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[ - ] My DC's kindergarten has only 30 minutes of art/week and the art integrated into the classroom is unimpressive (coloring sheets.) My DC is intimidated by art to begin with. Any art moms with great projects we can do at home? Thanks in advance. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I also kept a huge role of hardware store painter's paper around so that we could work on giant mural type things. Paper mache is another great medium. At that age, we also did a lot of stuff with beads. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ "I always" not "I also" [ Reply | More ]
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^^and "roll" not "role" [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn’t focus on great projects. I would keep it simple. Have a bin or basket with basic art supplies on the table. Crayons, markers, stickers. We have these paints, I can’t remember what they are called, but they are in tubes with sponges at the ends. Play dough is also great. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are the pros and cons of an all girls' school? I was in co-ed all my life, but it looks like there are some particularly strong girls' schools in NYC, so I'm considering it for my daughter but interested to see what others' experiences are. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I loved going to a SS school in NYC. Strong friendships that are lifelong, never thought I shouldn't raise my hand/play dumb etc. I have brothers and had male friends outside of school. [ Reply | More ]
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This is DD's last year of a single sex school (8th grade). Middle school has been a breeze for her socially. They are all tight knit friends, but I don't know if that is attributable to single sex or if it's just a great group of kids. My middle school experience was horrible, and most of the angst came from bully-type boys. That's just my personal experience. I can't really connect the dots between the experiences. [ Reply | More ]
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I went to SS and now my DD is there. Loved it. No reason to be around adolescent males all day. [ Reply | More ]
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DH and I both attended SS schools. All our sons went to an all-boys HS. I think it's fewer distractions. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are you struggling with privately, and would not share with friends? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Stuff I wouldn't even discuss here. [ Reply | More ]
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Everything. I'm fat, my kids are monsters, I hate everything. [ Reply | More ]
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My marriage. My career path. The meaning of life. [ Reply | More ]
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Husband who is an a** half the time. [ Reply | More ]
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I am in love with a ghost [ Reply | More ]
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This ain't one man's tell. It's the tell of us all. Grab you a stoop and set down for a listen. [ Reply | More ]
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My DH is a narcissist who is verbally abusive. Everyone thinks he's great and I never tell. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any moms here travel for work? I recently started a job that requires some travel. Not frequent - maybe once or twice per month for 1-2 days. I thought I would enjoy it - and while I do like getting to visit some new places, I also feel a little guilty being away from DS. Anyone else get that feeling? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yep I travel every 2-3 months. I used to feel guilty - now I think of it as some me time for me. I sleep a full night, watch bad TV, order room service. and DH gets great bonding time with DD. They have so much together. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes and don’t feel guilty!! I manage by trying to take an ~11am flight out when I can so I can do the morning stuff before I go or trying to land by 3-4 when coming back. My 2 year old now pretends that they are going on business trips too :) [ Reply | More ]
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No guilt here. DH gets home earlier to spend time with DCs, does dinner,etc. It’s good time for them to be be together. [ Reply | More ]
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Guilt was never an issue (DH is an awesome dad). Change in routine, though, was always the thing that took any pleasure out of it for me. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Mom with the DH who wants to move to Miami, are you around? My DH is talking to a firm down there and I'm freaking out! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not her, but I would move to Miami in a heartbeat. Nice beaches, good Cuban food, no snow or bone-chilling cold. [ Reply | More ]
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But the schools are sooooo bad and you have to drive everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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Also, climate change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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OR: Fair enough. But the driving thing would be true basically anyplace outside of New York City (or maybe a few other urban areas). As for schools, I'm sure there are some decent ones, and if not, I guarantee there are private schools that are not as expensive or hard to get into as those in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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OP--Yes, but I really don't want to send my kids to private school. I mean, I would there but I find it distasteful. [ Reply | More ]
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Everything is a trade-off. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much does 4th grade attendance matter for public middle school applications in NYC? Is there a number of absences that is acceptable? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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10 is the cut off. Not sure if that is absence/tardiness combined or each. Why push it? Schedule appointments for later in the day and send the kid if they aren't vomiting or feverish. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! Do you know if there are important tests at the end of the year? My child is not in public but his teammates are, and the team is invited to participate in a sports tournament that would pull them out of school for 3 days. If attendance matters in 4th grade, and especially if there are important exams, then this is not something I will even ask the parents to consider. [ Reply | More ]
