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[ - ] Interesting--in the Unpopular Opinion post, the poster against gay marriage created far less fervor than the SAHM vs WOHM poster. Just an observation. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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Well homosexuality is wrong in many levels and anti natural. So there is not much to discuss about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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Can you go back to BabyCenter or whatever troll hobbit hole that you came from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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LOL!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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I think you meant that WOH/SAH (just pick a side) is;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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+1 and if we did discuss it the pro fags will just beat us up anyways. It's an issue of a tiny minority of people whereas SAHM and WOHM issues effect families... a lot of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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affect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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Wtf is "anti natural". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Guess: sahm/wohm applies to most posters in some way so more personal investment, gay marriage not as much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:39 PM Flag
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Because a lot more people are against gay marriage than the media would have you believe. Look at California. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Dumb question but can someone recommend a good piggy bank. I am tired of buying new ones because the piece on the bottom stops working after you open it a few times. DD likes counting her money. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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What about those mini safes? My son loves his. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:26 PM Flag
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Where did you get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:32 PM Flag
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A grocery store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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My aunt & uncle had a beautiful wooden box bank made for me years ago. If you know anyone who's creative, this is easy - it's just a large, wooden box with slightly rounded edge and a big, sturdy wooden plug for the hole in the bottom with a large slot in the top. The sides are stenciled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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No but I could try etsy. Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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Empty 2 liter soda bottle with a slot cut in the top. I saw it on one of those The More You Know spots on recycling. Looked like a cool idea. You could probably finagle something on your own where she can open it, like cut a larger flap next to the slot so she can pull it back and empty e money out when she wants. Let her decorate it with stickers. If it wears out, get another bottle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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Has she read the little prince? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] When is the powerball drawing? We have 20 tickets. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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We bought 200 I know I know. But we are feeling this is it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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How late can you buy tickets today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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11:00 tonight. I think you can buy until ~20 minutes before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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California is in it now, which is why it's gone up so high so fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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HOw many tickets did you buy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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np. Can we do a poll, how much did you guys buy? I'm thinking $10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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Didn't know anything about it. Can you still buy them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody ever had a slutty brownie? Was it good? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:23 PM Flag
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I hate the name so WT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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No, but this week I had a Dancing Deer brownie and I don't think I've ever had anything better--and that's saying a lot, coming from this chocoholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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Those are ridiculous. So good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone wrote about a private bus that takes kids to middle lab in chelsea from the UES. How does that work? Are there certain bus stops where they pick up the kids? Do they bring them home after school regular time or can they stay for after school and then take bus home? TIA. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.18.13, 03:17 PM Flag
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"middle" lab? come on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Isn't it Lab Middle School? So I interchanged the words. Do you know about the bus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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it is commonly referred to as "LAB". Your child can take whatever mode of transpo to and from - does not have to be the same both ways. Many students stay after school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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but if they stay - they will need to transport via public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:32 PM Flag
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Okay thanks. But do you know any children that commute from the UES and take a private bus instead of public to make the commute a little easier? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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I mean for regular morning time and going home (if they don't stay for afterschool). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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I mean for regular morning time and going home (if they don't stay for afterschool). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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NP: I realize you think a school bus is easier for commute - but it doesn't end up that way. It takes forever!!! A citybus is just as safe - hard to believe but your middle school child will most likely take subway by 7th grade anyway. The E might work depending on where you live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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ok thanks. dc in 4th grade so i'm a little ahead but all these middle school posts have me interested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] For the fear of flying poster- just FYI I saw on the news just now that a plane "belly landed" at Newark airport last night- because none of the landing gear worked- and no one was injured. THAT'S how safe airplanes are. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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FYI: You should post this under her original post, not start a new one. Chances are, she's watching her post, and likely not on here 24/7 reading all the subsequent posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Ditto! This bugs me! When I ask for advice, I watch my post and log off. I often wonder if people did this and so I never got their responses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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Hi I'm here, amazing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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When I googled "Newark crash", I also saw a car crash where three kids were critically injured. Flying is definitely safer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone's DC get accepted to Anderson Middle School? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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Yes, my twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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Wow, congrats! Would you mind sharing their % scores on Math and English? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:11 PM Flag
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What elementary school are they in now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Madonna. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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Born to an impossible bar to attain. She'll end up going the other direction! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Donatella instead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
[ - ] been married 12 years. pregnant with third. money is ok, not great. enough to live by, no fancy vacations or jewlery. i want to sell my engagement ring. its worth $20k. it sits in a security box. never wear it. (too fat right now; otherwise its not great with kids). will take the $20k and buy: a nice band or sapphire ring and earings (total $5k), $5k for the crib, stroller, car seat, all that, and $10k for a vacation in the caribbean in december. your thoughts??? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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What does your DH thinks about all this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:15 PM Flag
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OP, Is my ring so he doesn't have much saying about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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hes a little hurt - he used his bar mitzvah money - but he doesnt make finance decisions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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Don't blow $10k on a vacation if you're that poor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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x1,000. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Why not vacation in FL for a third the cost? Ocean? check. Beach? check. Palm trees? check. Umbrella drinks? check. $7k more money in your pocket? check! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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OP, Florida is ghetto. I would rather stay home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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The Gulf side has some nice spots that are not expensive at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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OP, We are not poor, why are you saying this ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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Selling your engagement ring to buy necessities for your baby? Poor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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If you have to sell your engagement ring don't waste the money in a vacation you can't afford. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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Sell the diamond, and replace it with cz. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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OP, CZ are tacky I would rather have a sapphire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Skip the vacation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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How much in your emergency fund? Retirement? If you justt have enough to get by, you should give yourself a cushion, not an expensive vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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So this! Take the money now if you want to but put it away, don't spend it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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$450k in retirement, only $30k emergency savings and two homes that we have mortgages on. frugal life; max out on 401k's, but have lots of trouble saving anything every month. the future is somewhat bright as one of our mortgages reset, savings of $2k per month AND i got another job for $100k a year, beginning in Sept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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This doesn't make sense. I call this a fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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"Two homes" followed by "frugal life"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:49 PM Flag
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Why are you going to spend 10K in a vacation you can't afford ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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You want to spend 15K on completely useless frivolous crap and spend 5k on stuff you need. Think about that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:33 PM Flag
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Very irresponsible IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:39 PM Flag
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You're never going to be able to get 20k for it. Diamonds are horrible on the resale market. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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Just curious - how did your DH pay for the ring when he bought it to propose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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OP, His savings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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You might have paid $20k. You're not getting it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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wow - lots of vacation feedback... i do agree -- i just want to say - we have not been on a vacation in seven years. we are frugal. we are responsible. we go to fl once a year on cheap tickets and stay in my parents' small condo. i will be on maternity leave in december. i think you create precious and valuable memories on vacation as a family, dont flame, its true. we all need one. its not only wonderful to be away, but the pictures you look at years later are also amazing. maybe i reduce the vacation cost? $5k? i was trying to be realistic about 5 tickets plus a week hotel in december. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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You can't afford it. You can go to another places in the States for cheaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Just answer how much you have in savings. It all depends on that. If you live on your current income and have good savings, it may not be that bad. It seems you have no extra income so in case of an emergency, what happens? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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OP, My parents or my ILS can always help if we are in an emergency. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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I see your answer above. You are in no position to be selling assets to finance vacations and buy new baby gear. Get as much hand me downs as you can get. Keep the ring and once that mortgage resets and you have higher income, go on a vacation using your income alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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please don't you do not seem to make wise financial choices [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a really good looking and a sexy female, but can't get laid by really hot guys. Why is this ? Are New Yorkers afraid of good looks ? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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You might be trying to bat out of your league. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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op. Not at all, I think they feel intimidated by me. I am also successful in my career, so maybe is that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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That's possible. Many men prefer a dumb blond to a smart brunette. [ Reply | More
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op. Funny, I am the blonde but not dumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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The hair color is immaterial. Try to lower your IQ... act a little more stupid and a little less smart until you have someone on the hook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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Who, besides you, has assessed you as good-looking and sexy? If it isn't guys, that could be your problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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op. Believe me, hundreds of guys have told me this, I feel how they stare at me at parties I go, I know this may sound a bit pretentious but this is the truth. I feel that my looks are playing against me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:17 PM Flag
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you need to learn become more open to advances. treat everyman as a super-star. Eventually the hot ones will notice as well. All men really want is someone to be nice to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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People stare at uglies, too, you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:25 PM Flag
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op. I know I am not ugly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Hot guy today is bald fat guy tomorrow. Focus on personality not biceps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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First out loud laugh of the day. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:33 PM Flag
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Jealous much ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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Not at all, why would you assume that? I'm amused at the audacity more than anything else, but you seem to be a bitch as well. Just have never met anyone with such egos IRL as I read on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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op. This wasn't me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:46 PM Flag
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Jealous of not getting laid? I could walk out the door without a shower or makeup and get laid in like minutes. OP is doing something wrong. Like opening her piehole maybe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:45 PM Flag
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All you want is to get laid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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Good looking women are usually high maintenance and bad in bed. Men want the girl next door that will screw them like a whore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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op. I know I am high maintenance probably is that, but I am not bad in bed at all. I know I am a good catch and I won't settle for the wrong guy. I want it all, the looks, the smarts and the money, I have it all and I don't deserve less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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that makes no sense - hot guys are just as shallow as hot women...they want to fuck other hot/sexy people - what could be off personality wise, since you insist you are sexy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Arabella vs Caroline. Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:10 PM Flag
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Caroline [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Caroline [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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Caroline is a lovely, classic name. Arabella is pretty, but trendier. You could one as the first and the other as the middle name - either combination would be pretty IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:20 PM Flag
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Arabella was an old kids show with lots of magic. I still want that magic ring and invisible cape :) But I agree, it's too trendy while Caroline is classic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh plays guitar and sings in a band that performs one night a wk and rehearses one night a wk. he takes care of everything at home so I'm not left w any extra work but I feel kind of ditched. I don't want to go watch either, I don't have energy to do that after a long day at work. Am I being immature to resent this? He loves it so I support it. But I don't like it 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:59 PM Flag
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Frankly, it does sound immature on your part. What about it don't you like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:08 PM Flag
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That he's gone two nights a wk to have fun on his own. I know it sounds childish but I feel abandoned. My father died when I was 5 bc he was out drinking with his buddies and they had a car wreck. I worry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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Get a sitter for one night and meet him after for a drink. Don resent him for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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I should try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:21 PM Flag
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He might die a little on the inside if you make him stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:12 PM Flag
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I doubt she could make him stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:21 PM Flag
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I know. I feel mean to begrudge him having fun without me. I suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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it's only two nights a week? i don't think i would have a problem with it - hell mine travels 3 to 4 nights a week and isn't even in the state so, I probably would be very happy with the deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:07 PM Flag
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This is my DH, on and off for the last 25 years. I rarely go to see him play. Find something you love,too. You will both be the better for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:13 PM Flag
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You are right. Life is too short to just work all day and live a boring life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:21 PM Flag
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My DH has a hobby as well, once a week, I do not go to see him either, it is not big deal, but I support what he likes to do though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:15 PM Flag
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Maybe you're inwardly jealous thy he has something creative. Can you find an outlet like this for yourself? Even of no, don't take this away from dh. [ Reply | More
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I think this is it. I am jealous. The I hate myself for having those ugly feelings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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i would love if dh had a hobby that brought him joy and got him out of the house. he comes home every night, watches tv and farts on the couch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:15 PM Flag
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Be grateful he has outside interests and is creative. Turn him into a full time slervant and you'll all regret it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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Ok ladies. Thx for the sage advice; it feels right. I need to grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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We all have those days / moments. It's ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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Get over it. Find something else to do while he's away. My uncle has been in a band like this for decades and, when he was deathly ill, he received so much encouragement from fans who missed him that it really helped him rally. Family were a little put off that we weren't that influential, but music is his true passion. Be happy for your husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:26 PM Flag
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It's really important for both of you to have interests outside the home. Do you have kids - they also need to see their parents being passionate about something, not to mention that DH can teach them how to play the guitar. It seems like a win win situation. You just need to find your own hobby and take 1 or 2 nights for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] In the very beginning stages of a gut kitchen renovation. Thoughts on the different GE lines - Monogram, Cafe, and Profile? (No budget for Viking, etc.) could splurge on SubZero (refrigerator) or Bosch (dishwasher) if really that much better. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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If you can't afford good stuff, do yourself a favor and do not renovate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:06 PM Flag
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OP: I don't cook all that much, I don't need a Viking stove. Trying to be "appropriate" for the space - it's a typical white brick post-war UES building - super high-end would be out-of-place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:03 PM Flag
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imo, subzero and bosch are not that much better than some of the others. I find the subzero very shallow and the compressor has gone out once on us, but it is also 18+ years old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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Bizarre advice. There are renovations for all budget levels. Should I walk because I can't afford an Aston Martin? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? Look at kitchens of places for sale in you price range? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:06 PM Flag
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Sub zero is more expensive than Viking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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What about those cooktop stoves that adjust the heat to whatever size and shape pan you put on it? Those look so cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:17 PM Flag
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We didn't like the Bosch drawer dishwasher because of lack of height for a lot of things and had to replace it. We have a DCS stove and love it - it came more highly-recommended than Viking by the salesman, whom we know well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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Subzero, bosch, and viking are NOT better, quality- and reliability-wise. (see consumer reports). I have a cook's kitchen, but will not waste my $$ on junk, for the name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Np. What do you recommend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Mongram is great. Avoid subzero fridge and splurge on Bosch dishwasher. Done three kitchen renos and learned more each time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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Also, Thermador is great and not as $$$ as Viking or Wolf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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Friend just had to replace motor in her 5 year old Bosch twice in 6 months. $400 a pop. (Two drawers, so two motors). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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Bummer! We have two (one for almost 10 years now!) and never had a problem. I don't have the double drawer one. My neighbor does and loves it. Didn't realize they have issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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Look at Miele dishwashers instead. Our ge orofile is garbage so we are not considering monogram for our new kitchen. I'm also looking at the Electrolux built in fridge bc it looks like subzero. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel so worried that my husband could be sleeping around with our kid's babysitter, who comes 3 to 4 times a week. I have been so busy at work that I don't have much time at home. My husband always comes home 5 hours before I do. Once time I came and saw a use condom in the trash. I talk to my husband about it and he says that he found that under our bed from the night we both had sex. So I did not say anything after words. But things just got strange. It's seems like my husband is just too nice to her! I wish I was not so busy at work! I can't even think at times, just wondering if my husband is messing on me with her! Could he be cheating or do i need to relax and not worry about it? Me and my husband been married for 8 years now 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:55 PM Flag
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If this is real, replace sitter. Easy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:51 PM Flag
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I think she needs to replace her DH. If he would cheat on her with the babysitter, it's not like he won't be able to find another woman to cheat with, or keep seeing the babysitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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Anything is possible. Can you find more time for your DH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:51 PM Flag
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Come home from work early one day (Just tell them you're sick) and see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:57 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:01 PM Flag
