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[ - ] I have 3 boys. If we sold our apartment and moved to suburbs we could still afford another dc. I want to have a dd. I am very close with my mom. We are best friends. None if the men I ever dated had even remotely similar relationship with their mothers or fathers for that matter. I am very close with my boys but something must change once they grow up where they clamp up and stop sharing their lives. My MIL tries to corns are by being up my ass all the time. I can't stand her. I think it very unusual to mil and DIL to really be close. Should I do it? Should I have a 4th? I would have to either do IVF with testing to be sure of gender or do IUI which is not so reliable in gender selection. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:31 AM Flag
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I don't know. I have three boys, and while having a daughter would have been nice, I am content with the boys. Seems like a lot of effort for a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:37 AM Flag
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TY. I am very happy with my boys. I think boys are amazing as children and I am probably closer to my boys than many ms are with their dds. However along the way something does change in this dynamic and boys are never as close to the mother. Many men love their mothers but its just blind love and not closeness. I don't want to have my ds grow up is mama's boys so I will need to let them go. Maybe it's the fact that I am turning 40 soon and this is my last chance. How old are your boys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:43 AM Flag
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I would. I only have 1 DD and am so happy that I have a daughter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:40 AM Flag
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I understand this. I always wanted a dd. I LOVE having boys but I just can't believe I don't have a dd. I don't seem to be able to come to terms with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:45 AM Flag
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Are you the mom who wanted a DD to take care if her when she is old? If I were you, I'd focus on developing strong, positive, loving relationships with your sons. My DH is one of three boys. All her DS were very involved when she got older. She was a great mom. I am one of three sisters. We all have very tangled relationships with our parents. No guarantee that if you have a DD, she will be your fantasy child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:36 AM Flag
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No I am not her. I think my boys will be good to me. My younger boys are still too little to tell but my eldest is 12 and if his fundamental character doesn't change then I have no doubt he will live me and be there for me if I need him. We aren't wealthy but we both work and I think we will be ok financially at retirement. I am not looking for my children to support me in my old age. I too have a sister and our relationship is complicated. Are you and your 2 sisters close to your mother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:52 AM Flag
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np. The big changes come in the teenage years, not at 12. The teen years are when they start to emotionally separate and begin the rocky process of turning into adults. It doesn't come easily and it's super unpredictable depending on where they fall socially in the pecking order. Some mousy girls and tiny boys turn into prom king/queen material and they become overconfident and headstrong; some don't bloom at all in time and they become dark and resentful of their more socially active peers. Weed and alcohol are EVERYWHERE and do not help anything. Long story to say - you've got a long road beyond age 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:56 AM Flag
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Ok. Not sure how that matters in my decision to have a 4th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:08 AM Flag
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Lots of us , men and women, don't want to share everything with our parents. Sorry you have a PITA MIL. Don't be an overbearing, needy mom to your sons and perhaps they will be more comfortable spending time with you as you age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:39 AM Flag
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OP: I 100% agree with you. If there is one thing I learned from my MIL is what not to do. I am more like my mom personality wise. I am not needy, I have a lot if interests. I wouldn't be like her anyway. I don't doubt my ds will spend TE with me but the closeness I have with my mom is not really possible I don't think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:55 AM Flag
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Work on developing a life and friends outside your children. Don't expect a DD to be your best friend for life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:43 AM Flag
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I think the reason my mom and I are close is because she is a very interested busy and self fulfilled person. I respect her very much. I was not raised to be my moms friend. I would raise my dd same and do same with my ds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:58 AM Flag
