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[ - ] I am 46 years old and have missed my period for 4 months. I feel pregnant. I am bloated and feel movement in my stomach. My veins are showing on my stomach. Went to the gynecologist and had negative urine and blood test and sonogram. He said it's perimenopause. I don't believe him not sure what to do. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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what does pee test say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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LOL. Then you need more help you can get on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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It's perimenopause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:15 AM Flag
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I'd think a sonogram would prove it. I assume you don't have ovarian cysts. Maybe it's perimenopause then. Why is that unusual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:15 AM Flag
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Welcome to my world, if you're not pregnant. That's about the time it started for me. I'm 52 and didn't have a period for 7 months...thought it was then end, then bam, it came again. So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:16 AM Flag
[ - ] How much do you think the Brooklyn and Manhattan worlds overlap? I.e. You live in Manhattan and go to Brooklyn X times, know X people, and vice versa. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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Depends on your age too of course. Many friends have post college grad kids who now live in Brooklyn so they are out there all the time. And that generation lives in both Manhattan and Brooklyn (and Queens for that matter) so they are visiting each other often. And of course HS kids have friends in both boroughs - and it's hipper to shop or eat in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I am in a country where it is difficult to get a GP. The average citizen relies on walk in clinics (I have sat for 3 hours and not been seen, and walk in clinics are not good for ongoing conditions). For 3 years DH asked his GP. Today his GP offered to see me as a new patient. This would be great, but that GP is the GP for my DH and his XW, so I worry about confidentiality and conflict of interest. W W Y D? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:07 AM Flag
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This doesn't make sense. You are worried the doctor will relay your medical info to the exwife? Against the law in the United States, and I can't comment on other countries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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Yes I am worried that the doctor or the staff will relay my information to the ex wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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We all like our privacy, but in your case it sounds like the alternative is poor healthcare. Do they publish privacy policies where you are? I think I'd take the chance, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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Just se the doctor. It's not a soap opera. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] If we're going to rename all the things ever connected to confederates, white people pre-1970, etc can we also rename all the Malcolm X schools? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:05 AM Flag
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^Because he was also a racist, in case that wasn't clear. [ Reply | More ]
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?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:08 AM Flag
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You seem really confused. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:16 AM Flag
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X? What have you got against X? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:07 AM Flag
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And who did Malcolm X subjugate? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are some signs of impending labor? Having lots of cramps but no contractions. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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Basically feel like shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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How far along? I had cramping that wouldn't stop. If you have the same, all your OB!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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for me intense back pain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Anywhere in Manhattan where I can donate old cell phones (e.g. flip phones), cameras, and chargers, or is this all electronic garbage at this point? They all work. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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Whole foods has a bin for old phones. Not sure about cameras. Maybe goodwill or housing works, if they still work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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Does Wholefoods on Columbus have such a bin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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I think the Zoo system has kiosyks where you can drop them off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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make sure they are wiped clean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:01 AM Flag
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I don't know how to do it, but they are old enough to not have any credit card information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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Digital camera? My kid would LOVE. Are you in manhattan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:04 AM Flag
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OP: Yes - I guess I could put them on Craigs List in the free give away department. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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Or leave it with your doorman and I'll have dh come pick up tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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In principle fine - but I have no doorman - and I am not posting my address on UB - but look out at Craig's list. I'll probably give it away there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help me respond to my sister! Txt from her at midnight: are u working from home? If so lets have b-fast. Me in AM: sorry have to go into the office. Her #1: I want to stop by to see kids and visit all of you over the weekend. When is a good time. Her #2 Would love to get a response from you so that I can schedule my plans around your availability; Me:I had a very busy day at work. I didn't even look at my phone. Tomorrow is best. Her: Please tell me what time. I have now booked from 11am - 5pm since I didn't hear from you 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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sounds like me and my sister. Does she stay home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:57 AM Flag
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What do you mean "stay home"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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"Ok - dinner at 6. We'll order in. Bedtime is 8. See you soon!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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Sounds like she can come over for breakfast to visit you and kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:59 AM Flag
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ITA. Sounds like she really wants to come see you and is trying to workaround your schedule. Maybe she has something to share? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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Pick a day and time for her to come over? Not hard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:59 AM Flag
