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[ - ] I hate Jessica Williams on the Daily Show. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Wall Street Journal has a big article about the masive benefits that working families in Arizona got when Arizona kicked out all the illegals. Kickimg out illegals helps workers, black, white, Hispanic. If you work, you benefit . 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Duh. [ Reply | More ]
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I hate arguments made by pro-illegals that there was some hurt to the economy as migrants returned to Mexico. So what? Very few countries have open borders in the name of economic growth. [ Reply | More ]
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Black teens in arizona who were unable to graduate from high school used to get Prison. Now that the illegals are gone, employers hire these black teens so black teenss get jobs not prison [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just read about Tory Burch. Wow quintessential TT mom. Gorgeous to boot. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Hi Tory [ Reply | More ]
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Haha no I knew someone would say that. She doesn't have time for this I'm sure. [ Reply | More ]
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Those people are all connected, they all blow smoke up each other's asses and write about their friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Definitely agree but still, she's so accomplished. Fashion has to be one of the hardest industries to make it in. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh I hate those smelly flats. Basic. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you serious? She married a rich fashion guy, got bored, made him bankroll her company and get her connections, then divorced him and took his money to build her brand. Hardly a story about a hard working woman making it in the world. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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She actually makes a cute couple with lance Armstrong or Lyor. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think it is true that parents who did not attend Ivies are obsessed with sending their kids to ivies. Those of who attended ivies sort of don't care if their kids do or not. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The most obsessed people I know went to Harvard, so no. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 but another Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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hmm. My DH is obsessed with his daughter from his marriage going Ivy (the mom did). I am scared about my kids, who may not have her academic performance or legacy status. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^from his first marriage. [ Reply | More ]
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DH and I did not attend an ivy. Not obsessed at all with dcs going to an ivy. I don't know too many people IRL who are, actually. Seems like the race to get there is all consuming. Don't want that for dcs. NYC public middle school mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Np some are obsessed some not. I dont see a connection [ Reply | More ]
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I did not attend an ivy and could not give a flying fig whether my kids go to an ivy. It is so far down on the priority list in terms of my hopes for them [ Reply | More ]
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It is a social class thing [ Reply | More ]
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What are you implying? [ Reply | More ]
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Same. I know there is prestige attached to it, but I've known so many great and successful people over the years who didn't go to ivies. I just want DD to make the right decsions for her education path so that she can support herself and be happy and successful in adult life. [ Reply | More ]
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I attended an Ivy but if dc wants to go elsewhere, fine. I think people everywhere are obsessed with where their kids go to college. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you mean: "Are the people who are obsessed with sending their kids to ivies more likely to be ivy grads themselves or not?" [ Reply | More ]
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We both went to Ivies. Don't care if kids go Ivy, but would like them to go to good schools. Simply gives more options and possibilities. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably. I never went to college but I clearly see the difference between those who went to an ivy and those who didn't. Ivy leaguers are more successful, if not happier. Why wouldn't I want that for my DC? [ Reply | More ]
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You're kidding or you don't know very many people. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's the opposite. The ones who didn't attend Ivies know for a fact it's not a big deal, and the ones who went Ivy have it in the back of their heads that their kids have to do at least as well as they did, or it's a step down. [ Reply | More ]
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Opposite. [ Reply | More ]
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I find the HYP/Ivy focus to be a very UB phenomenon. I went to a TT SS followed by boarding school, and neither my classmates at the time nor my adult friends from that era now had/have such tunnel vision. There were a whole range of schools that people liked and aimed for - the Ivies plus Stanford, Chicago. Northwestern, Georgetown, Duke, Vanderbilt, UVA, Middlebury, Colgate, Colby, Amherst, Williams, Rice, UCLA, UNC, etc. All great schools. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Please recommend a natural skin care line, moderately priced - not super expensive but doesn't need to be super cheap either. Origins/Fresh/Lush? others? Need good cleansers and moisturizers but don't want chemicals 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don't know if it's natural but I love Kate Somerville [ Reply | More ]
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Paula's Choice. Has everything you asked for. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am stressed. St. B or EC? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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St. B's if your son can handle the academics. [ Reply | More ]
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aren't they complete opposite sides of educational philosophy? surely you have a gut feeling which is better for your family. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Am I crazy to consider private school with a HHI of 200 - we did get 50% FA (we have another DS as well but he would do fine in public - my first DS really would benefit from a smaller more nurturing setting.) We rent and have a small savings but no other real assets or family help. For those of you who have done this, how has it worked out? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Bad. All the moms I know who do this feel laughed at and excluded becsuse other moms have more money [ Reply | More ]
