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[ - ] "WE ARE NOW BEING TOLD pedophilia is so completely unreformable because the condition *actually is* biological, that many with it want to be chemically castrated. The spotlight is starting to creep toward the cause of these people, and as it becomes accepted re: WHAT THEY SAY, that it's biological, I guarantee you they will attract sympathizers. Throw in lower and lower legal ages of consent, the mass sexualization of children, pedophilia rings in high places starting to come to light...the stage is being set. Wake up." 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Flagged [ Reply | More ]
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This is true. What's your problem? [ Reply | More ]
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See above post. [ Reply | More ]
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Why in quotes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Well, people already get the hair pulled off of their crotch, I am sure that doesn't help slow the shift... [ Reply | More ]
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the stage is being set for what exactly? the normalization of pedophilia? [ Reply | More ]
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OP was probably inspired by the transgender post a few pages back where some posters tried to compare pedophilia and transgender. So dumb to believe that pedophilia could ever be normalized. Go away troll/bigot mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Why in quotes? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any MD moms on? DD woke up this morning seeing the room spinning and when she shut her eyes she felt like she was still spinning while she was lying in bed. She yelled for me and i walked her to the bathroom. She threw up because she was so dizzy. All today she has been feeling light headed and dizzy if she moves to fast. She said this happens when shes dehydrated but not usually this bad. Any ideas whats going on? She's been drinking water today. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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vertigo? I had a month in college where I clung to the bed for the first hour after I woke up. [ Reply | More ]
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Usually after I had been out to a frat party the night before. [ Reply | More ]
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or - lol, no, this was actual vertigo, doctor confirmed. [ Reply | More ]
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Hungover [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Ear infection [ Reply | More ]
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Not a dr but I had this with a nasty cold/virus last week. Dizzy and nauseated, then super congested finally just had regular cold symptoms (runny nose). I felt awful for several days [ Reply | More ]
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Vertigo, this happens to me. Get her evaluated by a neurologist to confirm and also ask about migraines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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this. I also get vertigo. Commonly a symptom of migraines, ear infections, potentially anemia (although hard to believe that anemia would cause this sort of episode). I also have meniere's disease in my family, which is a genetic inner ear disorder. Regardless, OP, take her to a dr. Probably something that's totally benign, but an episode this bad warrants a trip to a GP or neurologist. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: She gets head aches a lot but we are a big family and she's under a lot of stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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migraines can be triggered by stress as well as hormones. Check symptoms of migraines (they're very specific) to see if it matches, and definitely take her to a doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Look up labyrinthitus. My mom and her sister get this from time to time. It goes away but sucks when you have it. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: She hates it because she never knows when it will start or end. Usually ends within a minute or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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For how long has it been happening? Does she black out too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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No she doesn't black out. It started maybe a year ago but not often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Drank too much [ Reply | More ]
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OP: She was home all night with me. This has also happened before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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How old is she? While everyone is assuming she's hungover and you didn't mention the age yet. [ Reply | More ]
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She's 16. She doesn't do drugs or drink. [ Reply | More ]
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how old? [ Reply | More ]
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this happened to me once in my 20's. i had to lie completely still; i had no balance whatsoever with even the slightest movement of my head, and getting to the bathroom resulted in nausea. I think I had a lot of nausea along with it though even if I was still. It lasted for 24 hours then went away. Always assumed it was some sort of ear infection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o on nanny paid while employer is on vacation. Why not give her some projects to do? provide her recipes and have her shop for food and cook meals in bulk to then separate and freeze, organize kids clothes, toys, deep clean their rooms, wash all their bedding. Etc.. I expect my nanny to do all this and watch our dogs while we are gone. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Our nanny does all of that during the regular work weeks and we don't have a dog....so, she gets time off. It's our choice to take a vacation. Anything beyond the dog) would be make-work, IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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How does she have time to doo all of that and care for your kids? Mine are young so maybe thats it. Mine are 3 and 1 and require tons of attention [ Reply | More ]
