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[ - ] Sorry, I know this sounds like the most trivial question, but where can I find good quality, cotton sweat shirts and pants for a 5 year old? TIA. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Hanes has a website and sometimes has good sales. [ Reply | More
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honestly, I find that target hold up just find -- my ds grows out of them so fast! But Lands End has good quality and a good selection (although better selection in the Winter than the summer). [ Reply | More
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Old navy. [ Reply | More
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Uniqlo. [ Reply | More
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I kind of dig H&M for kids sweats and (sometimes) pants. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] For fun: What are you wearing today? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Chaps and pasties. [ Reply | More
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At home...just a teddy [ Reply | More
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Is it 1985? [ Reply | More
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No 2013 [ Reply | More
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A furry shark suit. [ Reply | More
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Naked eh? [ Reply | More
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my favorite black jcrew minnie pants, black/white shirt from banana, grey cardigan from target. [ Reply | More
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No underwear. [ Reply | More
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Clean shaven? [ Reply | More
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I hope... [ Reply | More
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Navy pencil skirt, white blouse, red shoes. I look like a politician. [ Reply | More
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Clogs. Because that is how I roll on Wednesdays. Oh and whiskers. [ Reply | More
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Stirrup pants, slouchy socks, loafers and my puffy painted off the shoulder sweatshirt with a matching scrunchy in my hair. [ Reply | More
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Yoga pants and one of DH's tshirts. He's out of town so it's frump-tacular Wednesday at my place. [ Reply | More
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Yoga pants, target boyfriend tshirt, ugly mom sweater [ Reply | More
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A top hat and tails. [ Reply | More
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boyfriend jeans, white v-neck shirt, sandals. [ Reply | More
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Just a smile. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] s/o of sleep CIO post. I'm pregnant with db#2 but it's been a few years and I have completely forgotten EVERYTHING. Suggestions on how to relearn taking care of newborns/babies? Books? Class? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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It'll come back to you. Really, don't stress about it. [ Reply | More
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op: thank you, I think you're right but I literally remember nothing about how long they're supposed to sleep, how much to feed, swaddling, etc. [ Reply | More
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It's kind of nice to forget that stuff, IMO. It'll make the second time less stressful--you can go with the flow a little more. And you can always look stuff up on Babycenter when the time comes, you know? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] How'd you meet your significant other? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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College. He was so damn cute. [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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Introduced by a mutual friend. [ Reply | More
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Work [ Reply | More
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At a lounge. [ Reply | More
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Internet [ Reply | More
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Sex club [ Reply | More
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What is that and where [ Reply | More
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She was my bartender. [ Reply | More
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med school & residency [ Reply | More
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Ex husbands brother [ Reply | More
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FAKE [ Reply | More
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I hope not [ Reply | More
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Friend of a friend of a friend -- the group went out to dinner. [ Reply | More
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JDate [ Reply | More
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Supermarket [ Reply | More
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bowling [ Reply | More
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Through my Ex-Husband [ Reply | More
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Oh dear [ Reply | More
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First week living in London. He grabbed my hand and pulled me back onto the sidewalk after I'd looked the wrong way stepping off of the curb. I was very nearly hit by a cab. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I need advice...and I'm not looking for CIO criticism please. My DD is 3.5 months old, and is struggling with sleep during the night. She was doing great with a schedule and was also waking once per night. Last 2 weeks, she is waking twice a night, rising earlier in th morning than before, seems to be drooling a little, struggling with her third nap of the day. I can't tell what's changed or what she needs...is it teething? Does she need more milk in her bottle? Is she trying to drop third nap? Is she craving an earlier bedtime? We've done CIO for naps, and it's working great...she can comfort herself to sleep...so is she ready for CIO in the middle of the night? I'm stuck. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:55 PM Flag
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It's like you've never heard of babies before! Dude, they have books for this. 4 month sleep regression. Development is not linear. Etc. Etc. The famous Ferber says you may sleep train at night at 4 or 5 months old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:57 PM Flag
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Way to be kind [ Reply | More
