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General Topics 03.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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It's actually really good for your system, maybe even more than chicken noodle. [ Reply | More ]
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Fermented soybean is miracle food. [ Reply | More ]
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wham bam thank you lamb [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are Epsom salts good for? Why do people put them in baths. Do they smell good? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It helps reduce swelling. [ Reply | More ]
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They don't smell [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Reposting from earlier today. Looking for some BTDT or been there, thought about it. IF THIS IS NOT YOU THEN DON'T RESPOND. DH and I are in our mid 40's and have been married over 15 years and have 3DC. I love him as a life partner, but have zero attraction to him now. I want to have sex, but not with him. I don't want to lie and sneak around. Do any of you have some sort of open marriage? Have any of you thought about it or discussed it with DH? Have any of you thought about it and just kept it to yourself? Please tell me how you've navigated this if you've had similar feelings. I know this sounds trolly, but it's not. And who else can I ask? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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^^ Original Conversation: http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55404434. Just looking for more BTDT's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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I'm 51 and have been married for 25 years. I've certainly had thoughts, which I think is natural. Not worth it, in my personal opinion, to act upon it. Too much invested in my family life to take that risk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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OP: Btw, there is no other man. I just want to get it out in the open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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Have you talked to your DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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OP: No, I haven't. I've been feeling this way for a long long time. I feel like I'm too young (mid 40's) to never feel intimacy again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Well, talk to him, Sound him out. Lying sucks. NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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If it makes you feel better (or not), these things really peeked when I was in my 40s. I think it was sort of biological (last hoorah kind of stuff). Not that I don't feel certain things now, but it is not as intense. I was very depressed for a few years and ended up drinking too much. I wish I had found other focus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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OP: Have you found ways to bring back intimacy? I'm not talking about those early honeymoon feelings. I mean the way you felt when you were still in love, maybe a few years after marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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this is me, except 2 kids and married 12. i think about it all the time. but until an extramarital partner presents himself, i don't see a reason to rock the boat. i'm not actively seeking. who do you think you'll have sex with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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OP: I don't have anything in mind. I just feel like calling a rose a rose and being true to how I feel. And to be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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I have considered it and went on AM. In the end I just felt like it was a big potlatch for using each other. It just wasn't worth it, I felt like they would take anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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OP: Have you found ways to bring back intimacy? I'm not talking about those early honeymoon feelings. I mean the way you felt when you were still in love, maybe a few years after marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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It sounds like you're looking for permission to do this and want to hear stories of it working out. But everyone is telling you not to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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OP: I should mention that the reason I'm having these thoughts is that he wants to have sex. And I do, but not with him. I've lost the feelings I once had for him, mostly because of how he has taken me for granted, been dismissive of my opinions, and not appreciated all that I do for the family. He's not mean or abusive, but I've just lost any feelings for him in that way. Yet he's a wonderful life partner and father. And we have fun together too. It's very hard to explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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^^ I feel like I'm running out of excuses and I should just tell him what's going on in my mind. We have gone to couples therapy in the past, and it wasn't helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Wdyt? Met a guy online who seems great so far. Divorced with 2 young dc. In his profile he said he wants to marry again and that his new dw will be a parent not a friend to his dc. I had the world's worst stepmother and feel pretty informed on how not to be. I'm very close with my mom and saw what she went through too re the stepmother. But I'm childless so am looking for your thoughts and advice if this thing escalates further. We're both early 40's. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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I think you play it by ear. But he sounds a bit like a dictator, although maybe that's just how you re-worded it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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It's my rewording. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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So, does that mean he wants a babysitter/housekeeper? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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His wife may try to cruxify you. She may succeed. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^oops, ex-wife, the real mother of the child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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Why do you say that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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Wtf. Moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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I think you are overanalyzing. 