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This. Wtf? Are you new to this planet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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She wants to see the kids! That's nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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"come join us for brunch" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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You seem low functioning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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OP: I should have clarified that 1. She lives a block away 2. She usually visits for 20-30 minutes 3. This may not be obvious but she is clearly pissed off that I didn't reply to her sooner even though all her msgs where during work hours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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Her texts were perfectly reasonable. What was she supposed to do? Not make plans for the weekend at all, waiting for you to respond with a window? You read too much into it. Have a glass of red wine and put yourself in the calm-down-chair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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I don't think 20 minute visit requires "reservations" and is worth this aggravating back and forth. She could have said" ok, how about X time on Saturday". Do I really need to know that she is now "booked" because I dated to not reply to her texts while in work meetings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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Just give her a time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't quite see the big deal about the SA video. She is obviously performing somewhat, but she is trying to convey real dissatisfaction with the kids so there is actually some motivation for them to get their **** together. I'm west coast but isn't SA a school for economically disadvantaged kids who often fall through the cracks because they lack discipline? If this school is producing good results and no one is actually being abused, I don't really see the problem. I wouldn't send my kids there, but for some it may be a good fit. The generation before me, our parents went to strict Catholic schools where they actually got slapped with the ruler, etc, and in some ways worse discipline than this video shows. Not that anyone is saying we should go back to that, but those schools did turn out a lot of disciplined kids. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:52 AM Flag
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My dc attends SA. We are white UMC but we are an international family and we feel this is the best fit for our family. We are more strict with our kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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Wtf is wrong with you? There's a difference between strict and mean. This teacher was just mean. And disadvantaged kids don't fall through the cracks because they lack discipline. They fall through the cracks because of poverty, crime, uneducated parents and systemic racism. You can produce disciplined children without being an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Are you competitive about your kids? I haven't been on here in a long time and reading all the comments about schools -- it just seems like people naively buy into this system -- very competitive about their child's school and genuinely believing if they get into the name school their child will suceeed/do something amazing with their life. It seems very wrong headed to me. Also, I feel like my child's accomplishments are very separate from me and I can stand back and admire them but they aren't tied up so much in my ego. What do you think? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:48 AM Flag
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I am not competitive and find the whole thing silly. My bar is very low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:49 AM Flag
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No. I was an introvert growing up but my parents encouraged creativity and that it was okay to not be in the race. Have done well in life and feel that home life probaby contributes more to a kid's ultimate success than what other people think. There's a certain confidence that needs to be instilled at the most basic level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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I wish I could implement what you're describing. Intellectually, I agree. But I find it hard not to get swept up in the competition--especially if you want private or specialized public schools. Competition seems to go with the territory, from admissions to school/EC/sport success and then to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:04 AM Flag
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^^If you have any secrets to not getting sucked into the B.S., I would welcome it. Seriously. I've been thinking about it lately because of the school stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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A lot of very insecure parents on UB. It's hard not to become insecure when everyone around you is constantly comparing, but that's why we moved out of NYC. DH and I could handle it, but we worried about our dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:08 AM Flag
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Same, I posted below. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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No of course not. But I did want dc to get into the best school for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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I was , and then we moved. I just want my sweet little kids to be happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Someone I know did a cross-Russia road-trip last summer, from Helsinki all the way to the North Korean border. He said they were expecting all kinds of trouble, but that the roads were actually in decent shape most of the way, and it was surprisingly smooth. But with the economic crisis and deferred maintenance, would a 2016 Russian road-trip be more of an adventure? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:47 AM Flag
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wow that sounds interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:48 AM Flag
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They stopped by many of Russia's major cities along the way and even had some cross-promotion going with their blog and a Russian search engine company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:52 AM Flag
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Sounds lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:49 AM Flag
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they didn't try to ride the transcontinental? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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or participate in the mongolian horse race in July? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:59 AM Flag
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Does your friend speak Russian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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Not really, but they had a "team" of four people, two of whom were Russians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:05 AM Flag
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Team? [ Reply | More ]
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Now I see why they had no problems. I suppose if I was traveling with 4 people taking care of me I wouldn't either. Hahahaha [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds good. Did they go by car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Have we discussed the non-story that the NYT has been writing about regarding the black Princeton prof. who got arrested and now claims she was mistreated due to race? Can someone explain to me what the issue is? They released the video of the arrest. The cops were extremely polite and followed normal protocol. There was a warrant for her arrest due to her failing to pay a parking ticket resulting in a suspended license. WTF does she expect? It seems like she's embarrassed, trying to save face, etc. Not worth the press at all. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:36 AM Flag
