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[ - ] Tarot mom here. I will do a few readings if anyone is interested. I'm trying a new format now, past-present-future readings using the full deck. Please be patient with me! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:25 AM Flag
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Try me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:25 AM Flag
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Please post your question! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:27 AM Flag
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Will I ever get my wish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:31 AM Flag
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Should I stay in this marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:26 AM Flag
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I asked the cards, what would be the result of you staying in this marriage? Your pass car shows that you have been a period of relative tranquility, perhaps a truce In the conflict that's making you want to leave. Your present card I think you are going to vindicated for some wrong previously done to you. Your future card is the ten of cups, representing prosperity and happiness. Based on these cards, it looks like staying would results and a happy outcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:33 AM Flag
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Will my life ever permanently improve? Feel free to be honest and say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:27 AM Flag
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What will the next six months bring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:28 AM Flag
[ - ] UB moderator is back, it seems! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:24 AM Flag
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What difference does it make? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:27 AM Flag
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All that nonsensical spam is gone as well as the posts/responses that consist of just racial/sexual slurs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:32 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know where I can get Kinder Surprise Eggs in NYC or NJ? TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:23 AM Flag
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Love those! But don't know where to get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:25 AM Flag
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Amazon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Favorite things to do with teens in San Francisco? Also looking for restaurant recommendations! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:23 AM Flag
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Luella in Russian Hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:23 AM Flag
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Alcatraz is fun (make reservations early). What do they like? If they are outdoorsy rent bikes and ride to the bridge, or hike angel island or lands end, or kayak/SUP in Sausalito. Lots of shopping areas if that's what they like --union square for upscale, or Fillmore, Mission a bit more interesting, golden gate park has the academy of science with the earthquake shack. Exploratorium is good for that age too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:29 AM Flag
[ - ] My husband introduced me to a college friend of his and he husband about 20 years ago. Nice people but the woman always complains about money being short. Two years ago, she and dc (teen) went on a trip to East Asia. More recently, daughter (in high school) is planning to go to the middle east over the summer and the trip will cost close to 10 grand. Mom has hinted that her fb friends should send money to help with expenses. She's done it more than once and now has sent out a letter asking for contributions. I'm astonished. Thoughts? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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just ignore the request. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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that's what my husband says but I feel a little strange about ignoring. It's obviously important to her but, I don't know. I'm staying away from fb for a while. It is very crazy on there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Are ambitious moms crowd sourcing for their kids now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:09 AM Flag
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Gah the nerve! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:15 AM Flag
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unfollow her posts on fb. she won't show up in your news feed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Do tween/teen girls like Bath and Body Works? Thinking of getting some Christmas scent sets for a friend's daughter. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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sephora [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:58 AM Flag
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I wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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the 90s called. Go to lush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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she probably dug it out of her closet where it's been since the 90's and is regifting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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Are you an adult? I can't imagine an adult woman speaking this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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why not? and yes i am an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:20 AM Flag
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It's all crappy chemical scents. Hate that place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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you're not an 11 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:09 AM Flag
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When dd uses that hand sanitizer in the subway the whole car wrinkles their noses. It's smell pollution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:30 AM Flag
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The 10 & 11 yos I know are obsessed with BBW stuff....especially the lotions and hand sanitizers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:05 AM Flag
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this is correct. They love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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If your friend's DD's are spoilt Manhattan monsters, then yes go to Sephora or Lush and spend $38.00 dollars on lotion for a 12 year old. If they are normal, non-jaded tween girls, go to BBW grab a bunch of brightly packaged, chemically scented lotions and they will think it's great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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this^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:08 AM Flag
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this. but my 12 yo manhattan dd absolutely loves BBW stuff especially the hand sanitizers and mini lotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:21 AM Flag
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well, it's the thought that counts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:21 AM Flag
[ - ] If the weather is about 65-70 where we are going should we pack jackets? Thx 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 AM Flag
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Yes. At night it will be cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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yes, that is chilly unless you are in direct sun and there is no wind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Posted earlier about my depressive/aggressive DH. He came back home safely. Within 5 minutes he was cursing at me again, I stupidly engaged and we got into a fight about how he treats me. The guy hates me and himself and the only reason he hasn't killed himself yet is the DCs. I don't know how much longer I can or should live with a ticking time-bomb (he says repeatedly that he will be dead within 5 years, tops). I would like to help him but cannot. Anyone btdt? I could use some light in this hell is darkness. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:45 AM Flag
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^^^ hellish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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You need a 3rd party (therapist) in your marriage. This is a mental illness. Marriages with mental illness cant survive without some kind of doctor or therapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 AM Flag
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We have his psychiatrist and a marriage counselor. He has been hospitalized for depression and is very resistant to going back. He always couches his suicide talk as "I'm not doing anything tonight, but I want to die." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 AM Flag
