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[ - ] Divorced and share custody of DCs (both teens) with exDH. For context, part of the reason I supported shared custody is because I very much value them having a relationship with their father. That said, they are really having a hard time when they spend time at his house. He has a temper, is regularly stressed and takes it out on them (by being mean, blowing up, and blaming them), prioritizes what he wants to do with almost no regard for any plans they have made, and often is just not around because of various social commitments or because he has decided he wants to train for a triatholon or cheer on his GF at her soccer games. They are really good kids - straight A students, hard working, and generally respectful but things are definitely at a boiling point and my daughter has been in tears saying she just can't stand being in that environment anymore as she is tired of the constant fights, the lack of any predictable schedule, and the stress. I have tried to broach the subject with him and he blows up and attacks me to the point where I can't even get a sentence out. TIA for any advice, this is really hard right now. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No advice, but I'm really sorry you're going through this. Can't imagine. Any chance your ex would go to therapy/family counseling? [ Reply | More ]
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I actually tried to suggest that this week (since we aren't able to have a productive conversation about it just the two of us) and it made him even more angry and he is vehemently opposed. [ Reply | More ]
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No advice but sounds like you are a good mom [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for the kind words. [ Reply | More ]
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Friends 2 daughters had to take a break on time with dad for these same reasons. Didn't visit for an entire school year - unless it was for the long holiday breaks like xmas. See what you can do. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Travel poll: Have you been to... 94 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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China [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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yes--was very fortunate with a work trip once. amazing place [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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No, probably won't ever be able to. [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Never going back. Can't get over their toilet/or lack there of. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Several times. [ Reply | More ]
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India [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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no. [ Reply | More ]
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On my bucket list. [ Reply | More ]
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Russia [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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No, not allowed to go there either. [ Reply | More ]
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no. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Thailand [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, several times. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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no. [ Reply | More ]
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Japan [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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only a layover on the way to Thailand :( [ Reply | More ]
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I've done a layover at Narita on the way to Seoul. Best airport food ever. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Argentina [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Brazil [ Reply | More ]
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yes, several trips [ Reply | More ]
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Australia [ Reply | More ]
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South Africa [ Reply | More ]
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no (am I the only one answering?) [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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I can see Russia from my house. [ Reply | More ]
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Sarah??? Thrilla in Wasilla = best news-related name for an event. [ Reply | More ]
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Vietnam [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, it's beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
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South Korea [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, several times [ Reply | More ]
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Turkey [ Reply | More ]
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Egypt [ Reply | More ]
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Morocco [ Reply | More ]
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Kenya [ Reply | More ]
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Alabama [ Reply | More ]
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Unfortunately, yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Why unfortunate? Where did you go? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Drove through a few times. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes - the history is great. the air pollution is horrible [ Reply | More ]
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sorry... China. [ Reply | More ]
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Been everywhere except India, Africa and south america. Probably will keep it that way. [ Reply | More ]
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Israel [ Reply | More ]
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YES, born and raised! [ Reply | More ]
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Jordan [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Lawyer - reading, skiing, golfing and music. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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oops! for post below [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm not worried at all about Ebola. Is everyone else worried? I feel like it's been the main topic here for weeks. Anything else to talk about? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not worried in the slightest. [ Reply | More ]
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sure we can talk about ISIS [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Eh, I feel like they don't need any more press. How about Renee Zellwegger? My opinion is that she stopped with all the coke, got her eye lids done and had a lot of sleep and water. You? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Oh, and some botox. I feel like she's trying to do a Robin Wright impression. [ Reply | More ]
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I think ISIS is a much bigger/more realistic threat than Ebola - maybe it's just easier to "worry" about Ebola because we all know deep down it's not an issue. No one wants to admit to themselves that ISIS is freaking scary. [ Reply | More ]
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Question: why can't they do a finger prick blood test before letting passengers in hot zones board the place? Clearly just taking the temp isn't enough [ Reply | More ]
