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[ - ] Please help - I'm trying to figure out if there is something wrong with my almost 2 year old of if he is just a difficult kid. He has a melt down every single day, most days multiple times a day. I cannot change his clothes (get him dressed or put his pajamas) or change his diaper without a huge temper tantrum (which lasts at least 15 minutes). He throws a fit every single day at daycare drop off even though he has been going for 1.5 years - then when I go to pick him up he screams and cries cause he doesn't want to leave. Will not change activities without a temper tantrum even though I give him plenty of prior warning. Completely into everything even dangerous things and when we go to stop him he has a meltdown. He's not a great sleeper, ends up in our bed most nights. He was evaluated at 1 year old for delayed speech and they told us everything was fine, his speech was delayed but not severe enough to need services. His speech is still behind I think but he can make his wants known. But this cannot be normal behavior - he's my first and I didn't have younger brothers or sisters to compare him to. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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get him tested [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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only one question: does he do this at daycare? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Hard to say. I was convinced there was something wrong with my oldest dc. She had constant melt downs, long after her peers had outgrown temper tantrums. She grew into a totally normal adult, although she does have some anxiety issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I stopped pumping at 6 months because it was becoming increasingly difficult to find time at work (I have a fast paced job). Childless friend says to me, "But don't you realize breast milk is the most important source of nutrition for your baby?" What is an appropriate response to this 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I'm sure you'll be great at it but I'm done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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I'd ignore and change subject. Childless friend is clueless. If she makes lame comments like this all the time, I'd maybe do a slow fade. But it it's a one time idiot thing, I'd just ignore. If she brings it up again, I'd say something kind of dismissive like 'don't worry, I've got it handled.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow, UB is racist as hell for a Friday morning. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Same person, I imagine (the random no caps poster). Just ignore because he/she is trying to get a rise out of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Lice out break in a few nursery schools. So annoying. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Just wait til they're in grade school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Which ones? [ Reply | More ]
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STM, MAPCDS and others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] My new nanny/housekeeper of 2 weeks is great with kids, but not so great with housekeeping and cooking. Her day is scheduled to cook and clean for 7 hours/day and play with DC for 30 minutes to 1 hour. Should I give it a shoot hoping that she will get better with time? Should I overlook that she is so so with her main tasks because she is so good with DC? Or should I look for someone new? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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The kids are only there for 30-60 minutes a day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Oldest is 8 and only wants to do his own stuff. Youngest is 6 and does not get off school until 3.30/4pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^ After that, they play with each other till dinner time. Then I bath them and get them ready for bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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have you told her exactly how and what you want cleaned and cooked? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Pregnancy is winding down and I've started throwing things away like crazy. Is this lart of the nesting? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Figured but I can't say that I've beem cleaning obsessively. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Throwing out is one form of cleaning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Yep. Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Yes, I loved this part, clearing it all out and cleaning up everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I've gone so far as to throw away furniture and my dh thinks I'm crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Yes. Go with it, because it'll be a long time before you get that energy, time and motivation back! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I'm 37 weeks and have been tempted to throw away half of my closet of clothes- which seems like such a liberating and fantastic idea but the problem is I have no clue which clothes will fit me in a few months so I'm forcing myself to stop. I'm also tempted to throw away a lot of diapers that we have stored in the nursery because my aunt bought 10 packs as a gift but they are a brand that I think smells too powdery. Also forcing myself to top with that urge. The struggle is real though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] My SIL must always tell you how busy she is or how crazy things have been. She has 1 DC, part-time help, does not work. I always roll my eyes and just try to ignore her. I strongly believe she must think I'm not busy because I refuse to play this game. She'd faint if she had to actually juggle the demands of work, DCs, chores, etc. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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She might. Everyone has different levels of tolerance for things they can get done during the day. And a lot of it is learned. My sister used to work full time at a demanding job when she had her first baby. She could juggle it all and she seemed to do well. Had the second baby, quit work, fast forward 1 year and she has a part time nanny (just 8 hours a week- very part time) , 2 kids under 4, no job, and you'd think that she was the BUSIEST and MOST STRESSED person ever. But I believe she truly is busy and stressed! It's just learned behavior. She forgot how to get shit done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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With 2 kids under 4 and only 8 hours off a week, she is just exhausted. And tired of the cleaning and feeding treadmill. It's a lot of work to stay even, let alone get anything done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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+1. I'm the goldfish bowl poster below. I was an associate in a law firm and still managed to get all my errands done. I was a SAHM with one easy baby and could barely find time to buy toothpaste at the store across the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I found being home with an infant much more exhausting than my law firm job too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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A goldfish get as big as his bowl allows. Meaning, everyone "feels" as busy as they allow themselves to be. I'm not as busy as a rural village woman working the fields and trying to feed 10 kids, even though I'm a WOHM in NYC with two kids. I am as "busy" as my goldfish bowl allows, and everyone has their own size of bowl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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I think all moms are busy and most women like to complain to each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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It's entirely possible that she is in fact busy. Not to blow your mind, but you're not the only busy person in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Depends on how much a perfectionist she is. She could be indeed very busy if she wants everything to be done perfectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Yay or nay: leave 4 and 6yo in apartment for a few min while I get the laundry downstairs or take out trash? We have a doorman.... 