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[ - ] Has anyone used Jadore Hair salon in east side ? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If it’s any iteration or affiliate of Amour de Hair it’s a big tax evasion scam. Stay away. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] So...Marymount or Columbia Prep for my DD for 8th Grade? Obviously, one is SS and one is Co-Ed so I get that. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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MM ...do you have both choices ? [ Reply | More ]
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OP- yes. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Whoopi has been off the View for so long. Is she ok ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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She been in movies and has appeared in television programs in the last few years. [ Reply | More ]
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Pneumonia [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone here have family who guilts them for not living closer to then? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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No, I think we've found a happy median by being far apart! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Yes, I’m a petty loser counting people’s money. My dc’s good friend’s family recently bought two studio apartments adjacent to theirs and did major gut renovations - cost a million at least. They are always on vacation for every school break (Europe at least twice a year, upscale resorts in Caribbean, etc). How much money at the minimum could these people have or could it be a trust fund? Both work but not in finance or big law. Dh makes me feel guilty about spending when we go on one family trip in US using airline miles. We earn less than 300k, no family money, and can’t afdord to redo our bathroom or kitchen (both are starting to fall apart). 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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Who knows? I think you'll be happier if you don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:50 PM Flag
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100%! dont compare. dotn count other peoples money. just focus on yourself and your family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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No idea. My only thought is that there are people who make a lot more than me (or have a lot more) and there are people with much, much less. In fact, when I look at it from the perspective of how many people have much less, I feel pretty rich and fortunate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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This. You are well within the 5% comparing yourself to the 0.01%. If you have to compare, look down, not up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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If they are being financially cautious, I would assume a trust fund, or one of them had some windfall (inheritance for example) that they aren't sharing so they don't look less-than among their peers. Or, one of them might have made a ton of money at some point, but I would assume they aren't sharing. The other option is they are very risk- tolerant and assuming gains later on to justify the high leverage. Point: you don't know. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, I meant assuming NOT re a self-made financial gain because otherwise they would likely share that. Many people have family help. Many. And ongoing into adulthood as part of estate planning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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The four families i know of who go on the most vacations (and constantly post flurries of photos on social media) all have family money (the dad’s parents are very wealthy in all four cases). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Yes, my observation as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:03 PM Flag
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Probably family money. My husband and I have 2 kids in TT school. We travel a lot over school holidays, own a nice co-op, dress decently, have a BMW, etc. and he only makes $300k per year. We are subsidized substantially by my parents. My parents pay for education, all vacations, plus gift us generous birthday checks and random $$ gifting throughout the year to help offset the cost of living in nyc. You wouldn't necessarily know that is how we are affording everything if you saw us peripherally/socially. We don't lie about it, but don't bring it up either. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I used to work with a certain guy who was high up in the company hierarchy - of course his career was more advanced, he is 15 years older. Our DCs became best friends over the years. The wife was always very dismissive, snobbish and rude to me. Now I sent the guy a client and she is hyper friendly all of a sudden. I think the guy is good at what he does and I know him from having worked with him and that’s why I send client, not because the wife sucks up to me. I think it’s so phony. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:46 PM Flag
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This is about you, not her. Who cares how she behaves. Do what’s best for you and your career. She might have a thousand issues. Big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:48 PM Flag
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I care in that she used to be extremely obnoxious for no reason whatsoever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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That’s not a convincing rationale. Stop caring. She doesn’t deserve your energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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Play your long game for what's best for you. Don't get hung up on her pettiness which is a short game with no winners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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That’s true. I get along well with the DH on a professional level. The kids have their own friendship. The wife is just herself I guess. I should just ignore her whims. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Jersey housewives; I don’t need to see the blonde writer, the Turkish one or Margo ever again. please take them off. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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do you mean Margaret? I agree w writer and Turkish one but I do enjoy Margaret [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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Margaret is so obviously trying to be mean to get screen time. There’s nothing endearing about her. I don’t like her. But Turk and the writer are bad. FWIW I find any time they put a Jewish woman in that crew they don’t mesh. And I am Jewish, I do not mean this in any judging fashion at all. They just seem sort of - to meet a quota or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:41 PM Flag