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And sometimes the kids are happy. Kids do not notice money but it is bitchy and snarky among the moms [ Reply | More ]
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Np, all of my DDs friends spend the summer in East Hampton. She is so sad that we can not afford it [ Reply | More ]
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is it really like that? We are not in preschool yet, going next year and can afford the hamptons but we don't care to go for the whole summer. Also go to jersey shore and other places [ Reply | More ]
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if you think he would benefit, go for it. You can always move him to public if you feel it is not worth it, but it's harder to do move from public to private later [ Reply | More ]
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How can you afford private with even 50 percent aid? You dont own a home and have no savings. Get a grip [ Reply | More ]
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Small savings? So what are you going to be able to save yearly after you pay half for private school? I would worry less about what other parents will think of me and more about my own finances. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is exactly what I am worried about. I have good retirement from work but we could save very little each year ( ut we are spending the same amount -actually more - on a nanny - so I know we could afford the day to day - but its the ability to save for the future that has me wooried. Also this is a u ique private where there are many other families si.ilar to us. (Not TT obviously). [ Reply | More ]
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we are doing it. but at a school that very, very, very far off the UB radar, and that is very economically (and otherwise) diverse. it's been a fantastic experience (and we started in public so can see the difference). [ Reply | More ]
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Define small savings. Do you have other debt? What is your rent? I wouldn't care about the other mothers but I would care about my financial security. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. You are still responsible for $25k which is a HUGE amount on your HHI. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] PSAT question: Anyone with high school or college kids? DC never prepped or had a tutor ever scored in top 97% on PSAT. One wrong in English, one wrong in science. Not so great in Math (86%ile). With some prep in math, what is the reasonable increase in score dc might expect between now and junior year? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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13 yo, 10th grader. [ Reply | More ]
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I know this is off topic, but how do you have a 13yo in 10th grade? [ Reply | More ]
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Old mom here. Maybe things have changed, but why would DC take the PSAT again in junior year? Isn't that when they take the SAT? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's been the toughest part of growing up and accepting adult responsibility for you? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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the non stop cleaning [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. Also non stop grocery shopping. Other than that, it's great. [ Reply | More ]
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Ha. You have to limit yourself to two preplanned fresh direct orders a week. Otherwise you overspend on impulse purchases and are spending too much time at the store [ Reply | More ]
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Except I don't cook that way. I'm a fresh produce person who likes to pick my own food and somewhat of a food snob. But I see your point. [ Reply | More ]
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Fresh direct has pretty nice produce and if you are ever not happy the issue a refund. Most produce will last at least two days. What sorts of things are you buying? I will only make a special trip to buy seafood for that day [ Reply | More ]
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
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This. It's insane and never-ending. [ Reply | More ]
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Not having anyone stop you from eating cake for breakfast (or cheese and crackers for dinner...) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Please describe ub in one or two sentences. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Bitch war [ Reply | More ]
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stupid fun [ Reply | More ]
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People looking for affirmation. [ Reply | More ]
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water cooler masquerade [ Reply | More ]
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half lies and half truths among the same 25 -30 people [ Reply | More ]
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Fight Club [ Reply | More ]
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my best friends. Can tell you guys anything (with a few edits) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thoughts on this dress? Accessory suggestions? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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Pretty unless you're planning to wear it to someone else's wedding. I would do a gold choker and gold shoes. [ Reply | More ]
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lol. I am a bridesmaid in a wedding where the bride wants us in white. She approved it. I was so relieved to find out she PREFERRED us to have a sleeve. I found it on sale for $250, so think I'll buy and resell, just wondering if ANYONE else finds it pretty so I could possibly resell it. And thanks for accessory suggestions. Will be summer wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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That works! But I just noticed it has a low back, so think about the bra situation. Could be annoying. Why not just rent it? Easier than buying and reselling. [ Reply | More ]
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Rental is $192 + some random fees. That's for 8 days, my trip for the wedding (in europe) is going to be more than ten days. So shipping it to/from europe will probably cover the difference in purchasing. The dress was $238 + Tax. Even if I get $100 for it or am able to one day donate it to a bride who is having a simple service, I will be happy. [ Reply | More ]
