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[ - ] How much carfare do you give your nanny if she stays late? After what time? we are on UES and she is in Flatbush. Should I just get her a car? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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We pay after 9 pm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:31 AM Flag
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Thanks. How much or do you ask her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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We pay after 9 pm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:31 AM Flag
[ - ] 8yo dd has bouts of bedwetting and accidents at school. Often they coincide with a cold, but not always. In the last couple of weeks she has wet the bed a few times (it would be worse if we didn't wake her in the night to use the bathroom) and has had three accidents at school. She is not currently sick. She's a deep sleeper, and she seems to not really get the signal that she has to pee until it's too late. So far she has not been very embarrassed by this--it has all been fairly discreet and no kids have said anything, and while she's a little embarrassed by it she doesn't get really upset. I am going to take her to the doctor, but I'm wondering what can really be done. I don't know that I want her on medication, at least not in the summer when there are no real social consequences for the accidents, and I have heard that the medication can make kids kind of out of it. Anyone BTDT? Are there non-pharmaceutical techniques that have worked? TIA. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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I know this may sound dumb - but I would not allow her to drink anything past 7pm. After I had the baby, I always found myself having that awful urge to pee in the middle of the night, so I would get up to do it resulting in poor sleep habits. Once I limited my drinking to before 7pm and peeing right before bed, it stopped and I rarely get up now to go pee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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Thanks, that is a good idea for nighttime, but the more serious problem is at school. We have made a point of never making her feel bad about this, but it's just going to take the right mean kid witnessing this once for it to become a problem for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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Our Ped told us the same thing for our DS (who still wet overnight until right around 9) but we didn't do it. he's extremely active and often doesn't even get home until 6. IMO for him limiting water was unhealthy. I just dealt with the bedwetting using overnights he stopped right around 9, obviously when his body was ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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DD (8.5), only recently stopped wetting her bed. Ped said to wait it out, that she was Ok but just that some kids take longer for their bodies to catch up. I never even considered RX. Hang in there. Just keep the topic light, and let DD know that everyone, even moms, have had accidents. No big deal GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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,,,also, we did not allow liquids past 5pm. Only now are letting her have milk or water at dinner again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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We had the bed-wetting -- not at school, though. The doctor recommended a bed alarm (look them up on amazon) but we resisted and in the end he just stopped wetting the bed. A year later (he's almost 9) nothing. He started on his own to wake himself up enough to stumble to the bathroom and pee in the toilet, though I always wake up to a yellow ring right in front of it. But I'll take that over what we were dealing with any day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Is anything stressful going on at home?. Such as fighting, problems with a sibling?. I would be understanding and as calm as possible. Reward her for dry nights. When she wets the bed she should help you clean it up. What time do you go to bed?. You should cut off her fluids at 6pm and if she goes to bed earlier than you then right before you go to bed wake her and have her go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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FWIW, waking her up to pee is in fact the worst thing you can do. she's a deep sleeper and so when you wake her up she's not actually waking up all the way, just enough to pee. So you've effectively taught her to pee in her sleep. Stop fussing--her body obviously isn't ready. Just have her wear nighttime underwear and let her body do it on her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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Interesting. I hate waking her up to pee because she really is totally out of it and is so disoriented you have to guide her to the bathroom. Is this something you've learned medically or is it just a hunch? I ask because it seems that many people advise waking them up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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Have you ruled out a UTI? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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Biofeedback helps & peeling twice every time she goes have her pee, then stand up, then immediately sit down and try to pee again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:32 AM Flag
[ - ] What benefits/perks do you give your nanny, beyond salary and year end bonus. I'm thinking health insurance, metro card etc. TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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I buy her a lot of meals during the week, plus she has free reign of anything in the refrigerator. I ask her what she wants before I do my fresh direct order. I get her little gifts throughout the year, for valentines mothers day. Gifts for her birthday, her kids birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok I am online date mom with my date tomorrow night. He hasn't contacted me to confirm the venue for tomorrow night. Should I get in touch with him? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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No. Keep it moving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:18 AM Flag
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Wait to hear from him. Try to keep a couple of them going at a time so you don't get too disheartened if one fades away. GL!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O: What is fair amount to ask a NYC family of four to pay for the usage of public transportation? I guess I do agree that $112x4 is too much, never thought about it before. I think anyone making over $100k a year should find a way to pay this. Is it fair to ask people to pay a proportion of their income? Or does $122x2(adult) and $122(childx2) sound fair? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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You can't seriously be suggesting means testing for public transportation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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If I have to pay a proportion of my income, it will be cheaper to hire a driver. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:29 AM Flag
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Why would a kid get unlimited pass? If they have to take for school don't they get free Metro Cards? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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Huh? Does any place in the world do a means test for public transportation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:31 AM Flag
