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[ - ] Survey: Women who went to Yale, Harvard, or Stanford for law school, and graduated at least 6 years ago: What are you doing (professionally) now? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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You can also answer if you went to another Ivy like Penn State. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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PENN STATE is not ivy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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Law firm..associate. Is this a trick question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone decode my dream? Background: We are looking for a home actively. Yesterday we pass through a house that we are going to see today. We loved the neighborhood and house from outside and we are ready to make an offer if the interior is fine. I had very scary dreams last night 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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1. First dream: We were inside the house and everything was looking ok. There was an old woman sitting on the couch in the house and she told us that she wouldn't suggest us to buy it. She said that there was cemetery in the lot. I went outside and found a grave of a child. Grave makes noise of a crying child. I was trying to decide if the noise will reach inside the house. It was a high pitch noise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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You fear the house is haunted or someone died in the house or on the property. Ask the broker, they have to disclose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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2. Second Dream: I am at the same house and I met my frenemy. I thought she was my BFF in college but she deceived me twice. So my frenemy said something bad about my DD. I said that it's enough. I scratched and bruised her face. After sometime, she started bleeding profusely. I felt so guilty and I hugged her. I said sorry and I put her in car to take her to doc. She said that she wants to see govt doc ( a thing in my native country). I realized that she wants to press charges against me. I told her that I will give her primary care first. Then she faked to pass out. I knew that she is trying to cheat me again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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You're afraid the house is overpriced. Negotiate firmly. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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All of this is house buying anxiety. It's a big deal, totally normal to be nervous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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It's coming up now because everything is becoming more real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Fourth time I've gotten lice from my DSC. The children have had lice chronically for nearly 3 years. I can't believe how fucked-up my husband's ex is -- and how fucked up their relationship is that they can't solve this problem. Their poor children. I guess that's why they're divorced, but it's incredibly frustrating. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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Sounds like it's never getting completely taken care of. Lice enders? Hair fairys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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I wish I could do this. Their mother won't "let them" go to the lice salon. I have offered to take them and pay for it. Their father won't push her. She does her ineffective lice treatment on them, and they continue to have lice. Once, I used one of the scant amount of time we have with the children and just took them to the lice salon on my own. They couldn't treat them there because their hair was too knotted. (When they itch their heads it causes knots in their hair.) The woman at the lice salon said it was the worst case of lice she'd ever seen and she does pro-bono work for foster children. My husband said she was "being dramatic". I've basically thrown up my hands by now -- I wish there was something I could do, but there's really not. On the other hand, I've spent more than $1k at the lice salon getting my own lice taken care of every time the children leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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Call cps. Or alternatively, shave their heads down low, get a treatment, and go from there. No way would I have lice-ridden children continually in my home. It's your problem, too, so solve it even if they won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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Can you help given that you're being impacted? Google natural lice remedies, which are supposed to be more effective such as oil in the hair. You must sanitize all bed linens. On a positive note, lice like clean hair so you and DSC must have clean hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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I may try just soaking their head in oil. I think they're totally immune to the chemical lice treatments by now. The children scream and cry when you try and pick the lice out, so it's really not worth it, but at least if I can kill the lice it will stop them itching their hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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It sounds like you should condition their hair first to get the knots out so you can comb the oil through their entire heads with a fine tooth metal comb (buy the good metal comb). Definitely read up on this so you know how often to do the treatment. Once is insufficient to get all the eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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You know, if you color their hair more or less the same shade they usually have, lice don't like hair that's been dyed. I have a few friends with younger children who just gave up and did this. One of the kids got some some anime-type bleached highlights. Problem solved. Another friend just started combing conditioner into her daughter's long hair and braiding it. Lice don't like that, either. Too slippery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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That's so very strange that you're catching it from your stepchildren. Are you sharing hats/beds/pillows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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omg, brush the poor kids heads and take them back to the lice people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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It takes two to tango. Your dh is as bad as she is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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This has to be fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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Very strange how she complains that the mother won't "let them" go to the lice salon but then she takes them there anyway. Also what adult goes to "the lice salon" and spends one THOUSAND dollars getting rid of lice? Duane Read, $20 tops. It's not a haz mat situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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It is actually. (NP). My 14yo has had lice maybe 4 times, 2 x from camp, and last summer I caught it, it was terrible. Liceenders charged me about $600, w/o their special treatment. At the end of this summer, I will get an rx from Sklice to keep on hand. Never going through that again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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^though based on what dd has told me, camp is getting much more serious about lice screening. I certainly hope so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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I'd take a look at your own relationship. It's F'd up if you cannot work with your DH stop solve this issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your g0-to brand or model for work shoes? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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stuart weitzman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] DH had a rabbi go to his office today. He said he wants to get into the Torah and take classes. Iam not jewish and I'm confused. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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a rabbi randomly went to his office? or he has decided he wants to become more religious and wants to take classes in judaism? Is he saying you have to also? I am so confused by your post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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a lot of guys I know do this. it is a side interest and the rabbi comes in to save them time. it's been a guy-trend for a few years. just back off. it will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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+1. Don't worry. A man who married a no hew is not suddenly gonna be orthodox... He is in a position of wealth and power of these teachers are coming to his office and he wants to enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Non Jew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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I went back to Catholicism after dcs and other major life events. Dh does not participate. I don't think it's abnormal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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At least it's not the Koran? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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lol, true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm short. My parents were short. For some reason, this bothers my SIL and she'll say things like "you should wear heels to be taller." who cares? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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you must, or you wouldn't be posting ;o) Apparently, I'm short, too, but I never think of myself that way. And people are always shocked to find out my true height -- they're always thinking I'm 3-4 inches taller than I actually am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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Disagree. It is rude remark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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what are you disagreeing with? OP asked who should care, I said she obviously cares or she wouldn't be posting. I made no comment on the comment itself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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Your comment you must was rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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being honest doesn't equal being rude. OP obviously cares what her SIL thinks. It's on her mind, she posted -- the comment wasn't just made as it's early morning, so she's ruminated on it. She cares. Still not sure exactly what you're disagreeing about (unless you're just disagreeable by nature, which may well by the case . . . ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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No, OP cares that her sister not make obnoxious remarks. Of course, you do to, so carryon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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Exactly. OP's post ends "who cares" that's why you and I both agree that the answer is "OP cares". Obviously. I don't, as I know none of these people . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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I do not answer "who cares" in the same way. You imply OP cares about being short. I think she cares about her SIL being rude. Big difference. And btw, I really doubt people think you are taller than you are, you are delusional. This is like how so many women think they look younger than they are. They don't. they may look great for their age, but the overwhelming majority do not look younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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My 62 year old aunt wore heals when she was young, and has massive foot problems now. She had to work at home for 6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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you would care too if someone insulted you. and it sounds like someone has. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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eh. I don't get insulted by these things, which is why you've not seen me post about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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^^in any event, no one has ever told me I should wear heels. As mentioned, people think I"m taller than I am already. I think OP should ask SIL why she thinks that. She may really be commenting on a confidence issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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lol and I always think short women who always wear heels look ridiculous. my cousin is 5'1" and I have never seen her without heels, even when going to the beach her sandals are tall wedges, she looks insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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i think this is true for very short women who are also very thin/small -- wearing 5" heels looks like dress up. curvy, short women, on the other hand, seem to carry it better, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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Are you chubby? She may be suggesting the heels so you look thinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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Even if the OP is "chubby", it's offensive to suggest that she "should" dress a certain way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Extremely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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I am 5'0 and I don't wear heels often. I'd just tell her that I have no desire to be taller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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It's very rude of your SIL to tell you that "you SHOULD wear heals." It's just insulting. Of course that bothers you. Aside from that, I think petite women have a real appeal, and I've also noticed that many men find petite women attractive. Maybe she's jealous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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Agree. OP should say YOU should stop making personal comments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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i think she probably is jealous. i am tall, and I have never once thought of my shorter friends as "needing" heels! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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Just ask why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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Maybe you should reply, "you should be nicer to have more friends" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Decorator moms (or dads!): we want to change things up a bit, and are thinking about wallpapering the apartment. Or maybe painting a different color. What kind of person helps you figure out how to make colors and patterns flow from one room to the next. Do you need an interior designer for that? Or is that something a paint professional can help you figure out? TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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That seems like a pretty big deal. I'd go with a legit interior designer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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i'd go decorator/designer if contemplating wallpaper and paint [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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a good paint professional can do this (they work in paint stores) but that is hard to find. The guys who mixed the colors for the white house works in a paint store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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I doubt he picks the colors for the white house, yes mixing is important but someone has to give him the color to do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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OP here -- I think this type of person is called a color consultant, based on some research I just did. Not entirely clear the difference between that and an "interior designer", but I think I will at least try it. Probably less expensive than a full blown interior designer, and I'm also not looking for an overly designed space (certainly not something that bears someone else's signature style). I just want help coordinating colors and patterns for furniture we have or plan to buy, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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^^long way of saying thanks and I think you're right ;o) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Any one have an au pair? Do you have to provide private bathroom as well as a private bedroom? Anyone have this in nyc? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:15 PM Flag
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In Westchester, they can and many do share bathrooms with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:26 PM Flag
