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[ - ] Which painting do you like better? http://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/bar/3880252646.html 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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Are you the mom who is selling her paintings? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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No. Another Mom posted earlier and someone asked her for the link. I can't decide which one I like better. [ Reply | More
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Art Mom - I like both of them. [ Reply | More
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Those are hideous and amateurish. Pass on both. [ Reply | More
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Grow up [ Reply | More
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You should not say that about other people's work. You troll. [ Reply | More
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They are really, really bad. [ Reply | More
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Why? [ Reply | More
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+1 but so is most of modern art [ Reply | More
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Second [ Reply | More
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OMG they're AWFUL! maybe the second one... But still... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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You are a nice person. [ Reply | More
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Deleted within minutes. Couldn't take the criticism, huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:22 AM Flag
[ - ] I know my place in society. I'm poor. Feel free to throw trash at me. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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no one throws trash at you cuz you are poor. they just feel superior and look down. but no reason to feel bad about your standing in society. we all go to the grave empty handed. just work on getting a little financial stability for yourself/family. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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Well thanks. Same to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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There are many ways to be poor. If you're talking about having no money but are rich in health, friends, etc... you're lucky [ Reply | More
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this [ Reply | More
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i hate these platitudes. the rich have more health, more friends, more everything. that's why people want money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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I am poor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:19 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the purpose of an "open marriage"? Honestly just curious. And what about the "forsaking all others" part of your vows-did you skip it? Does DH go out on dates with other women? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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maybe if i really hated or stopped wanting to have sex, i might let dh do it IF IF IF he were to be super discreet and safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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I'm not in an open marriage, and I don't think that model would work for me, but my vows said nothing about forsaking all others. I mean it was implied, but not stated explicitly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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the "forsaking all others" part is a religious invention and has nothing to do with the marriage contract. Open marriage are just made up of honest cheaters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:08 AM Flag
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Dh and I were hit on by swingers. I felt like I was innocent at that point. I thought that only happened in movies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I am staying in New York for first time and wanted to stay by central park? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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Ok, have fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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Good for your, hon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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My hon? I'm traveling alone, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:22 AM Flag
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Write with conviction. Why the question mark? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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Are you seriously that dense? Don't answer that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:23 AM Flag
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i like the new york palace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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^^ but not SUPER close to the park, though within walking distance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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Excuse the nastiness, I promise all ny'ers are not like this! How much do you want to spend? The mandarin oriental is near CP and amazing, so is Trump. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:09 AM Flag
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Essex house [ Reply | More
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OP: Thanks to all the helpful posters... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:24 AM Flag
[ - ] How did you announce to dh that you were pregnant for the first time? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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I left the pregnancy test on the bathroom counter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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He knew before I did. He was the one who told me to "go pee on a stick", so he was the one who got to look at it and see the results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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wrapped up baby booties as a present [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody watching the NBA game? Amazing! I can't imagine the feeling of an athlete when he makes a crucial shot in a crucial game. Must be an amazing high. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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Is the NBA still full of thugs? I prefer college ball. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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Do you talk like that around your kids? Yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:04 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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Pretty much! It is sad but true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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it's just a job to them by that time of life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:09 AM Flag
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An amazing game. My dd is a professional athlete and even as a parent it is a high like no other when she comes up big. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Is the G&T master list here up to date? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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I think so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] About to enroll dc at lower lab for K. I'm feeling really nervous about it, hope its the right thing to do 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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There is no right thing. LL is a great public school. In the old days parents didn't overthink everything. And by old days, I mean way back in 2006 when NEST was the subject of ridicule on UB and parents used g&t programs to get their kids out of sub-par publics and not because they obsessed about their kids getting a special gifted education. Sad, and if the DOE would not have given in to the silly cry to establish more citywides, lots of this "nervousness" would be ended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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Do you have kids in GT? My older qualified but we didn't get a satisfactory placement, younger has a spot at LL. I don't think my older dc's school is strong enough and am worried that LL might be too intense in comparison. Oh we'll, I'll just get through this and then it will soon be time to worry about middle schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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I don't know what kind of school your older dc goes to, but if it is a good gen ed, it is strong enough. It is elementary school. Dcs don't need to be challenged all the time -- they need to learn the basics and retain a love of learning. The rest comes later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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Thanks. I think her gen Ed is just ok, I'm switching her this fall to a better gen Ed, but it's just not about academics, she hasn't really made any friends at school so I am hoping she may do better with a new groups of kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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np: i have lots of friends w kids at LL and not one of them has ever described it as "too intense" and these are not neurotic type A parents either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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perfectly good place. don't be nervous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] STCM are you there? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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She is away on vacation. Try back in 4 days. Good night. - PM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:05 AM Flag
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she'll be back later to make a fool of you again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] I met a guy who was married, we had sex on the first night. Carried on this affair for 2 years. He ended up divorcing and marrying me. Anybody else shares a similar background? Happily married for 7 years, 1 dc together (we each had dc from previous relationships). I never tell the whole story,but decided to share with UB since there seems to be so much hatred towards the OW. Sometimes the OW is just the catalyst. 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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EW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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op: Why "ew"? He was going to divorce her any way, it was a matter of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Hon, if you need it explained to you why you are disgusting, you are never going to understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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op: Relationship was over when I got in the picture. Divorces are not caused by third parties, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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right... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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np: i agree that the divorce is not caused by a 3rd party. where i disagree though is that sometimes the option created by the 3rd party, creates a disincentive to try to work through problems in the marriage. not that all problems can be worked through, but IMO couples should at least make that effort, rather than running for the next relationship they assume will be better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:09 AM Flag
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i think all problems can be worked out. but sometimes, people don't want to put in the effort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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stay classy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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You guys deserve each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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op: Thanks. We are in fact a great match. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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It wasn't meant as a compliment, cunt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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NP: lol, OP is as stupid as she is skanky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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op: I knew exactly what I was doing when I replied. OW gets all the bad rep, no one seems to ever believe that exes had anything to do with the end of the marriage. I find is interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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a 2 year affair isn't the catalyst, it's the cause. dang, you're stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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op: I know, I was being sarcastic. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Skank. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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ho fo sho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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OP will be back here in a couple years bitching about how her DH has been cheating on her for the last two years and is now divorcing her ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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Yup. That's a given. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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op: We are in an open marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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lol of COURSE you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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keep on skanking... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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An open marriage is not a marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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Open marriage? So basically the only difference between you and his first wife is that first wife wouldn't put up with his cheating but you will. If first wife had agreed to "open marriage" he'd still be with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:54 AM Flag
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Open marriage? So basically the only difference between you and his first wife is that first wife wouldn't put up with his cheating but you will. If first wife had agreed to "open marriage" he'd still be with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:54 AM Flag
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and you're so proud. awesome. remember, you are going to be that hag he's married to pretty soon. if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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How can you say you are happily married? Do you have no moral compass? I.e., I couldn't look my husband in the face if he knew that I had done something so heinous. Is it "ok" with you because you both did it? Or is it that you don't think lying and cheating is wrong in every circumstance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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dewd, don't be melodramatic. people have varying degrees of morality. that's why we have laws. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Yes, that's my point. Immoral people have varying degrees of morality. I guess as long as you find someone who is on your level and want your children to have that level as well, it's all good...except for the original partners who got duped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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dewd, op sounds like a delusional ass but morality is grey. there are white lies. we also lie to protect someone. we steal when we are starving. we kill in wars. things happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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Maybe I am the only one here - but I understand that emotions and relationships are complex and not black and white. I believe cheating is wrong, but I don't doubt that you and your husband are happy together. Maybe his wife was horrible. We don't know. I won't judge. I wish you guys the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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fucktar alert! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Is that like Ishtar? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:17 AM Flag
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no, it's tar for fucking, obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:21 AM Flag
