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[ - ] A family member in her 60s is very very thin. Has always been a meticulous healthy eater but it seems extreme lately. Also she walks 5 miles a day, every day. It's to the point where she doesn't look particularly good. I'd say probably about 5'5" and maybe 110. I feel like a 22 year old can pull off that weight but on a woman over 50 it just looks not right. Say something? Let it go? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Tell her she looks like shit and see how it goes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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If she has a problem with eating your comments will just feed the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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Hush. Presumably she has a doctor she sees occasionally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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You just described my mom. You are right. Anorexia only works well for those under 30. You do not however need to say anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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My 63 yo is 5'7" and at *least* 320 (probably much more). Better your family member's way. Actually, fil is 5"8 and 130 or so (pretty skinny for a man, but solid muscle) and looks totally fine. Runs five miles a day rain, sleet, snow, whatever and has since he was 30. Odd couple, for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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We went through this. My mother had breast cancer and she was already very slim. Her quack small-town general practitioner somehow got it in her head that if she lost weight, it would help her beat the cancer. She basically became anorexic, she went from 120lbs at 5'8 to 104. It was such an ordeal. She also put my father on a crazy diet where he is allowed no snacks and whenever he comes to visit us he always binge eats because she won't let him have any food in the house. She's gotten a LITTLE better (and thankfully, beat the cancer with a double mastectomy) but the whole thing sucked. I don't have any advice, just feel for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Rachel Bilson makes dinnerware. Weird. Not even anything different. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They need something in clearance. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody know a good therapist for a child who was denied his afternoon goldfish? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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hee hee. I haven't been on UB in years and years- I've missed you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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Dr. Gelbfisch? Dr. Karp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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oh good, I was worried that there wouldn't be a bully on UB today. But like the sun rises in the East, here one is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Georgia, Harper, Lilian, Sybille, Julianne. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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What is that fourth one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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Americans would spell it "Sybil". I'm half French, so would spell it the French way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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i love most of those although lilian and harper are a bit played. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Julianne. I dislike all the others, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Georgia on my mind. Harper Valley PTA. Lilli from the Munsters. Sybil with all personalities. Julianne is left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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No it's Sybille. That's a totally different name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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Americans would spell it "Sybil". I'm half French, so would spell it the French way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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My dd is Harper, so that's my vote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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How do you pronounce Sybille? Like Sybil? I like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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yes, pronounced the same way in English. In French, the pronunciation is different without the "le", so it's important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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Sybille is kind of weird. The rest are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Wagner mom's on? What's the cut off for honors math? Can it be a lower 4, say 4.2? Or does it have to be higher? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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It depends on the applicant pool. One honors math class is for band students. There are two other classrooms for honors math non band. Each class has approx 33 students. So if non band you have to be in the top 66 scores. KWIM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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Do you know what the cut off was last year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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The only way I would know that is to have dc ask every honor student their score and trust they told the truth. The administration doesn't post this information anywhere. I do know two students left and they were replaced immediately [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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Wait, why is there a Math class that is only for band kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Wagner has a huge band program. They have band instead of other electives. Wagner uses the house system where a class travels together all day. That's why one section if honors math is for students in band house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know what the 5th grade state test cutoff scores are to qualify to take the Hunter Test? Or how to figure it out? TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Last year cut off scores are on their website. I would assume that the scores would be a little higher this year since overall the scores were a little higher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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Were ELA scores higher overall this year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Scores in general were higher this year, I don't know specifics per grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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I read that they were somewhere but I don't remember where. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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They have not released yet. You can find last years as a guide if you want but means nothing really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
[ - ] How many after school activities do you think a kindergarten boy should have? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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1-2 per week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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How many things does he want to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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No more than 2. He needs lots of free play time too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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None in my house. No more than two for everyone else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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There's really no need for any. Having said that mine will probably do 2-3 but only because they are built into the school's aftercare program, I don't have to take him anywhere for them, the cost difference is minimal, and he enjoyed them last year in Jr. K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Depends on the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I love that link someone provided to all the test scores by schools. Now I can see that at Harlem Success Academy 1, 2, and 3 (some of their first schools) 21% - 25% of the 3rd graders who took the ELA exam in 2012 disappeared by 5th grade! And to be fair, I compared that number with the 3rd graders at Icahn Charter Schools 1, 2, and 3 in 2012 and they had the same or MORE students taking the test in 5th grade 2 years later. It is the mystery of the disappearing Success Academy students. Where do they go? No one knows. http://www.nycschoolsblog.com/stateresults/index.aspx 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Are you saying you can tell which students left? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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I am saying that people who claim that other charter schools have the attrition rate that Success Academy does are not giving the full picture. Here's another school in the same district - Harlem Link Charter School. They lost 4 kids, or 9% from 3rd to 5th grade, less than HALF the number that SA lost. Hmmmm.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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you don't know that they are the same kids or new ones who entered in 4th or 5th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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OP: PS -- this does not even include the student who left between K and 3rd grade! I can only imagine how many students with "issues" were encouraged to leave before even taking the 3rd grade exam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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get a life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:47 PM Flag
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don't they start middle school in 5th grade in a different location? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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OP: And wow, Harlem Day Charter School, in the SAME district as HSA 3, actually GAINED a student between 3rd and 5th grade. At HSA 3, 103 students took the 5th grade test, and 130 students had taken the 3rd grade test 2 years earlier! WOW, 27 students just "disappeared". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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there are so many more factors here. you are assuming a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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maybe they didn't like the high expectations and having to work hard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate when DH comes home in a pissy mood and takes it out on all of us. He sees 1yo and 3yo for 45-60 min in the evening during the week (that's it). Suck it up and be kind until they go to bed at least! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Don't tell us, tell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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Yup! Call him out now- I did. I told my DH straight out. He stopped. Really. He doesn't know what he's doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Wait a minute is this real? A girl who had sex with my fiancee wants to be part of the wedding party? And people at the wedding will be looking at her standing up there and know she fucked my husband ? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Won't many assume that the husband really wanted to marry her. She was the first choice so since she rejected him he is marrying me. I am the backup plan. That is insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Any girls that fucked my husband should have the decency to stay in the background at the wedding not jump in to the spotlight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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This isn't on her. He is the one who asked her to be part of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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Discuss with fiance, not with us. If you really meant fiancee, then I'd probably chalk it up to youthful exploration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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How about you blame your husband instead of the girl. She didn't fall down on his dick, he consented to sleeping with her. He probably initiated it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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She doesn't want to. The groom wants her to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny employers, do you expect the nanny to plan your child[en]'s meals or just prepare their meals using whatever food you have in your home? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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A little of both, but my nanny is a good cook. She asks us to buy certain things sometimes; sometimes she uses what we have on hand. Always stuff in the freezer to work with (chicken, fish, etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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what is the difference? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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>> OP: The family I am working for have very specific opinions about nutrition and I am more than happy to support them in preparing healthy meals for their children. They have asked me to plan the children's meals but have been critical about my choices. I have tried to plan meals that have protein, veggies, fruits and whole grains and are low in fat and sugar. I don't have a strong background in nutrition but think I am on the right track. I am up for my one year review and think this would be an ideal time to bring up my concern that I think it best that they plan the meals for the week and I will shop for the food and prepare the food, no problem! Am I on the right track? Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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how much do you get paid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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OP: I'm very happy with my compensation package. I don't mind the responsibility of planning the meals. I just think my employers will be happier in the long run if they plan the weekly meals because then it will be exactly what they want for their children. I prepare breakfast, lunch and dinner for the children so meal time is a fairly big part of my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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I wonder because I am curious how much I would pay someone who does something like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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^^ are they so particular that you can't recicle meal plans? Perhaps you can suggest they can work with you on creating a set of meal plan cards and they can choose the combo of meals every week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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OP: Great idea! I don't want to make their lives any more complicated or stress them out, so this is a great long term solution. I think your idea shows I'm completely on board with their food preferences for their children but need guidance on how to make that happen. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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no problem. you sound great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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np-i used to do this and made 900 on the books for 50 hr weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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I plan and prepare the meals most of the time. Nanny just needs to reheat. For lunches it's simple stuff like sandwiches and fruit. Thankfully I have a nanny who respects that I am the parent and am the one who decides what my kids eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! In my conversation with my employers I want to convey that I am 100% supportive of their food choices for their children. Not sure how to to that and not seem that I want to slack on my job requirements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm diehard-life long New Yorker but my son did mediocre on the tests and rocking a great middle school isn't going to happen. There is no way we can swing private school. I have to admit I'd welcome cutting and running- we could get a great price for our apt. I'd kinda love to have a good excuse to leave. I feel like a failure that we can't send him to private. I'm torn. I guess we'll wait and see. Sigh... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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Wait & see. We will be in the same boat in 2 years. If my ds doesn't get into a good ms, we are moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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What's your zoned middle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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104 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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some schools don't only use test scores for admission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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What district? What are his scores? Did he have a bad day or just isn't academic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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District 2, ELA 2.36 Math 3.48 He doesn't love school- he's good and smart but doesn't fit into a little public school box. He's a private school kid through and through. Grr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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My feeling exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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If that is the case (and as a private school mom I have to say you're coming across as terribly pretentious with that statement) a private school will be willing to offer him a scholarship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] On a business trip and for the first time ever, sat and had a glass of wine by myself outside in the sunshine. I am very proud of myself 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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for what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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For sitting by myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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oh goodness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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If you have an iPhone or blackberry through work (paid for by your employer), do you make personal phone calls or text from it? Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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Sorry meant to be its own post :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:26 PM Flag