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It's so short, you may only be able to sell it to very petite women. I hope it's a size 0 for a tiny bride. [ Reply | More ]
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Size 2 [ Reply | More ]
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It's fine. It won't be that short on you at your height. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
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How old. This is appropriate for someone very young. [ Reply | More ]
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haha +1 and I'm 34. It's very short. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't mind short in general, but the cut with that higher waist is very young. Unless she is young with great body, it will look like she tried to get into her teenage sister's dress. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm pretty tiny. I never once thought of that dress as trashy. Eek. The bride said ok. I can return it if it looks funny. [ Reply | More ]
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The model is 5'10. I am 5'3. It should be fine. Not a church wedding. [ Reply | More ]
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I am 29 [ Reply | More ]
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Looks like average Forever 21 stuff. Too short (imagine walking in it). [ Reply | More ]
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Way too short. Unless your friend getting married is very young, I don't think it looks appropriate as a bridesmaid. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. I couldn't put my finger on it, but it really looks like Forever 21. [ Reply | More ]
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Have you seen forever 21 dresses? They are boxy, poorly cut, cheap materials. This dress is definitely better quality than F21. The bride actually said ok to buy F21 as many bridesmaids are coming from far away. [ Reply | More ]
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It looks like a flirty wedding dress for a very young bride getting married on a mountainside. I think it's too short and only suitable if you have small boobs. Too much boob and it would look obscene. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm an A cup, and 5'3 [ Reply | More ]
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You're too tall, but the chest is fine. I could see this on a woman 5'0 or less. Way too short! [ Reply | More ]
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too tall? i think you'll look great in this. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks...I hope it works out. My back up plan is a F21 dress my sister wore to her bridal shower. [ Reply | More ]
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The model in the pic is 5'10. So she has 7" on me. It will fall lower. [ Reply | More ]
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Instead of wasting $$ on rental or trying to resell, look for something you can picture yourself wearing 10-15 years down the road. [ Reply | More ]
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honestly? i think it's pretty ugly and young looking. It also looks like a wedding dress. I would get something not lacy particularly since you are the bridesmaid and not the bride and go with a more simpler but classy look. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Admitted re-post and need more input. If you got a really insultingly low bonus but have a fairly good set-up at work, would you approach the boss? I get great feedback and reviews and plenty of vacation and work hard. The company is not doing well and all bonuses were way down but mine was unacceptable. And yes - I am looking for other opportunities. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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why do you think it was unacceptable if business is down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Because it really objectively is. [ Reply | More ]
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You know most people don't get bonuses at all, right? [ Reply | More ]
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Obviously in her industry they do. [ Reply | More ]
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Bonuses are not a given, and they are a direct result of your production and the health of the business. Would you prefer to just be fired? [ Reply | More ]
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Was it lower than others? Is your base higher? what was rationale for low bonus? Is it related to production (billable hours, whatever)? [ Reply | More ]
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No. Bonuses are based on merit, you don't want to give management a chance to say anything negative about your work. [ Reply | More ]
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I would approach the boss only to confirm that everyone else's bonus was equally lousy and there wasn't a message being sent to you. If your reviews are good, this should be easy to confirm. [ Reply | More ]
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you could, but what will you accomplish? unless you were the superstar that way exceeded expectations - then maybe voice your outrage, but just know the squeaky wheel sometimes gets the boot when times are bad [ Reply | More ]
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i would approach to get a better understanding of what drove the figure and whether it was a firm wide occurrence or a reflection of something you did and then, I would question what their plan is toimprove employee morale and incentivize people to work harder given the bonus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Need advice. Say you lived in NYC and made $390k/year at your current job that you despise and is a 24/7 grind of horrible, grueling hours, and your DH maybe made $25-45k depending on the year with a very flexible schedule. And say you had two opportunities on your plate - one to make about $475k/year and in the next ten years that could likely go up to $1 million or more doing the same thing you're doing now, and one to make $200k/year doing something totally different but your hours are 9-6 with no weekends at all, what would you choose? One kid in public, $200k in student loans, $110k in cash savings, $200k in investments. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Industry? [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's law- partnership track vs in-house [ Reply | More ]
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The latter [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like you are a biglaw senior associate. Is there an option C where you move to a lower cost area and make $200. Presumably, DH's work is portable. [ Reply | More ]
