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[ - ] anyone owns a goldendoodle and can give me some info/advice? I am a single mom with a 10yo dd who has been asking for one of these dogs for three years now. I love dogs, had one for 15 years growing up, but dd and I live in a rental apartment. I work full time and she is in school... basically I worry it would become impossible to take care of a dog. I would love to make her happy, I know how much this would mean to her... but I do realize that it would become a huge responsibility, not to mention expensive (vet bills, dog walkers/sitters, etc) We don't travel much, but once a year we take a two week trip to go see family in Europe... more than this is also the training phase that worries me. Anyway, wonder if any mom out there can tell me about her experience and do you think it may work for us? I also know that labradoodle are very expensive dogs, but have been saving for a year, in case I decided we could get one. Please no flames - I have always had adopted pets from shelters (until my last passed away before dd was born) but I know this dog is what she is stuck on and this is why I a ready to purchase one, rather than adopt. Thanks for any honest advice/input. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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Don't buy an "invented" breed. Reputable breeders don't take part in these maltipoo labrodoodle mixes, you are buying from puppy mills. [ Reply | More ]
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+this. I understand not wanting to adopt for various reasons but not going to support anyone purchasing from a puppy mill. Explain this to your daughter! [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's great that you're thinking of getting a pet! I would consider getting a daily dog walker and bringing it to doggie day care considering your schedule. [ Reply | More ]
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op- thanks, I know this is an option, the thing is we are on a pretty tight budget... this is one of the reasons why I worry. I know that dog walkers/trainers are very expensive. But I also know that particularly with a puppy you need someone who is there 4/5 times a day... [ Reply | More ]
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at least. and doggy day care, at least in my town, is 300-450 a week. [ Reply | More ]
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* plus the barking issues inherent in apt living. [ Reply | More ]
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My neighbor has two goldendoodles. They are adorable, but pretty big, strong, with high energy. Need to be walked. Have you seen a mini-labradoodle? Smaller, looks similar. We have two small poodle mixes, very easy, clean, non-yippy dogs with good temperaments. Show your daughter some photos of poodle/Maltese mixes! Or toy poodle/anything mixes! Good luck! Dogs are great! [ Reply | More ]
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thanks. Yes, a mini goldendoodle or labradoodle is what I had been looking at. Again, main issue is how to get through the first months/puppy stage/potty training etc. Then of course figure out what to do in case of travel... [ Reply | More ]
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Those aren't dogs. Those are fucking mutants breed in horrible conditions. Want to know what they do with the ones that don't come out looking like the new fake breed? Happens with about half of each litter. [ Reply | More ]
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Hyper dogs [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much does a babysitter charge for overnight care? Say from 6pm until the following day at 10am. Would it be by the hour? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I got $100 for a 12 hour overnight shift when dc slept the entire time. I would suggest the waking hours be paid hourly. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, can I hire you? We pay literally twice that! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] OK, really looking for input on this topic. For those of you who have sex with DH infrequently, is it awkward? DH and I have busy schedules and have put our sex life on the back burner for years (embarrased to admit that), and now it is just awkward, mechanical, unsatisfying, and boring. I can't get into it (I have a very high sex drive btw) Are we doomed? I'm talking sexless marriage here- 3-4X a year. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:53 AM Flag
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You're not doomed. Go to a hotel for a night. Or ship off the kids. Drink wine. Take a shower together. You can get it back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:55 AM Flag
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This. Fake it till you make it. [ Reply | More ]
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There doesn't even seem to be a flicker of a spark. DH has 0 sex drive, which doesn't help the matter. Even when I bring up sex with him, he doesn't seem interested. [ Reply | More ]
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is he sleeping with someone else? how old is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:05 AM Flag
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I don't think he's sleeping with someone else. He's 37. Always been low drive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:11 AM Flag
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take charge of your sex life lady! you're only doomed if you don't do anything about this. one of you will end up cheating from opportunity combined with sexual frustration. guaranteed. so get nasty & get into it. [ Reply | More ]
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General question for anyone reading- is sex with DH awkward? Or do you enjoy it? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone like me? Going on spring break and hate, hate to fly. the pit in my stomach started over a week ago. so excited to go, but wish I could drive:( 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:43 AM Flag
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VALIUM [ Reply | More ]
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yep. no flights here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:48 AM Flag
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Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:57 AM Flag
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have only been twice since having kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:58 AM Flag
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booze and pills FTW [ Reply | More ]
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No I'm ok with death when I'm depressed [ Reply | More ]
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I consider airports places of non-judgmental drinking regardless of the time of day. Bottom's up at your local airport's finest Chili's, Tony Romo's or local "sports bar" terminal! [ Reply | More ]
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Did you ever see the old reality show called Airport or Airline about Southwest Airlines? Stay out of the bars! At least don't get the least bit drunk or you risk getting kicked off the flight. [ Reply | More ]