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So don't engage with him. People who are truly suicidal don't talk about it, they do. Right now he gets some emotional payoff at your expense. This sounds cold, but walk away. You can't stop someone from killing themselves but you can stop being their emotional punching bag. Signed sister of someone who uses suicide threats as an attention method. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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Thanks. It's so hard not to want to help the person who is somewhere hidden deep in the illness, but then be turns on me and is so nasty. For a long time I didn't engage, but I think I'm so worn down I don't have the ability any more. Will try again, though. Sorry about your sister. Thanks for the good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:02 AM Flag
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OR: Good luck. Walking away is super hard in the beginning but then it's one of the most freeing experiences EVER. I love my sister but I can't be dragged down anymore by her emotional issues. I have the correct boundaries with her. It's her life to screw up and to throw away the people that tried and loved her. She doesn't use suicide as often anymore because we all stopped paying attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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Thanks. Breaks my heart because of the kids (and a lot of other reasons) but you are right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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OR: I'm sorry. I understand how hard it is to walk away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:16 AM Flag
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Good luck. I am dating a guy now who divorced his wife for similar reasons. He divorced her to protect his daughters because she was a danger to the whole family. From what I see everyone is thriving. This is tough. Take one day at a time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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Thank your. Is the ex-wife thriving as well? I'm at the point of thinking dh might do better if he were forced to care for himself, or at least didn't have to interact with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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From what I can see the ex wife (who lost custody) spends one night with them a week and everyone seems happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:05 AM Flag
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^^^I mean I am sure she did not envision her life to end up that way but it is what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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Thanks. Not what anyone imagines for their life, I'm sure. Not to go off-topic, but did your bf have trouble dealing with your normal ups & downs. I'm worried that I'm damaged for any future relationship after a decade of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:12 AM Flag
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I cant answer your question specifically but I can tell you this: my ex dh left me for another woman and it damaged me for nearly a decade. But I survived and dont hate men anymore. I am actively dating and loving life. You will get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:16 AM Flag
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Thank you. Glad that you are so happy now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else watch My 600 Pound Life on tlc? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:42 AM Flag
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Sometimes. It's hard to turn away. I'm heavy (real world heavy, not UB heavy) and I use them as a cautionary tale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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See my post below about flattening my abs. Hope it helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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You must have lost weight too, in addition to just flattening abs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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Yes I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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:) congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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Well, I may try it. Is this a 'diet' I can look up, or is what you described all there is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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Just look up the term "intermittent fasting" or "lean gains" or "the 8 hour diet" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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yes, it's really shocking to see their bodies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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What I don't understand is why their loved ones (mother, sister, husband) keeps bringing them non stop mcdonalds and crap. These ladies are immobile. They cannot go out to get food. Why doesn't their family bring them anything at all that is healthier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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Co dependent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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to me, it actually seems abusive and cruel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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They're terrified that the person won't love them anymore or need them if he or she gets fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:09 AM Flag
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interesting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:22 AM Flag
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I'm no expert, but that's what it looks like to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:26 AM Flag
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I can tolerate a whole lot of reality tv, but this I cannot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:09 AM Flag
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why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:22 AM Flag
[ - ] What is going to happen in NYC now? Do you think things will calm down 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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We need to purge the city of republicans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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And billionaires. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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Thank you moderator! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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Talking to yourself again ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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yes it will calm down because people are good.. and New Yorkers are great... especially in a crisis. Watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] What are ur favorite things to do with kids in Scottsdale and Tucson? Planning a vacation with dh and 10 yr old ds. Thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Pool time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:38 AM Flag
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visit grandma? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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Just thinking of any nice places or restaurants to go to? Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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In Tucson I would check out the Pima Air and Space museum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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Dream of my trip back to the airport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:21 AM Flag
[ - ] I have insomnia. I was able to flatten my abs in 3 months. Any questions? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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General Topics 12.22.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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How you were able to do it in 3 month ? Did you lose weight ? How fit were you before you started? How old are you ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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Age 41. Was a size 16. Now a size 10. I did it by eating in an 8 hour window only every other day. On alternate days I ate meals every 5 hours (no snacking between meals). I exercised for 10 min a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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What were you eating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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Food. I did not change my diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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^^still have about 2 months to go for washboard. Right now my profile is moderately flat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:12 AM Flag