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interesting. I am Jewish too. who else didnt mesh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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The Israeli one last season [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:01 PM Flag
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the writer one came across so trashy went she went up against Teresa at the reunion. Even though Teresa was wrong, the new one stooped to her level w the silly insults [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:53 PM Flag
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I like Jackie! She is the only one with a brain on that show. Can’t stand Theresa. Definition of trashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:58 PM Flag
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Not about brains. Just don’t believe that this woman would be friends with that crowd. Trashy levels are equal but they don’t seem authentically to be friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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agree. it doesnt seem natural. she appears to be acting and not being herself at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:10 PM Flag
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But Delores came out smelling like roses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your average monthly grocery bill for a family of 4? Mine is $600-$800 (UWS). Another $300 for eating out. Curious what others spend. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:34 PM Flag
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idk, DH goes to WF and Trader Joes and Costco for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:35 PM Flag
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That's nice! But you don't keep a budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:36 PM Flag
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he usually spends $175 a week at WF, 30 at trader joes, not sure about costco but this week 60, teens eat chickfila and diner and chipotle a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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Family of 5, about $400 groceries, another $100 eating out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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op: that's amazing. how do you manage to get it under $100 a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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Unless you are only eating cereal and milk and max and cheese seems like it would a tough thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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Admittedly DH and I don't eat a lot - he had a gastric sleeve surgery so eats small amounts, and I've never been that big an eater! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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Trader Joe's, veggies from a CSA, largely vegetarian household (fish once or twice a week). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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Wow. Good pointers. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:40 PM Flag
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$800-1000. We don't eat out. Fam of 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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+1. this includes take out , maybe 150 total in takeout for a month. and wine . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:56 PM Flag
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DH probably spends around $100 week for the basics, and I pick up cat food, some produce and lunch items randomly during the week (probably around $100 too). I would say that it's under $1000. We usually only eat out on Saturday nights ($40 t0 $60) and pick up Chinese carryout on Fridays (around $14). [ Reply | More ]
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op: thanks. sounds about the same then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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What are you getting for 14.00? One entree for the both of you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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Yes, we split an entree, get some spring rolls and if we get dumplings it jacks it up a few dollars. Hole-in-the-wall Chinese place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:44 PM Flag
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that sounds about right for us too, though we eat out less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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Also UWS, family of 4, and I cook dinner Mon-Thurs. We eat out or order in Fri-Sun usually. We spend about $120 a week on groceries and about $300 a week on weekend restaurants/seamless. We shop only at Trader Joe's and Sam's Club. Weekday meals are always meat/poultry with 2 vegetable sides. We don't eat pasta ever at home. The biggest cost savings has been joining Bad Apple Produce for our vegetables. I spend $20 a week on vegetables (that I choose each week) and easily have enough vegetables to last a week. We also don't eat a lot of shelf stable foods (canned soup, rice, etc) so that keeps the bill down as well. We buy all of the kids snacks in bulk from Sam's Club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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Sam's club? That sounds far [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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It's literally just through the Lincoln Tunnel. Takes us 20 minutes to get there from the UWS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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one of my kids is a teenager and we don't eat out much, maybe once every two weeks? In CA and groceries plus household items are like 1000-12000/mo. [ Reply | More ]
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ha ha I meant 1200 not 12000!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] My BFF just told me that this week she received an accidental extra Fresh Direct bag of groceries. It was about 50 dollars worth of stuff. She asked me if morally it is ok to keep it and not report it to Fresh Direct. I think she should have called the company to say where it is. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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It was the company's flub up, but I'm the kind of person who tells the cashier "I think you gave me too much change." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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It really doesn't matter - the company cannot take back the food, it's a liability. This is why you cannot return food to a grocery store. If you tampered with it (aka poisoned it) and they gave it to someone else, that is on them. IE, they would be sued for selling poisoned food. [ Reply | More ]
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This happened to us once - we reported it to FD and they said for us just to keep it. [ Reply | More ]