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Haven't seen it-- I'll have to look out for it. I never get drunk at airports, just, relaxed. I've been in a plane crash before so I'm not the most ideal and calm passenger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:59 AM Flag
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what?? Please elaborate lol [ Reply | More ]
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I have been so drunk on planes, and no one has ever kicked me off or threatened to kick me off. ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:59 AM Flag
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Yes. I rarely sleep the night before flying. [ Reply | More ]
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landing and taking off gives me pit in stomach. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have been to over 50 countries. Any questions? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:36 AM Flag
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I'm 28. [ Reply | More ]
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no but I have too! [ Reply | More ]
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That's great:) Why did you travel, if you don't mind me asking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:37 AM Flag
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love of new places and adventure, how about you? [ Reply | More ]
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The same. There is so much out there to see and I have always had this desperation to go places. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 my hippy parents drove across Africa for a few years with my sibs and I. What's your story? [ Reply | More ]
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for work? [ Reply | More ]
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No, I was always a little wanderlust. I grew up in the southeast and didn't leave the country until I was 17 (boarding school spring break trip to Europe). I had always loved history and different cultures, and when I finally got a chance to see this 'other world' the desire to travel never really stopped. During my second year of college my boyfriend sponsored our 'mini trip around the world' and we went all, spent all but eight days of our available vacation travelling. We ended up doing it again the next year too, but it was a little more focused. Our travel was a lot more expensive (and a little bit too removed for my taste) than I was able to afford on my own, but I took fourteen months after undergrad travelling the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:41 AM Flag
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nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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So you are a lucky bitch whose bf paid for a trip around the world. I envy you tremendously. [ Reply | More ]
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I also "backpacked" independently. [ Reply | More ]
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I wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:38 AM Flag
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I'm leaving the country for the first time in my life. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Favorite country? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:43 AM Flag
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It doesn't exist. I don't really have a 'favorite country'. [ Reply | More ]
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yeah, ok. [ Reply | More ]
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I have been to all the independent nations and most of the territories in the South Pacific. Including some of the uninhabited ones like Jarvis and subantarctic ones like Macquarie. Never been to Guam, though, oddly enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:45 AM Flag
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How old are you and what do you do? [ Reply | More ]
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27; married a guy with family money who liked to travel a lot. Now a SAHM. I lucked out in a lot of ways. [ Reply | More ]
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I call bs. unless you married at 15 you wouldn't have had time to go to every country. Or are you taking about just setting foot in each place? Not actually visiting? [ Reply | More ]
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We took his boat. Some destinations got longer visits than others, but the whole process (starting in Hong Kong) took less than three years, excluding some breaks we took. [ Reply | More ]
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are you part of that club that strives to go to every country and disputed territory? read about it years ago in the WSJ [ Reply | More ]
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No. I mean, neither of us has any interest in Africa or the Mideast. [ Reply | More ]
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what was the worst place you went to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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Los Mochis (Mexico) [ Reply | More ]
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what made it so bad? [ Reply | More ]
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I had a bad experience with a taxi cab and I severely underestimated the drug violence. [ Reply | More ]
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what happened with the cab? [ Reply | More ]
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Got robbed at gunpoint by taxi driver. [ Reply | More ]
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omg so sorry :( that is insane. were you alone? [ Reply | More ]
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I was alone at the time and it was late. I was terrified that I was going to be a 'missing American tourist' on the news. [ Reply | More ]
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That happened to me in the Hamptons... [ Reply | More ]
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what!! [ Reply | More ]
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I got held up at gunpoint in an elevator in NYC once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 AM Flag
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most interesting place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:48 AM Flag
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Again, I can't really pick a 'winner', but for the sake of the question I will mention Cuba. It's a bit like stepping back in time, in the oddest way. [ Reply | More ]
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that is illegal you know [ Reply | More ]
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How do you know she is not Canadian/Russian/etc? [ Reply | More ]
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(OP) I'm American, but I met plenty an American in Cuba (the Cuban government is happy to take your tourist money), boyfriend (who traveled with me) is Norwegian. Resorts are full of rude, belligerent Canadians though. [ Reply | More ]
