• Filter the conversation
[ - ] WSMS parents: Do you think a family like us who won't be able to donate money would be at a disadvantage when it comes to applying to K? After sib/legacy and big donors, would there be space for us? What are your thoughts? Feeling bad already for our DC's... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:09 PM Flag
»
Big donors are a small part of most schools. Most people participate (and everyone is expected to participate) at a low level. It is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Any general contractor nightmare stories? I need to feel better :/ I just had one tell me he was doing me a favor by working with me. He was a no show on Thursday and stood me up on Friday. Thankfully, he hasn't started any work so I'm off to search for the next one. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
I know someone whose contractor disappeared with $75k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
They need to go on that show 'Catch a contractor'! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:09 PM Flag
»
What's the contractor's name? Put it out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:09 PM Flag
»
op: oh wow!!! that's crazy! did she get him arrested? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:09 PM Flag
»
He has done you a favor by revealing himself now. Thank him profusely and RUN [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:07 PM Flag
»
op: I know... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:09 PM Flag
»
I've heard all kinds of crazy stories about the guy that builds Catskill Farms houses...they advertise in NYmag and stuff. One couple we know went up one weekend to discover he had built a new deck onto their house they didn't ask for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:10 PM Flag
»
In NYC? I used a good one for my reno. Not always perfect (no one is), but I trust him, he stands by his work, has been around a long time, and things always got fixed and finished right in the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Are the Spence rumors true? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:00 PM Flag
»
Sour grapes here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:02 PM Flag
»
Yup. Pretty crazy, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:03 PM Flag
»
I doubt we will ever know. I tend not to believe this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:06 PM Flag
»
Yes, there had been rumors about her for years, but since it's so rare for there to be female instigators of these types of crimes, it was overlooked for a long time. Guess they will have to find a new chess teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:06 PM Flag
»
Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:11 PM Flag
»
chess club fondler, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:14 PM Flag
»
what rumors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:10 PM Flag
»
That they screwed up admissions results. Switched the WLs and accepts... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:12 PM Flag
»
Yes, but I think they fixed it. Supposedly the leak was caused by workers who were there over the weekend and drove a too-tall truck into a hanging pipe. I wouldn't worry about it - wooziness at worst. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:16 PM Flag
»
Don't think so - I just don't see Oprah as a headmaster type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you encourage your child to attend a nice but not TT college/university if they could go for free (others spend 60K/yr) and then promise to fund grad school or give them cash as downpayment for a home instead? Or would you just send them to college where they want to go? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
what's the difference between nice and TT? I would go for TT because the connections and networks you can build within a TT college are immeasurable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
Huge difference from TT--but say somewhere between Sarah Lawrence and Connecticut College--students have good grad ivy placements but not necessarily ivy ready when they enter. Also DC is not sure if she wants to be an engineer or chef--we are trying to be supportive but we could pay for CIA or college. Rather have her do college for free then pay for CIA and give her a nest egg to buy apt. Or send her to MS Engineering if she wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:02 PM Flag
»
Depends what "where they want to go" is. I would certainly discuss this with them - kids need to learn the COST of things and the VALUE of things. For example - kid needs to learn that it took you 10 years (or whatever) to save this money, and that it could be used for this, and that, and the other. Kid needs to be involved in the choice. I don't want to pay $50k a year for my kid to go to Syracuse University.... Harvard, or another TT, is a different matter - you carry that brand for the rest of your life, but outside of what the top 30, who gives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:58 PM Flag
»
It's not about tt but good fit for your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:59 PM Flag
»
They want to go somewhere because it is prestigious and they are ambitious? Or they want to go somewhere because it's a fun party school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:00 PM Flag
»
OP: too young to tell--good grades but admissions are very competitive now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:03 PM Flag
»
Both dh and I did the former, and it worked well for us. We don't have parents who could pay, and not having student loans has enabled us to do so much. No one cares where we went to undergrad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:00 PM Flag
»
I could have attended the local jesuit college that a significant portion of my family went to for free because my mother was working there at the time. My parents didn't force me, and I went to one of the state colleges at Cornell. I still think it was the right decision for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
My niece got substantial aid at Fordham, and took it over NYU. She was genuinely happy there. At the end of the day, she thought it was a better experience that what people at NYU had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:06 PM Flag
»
Tell your kid to study hard in hs, play one sport very well and apply to the outstanding computer science/engineering and so-called second tier schools - They all give aid based on merit (or sports talent). A partial list: MIT, Stephens, Kings Point, RIT, Georgetown, Carnegie Mellon, Georgia Tech, Vanderbilt, Purdue, Michigan, Ohio State, Washington Univ, Stanford, Cal Tech, etc. On graduation day, these kids will have jobs. Go into debt for HYP and the minor list- Brown, Penn, Columbia, etc.? Not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:13 PM Flag
»
