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[ - ] How many of you married for money AND love (ie married someone you loved for money and his money was a major factor in your decision to pick him as opposed to toher guys you may have also loved), and how has it turned out for you? What did you expect and not expect? What do you wish you would have known going in? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you want me to be completely honest? I always knew I would marry really well, and I did. I'm from a good family, have an Ivy education, and am extremely attractive and fit. My DH is famous, wealthy, fit and younger than I am. It worked out fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a good school to study music? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Medical School. [ Reply | More ]
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Please be serious. I'm looking for recommendations for my DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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How old is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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21. She's very into music composition. But not exactly classical or jazz. [ Reply | More ]
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College? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Juilliard, Hartt School of Music, Oberlin... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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^Eastman too [ Reply | More ]
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Julliard [ Reply | More ]
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How can one put food on the table with music? Better go to medical school. [ Reply | More ]
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Indiana University. It's number 2 after Julliard. Wonderful program and wonderful school. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, I never would have thought of Indiana of all places. Is it diverse? Do they teach more modern forms of music there? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I do not live in Breezy Point, I live in a more diverse part of Brooklyn but I loved this article 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Blah more "intellectual" hate talk. Enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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LOL. Article was hilarious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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I don't know why people shit on Breezy Point. I don't live there but I know people who do, and to me those are the real New Yorkers. They've lived there for decades(even if just for the summer), many of them worked for the City, they have long and deep roots to the City. I trust their views on the City more than I do some woman who moved here from somewhere else in 2004 because she wanted to pretend she was in a TV show and hasn't ever been past Park Slope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] If I was pregnant, would I be feeling morning sickness as early as the 22nd day of the month (period usually starts on the 27th for me) or would it start only after missed period? Thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Not everyone experiences morning sickness. I didn't really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Probably too soon. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] NYC Public Middle School Applicants: What did most of the 5th graders list as a 1st choice at your school? And if possible, state your school. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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How would you know this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Parents talk to each other. The kids all see each other at the interviews/ testing days. The kids tell each other too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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There have been no interviews and testing days yet. How would you know the majority? must be a small school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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The kids have all told each other in class. There are about 90 5th graders at our school. We know that about 10 are applying to lab and about 15 are applying to Salk as first choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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If in District 3, the only possible answers are Delta and Computer. There aren't really any other good options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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agree but some have listed the new school and mott hall. columbia secondary is good but inconvenient to most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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OP here. Yes, makes sense. We are in D2. I would imagine a lot of D3 kids also apply to Anderson, right? [ Reply | More ]
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^^^I know it's not limited to D3, but I would imagine that given the easy commute, they would have a large pool of applicants from D3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are so many American women incredibly old-fashioned? They look down on single mothers, expect guys to pick up the check during dates, rarely ask men out, expect the men to be the providers, look down on stay at home dads, and never have any hobbies or interests that include 'masculine' activities like computers or playing guitar and judge any women who like such activities as 'tomboys' and 'butch' women, and heavily judge women who want to have sex without marriage. Why are American women so old-fashioned compared to European women? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Puritan history. This isn't Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Then why do American women like to strut around thinking they're superior to 'submissive' women from Asia? Many Asian women are a lot more assertive and tough than white American women, and American women are pretty submissive anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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White supremacy. Next question... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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That's it? So it's just empty racism then? There's nothing else going on that's making American women pretend like they're strong and assertive etc when actually they're just as submissive as Asian women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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So are Asian women assertive or submissive? Keep track of your stereotypes OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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No, read my comments again. I'm saying that American women are no better than Asian women. But they like to pretend that they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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our culture has not decayed to the same extent as Europe's, but we will get there. [ Reply | More ]
