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[ - ] OTM here. Any questions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:57 AM Flag
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OTM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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Hi Will I ever meet someone and have a long term relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Not depressed. ..just wondering about when I will die. How about you? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:52 AM Flag
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Belongings don't mean anything to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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Statistically you will probably die around 84. Longer if your grandparents or parents are past that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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Interesting. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:56 AM Flag
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It only matters if SIL won't take off her shoes at the beach house, while DH frets about losing his finance job, and maybe you're thinking about moving to Summit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:57 AM Flag
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Might as well take off the shoes. You can't take them with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Hi, do you parents monitor what books your MS (6th grader) kid is reading? I usually don't monitor but I found her reading a book called Eleanor and Park and after researching found out it was appropriate for high schoolers. Was I amiss in not checking before this? Do you parents usually 'approve' books that are not school reading? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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No. I had an adult library card in 4th grade. I enjoyed a lot of adult fiction. My kids read what they wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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I let my middle schoolers read anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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Really? Even if the book descriptions on Amazon say it deals with heavy dark concepts like domestic abuse and incest? See:Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children: The common sense media says Not only is the storyline a bit complex, but the dark tone and violent acts also blend realism with fantasy to a point that might be confusing to impressionable kids. The language is a bit rough for younger readers; there's also mention of adultery and incest, as well as drinking too much to cover pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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OP here. I am curious--TO me it seems 12 years is too young to read about these things but on the other hand I don't want to the one and only micro managing mom. hence my question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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Have you looked at the book? (Not just read reviews!). Miss Peregrine is a visually rich dark fantasy that really needs to be experienced before making this decision. --I can't describe it adequately, but it's quite odd, so please do look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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First, if I'm buying the books off Amazon I can steer. Would read freckles with child and e would decide. I thought you meant if they happened to come home with it from library. In that instance I don't take a book away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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By sixth grade my son had a well-developed sens of what was appropriate or not, and he stopped reading a few books because the content disturbed him. Fourth and even a little in fifth grade, he was more of a "read first and ask questions later" kid so I closely supervised his reading material then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:39 AM Flag
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Absolutely not! I'm not going to out myself, but I am a very successful author whose otherwise overbearing parents let me grab and enjoy any book I fancied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:49 AM Flag
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this, except I'm not a very successful author. I read anything and everything at that age. It is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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Lol but yes, this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] 33, one db, and feeling adrift about our finances. DH and I both work and we don't live extravagantly (still in our one bedroom apt with baby). Lately I'm just feeling like we'll never get there financially. Never save enough for a home, never get out ahead of the bills enough to pay off our school debt and then save for db's. I'm wanting to leave NYC but DH is set on staying here - either in the city or close burbs. Anyone BTDT? How did it work out? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:21 AM Flag
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How much do you each make? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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HHI $175k, I make $100, he's $75 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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Meet with a certified financial planner. Ours got us on a good savings plan given our personal variables (401Ks stocks we owned etc). He made sure we had life insurance and powers of attorney/will/guardianship papers etc. They can advise. Just make sure yours isn't into selling products they represent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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This is what I'm thinking. Not sure how open DH is to it though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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On their income it might be overkill. The non selling people charge a fee. Could be a few thousand dollars. They could make their situation better even with a will made on legal zoom and making sure they are taking advantage of employer sponsored life insurance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:40 AM Flag
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Do it by yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:41 AM Flag
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I'm trying but don't seem to be getting through to him. I fear that he's the type to stick to plan A to the detriment of actually reaching the goal he set to begin with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:44 AM Flag
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Do you save at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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We have a bit in savings but not enough to cover the 6 months expenses advisors recommend. Lately, we haven't had much extra to contribute so only bonus money i(tax return, gifts, etc) is going there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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I dont think you have to get complicated. Present it to your husband on a simple spreadsheet. Here are our fixed costs each month (broken down), here are our variable costs. Set up a little model. If we continue on the same trajectory,in xx years we will have xx student loan debt left, xx in retirement, xxx in college funds. Sometimes my husband is in dream land and doesnt really seem to grasp the facts he doesnt want to see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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That's exactly my DH. Doesn't want to see that this isn't sustainable so he doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:36 AM Flag
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Ok so help him see it. What are his priorities? Does he care about home ownership? Find his motivation. My husband grew up kind of poor and doesnt want to live like he is poor. He wants certain luxuries like a yearly vacation and a nice steak for dinner when i would be prone to eat chopped meat. Living in the near burbs will be just as hard on 175k and two incomes. Do you have any way to move to a cheaper rental? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:39 AM Flag
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If it was just us, we could. But not with db. We already live in a gentrifying neighborhood (so not UB-approved) so if we were to move to cheaper place, it would be in a sketchier neighborhood and we'd have to spend more money on childcare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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Have you tried to find a rent stabilized apartment? They are everywhere and there is a list published with the addresses. You could pick a neighborhood with better schools, scope out the buildings and stalk the super a bit :) But to be honest, with your income and the fact that you have child care costs, I would just try to pay down debt and build up your savings. Saving for a down payment and college at this point it too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:48 AM Flag
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Not OP but I'm impressed with your helpful attitude. Supernice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:52 AM Flag
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Aww thanks! As an aside we happened to stumble upon a rent stabilized apartment about 20 years ago and it was like the holy grail. No one we knew had one and I was shocked that there was an actual list of them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Keep DD in preschool till K or apply to nursery at 3? TT preschool and SS is more and more appealing to me. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:21 AM Flag