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No kidding. [ Reply | More ]
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Not worried. But I'm tired of hearing the doctor didn't out anyone at risk. He put at-least 4 people at risk, including his fiancé. They had exposure to him after he showed symptoms. [ Reply | More ]
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He took temperature twice a day and called CDC as soon as it became elevated. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] if my dc is in a pre school (UES) where more than half of the kids go to public, and the PSD is not connected, do we have a shot of getting DS into a TT for K? Anyone with similar experience? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, the psd at my dd's UES preschool was a waste of space. DD got into a tt school for k. Sometimes it helps to be at such a preschool when you aren't competing with siblings or legacies. Plus, schools really do like to take kids from a variety of preschools. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. The trend now is to take kids from as many preschools as possible. Our TT took kids from 29 schools for a class of about 50. [ Reply | More ]
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That is good to hear. Is it a SS or coed? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] An acquaintance is hiring a tutor for her second grade kid, who is in SS private school. She said it is because the pressure is so high to be on top. Really? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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In second grade? I doubt that is the reason. More like the kid isn't reading yet. [ Reply | More ]
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oh yes, absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it that common? Am I that oblivious? [ Reply | More ]
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things start getting real. [ Reply | More ]
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Meaning? [ Reply | More ]
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Right... [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe her child is struggling. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Teacher's College Grad Wields axe in Jihadist Queens Attack 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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first time ever for that headline, I believe [ Reply | More ]
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what? [ Reply | More ]
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He went to Teachers' College?? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Pavane in F Sharp, Op 50 is the height of beauty. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Arraignment for oboe and piano is fantastic. [ Reply | More ]
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The oboe is so underrated (np) [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for turning me on to this - it is lovely. You know what stops me in my tracks every time? Saturday Night Waltz, the third movement from Rodeo. Very different than this piece, of course! But what can I say, I'm a sucker for Copland. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I know answers will vary, but if you have a first grader, what reading level are they at now? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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P -- and pretty much learned it own her own. [ Reply | More ]
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On her own [ Reply | More ]
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>>or if dc is older, what level were they at at this point in the year? [ Reply | More ]
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K [ Reply | More ]
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I/J and so proud of him! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Spin off of the reading group post below. DD not in school yet - applying this year. Do all school do this? What is the thinking behind these groups. They do not seem like a great idea to me - just a recipe for giving even more of a leg up to redshirted kids. Any one with real life experience? Pros and cons? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not sure, DD in 1st grade at a private school and they told us they are "dynamic". I am not a fan from what I have seen so far. [ Reply | More ]
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They do it so they can "focus on the needs the kids at their level." In my experience what it means is that if your kid is a very good reader, like mine is (not bragging - BELIEVE ME he's got a shit ton of other problems) he kind of gets left to read on his own while the teachers focus on the kids who need more help. [ Reply | More ]
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Well in the class the reading levels are all over the place, so the teachers will place kids in the same reading levels together. Why would this have anything to do with red shirting? [ Reply | More ]
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NP in my experience (private SS school) there are many redshirted girls. So there are girls who are a full year older than others, and they are better readers, spellers, have better reading comprehension than the younger kids (in general, there are exceptions). They are placed in higher groups, given harder homework, spelling words ect. DD is not yet at a grade where the age difference impact has leveled out. [ Reply | More ]
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In first grade our school (NYC private, co-ed) has 4 reading groups. They are dynamic, meaning kids move up and down throughout the year. I don't see how they could NOT have reading groups at this age. There are kids just barely reading at this age, while other kids have been reading chapter books since pre-k. How could they all be in one group? At our school the kids who are barely reading have their reading group with one of the 3 building reading specialists. These are kids who very much need to be taught to read. The second level also has language arts with a reading specialist. These are kids for whom decoding has clicked, but they still need support. the classroom teacher has the kids who are on grade level or above average readers. The assistant teacher has the kids who are completely fluent readers (the kids who basically came into K already loving reading, reading chapter books etc.). I think it's a good system. I have one kid who needed the reading specialist and one who read chapter books in pre-k, so I have seen it from both side and I think it works well. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] GRACEPOINT fans: Who killed Danny? I can't wait for the next episode. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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We like it too but the "conflict" between the two investigators is to tired. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't bother me. I find the weird trailer woman over played and the son of Ellie the cop pretty odd. Nick Nolte has a very small role for a show so my money is on him. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Lovely morning- got my full caramel mocha for five dollars as a special treat for an already tough day. Crossing street someone in hurry shoved my arm and the whole coffee flew I got he air and crashed on the ground and a bunch of people yelled at me for gettig their shoes wet. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i see this happening in slow motion. [ Reply | More ]