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ha! This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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I think it might be self selection bias. Look at where you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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This is supposed to be a site for Manhattan's finest, most well-educated, wealthy, sophisticated married women. So what's your point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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The part about sex before marriage is news to me. Where are you getting all this ridiculous info from? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you kidding me? Married women here get infuriated whenever any single woman talks about just wanting to have sex without getting into deep relationships. [ Reply | More ]
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i have rarely seen a post where everybody replies the same way. you're exaggerating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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I am the poster who insists that 'lonely, single women' going on Tinder will not find the solace they are looking for. I stand by this. If you are so un-selfaware that you disagree with this, there is nothing more to the discussion. [ Reply | More ]
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I had dinner with a few old friends recently. One of them kept stating "if DH says I have to go back to work, I'll find something" - this struck me the wrong way. [ Reply | More ]
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This is exactly what I'm saying. American women can be incredibly retrograde but they act like they're these bold, modern feminists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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I judge people who don't speak or behave with integrity. How they look, what they do stem from this. It's on a case by case instance with which I judge. I'm neither American or European. [ Reply | More ]
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That's great but it doesn't answer the question. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you basing your question on the UB demographic? If you are, your 'American women' test group is VERY limited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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How is it limited? These are supposedly Ivy League-educated women who work in high-paying professions and live in Manhattan. If anything, the results should be heavily skewed toward being progressive. Instead it's like talking to a group of grandmas from the 1950s. [ Reply | More ]
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Spoken like a true MRA - men's rights asshole. Women on this site argue about everything, especially the topics you mentioned. I wouldn't be a single mom but I don't look down on anyone who is, I think whoever asks for the date should pay, and I play the guitar and am on my laptop for hours a day. I had plenty of sex outside of marriage. Your logic is flawed. [ Reply | More ]
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practicality. It is hard to be a single parent. I would not wish it on anyone, frankly. I don't judge but it is definitely not something I ever aspired to be. The working situation is very unfriendly here to new parents. Many times, it is also more practical and desirable to stay home. This is especially true in that we rush our young mothers back to work with only a 12 week paid leave. Europe is much more flexible the first year and with other benefits for parents, including vacation time. Kind of sucks if you only get 2 weeks. Don't know about the hobby situation as I have many friends who are interested in the computer and guitar. Interestingly, I never was interested in a European man as they did not seem to be as gallant as American men. Of course, this is just me and I am answering your question from my point of view. I am sure many would not agree with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] why dont they have ARMOR and HELMETS on planes? seems like a lot of these dudes died from blunt trauma rather than burning up or w/e. you see the dudes with smashed in heads and u just wonder if they would have made it if they had a formula 1 style helmet under their chair and some chainmail in the overhead compartment. surely this would save at least a few lives right? doesn't take long to get those things on/off. like why seatbelts but not this? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pro tip, bust out your life vest at takeoff and wear it at all times on the plane. It acts like an airbag. [ Reply | More ]
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seems like this is the best option we have at the moment [ Reply | More ]
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Weight. [ Reply | More ]
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you would still die of trauma if you were wearing armor. it isn't about something hitting you, it is about your organs going from 300 mph to zero instantly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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The armor protects ur organs u mongoloid. [ Reply | More ]
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You're either flame or ignorant. First impact is the aircraft hitting another object, second impact is your body hitting stuff inside the aircraft, and third impact is your organs hitting your own skeleton. Even if you eliminate the first and second impacts with armor and padding, sufficient deceleration will still kill you as your own organs get impaled on your bones. [ Reply | More ]
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the armor absorbs the fucking impact dude. how do u think armor works? [ Reply | More ]
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Put on a kevlar vest or even a suit of armor and leap off a 10 story building. See what happens. Even if the suit of armor is intact, you'll be dead on the ground. [ Reply | More ]
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but u aren't fucking freefalling from the plane are you? ur in the plane, your impact with the shit in the plane is absorbed by the armor. jfc what is wrong with the board? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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WOW YOU SEEM DUMB [ Reply | More ]
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this. a bullet travels at like 1000 MPH and armor stops it. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not a matter of the armor withstanding the impact. It's a matter of your own organs sloshing around inside your body. Try putting a metal pot on your head and then let someone hit you in the head with a hammer. You'll find that the pot "stops" the hammer from deforming it, but your head still gets hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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nobody is saying that it wouldn't still hurt dude. [ Reply | More ]
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jfc 2014 urbanbaby. it's like no one has taken physics. [ Reply | More ]
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just put a fucking pot on your head and hit it with a hammer in order to simulate a plane crash. i can't believe this board is even real [ Reply | More ]
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Why do fighter planes have expensive and complex ejection seats and parachutes if the pilots could just wear suits of armor and then crash land perfectly fine? [ Reply | More ]