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Hi OP! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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I'm actually not op, I just don't get so worked up about it like most people on UB and I wanted to see if I am the only one. I guess I am! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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NP--no, you're not the only one. I was going to say something similar. I don't agree with her actions but I don't necessarily think it means her marriage is doomed or that he is going to cheat on her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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you don't think cheaters keep cheating. how bizarre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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I think often they do. But it's within reason to think that perhaps some don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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perhaps a very, very small, tiny, eensy, weensy minority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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yeah, you're the only knucklehead on this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Why are people freaking out? Are you all so afraid it will happen to you? Seriously, I am curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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Who's freaking out? They're typing on a keyboard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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Jesus you're dense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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cuz it's gross. duh. i don't think cheating in itself is a horrendous thing. but breaking up a family and being proud of it, that's the nadir (or is it the apogee) of skankiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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Don't feed the trolls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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Hi Angie! How's Brad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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now, that marriage was over when brad dumped her so unceremoniously, which was rude. but how about j aniston getting her bf to dump his wife/gf/whatever of like 15 years? they even had kids. you don't care about that, do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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and what about julia roberts? do you get so worked up about those? i don't understand this weird obsession with a jollie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Whatever op. I think you are sincere. Don't listen to them. I know you're not straight out of Big Love. If that works for you and him then so be it. I think it's the betrayal that hurts the most, but if they were already fighting to the point the demise of the relationship was apparent then so what? The ex=wife is likely glad to be out of that relationship and on to someone she has a good relationship with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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nobody cares but I wouldn't mention this to your kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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like he's not going to find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] If you got your job in the last five years, where did you first hear about it? My friend is trying to convince me that no one gets jobs these days except by knowing someone. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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Headhunter. I wasn't looking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Through a work acquaintance (had met at a county Bar event) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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My friend left her job and recommended me. My dh got his job bc we had a friend in the hr dept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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Headhunter. That's not true - just an excuse people tell themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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Advertisement on an industry association website. [ Reply | More
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Company website. Knew no one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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Switched twice in the last 5 years - first was a headhunter, second was a former colleague hired me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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That's definitely true in my field. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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What's the field? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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Architecture [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Online posting on a site specific to my field. [ Reply | More
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want ads [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Not sure what to do about my marriage. DH is cheap to the pint where he does t like going out to eat at a pricey restaurant. Didn't want to vacation in Europe because its too expensive. Won't buy new clothes until his old clothes get too ratty to wear. Eats breakfast every day at his moms (she lives a few blocks away from us). I am wondering if I should cut my losses and move on, we don't have DCs (I am 38, he is 46). Is there any hope in changing him? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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no. if you want him to be different you should have married somebody different. Does he enjoy his frugal life? or does he like to be miserable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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He enjoys his frugal life because he tells me he manages to save $500K by living like a pauper for half his life. He used to bike to work so he wouldn't have to pay for the subway fares during the summer. He also drives a used car that someone donated to his boss at a charity event and his boss gave it to him as a bonus, so he kept it. (It's a 1998 sedan). We are married 3 years now, I earn a slightly higher income than him, but I never thought he would still be so frugal. I thought he would want to enjoy the money we bring home every month (about $11K after taxes). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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people are the way they are. but can't you enjoy life or does he chew you out if you spend money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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No thank god he does new chew me out for my spending money. We have separate checking accounts and only share a checking acct for housing and utility bills. He doesn't care how many shoes I buy every month or that I eat lunch out almost every other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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so what's the problem? but i don't understand these marriages where wife/husb keep track of who's is what. that doesn't seem like a deep partnership. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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That is really weird he eats breakfast at his moms every day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Her house is on his way to work. He gets in at 7:30 am so he stops by at 6:30 to have coffee. A first I thought it was sweet because he cares about her (she is 82 years old). But now I think it's because he's too cheap to grab a bagel and coffee at the deli! (I get up for work at 8 am). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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OK. So you are not even awake when he has gotten ready and arrived at the office? There's the issue. I don't think it's frugality. His mother has his breakfast ready for him and he can socialize with her at the same time. If you were up having breakfast when he was up, I don't think he'd be leaving to have breakfast somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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True. That's probably the reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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Everything sounded reasonable until the part about eating breakfast at his mother's house every day. What is up with that? Was he doing this when you were going out and before you got married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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i bet that's partly because he loves his mother and wants to check in on her every day. and i am sure it's a comforting routine. hell, i wish my mom would cook me breakfast every day and i'd even pay her to do it if she'd agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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This behavior did not change when you got married. He was like this before you got married. You can't go into a marriage thinking you are going to change someone. It doesn't work like that. It says a lot about you that you would consider "cutting your losses and moving on" over something so trivial. You were never really into him were you? You felt like you were running out of time and had better get married, didn't you? This smacks of it. Sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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No, I meant cutting my losses as giving up any efforts to change him. I did manage to change hoe he dressed. When we started dating, he used to wear awful shirts and shoes. Now he dresses a bit more fashionably because I am with him when he goes shopping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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If you love him, you love him. EVERYONE has faults. You could be with a guy who spends way beyond his means. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:07 AM Flag
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What about separate bank accounts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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Make your own money and spend it any way you like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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Most people who are excessively frugal have insecurity about money - either grew up poor or had some kind of scary time of unemployment or lack of funds. the best you can hope for it to see a counselor about it and maybe a financial planner and come to a realistic compromise. One where you agree to save a certain amount of money every year but then also agree to plan for certain expenses that are important to you. FWIW, my frugal immigrant parents would never have dreamed of eating breakfast out - my mom was incredulous that the secretaries at her office who were always complaining about lack of funds would get their coffee and bagel/muffin from the "coffee cart" every day. she would go on and on about how inexpensive it was to make your own coffee at home and that they even had a coffee maker in the office but they were too lazy to make it and how much money they would save if they didn't spend that $2 every day. My parents now have a NW over $12M and while they are less frugal for them, they are still very frugal - my mom will meet someone out for coffee or go to a nice restaurant with friends, but she would never buy coffee or a beverage on the go or get lunch out as a convenience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:14 AM Flag
[ - ] My UB ads are in Spanish. Anyone else? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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sometimes [ Reply | More
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No ads. I have Ad Blocker turned on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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no ads [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] My dd will be one at the end of the month. How do I wean off of bottles? Currently at 3-4 per day, 6oz each. Tia! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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we switched to a sippy cup at 1 year and DD stopped drinking milk. i wish you better luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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This happened to us too! DS is almost 3 and just now starting with milk again..oy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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My twin dds are 13 months and we still do bottles for milk 3x a day - not in a rush to cut out. They use straw cups with water for meals, they get alot more milk from bottle and it comforts them plus pediatrician is fine with it. Bottle doesn't linger - they drink the milk then we take away. On the go we do the straw cups with water. We got them used to the straw cups very early On. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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Oh and we do 6 oz each too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Cold turkey. Have one bad morning and it's all over. We had luck making a big deal about saying "cheers" and drinking. GL, might not be pleasant! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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lol. Same here. All my kids did the "cheers" and "cin cin" thing once they were using sippies. Really like the Nalgene cups, by the way (someone here recommended them and they're all I've ever used for #3). They don't look super babyish, either, so he can use them for water bottles until he's pushing 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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or: LOL DS is big into the nalgene and Kleen Kanteen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Brush teeth before bed. The whole 'no bottle at one' is ridiculous. FWIW- my first never 'got' the sippy cup. He was so obsessed with getting the water out and just made a big mess. Straw cups were fine. Bottles and/or nursing after 1 is just fine - it's comforting and only in our little competitive, neurotic circle is this even a 'thing' - go w/ the flow. #2 didn't want anything to do w/ the bottle or nursing at that age -- wanted to be like his big bro.. None of this stuff matters at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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Totally agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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What is your logic in wanting to take it away? They are still so young bottle won't hurt them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Bottles are bad for the teeth and speech development. They're supposed to transition to a straw cup or a regular cup at one. I'm finding it's not that easy to make that transition, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:54 AM Flag
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np: i really think this depends. if kids are drinking water out of a cup and still taking milk a couple of times a day from a bottle, where the milk is drunk in 5-10 min and then it's done, it really won't impact teeth or speech. it's the carrying a bottle around and sipping from it all day long that causes problems, same as pacifier use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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Does she know how to drink out of a cup as well? If not, start that now (with water), even if you keep the bottles. Then when she's comfortable with a cup just start switching it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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Why are you pushing this? Most kids will wean themselves to a great extent when they are ready [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else's dirty little secret that they got arrested for shoplifting? I was 21 (15 years ago) and had to go to court. Major department store and I was banned from their premises for a year. I am married now with kids and am horrified/sad that I was ever that bad a place to do that. I was Definitely confused and miserable at that time but so happy now and for so long now that I can't even believe I did that. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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I was 13, police were not involved. Technically I'm not allowed in CVS ever again. DH knows this and a lot worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:15 AM Flag
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what's worse? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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I used to cut myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Whoa. How are you doing now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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Fine. I was a very unhappy teenager. I haven't cut, stole, or hurt myself in 10+ years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Do you have a steady job? Is your DH successful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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Yes and Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:43 AM Flag
