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[ - ] west coast moms: what do you think of only children? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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they are the same as any other number of children. DS is only child, he is sweet, bright and caring. I know of some kids with siblings who doesn't respect others or like to share. it all depends on parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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do you live on west coast? living in nyc, w/1 dc and plans to move out west for high school. a little worried about what it will be like to not have siblings in a place where people usually do have siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:20 AM Flag
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yes, living in east bay and loving it. I don't have much info on high schools but I can safely say people in this area are the most accepting. I think it is one of the best places to move as an outsider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:29 AM Flag
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^^ in DS's class there are at least 3 kids with no siblings. siblings are common here, yes, but only childs are not that uncommon either. also most siblings I know are not friends with each other once they are in middle school age. I'm sure your DC will be fine here, just make sure to spot a good high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:36 AM Flag
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Don't give a shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:29 AM Flag
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I grew up in Texas 40yrs ago and it was fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Good or codependent? Tonight was my ex-dh's birthday--his 40th. He had to work late and I had dd, but I know he basically has no one else in his life so...I used my copy of his house key to let myself and dd in after school, bought him a tiny cake and take out and did his dishes and took out the recycling. So he came home to a clean apartment with his kid, who he wasn't expecting to see, a cake, a gift--and also his ex-dw (me). He teared up and thanked me for being his family today. It felt like the right thing, but I'm also thinking it's not the normal thing to do... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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That is very nice - you are his family after all. No reason DD and you can't mark special occasions together as a family. if it bleeds into other areas, then it may be a prob. Curious - why did you guys split up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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op: we now acknowledge that we were never a good fit for each other, but what broke us was who he became when dd was 0-3. He was pretty much the worst partner imaginable without physically abusing us. He's done a lot of work on himself since I left and is a wonderful father now. He has a lot of regrets. I empathize with him and we spend a fair amount of time together for dd, but I wouldn't go back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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You have NO desire to go back, even though he is contrite now? Are you looking to get remarried again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:33 AM Flag
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op: If we ever paired up again it would be as platonic friend-roommates. Maybe if we end up old and alone we'll reunite. And I've been seeing someone seriously for the past 9 months and I can easily imagine a future with this guy (he's very supportive of me maintaining a friendship with my ex). I'm in no rush to remarry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:49 AM Flag
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op: we now acknowledge that we were never a good fit for each other, but what broke us was who he became when dd was 0-3. He was pretty much the worst partner imaginable without physically abusing us. He's done a lot of work on himself since I left and is a wonderful father now. He has a lot of regrets. I empathize with him and we spend a fair amount of time together for dd, but I wouldn't go back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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I think this is the sweetest thing I've read in a long time here. You are a good person. I'd worry less about appearing normal and spend that time patting myself on the back for showing my child how to be a loving, caring person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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Agree. You are showing DD how to conduct with dignity and love. So many families dissolve into such ugly messes in front of the kid. You are modeling wonderful behaviour for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:53 AM Flag
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+1000000 We don't know the circumstances of your divorce, but assuming he was not an abusive a-hole, it is wonderful that you are able to show your DD that you and her dad still care about each other. I think that you are a wonderful person and both your DH and DD are lucky to have you in their lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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op: thank you. dd was really thrilled to help me get the birthday ready and clearly didn't feel like what we were doing was weird (she's 5! why would it be weird?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:18 AM Flag
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I just teared up myself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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That is totally awesome and normal. After breaking up with my ex-bf of 8 years I was still his best friend and would go in apartment and leave him wine and his favorite cheeses. Eventually I set him up with a friend of a friend I felt was a great match and they are married now. They have dc now 6 months younger than ours and the 4 of us are best friends and hang out frequently. They are like family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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op: That gives me hope. I can see my ex is doing the work on himself and could be a good partner. Someday maybe... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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OR: That's great. It worked out so well for us and I have become closer to his wife than to him especially since it is more appropriate. We are invited to each other's family events even. There is no envy from anyone. It is so nice to still have someone in your life that you shared so much with and you obviously get along well or you would not have gotten together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:30 AM Flag
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aw maybe you should give him another chance! np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:36 AM Flag
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meant for op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:37 AM Flag
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good for everybody! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] I am so scared of being alone. I don't know what I would do if dh left me. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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That's why I maintain my friendships, have some money of my own. If DH left me, I wouldn't be exactly high and dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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I don't have any close friends and not scared of it. You can find friends who are not close any time anywhere. no need to be scared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.23.14, 04:19 AM Flag
[ - ] If 4 out of 5 people SUFFER from diarrhea…does that mean that 1 enjoys it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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LOL. probably. [ Reply | More ]
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