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Just thinking about these two options at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
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Stick with Option A but start putting out the feelers for Option C and make that your long-term plan. DH needs to arrange his schedule so that you don't have any childcare costs [ Reply | More ]
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So go with option A for a year or two and then just keep looking? I've been looking for an Option C for 5 years and there aren't many. And looking for another job takes a whole lot of time that I just don't have and won't have in a new job. We have no childcare costs. DH has arranged his schedule to make sure this is the case. [ Reply | More ]
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The last part is good, at least. Yes, I would keep looking for Option C. I really don't think taking that large of a paycut while you still have $200k in loans and are paying NYC living expenses makes sense. Sorry. Are there options to do your job in another market? If my guess about biglaw is correct, NYC is the worst place to practice. You can have a much more "normal" life and make the same $$ in a second tier market. Chicago is a great option due to lower COL. Can you concotns reason for an internal transfer (eg, DH job move)? [ Reply | More ]
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Is the $200K job also in NYC? And how old are you both? If you are under 30, then maybe yes. Otherwise, no. You have $200K in student debt to pay off. [ Reply | More ]
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How old am I? Would probably choose A but be smart with $, save and be ready to walk away in 10 years to do something making less, also assuming then that the kid will be older and DH could step up and make more too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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40 and TTC. [ Reply | More ]
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Either move out of NYC and continue your work at a smaller place. Or just gut it out. You need retirement savings and college is going to loom (I had 2 kids, and the costs are very high). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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I would have my husband quit whatever he was doing to be home full time and take the 475k job. Pay down those loans as soon as I could and bank as much money as I could. Then I would try to ramp down to a less stressful job. It is tough to live in the city on 200k and your loan payments must be pretty high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Your life now is much more important than what you imagine your life would be like with more time and more money, 10 years from now. Definitely go for the latter. You have a cushion, and clearly have great skills that can command a lot of money. There are probably many jobs that vary between the 2 options you've laid out here. But if your kids are young, and you hate what you're doing and it eats into your happiness, time, and quality of life, it's not worth it. Your kids are young once. Don't miss this chance to be with them evenings and weekends. You will regret missing their growing up much more than you will regret temporarily passing up a fat paycheck. Good luck and please keep us posted. I'm in a similar situation now, though with much smaller numbers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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This is my thinking, but I worry a lot about money and I don't want to sacrifice our financial comfort for more time since I know I can tough it out. But I just don't want life to be about toughing it out and I don't want to miss another year of my kid's childhood because of work. I am so tired of the grind, but if I step off then it will likely be very hard to step back on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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I hear you - those are the exact same issues I struggle with. Can you give yourself permission to do the lower paid job for 2 years and then consider stepping back in? I find that we piss away lots of money on stuff that I probably wouldn't miss - weekly brunches, dinners out, cleaning lady. can you make a list of what can be pared back without pain? Is there any flexibility with DHs job? More hours? FWIW, I say this as someone whose mother died young and sister got cancer at 50. [ Reply | More ]
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Would you give this same advice to a DH in same situation? Feels like a very gendered response. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It's a gendered response, yes, but I am a woman and she hit how I feel right on the head. The older I get the more I realize that men and women are very different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Have you run the numbers on 225K budget? How does it look? I can bet you won't pay that debt off soon and you won't save enough. As tough as it sounds, A is your choice for now. Fwiw, we have no childcare costs and make about $250-300K, no debt and cannot save enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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If you are planning to stay in NYC, choose option A. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a lawyer? What position do you have that you're making $390K per year and have opportunity for $475K? Just wondering as I'm a biglaw associate and would love to make that much! [ Reply | More ]
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np: a scenario could be that $390 is her post-bonus senior associate pay and she has a option to go in as a non-equity partner at another (still biglaw but lower down on the AmLaw 100 list). The $475 would also be anticipated comp, with a base on the $350+ range [ Reply | More ]
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unforunately, one of you needs the high paying job to support a comfortable lifestyle and payoff your debt. I would take the high paying one for at least 5 years. Pay off your debt and try to save as much as possible [ Reply | More ]