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I think she could have had both. If she had reported it, I think they likely would have told her to keep it. Companies want to be careful with chain of custody issues with food, so likely wouldn't have reused it anyway and saved themselves a trip to pick it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:36 PM Flag
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I’d call but this reminds me of when DH and I were at a very upscale, well-known hotel and they delivered very fancy wine and cheese to our room, with a note written to someone else. I called the front desk and they sent someone to pick it up and didn’t even apologize or thank us —we sort of expected them to tell us to keep it since it was their mistake! Looking back, I am very disappointed seeing as though we splurged on room. [ Reply | More ]
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yes but in that case, it was definitely going to be traced to your room ..ie the tray in your room etc. so you probably would have been charged to your bill once they recognized it. Not fair but maybe. in this case, it was the delivery person who must have brought the wrong box up and who knows when the person will even open up the box to notice it was the wrong one. i.e. : several hours could have passed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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oh I would have eaten it and then told them! [ Reply | More ]
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that was mean. for all they know you could have licked the cheese or something. so gross to think of it going from one room to another. [ Reply | More ]
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Breakfast in the city; nothing beats a classic BEC in corner deli. I’m here with construction workers, a little old lady giving detailed directions as to how she wants her bialy prepared, office workers getting their orders to go, and a tourist or two wandering in and out. I heart NY. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:30 PM Flag
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I love that the coffee cart guy has my coffee ready before I even cross the street to get to his side! [ Reply | More ]
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agree. I love the carts too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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I like carts for coffee but love the Egg and cheese at my local bodega/deli. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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That's what makes NY great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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What is a BEC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Glad you asked, I don't know either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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Bacon Egg & Cheese sandwich (usually on a roll) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Carranza: Too many NYC students qualify as ‘gifted’ - see the related article: https://nypost.com/2019/02/21/richard-carranza-too-many-nyc-students-qualify-as-gifted/ 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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When the chancellor displays such ignorance, it's really disheartening. He was either being deliberately disingenuous, or he's an idiot. Either way, not good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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Of course this is true. The whole purpose of G&T is to keep white UMC families from fleeing the city where the school system is only 15% white. It's the progressive equivalent of separate schools in the South in the 1950s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:29 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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The Post is a rag. [ Reply | More ]
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I love him and I hope he evicerates G&T [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:34 PM Flag
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I guess ur kid didn't get in? [ Reply | More ]
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I just moved to a UMC affluent suburb. Statistically 1/2 the kids are gifted here too ( based on trsts). It is socio-economic (at leasf for the purposes of the definition for test taking) [ Reply | More ]
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G&T not so necessary anymore because no white flight - all the ESs in district 2 for ex.. are good. and, these kids are not GIFTED! It's is BS. [ Reply | More ]
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I am not a fan of Carranza at all, but he is correct regarding this issue. [ Reply | More ]
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He might be correct, but not for the right reason. When the new g&t cutoff was established in 2008, preliminary research by scientists, child psychologists, etc indicated that the cutoff score for any gifted programs was established at 95%, and for citywide programs at 97%. However, after the kids took the test, there wasn’t enough kids, especially minority kids from certain districts, who qualified to fill in the seats at district schools. Then the score was officially dropped to 90% just to fill in the seats in outer boroughs. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] UNIS - what's the scoop? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:19 PM Flag
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For what age? We did it for the hs and IB program. It's a lot of work for the kids, but it's also been a great opportunity for my dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I frequently schedule play dates for my 7yo in advance by a couple of days, or a week. This way, I pick up their child along with ours and bring them to our house to play. We rarely get invited in advance. At PICK-UP, the kids might suggest a play date and the parents enthusiastically ask my child to come over. I decline because they were put on the spot, , but then they insist. It’s really annoying because one of the joys of having someone invite your child over, is that you get some childcare. Now that I’ve already come to school to get my child, it’s realky not that convenient. When I set up the play dates, this allows the other parent to have free time in their day. We all have freelance careers, and could use childcare!! Why does no one else think of an invite in advance. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:14 PM Flag
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My theory: Some people are planners, others are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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+1. Also the scenario OP describes is for the convenience of the adults. What about the kids? Kids are humans too and can choose to be spontaneous (in the mood to play today) and some parents allow/make room for that spontaneity. I'm a planner, but also know that not everything will go as planned, and to be fluid enough for unplanned things. [ Reply | More ]
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That's annoying, but one reason may be they don't know their schedule in advance. Sometimes if it seems to be a slow day workwise, it will be a good day to have a playdate but I don't know until that day. If it's a busy day, I may ask my DC to read or do homework while I respond to a flurry of emails but harder to juggle with a playdate. [ Reply | More ]
