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[ - ] I drink 3-4 glasses of wine per night. Is this a problem? A friend recently commented that having more than 3 drinks per day is a sign of alcoholism. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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When I went to rehab I was having 4/night. Sometimes more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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I'm buzzed after one glass, a little drunk after two. If I had 3-4/night I'd be waste every night. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why are you on UB if you don't have kids? Really the topics bore the sh*t out of me and I have 3 kids - why would any of this be interesting to you without kids? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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We are going to TTC next year, so it's interesting to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Making sure to get as neurotic and crazy as possible in advance of parenthood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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It just is. Chill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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My sister has kids so i read UB to know what is up with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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I just scanned the first page and less than 1 tenth of the posts have anything to do with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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You're not paying to exclude me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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I have DC and I generally avoid the parenting posts, especially ones that involve young children and their schooling. I'm interested more in the relationship/marriage posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Too many highlights and somewhat fried ends. What can I do to treat? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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Trim and deep condition every 3 days with coconut oil and macademia oil. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 and maybe a single process in same color as your roots? [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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get a pixie [ Reply | More ]
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I'm getting to the age where I can't pull that off. [ Reply | More ]
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do it anyway. I saw a 68 year old women in a pixie and she looked super cute. [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moms who have just sent your DCs off to college--what's your advice for me (with a 10 and an 8 year old). What do you wish you had known? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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Things that seemed really important were not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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Not getting a team position she wanted, and I thought she deserved. Not getting a grade she wanted. Flunking her drivers license test (road test, not written) -- although that I was happy with. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm in agreement with this. Although in retrospect who knows. Let too much slide and you can't tell if it would have made a difference later. But I'm definitely more lenient with my younger ones. [ Reply | More ]
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I get this. It's hard not to take to heart every disappointment and slight and silently celebrate all the victories. But remaining neutral and not worrying or over- celebrating is important. Let you DC handle as much as possible. Don't helicopter or make their victories your victories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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The kid's values and traits matter a lot more than where he goes to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Grades count throughout HS, as does character. It is not critical to be the president or captain, just to be involved in something of genuine interest in or out of school. If DC can hack it have them prep for SAT and take it between Oct-Dec of Junior year. Favorable curve at that time because relativle few juniors take it then. If score meets median for colleges that DC is interested in, don't take it again. Focus on grades and extracurriculars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Fat moms: How did you let yourself get fat? How did it happen? Genuinely curious. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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I assume you are talking about me. I am not a mom (yet)...we are going to TTC next year. My weight has been yo-yoing since my teens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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Stress. Long work hours. I gained 30 pounds in college and another 25 in medical school/residency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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that's even worse. you are an MD so you know how bad it is to be overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Yep. "Do as I say, not as I do." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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That's the problem with a lot of doctors. Pitiful. Why should anyone listen to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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Well, my specialty is not in weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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NP. but so many problems would be improved if the patients lost weight -yes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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In general, yes, but in my particular specialty, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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NP. I disagree. I am fat and so is my doc. I find I feel less ashamed discussing weight issues w/him because he is able to empathize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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This is such a weird question. Voyeurism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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Why is it weird? I don't understand how someone lets themselves get to that point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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You really have no clue as to why people get fat? This is troublesome . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Op is a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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depression and ice cream [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Compulsive overeating and lack of motivation to exercise. 100% my fault and reversible! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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After I had a baby I never lost the baby weight. It got worse bc I SAH and Im isolated, lonely and depressed. I eat out of boredom and I also eat my feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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What does your DH say about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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He's gained some weight too. We enable each other. He wants me to be happy and he knows I'm not bc I'm fat. He's still attracted to me, god knows why ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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np sorry to hear you are depressed. that must be hard. can you change your situation at all?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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Thanks. DC starts preschool on Tuesday. It's right next to a gym, so I'm going to go every day. I will probably end up getting lap band if I can't lose any. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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+1 except I WOH and overeat when stressed from work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Stop giving SAHMs a bad name. Go work out, and you will feel less depressed. It's called endorphins--epinephrine that surges through your body as soon as you exert yourself. You will feel reinvigorated. Promise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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NP. Lol. I have lost 30 pounds (I posted below -- started at 190, am now 160). I have been working out religiously and have never experienced these "endorphins" everyone talks about. People have different responses to exercise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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Genetics. My parents are fat. And I eat too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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np same here. I think the eating is genetic, actually. As a kid, I remember eating until I was absolutely stuffed. My friends weren't like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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Age. Metabolism fell off a cliff. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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There's no excuse to gain so much unless you're pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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Please call me when you hit 55 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Shut up please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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According to the nih, 68% of Americans are obese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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I've gained 20 pounds over the last 3 years. DH got very sick and our lifestyle changed. Our eating habits, exercise, activity level, everything is different. We are closer and better to one another than we have ever been during our 28 year marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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You need therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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Severe depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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The eating and not working out felt better than the working out and starving. Plus there was less motivation to work out since my husband told me even if I lost weight I would never be interesting to him again. No I didn't believe him. I just thought … what a dick … fuck men … I'm going to eat. I guess some people think that's sad but I don't really care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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Sure you do. Everyone cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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No. At some point - trust me - you will reach an age where you seriously could not give any more fucks about some things. I've never understood why some people hold on tooth and nail to things until they die when it comes to their appearances. Why? Does anyone really admire the 70 year old who dies with a toupee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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No, what someone looks like is the least important thing to know about a person. And as a previous poster said, as you get older, looks mean almost nothing. Character, interests, personality are so much more important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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I have a SN child. Nobody can really handle him but me and DH. I hide inside my house and eat bc taking him out is a nightmare. I'm depressed and I hate my life. Eating is the only thing that make me feel better some days. That's why I'm fat. A combination of that and a genetic disposition for it. "How did it happen" is such a condescending and mean spirited question. You don't know me. You don't know my life. Walk a mile in my shoes, see how you deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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I just posted something similar below you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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I've always when I am depressed or stressed. I have a dc on the autism spectrum, and sometimes I get really depressed about it. lately things have been out of control and I've put on 20 pounds in the last couple of years. I someimes wish I smoked instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm an old married woman but work colleague who is single says that he can find 7 or 8 women willing to have sex with him every night through snap chat and the like. Is this true? Who are these people having sex with random strangers? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Flyover mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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no, CA mom. but I might as well be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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flyover. this whole concept makes me feel ancient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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People hook up randomly all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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Do you think it is different in New York? I imagine guys here could find 9s most nights, 10s if they are in finance. K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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I think she means 7 or 8 different women ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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Sorry read too fast! But think both are true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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what >> please clarify [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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This is true. On tinder in Manhattan there are thousands and thousands of women ready to have sex with random guys as long as the guys are good looking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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This. I was on Tinder last week and was astounded at the number of decent looking females ready to have one night stands. Key thing is that they were older - late thirties and in their 40s ready to fuck randoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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This . the average 20 year old girl will not fuck a 40 year old guy but the average 40 year old woman is available to the 35 year old guy [ Reply | More ]
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Thnis [ Reply | More ]
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He's exaggerating or has low standards. I'd say 2-3 for an unattractive man. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes buyt let's pretend you are right. how many 2s a night can he get with >> [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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In my neighborhood, the strong boys force the weak to have sex with them. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/boy-forced-perform-oral-sex-male-classmates-article-1.1359299 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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It is so fucking racist when Urban baby talks about the black community . .There is no black community . there are pussies weak ass bitches like Urkel who suck dicks, and then there are strong boys lik3 50 cents who get their dicks sucked. No overlap . there is no community, just two groups of us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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Is your son the sucker or the suckee that is all that matters [ Reply | More ]
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Snap chat is bullshit . Tinder is the market for sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I spent the entire day watching lifetime movies in my bed. LOVE IT. Reminds me of my single days. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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I bet Doug Savant was in one of them... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Not terribly overweight, but pear shaped w/cankles. What kind of dresses can I wear? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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long ones [ Reply | More ]
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Black tights, boots to cover ankles, dress right above knee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:27 PM Flag
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but dont wear those tiny ankle boots. I think the high ones would look better for you. the ones that go up part of your calf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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Yes. An inch or 1 1/2 inches below your knee [ Reply | More ]
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yes. please for the love of god do not wear the over the knee boots! [ Reply | More ]
