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[ - ] If you knew two people in your department-a manager and a direct report-were having an affair (it is VERY obvious), would you turn them in? These two go on business trips together and are basically carrying on an affair on the company dime. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Ugh that is so annoying. Is there an anonymous compliance number you can use to make the report? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Better be sure before you turn them in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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No, not at all. Either they will be caught or it will end but you don't want to me the reason that they get in trouble, potentially fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Get a fucking life, loser. God I cannot stand busybody women. You know why men rule the planet? Because they don't get involved in this petty bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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You don't get anyone to respect what you have to say when you talk like that. You just sound angry and alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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That was me and DH. 15 years and 3 kids ago. Leave them alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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cough ho cough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Oh, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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I've been in this exact situation. No, I would not turn them in. Believe me, if it's VERY obvious (as you say) others have noticed and there's probably a lot of buzz about it. People who are higher up have already heard and no one likes a tattle-tale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Decorator moms. We were planning on buying nicer furniture, but ended up getting our couches from IKEA. They are very durable with children and covers can be machine washed. But how can I make the apartment look nice otherwise. How important are rugs, pillows, pictures. How to make everything match? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Interior design mom here- You don't want everything to match. You want it to blend and flow. Think of a wave at the beach with multiple shades of blue, green and whites or the multiple colors of a sunset. Buy pieces you love over time don't run out and try to do it in few shopping trips. Slowly! Good luck and have fun with it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I woke up early with 2yr old ds and let dw sleep in, and instead of thanking me, she used it as an opportunity to complain how she never gets to do that. Perhaps if I buy her jewelery for valentine's day she will note that the gift demonstrates how rare it is that i buy her something nice. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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No offense but this is who you chose to marry. Guess you like bitches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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She just really enjoys complaining. She will admit it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Ok then you knew that going in. So stop bitching [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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It all goes both ways. Instead of agreeing with her that with a 2 year old someone always doesn't get to sleep in, you are here perpetuating the bad feelings. If you don't want to hate each other by the time dc is 10 and get a divorce by 12, this is a dynamic you should work on fixing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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just checking: does your dw every get up with your 2 year old before you? Do you sleep past that moment? do you thank her each and every time? If yes, then please forgive my impudence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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...and yes, i know that the big issue is that she complained. But maybe it's true she never sleeps later than you and your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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NP: I bet the OP was doing that annoying "I deserve a medal and a parade for doing this" thing that men like to do on the rare occasions they decide to "help" or "babysit". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Why does getting up with your child require a special thank-you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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This is the kind of attitude that will get you to bad places. You always say thank you - because in the end, no one really has to do ANYTHING they don't want to do, including staying in the marriage. You say thank you because it's nice, it's kind and it's free. Just like you thank the guy delivering the mail who hands it to you - even though it's his job and all. You say THANK YOU when someone does something nice for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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LOL, it's the attitude that your DC is your DW's job that's getting you in trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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I'm not actually the OP. I'm a mom in my 50s who knows a lot more than I used to. I spent a decade and a half acting every day like raising kids was a PITA (even though it is sometimes) and that my DH was damned well going to do his share, even though he worked and I stayed at home. The only thing that happened was that he started to avoid home more and more, because he knew the only thing waiting for him was me handing him a baby and complaining about my day. Justify it all you want, but husbands walk out on the mess of family life just about every day because they just can't take it anymore. Your marriage is only as strong as you make life together a pleasure and teamwork. Not it's YOUR TURN. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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do you thank her all the other mornings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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No but monday to friday i get up an hour before her to go to work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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but do you get up in the middle of the night when dc needs help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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you sound like any man that needs a thank you for things your woman does everyday... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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You know what? It's not a blowjob. Takes 2 seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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but do you thank her? and a bj on you probably takes 2 seconds anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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big difference to get up when you plan to than when you have to... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Hey man - don't bother putting this here. I've done that too, tried to share some thoughts about my wife here, but the overall consensus at this site is "women are right and men are assholes." I use this site for certain stuff, but I've found other spots on Reddit for this kind of discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Dump. If she's bitchy now it's not going to get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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She sounds like a peach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] We too have a live in. You kind have to let her eat whatever in the fridge. It sucks, but that's reality. Just buy a lot more food. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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This. People are crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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I think there complaint is nanny is asking for more expensive food that family normally eats. They have to explain to her, in the winter fruit other than apples, bananas, whatever is expensive, here. We will get you X. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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No, it's the opposite - the OP bought the nanny apples and bananas and bought herself papayas and is enraged that the nanny ate the papayas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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No, the nanny is eating all the expensive stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Maybe that poster cannot afford a live in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Maybe she is just annoyed with entitled attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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This. If you can't afford the food, you can't afford live-in employees. A lot of people are just trying to live beyond their means and have the luxuries that only wealthy people can afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Wrong, like any other employee, you have to explain the facts of life to them. Where I work, I do not get the most expensive printer or computer, I get what they decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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But your employer still needs to provide a printer and computer, and doesn't call it a hardship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Yes, and OP of other thread was willing to feed her live-in, she just needs to explain rules. Nanny does not get unlimited expensive stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Why do you have a live-in? What do they do that a nanny or a couple of babysitters don't do? We are at a crossroads, thinking of moving just to have space for a live-in, but my husband is not too excited about having a stranger in our house. We both have very demanding full-time jobs, and the after-extended day pickups at 5:15 and then doing lunches, prep for next day, plus dinner and then having to work afterwards is killing us. Would love advice on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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I have been very happy with aupairs and before that live in. Its like finding any other employee. Set reasonable rules, communicate them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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It's another adult, living in your home. Of course you'll spend more on food! Maybe it's the people that go with a live-in because it seems cheaper that get upset with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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+1 And it doesn't even suck. Housekeeper/sitter lives in our in-law suite, and what we spend on extra food & insurance, we more than make up for in a lower salary because he doesn't have to pay rent & utilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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You have a male housekeeper/sitter? Is this typical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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I don't think it's common. I don't have any other friends who have a male housekeeper or sitter/nanny. But we have two boys, and he's good at sports and academics, and the extra muscle comes in very handy during fall & spring cleaning. :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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I have had aupairs for years, and every year in the class of aupairs there will be one or two boys. Never heard of families having problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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So funny. You move someone into your home, give them your most precious possessions to care for, and then whine because they eat something or drink your "Fiji water". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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x1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Thanks to the post down below that mentioned Mike the Situation, I am enjoying reading online some of the pieces about how Jon Gosselin and the Jersey Shore cast totally killed Ed Hardy's entire brand. Those were some good times when Jon G was douching it up with Lindsay Lohan's cheesy dad on yachts with models. Men in middle age suck so much. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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And to boot, Jon Gosselin got a huge dragon tattoo all over his back during that period. That seems like it was an excellent idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Did you ever see the Jon Gosselin TED Talk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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No! Is it terrible? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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wtf he has a TED talk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Don't get me started on my ex's midlife crisis. I'm not sure it's over yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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If you have an asshole he will be an asshole in "middle age". My dh certainly isn't. Don't get all your life wisdom from TMZ maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] For fitness/health purposes, is it better to work out 6 days a week or 4? Not for weight loss. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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work out every other day, keep moving on the off days... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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6. Just use different muscle groups. I do full on cardio every other day, weights with light cardio three days, and a day off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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6 is a lot. Really?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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2 strength training, 2 cardio is enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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It's better to do whatever you will stick with. Start with four days and really commit to it. You might naturally build to 6. That is what happened to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I am sure that it is, but if you don't have the time, do as much as you can. I feel like I have the energy to either work out or play with DC, not both. which stinks because I want to do both every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Looks like a big storm brewing tomorrow and Tuesday - what are the chances of school being cancelled in NYC? Dcs in private that follows doe decisions. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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I wish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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Hope so but doubt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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higher than usual I'd say. Right now I'm hearing 18 to 24 inches is expected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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so a dusting...always the opposite of what is predicted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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my TT DH's dick is 18x24 [ Reply | More ]