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smh [ Reply | More ]
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Let meet down stair. You put on a helmet while I take a swing with a baseball bat. Might do you some good bc you are stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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wtf? unnecessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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No worries, he was hit in the head when he was a child. No Helmet. Too late for the helmet now. [ Reply | More ]
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So, apparently your high school didn't teach physics... [ Reply | More ]
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What's happened now? [ Reply | More ]
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if you're 30,000 ft in the air, the pressure change and temperature change will kill you before you hit the ground. [ Reply | More ]
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no it wouldn't. how do people skydive then? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL... moron. [ Reply | More ]
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explain. [ Reply | More ]
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imagine ur scared DH saying goodbye son I love u to u in a daft punk style helmet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Ladies who WOH at an office, do you carry expensive bags or wear nice jewelry (aside from e-ring/wedding band) to work? I'm a relatively junior person in the scheme of things and always feel a little weird carrying a designer bag or wearing nice jewelry to the office, even if it's subtle. I am in a field where people make enough to afford nice things. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I do neither (except for my engagement ring and my deceased mother's ring), but unless you are in a field where people are very brand/"status"-conscious (I don't know, marketing? PR?), as long as you aren't flashy, I don't think it is an issue either way. I work in a VERY low-key field, but not sure most people would know whether a bracelet were a Cartier or just a regular bangle, for example. Just keep the tiara at home :) [ Reply | More ]
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Keep the tiara at home - I wish! :) I would like to wear diamond studs (~1.5ct per ear...not that small) since they are beautiful and I like getting a lot of use out of expensive things, but don't want it to reflect poorly on me. Same with a nice bag - sometimes I want to go somewhere after work and carry a nice purse there instead of the banged up Le Pliage I take to work, but don't necessarily want to flash a nice bag when I'm arriving/leaving. [ Reply | More ]
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I occasionally wear diamond studs which were expensive but are not big or gaudy (1.5 total cart weight). Other than that, have a few pendants and necklaces that are nice but not over-the-top. No purse of mine costs more than $400 at the very most. [ Reply | More ]
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VBA. [ Reply | More ]
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I wear a watch, but no other jewelry (DH and I don't have rings). I don't wear/carry any clothes/accessories that are easily identified as a label and I don't wear/carry anything that I can't easily afford to replace if I forget it in a cab or get mugged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Are Jews still considered NOKD in New York? 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nope, 100 years ago yes. But today no way [ Reply | More ]
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Where are Jews still thought of as NOKD? [ Reply | More ]
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In Mexico City. Jews are still today not invited to any of the fancy country clubs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Also Buenos Aires. In Buenos Aires the nicest places are still off limits to Jews. But outside Latin America there is no place I can name [ Reply | More ]
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Omg why not? Are Latino populations anti-Semitic? [ Reply | More ]
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Not all latinos are anti semetic. Brazil is famously welcoming of Jews, most of the wealthiest people in Brazil of any race and of any religion want their children to marry Jews. But Mexico and Argentina are indeed anti semetic. I do not know why [ Reply | More ]
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Not true. Brazil is antisemitic. [ Reply | More ]
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I really like you and I want to validate your feelings. I welcome further comments from you. That being said, you are 100% dead wrong [ Reply | More ]
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According to a U.S. Department of State report, Antisemitism in Brazil remains rare.[10] The results of a global survey on anti-Semitic sentiments, released by the Anti-Defamation League, ranks Brazil among the least anti-Semitic countries in world. According to this global survey conducted between July 2013 and February 2014, Brazil has the lowest “Anti-Semitic Index” (16%) in Latin America and the third lowest in all Americas, only behind Canada (14%) and the United States (9%).[12] [13] [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry for having to post facts that prove you wrong. I am posting in the spirit of having a good discussion, not in the spirit of insulting U [ Reply | More ]
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I certainly do not know the stats, but my friends moved from Brazil because they are Jewish, were being harassed at work, and they were scared. [ Reply | More ]
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I am sorry to hear that, but they are the exception not the rule [ Reply | More ]
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Just read UB to see how Jews are hated here in NYC and the USA. Yes, we are successful, but there is subtle prejudice all over the place in jobs, country clubs, real estate. Realtors steer Jews to certain towns and away from others. [ Reply | More ]
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No more so than other groups. I mean, WASPS are steered away from towns that are not filled w wasps. Stop having a persecution complex [ Reply | More ]
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Here is a movie about how Jews were considered NOKD at Andover and the similar prep schools a long time ago [ Reply | More ]
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I've seen that movie. It was so hard to imagine that Jews were looked down upon so recently. Things have changed so much in the past few decades. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, you are right. Even in 1950 things probably wouldn't have played out the way they did in the movie. I think the movie more accurately portrays what would have happened to jews at Andover in 1920 or 1930, not in 1950. [ Reply | More ]
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the movie is set in the 1950s. [ Reply | More ]
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that is my point. movie is NOT realistic at all with regard to the 1950s but would have been realistic if it took place in 1930 [ Reply | More ]
