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[ - ] The nerve that runs from my butt to my left foot is blocked somewhere and I can nearly walk. Help me fix it! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Sounds like sciatica nerve. Need to see dr. Can get meds and do special exercises. Very painful, quite common. Also try hot showers, baths, exercise where you lay on your back and gently pull each knee toward your chest to release buttock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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Divorce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: A distinct hierarchy of vehicles around the neighborhood- those that have a train station parking tag hanging from their mirror, and those that don't. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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This is getting dumb and dumber. Some people commute and some don't. Some walk to station and some don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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+1. I think we have a failed MFA candidate on our hands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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You are cray cray. What do you get f the co limo picks you up each am. Or if you ride your bike to work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Are single dads and single moms on the same level of NOKD? If not, why? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Flagged and collapse [ Reply | More ]
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Why?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Not nice. Not nice at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My boyfriend is a wonderful, hard-working, honest, successful, loyal, sweet, man who loves me and I love him. But the deep intellectual connection just isn't the same as it was with my college boyfriend who is now a poet and drives a taxi on the side. I still love my ex bf in a way that I think I always will, but he just isn't father material. He also used to do a ton of drugs, so that's worrisome. Anyway things with my new boyfriend are going well and I think he will propose soon. My question is how normal is it to still fantasize about past guys and long for the things they gave you that your current boyfriend doesn't? I mean I know you can't get everything from one person, but I hate to go into a marriage feeling like that. Is that just something people learn to cope with over time? I know it's highly unlikely that I will find a successful poet to marry and have kids with. That kind of mental and creative stimulation just doesn't go along with the stability I seek in a long term partner and father of my future kids. But I can't help but fantasize about those long talks into the night about literature and human nature sometimes when my boyfriend is watching a football game. Advice? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Does your boyfriend give you oral? If so, how good is it? Does he last long enough in bed? Does he make you cum? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Listen sweetie. Marriage is for making babies. Have romance and sex until about 8 years before you want to pop out your first kid, then start looking for marriage material: honest, sweet, successful, loyal. Once you marry someone they will never be 100 percent everything you need. Then you start making tons of women friends for the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Hmm. That's a hard one. I got everything I wanted from one person and married him, but I am decidedly unstimulated by creative, drug taking artists. I agree that you can't marry that type of person, but I also don't think you can have a successful marriage to someone with whom you are compromising. It's not fair to your DH. To answer your other question, I only look back and thank god I never married any of my exes. Never fantasize. That would seriously bum me out if I had to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] So if your child was labeled as asperger's, what does it mean now? I KNOW ASD but what does that mean? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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My brother is an Aspie (as he says it) and is a sophomore in college. Not sure what you're asking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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It basically means they are awkward. Most boys with very high IQ above the second standard deviation are somewhere on the spectrum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Where do you get this? I work with plenty of aspies but very high IQ isn't part of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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They are going to be awkward and a little weird. But will largely be just like anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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They are just slightly weird & might not acheive as high as someone not aspie. It's not like they will be institutionalized or completely unemployable, if that is what you mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the hierarchies among Jews? Why do Ashkenazi Jews look down on Sephardic and Ethiopian Jews? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I'm of Ashkenazi descent and I haven't found this to be true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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LOL like Jews are so rare on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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^^meant for post below about Jewish mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Eh. I have seen it. There was a little bit of unrest in my family when my two cousins met their now-Dh's on kibbutz in Israel. Ultimately everything settled down but my great grandparents came over after the russian revolution and it was a big deal to them. The only awkward comparison I can make is how some African Americans feel about Africans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Or, more accurately maybe, european jews vs. middle eastern jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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used to have "jewish mom" who would do Q&A on here a long time ago... not sure if she is still around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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How do I find out which kind I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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If your ancestors where from Eastern Europe, you are ashkenazi. If there were from the middle east, you are sephardic. Most US Jews are ashkenazi. The number of Ethiopian Jews in the US is so tiny as to be effectively zero. You'll never meet one. As for the OP, the ashkenazi look down and the sepharidim and the sephardim look down on the ashkenazi. There's no clear hierarchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Sephardim can also be from the Mediterranean (I'm an Italian Jew) - not sure if you'd consider that Middle East. Also don't forget about the Persian/Syrian Jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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23and me. They give you the percentage of Ashkenzi DNA you have, if any. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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If your family is from Eastern Europe you are probably Ashkenazi. If from Spain/Italy/North Africa you are probably Sephardic. If you're Ethiopian you should just kind of know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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No real heirarchy today. But 100 years ago there was a firm pecking order in Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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What was the pecking order? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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The distinction had nothing to do with Sephardic vs Ashekenazi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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What was the distinction then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I find that there is hierarchy about who has been in the US longer - my family is a generation behind DH's and they look down their nose at us. We were also Bronx-based, and they were Brooklyn/Long Island. It's fascinating to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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There were two distinct groups of Ashkenazi Jews in Manhattan. There were Ashkenazi Jews who moved from Germany to New York. These Jews arrived earlier and were wealthier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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The other group of Ashkenazi Jews were Jews that moved from Eastern Europe to New York. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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The Ashenazi from Germany thought that the Ashkenazi from Eastern Europe were smelly, crass, pushy, and loud. In fact most of the "anti semetic" slurs that you can think of were really popularized by Germanic Jews in New York and used against their embarrassing uncouth Eastern European cousins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Why is there such a cultural difference between German Jews and Eastern European Jews? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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np. It was really about money and social class. The German jews were wealthier, better educated, professionals. The Eastern European jews were peddlers, farmers, didn't have money or education to speak of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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nnp: a lot of German Jews were merchants though too, my grandfather owned stores across the South in the 1800s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Ashkenazi are smarter. The Germanic influence brought more class and less flashiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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If you really want to get technical, there are FOUR types of Jews. Ashekenazis from Germany, Ashkenazis from Eastern Europe, Sephardics, and Mizrahi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Then you have the people who get up on their high horse about being a "Cohen." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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When the first temple was destroyed exactly 2,600 years ago, most Jews relocated to Baghdad. The Jews that decided to stay in Baghdad for the next two thousand years or so are the Mizrahi. Mizrahi Jews never lived in Europe... Genetically they mixed a little with their Arab neighbors. Mizrahi Jews are thus genetically close to Arabs while Ashkenazi Jews are genetically close to white Christian Europeans. Is this now clear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Speaking about "NOKD," I think all single moms are quietly labeled that among TT parent couples. I know it's true at my kids' TT. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Csb [ Reply | More ]
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Translate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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BHF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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What about single dads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Totally NOT TRUE for single dads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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The OP is telling the truth, but it is so painful to discuss that I don't think it is appropriate to discuss here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Everything else is discussed. Why not this? And I can think of MANY MANY more painful things. I think most TT "couples" look down on single moms, not publicly but when it comes to invitations to going out to dinner, home get togethers, summer homes, etc. Just that no one will admit it out loud. A genuine case of where actions speak louder than words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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yes you are honest, but too painful to discuss here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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I think they make an exception for widows. So if DH dies and that is why you are single, you are still accepted at the TT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I was just going to say that I'm a widow and haven't experienced any kind of exclusion at my DCs TT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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You are honest and I am sorry for your loss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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That is true everywhere above the poverty level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Oh, please. One of the most blue-blooded mothers I know is a single parent at a tt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] How is it for non-ICT students to be placed in ICT classes, like at PS87? Is the pace slower than other classes? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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It's great for everyone b/c there is a better teacher/student ratio. It's not about a slower pace. 60% of the kids are gen ed so it has to maintain same curriculum. It's more about breaking up into smaller groups which is good for a lot of learning styles and also that 2 teachers can be more engaging than one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do therapists make a year? Say someone with a Ph.D and 20 years experience. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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80-100k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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That's it??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Favorite shampoo/conditioner brands? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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I like the thickening shampoo from Jason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Moroccon Oil Conditioner. Love. [ Reply | More ]
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Not the oil, the cream in a blue jar. [ Reply | More ]
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Natures gate mom here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Those of you who married for money and love but put money as the highest factor: how did it turn out for you? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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I married for love but money was definitely very important to me (I would never say that in real life though). Married 12 years and couldn't be happier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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That is a silly question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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It is crass to "marry for money" It is smart to socialize exclusively with wealthy single men and then marry for love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Great book that answers your question http://www.amazon.com/Smart-Girls-Marry-Money-Dream-And/dp/B002T450GO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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No woman marries for money; they are all clever enough, before marrying a millionaire, to fall in love with him first. (Cesare Pavese) [ Reply | More ]
