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[ - ] I recently had a scare at work where I thought I was going to get fired. My manager later reassured me I was doing fine but there are several co-workers who are slowly and quietly getting promoted and I know I will never be any of the bosses "favorites" - I work for a fickle type boss and a Company that is very good at paying large salaries/bonuses but notorious for showing employees the door any day/time. So, given I already am preparing myself emotionally/financially for the possibility of a job loss. I am in my 40s, have 10+ yrs of experience at a company where my job duties are very niche and I know my salary is high (already tried lateralling, other firms told me they cant match it). I told DH I am interested in finding a separate revenue stream because once I lose this job, I will have ot take a salary cut to work elsewhere, or switch practice areas (assuming I find anything as I am aware companies dont usually like to hire older workers). I suggested we buy a rental property and build it up so we can use the income in case I am out of work for 2-3 years or something. DH balked at the idea because he is afraid of "nightmare tenants" and "NYC and LI judges in landlord/tenant court are so pro tenant. I need ideas for how to generate income that I can rely upon as we get older. DH's job is somewhat secure (civil service) but he is subject to layoffs if the NY state budget decides to eliminate his position down the line. Does anyone have suggestions or ideas for how to either (1) convince DH the investment property/rental property should be a worthy endeavor or (2) an alernate way of generating income without working for "da man"? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:41 PM Flag
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OP: Apologies for the length of the post! I should have read it before posting. [ Reply | More ]
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I'll give you my thoughts if you answer this survey http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55809822 [ Reply | More ]
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Pig who can't get laid by normal women. [ Reply | More ]
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That wasn't one of the questions. [ Reply | More ]
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You cut could your expenses down to the bone so you don't feel like you need your whole salary to live on. Save the excess. Just one idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:46 PM Flag
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OP: thanks, I am going to try that. We recently bought a house and made sure to put down a large downpayment so that we can technically pay the mortgage on just 1 salary (DH's salary is about $20K less than mine). We drive slightly older cars that are paid off (no leases/finance). We both have decent emergency savings accounts, but its not something I can rely on for more than, say..3 years. No family help as DH's parents are deceased (their estate and a small inheritance helped toward the downpayment) and my parents are not doing well in retirement as they are partially on SSDI. [ Reply | More ]
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I have posted this many times on UB but do Dave Ramsey's cash envelope method. You will actually feel as if you got a raise. It is very eye opening. It will prepare you for the day when you might need to downsize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:04 PM Flag
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...in case you need to downsize your job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:50 PM Flag
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Bay Area real estate mom here. Owning and managing rental real estate, which is what I do for a living, is a job. People who think it's no different than investing in stocks and bonds have no appreciation for the work and hassles that come with it. Getting into it for the sole reason that you want to have a reliable income in case you lose your job is a mistake. My advice is to be saving a large percentage of your take home income and invest it in low cost index funds. [ Reply | More ]
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I think an alternate income stream is always comforting, but landlording isn't for everyone. And to answer something you didn't ask, I used to work in executive search, and our firm wouldn't look at candidates who had been at one company for 12 years or longer. They were considered to be too mired in one company's culture to be able to transition successfully. So if you think you'll have to make a move, maybe look aggressively now. Not to add further stress to an already stressful situation, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Spin off on RE question: how much do you think those guys on Million Dollar Listing make per year? I mean like Fredrick and Ryan Serhant? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:38 PM Flag
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No idea. Are commission rates as normal at those levels? It seems like it isn't really that much more work to sell a $20 million apartment than a $500k apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:43 PM Flag
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Really? Much lower demand for $20M apartments. [ Reply | More ]
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which is the RE post ? those guys make a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:43 PM Flag
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meh, dont think I would really care- these guys definitely earn more than me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:44 PM Flag
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A few million a year. [ Reply | More ]
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Broker here: they probably get high split percentages, but then they have to pay their teams who actually do the work, just like law partners have to pay associates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you feel that its annoying or even insulting that my dh who gets home from work at 7,Then We eat by 8 hes asleep on the couch. He stays asleep until 10. Then when dcs and i go to bed he gets up, does whatever until 1230, then comes to bed. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:37 PM Flag
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Do you work outside the home? [ Reply | More ]
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What does he say when you tell him you miss him? Does he drink alcohol in the evening? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:44 PM Flag
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Sounds like me after a long day, except that I don't get to sleep during the evening because I have so much to do at home. By the time everyone is asleep, I'm up for another two hours to get some down time. [ Reply | More ]