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Technically it is not illegal to travel to Cuba, but rather to spend money there. That said, I met plenty of Americans when I was there... [ Reply | More ]
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more than, not over. [ Reply | More ]
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which one did you visit the most? (outside of US) [ Reply | More ]
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As far as an individual country, I've been to Italy the largest number of times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:01 AM Flag
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me too - but i also lived in 4 countries outside US as well :) [ Reply | More ]
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Have you noticed internet made traveling not as "wowing" as it used to be? We watch videos and there is not much that can surprise us. What experience have really stood out? [ Reply | More ]
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^has [ Reply | More ]
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Watching videos, reading, etc. are in no way comparable to the experience of submerging yourself in another place, with another group of people... I've noticed (at least in the less tourist filled areas of the world) that the poorer people are, the more likely they are to be free with smiles and welcomes. [ Reply | More ]
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trust me there are places that live up to the hype (and the photos) and even exceed it! [ Reply | More ]
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^^and we always had national geographic to see the same stuff for last 100 yrs - now it is just on a 24/7 loop on cable [ Reply | More ]
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Does your first name begin with L? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:52 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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which country has your most favorite foods? [ Reply | More ]
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how many languages do you speak? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not truly fluent in anything but English, but Latin (three years in high school), Norwegian (adequate), Spanish (spoken, pretty good grip, can converse with most people), French (two years in college). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:07 AM Flag
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which countries do you advise against a woman traveling alone? [ Reply | More ]
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India, I know we all hear about it on the news, and I have been to places that are technically more dangerous, but I had the closest calls in this country. (I really do think India is one of those places everybody should visit and I was fine 99% of the time, but having a male escort drastically improved my experience). [ Reply | More ]
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have you been to the middle east? antarctica? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's your favorite version of cinderella? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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disney's version [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Rogers and Hammerstein [ Reply | More ]
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Love [ Reply | More ]
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Brandy and Whitney. Love it so much and can't find it anywhere to show dd :( [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Buy the dvd or get it from the New York Public Library. It's the 1997 version. [ Reply | More ]
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Rossini [ Reply | More ]
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Not Massenet? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! Another cultcha vultcha.... [ Reply | More ]
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Ever After! [ Reply | More ]
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Loved that too! I quite liked latest version too. [ Reply | More ]
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Saw the new one today, if it were a musical- either Disney or RH it would be my favorite. It was great but so underwhelming to see Cinderella wo the music [ Reply | More ]
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Into The Woods [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 5yo dd got a letter today - she was thrilled. It is a chain letter from a classmate. Ugh. Do I let her do it and piss off additional friends, or "lose" it and hope she forgets about it? Does everyone find them annoying or is it just me? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it's cute solely because it's a throw back to the old days [ Reply | More ]
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we got one. threw it away. stupid people sent this shit out. [ Reply | More ]
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yep. [ Reply | More ]
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But how do I explain that to a 5yo without being crass? [ Reply | More ]
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put it aside. she'll forget about it. [ Reply | More ]
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Consider it a letter writing activity, debbie. [ Reply | More ]
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Op- that's what I was thinking but maybe i just won't actually send them out? [ Reply | More ]
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Just have her write a REAL letter to her friend. Get a postcard at the store and let her write a quick note. [ Reply | More ]
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They are incredibly annoying and I hate anyone who sends them to me, but at 5 they are fun and new. Let her enjoy this. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok... So who do I send them to? Friends I can warn in advance so they don't look down on us as all you UBers are doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:33 AM Flag
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send them to fake addresses [ Reply | More ]
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Why not let her write them to friends and family and then never mail them, or mail them just to family if you think she'll want to make sure they got the letters. [ Reply | More ]
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I remember getting one as a kid (before the internet) and being SO worried when we didn't send it on (I was probably 7). It lasted awhile. I would just pretend to send them. [ Reply | More ]
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don't over think it. just do it or not. it's not a big deal. signed btdt. [ Reply | More ]
