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[ - ] Did we discuss this? http://nypost.com/2015/05/28/i-love-my-wife-bonus-deal-with-it/ 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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I saw it yesterday but I was too disinterested to click thru [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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She was discussing how great it was to buy her Tory Burch clothes and Burberry coats....the article made me cringe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Oh well if there's something new to laugh at, I'll go look at it :) tx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Sooooooooo much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel my DH has 2 modes. If all is going well, he's fabulous. If I get upset or complain about anything, he turns into a psycho. Last night, we had friends over till 1am. I got upset b/c DS was hanging out that late. I know today's a Saturday but he is 7! At the end of the night, I complained he should have corralled everyone out earlier and tried to encourage DS to sleep. He called me selfish & mean in front of DC and started a shouting match. He's normally the nicest guy but the least bit of friction turns into WWIII 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Never start an argument or criticize your DH when he's been drinking. You wait until the light of day when everyone is sober to bring something up. First rule of Fight Club, grasshopper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Prob good advice. I never drink more than a glass of wine so I don't always get that. He had a lot to drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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This is wise advice. Also don't bitch at someone who is hungover [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Just curious. Why couldn't you coral people out and tell kid to go to bed? Why is it only your husbands fault? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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I did. But I feel like the prude. DS complains in front of all that he doesn't want to sleep and DH tells me to let it be as everyone is having so much fun. But it's 1am and he's 7. We have a very small apt. It's impossible to get him to sleep without hearing everyone talking loudly just outside the door. I feel like a b---- in front of his friends and DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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wait, what? your guests have to leave for ds to go to bed? why didn't you excuse yourself and put him to bed? but still every once in a while for a child to stay up is fun...as long as not too many things are going on the next day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] It is going to be a long day, In Brooklyn with elderly mother and 5 year old- mother can not walk well. We do not know where to go. Sick of park, DUMBO, etc...was thinking a tour bus, but that could be a night mare. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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How can a 5 yr. old be sick of the park? Go early to a water park, find some shade, eat popsicles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Go to puppetworks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Health insurance question here - I'd really appreciate hearing from parents who've dealt with this! Does your family have insurance that only covers in-network doctors/specialists/hospitals (either through your employer or the exchanges)? I We currently have both in and out, but may have to switch to a plan with only in-network coverage. Even though we've only used doctors in our network (Oxford Freedom) in the last few years, I'm nervous about not having the option to go out of network. If you have a good network, like Oxford or Aetna, are you comfortable having only in-network coverage? I know the what-ifs (what if I or my child has a certain condition or disease and the best doctor doesn't take insurance, etc) but am trying to figure out how much I should worry about that. Thanks! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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There is 0 out if network coverage? Is there an out of pocket max out if network or you just pay 109% of all out of network costs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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^ 100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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This is the way of the future. OON plans are disappearing, reducing coverage or becoming prohibitively expensive. The UHC/Oxford network is fine. That said, an orthopedist we used in the past and were happy with, would be OON for us today. We would have ended up having to use a different doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Obamacare has increased costs and reduced coverage options for group insurance plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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This. It's crazy. I wonder if anyone truly benefited. A friend got Obamacare and couldn't find one OB in NYC who takes it. She will pay for delivery out of picket for OB's portion. Nuts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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then she did not research the plans very well, df and her family have not had problems with doctors and they are actually pretty happy with coverage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Where is df located? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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I tend to believe my friend over anonymous UB posters friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Certainly don't worry about it until it's an issue! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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In network only coverage. Sometimes my doctors send out to a lab outside of network or if you go to ER and the doctor on call is out of network...So you call your insurance and appeal the charge saying it was out of your control and you were not warned. I would never pay additional $$ for out of network coverage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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For individuals buying in NY State, there are literally no plans with OON coverage, so we've had to get used to it. Tip: pick a plan based at least partly on hospital coverage. That way, if the worst happens and someone develops a serious illness, it's more likely that the specialists you need at the hospital will be in network--or the hospital or you can make the case with the insurance coverage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I have in - network only coverage for Blue Cross/Blue Shield. Most doctors in NY take it. We are also covered partially if we're in an area without Blue Cross/Blue Shield coverage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the suburbs: 6.5yo and 4.5yo set up mini golf in the yard while DH and I drink coffee and read the newspaper at the breakfast table. Then the family plays mini golf in the yard. Kids now off doing something else while I UB, DH reads a bit more and we sort out plans for the day. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Sounds nice and relaxing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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That's it. I am need to buy that 2nd home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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I rarely weigh in on the city burb debates - the community into NYC from a bona dice burb would be brutal for two working parents - but it seemed such a clear example of how the yard csn be a great thing that I thought I would post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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my kids are playing wii [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Ha, mine too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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i am out on the front porch steps with computer and puppy on a long leash. He is too small to take for actual walks, I'd step on him because he doesn't know how to go straight. He just ate a green caterpillar. Yum. Weather is beautiful but lots of bugs, puppy is eating the ants, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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This post is making me sad I don't live in the burbs. I've been in the city for 10 years now. There are a lot of advantages but it is not for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age do you think it's ok to turn on tv, plop DCS in front of it and sleep some more? Ours are 5 and 3, they seem to wake up early when we are at the beach (likely b/c they share a room here). Were up just before 6. DH took the first shift supervising, and now he went back to bed. But wondering if in the future we can just let them be for 1hr or so. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Don't turn on TV. Just tell them you will get up at 7:00. If they are legitimately hungry, that's a different story. Otherwise, they ought to be able to play safely for an hour. Don't close your door just say that you aren't getting up until 7:00 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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Np. That's silly. They'll end up being loud or fighting. Nothing wrong with tv for a little. OP, my kids are same ages and this is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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You're perpetuating thr problem by making TV the solution. If that's what you need to to in your house, go ahead. It's not actually necessary though. Age really does matter. At just turned 3, I would simply get up. At almost 4, DCs should be fine without TV [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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My view is it's not a "problem" so not perpetuating anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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You seem to think they can't manage without the TV. Sounds like a problem to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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NP - You obsessive, pious, no-screen-moms crack me up! All of you are glued to your own devices and then dictate your child's every screen minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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nnp: It's like the moms with body image issues who don't let their dc's eat any processed sugar but have chocolate hidden in their desks at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Kudos to you if your 3 and 5 your old could play alone and quietly for an hour without fighting. But I suspect you just have a poor memory. I don't know any who can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Oh, hers can! That's because she has denied screen time and trained them correctly you see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Yes they must wake up and start weaving or doing their kumon books or something else highly productive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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If you are expecting sound completely uninterrupted sleep, then yes, they need something that mutes them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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And you should be fine without UB! Yet here you are, enjoying yourself with a screen and then denying Saturday morning cartoons to your kids. Practice what you preach sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I'm old enough to decide for myself. OP wants to know if TV should babysit kids because otherwise she doesn't think they should be up alone. If not old enough to manage without the Tv, the TV isn't the solution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Oh, please. I'm sure they could manage without TV, but she doesn't want to hear normal kids hair hat she would hear and be bothered by. She wants to sleep. Good luck on that high horse lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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*normal kid shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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TV is a great solution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Np. That's silly. They'll end up being loud or fighting. Nothing wrong with tv for a little. OP, my kids are same ages and this is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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+1 this is what we do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Be sure to tell them to stay indoors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Totally fine at 3 and 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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We do this every Saturday. And then they move on. Wtf, I watched cartoons every single Saturday and Sunday morning my entire childhood. People are seriously crazed with their kids now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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+1 Saturday morning cartoons were the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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My brothers and I loved Saturday morning cartoons growing up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Sounds fine to me. Isn't the 5yo old enough to turn on the tv himself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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IA w/you and will now take bets on how long it will be before someone jumps in to say "5 year old should NOT be empowered to turn on the TV by himself! My rules! My rules!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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These moms are crazy control freaks. My parents never aped on me like this. I can't imagine growing up in a house where your every move is ruled. Crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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I do this with my two year old in my bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Aw memories. I used to do that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Son is currently watching cartoons while DH is laying in bed with a pillow over his head and I'm UB. Obviously we suck as parents. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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we had no problem with tv in the mornings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you made friends with parents/families in DCs elementary school? Or are those more likely to be polite acquaintances? Just curious/when if people are likely to have opportunities to do this. Made some ok friends with parents at DCs preschool but probably no one super close just wondering if elementary might be a new start 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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I've met nice people but no new friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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did you make friends when they were in preschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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They are always people who my kids do play dates with but I don't hang out with them otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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We made some very good friends in elementary but it takes a while to connect beyond the superficial level. Granted, I'm an introvert, but I'd say it was around 2-3rd grade for us. And some have become good friends--but after DC graduated and went on to middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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My son has a (platonic) friend that's a girl. Unfortunately the mom was a total bitch the first time i met her (without realizing that i am so-and-so's mom), so ive been avoiding being too friendly with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Trans lobby harasses doctors for not rushing "transgendered" kids into hormone therapy and surgeries. “Some of these kids are quite significantly ill,” says Dr. Bradley. “They often have serious family problems and anxiety disorders. Or they’ve had serious trauma. A girl I saw had been raped, and after that she decided she was going to be a male. If you didn’t pay attention to the trauma you’re not doing that kid a service." 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm okay with gay rights, but transgenderism just seems like a mental illness to me. Don't see why it needs to be normalized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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+1. Actually a lot of "transgendered" kids feel that way because of internalize homophobia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Yes, gay rights and transgender rights have different philosophies and are in many ways contradictory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Homosexuality was a mental illness for centuries, and was in the DSM in the 20th century. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Transgenderism and homosexuality are completely different and in many ways contradictory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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I'm okay with gay rights, but transgenderism just seems like a mental illness to me. Don't see why it needs to be normalized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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In kindergarten one boy became obsessed with dressing like a girl. The CAMH therapists determined that anxiety, not gender, was the key issue, and advised the parents to discourage their son’s obsession with girls’ clothing. Today, he is a well-adjusted young adult with a girlfriend and no interest in women’s clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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This is why it is so important not to normalize this. Parents should discourage disordered thinking and seek therapy if needed. Transgenderism is a sickness to be treated, like schizophrenia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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I think part of the problem is that men in the past and in traditional societies were/are encouraged to adorn themselves with headdresses and war paint and jewelry. If you look at the few traditional tribes that still exist the men are wearing LOTS of finery. Like peacocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Under pressure to be politically correct, we have allowed a small but noisy bunch of activists to undermine a caring and first-rate institution, and to turn the problems of emotionally troubled children into an ideological battleground. It’s time to stop, before we do more harm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Why are you so obsessed with this issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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If your 19 year old daughter was taking steps to get her healthy uterus removed and talked about hating herself, and you couldn't speak any sense to because she was now surrounded by only trans-supporting friends, you would, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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You should see a mental health professional to help you come to terms with this. Ranting on ub will never solve your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Her dh was transgender and she is ruined by it. I feel bad for her because I think her life would be different if she hadn't encountered this. Often people, men, women who have gone through a certain trauma tend to relive it over and over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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*transgender [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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You again. I really say this with love. Find something else to think about. I'm sorry your DH did this to you. Focus on women's rights. Stop focusing in this. Do something that makes you feel better. You are wallowing in your past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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This. She is using her own personal bias and hurt to ignore what is a very real and very rare issue. She also skips how hard it actually is for either kids or adults to make the transition to a different gender. There is min of two doctors who have to sign off on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yes, after a 45-minute consultation in which the patient essentially lies and says they felt like a girl since they were 4 years old and don't experience sexual arousal at the thought of being a woman and exaggerate their suicidal thoughts to the point of histrionics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Incorrect. And ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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You need to read studies where transgender people were interviewed and spoke candidly and internet boards of transgenders swapping tips as to how to pass the screening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I can guarantee that I know much more about it than you do. Only a handful of legitimate medical researchers actually seriously study the issue, and what I'm saying is consistent with their findings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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It's madness to remove and mutilate perfectly healthy organs to treat something which is essentially a mental illness. In a couple of generations, people will view these gender assignment surgeries as something along the lines of lobotomies. Many universities have closed down centers that used to do this, as the outcomes didn't justify the mutilation, e.g., suicide rates of transgenders actually increased after surgery. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, there are some people who are convinced that they are amputees (and become sexually aroused at the thought of being amputees and having sex with amputees) and beg doctors to amputate perfectly healthy limbs, but no legitimate surgeon will do this (although some doctors have and lost their medical licenses). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Divorced mom: How did you settle the financial aspects? My DH is unreasonable in his financial offers (according to my lawyer and several others I've consulted with) and refuses to budge, so it looks like we're heading for depositions and trial. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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Watching this. I'm about to retain attorney. I expect my husband to be unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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My attorney insisted on settling everything as one big package, so financials were balanced against custody, assets, and everything else we needed to negotiate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Gay men have a tendency to abuse young, post-pubescent boys between the ages of 12 and 17. Maybe not all, but the pattern of abuse repeats enough that anyone with common sense should see the pattern: the Boy Scouts, Horace Mann, the Catholic Church, Congressional pages, Dennis Hastert, Jerry Sandusky, and recently Rabbi Rosenblatt (in yesterday's NYT). Gay culture idolizes the young. Ancient Greeks and Romans deified gay sex with young boys. In Afghanistan and elsewhere in the Muslim world, gay men take a young boy as their sex toy. The 1970s gay rights movement included NAMBLA, and many high profile gays like poet Allen Ginsberg, and the gay historian David Thorstad. (The Gay & Lesbian Alliance didn't denounce NAMBLA until 1994.) Gay slang recognizes common stereotypes like the "chicken hawk" and the "twink" (an older man who prefers young males as a partner). I'm not saying all gay men will abuse young boys, but it isn't homophobic to recognize that gays are disproportionately represented as child abusers. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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I think that a higher percentage of straight me abuse underage girls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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^^^ not a straight/gay issue - a man issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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OP: You are insane. According to the best research, gays are only 2% of the population. They are WAY over represented as abusers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Wrong. Straight men are the highest abusers. Gay men are often the victims of sexual abuse at a higher rate because they are often isolated from the peers and "easier" targets. Signed someone who actually knows what she is talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Whatever. Men are pervy. End of story. They like young people. Straight men love 14 year olds. I remember walking the streets in the 80s. Men are sick like that. And they have no shame. It's not just a gay thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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This. Honestly looking back the number of full grown adult men who approached me "being friendly" at the age of 13 to 14 is scary. I wasn't mature looking either. It's creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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It's just men, sweetie. Just as many male to female pedophiles. There just aren't a lot of organizations and cultural events that pair men with little girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you let 11 yo DS ride the subway from Manhattan to Queens and back on a regular basis by himself? Why or why not? Is it legal? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Depends on time of day - most likely, yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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how about 9 am in the morning and 3 pm in the afternoon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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Yep, any friends he can try to ride with? I know kids that went to Salk that would do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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Is it a direct ride or does he need to switch. My 11 yo ds takes subway daily but much shorter commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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I would think so. Many middle-school kids in the city take the subway by themselves, some of them are 11 or barely 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Yes, but only if they are comfortable with it and there aren't a lot of transfers. It is certainly legal. I have one child who could do that blindfolded at 10 and was commuting by subway by himself at that age. My other one has a lousy sense of direction and can get confused in the subway, so I would not be comfortable with him doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] i just realized that i am relaxed, i am actually feeling relaxed after three years of turmoil with divorce, condo hunting, selling house, and re-starting. i haven't felt this good in years. i have been overwhelmed. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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it's been six years of divorce turmoil for me - but I am not yet relaxed. so happy for you! I think financial security is the biggest piece of this equation... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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why 6 years? how long did divorce last? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:55 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is out of town. I fed kids b-fast and they are watching cartoons while I am having my coffee and UBing. So much easier ... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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than...what's the normal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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He will be upset if I turn cartoons on. He sleeps in till 9 while kids are up at 6. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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If he is upset he should be with them (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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OP: I know but that's how it goes... At some point I got sick if fighting and he got his way. I have a sitter coming at 3 pm so I can do a little grocery shopping and cooking. I have had a relaxing evening after kids are in bed at 8 every night. I know grass is always greener but this is bliss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Your first mistake was ever fighting about it in the first place. "Darling, if you get up with the kids, you can decide what they should be doing. If you want to keep discussing it, you'll have to find someone else to talk to." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Seriously. Easiest way to end that fight is to turn off TV and tell kids daddy really wants to play with them right now and go jump on his head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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x1000 lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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I have 3 young kids. I know this sounds like the right solution but one if the kids (usually youngest) ends up hurt. DH's leverage is that I care about the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Fighting doesn't mean bickering in our case. He sulks, doesn't talk to me and tunes out and does nothing to help all day. I know you will say I should just walk out the door and leave him with kids but I tried and kids find this very upsetting. I can't "discipline" my dh in the expense of kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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My DH used to watch cartoons with the kids on weekend mornings. He turned them on to the good ones on DVD that he used to like, like speed racer. It was pretty cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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