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Yes. In college I chested on my BF. always regretted it, I made the mistake if confessing and he lost trust in me. Never again. Learned my lesson. next question? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:07 AM Flag

Your turn... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:10 AM Flag

dare [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:12 AM Flag

I dare you to wake your DH by grabbing his cock, then posting his response here... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:10 AM Flag

is that you DH? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:12 AM Flag

np. Ooh, good one! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:12 AM Flag

he said what, what? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:21 AM Flag

lol, snarf. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:22 AM Flag

Did he get wood? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:23 AM Flag

Must have, she can thank me later... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:32 AM Flag

unfortunately only in my head [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:01 AM Flag

dare [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:12 AM Flag

I dare you to start a thread on http://f2bbs.com/bbs with the word Urban Baby in the title and post the link here...now! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:13 AM Flag

Waiting... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:38 AM Flag

good snarf to you all [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:11 AM Flag

and to all a good snarf [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:20 AM Flag

Snarf...later...love you! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:14 AM Flag

Oh no. Not the "love you" poster!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:23 AM Flag

That's me...Borndragon...Love you!! Snarf [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:20 AM Flag

[ - ] Jurors deadlock on Jodi Arias penalty; retrial set. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:40 AM Flag

Get a life. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:42 AM Flag

Your reek is nasty. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

Eat a dirty dick, ass cheese. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:37 AM Flag

Who is Jodi arias? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:37 AM Flag

On June 4, 2008, Travis Alexander, a salesman, was killed at his home in Mesa, Arizona; his murder and the subsequent criminal trial have received widespread media attention, with the attention the trial received being considered an example of a media circus. Alexander's injuries consisted of multiple stab wounds, a slit throat, and a shot to the head; the medical examiner ruled his death a homicide. Jodi Arias, Alexander's ex-girlfriend, was charged with his murder, and her trial began on January 2, 2013. Arias testified that she killed Alexander in self-defense. She was found guilty of first-degree murder on May 8, 2013. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:39 AM Flag

Thanks. I guessed I missed the whole thing. If they don't talk about it on NPR, I just do t know about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:41 AM Flag

I'm envious. I've heard this lunatic's name too many times. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:52 AM Flag

more taxpayer dollars down the tubes [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:39 AM Flag

What would you suggest? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:41 AM Flag

Just take her out the back and shoot her. Done! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:52 AM Flag

pp - THIS! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:49 AM Flag

What are you...Chinese? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:28 AM Flag

It's hard to understand how some jurors could think she should be shown some mercy after she shot her boyfriend in the head, slashed his throat and stabbed him 27 times. Death penalty without question! Her contribution to the world will be to start a recycling program in prison. Great. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:51 AM Flag

[ - ] Who is the top rated Hip Hop singer Daforce & does he sound like Motown Rap? I heard of a rap singer who sounds like he's doing Motown Hip Hop. Who is Daforece and are his influences Rap artists like Run DMC, LL Cool J, Erik B and Rakim, which became part of DAFORCE's distinct signature sound? I know Run DMC and LL Cool J. don't sound Motown, but this rapper does sound Motown. http://www.vevo.com/watch/daforce/lah-loving-a-hustler/QMGR31300115 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:37 AM Flag

Oh, darling, you have definitely come to wrong website with this. I'm starting to think you spammers have never taken a marketing class in your life. Must be the recession. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:51 AM Flag

[ - ] When I feel I've been wronged I just can't forgive. Am I just getting in my own way with this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:36 AM Flag

Are you a 1977 snake? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:42 AM Flag

op here: Ha, that's a good one! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:44 AM Flag

Np- I don't get it..?? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:16 AM Flag

Snakes never let things go... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:48 AM Flag

You don't have to forgive, but if you can't move on and let it fester, yes you are. Who gets hurt the most here? [ Reply | More