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Check the DOE calendar for the state tests. But I have already turned down all travel team obligations that require time off from school for my Fourth grader. I don't think it's a very thoughtful ask, especially if your team is mostly public school kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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Look at the rubrics for the school's you're interested in. [ Reply | More ]
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clueless here: what are rubrics? [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on how high you are reaching and your district--D15? Doesn't matter at all. Other districts? It might matter a lot. Many post rubrics. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need to send a gourmet basket. What’s a great online place for that? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Zabar's [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Im starting a job that I don’t really want but will give my family good quality of life. I’m not happy because I’m officially in the mommy track. Anyone btdt? Worth it? Did you eventually transition back? Tia. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:23 PM Flag
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For about 8 years I did a reduced billing track and now I'm back at it full time (although in an in-house position). No regrets. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: thanks for sharing....my new role though is taking me further away from what I want to do in the future which is the reason I’m so unhappy about the change. I hope I’m happy once I start and see my personal life improve. [ Reply | More ]
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i have a 3 and 4 yr old - work FT on wall street. I feel like I'm half a$$ing it bc I drop kid off at school show up at 9:30 AM and then have to leave exactly at 5 PM to relieve nanny at home. And everyone at work resents me bc they think I'm not in the office all that much. Little do they know I'm up at 5 AM every morning - making breakfasts and lunches, get kids ready, and then home to hang with kids and get them ready for bed. [ Reply | More ]
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and everyone tells me to stick it out. So am hoping one day my personal life will get a little more easy and I can enjoy and thrive at work again. But for now I'm in a holding pattern [ Reply | More ]
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Still on the mommy track. It's tricky and sometimes frustrating, but I'm so grateful to be able to work part time and spend late afternoons with my kids. But I've seen people transition back - wasn't easy, and they had to work a lot harder to get back their momentum - but they did it. I've also seen people transition to completely different jobs post-mommy track, and they seem pretty happy, too. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Totally random, but bare with me. Just need to get it out of my system. I am in my 40s and recently started wearing hearing aids. Never imagined that my hearing will be poor so early in life but I totally love my devices. They give me confidence and I am not embarrassed of my disability. I wish more people treated hearing aids like glasses. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What? [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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I think hearing aids will be more and more common. My husband is a musician (very loud rock) and we know a lot of people with hearing loss, and apparently young people are damaging their hearing with earbuds now. The hearing aids are so small now, you can't even see notice them. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my devices are very discreet. No one even knows I have a hearing loss, unless I tell them. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm glad that you can cope so well and I hope I would never treat you - or anyone else - differently. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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Pretty sure I'm going deaf from hearing the subways screeching on the tracks multiple times every day for years on end. [ Reply | More ]
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How much did they cost? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think there is a stigma anymore from hearing aids. I have tinnitus and I'm wondering if they'll help me, as I can no longer hear some frequencies, and I'd like to mask the ringing. [ Reply | More ]
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This is so great. I would never judge someone with hearing aids. Glad they are working for you. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I know I need to get out of my toxic marriage but silly things keep holding me back, like how I will socialize as a divorced mom when most families in our elementary school socialize with both parents together. Will anyone want to hang out with me and my kids if I don't have a DH to join? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, the people who socialize as couples won't want to hang out with you. It gets better with time as more people in your peer group get divorced and you're all in the same boat. [ Reply | More ]
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This isn’t true of everyone. But it will be of some couples. As you move thru elementary school there will be more divorced parents. I am 45. Got divorced around 41. It has increased massively in the last year. [ Reply | More ]
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I guess you're right, it depends - but I know among the thirties set that if you're a divorced woman you may as well have a force field around you. Everyone avoids you, like it's catching. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a married person and have know plenty of divorced people (both in the community in my family). I hang out with those people because I like them. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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op: do you hang out with just you and the other mom? Or does your DH come too? [ Reply | More ]
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Both. If a person is a friend, they're a friend. Who goes into this level of analysis? [ Reply | More ]
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Don’t stay in an unhealthy marriage because of those reasons. Gl. [ Reply | More ]
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Valid concern. I have it to as think about the future. Still married myself but hang out with the few divorced moms socially without DH. Harder when couples are involved. [ Reply | More ]