Discuss what money you have available for college and what some options are. For example: "We have $150k to spend on college for you...you could go to X school for free for two years and then transfer to Y University once you have decided what you want to major in, or you could spend 4 years at X school for free and use the $150k upon graduation to put towards grad school in your chosen field, or a down payment on a home, or a car, or to start a business. Or you can spend the $150 on Y university for 2.5 years and you will need to get loans and work to make up the difference in tuition." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you prep for the PSAT? Is that through Kaplan as well. DC took the PSAT in 9th grade (doesn't show up anywhere, DC was not supposed do study) and didn't do so well. Want DC to be comfortable with it before taking it again. Not worried about National Merit Scholarship, just a decent score. Would it be a Kaplan course? Thanks. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:53 PM Flag
»
Isn't PSAT itself is the practice test for SAT? I have never heard of prepping for PSAT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
Some people prep for SAT the summer before 11th grade and that naturally helps them with the PSAT to be taken in the Fall of 11th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:58 PM Flag
»
OK. So is the PSAT basically the same as the SAT? Don't remember. I am old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
OK so the Fall of 11th grade is when they take the PSAT? Then Spring for SAT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
Yes. That's correct. Some people take the SAT in the Fall or Winter of 12th grade. You don't need to take it in the Spring of 11th grade if you are not ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:06 PM Flag
»
OP here. I guess. This is what I'm trying to figure out. They had all the 9th graders take the PSAT to get a baseline. They will take it again later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
Is this public or private school? We are at a tt private and no PSAT until 10th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:10 PM Flag
»
DD took a class that was offered at Bronx Science called TestTakers or something like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
OP here. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
Kahn Academy online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
Kahn has nothing for psat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:58 PM Flag
»
psat and SAT cover the same materials. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:59 PM Flag
»
OP here. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:02 PM Flag
»
Did have my dc study at all, I want to really know what they need help in for the sat or act. She did pretty will in math but needs work in English got a 1200 overall score [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
^^^ didn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
OP here. I just have no idea what a good score is in 9th grade. I don't think DC's score was so hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:02 PM Flag
»
Doesn't it tell you the percentile they are in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
Take practice tests [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
OP here. Yeah, I think I will look for a book of PSAT practice tests. Probably the best strategy. Tricky because the test just changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:03 PM Flag
»
»
OP here. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:03 PM Flag
»
No one prep for a prep test. People don't prep for PSAT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:01 PM Flag
»
This is the strangest post. We now have people making 9th graders prep for a practice test. Your dc is still 3-4 years away from the real SAT test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
I just gave dcs the old psat practice tests to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Didn't think there was anything that could make me like Beyonce less, but her backup dancers dressed in panther regalia holding 'Justice for Mario Woods' sings and doing the black power salute was it. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:51 PM Flag
»
I tend to agree. Wasn't wowed at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:53 PM Flag
»
Agree. Shut up and Sing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:54 PM Flag
»
Nah. Too rich. Now she can do whatever she wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:57 PM Flag
»
+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:54 PM Flag
»
Well, if Mario Woods hadn't stabbed someone in the first place... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
trolltastic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:57 PM Flag
»
:) but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:58 PM Flag
»
Tbh, it was suicide by cop. I'm not a total cop apologist (though I admit to being somewhat of one) but every one of these 'white cop on black jesus shootings' (*very* diverse and multiracial firing squad on this one, btw) have begun with someone resisting arrest, usually in a major way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:00 PM Flag
»
Ha ha! Yeah. She's not for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
I am more of a Renee Fleming/Grateful Dead/Bettye LaVette kind of girl, tbh. Hypergesticulatory teen pop is not really my thing, unless we are talking about Elvis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
^signs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:57 PM Flag
»
The general consensus is that she owned the halftime show, especially next to the tired pablum proffered by Coldplay and Bruno Mars. Of course, when your talent and profile result in your being offered a platform in front of millions of people, you are free to offer whatever message you feel is most appropriate. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:08 PM Flag
»
No comment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:12 PM Flag
»
if ithought she really cared, I wouldnt be bothered, but i think this is all an act, she has been a famous black entertainer for years and is now only about the cause because its gaining momentum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] As a result of testing conducted in the fifth grade, which determined he had an IQ of 167, he was allowed to skip the sixth grade and enroll in the seventh grade. Kaczynski described this as a pivotal event in his life. He recalled not fitting in with the older children and being subjected to their bullying. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:45 PM Flag
»
There is a fine line between genius and nutcase. Perhaps the bullying got to him so bad that his nutcase side won over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:47 PM Flag
»
huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:48 PM Flag
»
Unabomber [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:51 PM Flag
»
Lots of messed up people had messed up childhoods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:52 PM Flag
»
Geniuses can be sociopaths. Doubt skipping a grade did anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
That may be true, but the fact is he was mentally ill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