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Mine are older now but she has been doing all of that from day 1 and older has been in at least half-day preschol since 3. Akin to SAHM. Kids are involved as appropriate. If you keep up and do things on a regular basis, it's not as much as you describe. no cooking in bulk, but daily. Also, no organizing beyond outting away laundry. I feel like choosing seasonal clothes and deciding what and to whom to hand down or donate is my job. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Everyone say you top colleges accept students with straight A (or closed to straight A). How do you explain that the tt privates like T, B, C can send nearly half their graduating class to top colleges with approximately a few straight A student per graduating class? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Connections. My DSD went to a top Ivy and wasn't even in the top 10% of her non-TT private in the city. She had a lock on that school from kindergarten on. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you and i believe that could happen randomly in some cases, but there is no way to explain 50% of the class has abnormal connection year after year. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, it's not that random. Sure, very bright kids at any school will get a second look from top colleges and universities, but privates in this city are stuffed with connected kids. Not just legacies--families that go for multiple generations and donate significantly. I don't think it's always to the benefit of the kid. [ Reply | More ]
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So many legacies at those schools. Throw in diversity dcs and athletes and not everyone has to be a straight-A student to get into the Ivies from them. [ Reply | More ]
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I have to say you are right, plus the schools themselves have good relationships with tt admissions. I know of kids who are like two years old who will go to Princeton or Dartmouth or whatever if they want. The families are dynasties at their schools. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a foreigner and i don't understand that. [ Reply | More ]
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I keep posting the but doesn't sink in. The vast majority of kids going to top colleges are legacies or otherwise connected. This is where the stats come from. Believe me, I lived it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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if that's the case, then how can the colleges claim the gpa of incoming class to be near 4.0? [ Reply | More ]
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Because only a tiny handful of kids graduate from NYC privates every year and go forth to further their education. The bulk of freshman at any Ivy are not from NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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All I'm saying is that I came from a tt nyc private to an tt college. The vast majority who came with me had lower grades and sat scores but were connected. The minority were the a students without connections. [ Reply | More ]
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Because there are tons of valedictorians at schools in flyover states who get into the Ivies with 4.0 averages. And don't forget that now that so many weighted averages, for many that's 4.0 out of 4.5 or 5.0. [ Reply | More ]
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The schools are top heavy on the high grades. But my dd is at HYP with a 3.2 overall unweighted. She was recruited on her unweighted gpa but I suspect that when colleges recalculate their class gpa they take the liberty of using the weighted gpas again. My dd was 3.75 weighted because of honors and AP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I just read the post from Sandwich Dad about the time he was separated from his wife and tried to meet a woman on a date. Comedy gold. Someone needs to go back and save all of these posts before we lose them forever. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Is that Sandwich Dad complaining below or just some other pathetic SAHD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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No, just a pathetic SAHD. Sandwich Dad hasn't been on UB in years. He was one of the old timers. [ Reply | More ]
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Go for it [ Reply | More ]
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link? [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously. Can't leave us fine examples of humanity like that. [ Reply | More ]
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Hanging like that. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Spinoff surrogate post: what is the biggest secret you kept from family members? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ivf. Three times [ Reply | More ]
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eating disorder, abortion [ Reply | More ]
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I smoked cigarettes [ Reply | More ]
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I was collecting unemployment but pretended to be working [ Reply | More ]
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np: an ex did something similar. Me and my mom are the only peope who know he was fired. [ Reply | More ]
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Is this why he's your ex? [ Reply | More ]
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None, I can't think of anything that's a secret. [ Reply | More ]
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I was born a poor black child. [ Reply | More ]
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I am transgender. [ Reply | More ]
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Omg so clever! [ Reply | More ]
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I don't get it [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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I have money saved, around 80k, but they think I'm broke [ Reply | More ]
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I tried cocaine several times. [ Reply | More ]
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I am married and have children. [ Reply | More ]
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My DH has a trust income. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a surrogate and a donor egg. They thought DH was working out of the country and I delivered there [ Reply | More ]
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I'm really, really gay. So gay. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] According to TMZ Bobbie Kristina found unconscious in a bathtub. Revived and breathing and in ICU. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Poor kid. Her parents messed her up [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Sad [ Reply | More ]
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Some saying she's passed away! Finding link now. This is so so so sad. [ Reply | More ]
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Like mother like daughter. [ Reply | More ]