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DeBlazz hates calling snow days. It'll have to be a whopper of a storm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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it's not him but farina [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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It is both. They answered that question last year. They make the decision together. He did not cancel for big storms last year. He wants poor kids to eat breakfast and lunch and working parents to work if they have to. School won't close but half won't show up and the teachers that DO come will be pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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i'm a teacher, i love when it snows and school is open :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Keep dreamin' [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Looks like a big storm brewing tomorrow and Tuesday - what are the chances of school being cancelled in NYC? Dcs in private that follows doe decisions. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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i'm wondering too...maybe school on tomorrow, but after school activities canceled? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:50 PM Flag
[ - ] wow - is it possible that the moderator cleared up the morning spam? or has spammer slept in? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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^^^ and now she is awake, see below [ Reply | More ]
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spam takes a giant break every sunday for some reason, it's the one day they aren't working [ Reply | More ]
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On the eighth day the spammer rests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] HELP! My kids activities are sucking the joy out of my life and I only have two DSs. I love watching them play and practice sports on the weekend and want to go to their games, but there is no time left for me on weekends. I can workout at crack of dawn outside if the weather is permitting (gym doesn't even open until 8 on weekends) or evenings, but I'm too tired then. They are only 7 and 9 so cannot go to events alone. How do I find balance? Parents who have BTDT, please share advice? Btw, we live downtown. We only sign up for local activities, but due to limited indoor space, we schlep farther than I would like (which takes more time and / or $ for cabs) and there is the occasional all day out of town tournament where I or DH take one child and the stays in the city with the other....bottom line, no breaks for either of us. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 10:06 AM Flag
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I feel the same way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:17 AM Flag
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limit them to one organized sport or activity that is not an after school only thing. its simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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It's too late for you, but you should tell this to every 25yo who is thinking about getting married and having children. There is a long stretch in parenthood when pretty much everything is driven by the kids' wants and needs, and if you don't actually enjoy doing all of those things, it is soul-sucking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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LOL. I'm not sure about this. There needs to be some kind of balance between the needs of the children and the needs of the parents. Does your 9 year old really want to go to tournaments, or does he just like doing the sport during the week, and would that be an option? Or can you hire a weekend sitter sometimes, so the person in the city with the younger children can at least get to the gym that day and grocery shop, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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OP isn't talking about her needs; she is talking about her wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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I think a parent getting some exercise is a need, actually. Do you want to be really in poor health and infirm when you are older, and put that on your kids? I would imagine they would agree in the future that foregoing some soccer tournaments was worth having a mom in good health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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As other posters have pointed out, there is plenty of time during kids' practices and games to get in a walk or run, or do yoga or tai chi on the sidelines, or to join the coaching team and spend that time running around with the kids. "No time to exercise" is an excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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There is no "balance", and adults just need to acknowledge it and suck it up. For a good few years it's ALL about the kids and getting them shuttled around. Yes, it sucks the joy out of your life. What did you expect? Then it ends and in retrospect it wasn't all that bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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+1 All I have ever wanted to do was play with and teach children. Worked as sitter, nanny, daycare, and teacher's aide in high school and college, got my BS & MS & cert, and went straight into elementary ed. Had 4 kids before I was 30, and only went back to my teaching job when youngest started high school. At every party, practice, and match, there were parents who were bored to tears and wanted to be doing anything else. I never wanted to do anything that wasn't surrounded by 4-12yos, and I'm already looking forward to weekends with the grandkids. If you don't love it, I imagine it's a long sludge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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I know parents who literally walk around the fields during games while watching the action, to get some mileage in, but sounds like that might not work for you in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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i say hire someone or every other weekend. you don't need to be at every practice/game [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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Yup. Going on about a decade of this here- dcs are 15 and 17. I have gotten my life back in the last few years after making some changes: they take themselves to and from sports practice and we trade off rides to games with other families so we don't go to every one. For a very long time, between my work and their sport, there was very little in between. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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Very true, those years of kindergarten through middle school are the worst. Huge stress on the marriage with feeling like I was going from 6am to 8pm at night, and I didn't even have an outside job like you. I just always felt compelled to justify my time "during the day" so I was always volunteering in the classrooms and chaperoning trips or monitoring recess. By 6pm when I was dragging the little ones to this horrible basketball program (and my ds wasn't even going to be tall!) and I knew DH was having a beer somewhere, I felt murderous. Of course he didn't want to be there, no parent there did. God what years those were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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Very physically demanding. I found it all difficult to manage, but it doesn't appear true for everyone. DCs sport also involves a huge amount of travel, and I find planning those logistics time consuming and draining. I have very few years left of this, as one will be off to college soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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In retrospect, I did a few very stupid things. One was volunteering to chair fundraiser luncheons - that was just a lot of blown smoke for a private school that had no problem with money (not in the city). Then, early on, I actually bid on a lot of silent auction items that I now know were incredibly stupid. Things like a month of Karate lessons at a facility not even close to where we lived, then ds would love it and they'd of course tell me he was really talented - hey, yet another activity to add to the list. I did this with a few summer day camps, too. I had to get my money out of that "gift certificate" so I did it and was racing all around the county. I don't even go to those kinds of auctions anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Basically I got my life back when I learned to say no. [ Reply | More ]
