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[ - ] Most of Montclair nj is a dump 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Scary looking houses and apartments, strange people walking like maybe there is a looney bin nearby. The part by the college is nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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Yep. Didnt used to be, but is now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do all apartments in NYC have roaches? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Mine doesn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Rudolf Steiner school? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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Racist origins - can't get past that [ Reply | More ]
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Zzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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Love love love Waldorf!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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The salad. Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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cultish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Thinking on moving to Greece, any advice? TIA 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Why would you do this? Sounds like a terrible idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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Op- I am done with the rat race here in the States, I am 30 years old, working 10hrs/day, even having to work some weekends, all my life revolves around work and when I am not working I am at home resting. I have been married for 7 years, and dh is aboard with this crazy idea. I am seeking freedom, and a beautiful view every morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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Don't you need working papers, etcetera? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:54 AM Flag
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Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Op- Thanks. This is a "long term plan" 5 years from now, saving a bit and trying to figure things out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:54 AM Flag
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Sounds wonderful, but why Greece? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:49 AM Flag
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Op- It is beautiful and it feels like home (even though I am not Greek, lol) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:54 AM Flag
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Love Greece. Island or mainland? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Op- Hopefully Island, tbd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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Where in Greece? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Op- tbd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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not a great economy . why dont you do like sweden or norway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Why can't I run a mile faster than 9 minutes??? I have been running for 4 months now and I still suck!!!! 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Oh FFS. Keep at it. It's fine. You're not entering the Olympics or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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I know but I want to be "fit." 9 minutes is slow fatty pace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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your pace is the least of your problems...you are also an asshole. hope that helps! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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i know but I want to be a fast asshole [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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You go girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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Why do you keep posting this? People have given you good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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because I post it and then I walk away from my computer, so I never get to read the advice!! I am focusing now though, I will not get up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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I found that "watching" helps me with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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I know, that requires forethought [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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You're funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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Idiot!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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op. I never claimed to be smart or a non-asshole, I just want to GET BETTER AT RUNNING is that so much to ask??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Why do you keep posting this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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Did you do couch to 5k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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No, I just started running one day. I'm up to 5 miles without rest, but I still SUCK when I try to run 1 mile really fast [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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give up, you are probably a little past your prime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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op. I am 26!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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I was the same way. I'm a faster runner now at 39 because of power vinyasa yoga. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:46 AM Flag
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spam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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Spam? It isn't a brand name. It is just the faster yoga. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:51 AM Flag
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yep, its all downhill from here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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op. I don't think my age is the problem... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Add tempo work. You'll be amazed. Start with short 15 sec sprints and work your way up to one minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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OK, I will try this. I have tried adding 1/4 mile and 1/2 mile "sprints," but nothing is changing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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When I started running, I was a slow poke who couldn't run a quarter mile. I built speed and endurance with interval training, which for me was running at full speed between light posts, and walking or jogging until I got my breath back. Be kind to yourself and make a game of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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op. And how fast are you now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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7 minute mile, but only run 2-3 miles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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Knees hurt after 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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op. Wow!! So you can run 2 miles in 14 minutes? Amazing. How long did it take you to get to this point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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It took a couple of years. Cut yourself some slack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Dd is 3 and a half. Asleep around 8 and up at 7, no naps. Is that enough sleep? If she naps, it's for between 1 and 2 hours and she doesn't get to bed u til 9 or later, so naps seem like a wash and it is so hard to get her to nap--lots or wailing and fighting. My mom friends are obsessed with sleep and thank any bedtime later than 7 is a disaster of epic proportions 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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My 3yo goes to bed at 9:30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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that's enough sleep. kids need between 10 and 12 hours (including naps). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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Don't listen to unsolicited advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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I am in your same exact boat and starting to wonder if it's a secret conspiracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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My child slept when tired until school started and they had to get up at a certain time. Surprisingly, they settled I to a similar schedule as the children of crazy sleep training moms ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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this is my 3yo too. Nap is out the window and she can STILL last til 10pm. She likes to sleep in but I can't always let her. She is bright and happy (most of the time) and I find it less annoying now that I don't have to work around a nap in the middle of the day. Nap nazis are such wet blankets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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Agree with last statement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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if it makes you feel any better, your 3.5 yo is getting an hour more sleep than my 2.5yo, who has already dropped all naps, goes to bed at 8 and wakes at 6. Every kid is different. I think many mom's are obsessed with sleep and early bedtimes because they want their kids to go to bed so they can relax! (which I sympathize with) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Only two events in early childhood competitive parenting: food, sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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same story but dd is such a sweet kid if she has her naps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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On average she sleeps 13 h total daily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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This is my son's schedule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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This is the same as my 3 yr old ds so I don't bother with nap anymore. Even if he falls asleep for 15 min will not go to bed before 9. Without nap it's 8. He gets 10-11 hrs straight a night and does not get cranky so I think it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:50 AM Flag
[ - ] S/o pregnant subway mom. Not only did no one offer me a seat today, but three people pushed ahead of me to get to empty seats when people were getting off the train. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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People are assholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Can I slightly hijack? I was in San Diego this weekend, I am not pregnant, I was riding several crowded trolleys and twice I was offered a seat by guys in their early 20's! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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Eat shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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31 weeks pregnant here, and I stood both ways on the subway today. It's incredible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Too bad you were not on my train. I am the pregnant woman advocate (having been pregnant twice - most recently last summer) and I make sure any pregnant woman standing near me gets a seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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How do you go about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Haha me too! (np) I was on my way back from running the Brooklyn half (completely dead and sweaty and blistered) and i offered my seat to a pregnant woman and she declined. She absolutely cracked up when she saw me get off at my stop and said "You offered your seat to me when you can't even walk!!!!!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Some of them probably didn't notice you were pg. next time ask someone!! "Do you mind if I sit?" And push your belly out / point to it if needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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This. Jesus. The world doesn't stop bc you are pregnant, snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] I have the worst body genes. If I stop working out and dieting, I immediately get fat and gross. Last year I ballooned up to 195 lbs (I'm 5'4"). I'm back down to 160, but only with a ton of effort and taking a hiatus from my career. I'm going back to work in a month, and am terrified. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Portion control is really the best thing, I have battled my weight for years and this is the only thing that does it for me. In the beginning you're hungry, but you will get used to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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This plus no deprivation. Just MODERATION. If I deprive myself, I end up binging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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Who cares. We are all dying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Exodus: Why Europe's Jews Are Fleeing Once Again http://www.newsweek.com/2014/08/08/exodus-why-europes-jews-are-feeling-once-again-261854.html 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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France has suffered the worst violence, but anti-Semitism is spiking across Europe, fuelled by the war in Gaza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Look at UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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"It is not anti-Semitic to criticise the Israeli government or its policies towards the Palestinians, say Jewish leaders. " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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when israelis defend their country's position by accusing of anti-semitism they drag down every Jewish person into a policy that they might not be supporting. if they are not differentiating Israel vs Jewish, people will not do it either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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what can a Jewish person who isn't supporting Israel do not to be pegged? wear t-shits that say: "I'm Jewish and don't support Israel"?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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There is a direct link between events in the Middle East, especially ­concerning Israel/Palestine and spikes in anti-Semitism, says CST spokesman Mark Gardener. Gaza has caused a new spike in attacks. “The situation is like a pressure cooker, awaiting any spark to set it off, with local Jewish communities the targets of racist attacks.” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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If only Jews go back to how they used to be because that worked out well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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honestly, if i were Jewish i wouldn't live in Germany to begin with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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So should re grant refugee status to all Jews? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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On my hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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i don't want them around here either. next thing i know, they want to put a tent on my backyard w/out my permission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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They can go to Israel. Right of return. Etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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Then the people who would not support refugee status for Jews should either not support refugee status for anyone coming from Latin America or should support the state of Israel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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Da fuq [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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dichotomy fallacy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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So, Jews can be attacked, and should not get refugee status, but Latin Americans get refugee status? Do tell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:51 AM Flag