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nice flashback to my crush on Randall Batinkoff. [ Reply | More ]
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omg, remember him? [ Reply | More ]
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darcy was really lucky to be a knocked up 16 year old. I would have taken him over Paris (totally wrong takeaway I know). [ Reply | More ]
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Today of course Andover and the other elite prep schools are desperate and hungry to recruit more Jews to come to their schools. Looking for the next Mark Zuckerberg [ Reply | More ]
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Certainly. [ Reply | More ]
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Come on. Not in Manhattan surely. Or Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
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The opposite. [ Reply | More ]
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Now the Jewish men are considered hot property. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Jewish women are CONSTANTLY complaining about Asian girls stealing all the Jewish men [ Reply | More ]
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Is that really true IRL? I feel like it's all over UB. [ Reply | More ]
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it doesn't feel true to me IRL. the jewish women who wanted to marry jewish men did. [ Reply | More ]
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Read the article. [ Reply | More ]
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but this is one asian woman's opinion. who isn't married to a jewish man. [ Reply | More ]
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FROM 2003! [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. It doesn't ring true to me either (not asian or Jewish btw). [ Reply | More ]
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i thought they are momma's boys who can't separate? it's the jewish women who marry the best men. [ Reply | More ]
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I think the shrill screeching and squaealing and wailing of single Jewish women, the hate and vitrol towards shiksas that steal their men, is limited to certain cities. I sense it in some places in America and not in others [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly there is no way to yell whether those posts come from the same three individuals or 50 individuals. [ Reply | More ]
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i think the shrieking and squealing women of all religions generally (not always) calm down before getting married. [ Reply | More ]
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You I like. Of course, you are correct [ Reply | More ]
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lol. There wouldn't be much left of New York if there were no Jews. [ Reply | More ]
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True that [ Reply | More ]
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Jews are considered "tacky" like Italians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Linguistic moms -- why are most typical American first names derived from Hebrew? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Biblical? Old Testament names? [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah.... I'm not sure that's the truth, now is it? Other than David, Joshua, Daniel, Joseph - I can't think of many others that come from the Hebrew. But I can think of dozens that don't. [ Reply | More ]
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Check, most are actually derivative. This came up yesterday in a post whether "James" is a Jewish name. Derived from Jacob and the Hebrew יעקב. [ Reply | More ]
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Benjamin, Samuel [ Reply | More ]
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Juan -- John -- Yohanan -- יְהוֹחָנָן [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think anyone is in at Admissions at any of the NYC private schools? Wanted to call around and confirm all paperwork is in. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Great idea. Why not show-up in person? [ Reply | More ]
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This. They love that. [ Reply | More ]
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Remember to bring flowers. [ Reply | More ]
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no. last day of school was friday. [ Reply | More ]
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I would send an email. They can get that regardless. [ Reply | More ]
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ok, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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No, they're out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] We just received the greatest Christmas gift ever!! My neighbor's 54 acre farm/estate is going on the market in the spring and they just signed a conservation agreement with the township and state to never, ever allow any type of development on the property. What a beautiful and selfless gift : ) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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So it can only be sold as a 54 acre property with the existing structures, with a restrictive covenant to the township? [ Reply | More ]
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sounds like it, although I'm confused. our town has supposedly been after my SIL and BIL to deed 5 of their acres to the town so it can never be built on. They say they rejected the idea because their property is worth more with the extra acreage than without. I don't know why they have never spoken of just placing a restriction on the acreage without deeding it over. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah people do this and get $2m from the govt. not a selfless gift. [ Reply | More ]
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i think you are confused. That's not how these arrangements work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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My dad did this. Then we got a beach house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Your property value just got a big bump. Of course you are grateful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] So my in-laws are spending everything they have in yet another super expensive rehab for his sister, a meth-addict. She's a lot of trouble, and not only for us. We can't even visit my in-laws because that's where she lives. It wouldn't be bad if she dies soon, she has 0 chances to stop being a junkie and bothering everybody around her. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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What you say is 100% true. but I would never say it in real life because it is considered not nice! [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Is this super expensive rehab in Pennsylvania?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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no, New York. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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All meth rehab is expensive, and it is almost always doomed to fail [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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what's the alternative though? jail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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I love urban baby cause I can tell the truth here. there are hundreds of thousands of women who weigh more than 300 pounds. Almost none of them have the willpower to get thin, they spend tons of money but it never ever works. If you are fat you will stay fat. no willpower [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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with my sister in law, it's more about her narcissism and love for being a complete burden to those around her. sure, she's fat too, but that doesn't hurt people around her. it's like: "oh, you don't do enough for me? here! rehab for $30k / month... again!!!". that $ is not only coming from what it would be her inheritance, also from my husband's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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That sucks. The outlook is not good, and there goes the $$$ too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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yup. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$ down. the. drain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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this, i would have liked my in-laws to tell my husband: this is paid by her inheritance, not yours. but... nope. he's paying for it too. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Same thing with people on meth. no matter how hard they try, no matter how much $$$ is spent they will stay on meth forever. They can not quit. impossible. it is a waste of $$$ [ Reply | More ]
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i know! i cracked up when i saw that the success rate is 12%. give me a break! she's the worst to begin with, she has 0 chances of being among that 12% [ Reply | More ]
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np. Wow, I ad no idea. My cousin was on meth for about 15 years, but the last round of rehab stuck and he's been clean for 8 years now. I think getting older helped. He's in his 40s. He also moved across the country, so no more friend or family influence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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right. ITA that moving out of the area altogether is a must. but there's not such an option in this case. $-wise she's completely dependent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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also, on top of this, the junkie had the bad idea of having 3 kids with 2 different parents who aren't in the picture. my mother-in-law raises them and wants us to care about them. i've tried, but after putting up with my in-laws considering them the priority to the detriment of their role of grandparents of my own kids, i stopped caring and began to see them as a burden. 90% of the times we interact i'm forced to hear about these 3 kids i would prefer my kids not to be related to. we have NOTHING in common. guess i'm just getting older and not putting up with any shit any longer. feels weird after putting so much effort. can't force relationships. [ Reply | More ]
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That is why I donate 80% of my charitable giving to project prevention. Project prevention gives free sterilization to Meth Addicts like your sister in law. Consider donating to prevent other meth addicts from ever having kids [ Reply | More ]
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she was not on meth apparently while she had those 3 kids. was just her very-stupid self. take this: she was high while being a nurse at the NICU. the parents of those babies... i suffer for them. we don't know in USA whether the nurses are high or not while our babies depend on them. CRAZY!!! the nurses covered her ass for a long time till they had no choice but to report her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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You are screwed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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can you, for one minute, imagine the personal hell they are going through? can you try to have some compassion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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for a while yes, a decade of it? nope. seems my patience run out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Poor little you isn't going to get your IL's money? I feel so bad for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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lol wondering, do they expect OP to pay for her rehab once they are gone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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I feel sorry for your kids. What a horrible thing to wish death on your SIL. Also, it's none of your business how they choose to spend their money, but based on how callous and awful you are, I'm sure you're mentally calculating how much you'll get after the in-laws die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Not true. meth addict is selfish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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No one is defending the meth addict SIL. Of course she's selfish for doing meth without considering how it will affect her kids. That doesn't make OP any less of an evil, callous, calculating hag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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so whenever you get imposed a family member that doesn't add and is trouble each turn of the way you say: "what a great opportunity to be compassionate!!!". you remind me of Flanders from Simpson. i'm more like: "my kids are going nowhere near a drug addict". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Whoever said your kids had to go near your SIL? You're an awful person for wishing death on her and calculating how much money her rehab will take away from your DH's inheritance, not for keeping your kids away from SIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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I disagre. I want her to die as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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moron, till she's a live my kids don't get to visit their grandparents. you don't seem to get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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nothing! it will be "invested" on meth and its rehab. wondering, why is this such a taboo still? there are entire regions in USA dealing with a meth epidemic as we speak. why was it's ok to talk about junkies when it was crack affecting inner city minorities in the 80s, but now that whites are the meth users, a ton of them mothers... it's all about compassion? double standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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I don't blame you. The decision to do meth is so selfish, it turns your life into a black hole and affects everyone around you. Screw addicts. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:11 PM Flag
