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對不起,我不能千篇一律。 Or, क्षमा करें, मैं टकसाली नहीं किया जा सकता [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you feel comfortable having 5yo DD go to drop-off birthday party? Just a few guests. Planning on hosting this and wondering if the other moms will be ok. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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of course. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably yes but some kids are still a little nervous at that age...maybe make it drop off optional. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes - I've done it. [ Reply | More ]
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This was the age where drop-off started. My 5 years old wouldn't let me leave at the first on in the fall, and by Spring barely waved goodbye to me as I dropped him off. [ Reply | More ]
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Depend on how well I know the family. [ Reply | More ]
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OP- thanks, this is what I was thinking. It's all girls from her preschool class, other parties included boys so weren't drop off. [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely! Thanks for watching my kid so I can shop! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Is this really a question?? [ Reply | More ]
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Sure: why wouldn't I? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dear Camp: Yes, I'm slightly neurotic and attached. this is how you were able to extract nearly $16,000 from me this summer. Now please, please, please put up some more fucking photos of my children. Many thanks. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do neurotics get to be so wealthy, while us mentally balanced folk are just scraping by. [ Reply | More ]
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because you're too busy watching your neighbor and you should be climbing up, not looking across. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Or marrying up, as the case may be... [ Reply | More ]
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No one so neurotic and attached has a job. OP is a wealthy SAHM. That's fine! But how did she snag such a wealthy man? Perfect blow jobs? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I'm an attorney. Try again. I'm posting from my office. Would you like a photo? [ Reply | More ]
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This is how they are with their money, too. :) [ Reply | More ]
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ILY. Just remember, when we went to camp there was no internet, no photos to be posted. Breathe deeply. [ Reply | More ]
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i know! how did my parents wait several days for snail mail from sleepaway? I can't. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. 8 weeks. DD is at a 6-week program that costs 7k, and I thought that was too much! [ Reply | More ]
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we are in for 8 weeks x 2 kids. sounds like our camps are similarly priced. I bet you get plenty of photos though [ Reply | More ]
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oh, two kids, sorry, I got it. Do they have to write a certain number of times a week? [ Reply | More ]
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You can't be that attached if you let your kids go away from you for 8 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
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she said slightly [ Reply | More ]
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Just remember that our parents survived with no internet. Actually, my DC's camps don't do any photos or internet updates AND don't allow phone calls. We survive although I am suddenly VERY interested in the mail every day! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have one friend who always makes snarky remarks, very unnecessary. We were are a friend's party and my dd ripped her dress. Frenemy turns to me and says "Are we still shopping at the second hand stores? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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so mean, why would she say that? [ Reply | More ]
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EVIL SKANK [ Reply | More ]
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EVIL SKANK [ Reply | More ]
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But does it unify all the moms of kids, fat or not? [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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Crikey [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you calling her a friend? [ Reply | More ]
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np. This is what I'm wondering. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
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Why would she ask if YOU shop at the second hand shop when HER dress ripped? [ Reply | More ]
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you are mis reading it. It is the DAUGHTER of the OP whose dress ripped. The friend was just an outside observer to the ripping [ Reply | More ]
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I gather that the OP doesn't have a daughter. Rather, OP is just posting responses from below as new threads. [ Reply | More ]
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not a friend. either confront or fade away. [ Reply | More ]
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Time for a fade out. [ Reply | More ]
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"Are we still being a bitch?" [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I don't like name calling, but this is almost warranted if dd heard her. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] True of False: the more senior you become at work, the more control you have over your hours/vacation/weekends, etc. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it depends. some CEO types have pretty good flexibility, others are 24/7 [ Reply | More ]
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true [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on your personality and your role. [ Reply | More ]
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This. In a service industry, no. You are beholden to your clients. [ Reply | More ]
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False, False, False. [ Reply | More ]
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Only true if your boss allows it. Tim Cook holds Sunday evening meetings to prepare for the week ahead. [ Reply | More ]
