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[ - ] Any HRP Mamas here? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] IWP here. I heard thunder and was freaked out but Twitter explained it. Twitter is so great 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:21 PM Flag
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I picture you as Jonathan cheban or Milo yiannoplis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:24 PM Flag
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Genuinely curious, but why do you feel the need to post with an "IWP" in front of it? Why not just post something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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You like being anonymous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:28 PM Flag
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H/she does that too when trying to avoid responses relating directly to h/her persona. For instance, h/she posted continually about the Mulholland Drive movie and then finally admitted it was h/her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Explain something to me. In the MP post about colleges, once poster accuses another poster of responding to herself three times, because "the timestamps are identical." Wouldn't this be proof that the three posts are from DIFFERENT posters? How could one person post three responses at the exact same time? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:20 PM Flag
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They can do it in the same minute. Time stamp doesn't show seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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Seriatim posts within seconds of each other. This board is so dead, the odds are slim that two people are posting at the same exact time, let alone three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know what seriatim is. What's the basis for your claim that odds are slim two people are posting at the same time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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If the posts are during the same minute, or within one or two minutes, it is very likely the same person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Have abscess in upper gum ( not teeth), see yellow head. No health insurance and broke. Can I sterilize a needle and pop it myself? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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Go to dental clinic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:13 PM Flag
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What is the abscess from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:17 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t do this because abscesses can get pretty bad. It won’t cost you much to have it removed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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Infections in your mouth can lead to much more serious health concerns. I don't think popping it is your biggest issue. You probably should be on antibiotics. Worth spending the money. If the infection travels you will have bigger issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] It isn't ok to say this anywhere else, but every time I see a pic of Chrissy Metz, all I can think is, "Good God, that woman is enormous!" 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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Who dat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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This Is Us actress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:17 PM Flag
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Never heard of her, and if I did, forgot about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss quiet libraries. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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Don't go to them! You can get bed bugs from the homeless people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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The bedbugs are more likely to come from donated books, if the library still accepts them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to Paris with family. What should I make reservations for ahead of time other than hotel and car? Any must see things that need reservation? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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How old are DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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OP: 12 and 15 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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Reserve a tour of the catacombs. The tour guides cut the massive line. Well worth it. I’d also book dinner reservations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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Also, reserve Eiffel Tower tickets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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if you want to book eiffel tower, book it in advance. when I went , all the tickets were sold out and there is no way I would have waited on line for hours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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You don’t need or want a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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agree. Uber is everywhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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We did a scavenger hunt at the Louvre that was fun...we booked ahead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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I took my tween and teen to Paris and this is the activity they remember most: http://www.chocoparis.com/chocolate-walks/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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I would book Versailles in advance, maybe even a tour so you don't have to deal with the lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:19 PM Flag
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I recommend skipping it alll together....it’s meh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Acquaintance/friend-ish reaches out for advice and counsel (work related things) and then proceeds to ask me to provide a service that I normally charge clients for. Our conversations typically last for an hour -- each time we meet it's can you advise me on this, what are the steps with that? She's stingy with helping in return. Yesterday, she wrote, hey, thanks for helping with XYZ -- which I did not agree to. Clearly, she must know what I've been providing to her is what I do for a living. I am a single parent. I am tired of ppl who take advantage. Would it be wrong of me to go back and say, happy to have help and would love to work with you on XYZ -- can I share a service agreement with you to get us started? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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Just tell her that from now on you'll have to consider it a fee based consultation. Of course she's going to take advantage of you if you let her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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this. I give to causes I like. CPA, I do some filings for Democratic committies. Anyone else, I say, I will give you 1/2 hour, then on the clock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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What do you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Can you tell her that you are so busy working with your clients that you don't have bandwidth for this type of "friendly" help right now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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op: That I even have to point it out makes me see red. Thank you, though, for the suggestion! I'm putting the ball back in her court. That people even impose like this drives me crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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I hear you; but people like that don't care about imposing. You have to push back. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:15 PM Flag