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[ - ] I despise Aetna! Last year, I tripped off a curb and broke my ankle. I went to the ER, paid my hospital co-pay and got everything taken care of. However, Aetna has been refusing to "process" my claim for the past 11 months, and it has been sent to collections 3 times (each time I screamed at the supervisor to call the agency and tell them it was being processed)! Aetna has assured me for MONTHS they will pay and have it taken care of; still nothing is being done. I got another collections statement this afternoon. What's the next step to take? A lawyer? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag

Make a complaint to the department of insurance, cc the CEO of aetna, the aetna claims department etc - and send it certified mail. They cannot refuse to pay out a claim for 11 months for no reason [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

^^ btw- I worked at an insurance company and the shit always hit the fan when insureds did this. It got them immediate attention, no lawyer needed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:50 AM Flag

wow great tip!!! does it also work when hospitals bill the wrong way? it's been more than 1 year since St Luke promised us a refund... still waiting. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:30 AM Flag

Been there, with Aetna, bills were due to a high risk pregnancy... There was some kind of glitch that kept making me retroactively uninsured, even though I was. So the bills would bounce. They drove me crazy. It went on for...sorry, but it was a couple of years or maybe even more. I was trying everything, but the right hand didn't know what the left was doing - maddening. It took a lot of phone calls, quite a bit of rage, and eventually I guess I got the right people on the line and it finally went away. For a time, while it was happening, it seemed like a second job. Wish I had advice for you. I think a letter from a lawyer might speed things up, can't hurt. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:51 AM Flag

[ - ] Toronto mayor in video smoking crack. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

those skeezy canadians [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:21 AM Flag

Damn him...for not sharing. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag

the video hasn't been released/sold so up here we Canucks are waiting...he's a douchebag [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:30 AM Flag

I have been oddly interested in his. He sounds like a douche [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:54 AM Flag

[ - ] Annoyed and miffed with my direct supervisor at work. I screwed up something that was very minor a week or 2 ago (I told the client basic information but did not extract more information that would have been helpful for my job) and my supervisor nicely met with me privately to warn me that her manager would likely get complaints about it...but I diffused the situation so well that management opted to conduct a dept-wide to handle this particularly "difficult" client. As it turns out, other co workers who dealt with this client/account also had issues similar to me...so what does my direct supervisor do now? She writes me a scathing email summarizing all the items I screwed up on and how to do handle a similar situation in the future should it happen again. The email was only to me (unless she used the blind cc feature) but I can't fathom what purpose sending me this email would do. I already know very well how I screwed up, I don't need it to be hit over my head like a baseball bat to make me see it!! Ugh. Should I start preparing my résumé for another job? I am worried now that maybe she has a hidden agenda.? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag

Posts like this make me feel better about being unemployed. I hate work shit like this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag

She's documenting your screw-up in written format. You had better start looking for another job. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

stop freaking her out. her manager just wants to document her file with this incident. It doesn't mean that this incident alone is enough to push her out the door. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

But it was directed to just me. She randomly audits my work as require by dept policy, but all my prior reports were given good reviews. She has little to no say in my actual employment (my dept is small but it's part of an international corporation). Ultimately it's her boss's boss who wields the pink slip hammer. If she really wanted to screw me over, wouldn't she at least cc Human Resources and her boss? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

Not necessary for her to do this unless you majorly fucked up, which you deny doing. And I would only expect HR to be cc'd if you were about to be fired or put on a performance plan that day. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

I don't consider it a major fuck up but according to the tone of the email it is. Basically I was supposed to needle the client for financial statements and I didn't secure the info correctly and client felt my attitude was belligerent or dismissive (not sure which, it was my first time dealing with the scenario), but I admit I was not feeling well that day and was in a "fuck the world" mood that day, and it clearly showed in my report..which later proved to have false info that client assumed I wouldn't believe. So now I look very bad but I'm not sure if its an offense serious enough to fire me over it. I believe not because supervisors boss decided to hold a dept wide meeting/training to highlight my screw up (anonymously of course) but also I found out other people had screwed up with this client in the past (but not to the extent that I did). Sorry I can't provide specifics but I'm paranoid as its possible a coworker is on UB..lol -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:41 AM Flag