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Btdt. Ime, you just need to put yourself out there to signal that you are still open to hanging out with other couples/families and it's fine. Invite a few families to your house or call another mom and suggest going to the zoo with the kids and add that of course tom should come too. Some people won't be interested of course but some people won't want to hang out with your pill of a dh either. If anything you'll be more socially appealing without him for lots of reasons. [ Reply | More ]
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op: thanks, so obviously a lot of friends won't know that we are divorcing so I guess I should make it clear when I invite them, "You should come over tomorrow! By the way, it will be just me here. But Tom is welcome too!" Is that okay? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! GL! [ Reply | More ]
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When I was married, a friend invited me and DH over for a BBQ. She invited some other couples. Turns out for one reason or another, 2 of the 4 husbands invited couldn't come. My friend's husband cancelled the BBQ because he said he didn't want to cook if all the men weren't there. And we were all married. So people exclude you for reasons other than being divorced. [ Reply | More ]
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What an ass. [ Reply | More ]
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You nailed it. [ Reply | More ]
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this, OP, anyone who will drop you for this is crazy and not anyone you would want to know anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a mom friend group and some of us are divorced or single moms. They are always included. We do hang out as mostly women. My son is severely autistic so it is rare for my dh and I to both go to get togethers with the whole family and it is always fine. [ Reply | More ]
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Makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS also some of my friends have husbands who work shifts that are not changeable (firefighters) or people who just work a lot and unpredictably (my dh) and widows, single moms by choice, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Divorced mom here. I worried about that too. I got invited to a few parties post divorce, and I was good friends with many divorced women pre-divorce. Don't let it stop you. [ Reply | More ]
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op: good to hear- thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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Good luck! I am SO much happier now. It's very tough, getting divorced, but it sounds like you will be better off. [ Reply | More ]
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op: that is great! [ Reply | More ]
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BTDT - some couples will not socialize with you, some will. As others mentioned, not a reason to stay in a toxic marriage. [ Reply | More ]
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Our neighbor friend is single. Every time I suggest to DH that we invite her to stuff, he declines saying he'd feel like a third wheel. Only time I got him to say yes was when it was a party with kids. [ Reply | More ]
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op: yes this is what I picture happening. [ Reply | More ]
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Would your financial situation be worse? That's the main reason not to do it [ Reply | More ]
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op: we have a really nice apartment now, and we would need to move into cheaper apartments in order to be able to afford two rents I think. I don't think we would need to change schools though. I already work FT. [ Reply | More ]
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(1) it is a valid concern. (2) not a reason to stay in a toxic marriage. (3) not quite sure how to put this, but I think it has actually been a good perspective shift for me - a positive from my divorce - that I have gone to these school events divorced -- it has given me the perspective to see social barriers that I would have been less aware of if I stayed in the safety net of being in a couple. I am an introvert and yes these events are awkward for me, and I definitely don't have the couple confidence at these events that I would have had if i were still married (even if my spouse wasn't at an event), but I think I have made closer connections with some individuals that I would have not made connections with. [ Reply | More ]
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my take away - something may be lost, but something may also be gained. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I'm an introvert too! Good points. I can see how you might develop deeper relationships with some people if you can't fall back on chatting with your spouse. [ Reply | More ]
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op: also, does your ex-DH attend these school events at the same time? [ Reply | More ]
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sometimes yes, sometimes no. He is remarried, and when he attends, his wife does too. they generally have more of a social life than I do so they are more likely to have a conflict. I don't think they have gone to the school auction for several years, but they attend BTSNs, graduations, assemblies, etc. We can all chat briefly and then go our separate ways. at the auction, I am literally always at a table of new people or the unattached - sort of like my social nightmare, but on the flip side, I get to meet the new people. [ Reply | More ]
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op: you have a good perspective! [ Reply | More ]
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i know a single/divorced mom who got divorced when her son young and then met her future husband through her son's school friends. Putting yourself out there as a single woman will increase your chances of meeting new interesting people. Your world will open up in so many ways without the drag of an unhealthy marriage [ Reply | More ]
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op: probably true. As it is now, I have to beg DH to socialize and we have only done it with other families 3x this year, so I guess I won't be missing out on much in that regard! [ Reply | More ]
