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[ - ] Why was this missing UVA student stumbling through a deserted mall? What? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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lost, drunk? it's called 'the mall' - it's a shopping area that's really an open courtyard with various restaurants, and shops on perimeter ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Other white girls have been kidnapped and raped and murdered in that vicinity before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on here in their 30s who used Tinder? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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three of my single friends use it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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np: is it just for hook-ups? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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My friends that are looking to get married use the web sites with the nerdy stable guys who are open to getting married. My friends that are looking for fast sex, ie open their iphone and be having sex within an hour use Tinder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Where do u find the nerdy stable guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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e Harmony. More than 40 percent of weddings are now the result of people meeting on libe [ Reply | More ]
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on line [ Reply | More ]
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more specific, please. thx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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oh, just saw. eH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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yes, where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Hmmm yeah that's my impression too and what I am worried about. I haven't used it yet but have 2 friends now dating guys they met on Tinder who are telling me to use it. OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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This. My 27 y/o sister downloaded it and deleted it after a day because it's just a way to find guys for sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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there is a movie about tinder users in Manhattan that is coming out soon . Miles teller is in it. called Two Night stand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I go to stock up on dry goods like paper towels etc. Besides Costco. Have lots of storage. Just hate running out of paper goods toothpaste etched. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Kmart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Op: thx. Better than Walmart or target?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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buy the case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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I order it online for delivery - peapod [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Op: is it competitive price wise w walmart etc or do u pay a premium? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Fairway in Red Hook. Decent prices on this sort of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Put them on subscription through amazon. I do batteries, toilet tissue, paper towels, ramen, feminine supplies, dryer sheets, deodorant, shampoo ... you get a nice, effortless storage supply of necessaries going after a few months and can stop at any time. I received 16 jars of peanut butter in the mail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Private school moms: do u go to Coffees w the deans or heads of schools? I,e Coffee. Chat mornings held at school for the parents. Is it worthwhile to schlep it there? For an elementary aged kid. Thx 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Dunno about private, but principals at Nest and Stuy do it and it's helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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You should go every once in a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your favorite childhood memory of your parents? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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biological imperative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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no, that's why teenage girls are so mean. My favorite childhood memory of my parents together is going to the horseraces in Kentucky with them when I was about 7. It was a great day, and I magically picked winners in three straight races. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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road trips [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Holidays--going Christmas shopping with my Mom, going to the pumpkin patch before Halloween, my Mom buying us each a special Christmas ornament for the tree each year, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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My father died (unexpectedly) when I was 11. A month before, he took me out of school for 10 days, he had a business trip to near where my grandparents lived. He took me to the conference for one day, and I took notes (probably useless, but who cares). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I don't remember my parents together, and when I do it's the horrible fights and the sight of blood. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are teenage girls so mean? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What's bothering you? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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This damn cough. It kept me up all night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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ptsd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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no $$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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^^^ despite working so f*cking hard all my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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or: nothing specific happened....I come from poor immigrant family and got college degree and masters degree thinking I would earn a decent living, and I am I guess compared to how I was raised. But I'm still struggling with money even though I have a full time job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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This city is hard. Everything is so expensive and real estate everywhere is ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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or: I completely agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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or: 32 so I feel like I should be more financially stable, but I did a lot more schooling than my other friends who are now making tons of money in finance. I also had a kid in between school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.18.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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my back. I never understood how lucky I was just to walk around and randomly lift and pull things. then one day your back gives out and it's like you are never completely normal again. this pain is so scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Dc's public school seems mediocre, but private school is $$$$. Worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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I have a migraine and my 3 y/o is tap dancing and singing while my 2 y/o twins run screaming in circles around her happily. They're having so much fun I don't want to ask them to quiet down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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np: tell them to take it to their room...sounds like a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Money stuff. Tuition for a school we love but in all honesty can no longer afford, I'd love to do some renos but also too expensive, etc. Nothing fatal, just annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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balancing work/being a good mom/household responsibilities/friends and feel like I'm not doing a very good job at any [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:30 PM Flag
[ - ] So I was up early this morning again to look at this college tweeting app that there was a thread on yesterday. Sure enough if you look at the UVA campus threads - all the students are anonymously talking back and forth about this missing girl. BTW not UVA person from yesterday. I was just reading the article in CNN and it occurred to me to go look. (Yesterday I was only looking at my own college campus board.) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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Can you link it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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No it's a phone app. Yik Yak. They serve college campuses and you can peek at different boards for different schools but not post. You can only post to your own local area. I didn't get it at first but once you get an angle on it then it gets interesting. It was free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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»One of the recent ones: "As a 6'4' male, I really do want to help girls feel safer and walk them home. The unfortunate thing is that they are scared of me because of my size, and the worst part is that I don't blame them." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you hide money from your husband? And if so, do you WOH or SAH? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Sort of yes, sort of no. I SAH. I hid money for emergency purposes until at one point we nearly divorced and split our bank account down the middle. I put half in my name. We never actually split up and I still have that account in my name, but the mutual account is still the one we use. I don't bother really hiding money anymore since i know i have a safety net. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:38 PM Flag