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Ha. Yes, in a comedy where noone cares if they spend ten dollars on morning coffee to replace the one that exploded on the street. [ Reply | More ]
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people are idiots! don't take it personally. go get yourself another one and have a lovely day :) [ Reply | More ]
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First-world problems. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh man, at least it's Friday. This happened to my friend, but instead all the people around her majorly yelled at the woman who had knocked the coffee out of her hand, so she felt vindicated. Did you go get another coffee? Go right now! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DH just had a tantrum and swore at me because the printer was out of black ink. I've not printed lately so it hadn't occurred to me to check; DH uses it frequently. Sigh. Our 10th grade ds is more mature these days. Sorry, just had to vent. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The issue is why would your DH swear at you. Unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
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He does that from time to time when he's upset. Also has a tendency to break things. Has never hit me and I don't think he ever will, but he has an issue with blaming anyone around him when things go wrong for him. Like, for instance, me. [ Reply | More ]
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That describes my exDH. Though not "from time to time," more like really frequently. What bothered me more than anything was actually the blaming. I got so incredibly tired of being blamed for things anytime he was stressed, things weren't going well, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It's part of a pattern where he also blames his employers and coworkers. Nothing is ever really his fault. [ Reply | More ]
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Let it slide unless it becomes a pattern. [ Reply | More ]
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What an ass. I'd ice him out majorly. But then again, I'm single. :) [ Reply | More ]
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Divorce. Will only get worse. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I wore latex glove when taking subway to work today, tossed the glove outside the station, and avoided touching anything. Call me crazy but I am making DH and nanny do it as well. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Okay. Hopefully you're still diligently looking both ways before you cross the street too. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 And watching for that lightening. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok but what about your eyes, mouth and eyes if your really believe you can catch it. What about the stair railings, turnstyles, all the restaurants, taxis, places the guys could have come into contact with. [ Reply | More ]
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Washing your hands would have worked too. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't litter. You suck. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know how to take the gloves off properly? There's actually a proper way to to it. If you're wearing gloves (BTW - latex is old school. You want nitrile gloves - they're better) and don't take them off properly you're negating any perceived benefit you think you're getting from wearing them. [ Reply | More ]
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A friend of mine got tuberculosis a few years ago, and because the rest of her life is so repetitive and no one else she knew had it, her doctor told her she most likely got it from the subway. No guarantees, of course, but that was the one place she was in a crowd every day. [ Reply | More ]
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Did she travel abroad? Usually, the contact has to be prolonged. Maybe a neighbor. [ Reply | More ]
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You are crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: i agree i am crazy. i do look both ways when i cross the street bc cyclists ride against the traffic sometimes. i did not touch the outside of the gloves when i took them off. and i threw them in a trash can (i don't litter!). again - i know i am crazy. at least i still go to work and let DC go to school. i know moms who lock up their kids at home and they don't even live in NYC. i guess hysterical moms find each other. Be safe everyone! [ Reply | More ]
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I heard on NPR that ebola is spread when the patient has all the symptoms of the disease. If someone actually has ebola, they are not able to ride a subway. They are so sick that they can't get out of bed or out of the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
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And what are you doing for climate change? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] College Admissions--How much do grades in first year of HS matter? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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wondering this, too. Just discovered DC isn't doing very well in 3 classes (lack of studying--hoping to fix). At top high school and having to really study for first time. It's been a rude awakening . . . [ Reply | More ]
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this is us too [ Reply | More ]
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a class grade freshman year counts as much as one junior or senior year. GPA is an equal-weighted calculation.... [ Reply | More ]
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That said, they will look at the progression of grades over the years and note improvement. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it just the final grade per year that matters for GPA? [ Reply | More ]
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No, it's the complete average for the GPA. But they'll also look at the separate grades on the transcript so will note improvement from year to year. [ Reply | More ]
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I am under the impression that grades 10th and 11th are the ones that count. 8th and 9th grades are ramp ups to AP, honors classed,advanced math which all come together in 10th and 11th. Cannot get bad grades in grade 12, otherwise risk getting a college acceptance rescinded. [ Reply | More ]
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8th does not even count [ Reply | More ]
