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[ - ] What's the standard holiday gift for teachers? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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An apple. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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$20 Starbucks card, signed former teacher. That was my average gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Did you like that gift? If not, any suggestions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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I like it fine. I always likes mani gift cards because teaching kills your hands. Really anything is nice and I appreciate cards or flowers or a heartfelt note. Don't stress yourself out, I had no idea parents agonized over this until I had kids and left teaching. It is not worth the stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Anything except a gift card to a book store. Anyone with a degree in elementary education does not read for pleasure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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And yet wouldn't know where to begin in selecting children's books for the classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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^And they [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Pp: NO!! Do not listen to this person! We do read and we buy books for the classroom or books for classroom prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Research over the years has indicated that education majors, who enter college with the lowest average SAT scores, leave with the highest grades. Some of academic evidence documenting easy A's for future teachers goes back more than 50 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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I don't know what this has to do with anything, but if you hate teachers please homeschool your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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I love teachers who majored in something besides elementary Ed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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But keep paying taxes and vote for democratics so teachers will get great penions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Please move then. Everyone pays taxes, get over it. I don't drive and I don't whine about paying taxes for roads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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You're one in a million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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No, I'm not. Every teacher I know does this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Are you teaching right now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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No, I have two kids under 4, it is not cost effective right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'll have to get rid of all my books then. I'll tell all the other teachers at my school as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Another teacher on at 9:40 on a Monday morning.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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I'm not a teacher, but I am at my desk doing email, drinking coffee, and yes, glanicng at UB. If a teacher has a free period (as my son's teacher does at this time, when his class goes to band) is it really so awful that they do the same? You're so holier than thou. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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They'd never admit it (and come on - if someone is posting to UB at 9:45 on Monday morning they're not a teacher - they used to be and are looking back in reflected glory, or want to be but can't get hired) but this is very much true. I'm personally related to ten NYC elementary and middle school teachers, and none of them has any academic or intellectual interests at all. Not one of them would ever read a book for pleasure. They're reading US Weekly and watching the Kardashians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Then you hale from a family of idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Starbucks or Amazon gift card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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A pledge to spend 4 hours/week volunteering in the classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Oh my god, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Thanks. -OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Public school teachers are not allowed to accept more than nominal gifts. Private school teachers, obviously, deserve the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm. How long does it take you? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Depends on who I'm with. My husband, about 15 minutes if he is being lazy, 5 if he is working hard. My ex-boyfriend? Never. My vibrator? Two minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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link is below [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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What studies are those? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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+1 Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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i can usually speed things up - anywhere from 3 - 15 mins....most of the time 10 or so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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That's about the least meaningful statement I've read this year. Does that mean they went out and found "the average woman" and asked her how long it takes here? Or that they polled a statistically significant sample of women worldwide and the mean reported was somewhere between 15 and 40 minutes? And exactly where between 15 and 40 minutes is that average? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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A minute or two by myself. 2-5minuyes with dh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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[ - ] For a co-op, do you have to show the same level of LNW if you are buying a studio as a pied-a-terre? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^^assume building allows pied-a-terre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Building are allowing this less and less. My building just decided to stop allowing these kind of buyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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Yes, they dont care if you will be there or not- they might even want more given the theoretical possibility you treat the pied-a-terre as an asset you are willing to throw away and welch on the maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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What is LNW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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liquid net worth, I assume [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] What a moron. He chose a Defense Secretary who wouldn't be appropriate if we were actually at war and now is firing him. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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The officials described Mr. Obama’s decision to remove Mr. Hagel, 68, as a recognition that the threat from the Islamic State would require a different kind of skills than those that Mr. Hagel was brought on to employ. A Republican with military experience who was skeptical about the Iraq war, Mr. Hagel came in to manage the Afghanistan combat withdrawal and the shrinking Pentagon budget in the era of budget sequestration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Do you think the US should be perpetually at war? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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That's not the point. The point is the man chose to go to war (however obvious that decision was) and should have had a Defense Secretary he could use regardless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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If the goal is to remain at peace, should the Secretary of Defense know more about how best to maintain a peacetime military? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] My 5 yo dd is 39 lbs and 41 inches tall. Her ped just told me that she is 30th percentile for height and 50th for weight. I checked her BMI and she is within the healthy range, although on the higher side. When I look at her, I sometimes think she looks so thin and people often comment on that. This summer, her ribs were sticking through her swimsuit. Yet the ped lectured me about healthy eating habits and exercise. As a recovering anorexic, this whole situation is so hard for me. We generally eat very healthily with the occassional treat. She could probably be more active and I have taken that advice to heart. Question is, do you think the lecture I received from the ped is deserved? Or are these numbers cause for alarm? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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>>op: forgot to mention, the ped used the word "overweight" to describe her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Crazy. I would have called her out. Is the pediatrician super thin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Op: no she is completely average and we have known her for 7 years and really love her. this came out of left field. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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I would say somethjng. Really irresponsible for her to use that word in front of a child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Especially when the kid is not, in fact, overweight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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I think your pediatrician is nuts. Just my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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Pediatrician have gone too far, in reaction to the childhood obesity epidemic. I would not take her comments seriously. My 16 yo is 5'4" and 140 lbs, a healthy three sport athlete. Pediatrician told her she is overweight. Nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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It seems hard to fault a ped for telling you DC should eat healthy and exercise. All kids should. We all should. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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She called her kid overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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op: Yes she used the word "overweight" and really honed in on this. My daughter was sitting right there, making it worse too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Awful. She sounds like she has a weight fixation herself. I would look for a new dr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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If a ped called my kid overweight in front of my kid I would go ballastic. Honestly I think I might actually say "STFU right now" (and not the initials). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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OK, but the recommendation was not to put the kid on a diet. It was to focus on healthy eating and activity/exercise. Why is this bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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That is not bad. What's bad is labeling a healthy 5 yo as overweight. Especially in front of the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Get a new dr. One that isn't obsessed with Bmi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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your pediatrician is looking at the charts and not your child. BMI isn't always accurate, for instance my neighbor's son is super muscular, star athlete material, he does not have an ounce of fat on him, but because of all the muscle his BMI is on the higher side too. Looking at the chart, one would conclude the child was heavy. Looking at the child, it's clear that isn't the case. You should find a pediatrician that takes the time to look at your child and think about what they are saying instead of just looking at the chart and spouting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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This x10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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np: Exactly! My son, per the charts, is in the overweight category but he is athletic/very strong and the weight is evenly distributed - his ped has said nothing about his weight, other than to ask about eating and exercise habits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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My 3 yo is 43 inches and 50 lbs. your kid sounds skinny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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I think you need to find a new Ped, particularly because he/she referred to your daughter as overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Op: thanks everyone...i'm trying not to over react or let my own issues get in the way here, but I was so upset. If there's one thing I think I do RIGHT as a parent it's teaching them healthy eating habits. Off to find a new ped... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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You're welcome! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Op, it may be that your ped too has some issues surrounding weight. If you like her, speak to her alone and explain the situation and your concern about the effect of that type of discussion on your very young child - especially since she is in the normal range. I would probably look around for another pediatrician unless I loved her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Just be aware that they nearly all comment on weight and height. It's part of the visit and there's no pass/fail. No matter where your child falls in the chart they still get to come back for the next visit and get another year older. My kids were "obese" nearly every single year (80th-95th percentile for weight). I got the lecture every year and they still all grew up to be healthy adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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your kid is fine. no alarm needed. was the talk framed for you in terms of your DDs weight? was DD in the room? I think it is okay for a doc to say general eat healthy and exercise, but I don't think it should ever be framed for a child in reference to thir weight. and I don't think it should be framed for an adult in terms of the kid's weight until a much larger discrepency over a period of time than is occurig with your 5 year old (the period of time is relevant because of the way kids grow - weight and then height). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Don't worry - your kid will be skinny. That's really what matters, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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op: here we go! knew this was coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Ignore the trolls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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It means there is nothing wrong with your child. If your child is otherwise healthy with no other issues, you get the comments on the weight. It's just something they can say to fill out the visit and make the parents feel like the ped is paying attention. You do know that it's the rare child who at any point is exactly 50/50, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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T H I S. I resent it. Btw, same goes for adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] jewish moms. better college exmissions heschel or rodeph? nicer, happier kids? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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rodeph has no high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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applying for middle school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Then how would one track who goes to college where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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then answer nice, happier kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you leave your dc for 6 weeks? Doing so would help your career immensely. Thoughts? Conflicted about whether I could leave 7 y/o dd for such long period of time. I could come home on weekends (but it would be costly and long commute). 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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I think it all depends on your kid. I know one of my kids would be fine, the other not so much. You have to weigh the pros/cons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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OP asked if I would do it, and my answer stands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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6 weeks is nothing. It will be over in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Takes 21 days to make a habit or to get used to a new normal so I'd try to visit every two weeks or at the 3rd week mark, at minimum. Who will be caring for your dd in your absence? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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op: combination of family and dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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That sounds good then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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If it would really help career immensely, you should spend the money to come home every weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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++ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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^^^even if you have to borrow it or put in on credit card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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so stupid to waste the money coming home every weekend - maybe twice, but 6 weeks is not that long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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For a 7 YO it is. Not stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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please, facetime, text, etc. not necessary to be there - you can still parent from afar and it's only temporary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Have DH bring her to visit you one of the weekends. You come home one of the other weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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I think I would, if it would really be an immense help. That being said, I would come home (weekends) every 2 weeks, I don't think weekly is necessary. I assume you have adequate help (husband, nanny, etc...) to cover everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Would you send a 7 YO to sleepaway camp for 6 weeks? I doubt it. It isn't necessary for childcare, it may necessary for little one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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but it's her that is going not the child and 6 weeks is not that long with weekend visits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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No, I wouldn't but I'm assuming (and I may be wrong) that his/her other parent will be home nights/weekends with the child which is completely different then going away, alone, to sleeepaway camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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It still means no mom for 6 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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so? it's not a life time, just 6 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Per my comment, in 2 week intervals. Sometimes parents have to travel for work, it's not ideal but if, in the big picture, it's best for the family then you do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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That's a different situation - all different people, different environment. By 7, they're perfectly fine to be without mom for a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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This would be super hard for me, but yes. I WOH and I understand how hard it is to be away. But you have to just hold your nose and do it. Think about the better life you will give this child if you move up in your job. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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we traveled internationally a lot when I was growing up and there were times I was apart from one or both parents for 6weeks. Sometimes I missed them but I wouldn't trade it, didn't even have to think twice about that answer. I moved across the country by myself when I was 18 and have always been very independant... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] DH won't cuddle with me because I'm "too hot" (temperature-wise!!). He joked last night that if I wanted him to cuddle, I would have to stick myself in the refrigerator for a few minutes to cool down. Sigh. What excuse will he think of next? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Why does he have to come up with excuses at all? If he doesn't like to cuddle, you should respect that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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If she likes to cuddle he should indulge her once in a while. Marriage is give and take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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So he gives and she takes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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He isn't going to cuddle 24-7, cuddling your wife once in a while is being nice and being nice is what makes marriage work. I am sure she does a million things for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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My DH too! I snuggle the dog and our dc sadly... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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My DH too! I snuggle the dog and our dc sadly... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I've heard women say this about their husbands, that it's like having a space heater in bed. Sometimes this is due to a person having high blood pressure. If all is well, I"d try to ask for 5-10 minutes and then understand that he can't possibly sleep that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Same here. But it's true. I am super hot. Pre-menopause? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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so cuddle in a well air conditioned room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Divorce lawyer? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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No? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I have totally lost all motivation for work, kids or anything else. Ho do I get the energy back? I am totally burned out 56 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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you need a mini vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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^^^without kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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That will never happened. My dh will not understand or maybe will when I either device him or become to ill to function. He wants things done "right" and I am the one who executes it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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sorry your dh is this way. i sah and still take girls' weekends or go away with him alone every now and then. it's important to do for you sometimes (or for your marriage). Can you leave for a day and do whatever you want on a saturday or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Don't you think this is the crux of your problem? A critical and demanding husband who has no empathy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Divorce. You won't have to put up with a spouse who expects you to do things right, and you will only have to take care of your kids half the time. You'll have more down time to yourself, which you can use to look for a new job that isn't so taxing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Wait till kids are older [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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CAFFEINE!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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#firstworldproblems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Idiot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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+1 I'm picturing a woman working 60 hours/week at a computer factory in China, sleeping at the factory at night and seeing her family one day a week, saying something as self-indulgent as "I'm totally burned out". You want some motivation? Quit doing it all, and see how you feel when it's all gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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OP: I grew up in a second world country. You are stupid to think like here is such a walk in the park. You must be sheltered yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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This. I know a lot of immigrants and they often say life is much more stressful here. More money, more problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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What a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Where did you grow up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Ukraine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Then you are totally and completely stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Thank you, professor wiseman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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In the US. Where I know very well that life is very easy. OP is a big whiner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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OP: unlike you, I lived in many countries. Yes, some people have a great life here. You must be one if then. You have empathy for theoretical people in china but will kick your neighbor. You should examine your values. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I don't kick my neighbor. I just don't put up with whiners who have everything they need in life and most of what they want, and are "burned out" because they are expected to do the bare minimum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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OP: you know nothing about my life. You are assuming and I expect projecting your easy life on me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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You are married with children, you have a job, and you live in a major American city. You have internet access and a full command of the English language. You have choices; your life is not hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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^ life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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So go back to your "second world" country. No one says you have to stay in the first world if it's so stressful and demotivating for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Clearly you are the non spoiled, nice, an understanding person valuing the luxury you grew up in.... Hypocrites like you are the scum of the earth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Christ, you sound like an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Life here IS a walk in the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Maybe your life is. What do you know about my life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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I know it's easy enough for you to even consider things like "motivation" and "burnout". You have made choices, and you can make other choices if you don't like the way your life is. That's the whole point of living in the US; you get to choose how simple or how stressful to make your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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You are clearly not LMC. Only the top ten percent of this country has these options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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I agree. You can choose to be nice or an asshole. We all make choices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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lol So true!!! Americans have some of the easiest lives in the world, and we're the only ones who lose motivation and get burned out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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we have the luxury of contemplating meaning in our lives as opposed to working knuckles to the bone with no time to even consider what this might even mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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You are dumb to think other people don't contemplate this kind of stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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+1 Like a rice farmer can't think while she works? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Or a factory worker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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you are right poorly articulated. I was thinking in terms of Maslow, the first need being just physiological as opposed to self actualization at the top. And the Dalai Lama talks about it being hard to seek enlightenment on an empty stomach. I was not implying that others do not contemplate 'this kind of stuff'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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You read a lot and have lived very little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Uh no. One does not negate the other. But is easy to make a misjudgment on a statement of less than 50 words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Reading is nice, but it is not the same as experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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You should try reading sometime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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The most important takeaway from Maslow is that most people are bottomless pits of wants. As soon as one level is fulfilled, a person immediately looks for what else is "missing" and "needed". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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so many in the world have basic physical needs such as hunger, and water that this overrides for the most part, "I've lost all motivation for work, kids". If someone is hungry or thirsty they are pretty darn motivated. Go a day without food and see what thoughts and emotions come up. I am not refuting OP's right to express what she feels at all but sometimes perspective and gratitude is a great way to find meaning and happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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Children! Children! Can we not stoop to calling one another names? It just diminishes your argument to call someone stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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cut out sugar and alcohol and get more sleep, it will get better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Change jobs to something you actually like to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Only rich people like their jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Only foolish people stay in jobs they dislike. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Or people who have to pay bills and don't have rich parents, dumbass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Bills are a choice. Don't want to pay high rent? Move to where rents are low. Don't want to pay high prices for clothes and food? Shop at regular grocery stores and clip coupons, and skip the designers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Oh, princess. Shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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I am exhausted. I am functioning on very little sleep. It's not a matter if liking my job. I just can't do anything. I can't focus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Ignore this asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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So, get more sleep. Get off the internet and take a nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] There is a difference between 'no one should spend T day alone' and 'I want to spend T day with you', or am I splitting hairs? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Yes, of course! If one means the latter, one should go ahead and say it, for crying out loud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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He said it to me! I'm sick and staying home. I gave him an out, he declined saying 'No one should spend Today alone. Plus, I'm looking forward to salmon!' -what I'm making. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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He just doesn't want to be saying "I want to be with you pretty please". You are being silly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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I agree. Don't be silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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you are making more of this than necessary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Big difference, imo. The former suggests pity, the latter does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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I agree - first sounds more like an obligation, second a passionate drive. Sorry - could easily be wrong not knowing the person but just from how it sounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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I also agree with this.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Good morning all, from a Southerner. Enjoy your lovely warm weather today. You're welcome! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Did you arrange for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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It was my warm, gracious Southern manner, I'm quite sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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Well, bless your heart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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You're not thanked. I hate warm weather when it's supposed to be cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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South Florida Mom here: It's supposed to be 87 degrees today. Record heat. A/C is ripping! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I should be thankful that dh takes kids to school but I become a super bitch by the time I get all 3 ready. He takes an hour to get himself ready while I have to make sure 3 kids are fed, dressed and packed. How can a grown man take as long as 3 kids to get ready? He will not come out even 5 minutes earlier to simply not block the entry hallway while all kids are putting coats and shoes on. Is this common? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Divorce him and then drive kids to school as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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School is 1 block away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Yes, my husband does this too and then he rushes me. The motherfucker only gets himself ready and then sits there in a huff while I get two toddlers and myself ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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This! My Mom said my Dad did the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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If he says "are you ready yet?" One more time I am going to kill him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Yep. I run around for an hour doing 50 things while he takes his shower. I sometimes also take a 2 minute shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Men are incapable of multitasking outside the workplace [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I get the kids ready and take them to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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My wife does the same thing. It's infuriating because I'm convinced that she must be willfully ignoring the situation. I get up, take my shower, get the kids up, put the clothes away, get changed while she goes downstairs by herself and makes one lunch and has her coffee. Then when I come down after a half an hour of doing all that stuff she takes that as her cue to go ahead and do her thing. Sometimes she checks Facebook, sometimes she goes shopping online, or she just heads upstairs and takes an hour to shower, look at some outfits, check her phone, watch TV, do her hair, etc, while I'm getting the kids dressed, getting them fed, getting them to put their electronics down and get on the bus. And it's like she's in another world - she just shuts off what's happening downstairs. It is pretty frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Why aren't any of Bill Cosby's former cast mates coming out in support of him? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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Hasn't this question be asked several times? Ask them. How would UB know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Hasn't this question be asked several times? Ask them. How would UB know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Because he was well-known as a womanizer and groper. They just didn't know he went beyond that. Now they know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Do you mean "support him," or "refute the charges"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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I don't think they're there to fight his battles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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How would they know whether he's innocent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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His son was murdered. I think it's karma of sorts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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I had forgotten that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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very sad. even if he did do what all these women are saying i wouldn't have wished his son dying on him and his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Killed by a Ukrainian immigrant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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think he'll get his citizenship now? even tho he is in jail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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He was probably deported. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Oh yeah that was strange. He was with that older white woman on the side of the road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Lisa Bonet tweeted something about karma being a bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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yeah. I think that's the answer. Anyone who was old enough to know what was going on knew he was a creep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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I think she knows something and was prob attacked herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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I think she declined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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seems like declining wasn't an option for these women! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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It was if you kept your distance. It sounds like he hit on everyone and any woman he got alone he tried to drug. Some women can spot a guy like that a mile away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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But he also used his power and influence; she was working for him. he could have pressured her to be alone with him. there may have bn ways to get away but I don't think keeping distance was it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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OMG. Declined! Yeah, sorry Bill, I don't feel like being drugged and raped this evening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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I'm sure there were women he propositioned who said no. They didn't go out with him at all. You have never turned a guy down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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people mag confirmed she doesn't have any social media. That tweet was from a fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Useful correction. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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I do think though that cast mate's silence is saying a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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They all knew. They might not have known he was a rapist, but they knew he was a pig. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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More telling perhaps is their silence while it was ongoing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Most of them were kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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but not all, then there were all the backstage people from directors to the guy who stood outside his door while he was raping women. In this case their silence allowed the behavior to continue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] UVA is really circling the drain. Amazing how fast a beloved institution can fall so far. An embarrassment. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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Isn't that where yeardley love was murdered too? it seems they have a lot of testosterone going around and not much monitoring. they need to get that all in check. it's quite disturbing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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^^^if my child were accepted to uva as well as another equivalent institution i'd push the other one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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SVU could get a whole season of episodes out of that place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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It's odd, my dd went to unc, which is pretty much as comparable school as they come. Although I'm sure some of these things happen at every school, the culture there seemed much different, less entitled and aggressive. Dd doesn't think any of these incidents would've become so commonplace and mishandled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Just about every guy I know who went to uva is pretty much a rude entitled asshole. Sometimes they try to hide it. But at their core there's just something wrong there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I live in Richmond, VA. Know a lot of UVA guys and girls. Most of the guys are actually truly nice guys. There are some that aren't, but not any more so than from other schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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I think schools that do not have frats, smaller schools, are less likely to have stuff like this happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Yes. It's the group dynamic that turns these guys evil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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DD will NOT go to a school with fraternities and sororities. No, she won't. Frats control the scene and the sororities bend to their will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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This is what they get for sweeping things under the rug for decades. I'm so grateful for the brave woman who spoke to RS. Women are sick and tired of this shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Snap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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So don't go to school there and don't work there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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