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3.5 mos is early for CIO. I'd drop the third nap and see if that helps. At that age, we did "bedtime" at 8, but woke DB up for a final bottle around midnight. That would get us to 6am or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:53 PM Flag
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Dropping the nap is something I considered...thx [ Reply | More
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Hang in there -- you're right on the cusp. How much does DD weigh? [ Reply | More
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She's in the 75th percentile, so I know she's nourished enough. And when she nurses at night, she's not eating a ton at all. [ Reply | More
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NP are you sure? Babies get a lot more efficient, so "not eating a ton" might be wrong. Certainly at this age she needs to be fed during the night. I'd be surprised if she wasn't eating more than you think! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:01 PM Flag
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That's true...she has gotten more efficient. But when do you suggest I cut the night feelings? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:09 PM Flag
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OR: I only ask b/c most babies get on a good sleep schedule somewhere between 15 and 20 lbs. If she's there, then you're close. By 4 months she'll be ready for a schedule -- stick to it tightly, and enjoy your sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:11 PM Flag
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I'm sorry but babies are all over the place until 5 or 6 months. The fact that you've already used CIO is concerning. I know you said no flames but even Ferber himself said don't use it until at least 6 months. Give your baby a break, she's only 3 and a half months old. Finally, calm down and stop micromanaging. It will be detrimental. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:07 PM Flag
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Ferber says 4mo, but I agree that OP has been doing this too early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:09 PM Flag
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No need to be concerned. I let her CIO for naps. Took 2-3 days. She's now sweetly cooing when she comforts herself. Puts herself to sleep in less than 5 min. Trust me, nothing detrimental has happened. I'm a mom trying to problem solve and understand changes in my daughter. No need to criticize. Advice only please. [ Reply | More
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likely a growth spirt and needs to eat in the middle of the night more often and first thing in the AM [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Qustion for parents whose dc take meds for psych issues like ADHD, anxiety, depression, or if dc does therapy w/ a psych: Does your dc discuss this w/ friends/peers, and what's your stance on that? Also, how old is your dc? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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We're in this position w/ dc, just turned 12yo. I prefer dc to be discreet and not talk about it with other kids, because I realize people gossip and many don't know enough not to make big assumptions about why a dc is medicated or in therapy. But it's tough to convey the importance for discretion without making dc feel like there's something shameful that needs to be kept secret. Besides that, I think at this age there's a certain sort of social standing some kids may feel if it's known they're seeing a shrink? Part of the middleschool tendency toward overdramatizing things, maybe? But from what I've see and overheard, a lot of kids talk about this stuff no matter what their parents may prefer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny in the building leaves the baby alone in the apartment napping while she does laundry. Is that usual? I never did it when my child was a baby but maybe I was just paranoid. Laundry is in the basement; the baby's apt is on 18. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Hmm, that's troubling. Probably no baby monitor can reach through that many floors. [ Reply | More
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OP: she doesn't bring one, in any case. [ Reply | More
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Do you know the parents? Or have you just run into the nanny in the laundry room? [ Reply | More
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OP: I've met them in the lobby but I don't know them. [ Reply | More
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Hmm, in that case, maybe you could say something--kindly, non-confrontationally--to the nanny herself? Next time you see her in the laundry room? "Where's that adorable baby?" etc. [ Reply | More
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I do it, but we live on the second floor. I also try to time it so I only have to run down once alone. [ Reply | More
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Agreed troubling [ Reply | More
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How old is db? [ Reply | More
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OP: DB looks to be 2 or 3 or 4 months. [ Reply | More
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not normal at all and totally silly. A baby of that age can just hang out in the carriage while she does the laundry. [ Reply | More
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Assuming the parents know the nanny does laundry and the only laundry is in the basement, I would assume the parents know this. How can you bring down baby plus all the laundry. The woman isn't an octopus. [ Reply | More
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In a baby carrier. I've done it. [ Reply | More
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MYOB [ Reply | More
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Definitely would not do this. Maybe if the laundry was on the same floor. [ Reply | More
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Where is the laundry room? I used to do this, but our laundry room was on the same floor, 2 apartments down from ours. I didn't fold there, just bring home and then fold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:11 PM Flag
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Just saw it's in the basement, I wouldn't do that. [ Reply | More
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I would write parents an anonymous note. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever just wanted to respond to an email with "Lol Jesus Christ I fucking hate you"? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Many times a day. [ Reply | More
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Goddamn. This woman sent me an email that I am not privy to, in what I am assuming was an attempt to make me jealous of some opportunity she was given? Ugh. [ Reply | More