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This hits home for me right now. Someone from my high school days found me on Facebook and I accepted, thinking it was harmless. What I didn't know was that her daughter was involved in a family court case here in NYC. She asked me to go to court with her for her daughter's hearing and then go with her to a foster agency in the Bronx (I had to basically take a day off). Then she started asking more and more of me. It got to the point where she wanted me to write up some court papers for her. I told her that it would basically be malpractice for me, since I'm not a family lawyer (but it was more so to get her off my back). The requests for help are continuing. I don't know what to do except continue with a firm "no." I can't imagine doing this to someone I barely know. But, there's a lot of guilt that I create for myself by standing up for myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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op: Yes! I get it! I would never put someone else in this position. It burns me up when ppl do this and so many ppl do. In a blink. You went above and beyond. I've decided that I am going to go back and offer to do it as a client. And if she feels offended, well, that's that -- no loss for me. I am a people pleaser and have taken efforts this year to do less of it and taking baby steps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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OR: I understand. I have a horrible problem with assuming that people have good intentions. It's like I'm a magnate for users. Then I find myself wondering how to get out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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Wow, going to court. I would have said, I can recommend someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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I didn't accompany her as a lawyer (which I made clear from the beginning). She was scared of where she had to be and wasn't familiar with NYC, so I did it as a favor (not realizing at the time that I was opening myself up to more). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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Tell her you're busy and you have 15 min., but if need be you can recommend someone for her to call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD - live in the burbs and I routinely leave stroller and infant car seat outside under a covered, but open to the outside, porch. I noticed this morning two shiny black insects in the seat area of the car seat. Upon closer inspection, an additional 10-15 came running out from underneath the lining. I hosed down thoroughly and an additional 5 of so came out. I'm thinking of tossing this car seat and replacing since there is no way of knowing that I got them all out. I obviously need to bring into my house. What if these bugs laid eggs? My ds is almost 8 months old so he will be done with this car seat within the next 4 months. To trash or not? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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Personally, I'd trash. If you're located in the NJ area, you could take it to Stroller Express in Millburn and they can possibly wash and disinfect it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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I probably would let it "bake" in the sun and vacuum it thoroughly. Were they ants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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It is currently baking in the sun. No, not ants. Some other type of black insect about the size of a carpenter ant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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Don't throw it out, take it apart and clean. It will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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I took apart as much of the lining as a could, but I worried about the other hiding spots and I also wonder if they laid any eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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I would toss the car seat and also make sure you vaccuum/thoroughly clean your entire car. the bugs might have come from the cracks in the seats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] So apparently young women in Japan are getting caps on their incisors, so they look like they have vampire fangs. It only costs about $150 at a dentist. Thoughts? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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Kawaii! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.18.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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I have that look naturally, so why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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No you don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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I have sharp canine teeth. Not sure why you'd doubt this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:50 PM Flag
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Take a picture your canines and upload it to http://www.imgur.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:53 PM Flag
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So do I and I’ve always hated them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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Scraggly teeth on woment are also considered cute in Japan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] 500-600 HHI, 2.5mm net worth, 40yo - how much would you spend on a house? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:38 PM Flag
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1.5 million [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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I would agree, but...where is the net worth? Do you currently own real estate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:53 PM Flag
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Depends on how many kids / how much space you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^and also whether public school is a viable option [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:43 PM Flag
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or: I said 1.5 million and absolutely agree with this. if you are looking at paying private school tuitions lower the number, but if getting the house in a good district it's worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] IWP here. I want perfect crystal-clear ice cubes for my refreshing drinks in the hot LA weather. How is it possible that we don't have this in the 20th century? Does anyone know an icemaker that makes such perfect ice cubes? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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lol IWP makes me lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:35 PM Flag
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IWP: I'm being serious I'm sick of ice cubes with gross white lines in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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Here you go. We use the cooler in freezer method. https://m.wikihow.com/Make-Clear-Ice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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IWP: Do you not know who I am? If I wanted to do all that I might as well get a job or a DH. I want to buy a machine that puts out crystal clear ice cubes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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Your freezer is a machine. You boil water and add to ice cube trays [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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You need a separate icemaker, from the frig. They melt if ice gets old. I do not think you are IWP or you would know this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How much should a couple earning 200k (combined) gross pay in rent per month? Is 25% of gross monthly salary still the recommendation? Even in NYC or high COL cities? Using this framework, this means the couple grossing 200k should spend no more than ~4.2k per month. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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That sounds OK, but this is my income and I would find 2600-3200 to be comfortable. I probably wouldn't go beyond 3500. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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Saving for college (kids in future?) and or retirement savings? Travel budget etc. I'd say no more than 3K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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Per many landlord requirements in NYC, gross HHI generally has to be 40x the monthly rent, so in most buildings you'd qualify for a unit up to $5K. Whether or not you "should" spend that much is dependent on so many other variables (i.e. what are your other monthly expenses, savings situation, longterm plans, etc.) Also, for some, living in a higher COL area has some tradeoffs that actually reduce or eliminate other expenses you'd have elsewhere (i.e. if you live in Manhattan you don't really need to own a car; if you live in a luxury building with a gym, you can drop your gym membership, etc.), so it won't be the same in every situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] UTI culture came back positive. I get very sick from antibiotics. Has anyone successfully treated a UTI without going on antibiotics? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:17 PM Flag
