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[ - ] my boyfriend and I were on a young feeling camping trip for three days that he's gone on annually for five years. it was my first. he has a loud personality and voice. we were walking around saying goodbye to the various cabins. I was next to him and he kept walking to the front do cabins and yelling "hey! I'm leaving!" then people would come out and say bye. as the newer person I would then say hey leaving too and hug them after they were finished all swarming him work hugs. In my opinion and experience, if two people are departing together, whether they are dating or not- and especially in the circumstance that he is well known in this group and I am new- he should have said "hey we're leaving." i find it completely individualistic and rude. am I totally off base? we ended up having a big fight about it. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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maybe he thought you would be staying ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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ha. cute reply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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You should have corrected him at the time or let it go. Bringing it up later and causing a fight is a bad move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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it happened so quickly- the five cabins, one after the other- I brought it up as soon as we walked away. he said "I was just trying to say goodbye to people" and felt criticized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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No, I'd say, "I'm leaving," since they don't really know my bf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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ok- even if he just spent 3 days with them and had said "this feels like being a new kid at summer camp" to you earlier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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You're not going to find anyone who agrees with your decision to get mad and cause a huge fight over this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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It sounds like you kind of felt like an outsider on this whole trip- everyone knew him already, he sounds like he has a big personality, etc.- and this was sort of the last little straw that broke the camel's back when you were already feeling kind of insecure all weekend. I'd apologize to him for making a big deal out of nothing (because it's really just semantics- it's nothing.) and explain that you were just feeling a little insecure with everyone knowing and loving him and you being kind of the new person. And then drop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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This isn't enough to fight over. But I understand where you're coming from. Some people have no concept of solidarity. IA that correcting him then and there would have been best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok. UB test. I just came back from Spain and I saw an ad for Cetonas de Frambuesa. Who knows what this is?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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rasberry ketones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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They're everywhere. those bastards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been in my apartment for 5 years and suddenly I'm seeing cockroaches in the bathroom and kitchen. I saw really tiny ones last night and am ready to go to extremes to get rid of them all. I bought a box of bombs but am now afraid to use them after reading all of the warnings. I have a 6 yo DC. Are those things safe? What precautions should I use? Is there any other way to eradicate them? TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Many years ago, I used "Combat" discs. Worked very well. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Yes, just use a lot of the, at once [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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My landlord sent an exterminator. That helped and we all lived to tell about it. He left some little cardboard traps around after putting some fluid around the affected areas. Every kid in NY would be ill if this was a big problem. Roaches happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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One of the dirty nasty things I hate about the city. rats and roaches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Obviously I'm having a rage problem today - a celeb was quietly unassumingly getting coffee at our local. Two loser dudes are loudly debating whether it's him. I'm doing my best not to scream at them but it's getting more difficult. I'm crazy or this is gross? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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You're a little high strung, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Sorry if I don't think fawning over celebrities in their own neighbourhood is cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Not worth getting angry over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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np ita. Also: What's it to OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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She is afraid she will appear uncouth by association [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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So this is a very roundabout way of saying "I live near a celebrity", then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Plus she knows how to act like a New Yorker is supposed to act when a celebrity appears. You IGNORE them. The yokels in the coffee shop are embarrassing her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Both. Learn to ignore or leave the coffee shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Too bad there isn't an app for that. like, hey, you are being an Ahole and not cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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You sound rather over protective over this celebrity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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You want this celebrity to be your secret boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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It's just so tacky. He could hear them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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It's rude of them for sure, but I'm sure the celeb is used to it. Comes with the gig. They were probably just excited, it happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Describe your weekend uniform. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Boyfriend jeans or knee length skirt, oversized v neck tee, sandal with a low chunky heel, a few bangles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Usually I'm in skinny jeans, ballet flats, and a t-shirt or white button down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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what brand tshirt/button down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Vince, Saint James, Zara, Theory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Funky skirt from Anthro and and sleeveless blouse. I hate being hot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Skinny jeans, drapey t (summer), sweater (winter), ballet flats/sandals/biker boots. In summer I am sometimes forced to sub jeans for shorts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Beauty/MakeUp Moms- My eyebrows need help- they're sparse/patchy due to years of over-plucking. Any recs for both products & treatments? Any great places to try in NYC- looking for full, lush brows. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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^^Sorry for the double post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Stop plucking them and fill them in with eyeshadow or an eyebrow pen. Leave them alone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Privacy question: what is private in your household/marriage? DH and I use the same computer and it's really bothering me that he collects images of naked models and is obsessed with this one website egostatic. Last night I found an entire folder of Emma Watson's graduation and Emma Watson in different instances with her friends, images are detective style. I posted on Ub last night about our lack of intimacy-sex every two months. Yesterday my phone died while we were at dinner and asked to do a google search on his phone then all these Cara Delevigne (model) searches on came up: Cara naked, cara body, Cara nude, etc. We have been talking about this interfering with our intimacy and I thought he had stopped. I walked out during the dinner. When I got home and used our home computer I found more and more websites he had visited that day. He keeps telling me that I can not use this against him, especiAlly him having searches on his phone because that's supposed to be private. I didn't even mean to see it actually. And, not to compare fantasy with a real affair but I don't understand the privacy excuse. So, can I have an affair in private? Sigh...I'm so upset. He masturbates a couple of times a day to images of super skinny models. He never touches me. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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I feel so ugly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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So sorry. BTDT. It's not you & it's not a reflection of you. I don't know the answer to your question of privacy- it's one I wrestle with as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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I understand if he does this once in a while, I can't tell him what to do with his body and what to look at but this is affecting our relationship and my relationship with myself. I asked him whether I should just have sex with someone else because I need this and and he answered with ' is it ok for ME to have sex with someone else?' so he is basically depriving me and tells me to take care of myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Is it OK for him to? The real issue/problem is that you 2 aren't having enough sex with each other. Will he see a neutral counselor? Would you go without him, if so? I am a fan of hashing things out in front of a 3rd party who is trained to listen & help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Anyone else? How do you deal with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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I don't have this issue but he does sound like he is taking porn (his specific version of it) to an extreme). he has to stop or he will ruin your marriage. and that's that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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My DH is now on UB. It's killing me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I missed work bc I had to go to e hospital. Can they fire me for this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Bring discharge papers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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This. If you do, they cannot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Were you the patient? Do you have sick days? [ Reply | More ]
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what is e hospital? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me solve this one. I live in Brooklyn (Fort Greene) with a 3 year old. My good friends from out of town are here today with their 3 kids (9, 11, 14) staying at 53rd and Lex. We all need to meet up for dinner at 6/6:30. I could drag them out to Brooklyn, but it seems like kind of a pain. So I think I should run back to Brooklyn after work, grab my son and then come back into the city to meet them for dinner. Does South Street Seaport seem like a good idea? Or any other tips for fun places for older kids? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Fort Greene is beautiful. I love cafe habana for casual fun and there are so many other places around there, they won't regret visiting you in bk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Habana was definitely my pick. I guess I could make them come to me. I wish they were staying downtown so it was a quicker commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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It takes 35 mins on the 4/5 to Atlantic. I do it daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I guess that's not bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Agreed - it's so easy to get to ft Greene, just have them meet you there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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ITA. Also, 67 Burger in Fort Greene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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They just need to jump onto the 4/5 train. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP: I do love 67 Burger. But Habana has chicken and waffles on a stick! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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South Street Seaport closed down over a year ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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OP: Ha. Ok, that tells you how much I go there. Good to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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South st seaport is not closed down, I live there. Take them to trading post next to imagination playground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Pier 17 is indeed closed, which is what I imagine op was talking about. Also much more of a pita to get to than ft. Greene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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OP: Is it? I was thinking straight shot on the 6 to SSS vs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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It's a pretty big walk from Bk Bridge/city hall to SSS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I always forget that it's not as small as I think it is all the way downtown. Atlantic center to Habana is much faster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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It (SSS) is a very short walk from the Fulton Street Stop (esp on the 2/3/A/C/E, etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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NO, it did not. The mall is torn down. But the neighborhood is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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What! It is so not closed down. There's even a little "park" area with grass where you could all sit and have a picnic. It's near one of the tall ships and you go up a ramp and there are chairs to lounge on and grass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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I love chinatown for visiting dcs (I also live in Fort Greene). You could meet them in Union Square, then take the subway to canal and explore Mott St. DCs will love it. I really dislike Habana Outpost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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I dislike Havana Outpost for the big rowdy groups. Their menu is okay, the margaritas are fine. It is a 'party with your brood' kind of place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Maybe it is just me but Brooklyn seems like the place to be. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Brooklyn is for when you give up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Haha, clearly you've not spent time here. Depends what area of course, but at least where we live it is so much pleasanter than Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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+1. If I won the lottery tomorrow, I'd still choose Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Ugh. Never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Depends where in Brooklyn to where in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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More pleasant. Or so you use poor grammar in Brooklyn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Or do you use... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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You mean the SITC dream? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Lol, what planet do you live on. Brooklyn is incredibly beautiful and incredibly expensive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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The Planet Normalville in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Visit Fort Greene then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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I have visited there. Depends what you like & what you want. It's not my cup of tea. I know this sounds parochial, but Brooklyn as a space/concept overwhelms me- there's too much I can't get my head around, & I always get lost. I know you're all glad that I don't move there. I love going out on day trips for specific excursions (e.g. Coney Island) just always happy to get home to Manhattan at the end of a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Seems so overhyped now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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are the 20somethings really going to raise kids there eventually? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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40 somethings are doing it now!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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I am... Moved here at 24, now raising kids here at 32. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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how are the schools? are you going public? what size apartment are you in? Maybe you got a better deal, but 2brs are so expensive now!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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We bought a 3br when we moved 8 years ago. It is expensive, hence why the it's statement that it's for when you give up is ridiculous. A lot of bk is more expensive than manhattan now. We are at private but there are many fabulous schools here both public and private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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^the or's statement [ Reply | More ]
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lol I would never say Bk is over, I just doubt current 20somethings are going to be able to get 3brs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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That's probably true (at least in the current "nice" areas, but there are a ton of up and coming neighborhoods where you can still get decent deals.) we were very lucky to get our apt when we did and luckier now that we are able to upgrade to a townhouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Any suggestions on locations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Moved to Brooklyn from PA almost 25 years ago. It has been interesting to watch the changes. There are positive changes but at the expense of losing its grit, which sort of attracted me to it in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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We love Brooklyn but are afraid we are being priced out of our neighborhood (Brooklyn Heights). Everyone has different tastes and wants, but we love raising our family here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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People who live in Brooklyn seem very pleased with themselves for living there. I think Queens is the place to move for quality of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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I want to believe this- living in Manhattan now but think Queens might be next. Which are best neighborhoods for schools, distance to Manhattan and restaurants/shopping? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Forrest Hills is good for school. Jackson Heights isn't too far from midtown and has great restaurants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Brooklyn sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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I've been in Brooklyn for 20 years and actually bought ages ago, so have benefitted from the real estate upswing. But if I were doing it now, I would try Riverdale, upper Manhattan, or Queens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Very interesting- how come? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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It has gotten as expensive as Manhattan in the most popular areas. This brings the less-desirables if you are looking to live in a nice environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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It is a nice place to raise a family. I love living there but don't really think it is the place to be anymore, at least not where I live. It is like the burbs in the city. I am not in Williamsburg though, maybe that is different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Brooklyn is nice enough but "Brooklyn people" usually annoy me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Brooklyn is the new Tufts. Used to be where you had to go when you didn't get into Harvard. Now it's tougher to get in and the ones who are there don't let you forget it's not like it was 25 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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I feel like Brooklyn is trying to take over manhattan again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a country house. How is Saugerties? We'd like to spend summers by the pool and winters skiing. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Personally don't like Saugerties. I would look at the Berkshires or Hudson Valley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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np: Which towns? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Saugerties is in the Hudson Valley. Op - I recommend you actually go spend time up there and decide what you like for yourself. Saugerties is an ok town, prices are a bit cheaper on that side of the Hudson (compared to Hudson/Rhinebeck etc). It's a bit far from a lot of the Berkshires ski places though. Check out Claverack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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Thanks. We will, but I want to narrow it down so I know where to check out. [ Reply | More ]