Whenever a client is upset it is a major fuck up. Esp, since you remember having a 'fuck the world' attitude that day and your attitude probably pissed off the client and you weren't at the peak of your performance capabilities. That said, I think the only important thing at this point is how eager you are to atone for your errors and improve your performance with this client. I would be sure to appear very eager and attentive for the next few weeks, especially. Mentally act as if you were just hired and are trying to impress your manager like a new hire would. Admit your errors and make it be known that you are eager to improve. What you described sounds like it could have happened to a lot of us. I am sure you will be fine if your attitude is right and if you are very focused on your job performance from here forward. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:47 AM Flag

I think its a CYA email in case there are future issues with your performance. I am sure she will file it away. If this truly is a minor issue, then you should not be worried. But since she wrote you a scathing email I think it was a bit more substantial of an error than you think. That doesn't mean she will fire you, etc, just that she wants it on record in case similar performance issues arise again. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag

NP: Also, expect some mention on your periodic performance evaluation, maybe reflected in a shitty merit increase. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag

Thanks.,I've been at my company 4 years and have receiver a raise and bonus every year. I am worried because this seems more serious than I ever envisioned. I really don't know what purpose it would serve for her as a CYA exercise. The results of my meeting with the difficult client was documented by a 3rd party which is how it travelled up the chain of command..and I feel like I was singled out because other coworkers would blow off this client knowing that it would be unlikely to go public. I feel like a have a giant "Hit Me" sign on my back now at work !. -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag

It was documented because any intelligent manager documents important performance discussions. Even though we have at will employment in the US, companies require documentation of performance issues that may support getting rid of you one day in case you decide to sue for wrongful termination, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:33 AM Flag

Ugh that never occurred to me! I think I hate corporate employment policies/tactics!! -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:47 AM Flag

I always say "if it's not in writing, then it never happened. I have seen managers chewed out royally for not documenting every last thing in terms of employee performance points. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:01 AM Flag

this [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag

And should I write back saying I wasn't aware of how we should have dealt with this particular client before that day? Or just let the email stay there? -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag

It is hard to say without us knowing the particulars. However, I would probably say that you appreciate her emailing you regarding ways to improve with this client, then mention that you were previously unaware of how you should have dealt with that client. However, you will be sure to incorporate all of the points for improvement that she emailed you into any future dealings with the client, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:36 AM Flag

Thank you! This is so helpful. I'm not used to being called out on the carpet for bad work product like this..I feel awful and I can't afford to have any blemishes on my performance evaluation for the end of this year...ugh..I hate this crap! -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:48 AM Flag

No problem, I have worked in house, at law firms and big accounting firms. Everything remotely performance related was dealt out in emails. I think you'll be fine. Just go to work tomorrow with an amazing attitude and this email won't go any further than it already has. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:00 AM Flag

Thank you. I am relatively inexperienced with this type of stuff. My last employer was a small office with 8 people, including the main boss. It was easy to just say "sorry wont do it again" and move on,,,Not used to all the HR formalities, the emails,,the posturing...etc etc..Now I can sleep at night..I was becoming a wreck. -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:10 AM Flag

[ - ] Just ran into someone whose kid went to pre-school with mine (she lives in the nabe so I've seen them occasionally over the years). Her dc went to a tt; mine to public (g&t, then specialized high). Turns out they are both going to the same very, very good college. To be frank, over the years I've been very envious her, how she and dh have enough money to send dcs private. But now I feel pretty darned good! I know this is shallow, and that her kid probably had a lovelier, more "handmade" education and probably met some super-connected people who will help him in the future, but heck, the truth is, our kids are going to wind up at the same place. It's really an interesting feeling. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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NY Schools 05.24.13, 04:10 AM Flag

