sugar. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure they do. Although I think many are criminals, too. [ Reply | More ]
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What's your opinion of the Chinese woman's crime? That was pretty brutal, and pre-meditated, and while influenced by her circumstances, certainly not a result of them! [ Reply | More ]
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Think of Morello as well. Sending strangers to beat up Christopher in a home invasion. She's dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
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That's true. I wonder if she's mentally ill? It would be an interesting development to find out she's just a psychopath! [ Reply | More ]
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I think we've seen that she is a pathological liar [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think Norma (the mute) intended the consequence of her action? [ Reply | More ]
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I think they are playing the long game with Lolly. She's either crazy like a fox or just crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Didn't Jennifer Garner beat the shit out of her husband he appeared with a black eye 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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people thought it was because he was cheating on her but it turned out that he was not cheating but he was gambling hundreds of thousands of dollars and she found out [ Reply | More ]
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Ben is such a loser. [ Reply | More ]
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it was both. he was for sure cheating. [ Reply | More ]
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Blind items say he got Rosamund Pike pregnant while married to JG. She claimed the baby was her significant other's, but rumors say it is Ben's. It will be interesting to see how that turns out. [ Reply | More ]
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I see NO evidence at all that Ben had sex with Rosamund. Can you post a link?> [ Reply | More ]
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Does Jennifer Garner still spend the summers in East Hampton? Will she leave Ben in Brentwood this year [ Reply | More ]
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I bet the black eye came from someone else's angry husband...or maybe from a bouncer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Good question - [ Reply | More ]
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This. She is tiny and weighs 100 pounds. How could she land one one a much larger Ben? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if Matt is anything like Ben in private. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Doubt it. Ben is just a stripper-loving type of guy. [ Reply | More ]
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I remember Ben going through rehab, not really because he had a problem I think, just a lack of self-control, and he wanted to make a show of cleaning up his act without really changing his behavior. Matt seems like a really decent guy. [ Reply | More ]
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Matt Damon beat up a retarded kid on his school bus when he was a kid. He is just a bad kid. Now he has a special needs kid of his own. How do you like THEM apples, Good Will Hunting? Now you know how that family felt. [ Reply | More ]
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Really? Have never heard this. What's your source? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the best way to find a great nanny? Agencies (which ones?) Websites (which ones?) Word of mouth has not been very successful. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
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Kinderarten & 4th. [ Reply | More ]
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post a sign at their school [ Reply | More ]
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and check their references carefully [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I tell my sons, if they want to have their pick of women, they should go into the most lucrative fields possible. And of course, I teach them how to be gentlemanly. I feel like most people on Ub are raising poor, whiny slobs. And future MRA trolls. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You can't really judge that based on anonymous posts. Most of the people here with extreme opinions repeated often and loud are just trolls. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with you completely. My sons know to get a good education and have a secure steady high paying job and also know to be very careful with the money I put in their trust fund. They will both marry traditional girls, not the snarky loudmouth pushy types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Plus one, thank you OP!! [ Reply | More ]
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good god UB sucks today [ Reply | More ]
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Op. If they want to marry a loudmouth, it's none of my business, but my point is they will be more appealing to women overall if they make a good living. This will bode well for their dating and marriage lives. [ Reply | More ]
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I totally agree with you. For example, my brother became a Pediatrician and by the standards of Manhattan he earns very little and no women will date him. But if he moves to flyover, pediatricians are considered a good catch and he will find dates. The whole point is make a good living by the standards of the place you live in [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Exactly. If my son goes to med school, I will encourage surgery, radiology, dermatology, or anesthesiology. If he wants to work with kids, he can do pediatric surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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I like you a lot and I respect you, however if my son just wants to be a GP or family doctor I will be ok with it. In most of America you can have a nice life as a GP or family doctor. [ Reply | More ]
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are you Mormon? Because many of the Mormons I know do not push their kids to become medical specialists... is it a Mormon thing? [ Reply | More ]
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by the time he is in medical school, you really shouldn't be voicing opinions about his career. [ Reply | More ]
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OK [ Reply | More ]
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Troll, I hope [ Reply | More ]
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And traditional translates to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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There's no guarantee of anything. Look at Angelina Jolie, one of the most desired women. You never know. You should be teaching them how to handle the good and bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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what does that even mean [ Reply | More ]
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No idea [ Reply | More ]
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Why is that relevant [ Reply | More ]
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If a devout Mormon has a bunch of kids and the kids move to Salt Lake City there is a high chance they will leave the religion, take drugs, or marry someone not Mormon. On the other hand, if the kids grow up in Provo or St George chances are they will stay within the faith. So Mormons are ok with the son being a GP and living in some city in Southern Utah. Basically Northern Utah is more mixed but Southern Utah is nearly 100% faithful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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Stop reposting this utter bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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How is that even relevant in the age of Tinder? Isn't the male female ratio in favor of the guys so if the guys just do tinder and never do a real date they can get plenty of girls anyway? With Tinder and the right ratio no man has to pay $$$$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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No, grandma [ Reply | More ]
