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[ - ] DF had affair, got pregnant, left DH for OM and took three DCs with her. One big happy family except for OM's two kids from his first marriage who have no father and no money! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Hold on, So the man who cheated had two kids, and the woman who cheated had three kids. Then they had a kid together. So total six kids ? is that right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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It's like a dysfunctional Brady Bunch. They're the Shady Bunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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good one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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How can this man get away with not paying any $$$$$ to his kids from his first marraige? isn't there child support [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Since this is my (ex) DF, I'll take this one. OM had no real job (some money under the table), so gets away without paying child support. He, DF and the four kids live off of her ex-DH, pretty much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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np: So he wasn't really chipping in to begin with...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Before he left his first wife he did have the "under the table" money, and she worked. They lived very frugally. I think part of the appeal of DF to him was how much money she and her then DH had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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So she is raising her 3 kids with a man who doesnt even love his own Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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^^^Sounds like all the kids got shafted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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The best part that you're all missing is- this woman's husband is paying every month for his wife to live in a house (probably the one he used to live in) with this other guy raising his kids, and there's NOTHING he can do about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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why can't he do anything about it. is the om a deadbeat douche with no job? how can a woman have children with such a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Because that husband has to write a check every month to support his wife and kids, even though she's the one who blew up their family in dramatic fashion and decided to co-habitate with some (apparently) awful dude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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did you dump her because she was such a douche herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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That's what Hulk Hogan said when his wife was living with that 19 yr old boy. He said I killed my body to buy the house he's living in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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life is not fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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NP: There was no infidelity in their marriage, but even after all of the years, DH gets so upset talking about how he was not going to let his ex wife live in the house that he bought with other men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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People should only be allowed to have one set of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My almost 4 year old is not cool with going to school. He cries every morning and begs not to go. Anyone else been through this? What worked for you? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Is he getting enough sleep? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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should be. gets about 12 a night and has a nap time at school. Although doesn't usually fall asleep there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Give it 6 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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what if this keeps up after 6 weeks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone heard of Berea College in Kentucky? Is it Christian? It has a billion dollar endowment and no tuition! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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It's a school founded to provide a college education for kids from Appalachia who are the first in their family to attend college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Every kid has to work 15-20 hours per week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you all do with your vases from flower deliveries? Mine are starting to accumulate ... Do they get recycled? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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I use them when I bring flowers to others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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this and I have given a few back to the florist - dd uses them for craft projects, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I recycle mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Drop off at charity shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Are you an OW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Can be easily recycled- they're cheap glass. No one wants them at charity shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you go out with a group of couples who you are hooked in with even if you were not really feeling some of them right now, just to maintain your "membership" in that group, so to speak? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, I would, but only the minimum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Sure. Also friendships are like marriages in that there are ups and downs, times when you feel closer and times when you feel more distant. This is not a reason to give up the friendships and the more effort you make, the more you will get out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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I feel this way often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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If it is a group of couples, it's difficult to click with every one of them. So, yes, unless someone was so unbearable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Absolutely. Just because you feel that way now doesn't mean it won't change in the future. Don't close any doors you don't need to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Yeah, I guess that's what I'm thinking. It's a big group of couples, and we go out with them from time to time, and are closer to some than others, of course. One of the couples is having a thing at their house tomorrow and invited everyone else over, and I really don't feel like going because we found out that some of them went out without us, and it kind of annoyed me since whenever we go out and don't invite these same people it's a whole thing - "what, you didn't invite me to go out with your neighbors?" So I'm kind of over playing their game, but I guess I should go and hang out with the other folks, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Sure. For example, DH and I have 2 couples we're really good friends with. Get together at least 1-2 per month. In the one couple (not married), the guy has been known to cheat on his gf every now and then. We all know and feel bad for the gf, but at the same time we all really like the gf so no one would dare say anything. Its kind of sad, but not really our business, ya know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Why does the spouse who leaves for Om/OW always give up custody of the kids? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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Cause they want to pretend they're 19 again? That's the reason they cheat in the first place anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Agree. Fantasy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Guilt. New bf/gf doesn't want the kids. Immaturity and wanting to be free, which is what led them to cheat in the first place. Sometimes all three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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not sure it works that way if it's the woman who leaves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Women usually take the kids if there is abuse involved. If there is an affair, usually not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Well, I would imagine someone who cheats on their spouse isn't all that invested in their kids anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Whatever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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too close for comofrt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Huh? Not sure what you mean. My father had many affairs and loved us no less, good friend is in the middle of a heart wrenching affair and only staying with DH FOR the kids, another friend is having two affairs out of boredom and lives for her kids. Your statement is ridiculous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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how do you feel about what they are doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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If I heard this about someone else I might judge them, but I know these women and the ins and outs of their lives and relationships so well that I guess I understand why they do what they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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yes, I do think it is easy to judge from the outside, but if you know the people involved, you realize it is more complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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How can you live your kids by having a revolving door of partners? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I don't see the connection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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but how her friends feel about their kids has nothing to do with whatever is going on/not going on with the dh and is leading up to the affair. Maybe there is something about the OM that her friends can't get from the dh, even if dh is a great guy.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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What does one have to do with the other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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i'm np. you have way too many cheaters in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Lol!! I think you are right!!! I don't, so maybe I live vicariously through them???! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Because OM/OW don't want the kids around much. And no one who leaves a marriage looking for a "fresh start" wants to spend life refereeing between SP and SKs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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They don't want the responsibility [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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DF had affair, got pregnant, left DH for OM and took three DCs with her. One big happy family except for OM's two kids from his first marriage who have no father and no money! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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that is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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You have no idea. There is even more to it that you would not even believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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spill, woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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See the new post. I've added a little more. I'm afraid if I add too much I will out them!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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d'oh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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If the kids are old enough to know what happened, they will detest OW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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They discovered too late that they didn't actually want children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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I don't think most do. Just those in the juicy stories you hear about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I got an estimate from cleaning woman and its $150 weekly cleaning for a 1300 sq ft 2ba apartment. It seems really high to me for weekly cleaning. NYC. Am I off? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Crazy. I have the same and pay $100 for 5 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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TY! She said 8-9 hours of work. I can see that she may need to do 8 hours for the first time and I will pay more this one time but why would she need 8 hours every week? We are not slobs and its deep cleaning only we didn't even discuss laundry or anything else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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+1. We pay $80 for 4 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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TY. I much prefer this 2x a week then $150 1x a week. I think she is taking me for a ride. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Definitely. We also laid out a list of what we wanted done and what we were willing to pay. We also agreed together that 4 hours is just an estimate and that we're paying her for the tasks, not per hour. We're open to discussion down the line, but we didn't want to come home to a half-clean house and an explanation "Well, that's what I could get done in 4 hours". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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Does she do your laundry? Ours is $160 for 2400 plus laundry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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Didn't even discuss laundry so I would assume that isn't included. Sounds like she wants too much. If I was going to spend 150/wk I would want her to come 2x a week and do bedding etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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Get another estimate from another cleaner and compare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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I used to pay $100. I have a nanny who maintains and does laundry. I am just wondering if prices have changed this dramaticaly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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She's an independent contractor; she can charge whatever she thinks is fair. If you think the price is too high, you can negotiate, or you can get other quotes. I do clean-outs/sales/moves for seniors moving into smaller homes or assisted living, and I charge very different rates based on a lot of factors, including how much stuff I'm looking at, how wealthy (or poor) the family seems, and how big a PITA the employer seems to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Mine is $135/weekly cleaning. 3 bed 2 bath 1300 square feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Takes her about 6 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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TY. Does she wash bedding or do anything other than clean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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I would pay $100 max for this. May be, $90. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Mine was also about $135 for bi-weekly cleaning 3bed, 2bath 1300 sq ft. Also washed bedding in master only & all towels and bathmats. This was through a service in the building. Took about 3-4 hrs? While wash was still going, they would work on other apartments. It was usually 1 person, but sometimes 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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too high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend an art class for a 6 year old who is very interested in sketching? I am looking for something a step up from a generic kid's art class. I feel like many of the more "serious" classes start at an older age. Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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If you're in Brooklyn, the Brooklyn Museum has some good classes. So does Pratt Institute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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I am really dubious about the idea of "serious" art class for a 6 yo. This is the time to just let them run wild and create-- too soon to get bogged down with technique. Let him/her just do their own thing and have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Salem, Massachusetts for Halloween. Is it not worth it? Fun? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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I love Salem and all the witchy history (grew up just a few towns away.) That said, Salem around Halloween is TOTAL MADNESS. So it really depends on the age of your kids, and what you consider fun. I would personally avoid it the entire month of October but go back when the crowds are gone, it has lots of interesting stuff to visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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+1 We live in Topsfield, which is practically adjacent to Salem, and we have never gone to Salem for Halloween. Like OR said, it is a total mess. Lots of people in the street, cars trying to move but getting gridlocked by the crowds. Personally I don't think it is any more special than any place on the most popular night of the year. If you like Times Square at New Years, you would like Salem at Halloween. Otherwise the city is still home year round to plenty of practicing wiccans and psychics and mystical, occult type shops, and if you visit at another time you will have the time and space to explore them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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We'll be in the area that weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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If you are in the area you may feel like trying it. It is definitely the biggest thing going on at the time, and then you can say that you have been there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Halloween is on a Friday. Do you think Saturday will be better to go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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November 1st = ALL SAINTS DAY. Is everything closed?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Personally I think Salem is a pretty place during the day. Lots of historical buildings, the seaport, there are nice walkways for pedestrians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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is it worth to go? or is it more touristy/kitschy?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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It's corny/kitschy but also historical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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I've been in late October and it was extremely crowded. It's like a Witch Con. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Anything fun haunted house type? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Kitchy, but fun if you like history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Sleepy Hollow, NY (just north of the Tappan Zee Bridge) has some low key Halloween events. http://visitsleepyhollow.com/halloween-in-sleepy-hollow/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a spiralizer that they love? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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I got the machine once and never used it--too hard to pick clean and big. No I just use a peeler that spiralizes (called a julienne peeler) and love it because it is just as quick and so small and clean. Caveat: I wear a slice-proof glove--the kind I use when I mandolin or shuck clams, that kind of thing--because spiralizing by hand could cut you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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OP: I didn't even know such a thing (cut-proof gloves) existed. I need to look into one as I currently have a cut a few cms deep on my thumb from a Ninja-related incident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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not the deep cut but the nina reference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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The blades on that thing are sharper than they look! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Oh wait, is this a post from Conde Nast editor too lazy to do own research? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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you have issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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No, that's what I thought too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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I have a $20 one from amazon that I love and use all the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Thanks! What brand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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i got the williams sonoma one and it's fantastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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TY! Does it store easily? We don't have a ton of room in the kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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it doesn't come apart, but is about the size of a toaster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Good to know, thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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That's the one I had and hated it. Wobbly and hard to clean. Plus hard to store. Go for peeler. Old school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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wow. didn't even know such a thing existed. what do you guys use it for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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OP: I make zucchini noodles a few times a week. Right now, I just do it with a regular veggie peeler, but I'm dying to make more spaghetti-like zoodles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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and you eat them like pasta with pasta sauce? is this a low carb thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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I thought it was a curling iron for hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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+1 I had no idea there was such an unmet need for home-spiralizing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] RHONJ was anticlimactic this week. What a let down. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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How can Theresa leave the state to go to Florida? That's all BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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She said she wasn't going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Yes, but how could they think she could go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I could have done without all the colonoscopy talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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do tell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Im worried about my boyfriend. He goes through this cycle when he's so happy and can't express enough how much he loves his life with me, to be so cold and not interested in life. All within a week span. Is this normal behavior or am I expecting too much from him? I know sometimes I can come off too strong and I can't see other peoples weekness, but this is really concerning me. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Red flags. People with mood swings are draining. I'd hate to be tied to a partner that's a downer. Maybe not one for keeps if he's already giving you pause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.16.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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bipolar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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I thought that too. When he's on those highs, he is also drunk or been drinking. I was starting to wonder if he was self medicating with alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Run! All that mood swing in 1 week? Visualize 10 years or more of that - with kids in the picture. NOT worth it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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We've been together for two years. I started to notice the mood swings last year around this time but I brushed it off due to the shitty winter we had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Definitely bipolar. Not a battle you can win [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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Seasonal depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Coupled with drinking, not good. If he is willing to get help, there is treatment but it will be a long haul for you. Does for better or worse apply to your relationship? Only you can decide. Dealing with any chronic illness is challenging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Get out now--this is unbalanced behavior that could escalate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Would u buy DD who is about to stop growing a Canada goose/moncler jacket that she can keep for years? DD is 5ft and unlikely to grow more than 2 inches. I think she would fit well into XS or S. She is small bones and slim. Thx 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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If she wants one, sure. I wouldn't put the idea in her head if she didn't though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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NO. Because the goose down industry is disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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No kid wants the same coat every year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Op: hmmm.. Good point. Although she is pretty easy about outer clothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Does she get around the city on her own, or will she soon? Those jackets scream "mug me." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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Op: no, we are in the burbs. I was thinking of being practical [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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The puffy Moncler are played out here but maybe it's different in the suburbs. Those coats are never practical, they are for showing off! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Practical is not what you are being. Materialistic, giving in, keeping up, but not practical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Op: I disagree. My moncler is my warmest yet lightest coat. Not as attractive as others but pretty indestructible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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How old is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Almost 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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She is not done growing. How can you say this? My 13 yo grew 3 inches this year. and they fill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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She got her period [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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np: She can still fill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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so? I grew a couple inches in high school and my body definitely changed and I got my period at 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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NNP: The size you are when you get your period is NOT your final adult size. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Ummmm. I hope this is a joke and not OP, because she has not finished growing at 12 or 14 or even 16. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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I was 5'2" in 7th grade and I'm 5'7" now [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I am 5 2" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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No. That said, they just had a bunch of Moncler jackets and coats at my local TJ Maxx for $399 (not NYC). I couldn't bring myself to pull the trigger, but if you can find a good price, maybe.... She won't wear it for years. Coats go out of style and she'll get bored with the style. The sleeves might also become too short if she grows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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No because by next year those jackets will be "over" and she won't want to wear it anymore. Go to Uniqlo or Zara instead for something stylish and inexpensive [ Reply | More ]
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Op: thank you. I will check those out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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Op: she doesn't care about brands. I was thinking it would save in the long run.... I live my moncler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Does *she* love your moncler? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Op: this is all me pondering. She doesn't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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No. Because there is no reason whatsoever for a kid to own a Moncler jacket, and to do so is just plain obnoxious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Op: one of DDs friends had one at age 6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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So you are really playing keep up with the Joneses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Op: not really since 6 yrs have passed :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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or: and this matters how? Who cares what DD's friend has. It's still plain obnoxious. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I guess the consensus is NO :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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if you want to get your daughter the coat than do so, but to say she is going to have it for years is just silly, you don't know that and at 12 she could still easily lose it at school, grow a few inches or just get tired of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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The Moncler jackets I see women wearing look identical to much less expensive jackets from other companies. Can moms really tell the difference between Moncler and the others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yes, by the logo on the sleeve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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The materialistic moms can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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[ - ] Moms with kids in MS/HS: if you have an idea, how do you think Horace Mann compares in terms of workload, rigor, etc., when compared with selective and specialized MS and HS? Thinking of Hunter, BxSci, Delta, Salk, ESMS, any similar public school? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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The top high schools, especially the specialized, offer more advanced classes in math and science and have more students capable of taking those courses. HM's education will be different because classes are smaller, more discussion and writing, but the "rigor" will be similar. I would guess the specialized and Hunter have a smarter peer group overall and less tutoring by kids to keep up. [ Reply | More ]