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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nay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Yay. If they won't freak out with you gone, and you make sure the door is locked so they can't escape (my kids can unlock the bottom lock, but can't reach the top lock, yet.) Turn on the TV, and they won't even notice that you are gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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yay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I do it. i even run the dog down for a quick pee. but only if I have them set up with a show they love and a bowl full of pretzels or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Yep, set up a distraction first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think you are crazy to do this. They can choke so quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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i live on the edge. there are also times i take a shower so what is the difference? I do not keep my eyeballs on them at all times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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NP: Our laundry is on the same floor, so it's a little different, but I've definitely done it. I figure, how is it different from a woman in the burbs in a McMansion, running to a downstairs laundry room or basement when her kids are in a second floor playroom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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This. Or if the kids are in the backyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Harumph. I bring both kids in the shower with me, but make sure that their eyes are covered so they do not see my naked body. Safety and propriety first! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Mrs. Duggar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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I know it seems tempting, but I've always talked myself out of it. What if, randomly, you get stuck in the elevator or some other unforeseen thing happens and you can't get back in a few minutes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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+2. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. Are you a journalist? Former one here. I figure that I think this way from covering way too many freak accidents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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no, just live in a building with a cranky elevator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I'm an atty, I've always been one to think of the worst case scenario and try to avoid it. It's exhausting sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Yes. And teach them both how to dial 911 and explain what it's for. You have to give them independence at some point. This is an easy way to do it- and helpful for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Not preferable but I have done it. Just make sure they are safely watching TV or something and not eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Yay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Op: I generally do it. We are on the 1st floor. Kids aren't eating when I leave. I know they won't run away, also. Wish I could leave them when I grocery shop but that's pushing it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone ever think they smile too much? I know this is strange to ask, but I'm always smiling when I walk into a social event, dds school, our parking garage, anywhere where I expect to see people I know. I'm surprised at the stern looks I get back. Do you guys think I'm too friendly? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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They're a bunch of bitches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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maybe you have some spinach in your teeth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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It's your personality. In my DC's class of 20, there are about 3 that smile all the time, 3 that look grumpy all the time and the rest are in between. Keep smiling away but don't expect anything back! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Op- I don't expect anything, but I'm surprised at how people can walk into a garage, see the same parking attendant almost everyday and not shoot him a quick smile. Makes me wonder if I do it too much. Silly, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Everyone's different. Just be you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I'm over 30 now, so I have to ration smiles so I don't get early wrinkles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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No, I think that you're a nice and friendly person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? Paid $400 for a ticket to fly to a wedding. Would you give a gift? If so, how much? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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not quite enough info. tell us more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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It was your choice to fly so that doesn't mean you don't bring a gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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person was a bridesmaid in my wedding, gave me a picture frame as a gift. my wedding was fairly expensive, paid for it myself. she is having a dry wedding with 50 people in a backyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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you don't sound too enthused. maybe some bbq tools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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haha, could you tell? i didn't really want to go. i am only going because the friendship is probably over if i don't go. i am not really into this friendship anymore. i feel hurt after being disincluded from the bridal party and being a generous friend for a long time. so, just want to give a gift that is more on par with the level of friendship she has communicated to me. make sense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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yeah - but give somethign nice, be gracious, get drunk, go home. be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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its a dry wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Wow. Some friend you are! Save your money and don't go. Both of you will be better off for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Basically the same amount you would have paid locally. It always costs around $1,000 to go to a wedding after the plane ticket, taxi fare, hotel, car rental, gift, food and so on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Yes, of course. If money is tight, then buy the cheapest thing off of their registry, but your transportation costs are irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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i would, but she doesn't have a registry. ugh. what to do? $30 check? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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I'm ethnic, so we give cash at weddings. $50 per couple should be sufficient for a casual, backyard dry wedding. If you feel weird about cash, then an Amazon or IKEA gift card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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How much you pay to get to the wedding is not related to the gift you give. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Of course give a gift. What does your plane ticket have to do with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Equally annoying as being told that a gift must "cover your plate" is the idea that the bride and groom have to subsidize your travel. Both are irrelevant to the amount of your gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Reading your response below, I have to say you sound very bitter. Why even go to the wedding if you feel so put out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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^^response above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What to buy for df who just had first db, is not registered, is wealthy, and is moving to another state in a few weeks? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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A note of congratulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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A diapers.com gift certificate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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amazon gift card and list of books/music [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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If you have kids yourself, get her something that you thought was a lifesaver at some point in your kid's first year (even if it's a 5 dollar plastic toy) and write a heartfelt note explaining how that item saved your sanity at one point. [ Reply | More ]