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Agreed. I didn't read the story but DH, a Princeton grad, related it to me in the exact same terms you did. Makes her look bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:43 AM Flag
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OP. What's most funny to me is that after she tells the cops that she works at Princeton (they asked her where she works b/c they wanted to know if she had been in a hurry to get somewhere - because she was speeding), they immediately started walking on eggshells and explaining everything that they were about to do as politely and clearly as possible - b/c they knew that she was a "respectable", powerful person capable of retaliating against mistreatment...yet she's now claiming just the opposite - that they mistreated her due to race. Except there was no mistreatment. They handcuffed you because you broke the law! Get used to it. They did not abuse their power at all. Bothers me that the Times would even be reporting on something so silly and inconsequential. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:52 AM Flag
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^And let me add that I very, very rarely take the side of the police when it comes to these types of stories. I fully understand that police brutality is real and that many cops do discriminate based on race. That's exactly why this is so frustrating - she does not deserve this type of coverage/sympathy. And with Twitter, she's able to start the media frenzy herself just by firing off a few stupid tweets. Ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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ITA. This woman needs to chill out. She was doing 67 mph in a 45 mph zone with a suspended license. The police treated her very courteously. She does a real disservice to the cause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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Exactly. She's making herself look clueless. I was reading through the article waiting for the part where the cop assaults her...or detains her for 48 hrs...or at least makes the obligatory racist comment...etc. And, nothing. Quite the contrary - pretty much exemplary conduct on the part of the cops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:01 AM Flag
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Don't think it's been discussed. I read it and my reaction was that it was like hundreds of stories I feel like I read in the early-mid 90's when suing for discrimination was becoming a big thing. It didn't seem particularly notable, yeah. She got some tickets and happened to be black. So what? It's not like the Skip Gates incident, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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What was her grievance, exactly? I didn't understand. That she was punished and they didn't realize she worked at Princeton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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OP. Right - I don't understand what her issue was. She kept going on about how terribly she was mistreated - I guess because they didn't let her text someone until she got to the station (Um, there is a warrant for your arrest, lady. You can call someone when you get to the station.) and then when she got to the station, I think they cuffed one of her hands to the table - again, you're under arrest...what do you expect? And actually, they were aware that she worked at Princeton even before they scanned her license. They had asked her if she was in a rush, and she said she was going to work, and then they asked her where & she told them Princeton. That's why, I think, they treated her so courteously. Which is what makes this all so ironic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Kid friendly meals that don't require use of cutlery? Preferably not condiments. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:32 AM Flag
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Ack! I meant DO REQUIRE cutlery, and DON'T require condiments. Please excuse my end of week menu planning exhaustion typos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:33 AM Flag
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Pizza [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:33 AM Flag
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OP I can think of tons of examples that are finger foods: pizza, burgers, sandwiches, sloppy joes, grilled cheese, chicken fingers, nachos, tacos, burritos, wraps, pitas, ribs... I am trying to find ways to get them to use utensils like chicken breast (but they usually want condiments), fish fillets (ditto), steak (they don't like, but DH loves) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:35 AM Flag
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Why do you have a problem with condiments? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:36 AM Flag
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Dipping. Everyone loves dipping. Even the Japanese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:45 AM Flag
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The best sushi restaurants do not permit dipping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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Well EXCUSE ME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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Not everyone loves dipping. Some chefs consider it offensive. [ Reply | More ]
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Ta ta ta. [ Reply | More ]
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No Soup for you ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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WTH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:41 AM Flag
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They eat what you eat. It's food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:34 AM Flag
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OP In my dreams [ Reply | More ]
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If they don't, 99% on you [ Reply | More ]
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I disagree. Especially if dealing with a hostile X and/or SC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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This. Unless you're serving like foamy sea urchin vindaloo or something, they can handle it. [ Reply | More ]
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Please elaborate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:35 AM Flag
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Any type of pasta? [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:38 AM Flag
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lasagna. mashed potatos. mac and cheese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:38 AM Flag
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All require cutlery, LOL [ Reply | More ]
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she corrected herself below the post. she meant that use cutlery. [ Reply | More ]
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OP thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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burger hotdogs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:40 AM Flag
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Tortellinis, olives, chicken fingers (either meat or veggie based), antipasta salad. [ Reply | More ]
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This is such a weird question. You want meals that require the use of a knife, but no mustard? Weird! What's your motive, OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:44 AM Flag
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No knife, no fork and no mustard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:47 AM Flag
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Now I am totally confused. You corrected your original post to say, "DO REQUIRE cutlery." So, now you don't want a knife? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:51 AM Flag
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Knife, fork, no ketchup [ Reply | More ]
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Chicken and fries. [ Reply | More ]
