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[ - ] If you own a cat, how did you end up with that cat? Ours started out five years ago as an abandoned kitten hiding in our shrubs. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:43 AM Flag
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Adopted our current two from a shelter. [ Reply | More ]
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i petsat for a friend and she disappeared. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] When did the standard for female beauty change? I remember growing up that the ideal female form was voluptuous. Now the ideal woman is stick thin with no curves. Why? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:37 AM Flag
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When did you grow up? The ideal is actually shifting back towards curvy after the anorexia phase of the early 00's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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beauty is what beauty is. i see all sorts of different beautiful women everyday and appreciate them as-is. everyone's got a different look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:40 AM Flag
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Irrelevant [ Reply | More ]
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How old are you? 70? I vividly recall Twiggy in the 60s. Things changed then. I remember my mother buying diet books and Tab. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:42 AM Flag
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What are you talking about? All you hear about is how great big butts are. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] s/o of post below. i have spotted my neighbor on here and she is CRAZY. i hope none of you take advice from her. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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I have seen some bugshit crazy advice given out on here. Along with some very good advice, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Help! I know nothing about Fire Island. Where is the best area to stay (have a 6YR old) -- are there any hotels? or you just rent a house always? Any good sites, Yes, I know I'm beyond late on this! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:34 AM Flag
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Saltaire is family friendly. Do some research(google). It will tell you what is appropriate or not. I can't remember it all but area Definitely matters. Some area are party towns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:40 AM Flag
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Fair Harbor and Dunewood also are good if you're w/kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Be vigilant in doing tick searches. Lots of deer ticks there. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My new neighbor is very weird. She seems very nice, sweet and friendly, exactly the type of woman UB loves. However I notice that every time I have a conversation with her, I leave feeling highly anxious and upset and I can't place my finger on why. Today I finally realized that every talk with her is an interrogation about deeply personal topics like class, financial status, my personal info etc. I don't understand how she does it but she manages to wring out a lot of information from me every time we speak even though she behaves in a very warm, caring and sweet manner. She smiles a lot, talks in a very affectionate way etc. You would all love her. Yet I can't help feeling extremely anxious and upset around her and now I'm wondering if she's just extremely manipulative? Why is she so inquisitive about me anyway? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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^^P.S: She's a mom and is very happily married etc and has teenage kids that she's very proud of and all that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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What makes you think we'd fall for her bullshit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:53 AM Flag
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No, she is just a striver/comparor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:32 AM Flag
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why would be she compare herself so much to the OP though? she sounds threatened by something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:34 AM Flag
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Because she is nearby. What good is it to compare to Sudanese or North Koreans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:49 AM Flag
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Your problem... You feel extremely anxious since you feel inferior and insecure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:33 AM Flag
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your problem is that you talk out of your ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:34 AM Flag
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wow, i am everything you described, minus the manipulative part. i am an ENFJ and i just love people, learning about their lives, etc. i genuinely care about others in my community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:33 AM Flag
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You mean you just ask your neighbors about their class and financial status and such? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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no, but you can figure it out very easily. i have asked people in my community personal questions because it is part of the neighbor narrative and getting to know them. i also do things like drive my neighbors to doctors appointments and help them fix things because they are all alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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+1 my friends nn'd me the Interview [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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+1 Very possible it's just a personality thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:36 AM Flag
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What is Enfj? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:36 AM Flag
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myers briggs. enfj tend to be very giving people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:42 AM Flag
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when did she move in? how long have you talked to her? if she's a SAHM, she may just be lonely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:34 AM Flag
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She works. She moved in some months ago. She seemed very nice and extremely sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:36 AM Flag
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is she in sales? sales people talk so so so much. or maybe she is medicated? side effect of some medicines (thyroid, etc) are talking too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:39 AM Flag
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She works in retail and as a massage therapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:45 AM Flag
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i think those people talk a ton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:49 AM Flag
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No idea why, but here's a thought. Since you now know this happens, just remind yourself when you chat that you don't need to say anything you don't want to. You can just say something noncommittal and flip it back to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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She's persistent though, and if I try to act noncommittal, she acts like I'm being extremely weird and acting rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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well, you could just be socially inept and act like its totally normal to be that way. i know someone who does it all the time but somehow manages to have a few friendships. who cares if she acts like you're being rude? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:41 AM Flag
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Interesting. How does your friend act rude all the time without getting massive blowback? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:46 AM Flag
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i think most people think she has Aspbergers. she is nice in her own way but it is obvious she is not trying to be rude on purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:48 AM Flag
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Don't people talk about her a lot behind her back and talk about how weird she is? i'm worried about this lady doing that to me if I'm 'rude' to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:51 AM Flag
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Let her act that way. You don't have to bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:45 AM Flag
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ITA. learn a few phrases on how to shut her down. lawyers are great at this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:49 AM Flag
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Why are lawyers great at shutting people down? Wouldn't they be great at getting people to talk? Also I'm wondering what phrases I can learn and where. I don't know lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:50 AM Flag
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I'm scared she'll gossip about me to the other neighbors and tell them I'm super weird or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:51 AM Flag
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This sounds more like a problem with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:37 AM Flag
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found the psycho interrogator [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:40 AM Flag
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Or What I mean is if this person makes her toys anxious and she keeps talking with her that seems like a problem with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:43 AM Flag
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found the psycho interrogator who gets drunk early on saturday evenings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:45 AM Flag
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Because autocorrect went with toys instead of this you think I'm drunk? The neighbor might be weird. Who knows? But if op feels this awkward and keeps engaging seems like her problem is herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:49 AM Flag
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Can you give examples of what she asks and how she persists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:41 AM Flag
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this. we can help you if you give examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:46 AM Flag
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You feel anxious because you're mad at yourself for revealing more than you want to. Because "she's so sweet." You're allowed to deflect or say you don't want to discuss it or What an odd question if she gets too nosey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Summer in the City! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:29 AM Flag
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Like [ Reply | More ]
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Avoiding [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] have you suspected someone you know IRL of being on UB? have they tried to bring it up to you? i have a very unique background that .000000000001% of the population could potentially have, and i have figured out that at least 2 people IRL have recognized it on here. so much for anonymity! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:28 AM Flag
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I have never seen a unique background here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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it has been awhile since i posted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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We don't give a flying fuck about you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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This. Delusional. [ Reply | More ]
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:32 AM Flag
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You have to make a minimal effort to disguise yourself. Think Superman and Clark's glasses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:53 AM Flag
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I don't know anyone in real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] The people voting for Trump don't care what his administration will do to blacks, latinos, and muslims. As long as "the working class" can have an underpaying job, then screw minorities. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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I think political discourse is far better when we resist the impulse to label people on the other side bad people. Most of the time, we all mean well but honestly see things differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:29 AM Flag
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His base hates minorities, where have you been? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have 3 kids & live in a 2 bedroom apartment. There is a 3rd bedroom but I have it set up as a disaster room with food & water. I am starting to feel like this is stupid. Any ideas ? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:21 AM Flag
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Hopeless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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move [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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It is stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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Op : thinking of cleaning it out. Where could I donate everything ❓ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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A soup kitchen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:39 AM Flag
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Where are you to have a disaster room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:37 AM Flag
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You need to relax. If there was such a bad disaster, you couldn't possibly have enough stuff to take care of a family for very long. Keep a shelf or two of energency stuff and use the BR as a BR! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:44 AM Flag
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I've never said this on UB before, but you actually sound unhinged. Couldn't you store the disaster supplies in your home without dedicating a whole room to them? Or is it like a panic room, and you envision the whole family living in there for a time? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone one who was surprised with a 3rd db (or a 2nd and a 3rd at the same time})? Apparently, I'm going from 1 to 3. I was confident we could handle 2, but I'm worried about the prospect of having newborn twins and a toddler. I want to be excited, but I'm in panic mode right now. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:18 AM Flag
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Won't be easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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Ugh. I know. Fortunately, my husband is a huge help and has a flexible schedule and my parents live near by ... but know it will still be tough. I also work full time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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Can you afford lots of help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:41 AM Flag
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I wouldn't say "lots of help" but we can afford help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:51 AM Flag
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Remember to get your husband snipped so you don't have end up with oops baby for #4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:43 AM Flag
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Ha. Yes, we've already discussed this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:50 AM Flag
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It will all be fine. More love to go around! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:44 AM Flag
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This is life. It just keeps throwing stuff at you. In general, since we love our children more than life itself, congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible for an openly-gay person to be "homophobic"? Eg, I know a gay guy from college who was in the military and openly refers to feminine men as "twinks" and "faggots," and states that he "hates fairies." His male companions mostly seem to be the roided-up/powerlifter types. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:07 AM Flag
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Sure, it's just like that shooter in Munich- Iranian descent, born in Germany, but hated immigrants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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I think he hated Sunnis and Turks. It seems that he was picked on by them due to his family's Shia Iranian background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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Islamic extremism just the same- simply a slightly diff target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:11 AM Flag
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yes, think its something like female managers who have a problem with other women they don't deem professional enough or whatever...you expect them to side with their sex but they are actually the most criticial [ Reply | More ]
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Do you live in a Midwestern or Southern state? It doesn't sound like you have met many gay guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:32 AM Flag
[ - ] As a democrat I am disgusted by these emails leaks of the DNC. I can no longer stomach voting for Hillary and her corrupt cronies. I am going to have to vote for someone else. Makes me pissed off and sad 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:52 PM Flag
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I'm not with you. I can't fully trust either of them, but at least Hillary is not a blackhearted mercenary like Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:53 PM Flag
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She is definitely black hearted. She also is surroundes by those same types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:55 PM Flag
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i used to know a bunch of her communications aides and they were markedly nice -- the nicest i'd met in politics. hillary let one of them bring her baby into work as needed. no male pol would do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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Big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:03 AM Flag
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at this point you should be much more worried about the threat to democracy and the constitution posed by trump. hold your nose if you have to, but vote against the sociopath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:56 PM Flag
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No I will not hold my nose. I will not vote for such a vile person. I will not vote for someone I distrust so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:57 PM Flag
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which one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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There is no one but Trump. So you're back to Hillary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:57 PM Flag
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Then that's what I will have to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:59 PM Flag
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There are at least two other candidates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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Johnson/Weld [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] You know, all of the mainstream Republicans I know are not voting for Trump. A few have even left the GOP over this. They are not angry working class Republicans. They're prosperous middle class, midwestern Republicans. They may not vote Hillary, but they'll at least stay home. It gives me hope. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:50 PM Flag
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All 2 of them? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. The traditional Republicans. I guess they are "The Establishment". But then again, so is Mike Pence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:54 PM Flag
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they won't care about the vp. [ Reply | More ]
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Obviously not. Trump is enough to make them vote for Hillary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:58 PM Flag
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op. i think most are just not voting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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Hillary is courting them hard. We knew that before her email was hacked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:03 AM Flag
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Pence isn't a typical establishment guy He's far to the right of most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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we could be really pleasantly surprised on election day. trump bullies are making the most noise. but he can't win without regular middle class republicans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:54 PM Flag
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Westchester democratic leader, I am votign for Trump [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:54 PM Flag
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No you're not. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:03 AM Flag
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You know, we'll just have to take your word for it. Because this is an anonymous board. But we witnessed with our own eyes delegates from Iowa, Colorado, Washington DC, not willing to vote for Trump. We counted over 2 dozen high-profile Republicans who refused to attend the convention, including Kasich. And finally, we watched Cruz, stand up for his family against a thin-skinned bully. We will not see Democrats like YOU turning against Hillary en masse. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are wrong. MANY dems are more concerned about free trade and immigration and how these policies are killing the working class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:02 AM Flag
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Kaine and unable are for the TPP. [ Reply | More ]
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Well my friend, the DNC is in 2 days (yaaaaayyyy!!) Let's see how united the Dems are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:04 AM Flag
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I don't give a shit, if they are united in their desire to appease the 1% and fuck the working class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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Exactly. And what did Hillary have to do with the leaks? It was the people in the DNC. Lifelong Dems who didn't like the idea of an infiltrator coming along. The bottom line is in this election the stakes are way too high to not vote or vote for the Green Party or whatever in protest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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You're an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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Dem voting for Trump [ Reply | More ]
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You sure they'll let you leave the plantation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Canadian here. With Brexit and Trump+guns, we are really going to have our pick of some top international talent. Researchers in the UK are already experiencing funding problems. And I know some Americans just in my personal network who are willing to at least explore moving to Canada. And there are people at the tops of their fields. This should be the same with Australia+ NZ but they may be too far for many people, and NZ too small. Canada is so close to the US and has so many historic ties to Britain. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:43 PM Flag
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Good to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:48 PM Flag
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People will wait to see what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:50 PM Flag
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even if Trump doesn't win, there's still the gun issue and the divisiveness in the US. In the UK the fallout has already started.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:51 PM Flag
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By felicia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:50 PM Flag
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Later, Cal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:54 PM Flag
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Way too cold there. I like SoCal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:51 PM Flag
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Vancouver is temperate! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:52 PM Flag
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Toronto is like the midwest temp-wise but they embrace the winter, make it more fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:53 PM Flag
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Great, will you also take the Muslims and Mexicans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Duane Reade or CVS? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:38 PM Flag
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DR is much cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.16, 11:44 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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Cvs is my favorite store!! [ Reply | More ]
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Cvs for make up. [ Reply | More ]
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Wallgreens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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Because Wallgreens acquired DR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.16, 12:50 AM Flag
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