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That's pretty eerie. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My SAHM SIL has a housekeeper and a PT nanny. I think it's gross. haha. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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csb [ Reply | More ]
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What's with the word "gross" around here? Can't people come up with better descriptions for their thoughts? [ Reply | More ]
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+1. And "jelly". Anyone who disagrees with someone else must be "jealous" of them. Are you people really grown women? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Like a once a week housekeeper? Everyone I know has that. PT nanny to give her some time to run errands? Sounds good to me. Sahms with older kids have time when their kids are in school. Also, Sahms w dads that don't work on the weekend and come home at a reasonable time at least have time on the weekends. Sahms with dads that work crazy hours hire nannys to give them time off. Everyone's situation is different, and if having help makes life easier, great. [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you care except that you are jealous. [ Reply | More ]
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Jelly? [ Reply | More ]
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I think sounds great, personally! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I come to this site mostly for motivation to work through the hard stuff of marriage. Reading about other people's lousy marriages or divorces, especially stepchild issues and divorcee dating, is the medicine I need for a childhood of fairytale stories and rom-com idealism. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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In short, THANK YOU!! and my children thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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True dat. People fantasize about getting rid of DH, and just have no idea what awaits them on the other side. [ Reply | More ]
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I left my asshole dh, took my kids, am now remarried and happy as a clam [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I also find these stories useful, to know the range of behavior. What did it take for it to be worth leaving? My marriage is difficult but it doesn't seem as bad as what most divorcees left behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o on OKD from MP. What are the signs someone is a "functional alcoholic?" 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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Wine at lunch. Wine in the pm. Wine for dinner. Wine during homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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They drink to excess but still hold a job, get their kids to school, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you define excess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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One example: A guy I know drinks at lunch but can hold it together in the afternoon, then he drinks steadily all night until he goes to bed. At a certain point, he just disappears into the alcohol but he can always get up in the morning and go to work. (He's the former boyfriend of a friend.) Another: My dad had a friend who drank vodka all day long, starting at breakfast, and would function all day but be blind drunk by bedtime--he ran a movie studio. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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A lot of bored moms in my suburb. The grind of pick-up, drop-off, playdates, and activities is just so dull. Looking for some escape. [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
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Um, haven't you seen the moms secretly drinking wine at soccer practice? [ Reply | More ]
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Np. Can confirm. I don't drink during the day (no high horse, I just can't) and was surprised by how many moms have wine in their coolers at soccer. [ Reply | More ]
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This. They're the ones clumped together giggling, paying no attention to DCs. Drinking out of water bottles/sippy cups. [ Reply | More ]
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I saw a mom get popped for DUI at pickup. [ Reply | More ]
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What? Where? [ Reply | More ]
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Can fly a plane while shit faced. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Drinking wine from a coffee mug. [ Reply | More ]
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Open bottle of booz in office desk drawer. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't seem so functional. How does one get through a workday buzzed? [ Reply | More ]
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How does one get through it sober? [ Reply | More ]
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A hip flask is discreetly pulled out when they leave or enter a building. [ Reply | More ]
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That most major parts of your life are still in working order. You are keeping your profession, you don't take unnecessary risks, you don't get out of control. [ Reply | More ]
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So when does the drinking happen? [ Reply | More ]
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Constantly [ Reply | More ]
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Child's diaper is on backwards, but that also could be a sign that the father changed it. [ Reply | More ]
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hahaha!! LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why is everyone all out of whack about private schools? Do you really need to put down the good public schools? Does it make you feel important? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
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Why does anyone care about anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My beloved elderly aunt is unmarried and childless. I am willing to help her with care taking and end of life issues, etc. but not sure how to offer without seeming too inquisitive or money-grubbing. Should I just bring it up directly, or wait for her to ask (if ever)? She's very loving, but also a reserved New England WASP type as well. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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That is very kind of you. Don't worry about what she thinks. Just offer and do what's right for the sake of doing the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