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^ plus he has no kids, no family, and pretty much seems to work all the time. if that's your boss, then you won't have any free time. [ Reply | More ]
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I knew other CEOs like this. They think they are great but it's a nasty way to control others' lives. Everyone needs a weekend to recharge. [ Reply | More ]
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True in my case [ Reply | More ]
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Depends. [ Reply | More ]
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On what? [ Reply | More ]
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depends on your responsibilities and timing of course. [ Reply | More ]
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Completely true in a macro sense. You can schedule your vacations without consulting anyone and 99% of the time unless your vacation is hiking Everest, remote access allows you to address anything that comes up. That said, you do need to check it snd cannot rely on not having to take calls, oversee the work of others. When you're junior, once permission has been granted for the vacation, you barely have to check email (if at all) [ Reply | More ]
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Probably depends on the industry, but I worked in marketing (agency side) and would say false in my case [ Reply | More ]
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varies. i have more flexibility as i get more senior (lawyer), my husband does not (finance -- money never sleeps). [ Reply | More ]
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Can't be do more remotely, including while out of town as opposed to in the office? [ Reply | More ]
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True in my case. [ Reply | More ]
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Perhaps the least flexible is the most senior person on a team, I'm thinking of advertising where an Account Director/Group Account Director might need to be a pitch, critical meeting. If this hits during personal time so be it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are your DH hobbies and how much time/money on a typical month does he spend on those hobbies? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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golf - 5 hours weekend - country club membership =200k, monthly dues, $4k [ Reply | More ]
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Big numbers. Presumably retirement and kids education and all that has been covered? [ Reply | More ]
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yes . . . hopefully :) - [ Reply | More ]
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Hobby: Looking a sports scores on his phone. Time: all the damn time. Money: at least it's free. [ Reply | More ]
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Racking up airlines miles. Probably 5-10K a year. [ Reply | More ]
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RC Car - it's a new hobby, car was about $350 and he keeps buying parts, probably $25-100/mo going forward. He enjoys it and that's fine. Also, Tae Kwon Do. He's a 2nd degree blackbelt, tuition is about $200/mo. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need quick babysitting pricing help. I'm texting with a girl that works at the child center at my gym because I need someone to come 2x a week for about 6 hours a week. I've been interviewing people on care.com but she's taken a liking to my youngest kid which is why I asked for her #. Anyway the people I've been interviewing on care.com have asked for $12-13/hr. I asked her via text what she'd charge for 2 kids and she asked if 15 is ok. I don't want to seem cheap should I just give her the 15 or should I ask if we could compromise on 13. I'll be home the whole time she's here, it'd just be helping me with bed time routines. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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tl;dr [ Reply | More ]
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Saving $12 is worth making her feel unappreciated to you? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm surprised care.com sitters are asking for so little unless they're desperate because summer is a hard time for sitters. $15 is pretty standard. [ Reply | More ]
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This. Do $15 [ Reply | More ]
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You call her a "girl". Is she a teenager? [ Reply | More ]
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she is 20 [ Reply | More ]
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I'd pay whatever she wants. It's the price of having someone you already know watch your children. Totally worth it to me. [ Reply | More ]
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TY I think you are right. Not as big a deal since I will be home and she will just be helping but still better to go with someone I know [ Reply | More ]
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It is very hard to find and keep someone PT. I'd pay the $15 she asked for. The peace of mind that she isn't a stranger is worth it. [ Reply | More ]
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$15 is very good. Are you in NYC? Our sitter service charges $18 for two kids. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Violent Crime down AGAIN in Los Angeles. Violent crime rate has not been this low since 1949 http://articles.latimes.com/2014/jan/13/local/la-me-ln-crime-falls-20140113 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yes. crime is generally lower in this decade all around the country, but look at Bill de Blasio and you'd think it's all thanks to him. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] looking to do a family vacation to Woodloch Pines and just checked prices -- wow, much higher than I expected! Is it really worth it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Would love to know more about this place too...looks like it could be either wonderful or not so much. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The reason i like the thread with fat kid so much is because it unifies all the moms here. It doesn't matter if you wohm or sahm, doesn't matter if you spend summer in East Hampton or breezy point. All of us have to worry about fat kids 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Who is this weirdo who keeps copying and pasting replies to other threads? [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you keep posting this? The wealthier kids usually aren't fat. Sorry to burst your bubble. [ Reply | More ]