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i need to understand what your damage is with condiments?! please tell us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:48 AM Flag
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What is your definition of "condiment?" It varies by culture. [ Reply | More ]
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On this board? Ketchup, mayo, tartar sauce, gravy, "brown" sauce... [ Reply | More ]
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Okie doke. [ Reply | More ]
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What's wrong with condiments? If your kids want kechup on everything, so be it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:16 AM Flag
[ - ] In five years would you expect the market to be higher than it is right now? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:31 AM Flag
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The odds are in favor but no guarantee. Nasdaq went over 5000 at the top of the dot com boom but didn't reach that level again until last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:38 AM Flag
[ - ] DH loves long dresses. But I am 5'4". Any finds for long dresses for my body type? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:28 AM Flag
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I looked extensively in December, but found nothing. I'm the same height. If you find something, let me know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:31 AM Flag
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Do a search for midi dresses. I'm the same height and they work for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:34 AM Flag
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When I first read this, I thought you meant he liked to wear them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:36 AM Flag
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forever 21. seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:41 AM Flag
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Buy petit size. I'm 5'3" and I get them at Macy's. [ Reply | More ]
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Amish?p [ Reply | More ]
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OP no, and I don't want to look Amish either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:53 AM Flag
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What exactly does he mean when you say "long dresses". [ Reply | More ]
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He doesn't want me showing off my worldly gifts. [ Reply | More ]
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Troll. [ Reply | More ]
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Nordstrom's and Talbots petite department. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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Bloomingdales actually has a nice selection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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This is what Bruce said to Kris. *hint, hint* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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Do a high/low dress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm trying not to be a fuddy duddy, but almost 14 yo dd is going on a beach vacation with a friend and wants to wear a bikini--and I'm not talking about tankini. I've never let her wear a two-piece in public before. It covers the butt, but it's still well below the belly button. Part of me says to pick my battles, the other part of me feels like it's too sexy for 14. 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:18 AM Flag
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Hate to say this but you are being a bit of a fuddy duddy. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, America is the land of sex tv hamburgers and racecars [ Reply | More ]
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what is a sex tv hamburger how do i find this!? [ Reply | More ]
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secret item at In & Out Burger. google [ Reply | More ]
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That's right around when my DD switched to a bikini. I say, "let her enjoy the years when she effortlessly looks good in one." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:21 AM Flag
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That's the problem. She looks too good. When did this happen?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:24 AM Flag
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You're being a fuddy duddy. Let her wear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:22 AM Flag
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Sorry to say this is the norm....Sofl mom. [ Reply | More ]
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What is sofl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:53 AM Flag
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SoFL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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If your daughter is going to be a Ho, she'll be a Ho whatever she's wearing. She'll just take it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:23 AM Flag
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I'm not worried that she'll be a ho, I'm worried that she'll get the idea that it works to lead with sex(y). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:25 AM Flag
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Works for what? [ Reply | More ]
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For anything--jobs, men, attention, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:27 AM Flag
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The bikini alone isn't going to do that. She can wear one and you can still teach her that so don't get carried away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:38 AM Flag
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You will never be able to prevent that. The world is the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:26 AM Flag
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It does work to lead with sexy. I have 2 Ivy League degrees and I get my best reviews at work when I wear a pencil skirt and heels. Duh, welcome to reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:51 AM Flag
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14 is about the age when you let them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:27 AM Flag
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When I was 14 I was unaware of my amazing body, but the world at large wasn't. I am thankful when I look back on photos that I am wearing a whole suit (thank you parents!). I swam all day, nearly everyday. I was a lifeguard later (also a whole suit). I don't remember any bikini conversation as an issue with my parents. I don't know your dynamic with your DD, but I hope you two can have a similar dynamic. The girls that wore bikinis at 14? At our high school reunion you met they had more regrets in life than I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:31 AM Flag
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That six extras inches of fabric changes lives! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:34 AM Flag
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All from a bikini? I was very innocent in high school and I wore a bikini. It did not affect my life choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:35 AM Flag
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Whole suit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:36 AM Flag
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+1. What a bizarre expression. I think she means one piece. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:43 AM Flag
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Maybe ESL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:50 AM Flag
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I agree that it's a state of mind. Wearing a one-piece means you're having fun or swimming without being self-conscious about losing the top or having without being focused on having all the boys looking at you. However, I think that attitude can be achieved regardless of the suit. I would still argue that 14 is too young to be wearing a bikini. And yes I would be a fuddy duddy but so what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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I've been telling my 6yo that she can wear a bikini when she has breasts. I assume your 14yo has developed at least somewhat at this point so going with my own guidelines I'd say fine. I think I wore my first around that age too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:35 AM Flag