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^ and maybe bring it up casually. "…hey if you need me to come over I have nothing to do and would love to help if you need." [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe bring it up by saying you hate to pry so much but you want to make sure that you know her wishes for when she is getting close to the end, what kind of funeral or burial she would want. [ Reply | More ]
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a lot of people will never ask. You should offer. [ Reply | More ]
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I would bring it up directly. Maybe tell her that you and your DH just finalized some planning and you're wondering if she has an attorney and needs to make plans herself. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I don't know what to do. My MIL feels entitled to my children and it's driving me crazy. Wish I could move away. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
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She calls me when she has a free day and says, "I'm free on X day at X time, can you bring the children to the house?" If I say no, she says, "Oh, well I'm not going to be free for another week or more. I haven't seen them in forever." She seems them at least 3-5x per month, so that's fake. She always changes their clothes the second they get to her home. She feeds them whatever the fuck she wants and has no concern for their allergies because she thinks allergies are a myth. I once brought DB to her home because I had a dentist appointment. I had expressed breastmilk in the diaper bag and told her that it could stay at room temp for a few hours - I would only be gone for 2 max or, if she felt better about it, she could put it in the fridge. Little did I know that she had already purchased formula and dumped out the breastmilk that I had brought. [ Reply | More ]
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two things, 1. if she wants to see them tell them you can't drop them off but she cant pick them up. 2. tell her, no about formula and if she can not listen have dh talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a knock-down drag-out fight with mine. It wasn't pretty, but it more or less worked. [ Reply | More ]
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Say no, set boundaries [ Reply | More ]
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Why wouldn't you give her access to the children? She's the grandmother. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh read your reply above. Never mind my mil is normal. [ Reply | More ]
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Does she have a key? Get it back, learn to say no. [ Reply | More ]
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Quit answering the phone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a kitchen reno recently? I want to knock down a non-supporting wall and redo a small kitchen plus flooring and was hoping to stay under 75k (was thinking of doing ikea cabinets, nice countertop, no $ fridge because I hate subzero but would like a good range, house so no building issues to deal with). I met with one architect/contractor and be seemed shocked that was my budget. Am I unreasonable in thinking it can be done for this price? If my modest reno could really get close to 100k how does the average working person in the US ever afford to make any changes to their home? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Don't use an architect. Get several bids. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? Of course you should use an architect. [ Reply | More ]
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Disagree. Get good contractor, and they will get an engineer or architect, and can negotiate better. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - we are trying to decide this, met with architect recommended by a neighbor because we are reconfiguring things. [ Reply | More ]
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The architect will negotiate with the contractor for you. It is very helpful because the contractors try to get away with murder and the architect keeps them in check. [ Reply | More ]
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More likely architect will go off deep end. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Where are you? [ Reply | More ]
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Brooklyn [ Reply | More ]
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Are you for real? I built an entire RESTAURANT for only a little more than that. Fasten your seatbelt, lady. These guys are gonna take you for a ride. [ Reply | More ]
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In NY no less. [ Reply | More ]
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I honestly don't know what to expect, earlier someone said a small bathroom cost 19k in labor alone so I am figuring we are looking at 30k+ for labor alone. I am not looking to do the fanciest kitchen either but I can't see how it could be under 50k with that much for labor alone [ Reply | More ]
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I doubt your restaurant kitchen has granite or turned custom cabinetry or nice tile. You have an industrial kitchen, I presume, probably with at least some equipment obtained at auction [ Reply | More ]
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Two completely different things except perhaps for a range [ Reply | More ]
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That is insane. How big is your kitchen? I have done three kitchens and have never spent more than 20K, including opening walls. IKEA cabinets, Caesarstone counters, nice appliances. You don't need an architect for a kitchen reno. [ Reply | More ]
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Small but surely labor alone is way more than 20k. Caesarstone is expensive, how could you do all this on 20k? Appliances alone eat up 10k if you do nice but not high end [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 01.31.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.31.15, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I am the maid of honor for my friend. I was going to host the bachelorette party. A simple wine tasting, dinner, and then she wanted to meet up with the groom and his party for drinks later that night. She wants to invite fifty people now. I thought it would be the bridesmaids (8) and a few of her other friends. How do I get out of this now? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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Say. Oh . 