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[ - ] How much is NYSC monthly membership? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm thinking when my dd applies to colleges next year, those with high participation in greek life will not be on the list. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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I would never support that nonsense. You want to pledge? Get a job for all those dues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Good! -signed, sorority girl. But don't tell anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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When I was applying, I actually wrote schools with frats OFF the list. But didn't understand that many schools had similar alternatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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I completely agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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completely agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help me. My mom always asks for a holiday list for me. I don't need anything. She does not really have a ton of spare money, but really likes to do this. I need to come up with a variety of under 60 dollar items that she can pick from that seem like they would be fun, but give her enough choice so that she is surprising me. I like to spin it when I give her the list that what is on the list is stuff I just can't bring myself to spend money on, it would be such a treat! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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I am going to put over priced fleece tights on the list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Tights, socks, texting gloves, bath bombs, crafty earrings, book, iTunes card, nice pen, cell phone wristlet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Thanks good ideas here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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wintersilks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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Love those!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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I wish you were my dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Cleaning out our closets today with DH. We have some very good quality clothes that don't flatter us, need to go. Giving some to charity, but some I'd like to try selling online. Ebay too much hassle. Best alternatives? ThredUp? What do people use? Thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Just give away. Unless you REALLY need $. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I actually really need the money. And we give away tons of stuff. I'd like to sell the nicer pieces this time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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Is there a difference between need and really need? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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There literally is. LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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I wish we had garage sale on UB. Sold lots of stuff there. I sold all of my maternity clothes on Craigslist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? There are SO many consignment shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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I'm in the burbs, don't want to deal with the consignment shops, just want it out of here with a chance to sell. If it doesn't sell, okay for it to move on to charity. Apparently ThredUp does that with your stuff if it doesn't sell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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craigslist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] StepMIL thinks my parents were mean to make my brother and I move out of the house one year after college. That was the rule unless we went to grad school which I did but moved to DC. When I moved home, I went straight into an apartment didn't stop home. StepMIL wondered why my parents let us "throw away money on rent instead of staying home and saving money for a house." I see nothing wrong with what my parents did. (Brother had to be taken on an apartment tour with our parents which he declared was painful-he moved out the next month.) we are both married with kids and own our own homes. StepMIL might be justifying why her other son moved out at 40 but I still don't see anything wrong with what my parents did. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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I would have rather died than lived with my parents as an adult [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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yep - absolute last - street only alternative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Here's the thing-I get along great with my parents but my dad had to move out at a certain age so he passed the rule to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I get along with mine too, but I prefer to do my own thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Is she Asian ?? It's completely normal in Asian families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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No I think English-lives in Boston [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Different cultures, different strokes. I'm sure she has lots of options that are different from yours. Why so defensive? Smile and nod. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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She's bad mouthing my parents-reason enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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She is bad mouthing your father. TEll her to take it up with him and that you don't want to hear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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I could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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You respond and you give her the power. You ignore and the discussion ends. It's a battle you can't win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Oh I do ignore her she just harps on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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You just don't like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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She sounds like an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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I'm kicking out. My job is not to ensure home ownership [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] ERB time again and I've been told that your dc does not need to take them. I know a few families who are going away over the next few days and their dcs are skipping the test. Is it really that easy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Are you talking about CTP4 tests? My child's school really frowns on families taking time off from school to extend vacation times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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^^^ The CTP4 tests are a good way to get a handle on your child's strengths and weaknesses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What is so wrong about a man in an unhappy, sexless marriage getting a girlfriend? Seems rational. Having fun with and making love to women is arguably the most enjoyable part of being a man. Plus, you only live once. What's the point of living in deprived misery? For the kids? I don't fault men who aren't content to live lives of quiet desperation. If a marriage is not going to be a romance, it should become a civilized partnership aimed at giving the kids a good upbringing that is fun and prepares them for the future. And romance should be obtained elsewhere. 