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8th only counts in NY State if DC takes regents exams in 8th. Then the course grades count on the transcript. So if you have a dc who's not doing well in a regents course, think twice about having them take the exam at this point or their class grade will show up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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They will get looked at, but if they aren't fantastic and there is still an upward trend to doing really well junior year, it is not an unmitigated disaster, not like bad grades junior year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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np- have a DD who just started at Bard Manhattan. Lots of kids are having a tough adjustment to the whole condensing 4 years of hs into 2. But they love school nonetheless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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It depends on the college. Top colleges will want a strong gpa each year. Other colleges may look for an upward trend.They look at the final grades for the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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What gpa is considered "strong"? Highest grade Bard awards on transcripts is 96. Don't know why. Supposedly a number of good colleges realize that Bard is different. Also, kids graduate with 2 yrs. of college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Maybe they figure that no one can really master 100% of any subject? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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UC system explicitly excludes 9th grade results [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] How about this dress for 29 year old? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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Hmmm.it looks a little cheesy and cheap. Like a suburban pageant dress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Are you going to e ball? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Looks cheap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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even if it's for a fancy event, it looks like you are trying too hard unless you are competing in a pageant. Go for something more hip. And unless you have a killer figure, I think it will look tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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lol, wtf. Where is she going? Time traveling back to an 80s beauty pageant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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In flyover it is still the 80s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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"The 80s didn't come to Canada until 1994." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Where is that from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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HIMYM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Looks like a pageant queen from Mobile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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Better but no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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like the color and the silhouette, but too many sequins. Fine with sequins on bodice or scattered throughout, but don't like them on the butt. Would almost be better to have it all be sequined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Eh. I like the idea of the first one better they just didn't pull it off without looking cheesy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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first is better if you have the body like that model but otherwise no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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better and acceptable unlike first one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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OP look at the sale section of Neiman Marcus, Out the Net and Blue fly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Gold Issa dress on Out the Net is stunning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Look up the Maggie Sottero "Madrid". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Chapin, Spence or Brearley? In what order and why? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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I would rank them about the same academically. - Brearley mom. See which one best fits your family or apply to all and see where you get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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this is the right advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Yep. Academics are the same. It's all about fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Whichever your DD gets into. Honestly, people, they are SO much more similar than different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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"Brearley girls become doctors, Chapin girls marry doctors, Spence girls have affairs with doctors." But that was the 80s... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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who wants to be a doctor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Most girls want degrees in the liberal arts and time to travel the world and find themselves before doing an internship at the publishing house. All paid for by Daddy. God forbid that stoop to medical school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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This is fucking hilarious. And with more than a grain of truth, even today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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B, c, s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My sister and I just lived that episode of SATC where Miranda and Steve go to Steve's mom's apartment. It is so bad. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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So sorry. Happened to my parents we hired a housekeeper and it has been much better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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She fired the housekeepers because they were stealing her blind, she said. It's only been 2 months so we didn't think it could be this bad this quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Lived or loved? What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Lived. We just got a look at the apartment since dad died. She is not there ... Without our knowing she jumped on a cruise. We did not hear from her for several days and tracked her down. We thought she was safer in the city because of the 24 hour availability of help but that means she can also get in a taxi to the airport. Her apartment was wide open - not locked. Flies everywhere, rotting trash. The neighbor was supposed to watch her pets, they looked sick and apparently turns out the cats have been eating her prescriptions which she has spilled in odd places. We have to get her out of here immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Holy clusterfuck Batman. Time to declare her mentally incompetent and appoint yourselves as guardians. I fear I am heading the same way w/my Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Meeting with the lawyer in an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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I'm sorry for your situation, too. It's been hard to get a handle on it. Dad actually apparently did so much for her and did a good job of keeping us at a distance. We don't live in the city so it was difficult to get an accurate picture of what was happening. It was at least okay until dad died, and then the train just went off the rails. It has all happened really quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Clearly, you have NO idea how difficult it is to do that. OP's mother is in no way at that point. Witness the fact that she got herself on a cruise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Oh no. What are you going to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Figuring it out. Just sort of in shock. She has gone downhill in an epic way that we did not expect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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I was watching that the other day. So sad. I am sorry you and your family are going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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So sorry. GL to you and your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:19 PM Flag