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We had three boys and went for a daughter because I didn't want to miss that experience. We adopted her to make absolutely sure it would be a girl; that's how serious we were. Turns out she hated dolls; hated barbies; hates dresses - so none of those girly experiences were anything to be had. She does play field hockey which of course is something the boys didn't play so that was a different experience but no big deal. She also came with many learning difficulties which have made raising her to be prepared for her future to be a lot more challenging than we thought it would be. We are still not entirely sure she'll go to a traditional college. Her testing is bound to be very poor. Obviously we love her to death and couldn't imagine NOT having her at all - we wouldn't change anything or trade her. However, be careful to keep in mind the potential differences between the experience in your mind and the potential experiences you might actually have. You can chase your dream, but it might not be what you get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:50 AM Flag
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What you describe are common issues with adopted children. You are amazing for adopting. I would not be able to handle the challenge given that I work, have 3 kids already etc. Also I was never girly and my career is traditionally in a make field but I am still very close with my mom. My boys do a lot of girly things like arts and even knitting. I am not really talking about this type of stuff. More adult relationship later on in life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:07 AM Flag
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It's true, they're common and we went in with open eyes. Then again, she doesn't have issues like CP or down syndrome or cystic fibrosis or duchenne's MD which are some issues that friends of ours with their own bio children face. You risk some things; you avoid the risk of other things. In the end all children are a risk when you consider you usually picture one trajectory and are just as usually presented with a kid who follows another. Remains to be seen in our family how it will turn out. Everyone says I am emotional twins with one of our sons and the two others take after their dad. Right now dd is especially bonded with DH, she is the apple of his eye and they text all day. I spend more time with her but I think she could take or leave me. I hate to use the word bossy but that's how she is with me .... mom you're late; mom why did you give me a tuna sandwich for lunch; mom I don't like that kind of bread; mom why didn't you buy more eggs. If she's the one who's going to take care of me later ... hmmm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:12 AM Flag
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PS she does let me braid her hair at least! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:03 AM Flag
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OP: I am not an expert at all so take what I say with a grain of salt. 1. I was also closer with my dad as a child 2. I lived to plan and manage so my mom put me in charge of cooking dinner. Maybe you can channel her being bossy in a productive way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:19 AM Flag
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I get what you are saying. I have a DS and a DD. Yes, my DD over shares everything and it is like pulling teeth to get my DS to tell us anything. He is just way more private and a whole lot less dramatic than his sister. But I watched him take care of my parents, when my dad dying. Such compassion. He lives nearby, was in college at the time. Just amazing. Your DS may not share the details of their life like a DD, but they will be there for you in other ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:56 AM Flag
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IA. My oldest ds is most compassionate person I know. He is just wired that way. He would probably be there for me the most. However it's the emotional closeness I have with my mother that I would live to have. I don't think it's possible with a boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:10 AM Flag
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My DH is very close with his mom. Much more close with her than his sister is. Way to de-value your relationship with your sons. I think you need therapy, not another child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:57 AM Flag
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My dh loves his mother. My father was close to my grandmother but its not the closeness I am talking about. I am very normal. There is nothing wrong with my wondering if I should have a dd. it's not unnatural. I love my sons very much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:16 AM Flag
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I am pg with DB#1 and it's a boy. I know exactly how you feel. I always only wanted one child - a girl. So I think about it a lot - give up a dream of only having one child or give up a dream of having a girl. I had a very very difficult time coming to terms with his gender when we found out. And with therapy it got a lot better. I can say that I love my baby, I know I will have a ton of fun with him doing things (I have a lot of interests that are "gender neutral") but I worry about the same thing. That there comes a day when he leaves, builds his own family and we won't be close anymore. Don't get me wrong, I want all that for him but I also want the closeness that only seems to come with having a girl. Perhaps this generation of boys will be different, since their dads are different than their dads were. I am not sure. I thought about the adoption as well as doing gender selective IVF, just like you. I am not sure. I have some time to figure things out but it's on my mind a lot. GL ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:03 AM Flag
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My DH is very close with his mom and I love my MIL and consider her a friend and confidant. We never would shut her out and my DH would have never married someone that would do that to her. She has an amazing relationship with my DS. Give men a little credit - not all men neglect their mothers. [ Reply | More ]
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