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[ - ] DS is extremely fair skinned and got mildly sub-burned this weekend even with sunscreen on. I need him to wear a hat all the time. Any good suggestions for a 3 year old boy hat? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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REI / EMS always seem to have cute bucket-style hats for kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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I got a Lightning McQueen hat for my 3 yo DS at Target. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where can I buy a kidkraft kitchen that I can pick up today either in or around the city? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Maybe call toysrus in times square and see if they have one in stock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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OP - tried and no luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I wish I had my SILs life. So jealous of her. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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What does she have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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I wish I had Kate Middleton's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Ugh, not me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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not me. Imagine having to stand around and smile all the time while your every move is photographed and scrutinized. I feel sorry for famous people honestly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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No way. Imagine ALWAYS having to put on a happy face for millions of people, even if you're fighting with DH, having a miscarriage, a shitty day, etc etc. Imagine being restricted from just being who you really are. Give me real life any day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Leaving NYC tonight and even though both DH and I are ready, I feel really sad all of the sudden. I kind of want to stay but I know that move is the right opportunity. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Where are you moving too? Natural to have mixed feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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London. I know ppl would kill to be able to do this but we've been here for 13 yrs. our whole "adult" lives, got married here. I'm pg too so I'm sure that doesn't help with emotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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I am envious. I love NYC, but would move to London in a heartbeat. Think of it as a new chapter in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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dont look back op! I wish we could find a way to leave! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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You are doing the right thing. You can always come back and visit. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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+1 The great thing about nyc is that it's not going anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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Is the move permanent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Lost the tournament, eh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Once you get to London and settle in ,you will feel much better.GL for an exciting time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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On the bright side, the taxes are actually lower in London than they are in NYC if you're in a high income bracket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 47yo and really need suggestions for places to buy casual clothing that doesn't make me look like I am trying to squeeze into my HS clothes, but also don't make me look like Palm Springs retirement community is just around the corner. I am 5'8, 159lbs. Admittedly considered fat, so be kind.. and TIA. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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5'8 and 159lbs is not fat. You may need some confidence first before you buy clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP: good point about confidence. working on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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Op you aren't fat at all and clothing looks very good on your height. Tell us a little more about yourself and your lifestyle and what you like to wear and I can help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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OP: favorite casual style is: very preppy/bright/slightly tomboy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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I have luck with JJill for casual clothing. Their yoga pants are flattering and not too dowdy (but not too "sexy-teen" either). I like their jeans with some stretch, easier to chase kids and sit on rug! Good sales too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Your BMI is 24 which is in the normal range. I like J. Crew, Ann Taylor, Gap, New York Company, Club Monaco, Banana Republic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Saks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] No engagement ring, no wedding and still happily married 9 years later. Any questions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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I'm 33. He's 34. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs - assuming your DH works, how do you each contribute to monthly household expenses (housing, food, utilities)? Do you account for differences in salary (i.e. DH earns 290k with bonus, you earn 180K - no bonus) or do you each contribute a set amount from paycheck? 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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I am currently a sham. When I was working we just deposit it all into a shared account. No keeping score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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does that mean your entire paycheck went into the joint account? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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there's a freudian typo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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HA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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+ 1 mil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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No it's my autocorrect. It always put in sham. I've given up trying to correct it. I think it's funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Just have to say, Ily for having a sense of humor about this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Finally, you admit it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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All in one. We've moved a couple of times and for reasons associated with the move (overseas and back) have switched accounts and at various times had checks deposited into the same account v different account but all accounts have now been joint for several years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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It's all marital money in one pot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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NP: Exactly this. Why wouldn't you do this, OP?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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we contribute equally to all expenses. The remainder goes to joint savings/investment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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I will never understand this question. All the income goes into one joint account. All the bills are paid from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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my DH and I like to have our own checking accounts. What is wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Usually is a bad deal for a mother because most women take a hit to their career when they have children. Hope you're not doing laundry and cooking for this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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Separate checking doesn't mean she loses rights. Just means she doesn't have to ask him about every little thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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So why not use a marital pot and then give discretionary funds to each person to use as they wish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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So if you have a shared marital account, you also ideally don't need to "ask" your husband to be allowed to spend money. If your husband is a controlling type like that, then I guess I understand why you want your own account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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This. And I wouldn't be doing housework for that sort of guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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Someone has to balance the checkbook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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This, even for underwear, jezz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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But why would she have to ask him in the first place? That's what we're saying. This need for separate implies that there would need to be a request for permission in the absence of a separate account so this is really just advanced permission with a cap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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+1 some leeches here want to have the feeling they "earned" the $ also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Huh? Sum of us "leeches" are WOHMs that earn the same as her spouse and find this odd. Not wrong but unnecessarily convoluted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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It's not inherently wrong but if it results in the need to account to each other either for expenses or for what portion of the paycheck is contributed to the family pot and not reserved for personal use, it seems unnecessary and more cumbersome than the other way around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Everything goes in a joint account. We each get a $200/paycheck "allowance". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I never understood this. Aren't you both adults? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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I never understood this. Aren't you both adults? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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Yes, of course - that money is just our individual play money that we can do whatever we want with. We like to separate it so that it doesn't factor into our monthly budget for anything that we pay with joint money (work clothes/shoes, trips, etc.) - the last thing I bought with mine was a new sewing machine, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Hm, as long as it works for you. We don't have "hard and fast rule" and spend based on what we find reasonable. We are on the same page and very close so there are things I wouldn't just go and buy, $3000 purse for example, without chatting with DH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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We have a shared bank account so we don't really keep track of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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We have a shared bank account so we don't really keep track of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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I am a sahm, but pay half the expenses. We just settle up in a sort of approximate way (big items like rent, utilities, etc.) every 4-5 months or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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This seems so strange to me. Either you are married or you are roommates (splitting bills etc.) Why do you do it this way? Do one of you have a trust fund (i.e. family money) or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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We've been doing it this way for 15 years and it works for us. When we went to have our will done, the lawyer thought this was great because he said he would have advised us to do this if we hadn't in the first place. If you live paycheck to paycheck, of course you should combine everything. Otherwise, it is good for each person to have assets and established credit individually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Having a joint account has nothing to do with having credit individually. Why did your lawyer think separate checking accounts/ bill paying was great? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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I pay time warner, t-mobile, con-ed. He pays mortgage/maintenance. He makes significantly more than me. We don't keep track of who pays for food, child expenses, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Why don't you have a combined account? His choice or yours? And doesn't this still feel like you are in college living with roommates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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It's a shared-linked account. So it's kind of combined I guess. It's really not about the money, it's more about who takes responsibility for paying which bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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I make more, so DH grabs a couple of bills every now and then and pays them. Otherwise, I handle everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Why don't you want to have a joint account? Seems when one earns more than the other, having separate accounts sets up a power differential (i.e. "I pay more bills than you", etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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It's not about wanting a joint account or not. It's just not how we do it. To the extent a power differential exists, it would be there whether all money is going into one account or two, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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np. What's the point? Why would a joint account matter? Who cares which account it comes out of as long as there is enough money to pay it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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We each contribute 100% of our salary to a joint checking account from which all expenses are paid, including cash for daily usage. Our spending habits are similar enough that there's no discord between a spendthrift partner and a tightwad partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Upon death or divorce it's all marital money anyway. Doesn't matter what you call it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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This. I wonder if a lot of these couples with separate checking accounts have prenups as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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DH and I have our own personal checking accounts, in addition to a joint one. No prenup and of course we know it's all the same pot. We just prefer to have our "own" money to spend however we wish, and buy presents for each other, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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That's true, but it means the opposite of what you are reading into it. It doesn't matter if you keep separate or joint accounts. You seem to think that bank accounts say something about a person's marriage, but it really doesn't. It reveals something about income level, but that's about all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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I don't even see what is says about income level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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It's direct deposit in one account for both of us and all bills are paid from that account. My paycheck typically covers childcare and bills where his covers mortgage and maintenance but that has more to do with the timing of our pay cycles at our jobs and when bills are due than salary. FWIW DH does make more than me but we don't keep track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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DH and I contribute towards a joint account prorata to what we make. The rest of the money goes into our personal accounts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Why do you do it this way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Why not? I posted above. We like having our own personal accounts to spend however I wish, so we don't fight over spending (not that either of us engage in wasteful spending). When I buy him a present, it's really from me, etc. If he really wanted to goto Starbucks twice a day, that's his business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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^I mean, we're talking about 90% of our paychecks going into joint and 10% for "ourselves." It's really no big. Just spending money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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It all goes into one account. Whoever gets to the bill first pays it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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We each have a checking account but share credit card. I pay some expenses, my husband some but all is shared and I earn more than my husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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We used to keep it separate but I paid bills out of DH's account and nanny/school out of my account. Now we dump it into a single account. I thought I'd hate it but I don't and it's much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Are pottery barn kids bunk beds (the type that have only a slat base for use without a box spring) comfortable? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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we have this type of twin bed (no bunk) from them and it is comfortable! had it 8 yrs and still great! [ Reply | More ]
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] In the future top schools will have affirmative action or diverse applicant pools. Lesser schools will be non-diverse. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Are you talking about high schools? Colleges? It all depends on how you judge "top" and "lesser" actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP: sorry, I meant colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Depends on what your definition of diverse is. The US isn't going to be majority white in the near future. This generation and the next are entering into more interracial marriages. Demographics in college are going to change for both the top and bottom schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Best facials for the over 35 crowd in NYC? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Glycolic, micro current , led. Repeat every six weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I know Mormons are supposed to have at least 5 kids, but I don't understand why 5 is the magic number for them. Can someone explain? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Something about souls in heaven waiting to be born [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Worked a summer in a heavily Mormon area in the rural West - 8 seemed to be the number there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I grew up in the Mormon church (in Utah, no less) and have never heard anything about being supposed to have five kids. Large families are encouraged,and some of my relatives think that birth control is sinful, though this is not an official Church position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Imagine what Dalton's college exmissions stats will look like once Affirmative Action is scrapped for socioeconomic preferences...Operation Babby will crash and burn. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.23.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Babby will retire immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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I doubt affirmative action will change for top schools, and I doubt many Dalton kids go to U of Mich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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oh, i get it now. tx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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That's too bad. University of Michigan is a great school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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OR -- didn't mean it like that, but it is only one school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Highly doubt that. Tide is changing--read NYT article today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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The NYT is on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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Link please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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The ruling had to do with state universities. Nothing will change at private k-12 schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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you must have gone to Dalton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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I think you are missing the meta analysis--most experts say AA as we know it will disappear in the next 10 years in favor of economic consideration. All those rich kids of color Babby drools over will be SOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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