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[ - ] I hate pregnancy discrimination at work place. Anyone BTDT? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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I think you need to be more specific...what's going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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When I was a legal secretary I had really awkward interactions with the attorney I was assigned to, who was having round after round of IVF. She requested that I be switched with another attorney's secretary. No problem with my work and the new attorney I got was an anal retentive PITA. I never did anything about it, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Basically I was pregnant and the IVF kept failing. She had kind of a breakdown at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] The search feature on UB sucks. A few weeks ago someone posted a link to a cancer cluster study for LI (think it was done by SUNY Stony Brook). Anyone here have a link to that study or article? Thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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If you just google LI cancer clusters, I'm sure you will find the study online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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oP: thanks, I did locate that one. I was wondering if there was one that is more recent (that one is from 2003). Maybe one that has county by county breakdown of cancer incidents, etc. I am researching towns in LI and I want to show someone that Bethpage has a higher incidence of clusters than other towns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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No, but if anyone reading this has a better way to search UB I would love to know. Have been looking for old posts and using keywords I knew I used and they don't appear. Random posts from 2011/2012 are just gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Is this the Brookhaven cluster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Toddler (14 months) flaps his arms when excited. Is it normal bahavior or should I be concerned. Please help with advice. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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It is adorable. Enjoy. Please don't look for things to be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? Just found out a good friend is dating one of my ex-boyfriends. She didn't tell me about it - I heard it from a mutual friend. I am happily married now with DCs. Do I have any right to be upset that my friend didn't tell me she is dating him (I found out from another mutual friend)? I realize that he and I dated many years ago, and they are free adults, but she knows he is the "one who got away" (kind of) for me. TIA, I feel really childish asking but I thought there were some rules of girl friendship! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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What good what it have done? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be upset. You are married. She is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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+1 She only didn't tell you because she knew you were going to be irrational. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Maybe a bit weird that she didn't tell you; but perhaps she wanted to wait and see if it actually turned into anything before bringing it up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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She probably didn't want to tell you, since there is a tinge of awkwardness about it, until she knew whether or not it was going to work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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oh please, this isn't high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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I would feel a bit hurt, but just move on from it. You are (presumably) happily married. I wouldn't bring it up either unless she tells me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] RHoNY finale highlight: LuAnn, insisting, "I would NEVER do anything like that! ... to you..." 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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I missed the very end - what happened? Do you think Sonja and Harry are together now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Were you able to watch the scene in which Sonja meets Harry at the restaurant? She tells him that she has x number of marriage years in her, so if he is still interested in Sonja after she is done with this phantom marriage to someone else, she will then date Harry again. I got the impression from watching Watch What Happens, that Sonja is not currently dating Harry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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no one ever invites me to parties where legs fly :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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this show is so staged it is offensive to viewers, and I cannot believe how much money these people make on these shows!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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this is what i don't get - how can anyone whop ever "stars" on such a show not be embarrassed? I would't leave the house after it aired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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ITA, and their poor DCs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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I think Aviva really does have something on Carole regarding her book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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it was a beautiful pause. I can just imagine the arch of Sonja's brow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I found out that 10 yo DS has been putting the dog collar on 8 yo DS and making him walk through the electric fence. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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No supervision? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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We have a nanny but she spends the most time with our 5 yo and 2 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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you have too many kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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too many kids, lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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then you need a second sitter- like a high schooler to be with the older two if this is how they are treating each other. a two year old almost needs own sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Not fake! They fight all the time but I didn't realize it had gotten this bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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i posted below. honestly, you need to intervene FAST. i was so abused by my brother growing up- physically & emotionally. if i had known then what i know now i should have been removed from my house. my mom went back to work when i was nine. we were essentially latch key kids. i dreaded going home after school every day. that said, where is the nanny?!? fine that she is focusing on the younger kids, but she should sense that something bad is going on with the two older ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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lolz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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This is something my older brother would have made me do. he was, and still is, such a dick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Your eight year old did this twice? You need to replace the batteries in the dog collar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Wow. How are you going to handle this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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They are at day camp now but I'm going to punish when he gets home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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how? by making him go to the electric fence too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Great idea. And on all fours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate affirmative action. What happen to fairness? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Bwahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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What is fair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Let the deserving ones have it regardless of color, race, gender, socioeconomic conditions, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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pp: But what is "deserving." Say you have a kid whose family pushes test prep for years and gets a 99 versus a kid whose family never looked twice at homework, etc and gets a 98. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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It may seem unfair on the surface that a kid that gets a 99 gets in mainly because of the parents pushing, but it really is not. The kid get that gets 99 will probably get in and fail at some point in life if he/she doesn't learn to rely on himself/herself without the parents involvements. I have seen this happen all too many times. The ones that were able to attain some sort of academic success "all" due to the parents later all turn out to be good for nothing. The only way to sustain that success is that these kids need to put in their own efforts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Whether you are for or against AA, I don't know anyone who actually thinks life is fair. The birth lottery predetermines SO much of the rest of our lives. Not everything, for sure, because hard work, choices, etc. factor in, but do not pretend that AA is the thing getting in the way of this thing you call fairness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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I am not against AA. I am a minority myself. I don't believe that giving AA an academic break gives them a leg up in their future success if they are not deserving. Employers are not as forgiving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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AA was affirmative action in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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How are you defining fair? Is it fair that a poor child gets a lower quality education? Is it fair the minority teens are followed around stores regardless of their ability to pay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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No, I am a minority myself. And I know first hand what it is like to be a minority with affirmative action. When you earned your way, people assume that you got there partly because of affirmative action. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Yes. It was so fair for everyone before affirmative action came along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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exactly. i want to back to the days when only white men were accepted at top schools. oh, wait... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Anti-affirmative action is not the same as pro-descrimination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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When you grow up you will learn that life isn't fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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I actually think that for the most part, life is quite fair. The economically disadvantaged kids tend to possess the focus and determination that kids from more affluent families don't have. There are always 2 sides to every story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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You are incredibly naive or ignorant. Economically disadvantaged kids are thousands of times more likely to have health issues, wind up in jail, wind up in foster care, have mental health issues, etc. You need to learn that just being black does not give you the moral authority on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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bait fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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The fact that you are not AA is unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Was it fair to keep people out of school and jobs because of the color of their skin even when they had good grades or were well qualified? You reap what you sew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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That is discrimination - nothing to do with affirmative action. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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ITA. I know of 2 people in my professional world who are practically inept and there is no question that affirmative action has kept them on a decent trajectory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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This is exactly what I mean. But at some point, they will fail. So affirmative action is doing them a hug dis-service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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govt employees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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That is a company that is not doing it right. Nobody is for that. It is about seeking out people who might not usually come to their attention, maybe giving some extra help to close a gap, but not accepting mediocrity or worse. You aren't against AA, you are agaisnt poor management, as we all should be! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone else had their credit card numbers stolen for use on $100 Starbucks card and $10 at Zappos? This recently happened with 2 different credit cards. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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No. DH had his stollen recently and they bought ski equipment in Thousand Oaks, Ca. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Those thieves sound much more fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Sounds like trust fund kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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No sorry this happened to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I've had gas stations, TMobile, online retailers, and prepaid intl phone cards- you just catch it fast and you never pay any money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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No, but they did charge $400 at Macy's and $100 at a restaurant in Hoboken. And I live in Seattle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] We tentatively decided on the name Brandon for DS2 but middle name is still up in the air. A few contenders: David (a family name, which I liked initially but am moving away from), Samuel (another family name, never a favorite but its OK), James (moving more toward this name lately but not set on it). Also very open to new ideas. If it matters, last name starts with S. TYIA 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Brandon James, Brandon Joseph [ Reply | More ]
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Brandon Matthew [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I do like this too but Matthew is a family member's name and not someone whose name I would want to use ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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Brandon Thomas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Love Brandon James. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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^^this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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don't let BJ happen as a nn though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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I would not!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! It is our current first choice but not 100% sure. Exploring our options right now :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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you cannot do this. the nickname is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Would be awful for a girl but not a boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Brandon Christopher [ Reply | More ]
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Brandon Patrick [ Reply | More ]
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Brandon Louis [ Reply | More ]
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Brandon Charles [ Reply | More ]
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Brandon James [ Reply | More ]
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I don't love Brandon. I actually like all of your middles better. James is my favorite but I'm worried about the S running into your last name (whether it's a first or a middle). Of the names you've listed, I would go with Samuel David S____. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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She said she already decided on Brandon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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She said "tentatively" and she's still tossing the full name around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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^^^^ never mind, I see you don't like Samuel. How about Benjamin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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OP: Benjamin is another name on our list that is being considered for a first name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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OP: I def do not want to use Samuel as a first name. I dont really like the name to begin with, and we already have a pet named Sammy so that would be weird for all of us including DS2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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OP again. I also love the name James and its somewhat in consideration for a first name, DH likes it too, but I think it sounds funny with our last name and I hate hate hate the nicknames Jim, Jimmy, Jamie, etc. I know there isnt much control over your child's nicknames so I feel like a middle name would be a safer way to avoid that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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I like Brendan better than Brandon. Brendan is a classic Irish name. Brandon is a classic trailer park name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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love brendan [ Reply | More ]