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what is your definition of preschool vs nursery? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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HM/Packer start at 3, a few like ECFS/Hunter at 4; no harm trying if you want to get into TT. I don't know about SS TT much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Design/decor savvy moms, please advise. Is it worth lugging an 8x10 silk rug from a foreign country? We have a couple of days in Dubai. Is it much cheaper there? What we like seem to be in the 4-5k range here in the city. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.31.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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What a nightmare. I doubt you'll save enough to make it worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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The transportation bit is not a hassle. It's the scouting, shopping, haggling that I dread when I buy things overseas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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We spent about $10K for a hand made silk rug in India - it was one of the single best decor investment we made. We could not find anything comparable to that in the U.S. and I still get joy from looking at the rug and it's been about 8 years since the purchase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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Is it a stand along piece of checkin baggage? I will have to declare this, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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Of course you will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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I don't remember - it was a while ago. All I remember is that it folded very neatly into my large suitcase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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I would only go through the hassle if it was some rare one of a kind heirloom. Which I doubt it will be at that price point. Plus there's no way you can hide that from customs on the way back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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Understood; just looking for a regular rug and being greedy for cost arbitrage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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When you fold up a silk rug, there is not much volume so you can easily fit it in your larger suitcase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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We travel very light so this will not be the issue. It's my frugal budget that's in the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:32 AM Flag
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See when you get there. Since you've looked at what you like here you will have a point of comparison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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Yes, will do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Dos anyone get a rash under their ring finger? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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Yes! I got one because I used to keep my rings on to workout. Trapped moisture and bacteria. I blame the straps on Pilates reformer. Took them off and didn't wear them for two weeks. Used cortisone cream. Can wear them again but just can't keep them in 24/7. Don't work out in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever engage in defensive snacking? Say you have an indulgent snack in your fridge like Manner Vienna vanilla creme filled wafers. Would you eat them just so dh cant, thereby saving him from getting chubbier? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:07 AM Flag
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That is disturbing on so many levels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:09 AM Flag
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I eat snacks when I'm not hungry just so DH won't finish it. I'm the last of a bunch of kids and always hated the disappointment that came from looking forward to leftovers that my siblings beat me to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:09 AM Flag
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Omg. My DH is the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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As in he eats because he's afraid he won't get enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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Glad I'm not the only one. I try not to but when there's just one serving of something delicious left, I often fail at resisting the temptation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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I find it both childish and cute because my DS and I have zero interest in snacking so he's really competing with himself. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:26 AM Flag
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It's exactly both of those things. My DH couldn't care less. It's literally me vs me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:32 AM Flag
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No. That has got to be the weirdest thing I've ever heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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Wow, thats sad commentary on what weird things youve heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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Why? I'm normal. I eat what I want. I let dh eat what he wants. I treat him like a grown up not an infant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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No. But I do eat junk food in my car because DH is always so freaking healthy about his eating habits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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I have a healthy relationship with food so this post is absurd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:15 AM Flag
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I don't need to. DH wants to stay fit on his own. But I do have a problem with my 2 kids. One is very thin like me, 10th percent weight, 95th height. Other kid is heavier, tending towards a bit of chubbiness so it's hard to encourage one with tasty foods and yet really not want the other to be eating the same way. Of course, that one wants to eat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:16 AM Flag
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I do make DH finish or at least hide anything indulgent to avoid getting tempted myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Is Arabella Kushner going to Avenues or Chapin? From what I understand, Chapin doesn't offer Mandarin and Arabella speaks it. Really curious where she'll be going especially given the upcoming election. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:59 AM Flag
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Who is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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Some weird freaky gwai lo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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WHO? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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Gwai lo wants to talk Mandarin. Weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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Oh jeez - but I've hear Ramaz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:04 AM Flag
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that is what i have heard as well (from another parent in same pre-k class) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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at carousel of languages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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at the Y [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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where ever she goes will be a circus and net net, her celebrity status will hurt her more than help her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:08 AM Flag
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Ivanka is not as stupid as her dad. At least she knows that learning Mandarin is a huge asset to Arabella. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:09 AM Flag
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Don't kid yourself, Trump will be kissing Xi Jinping's butt once he gets himself enthroned (I mean, elected into office). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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Yeah, right, she speaks it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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So I guess we will find out in September when school starts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:16 AM Flag
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Bad form. Go read a book to your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you know any women that are not only well dressed, but always have the most appropriate attire for whatever weather or activity they are participating? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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Yes. She's very wealthy and very generous. She graciously loans out anything from her closet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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yes, the SAHM Park Avenue moms. Duh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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That's me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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where did you learn this? were you in a sorority? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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I consider myself fairly stylish but I often have to spend some time finding appropriate outfits for various activities/vacations/etc... Perhaps I am not so stylish after all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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Yes. MIL, very elegant and stylish but can tone it down when required. I'm always erring on the side of overdoing things so I envy her ability to calibrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Gorilla boy parents http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3617016/EXCLUSIVE-PICTURES-parents-four-son-fell-zoo-enclosure-sparking-controversial-killing-Harambe-gorilla-emerges-father-lengthy-criminal-history.html 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:57 AM Flag
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The Dad wasn't there, I am not reading further. Would you be judged by things when you weren't there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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+10000 Fuck off, Op! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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What the fuck does his father's criminal record has to do with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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Mean care bear is here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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Sad but I don't judge [ Reply | More ]
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