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This might not be on your radar, but I've seen this happen in scenarios where mom is a professional and makes much more than dad and dad is unemployed/underemployed. Have your DH work full time (even if salary will be only $50K) and hire a nanny. Otherwise, if he has an affair (because he feels "emasculated" by you or whatever reason) and decides to divorce you, he has a good chance of getting custody of the kids, and you would have to pay child support and alimony to him (and the OW). Btw, I'm a biglaw associate and I would choose the former. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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^^and if your student loans were incurred prior to marriage, that will be your debt you would need to pay off i the event of a divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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Just curious, what is your practice area? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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Imo, you need a net worth in the couple million dollar range minimum, to consider the latter choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Does everyone realize that in order to vote in the New York primary, you have to be registered for a party and only vote in that party's primary? AND it's too late to change party affiliation. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Uh, yeah. It's too late by the time it comes to NY anyway. I'll vote but it doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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Is this your first election? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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states have all manner of different rules- independents can vote in the NH primaries of the two parties for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes, but unless you've never voted before you would have presumably looked into this in past elections. Even if you moved states in the past four years you would have had to register in your new state before now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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oh, whatever, I have voted in every election and don't remember off the top of my head if the NY primaries are open or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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NY elections are closed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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np: Wouldn't you know your own if you've voted before? Or paid any attention at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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I remember if it is open or closed, but why would I bother to remember if you can register in person day-of-primary (some states do this) or have some 90-day deadline to get on the voter rolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Oh good god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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oh and JSYK, I voted for many elections in California despite living on the East Coast- it was just too much to remember all the states' rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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So, you've never voted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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In NH you can vote as an independent, but doing so registers you in that party. You have to remember to switch back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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The people who plan to vote realize this. Most people just like the sport of it all and don't plan to go stand in line on a cold day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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UM. Yes. People who are registered as Independents are morons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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yup. registered independent. so i watch with interest and the knowledge that i can't participate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Yes. How old are you? Independent here, have never voted in a primary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Um, yes. Do you think you're the only one with a brain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Of course I realize this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Please don't say this out loud in public, unless you're helping your high schooler with civics/social studies homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:38 PM Flag
[ - ] When you had DC , were you on the hospital inpatient directory or did you decide to opt out? Opt out means people can't just show up and ask for you by name, to get room number 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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I didn't even know this was a question/possibility. But I didn't allow visitors in the hospital -- kept that private time with DH and DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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How did you avoid visitors? I'm hearing horror stories of people just showing up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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Didn't realize that was a possibility either. I guess I didn't opt out either. I loved having visitors though. I was there for 6 days (csection with issues) so I enjoyed receiving visitors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I can't be bothered to figure that out for a 48 hour stay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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It's 4 days. And why respond? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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How about you just tell us why you are so concerned about this instead of being a bitch to everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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Hospital sent a form (c sec next week), I need to fill out. Either opt in or opt out. Is this not the norm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Four days?? Why is it four days? I left 24 hours after giving birth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Is it not obvious? C section is 4 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Actually it was 24 hours for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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Who on earth would just stop by uninvited? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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This. I'm totally confused. Maybe if I were Beyonce or something. But for little old me? No one would show up uninvited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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No one came to visit me in the hospital, I guess because they thought I wanted privacy. It was very sad and lonely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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:( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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i called my friend and said come one down...I did not wait for people to offer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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How long were you there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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I had lots of visitors and loved it. Only people close to me and they didn't overstay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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Are you Beyonce or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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I don't remember there being a choice but I was not there long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I take dc to daycare today? He is 3 and usually goes full time. I'm working the late shift this week so I'm home during the day. On one hand we already paid and it helps keep him in a routine. On the other hand I let him sleep in so he's not going to sleep at nap time, it's snowing and cold, and I like spending the time with him. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:00 PM Flag