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You tell your 6yo that? That is very odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:37 AM Flag
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Yes, I tell her once nightly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:43 AM Flag
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She swims every week and sees lots of girls wearing bikinis. I don't let her have one (she has some tankinis for ease of going to the bathroom etc), but she asks about them. Instead of giving her a non-answer I came up with "she can have one when she has the appropriate anatomy for a bikini". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:44 AM Flag
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Why do you think bikini = breasts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:50 AM Flag
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^^^and why would you teach a 6 yo that. So weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:51 AM Flag
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DP I agree :/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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A bikini is essentially a bra top. One wears a bra to support ones breasts. And my 6yo has a basic understanding that an adult woman's body is different from a 6yo girls. She knows that when she is older she will develop breasts. It seemed like a simple, non-arbitrary rationale for not letting her wear a bikini at this age, and making her wait until it is more appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:59 AM Flag
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So she swims topless then? Or swims naked until she has pubic hair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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You don't see a difference?? She has actually swum wearing just bottoms but not for swim lessons. She wears a one piece or tankini for those. There is no reason for a 6yo to wear a bikini. At 14 there is slightly more of a reason (and parents should decide based on their child's maturity whether they are comfortable with them wearing them). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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A one-piece, tankini and a bikini all cover the genitals and the breasts or nipples. The differences is whether the stomach is also covered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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NP - A bikini is essentially a bra. A 6yo doesn't need a bra. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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DP My DH's DD is 10 (soon to be 11) and swims at the house with just bottoms or panties on. IMHO that is incredibly inappropriate. Especially when her brothers and their friends are older than her. I know UB hates SM, so I just STFU, but WTH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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What is DP? I've never seen it used before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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At 10-11 it's time to stop that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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Back off. It is perfectly fine for your 14YO to wear a bikini. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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Seriously? I am as old as dirt on UB (56) and I was wearing very tiny bikinis since the beginning of time (no longer). Have we just turned the clock back to Victorian times? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:15 AM Flag
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Seriously - you are all such prudes. My DD has been wearing a mix of bikinis, tankinis and one-piece swimsuits since she was five or so. Who ares about a girl showing off some belly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you encourage a dc who wanted to pursue public relations as a career? It doesn't really scream job security to me. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:04 AM Flag
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Since I think Artificial Intelligence will progress, I can't name a career that will be secure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:08 AM Flag
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AI trainer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:31 AM Flag
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That too, can be automated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:35 AM Flag
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Why not? PR is a booming field. I know several that own their own companies. Need good writing skills, people skills, savvy. It def. has job security since all companies use them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:11 AM Flag
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This. It is a job that will not be easily automated, esp if she can get into a niche like crisis management. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:04 AM Flag
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versus what? a job they hate and want to quit in a few years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:18 AM Flag
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My friend just went back to her or career after being a sahm for 8 years. She first went to an agency for a couple years is now head of pr for an amazing company. It's a great career option if you are good at it, and she transitioned back in pretty well after being away almost a decade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:19 AM Flag
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I was also head of or and marketing for my company so hoping for a similar transition. I think one nice thing about or and marketing being so female dominated is the ability to transition back into it after being away for awhile. Unlike finance and law where it's more dog eat dog or other male dominated careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:21 AM Flag
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You don't learn PR abilities, you can only strengthen them...either you have them or not. If you can see dc as managing information between an organization and the public, advise dc to major in History, Political Science, Literature or similar, that will allow him/her to address fundamental questions analysis about the nature, lair motif, and value of communications in a broadly comparative context. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:19 AM Flag
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questions & analysis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:20 AM Flag
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Or agencies expect you to be able to write a decent press release as a junior staff member. You need to take a journalism or communications class to learn this style of writing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:23 AM Flag
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Any liberal arts major will teach you to think, write and communicate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:47 AM Flag
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All the women I see in PR are good looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:21 AM Flag
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Generally are attractive like sales, but you still need to be good at it to last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 01:24 AM Flag
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It's not my kind of field. IMO it's all women and the ones I've worked with have been young, vapid, silly women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.13.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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