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Berkshires too far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Try Woodstock [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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I think that's a bit far from skiing. We usually ski at Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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It's the same distance from Hunter as Saugerties. It's also a great town in the summer time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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White trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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newsflash every country house that is really in the country has locals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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OP: Every town I have been to upstate has that element. That's a given. [ Reply | More ]
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Rent for a month someplace. I like Rheinback area and it isn't too $$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Skiing sucks in NY [ Reply | More ]
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Haha. Compared to the West Coast, yes, but we make do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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how far is Saugerties from the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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2 hrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Lake Copake, NY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the essential new items for the fall? (On trend, not trendy, as I'm late 30s and don' t want the mutton as lamb thing going on!) I'd love a couple of pieces to spruce up my wardrobe, as I'm feeling a little frumpy. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Just go on Net-a-Porter.com [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, yes, I can do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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^^Anything else a little more helpful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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I bought a pair of jeans last week (CofH...the Hutton) that have a medium rise and a long, flared cut. With this weather, I've worn them almost everyday. So comfortable and very flattering (I call them my butt jeans). Will wear them all thru the fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] 6yo ds twins. We're planning to stay in the city. What will life be like in 5 (11y olds) and (16 y olds). Public. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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If burb, lots of sports. Do city tween/teen boys play lots of sports? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Ugh. They have to play sports just because they're boys? This is why we're not moving to the burbs. How about having a band or being into art or debate or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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That's fine, but getting into sports as well will not turn them into neaderthals you know...it will keep them fit and they might learn a bit about team work etc.. Do not get this ant-athletics thing some of you UB ladies seem to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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The problem is that previous poster said 'lots of sports' as the ONLY option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Clearly you don't have boys. Boys have energy that needs to be burned,and intellectual energy burn is not what I'm talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Um, yes, I do. They can swim or run for fitness, they don't have to constantly be chasing a sports ball. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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In my sons' boys school 80% play sports of some kind. It's a recognized thing. They play hoops during free periods [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Great. That means there are 20% that don't. Oranges are not the only fruit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Yes, all boys should have a basic understanding of at least baseball, football, and basketball. And now soccer, too. They don't have to play on teams, or be ultra competitive, but they have to know what to do when a basketball lands in their hands. Stop trying to turn boys into little girls for god's sake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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WHY do they have to? Why can't they be urban boys into photography and music? Jesus. Jocks or nothing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Yes those are the gay ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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I have a ds in the city. Played baseball, hated other sports. Lots of low-keyed baseball and AYSO leagues as well as travel teams. But ds pursues other interests as well, and the upside is that he can travel on the subway to see friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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^Just be aware of the hellish middle school and high school searches. If ds are very smart, high achievers, public is great. If they struggle, it's harder. I think the upside of raising dcs in the city is amazing, but lots of day to day elements are harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Those are sort of the losers in HS ... they get happier around 25 when they have good jobs but high school years are dark. Band? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Yes, a band. Bass, Guitar, drums, rehearsing in someone's basement, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Or did you never get to date a dude in a band? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Listen, I was in bands in high school and college. I was never, ever anywhere near a jock. Trust me. BUT - I also know how to throw a football. Please don't do that to your boys. A basic competency in sports is kind of a requirement for boys in a social setting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I don't want to bring up a football jock. It's not on the agenda. If he wants to play after school with friends that's fine. But I'm not going to make all this effort to make that the official extracurricular of all boys aged 5-15. It's preposterous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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What if it is a really cool jazz band? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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My nephew is in a swing band. He plays clarinet and those guys can really rock out! They are very "cool in school" thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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I think PP is thinking of marching band or something? But when I was in high school all the coolest guys had rock bands. Guitar boys...mmmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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In the NYC area most good marching bands are in schools districts that have lots of minority students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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They're cool until your daughter's dating one I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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np: Sure - if that's what they're into. My 11yo city ds plays travel soccer and recreational tennis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Justin Bieber seems like a real piece of work. Who buys his stuff and supports his lifestyle? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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My dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Do young girls find his behavior acceptable or attractive?Don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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He started as a youtube sensation. He does have some sort of talent, but at this point, his career is strictly a question of keeping himself in the news and keeping the tweets going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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That's because you are an old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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So true,but what is sexy about being a rude sexist little prick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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i think it's less a question of his records and more about the lunchboxes and trading cards and licensed swag of all sorts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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I know him from pop culture websites, but could not tell you one song he sings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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i think it's less a question of his records and more about the lunchboxes and trading cards and licensed swag of all sorts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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I'm not sure who looks worse, a douchey 18 yo acting like an 18 yo, or 40yo Orlando Bloom taking repeated drunken swings at him in parking lots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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In fairness to Orlando, JB slept with MK while she was still with OB and rubbed it in OB's face. JB is a complete jackass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Probably the same girls who fell in love with him when he was still young and sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Tuck,he looks like a wannabe member of the rat pack,except those guys had style and talent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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He is/was popular with the tween/teen set. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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The Real Housewives all seem like real pieces of work. Who watches their show and supports their lifestyle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Used to really be into the Housewives. I think we've all been in situations with crazy women. IRL you can't say those things.It's kind of therapeutic.Now kind of boring. And Bravo doesn't pay most of them much for the humiliation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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All I can say is that I hope he's got a good financial advisor and is saving his dough. Otherwise, pity the taxpayer of Canada when he heads home broke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Will they take him back or can we do an exchange for Tom Ford? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Lol. They kind of have to. He's on one of those exceptional talent visas--and if that talent ain't paying the bills, well, it's buh bye, Justin. Back to the land of "free" healthcare and lots of handouts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Canadian here...I like the medical system, but will vociferously protest any programs that would support him. He is like a poster child for brain-dead young men who act like morons when they get a few bucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Also Canadian. The medical system is OK unless you're on a waiting list (my friend in BC waited a year for an MRI), but it drives me nuts when people say it's "free" healthcare. Unless you're in a low or middle tax bracket, you're most assuredly paying for all your care as well as everyone else's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Even after the US market dries up there's a whole world full of Asian and South American kids left to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Serious question for all the Israel haters who wish all the Jews would leave: I am curious as to what you think would happen once the Jews were gone? Is there a country that is a model for the one that would be created? What middle eastern country without Jews do you think the "new" Palestine would resemble? As much as I hate that so many innocent Palestinians have been killed, I also cannot see a country led by Hamas being a place that would ultimately save more lives. IMO, the democracy loving Arab Israeli citizens (not the Palestinians) are probably better off than in any other middle eastern country. But I could be wrong -- is there another country that would be better? Or do you think Palestine would be unique and different? If it is not, and turns out like Syria, Lebanon, or any other place where far more children are killed, will you still care? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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^^^OP: fyi - this is what I think about Iraq and Afqhanistan. The US still kills civilians and it would be nice if we withdrew. But would it really be better for the countries we withdraw from? Do we have any obligation to those people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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It would become another peaceful godly land of prayer and honor for Allah, where girls' clitores are sliced off, and they are murdered by their parents for talking to a boy in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Afraid you are right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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So you're killing and incarcerating them for their own benefit, then? Because if you allowed people in Gaza and the West Bank to have their own state, they'd clearly just kill each other, so it's better if the more "evolved" Jews keep them under strict control, for their own safety? That's your argument? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP: Why are you putting words in my mouth? YOU are the one who seems to be claiming that all other middle eastern countries "just kill each other"! I just asked why you think they would be better off? IMO, they would be better off with their own state side by side with Israel. That is what was planned, just like what happened in India/Pakistan. But I don't think this is acceptable to people who hate Israel. I have heard some Israelis saying this (not all). Are there Palestinians saying this? Or do they just think they should be allowed to come back to all of Israel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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are you serious? This is what the current Palestinian leadership wanted before the attacks - it was Israel who said they would never accept a 2 state solution and now started this new round of fighting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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current Palestinian leadership? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Palestinian leadership does not recognize Israel, which is why they would never support a 2 state solution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Oh for the love of god. It's too much with you people. Read a book, or even a magazine article. Here's a good start: http://www.haaretz.com/opinion/.premium-1.608008 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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one needs to subscribe to read this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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I think once the Arab world sees that their methods worked and they got their way it would be a unique new world to come for the West [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.31.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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