50. That's definitely more than I had expected, whcih is fine, but I will not be able to do the original plan. Also are you sure... because 50 is a lot for a bachelorette party. I do not think it will be as nice or as fun if we did a smaller thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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Just invite the bridesmaids to your place. Bridesmaids only. Draw the line. Put little veil on her head and make her take a shot or whatever and do some nice drinks and apps. Then off to big group dinner pre fixe where everyone (anyone who wanted to come... invite via email including cost and details) has already paid you upfront. Then your responsibility is over. Whoever wants to can meet up with the groom at whatever place he is . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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How much cost is ok to delegate to the guests? I have never done this before, and would have picked up the tab for the bridesmaids for lunch/transportation and just let them pay their own wine tasting fees at each spot. I was going to have dinner catered at my apartment from a pasta joint. Obviously this is all out the window [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Look into places that accomodate big groups. ask about what the pre fixe menu is for a group. They may say "60 per person plus alcohol and tip and tax" at which point you negotiate- ask for a house red and house white to be included for 80pp and then tip and tax brings total to 100 or something. Then tell huge group via email " Its Janes Bachelorette woohoo!!!! We are celebrating at x restaurant on y date. If you can make it, please let me know by z date. The cost per person will be 100 including dinner wine tax and tip. You can send me via paypal or venmo or check" and give address [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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You are the host, you get to plan party. Say politely, sorry, I cannot deal with party that big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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I could rent a party bus to do the wine tasting, but I don't want to spend that much or have to collect from others. I worry very much about not providing transportation to an event like this where people need to drink and then drive themselves from place to place. I know there are a few DD's in the crowd... sorry. I'm just stressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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Chill. Catch your breath. She is being a bridezilla and a jerk. Tell her you were planning on the original plan and that is it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Can you modify your original plan to accomodate more people? It is totally ok to say to the 50 people who are invited "meet here, this time, this date. this is the plan. including party bus its $75 per person let me know if youre in". You really should not feel obligated to pay for it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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I went to an engagement party like this. They had about 50 people show up to a restaurant at a certain time and everyone just ate on their own and basically took over the whole restaurant. It was bizarre. What is her thought process on how she wants 50 to attend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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Yeah, this is my fear. She wants to invite all of her aunts and cousins, and to me, that is what the bridal shower is for. She doesn't want penis straws and tacky things like that, but I thought she might want to let loose with her closest friends one last time... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Tell her its way too big. Tell her this is more bridal shower stuff. Maybe tell her the aunts would be like offended maybe since it would compete with bridal shower and maybe they are planning one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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The bridal shower is for 100 people... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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haha well thats not your problem ... rihgt? please say yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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You need to say, sorry not working. This is turning into a fiasco. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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tell her 50 people is not a bachelorette party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Budget mom here. Been depressed and man I'll tell ya, sometimes retail therapy really is the cure. Thank you Bergdorf Goodman for the fun. I didn't go crazy but just enough to take the edge off. Now back to budget! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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What makes you the budget mom ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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I don't spend anything outside necessities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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and you moved directly to BG? No in between? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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No. I wanted to make it worth it. I only spent $250 and paid cash for a good piece that will last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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I think she was giving you shade for nn'ing yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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I don't really care what she did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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OR. haha no I wasnt. Actualy wondering, why is she budget mom . I really was wondering if she had tips or like what makes her such a budget lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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OR. Sorry if this is an obnoxious question but how do you define necssary? Also do you like go on vacations ever? How do you know how nice of a house to live in ? How nice of a car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Only a vacation if there's extra money. We enjoyed the good life for many years and have pretty much gotten everything out of our systems. Car is a Honda but we don't keep it in the city all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Whats your motivation for such a budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Don't have enough in savings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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You are not "budget mom" if you have uncontrollable splurges at BG. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Np. Sigh...this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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