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Disagree. Ankle boots are fine if they cut just below the ankle and are the same color as leg (nude, or black with black tights). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Anything that hits just below or just above the knee, with nude booties if legs are bare/black tights with a black heeled boot or bootie are also your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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a blazer would look good on you. One that falls a bit over your butt (like it would hit your jeans pocket if you were wearing jeans) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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A-line dresses to knee, no boots. Wear shoes that make your legs look longer and don't cut off at the calf or ankle (unless you have long legs, but w cankles I doubt it--I don't). Solid color tights in fall & winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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^Heels w an ankle strap can also work to "create" a more slender ankle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:00 AM Flag
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post a picue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Thses pedi cab drivers in central park charge between $3 and $3.75 PER MINUTE. THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS! Most of them don't even have a degree. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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Off season it is cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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So don't use them [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am 5'4" and 160 pounds. How bad off am I? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:21 PM Flag
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How do you feel? I'm 5'6", 155 & I feel overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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I feel somewhat chubby but not obese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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Why do you care about others opinions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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Because I am wondering if I'm in total denial about my size. I don't feel terrible but am I really fat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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Sorry, yes, you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:18 PM Flag
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nah. she needs to lose 10 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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No, just a little chubby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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My DD is 15, 5'4" and 145 lbs. She is fit and athletic. So I can imagine an 160-lb adult woman would be quite fit and normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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ummmmm your dd is overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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Your BMI is over 27. I'd lose a few. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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take a dump [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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I'm 5'3" 225. Count your blessings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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You need to lose 10-20. I'm in same boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:27 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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You will feel better if you get down to 150 [ Reply | More ]
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YES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:20 PM Flag
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>>>you are overweight and need to lose A LOT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:21 PM Flag
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Like how much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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omg do not listen to this person^^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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Yes, you need to lose weight too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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20-30. Completely doable. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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op. I've already lost 30. My starting weight was 190. I feel like I have plateaued and this is the best I can do :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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WTf?! How did you allow yourself to reach 190 POUNDS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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By being incredibly fat and lazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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op. Lol. Not true at all. I work incredibly hard at my job and I let my health slide. [ Reply | More ]
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Everything in moderation right? Here WOHMs think they're so much better cause they work so hard. Really, what's the point if you're ignoring your health, and ultimately your happiness. [ Reply | More ]
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op. My job has brought me a lot of happiness. I don't regret working hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Just not being healthy....and a possible heart attack one day, not to mention the possibility of diabetes, hypertension, and all their glorious complications. Nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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Huh? I've lost 30 lbs. My blood sugar and blood pressure are normal. You sound angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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Nope, just realistic. [ Reply | More ]
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no, you just need to be re-inspired. Good job in taking 30 pounds off--that's a huge accomplishment. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you. Just be patient and keep going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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I'm 5'5", 105 but feel fat when I'm 115. It's all in your level of energy. If you feel great, you're fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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You're obese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] How is it possible for a guy to be so nice to his cat and dog but so utterly mean to his own girlfriend? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Not possible. It's you. [ Reply | More ]
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I will tell you. Any man that has a cat is weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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cats and dogs are less emotionally demanding... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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Ha. I'm way nicer to my pets than people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Why not ask him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Random thought: apparently booty magazine called Smooth had their best selling cover with Coco (ice t's wife) who was also the first white person featured. Why?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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And you know this how? Weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Not weird I read it on Coco's World. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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you are weird to be on coco's world. [ Reply | More ]
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Never understood the appeal of someone's bottom. It's where poop comes out. Bottoms stink for crying out loud! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:03 AM Flag