1) what does "met" mean? In person? Because why are you still mining data from his profile? You might never hear from this dude again. Online dating bites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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Idk why I thought it was relevant to say where I found him, guess it isn't. I think people reveal more than they intend to when they write -- plus his profile was pretty informative. I don't have casual sex so things are going to escalate sooner than later, if they are, which it seems like they will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Take things slowly and don't rush it. It's one thing to get along well with him and even marry him, it's an entirely different matter to take on his kids and their mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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He wants someone to care and be present for his kids as much as he is? It's good that he puts that out there, and it's great he knows what he wants. Not for me, but his expectations are made clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Shoshanna Lonstein got melons 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Tory Burch is so pretty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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Yuck. Too thin too blonde. She's getting old and needs some meat on her bones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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sure does. years ago i was a salesgirl at a boutique she shopped at when she was an UES high schooler. one time she tried on a dress, came out of the fitting room and all i thought was: her cleavage looks like my ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Crazy idea? Sahm with JD who hasn't worked in 15 years. I live near the trader joe's headquarters in CA. I want to get a job in the store so that I can eventually work in the corporate office. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Sounds like a a plan, but why are you selling yourself short? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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I tried getting regular jobs two years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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I just don't think that a check-out job or greeter or stock person is the right position for you. If I was the employer, I'd at least put you in an admin position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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Thanks! But it's rough out there when you haven't worked in ages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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Keep it in perspective, even when I was a recent college graduate, employers took that into account. When I was about to graduate art school, Kinkos hired me as a manager and bookkeeper. I know that's laughable to some people, but it really was a back office job compared to the machine operators and cashiers. I was able to move up (not at Kinkos, but at other places) because of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Not crazy [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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Zzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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What [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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I just freaked out a little, bc you are me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Lol. Sorry. I'm starting to panic. Like what the hell am I going to do with myself when my kids are in college and high school in 5 years?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] So Anderson announced today that they do not have any openings for 7th grade!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.28.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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How can that be? [ Reply | More ]
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Did sixth acceptances go out? Usually more in 7th. Wonder if that just means kids didn't get into Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
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Perish the thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
[ - ] New game! What's the weirdest name in your family? Current or ancestor? 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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(Include cousins, etc- doesn't have to be direct lineage or immediate family) [ Reply | More ]
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I had a cousin named America and a great-grandmother named Verdie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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Hilarious. No really. He went by Hillary. Would have been in his late 80s now. [ Reply | More ]
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Wait...his parents names him Hilarious? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. From country where many names end in ius. Wait--he may have been Hilarius. Either way, it's hilarious! [ Reply | More ]
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It is hilarious. I hope he had a good sense of humor :) [ Reply | More ]
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Gennifa [ Reply | More ]
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That is how my Grandmother pronounced Jennifer. God love her. [ Reply | More ]
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boston? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep! [ Reply | More ]
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Rowan Luxe. [ Reply | More ]
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Camden [ Reply | More ]
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That's not that weird [ Reply | More ]
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If you're from NJ it is. Camden is a hell hole. [ Reply | More ]
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It wasn't always a hell hole and Camden is of Scottish heritage. [ Reply | More ]
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Odin [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing weird. Just striver WT or boring [ Reply | More ]
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Shady [ Reply | More ]
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Slim? [ Reply | More ]
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Jessa Hanna Bluebell Poem [ Reply | More ]
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FTW [ Reply | More ]
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Did she go by Jessa? [ Reply | More ]
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It's from the TV show Girls. [ Reply | More ]
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Girls fan? [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone in the old days had pretty common names for their time. My sister named her daughters Faith, Hope and Charity. [ Reply | More ]
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A friend' grandmother was one of 3 girls, Faith, Hope & Sheila! [ Reply | More ]
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That's funny. Sheila. [ Reply | More ]
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An with one n [ Reply | More ]
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Boat [ Reply | More ]
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I have a cousin named Lake. Maybe they could meet. [ Reply | More ]
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Aloysius. As a middle name. My brother is first name, middle name, Aloysius, last name the 4th. Ugh! [ Reply | More ]
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Love that name [ Reply | More ]
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Normal. [ Reply | More ]
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Shushan [ Reply | More ]
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Purim? [ Reply | More ]
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Louina [ Reply | More ]
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Suzin [ Reply | More ]
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Keturah (my great grandmother) [ Reply | More ]
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Jayden [ Reply | More ]
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Cressida- current [ Reply | More ]