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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If the spouse agrees, no biggie. But lying, sneaking around, ignoring his children, that's disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Oh please, just get a divorce. You can't have your cake and eat it too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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I suppose if both parties agree, who gives a shit. However, I would hope that they would consider the example they are setting for their DCs by staying together in a loveless marriage. I would rather be single than have my DCs think this is what marriage looks like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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This. I'm not interested in living a lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Loveless is not the same as sexless though. I love my DH, dearly. We are in a sexless marriage right now. Circumstantial, but I sometimes worry/wonder when it's going to stop. We're in our 40s, been this way for several years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Why? Don't you miss sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Yes, I do. I'm sure he does too. We're exhausted all the time. I'm perimenopausal, getting to O, sometimes harder (but it still feels good.) I have no idea how to breach this little hurdle that's cropped up in our marriage. DH is a great guy, but no romance. I need to romance to fire me up, I've given up on making him understand this. Don't know what to do at this point. Pretty sure he's not straying and I've had my chance to do that and don't like how it made me feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I would fake it till you make it. Just have sex until you get your groove back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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It feels awkward at this point. Have been considering getting a sitter, getting dolled up, going out to dinner. But see, it's all me making the effort again. I need to feel pursued and desired. DH never made me feel that way, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Go out with some girlfriends, have some drinks and jump his bones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Ha, I'm usually exhausted after a couple of drinks with girlfriends, can't handle booze the way I used to (although if we could get to that dinner thing, a really nice glass of wine with DH might help get me there)... but I don't want to be doing the pursuing. I did way too much of that early on, don't have any energy left for that. Need to feel wanted. It has made me wonder why he married me at times... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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I am not sure why you are holding on to this marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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Well, if you knew me, you'd know why. Too easy to make that kind of judgment on a message board :) But he is a keeper and I'm definitely not leaving. I'd prefer to at least attempt getting things going again before I'd ever begin to consider throwing in the towel. He is my best friend. I owe him that, at the very least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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He owes you something too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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I know he does. And I've tried to nicely remind him of that. He says it just makes him feel criticized, judged, not good enough, i.e., huge turnoff. So I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. If he only knew how easy it would be to make our good marriage amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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Sounds like you need some excitement. Hard to find it with someone you are domestic with, especially if they are as tired as you are. Tough situation, am in the same place myself. Wish I knew how to get out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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I do. I had this guy start coming on to me a few years back when we first moved to NY. He has a very serious girlfriend but he was very flirty, witty, funny and there was a spark. It felt so good. It moved from a lot of talking, flirty emails and texts to him touching me (discreetly) right in front of my husband at parties, etc. It was a high, but also unnerving and upsetting. I'm not that kind of girl. But I wish I could somehow bring that kind of excitement into my marriage. Don't know how to explain that to a man who simply does not or will not be romantic or pursue me in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Why did you marry him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Lots of reasons. He's a great guy and I honestly love him and respect him. Sex was very good in the beginning. Good enough + everything else gave me every reason to marry him. I didn't realize then how important the romance part would be to me though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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pp. Actually, I reckon your DH would probably get it (i.e. understand what you mean). He probably feels the same way himself, despite his low drive. Part of it is that it is "impossible" to get that kind of spark from someone you have lived with for ages. Your partner is not new, not exciting, can't bring back that "first date" flirt feeling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Actually, when we go on vacation... I see him as new again. But we always have DD in tow, not possible to go without her (family circumstances.) Maybe when she's older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Oh please, relationships grow. If all you want is new spark then don't get married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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When did I say all I was is spark? Totally normal and healthy to want to have a nice spark in your marriage and good sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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*all I want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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A marriage is about two people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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What's the most enjoyable part of being a woman, OP? Making her man happy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Well, some Europeans (not all, as often said) do this. I wonder about this at times. The guilt would kill me though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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I am in a sexless marriage. My husband loves me. He just isn't that interested in sex. His libido is super low. He is great father, good husband (outside of the bed). We have a great partnership. We both have been to therapy over this. It's a larger struggle than the way people dismiss it on this site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Can't he just "throw you a bone" to keep everyone happy? Women do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Throwing you a bone is probably even worse. Ever had sex with someone who just doing you a "favor". It's awful. When I have sex, I want someone who is going to enjoy it as much as I do and wants to engage and be involved. I belong to a mixed board with men and women in sexless marriages. We all agree (and men more than women) that the "throwing a bone" is sometime more damaging than just abstaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Ok, I just thought since he wanted to make you happy it would help. As much as I like romance, I need some dick once in a while and wouldn't care about the motivation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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I want to have sex with someone who wants to have sex with me back. Not one doing it out of obligation. It's such a depressing feeling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Guessing the OR doesn't want a bone, she wants a full partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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OR: YES! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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But you said you had a great partnership. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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We do have a great partnership but we have a deficit in our bedroom. I want a healthy sexual relationship as well. He explained to me that he just isn't interested in sex. It's hard to engage in an activity that you aren't interested in. And before you say it's me...He has always been like this, prior to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I don't think it is you at all, it is clearly him. How long are you going to live like this? You sound very unhappy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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FULL [ Reply | More ]