[ - ] I am divorced, have not been dating, but find myself curious about Indian men. Most Indian men I meet seem well educated and down to earth. Would I have a chance with an indian guy, or would they be opposed culturally? They are also reserved. I don't know how I would break the ice. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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I've been feeling this way about african american men lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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If you are curvy you have a huge chance of scoring an AA man. Much more accessible than Indian males. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a petite white girl with freckles, wouldn't describe myself as curvy unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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I agree ... Indian men are very attractive [ Reply | More ]
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They're hot. [ Reply | More ]
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They usually marry between the same culture. [ Reply | More ]
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Rats. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe an Indian guy born and raised in the US. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm in love with my dentist and he's Indian. Plays the best music too. Alas, happily married. [ Reply | More ]
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It's hard to explain how utterly alien the many cultures of India are to westerners, though. Despite some surface similarities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Indian men, despite being born in the US, usually marry Indian women born in the US. They're very close to their culture. Don't get me wrong, you'll find exceptions, but not many. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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Indian men will date other cultures, but marry Indian women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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My only contact with Indian guys are some of the doctors I used to go to. Used to. I find they tend to see women as second class citizens and they are still caste system-ish regardless of whether it is still formally in place in their country of origin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Depends on how their moms raised them at home. Some of them just need to be put in their place by their wives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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But the indian men I know personally have very smart an accomplished wives. Surely the wives don't put up with this attitude? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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'Indian' covers a lot of religion (Hindu, Muslim, Christian) and there is a big difference between new arrivals and second generation. And North and South India for that matter. That you are ignorant of all of this is kind of a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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+100000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:00 AM Flag
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I know many white women married to Indians. All of them met spouse in college or grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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They like accomplished women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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I was about to post this... I know off the top of my head four couples where the DH is Indian and the Dw is some cute little white girl. One of the four the Dw is Jewish. All four wives very intelligent professionals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I colored my hair black with permanent color ( at a salon), I do not like it. Would the color lift at some Point. Sorry if this sounds stupid, but my hair is naturally brown and I never went darker before. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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You need a hair color remover, such as Loreal Hair Color Remover or Color Oops. They remove dark dye in 15 minutes. Available at any drugstore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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Would getting a keratin treatment take some of the color off? I am getting one next week anyway. Kind of afraid of trying any at home remedies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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You are going to ruin your hair with all this, use some avocado oil or avocado. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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I have super frizzy curly hair. I am beyond avocado oil :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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This is not a home remedy. I am a natural blonde with thin hair and I have dyed my hair black several times. The remover does not have ammonia. It shrinks the dye pigment from your hair and causes minimal damage. You should skip the keratin treatment for now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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Remove the darkness, postpone the keratin and instead do deep conditioning next week, the following week the keratin and then a week later do a semipermanent or non-peroxidare non ammonia coloring, with the color of your choice. Preferably, your natural color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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I was going to use oops when this happened to me but it smells like rotten eggs, turns your hair orange. It lifted on its own in two weeks max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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black permanent hair dye lifted on its own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:32 PM Flag
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Yes I looked like a witch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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Just wash it with the cheapest shampoo you have. It will fade a little. But don't mess with black dye yourself...if you want to lighten it go back to a salon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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Wash your hair with Dawn dish liquid. After that, buy a clarifying shampoo and use every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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You need to go to a salon and have them lighten...btdt if you do it at home your hair will be orange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I am very nervous about starting a new job. I am a 26 yo, white female in charge of 6 much older AA females. They have given me terrible looks. Recently hired as a charge nurse in a nursing home in Yonkers, NY. New grad from Virginia. Terrified. Tips? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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Show no fear and tell them you appreciate their expertise and knowledge of the patients and welcome their suggestions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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+1 Definitely don't start out as a know it all. There is a reason you were hired, but they are the ones with actual, practical experience in the field. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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But she has more education and there is a reason they were not promoted to manager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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Do not call them "My team of Nig nig's". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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yes, but they still have more practial experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Practice power posing (google) and develop a thick skin. They'll try to get away with doing very little and you'll have to keep them in line...if my experience is any indication [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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I replied above recommending oops. It turned my hair strawberry blonde, not orange. The purpose of the remover is to allow you to redye your hair brown, in OP's case. With black dye on your hair you can't recolor. Even months later as it lifts, if you try to redye, only the roots will be dyed. The black must be removed if op dislikes it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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Is your concern their age, their ethnicity? I would think that if I were in my 30s or 40s, regardless of ethnicity differences, I would probably be a bit put out by having a much younger boss, esp. if they were right out of college. How did you get the job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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op: I applied and interviewed. No connections whatsoever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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It's going to be tough. Hold your head high. Maybe fire one of them to show you mean business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Be strong but make it clear you're there initially to learn the job, not to make immediate changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:00 AM Flag