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Brendan Charles is nice [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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ITA. Also Brendan James, Brendan Thomas, Brendan Joseph [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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My DH likes Brandon but thinks Brendan reminds him of a girls name/Brenda. I originally liked either version but I think DH POV may have poisoned Brendan for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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What about Brian, Sean, Connor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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np-I don't think Brandon is trailer park. Plus, he'll be the only one in his class. There will be lots of Charles, James, Wills, Theodores, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Brandon is totally a WT name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I am sorry, but I loathe that name. James is beautifully classic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Brandon James [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a WOHM with a somewhat flexible but very fulltime job, just had baby #3, 8 months ago, others are 4 and 7. We live in NJ suburbs and only have to commute, 1 or 2X a week. I've been back to work 3 months and I feel like I am working to pay our nanny (and with higher tax brackets, etc.). Thinking about becoming a SAHM, Just not sure I will be able to be happy living on a strict budget, my DH makes 210K and I'm at 120K. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Can you go part-time? I would not make the decision to SAHM. My kids are older now and I'm so glad I kept working, my SAHM friends regret the decision they made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Thanks. Good to hear. They said no to part-time 3 months ago under different management, I think if i threatened to leave they might allow 4 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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I know many wohm's that regret not staying home. I can't think of one sahm that feels that way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Like I said, my kids are older, youngest is 17 yo. In my cohort, almost all the SAHMs regret staying home because at this point there is no way to get back in the work force. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Following. I relate to a lot of your post. Also a WOHM with a somewhat flexible but fulltime job, live in burbs but only commute 2x most weeks (pregnant with #2 but would like to have 3 eventually). Biggest differences are we have family for free childcare at the moment, and our salaries are the same but flipped (I am 210, DH is 120) which makes it a lot harder for me to SAH. I am leaning heavily toward going part time after this DB though. If I was in your boat with paid childcare and the lesser income I would more strongly consider SAH, although I dont know if I would be happy SAH FT. I would want to try PT first if that is an option in your career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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I WOHM with 3 kids and make 40K more than you do while my dh makes 40K less than your dh. My youngest is now 2 yo. My advice is stick with it. It gets much easier and you will be happy you didn't give up your income. Is 4 yo going to be in-school? How much do you pay the nanny to feel that 120K isn't worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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$18 an hour or 35-40K yearly. I've had her over 5 years and she's looking for at least $20 soon but she mainly takes care of baby girl, older two boys are in full day school and day camp in summer. [ Reply | More ]
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I was in a similar situation. Asked for PT and was not allowed. I left to SAH , I had to be in the office every day. I was exhausted and really wanted to spend more quality time with the children. Yes we are on a budget but it's not a big deal. Best of luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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PT would be ideal since that would keep your foot in the door but looks like that's not an option. As far as working to pay the nanny, that might be true for the next few years but then you will still have a solid career for 20+ years after that, so financially it's a no-brainer to stay. Emotionally, if you want to be there for more hours during the early years of your children's lives, then it's a no-brainer to be a SAHM and take the financial hit (which is both short and long-term). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I was making more than you and I left! We have less $, but so so much less stress! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think its okay to let my 4 yo and 2.6 yo play outside in our yard alone? Burbs. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Fence/gate? Yes. No fence? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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There is a fence but 4 yo knows how to open it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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4yo can follow the rules but has to be willing and you have to be confident about that. We have a wooden fence - moved there when DCs were 4.5 and 2.5 - and I've let them play outside but knew older one would follow and enforce gate rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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NP. Then I wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Put a lock on it and then let them play. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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4 year old yes but 2.5 year old I would only allow if you were watching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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backyard? fenced? YUP! My backyard was my godsend when I had one. I miss it. Nothing like opening the door and sending them outside to run off some energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Alone with you watching. Shit can go haywire pretty quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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Yes exactly this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Nope, unless it is a fenced in backyard with no hazards (pool, steep terraces, lawn equipment, etc...) If it is a fenced grassy area with no hazards, and you have an unobstructed view and check on them frequently, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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No, maybe when the youngest is 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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I my opinion children under 6 years should never be left without supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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This is about the age I started letting mine. But I would check out the window every 10 minutes. Only did it when I was cooking or something (not zoning out for long periods of time). FWIW we had a huge lawn and the part they played on was no where near the street. Also my 4yo was a strict rule follower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Driving from Nyc to Bar Harbor Maine with our 2 dds (6 and 8). We can stop one or two night on our way up there. Where should we stop?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Plymouth, Salem, Boston [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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why not fly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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very expensive [ Reply | More ]