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"Latin Americans get refugee status" they become illegal immigrants. doubt that's a status Jewish people who are confused with Israelis want to take on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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Israel is using Jewish people from abroad to defend its acts, and it shouldn't. The key might be for Jewish people from abroad to organize a bit and differentiate themselves from what Netanyahu does in a clear way so that they don't become targets of the hatred he's created. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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If they wear t-shits that say "We agree, Netanyahu is a mass-murderer and we are Jewish" during a protest for Gaza, they would become the most popular people in town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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they support Israel and are moving there, which is the right thing to do for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] I have about ten really close friends (that I could call and talk about anything with) and a big family. I don't have a massive group of acquaintances. My boyfriend has a huge group of acquaintances from his HYP college. We regularly go to events with 50plus couples who all know each other really well. It makes me a bit insecure that my social life isn't as buzzing and enormous. Is it a difference between men and women? I'm starting to feel really bad about it 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Suspect that you're confusing buddies/partypals with friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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She used the word "acquaintances," so no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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I wouldn't feel badly about this. To me, a good friend is more valuable than a large group of acquaintances. More often than not, people with large social circles seem shallow--an inch wide and a mile deep. I'd rather have a few close friends that I can really talk to and with whom I'm comfortable. I think it's gotten harder as I've gotten older, though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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10 is really good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
[ - ] D cups: What is your favorite brand/style of bra? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Bali underwire flower often on sale at macys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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This is my bra. C-d here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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I am a lot heavier than you probably but I have just fallen in love with Lillyette. But I am a 40 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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I'm 40, too. 41, actually, but who's counting. Not thin, either. I'll check out Lillyette. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't cook or clean, ever. Questions? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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Are you good looking enough that someone will do it for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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Nope. I'm a WAHM single mother, no DH, no hired help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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What does your apartment look like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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Jumanji. with dust [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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It doesn't bother you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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So who cooks for your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Nobody, we do a lot of takeout [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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You can't be serious. Who cleans the bathtub and toilet? Changes the sheets? There are some things you can't just not do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:50 AM Flag
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I've never once cleaned the bathtub or toilet. They look fine to me, no visible dirt. I do change the sheets about once every 2 weeks. I don't fold laundry, though. I leave it all in the hamper once it's dry, and pick from the hamper to get myself and dcs dressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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What do you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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I hang out, read, go online, work out. It's awesome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Is your dh doing it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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I'm a single mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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Not even vacuuming ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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I vaccuum sometimes before company comes over, which happens like 2x a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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I don't clean much either but there will be dust bunnies under my bed if I don't vacuum for a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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Didn't you post yesterday or recently? who cares dirty girl. Go sit in your dirty living room ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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Seriously. You again? Who cares. You're a shtunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:53 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are both MDs (he also has a PhD), and we've been very successful academically. But I find I can't keep up with the "tiger moms" in NYC. DS is starting K this year and I haven't done anything to prep him, I had no idea this was even something that people do! Another mom mentioned that they'd been drilling math, reading, etc. I am starting to feel like NYC is just not for us. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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Don't be silly - there are crazy people here, but also normal ones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Relax, my ds is going to k and we didn't do anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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what kind of MDs? Given how accomplished you two are, your presence with dc and the words you speak to him will likely ensure that he will do just fine. Ignore the circus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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Get out of the NYC rat race and save your kids! Head up north to some small town, open up a private practice and let the kids live an average, non stressful life. FFS! So gross what these overachiever parents inflict on kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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op. I was thinking maybe the burbs...worried about the commute though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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Eh, there are overachievers in the burbz too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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OMG these people are nuts, your kid probably has a ton of natural intelligence and your intellect will rub off on him naturally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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I drill, but that is because I don't have fancy degrees. You have one up on us.. Don't worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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Just keep in mind- Don't judge all of nyc by this site. UB skews your view of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Those people are not the norm, I don't know anyone like that and have 2 school age kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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I agree. A lot of parents in NYC are hyper competitive. It is hard not to get caught up in all of the BS, but stay normal please. We need more of your kind here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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op. I feel like I am so out of touch. I worked every summer since I was 14 through college. The jobs weren't glamorous, I babysat until I graduated to lifeguarding and flipping burgers. But now moms of teens tell me they don't want their kids doing "pointless" jobs, they'd rather get them fancy summer internships. It's just a whole way of thinking I can't really get on board with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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NP how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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op. 38 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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Please don't. You'll have regular smart kids who enjoy going to school. These people are freaks who raise loony kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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Drilling is such a bad idea. Their kids will hate school. Just encourage your DS's love of learning and natural curiosity. He'll be fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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Is your dc starting private or public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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op. g&t [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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Hold on to your hat. You are going to come across a new kind of cazy. Seriously, my kids are in G&T. There are some nut case parents, but the majority are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I sensitive or too egotistical? Trying to set up a play date with one of my DD's classmate from camp and her WOHM tells me to coordinate with her nanny. It may simply be because she's busy but even so if she wanted to know be better to become a friend dont you think she would coordinate herself? In mom world, this would be the equivalent of one ceo reaching out to another ceo and getting told to talk to his assistant. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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Too sensitive [ Reply | More ]
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Oh PLEASE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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Don't get your analogy but the nanny keeps track of the DC's schedule and that is why the Mom said to ask the nanny as she has no idea whe little Suzy is available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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OP: although that may be true I just find it so hard to believe the mom is not totally in the loop with her DD's social life (albeit preschool). Mom's in my town here are A-type personalities so I highly doubt they are clueless. Make me think they "pretend" as a convenience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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sometimes my nanny schedules playdates, so we discuss to make sure we don't double book him. you are too sensitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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OP: I'm annoyed at her response because it appears as if she's doing me a favor in setting up this playdate. She should be thanking me that I am keeping her DD occupied while she's at work unable to be involved with other moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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NP wow, this says more about you than about her. You have some kind of hatred towards WOHMs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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+1000 get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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OP: I don't! I just became a SAHM in the past year. Have a family business and will eventually go back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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Play date should be about DC- not getting together with other moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Actually, you and the nanny are like handlers for the children, you follow them around to play dates and take care of their needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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you have low self esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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You are not too sensitive. The WOHM should extend you the courtesy of doing the coordination with her nanny. The WOHM is conceited, inconsiderate and has bad social manners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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OP: thank you! I shouldn't have to deal with her nanny directly as if it's MY dd's sole benefit to have this playdate. I think it's rude she cant' communicate with her nanny to coordinate a date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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It's not rude and you should want to get to know the nanny who will be at the play date [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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I agree. I have always been a WAHM (with a bigger career and a higher income than most) and am appalled at WOHMs who completely delegate this stuff. Particularly remember a teacher mom who did not return a voice mail because 'at the end of he school year i am SO busy'!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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OMFG!!! She doesn't have time to make friends w/you. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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LMAO! Too sensitive ffs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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+10000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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Our nanny has become ...gasp...friends with SAHMs and arranges play dates with them. Should I be annoyed the SAHMs don't contact me directly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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OP: yes if you never met them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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Np NO! You're insane. Do you have a lot of interpersonal conflict OP? Are you always feeling wronged? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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OP: not all the time. But I know power play and disrespect when I see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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You should go to work and let someone with more character care of your children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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This woman is likely trying to avoid dealing with you and your endless parade of perceived slights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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OP: I dont have the victim mentality - in fact, its the opposite. I have a victor's mentality that is why this response is unacceptable to me. I only deal with other moms. Not the help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Seriously? I wouldn't let my kid play with someone who thought she was too good for my nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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OP: seriously? all moms think they are better than and too good for anyone's nanny. They are the HELP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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then to answer your question, you are egotisical. the mom has her nanny handle scheduling. its not about you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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Can you tell me your name? I want to tell my nanny to avoid you like the plague. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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She doesn't want to become your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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She's just not that into you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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She sensed you're trying to use your DC to get to know her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
[ - ] s/o of fat child post, I just wanted to add my story for parents. Both of my parents are pretty normal weight, my dad is slightly bigger but in fit way. From the age of 6-10, I was pretty overweight, and I got severely bullied for it by both my peers and my father. He would make me go for runs occasionally and would chastise me every now and then when he saw me eating junk food, but other than that he didn't do anything other than mock me. My mother just coddled me and told me nothing was wrong with my weight, and she continued to give me dessert every night, huge portions, etc. Long story short, being fat as a child has severely messed me up psychologically to this day. I have struggled with eating disorders, and not an hour goes by (unless I am sleeping), when I am not thinking about my weight, calories, etc. Moral of the story, give your kids healthy food, have them lose weight if they are overweight as a young child, be a good example for them, and do it in a LOVING way. Being fat as a kid will eff you up big time. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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yes, being a chubby kid had quite an influence on the course my life has taken even though I'm a size 4 now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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Ugh, sorry you experienced this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Sorry you went through this but couldn't you have also been messed up by your dads lack of acceptance of who you were and your moms co-dependence? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Any opinions on this play date email request?: Nice? Desperate? Normal? Over-eager? Hi there, Would Jennifer like to come over for a play date this Friday around 2pm? Sammy is into baking now so we'll make a fun baking project together. Your nanny is welcome to stay or just pick her up. Whatever is convenient. If Friday doesn't work for you, maybe another day next week? Hope to get the girls together soon! 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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fine, but skip the baking thing. Makes it sound too programmed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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Nice. Why are you so nervous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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OP: not nervous. Just don't want to appear desperate as that is what I'm sensing nowadays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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It's nice, but I agree about the baking.. she can find out what the project was later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Sounds like fun with a hands-on mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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I'd be thrilled. Great invite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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OP: thank u! But apparently my town has a bunch of b*tches and this email was snubbed. I have this paranoid feeling that I am coming off desperate. (new in my town). Sigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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When did you send it, and to whom? How well do you know the person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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OP: she's a WOHM so not well. Just met her twice at camp pick up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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when did you email her? maybe she's just slammed at work (just projecting my own issues here). This is a lovely email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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OP: thank you. emailed her today. I don't think most WOHMs have rigorous jobs (other than ibank moms or lawyers). So I have a "give me a break" mentality when they delegate this stuff to their nannies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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are you the same poster who doesn't want to coordinate a playdate with a nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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OR: It did not come off as desperate. Unfortunately, some people are bitches. FWIW, I would have loved it and so would my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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NP personally i think it sounded desperate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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As a WOHM, I would be happy to receive this email but roll my eyes a little at the fun baking project. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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OP: hahahaha. I rolled my eyes too writing it but I write such dry emails (occupational habit) that I added some girly girl sentence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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I'm the OR from above and I've done baking projects for my kids' playdates and the visiting children loved it. Plus they took some treats home for their parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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Np: I would be happy to hear about it or even read about it in advance if put a little differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Sounds nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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My DD would love it. You sound like me btw, hosted tons of these and found that lazy b}%^tch moms (bith SAHM and WOHMs) did not reciprocate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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Taken out the 'if Friday doesn't work'. If it doesn't, and tiger mom still wants a play date, she'll hunt that in her response. Or give two choices, 'Tuesday or friday' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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