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I couldn't marry anyone I didn't love. I couldn't love anyone who couldn't keep his head above water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Who here has actually heard someone say "Not our kind, dear" in real life? I think all of you using it on UB are phonies who think this makes you seem wealthy and upper class. It doesn't. It just makes you sound like a tool. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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My mother told me I was "NOKD" when I told her I wanted to apply for a DAR scholarship in high school. We're Jewish. LOL, that's the only time I've ever heard it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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You I like! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Well, it is a generational thing. Many of our parents grew up in a society that excluded Jews. In fact it was more complicated. WASPY people excluded German Jews from the Waspy clubs. The German Jews felt shitty and then set up their own clubs. Later the Eastern European Jews asked to be admitted and the German Jews excluded the Eastern European Jews from their clubs. [ Reply | More ]
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So a wasp could call a German Jew NOKD and exclude her from the wasp club. Then the German Jew would call an Eastern European Jew NOKD and exclude her from the German Jewish clubs. [ Reply | More ]
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^OR: this wasn't me, I just wanted to be a part of the DAR. [ Reply | More ]
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The DAR were a cool group in my town. [ Reply | More ]
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Hahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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I would never use those WORDS in real life, but sure that statement is one that does come up in real life. It is a subtle way of explaining why you did not invite someone to a party [ Reply | More ]
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Similarly, the Kennedys would call other Irish people NOKD if they were not as rich as the Kennedys. The issue for the Kennedys was $$$, not class or breeding. [ Reply | More ]
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My Kennebunkport college friend's mother used to use the acronym NOKD in the 1990s. But only to her daughter, who would laugh and then tell me about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so stressed at work. I want to worry about schools and red shirting vs my work. I hate my life 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ha, that was my post. What makes you think I'm not working? Work sucks, it's more fun to "stress" over that stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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I wish I had the capacity to stress over real life stuff. This was not meant as anything against your post. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, I hear you. Was just trying to make you smile. We all go through these periods, it will pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Are gift cards lame for teacher holiday gifts? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I give gift cards every year. I figure they have got to be better than yet another coffee mug or hand lotion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. Better than the shopworn mugs and jurassic bath products many buy at TJ Maxx or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
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not lame at all, it's what teachers want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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OP again. Thanks for the replies. Are specific stores good (Starbucks, B&N, etc.) or just Amex general cards? I feel funny giving an Amex or whatever one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I am in the burbs, so I tend to give Target cards. I assume everyone can find something to buy there, even if it's just toiletries and household stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Ultimately, you're giving cash even if it's a Starbucks card. You're just restricting where teaching can spend the cash you give if you don't give a Visa or Amex card. Only you can decide whether that's good or bad or doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I do Amazon cards. Many people have Prime, so it's very useful and easy to redeem. You can also have them delivered by email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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I do a Nordstrom card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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i do itunes, starbucks, B&N, etc. switch it up each year depending where i am and how quickly i can pick one up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Any veterinarian recommendations on the Upper West Side? There seem to be many highly rated practices with similar pricing, so was wondering if anyone here has a specific one they like. Thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I used Symphony vet (96th st) for my dog and loved them. [ Reply | More ]
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Lincoln sq vet was good the three yrs we used them. We had young & healthy pets though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone on my Facebook feed sells skincare products. The spammy attempts at viral marketing by her & colleagues is so OTT. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Rodan? [ Reply | More ]
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Amy? [ Reply | More ]
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Jodi? [ Reply | More ]
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Op: ha! None of the above but I'm glad to hear I'm not alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Rodan and fields though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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it is a total pyramid scheme - wondering how long before it implodes or gets taken down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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I have a couple of people in my feed who do this, too. Clumsy and annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I try to be patient, calm, and tolerant but my mother drives me nuts. She talks about people I do not know - how much their houses cost, how much money they have, this one was rude to her or this one is crazy. She is bipolar, anxious, depressed, etc. She flips out if I don't agree with her about something. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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always agree, smile and nod. and swear you will never be like her even if it is inevitable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Thanks, you're right. When I try to help her become less negative, she gets defensive. No point trying to disagree with her or question her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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