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One of the recent ones: "As a 6'4' male, I really do want to help girls feel safer and walk them home. The unfortunate thing is that they are scared of me because of my size, and the worst part is that I don't blame them." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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Sorry meant for thread above! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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We have separate money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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SAH. DH spends any cash that is in the checking account without a thought, so I move it to other accounts that are harder to access, or I keep it in cash, or I spend it first on things we'll need in upcoming months (overstocked kitchen & bathroom, birthday & holiday gifts, paying bills the day they are posted). He doesn't want to have to think about it, so he's fine with my "hiding" it from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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I just posted below. I think we're married to the same guy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Well then would you please take him back a few nights a week? When his allergies act up, the snoring kills me!! ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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OMG, it is the same guy, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.18.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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SAH, absolutely. DH spends without thinking (I do all the finances) so I move money into an account he can't access so he sees a lower balance on our checking account. Otherwise, we'd be sunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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+1 I do exactly the same thing for the same reason. WOHM here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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DH is terrible w/ spending, so I put him on an allowance. He can only spend a present amount per month, and I control the accounts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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No. Sahm. We're both responsible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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No. DH used to be very careful. I was the expensive one. Now we are both expensive :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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DH here. My wife gets a fixed allowance and has no access or insight into the rest of the money I make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Why do you do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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No, although I have about $800K in my name only. I SAHM now, worked for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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^^^also, I manage all our household expenses, he'd be terrible at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Np: I am In a similar position. iinteresting arrangement. I have a vacation house in my name. What is the point of the 800K in yr name only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of a score of 77 percentile for a reading test in first grade (compared to all other children taking the test nationally)? Good or bad? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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1st graders develop at very different rates. My dc would have been much lower at this point in 1st grade--now A student at SHS. Don't worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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Independent school norm or everyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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It's an advanced reading test for all public schools I think. I am not from the US so I am not that familiar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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Is it done on the computer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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Try not to worry about it too much. It's fine. My dc both made a huge leap forward during 2nd grade (20 percentile points) but even if yours does not, she is doing better than 3/4. Also some kids get test anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of a 40-year-old woman with no history of breast cancer getting a mammogram twice a year? Only history is one parent had leukemia. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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Is this you or are you asking about someone else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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I'm asking about a friend. I think she is getting scammed by a doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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Better than not getting one at all, though one would probably be ok. I am 40 and I get one a year, but I stagger, so my gyn appointment is 6momths before and after each mammo as sort of a safety net [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:44 PM Flag
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I think it is medically unnecessary and a waste of healthcare resources. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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What about the radiation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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Is this on recommendation of an MD? And for how long have you been getting regular mammograms? I had my first one this year and am going back in 6mos, probably again in 6 mos after that and will subsequently go to annual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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She found a doctor who doesn't take insurance who goes along with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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I had this done for the first few years because there was an area of density they wanted to watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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It's overkill and not healthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:25 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is outraged because other little girls left our DD out of their fun last night. I'm like, "oh, honey, it doesn't get better for young girls." 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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You are right. It gets so much worse. Pace yourselves, its a long haul. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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How bad? A little concerned... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Your dh is sweet. Ask him to plan a special father daughter day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.18.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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"outraged?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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He's going to have to relax before middle school hits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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It's rough. My dd is in 2nd and there is always drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh bad morning with Teenage DCs. They share a room and its tight. I started yelling, you can go to your private school, or we can get a bigger apartment do you can have your own room. I am working my ass off! A lot of cursing in between. I snapped. Everything ended up with a lot of tears. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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How many years left of sharing a room before college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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Three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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Since they are in private you can move anywhere in the city - can you swing renting a 3 bedroom in a less desirable neighborhood for 3 years? Maybe the commute & location is less important than the 3rd bedroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Well, the yelling and the tears is never a good thing, I agree. But I don't think you were wrong to communicate the reality of the situation to your teens. Telling them, "I work hard to send you to private school and that's why we live in this smaller apartment" is a) the truth and b) a reasonable tradeoff that they can understand at their age. They will never appreciate what you do for them unless you tell them what you do for them, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:44 PM Flag
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ITA in general. OTOH, this situation was a choice made by the parents, right? Did OP's kids demand to live in NYC and go to private school instead of going to a suburban public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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I am the OP and I agree. My choices were not their fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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I guess except private school wasnt their choice it was mine. An maybe not the best choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Okay, but you made the best choice you could at the time, right? It's not like you sent them to private to punish them. If changing schools and moving is not an option (and that's a huge amount of disruption just to get your own room!) I'd say: look, teens, I understand your living situation is tight, but this is the way it is because of the school choices I made. You may not be thrilled, but I made the best decision I could for you with the info I had at the time. Your situation is not permanent, think of it as a temporary annoyance and what can we all do to make the best of it until graduation arrives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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^^what I'm suggesting is: acknowledge that they're unhappy and agree that it's not ideal. Sometimes (sometimes!) teens will be less difficult if they think they are being heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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yes, and maybe a good time for learning about the family budget so they can see how it works, where all the $ actually goes to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Np ITA w everything pp said, and think you can also say that while it will be good to get a break from each other, they will probably also miss each other. Can you encourage time apart during day - do hw at library instead of apt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Good experience for when they go to college and have a roommate they have to get along with ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Sorry OP...sounds tough, but they could be in a worse situation. Tell them they are lucky to have that tiny room that they share; they are lucky that they going to a school where they are receiving a good education. Then take them to a homeless shelter to see entire families living in a tiny room. They need a reality check. Their life is not bad despite the tight quarters they are living in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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[ - ] No dh, we don't have a money tree. We actually do need to control spending. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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I so never used to understand people like this. Now I'm a parent I do. "No, little one, you DON"T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT" - so few people seem to say this to their kids.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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You are teaching them a valuable lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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I have a niece who does not understand the concept of "not enough money." She literally thinks it means: not enough money ON ME. Like, wait until later when I retrieve my wallet or go to the bank. She wants it; she gets it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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