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Teach your child to not respond to chain letters. Five is not too young. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Gotta agree on this. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Poll: did breastfeeding help you lose weight and did you get skinnier than ever, or did you hold onto the last 5-10 lbs until you weaned? Also, what was your height/weight before you got pregnant? My theory is that really skinny women hold onto weight while BF, and the bigger ones get thin from it, but I'm not sure if I'm right. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Was skinny before held onto the Damn 5 pounds until I stopped at 6 months. [ Reply | More ]
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With my first I was skinnier after 6 mos of bf than pre-pregnancy. With second and third I hung on to about 5lbs but lost that before I fully weaned (nursed at night until 18mos with #2). I weighed 135 and am 5'7". [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ I also only gained about 22lbs in each pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
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5'3 130. NEVER lost weight while breastfeeding. it only came off after. [ Reply | More ]
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I held on to 5lbs [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - 5'7", 128 [ Reply | More ]
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I would disprove that theory, went in at 118 5'7" and was back to that weight 2 weeks later, back in "shape" 8 months later, bf for 14 months and ended up lower than that weight, scary like 110 but put it back on when we weaned. [ Reply | More ]
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How much weight did you gain while pregnant?? You lost all your baby weight in 2 weeks??!?! [ Reply | More ]
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I was 142 going into the hospital and 128 leaving 2 days later. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not unusual. Baby and placenta and fluid weigh 12-15lbs on average. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah that's what they said. So I only had 10 more lbd to go by the time I went home which is really not a lot when you're retaining as much water as I was [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Wow, you only gained 24 lbs? I've already gained 23 lbs and I'm only 22 weeks :( You're so lucky. I eat healthy foods and exercise 5-6 days a week and I still gain a pound a week no matter what I do. My pre-pregnancy weight was 105 lbs (I'm 5'3"). [ Reply | More ]
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That is a healthy amount of weight! Don't worry about it, just feed yourself as much good food as your body needs and it will do it's job! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 a pound a week is exactly what my dr told me was healthy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:39 AM Flag
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OP: thank you. I always feel bad when I hear people say they only gained 15-25 lbs during pregnancy and I always seem to gain 40 even though I exercise regularly and eat well. It's frustrating and it makes me upset at my body. [ Reply | More ]
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That's a pregnancy A+, perfect score, 100% :) [ Reply | More ]
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OP: awww, thanks… you guys are making me feel so much better about my weight gain. Until now everyone I've talked to has said I need to be careful, it's too much weight for my frame, etc. :( [ Reply | More ]
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Who is saying that to you? That is so rude. They can fuck off! Unless it's your doctor... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:52 AM Flag
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op I'll make you feel better. I'm also 5'3 and I was at 204 the day I delivered. I was so fat I no longer even looked like myself. it's because I ate everything in sight & spent the last 30 days of pregnancy on steroids. 2nd pregnancy I behaved like a normal person and gained 40 lbs. I felt great two days after giving birth, and looked great within about 2 months. [ Reply | More ]
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* 204 the day I delivered my first. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. Gained weight breast feeding. About 12 pounds in the first month. Stayed on till I stopped bf. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ and I was 5'8", 205 lbs [ Reply | More ]
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I gained as well. I don't know if I pin that on breastfeeding as much as I really just didn't adjust the way I was eating from when I was pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: interesting replies so far. My OB keeps saying how breastfeeding burns 500 calories a day and it makes you lose weight, but it seems like most people don't really lose weight from it. My sister BF her first and held onto weight, and didn't BF her second and lost weight quickly. I did not BF my first and lost weight from diet/exercise (was back to normal within 3-4 mths; I gained 40 lbs). I am considering BF #2 and was wondering if it would be easier/harder to lose weight if I do (not that that is really a consideration in deciding; I'm just curious) [ Reply | More ]
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You need a new OB then because breast feeding does not come close to burning 500 calories. The high end estimate is about 300 calories and that is when you are really producing, not the early weeks where you are making 24 ounces a day [ Reply | More ]
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OP: interesting… thanks. I can easily burn 300 calories a day (or more) by exercising. I heard BF makes you really hungry too, which probably negates the calorie burn. [ Reply | More ]
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Is your doctor really old? That's scary how inaccurate he/she is. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually she is young - in her late 30s!! Is this really inaccurate? i just did a google search and found several sources that also say 500 cal/day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:50 AM Flag
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It is really inaccurate. It's like telling people you burn 800 calories at spin class. Is it physical possible, sure, in the realm of what most people experience, not remotely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:05 AM Flag
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Skinny before. Lost the weight right away and went 10 lbs. under while breastfeeding for a year. Back to normal weight after weening. Three kids, same for all 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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lost weight pretty quick with dc 1 and stopped bf just under 1 year, for dc2, I am still (gasp) bf and dc is 2! I gained weight after a year and continue to hold onto it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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5'7'' 135 I gained 15 pounds while bf during first 6 months because I was ravenous all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:40 AM Flag