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NP. When I was married, my ex was so antisocial I couldn't mingle (he needed to stay by my side) so the few parties we were invited to weren't much fun. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone else lonely for actual in person human interaction? I find social media and texting so alienating. I feel hurt because a friend told me she has no time for me (weekends, nights), which to me felt like a complete blow-off. And I feel hurt when someone doesn’t respond , or fails to follow through on, texts to make actual plans. FT wohm. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes. How did your friend say it? Hopefully nicely and she has a good reason? [ Reply | More ]
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In an email, declining an invitation. It’s weird. She had come over a lot and we have done things, so why the switch? I know she is plenty social. On top of my usual sensitivity it really hurt. Maybe I am misinterpreting. [ Reply | More ]
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pp: yeah that's weird. Maybe she has something going on. I have marriage problems which are overwhelming, but no one would ever know because I keep it private. [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm the opposite. I'd rather do everything from behind a screen. I don't like people much. [ Reply | More ]
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I am you. I will text paragraphs rather than talk on the phone. I bond with people on websites. People are exhausting IRL. [ Reply | More ]
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I feel the same way... and I don't do social media, because it just makes me sad. I wish sometimes were were back in the 80s... when people truly got together and there was meaningful interaction. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. I have two good friends who will meet me for coffee and chat for an hour or two, and I consider myself very lucky. If you can develop this kind of relationship with even one person, it helps. I had an eye-opening experience a few years ago. I was on a sports team and we had an active fb group... everyone was super chatty and friendly there on the group and it was all "I love you, you're the best!" And then we'd meet for practice and sit together gearing up, and no one would talk to each other. [ Reply | More ]
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Social media is making more people lonely. It isn't just you. I don't do any social media and do text but I make sure to have face to face get togethers. It makes a big difference. That did sound like a blow off by your friend but you have no idea what could be going on in her life. I wouldn't make an effort for. someone who doesn't do the same. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone moved from NYC to Bay area? How was your transition? Do you you like it compared to NYC? Thinking about moving to SF area for DH’s job. We have 2 DCs (middle school and lower school). We will both work in SF city and probably live outside the city. Friends there recommended Piedmont or Burlingame. Are public schools there good? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Burlingame is a K-8 district and then you would be in San Mateo Union High school district for 9-12. The K-8 district is tiny. So realize that a lot of administrative and beaurocratic functions are duplicated by each tiny district, which means costs are not spread out. Piedmont is a little bigger and it is a K-12 district. This is great because calendars will be lined up and curricula will be lined up. I did not live in Burlingame but in a district nearby and there were curriculum issues between the districts and calendar problems. So you could have a spring break that doesn't line up between your high school kids and your middle schooler or your high school kid and elementary schooler. When people have moved far away and have people to visit or trips to take, the calendar issues become a pain in the ass. School calendars are often voted on by the teacher union to be approved. I am not sure if it is that way with burlingame. Some years things would line up but some years they don't. I moved to a K-12 district and prefer it. [ Reply | More ]
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(I was in the same high school district as burlingame.) [ Reply | More ]
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This isn't addressing commute which is the deal breaker here. I don't know what his commute will be like from Burlingame on CalTrain or from Piedmont on BART. [ Reply | More ]
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I am from the Bay Area and I am glad I am gone!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Last night DH found a waterbug in my closet (which is near our bathroom). I asked DH if the waterbug is going to give birth to a bazillion baby cockroaches and he said "depends on the last time it had sex". Any tips on killing it? Mothballs? Is it going to crawl into our bedroom and night and jump up on the bed? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Someone really married you? [ Reply | More ]
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Lololol [ Reply | More ]
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Same back atcha! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This gave me a chuckle. I don't have an overall bug issue, but I do check under furniture for spiders. DH is always like "The spider doesn't have a vendetta against you Sally. It's not making plans to harm you." [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. But what if your husband is wrong??? I've only been in one car accident and it was insect-related. [ Reply | More ]
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I can't speak for that particular insect's intent. [ Reply | More ]
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LOLOLOLOL you are awesome [ Reply | More ]
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The police asked it some questions after the crash. It was TOTALLY intentional. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! ILY! This is like the best comment I have read here in the last week! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes and yes [ Reply | More ]
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Great... [ Reply | More ]
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He didn’t kill it? [ Reply | More ]
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It disappeared too fast. [ Reply | More ]
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Your DH has a sense of humor. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes he does. He'd be perfect if he was a good bug-killer. [ Reply | More ]
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op- I totally understand you. I had a waterbug issue in my last apartment and it was bad: apparently they came from somebody else's apartment but there were so many that I was afraid to go in the kitchen at night. Nothing freaks me out like those things. Finally we moved. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! They're so huge! And the crackle-crunch when you kill them is awful! [ Reply | More ]
