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[ - ] Do any of your children play "Minecraft?" My 6 y.o. daughter has discovered it through camp friends. I am not a fan of video games but she is really interested and wants to start playing. I started investigating the game and would like to know if it would be a worthwhile pursuit for her. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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My son just started playing it. It's pretty creative. As far as video games go, I think it's pretty cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Worthwhile pursuit would be quite a stretch. Certainly the Puritans would have considered it a useless pursuit and a poor use of time but if you don't mind her having so mindless fun, why not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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My 7 y.o. plays it, it seems creative and better quality than other video games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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i'm ok with tv but draw the line with video games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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I wonder about that. Because video games are more interactive, I think they may be better than tv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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It is excellent. Go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] You know why I don't tip about 1/3 of the time? Because I only have 20s! Blame the ATMs! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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You know you can leave more than you want to tip, ask for change, and then leave the proper tip, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] This is so un-UB, but I am trying to gain 5lbs of muscle weight. I don't want to just eat junk food because that's gross. How do I gain weight the "right" way? I'm 5'8" and 125. Would like to be 130 and look a little less scrawny 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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I started strength/weight training 3 weeks ago and have put on 5 lbs without eating much more then usual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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start using weights at the gym (strength training). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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if you want to build muscle mass - explosive exertion vs long slow exercise is the way to go - you can do weights - push ups - sprinting, eat more protein than usual [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Age will help you look less scrawny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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lift weights, eats lots of lean protein, as pp suggested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA: It is not ok to take personal calls, in the office, on your cell phone, on speaker phone, at full volume. How is this not known by anyone over 22 years old? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Some people feel important when then take calls and want you to hear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible to feed 4 people on $50/day? There is no kitchen but there is a mini fridge. TIA! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Microwave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Hot water? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Sure. Oatmeal, fruit, sandwhiches, carrots, pizza [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Cold ceral instead of Oatmeal if no hot water [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Can you cook ahead of time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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PBJ for breakfast/lunch, bagels and cream cheese, fruit, rotiserre chicken and pre-bagged salad or cold pasta salad. This can easily be done..$50 a day, people live on a lot less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Salads with chickpeas/cheese. is there a blender to mix some smoothies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] How is it that I wake up weighing more than I did when I went to bed. After peeing? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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your scale is inaccurate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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Stop weighing yourself so often. Do it once a week at the same time of day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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+1 I weight myself once a month, if that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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Physically impossible unless you drank a ton of water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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do you feel bloated? maybe its that time of the month? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] At the beach this weekend and saw a young twentysomething parading (literally) around one of those Chanel flap bags. Why??????? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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tacky, so tacky. but what can you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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Why are women so in to bags and shoes? And whether it is in or out of style? Get a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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i am not. i like looking at them but hate shopping for them. once you understand the ridiculous markups those "designers" charge, you'll just carrying a duane reade bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Women are a joke for buying into labels and judging each other for labels. So stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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I am disgusted with the whole show-off culture... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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What's a Chanel flap bag? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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The small dressy one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O- I'm single, in my 20s, and have a great income for my age. I save a lot and max out my 401k every year. However, I spend close to $50 in food every day- most of my friends in the City are exactly the same in terms of spending habits on food/drinks. I thought this was normal, but apparently, this is outrageous to some people? Different strokes, I guess. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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What are you eating?? That seems really expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Typical day: breakfast latte + parfait or sandwich =$10, lunch Chopped salad + drink (iced tea/lemonade) = $14, dinner = out with friends (1 drink and pad thai at a B list place in Hell's Kitchen for example) = $22, etc. Can go up or down based on where/what I'm eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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^Also, this includes tax, tip, delivery. I guess it all adds up. I cook at home maybe 1 (?) night a week, on that day it's significantly lower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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are you eating out a lot? that sounds like a lot for a single 20 something year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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It's a lot, but do what you want with your money! I make shit for money, single & 35yo, and I spend about $20/day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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If you are eating out for breakfast, lunch and dinner then sure. But I would never eat out for every single meal. I actually prefer to eat breakfast and lunch with food that I make myself or pack. Healthier and cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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do you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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so why do fck are you in this site? are you that pathetic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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$50/day? Yeesh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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that sounds fine. If you can afford it and don't want to cook at home, then yes, $50 is not a surprising figure, but there are obvious ways to save if you wanted to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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You only live once in your 20s; if spending $50 for great NYC food is your biggest sin jeapordizing your retirement, chomp away happily! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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seriously, and if it affords you more time to have a great income and enjoy it - so be it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Make coffee and breakfast at home, and maybe treat yourself Friday. Bring lunch 2 or 3 times a week. Enjoy your dinners out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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$50 a day sounds like a lot to me. When I was in my 20s, single and working downtown I spent $20-25 max per day. I'd try to eat breakfast at home and then only do lunch outside. It is hard to find good cheap lunch places but its do-able. I miss Teriyaki Boy. $50 a day is around $250 a week which come to $1,000/month. That $1K/month can go towards a nice vacation! I'd rather save the money and use it toward a vacation or fancy handbag/shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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it's a choice. If you are otherwise saving and are happy with the amount you are saving, then enjoy yourself. Personally, I'd prefer to have breakfast at home. Even when I could afford it, I usually took my lunch because it was healthier. Dinner makes complete sense, especially if you are going out with friends. That expense also doubles as your entertainment/social costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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When I was young and single, I could always get 2-3 meals off of a take-out dinner so it actually seemed economical. Going out to eat is always expensive but if that's your lifestyle and you can afford it, I don't see the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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If you are always on the go I'd pack breakfast sandwich at home. Otherwise it id what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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It's normal but a total waste. I was like you when single/childless. Now have and awesome nanny who packs my lunch and wish I had back the $ wasted on Starbucks and lunch every freaking day for years (still would have spent $ on dinner but $20-25 less per day would have been smarter). I could have made my own sandwich and I've discovered that I actually prefer the coffee from home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Why are you here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] With all the frozen embryos people keep "just in case" why is it difficult to get a donation? Do most couples feel weird donating an embryo? Everyone on UB talks about adoption but reality is that adoption is actually very difficult to do 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Good point. Dh and i left all our embryos to our daughter in our will. But i assume that she will have no use for them, as long as she is fertile. I think we should express our wish that she donate all the ones she does not need [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Why not just donate half of the, right now ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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how many do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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why would you want to give birth to your genetic sister? weird. just weird. Although you've given me inspiration for a sci-fi fiction book. Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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You are insane. Assume a woman is inferrile and she has a choice between adopting or giving birth to a baby genetically related to her. Of course she would choose the generic relation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Not so sure what I would want to do in this scenario. It feels weird to give birth to my father's child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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God willing you will never have to face this. As long as you can have natural children it is irrelevant. But having embryos available just in case is like free insurance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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THIS, OMG. CREEPY!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Well, first, we are not finished building our family and hope to use them. If we have some leftover, I feel uncomfortable at the thought of another family raising my biological child. I don't know what we are going to do. But we only have 2 left at this stage, so it's probably a moot point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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I would rather not say how many we have. My daughter often reads UB and i do not want her to know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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well most of these will generate in-the-spectrum kids anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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you sound very scientific [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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why? do you need links? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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yes, links are always good [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ are these enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Why do you think so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Yes, most people would feel weird donating an embryo. I personally wouldn't like the idea of having a genetic dc out there whose whereabouts were a total mystery. If you give a child up for adoption you can at least build a relationship with the adoptive parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] With all the frozen embryos people keep "just in case" why is it difficult to get a donation? Do most couples feel weird donating an embryo? Everyone on UB talks about adoption but reality is that adoption is actually very difficult to do 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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oops sorry for double post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Because I think parents feel unsure about having their offspring raised by a stranger. It feels inequitable that one set of children have Life A, but a different set of children may have Life B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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So what do they do? Donate to research or thaw away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Read above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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We have just been paying for storage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Yes, adoption is difficult & uncertain. But it is about real live children who exist in the world. That is a far cry from embryo "adoption". Such a ridiculous concept. An embryo is a cluster of frozen cells that would cease to exist if the electricity goes out. It's a product & maybe feel better about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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IA that adopting a real child is better but its also very very difficult to do. Donor embryo is not much different from donor egg, do you have issues with egg donation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Confession: the only reason I stay on UB (despite the horrible trolls and language) is because I still feel like there are a lot of well-educated, wealthy, new yorkers on it (at least from time to time), that I feel like I can relate to. I hate middle class, middle america. There, I said it. 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Me too. Flyover moms are fat and stupid [ Reply | More ]
