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[ - ] S/O Who is the more frugal partner in your marriage, you or DH? I'm definitely more frugal and over the years I've had to learn to not sweat the small stuff like when DH doesn't comparison shop. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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My dh is penny wise and pound foolish. I am both more frugal and have a financial plan/big picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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We're frugal in different ways. I'm a maximizer and will spend a lot of time and energy looking for the absolute best deal, which drives dh crazy - he says time is money and that spending an extra hour to save $50 is self-defeating. OTOH, I like to buy good stuff and he's strictly practical, would never spend up for luxury furniture etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Husband is. I bargain hunt and am a good shopper but he not be frivolous in his buying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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DH. It's also that I like "stuff" and he does not particularly care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Neither one of us. We just buy whatever it is. The only positive is that we are on the same page I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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How do you save? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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DH is more frugal but then he spends a lot of money on booze. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate hangovers 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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I have to meet yet the first person who loves them. Take some Ibuprofen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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dont do this, are you trying to kill your liver? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Once I figured out his quirks, DH turned out awesome. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.18.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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I wish we could vote down posts and get them deleted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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I wish you would leave UB zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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What are his quirks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the best procedure for anti aging? Is laser good? Peels? Too afraid to use Botox... Ugh, the needles and don't want my face to look frozen. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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A mix of those, plus topical retinoids and sunscreen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Toxicologist relative told me no Botox for cosmetic reasons, ever. Beyond that, frankly, I think it's more about eating well, sleeping, maintaining a consistent weight, exercising, sunscreen and genetics than anything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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EXERCISE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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not makes face sag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Face lift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't wait for the door to hit me in the ass. It might be time for me to move. You can have my apartment. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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What is going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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I also want to know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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Tell us? Are you behind in your mortgage payments? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you feel if your nanny made sensory bottles with or for your children? Assume they are BPA free. would you let your children play with them or do you think anything that comes from the nannies home is gross? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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You sound like an ass. I would be thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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this. What kind of nanny do you have, that you would be worried about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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I am the nanny. My employers have weird rules and I can't quite pinpoint their reasoning. I want to make 19 month old sensory bottles. I will be with my nieces and nephews this weekend. I just don't want them to be upset with me for doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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Ask them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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you mean like, an empty water bottle that she then put glitter or rice in? Whats wrong with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Yes. I was planning to dump the water into a pitcher so no ones mouth is on the bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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The fact that you are questioning this, makes you an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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what are sensory bottles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Do you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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np I do and I have no idea what these are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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Basically a water bottle with a liquid and some other things floating in it. You can do water sand and shells. Water and rainbow loom bands. Blue soap with fish beads. Feathers in bird seed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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I would supply the bottles she needs, I don't know how her house is like, are the bottles clean? who drink from this bottles? You never know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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See above. lol I like you. I think you think like my boss. I'd dump the water into a pitcher so not to waste or maybe pick up some storage bottles at the container store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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I was joking, but yes, if your boss is a pita, I would ask her in advance if this is ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Umm...your nanny comes from "the nannies home"..and try to punctuate the possessive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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That's so cute!!! Love your nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] In the throes of a depression. Crying all the time, can't eat, can't sleep. Absolutely will not go on meds. Tried it and it was a disaster. Nothing t do but l hope I can pull out of it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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people swear by exercise -- I would try that and also meditation. And get light every single day. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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+1, great if you like any group classes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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Do you live alone or with someone? If alone, make sure you talk to someone (friend, neighbor, colleague) everyday. Isolation compounds depression, even if it is the most natural reaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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I am on a new med Brintellix and its changed my life. Try it. It was approved by FDA just 6 months ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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There are lots of meds ... just because one was a disaster does not mean they ALL will be a disaster. Maybe think of it as a temporary way to get through a tough spot. Good luck to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are Chinese people so OBEDIENT to authority compared to westerners? For example, during the "Great Leap Forward," tens of millions of Chinese people were simply ordered out of their homes and into communal barracks. If Obama tried this in America, there would be immediate armed rebellion and civil war. But in China, people just meekly obeyed. Why? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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History Mom - there was actually a huge loss of life during The Great Leap Forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Well, yeah - a lot of people meekly starved to death! But there was no armed rebellion or any actual challenge to Mao's government as a result. The same would be impossible in America; people are too disobedient toward their leaders. They would never consent to this kind of thing; they'd die fighting instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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np That's what we tell ourselves, but fear changes people. Putting "live free or die" on a license plate is very different from putting your kids' lives on the line to fight tyranny, especially if your neighbors, friends and family seem to be going along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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I'd like to believe we're as independent as you say, but it's hard to know until you're in the situation. We didn't protest en masse when Japanese were rounded up and forced out of their homes and businesses during WWII. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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thats because it didn't direct us directly, unfortunately. My answer to the Q would be Confucianism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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*affect us directly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Why would we have? They were considered an enemy population for the duration of the war. Unfortunate for them, but their internment had very high popular support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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But that's how it usually happens. The gov't doesn't take on the whole citizenry at once. They scapegoat groups of outsiders, whether the educated elite or a racial/religious minority or gays or independent farmers or whatever, and they go on from there - any by then people know what happens to people who stick their necks out, and they look down and do what they're told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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That's not what Mao did. He basically just decreed one day that a large chunk of the country had to give up its personal property and go live in barracks and work on communal farms. And instead of getting a rebellion in return, he got compliance. That's just insane to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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God, I don't know. The Native Americans would NEVER... oh wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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In general, they did fight back, they just couldn't win (either because their population was decimated by disease or because they were outgunned.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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do the chinese have the right to bear arms? Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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So what? Many rebellions/guerrilla movements have started with unarmed people storming an armory en masse and weaponizing themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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A mob can easily overtake and disarm several soldiers and seize their equipment, too. Some of those communal camps only had a handful of actual armed security personnel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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You are so IGNORANT. Why do you think there are so many Jewish and Chinese coming into this country? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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^ were [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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Thank you for this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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These things don't happen just out if nowhere - like a battered wife who has been sniped at for years and has no self-esteem left, they happen bit by bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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I feel like you need a lesson in History 101 - but maybe even HS history/poli sci [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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ask yourself this: why did the jews agree to be slaves in Egypt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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^ were they OBEDIENT according to you? [ Reply | More ]
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There are no actual historical records documenting the presence of Jewish slaves in Egypt aside from the Old Testament itself, which is dubious at best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Is not that they are an "obedient", is that they are in disadvantage, btw Government doesn't work there like it works here, if the States had an evil dictator and had the army to his disposal, it wouldn't matter how "disobedient" we were, we would be outgunned and probably giving up quiet quickly. America has corruption but not the kind of corruption China has, a total different level. I hope you are just trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Stop being brainwashed by American media. Think before you speak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Honestly, people in the US don't realize they're being fed lies by the media. Try reading bbc news [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs: share your best tips for new WOHMs. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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New moms or just newly WOHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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New WOHMs. Because reality/expwrience is better the plan in my head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? Likely very different answers from the moms who went back to work with preschoolers (my youngest was 3 ) than newborns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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how old are the kids, what type of childcare arrangements will you have? we need more info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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Don't try to do everything yourself. Order online, fresh direct, diapers.com, etc. Get a weekly housekeeper who will also do laundry and run some errands in the neighborhood (like dropping something at the post office). Buy clothes that mix and match well and some good quality flats and get a low-maintenance haircut so your mornings are easy. Cook extras on Sunday but don't feel guilty about ordering our during the week. FD and whole foods also have great ready to go items that Are healthy. Don't expect that you're going to be as great at your job as you were before. Your goal is to under promise and over deliver, not the other way around. Don't have the nanny's hours set so she leaves the minute you walk in the door. Give yourself 15-30 minutes to change clothes and decompress (ideally the db won't even know you're home because she'll bring them in another room during this time). Schedule a date with dh twice a month and stick to it. If you can, do one dinner and one day time lunch which feels scandalous and adds to the excitement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Good stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Wise woman. One more thing: Costco is your friend. You wont have time to run out for toilet paper/shampoo/etc.... You need to have long term supplies in house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Or Amazon Prime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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great advice here! also, don't sweat the little stuff. you can't be the perfect mom, employee, wife, etc. just accept that you do your best at everything and don't forget to block out some "me" time on the weekends or in the evenings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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This is a great list. I would just add to not compare yourself to other people who seem to be doing things better. They likely are struggling just as much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Be 100% present when you are with your baby. Put your phone and computer away, etc. Get comfortable with just being barely good enough at just about every facet of life and with always being late for something. Learn how to prioritize and say no - Something's got to give, and it shouldn't be your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Learn self forgiveness. You will never be able to do it all, well, all the time. Your child will love you no matter what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I grew up in a country where nearly all schools had uniforms. It's so much simpler and a good leveler. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Never saw the point in wearing the same ugly outfit as everyone else. Signed Inmate Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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ILY Inmate Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Thanks Sugar. Why would anyone want their wonderful kids lined up and looking identical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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It would be fine with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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totally agree- would save a lot of tears in middle school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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i love uniforms. i wore them growing up and now my dcs do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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[ - ] Who was sexier: Dennis Farina on "Crime Story," or Dennis Franz on "NYPD Blue"? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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Well Dennis Franz is very unattractive. Dennis Farina was a handsome man. Not my type but an attractive man. So DF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I just ordered a ton of $2 crinkle scarves off of eBay to use as gift wrap. I figure it's less landfill and, even if they're not worn, they may be reused. Would you like this or not? I'll still use ribbon and ornaments to decorate at usual. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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I could give a shit about wrapping a gift. You could hand it to me unwrapped for all I care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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I'm too OCD to do that! Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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I do gift bags and mostly they are reused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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I would like it simply because it means you took the time to repurpose something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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It's still landfill as most people with throw them out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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Not me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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I'd wonder why you're wrapping a present in something that looks like a random stranger wore, then sold, at a garage sale. Bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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No, sounds cheesy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Super cute and creative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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