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The worst? That's a long time to feel like its the worst. It sounds more like overscheduling to me. [ Reply | More ]
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we have made a deal with other parents in the same boat and have split the work, this way we are free every other weekend or one take sat and one takes sunday... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Oscar party costume help(!). I need to dress up as a nominee character. Tia 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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wear a gold dress and mask and go as oscar. [ Reply | More ]
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What are your choices? Who/what were nominated? [ Reply | More ]
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reese witherspoon in wild - backpack, shorts, blonde hair, little to no makeup? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 And a stuffed camel to carry around. [ Reply | More ]
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did she have a stuffed camel? I only read the book, didn't see the movie. [ Reply | More ]
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She had real camels - but I'm guessing the logistics of bringing real camels to an Oscars party would be prohibitive... [ Reply | More ]
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wow rough year to try and do that. I would go as Meryl in Into woods - but cold also go in a bloody slip for Gone Girl if you want to go in that direction. [ Reply | More ]
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Saoirse Ronan's character in Grand Budapest Hotel, the one with the facial birthmark. [ Reply | More ]
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Boyhood - blue & white striped tshirt with a green poster-board behind you. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 And if you're really good, get a square of fake grass, like one of those outdoor door-mats. [ Reply | More ]
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Foxcatcher wrestling uniform & track suit. [ Reply | More ]
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Wheelchair & computer voice? [ Reply | More ]
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Still Alice: red hair, flannel shirt, jeans. [ Reply | More ]
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Big Hero 6 - big white body suit stuffed with pillows or newspapers. [ Reply | More ]
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Gandalf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you remember an 80's band called "Lone Justice" whose schtick was bringing country influences into pop-rock? I think they were actually one of Jimmy Iovine's projects, oddly enough. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:31 AM Flag
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Yep, loved them. [ Reply | More ]
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not at all. how you doin, 80s music woman? who is your favorite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:40 AM Flag
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The Sound and The Chameleons. Examples: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYNHjmnlZbA (Chameleons - Swamp Thing). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhYe468zIc8 (The Sound - Hotthouse, 1981 BBC version) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:48 AM Flag
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i like it. the second, hmmm, sounds like, hmmm, smiths? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:01 AM Flag
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Well, The Smiths didn't actually release any records until two years later, in 1983. [ Reply | More ]
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but do you think on the same wavelength? not quite sure. i wasn't THAT in on the music scene. [ Reply | More ]
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In a sense. At the time, it was seen as being somewhat close to the "Factory Records" scene, which was an English record label that distributed a lot of acts in the "post-punk" vein. Joy Division were their biggest stars at the time. I think they were compared at the time to the Comsat Angels perhaps more than anyone else, though. [ Reply | More ]
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yeah, that was a tad bit before my time. very good! [ Reply | More ]
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song? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] A guy threatened to rape me earlier tonight. When I yelled at him to stop, another woman who was there told me to relax and take it easy because people have rape fantasies and there's no need to overreact about them. A couple of other men who were there helped me immediately and got me to safety. When I told the woman to shut the fuck up, she told me that I was crazy and reacting really badly and I should just relax. The men made sure I was safe and kept that guy from me. So much for feminism and the sisterhood. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:21 AM Flag
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Where the hell were you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:23 AM Flag
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Bar/club. And I was completely sober and not wearing any short skirt or low-cut top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:24 AM Flag
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You have a right to wear whatever the hell you want and not be raped. I'm just trying to imagine the scenario where a guy would threaten to rape you in a public place and you'd need help from strangers. The woman was an idiot and probably drunk. I don't think that makes her an indictment of the entire notion of sisterhood/feminism. I'm sorry you had that experience and I imagine you're pretty traumatized by it right now. Thankfully, you weren't raped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:28 AM Flag
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No, I'm increasingly finding that this whole notion of feminism and sisterhood and liberty gets dragged out by other women only in certain situations where the victimized person does not happen to infringe upon some nebulous idea of sex-positivity and sexual liberation. Nowadays, young women care more about being 'sex-positive' and affirming of all sexuality and what not rather than simply and clearly advocating for a woman's right to not be harmed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:32 AM Flag
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Ah, well, I'm not by any stretch a young woman so I can't comment on that. As for us old women, I'll say I'm glad you weren't raped and I don't believe any man has the right to have sex with you against your will at any point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:40 AM Flag