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I wish they banned them from UB [ Reply | More ]
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
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My sarcasm was just removed by moderator! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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good! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 07.28.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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No, that is cray cray. Just let them get their own site. They do not belong here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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It's called Baby Center. Where women are pregnate and know the ins and outs of WIC and EBT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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I totally agree. UB used to be TT before they showed up. Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Remember that Joie de WIC poster who tried to promote her blog here? More or less about how to live and nice life (including dinner parties and organic blueberries) on WIC. She was flamed to death (especially after she posted a link to blog), but that marked the turning point for UB. Must have been five years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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lol @ pregnate. Definately pregnate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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With identicle twins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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mamaRee2008 Posted 04/12/2010 Is anyone getting WIC while prego or alresady has it?? I love wic its helped out so much..! Just incase any of you ladies don't know about it google it and see if you qualify.. :) www.fns.usda.gov/wic/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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You just randomly have access to posts that are four years old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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She probably Googled. And, yes, these women are prego as well as pregnate. Oh, the gene pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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I googled "joie wic", not even babycenter and that came up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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I googled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Over 50% of infants born in the U.S. get WIC benefits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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Aw. I am flyover. I don't think I am stupid. You probably have me on fat, but whatever. I live a pretty active life anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Ew. Fatt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Well, you don't have to have sex with me or even be seen with me, so relax yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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OP. Well, at least you're honest about it. I don't actually "hate" specific individuals, but I like being on a board where people can relate to the specific challenges of living in new york, being wealthy, etc. It's hard to ask questions and get good answers when you don't have anything in common with the responders... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Well, just because I live in Ohio doesn't mean I can't do either of those things. I grew up in NYC and am what you could call wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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You just presupposed that because I live in Ohio now that it's all I know. This is just where DH works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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I agree with the op [ Reply | More ]
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You mean, "...to whom I feel like I can relate." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Ugh, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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OP. Yes, you're actually correct :). I was an English major, but after med school, some of writing skills have been diminished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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^my. Typing fast, and it is UB, not a PhD dissertation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Lol stfu. You sound so obnoxious, no wonder you're a doctor. I hope this is fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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This. Sounds like she didn't even go to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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First of all, it's "there IS a lot", not "there ARE a lot". Also, you should say, "well-educated, wealthy New Yorkers to whom I feel like I can relate", not "well-educated, wealthy, new yorkers...that I feel like I can relate to." Put a hyphen in "middle-class", capitalize America...oy, are you sure you're "well-educated"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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I love you. You speak truth to power [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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np ESL: why IS vs ARE isn't she talking about New Yorkers so plural? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Thanks for asking! The term "a lot" is singular. Think about it - it is only ONE "lot". A lot is actually just ONE group of things. This is why it must be used with a SINGULAR verb. However, in spoken English, I believe that it is fine to say "...a lot are...". I just think that someone being snobby about education and class should be using more formal English... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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^This! [ Reply | More ]
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No, it's ARE. Read the sentence- sounds stilted with IS. OP is correct on that one. The rest of the "mistakes" are minor. Ugh, get a life, Middle America mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Nope. Read my explanation above. Also, I live in Manhattan and I am wealthier than you are. :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Thanks Sugar; nice to know that I don't turn everyone off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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OP. ILY Sugar mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Sugar mom u r my heroine [ Reply | More ]