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Listen to them. Better yet, ask their views proactively. Find out what works for them, what doesn't. Try to figure out who is interested in advancing and help her (them) find out who is interested in keeping the job the way it is forever and think about whether you can do that or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 12:03 AM Flag
[ - ] 1/2 VBA: I just left work and getting a pedi. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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Lucky gal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Op: Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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Yay! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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Working on Saturday - you deserve it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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Op: Thanks. Working yes, reason why this is only a 1/2 Vba. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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VBA? what does that mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:27 PM Flag
[ - ] When Chris and Gwyneth broke up I mostly felt bad for him since she seems sort of annoying, however I recently read he is dating Jennifer Lawrence and I cringed. Isn't she 22 or something?! He's nearing 40 and a father just recently divorced -- grossed me out. Now feeling for Gwyneth because he seems like he must be very immature and one of those who doesn't want to deal with responsibility or a grown woman. Bleh! 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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LOL!! Can't blame a guy in divorce for dating a younger chick! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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It DOES make me like Jennifer Lawrence a little less too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Well guys like young chicks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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why though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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Because they look better, with more energy and younger than older chicks. They are probably more fun tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Younger women aren't bitter about aging. The beautiful ones are usually carefree and fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:30 PM Flag
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why do young chicks like old men? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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I can't imagine being married to a sanctimonious twat like Gwyneth for 5 minutes. Kill me first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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I think Jennifer Lawrence seems like a really fun person. It's about time Chris broke away from the ball and chain that was Gwyneth. I'd do the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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he might not be a peach--seems very controlling regarding his image (never wanting to be seen with her). who knows really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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And same with Jonny Depp -- psychologically they just don't want to deal with the stresses and responsibility of being a mature parent. After amber is in her 30's and he's dealing with another child he will move on again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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np: whats worse part of that situation was that he never married the mother of his dc; now he meets this woman and they're engaged. mother of his dc must feel awful. made me dislike johnny depp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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We don't know his story. Maybe Vanessa Paradis was the one who didn't want to get married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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maybe…but likelihood that's the reason they never married is slim. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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I don't think they are even divorced yet. She's handling it gracefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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Hi Gwyneth! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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By dating a married guy..LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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She is?? Who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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Glee co-creator who she met years ago..presumably has been sleeping with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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who wears sweaters a size too small. I'd think she'd have her eye on a bigger prize than this dude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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She has cheated on her past boyfriends as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:17 PM Flag
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Who. Cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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If I was a recently separated hot rockstar I'd date the hottest girl I could find. Is that basically par for the course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What was the life of a gay person say 300 years ago? If percentage wise, homosexuality occurs in 10 percent of the population (I don't know what that percent is, I'm just giving an example), I am just wondering what was the "normal life" of a gay man/woman 300 years ago. Did most of the gay men get married, but have secret lives (going to men's clubs etc.)? I am wondering what the closeted life entailed for gay women. Did they just not get married? I am just wondering how so many people could function day to day closeted (that applies more recently, but for some reason I'm stuck thinking about the 1600s and 1700s). Anyone have any information or interesting stories? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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Closeted, married with dc, with occasional gay sexcapades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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That would be horrible day in and out. Probably horrible for their spouses too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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They became priests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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or nuns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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Agree with that. The old nuns that I knew were very butch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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it's not 10%. Biologically, if 10% of the individuals in a low-reproducing species like humans exclusively favored non-fertile unions then that species would die out. Pure homosexuality exists almost everywhere in the animal kingdom but at low rates, less than 1%. Most of the non-hetero behavior is bisexuality, which in terms of survival is not a harmful anomaly. 10% of humans being bi, that's believable. But not 10% being pure homo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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Are you stoned? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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"Bachelor"hood was common too. Even one U.S. President! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Depends are you rich or poor? In 18th century France the men had little "gay communities" where they would congregate, have sex, etc. The poorer and middle class men may have never realized their sexuality. Most gay people got married, marriage was more of a financial obligation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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