[ - ] If you're a work-at-home mom, or if you part-time work at home, do you have a sort of 'uniform' you wear, and what is it? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Exercise clothing. I wakeup super early do breakfast, bring the kids to school (NYC), go to gym, come home and work. [ Reply | More ]
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I'm in a suit once or twice a month to meet with new clients, but then the rest of my life is yoga pants and layered tshirts. On the upside, I now take a 5-minute break at the top of every hour and do push-ups and squats, and I'm getting much stronger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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NP if you WAH or work part-time, how much do you earn? [ Reply | More ]
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OR. Editor. [ Reply | More ]
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pp BPI & data analyst, $80k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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WAH FT - yoga pants and a sweatshirt, always. I go to the gym in the morning and never change. I'm a mess. [ Reply | More ]
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^$130K plus bonus. [ Reply | More ]
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Field? [ Reply | More ]
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Lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand people who say they don't change after the gym. Don't you shower and put on clean clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Not until later in the day when things are winding down. [ Reply | More ]
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^and I fully acknowledge I am disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Lounge pants and a camisole/long sleeve tshirt - p/t accountant, $50k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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I'm at home, why wear cloths. I'm nude except for the thong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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So it looks like the middle schools have let out for the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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No. I don't dress like a slob but I wear jeans and a top of some kind. Dresses if I'm sick of jeans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] great job, liberal protesters of the garner no-indict decision: Police Commissioner William J. Bratton said investigators had concluded that Ismaaiyl Brinsley used the protests that have roiled the nation as the inspiration for killing two police officers.- NYT 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Eh, I marched in the protest parade and I was there at Police Plaza. None of us called for police to be murdered [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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The protests in St Louis were more extreme, with the black leadership in St Louis calling upon blacks there to murder whites. But that did not happen here in Manhattan http://stlouis.cbslocal.com/2014/12/02/was-the-hammer-attack-on-bosnian-man-racially-motivated/ [ Reply | More ]
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WHAT DO WE WANT? DEAD COPS!! WHEN DO WE WANT IT? NOW!! [ Reply | More ]
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I marched in the protest and did not hear that. Where were they chanting that? I am 100% white by the way [ Reply | More ]
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That POS who killed the two officers didn't need "inspiration" - he was a crazy bastard who used the protests to commit suicide and go out in what he saw as a blaze of glory. [ Reply | More ]
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I disagree with the OP. DeBlasio is not responsible for this murder of cops. DeBlasio is responsible for reducing "stop and frisk" which has led to the murder of OTHER people, but this murder would not have been prevented by "stop and frisk" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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Actually the murder rate is down since he took office but don't let that stop you. [ Reply | More ]
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The moms that live in Park Slope hate the moms that live in Breezy Point. It is a social class issue, an education issue. Park Slope moms need someone to shit on and Breezy Point moms are just their intended target [ Reply | More ]
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racists deserve to be shit on, sorry [ Reply | More ]
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Well, I respectfully disagree. You are the piece of shit, you are so insecure that you need to assert your moral superiority over other whites by pretending that you like blacks. Basically, blacks are a tool that you use to assert your moral superiority. [ Reply | More ]
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In the same way, the parents of Amy Biehl wanted to prove how morally superior they were to other whites and they did this by sending their daughter to be killed by blacks. After blacks killed their daughter the parents again praised the blacks that killed their daughter and parents criticized Breezy Point [ Reply | More ]
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
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Is there one particular poster who is obsessed with Breezy Point? I never even heard of it, except on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Are you kidding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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It has a population of 4000 people. Can you name every NYC neighborhood with 4000 or more people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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Well I am white and I can name every single one of the white neighborhoods. I do not know the difference between the different black neighborhoods. Whites talk to me about their neighborhood and blacks do not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Did you support the war in Iraq? [ Reply | More ]
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I am not the OP, I was against the war in Iraq. I am against Americans of any color killing non Americans of any color. Peace now. But I am also against the leadership of the black community calling upon black men to murder whites. In New York the average black man commits twenty times as many murders as the average white man [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Here is a direct quote from a black calling upon blacks to stop killing each other and instead kill whites: [ Reply | More ]
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"Yeah, it was wise. I mean, if black people kill black people every day, why not have a week and kill white people?…....So if you're a gang member and you would normally be killing somebody, why not kill a white person?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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Look it up. [ Reply | More ]
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So they can protest because some maniac who was certifiably insane will do something crazy? [ Reply | More ]
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Can't. [ Reply | More ]