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np: my DH stepped on one in the dark with his bare foot and was seriously traumatized afterward. We had to move because I think he had PTSD. Not kidding. [ Reply | More ]
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GROSS! I stepped on a dead bird once. We had a cat and she had brought it in the house to munch on. [ Reply | More ]
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EW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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I'm a DH, and don't use mothballs, they're poisonous. I think he was just making a joke and I don't think they bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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Isn't that the idea (poisonous)? I mean I'm not looking to extend their natural life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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I mean toxic to humans. They're regulated by the EPA, and our co-op's rules don't allow them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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They like cold damp places. Make sure you don't have your drain open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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Thanks -- drain is now tightly closed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted before that I volunteer my legal services to my DD’s sports club. I told them about a compliance requirement they had neglected in previous years and told them what they need to do to comply. I was viciously attacked by some board members, none of whom has a law degree or ever worked with a lawyer (many never worked in a corporate setting either). The legal matter isn’t very complicated and I knew I was right. Well... they just figured out that every other club in the inter club council does comply with the regulation. Now they want to do this as well. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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Do you want our permission to tell them "I told you so"? Because you were in the right and they weren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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I really did tell them so from the beginning. I get nothing out of this, was just trying to help them and got attacked. It was crazy. I am thinking this really isn’t worth it, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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np. I am with you, so many times good efforts get punished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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I think it isn't worth it either. If they question your professional knowledge and they're not lawyers, this will happen again, just adding to your frustration. I would consider quitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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DH (lawyer) is on the coop board. He reads through contracts for the board and summarizes the legal points. Routinely, some non-lawyers want to get the opinion of an outside attorney they pay $1000/hour to. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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OP. This is ridiculous. People are ignorant and ungrateful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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That's it. I would quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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I wonder whether I make my continuous help contingent on a formal apology from the vile woman who attacked me the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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^ should make [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:13 PM Flag
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It's tempting but I don't think a) you'll get the kind of sincere apology you want/need and b) it's descending to her level. Hold your head high and leave with class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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And if you have any spare time, can you come over and kill this giant waterbug my husband found last night in my closet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] My rice maker tried to kill me. Right after I plugged it in, the power cord blew off at the place it connects to the rice maker, with a tennis-ball size fireball explosion and it left a black burn mark on my counter. Really glad I wasn't still touching it! I threw it away but now I'm thinking I should have contacted the company. Any point to that? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Well they can track it and if other people have same issue they may investigate/recall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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YES! go on amazon and put it in the reviews at least. I have a rice cooker and my children use it. I would like to know if one exploded! What is the brand and model, please? [ Reply | More ]
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I did take a pic of the label before I threw it away. It's pretty old. Kitchen Gourmet brand, model RC-3 (700109) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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If it tried to kill you, you should press charges ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 03:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I got to the stage of an interview process where they have asked for references and said they are reaching out - but not yet discussed salary with me. A. I find that to be kind of presumptuous and b. on a practical level I don't want my references to get reference fatigue with a ton of calls if that piece doesn't line up. Is there a way I can politely phrase that to them without being annoying? Or should I just suck it up bc I need a job? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have list of references that I can put together which will take me a couple of days to send. Can we discuss details of the position, ie when you would want someone to start, salary etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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thx. am i wrong that that seems like a weird way round? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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I’m pretty sure this was a question on “ask a manager” at some point. It’s a valid concern for you to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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oh i will look! love that site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What wrong with me? I buy nice clothes, but never wear them. I save them for a “special occasion”. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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That's me. Nothing is wrong, we just don't lead the lives we imagine we could, I guess. We rarely go to really dressy restaurants or events, and most of the clients I visit have a really relaxed dress code. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:29 PM Flag