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Manon [ Reply | More ]
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Manon [ Reply | More ]
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Throgmoreton apast [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry-past and his first name was Hazelwood. [ Reply | More ]
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Zephyrine -- current [ Reply | More ]
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Not a one. Catholic, maybe that's why. All saints names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of a place in NYC that I can bring my young teen to shop for April Fools Day props? Looking for hand buzzers, garlic gum, you know the drill. Would like to avoid Sex Shops. Maybe a Unicorn, but lmk if it exists. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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You need a Spencer's. Maybe Ricky's? [ Reply | More ]
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Paper House Party Store or whatever it's called now. Jack's might have stuff. Agree with ricky's too, but it might be located close to the sex area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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Party city [ Reply | More ]
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Halloween Adventure on 4th Avenue between 11th and 12th Streets, Abracadabra, maybe on 18th or 20th? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I terrible for paying for grocery bags every time I go to the grocery store? I tried doing the canvas or plastic coated bags,, but they just gross me out after awhile or I forget them 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:47 AM Flag
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This is a completely modern and first world problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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It's an easy way to help the world a tiny bit. I haven't used a bag in four years. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:51 AM Flag
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I never recycle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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You're a terrible person. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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i do it on principle. also, i burn my trash. [ Reply | More ]
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Ditto. My footprint is small. That's plenty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Retard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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The plastic ones are so annoying to carry, that is always my incentive for bringing my own. I hate carrying paper bags too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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On a related note: what, if not plastic supermarket bags do you use to line your garbage can? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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I buy Glad tall Kitchen Garbage bags [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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Well, than that's just as bad as getting plastic bags from the supermarket. [ Reply | More ]
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I kind of feel like I'm recycling if I reuse plastic supermarket bags as garbage can bags. [ Reply | More ]
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On a related note: what, if not plastic supermarket bags do you use to line your garbage can? [ Reply | More ]
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Not everyone can be smart [ Reply | More ]
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I don't recycle and I always get plastic bags. The problem is that it is a hassle. [ Reply | More ]
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Ewwww. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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I brought my own bags for about a decade, before they started charging for bags. Recently switched back to paying for paper bags (plastic bags banned where I live) and I am so much happier. Use the extra bags to hold the week's recycling before garbage day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
[ - ] So, what book can I read that will teach me to value DH as a human being instead of as a human ATM machine? I feel like I need a UB un-brainwashing. :( 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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There is some great literature out there. Start with the Greeks and move forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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LMAO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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The Four Agreements. Short and to the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:52 AM Flag
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dh? you mean male spousal unit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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That's so dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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You can't brainwash yourself to love someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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His number? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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He's too good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Try: "Getting the Love You Want" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] A wealthy friend of mine no longer needs her expensive baby gear. I asked if another friend of mine can have it and she said sure. When I asked this other friend (the 2 don't know each other) if she wanted it, she said her family offered to buy these items but she will take it to keep at grandparents where she hardly ever visits. My wealthy friend just dropped of the items. I could easily sell this for 1+K. Is it horrible if I do that? We need the $$ more than my friend needs these items at the grandparents house. 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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Yes, that is terrible and dishonest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:49 AM Flag
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Dishonest toward whom? What if I tell my wealthy friend that I sold it and offer her the $$ and keep % as commission? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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That's just dumb. Find another way to make money of you are that broke. [ Reply | More ]
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I not that broke. What if you offered 1K to a friend and she said "well I don't really need it but I will take it just incase" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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Not a good comparison. [ Reply | More ]
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How so? It's exactly the case. These items will take me a day to sell for 1k. She clearly told me she wants all new and will take just in case to use at grandparents. Do you really need a 1k stroller sitting there just in case? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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Sure, why not. You brokered this deal and now that you got your greedy hands on the goods, you want it for yourself. It was not given to you for the purpose of selling. It was given to you to pass on to your friend, whether you feel she needs it or not. [ Reply | More ]