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Keep him home. None of it matter in a few years. I was always so worried about all the stuff now that my DCs are older it is such a joke. Let him sleep, cuddle with him. Have a bonding day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:07 PM Flag
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I love this response :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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so this!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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money's already spent either way, you won't get it back, but you can gain some quality time with your toddler. Paying for daycare is sometimes just paying for the option of care when you need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:08 PM Flag
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Stay home. Enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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Keep him home and have a fun day together! Listen to these wise women. It goes so fast. By 5/6, those options are gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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And by 17 they're definitely gone. I love my DS at this age but I have a clear memory of sitting in the rocking chair, holding him against my chest, with his head on my shoulder, as he slept, telling myself to remember the moment. I do remember but I'd give a lot to gave it back for a few minutes. Cuddle your baby while you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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NP. Old mom here. Same. DS was up from 2 am to 6 am for 6 weeks straight and I remember rocking him, kissing his head, loving that new baby smell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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+1 I can't believe how fast it all changed. 5 years ago I had four kids at home including 3 teenagers, and it was chaos. Now the house is so quiet. Two are still at home but they are both out of the house at 7am and need no help from me anymore. I'm lucky if I can corner them and make them give me a hug once a day. Oh wow, I need to stop posting on this thread because I am going to make myself cry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Bring him in. He's not going to nap so he'll drive you nuts and you have to rest for your shift tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Thats a heartwarming response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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My 2 year old has fried my nerves. Is it showing? I should work on my patience today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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Bring him to daycare, but pick him up early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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+1 early, short days are great for 3 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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my ds I would bring, he does not like change, routine is much better for him. my dd could handle staying home every once in a while [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] For all you Trump voters 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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Biased article. Trump is the only candidate that has spoken the truth about the biggest problems we are facing: current financial mess and immigration. He is beholden to no one and therefore is the most trustworthy. The fuzzball communist is unelectable, the bitch is a crook who lies like a rug, the Canadian is an illegal candidate and the other one has zero experience. Trump is the ONLY viable candidate, like it or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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Those are the biggest problems? Not guns or the current state of the world? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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not to mention the daily genocide of so many people... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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'State of the world' is not our problem and acting like it is is part of why this country is a mess. Happy people in stable countries don't turn to guns anywhere near as much. Vote Trump if you care about this country or your children's future. We are on track to be Europe 2.0 if the immigration is not stopped now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yes, our debt and awful economy are the biggest problems. People are are broke and feel like they have no future act out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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I'll vote for him because I think like he does (minus the needless insults). I have always wondered what government would look like if it were run by smart business people. I'd be willing to give him a chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Black issues are my number one priority. Unemployed blacks need jobs. Trump gets it. Expelling the illegals creates jobs for blacks. Ike recognized this and gifted blacks with huge number of jobs by removing the illegals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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Black moms want all illegals out. Once illegals are out there will be huge number of jobs desperate for workers and the employers will finally hire black men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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The other day I was googling some information and the inly website that seemed to have the answer was Vox. Believe me when I say I didn't click on it and preferred to keep looking. They are horrendous, along with Huffington, Mic, Christian Science Monitor ( or something) and a few others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.16, 02:49 PM Flag
[ - ] For all you Trump voters 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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