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The only person at fault for murdering two police officers is the man who pulled the trigger. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't blame anyone in particular and definitely not the mayor, but we have to recognize that there are some crazy people who will act on crazy words. [ Reply | More ]
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here is a GREAT article about Breezy Point http://takimag.com/article/brooklyn_diverse_fuggedaboudit1/print#axzz3MehPFlQL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Random question but one I can't ask people IRL. Jewish moms - did any of you choose to send your kids to non-Jewish overnight camps, and if so, why? Getting huge pressure in our Reform community to choose the Reform camp but feel like DD could use a more diverse experience. TIA. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Reform camp compared to non-denominational? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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OP - Reform as opposed to just a plain old non-religious overnight camp. DD is sporty, not super into Hebrew school. [ Reply | More ]
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Except for church camps, any overnight camp you send your kids to in the northeast is going to have a significant contingent of jewish campers. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, but there won't be Jewish instruction/activities, Shabbat, etc. We are just not that religious but everyone says camp is hugely significant for identity. True? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know of a camp that doesn't offer these options for the jewish campers, though. My kid always attended because he liked the free challah. We're catholic [ Reply | More ]
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I would send them anywhere except for another type of religious camp. Jewish camps are a pain in the ass because they expect you to go to services on Friday night. I always hated that. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - I think my DD might hate it too... or she might fall in love with her religion in a new way and I'd be taking that away from her by just choosing a non-religious camp. [ Reply | More ]
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Or she might just do it I did an endure it and ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
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I am agnostic, but am somewhat bemused when people say they are inly mildly "religious" but then send their kids to religious camp/instruction. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - I totally understand that. The thing is, many people we know who are Reform are not so religious but this is just what everyone does and it seems to be a huge part of passing on Jewish identity. Curious about perspective of other Reform parents. [ Reply | More ]
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right. why not let the kid opt for his/her own religion after 18? [ Reply | More ]
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You CAN ask in real life. Our synagogue does a lot of "aren't you doing Jewish camp" and I HATE it. There is no reason that kids have to be segregated for CAMP. I totally understand if you live somewhere where there are no Jewish kids, and camp is a way for your kid to meet others, but in NY area, no reason for it. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - That's just it! I see it is segregation after already spending the whole year doing Sunday school and Hebrew school. Why can't she just go float in a canoe in the Poconos with all kinds of kids? (We are in Philly area but there are plenty of Jewish kids, she's not alone.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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How important is "identity" to you? I didn't go to a Jewish camp and always had friends from all background/religions vs. being strongly Jewish. Most of the people I know who went to Jewish camps are very into being Jewish and have always been (youth groups, Jewish frats etc). That said, for the most part most of the kids I know didn't go to Jewish camps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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WTF is reform? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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If you have to ask... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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lol never heard of such a thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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I"m not Jewish but my DD had plenty of Jewish kids at her secular camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Thanks. I"m not really worried about that, more about whether it's really important for her Jewish education and identity to go to a Jewish camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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My kids go to a private camp, but it is 95% Jewish. They have a Saturday morning, singing get together to celebrate Shabbat, but it's not religious at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Vapid fashion post: I purchased (online) a navy Prada cashmere sweater. It was $770 retail and I paid $180. I like it but it looks move black than navy. Would you keep it because it's such a good deal or would you return it if you don't absolutely love it? I like it a lot but looks like many other black sweaters I own. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Try to sell on eBay for a profit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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Just return it. Not a good deal if you don't love it. Will just clutter your closet if it looks like a bunch of stuff that you already have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Keep it, who cares? Black sweaters are great for everyday and $180 isn't that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Keep. I wear more black than navy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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op here: I wear more black than navy too. I do love the weight and the neck line. I just feel like I can the same looking sweater for a lot less. I can afford it I'm just frugal this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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So why did you buy it?! [ Reply | More ]
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Things look different online than they do in person. Also a question of fit. [ Reply | More ]
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color aside, if you don't love the cut or quality, return it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Current Hunter mom told me that I need to PREPARE for round 2 but didn't tell me how. What a meany. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Definitely prepare, everyone prepares. There is a great booklet out there that goes through the whole thing. If you can't find it then call Bright Kids. They are great and can help you DC make it to the final 50. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you Bright Kids PR!! [ Reply | More ]
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Don't worry, you won't get in either way. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you prepare for R2? [ Reply | More ]
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