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But I can wear them to work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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Then you totally should! Mine just sit in the closet and even DD asked why I have so many nice things I never wear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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I'm the opposite. I spend too much on casual clothes. I wear most of them, but have too many options, but none of it is great quality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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Not really the opposite at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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Hello twin. I've actually been thinking about trying the monthly rent the runway thing so I can get some nice things and am forced to wear them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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Op i’m At work now, in a not cute outfit, while I have a closet full of nice clothes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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So just wear a nice outfit tomorrow. What’s stopping you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Nothing wrong with you at all: my office is casual, I'm wearing leggings and a sweatshirt and I prefer not to wear my nicer stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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It’s not about casual or fancy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Oh, it's all freshly washed and the cuffs and neck haven't even started to fray! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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It's similar to a hoarding mentality. My DH does this with housewares. Will buy nice pots and pans and dishes, but is "saving" them for when we have a vacation house (which we never will). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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I think it is psychological too. I had this problem when my kids were babies -had trouble choosing what they should wear. But I got over it somehow I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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I think it's a psychological thing, my dd and I both have it, we call it "too special to use". She still has toys from her childhood that were never used because they were too special. I don't know what the cure is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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Are they too fancy or formal for the things you do? Or are you saving high quality appropriate items? Get rid of all your junk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Not fancy or formal, just nice clothes that I can wear to work. That’s a good suggestion! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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My DH is like this. I've given up buying him really pricey clothes/jackets because he never wears them. When I ask why he never wears it, he says he doesn't want to mess it up and wants to save it for a special occasion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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I've found I wear more of my closet and look better if I put together an outfit the night before. Otherwise I grab what's familiar and easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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This is what I need to do! I have 10 min in the morning to get dressed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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It is so true! And now I lay out EVERYTHING down to the necklace and earrings. It can take me 10 minutes to untangle a necklace or find the earrings I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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i have the same thing and it's cos i never have a special occasion bc all i do is parent and stay in to avoid giant nyc babysitting plus cab home costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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But wouldn't you feel better dressed up (even if you don't go anywhere special)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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Or alternatively don’t buy the clothes and spend that money on a sitter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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I used to be like you when living in NYC. Ironically (must be a reaction) since moving to stupid Kansas City, where everyone wears leggings every day, I have started to wear my nice close, even if just going to run errands - I do it for myself. It just gets me so sad to be here, where very few people have a sense of style or understand the difference about good and crappy food, culture, etc. Sorry... need to vent. No, I cannot move back to NYC right now... but wish I could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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So are you in your basic black NYC outfit while they're all wearing t-shirts with deranged floral motifs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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you mean LulaRoe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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Actively decluttering helped me break this habit. My shopping habits have changed, I don’t buy things to save for later. If Im not going to use in now, I’m not buying it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:13 PM Flag
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I used to be guilty of this too. But now I realize they're not going to get ruined with wear. Setting out your clothes the night before is a huge help to utilize your closet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.17.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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