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No sleep is the best down time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:46 PM Flag
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Sounds like me. I work all day, make dinner, then while DC are relaxing (from about 8-9) I sometimes fall asleep in front of TV. I'm up again by 8:45-9 for bedtime, then usually stay up another couple of hours doing whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] My 7 y/o DD just started talking about sleepaway camp. At what age did you send your DC away for the summer? Where did you send them? Any recommendations? Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:36 PM Flag
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We started after 4th grade -- two weeks for dd. We did visit two camps the summer before while they were in session, so you might want to do that next summer w/your dd. I would say not before 4th grade as far as maturity, readiness for most kids. My son prob wouldn't even be ready after 4th, more like 5th, so depends on the kid [ Reply | More ]
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Dd went last summer at 7 for a week. It was fantastic and she wants to go this summer for 7 weeks. She LOVED it and had a wonderful time. We sent her to a place not too far from the city (Camp Scatico near Rhinebeck) because friends recommended it. They were lovely, came and visited us at home to make sure she was ready and that she really wanted to go (as opposed to being pushed by us). I loved that they had a trial week and highly recommend finding a camp that does similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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I sent mine the summer before third grade, when she had just turned eight. That was the earliest year for her camp (Wyonegonic in Maine -- LOVE them). The options for that camp are either 3.5 weeks or 7, and she went for 3.5 the first year and then has done 7 the next two years, at her request. Wyo is all girls, no technology, no electricity in the cabins, and has a variety of activities. It's exactly what you'd picture for an old-fashioned summer camp, like in The Parent Trap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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^^btw I know a lot of people who believe in camp think 8 is too young. My thoughts were twofold: I knew DD would love camp, and I didn't want her to get to the end and say "I could have had two more years at camp if you had sent me right away." And I figured the longer you wait, the more the other campers already know one another, and it's harder to break in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] UB mom survey. It's now 10:30AM. Please answer teh following questions with respect to your fertile vaginas: (a) is it groomed and how, (b) what type and color of panties are you wearing, and (c) how much fertile essense has leaked into your panties since you put them on this morning i.e. are they bone dry, moist, wet? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:36 PM Flag
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And ... we go from mesh shorts and boi baskets and pap smears to "fertile vaginas." Is there just one of you doing this for the past 4-5 years or do you keep training up younger kids to take your place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:54 PM Flag
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It's a real thing. Fertile vaginas have a different sort of mucous than infertile ones. It's super hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:57 PM Flag
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Fertile vaginas have very clear and clean and liquid mucous. Infertile ones have gross milky and dry mucous. It's like nature is warning men that the latter vagina is not only gross in terms of the mucous it produces but also attached to a defective woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:00 PM Flag
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Dude you’re a loser. Thanks for your IP address. I’m going to doxx you if you post again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:59 PM Flag
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This is a scientific fact. Fertile vaginas produce a healthy liquid and crystal clear mucous. Infertile ones produce a very thick white mucous that looks disgusting. You must have the latter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:02 PM Flag
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Hi x, check your work email [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] City Quiet windows: are they worth it ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:34 PM Flag
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Yes. 10-12 decibel reduction in sound. Numerous studies show lower noise helps learning and productivity. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have Citi Quiet? wondering which company makes the best sound proofing windows [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Going on a "girls" trip for 2 nights to a resort-type of hotel. WTH do I pack? I am so clueless and barely even go on vacations. Just looking forward to reading and laughing with 2 dear friends. Probably not doing a spa treatment (very expensive) and will go out for dinner either onsite or in town. Weather in the 60s or low 70s. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:21 PM Flag
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OP the last time I had a girls' trip was for bachelorette getaways, pre-DH and DCs! [ Reply | More ]
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and yes, this is a first-world problem by all means! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:23 PM Flag
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Assuming it’s a warm destination, just your travel outfit there/back, a couple sundresses, a couple shirts, skirt or shorts, bathing suit, hat and sunglasses, and workout clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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Thanks, clearly I'm making this much harder than it should be. Most of my wardrobe is work clothes or workout stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:27 PM Flag
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If you are flying, you might be surprised at the shopping options at your airport. I swear some of my fav clothes come from little airport shops! [ Reply | More ]
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Ooh nice! Yes, flying to Arizona. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:52 PM Flag
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Whatever fits in a carry-on and make sure you have travel sized shampoo, creme rinse, etc. Hair spray too. Otherwise TSA takes them away from you. Do not check a bag! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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Thanks, that's what I'm aiming to do. Took day off work to do some cleaning and packing bc I'm trying to be a better and more efficient packer :) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Appropriate age to tell African-American DC that Wakanda doesn't exist? Or do they figure it out like with Santa Claus? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pretty lame post, actually. [ Reply | More ]