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Thanks for your good wishes. But you really need to be paying attention to what's going on these days with young women and their attitudes towards sex and rape. In as much as they make a big fuss about feminism these days, it's actually largely on men's terms. A lot of what your generation worked for will be rolled back eventually once these young women get more economic and political power. Read the commenter below. She gets it. You cannot afford to be dismissive or casual about what is happening with this generation of girls and women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:42 AM Flag
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Oh, I pay attention - and it keeps me up at night. I have two dds and I frequently break out in a cold sweat thinking about them giving some random skanky guy in middle school a BJ after all the effort, time, money, and blood I have put into parenting them. They are worth so much more than that and it kills me to think that one day none of that will matter. It's one of the reasons I raise them in a small conservative town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:58 AM Flag
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Please be VERY careful about the college you send them to. In my personal experience, they pick up all this submissive and rapist-enabling shit in college. And guess what's even more disturbing? The MOST extreme, bizarre and crazy girls I've met who are the most into sexually servicing men these days are the ones who identify as FEMINISTS and have taken a lot of WOMENS STUDIES classes! Today, young 20-something feminists on college campuses are the most loud and enthusiastic advocates of extremely degrading sex and they even enjoy simulating being raped. Just look up sex-positive feminism. It's the latest bullshit that millenial girls have come up with. And of course even though they love to proclaim how feminist they are, ultimately they're just serving men to give them pleasure. And it's modern-day womens studies that support all this. Tons of colleges and universities today have BDSM Clubs on CAMPUS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:06 AM Flag
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I'm actually thinking about sending them to an all-girls college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:11 AM Flag
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lots of lesbian affairs but also, lots of affairs with profs. they ain't nuns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:13 AM Flag
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Just make sure that whatever college you send them to does not have a BDSM club and the womens studies department is not populated by sex-positive kooks. A lot of feminist academics these days are strong advocates for prostitution and pornography. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:18 AM Flag
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Troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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That is not feminism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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young women are now all about sexual freedom and liberty. they are tarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:25 AM Flag
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Yeah, except what about MY sexual freedom and liberty?? So according to these stupid girls, I shouldn't have any but the asshole who wants to rape me gets all of it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:28 AM Flag
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they'll just say you're horribly repressed. that's why we have that f-ed up duke girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:30 AM Flag
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THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED. I'm really hoping you weren't there or some creepy shit like that. This is uncanny as fuck. That is EXACTLY what she said. She was this young girl of like maybe 21 or 22 or something and she had this contemptuous air about her and she talked to me like she was trying to calm down a crazy person. Except that some nutjob had just threatened to rape me. And this stupid bitch kept telling me to relax and that rape fantasies were totally common. And then at one point, she said that I was really repressed and prudish. What the fuck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:35 AM Flag
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i guess i have them pegged. they are fucktarded. i try to instill a sense of decency in sexual mores in my dd6. you have to ignore the idiot millenials. i am hoping it's just a phase, though, and dd won't have trouble finding normal boyfriends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:42 AM Flag
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How did you figure this out actually? How did you figure out that they're bizarrely obsessed with some idea of total sexual 'freedom' regardless of how harmful and destructive it actually is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:45 AM Flag
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it's just the natural progression. first, dumb girls in rich burbs letting guys from other burbs or maybe even their high school(!) randomly drive by for group bjs. that's supposed to be empowering because now you're enjoying sex just for sex and not as a proxy for emotional investments, etc. seriously, that was a wtf moment for me. then, the whole fwb evolution. then the whole, "girls in college and in their 20s don't have boyfriends, just hookups." then the "girls watch porn" revolution. then the "me can't get it up with girls anymore because they are so used to f-ed up hardcore porn." then finally, the duke chick who is claiming it is empowering to be a "sex worker" and is doing all this stupid shit just so she can get choked and banged by some radom 50 yo. and doing the "sex factor." young women have gone to hell in a hand basket. i will just die if my dd ever became like any of these girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:51 AM Flag
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Oh my god. I am not one to hug people but honestly, I could just hug you right now. All this stupid talk from young women these days about 'feminism' and 'empowerment' is just such total massive fucking bullshit. EVERYTHING they do is actually, ultimately, only empowering to men. We're living in the bdsm and rough sex generation. You're considered a feminist hero if you enjoy being hit and choked and slapped. You're considered a horrible prude if you don't love to have a man do anal sex on you or choke you with his dick. And the stupid bitch who tried to criticize me tonight is just another one of these idiots. This generation considers it 'subversive' to do anything some crazy man wants. And you're so totally right: the generation of girls who serviced boys with blowjobs in schools have now grown up into the generation of women who love what they now call 'rape play' aka simulating acts of rape during sex. Yes this is actually a thing now among girls in their late teens and early 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:01 AM Flag
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it's very sad. i think porn stars say it used to be people would sort of look at them with stars in their eyes -- they were celebrities. but now, there's free porn everywhere and they've just become these like cheap pieces of meat. men just feel entitled to grab them and paw them whenever they see them on the circuit or something. one of them sounds halfway intelligent. yet, i know, she does these crazy f-ed up porn scenes and she will likely never get a "normal" job. i fear for these girls. but alas, i also see it in the divorced 40s women who date and say things like, "if you don't put out the first night, they're gone." i'm like, "well, you want to get rid of those, don't you?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:08 AM Flag