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Did you flatten them in the middle of the night? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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What did you use to flatten them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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A paperweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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What do you do if you are not eating at night? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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Nothing. If I was hungry at night I ate but rarely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Are the standards of living in London lower than that of NYC? I just can't see that to be true. I've seen SO MANY articles about people disappointed when moving to the UK from the US because of the lower standards of living but I'm guessing those aren't people from NYC moving to London. But I don't know... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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How is the standard of living lower here than in London? Any links to the articles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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I'm sorry, I meant the standard of living in London is lower than US [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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Wow. Is London really that bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:28 AM Flag
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That's what I can't imagine. I'm just reading some discussion boards here so who knows, maybe these people are coming from a 4,000 sq ft house in the middle of a suburb to London... I can see how they would think that the standards of living might be different. But I can't believe that there's a big discrepancy between SOL in NYC to London [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:32 AM Flag
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I think it's different, not lower. The houses are smaller, the rooms are smaller, the heat and a/c don't work so well. People don't get their hair blown out constantly, there isn't a mani pedi place on every corner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:33 AM Flag
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This sounds right. It's an old city with old buildings and people don't expect everything to be perfectly smooth and convenient all the time. I could see how to so lame this would seem like lower sol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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People are more stand-offish and colder in London. Not welcoming to Americans at all. It can be really hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:02 AM Flag
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It's just incredibly expensive in London. It's not that the standard of living is lower, but you can't have the same lifestyle on a given salary in London that you can in NY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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It's very different in Ldn than NYC. Water pressure is lower, drinking water is hard, the air is damp, many flats are carpeted, good food costs considerably more...I lived in London for 10 years and loved it though! I prefer the people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I miss my ex so much. I am a bad person. I hurt him a lot. I wish someone would find me and shoot me because I am such a bad person. I really hurt my ex. I don't deserve to live. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I hope he is okay now that he is away from me. I think I really deserve to get hurt and die for everything I did to him. Please somebody find me and kill me. 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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Call a friend. Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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No friends. They were all his friends. So he got them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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Call a family member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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No family. He was the only family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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Call a suicide hotline and start seeing a therapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:24 AM Flag
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No need. I deserve my punishment. It's only fair. Thanks for caring though. Good night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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General Topics 12.22.14, 04:33 AM Flag
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Please call for help. We care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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Thanks. It's very nice of you to say. There's nobody to call. And anyway I brought this on myself with my bad and uncaring behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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No. There are far worse people out there. Call a suicide hotline. Your ex wouldn't want this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:38 AM Flag
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No, I really hurt him. I was a very bad person. I just can't figure out how to be good. And in a lot of ways, I doubt that he wants me to live. His actions have made it pretty clear that he couldn't care less whether I lived or died. I think it would come as a relief to him if I was to die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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No. It's emotion calling, and it WILL pass. There is true evil out there, this is not it. It is clear that you two were not meant for each other, despite the signs that you were. I am not a trained therapist, but I've seen many, many things that tell me yours will get better. Please talk to a professional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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How do you know I was not evil? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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There is true evil out there. Just read the papers, watch the news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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I sincerely doubt that. why are you beating yourself up? I've been hurt badly by two people--no part of me wishes they would hurt themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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He just didn't like me and found me very irritating and annoying. I know. Who can blame him? I know I was just a burden to him and he really resented that he was my only family. If I died, he would feel relief that he would never have to feel any obligation towards me any more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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I can blame him? Why was he so easily annoyed? Why didn't he wrap you in the warm embrace of his affection? You haven't found the one for you yet, that's all. Keep looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 AM Flag
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He gave me affection early on. Then he got sick and tired of me. He made it really clear that I really drove him crazy and he didn't want to be with me. And he was staying with me purely out of guilt because I have no other family. I guess I never thought of him as easily annoyed before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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So he's fickle or flakey--that's on him. The right guy will return your affection enthusiastically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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I never thought of him that way before. I guess I always thought he was the good guy and I was the bad one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:05 AM Flag
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Then he wasn't the right one for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 AM Flag
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Maybe I'm not the right one for anybody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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Isn't that the name of a country song? It should be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 AM Flag
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Okay nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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So turn it around - you don't need to be with someone to have a fulfilling life. Travel, volunteer, go work in Sierra Leone, build houses with Habitat for Humanity. Do something physical to take you out of your own head. Do one of these things and you will absolutely be doing good and it doesn't matter why you are doing them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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It will get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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No one deserves to die, please get help.1(800)784-2433 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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I guess you do if you treat someone very poorly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:42 AM Flag