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^FWIW this suggestion was for if they are truly rich. If you know they are still budgeting to fit the baby into their life at the moment- then obviously an amazon gift card is the way to go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Why didn't she have a shower? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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In some cultures grubbing for gifts is frowned upon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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What does that have to do with it? If I go to a shower I still give a gift when the baby is born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Where will the USA be in terms of education and quality of life for the average joe in 50 years? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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If we don't mess things up, probably a lot better. I'm 51 and the world has changed significantly in the last 50 years (technology-wise; education; standard of living; etc.). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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you were a very observant 1 yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Har, har. There was photography back then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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And will be a very observant 101 year old! Just kidding, a minority will probably kill her during one of their yearly riots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Lol. Blacks = trash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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America will be overrun by mud people and yellows within 25 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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America will be overrun by mud people and yellows within 25 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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The United States will always lead the world in quality of life. Anyone who thinks otherwise has no idea about the reality of other nations around the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Yeah, no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Please share your thoughts on which nation will overtake the U.S. in terms of overall quality of life across the society. Yes, a place like Denmark has a very high quality of life for people from the prominent ethnic group, and then has a bunch of people who immigrated there who get put into ghettoized neighborhoods with no chance for assimilation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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That's OK. I still have hope that another Fuhrer will rise to cleanse Europe of all of its brown and Jew trash within 10 years. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
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agreed that this is the best case scenario [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Just like the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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The immigrants in Denmark are free to move to any neighborhood they want to and assimilate if they want to and they generally have way better quality of life than if they had stayed where they came from. Those of them who take advantage of the educational system, do very well for themselves, and I happen to know quite a few of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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The US does not lead in quality of life now, and is not on track to get any better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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In the next 50 years the US will not lead in quality of life for the average joe. The key word is average not upper middle class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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All the Scandinavian countries are ahead of the U.S. in quality of life. You clearly have never been outside the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I believe Australia is also ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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And Canada. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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I wouldn't count out New Zealand just yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Scandinavia countries are tiny (most have the population of Brooklyn) homogeneous societies. So sure, as said above, the Danish people have a great quality of life. The Somalis and Moroccans who moved there do not and never will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Indeed all of Western Europe leads te US in terms of QOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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Don't know, don't care, don't plan to be here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My 10 yo DC has a bunch of half-days coming up and I'm an associate at a big law firm with my own office. Do you think it would be okay if I brought my DC to hang out in my office for the afternoon while I work? He could do homework, read, etc. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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does anybody else do this? i'm a very go with the flow and not stand up kind of person at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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stand out ^^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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it would be fine in the office I work in, which is casual and relatively family friendly, as long as it was really for those limited half days. I would also bring a kindle fire and some ear phones. [ Reply | More ]