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Make that your signature line. [ Reply | More
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I should! [ Reply | More
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Love it! [ Reply | More
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Yup, to every single email my SIL sends me. [ Reply | More
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No. My mom doesn't email. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Want a professional looking bag with a some color (not too crazy, I'm a lawyer). What say you UB? (links below). 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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OP: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/longchamp-roseau-croco-shoulder-tote/3281981?origin=shoppingbag or http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/longchamp-au-sultan-shoulder-bag/3393512?origin=orderreview [ Reply | More
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Not really exciting. I am not a fan of the color and the shape is rather old fashioned. [ Reply | More
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OP: for both? [ Reply | More
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Love the sultan. [ Reply | More
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http://www.furla.com/us/eshop/piper-tote_713058.html [ Reply | More
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OP: Pretty, but unavailable and twice the price. [ Reply | More
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That's not a shoulder bag though, right? [ Reply | More
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OP: they both are shoulder bags, but one has tote handles too. [ Reply | More
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The sultan looks ridiculous as a shoulder bag, can't be comfortable [ Reply | More
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I prefer the Furla but what are you putting into it/how do you need to get in and out of it. If you are putting in a porfolio or notebook, you're going to have a much easier time with #1 or #2 than #3 [ Reply | More
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OP: I'm still nursing so I have a lot of stuff to tote to and from work (stuff I don't necessarily want seen by the world). Was also looking at: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/longchamp-au-sultan-dome-satchel/3419297?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=5714&cm_sp=personalizedsort-_-browseresults-_-1_14_A I'm the one that was looking at the orange Ferragamo tote a couple weeks ago, but I decided it was too expensive (ok, ok, UB told me it was too expensive and I came to my senses!). [ Reply | More
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I don't know if Dooney is played out, but they have some nice leather bags. http://www.dooney.com/OA_HTML/ibeCCtpSctDspRte.jsp?section=63773 [ Reply | More
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lawyer here and I love them both! [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Ugh. Just found out that DH jas been sued for non-payment of a student loan from almost 20 years ago. All of his grad school loans are paid off, but this one from undergrad which he says he thought was paid in full apparently wasn't. The remaining total is $7k, plus interest and attorneys fees amounting to $16k. DOes he need a lawyer? Or can he just call the law firm that sent the complaint and offer a settlement (we can afford to pay it)? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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If he thought the loan was paid off seems like step one is to research the loan history and confirm status. I would dispute the debt and request docs, likely from the original lender. [ Reply | More
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the latter. He should just call and say he thought it was paid and as long as they provide proof that it wasn't, he will pay the balance but not the fees. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] HHI going from 600k to 0. Not much in savings, okay a little scared 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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omg, both of you lost your jobs at the same time? [ Reply | More
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No just dh, I am sahm have been trying to get back to work but didn't realize I actually needed to. Best case scenario I get a job that pays 50k. We are still 550k short [ Reply | More
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Plenty of people survive on 50k, Jesus [ Reply | More
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Her mortgage is probably huge. [ Reply | More
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common, surely you understand that people have rent/mortgage, tuition etc that commensurate with their HHI. If you are going to flame OP flame her for not saving [ Reply | More
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Wow. Your problem is that you made 600k, and you lived like you made 600k. No one owes you 550k. [ Reply | More
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I didn't say anyone owed me anything. I am just trying to wrap my head around this [ Reply | More
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Do you have significant other assets? Second home you can sell? [ Reply | More
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We will have to sit down and comb through stocks and such. No other real estate besides our primary residence [ Reply | More
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how much do you have in stocks? retirements accounts? What do you mean by "not much in savings"? [ Reply | More
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I hope your apt is paid off [ Reply | More
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Nothing is paid off. We are screwed [ Reply | More
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Np :( [ Reply | More
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why are you assuming your dh will not find work quickly? [ Reply | More
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It is harder for higher up execs to find jobs. They can hire 12 of me for the price of one of him [ Reply | More
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But that doesn't mean 12 of you can actually do his job. There is a reason he was being paid $600k [ Reply | More
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how many 600K people do companies need? It is usually a pyramid. Few at the top and it trickles down. [ Reply | More
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how much is your total mortgage amount? [ Reply | More
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do you own? [ Reply | More
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yes we own, have a high mortgage. School tuition... [ Reply | More
