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[ - ] Anyone ever distance themselves/ "break up" with a parent-friend because of their kids? DS became friends with a little girl when they were toddlers that now at 7yo I just can't stand anymore. She has a younger brother who is equally loud and obnoxious. The mom is so nice, but I feel like her kids bring out the worst in mine. Wwyd? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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Yes. Had to seriously distance from a neighbor/ schoolmate a few years ago. The kid is mean and she's just kind of shitty. The mom seems nice so not sure how it has happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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Can you see the parent-friend alone? If you don't want to see the kids, don't see the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I have horrendous flight anxiety. I fly fairly often and it's awful every single time. I have a 13 hour, non-stop flight for work next month and am already having anxiety about it. A friend recommended having my doctor prescribe me Xanax. Anyone have any luck with this? I've never taken Xanax before. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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I'd get a couple of sessions with a cognitive therapist before I took drugs on a plane. I wouldn't want to have a bad reaction and be the person who forces the plane to land someplace so they can get me medical attention or arrest me for whatever dumb thing I did while out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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This is over the top. A small dose of Xanax will not cause the freak out you describe. If OP is worried about how she'll react, she should just try taking one in advance of the flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] All of a sudden my 6 yr old dd eats like a truck driver. Think cereal, frit and 3 HB eggs for breakfast. All her meals are the same. How do I make sure she is eating enough but overeating is not becoming part of what she does? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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sounds like she is eating healthy. If so, let it be. She's growing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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If she's a healthy weight and eats good food I'd let her eat to her appetite. Kids have uneven growth and if she's having a growth spurt, she needs the food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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She's probably having a growth spurt. But it's a little troubling that you are so obsessed with her food intake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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The cereal and fruit aren't filling her up enough most likely. Away the cereal for some breakfast sausage or make a smoothie with yogurt and get some more nutrients in there. The three eggs means she is craving protein, probably a growth spurt! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Dental assistant has three kids under 5, no husband, told my kids about "her kids' dad". Wonderful. I will have to explain. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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only if they ask and very brief. some people make a choice to have children together without being married. Mommy and Daddy thought it important for our family to get married first. done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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Explain what exactly?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Oh damn her. She is broadening your children's horizons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Explain the superiority of your decision and all of the benefits for the family and children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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You aren't doing your kids any favors if you pass on a rigid "families only come in one size and it looks just.like.ours" worldview. Your kids are probably more laid back and accepting than you are since they aren't born judgmental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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But she did it the BETTER way. She's married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Explain what? Did your children think it was somehow possible for babies to exist without a biological father? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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1) How do your kids know their dental hygienist's marital status. 2) Have they never met children with unmarried parents before? 3) You're also going to have to explain procreation to them, as apparently they think it's possible without both a man and a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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What's to explain? "She is not married to the father of her kids." The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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But this tears down OP's superiority and that cannot be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Ok, flyover mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Are your children under the impression that other children do not have fathers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Understandably, part-time jobs are hard to come by. As a frazzled WOHM in NYC, I am really curious if there are any true 9am-5pm types of professions that don't require me to be checking e-mails and doing work late at night. Does such a type of job exist? I am in a client-oriented role now and would love to move away from that. Looking to earn what I currently do - around $125k. Am I dreaming? I don't care how boring or tedious the work might be. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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I am watching this carefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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look in not for profit sector - you may have to start lower, but eventually you could get up to 100K and hours & benefits are graet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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Admin asst. with paycut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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I tried to find that and ended up quitting my job WOH job to freelance. It was the only way to control my hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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+1 I did the same. Of course, I have had to turn away several clients who wanted 24/7 availability - people these days are very used to, and have been conditioned to expect, immediate response and service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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What kind of client facing role do you have? Can you work in the same industry but not client facing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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OP ad agency type of work. Yes, could probably stay in my field/at my company and do something that's not-client facing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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can you write sw? real stuff, not simple websites? back-end pays better although the line is blurring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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I have no political agenda, but I will point out that very few private sector jobs offer you what you want, but many government jobs do. I have relatives that work for the DMV, and others that work as token takers in the subway, and their packages are pretty good.. They get great medical benefits and a great pension [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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np I would consider moving to public sector for the security and the benefits, but I think we have all seen enough cities & states fail and know better than to depend on that pension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Where do I begin looking for a public sector job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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They don't get near $125k, though. The most a DMV clerk would make is about $65k, and that's after a lot of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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But they have medical benefits and a pension? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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At that salary, probably not. I worked in administration at a university while I did my bachelor's degree (early 2000s), and my job was very 9 to 5, as were almost all of my colleagues' jobs. But administrator salaries topped out around $90k, and those were the heads of departments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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I work mostly 9-6 and make about 260K. I will say I am BORED so going to look for something more intense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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What is your job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Finance in a large company (I work for one of the business units) very very bored right now but not stressed at all... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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None that you can get into as an adult, I don't think. Lots of doctors have this arrangement, but that's not really in the picture, is it? A few very highly specialized nurses, like CRNAs, have this too, probably, but it takes 10 years to get to that level. I run a NFP that is sort of like this, quite flexible, 9-5, work from home when I want, I never check emails at night or on the weekends. But I don't make anywhere near $125k. I think regular jobs that pay that much would require substantial personal commitment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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I often advise young people to consider getting civil service jobs. Of course you will never make the money that a hedge fund manager makes, but you will not be blown out of your job either. Stable is good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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I think that at that salary most positions expect you to be more committed than just 9-5. Most jobs entail email/work after hours and minimum 9-6 hours these days. It really does such for our generation of WOHMs, only 10/15 years ago when you left for the day, you left. You can probably do a more admin/support job, but that would probably pay less (60-80K). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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OP here. THanks. WOuld be willing to take a pay cut, but not a significant one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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You know what they say. 100K, work all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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CPA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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For 125k, yes you're dreaming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] REPOST (again, wtf is going on?): Okay, so last night I posted about my very attractive ex and how I wanted to just go over to his apartment. Well, I caved and I ended up going there pretty late into the night. He was alone, he let me in, we talked about work and family, nothing special, and then I tried to come on to him. He rejected me at first, said that if I wanted to, "grab dinner and catch up, sure, but he wasn't going to fuck me," and I don't know why, but I cried and I felt like I was really losing him this time. So I pushed and we ended up having sex. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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This does not sound like a healthy relationship, at all. (Also, everybody should repost recent things, anything is better than learning about lorem ipsum) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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Omnia mihi lingua graeca sunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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np: ily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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link to original post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Do you love him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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It sounds like you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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No it sounds like she is infatuated and can't let him go. This is not love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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Begging a guy for sex? That's a new low. Let him go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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I know, but I was just so upset and frustrated. I don't know, it was humiliating and heartbreaking to be rejected by him. I just wanted to be close with him again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Wow, sorry. Hopefully you can break away from him soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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he said he wasn't going to fuck you but he ended up doing it anyways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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It's ok we have all had low moments. Now it's time to pull yourself together and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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+1 What would you say to your daughter if she did this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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You need therapy. Why don't you have any self esteem? Are you the nanny with the bad teeth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Whoa. Groveling is never good. You have some serious issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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He's an ex. You already lost him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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well, was it good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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The first part was that slow, gentle, sex where you mainly talk, which was perfectly nice, but afterwards it was amazing. Just like I remembered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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listen stuff happens. just decide that this was something you need to finish grieving the relationship and get closure. now move on. i mean it - no texting - not even to post-mortem your bad decision. you 100% forbidden from contact him now. if you feel weak, get on here and ask for a list of hot actors to fantasize about or go to a sports bar and talk (but don't sleep with) a bunch of other guys. 100% no contact. and as a positive, you got some but didn't up your number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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and if he contacts you, you can't respond the first time. you are only permitted to contact him if he contacts you twice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Have you thought about the fact that he's already fucking other women, or maybe is serious about someone else? He's moved on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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I know he's fucking other women, I have come upon that before. He's not serious with anybody else, we talked a little about that, he wouldn't have slept with me if he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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np: I'm going to have some sympathy because I used to be obsessed with a couple really gorgeous guys who dumped me, and I freely admit I clung because of how hot they were. I'm telling you know from experience - - this is a dead end. You can probably get him to f*** you again but it is a dead end. Will you ever feel confident again that he really wants you? He dumped you. Think on that. When I think of how low my self-esteem was to let myself be treated like, hell not even second best, something life fifth-best, I almost can't stand it. You're better than this. Best thing you can do is move on, by forcing yourself if necessary. Go on tons of dates, including with guys you're not attracted to - don't bother sleeping with those, just do one date to get out there. Soon you will see that gorgeous ex doesn't deserve your loyalty and it was just pheromonal addiction. GL. Toughen up buttercup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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He didn't really dump me, we split over a handful of reasons. I mean, he married me so I must have meant something at one point in his life. But yes, I know. I'm being stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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I'm sad for you. You can't feel good about yourself and he certainly isn't feeling good about you, either. Dust yourself off and carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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