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You know, I will just tell me wealthy friend that this person doesn't really need the stuff because that's what it really comes down to. [ Reply | More ]
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Klassy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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Karma's a bitch... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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Karma? How so? I was trying to fo something nice but found out she basically doesn't need this stuff. She will use it 2x and then will sl herself for 1K. What am I missing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:52 AM Flag
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Wow. Why so defensive. It you feel good being underhanded, then go right ahead. And karma will get you in the end. [ Reply | More ]
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My other friend clearly doesn't need the items. The two friends don't know each other. I honestly don't understand why she should just take it if she doesn't need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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You sound bitter and greedy. Gross. [ Reply | More ]
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I had good intensions but I find my friend's response very off-putting. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think it's off putting at all. Lots of people keep extras at the grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, a 1k stroller, a $500 high hair, a 3k crib etc etc really should be used 2x a year at grandparents. Makes sense. I listed the items to to my friend and she knows how expensive these are. [ Reply | More ]
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The cost of these items shouldn't factor in. Your greed is getting the best of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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I will sell. Will give my pregnant friend $500 to use on new stuff she wants and will give the rest back to my wealthy friend. It's insane to just dump this at grandparents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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I'm surprised you have friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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How about donating the items to a mom who really needs them? I think Seinfeld's wife runs a non profit that does that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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I would much prefer to do that. Do you know the name if this charity? [ Reply | More ]
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http://www.babybuggy.org/how-to-help/give-gear/ Only for NY & LA though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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Great. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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Thing is, it's unlikely that people will buy used cribs/car seats. Safety wise it freaks people out. [ Reply | More ]
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You can't. [ Reply | More ]
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You're a busy body. And you court drama. NMKD. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I was trying to do something nice. They where going to throw out the stuff so I said I have a friend who could use it. I feel these items are way to expensive for just in case... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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It's not what you feel. Do the right thing and pass them along like you agreed to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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I didn't agree to anything. My wealthy friend dropped if the items before I even had a chance to ask the other friend. When I did ask I got "I was going to buy all new but maybe I could use at grandparents". I don't think she appreciates or needs this stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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OP. No one here is supporting you. Go on and live your greedy, delusional life. You sounds like a terrible person. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Will do [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you this broke? Do you work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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Yes. I am not broke but 1k is a lot of $$ for us [ Reply | More ]
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Gross [ Reply | More ]
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Selling the items is against the principle of what's right and the goodness of personal character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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OP is obviously lacking in character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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I don't really care if you think I am classy or lack in character. If the friend doesn't need it why give it to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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She wants an extra set for her parents house. It's a convenience factor. Whether you think it's useful it not the point. It's not yours to sell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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She has visited her parents once in 2 years. The is 7 mo pg and they don't even know about it yet. I am not giving it in this scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:18 AM Flag
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then why did you come here to ask? here's a q: would you be embarrassed if your friends ever meet or if rich friend found out you sold rather than give away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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No I will tell the wealthy friend. She would be prefer it went to my kids than a stranger she doesn't know who doesn't need the items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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It doesn't matter if you need the $, this clothes do not belong to you, you have not right to sell stuff that isn't yours. How dumb are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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My friend would have given it to me if I said I will take it and sell it. I wanted to do something nice but I would never offer such expensive things for grandparents 2x a year. It's ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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You are ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Maybe you are too wealthy to get it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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So tell both your friends that you have decided to sell the items instead. Sound better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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I only owe an explanation to the owner of the items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Then you should have asked her to GIVE THEM TO YOU, but you did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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you would suck if you did that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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ASK if you can have it back in a year to pass on to another friend (white lie). THEN you can sell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Why? I