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FULL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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A women can just lie back and open her legs. A man has to actually get physically aroused. Not always so easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Porn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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Perhaps. But don't make the mistake of thinking men can arouse themselves on demand... especially with a partner where the sexual sparks have died. btdt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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It is called starfishing and believe me...men notice when women do this. No husband is interested in a starfish sex session. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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You. Are. Me. Of all of the marital problems I anticipated having, a DH who didnmt want to have sex is not one of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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np. Same here. So Damned Hard. (if only...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Mom of two young teen girls. I hear so much about girls their age being sexually active. Neither of them seems the least bit interested, and I can't even imagine how they would be in a position to be sexual with a boy. (we live in Manhattan - good public school assume no one is making out in stairwells). Am I naive, or is the "everyone is doing it" hype overblown? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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yes overblown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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my dd is 17, nothing beyond kissing yet, same for most of her friends except two who have long term boyfriends. However, my dh works for Child Protective Services, and he sees it all the time, 12 and 13 year olds sexually active. Sex in middle school bathrooms and stairwells is not a myth. It is like two different worlds, and in one it IS rampant. On the surface, at least in our town, it looks like a class thing, but really it is more home environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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I became sexually active at 16. I never had sex at school. Umc suburb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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It is overblown, but most girls don't tell their moms anything . My mother was SHOCKED when she found out I was having sex in high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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^this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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And yes, people are making out in stairwells at good schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yep, this. I was 17, a few months from college, had a solid boyfriend for over a year, and asked for a bc appointment. She nearly lost her shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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Oh, I mentioned it years later. She could not believe it, I was 16 and had a long term boyfriend, if course we were having sex. She actually thought we did homework together, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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I was the one who posted about having girls in my class who were sexually active in 5th & 6th grade--by no means were MOST girls active at this age! It was a couple of girls, but of course the other girls talked, so it got around. It wasn't even mean gossip, just talk among girlfriends. I'm not even sure the boys in our class knew. Everyone is definitely not doing it! My only point was that someone might, and I think it's better for kids to hear from parents first. You should have heard the BS that went around in my day--and we had pretty good sex ed in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Where do you teach that 5th and 6th grade girls are having sex?!? Who are they having sex with and aren't you obligated to repor it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Girls in MY 5th and 6th grade class, when I was that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Np, but do you think that was real? I knew girls who people made up rumors about, but I never thought it was real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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It was definitely real. They were friends of mine, some I still know to this day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Good lord. I was still playing with my barbie dolls at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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They were usually girls with older friends, older cousins, etc. Grew up faster bc they were around older kids. And of course parents thought it was nbd because they were "with family". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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OR--I just asked my DH if this happened at his Midwestern schools (I'm from NYC). He quotes Jeremy B., then aged 13, "Nobody is old enough to have sex until they're at least 12." Lol. He says there was pretty good evidence Jeremy wasn;t lying... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Not everyone is doing it, for sure. But don't expect your DC to be forth coming about their sexual activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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This this this. My mom cried when she found out I wasn't a virgin. Unfortunately, she was 4 years too late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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There is a way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Big difference between a tween and 16. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Obama says 2016 voters "want a new car smell", someone "with less mileage than me". LOL- hard to see this as an endorsement of Hillary! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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What mileage does he have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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He says many things that are not true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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they'll have to find a tricycle or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.23.14, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know why NEST+m high school went second round last year? By all measures it looks like a very fine HS. I know 2/3 of the kids who are there K-8 leave to go to specialized schools, but I am not turned off by that b/c I would want to go to a new school too if I'd been at one place K-8 and there were these fabulous new options. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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several great option available to these kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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OP: that's what I figured. Just wondering whether I am missing something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Here is what I think: Having openings is a reflection of more students who matched with NEST+m choosing a specialized school that they matched with that year. But that means they rank students who have other options. The quality of the students they choose in the 2nd round would reflect the best of whomever ranks them in the second round. If it is indeed true that a number of very strong students don't get a match in the first round, I would think NEST would be one of the schools those students would rank as their top choice in Round 2 since there are far fewer schools to choose from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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My friend teaches at NEST+m HS and I've been there to talk to the students. They are so bright and excited about science. I love those kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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OP: This is my dc. Bright and excited about math (and other subjects like languages). But would not do well at a Bx Science or Bklyn Tech. NEST+m seems like such a good alternative. Just could not fathom why they would go second round. But the poster above makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] So happy Cosby is getting what he deserves before dying... You will go down in infamy, bill! How's that taste 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Like cheap, chalky, chemical, pudding pops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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usually it has been up to the family to deal with. the information age definitely has its gifts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I think my 17 year old dd is having a sexual relationship with a much older man. I recently found some text messages between her and someone she has listed under her contacts as "bae" (what does that even mean?). The way "bae" types is much more sophisticated than the average teen boy. She deletes the messages often because all of her other text messages span weeks into the past. The messages from and to this individual were recent within the past 24 hours. I found some pictures under her images application that were very questionable and inappropriate. These photos were of both male and female bodies. The female body parts I recognized as being obviously her. The male body parts had some tattoos. I did some more snooping on instagram. Occasionally there were comments or little smiley or winking faces made by a man whose profile I couldn't view because I do not follow this person. His screen name and profile picture give no indication of who he is but mentions having already graduated from college and that he loves his wife and algebra. Am I looking into this too deeply? My instant thought was he is a teacher at her school. This would be a scandal and embarrassing if that were true but it already is both those things even if this isn't a teacher. Maybe it's not even the guy she is texting. The photos need to be addressed regardless but how do I approach this? I haven't told my dh he won't be home until early morning Wednesday as he has been away on business for nearly a week now. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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frightening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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maybe contact police? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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OP- Should I contact police prior to confronting my dd? I'm sure they will want to take all the electronic devices she uses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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I do not know what to tell you. Maybe call with your concerns and ask if there is someone who is a specialist in this area (surely there is) and see what they suggest and let me know! I have a 14 year old ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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I think contact police before telling dd. But try to get old texts from cloud if you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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np: DO NOT contact police before talking to your kid. Don't you trust her at all--even to the extent that she will answer your questions somewhat honestly? It's going to destroy your relationship with her if you take this approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Bae means "before anyone else" and also means boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Pronounced bay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Have you looked for an algebra teacher at her school that might be a fit? Check the school website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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I wonder if deleted texts are still in the cloud? Is it an iphone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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OP- yes it is an iphone. How can I look her texts up on the cloud. I will also check the school's website. I don't want to jump to conclusions here but God help me, I still pray that this isn't as bad as it appears. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Sound like the movie Trust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Sorr6, I don't know. But I would google that and call an I.t. expert pronto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Don't worry so much about scandal. Protecting your dd comes first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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My 9 yo old uses the term bae. Does sound pretty suspect though....do you have a tracker on her phone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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Yes I do. Anytime I check it though it's never out of the ordinary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Can you use e tracker history to plot a course over time? It may reveal locations you wouldn't suspect at times you don't check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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What city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Nip this in the bud. This isn't the time to sit around and wonder. Get your ducks in row (treat it like infidelity), get evidence to confront. If older guy, directly contact him and threaten him with statutory rape charges. Sit down with daughter. Focus not on the sex (the cat is out of the bag on that one) but on the idea of healthy relationship where the power structure is even. Sex isn't bad but sex with a conniving ahole is!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Wonder how many others the dude is preying on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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np. Disagree with contacting and confronting the guy. I have a df who went through something very similar to this within the past two years. OP, you need to gather as much evidence as possible before you talk directly to either of them. As soon as you know who it is, turn over your info to the police first. Do not give this guy any advance warning, because he will start covering his tracks. And the same goes for your dd; if she's wrapped up in this kind of situation, she's apt to warn him or do whatever else she can to "protect" him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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+1 do not tip them off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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OR: Original responder...And thinking about this...I agree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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I think you might be correct. It all seems to add up to something weird. BAE sounds like initials--is there any teacher at school whom that lines up with? Do you have the phone number of this person from the text messages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Bae means before anyone else in teenspeak. Means boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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BAE is NOT initials. Very common expression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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Assuming you are mom because you did not immediately locate and kill said guy, where is dad in all of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Ok, just saw last line, sorry. Tell eh ASAP so he can get involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O 16 and pregnant. I was a teen mom, and am also pro-choice. Any questions? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Did your parents help you? I am convinced this makes all the difference in how the baby turns out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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A little bit. I had actually already moved out of home, and was self-supporting financially so not in that sense. My mom did help with childcare about 8-10 hours a week for the first few years. In the broader sense though yes, they were kind to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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I have a friend who was a child of teen parents and she credits her grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Grandparents can be great, no doubt. They definitely did not play a "parent" role for my DCs and while we lived in the same city when they were young, we actually lived in different cities for much of their childhood. They are definitely a loving part of their family though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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With foresight, would you make the same choice? I don't mean that you regret your child. Would you rather have had him/her later in life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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I would make the same choice, yes. I am honestly not sure if I would rather have had her (and shortly after, her brother), later in life. On a certain level, I suppose so. But having them young also strengthened my family/my life in some ways and they are thriving now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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I doubt it. You are the same troll that posts "I am _________". Any question?" Fill in the blank with whatever random inflammatory thing you want. Every day. What is wrong with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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This is a fake reply to your fake post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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and here is another sockpuppet fake reply to the fake reply to your fake post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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I was pregnant at 16 and gave birth to my dd at 17. My parents were both very religious and when they were teens and dating my grandfather forced my mother to have a midterm abortion and it scared her for life. They gave me options that my child they would raise as my sibling or I could raise the child. There were times during high school and college I second guessed raising this child as my own. With My Parents Help financially,providing childcare, and everything else. At nearly 30 I have a MBA from a great university and a career that provides me with an umc salary and an amazing dh. We have 2 dcs together and my eldest dd calls him dad. Her real father just recently started stepping up. He paid 50 a week in child support until she was almost 10. He maybe say her 2 weekends a month if that. I couldn't have done it without my parents. I also wouldn't trade that girl for the world. She changed my life for the better. I'm so proud of the amazing young lady she is becoming. She was meant to be born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Btw I'm pro choice as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 yo DS has really bad aim with the toilet. I need to scrub around the toilet with bleach it is do disgusting. Should I just use a rag to scrub by hand so I can toss when done? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Use a disposable spong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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Spung [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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He should do the first pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Are you that incompetent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Bless your heart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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I recently replaced our toilet seat. It is painted wood. I learned that you are not supposed to use bleach or commercial cleaner! Just mild soap and water. Ooops! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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No. Your son should use a rag to scrub up his mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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This is not as disgusting as you think it is. It's really not a big deal. Relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] List of planned riots and places after the ferguson verdict. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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sieg heil, Racist Mom! You look great in your brown shirt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Fuck you. People need to know to avoid these areas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Who are you to decide what people should do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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And ...Fuck you, alarmist bigot. Go back to watching Fox News. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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and sitting there nursing your hatred [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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No justice, no peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Riot and response are not the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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What do you think it means?? Are you that stupid and your head in the sand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Riots in Duluth in December? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Yeah, right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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What's with the Fuck yous and the insults? You sound crazy and paranoid. It you are correct, there are better ways to convince people. You sound as impulsive as the rioters you are afraid of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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so many ad people, angry people glued to their TVs fueling their fear and misanthropy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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^sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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is this another practice run like the Boston Marathon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] good baby girl gift, besides monogrammed blanket? Want to spend about $200 (my sister) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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The last thing any mom needs is more blankets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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This. Nice high chair? Food delivery once a week? Good quality umbrella stroller? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Books. Anything special your sister loved as a child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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something useful from the registry- baby monitor, high chair, car seat. she will appreciate this way more than a baby blanket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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