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I think the 2nd sentence is more important than the first. To me "class" (for lack of a better term) means more than money. Big Law and hedge fund guys are a dime a dozen in this city; I'd rather have a guy maybe who earns slightly less but who is on the same page with me in terms of values. For example, philanthropy and volunteering are very important to me, as are the arts and education. He doesn't have to be interested in all of those things- I'm sure I don't hit everything on any guy's checklist either- but since I earn decent money myself, I don't need a man who is just a vacuous money-earner. In any case, it sounds like your sons will have no problem finding good women! [ Reply | More ]
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Ouch. It's the money-earners who are being hit up time and time again by the Met Museum, Lincoln Center and every non-profit that can sink their teeth into them. The arts would be pretty-much nonexistent with the "vacuous" money earners you reverse snob. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you misunderstood what I'm saying. I'm not saying money high-earners are vacuous. I'm saying that making a lot of money does not, in and of itself, make you interested in philanthropy and the arts et al. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Of course not. Neither does not making much money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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All I teach my sons is to be respectful of everyone, have good manners etc. I want my sons to be comfortable financially for their own sake. If anything I tell them not to marry a woman who is lazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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This is smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD is 23 months old. She is very smart, learns very fast but SO HYPER. In every class she takes she has a hard time focusing. Runs around incessantly. I feel like she doesn't know how to walk, she can only run. I understand toddlers can be hyper but compared to other kids her age she is EXTRA hyper. Sometimes I wonder if something is wrong with her?? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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Switch to decaf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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oh god did you see that scene in OITNB where the woman gives her dd mountain dew so she can get sn money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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No. And now I have the sads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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oh, spoiler alert. sorry. (it's just one scene, near the beginning, so not too much harm done i hope) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Not sad about the spoiler (I don't watch the show), but sad that someone would do that to their child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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Yes, it is very sad. The show is pretty OTT, but I imagine it's drawn from experiences the writers have witnessed or heard about. Mother-daughter dynamics are a subtext this season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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With my ds I tell him this is a walking/running place. Grass fields in Central Park/sports class are running places. Library, museum and music class are walking places. If he's running and should not be, I suggest he March, stomp like an elephant or tiptoe like a mouse. Sometimes this helps. He's almost three now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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^also treat like a dog...needs a walk/run 2x a day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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+1 Also, she's 23 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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LOL I had 2 like this and thisnis what I did, it worked! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Ha! I'll try that for sure! Thanks! Can't imagine having 2 like this. We're thinking of trying for #2 but I seriously hope DC #2 will be less active. At least a tiny bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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that's a creative solution! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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She's not even two years old. She's not mature enough for classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Aren't some of the kids in the ones class still 12 months or so? Normal to start running soon after learning how to walk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Like someone told another mom with a similar issue, you may have a future athlete [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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Might be a good idea. I don't know where she gets all of that energy from. I'm not like that myself. DD really enjoys classes that have lots of physical activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is it so hard for some people to be civil? My boss is so curt, then acts nice again, and so on. I don't know if he is going to fire me the next day or generally happy with my work. Don't dare to ask him either. Need to stay until the end of the year. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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People who use alcohol and caffeine get snippy in between doses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Do we have the same boss? Who switches gender when he gets to my office? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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I'm like that. When I am in the middle of really interesting work or on a deadline, I forget to take a moment to be polite, and then when things slow down, I remember to take the time to say hello, how are you, yada blah. It's just not natural for me to be nice at work; I just want to focus on work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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OP. This is extremely dismissive of anything I say or do and then, without any warning he gets nice again. I am not cut out for this kind ofeadership style and will leave sooner rather than later. It's a shame though because I amearnig a lot here and am getting interesting work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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Some people are terrible managers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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^^^ he is extremely dismissive... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O: I get why people don't want shoes on in their hose, but what's the rationale behind "no bare feet"? That just sounds like a somewhat crazy control issue. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Do you mean as a guest? Or why would a host ask for no bare feet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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^ I just saw the MP. I bet it is some fear about fungus. she wants only what she can control on her floors = socks that she provided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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that's not a convincing testimony to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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Because the neighbor kids come in with filthy bare feet. The dog owners let their dogs poop in the playgrounds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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this i honestly do not believe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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Which playgrounds do your kids play in? Because the ones mine play in are filthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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I don't let my kids go barefoot in public playgrounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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My son has allergies and traces of allergens can come in on bare feet. Especially if you were wearing flip flops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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OP - ok, so athlete's foot, etc. are contagious via floors, but really, how many guests would you need to have to worry about it? Still sounds wacky to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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It's absolutely a control issue. She sounds like the type who would require her nanny to wear a uniform. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Please suggest YA summer reading for my dd. Some of the her most recent reads: Divergent series, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, My Sister's Keeper, and Fault in Our Stars/ other John Green. I'm trying to get her away from stories where someone dies. Thanks. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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MY DD loves the same books as yours. She also loves the Hunger Games series and the Maze Runner series - although people die like flies in both. I am just happy that my DD finally reads because she enjoys it - even if her genre seems to be post-apocalyptic distopian worlds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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It's better in the ones where everyone days as opposed to a main character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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^dies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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Are You There, God? It's Me, Margaret followed by http://xkcd.com/1544/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Yep, read it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Percy Jackson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Thanks, I can recite these - due the audiobooks on youtube played 23 hours a day in my home over in few past years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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If she's old enough to read YA books, she is old enough to go to the library and pick out her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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She's 10, and she is picking out some. We buy, never borrow, b/c the kids always lose the library books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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She's 10, and she is picking out some. We buy, never borrow, b/c the kids always lose the library books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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Always? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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Wtf? People get recommendations for books all the time. Don't be an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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Shut up. Just because you choose not to expose your child to good lit doesn't mean the world has to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Tuesdays with morrie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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The Giver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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NP Many of the books suggested above, e.g., the Maze Runner and the Giver, aren't particularly good prose. A bright 10-year old should be able to get through David Copperfield, Little Women, Black Beauty and Jules Verne. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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The unraveling of Mara dyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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*unbecoming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Mortal instruments. Dd and I also liked the prequel series, infernal devices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Jane Eyre, Wuthering heights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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The lion the witch and the wardrobe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Swiss family Robinson, black beauty, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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Throw in a couple biography -historical women - I gobbled those up at that age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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I also go to school websites and check out their reading lists for ideas on the newer stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Wife of fat DH here with a weekly update. He was at 180.9 last week, and today he weighed in at 180.4. A small half-pound drop, but even if things continue at this pace, he'll finally breech the sub-180 mark by next week. Should be exciting! He's looking fitter, and waist measurement is down a bit, so there may be some muscle weight being added. To recap, he started on March 10 at 5'8" and 205.6lbs. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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I do not like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Did he get any taller? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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If he gets rid of you, he will instantly lose 120lbs of dead weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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You're cruel. Don't be surprised if he leaves you when he hits 150. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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150? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Are you going down on him every time he loses a pound? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Worst poster ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Wow. You do realize once he drops the weight he's going to dump you too, right? Karma is a b [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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are you fat too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] When the Supreme Court decides a case, do they deliberate among themselves and perhaps persuade one another, or does each justice decide independently, and then they count up votes to see which side won? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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Hey I learned something today. So they all get to state their views and opinions before the other members of the court, but no interruptions or discussions before they cast their votes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Thank you. I wasn't sure how to phrase the question for google. So, it sounds like they each state an opinion for the others to hear, but they don't truly discuss or debate. Is that your take on it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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Sounds like it to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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That was very informative reading! thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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NP - Thank you! I like to learn a little something I did not know about the US on these patriotic holidays and this is it for this Independence Day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Interesting question. I'm going to take a guess and say the latter. They are not a jury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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they do conference and discuss cases, and some do a little individual advocacy as well. Justice Brennan was famous for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Thanks. I had no idea. Can two justices conference and discuss outside of the presence of all the other justices? As in lobbying other justices to alter an opinion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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i'm pretty sure some of them do, or at least have. and they also discuss with their clerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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cool thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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If you are really interested in this read "The Nine" by Jeffrey Toobin. http://www.amazon.com/The-Nine-Inside-Secret-Supreme/dp/1400096790 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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+1 read this and it's a great book [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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oh thanks for the recommendation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are real single girls on here and not MRA trolls, who are these dreadful men you're dating? Guys who insist on splitting checks on first dates, guys who expect sex for paying for dates? I'm in my 20s and while, granted, I rarely date other 20-somethings, I have never had these things occur. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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You are lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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No, you are dating some real nuts. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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NP, I am married and live in Manhattan, so I am somewhat out of the loop on this, but my younger sister and her friends all live in Greenpoint and things are different there. The guys there have no money and really expect booty calls, not dates. I mean these guys will not spend a penny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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That sounds awful to me. Though I try not to take UB terribly seriously, the one thing I believe entirely is that dating only gets harder as you get older. No way am I wasting these years on guys who just want friends with benefits or booty calls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Isn't the male female ratio in favor of the guys so if the guys just do tinder and never do a real date they can get plenty of girls anyway? With Tinder and the right ratio no man has to pay $$$$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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Yes, exactly. So the trick is meeting men who aren't looking for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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Same thing happens in South Korea. Basically, when children grow up in the suburbs of Seoul, all the females move to central Seoul by the time they are 21 and most males stay living as single guys in the suburbs So the result is a massive imbalance. In Central Seoul the ratio of single females to single males is two to one, with a corresponding shortage of females in the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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Why do the girls move to the city center and the boys stay in the suburbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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NP: Boys stay in mom's house. Girl's can't wait to get away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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There's some of that here. Guys get Mom to make meals and do their laundry. Girls are more often expected to help around the house plus parents are more unhappy if it's their daughter who goes out on a date and doesn't come home until the following afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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This is very perceptive. Very very perceptive. In general, Asian twentysomething boys that live with mom and dad have a great lifestyle and Asian twentysomething girls that live with mom and dad have a shit lifestyle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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And that is why the Asian population is shrinking. Girls don't want to put up with that sexist bs (marry man, have kids, take care of kids, take care of husband, take care of husband's parents, take care of adult son). Who would sign up for that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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I have to agree with you. East Asians have the lowest birthrate in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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In places like Scandanavia where the women are empowered, and where women can avoid serving men, the women want to have a lot of kids. Compare the super high birthrate of liberated empowered white women in Scandanavia to the super duper low birthrate of Asian women in Singapore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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And the men who run these Asian countries can't get it through their heads that equality = birthrate. They wring their hands about the greying of their countries, but cannot understand the "magic" behind making it easier to have kids AND a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I agree completely. All they have to do is empower women and they will see the birthrate jump up, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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But they just can't pull the trigger, because they have benefited so greatly from having a traditional/subservient wife. What if they had to wash their own dishes now? Or change diapers? THE HORROR!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Scandanavian birth rates are lower than in the U.S. An important part of the reason that east Asian birth rates are so low is that housing is very small and expensive. Places like HK, Singapore, and Macau need to be compared to NYC and SF, in which case the fertility rates look almost the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Absolutely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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This isn't the worst of it. I had two guys tell me I was ugly last year. One on a first date and one on the 8th date. I've been raped twice. Paying for a date is the least of my problems, although it isn't a big issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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American men are not very charming at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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I posted a few times about the guy I was obsessed with. He's European. Maybe that's it. He's from Scandinavia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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That's terrible, I'm sorry. I'm not saying this to be snarky, but are you seeing a therapist? I was raped in high school and it messed me up for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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I did see two after the second rape. They both said I was doing well and didn't need therapy any more. I basically just pester UB with my issues and a close relative. I am doing ok. I do struggle with intimacy though. Any time I have sex that is enjoyable, the guy never wants to see me again. I just want to tell them I'm inexperienced and ask them to practice. But I don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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Is this SK? This is BK - we emailed like, a year ago and then I think I migt have forgotten to answer your last email and things died out. But if you can find my email, feel free to reach out to me again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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I think it is all the media's fault. The media has told Asian girls that Asian boys are skinny and geeky. Asian girls that are able to get a white husband will indeed agree to have two children, but Asian girls who can't get whites will either stay single and childless or marry an Asian guy and have just one kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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You can see it in this very popular cartoon strip from Asia. The Asian females laugh at and disparage the single Asian men around them but immediately fall in love with the one white male within their grasp. http://www.charismaman.com/CMweb_2.98.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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A date who behaves like that becomes a boyfriend who behaves like that becomes a husband who behaves like that becomes a father of your kids who behaves like that becomes an ex-dh who behaves like that. No thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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