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+ Me too! 5'9" 145. I hit the 160's before ds was six months old but it came off just as quickly once he weened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:44 AM Flag
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It helped me lose weight. I gained about 40 lbs. I'm about 5'8 and weighed about 145 before I was pregnant. I had my db almost a year ago and I'm down to 135 all due to nursing. I'm sure I'll gain some back after I wean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:46 AM Flag
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You mean, you don't exercise or watch what you eat at all? The weight fell off just from breastfeeding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:49 AM Flag
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It just fell off from breastfeeding. I worked out 3x per week before the baby. Now, I'm lucky if I get to the gym once per week. There were a few months I didn't go at all. I don't watch what I eat right now either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:52 AM Flag
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This is the reason I think so many breastfeeding moms are full of shit. "I'm breastfeeding because it healthier than formula." Bullshit! You're doing it for vanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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OP: that's funny, because one of the reasons I DON'T want to do it is for vanity!! I have heard it turns your breasts into saggy, deflated water balloons afterward. I didn't BF #1 and mine look totally normal and unchanged from pre-pregnancy. I'm scared of the aftermath if I do it! My sister had to have a boob job after she breastfed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:48 AM Flag
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pregnancy hormones make your breasts saggy, not the bf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:55 AM Flag
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People say that but this didn't happen to me. I think the people say that are women who breastfed. I didn't and mine didn't sag. Neither did my mom's and she didn't BF either. My sister BF and hers sagged and she got a boob job afterward. We are all the same size. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:10 AM Flag
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It's pregnanxy and genetics that make your boobs deflate. You sound horribly vain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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OP: you are right- I am definitely vain about certain things. I am not one of those women who doesn't care about her body or her looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:11 AM Flag
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Except you have a bunch of moms on here saying that they gained weight from breast feeding or couldn't lose the last of their pregnancy weight until they stopped breast feeding. So basically the opposite of what you are saying. Believe me I hate the sanctimommy bs around breast feeding too but you are reading what you want to out of this thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:54 AM Flag
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Lost my baby weight very quickly. Baby was huge and nursed a ton! I started gaining weight when he stopped napping and riding in stroller. About three years later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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5'2" and started all three of my pregnancies at 106lbs. Gained 40lbs. with DC1, 30lbs. with DC2 and 36lbs. with DC3 and left the hospital 20lbs lighter after each birth. By four weeks postpartum breastfeeding, I had lost all baby weight with DC1 and DC2. Just gave birth to DC3 last month and while I'm around 115lbs, I'm carrying the gain more significantly in my waist and arms than before and still have issues with swelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:50 AM Flag
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When you say this, do you mean you did NO exercise and did not watch what you ate AT ALL - the weight just fell off without you doing anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:51 AM Flag
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With DC1 & DC2, I ate whatever I wanted although I had no specific food cravings so I ate pretty clean. With DC3, I crave fried foods, carbs and sugar while breastfeeding because I'm obviously not sleeping very well with a 4 week old-- drives me crazy. If one considers chasing after toddlers exercise, then I exercise hours each day. Other than that, I don't have a chance to go to any classes or the gym. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:57 AM Flag
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Your theory is wrong as far as I am concerned. I am 5'8". Was 120 lbs before pregnancy, lost all of it and even more during BF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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^meant to say lost all of pg weight, which was abt 35 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:57 AM Flag
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No clue - wasn't weight-obsessed before - much less-so now. Nursing is free and easy (for most) -- can be difficult.. everyone is different. Just do whatever works for you - what does it matter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here ever play music in public (subway, parks, etc)? I love playing guitar and probably play about three hours each weekend. I was thinking today that i might as well do so on the platform and make some money. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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+. My brother does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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how much does he make in a day and what does he play? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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My son has.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:42 AM Flag
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Singer here. I don't play in the city (young child, too far for me right now) but I am preparing right now to sing at local venues in NY Metro area. You can make decent money if you're good. Anywhere from $150 on up. I don't know how much the top bands make. It's not a living but it's pretty cool to get paid to sing/play, do something you love and touch hearts and souls. Music heals everyone. Go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:48 AM Flag
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Thanks! Yep I work full time, so I don't need the money, just thought it might be nice to have an audience and extra cash never hurts :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:10 AM Flag