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Awww, thanks, baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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That's Inmate Mom! Love her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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This will turn up on gawker. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm well-educated and wealthy, but I' m not a New Yorker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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OP. Then you can still fit in, provided you're in a large metro area and well-traveled ;). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Most New Yorkers in Manhattan come from somewhere else. Very few born in the city. In the other boroughs, maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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I am revolted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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The middle class HAS to exist in order for you to be wealthy. Business cannot run without a ton of people in the middle level doing the grunt work. Same with the lower class. Turn your nose up at the nannies with their coach purses as you walk by with your Hermes and smug sense of superiority, but the bottom line is, you need them. Your life would not be what it is without people of all classes in this world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, they must exist, but do they have to be on this board?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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you fcking elitist, i hope you get priced out of nyc and live in flyover to pay for your sins! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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She is not elitist she can barely write... just a wannabe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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True, elitists can write well but are horrible at math and proud of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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You're so disgusting. I pray I don't know you irl... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Personally, the reason I think you are stupid is that you are reading an anonymous forum and pissed off that anybody can post. go join an expensive list-serv, they exist you idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone rent out East for a week or two? What town ? We have young kids , would like to plan for next summer. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Are you TT? [ Reply | More ]
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^want to avoid flying/ very long car ride [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Take the chopper from the 34th St. Heliport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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I'm no longer in the city, will be driving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Tip #1 - Only wannabes call it "out east." Dead giveaway you're a striver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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God, why is everyone so bitchy this morning? Sorry you didn't get laid this weekend or the past 52 weekends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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LOL. First off, I have a DH and we have a great relationship. Secondly, I wasn't trying to be bitchy, just accurate. Trying to save you from embarrassment. Trust me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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ittttta with you. People who say "out east" sound like douchebags squared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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OP: Hahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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we are all strivers in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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OP: live in GN so it's "out East" . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Grean Neck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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^Great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Advice please. My mother picks DS up from preschool at noon and watches him until 6pm (when DH or I return from work). She also does light cleaning, laundry, almost all of our yard work, and some grocery shopping as needed. Because she lives on a fixed income, I pay her -- $1000 a month, which I think is nothing. My DH is constantly complaining about the money and saying my mom should do more, including deep cleaning (kitchen/bathrooms). He says she "doesn't do anything" and is annoyed that we have to pay her. This is a constant source of tension in our house and it is driving me crazy. Before my mom moved and started helping, my life was a stressful disaster (b/c I did everything). 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Your DH is crazy. You are not going to find anyone to do this for 250/week. Does his mom want the job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Whoa - tell mom to take a vacation and have DH do her "nothing" for a week. You are soooo lucky!! We spend close to $4000 on child care a month! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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+million [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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+10 million [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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He does realize it is his mother-in-law correct? People help their parents out financially without getting child care and light house cleaning. As long as you are happy and less stressed, he needs to chill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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OP: ITA. My dad died suddenly in 2000 and left my mom with nothing but debts. She's almost 70 now and is absolutely wonderful with our son. She makes my life so much easier, and she isn't pushy or in our business at all. I don't understand why he makes such a big deal out of the money. We fight about this constantly and it stresses me out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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How much of your HHI is your income? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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NP: Why would that matter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Your dh sounds like a douche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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OP: I agree 100%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Tell DH that you will quit and care for your own kids. He will stfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Hopefully he doesn't take her up on that....sounds like it'd be a nightmare to be a SAHM financially dependent on this guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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OP: The most recent source of tension materialized because we are moving to Atlanta next week. My mom is moving as well (her 2nd move in 2 years - the first one was from California), and we are paying for her move. DH is angry b/c I offered to pay for her moving boxes. He wants her to chip in a few hundred for boxes. Our HHI is $450k and she makes $1200/mth from Social Security and $1000 from us. He always wants to put his foot down to make her pay. It's driving me crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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That's nuts. Seriously. First of all, it's essentially his mother too now. He sounds incredibly selfish and out of touch with how much work goes into everything she's doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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What is wrong with him? He is being petty and cheap. He must have some underlying issues... Does he get along with your mom? His parents? Does he help at home or with kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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OP: he has always gotten along with my mom; she is very laid back and easy to get along with (she isn't the meddling type). She's an extremely hardworking person as well. He's just really cheap, I guess. He is very stressed out about money right now w/ our impending move, but I don't know why my mom should have to suffer. He says he is sick of "subsidizing" her. He NEVER did anything to help me before she came, so his life hasn't changed since she arrived, and he just sees money leaving our account. It has been a lifesaver for me though. I was on the verge of a breakdown before she arrived. BTW - he does not get along well w/ his parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Ugh, so awful. He has NO IDEA how much work it takes to run the house and what you and your Mom do. Nothing is going to change until he "gets it" which means you need to make him to all the stuff you guys have been doing for a couple of weeks. Short of that, he is never going to get it and this will go own forever. You have a such a great deal with your Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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What does he say when you tell him this? That he never helped, his life hasn't changed, you almost had a breakdown and this is a lifesaver? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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You need to send him childcare ads with prices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Organize your facts and time for a blow-out fight with him on this. Tell him how lucky you guys are to have her and how cheap she is and how INVISIBLE all the work you guys do it to him and how SICK you are of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Tell him you found a nanny for $2400 a month and a cleaner for $400 a month to replace her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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And the nanny doesn't drive so you need a car service [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Your mom sounds like a gem. You husband, on the other hand....not realistic and a bit selfish. Sorry you are dealing with this OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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This!! I'd stay with your Mom and let him move on his own unless he can wake up to reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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This!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Does he think some random nanny would take better care of your son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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You were crazy to agree to move. GA has much worse divorce and child support than NY. Will not mandate a parent pay for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Don't move with this guy until this problem is solved. You almost had a breakdown before you Mom came to help and now the pot is starting to boil again. Time to get it through his thick head once and for all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Tell him to naff off. He is being totally unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a SAHM with a 4 yr old, 2 year old and baby due in September. I think I need to hire a PT babysitter. I'm a little nervous about juggling 3! We have no family nearby. DH says he doesn't care about the cost. How many hrs and days would you hire help? Should she come early in the morning or stay later at night? Should I hire a college girl or someone older? Any advice? TIA. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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The 4 yo will be in school, so you'll just have the 2 yo and NB. Maybe 5 hours a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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NP, 4 yr olds are in school only 2 or 3 hrs a day. 5 hrs a week? There's one grocery run... Jeez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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That's how much help I have when I had #4. It worked out because older two were in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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OP: My 4 year old will be in school 2.5 hrs a day, 4 days per week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Depends on hhi and net worth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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OP: DH makes a good amount. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Specifics please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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I need to know what you can afford. i have two British mothers helpers and they are excellent and well trained. Expensive. I need to know if you can afford it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Ok, thanks. DH makes 1.1 per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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^how did you find the British mother's helpers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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There are agencies that specialize in highly trained British nannies and highly trained British mothers helpers. They are expensive because it is so hard to get a green card that fewer than ten percent come to America [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Basically it is eqsy dor foreign doctors to get a green card here so there are many. But hard for British nannies to get a green card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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... Easy for ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Thanks! Which agencies?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Norland Nannies is the agency we use. The mothers helpers they send to us are exceptionally well trained. Most of their mothers helpers go to London, Monaco, and San Tropez. Few here in Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I would hire someone from around 8-2, 5 days a week, so 30 hours a week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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This seems good, thx! Though from 3:00-5PM seem to be the hardest, making dinner and all. I don't know who would come only in afternoon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Do older kids have activities? If so I would hire a sitter for those times. If not, have someone come 9-1 each day so you have some down time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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OP: 4 year old has no activities planned for the fall because baby is coming. Two yr old is too young for anything besides mommy and me classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Figure out a way to make some time for yourself. What time of day is best for you to exercise, see doctors, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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SAHMs shouldn't have help. That's why they're staying home, correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Here we go..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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I've got this mole on my shoulder that's growing a hair. What should I do about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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I have same age kids as you. Youngest is 8 mo now. It's very hard. I hired someone to come 1-7 five days a week. Sounds like a lot but having two adults to care for 3 small kids makes it feel like an ok workload. The best part is being able to have one on one time with each. My nanny also does all laundry, dishes and straightening up. Frees me up to actually enjoy life with kids. None are in school or camp right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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And it's the toddler/newborn combo that is the hardest!! And the 4 yo can be quite a handful too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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OP: thank you! Is your nanny older? I only hired a couple college kids before for date night,etc. would LOVE someone to help with laundry and light housekeeping! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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She's in her 30s. I found her on sittercity. Just be very upfront about what you want. Say it's half childcare and half housekeeping or what ever. I find it very hard to be alone with all three all day and stay on top of the cooking and cleaning. This makes everything more manageable and gives me flexibility for making appointments and taking care of non-kid stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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This helpful! Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Sure! My biggest concern is everyone's safety. There have been a couple of near accidents because 2 and 4 yo get up to stuff while I am with the baby. Having an extra pair of eyes around makes it much less stressful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] how much to tip at hotel valet parking? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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$5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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each time I get my car? That adds up quickly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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Yes it duz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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$1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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$2-$3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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$2 or $3 and if we have a lot of bags sometimes $5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] When I was single and broke I ate: 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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dried beans, rice, block cheese, fresh vegetables (steamed), tortillas, bread, peanut butter, fresh fruit, bulk-bag knock-off cheerios, skim milk, frozen chicken breasts, frozen OJ, maxwell house coffee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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at happy hour. Bars used to put our huge, free spreads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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yes and guys paid for the drinks. It literally was free, or at least paid for in non-cash exchanges (of bodily fluids) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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This lol. Quittin' Time buffet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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Cream of rice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 12:38 PM Flag
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Samples at Whole Foods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Ramen and pasta [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Ramen, white rice, I would roast my own whole chicken and make soup from the carcass. Chicken hearts and gizzards. Discounted bread & store brand peanut butter. Produce off the discount cart. Used tons of coupons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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so normal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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I guess so. I eat differently now with more money available. More fish and prepared foods. I can spend 150 on takeout for the family, but we eat a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Have not bought hearts and gizzards in years, and I will buy the rotisserie chickens even though they are half the weight and twice the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Ugh. Hate even thinking about it. Ramen, pasta, canned soup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Redpack crushed tomatoes, basil and olive oil over pasta. Still make it and feed the family for about 4 bucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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I was never so broke as to not be able to eat a normal diet. I am an immigrant and put myself through college. I don't see how you are ever so poor when single that you can't afford to eat well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Okey doke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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count yourself lucky then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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how so? I just worked A LOT. I don't think luck had much to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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I worked a lot, saved, ended up getting divorced shortly after marriage. DH took my modest gains and car in the settlement, my salary got cut, insurance costs went up, property taxes doubled on my house, though I took in a boarder it wasn't enough, oh and my mom got sick so I was flying home every month until she died. All while being "very successful" at my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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so smug, I hope you and your family don't run into any emergencies or health issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Well, seeing that you are an immigrant, I doubt you ever went hungry on American soil. Thanks to taxpayers footing the bill for your food stamps...., [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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We never got food stamps. My parents got jobs and worked. You are right about American soil though, you have to be a spoiled lazy brat to be so broke as not to have enough money to eat. I know first hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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I've never been broke. I've always managed to save and live within my means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Here's your hero cookie!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Rich girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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I'm not. I'm responsible with my money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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ITTA. Infect my instinct is to say that those single and broke are just kind of lazy and unable to manage money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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Or perhaps they don't make as much as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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THIS ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I was never broke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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chips; soups; ramen noodles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Rice and beans from the Cuban restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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I was never totally broke, but when I had my first job in the city I had to budget very carefully bc rent is so high. I ate free stuff at work most days (I worked in a big office where people often brought in donuts...etc). Then I had frozen pizzas or mac n cheese for dinner. And somehow I stayed skinny! That was being 23 and walking everywhere, I'm sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Ooh, found a man. Good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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A bagel and a cup of yogurt for lunch. Pasta for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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