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i think porn is a huge part of the problem. it's so prevalent that men start to think that shit is normal and pressure girls into doing it. then girls start thinking they're progressive because they let themselves be degraded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:13 AM Flag
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i agrees. but i guess that's internet for ya. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:15 AM Flag
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College campuses are another huge factor. Many college campuses have BDSM clubs these days and many womens studies departments in colleges encourage and promote promiscuity and degrading sex as sex-positive and liberating and what not. Today's womens studies courses are very different from what they used to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:15 AM Flag
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well, another reason to avoid that major. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:18 AM Flag
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unfortunately the women who major in womens studies are the ones who will be deciding the feminist agenda for years to come and they are going to drag us all backwards into their cesspool of porn and degrading sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:21 AM Flag
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womyn's studies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:44 AM Flag
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There are personals everywhere on online dating sites from men openly saying they don't have time for a relationship right now but they would love to just get together and hang out. It's become almost like a business transaction now. I wouldn't be surprised if that becomes the next step for a lot of millenial girls. They're already furiously proclaiming how prostitution is actually empowering to women. There's tons of young feminist bloggers and speakers on college campuses who talk about how prostitution is safe and healthy for women. So the next step after hookup culture would likely be for girls to start prostituting themselves in the name of being liberated and not prudish at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:13 AM Flag
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they are "sex workers." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:14 AM Flag
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Yes. And the popular politically correct thinking now is that these sex workers are "empowered" strong women who don't need to be 'rescued' by any man. And of course, a lot of male liberal arts academics are very happy to agree in the name of looking progressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 07:20 AM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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Fake or everyone in this thread was drunk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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or on coke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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Yes, the entire thread was strange and a rant against women, of all things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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Yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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Sorry this happened to you. Glad someone was there to help you and that you are safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Not only fake but the op is responding to herself. Valid points in there though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I spin without hurting my back? I like the cardio but hate the back thing? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:00 AM Flag
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strengthen your core [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:16 AM Flag
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raise your handle bars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Is pain just an illusion? I was reading about a guy who cut open his own abdomen and removed his own appendix with crude tools and some mirrors in an isolated area, and he said that once he committed to doing it "no matter what," the pain wasn't so bad. It was at its very worst during moments of mental hesitation, but once he convinced himself that "this will succeed," it did. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:48 AM Flag
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That guy was schizophrenic wasn't he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:59 AM Flag
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he was dealing with obamacare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:14 AM Flag
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what is it with you and obamacare? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:17 AM Flag
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I think it was Kennedy era, so, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:20 AM Flag
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it is just a nerve reaction. it is real but it cannot physically hurt you if you avoid going into shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:32 AM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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Sounds like a hoax. How did he manage to control the bleeding and not get a massive infection, performing surgery alone and in those conditions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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I don't really think it's possible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My 11 yr old dd is still jealous and angry about her sister - who is now 3. . . she feels like her life was better before her sister was born. . .Is this normal? What should I do? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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get her a dog [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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book - Siblings Without Rivalry. Large age spread is tough, she's nearing puberty and 3 yo is undoubtedly getting a lot more time and attention from you and everyone else. Make sure to spend one-on-one time just with older dd, let her see you sometimes telling younger dd that older comes first at that moment (i.e. "No, I can't play dolls with you, I promised to do XYZ with older dd.") Make sure to treat 11 yo like 11 yo, not as helper/babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:26 AM Flag
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Thanks - I'll get the book. . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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I hated having siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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Do they have the same dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:31 AM Flag
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yes - we just waited a long time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 05:32 AM Flag
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Totally normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:01 AM Flag
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it was better before [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 06:15 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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Girls suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.25.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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