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I was also 13. Not arrested but they scared the shit out of me. It was just a bottle of nail polish. Never did it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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you got caught your first time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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No on is claiming they got caught the first time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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so that was your first and only time? i find that hard to believe. also, is this on your record? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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I don't think she said it was [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Op - first and only time getting caught. Shoplifted 2-3x before this clothing items. Bound to happen. It was expunged from my record 5 years later - so virtually gone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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(Never shoplifted after this ever! ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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21 is pretty pathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:14 AM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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You are sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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Yep, people who have never shoplifted are the sad ones here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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You are sad judging her/calling her pathetic without knowing her backstory. She clearly had issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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if you dig deep enough, everyone has issues. yet we still execute criminals and send themt o prison. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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I had issues. My mom died suddenly In an elevator malfunction when i was 19 and I never really dealt with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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so you shoplifted as therapy? how does that make sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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np: it's an excuse people make to justify bad behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Op - I was just angry and didn't care if I lived or died so certainly didn't care about society rules. Just because I am giving you a reason doesn't mean it is right. I am glad they arrested me, woke me up and I never did it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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You don't need to explain yourself to these psychos. Shoplifting is hardly the worst thing you could have done and it's been 15 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:46 AM Flag
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it just makes no sense that you started shoplifting as therapy for the death of your mother. drinking, maybe. drugs, ditto. taking on dangerous jobs (e.g. policewoman or firefighting), yes. shoplifting, no. it makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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np: this is the stupidest statement. it's not therapy - it's simply risky, attention seeking behavior. when you are in pain, you seek out things that will make you feel better and you don't care about the consequences. the things don't "make sense" they just are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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things always make sense. shoplifting is not attention seeking. it is furtive. if you want attention, you become a total slut. i am sure getting things makes everybody feel better. it has nothing to do with the pain of losing someone. you are crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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Why are you being so mean to the OP? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:22 AM Flag
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of course it's attention seeking. people are trying to see what they can get away with and how far they can push it until they get caught. but often they want to get caught. we're not talking kleptomania. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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What!? This is the 2nd person I have heard of recently who died this way! Off topic, and I'm sorry, but how does this happen? And how common is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Not very common. Horrific. Elevator dropped suddenly at a power outage. Not that it comes close to the reolacement of our mother but we won a settlement with the elevator company. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:50 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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I got caught when I was like 18. Shoplifted some chips and fake nails. Even thinking about it now like 20 years later I feel sick to my stomach. I am a total nervous Nelly so imagining myself in that store stuffing something in my bag is crazy. No police just not allowed in the store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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Op - I am nervous nelly too! Cannot imagine an earlier version of me thinking it was ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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yikes! I would never shoplift - even as a kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] where is Indian food on the healthy/dieting spectrum? Usually get chicken tikka or tandoori and a side salad (no rice) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:08 AM Flag
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lot of creamy/fat sauces [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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I think it depends what kind of oil is in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Lots of butter/ oil. Better if you make your own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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not healthy. have you seen most indian women who are middle aged and older?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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i get the same stuff and i love it but feel it is bloating and not that great for me. i get it when i don't care what i eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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not very healthy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever been accused of doing something that you didn't do? I'm asking because the Amanda Knox case is bringing up feelings about this for me. The thing I was accused of was much much less serious, but it still affected me. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:06 AM Flag
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Yes....cheating on college bf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:01 AM Flag
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she's guilty, idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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Of what [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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she let someone into her apt and let let him kill her roommate including tying her up or otherwise incapacitating her from helping herself and not coming to her aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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I shouldn't have said what led me to the question, Have you ever been accused of doing something you didn't do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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np: why do you think so? (genuinely curious, I don't know what to think) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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just everything. but one tell tale thing is that she confessed that when her roommate let out a blood curdling scream, she covered her ears to block the sound. some people say that she just said that under police coercion. under police coercion, you make up stuff like, i did this. then i did this. then this and this. and they are all active things in the crime. they are not passive details that don't contribute like that the murder victim let out a blood curdling scream and that it bothered you so much that you covered your ears. you confess to that because it really happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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She might be dumb but she's not guilty! For gods sake The person who did it already confessed and is in jail! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:14 AM Flag