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I tried for about 5 days to do every homeopathic remedy in the book and nothing worked. I finally couldn't take it anymore and took the course of antibiotics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. What did you take and did you have side effects? I have side effects of everything. TIA. How long did it take to go away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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I can't recall, but I don't typically have reactions. I had just taken antibiotics at least twice that year for other things and I would have rather tried to go without a third. I did try to eat a lot of yogurt though. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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You have probably already tried this, but there are some antibiotics that make me really sick and some don't; so mention to your doctor the ones that have made you sick and she might have a suggestion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:20 PM Flag
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I don't think you can skip antibitocis for a UTI -- is there a diff type of antibiotic you can take? What did the MD say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP: They are calling in Macrobid. I don't think I have ever taken it but can't remember. All of them make me feel terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:25 PM Flag
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Np. I believe Macrobid is supposed to be one of the mildest antibiotics you can take. They give it to pregnant people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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Even Cipro? that one is usually mild in terms of side effects. If you try other remedies you risk the infection becoming a kidney infection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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Cipro has some of the worst side effects, such that doctors have been advised to prescribe sparingly for things like UTIs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:29 PM Flag
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This is how I wound up in the ER. Do NOT skip antibiotics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:34 PM Flag
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This. Power through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I worked, then stayed at home, now work again. I cannot for the life of me see the "fight" between SAHMs and WOHMs. Do whatever the f you want and what works for you and your situation! If WOH is too stressful, guilt inducing or not fulfilling, and you don't need the money, don't do it. If you find SAH mind numbing or not challenging, don't do it! Why are women constantly criticizing each other or denigrating others' choices. All it seems to me when people do that is that they are either jealous, unhappy, or just plain mean. Thank God I don't meet many folks like that in real life. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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It doesn't exist IRL. I have never given a thought to whether someone works or does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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Thank you:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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I agree. I think the fights are within married couples, not between woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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This fight is between all kinds of people. I know and have had SAHM look at me with disdain as a WOHM and vice versa when I was home for five years -- WOHM looking at me like I was a box of rocks. I don't care what you do. My advice, though, to my DDs -- do not stop working. Do not cut off your financial independence. It impacts your decision making, your confidence and ability to have a rightful role in marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:25 PM Flag
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I said 'mind numbing' in the other post but that was because OP told her friend NOT to work. How about we all agree to just do whatever we want... don't tell someone not to work because their DH makes enough money... and don't criticize someone for staying at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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Come on, we all have opinions. We all make our own choices precisely because we think they are better than the others. Asking people to just accept whatever is asking them to turn off their critical faculties. Not possible. We can be civil to each other, yes, but we will still believe what we believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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^Women need to stop being so easily offended when others don't agree with them and hold their hands for every little thing. Own your choices and be done with it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:28 PM Flag
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Most women that work actually have to work - they don’t choose to. The fight starts when those women are unfairly criticized for “outsourcing parenting.” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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Also when people tell them they could quit and stay home if they really wanted to, but they are selfishly unwilling to make financial sacrifices for their children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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what about the fact that some people want to work and it is not strictly about the financial situation. I work for my own mental health. I need structure and direction and I need to go somewhere during the day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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Uh, we are adult, human individuals. Not slaves to our children. I, personally, need to be more than just a caretaker and support-staffer for the others in my family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:20 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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well for years I worked even though I didnt need to. DH income was about 1m and mine was a fraction of that. but fast forward to 2018 and his income is about 1/3 of what it used to be so now my income actually makes a difference for us and our lifestyle. If I had stopped working 10 yrs ago, I would never have been able to get back in the game now and make the income that I make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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A lot of women do not have any choice, They have to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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And a lot want to work and they're in industries where there are no other women because everyone else left. I wish those women had actually bargained and fought for policies that would actually work for them instead of just opting out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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It is not that easy if your employer says no to letting you work part time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:24 PM Flag
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So why even bother trying? PLease. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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Have you ever been in a situation where you told an employer that you wanted to come back after the birth of a child and they laughed to your face and said "no one REALLY does that"! Or conversely, have you spent years SAH but then had your DH leave you high and dry with no marketable skills? If not, you're lucky. The first happened to me and the second to my sister (who only ended up SAH because she was let go in a "restructuring" while on mat leave). Women ARE affected by the decisions of others, sorry. That's why we care. If more educated, UMC women who actually have some power in our society wanted to work, perhaps we would have better childcare options in this country. It's not all about you, you, you and your precious "choices" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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This. We're all part of a social system and our choices aren't made in a vacuum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.18.18, 06:17 PM Flag
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