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Fuck off Boris. This blog is for moms only. [ Reply | More ]
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I think there's a kid in here today in addition to the Russians. [ Reply | More ]
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Never [ Reply | More ]
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Let's build it and make it exist! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Let's take the lead of the Florida kids. WRITE to you senators and reps today! Takes 5 minutes. They work for us. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:09 PM Flag
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Fuck off Boris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:10 PM Flag
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Not Boris, but do have a Russian grandparent. Those kids have it right. We should be ashamed of doing nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:17 PM Flag
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If u live in NYC, your senators and congressman are already for gun control. I did donate to Bloomberg’s Everytown campaign [ Reply | More ]
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Good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:16 PM Flag
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actually, Kristen Gillembrant has taken some money from the NRA. Not much, about $5K but to me it matters [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know her actual statements or stance but I'm from the bumfuck parts of NYS and there she has a (positive) rep for being pro gun. [ Reply | More ]
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Stop being divisive. [ Reply | More ]
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uh, I prefer my children don't die. [ Reply | More ]
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Statistically, the chances are pretty slim. Do you buy lottery tickets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:18 PM Flag
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You are ok with school shootings? You think a 20 year old should be able to buy an assault weapon? You are ok with the NRA's influence on our politicians? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:19 PM Flag
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Of course, I'm not okay with school shootings, or with AR-15s being for sale in the US, but not because I think my children are going to be killed in a mass shooting. If you wake up every day afraid your children are going to be shoot in school you have a horrible grasp of probabilities and statistics. [ Reply | More ]
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Well I'd like to protect all children, and adults for that matter, not just mine. I actually have a background in statistics. Chances are small, but very meaningful if happens. And why not? What is downside to sensible gun control laws? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:31 PM Flag
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NP. I’m not against raising age to buy a gun to 21. I’d actually prefer to lower the drinking age though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:28 PM Flag
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Yes, crazy that we can send a kid to war but they can't legally buy a beer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:32 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I am totally in support of increased control and even an all out ban on certain weapons. That is a start. However, we also MUST deal with the mental health crisis in this country as we are not dealing with disturbed people quickly or addressing their issues. These shootings didn't happen 35 years ago (not to this degree). So, something else has happened in our society. I realize screaming and yelling about gun control is a very good start but there is something else much more complicated happening in our society and it scares the crap out of me. Who is willing to start to figure this out? [ Reply | More ]
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I am proud that my Congress people have consistently voted for gun restrictions. How do I know? Here: https://www.npr.org/2018/02/19/566731477/chart-how-have-your-members-of-congress-voted-on-gun-bills [ Reply | More ]
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Fuck that [ Reply | More ]
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My reps write me about gun control [ Reply | More ]
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Doesn't change a thing. Nobody should be able to buy assault weapons unless in military and at war. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it psychologically healthy to believe all contrary opinions originate from Russia? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:08 PM Flag
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Well it's healthy to believe the facts which have shown there was a lot of internet malarky with regards to Russia...there are tomes of information and more coming out. Or be an ostrich. [ Reply | More ]
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You're fucking here every day. It's not "malarky" ... and by the way, your English dictionary is out of date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:20 PM Flag
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All? No, we have homegrown dummies too. They're not as productive though. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. This [ Reply | More ]
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It is a symptom of psychological illness, as demonstrated over and over on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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You're the one who is psychologically ill, working in a place like you do. Look around you. I'll bet your family would be ashamed of you. [ Reply | More ]
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Seek help, you need it. [ Reply | More ]
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On this board all the politics posts are generally paid trolls. Part of their job is trying to claim they're not here. OP is part of the operation. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you really this stupid? Or are you simply a troll yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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No one ever points out our own government is gaslighting us. They do all this shit we suspect them of doing, they say we're crazy, then it's revealed the do it after all. The Russian troll thing is just them trying to shift all the blame. Sorry, can't blame Boris for everything. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 totally agree. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. Not working Boris. [ Reply | More ]