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Sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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you sound like a narcissist. he probably doesn't even think about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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He doesn't. I know I'm completely insignificant to him at this point. And I know I'm completely insignificant in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:44 AM Flag
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Aren't we all? It will look different soon. I've been there--this is only temporary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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I dunno. It's just hard to live knowing that I have been so cruel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 AM Flag
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People have found redemption in far worse situations. Not hopeless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:53 AM Flag
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This and someone who needs to be the center of attention. If you truly feel sorry, you would QUIETLY get your shit together. Loud self lamination is the exact opposite of really getting your bad behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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eh to each her own. OP is having a bad moment. We all do sometimes, well at least I have and many of my friends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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Okay sorry. But in my defense, I did say right at the beginning that I am an awful person and that is why I want to die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 AM Flag
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OR: Oh FFS. I have done some pretty shitty things in my life. I have seen rock bottom. I can relate to the no family thing. I don't have a family and sometimes feel that is the only reason my DH is with me but my issues are 95% of the time MY OWN making. I could take the easy way out in suicide or I can sit down deal with my crap and try to live a better life. The second option is freaking hard but it is what is. Life isn't fair and waiting for the easy solution doesn't solve anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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Okay, you are obviously better than me. I am glad for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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OR: No one is better than anyone else. Stop having a pity party for yourself and get yourself help. If you truly feel suicide, call a hotline. Drag your ass to a therapist. Wallowing in your sorrow doesn't fix anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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All your advice indicates that you are better than me. I am happy to acknowledge your superiority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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OR: Oh please, reading comprehension. I stated that I have done some shitty things in my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:18 AM Flag
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Yes, and you are still better than I am. Even your reading comprehension is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:21 AM Flag
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That's not helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:33 AM Flag
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I am in a similar spiral tonight, different circumstances. Let's find a book to read and distract ourselves for an hour. By then, we'll be out of the spiral. We can do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:44 AM Flag
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I don't feel like I'm in a spiral. I just genuinely know that I would be happy to just be shot and killed and end all this torture once and for all. But I'm happy to help you in any way I can. I think Vonnegut or Dickens would be good options for you to read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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But you won't always feel this way. You're talking about a permanent solution to a temporary problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 AM Flag
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It's not a temporary problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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I have to deal with the consequences of being a bad person for the rest of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:58 AM Flag
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What consequences? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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This. All this stuff that I feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 AM Flag
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You think these feelings are permanent? No way. I promise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:32 AM Flag
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What about Little Women? That's a soothing book... The women make mistakes, repent, try to be better... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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No thanks. I hope you enjoy it though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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OR: I was thinking some Rand (super distracting and polarizing). I really wish the best for you, and I'll just say that time helps everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:53 AM Flag
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You need professional help. ASAP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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This, from, above -- So turn it around - you don't need to be with someone to have a fulfilling life. Travel, volunteer, go work in Sierra Leone, build houses with Habitat for Humanity. Do something physical to take you out of your own head. Do one of these things and you will absolutely be doing good and it doesn't matter why you are doing them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:02 AM Flag
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What'd you do to him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are in the middle of moving our family (a 7 year old dd and twin 4 year old ds)from uptown to downtown. My in-laws really want us to come visit them for Christmas so we told them we'd make the 4 hour trip even though we're very busy. But now they announce that they're going to the house of their other ds' girlfriend's parents' home on Christmas eve and our kids are not welcome. So we'll be hanging around alone that night. In my opinion, it is what it is, but dh thinks they're being rude leaving us alone that night when we're coming all the way to visit them and the other couple lives so close which means they can see them anytime. It's always something. Thoughts? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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They sound really rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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I agree with DH. I wouldn't make the trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 AM Flag
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Dh is right. Don't go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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Don't go. You will have a totally relaxing, stress free holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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Geez. Rude rude rude. Cancel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:24 AM Flag
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Very rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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I'm all for preserving family harmony but I wouldn't go under these circumstances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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I'll take the other side. Is it possible that this meeting with their DS's girlfriends parents is the pre-engagement meet up? If so, it may have been unexpected and kids would change the agenda tremendously. I would talk to them and see why things changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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Pre-engagement meet up?? This is not a high priority. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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Yes it is. That's a big deal, when the parents meet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:05 AM Flag