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If you suspect something is going on, it's for a reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:57 PM Flag
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Set up a camera? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:53 PM Flag
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Well, do you use condoms when you have sex with your DH? If not, then obviously he's lying. If so, then it' probably yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:55 PM Flag
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I think she'd know whether a used condom was missing or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:03 PM Flag
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Change sitters before he becomes emotionally attached. It will be nigh impossible if he falls in love with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:55 PM Flag
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If he's screwing her he probably is already in love with her. Sucks to be the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:58 PM Flag
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I dunno, some men start with the physical and leave it at that. If he continues with the physical he could become emotionally engaged and then the marriage is in deep crud [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:19 PM Flag
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He would be very dumb to sleep with sitter then leave used condom in the trash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:01 PM Flag
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At least you know it's not about you as he would have done the first thing that came along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:13 PM Flag
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At least he's using a condom.... a knocked up baby sitter = 21 years of child support our of YOUR pocket by the sounds of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:08 PM Flag
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Nanny cam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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here's what's fishy: He found the condom under the bed? I don't think my DH has looked under our bed in 25 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:17 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:32 PM Flag
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ha ha, so true! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] biggest pet peeve - pants that stretch out through the day, and get so big and baggy you can take them off without unbuttoning. old navy is the worst offender. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:53 PM Flag
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OMG THIS!. Hate it. I have a couple pants that i have trouble with and they are ON. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:56 PM Flag
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ON = OLD NAVY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:56 PM Flag
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so many are like this now it's miserable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] About a month ago I noticed that my husband would emit some sort of stale putrid smell. I get up in the morning a few hours before he does (he has an odd work schedule) and I usually close the door when I get up. A few hours later, when he opens the door to our bedroom where he was sleeping, a smell like I have never smelled seems to waft out of the room and hang in the air. At first, it was only bad in the morning, but now the smell seems to follow him. Sorry if this is TMI, but it's sort of like a, as my young son would say, "toot smell" that follows like a cloud. He insists he doesn't know what I'm talking about, but it's bad. I'm concerned because my husband had cancer last year and had radiation. I'm worried there may be something terribly wrong. I honestly can't tell where the smell is "emitted" from...his breath (while sleeping, he breathes entirely through his mouth) or if he is actually passing gas. He appreciated that I told him he smells, but he thinks it's related to what he's been eating lately. He's been eating more veggies, some spices like Tumeric and tuna fish with garlic. All of this is because he's trying to eat healthier post-cancer. Let me tell you...it's cold here this time of year, but I find myself opening the windows just to air the house out. I can't even walk into our bedroom without being hit with this choking smell. I'm also concerned because he spends an inordinate amount of time in the bathroom. We went to an event, and when we got there he said he had to stop off at the bathroom. I rolled my eyes, knowing we would be there a long time...he was in there 20 MINUTES, and we were late to the event. Not to mention, and this was embarrassing, another man went it to the bathroom and walked right out (I was waiting outside) and said to his friend, "ugh, it's gross in there. Smells like someone died." :( My husband had throat cancer, does not and never did smoke, doesn't drink and is now cancer-free post-radiation. I'm worried he might have an issue with his colon, bowels, or something worse. He's already said he eliminated many of the foods that we thought were causing it, but the smell is still there. How long can bad foods stay in your system causing this smell? Or, does this sound like something else to anyone? I'm really worried and embarrassed for him. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:53 PM Flag
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Yes - cancer can make a smell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:01 PM Flag
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Consult a physician [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:56 PM Flag
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If you're going to be long winded and fake, be more interesting. So your husband has bowel movements. Mine does to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:02 PM Flag
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op here, this is not fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:04 PM Flag
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This could be a side effect of radiation. Perhaps you should have dh check with oncologist. Also, might want to post this situation on a cancer-oriented message board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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See a doctor. If there's an unusual odor in his skin the doctor should be able to smell it. It should be easy to run tests if necessary. Please don't google this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:15 PM Flag
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+! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Really down. Picture most strong-willed toddler you know and multiply by 10. That's DS. Every weekend I argue with DH over how to handle. DH wants to fight every battle, I pick them. Ex: tried to take DS to park this am. When we got there he didn't want to stay (don't know why) and had a fit. My thought was- fine. Forget it. We'll go home. DH wanted to force him to stay so he wouldn't get his way. So DH and I are in a fight. This is hard. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:53 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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2.5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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LOL. nothing counts at 2.5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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Having an argument with your spouse about a 2 year old is a waste of time and energy. Save your strength. 2 and 3 suck - and if you think everything you do is going to have influence on this typical behavoir (that ends on its own no matter what) you are simply not thinking. Nothing counts when your kid is 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I find it shocking how medicated Americans are. No where in the world are children diagnosed with a litany of "disorders" and medicated, nowhere! And the number of adults that are on antidepressants, anxiety medication etc - again not the norm in any other country. I think most adults in other cultures accept that life can be tough, unfair, difficult at times - that's life! No one reaches for pharmaceuticals to smooth life's troubles away. Not being critical, just genuinely surprised and curious why this is so. Why do Americans so readily accept pharmaceuticals?? 56 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:51 PM Flag