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You need help [ Reply | More ]
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Russian snark. Too funny [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Mocking the absurd "contrary opinions" is a better option than taking them seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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Fuck all Russians. they suck. [ Reply | More ]
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Most trolls here are from that law school board. They're Americans. And I think they enjoy being called Russians. [ Reply | More ]
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https://www.reddit.com/r/xoxohth/comments/7rd9mx/reconvene_at_urbanbabycom/ They also appear to enjoy trolling some running board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:28 PM Flag
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Russian posters do post on this and many other sites. They are trying to rip the fabric of America. Stand united. We have always had political differences. Nbd. But no other country is going to manipulate us into believing falsehoods. [ Reply | More ]
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ehh maybe but the person you accuse most of the time is me, and im a mom in NJ [ Reply | More ]
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??? Are you the m Monitor [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] † 666 lmao libs ur all gonna die 666 † 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Death is equal opportunity. [ Reply | More ]
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Jared Kushner's building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m so depressed and kinda pissed off that I am. My ahole almost ex still upsets me and makes me sad. I wish he didn’t have that much influence over me. Can anyone relate? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yes, still mad at him [ Reply | More ]
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How long has it been? [ Reply | More ]
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This is very normal, I bet. Can you see a therapist to help you with this process (which is really mourning) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] A woman moved into the apartment next to us that had been vacant and on the market for 8 months. She's been here about a week, apparently she's a graduate student without a job, and left a note under our door last night saying 1)she loves our choice of music but could we please make volume lower? 2) Our kids are really cute but have been loud (they're on mid-winter break), 3) could we tone down the garlic? I'd like to smack or shake this woman or just tell her that maybe she's not suited to apartment living. We have't even met her (our DCs' nanny has while we've been at work). Who does this woman think she is in her 4k per month apartment? 81 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Give her FreshDirect delivery to a homeless person. [ Reply | More ]
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I would show the note to the super. [ Reply | More ]
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Why [ Reply | More ]
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Because the notes are going to keep coming. Hopefully she is doing it to other neighbors too [ Reply | More ]
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What is she doing that is so offensive though? She just sounds like a pita neighbor. [ Reply | More ]
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Wait.... [ Reply | More ]
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That's apt. life for you. I'd call management and say she's harassing you. Start the file. [ Reply | More ]
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How is leaving a polite note harassment [ Reply | More ]
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"tone down the garlic". People are allowed to cook as they see fit. This neighbor seems apt to making trouble. [ Reply | More ]
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It is passive aggressive. She could have popped over with a bottle of wine for a quick meet and great, she seems to know when people are home. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here - never get notes under the door and I thought a handwritten note under the door was going to be an intro from her to say "hey, I'm your new neighbor!" [ Reply | More ]
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NP: In our building any complaints are required to go through front desk/management and kept anonymous and this sort of one-on-one communication is discouraged, as it can totally lead to harassment. [ Reply | More ]
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If anything, she could start complaining to the management company such that they start a file on OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:23 PM Flag
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Exactly. Which is why op needs to let the super in on it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:33 PM Flag
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We've been in this building for nearly a decade and never have we ever gotten a "note" from a neighbor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:04 PM Flag
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I know, but you're in close proximity and there's always potential for a nut job. I had complaints about my dog even when she was boarded and we were away. People are miserable and think they own the world. She assumes that b/c she pays 4K that she's entitled to a library style experience--silent and sterile. But others have the right within reason to cook, play music, have children shriek and make noise. If you don't like it move to the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
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or her dad pays. [ Reply | More ]
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Other than the garlic she is well within her rights [ Reply | More ]
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Assuming she isn’t not being overly sensitive with respect to the other items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:04 PM Flag
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Sure, and we have our rights as well. [ Reply | More ]
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you don't have the right to infringe on other's spaces with your music [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:42 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
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Completely agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:29 PM Flag