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I am sure you will get aid as fair or unfair as it might sound to UBers. You can sell if you need to. Market is up right now. [ Reply | More
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Thank you for the words of encouragement [ Reply | More
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what field is your dh in? finance i presume [ Reply | More
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No, not finance [ Reply | More
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maybe he can bounce back quickly? he must have an amazing skill set to make 600K [ Reply | More
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I hope so. I think we will be fine. You know, I am calming down. It is just money. We will be fine [ Reply | More
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Sorry to hear this. [ Reply | More
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What happened? He just lost his job? [ Reply | More
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I am not sure about the details yet, it was a short convo over the phone..he is out of town [ Reply | More
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he just said: "I will not longer be making money"? [ Reply | More
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He is getting in in 2 hours. I don't want to get into details, but it didn't sound like it was pretty. I think he lost it on someone [ Reply | More
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Oh no, you think he got fired? If not laid off, then no severance and no unemployment benefits. Sucks. [ Reply | More
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That is what I am suspecting. He does have a bag temper sometimes [ Reply | More
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You are fucked, that is all... [ Reply | More
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okay, I will go get the lube [ Reply | More
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How many dc's? [ Reply | More
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2 [ Reply | More
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Is he going to get unemployment benefits? [ Reply | More
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I'm really sorry. We are in the same boat as you and it is extremely stressful on our marriage. Hopefully something will come your way soon. We had to borrow 10k from parents just to keep the roof over our head once our savings ran out. It is scary but I keep thinking that it can really only get better. GL [ Reply | More
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Good luck to you too! [ Reply | More
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Did you or DH find a job yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:04 PM Flag
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Severance? Start selling stuff and amass an emergency fund. Cut all non-essentials beyond food, power, water, shelter. Don't pretend it isn't happening to save face. We waited too long to do this and it was a mistake. At that level, your DH was lots of contacts. Network with everyone. And that $50K job? Take it today. [ Reply | More
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Going through expenses. We are sure wasteful. I think I should've tightened my belt before I had to [ Reply | More
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You need to figure out a minimum survival amount. Do you know what that is? Usually means tuition, mortgage, health insurance and about $800/monthly for food. Another $800 a month in networking expenses. [ Reply | More
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okay, I will start on that right now. I can't believe I don't know what this number is [ Reply | More
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Sorry op. learn a lesson from her though. Stay in your starter apt and pay it off if you're making that kind of cash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] mil gave me meissen tea/coffee set, which her mil gave her. it is stunning, but i will never use it. do i box it and save for my dil or auction it off when mil passes? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Sell it [ Reply | More
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I'd box it unless you really don't have the space. [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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+2. it's a nice tradition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:50 PM Flag
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Me too, but I'm a pack rat when it comes to any sort of family heirloom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:38 PM Flag
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x2. My mother sold off SO much of my grandmother's stuff when she died when I was 13; the auctioneer came to the house to have the auction. When I was 18, my mom was having a round 2 purge and I rented a storage unit and kept all my great, great grandmother's silver and other "clutter" my mom didn't want--she said take it or I'll sell it. After 10 years, she asked for it back and I said no. Still have all of it and will leave it to my dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:50 PM Flag
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Good for you for thinking ahead, something your mother failed to do. Also good for you for not giving it back. She'd end up selling it eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:55 PM Flag
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I would save for DIL/granddaughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:43 PM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:38 PM Flag
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Invite her for tea and use it - she will be thrilled! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:43 PM Flag
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+1 or use it yourself:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:05 PM Flag
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You don't have to decide now. Both of your options are box it since you have no desire to display it. How old is your DS? Any DIL on the horizon? MIL in good health? You probably won't have to decide for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:52 PM Flag
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Save it for your DIL. My family has thrown away so many heirloom pieces that I wish would have been passed down to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:55 PM Flag
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Why won't you use it? IMO, if you're saving something, there needs to be an "end game" so I always ask "to what end am I saving this?" I love the idea of family heirloom's but if they are just boxed up and being passed down from generation to generation and taking up space in your closet/attic/basement then what is the point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:56 PM Flag