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I plan my life by month. I have some flexibility, I'm very organized, and really it is kind of my semi-OCD thing. Of my circle of mom friends, I've come to recognize that this isn't "normal". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:21 PM Flag
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Tell the parents, OP. I'm in complete agreement. One caveat: maybe the other families live in the zone & you live farther away? For me it's not hard to go back home after pickup since we're two blocks from school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:29 PM Flag
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^^I mean tell the 7 yo parents directly, in a nice way, instead of trying to communicate anonymously here. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:30 PM Flag
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Playdates for me are optional --- and totally based on my mood + level of exhaustion + other stuff going on. They have their siblings and most of the time that is plenty. They can find something else to do if they are bored. I am not adding extra stuff to my schedule. [ Reply | More ]
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The reason I don't is because I don't really like other people's kids and don't want to get relied upon in situations, "oh, can you take him today instead of thursday. I have a hair appointment" crap. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: yikes. That’s harsh. You do need community, unless u have a ton of family nearby to help. I’ve watched other people’s kids at the last minute if they are stuck at the Dr, the train ran late coming from an appt, etc. people have covered me when I was sick and DH needed time to get home to watch DC. That’s just life, helping people [ Reply | More ]
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It is harsh, but in my many years of living in Manhattan, I have heard this sentiment among friends. Definitely community is important, and about 80 percent of the people I know left the city becuase of the lack of community - I myself included. Everyone moved closer to family bc the reality is that nyc friends, as well meaning as they might be, are busy, individualistic types. [ Reply | More ]
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Why not on the spot say "we can't today but how about ____?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] if you had the choice, would you send ds to Trinity or Collegiate for HS, and why? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:10 PM Flag
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Trinity. [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP: why? I know one is co-ed and the other is SS. But what are the other differences? [ Reply | More ]
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OP-yes, this is what I want to know. I know both are great, and that Trinity is bigger and co-ed, but I'd really like to know more about the cultural differences if there are any, homework differences, variation in quality of teaching, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 coed better for high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] How many of you have a bilingual household? Yesterday was Int'l Mother Language Day...and in both Europe and Africa, educated people speak at least two languages as a matter of course. In European schools, almost all children learn English fluently, as well as their home language. Of course European schools are generally much better funded than American public schools, but in Africa as well, children are also expected to learn at least one colonial language in addition to their mother tongue (and if the colonial language is not English, educated African students are very often trilingual). So it's not the *children* can't learn more than one language, it is that we in the States don't teach them. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:08 PM Flag
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This was discussed at length in the MP on "DD is in 5th grade in a good suburban public." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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One of the reasons I sent my dc to UNIS. Three+ language fluency there is pretty common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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Only 3 countries in the world spend more per student than the US, so European schools are not better funded. The US needs to figure out how we are letting our kids down - one is unions, another is lazy parenting, another is the PC BS we have to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:15 PM Flag
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Interesting! Not OP but I also would have thought that funding is the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:16 PM Flag
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Can you link to your claim that US is the fourth highest in spending per student worldwide? Because in NYC, funding has been inadequate for decades. Totally agree that teacher & principal unions in NYC are too protectionist, but the unions are the only reason our kids have "specials," since the teachers have to have a prep period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:19 PM Flag
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Teachers in many EU countries are also tenured. Still they spend less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:21 PM Flag
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NP from below. I just saw your post after I posted mine, you are completely right. It’s the same thing with health care. US spends a lot and has bad outcomes. There needs to be an investigation where the waste actually occurs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:20 PM Flag
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Please. Not unions. Unions aren't to blame for the crap way we fund schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:22 PM Flag
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No. It's called provincialism. Why learn a second language if there is no "need." In fact, when my great grandparents immigrated from Germany in the late 1880s (not in NY but through Maryland), the culture at the time was to discourage one's home language in public. The language was lost in my family. The goal being, I suppose, was assimilation. The attitude has persisted. Also, you can take all the language you want as kid (I had almost six years of French), I'm horribly rough around the edges because I don't have the opportunity to use it very often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Can you link to stats that US is fourth highest worldwide in spending per student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:25 PM Flag