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This because important in laws are more important and not a slight to you. Could be a no go KWIM ? Your DH should know better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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I meant potential in laws. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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? What does this mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have an idea on how spring market will be? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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for real estate you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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Yes, Manhattan and Brooklyn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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Let me get my crystal ball. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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Let us know what it says! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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If interest rates continue to stay low (which they are supposed to), I don't see why they would go down, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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True. Do you think DeBlasio will F-up the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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For rich people, no. For the middle class/public school maybe, but it will take longer for people to move out, it certainly won't happen by spring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:14 AM Flag
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You really think people will begin to move out? The city doesn't feel the same anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Jesus, you sound like a pussy. Move to Scarsdale already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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if the schools are not good, the middle class will move out. That's what happened in the 1960s and 70s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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So who will be left then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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Good, I grew up in the 80's and 90's and it will be nice to get rid of all these mchipsters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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Yeah,times are different now,dear. It will never be like that again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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That is why I pray for a crime wave. A few riots and back to normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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Wtf? A crime wave in this decade would cause way more destruction/damage than in the F'ing 80's! Be careful what you wish for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:28 AM Flag
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It would bring real estate prices down! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:31 AM Flag
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Hmmm, no. But you sound a little frightened yourself. Touch a nerve? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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Frightened by what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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You're own bitter ass self. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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No, I'm just hoping all these fakers leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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New York (manhattan anyway) has always been a city of arrivistes. Many of the most famous New Yorkers were born and raised somewhere else. Like Andy Warhol and Mayor Bloomberg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell or Don't Tell: My ex-boyfriend has a sexual perversion. He "sexts" with many women, collects the photos from these online conquests, is a compulsive masturbator and all around pervy guy. I dated him for about 6 months and broke it off when I discovered the behaviors for the second time (yes I know I'm stupid but I wanted to believe him when he said he'd stop the first time). This guy is a grade A creep, he figured out how to set up his Facebook page so that to all our mutual friends it said he was in a relationship and to everyone else (i.e. multiple women he was sexting) it didn't show the relationship status. He was/is an Anthony Weiner level guy. He has stayed in touch with me on and off and asks me for advice from time to time. He told me that he is now in a serious longterm relationship with a woman who is quitting her job and moving cross country to be with him. He admitted to me that he has been cheating on her (if you count sexting and exchanging nude photos with women) the whole time they have been together. She also caught him early on and he promised he'd stop, but of course hasn't. I told him that if he really loves her, he needs to tell her before she moves all the way across the country to be humiliated. At some point it will come out bc the dummy has hooked up with/fooled around with/sexted half of the women in this small community from college aged through middle age! When I told him he needs to be honest with her he said "but then she'll break up with me" I repeated several times that if he really loves her he would be honest with her and not betray her on this level. He hasn't told her and she is moving there this week. I have ZERO sympathy for this guy, but he obviously has a serious mental problem plus his extreme narcissism and this is a compulsion he can't stop on his own. So, I know this girls name and could probably figure out how to email her anonymously or something but should I? I sort of want to prevent her from making this huge terrible mistake and I also do not want him to keep getting away with this, but at the same time, I know this really isn't my place. What would you do? To tell or not to tell? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.22.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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I would MYOB and stop talking to this asshead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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this - why in the world would you continue to talk to him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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I would definitely tell her. Why not let someone made from your mistakes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] I am going to give 2 week notice in January, I know my boss wold like me to stay a little longer. Would it be acceptable to say ill give 4 weeks notice if the last 2 can be working from home? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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Keep it to 2 weeks. He won't believe the 2 weeks wfh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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Why not? I am connected to work from home and I do have stuff to get done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 AM Flag
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you don't have stuff to get done if you don't work there any more. make a clean break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:26 AM Flag
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Its a good idea in theory, but he knows you won't work those last 2. There is no point in offering it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:45 AM Flag
[ - ] What's the deal with tribute pics? Would you consider that porn? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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^i haven't seen them. Just read the definition on urban dictionary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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Sounds completely made up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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Did you read the def? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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Yes. It sounds like some made up bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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Ugggh I opened the twitter pages on google. It is real. Women put pictures of themselves with signs to tribute them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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This is what happens when you fuck up your DDs. Be warned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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An A+ for creativity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Fuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:33 AM Flag
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OMG, thanks for posting this. Incredible. Truth is stranger than fiction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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Ha. You're welcome but I only know from DH's phone. :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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That is more disturbing than porn. Ew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:31 AM Flag
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Is there a way of reporting obscene twitter accounts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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What is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:33 AM Flag
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