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Depends on the hours. She is not entitled to complete quiet 24 hours a day. [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore [ Reply | More ]
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That's what DH said when I wanted to knock on her door. Will ignore and be fake polite if we see her. [ Reply | More ]
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Do not engage. Do not [ Reply | More ]
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Do not engage. Do not [ Reply | More ]
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Me thinks you're the same troll with the Hermes bag post. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? Definitely not me with anything related to Hermes. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't "Huh" me, troll! [ Reply | More ]
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What Hermes bag post? I missed that one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:11 PM Flag
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An obvious troll post that did not make it to MP. Exaggerated just like this one. That's how you know trolls. [ Reply | More ]
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
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Ahhhh, Millennials. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:06 PM Flag
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Ha thanks. Our nanny called her a "girl" so I'm sure she's under 30. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:08 PM Flag
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How loud do you play music? This can be SUPER annoying especially if you have a subwoofer that puts out bass. On the garlic and kids tell her to go fuck herself but do it in person so she doesn't have evidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:08 PM Flag
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We play the music from about 7-8 each night (while DH and I are preparing our dinner, DCs have eaten right before we get home), not burst-your-eardrums loud [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:09 PM Flag
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It's probably fine. Just make sure you don't have a subwoofer. Those send this very irritating boom sound across the walls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:12 PM Flag
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Don't think we have a subwoofer and not willing to change the music :) We have Sonos and there's no bass that shakes anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:13 PM Flag
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I'd really need a decibel meter to see if you're in the wrong here. You can download one on your iphone from the app store, or android if you have that. Tell us how many db you reach when you play music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:21 PM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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Suspicious that you won't take a db reading. You probably play thumping hip hop music which would be annoying as hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:29 PM Flag
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Nope. Not worth the effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:33 PM Flag
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Takes 2 seconds to download a free app and it takes readings instantly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:37 PM Flag
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for an annoying neighbor? why should she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:52 PM Flag
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not suspicious - just rude. OP seems totally uninterested in others' rights to quiet enjoyment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:55 PM Flag
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My dh plays music and he doesn't think it is loud but it is loud. If it is too loud to have a conversation without yelling then it is too loud IMO. I don't care about your neighbor, playing music for one hour is NBD. Just saying your normalmeter for loudness may be screwed up like my dh's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:38 PM Flag
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Yeah if you can't have a conversation that's probably 80db which is too loud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:40 PM Flag
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P.S. he needs headphones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:41 PM Flag
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I'd hand a garlic wreath on my door. Just sayin' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:10 PM Flag
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:35 PM Flag
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LOL!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:38 PM Flag
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She's a vampire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:10 PM Flag
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If she ever approaches you or DH in person, just smile, nod, and ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:12 PM Flag
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leave a note saying "no thank you" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:13 PM Flag
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I love this idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:13 PM Flag
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No don't do that. Either ignore it or verbally threaten her, perhaps with physical violence and deny it if she accuses you of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:21 PM Flag
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Not funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:30 PM Flag
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I’d make some onion soup one night, followed by curry the next. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:18 PM Flag
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:35 PM Flag
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Put some droplets on her door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:38 PM Flag
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Definitely do the Indian curry with extra garlics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:47 PM Flag
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She should be complaining to the management company and not you directly. Since you are so offended, maybe you should tell her that so you won't have to deal with her directly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:22 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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This. Maybe she's just never lived in a rental apt building before. If you have a complaint, call the front desk. They should take care of it anonymously. They will also push back if her complaints don't align with rules (maybe no excessive noise after 9PM or something so you are within your rights to crank it up at 8). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:31 PM Flag