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https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator_cmd.asp (np) - I just got this from google, but it's widely known we spend a lot on primary/secondary education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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I totally agree that the unions are too protectionist, especially about seniority rules and compensation, but you have to admit that if it weren't for the teacher's union kids would not have "specials" in elementary, because the union has it mandated that teachers have a prep period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:27 PM Flag
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My DC all go to dual language program in NYC. And from what I've seen, even though they understand the second language fairly well, the kids from households without the second language never develop fluency for the simple reason that the language is not "needed". Kids are very sensitive about that. It was raised in the mp that the languages those bilingual kids are learning are all necessary languages for day to day. They are needed and reinforced naturally. It's not a failure of schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:19 PM Flag
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np: bingo! This is why I never bothered. I speak two other languages other than English, and the only reason I do so is becuse they were learned at home and each speaker didn't speak anything else but that to me (my nanny & my parents). School is fiarly useless in the language thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:46 PM Flag
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I actually don’t think that schools in general are much better funded in Europe. NYC spends a ton of money per child and it is really unclear why the educational outcome is so much worse. So your premise is wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:19 PM Flag
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A lot of it is culture and demographics. Also - I agree multilingualism is important, but it is not a stand-in for good education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:29 PM Flag
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I agree with you. I know so many immensely intelligent people and they just can’t deal with foreign languages. Their brains are made for STEM, not linguistics. Also, I don’t agree that all Europeans speak multiple languages. I know so many Europeans who can barely get by in English. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:31 PM Flag
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^ and I actually love languages and learned 4 foreign languages at school, 2 of which were ancient (Latin, Greek). My DCs are multilingual. But I know many many STEM and medical geniuses who can only speak their own language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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Exactly. And it is hard to learn language from just a class. My friends who grew up in Europe grew up watching American tv shows and movies, traveling to countries like we travel to different states, etc. I also loved learning languages and had kind of a knack for it, but critical thinking, math, science, strong communication skills, etc. are rightfully pushed even more, especially since we already know the "global" language [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t go so far and to put value on either field. All humans are different and have different skills and they are all needed. People who are good at STEM should do that and people who are good at humanities should do humanities. Critical thinking is a huge element of humanities and languages by the way. You can’t study Latin and Greek without critically analyzing the respective texts (philosophers, historians, playwrights). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:43 PM Flag
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Oh, I agree. I guess I did word my post properly. And I do think one thing American education does do well is allow for people with different skills, abilities, etc. to find their niche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:45 PM Flag
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Schools in Africa struggle with funding, but manage to teach multiple languages. My premise is that kids woldwide who are of average intelligence can learn to be bilingual or trilingual, but American kids are monolingual. I think we are all used to the idea that European public schools get much better results than American ones, but our kids are also being outpaced by African kids from families who are able to send them to school. Of course there are problems in Africa with providing universal access to elementary ed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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They may learn languages, but they can't pass their college entrance tests. Maybe that teaching would be better spent on other subjects. Also, they learn languages largely in part bc they are constantly exposed to various languages outside of the classroom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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The US spends more on K-12 education as a share of GDP than European nations so quit with the "if only we spent more everything would be fine" argument. Everyone around the world knows that English is the international language so you shouldn't be surprised that everyone learns it. Other than in small European countries, most people speak only their native language plus English. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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I don't think your read my whole post, because I'm not arguing that more spending would fix everything wrong with American education (although in NYC it would go a long way toward fixing the despicable condition of many public school facilities.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:41 PM Flag
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np - I acknowledge this is not your primary point, but NYC spends among the most per student of anyplace in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:43 PM Flag
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We have a bilingual household but dh and I are native english speakers. It isn't so hard to raise bilingual kids in the US if you prioritize language immersion childcare and elementary school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] for those of you with older teen girls, what's the average amount you spend a year on clothing? I'm trying to determine a reasonable spend level or rule of thumb (something like one third to one half of what I spend since I work ft,etc.) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:05 PM Flag
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Huh I almost never buy clothes - I’d probably spend more on a growing teen than on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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Honestly hardly anything. 16-year-old DD stopped growing three or four years ago and at this point she likes to do her own shopping at thrift and consignment stores. So maybe as a year total a few hundred bucks for new summer weight things that are hard to find secondhand, clothes for a special event (prom etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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I let her go shopping at TJ Maxx or Marshalls once a year with a $300 budget. I also let her get a stitch fix box every three months that is somewhere around $100-150, depending on what she keeps. She really enjoys what they send her though, and she wears everything she keeps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:33 PM Flag