I'm sure it was pivotal, but I think the extended time in the hospital as a baby and the college psych experiments were likely more formative. I find his brother's actions very courageous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you do? My mom passed away 2 years ago. Parents were married 38 years. Dad, 67, is now dating a woman that's probably late 50s (not sure). Both parents were doctors, I grew up upper/middle class. This woman is not wealthy. She has no job and 3 grown kids. Her husband died 10 years ago. In the 4 months they've been together, my dad has bought her a car and taken her first class to Europe. She is now starting to complain that he spends too much time with his family (his siblings, me and my brother). We are worried. My dad is vulnerable. DH and I, and my brother and his family, are comfortable financially and don't need dad for money. But I'm still worried for him. What would you do? Stay out of it? Or butt in? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:44 PM Flag
»
No fool like an old fool. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:46 PM Flag
»
You really hit the nail on the head. np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:04 PM Flag
»
Gently talk to him re prenups. Does he have any close friends who might help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:52 PM Flag
»
his siblings called my brother last week because they were worried too and thought it best the message come from him as opposed to them. He wanted my opinion. I told him he should say something non-accusatory just once and then leave it at that. There's nothing we can actually do if he decides to marry her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
That's true. He's lonely and will certainly remarry. Guaranteed. Not good that she extracted money from him so quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:16 PM Flag
»
Most widowers get remarried pretty quickly. They are too lonely. Not good that he is spending so much money on her so quickly. The fact that she is trying to separate him from his family is a bad sign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
Sorry, there is nothing you can do. It's clear she is taking advantage. How much money does Dad have? Can he support her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:54 PM Flag
»
I don't honestly know how much but he's a doctor and so was my mom. My brother and I are in or 40s and have lived on our own for 20+ years so my parents don't have that much expense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:58 PM Flag
»
He will be more influenced by his friends than you guys. One thing you need to make sure about is that he has enough money to support himself. I would also find out her history. She may have taken advantage of several men. Men of your father's generation often felt (I realize your mom was a doctor) that they were responsible for women. She may be taking advantage of that. I would check out her background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:16 PM Flag
»
His life. Just maybe mention to him this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
So tough. He is doing all these things for her because he is desperately lonely and is enjoying her attention and companionship and is grateful. It just sucks because it's coming at a cost to you as he foolishly commits his time and probably a chunk of your inheritance to her. It sucks, but what can you really do, point out that he is an old fool who is being used? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] My DF posted on Facebook that she was diagnosed with stage 0 breast cancer. What should I do for her? Is this very serious? I don't want to ask her the wrong question. She has 3 young DC. :( 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:42 PM Flag
»
What is stage 0? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:43 PM Flag
»
I honestly don't know. I was hoping someone here would know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:45 PM Flag
»
non-invasive cancer that hasn't spread [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:48 PM Flag
»
Big scam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:51 PM Flag
»
Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:57 PM Flag
»
They just found some abnormal cells in her breast. It's mostly nothing to worry about right now, it's very treatable with whatever they decide to do, but she'll have to pay attention to it from now on. Get more frequent mammograms etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:49 PM Flag
»
It's the same severity as having a gluten intolerance or chronic fatigue syndrome (if you know what I'm saying). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:54 PM Flag
»
No way. It was a 5 paragraph long post about her kids maybe growing up without a mother. I am glad it's not that serious. Are you sure it's not that serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:59 PM Flag
»
np. just google. really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:06 PM Flag
»
I'm not sure. Tread lightly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:08 PM Flag
»
Another word for "Stage Zero" is "negative". Unnecessary surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:55 PM Flag
»
Really ? Are you sure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:00 PM Flag
»
That is incorrect. Stage 0 is a tumor (so not negative) but one that is currently non -invasive. They may or may not become invasive down the road. A cancer diagnosis is never a good thing to get, but if you're gonna get one you want s "stage 0." Her condition currently is highly treatable, at this point her concern about kids losing their mom not a real risk. Still , cancer is a scary word and she has probably gotten some counseling from her doc about increased risk for invasive cancer, more frequent screening etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] How much rent per month should I factor for a *nice* 2bed/2 bath apartment in Tribeca or west village please? And for 3 bed? I am looking online at Zillow etc but wont be able to view anything in person for a while and photos can be so deceiving but I need to have an idea to narrow our search. Also looking UWS - presuming this is more reasonable? Thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:35 PM Flag
»
8k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:37 PM Flag
»
Really? That is good news -- was anticipating double that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:52 PM Flag
»
I think you will pay more than like for a nice 2bed apt in Tribeca/WV.... Easily for a 3bed you are talking $10k+ skys the limit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
Hey me too. Let me know what you find out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:41 PM Flag
»
For 3 bedroom with a doorman, at least 12k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:56 PM Flag
»
Uws is much cheaper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't watch a movie with George Clooney without thinking I'm watching George Clooney. What actors are like that for you? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:34 PM Flag
»
Leo DiCaprio... I like him but his face is so young that I couldn't buy him in Wolf of Wall Street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:40 PM Flag
»
Julia Roberts, Sandra Bullock [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:51 PM Flag
»
Yep, all of the above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:57 PM Flag
»
He's like Martin O'Malley - he always seems to be giving a nod to himself. I still think of him as 'the ER guy' no matter how many credible roles he has. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 01:53 PM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions