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[ - ] What was your experience with Stitch Fix? Just signed up. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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I do better having someone come two times a year to help me clean my closet do shopping and put together outfits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone I have to deal with is moving to NYC from the south. He thinks he is some big shot. I look foreword to him discovering how small of a fish he really is in this pond 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are the one itchin' for a fight. Why start things off negatively? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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*forward [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I have lived in the Bay area my whole life and i can tell you Donald trump has more support here than you realize. Another Mexican illegal immigrant murdered a woman in a safe tourist area 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Here is an article on the murder by Mexican [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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But thats only 1 guy. Not all Mexicans are gunning down innocent pedestrians. Puhhlease. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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No, but many of the rest are peeing in public, drunk driving, you name it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Why are you so obsessed with this? You post nonstop about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Why are you shouting her down? You think those of us in Manhattan agree with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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no one likes donald trump except donald trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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No one is shouting, weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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It is time to enforce immigration laws. I would prefer to vote for someone other than Trump, but if Trump is the only one who wants to protect us, so be it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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I live in Bay area and everyone I know thinks he is a joke. Pompous and obnoxious and disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] When a woman dating a man says "he is really bad in bed"- what does that mean exactly? What things qualifies as bad? Small weener? Comes too fast? Doesnt give massages or oral? How do you know when its really "bad in bed" vs a woman being just harder to please? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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I would say someone who has no interest in making you come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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"bad" can be so many different things... inattentive, selfish, clueless, too rough, too passive, sleepy, quick, slow, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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It's different for each person however his lack of interest in helping you orgasms is a red flag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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+1. And if he has performance/'lasting' issues and thinks that you should just accept those as reality and he shouldn't work on them... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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You know it when you experience it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Grammar mom: Is it ok to say "we have reduced costs by nearly $1.2 million/year" 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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yes, although would be more precise to use "approximately" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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It's fine but ignore the comment above. If you know it's nearly $1.2M say that. If it's approximate, use that. Nearly means close to, Approximate means a good but rough estimate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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No, it wouldn't, if she means "nearly". If they reduced costs by $1.16M, using nearly indicates it was close to, but less than, $1.2M. Approximately could be more than or less than. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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NP - nearly is more precise, as it indicates close to but less than. Approximately could be over. But agree, go with approximately (unless you are trying desperately to cut words/lines) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Did you stop shopping at Whole Foods? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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lol. best response of the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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if it is formal, say, "per year" not "/year." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking of heading to Brooklyn to go to Smorgasburg. What are some of the 'do not miss' food vendors/items that I should get? TIA. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Is this today or tmw? I've actually never been and meaning to go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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http://www.smorgasburg.com/ every Sat and Sunday, but different locations on Sat and Sunday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Seaport one is smaller but very day which is nice and sells booze. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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I love the red hook lobster rolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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I had a grilled calamari kabab that was heavenly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] One our our neighbor's has a DD (about 12) who is very much a "tomboy" (for lack of a better way of describing). Our 4yo DD is convinced that we have a boy next door. Been trying to explain that she's a girl and we keep getting the response "well, you can think what you want and I'll think what you want." I don't want to make this a big issue but also want her to understand this, given this perception there is also a teacher at her new school where I can see her making this mistake. Any books or other ways to help explain this. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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She speaks in a very snotty way to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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np- eally, what's snotty about that? My 5yo DS does this a lot when he has a different take on something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Because she's being defiant and implying she knows better. It's not something you "have a different take on" it's a fact- the neighbor dc is a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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np - yes, kids act defiant and imply they know better all the time. doesn't make them bad kids. and kids even get the "facts" wrong and will argue. they eventually come to understand they are wrong but, the more headstrong ones will continue the argument longer - this is when you need to start ignoring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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This. She is entitled to her own opinions; she is not entitled to her own facts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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+ a million. OR never said she was a bad kid. But that's a snotty thing to say whether there's tone in it or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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NP: agree! Not everything is an opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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do you mean "...and I'll think what I want" ??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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OP- yes. was typing quickly on iPhone. Reading post now and it's not as coherent as it should be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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... ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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4 yos are weird. I would just ignore her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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OP- I really don't want her to offend her and/or her family. She had done this once when it's possible when someone in the family might have heard. I'm also trying to prevent anything awkward at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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You tried to explain to her, and now she is making a big deal of it. I really would ignore it. I would also tell her it is rude to talk about people's appearances, if she does so in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.04.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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This. For the longest time, my neighbor's kid could not be convinced that my DH and I were married as we didn't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Obviously you have taught your daughter that girls act one way and boys act another. No wonder she is confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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OP- Ah, the usual UB attack--blame the mother. My DD probably enjoys digging in the mud, looking for bugs and playing ball more then dolls and pretend play. She's not a dress and big fluffy bow kind of girl either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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so does your dd consider herself a boy? it actually does not matter, you just tell her it is rude to discuss other peoples appearances [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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I don't believe you. If your daughter were a "tomboy" the way you describe, she would have no trouble with the concept of the girl next door being a "tomboy". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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She's four years old. Explain it once and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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But she wants to debate and have her own opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Well tell her there's no debate and you have already explained the situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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don't pay attn to these rude responders. kids think and say funny things and sometimes can't be convinced otherwise. would teach that you never comment on the way someone looks in public and, everyone looks different. after that, I wouldn't necessarily ignore but, next time she brings it up say "yes, you told me what you think but, that's not right...let's talk about ____", so you are not belaboring the point - she'll just tune out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Thanks, I do appreciate it and tried this tactic. It's only come up once with me, and once when my parents were babysitting. I'm just a little nervous about this happening at school with the teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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when I'm worried that my boys will offend someone I'm pretty strong in my language towards them and how inappropriate it would be and try to relate it to something about themselves. would they want someone asking about "their clothes/hair/backpack/choice of games, etc." if it was different than someone else's. I actually do belabor the point if I think they might offend someone. If they are just asking me privately about it over and over again, I might cut them off/change the subject though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Show her the Tig Notaro documentary when it hits Netflix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Stop only doing "girly" things with your daughter. Wear shorts and tshirts, take her outside to climb a tree, take her to the fire station for a tour of the trucks, play in the dirt, teach her about rugby and how to throw & catch the ball, show her video of the US soccer team beating Germany. At 4 years old, she should not already be mentally locked in by definitions of "what girls do/are" and "what boys do/are". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] West coast mom up early with a first world problem. Dating the nicest guy, who clearly is pretty smitten and very thoughtful and kind. He is smart, has a stable job, etc. And while I like being with him and enjoy myself, the spark isn't too strong and the sex isn't great. WWYD? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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Spark is for teenagers. Sex can get better if you're willing to talk to him and work on it. It's slim picking out there, especially for single moms. I wouldn't throw this one away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I definitely know we can talk about sex and we have sort of done that and it has gotten a little better but still not great - he definitely does care though. I know that love doesn't mean it feels like unicorns dancing around us all day, but some intensity is important, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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You're attracted to him enough to sleep with him. The intensity is what you make of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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that is an interesting statement. How do you "make" something of intensity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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You open yourself up and make yourself vulnerable, you bring yourself close to the person and learn to appreciate other sides of them. You make a decision to let that person be an outlet where you explore your own fantasies, sexual and otherwise, and encourage them to do the same with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Np. Very well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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good point about opening up and being vulnerable. That is something that doesn't come naturally to me and I have to be intentional in doing it (and get over the fear/awkwardness that I feel). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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this is good advice. sounds like a good guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Not be exclusive. Keep him around until you find next best thing. Or ditch him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Neither of us would be OK with that (dating multiple people). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Then I'd move on. You have time to find spark. I disagree with others who say spark is overrated. It's underrated, if anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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+1 It may not be a sufficient condition for a successful relationship, but it's a necessary one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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I agree that spark matters some. At the risk of sounding like a 13 year old describing a relationship...I feel comfortable and happy in his arms. But sex is still middling, and hanging out with him (talking, walking, whatever), is good, but sometimes I feel like I am working hard to try and keep us close and engaged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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np: it sounds like you are not satisfied with his level of intimacy/passion, so you'll need to either discuss with him or move on to someone else, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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what is his history? previous marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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no previous marriages, one medium-term relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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what is medium term... 2-3 years? is he also 35-ish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Yes, he is about my age. Relationship lasted about a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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hmm. a little old for just one relationship that lasted a year. red flag for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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That's a little unusual he's 35 and had only one relationship that lasted only a year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I agree it is a little unusual. He is somewhat shy and introverted, also someone who threw a lot into work in the last decade. He has some good, close friends that he has had for a long time though, so it isn't as if he is incapable of building and maintaining close relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Can you elaborate on the sex issue? Is normal pda good (hand holding, kissing, general affectionate touches)? Or is it both lackluster sex and not so great physical affection? Is it a performance issue or a chemistry issue? Just trying to ascertain if you guys are just a bad physical match or if things can be done to make this better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Normal PDA is fine, though he was pretty shy early on. It is more the sex that is lackluster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Have you tried to spice it up? Results? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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not really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Ok, well then I'd advise really putting some work into it. If you just kind of let it go or expect him to do all the heavy lifting, I imagine you guys will break up. He seems like kind of a great guy...maybe worth the effort? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Did you have spark with your child's father? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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yes, I did. That said, that relationship obviously had its issues, we divorced after more than a decade of marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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I worry you're looking for something elusive and will never be happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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ha. you and me both :). In seriousness though, I have done a lot of thinking, reflecting, maturing, etc. I didn't date at all for the first few years post-divorce and I am trying to keep my head on straight and make good, healthy decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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np: sounds like a smart approach. how long have you been dating this guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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a little over a year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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And... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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How much does he make? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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gotta love UB. He has a stable job, I have a stable job. Neither of us is wealthy. All is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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it's an honest question. if he made 20k a year and there was no spark then what are you sticking around for? if he made 10million a year i think most would agree that he becomes more interesting as a prospect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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^^pretend otherwise as you will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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What do you mean exactly by "bad in bed"? Is it something that can be worked on or is there something about him physically that you're just not attracted to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel poor. We are in an empty Carl Schurz Park at 10am on Sat. What- even Yorkvillers have somewhere to go on a holiday wknd? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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No idea. Do you have any plans at all today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Nothing firm. We were overseas for a month- still getting over jet lag. May do a kids activity in a museum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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cool, well enjoy that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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np: You were overseas for a month but "feeling poor" because you can't afford another vacation immediately? FAKE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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I'm a nanny and even I have a weekend home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Why does it matter what other people do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Ah, boy. If only people could internalize that. (If only I could). Life is an illusion. Attitude is everything and everything is over so fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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we are here 2 blocks away. not really a nice morning for park. could be why some have stayed home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Only in NY can you feel that your neighbors are "undesirable" when they are likely both bankers, lawyers etc living in 1mil+ apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Isn't an empty NY the best thing in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Why are you framing it this way? We decided to stay local for both Memorial Day and July 4th weekends and we're loving it. It's so nice to have no lines or crowds at our favorite places. We hit up that Victoria Gardens place in Central Park yesterday and were able to walk right on to every ride. The kids absolutely loved it. Take advantage! No annoying car rides with melting down kids and traffic. The weather is perfect. Have at it!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Waaaa. "We only earn 300k per year." Or "we have no multi-generational wealth/trust fund." Cry me a river. And an empty nyc is the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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I'm just a block and a half away! Is Carl Shurz empty? That sounds great to me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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I was there too. We are not going anywhere this summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny here again. My employer uses nanny cams. No secret. I know where they are, etc. if I am sleeping over in a room that has a nanny cam, is it fair that I inform them I will be turning it off in that room once I put the child to bed? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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That makes sense to me. You need privacy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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yes, it is fair, as long as the camera on the child stays on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Definitely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] sick of my job and saw one that i went after - i mean really went after. the problem? i'm 57. guess what? i got the job! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Congratulations! Sounds like only you thought "57" was a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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You rock! Signed, 59 yr old happy in job but loves to hear it can be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Oops, meant to reply to OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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i know! i feel so lucky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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This is great. It gives me hope. Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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GO YOU! I work at a fantastic company where people routinely retire after 55 years of service etc. You have many many years to offer if you would like to! Kudos to you, and kudos to your new company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I need advice. 2.5 yo DS goes to bed at 7:30-8 most night, does not nap during the day and is awake at 4:30-5am every morning. i am desperate to get him to sleep until at least 6! Any tips? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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We used one of those toddler alarm clocks that light up when it's time to get out of bed. It took a few days for our son to get the hang of it, but it worked for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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This. He has to stay in his bed, or at least in his room, until the alarm lights up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Why no nap? Nanny here. Last Friday I was tired and let my charge sleep three hours at nap. I'm supposed to wake him after two hours. The next Monday the parents said "we don't know what happened, but he slept in until 8 am on Saturday!" He usually Waks by 5. Have you tried even a one hour nap and a slightly later bedtime? An earlier bed time? We have a toy owl that turns green at 6am. If He wakes up before six he can check the owl and see it is orange and he knows he has to go back to bed or play quietly until owl is green and mom comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I stopped the nap because he was staying up until 9pm and still waking up early and also waking in the middle of the night. i am at my wits end. I need some sleep! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Try a shorter nap. An hour. Play around with it a bit and see if you can get any improvements. Also never go to him before 6am. Make him wait. Get the clock thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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He needs more sleep. Put him to bed earlier, put him down for a nap same time every day consistently, he will eventually nap if you stick with it. Get him an OK to wake clock so he knows it's not time to get up. Treat 4:30 as you would an overnight wake up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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He needs more sleep. When they are over tired they wake up super early. Put him to bed earlier or get him to nap. My 3 yo goes to bed between 6.30-7 and wakes at 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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12.5 hours of sleep per night is not typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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But it is very healthy. And actually it is perfectly normal. Whose kid doesn't sleep 7-7? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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um, mine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Sorry you didn't implement healthy sleep habits from the beginning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Sorry you have a dumb child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Don't judge and rub it in for those whose kids don't sleep like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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I only know one child who doesn't sleep like this and he has neurological issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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np - really? you're going to put down another mom because she has a kid who doesn't like to sleep. I have one. Have been so annoyingly strict about bedtime and sleep hygiene his whole life. It's like he's allergic to sleep. His younger brother loves to sleep. Get off your high horse and realize that every kid is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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^^we need to spend more time lifting each other up, not knocking each other down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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If by neurological issues you mean intellectually gifted, then there is evidence to support your anecdote. http://giftedkids.about.com/od/familylife/qt/sleep_help.htm http://www.raisinglifelonglearners.com/gifted-children-need-less-sleep/ http://www.giftsforlearning.com/traits.htm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Perhaps. He also has autism. His brain doesn't shut off. Ever. He wakes up in the middle of the night spewing knowledge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Yes, dullards tend to sleep many hours per night. It's well accepted that it's the gifted kids who don't sleep much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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both my kids dropped their naps at 2.5. don't feel bad about this, esp w/ everyone saying he needs more sleep. i have a one ds who loves to sleep and his older brother is basically allergic to it. same sleeping pattern as your ds, woke by 5am. at 8yo he barely makes it past 6am - no joke. it's annoying as it wakes his brother up (they share a room) and wakes us up. we have some rules but, he's loud whatever he does. life goes on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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^^btw, my older son never, ever slept more than 9hrs/night....whatever I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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^^another thing - I won't let my ds do anything "fun" that early and never did. Don't talk to him much and, if you can leave him in his room, even better. I still won't let my ds leave his room until 6am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Do you have blackout shades? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Some parents put their early rising children in front of TV, so the children continue to get up early so they can watch TV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Tip from nanny to employers: when you ask us to travel with you or do 24/hr coverage while you're away, please tell us how you intend to pay. It makes a big difference to whether or not we want to do it and it helps us prepare financially. The value we put on our time vs the value you put on our time is usually quite different. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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This is a great thing about using aupairs, they are thrilled to travel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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I'm not traveling. I'm on lockdown in a NYC apartment and when I am here I have to eat weird food. I lose the freedom to eat what I want for dinner. It's not really a perk and should be compensated. My last "travel" was to a hotel in a not so great city and we weren't allowed to leave the hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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You work for weirdos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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Well maybe you are you are not a fun or responsible person. My aupairs take kids to pools, help at beach etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Or her employers are assholes and the kid is weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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This. Why would you assume it's her and if she's not responsible they shouldn't bring her on vacation or employ her at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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She said the kid has SN. WTF is your excuse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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The hotel had a pool but the week before the dad had traumatized the kid by throwing him in so he wouldn't go in. We weren't allowed to leave the hotel grounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Can you swim? Could you not encourage kid to come in with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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I took him to the pool each day. I would put him in the stroller and swim a bit so he could see me having fun. I held him and walked down the steps. Dipped his toes. He freaked out, the previous incident traumatized him. I tried some gentle introduction but wasn't going to force him and make him miserable. I used to teach swimming lessons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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i'll bite -- what do you think is fair compensation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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It's all negotiable. But tell me what you're thinking. I am working 72 hours consecutive this week with a child who doesn't sleep and I don't know how I will be compensated. They might give me a measely $50/day or they could pay for OT rate of $30/hr for the extra six waking hours per day. The law for overnights is a little tricky, but if the child sleeps, they technically don't have to pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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why not put on your big girl pants and discuss beforehand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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That's the point of the post. They are the employers. They are asking me to do a job. They should tell me what it pays before asking me to agree to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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Tell them no next time. They'll get in line soon enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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And then I will be fired. That will not be helpful in paying my rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Then say, "what are you thinking in terms of pay for this?" They may not know what you expect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Not how the real world works. Sometimes employees have to bring up money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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This is not true. Any time I babysit for someone they tell me the rate they pay beforehand. I can accept it, negotiate or decline. Obviously I have to do this or find a new job. It would just be nice to know how I will be compensated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Why is it that nannies want to be treated like office employees when it suits them, but not when they dont like the answer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Right, like taxes. Here's the gross rate I'll pay. I have no idea what your "net" is. It depends on your deductions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Op: this family respectfully agreed to pay me on the books per my request. Which is why I halfway expect they will pay the legal overtime as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Why not ask ahead of time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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I'm just saying that as the employer, they should provide this information. It's a tip for all of you, to make your nannies happier. I could make anywhere from $150-1k for this additional work. But I have no idea. I have to do it no matter what for job security. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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np - mostly I tell people what I pay but I've had a number of sitters tell me what they charge. you at least asking what you will be compensated will not get you fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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But it will make them like me less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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if you demanded a certain compensation, yes. asking what you will be paid, no. it will make them respect you more - you need to take charge of your life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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That's the real world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I'd probably pay somewhere between an extra $50-$100 per day for the overnight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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And OT for the extra six working hours the child is awake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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For me probably not - just normal weekly nanny salary plus the extra overnights fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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But if my child didn't sleep well or awake hours were much longer then Nannys normal day, i might make overnight fee $100+. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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I will be with the child (awake) from 5am to 9pm. And that's if he sleeps well! I def deserve more than an extra $50-100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Agree with below poster. Extra $150 per day flat sounds fair to me in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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This seems a tad low. But maybe based on a $15/hr nanny it would be appropriate. Child also has special needs. I guess I'll find out next Friday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Have they considered low dose of melatonin to improve Childs sleep? It worked for my SN son for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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They have tried it, but not the way I have seen it recommended. They do shots of it at 3am when he wakes up. I read it should be used around 30 min before ideal bedtime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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More then $150 extra per 24 hrs. would be too much for me. $150 would be the max I'd do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Then I guess you would have to find someone with fewer qualifications? If I don't get $200/day extra I don't think I'll be doing this again. It ruins my Sunday (because I have to be up at 4am Monday). And then I lose mom to wed evenings and will be exhausted when it's all said and done. A cheaper option might be having a sitter come from 5-9 each evening, but they would never do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Maybe $200 per day will work for them? Sounds like you do have a good idea on what you need to make it worth it for you. Just is more then I'd pay but not necessarily unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Right. They wouldn't have asked me to do this if it wasn't important to them. So I will do it once and see what happens. They've never left their child alone overnight with anyone. He's also a handful. I've done this with other kids before, but they slept twelve hour nights! If they pay a fair wage, maybe I'll do it again in the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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I'd offer an extra $150/day in that situation. Like $100 if the kids slept and it was standard hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: What's the most passive aggressive phrase that comes to mind? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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I'll start: I didn't know you meant now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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I'm not mad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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I don't want to tell you this, but.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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ha, good one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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I thought you knew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Sure, I'd be happy to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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If you need the help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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No problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Its more of an exchange. Person A says something insulting or instigative. Person B gets upset. Person A says "I am not going to argue with you" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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Ooh, this is a good one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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To be honest with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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Hope this helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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I'm fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Why do you say that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Aww, that sounds so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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What do you mean by that ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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IDA. This is my response to PA people. They often say something negative while smiling and I respond "can you tell me what you mean by saying that?" They are always left foot in mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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And.... ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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So ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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If that is what you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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"I am sorry that you feel that way." - go running from anyone who uses this phrase, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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I've said this so much in my lifetime. mid-40's and have just gotten better about apologizing. better late than never I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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np: Stop saying this! It's so rude. A fake apology is so much better. Just suck it up. If they're an over sensitive weirdo, then just stop hanging out with them. But 'I'm sorry you feel that way' is a total slap in the face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I think "I'm sorry you feel that way" works on pa people who usually are martyrs as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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[Loud sigh]. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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My favorite to use with annoying people who think they know everything: I'll take that into consideration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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this is a good one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Why not ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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If it makes you happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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I will be alright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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What is the probeom here ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Thank you. I will give your input all due consideration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Whatever is SO hostile. Not that I don't use it. I do, when I really want to cut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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With all due respect... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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No offense, but.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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that's actually just aggressive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Why is this so difficult ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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When Person A asks Person B a question and Person B says, "Did you read the ____?" or "Did you check the ______?" but refuses to actually answer them even though it would take 10 seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking forward to an update from Secret Apartment Mom. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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*Fake Secret Apartment Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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+1. so transparent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Spaghettios- dead giveaway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Hi Secret Apartment Mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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OP - I'm not her, but I know she's fake. I enjoy watching her spin everyone along. She's quite skilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Riiiiiiight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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So skilled that everybody thinks her post is fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Sure, she is. A single can of Spaghettios? No can opener? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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aka grad student...only she gets to that level of crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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I think we have all figured out that she found her DH's secret yoga studio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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I dont get why ppl think her post is fake. Why us outside the realm of possibility that a married man rents a secret apt? Methinks the UB women are scared shitless that their own DHs are dong the same thing. *snort*. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I don't think she's fake because so any posted with 'me too' posts. Also, my own husband has suggested a pied a terre in Manhattan a few times. Not worried because he's not hiding but people do get them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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My ex-DH did this so I personally don't think it's fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Meant to post in ny schools. Our dc just graduated from Stuy. Any questions. 81 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.04.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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Yes, which diploma did he get? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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It is a she and not sure what you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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No one cares about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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I do. And find it odd op doesn't know the answer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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Why would anyone care? Colleges do not care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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If your child went to Stuy - you would know. The world isn't solely concerned with what colleges care about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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I am not OP, and I care about my kid, but there are soooooo many things more important than what type of diploma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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I am poster who asked (not the one who explained below) - I find it an interesting question for a couple of reasons, but that doesn't mean you have to. Feel free to ask op the questions you think are worthy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Regents are nothing at stuy. The weekly tests are far harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Op: love my kid and was very involved. Yes she got advanced regents but regents were not considered a big deal at stuy and most kids finished them in ninth grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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Mom from good burb here. In order to get the kids to take the regents seriously, they count them as final grade. Raises grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Same at stuy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Different issue and hard is relative - what's easy for one isn't for another (even at Stuy). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Do not agree. 99 percent at stuy would say the regents are a joke they are so easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I know a handful who struggled with language [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Regents are often used as final exam for the class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Only way to get kids to study for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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My child goes to stuy and never heard of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Someone tell me??? I am not a helicopter mom and did not even look at the diploma. They didn't get them at the graduation. They got them the next day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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Advanced Regents or Regents. No one cares. Normal parents care about things like what courses the best colleges are looking for, SATs, grades, ECs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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You can leave Stuy after 11th grade with a diploma. Very few do, but you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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I see below that you switch from private, after how many years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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After eighth grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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She received a diploma and then special awards but didn't think there was more then one diploma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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There are different diplomas. What does hers say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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Wow. I will look. Very funny. She received medals and a diploma. I will see what it says when she gets back from the holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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Was Stuy overcrowded? Were you happy with guidance counseling? College acceptances? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Didn't feel it was overcrowded. I was thrilled with the guidance counselor (my daughter had two different ones during her four years and they were both amazing and became "friends" to her). College acceptances were a disappointment but not unexpected. Still don't understand the diploma question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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Maybe the poster means Regents diploma? At our large suburban public, most kids get a Regents diploma. Not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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There are no more local diplomas. There is Regents or Advanced Regents. Edgemont doesn't even bother with Advanced Regents because no one cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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I am very involved, DS is at large Westchester public, rising senior, will be NMSF, good student, very focused on college admissions. I had no idea about Advanced Regents and I'm sure he has no idea, either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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No. There are many variations. Regent, advanced regent, either of those two with honors... A ny state diploma and a "Stuy" diploma (more requirements than state). The kids all know. Has nothing to do with helicopter mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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At the best schools, the kids do not care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Stuy is certainly one of the best and EXTREMELY competitive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Maybe at schools like ElRo, the kids all know. At schools like Stuy, the type of diploma is a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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A diploma with Stuy on it has real meaning. The rest of that stuff is BS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Just asked and my daughter laughed and said everyone at stuy gets the advanced regents diploma. Is that what you all are asking??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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I think it is one idiot asking. No one cares. I am certain your DD is a great kid, but regents of any type is a joke at Stuy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Exactly why my daughter laughed. I believe she finished regents her first or second year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Regents exams are a joke here, too (Westchester public). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Everyone doesn't. And some get advanced regents with honors (90+ on regents exams) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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OP: At stuy GPA is king. The new principal has turned up the heat even more. It is not for the faint of heart or very stressed kids or parents but crazy great education. Getting into college is MUCH harder coming out of stuy due to the competition. I often question the path but believe we would make the same choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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It's HIGH SCHOOL. Everyone needs to keep that in mind. It's only high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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I don't agree only HS. This is the time of development and in my mind as important, if not more so, then college. Many kids lose their way in HS. But if well equipped you will send them to college with far less worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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I can't imagine saying (or even thinking) high school is more important than college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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I agree with poster who said HS is more important. And I believe early grades are most important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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wow really? I think whether my kid goes to any top twenty colleges she would be fine but the kind of woman I sent off to college was what mattered. Try raising a teenager against the tide of a school. It is tough. I didn't have any issues since she had so many great kids to choose from and the family values were education and family first. I loved it and felt I did my umc child a huge favor pulling her out of entitled private school...despite her going to a school a few rankings lower then where she MIGHT have gotten in. We can agree to disagree. But remember, by college they are formed. HS can do a world of good or damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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You sound sane. So what are you doing on this board? I think people worry far too much about their kids. You can help and guide your child, no doubt, but shit happens, some good, some bad. I know millionaires who graduated from colleges never, ever mentioned on this board. Actually, happy millionaires. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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At our Westchester public, GC says transcript determines college list, test scores and ECS strengthen application. I know that DC has better college choices coming out of public than he would have at private he turned down, or at Stuy. And the education would have been better at private or Stuy. But the education is good at our public and the music program is much better than private and that was important to him. He's had incredible opportunities. Happy with our choice and the very short commute and local friends. Good luck to your Dd! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Are you happy with college choice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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My DS is going into 12th grade, so no college results yet. But I'm happy with the choices he will probably have given Naviance data and GC advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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So so. Not unhappy but she could have done much better coming out of any other school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Why would you send your kid to such a HS? If you know it will make it harder for DC to get into a good college, why? Better to graduate from less competitive school if chances are higher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Because we believe in living for today. There was no way of knowing who she would have become if we went a different route. Being amongst these peers kept her on the straight and narrow, had her form a life long passion for learning, made friends that will be her friends for life and will do great things, has incredible self confidence. We just didn't feel she would have gotten that amongst the entitled kids at her private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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It's the same as at any other academically rigorous school. The kids/parents know that they are competing for the same few spots at top colleges. Competition is stiff and kids are driven. You make it sound like Stuy invented all this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Kids would be advised that it is far more important to prep for SATs than regents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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I am certain the Asians know that. but I hope the blacks and Hispanics do too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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You should all know when in the school the kids aren't nearly as concerned with color as all of you are. My dad is white, umc. Her friends are white, black, Asian, Russian, Indian, etc. one of the great things about stuy. What they all have in common is they are involved, mostly type A kids all helping each other. I saw zero cut throat competition. The stress is from the parents and the principal (who I a, not a fan of). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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I am glad to hear that, and my comment was only meant as I hope kids, even without parents to guide them, know what to focus on. That was all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Stuy kids, in general, focus on EVERYTHING. They are not obsessed with any one thing. They like to do well all the time. My doc got straight A's her second semester senior year. I told her to chill. She said she was chill but still took pride. I found this to be the typical stuy kid. Even the ones that pretended to not care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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I hope they are not focused on type of diploma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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LOL!!!!! My dc is still laughing at that question. Her response "well that mom sure didn't go to stuy". I can say I have never heard discussion of regents. She went to private before stuy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Hi, I'm *that* mom - my dc will finish in 11th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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The typical Stuy kid does not get straight As. Maybe the top third is as obsessed as you describe, the rest get average grades and get into average colleges without stressing about it. Now as for you telling your "doc" to chill - whatever for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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I have to call foul. No one can claim diversity as a plus when discussing Stuy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Foul? I am lying? My daughter has a mix of all types and yes has black friends!!!!! Her best friends are going to Harvard. One black, one white, one Asian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Maybe you didn't notice that almost 75% of the school is Asian? Diversity indeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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What blacks and Hispanics? At Stuy? You must be joking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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np--It's unusual to be thrilled with a college counselor and have disappointing results. What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I said we were thrilled with her guidance counselor. The college counselor is lovely but it is a numbers game our doc had a 94 GPA with extraordinary extras. That is par for the course at stuy. She is white, umc and Jewish. That is tough coming out of stuy. She is going to a great college but certainly would have had more choices out of anywhere but stuy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I find it hard to believe that the average GPA at Stuy is 94. Furthermore white/Jewish is a minority at Stuy. Colleges being inundated with Asian applicants - should make things easier for you, not harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I see below that you switched from private, after how many years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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For ninth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Would you do it again considering poor college accept? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Do you have young DC? These days, college admissions are brutal. Colleges you've never heard of are hard to get into. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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She did not get a poor college accept!!!!! Just not the school she wanted but a school she is very happy with! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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I question this all the time. BUT if she had gone to a different high school who would she have become. She may have partied hard, gotten in with the wrong crowd, not had the same work ethic. I will put her up against anyone for a job interview. That is more important to me the whether she got ivy, u of c, or a wash u. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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You probably don't want to say where DC is going to college, but what are some similar schools, so we get the idea? Curious what you find disappointing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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This is an urban myth. Competition at Stuy is not any different than any other academically rigorous school. The top of the class compete for best colleges, the rest are average students that wind up at average colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Nope. None. Zero. Zilch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Why do you think it is so competitive compared to private? At my DS's K-8, the boys who go to Stuy couldn't get into any private school. If they couldn't get into Stuy or Bx Sci, they went to Bard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Our DC just graduated from Stuy. As I reflect, any questions. We came from Private, switched to stuy and now our dc is off to college. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Can you share which college ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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None. Couldn't care less. Get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. I hit snooze and almost missed my bus! What a mess. I have no makeup on. Haven't showered. I'm a mess. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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and you're posting on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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This. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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I'm on the bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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next time bring your makeup bag and apply on the bus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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I woke up at 8:29 for an 8:30 bus. Next time I will try harder. At least I was halfway packed the night before. I brought a toothbrush and deodorant. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Change your life. Shower at night. Stop wearing makeup. Simplify. Go to bed earlier and sleep longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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This is my first day off in a month and I'm traveling to see family. I did have trouble falling asleep last night though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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You're traveling to see family. Why would you bother with a shower and makeup anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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Haven't showered for two days. Have product in my hair. Maybe I'll go swimming and then shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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some of us actually like to be clean and look good when going out in public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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This. There could be men at the BBQ today. My uncle always brings guys from his office. And there will be a few celebs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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smh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Missing one shower does not mean you're not clean. And you don't need makeup to look good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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some of us do, nice of you to think we don't, but honestly I do look much better with makeup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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Such an edgy response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Op: this. My acne is gone but a little make up helps a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Next time make sure you set 3 alarms on an important travel day. I don't trust snooze. Do 6, 6:15 and 6:30. Iphone makes is super easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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I've never done this before. I'm just so exhausted. I will have to be extra careful in the future. I have six trips this month. Most hVe evening departures though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.04.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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