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My DC are in elem and MS. Elem is pretty low workload until 4. It picks up in 5th to about an hr and 1 1/2 to 2 hrs in 6th. This is including studying for quizzes and HW, projects. Can't comment on public. DC has time from 4-9 pm to do the HW and so e activity. No time for goofing off on week nights. Weekends are pretty free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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^^ HM Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I was talking with a friend who is applying to k this year and is really anxious about it. My DC is a few years older and in a good private that we have been very happy with but is not "top tier." Df is only applying to top tier, which is fine. Her decision. But she's worried about getting shut out. I told her to try to relax and remember that even if she doesn't get accepted anywhere she's still zoned for a good public. She told me I didn't understand because I am "one of those lucky people who doesn't care what anyone thinks." Wtf? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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I can't imagine being an adult and "caring what everyone thinks." Cannot stand these insecure types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Also, so passive aggressive towards you. I wouldn't want to spend much time with a "friend" like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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OP: exactly how I feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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+1 After I got my PSAT results, college & the future became much more "real" to me, and that was when I realized that other people's opinions of me are not nearly as important as my own. Then at my college 10-year reunion, my freshman roommate had no clue who I was - she called me the wrong name over email, and still didn't remember me at the dinner. That was when it really hit home that grandma was right: You stop worrying about what other people think of you, when you realize how rarely they do. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, are you sure your freshman year roommate doesn't have some type of health issue -- I think it's crazy that she wouldn't remember you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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I suspect I'm just boring. :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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I'm like you so I would take it as a compliment. I feel sorry for the parents so caught up in prestige that they are completely myopic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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It is partly your fault, OP (although I think your df is silly). When someone is worried, being a friend does not mean telling them to just "relax, your dc can go to public". Being a good friend means you listen and are sympathetic, period. Learning that is hard, but necessary. She doesn't need your advice, just your sympathetic ear. [ Reply | More ]
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np I disagree with your last sentence. She needs the advice; she wants the indulgence of the sympathetic ear. [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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OR: You don't give advice when someone isn't asking for it! The op can choose to indulge or not indulge her friend by lending a sympathetic ear. But she shouldn't be upset if her friend is annoyed when she tells her she has nothing to worry about. Do you think her friend is unaware of her zoned school? Of course she knows about it. So op reminding her is not being sympathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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OP: I didn't say she had nothing to worry about. She was very upset and I tried to soothe it by putting it in perspective and saying no matter what happens, it won't be the end of the world. I don't consider that advice. If I had been giving her advice, I would have told her to grow up and stop worrying about UB bragging rights and think about what's really best for her kid and apply to some more damn schools. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Look, I agree with your perspective! I am just telling you that when people worry about this, they aren't going to be soothed if you say "your kid can always go to public and it won't be the end of the world if he is shut out." That's human nature. If you want to drop your friend, you should -- she sounds shallow. But just saying' that you could also just be a sympathetic ear if this issue is the only thing that bothers you about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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OP: OK, I can see that. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Again, if she is choosing schools based on other people's opinions of her and her family, she needs the advice. She may not want to hear it, but if she talks about her "problems", she runs the risk of someone providing her with advice and a practical solution. Not all of us go in for this "being a good friend means you listen and are sympathetic, period". Being a good friend means a lot more than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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OR: Not for something as silly as this! Do you really think that the OP's friend didn't know that the public schools are fine and it isn't the end of the world? It's like when someone complains about their annoying boss. Or their kid's awful teacher. They don't need you to put it perspective - they just want to vent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Then they should vent to someone with no brain. If someone comes to me with any of those problems, I'll help them solve them. But if they just want to whine and not do anything to make the situation better, I'll send them elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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You sound like me. Just laugh it off. She chooses to work herself into a tizzy over other people's opinions. Oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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back handed compliment lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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I smell a shutout. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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oh, man. she is awesomely rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Is this a friend? You need new friends. What a witch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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