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It's not a rental - it's a co-op but she's renting (the apt. was taken off market and made available for rent) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:34 PM Flag
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So you think she should deal directly with you then? Okay. Then deal with it and stop whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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Do you have a relationship with the owner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:05 PM Flag
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Does your building have rules with respect to carpeting (which keeps down the noise) and are you abiding by those? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:24 PM Flag
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There are rules and our kids aren't running around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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Not answering the question, are you abiding by carpet rules [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:43 PM Flag
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I’d invite her over for dinner to get to know you and kids. Draw her closer and maybe she’ll be a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:28 PM Flag
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Here's what i would do: turn the music down a notch or two, give her one of those cushions you put under the front door to block outside air/smells, and apologize for the kids, explaining they're usually in school. You may need a favor sometime in life and it's always easier/better to be friendly and build bridges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:29 PM Flag
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^ doormat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:30 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:33 PM Flag
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THIS is what you should do, OP. Kill her with kindness. Best approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:40 PM Flag
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No, I just do not think you can do this. She is likely a nut and you need to direct the issue to management. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:05 PM Flag
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definitely keep the note and maybe notify management. It'll escalate further. We had a neighbor ( one acre lots, so plenty of space in between) who started with polite notes on how our kids interrupted her afternoon naps and it then escalated to the point where she got a megaphone and came out to curse out the kids when they played outside. My husband dealt with her, but just saying there are crazy people out there with low tolerance, so you're better off being on offensive and keeping records. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:42 PM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:06 PM Flag
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If you are only playing music for an hour before 9pm, your kids are not causing noise before 8am or after 8pm, and you are not cooking a pound of garlic in the middle of the night you are fine. People need to be reasonable with apartment and city living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: my former boss (who I consider a mean spirited person) contacted me because she needs help on something she's working on. We're no longer in the same co. She texts and asks how am I and my cute little family. The whole "cute little family" comes across as demeaning to me, but maybe I'm over analyzing. Thoughts? Would you help her? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:58 PM Flag
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I’d ask what she needs and see whether I could do it with minimal effort. Never hurts to build some goodwill in this case imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:07 PM Flag
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Dont look for trouble. Why not help if you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:15 PM Flag
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Does her first name start with L? My most toxic boss from over 6 years ago still occasionally texts me similar messages. Just ignore her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:02 PM Flag
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It's passive aggressive. Ask her how her barren loins are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:03 PM Flag
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She’s not being condescending, just an ass. She’s trying to be sweet and to pull your heartstrings by complementing your family and not you directly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:09 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:14 PM Flag
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She used that phrase to cover the fact that she can't remember how many kids you have or their ages or sexes or names. I would let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:46 PM Flag
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Ha, this. When I can't remember if someone has a son or daughter, I say "how is your little one?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:57 PM Flag
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OR: My dad was a state police officer and couldn't remember any children's names, so he called them all "young trooper." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I told you CNN scripted that town hall. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:52 PM Flag
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FAKE RUSSIAN NEWS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:15 PM Flag
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Svetlana, go give Boris something he can feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:53 PM Flag
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"I"...give me your name please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:54 PM Flag
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Is Putin going to kill Navalny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 02:56 PM Flag
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THIS is your big takeaway from last night's townhall? Of all the issues discussed, and all the children who have died in school shootings, and THIS is what you focus on? Man, the right-wing gun-lovers are truly a disturbed group of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:15 PM Flag
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How do you remember to breathe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.18, 03:21 PM Flag
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