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you're such a fucktard. so why did her boyfriend say that she's lying and that he wasn't with her the night of the murder? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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what?! he didn't say that at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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yes, he did. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/italy/10060201/Amanda-Knox-broke-up-with-Raffaele-Sollecito-because-he-undermined-alibi.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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What's a fucktard. Her boyfriend never said that., sorry! Loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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link above, idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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I think Amanda Knox is guilty of something and as there the night of the murder. And yes, I've been accused of things I haven't done, but most people on a minor scale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Name the city where you live and where you would buy a vacation home if money were no object 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:05 AM Flag
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Manhattan/ Barbados or Rome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:07 AM Flag
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Seattle/Jackson Hole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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San Diego and I'd take Jackson as well. Insanely, insanely expensive, however. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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Maybe New Orleans garden district [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:09 AM Flag
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Manhattan, Naples FL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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Are you 80? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Miami, somewhere in California [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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I wouldn't live here if money were no object. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:15 AM Flag
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where is here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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NYC - 90% of us are here, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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OP: I am not so that's probably why I didn't get it. I do think most people are in NYC though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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San Diego - Kauai [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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Manhattan. South Florida. Already have a country house that we use a lot, but would love somewhere wrm, easy and cheap to get to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Detroit area/Tuscany [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Austin/Barbados or Parrot Cay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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Manhattan. Don't want to own any more property. Would love to vacation in lots of these places, but not own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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Singapore - Bali but if i lived in the US either tahoe or hamptons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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NYC. Nantucket, Maui, London. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone sleep with their DH on the first date? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:05 AM Flag
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Yes...whoops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:59 AM Flag
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Bahah atleast yours was a date! I slept with DH after we met at a bar...double whoops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:08 AM Flag
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Ha. I was pretty drunk.....don't remember much about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:02 AM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:09 AM Flag
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How LNG r u married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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hmm, i went to college w dh, hooked up one night, had sex a week later, had our first date at least a month after that and have been happily together for 25 years :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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Actually I would have but HE held it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:07 AM Flag
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He did?!?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:01 AM Flag
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Yes. He turned me down. Wanted to wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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Ouch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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Aw that's sweet! My DH said he couldn't wait to do the deed because he thought its be his last chance to get with someone "out of his league" lol he's such a dork [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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^it'd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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How long you wait [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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We didn't! Lol we met at a bar and hooked up the same night. I left the next day and didn't give him my number and had no intentions of seeing him again, but I ended up accidentally leaving something at his place. He googled and found my email and we started texting. When I met with him the second time to get my styff back I was smitten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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^stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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no, are you kidding me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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Oh come off it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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We had anal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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I did, regretted it the next day but within a few months we basically knew we'd end up together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:26 AM Flag
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2nd date. first date was just drinks. it was meant to be, i have never felt so comfortable with someone. it was easy right from the start (the relationship, that is). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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Yes and like above it was not a date. Met in a bar, went home w him. Did it next morning. Together 12 yrs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:54 AM Flag
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Yup. Bagged a real catch too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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YES! Already knew each other socially. Married for eight years now. Two kids. If a man decided I wasn't "marriage material" because I slept with him on the first date, then I would feel the same. Not at all attracted to spending my life with the kind of man who divides women into those categories, thinks less of a women for sleeping with him without "holding out". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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yes, but it was a weekend day and I didn't sleep with him until the second day (if that matters) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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