[ - ] SO: Name the three greatest cities in the world. 53 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Paris, New York, Tokyo. In that order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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agree completely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Florence, San Francisco, Paris [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Rome, Istanbul, Jerusalem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Hail Byzantium [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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maybe once. no longer. they are, sadly, crumbling memorials to prior greatness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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I love the crumbly bits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I don't like big cities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Why are you here then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Because I live in metropolitan NYC area and it's a free country, idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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No one said you had to choose big cities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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True, but Limasol doesn't sound very impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Cleveland, Minsk, Calcutta [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Not a joke, I love Kolkata it's a wonderful place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Lol at spelling it like that, get a grip. But yes, I too love wallowing in shit and being unable to walk ten feet without seeing some grotesquely deformed beggar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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That is the spelling oh and Bombay is not Mumbai and Madras is now Chennai. I lived there for a month on a round the world back packing trip before grad school. It is considered the seat of Indian culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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That's why I don't go to India. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Not a joke, Cleveland makes "Kolkata" (lol) look like Paris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I mean Kolkata makes Cleveland... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Have you been there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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New york, NYC and Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Provincial much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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I need 5 - Paris, Buenos Aires, Rome, San Francisco, New York [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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London, Los Angeles, Vienna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Sydney, Paris, San Fran [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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I fucking love Sydney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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New York, Paris, and Portland, Maine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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History Mom - during what time period? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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oh for god's sake. 1130-1131 of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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Fall or summer? BIG DIFFERENCE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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History dad again - in that case, I'd say you'd want to go with probably the classics, still Rome and Athens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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History Dad- well played. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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No, you guys are idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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New York and I forget the other two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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New York, Paris, Instanbul [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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NY, London, and Nashville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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summer - London. fall and spring - New York, winter - Buenos Aires [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Amsterdam (and not for the pot and hookers), New York and Paris (in alphabetical order) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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Paris, New York, Rome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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runner up goes to Los Angeles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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HATE LA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Patsy is a total bitch, BTW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Nellie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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NYC (meaning all 5 boroughs, just manhattan not enough to be "greatest"), Paris, Tokyo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Staten Island really brings up the rear am I right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Forgeddaboutit! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Berlin, Paris, Sighisoara [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Hong Kong, NYC, Chicago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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I need to go to HK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Go. Fantastic food. Great shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Paris [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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NYC, HK, Paris [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I hired a housekeeper to cook, clean and do laundry. We have people coming to dinner so I asked her to make soup, salad, and main dish for 4 adults and 4 kids. She has 4 1/2 hours to do it and she was not sure she can make it. How is that possible. Am I just super fast or is she super slow? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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She doesn't sound like much of a professional. I'm just a regular office drone, but even I could a meal together in 4 1/2 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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OP: in 4 1/2 hours I could cook 3x the volume I asked for. She repeatedly said that she isn't sure she can make it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Maybe she is looking for extra pay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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The soups I make take hours to cook. Do you have stock already? What about shopping pretty obnoxious to spring this one her last minute ...doesn't seem like cooking is her strong point. Did she know when you hired her she would be expected to cook for entertaining? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Yes it was one of the important items for me. She is a good cook. All shopping is done. Soup I asked for does not take hours and in any case after prep it just simmers. She will be home longer than 4 1/2 hours but this time is strictly dedicated to cooking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Seems strange then, is this the first entertains she has done for you? Might just be nerves and the nature to please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Did you give her a specific recipe to make? That is a lot of pressure to have to come up with the menu, do all the shopping and the cooking in 4.5 hours. If she had advanced notice she could have done the shopping and prep work yesterday and then put it all together today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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No both soup and main dish are her recipes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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+1 and I'll add - is she also supposed to clean up the home before guests arrive, all within 4 1/2 hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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No this is just cooking time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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OK, then yes, more than enough time. Maybe she doesn't multi-task well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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She is prob pissed off that she is getting paid as a housekeeper but doing the work of a private chef. I would feel taken advantage of and annoyed. There is a big difference between throwing together casual dinner meals and cooking for entertainment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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She was hired to cook for us. We have 2 more adults and 1 child coming. She isn't making anything more complicated than our usual dinner just higher quantity. At some point this kind if reasoning get insane. I could order out and fire her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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so shes being paid as a chef who also does some cleaning on the side? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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np: I don't think an occasional meal for 3 more people is asking too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Do you expect her to do anything else during those 4.5 hours? I can see how cooking for a dinner party could take 2-3hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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No! IA 2-3 hours. 4 1/2 is so much time to do cooking for 2 families. Just 2 dishes + salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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If shopping is involved and cleaning up, setting table..longer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Why don't you just ask her about it? instead of being all dramatic and posting here and listening to all the "theories" of what is actually happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I agree. I would tell her you really appreciate her cooking and were relying on her to help with entertaining and I would then ask her what she thinks will be the issue in making the meal in the time allotted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Ask her to break up tasks in time estimate? She told me 2x she isn't sure 10-2:30 will be enough time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Ask her how long she thinks she needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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Odd time slot for a housekeeper to cook dinner...what is she doing from 2:30-5:30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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This and what kind of meal can sit that long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Simple enough one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Lol you rich UB people are ridiculous. The posters are saying that OP needs to pay this woman as a "chef" if she's cooking dinner. I am sure this housekeeper went to school for that. She's a housekeeper who was hired to cook and clean!! How is this worthy of extra pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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OP: TY! She isn't cooking like a chef. She is cooking the same type of food she has been feeding her own large family all her adult life. Soon enough we will be told to hire a special bathroom cleaner and specialized duster a laundress and a chef. I am not wealthy enough for that. I work and need some help but I do all this cooking + take care of 3 kids every single weekend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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^^ she isn't great at cleaning by the way. I chose her because I like her cooking. I expect I will need to hire someone to do deep cleaning every so often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I agree. Get a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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I'm wondering if it's the cooking for company aspect of it that's bothering her. She may feel that this wasn't in the original job description (?). Or maybe she prefers to be told in advance if it's for company……..I agree with those who say you should try to talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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I told her in advance. She was hired to cook for company on most Friday nights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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PP- Oh, I see what you're saying. It's as if someone asked me to do something for them at work, and I said, "Sorry, I don't have time." (I don't have this option on my job). It sounds like she's being a pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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op: Yes! Exactly. Like she is doing me some favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Is she supposed to clean and do laundry as well? If so, not enough time. If just cooking, more than enough unless you're making pork shoulder or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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No just cooking and post cooking cleanup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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hm. I'd be annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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exactly. I think it would take me 1 and 1/2 hours tops to make this dinner and yes it may take longer for soup to sit on the stove but I am not actively doing anything with it. I hired her to take burden off me. Here I am stressing over dinner for tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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^^ If anything she should have enough time to make desert too but now I will have to pay another $25 to buy it. I am going to need to go though hiring process all over again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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totally feasible if you give her some recipes. she should be able to make lists & go shopping in this time as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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