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You are on a business trip the Thursday night before labor day weekend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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Not op, but why is this weird to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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because every single person I know is not in the office. What kind of business is getting done now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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Just general meetings for projects and stuff. It's only Monday that is off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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Are you in a restaurant alone? When you have kids, a glass of wine alone in a restaurant is one of the best things ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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Enjoy it :) Now make this a habit to enjoy your own company. It is quite liberating! - Mom who traveled around the entire United States on a roadtrip by herself and LOVED IT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel so sorry for that mom whose son was disruptive and disrespectful. Som was expelled from success academy and is back in the crappy zoned public school. We need to have alternatives for disruptive kids 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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My daughter loves Success academy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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But it is geared to girls and metrosexual boys, basically geared to obedient kids not rebels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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thank god! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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I am ok with Success Academy expelling troublemakers like her son butbshe should have alternatives for him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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so does my son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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What kind of alternatives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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how about, learning to obey teachers and figures of authority when you are a child? son belongs in the crappy public school with all the other crappy disruptive kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Public school parents: have you gotten your kid's class assignment? My child hasn't received hers. PS 166. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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PS 166 only sends it out for K. You know your class assignment from the report card after that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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It just had a letter and not a classroom number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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look at your e-mail box [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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Nope 7th grade don't care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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What school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Its on ARIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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Not for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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Ours is not coming until Wednesday. I think that they got sick of people complaining and trying to make changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
[ - ] When I picked my 3 yo DS up from daycare today, he was crying and saying that his tummy was grumbling. When I asked why he was so hungry, he said his teachers threw away his snack when he was being bad. Shocked, I went back to the school to verify this actually happened, and the co-teachers told me that the head teacher had, indeed, thrown out his snack because he was misbehaving. I am beyond livid. He is being pulled out of there tomorrow morning. Am I wrong in thinking this? This just seems vile. What would you do? 125 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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Pull the kid out. You're doing the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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I would quit paying...get some free childcare...tell them you get paid Friday, blah blah blah. Then when they won't take your excuses anymore tell them you are pulling him out because you found out that he is deprived of snacks and his food and water are being thrown out and you intend to call child services. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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If this is for real, I would complain to the department of education in NYC. Penalizing a child by taking away food is problematic. It could cost the preschool teacher his/her license and get the preschool in trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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OP: I actually live in FL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Why didn't you say that to begin with? Florida is...well...Florida. We should be grateful they didn't sell him to child traffickers or make him into stew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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np: Fuck off. Seriously. You should ignorant and envious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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NP She should ignorant and envious? What on earth does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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** Sound [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:28 PM Flag
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I'm not envious. My kid had his snack today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Has he admitted that he misbehaved? Because the lesson you're teaching him is that, when he's upset, he doesn't have to go back. Talk to the head teacher about this punishment but don't let him off the hook so easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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He's 3... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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There's no consequence for bad behavior at 3? Good luck when he's 15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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You never, ever punish with food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Never heard of bed with no dessert, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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Desert is a treat. That is different than a meal or a snack (and sure Americans are fat cause they snack and don't need to blah blah) he kid was hungry and is used to a snack, denying it is a terrible punishment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:28 PM Flag
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Desert is not a treat. It's a barren, hot area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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This is not an absolute. We have been going to get ice cream, my child has misbehaved and so now we're no longer going for ice cream. Simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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No one is saying no consequences. Denying snack is not an appropriate consequence at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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He's three, FFS. Taking away snack as a punishment = shitty teachers, shitty school. Completely unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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^I'd also complain somewhere "official" - this is so unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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OP: Where should I go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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NP: you will get no where with this complaint. Just write a bad review on yelp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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Yelp? Isn't that for restaurants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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She can review the lack of snack on Yelp. Snack: invisible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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Any physical place of business is fair game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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FGS - look up on the internet who the education licensing authorities in FL are - that is where you should complain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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This. They obviously don't know what they're doing. If they make this bad judgement call, who knows what else is going on. Is there a Bright Horizons in your area? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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Wrong. The lesson is that when he's mistreated, he doesn't have to go back. And that's a critical lifelong lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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I would keep him there. Kids need to learn consequences for mis behaviour [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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You NEVER punish a child by taking away food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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What if said child is hurling said food at his teacher and classmates? Is it OK to deprive him of his God-given right to munch on goldfish then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:28 PM Flag