That's awesome and it validates what I believed all along..parenting really is the other 1/2 of a child's academic success. I went to a state college and a food chunk if my college dorm-mates were students from Stuyvesant, Cooper Union, Bronx Science, Brooklyn Tech- and I remember feeling like absolute crap when I got rejected from Stuy...lol. Seriously, it's not where you come from but where you are going that matters. You should celebrate! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag

^^ good chunk (not food chunk)- damn autocorrect lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag

You lost me at "nabe". [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag

Um, I think that's pretty common slang. But maybe you think that makes OP too public schoolish? God I love UB! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:28 AM Flag

OR - And I love public schools! But can't stand nabe. It needs to go on the 'made-up words you can't stand' post. Tweens speak like this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag

I think only tweens from the 1980s talk like this! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:29 AM Flag

I was lost at nabe, too. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:52 AM Flag

Well, methinks you're pretty easily lost then. Or did I lose you at methinks? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:59 AM Flag

"Methinks" sounds retarded and like you are trying too hard. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 06:15 AM Flag

and me. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:55 AM Flag

+1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 06:14 AM Flag

she won't have super connected people from private k-12. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

I dunno, I went to Dalton in the 80s and I sheepishly admit that some of my classmates came from really connected families. I got my first job, at a network news show, through by best friend's dad [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag

that's pretty sad. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag

Why is that sad? That's the real reason that ivy league educations are important, for example, not the actual education (there are fabulously credentialed professors at even midlevel colleges these days). Networking and connections are why white umc men dominated the world for so long, and why it's great that ivy league schools now are so diverse. Those kids also deserve to make contacts. You're kind of naive [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:39 AM Flag

no, i went to an ivy. the connections you get there are mostly that recruiters only recruit from those kinds of places, not that i knew time warner's ceo's son. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:29 AM Flag

Well, you must be in a field where they recruit, like Wall Street or a corporate job. If you're in the media or a creative field, knowing people who can get you internships or entry level jobs is crucial. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:51 AM Flag

Your dc should be proud of herself/himself. As for you, it is shallow, but as long as you acknowledge that, then I don't think feeling that way is hurting anybody. But just remember: you probably wasted a lot of energy over the years feeling envious when you should have just let it go. And if things hadn't turned out the way they did, you'd still feel envious. If you have another dc, don't repeat that cycle. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag

OP: you're really wise for a UB person! I thought those same things myself, I mean, what would have happened if my kid hadn't done so well academically? DC would still have been awesome. I wasted a lot of years feeling bad and now I realize that was idiotic [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:28 AM Flag

Not to harsh your mellow, and I really do hope for the best for your dd, but just because they ended up at the same college doesn't mean they'll have the same experience while they're there or that they will have similar outcomes afterward. BTDT as a student from a mediocre educational background who ended up at a top college. I was simply NOT prepared for a lot of the college coursework, and I often struggled. My classmates who had always gone to top schools had a breadth and depth to their pre-college education that mine didn't come close to. I'm sorry to sound so negative. I hope your dd's experience is better than mine was, and you're right to be proud of her and feel good. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag

I get what you're saying, but this doesn't mean that op's dc will face the same challenges. at all! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:36 AM Flag

OP: That may have been your experience, but my kid didn't have a mediocre educational background. DC went to a specialized high, is a concert level musician and plays a varsity sport. And we took the money we saved by not scrimping to send dc to private and went all over the world with him. I think dc will do just fine at college. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:44 AM Flag

IA. You can get a deep and rich education w/o going to private, though nobody's denying that it comes easier through a private education. I'm sure your dc will do great. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:41 AM Flag

OP: well, I think it probably is easier, if you get a TT private education, and I admitted up front that there is a part of me that always felt bad that we couldn't afford it. But fwiw, my kid just laughed when I admitted that recently. He has lots of friends at tts, and he's considered the model of coolness the true intellectual. They tend to follow his lead, think he's the maestro. I may have all sorts of insecurity about it, by he has none of that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:53 AM Flag

np: I know what you're saying, I went to Yale from a crappy public high school and I was underprepared. But by late in freshman year, I had caught up, and that experience -- really pulling myself together -- shaped me forever. I now am never spooked by challenges. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:47 AM Flag