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THISSSSSSS X 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:55 PM Flag
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No one in the industrialized world works as many hours as we do (on average) with as poor of a diet as we have, so it kind of makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:01 PM Flag
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To the point of medicating our children?? Insane! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 02:59 PM Flag
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Well, if you had 6 weeks of paid vacation plus unlimited sick time, never worked more than 8 hours in a day (which includes at least an hour for lunch), there was no sense of urgency about salary, getting into the right schools, being the skinniest, etc. and ate fresh healthy food all day why would you need depression meds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:11 PM Flag
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Yes because th life in 3rd world Countries are just like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:33 PM Flag
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I think industrialized world was mentioned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Although the annual prevalence of mental disorders in children and adolescents is not as well documented as that for adults, about 20 percent of children are estimated to have mental disorders with at least mild functional impairment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:10 PM Flag
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Again, that is a very American take on things. I think most other cultures/countries just accept that a percentage of kids will just be horrid when young...you know, kids! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:21 PM Flag
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Very few cultures will routinely tag children as having "mental disorders" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:19 PM Flag
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Early intervention for severe and persistent mental illness is just as critical as it is for severe and persistent physical illness. This is not an American take, in fact we are more advanced on this neurological research than most countries, It takes on average two years for the proper diagnosis partly because people are in denial and also don't know how to recognize the symptoms, they chalk it up to kids will be kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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this is what they try to sell - but look at some studies who follow children until age 16. Those with no intervention fair the same. So much for the "early intervention" thing. Maybe with a speech impediment (easily dx) - but not what this post is about really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Please point me to those studies , I am interested [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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you can find them - just start with simple google. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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np, AND other cultures accept the fact that a child might not be a great student and that's ok - not everyone is or needs to be. Americans can't accept that. If their dc is not in a top reading group - there has to be a medical reason for it. It can't possibly be anything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Are you still made that the OP below who is terrified of flying might take a klonipin on her flight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:03 PM Flag
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Sorry, didn't even read that thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:00 PM Flag
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I take Xanax on a flight and love how relaxed I feel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Ha ha, no, that was me, sweet cheeks. I'm not the OP of this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:06 PM Flag
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It is very sad. Part of it is that we're lazy and want a quick fix. But the other part is that insurance will more readily pay for that quick fix (even if it means during you into a lifelong drug addict), rather than therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:03 PM Flag
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My pet peeve is when people use terms like "drug addict" to someone who is on prescription psych medications. These people are not drug addicts. I agree that the meds are overpresribed, yes. But to call someone a drug addict because they are depressed and their doctor prescribed Prozac is insulting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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Ignore that person, She doesn't understand mental health . And it's not her fault if she hasn't had to deal with it in her own life. Society needs to educate people about mental health and fight the stigma associated with it, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:11 PM Flag
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at the same time fighting not to dx and medicate those who don't need it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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I agree. Rx is serious stuff and should be the last resort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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Because Americans want a "quick fix". They don't want years of talk therapy. And the psychiatrists realize that if they stop prescribing meds to everyone, people won't have any reason to pay high fees to see true psychiatrists (MDs) anymore- they will just see a free counselor at the church. Or a psychologist (not a doctor). All psychiatrists have to separate them from much cheaper therapists are medication prescriptions. So they push them like crazy to keep their business. IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:05 PM Flag