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Untrue. I see a lot of chubby kids at our club. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Those who have done IVF for a second baby when SAHM with the first--did you hire regular extra help? I think my DH should just help out if necessary, but he wants me to get babysitters. First DB was conceived with IUI so I'm not fammiliar with IVF. It seems like there will be a lot of appointments, plus I need to rest after some procedures? But it also seems like I might not always know so much ahead of time which days I need to go in, so I'm not sure it makes sense to hire regular babysitters. WWYD? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Imagine if you had a job? [ Reply | More ]
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OP would spontaneously combust [ Reply | More ]
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I was working full time with my first and it was much easier because I could go to doctor's appointments whenever I wanted because I had a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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please don't have any more children. please? [ Reply | More ]
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np: don't be obnoxious. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't get your point. If I had a job, I'd have a nanny to stay with DB while I went for appointments. [ Reply | More ]
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Hi OP [ Reply | More ]
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i was on trial and heading out to a clinic on Long Island every morning at 5:30 a.m., injecting myself in the ladies room of the courthouse... I don't get how these people expect to actually care for the kids they have if they can't make it through IVF. That was the EASY part [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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that's not the point. she has a small child at home. she's not talking about the logistics of shots, but what to do when you can't bring kids to the appointments. lighten up, lawyer lady. signed, another lawyer lady. [ Reply | More ]
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not sahm, but you don't need a full-time nanny for this. just get a babysitter for the times that you will be in appointments. When you need to be resting, have DH take time off (or schedule it around weekends) so that he can deal with your first db. it's not hard. definitely doesn't require the full-time services of a nanny. you won't be gone all day every day. [ Reply | More ]
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^^and by the way, you will have enough advance notice to hire a babysitter. and for the rare occasion you don't, DH can pitch in. but that should be rare. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. That's what I wanted to know. I'm just so nervous about IVF and I don't know what to expect. [ Reply | More ]
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If DH can't even help now with the occasional extra hour of babysitting (and, you can make early morning appointments so he doesn't have to miss too much work) then that does not bode well for when you actually have 2 kids to take care of. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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A parent taking care of a child is not "babysitting". [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I agree. But I used the phrase to show how little time DH would have to be inconvenienced by parenting his own children. [ Reply | More ]
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Assume you have to go in every morning starting 5 days after the stims meds. You will feel crappy retrieval day, and be a bit slow moving day after retrieval. Then you will be on lock down for 48 hours after transfer, and you won't know when that is until retrieval. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: But how many days per month is that? It seems that if it's only 10 days and then OP gets pregnant, there is no need to hire a full time babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
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you hire the sitter according to need. obviously. it's not a full time thing. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't need a babysitter. Just take dcs to appts. Only one procedure that you have to rest after which is egg retrieval. And you can't take dcs to that or to transfer. [ Reply | More ]
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a lot of clinics ask you NOT to bring your dbs to the office out of consideration for other patients. [ Reply | More ]
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My clinic you could bring them to ultrasound and bloodwork, also appts with re but just not retrieval or transfer. [ Reply | More ]
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i've been to 3 clinics in nyc, and each asked you not to bring kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you [ Reply | More ]
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DO NOT BRING YOUR CHILD TO IVF APPOINTMENTS. It is really inconsiderate to those in the room struggling mightily to have a first child. [ Reply | More ]
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Seeing a child in the same waiting room is upsetting to those struggling with infertility now? Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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You can't bring kids to my clinic. I appreciated that the first time around. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, most of you are so bitter and mean. I just wanted to know what to expect about IVF. If I can do early morning appointments, great. Otherwise I have a child at home and my DH has a job he needs to be at during the day. Jeez. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, most of you are so bitter and mean. I just wanted to know what to expect about IVF. If I can do early morning appointments, great. Otherwise I have a child at home and my DH has a job he needs to be at during the day. Jeez. [ Reply | More ]
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We understand that DH has a job. But he is about to be a father of 2. Do you expect nothing from him? [ Reply | More ]
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How old are you and your 1st? Why not wait till dc starts nursery school/preschool ? [ Reply | More ]
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I just go early in the AM, monitoring hours start at 7:00, I'm there at 6:45. Usually home by 7:30, maybe 8:00. DH can go to work after that. For retrieval and transfer, you can get a sitter. Monitoring is easy unless DH is out of town. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you, just what I need to know. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I don't want to work anymore. I want to go home. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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me too [ Reply | More ]
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Assuming that you're fortunate enough to have a door that locks & unlocks from the inside, go home! [ Reply | More ]
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Join the club. It's called "nobody wants to work!" [ Reply | More ]
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I'm leaving at 4. come with? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Want to plan a relatively inexpensive getaway for 4 people - 2 adults, 2 teens - during Christmas break from NY - budget around $4k or less... any ideas? Was looking at airfares which are all really high... going to los angeles seems reasonable and we have never been... any tips on where to stay, ideas on this front would be appreciate too. Really want to see Venice Beach... places to stay there? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Aruba is totally do-able for that price - stay at the Boardwalk -rent a car - explore. Do the ABC tour on day and Pirate cruise another. [ Reply | More ]
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I know it's cheesy, but you can book a 7-day cruise leaving from NY for about $1K a person. Food is included and there's no airfare to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
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Where does a NY cruise go in the winter? [ Reply | More ]
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The Caribbean. We went on one in February. It was cold the first day and the rest of the time was sunny skies and smooth sailing. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds fun and easy [ Reply | More ]
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We booked a nonstop flight to Jamaica from Philly because it was less than 1/3 the price of departing JFk. You can find a deal if you're willing to deal with an additional hour of driving. [ Reply | More ]
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You can DR for that price [ Reply | More ]
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How about Oaxaca or Mexico City? [ Reply | More ]
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Rent a house in mexico. My df does it all the time it comes with all sorts of insane perks. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone have friends who were all over you when you separated from DH who got angry with you when you decided to go to therapy and continue the marriage? It's like they feel I went back on some kind of promise to them. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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People who can't celebrate your happiness are not friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. It's not even like it's happiness, but they are genuinely acting like I've done something personal to them. What does this have to do with them? I guess perhaps they feel I wasted their time? [ Reply | More ]
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They got interested in your drama with none of the payoff. It does give you a hint about the quality of their emotional support. It was probably more like a front seat to the drama than it was caring about your marriage, to be honest. [ Reply | More ]
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ITDA. They have been listening to you complain and want to see you happy. Now they see that you are just going back to misery and didn't listen to their advice. [ Reply | More ]
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this is my great fear, which is why i've told no one about what is going on between me & DH - I fear that htey would be angry that i would go to therapy to try to make a new marriage rather than leaving him. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why they say be careful what you share about your marriage. Your friends/family only get one side of the story about your DH, and when you are in a hostile or upset mood at that, and then they get it into their heads that "he is no good for you." This without having all of the details. You give them enough to get invested in disliking your DH, and then when you go back, they feel betrayed. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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I've DEF has friends do the opposite: cut me off when I told them I was leaving my DH, who stopped worked and stopped dealing with his mental health. Like, good friends didn't invite me to their weddings. It sucks, but I believe in Karma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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What if it's not really that at all, and it's just the new lenses you are choosing to view thing through. If you gave them reason to think DH is a borderline emotionally abusive jerk, they were supportive of you and an ear to bend/shoulder to cry on. Maybe now they feel the need to distance themselves when you go back to him because they can't really support your decision in light of everything they know and don't really know how to be a good friend in light of it, particularly if you are actively seeking support [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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This. It's really hard to hear all of the bad stuff about a person, or even worse, to be given the okay to finally say, "I never liked that jerk and the day he's dead the world will be a better place," and then to see you go back to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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this is why therapists recommend being very judicious about sharing personal details about your marriage. your friends and family members may not be as forgiving as you've decided to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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What have you been telling them? "DH is such a fucker. Last night he slept with a stripper and he's been hitting me." "We've decided to reconcile. Why can't you be happy for me? DH is right -- you are all bad friends/family and he's my only salvation." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you deal with jealous friends? All of our closest friends have been priced out of NYC . Since moving to the burbs they are snarky 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Lay low and maybe they'll miss you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Like I just posted above, people who can't celebrate your happiness are not friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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I have "friends" like this - constantly making remarks about the size of my apartment, how selfish I am for raising DCs in city. My apartment costs more than their house, in many cases, fwiw. I work and none of them do, so I am very fortunate not to have to commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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This is true. Snarky bitches who live in suburbs tell me I am evil for raising kids without a back yard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Their fault for getting prices out. And no one is really "priced out" the UES is ALWAYS affordable. It's when people can't have West Village or Chelsea that they head out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Who would want to live on the UES? Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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who would want to live in the wv or chelsea at this point- those neighborhoods are dirty, full of the homeless, tourists and drunk B&T people on the weekends? No parks with grass, and laughable public and private schools (Avenues? Grace? C&C? give me a break). Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:53 PM Flag
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I have one friend who always makes snarky remarks, very unnecessary. We were are a friend's party and my dd ripped her dress. Frenemy turns to me and says "Are we still shopping at the second hand stores?" I didn't respond but this young guy (about 24) responded saying "I buy all my things from thrift stores." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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where do you people get these friends?! none of my friends would ever do something like this. maybe you need to tighten your definition of "friends" because a real friend is only happy for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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You will be surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I just got a call from mammography to schedule a follow up ultrasound. Flat chested so seems strange. Super common, right? will the give me the all clear day of ultrasound? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Super duper common. They should give you results/recommendations at same appt. this has happened to me at least 6 times and it was always a false alarm . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Thank you. That's my suspicion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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What does flat chested have to do with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Seems like there is very little that the images wouldn't show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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np. It doesn't work that way. The tissue's density and composition is more relevant than the overall amount/size of your breasts. Larger breasts have more fat, and it's easier for them to visualize potentially problematic areas of the breast when there's more fat (which shows up as black on the scan). And if anything, according to every tech I've asked about this, smaller breasts can be trickier for them to scan; it's generally tougher for the tech to get the tissue placed between the plates in the way they want them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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The size your breasts is irrelevant, but yes, follow-ups are super common in these situations. Was this your first screening? I have "dense breast tissue" and pretty much need the ultrasound every year when I get scanned; they just make the ultrasound appointment for the same day/time as the mammogram. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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np. How is it any of your business, and why do you assume you know better than her doctor does what she needs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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So so common! All the time. Report back but they are very careful these days and over examine (better than the alternate) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Over diagnosis of possible breast cancer is a problem. Many women may be treated unnecessarily. Increase in mammography hasn't reduced deaths. Remember that mammograms will cause some cancers. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/02/how-mammograms-improve-survival-but-not-mortality/283779/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] We are getting a new family computer after having the current one for 6 or so years. It has so many files, useless apps that it runs very slowly. I have a carbonite back-up and an external back-up. I know the new one will be much faster and have more memory , but I do not necessarily want to put ALL the old info back on the new computer. Advice how to transfer some, but not all? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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OP: I worry that I will exclude a file or app that is needed to run other things and it will be more hassle than if I just transferred everything over. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Need only transfer photos, music files or documents. That's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. Is that relatively easy to do from carbonite back-up? And are you saying that the new computer will have the infrastructure to run all the apps (printer drivers, etc)? Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does an assistant director of marketing at google earn? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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My guess is probably $75k? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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What if they've been there for about 14 years? Seems low to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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I'd say $120 maybe a little more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Assistant director or associate director? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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$115-$150k, depending. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Way more. $170-ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Did you check on Glassdoor? Those are self-reported salaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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