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There are better ways to handle it at 3 than to let him be hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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Hungry? Jeez, this is snack, not a full meal. This kid is a drama queen already and Mom is supporting it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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Where do you think he learned to be a drama queen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:47 PM Flag
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True [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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Please. If it was your kid being punished like this, you'd be mad too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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I would be mad at my kid for misbehaving! A concept that seems completely foreign to the OP and most ORs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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I agree. Now we know why so many kids are beasts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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Do you even remember 3? Do you know that they barely are potty trained at that age? And some aren't? That they still can't pronounce all the sounds and words? They take naps. They like crackers. They point at airplanes still. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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Oh, they like crackers! Let's not take away something they like, because they still point at airplanes. I'm the mother of a teen and you are in for a rough ride, lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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Maybe if you were a better parent during the formative years, your teen wouldn't be such a PITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Not me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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ITA but the head teacher still needs to be told that restricting food is not an appropriate punishment. If she disagrees then I would pull the child out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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I agree but sounds like this school does not have any idea of child development or appropriate consequences for a 3 yr old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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That seems really crazy. I almost can't believe it happened. I mean even for their own sake, like being hungry is going to help the situation with a misbehaving 3yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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Pull him out. Teachers should know better how to discipline a 3 yo. They are supposed to be experts at caring for children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Did you ask HOW he was misbehaving? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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They said he was rocking his chair at the table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Sounds unsafe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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So when he got out of timeout, he should have gotten his snack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:28 PM Flag
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there should not be time outs in daycare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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There should be no discipline in a daycare at all. Kids should do whatever they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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It's called TEACHING not discipline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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It is, but this is not how you teach 3 yos. You teach by repetition of the rules and redirection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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is he autistic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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OP: No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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awww, I was kidding, op! because you said "rocking". I'm totally on your side! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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Autism jokes? Not so funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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It really does not matter how he misbehaved. There is plenty of appropriate discipline for a 3 YO and a prof preschool teacher should know all of them. Taking away a snack that the parent had included as a part of his daily meal to keep him fed on a regular school day is not one of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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This is a snack, not lunch. His stomach grumbles if he misses his snack? How huge is this kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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50 lbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Whoa, that is kind of big. Then again, my kid is really thin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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OP: That wasn't me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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OP: He's 32 lbs and some change. Not that it matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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That's not the point. You never punish by withholding food, bathroom availability or sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Not true. Not getting a snack isn't abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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It is, actually. Withholding food from children as a means of punishment is abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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Aw Jeez, this is hopeless. Pull him out of the place. Take care of him yourself. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Maybe it is not abuse - but it is totally unprofessional for a teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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Why hasn't OP told us what he did wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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OP: He was rocking his chair at the table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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They probably feared he'd fall backwards and hit his head hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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Then they should ask him to stop. If he doesn't stop take the chair away. But taking away his snack doesn't seem to have any correlation with the behavior in question and isn't acceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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You're livid over a snack. How do you think you'd react to a head injury? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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So he should have been offered his snack when he was done with time out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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Did he faint? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Pull out. I do not believe food should be used as a punishment. Treats fine but not a regular snack. That is mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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Never reward or punish with food. Causes lifelong food issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Yes, he's already manorexic. He's been asking about thinspiration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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Be honest, was this a snack or a treat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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... because if it was a treat I can see why a teacher may not give it if the child is misbehaving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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Treat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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(if this is OP) then the teacher was correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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OP: That wasn't me. Someone is posting as me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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OP: This was a snack. It was the snack they get every afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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OP: It explicitly states in their handbook that they will never punish with food, sleep, or bathroom privileges. It is also Florida law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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They have laws in Florida? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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Talk to the director [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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They have laws in Florida? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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So is this a problem with the daycare or with a particular teacher? Is it a home daycare? If it's a home daycare, I would say you're getting what you pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Oh for goodness sake calm the fuck down. One day without snack won't kill him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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OP: This represents a trend in inappropriate punishment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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Oy, pull him out. They'll probably sing and dance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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But his widdle stomach was gwumbling! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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That is not the point. I would not want my child at a daycare where they behaved like this (and t seems like it is against their rules and the law). No decent childcare provider punishes in this way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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Exactly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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+1 Something tells me they'll be fine if she pulls him out of the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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What did he do wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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She posted above. He was rocking in his chair. They were probably worried he'd fall and have a head injury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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They told us he was rocking his chair at the table, which yes, I agree he should have gone to timeout. But he should have had an opportunity to have his snack with everyone else when he got back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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What if snack time is over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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I certainly hope they didn't keep him in timeout for 15 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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Maybe get him into therapy. He'll need professional help to recover from this trauma. He'll probably weep whenever he walks in the snack aisle of a supermarket and sees the goldfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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You're insane if you think I'm mad because this is a one-time thing. This is obviously how they're comfortable punishing 3 year olds. I am not comfortable with them withholding things like this from him. He's 3, FFS. It is also in their handbook (and Florida law) that daycare facilities cannot punish by withholding food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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They don't mean one snack when a DC is misbehaving DURING snack time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Important question - could you be more annoying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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Please. He refused to sit properly at the table after he was told to stop rocking his chair backwards. It was disruptive and dangerous. Snack time is OVER u til he can learn to sit down and eat. A thousand moms would have done the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Yep. I certainly would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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I'm a parent to a 2 yo. I don't discipline with food since I know that hunger is most likely the source of the bad behavior. But at daycare, they are trained professionals who should know to redirect and reinforce the rules. Maybe a parent doesn't have that training or maybe lacks the patience to properly deal with defiant behavior, but a paid teacher should be on point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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What? Snack was over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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So are we going to hear you complain if, the next time he rocks in his chair, he falls and hits his head? I mean, where are your priorities? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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I can't believe some of these responses! Who are you people??? "It's only a snack, no big deal." "What did he do to deserve this?" Who cares? He is 3! OP, this is horrible and I would be beyond livid if this happened to my dcs. I'd pull him out of daycare immediately and report this incident to whoever runs the school and the agency that does the daycare licensing in your area. Like someone else said, it makes me wonder what other "punishments" they are using. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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There is some ignorant trash on this site. I want to say, it's PWT, but you never know. I just watched Extreme Parenting, and the more money they have, the crazier they get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Good news source for 11 year old? Want her to read one world event story a day. I think New York Times might be too advanced. Thoughts? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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Eh my ten year old reads the NY Times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Eh ok big trophy for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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Eh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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it might have been too advanced 30 yrs ago, but not anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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this, it's for truly stupid people now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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They write to a fifth grade level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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Please stop. I don't know if you're a WSJ writer just being cheeky, but this is obviously not true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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No, it is true. All newspapers write to a fifth grade level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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Holy fuck. No, they do not. They write accurately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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My 8 year old reads a NYT article every day. I pick the article, or at least say yay or nay, if it is too intense (mass rapes, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Fr an 11 yr old, USA Today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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NYT is fine if you can find an article of interest. You will have to explain some words, but that is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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The NYT is only at an eighth grade reading level so an 11 year old should be able to read it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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Washington Post World section [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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UB obvs. She will learn something useful at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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The world is so terrible that I find I can barely stand to read the paper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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I'll go with the chorus that says the NYT isn't too high a level for an 11-year-old. There are some kid-oriented things out there, but I don't know how you get ahold of them. There is (or was) something called "Time for Kids" that they used to give out in elementary school classrooms, and maybe still do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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If you want world events, then you have to read something like NYT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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What about Discovery News? or National geographic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Don't do it. World events are all depressing and scary. Get her a subscription to a magazine for kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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The Daily Mail [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't get it, it used to be that two 4s on State tests was great but now its not considered good unless its high 4s? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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Two 4s are still good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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why are people saying low 4s aren't good enough for MS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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They are. Don't listen to crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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thank you! I was starting to stress a bit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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Two fours are great. Only one in four d2 got a 4 in ela [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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