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agency can answer this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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They all allow sharing of bathrooms, just not bedrooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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it would be nice to have her have her own bathroom, would not like sharing with stranger personally - and who are you making her share a bedroom with the kids? god that would be horrible imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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OP does not say she would make share bedroom. My guess is MANY aupairs would prefer being in manhattan v private bath in burbs. And I am in burbs, and many do NOT get private bath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] 10yo DD is going to camp for 2 weeks; I would welcome suggestions of small things to send in a care package. No food/candy/gum. I am thinking books/magazines, maybe a small stuffed animal (she still loves them); any more creative ideas? TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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check amazon "bunk junk" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:11 PM Flag
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Nail polish, new flip flops, hair clips, quirky pens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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Embroidery floss for friendship bracelets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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A mail tip: send a letter before you take child to camp, so child will receive a letter right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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What about for a boy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:51 PM Flag
[ - ] What should I buy as a gift for a friends's 40th bday party? I can't break the bank. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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One of those movie theater packages with tickets & vouchers for concessions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:46 AM Flag
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Something a bit nicer than this. I could probably spend $100 max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:49 AM Flag
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4 movie tickets plus snacks & drinks will probably come close to that. Or dinner & a movie for her & husband/date, along with babysitting vouchers from the service they use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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I buy Chanel nail polish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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This is an oddly awesome idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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^^^ at 40 she doesn't need anything that she's not buying for herself but if you don't want to walk in empty handed get red classic polish(good for toes) in cute Chanel packaging. It indulgent and fun. But mostly just a token gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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why are you buying her a gift? just get a bottle of wine or something if you feel you have to - make a rule with friends no gift giving, makes things much easier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Tech moms please help! Finally updated my iPhone iOS, had to delete a bunch of music. If I connect phone to laptop to put music back on it doesn't works what do I do?! Thank you 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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You have to go into music on your laptop and phone and press sync [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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i found a lovely program that helped sync up everything when my Itunes got screwed up - google copy tran software, they have a few differences depending on what you are trying to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:54 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is working from home today. I hate this since our place doesn't have any room her can go and not be bothered. The kids will be all over him and I'll get yelled at to keep them away. It's too hot to stay out all day and the little one naps. Grr. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:04 AM Flag
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Take the kids outside. It's not too hot, especially if you stop hiding inside in the a/c and actually acclimate to the heat. Play in the sprinkler, drink lots of water, play Red Light Green Light and Mother May I. Have nap time under a tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:10 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:14 AM Flag
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Under a tree? Hilarious, he is a crazy active 22 month old. I can't see that happening in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:20 AM Flag
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We all make choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:22 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:25 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.31.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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I feel for you. Kids want to see Daddy; Daddy needs to work; Mom has to do the impossible. Can you ask him if he has to be off limits non-stop all day today? Or is there a specific window where he can't have contact (like a conference call) then he could have contact? So then at least you'd know you have to kill time outside from 10-12 but then you can come back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:22 AM Flag
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send him out to a coffee shop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:49 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:25 AM Flag
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why can't he relocate? to a starbucks or local library? Does working at home mean being on his laptop or does it involve a lot of phone calls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:29 AM Flag
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Lots of Thinking and a laptop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:33 AM Flag
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Because it's his house, and he lives there too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:39 AM Flag
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Right but there should be a balance so OP doesn't have to leave her home for 8 hours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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Makes up for all the days he's gone for 12 hours paying her bills! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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C'mon, he's sitting in his comfortable chair at work in the a/c. Do you really not see the difficulty in OP's situation? DH here, by the way. I'm also working from home today, but we have more space so I will be away from the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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get out of the house, i don't understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:31 AM Flag
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Tell him to go back to his office. None of his colleagues appreciate being on calls where they have to deal with home background noise. See: http://www.collegehumor.com/post/6949437/a-conference-call-in-real-life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:38 AM Flag
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All his colleagues will be "working from home" too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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So? If everyone else jumps off a bridge, does he have to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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NP. You missed the point of that reply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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funny! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:15 PM Flag
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Why can't he work in the bedroom and close the door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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this isn't hard. go on an adventure (e.g., bronx zoo, coney island aquarium, museum, liberty science center, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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So basically you don't want help finding an answer? Plenty of totally valid options that will not result in heat stroke have been offered. Your husband can also make himself scarce. Split the day with him. You go out in the morning, he takes the afternoon. Easy peasy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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no bedroom he can work in? how old are the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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She is just being lazy and doesn't want to leave the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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