[ - ] I am becoming a worse person because of dh. I'm staying in a marriage knowing I'm not treated right and I have been having mean terrible thoughts and feelings. I just generally feel so negative and it's not like me. At all. When he is traveling it's like I can breath... I do not know what to do. He is a great dad and made a huge deal of going to therapy and even planning a surprise vow renewal when I was on the brink of leaving about a year ago. He didn't change how he acts though, he's mean, angry and disrespectful to me, often in front of our 2yo. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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He can be a great dad, from another house. You don't sound happy at all. Don't waste your life being treated poorly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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I am so fucking sad and so tired of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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I could have written the first few sentences. DH is a workaholic who is gone 13-15 hours every weekday. When he goes on an occasional business trip, I'm in heaven. The differences - he is not a good father. And I've been married for over 20 years. I was ready to leave a few times, but he seemed to sense this somehow and became the perfect husband. And I stayed for the DC. The youngest is 16 and as soon as he leaves for college, I'm out. If I can stand it that long. Please get out now. Don't do what I did. Things will not improve. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:37 AM Flag
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^^^ The workaholism, which I used to consider a problem, is now my lifesaver. If he were around more my life would be really miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:37 AM Flag
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Well shit. This whole time I was thinking I was going to ask what you would do if you were me and you already said exactly what I didn't want to hear. We have been together for 12 years. Met him my freshman year of college in his native city and I've been here, with him, ever since. I have never worked, have family money but not much valuable work experience. Df just divorced in similar circumstances and her life is a tragic mess... it's like I know what I need to do but I am dragging my feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:43 AM Flag
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Me again - married for over 20 years to a mean, angry man. I should mention that he wasn't outright mean in the early years, but he was (and is) a narcissist. As he aged, he became much worse. Believe me, bad personalities only get worse with age. You are still young, and you can find a way to manage without him. Would you stay in the same city or move elsewhere? If you want/need to move it could be a problem. The first thing you should do is see a lawyer. I hope that your family money has been kept completely separate from his assets or joint assets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:11 AM Flag
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You sound like me. It's a cycle that is very very hard to break. I happen to come from a childhood where my stepfather was always angry, yelling, negative and though it's taken me 6 years I'm just staring to be able to cope with my attraction to this awful negative often abusive behavior. I went though a lot of pain, stress over what I might be doing to my daughter because he was "a good dad" and honestly now that I'm starting to come out the other side it's almost like i brainwashed myself for so long to make excuses and think it was OK. It's not. Find support, even if it's in the form of a self help book (by the time I left everyone was so sick of hearing about him because I had a history of always going back) and love yourself enough to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I thought maybe richard Carlson, author of don't sweat the small stuff, had a website but he died at 45! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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irony! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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Hardly. He's a poster child about why we shouldn't sweat the small stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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Op. Actually his wife does continue his website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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I tried to resd that book, but my dog ate it when she was a puppy. I was reading, I went to pick something from the kitchen. Came back. The entire inside of the book was eaten [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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Ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:34 AM Flag
[ - ] There is a drug dealer that lives in our neighborhood. Today I saw two young-ish looking scantily-clad teen girls part of what looked like a drug deal. Should I call the police to report them? DH says no because he's worried they will retaliate. There are not that many middle-class families in the neighborhood. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Let the police figure this stuff out. You're too inexperienced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Right, so should I call the police? I'm not going to manhandle them myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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yes I would. why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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Good grief, this isn't the 1930s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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How about asking the police to patrol the area around that time of day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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what hood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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Do you actually know what a drug deal looks like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:37 AM Flag
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Don't the police let you report suspicious activity anonymously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:58 AM Flag
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I saw a guy shooting up in his car in a parking lot outside a Wholefoods about a week ago. Sad life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:06 AM Flag
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You don't know how to "drop a dime" anonymously? It's pretty simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here had a boob job? Where do I start with my research? I want an incision in my arm pit, not under the breast, anyone know how to find out who to go to and what questions to ask? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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nokd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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My cleaning lady is getting her breast done this week. She said she is getting it under her arm pit. I could ask her when she comes back. Post in 4 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 02:42 AM Flag
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