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you might not like/appreciate heirlooms, but maybe your dd will, or granddaughter. And once it's gone, it's gone. I'd keep it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:59 PM Flag
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You should really use it once in a while, that's what's for. People who say sell have no culture, it's an heirloom, a pretty useful one actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else who realizes they are not a particularly warm and fuzzy person who is having trouble being physically expressive with their DC's as much as they'd like? I love my children but I don't attack them with hugs and kisses all the time like I see other parents do. One of my dc's recently said she feels like no body loves her even though this is certainly not true. I am trying to remind myself to give more hugs and kisses but sometimes it honestly just doesn't occur to me. My parents were not especially physically affectionate though my mother claims this is not true. I'm just kind of a detached person except for a few people with whom I form especially deep attachments (my DH and a few adult friends)....what's wrong with me? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:34 PM Flag
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Make an effort. Seriously. There isn't anything really wrong with you, but your dd is hurting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:41 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:39 PM Flag
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I can't imagine. I can't stop myself from hugging and kissing my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:42 PM Flag
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Not helpful at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:38 PM Flag
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I think you never learned to write well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:38 PM Flag
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Shut up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:45 PM Flag
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How are your kids not people you are deeply attached to? Didn't you snuggle them as babies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, I am attached to them and did snuggle them as babies and I snuggle with them in bed when I tuck them in. I guess I don't actively walk over and hug or kiss them. It's more reactive when they come to me, I respond with a hug/kiss. I'm just not very outwardly emotive in general. I have always envied those people who are so naturally able to make people feel loved and welcome, but when I try it feels so contrived and forced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:05 PM Flag
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Just keep doing it, you love them so it isn't contrived. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:08 PM Flag
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I hear you but I thihnk you need to put this on your to-do list. At least every morning and every night ( and obviously during times of crises or celebration) be sure to kiss, hud and cuddle - even for a few seconds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:42 PM Flag
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When you say "attack" them with hugs and kisses, you show a lot of ambivalence about that kind of expressiveness. Not trying to psych you out, but you did chose that phrase. I agree with previous responder that you are withholding one of the more precious gifts you can give your child. If I were you, I'd ask my child to "attack" me with hugs and kisses. I'd set a phone alarm to remind me to do it a couple of times a day at least. I'd say silly things like "I'm fortress. No one can get in....unless you ATTACK me!" That way you give them permission to touch you without awkward squirmies, and let them express their frustration with your coldness while actually repairing the distance you've allowed to open up between you and dc's. What's "wrong" with you can be at least partly healed through a direct counteraction, even if it never really goes away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:51 PM Flag
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You are me. Not huggy kissy but I think, my DC know I love them. Show your love in ways that makes sense for you. DD and I like to cuddle next to one another and read our books. Your DC is telling you something very important. One of the best ways to show your love is to listen to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] dh wants to move to CA. I have job offer but he doesn't. afraid of becoming sole provider. told him we're not moving until he has job since i have no desire to move. unreasonable or ok? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:31 PM Flag
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Ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:32 PM Flag
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Definitely OK! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:32 PM Flag
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Where in CA? I'm a NYer living in LA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:27 PM Flag
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^^^also he should definitely find a job first. People are being laid off like flies here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:28 PM Flag
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This exact same thing happened to a friend! It's now been a year and her dh, who was succeessful in their old city and only quit to follow her and her job offer, cannot find a job there and has been really putting in an effort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:36 PM Flag
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Is your job offer in NY? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:50 PM Flag
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totally ok if you look at the same time, since presumably this offer won't wait. don't just move there on a lark though, it's really different than the East Coast and you either love it or hate it. Signed, Hated It [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:46 PM Flag
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Do you want the job offered? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:04 PM Flag
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will your job offer evaporate while he looks for a job there? I wouldn't lose out on a good opportunity to move, so long as he has good irons in the fire. But I'm sick of NYC and would move in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:11 PM Flag
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