said: " my friend has X, Y. Z all in very good condition" she replied she wants all new but will take it to keep at grandparents just in case. I can easily say my friend gave it to someone who actually needed it. The friend who gave it would be happy if I sold it and used $$ for my dcs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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then do that if you won't feel guilty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Yes. This is called stealing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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From whom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Really? You are stealing from the friend who was giving the stuff to the other friend who needed it. Unless you specifically asked her if it was okay to sell the items and pocket the proceeds from her items, it's stealing. If she says sure sell my stuff and keep the money, then you're good. If not, then you are stealing from her. I'm not sure how you don't see that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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I have no problems telling the friend who gave the stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Please don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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I see no problem with your plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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Yes. Horrible. Tell the friend the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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I have no problem telling my friend who gave the items the truth. She preferred I sold the items and used $$ for my kids. I feel my other friend is being ungrateful and greedy to take stuff she doesn't really need [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
[ - ] OK - on the UB scale. We were talking about this. Someone knows someone whose kid got into an Ivy. She has the insert from the school commencement framed and displayed on a side wall in the bathroom, where you are pretty much forced to look at it and see where all the kids went to college, and take particular note of hers. I'm not sure where I come down on this. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:39 AM Flag
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On one hand it's her house. On the other hand it's in the bathroom (not exactly the trophy room)..... Irony? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:41 AM Flag
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Eww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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I'm not high, but I feel high now... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:41 AM Flag
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It is in the bathroom. It is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:43 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:45 AM Flag
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That's really sad. How insecure do you have to be to do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:43 AM Flag
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How insecure do you have to be to be offended by this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:45 AM Flag
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I'm not offended. It just seems sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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My mother has my Harvard acceptance letter framed. I was the first person in my family to go to a Top 20 college, much less an Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:43 AM Flag
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^And that's in our hallway. Not even the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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Sweet, but still pretentious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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Awful. Good god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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I know. But sweet she was so proud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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Take the diploma and wipe my ass with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:43 AM Flag
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So there a bunch of framed announcements in the bathroom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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I guess it's a scrapbook of sorts..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:49 AM Flag
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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we have both of my kids' college acceptance letters framed in our bedroom. We need validation for all the work we put in raising those bastards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:54 AM Flag
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Gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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I find it hilarious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] I've lost 12lbs since jan 15 doing a low carb diet with 1-2 cheat meals per week. The strangest thing happened which I don't understand. I was steadily losing 1-2.5lbs per week. Then I didn't lose anything the 1st 2 weeks of March, then had a gain of 2.5lbs last week. My son was sick in the hospital so not sure if that caused the gain. Then today I weighed in and lost 6lbs in 9 days. I'm very pleased but also confused since I really haven't done much different. I still need to lose another 25 lbs, but scared I won't be able to handle all the highs and lows of the weight loss plateaus. Anyone btdt and was successful for the long haul? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:33 AM Flag
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Very normal - but do you work out at all? Water weight is mainly what you gained and lost - you didn't lost 9 pounds of fat in 6 days. You really should be eating a lot of protein and fats, low carb (but still keep some quinoa, sweet potatoes, chia seeds, oats in there for bulk and energy) keep at it - always have a cheat or treat day and remember to start fresh the next day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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I disagree - potatoes, oats unnecessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
[ - ] If you're white, here's a question: all things being equal- wealth, fluency, confidence, good social skills-- would you accept an Indian American over an asian American? In my affulent town, I feel indian American moms don't have trouble fitting in socially here compared to asian American moms, who still have friends but occasionally appear to be left out at times. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:32 AM Flag
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I am friends with both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:34 AM Flag
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Native American...always. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:35 AM Flag
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I befriend the person not the ethnicity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:36 AM Flag
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Both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:37 AM Flag
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I would accept an Aborigine American. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:38 AM Flag