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Okay, thank you. This is just unknown territory and I felt her proposal of $120 a month to be unreasonable, She does like to thrift and prom is coming up, so it sounds like your numbers are the right range. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:39 PM Flag
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I like the Stitch Fix boxes quite a bit, as I don't know anything about fashion for her age group, but they apparently do because she happily wears nearly all of it. It's a way of surprising her with things she likes when I would have no idea what to pick. She's also a hard fit but she put in all her measurements and they seem to have figured her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I am stressing bc older dc is in private and now younger one just got in to a different private school. I will be making deposit soon and I’m going to have very little to groceries and utilities next month. Both kids have substantial scholarships. I’m starting to regret encouraging younger to apply - but he has worked really hard and it is an amazing opportunity, school is TT. I need a weekend gig but I’m already exhausted from work. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:02 PM Flag
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How old is your oldest? We chose public HS for our oldest after years of private and have no regrets. It was good in many ways, both for her and for our budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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A junior. Just need to suck it up for a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:07 PM Flag
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ugh. I am sorry. You will need to stress realistic goals for college costs though. You can't keep doing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:12 PM Flag
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I’m thinking about offering Sat. - Sun. babysitting for people who want to hang out very late/all night. Could I charge 200.00 for that? I can get myself home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:07 PM Flag
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May I ask how much you pay (after scholarships)? Just curious - we'll need financial aid and/or scholarships too, just want to get an idea how much schools are willing to give. TIA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:27 PM Flag
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Public is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I regret not going away this week so I am already planning next year's winter break. anyone have suggestions for all inclusive resorts that have things to do for a 9 year old. I looked at the nickelodeon resort in punta cana and it's $1500 per day per person. That's insane. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:54 PM Flag
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does it have to be an all inclusive? what about some place like capitiva island FL -- they placed I rented there had a little kitchen . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:57 PM Flag
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Punta Cana has a lot of all inclusive resorts that are far more reasonable than Nickelodeon. Some of them have water parks, kids clubs, etc. I would look at one of the Bavaro or Iberostar resorts in Punta Cana or Puerto Plata. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:58 PM Flag
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^And I would also look at Aruba. The beaches are calm, and there are some nice all inclusives that have non motorized watersports like paddleboats, SUP, kayaks, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:00 PM Flag
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I am the same - I started a new job and already had to travel a lot and don’t feel like going to the same areas again (would have gone skiing but had to travel to the Alps..). Now I also regret it and am planning my Xmas break. Would anyone know the best time to buy air tickets to Europe for next Xmas? They seem either very expensive or have gigantic layovers (like 14 hours etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:12 PM Flag
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It's insane. I was telling my dh how everyone feels so entitled to rake vacation these days but it's not really a financially smart decision to make for most people - even though everyone thinks it's justifiable because you are choosing "experience" over "things." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] How much are you paying for braces/ Invisalign in nyc? Thanks. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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Around 6K for my DD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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Who is your orthodontist? Mine just quoted me nearly 10k and I almost had a heart attack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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Well, I guess I should have said that this was 5 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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Ok. I hope there are still less $ places out there. I’m going to shop around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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They are robbing you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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Could you suggest where to go please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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But then we have to go out to NJ every six weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:55 PM Flag
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my dentist said 8-11k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:46 PM Flag
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Will your insurance pay some? My ds's were 6k (west coast) but insurance paid 2500 of it. Then just 200/mo which comes out of our HSA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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1.5 yr ago for braces, $5,000. .5 yr ago for other child, $5500 for invisalign [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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My insurance covered my invisaligns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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100%? Mine covers 1k/ year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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Never 100%, its cosmetics. Like breast implants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.22.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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