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[ - ] My income is $500K. Is it hight for Ubers? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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^^high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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average. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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no, i bet it's on the high end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Doubt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Maybe 70th, 80th %ile [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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Your solo income or HHI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I did trampoline aerobics today. Amazing fun! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Was this shape up nyc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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No, Sky Zone. It was so hard and I ache so much (probably from laughing so hard!!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] How much homework should a 4th grader have (including reading)? Should they have homework on weekends? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.16.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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Seriously, no kid should have hw on weekends and extended holiday breaks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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I would rather my kid have homework on weekends instead of weekdays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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We have one written/math assignment and 30 minutes of reading a day. The 30 minutes of reading is on weekends also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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School should take whatever amount of time it takes to teach students. Homework is a failure on the part of the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Curious, how many of you married for money? And do you regret it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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I did. And no regrets. I got what I bargained for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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I sort of did. And no I don't. The benefits have come in handy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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I married for love and regrets it. Love dies and hard cold cash can always come in handy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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there ya go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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How was the sex if you married for money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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I married for love, he married for money. He now earns more than I do, so I stay married for his money. Karma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms with kids who started kindergarten this year - how is it going so far? My kid comes home exhausted and hungry but totally happy. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.16.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Sounds like he's growing his brain and body. Congrats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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yes, so much happier than PreK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] The search function on UB is shite. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Been posted a thousand times before. Use the search function. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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Nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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You're discovering this now, mate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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it used to be just crummy, you couldn't sort by date, but could actually find relevant topics. Now it doesn't work at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] At what point did you try to introduce routines/sleep schedules with DB? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Looking for an excuse for CIO? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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9 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:11 PM Flag
[ - ] What was your ex DH's midlife crisis like? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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my DH froze up, became depressed. almost jeopardized his career-his career took a huge hit. it was rough, but he is in a better place. it scares me to know that he could slip like that again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Lost interest in work, coasted, tried to talk to other women online (to find some kind of connection)... he got through it, starting to fire it up again, but cost him (and us) about 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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+1 Five years is about right. same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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LOL how much time do we have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] if you were going to be a horrible person and have an affair, would it be better to have one with someone also married with kids...since they have as much to lose if the affair is found out? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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No, because you'd risk causing pain to that many more people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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you bring up an excellent point, though. Every person who has an affair confronts this thought at one time or another. How much does either person have to lose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] That "cooking is related to HHI" most pop could be the single most moronic post I've ever seen on UB. With stiff competition. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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that's not how I read it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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I agree! I dont see what correlation there is between HHI and cooking. Both rich and poor people alike cook - whether out of necessity, enjoyment or pure preference! We live in a first world country and have options for deciding how to feed ourselves..lol. HHI is immaterial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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If you don't have high HHI but don't want fast food you really don't have a lot if options [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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1) Unless you're considering like $60k to be a high HHI, I assure you, you have more options than just fast food. 2) Why do you speak like takeout is the preferable option? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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You are either SAHM or have high HHI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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^ or both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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PP: I am neither. I am married and my HHI is way under $200K for both DH and myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.16.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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You don't see how more $$ give more options? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Where does it say here that cooking is related to HHI? Post the link. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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"Holy crap, you guys cook..." It's in most popular right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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post says "I would like to know HOW it relates to income" not THAT it relates to income [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Once you have kids, cooking becomes relevant. Also, UB'ers love to discuss how anything is/is not related to HHI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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Hmmm, you do realize that some folks at the lower end of the HHI spectrum are often cobbling together 2-3 jobs to hit that number. It is not as if folks at all rungs of the economic ladder work 9-5, or even 8-6, jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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what number? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Rent controlled apartments: it's law you cannot overcharge renters? What about roommates in equal sized rooms, rent legally needs to be equally split? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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not sure about rent control, but I know that rent stabilized tenants cannot overcharge tenants or sublettors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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Yes. In NYC you cannot charge a roommate more than a proportionate share of the rent in a rent controlled / stabilized apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] What's going to happen with universal pre-k and private preschools - will the preschools lose a significant portion of their pre-k kids? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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nuh uh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Of course not. People who are in the position to pay between 20 to 25k for a private pre-k spot aren't going to go public in droves. If it worked like this, the private ongoings would be advertising for students! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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I'll bet a few poor families on the fence about private vs. public will decide to go universal pre-k but private pre-k will continue to have a sizable measure of wealthy applicants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Our HHI is 350 and we chose public this year. I guess we are poor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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We make under $70K and chose an elite private pre-k, with FA. Different strokes for different folks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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OP - From our private preschool about half the kids go to privates and the other half go to public. So for the group who are going public anyway.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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I think 1/3 of public families will leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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I don't think so at all. I think public pre-k will serve kids who would otherwise be home or in a home daycare type of situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Just caught up with a friend and found out she went through a divorce. She also said, she saw this coming before the wedding (he was starting become an alcoholic). For those of you who have gone through a divorce, did you also see the warning signs (before marriage/early marriage)? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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In retrospect I did, but I was too imature to see it at that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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what were the signs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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+ 1 here - dh drank A LOT and on a regular basis while we dated. Would pass out drunk all the time. I thought it was OK b/c I was also out drinking and partying with friends also and we drank and partied together. When we had dc, I stopped partying and drinking but he's continued. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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op: This is what happened to my friend minus dc. I am happy she was able to realize this and was strong enough to get out. She also said her DH was extremely jealous, even questioned her when she stayed overtime at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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In retrospect everyone's going to see it. That's the best part of retrospect ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Hahaha - ok - fair enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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My brother said when he and his ex walked out of the hotel the next morning to go on their honeymoon he thought, "this is never going to work." They fought a lot during the engagement, but he felt like they'd gone too far to back out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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Looking backwards I can see things, but there was no guarantee they would play out in the way they did. I could have made a "safer" choice, but frankly I think I did ok. The end of our relationship wasn't written on the wall, he slowly wrote it over time and then did a bunch over the last 2 to 3 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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My ex was a pathological liar. Mostly white lies, but he ultimately cheated and lied to me. We also had different financial goals. I save for the future, he is a big spender and carries a ton of credit card debt. In fact I was dumb enough to have him handle cash my parents gave us towards our wedding. He spent it on a car and put the wedding on Amex. Now car has been repossessed apparently! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] If there were no divorce, no one would get married. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Of course people would. Very few people stare at each other on their wedding day and think...I'm going divorce your ass someday! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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There are some that still would. I was raised with the mind set that divorce literally is never an option. And that's how I went into marriage. While my views have loosened up with age, my point is no divorce wouldn't have made any difference to me at the time, and I know many who were similar to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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My mother stayed in a horrible marriage because of that mindset and I wish I could give her "a do over" in life. She has no idea what a good relationship is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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I was raised in a very similar household. I married a man, despite my sexuality, knowing divorce would never be a real option for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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It is a real option for you and you can't wish that away. It's an option for everyone. Few people can see the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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I agree. There are generally two camps: those that go into the marriage thinking that divorce really is not an option; and those that consciously think that divorce is a possibility (usually due to upbringing). When my brother got divorced, he could not get over how divorce was just part of the next step for his ex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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People may see themselves as people who don't want to consider divorce, but that doesn't change the fact that divorce sims legal and available. Regardless of what you think of yourself, divorce isn't going anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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OR: The point here is that if you don't see it as an option, you would still get married if it wasn't. We are responding to the theory put forward in the original post. OP said if it wasn't an option no one would get married. But that's not true as many people who do not think it is an option (wrong as they may be in the long run) get married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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so you're saying everyone gets married thinking they're going to go splitsville? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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I think OP is saying that if it was really for reals no take backs, few would be brave enough to go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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I still would have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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^And even though divorce is legal and common, I would not have married dh if I thought there was any realistic chance we'd be getting one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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So a fairly high divorce rate doesn't make the possibility of divorce realistic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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np Not really. There are many factors that contribute to the possibility of divorce that do not apply to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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I agree. I think it is a matter of upbringing. I would say the divorce rate among the people that I grew up with is less than 10%. Also, I am not sure about this - is the high divorce rate partially due to those folks that are married three or four times? Certain individuals may boost up the rate? Anyone know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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This is true for me too. Among the people I grew up with I don't know ANY who have divorced yet and I'm 48 years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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+1 None of my close friends are divorced (or miserable), parents and ILs are all married, my friends' parents are married ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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It's not just repeat divorcers. There are a bunch of demographic factors that change the probability as well. Age is a big one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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Yes, that is absolutely true. See post below. After one divorce, your odds on second marriage are significantly worse. After two, your odds are terrible. That's because as pp said, divorce isn't random - if you have a terrible temper, trouble remaining monogamous, a substance abuse problem, poor taste in men, or whatever, your problems will make maintaining a marriage hard. It's rarely just that one partner is a psycho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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No, because divorce isn't random. I would stake my life on dh's keeping his word once he gives it, and he would say the same about me. We don't cheat, we don't lie, we took our time getting engaged and are both totally committed to treating each other and our families with kindness and respect. Is it possible that he's a total psycho who will snap and divorce me tomorrow? Sure, anything's possible, but after this many years together, I'd say it's pretty darn unrealistic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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^Also, we both had parents who stressed marriage as a lifetime commitment and worked through their issues, and I think that helps too. They were good role models in that respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Everyone thinks they are the exception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Well, realistically, most people ARE the exception, since most people don't get divorced. The 50% divorce rate is misleading, because although 50% of marriages end in divorce, that's because people who get divorced once are significantly more likely to get divorced again. So many people have multiple divorces, but a first marriage is statistically unlikely to end in divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ireland had no divorce until when- the 1980s? And people got married... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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I don't know. Some people might actually be more likely to get married if they knew it was a real commitment and they didn't have to be afraid of being left down the line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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This. They say a lot of children of divorce don't want to get married because they've seen how painful the experience was for everyone. And before people jump down my throat and say I'm advocating staying in terrible marriages, let me say that a lot of people might work harder to preserve a decent relationship with someone they're locked into a relationship for life with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids are both in college and both were more than adequate at the keyboard by 2nd grade. WTF is wrong with city kids that they're sitting on an iPad from age 2 but get to middle school and can't type a fucking paper themselves? So funny. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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Who types their papers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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they type their own papers. And have for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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So what is OP's point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Most definitely can but the workload at the TT's is so tremendous that many parents/tutors/homework helpers will type to speed the entire all night process along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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I don't know what you are talking about. My dc is at a TT and he types faster than anyone in the family. You know how he became so fast? My doing his own freaking homework! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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Same for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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The key is to not wait till the night before. Then it isn't an all nighter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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Oh, please. I have a dc in 8th grade at a tt and she most assuredly does her own work and typing. If she needed a tutor to succeed, I'd question whether she was in the right school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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(I think she's being sarcastic). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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I don't think she is, sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.16.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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