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Can I answer if I'm half white? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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I am Indian. I recently joined a mom's clubs in my town. I found out that most of them are white. One of the mom kept on asking me on my first meeting - are you sure you want to join the group? I am not sure if they were comfortable with my presence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:43 AM Flag
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Op: that was ignorant of the mom who asked that question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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ITA. Like the RM who post all the Asian Hate on UB today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:45 AM Flag
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Op: where are the posts? Curious to see them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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On the most popular.... there also asian comments all over the place.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:49 AM Flag
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How bizarre. She sounds like a weirdo. Avoid her at future meetups - I doubt the others are so backwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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Why are you parsing it out like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:52 AM Flag
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I actually thought it was the other way around; really depends in the individual though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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Such an odd and uncomfortable question for a white person. Not saying you shoudn't ask! I like to think I would accept anyone I shared some things with - sense of humor, reading interests, values, etc. I have South Asian and Asian friends, but mostly white friends. Hmmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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None of the above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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What an absurd question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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It would depend entirely on which person is friendlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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All things being equal, I would accept such individuals equally. Do people really think like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Everything else equal? Therefore stereotypes don't matter, and it's just how someone looks. Therefore I would treat each the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Employment lawyers or HR Professionals: I will be resigning shortly, if my company asks me to sign a release should I ask for some consideration or severance? I don't want to waive rights without any consideration 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:31 AM Flag
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What's your leverage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:34 AM Flag
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What's the company's leverage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:37 AM Flag
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I can't really think of one. The only thing they could really hold over me is a reference but I think they only give dates of employment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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My leverage is if they want me to sign the release. Why should I waive a right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:45 AM Flag
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No need to. It goes with some sort of settlement like severance as you said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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OP: thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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Just say no. Don't ask for anything in return. Maybe they'll offer something. Maybe they won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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Just say you make it a practice to have your lawyer review anything before you sign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Moving to NY from SF for DH's job. HHI $300k, one 10 month old. No debt. We pay $4k for a 1000 sf 2bd/2ba in a nice nbhd. Where could we move for something similar in Manhattan? Midtown? Yorkville? Also should we keep our car, and what would it cost to garage it? TIA! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:28 AM Flag
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Yorkville. $500/mo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:30 AM Flag
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Get rid of the car, I prefer Yorkville to midtown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:32 AM Flag
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Anywhere from $350 - $600 per month for garage (depending upon size of car and location). Most are in larger apartment buildings. Unlike S.F., they are everywhere. Easier to park in Manhattan than SF in my opinion (I've lived in both cities). Easiest and cheapest not to have a car but depends if you'll be leaving the city on weekends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:33 AM Flag
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Search on streeteasy using Manhattan and $5K. Garages are $600/mo. You can find outdoor parking lots on the far west side for a lot less, but that's very inconvenient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:33 AM Flag
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^pay attention to school zones if you are going public. Insideschools.org is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:40 AM Flag
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Our HHI has been around $1m for almost 10 yrs- we have never owned a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:37 AM Flag
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How is that relevant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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FiDi. No car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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Find an apt. And then look for parking around your neighborhood. It does not have to be in your building. You get a certain percentage rebate from the city on your monthly garage rate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Once you get close on a few places, post here. Daytime crowd. It can really suck to be in a nabe that's not a fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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We kept our car when we moved back to NY and we get a lot of use out of it. It's definitely an unnecessary expense, buy there's so much within driving distance that's just not in the mindset of most ny-ers to do as a day trip, but coming from sf, you would consider a non-issue (going to bear mountain for the day, stuff like that). We park pretty far to save money (we pay $350 instead of $650/mth) so one of us goes to get the car whole the other gets db ready. I say keep it at first, get rid of it if cost exceeds value of use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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why would you want to keep the car? sell it in SF. You're in luck now that NY now has cheaper housing than SF; we went the other direction and had sticker shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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