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I just think kids should be free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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i was OP of that post. and i don't think means testing is the answer. I think half fare for kids would be reasonable- many other places have this. I guess the problem is that if half price metrocards were available for kids, many people adults would use them for the subway, where nobody would know they were being used by adults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Name poll Estela or Zoe ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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Zoe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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Stella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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Estela [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone think they got better looking in their 40s compared to 20s/30s? If so, what made you more attractive? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:19 AM Flag
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Yes. Lost 30 lbs, started getting regular blowouts and goo hair color, dressing better and more feminine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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Yes! Started exercising regularly, more confident. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Lots of speculation about whether Gabriella Rowe is full of shit. This link should answer that question once and for all. She IS. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=luVqDikb3dU&feature=player_embedded 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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wow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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Mandell community member here but not for long. GR was given the chance to answer important questions truthfully and spread more lies instead. The fact that she said that her information is "fact" will send her to hell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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who is that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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I'm not wasting an hour of my life watching that. But thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Who is she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Can someone summarize? I'm not watching a whole video. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:29 AM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if Selema is going, "doh", after watching Justin? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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SeleNa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:28 AM Flag
[ - ] On business trip in San Francisco. Take advantage of quiet time (miss my DH and DS) and go out to eat solo? Am quite tired but the room service menu is not too promising. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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Go down to restaurant not too far, stalk x boyfriends on FB, drink wine, take a bath... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] My work life is out of control. Part-time lawyer and I am working furiously to try to meet a "before Monday" deadline. I'm pg and exhausted and just want to sleep. Vent over. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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Stop whining [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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She's not whining, she's venting. there's a difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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Have a big glass of water and some protein and just do up the best you can without putting pressure on yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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Quit then, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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This too shall pass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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This too shall pass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Jumping off of a previous post, do you think your DC's are really good looking, average or unattractive? Can you be honest or do you think parents are skewed because they are yours and you love them so much? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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Like all mothers I think my kids are beautiful, of course, but when i try to be objective I find them both good looking. What's funny is, I think the older one is better looking but the rest of the world think's the younger one is--i'm constantly getting comments about his looks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:15 AM Flag
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Mine are very good looking, but I would say that it also has a lot to do with how I dress them. Them in their diapers are super cute, but not amazing looking. But once I dress them up, they are super gorgeous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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My son is average, but is blond and has big blue eyes, so people comment on how handsome he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:24 AM Flag
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My child is bi-racial and gets lots of attention along with the typical "of your kid's hair is amazing, he should be in a Gap ad" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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My older dd is average looking, my younger one is prettier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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People always say to me "you guys make the most beautiful kids, you should have more!" So we are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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Hope that is not why. People say this to everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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very attractive - we make a concerted effort to teach them that what kind of a person you are is more important than looks - they are somewhat unaware of their looks, so it is working [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:24 AM Flag
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both are average looking, yet above average behaviour and school performance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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I think most little kids are cute. Rarely do I feel little ones are unattractive. Tweens...not always. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:33 AM Flag
[ - ] DH got stoned before kid were in bed tonight. Agreement was he could smoke after their bedtime. I'm so pissed at him. He is such a loser. His eyes were all red and puffy. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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red and puffy? sure he was stoned? did he deny. usually pupil dilation is the tell tale sign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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OR- Sorry if it was the case. that sucks and you deserve to be angry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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He didn't do coke. He smoked a joint. Hello [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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You chose him to be the father of your child - get over it. You probably thought you could change him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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No. I just thought he'd have the sense not to smoke when kids are awake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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talk about it when he is not high or jonesing to get high - this stinks - so sorry.......ask him to imagine DCs smoking pot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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