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OP - therapy too is another curiously American obsession. Again, adults everywhere have problems, difficult moments. Surely being an adult means you somehow work at solving your own issues etc. Just seems like some many people have these long co-dependent relationships with ( expensive!) therapists. Really bizarre [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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So, no talk therapy either then? What do you think is okay for someone with major depression to do to help themselves? You realize that in many other countries, depression is stigmatized which is why no one gets treatment for it. They just live, depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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NP, we ALL get depressed sometimes and it a normal occurance. Yes, some people have clinical depression but I fear that at the first sign of distress - Americans and their docs run to drugs. It is not necessary. Again, depression is a normal thing (not clinical depression) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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This X100!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Of course there will be individuals who genuinely need help for depression, mental disorders. That i do no question. I am more aghast at this whole dinner party circuit, of course I have a therapist attitude that I find so prevalent in the US. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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Because 1 in 4 adults experience a serious psychiatric disorder in their lifetime. And the US medical system is set up for as a fee for service and not for integrated managed care. It's easier for doctors to prescribe rx. Rx can help but not always and certainly only as part of an overall treatment program. Many other countries don't have the resources to provide even the basic fee for service care plus they have even more significant stigma issues in their societies to overcome than we do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:07 PM Flag
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Geniune question - what would qualify as a "serious psychiatric disorder"? and 1 in 4??? crikey! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Mental illnesses are medical conditions that disrupt a person's thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. Just as diabetes is a disorder of the pancreas, mental illnesses are medical conditions that often result in a diminished capacity for coping with the ordinary demands of life. Serious mental illnesses include major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and borderline personality disorder. The good news about mental illness is that recovery is possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:25 PM Flag
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NP: see, the problem with this list of serious mental illnesses as you call it, is that they are all labels. Labels with fairly loose descriptions. easy to just tick some boxes and slap a label on. And only in America do these labels get slapped around so profusely. It's scary how you've just listed them all, like they are your everyday common cold. Just read UB - hundreds of borderline PD, bipolar individuals seemingly in NY alone! This is really not how other cultures operate. And def NOT with regards to children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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Most on point answer so far in this post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:13 PM Flag
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1 in 4 adults do not experience a serious psychiatric disorder in their lifetime. That is the point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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Actually they do, medical research has shown that. It can happen at any point in your lifetime, including depression at age 75. It is the number one cause for disability in this country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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of for goodness sakes - at 75 your body is falling apart, our friends are dead, you can't read or get out by yourself - you should be sad!!!!! You are proving the point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:33 PM Flag
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medical research backed by pharm companies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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Backed by the NIMH. National Institute of Mental Health [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:38 PM Flag
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Sing it sista! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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Because we want the perfect life which means never ever feeling bad, but being like an upbeat character from a sitcom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:11 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:16 PM Flag
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Pressure is immense isn't it? It's like we are trying to be clones of movie characters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:14 PM Flag
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I've read somewhere that the pursuit of happiness is typically American. Eg the number of self help books devoted to being happy, how to be happy is very American. Lots of other cultures accept that it is the norm or it is ok to be in negative mental states some of the time, that happiness is not an end goal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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The next generation of Americans is going to be 10x worse. That's one of the reasons I am so vocal (here and irl) against the dx and medicating of our youth) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:10 PM Flag
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What are you basing your prognostication of 10x worse on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:26 PM Flag
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the increase in dx and medication of children in the US each year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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I like your straight line analysis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:45 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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I also feel like Americans have a bandwagon mentality. They jump on whatever is the fad at that time. Big pharmacy makes a killing this way. Look at all the people who call themselves aspies now because maybe they are shy or antisocial. They can make up an ailment for anything and people fall for it. Don't be dumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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I wonder how many people who commit crimes are on mood-altering drugs? I'm on lots of drugs for different reasons, but none is a psychotropic - I'm a cancer patient and have autoimmune disorders - and study each med before I begin taking it so that I can ensure that it won't interact with anything else. I've never been depressed in my life so can't imagine how it must feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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The mentally ill are 11 times more likely to be the victims of violent crimes than the perpetrators. Studies indicate that only 4 percent of violent crimes are committed by the mentally ill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Emotional and behaviorial issues are on a continuum. I agree that it feels like too many people are too quick to turn a garden variety personality trait into a mental health disorder. But please be sensitive to the fact that there really are lives at stake and treatment works if you can get it. Without treatment or ignoring the signs gets people into hospitals, shelters, nursing homes, on the street, in jail or dead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:34 PM Flag
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first do no harm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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I've yet to meet a single healthcare professional who argues that we do not over medicate in the US. It is often followed by an explanation that the medication however helps so many - I guess the ones who are dx and medicated who don't need it are just collateral damage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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