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i just looked it up. $165 round trip on jetblue. you'll burn that in gas and a hotel. flight is an hour and a half. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I am curious as to why parents say that room and board is included when they interview a live-in nanny; isn't it obvious that live-in nanny will need a room to sleep in and food to eat? Or is it a way to short-change the nanny and lessen her salary? And this family lives in a state worth 20 mil, I do not get it. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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I am a nanny and this makes perfect sense to me. It's not short changing. If I didn't live with them, I'd have to pay for rent and groceries. Those are huge expenses! Of course they'd be factored into the salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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(also...overall I think I still come out ahead. My weekly pay (not including room and board) is less than a live-out, but if you really calculated what I'd pay to live on my own, I'm making more than your typical live-out nanny.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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np This. It's a beneficial situation for all involved. Parents spend a lot less than they would to actually pay the nanny's rent, and the nanny takes home more than she would overall if she lived out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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below poster: exactly. overall its better package for the nanny but it also gives more flexibility to family and is cheaper to family if they do have room to accommodate. Financially its a win win if the family has room and nanny is interested in this arrangement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I will be keeping my apartment and going there on weekends, my expenses are not going away, I still need to pay rent and utilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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In that case, you shouldn't be a live-in. Why would you? You realize more live-ins do in fact live-in, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I love living in because I won't have to commute but I also want to be away from work on my days off and I think the parents appreciate the privacy and break from an outsider always being there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Fair enough but that's unusual and it sounds like cost/expenses aren't as much of a factor for you as they are for many other live-ins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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The replies make it sound as if by accepting a live -in position you should have nothing outside the work, I am shocked, don't these nannies have outside interests or a desire to get away and take a break from being in a room all weekend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Sure but they can't afford it or are living in bc they are saving $$ (or in many cases, sending it overseas) and so they spend time with friends on weekends and at the homes of those that aren't live-ins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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you are ridiculous. I had a live-in and having room and board is part of the pay structure. If she had to pay to keep an apartment she would make less money and would be less happy. I would never want a live-in like this. We would both be miserable. Clearly you aren't a good candidate for a live-in position as you don't even get this. My live-in had a like on weekends and evenings but yes probably didn't have as much privacy as if she lived alone and neither did we. This arrangement only works if it benefits both sides. With you its a lose lose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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If you aren't going to live-in, why would you take a live-in job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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you aren't a good candidate for a live-in position or you should sublet your room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Then you are not the ideal candidate for a live in position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Wait, you mean to tell me that because I want to have my own space (apartment) I am not a good live-in candidate?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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np: clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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She is probably assuming that the pay structure won't work. clearly you aren't as sensitive to that as most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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No, because others will value it more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Ok, ladies you have convinced me, time to change careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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I wasn't trying to be mean, its just that some people will regard it as additional compenaation, which means they will find job more attractive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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I had a live-in. When I interviewed many live-ins really cared about room arrangements (understandably so) and also not all expected to be able to eat anything from the fridge. Not all families do that apparently so it was always something that was discussed as part of the package. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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What do people pay for a live-in nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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My live-in made $200 less than live-out and live-in worked more hours and gave me more flexibility. For example if she didn't have any plans for the evening I could go out for an hour or two with a friend at night. We also had a date night with dh which we no longer can afford with a live-out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I to believe that all this time, you ladies have been talkin' smack? That NYC is not all that, in reality? That you use terms like "flyover" as a defense mechanism? ok - I get it now! http://news.ubc.ca/2014/07/21/unhappy-cities/ 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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LOL I'm a happy NYer. But I like flyover territory too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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How do they define happy/unhappy? If my happiness is going to be measured, I don't want it on a yardstick some Canuck pulled out of his ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Bf moms: I have a newborn on my hands (2 weeks) and am EBF. I know I'm supposed to drink lots of water, but wondering how much more? I feel the need to down 20oz all throughout the day and when I nurse at night, but don't want to overdo it either- let's say you normally have to drink 64oz per day, how much would you need to drink while bf? TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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I never counted exactly, but I downed a glass each time I BF. I also drank juice in the middle of the night for the first month or so because i was starving and needed the extra calories. In know juice is terrible, but I was so hungry and I didn't want to sit up all night eating! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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This. Drink when bfing and you will be fine. Congrats on db [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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If you're thirsty, drink. You can only overdo it in situations like running a marathon where it becomes more of a psychological crutch than a need and you stop at every water stop bc you're exhausted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I went for 8 glasses of water while bfing, and then also drank fenugreek tea and often had one beer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I drank so much water that my work needed to increase our water deliveries for the cooler (small office). For me, it was a lot more. The advice of drinking a glass while breastfeeding is good. I think I may have done even more than that. Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I typically don't wear skits/dresses because my inner thighs rub together, what do you women do to avoid this? I wore a dress yesterday and was miserable and sweaty. I try to avoid spanx because it's just another layer to deal with in the heat. P.S. I am not fat, either... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Body Glide...it's what runners use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Baby powder works too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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I stopped wearing dresses because of this. Can't stand my thighs rubbing together and hate body shapers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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body glide works well. doesn't stop them rubbing together, but it will prevent painful chafing. Of buy a pair of jockey skimmies, which is what I wear: http://www.jockey.com/catalog/product/skimmies-slipshort they are super light weight and no compression (unlike spanx-- just comfy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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