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[ - ] Interviewing nannies. One I interviewed said she doesn't like babies and is only looking for a job with older kids. Is this a concern as my youngest just turned 2 years old. The next runner up never worked with more than 1 kid and I have 3. When I asked her if this was a concern she said it doesn't matter how many. It seems she is underestimating the complexity of the dynamic between kids. Are both of these candidates out? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Why don't you just ask the first one if she is comfortable with a 2yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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I did. She said yes. Am worried that she forgot what 2 yo can be like. Still pretty little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Yes!! Organizational skills are key. It's hard with three kids. And what nanny doesn't like babies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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That is what I think. I think I need to keep looking. I can't find anyone 1/2 good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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How can you be a nanny and not like babies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] i think i've been blacklisted socially. no one has been outrightly nasty, but our family hasn't been asked to do anything socially in months. i can't think of a real reason why this is happening. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Are you having a birthday party for your four year old? If not, you should get together with that poster; you'd have a lot in common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Have you invited anyone? To anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] To those who have received their Hunter scores yet - how long did it take to receive it after dc took the test? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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We don't have ours back. Will be four weeks on Friday. When #1 was tested (with same tester), we received score in mail four weeks to the day after testing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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Thanks. Wow, what takes them so long I wonder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Having my iud taken out today ! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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ttc? Congrats. Curious? Which iud did you have and any side effects? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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No, not trying to conceive. I had a copper one, I had 2 week long periods every 2 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Leah? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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No Luke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever been so demoralized looking for a house/apartment that you just gave up? I'm ready to throw in the towel. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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Yes. Every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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sounds like budget and what you are looking at are not in line [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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No - we're looking under-budget (well under budget) Stuff keeps going wrong and we are not picky, believe me. I am not very good at managing expectations and am just tired of the ups and downs. I just wonder if people just give up for a while. I'm ready to just hand it over to my husband and say "let me know when you need me to sign a contract - I don't want to know anything before then." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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you might find it easier if you increased your budget then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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yes, and i never did and am so glad now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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Why? Did your life change or was it market related? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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couldn't find the "perfect" house. but we've moved so much since, i can't imagine trying to sell in the US with the high broker fees. we're renting for the foreseeable future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Almost. I would come home in tears after seeing what was out there. Worked out in the end but it was a horrific process and so stressful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Yes, pregnant with #1 and want to be all moved in by Christmas. Very tough process. Not in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Lost my wallet (huge PITA) and need a new one. Any suggestions for a nice leather wallet that doesn't have obvious logos? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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We can't even pick out our own wallets anymore? wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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always liked bosca [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
[ - ] TT philanthropic organizations? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] SAHMs who've had affairs... what are the most common ways these happen? Seems like SAHMs don't naturally run into a lot of men in the course of their days (other than the poolboy of course). 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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My pool boy isn't at all attractive. Like something off Jersey Shore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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At the gym, duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:18 PM Flag
[ - ] So last weekend I decided to walk from my suburban house to the pretty busy downtown the next town over. It took me about 30 minutes at a normal pace. How does that compare to those of you in the City? Are you regularly walking 30 minutes from one place to another? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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yes, 30 minute walk is about 30 blocks which is not an unreasonable walk in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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A normal suburban pace, or a normal city pace? When my friends come in from the suburbs, I feel like I have RLS because they walk about 40% slower than is comfortable to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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Some people walk like they have no place to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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I call that welfare speed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Yes - all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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we have 15 min walk to subway on UES. Also 20 min walk each way to get 6 yr old DC to/from public school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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I probably walk an hour each day - dog, school, to/from subway, up/down stairs in train station, around the office, errands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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DH and I enjoy taking a 4-6 mile walk on Sunday mornings. Older DDs are asleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Pretty much. Probably 4 to 6, 10-15 minute walks most days but plenty of days with hour long walks too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] So if I weigh 29 lbs after lunch with clothes on at dr office, how much do I actually weigh ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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27lbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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weight ain't nothin but a number [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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You're one advanced baby; early acceptance to Brick is in your future! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts as to how to open a write up on why I should be promoted? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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GIVE IT TO ME BECAUSE I DESERVE IT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Ah just completely lost it with my nanny. She has one kid until the second one gets from school at 3:30. Once the second one gets home, the younger one starts to act up. They both scream non stop. I work from home. When I with them they don't act this way because I immediately address it. I have no idea what the nanny is doing when the kids are screaming but she the screaming goes on indefinitely. Just came out and yelled at the younger dd for screaming and told the nanny to please control them. Is that unreasonable to expect?! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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The kids are looking for your attention. They know you are home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Are these your children who are acting up or the nanny's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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Part of her job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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This. Why would you think this is unreasonable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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i would not be a nanny for a wohm. it isn't that it is unreasonable to expect, it is just that they know you are there and that is so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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This was my final straw in tipping me to the fire our nanny. So glad I did it. Basically she was just inciting my son...he would act up, she would yell at him, it was never-ending...I pulled her aside and said "What are you doing??? he's a kid!!" and fired her within the month. Thank G-d!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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OP: I guess I understand that she is limited in what she can do because it's not like she can yell at them or spank them, but still why can't she address the screaming as soon as it starts. They are not screaming to get my attention because they are used to me always working from home. I just feel like the nanny does not feel like dealing with it and ignores it until I can't take it anymore and come out, at that point I am an animal myself from wrath ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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My nanny is exactly like this. Just ignores them until there is blood or pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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how old are they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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you need a new nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you have a chef? How often do they come to your home? What do they prepare? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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Yes, once a week, pb&j [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say I have a chef but I do have someone come to my home and prepare three meals on Monday during the day. We are vegan she does a lot of casseroles and soups that can easily be reheated and served with a green salad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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How much do you pay her? Does she buy the groceries as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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$150 plus the cost of food. She shops and cleans the kitchen when she is finished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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How did you find her? Does she have a website you can post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Me. I'm the chef. I come to my home 6-7 days/week and make supper. (DH does it once in a while.) I make whatever I have time to make, and on weekends actually enjoy cooking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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I have a housekeeper/nanny. She cleans and cooks for 5 hours a day and takes care of kids for 3 hours. She is a great cook. Not the best cleaner but is excellent with kids. I know this doesn't answer your question but I think many regular people can cook amazing meals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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How is it possible to cook and clean five hours a day? Do you have a large apt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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she also does laundry and she cooks for a family of 5. She cooks soup for after kids come home from school and dinner for the whole family. I expect that cooking takes her roughly and hour the rest of the time she does laundry and cleaning. I am sure she isn't overloaded but it is better than what most people do which is just keeping ft nanny and having her do light housekeeping only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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my employer does - full time. She shops each morning and gets to the house around 11 a.m., makes sure lunch is done and then works on dinner. leaves between 2 - 4 p.m. depending on what she is making or if there is entertaining, etc. going on - will stay and do dinner a la minute when guests are expected [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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what do you expect chef to cook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Trolling but true: skinny white women look great young but after they age quickly and horribly. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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agree somewhat. really beautiful women do keep something but once youth is gone a lot of women look terrible. not just white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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So true. How the mighty fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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A lot of them get fat as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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Meanwhile fat women of all races never have a period of time where they look great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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I think Asian and Latina women age well compared to other races. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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+1 as long as they stay out of the sun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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you forgot black women. there is truth to the adage that "black doesn't crack". Women of color/melanin tend to get fewer wrinkles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Asian maybe but Latinas tend to be the worst aging ethnicity. About 2% of Latinas age unbelievably well and are just gorgeous, the rest age worse than any other group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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It's somewhat true, but they still look better than overweight people. Color has nothing to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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no, white women wrinkle and sag super fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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If that's what you need to tell yourself so you can eat shake shack for dinner (again). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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Never eat anything after 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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Okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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After 40, you have to choose between your ass or your face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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white skin that is northern european tends to be thinner and ages poorly, same is true for those w very chiseled features (wasps). that combination is the worst. darker skin and asian skin ages better, as do those with more fat in their faces. i have a good friend in her late 40s who is super skinny and she pulls it off bc she has a full face, so she gets the skinny body without a detriment to her face. i have another friend, who is just 40, skinny but not nearly AS skinny, but she has very chiseled bone structure and that english skin and she looks 10 years older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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