The post beggars te question: what pre-Schiller? It seems to me, they did something right there... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

Let me try again. The post begs the question: what preschool was it? They seem to be doing something right. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

OP: Let's just say it WASN'T a "tt" pre-school! I have no idea where the other kids wound up! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:50 AM Flag

I would feel the same way! That is awesome! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:42 AM Flag

Congrats!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:38 AM Flag

[ - ] Is weed really making Amanda Bynes crazy? Just weed? Can it do that? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag

No she needs help. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag

Weed is what made that guy in FL eat the other guy's face off! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag

That was bath salts. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag

np. No, they speculated that was it, because people on bath salts do sometimes behave that way, but it turned out not to be that. It wasn't pot either, though. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:16 AM Flag

spice? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag

^ To clarify, I believe he did test positive for marijuana--it was in his system. The guy was crazy, and like many mentally ill people, he was likely trying to self medicate with the pot, but that's obviously not what made him do what he did. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag

np: actually he tested negative for bath salts. They still don't know what made him do it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag

Wow! I didn't know that, how strange [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag

He tested positive for marijuana in his system. That was it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

Holy shit, I just Googled this and came across some images that may have scarred me for life. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:50 AM Flag

Drugs make people behave in strange ways, [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

No that is an untreated mental disorder [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag

weed is much stronger now so if you're on the edge it can exacerbate a mental problem [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag

This. I have personally seen this happen and it's been documented. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:21 AM Flag

weed can trigger psychosis - so it's possible it is making an underlying psychological condition worse. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:37 AM Flag

She may have underlying mental illness (schizophrenia?) and be self medicating.... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:37 AM Flag

this [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:42 AM Flag

np. Yup. So common. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

Or had a condition that weed opened the door for. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:55 AM Flag

who is this person, and why do I care? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:55 AM Flag

Sorry, who is Amanda Bynes? Even Googling her, I find pictures but can't figure out who she IS. Why do we care about her pot habit? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:14 AM Flag

Who? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 06:15 AM Flag

[ - ] Not that we have the option yet, but Anderson or Speyer? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:59 AM Flag

Baby names? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag

lolz [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:26 AM Flag

Speyer. Anderson is amazing but I think the small classes and all the extras would make choose Speyer. But like you would be happy with either option. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag

speyer spam [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag

Anti-Speyer spammer. Your kid didn't get in and it's time to move on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:51 AM Flag

This should be a baby name poll [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:40 AM Flag

[ - ] How hard is it to replace your own locks? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag

In theory, it's straightforward. In practice, it's never as easy as you think it's going to be. Make sure you don't have to start messing on with drilling new holes in the door. Choose your locks carefully. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:06 AM Flag

I locked myself in the bathroom while replacing the handle. Could not get out. Thank G-d DH came home [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:09 AM Flag

[ - ] I got my first credit card 9 months ago & only have $1500 limit. A few weeks ago my credit score was 770 but when i applied for an increase 3 months ago it was denied bc my credit history is too short. I am buying a house tomorrow too so I am not sure what the new mortgage will do to my credit right away. I need to spend probably about $3000 at Home Depot in the next two weeks. Is it worth applying for a Home Depot credit card for the 10% off? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag

Whoa. What crazy bank is giving you a mortgage? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:06 AM Flag

Sorry didn't think I had to add that I'm not in New York - buying a 200k house in Boston [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:02 AM Flag

That's irrelevant. It's nuts that a bank would give you a mortgage with so little credit history! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag

ITA. Do you mind sharing, how much down and what rate? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag

Easy, don't spend money you don't have! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:13 AM Flag

She's not, she wants the credit card for the discount. Get it? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

np: Then why did she apply for a credit line increase on the original card? And I agree that it's crazy that a bank will lend money for a house but will not increase the credit line above $1500. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

No, she needs the card because she can't get the limit extended on her cc AND she wants 10% off. Don't spend money you don't have! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag

are you a teenager? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:16 AM Flag

You are an adult buying a home and you have never before had a credit card? And where in Boston are you finding a place for $200K? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag

Why would you apply for an increase on your credit card? How old are you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:40 AM Flag

[ - ] I am thinking of getting a personal trainer. Is it worth it? I am unfit and would like to get fit and toned. What should I say my goals are? I will also do pilates once a week. I ran 5ks the other day with no problem as an indication of my fitness level. I just look untoned and I feel sluggish. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:53 AM Flag

Fuck you, you are not unfit. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag

It was the first exercise I had done in months...I think more mental than anything and I was very sore the next day [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:58 AM Flag

I'd fuck you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag

Just do Pilates or Yoga. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:58 AM Flag

I have a personal trainer. However, I am not very motivated. I only go to the gym if I have an appointment [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:02 AM Flag

Op you sound like me. Has the personal trainer done anything for you? Are you fitter? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag

I am very fit, however I see the trainer 4 times a week. I also used to see a nutritionist sincere diet was super bad, I've cleaned it up and no longer see her ( she was super pricey) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag

Ooh interesting. How did the nutritionist help you? I am interested in seeing one as well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag

I thought I was eating healthy. In reality, I was eating too much of the wrong things. She gave me easy options, based on what I like. We went through my pantry, threw out things I don't need, made shopping list of better things, really just being accountable helped [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag

You sound like me. I could run a 5k but I am soft. Have been debating the same thing. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:22 AM Flag

How do you just get up and run a 5k if you don't exercise? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:33 AM Flag

She was running after an ice cream truck [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag

Lol. Op here. I had a route mapped out in my hea so I wasn't just doing laps and I just took it really slow and didn't stop. Try it!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:42 AM Flag

Really good trainer is worth it, 9/10 are not that good and not worth it. Most will just spit out generic advice you could get from self magazine. You need to articulate measurable goals, set up a sustainable workout regime (allocating cardio/stretching/hiit/resistance), and learn decent form so you do not get hurt. Doing this with help of good trainer will save time and headaches but is not necessary. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:26 AM Flag

I love working out with a trainer. I'm much more toned now and my clothes fit better. Fwiw, I'm 7 months pp and totally back to normal. Even my stomach is flat. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:27 AM Flag

[ - ] I am a hairy gorilla 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:45 AM Flag

Shave that nappy shit, now! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag

better than being an orangutan [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag

Is it really though? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag

[ - ] I am actually close to having to go look what tinder is, the spamming is working! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag

You promised you would stop :( [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag

I really was a NP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag

It's either a easily combustible material or a shitty shitty dating app....who the fuck cares. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag

not me anymore now that I know [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:51 AM Flag

Eh, it's nothing big. It's a dating app for phones. Someone earlier explained it so people wouldn't go make hits on the site because of the spamming, probably on page 3 now, let me see if I can find it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:46 AM Flag

Explanation: http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55106758 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:48 AM Flag

Read my pussy lips...No one cares!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:54 AM Flag

Someone cared enough to ask, as I might have had I logged on and it was taking up two pages of spamming. Close your pussy lips now, no one wants to see them. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:53 AM Flag

You're obviously the tinder OP, still trying to sling your wares. Come here and give my clit a little kiss, then piss off. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag

Little bit drunk there, aren't you? (And obviously somewhat sex-deprived.) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag

Chicken. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag

This doesn't make sense, so I suppose you are still drunk and sex-deprived. Bless your heart. Have a good night. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag

Slink away, loser. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:22 AM Flag

It seems counter-intuitive to promote this app on a site for mostly married women some men too). It basically connects you with people you or your friends know. What married woman or man wants to look for sex this way? CL casual encounters seems more appropriate here. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag