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I would ask your colleagues first if they mind. It's pretty low key at my firm and people do this on occasion. I shut my office door when DD is there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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have him hide under the desk in case a partner walks by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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i would not. maybe work at home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Are you planning on picking him up at school and then bringing him back to the office? I would just work at home for hte afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd ask one of the partners for their "opinion". I've never seen anyone do it but a 10 yo could certainly occupy themselves. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd ask one of the partners for their "opinion". I've never seen anyone do it but a 10 yo could certainly occupy themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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I'd ask one of the partners for their "opinion". I've never seen anyone do it but a 10 yo could certainly occupy themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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I would see what others do, and follow their lead. At my office people, including myself, regularly take kids in for half a day. Even if there is no tradition, if he is a quiet kid, just take him in, and bring his homework and maybe an iPad for a movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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not professional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Silly - not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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It really depends on your office culture. I am a partner now and do whatever I want, but even when I was an associate, and one of very few women, I did what I needed to do and always got my work done, so no one ever questioned me. I wasn't the type to ask permission or run it by someone for fear that they would say no. I just did it quietly and it never was a problem. Your dc is old enough that I can't see how it would be a problem. In fact, the first time you bring dc,you should introduce them around (to asst. partner, colleagues). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Josh Duggar... I may be in the monority, but is it honestly fair to hold this 14yo responsible for this kind of behavior the same way we would hold an adult responsible? This 14yo who was not given any guidance or direction for how to manage his new sexual urges? These kids are simply told to wait until marriage to even TOUCH a person of the opposite sex. And I can't imagine they're encouraged to masturbate or find any other healthy outlet. I'm not saying that he shouldn't have had consequences, he certainly should have. But aren't the parents really the ones who should take most of the blame? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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i am hoping it puts and end to the whole dynasty of duggars. get them off tv. ridiculous premise and values. obviously. now will wait for the fall of the kardashians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I will admit am taking perverse pleasure in this because Josh is always so officious and sanctimonious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Family values all the way! Seems to me those who preach all these family values doth protest too much.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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My guess is that a lot more young teenagers do low level sexual experimentation with siblings or cousins than we want to think about. Trying to apportion blame for this sort of thing is being done solely because it gives us a chance to take easy pot shots at a family like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Consider that had he not been stopped by one or more of the girls coming forward, he doubtless would have continued and even escalated his behavior. He wasn't going to stop on his own, even at 14. Technically, we don't even know that he has stopped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Yes, also a high percentage of children who sexually abuse have been victims themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Obviously molesters come out of all sorts of different kinds of families, but the argument that the way the Duggars live "logically produces" this kind of deviant behavior is an interesting way to look at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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I was raised in a situation very similar to theirs. I don't think the lifestyle has much to du with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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I don't think it helps, but you can find any number of people raised in exactly the same background who don't turn into molesters. If there are any of the Duggar boys who wouldn't even think of doing what Josh did, then yes, it's on Josh, not his upbringing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I am still reeling from this. So their girls can only side-hug until they are engaged, at which point they can hold hands, but if their brother touches their breasts and vaginas while they are unable to defend themselves, let's just pray that one away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Well, the genital touching actually brought them all "closer to God." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I don't necessarily think the parents should take the blame for causing the behavior, they clearly actively discouraged anything even remotely connected to sexual behavior prior to marriage, but they should certainly take the blame for encouraging their daughters to forgive Josh and pretend to the world it didn't happen. That's pretty terrible. I wonder how the husbands of jill and jessa feel about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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If any 14 year old boy touched your daughter while she was on a sleepover at their house, I don't think you would equivocate over whether it was "really his fault or not" based on the family religion. You'd go to the police, not tell your daughter "well, it was to be expected I guess." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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ITA 100%. they were the grownups and responsible for their children's safety and wellbeing. they are to blame bc they swept it under the rug, didn't get help for him or his siblings, let it go on and on, and then went on to promote their family as an example to all in front of the world. totally disgusting. and i rarely chime in about this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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No. It is not fair to treat a 14 yo like an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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nope, it isn't. juvenile deliquency is limited to 18 for a reason. a child's brain is not developed. not fair at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Sure in theory but the parents are crazy and also tried to cover it up. Plus, his own SISTERS were among the 5 victims. It is horrifying that the father would put his own reputation and the reputation of his son before the well being of his own daughters. So appalling! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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NP: that's because their fundamentalist thinking allows them to treat women and girls as second class citizens. It's appalling to the normal mind. They are not normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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is he even being charges with a crime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Lessons from the Savopoulos murder: 1) Never cooperate with criminals, they'll kill you anyways 2) Buy and carry a gun 3) Never let blacks into your home. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Flagged and collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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You know that with a gun in the home you are statistically many times more likely to die of gun violence than protect yourself from an invader. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Blacks can attack at ANY time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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uh oh to number 3. I'm married to someone black and have black in-laws, friends and colleagues. What am I to do?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] My lord, who would pay almost a million for this? 796 Dekalb Ave., Apt. B2, Bedford-Stuyvesant Studio/3 Baths Condo Approximately 1,838 square feet $895,000 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Agree. This is beyond crazy. Far UES gets you more without the risk of getting shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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I'm in Park Slope now, and may have Stockholm Syndrome, but that looks like a great price to me. Am crazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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