I agree, this site is not the place for that type of advertising. Many women here are married...the few who are single aren't coming here to find a date..lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag

[ - ] Is it possible to change how management/co workers perceive you in the work place? Ran into a former coworker at another company who hinted that when she was at my firm, people perceived me as aloof, not personable and unapproachable, and thati had a "holier than thou" smugness to me. I work for a mid sized law firm and I tend to be aloof because I need silence in my office to concentrate, and I don't really care much for gossip. On my last work performance review, my boss encourages me to mingle more at social events but otherwise I got a giant raise (8%) and a glowing work review..but my social standing at work isn't strong, my former coworker was really my "gossip" social feed to other coworkers and now I basically keep to myself. I can't afford to quit this job either (best retirement benefits of any law firm I will ever work for given my shitty resume) so how do I fix this? I really don't want t be known in the office as the silent weirdo...I'm not a naturally social person, but I have to change this perception STAT if I want to make a run for a manager position in another 3-5 years...! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

To to events, ask people to lunch, smile , always smile [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag

Start by just smiling at people as you walk by them in the halls. Maybe that will lead to hellos and how are you, etc. slowly weave yourself into the social culture. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:40 AM Flag

I know someone like you (could be you!), and you really need to smile at people when you see them in the hallway, or in the cafeteria - it can make a world of difference. And seem genuinely glad to see them. If you don't like big mix and mingle events (I don't), start reaching out to one or two women you know there and set up lunches - tell them you have a project or an idea that you'd like their input on and the think of one. Use that as an entree to ask about their lives, their kids, etc. You don't have to gossip to be part of the mix. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

Thanks for all the suggestions!, yes I do smile, I have a round face and am generally happy..but I am TERRIBLE at small talk. I do t have much in common with the majority of my coworkers - many are women like me, but they are older, with grown kids, and other people in my title are more aggressive,with the shop talk. I tend to be very efficient and will do a lot of administrative tasks instead of letting it trickle down to more junior coworkers because I hate confrontation and don't want to be disappointed with the work product. The lunch idea sounds swell, I think I can try that! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:48 AM Flag

Umm try not to use words like swell.... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag

You are starting to see the problem, lol -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag

We all hate small talk, really. Maybe start following sports so you have that to chat about. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag

How does one hint that you were aloof, not personable, unapproachable, smug, and holier than thou? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag

Her body language and just how she discussed prior incidents at work a year ago where she described staffers saying "XYZ" and I really had NO idea that how I handled a certain situation led people to label me that way. -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag

Honestly, shit like this drives me nuts. I go to work to do my job and collect a paycheck. If I'm not actively antagonistic or screwing up my job, why do I need to socialize on top of my job? Sorry, op, no advice - just can sympathize. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:59 AM Flag

Yeah it sucks..that's how I feel too but my office is full of over achievers and suck ups. So if I am the only one who doesn't act like everyone else, I am looked at as "the weird one". My firm is one of the more social firms because our area of law is very niche and everyone knows each other. I'm cordial but at 5 pm, I have no interest in sticking around and going to happy hour. It's just not my bag..it seems like management wants me to be part of the happy hour clique and I really don't care for it, so I ignored it. And now it seems like its making me look like an "unsocial" person. This is why working for a small law firm sucks balls. -OP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 05:20 AM Flag

[ - ] Any recs for good work out videos on Netflix. Preferably something without too much bouncing (so my neighbors dont hate me) that won't require me to buy a whole bunch of equiptment 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

You sound cool...but what's "equiptment"? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag

[ - ] Love this. President Obama's prom pictures 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag

http://timeswampland.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/obama_prom_photos_0011.jpg?w=720&h=480&crop=1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag

One of these is not like the others... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag

Where are the Asians? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag

He was so cute when he was a kid. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag

Also, 5 years ago. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag

Oh, ITA. He's remarkably good looking [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag

Yes, he is a very attractive wealth redistributionist. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:38 AM Flag

I don't think fuglies get elected president. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag

Explain Richard Nixon. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag

Wasn't he a ladies man? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag

He was a fugly ladies man. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

For sad ladies. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:52 AM Flag

George bush sr and jr? Yuck! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

I don't love them but they arent physically revolting [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:52 AM Flag

Prom? They were all drinking! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

Love him. He looks good there! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag

How dare he date a white woman!! What were her parents thinking letting her go out with him? She must have went without permission. Sad. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag

You make me sad [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag

Job well done then!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:59 AM Flag

I really hope this is meant to be a lame joke. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:38 AM Flag

God what a cute pic! Honestly he's the only president ever I've ever felt any remote connection to. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

Sorry, you must be black. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag

lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag

I am whiter than white. I dont even have any genetic background that tans well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:53 AM Flag

Somethings wrong with you then... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:16 AM Flag

Ita [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag

Ewwwwww [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 06:16 AM Flag

[ - ] 11.5 yo dd is miserable every time she visits her old school that her brother still attends. misses her old friends desperately and seems very depressed lately. long story - but we moved her out of the school in part b/c of things she was complaining about (not enough academic challenge in large part). but now she is just destroyed over not being there. should I be paying attention to this? Should I try to move her back? what to do - she is incredibly sad for months over this and hates her current school. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag

You have posted about this for a while. You can't just keep moving her around. She's got to stick it out. Don't play into the drama. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag

op-:( i am just heartbroken over this. she is so sad and its not changing. the kids in the current school in her grade are little shi**s - hate to say it but its true..so many issues. i am asking her to stick out being in a place where she isn't liked by anyone in her grade. the whole thing is awful and my fault. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:28 AM Flag

You can look for another school but not old one - you left for a reason [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:29 AM Flag

you gave her what she asked for. Next time you can use your better judgement as the parent. And hopefully she'll learn to be careful what she askes for. Look- I spent my junior high days wildly unpopular, called ethnic slurs, no friends. I'm stronger for it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:26 AM Flag

Most girls that age are awful relax [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag

op-she is in early puberty. that is the other issue. she is way ahead of development with kids in her grade at current school - but not in old school. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

I must know what was old school [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag

Stop being heartbroken. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

Don't look back [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:27 AM Flag

i would switch her back, you tried something that didn't work, but she needs to be happy. get her a tutor who can help her to stay stimulated, GL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag

np: Old school won't take her back because of all the switching. OP has posted about this for a while. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag

Although I agree with the OR in theory, THIS [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

She's going to be PMSing for the next couple of years. It's your job to make decisions for her based on logic, not emotion [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag

Why did you move her out of her old school? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag

op-it was my fault. she was adjusting and i had a lot of serious stuff going on. had limited bandwidth to process what she was dealing with and was like fine - you want to switch back, lets do it. mistake. but i was spread so thin and operating on like 2 brain cells. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag

Switch her back then! Don't make the problem worse by letting this whole ordeal last longer. Fix the mistake. Move on [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag

Sometimes it just takes one friend. She's a little old for this, but can you get on a committee or two so you can get to know some other moms of girls her age and see if you can find a way to get them together -- brunch at your house, etc., with the moms. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag

op-she has friends in older grades - but not hers. she knows the girls but they are not her style. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:40 AM Flag

You were me a year ago. DD was in a school that was a great fit socially but that was mediocre academically. Then we moved to a school with stronger academics (which she liked), but that turned out not to be a good fit socially. We moved to another (hopefully our last school that has a great MS/HS). Seriously, it's like night and day. She is so much happier--she is thriving in all areas. Not that there aren't some bumps with other kids sometimes, but overall, it's a great fit for her and for the family. As a parent, you know the difference between garden variety ups and downs and a truly bad fit. MS is a fragile time for girls. If she is unhappy and her confidence is suffering, make a switch. I wouldn't go back to the first school (necessarily, though you could), but use it as an opportunity to really think about the right fit for your dd. GL. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag