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[ - ] Wow, ladies. Can I just say that having kids is EXPENSIVE! It's amazing how much our financial profile is changing with the addition of a db. Just . . . wow. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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I have 3 of them, so tell me about it. I just calculated that between childcare, tuition, camps, etc we spend over $200K a year on the kids (not counting what we are saving for college). And it only gets worse the older they get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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OP: I mean I just had no idea. Really. It's crazy. You need more space than when you're just a couple (and therefore more housing costs), childcare costs, education costs, we're getting a new car for safety reasons rather than continue to drive dh's beater into the ground (another expense). It's just a lot. We never had to budget for anything, and now we're having to plan out everything. And just as our expenses feel like they're skyrocketing, my income is going to decrease. I guess I was naive, but I just didn't know. I figured you breastfed, send the kid to school -- how expensive could it be? Bwahahahahaaaa! :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Wait until you pay their attorney fees [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] My niece and SIL have started to imply that I should have to pay niece every time she plays with my 7 yo DS for 5 minutes. I think it would be nice if she played with him but I don't care that much and I find the whole payment think totally annoying. Vent over. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Are you trying to use the niece as a babysitter? How old is she? Is this playing what she wants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Not using the niece as a babysitter. He is 7 and he asks her to play sometimes. If she wants to say no she can. Why does their relationship have to be financial? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Because she evidently does not want to play with him. Tell her mom that if neice does not want to play with him, she should say no, but if he follows her around, you need to deal with him. Where is this happening? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Are you there at the time? Is she babysitting? If not, can't force her to play with him and while it's not the best, it is fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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I am there at the time and I don't care if she plays with him. I think it would be nice but I have never asked her. She is welcome to say no and often does of she doesn't feel like it. But if she happens to be in the mood she expects to be paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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this is such a weird dynamic your sil/niece are encouraging. you're not asking for her to babysit, she is his cousin and he just wants to play sometime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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how old is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Yeah... she is not going to have any interest in playing with a seven year old. Not saying you should pay her, but you should accept that it is not going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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I don't care if it happens! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Well you need to get your kid to accept that it's not happening, or at least control/supervise him better so he can't bug the shit out of her trying to make it happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Not what you said in OP. YOu said "I think it would be nice if she played with him" and then follow up, you said, "why does their relationship have to be financial?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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I would tell her that she'll get paid to babysit as soon as she's X age (whatever age you feel comfortable), but that family time doesn't count. And then I would make sure to hire her sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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I don't want to use her as a babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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But you want her to play with him? Makes no sense to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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That's ridiculous. Tell them that sometimes family does nice things for each other without it being about money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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+1. It's a good teaching moment for your niece, and too bad her mother isn't doing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Oh, so what does OP do for the neice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Somehow, it is only the girls expected to help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] if you are in the city this weekend: 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Sounds great! Go hang out in huge crowds in the sweltering heat to do things that you can do much easier in the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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wow, you sound angry, didn't get laid last night? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Omg, you are the snarkiest of all the snarky bitches Jane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Veal mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Thank you for sharing. I'll check it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Yep I am riding from Rockaway to central park - and taking the train back to hang on the beach - stepping off now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't need advice about what to do here, but how to do it...the guy I've been dating for only about 6 weeks has turned out to be weirdly controlling and jealous, and irrational about this stuff. This became crystal clear to me yesterday; we go to the same daily morning event/meeting (how we met), and he has been stopping by so that we can go together (on his way). I told him that I missed my old morning routine and asked if he could just meet me there for a few days. He showed up anyway and it was clear that he was checking up on me somehow. Anyway, obviously, time to run. I told him I was upset, that it was controlling; now what? Just say that I don't think this is working out? And what about the daily thing? See if we can both just keep going, or stop going? UGH. I am too old for this... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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tell him things are moving a little to fast. Lets start out with seeing each other twice a week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Let's be friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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What is so terrible about telling him you don't think this will work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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OP: I guess nothing; he's just much more intense about this right now. Probably a conversation I'm not looking forward to, but I'm an adult :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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is this a work meeting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Is $150 gift off registry too cheap for formal wedding? Going alone. Cousin, but not close. They have everything! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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if going alone, fine. light if going as couple [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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I'm single, so they will cut me a break! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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You are in the sweet spot, don't worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Thanks - I found something for 175. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Just give a check for 150 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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fine of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Are the sprinklers at the Natural history museum open on weekends? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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I believe so but there is no shade there!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Right now on C-Span, a professionally dressed man in a suit and a girl dressed like a low-price escort hanging out a bar waiting for her john. Typical workday wear for the working woman. Men on the other hand are obligated to be professional and cover up while working. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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Are you watching Washington Journal too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Yup! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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You can see her breasts quite easily. She must be so proud of her journalistic achievements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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The guy seems VERY happy to talk to her, no? His eyes are bugging out a little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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She seems like a very nice lady, lol. And yes, she does really look like a prostitute haha! The hair, the low-cut clothes, the way she leans forward to show off her chest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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I'm sure she identifies as a feminist though! A strong, independent woman who wants the world to behold her breasts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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LOL! Naturally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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The guy is dressed so professionally compared to her. Notice how slowly he talks to her and the way he seems amused? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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Lol, yes. He talks slowly and he keeps staring at her chest. Can't blame him. If she's wanting to show what she's got, why blame the guy for looking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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I wonder how much skin he would have to reveal to be a good feminist and get ahead at his workplace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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NONE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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Ikr. Ohhh I think I almost saw her nipple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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Her parents must be so proud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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of course they would be. I'm serious. she has a good job. sure she maybe got it and still keeps it with the hooker antics but they can boast to their relatives and friends. and that's all that matters to people like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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You mean trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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look around you, honey. women get ahead now by dressing like hookers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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But how is that new? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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NP - Before, they didn't call it feminism. They just called it dressing like a hooker at the workplace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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C-Span 1 or 2? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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c-span 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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lol he is dressed like a muslim compared to the lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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Typical. Men in suits, women in bar clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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it's how women at the workplace manipulate men and other women tbh. one woman shows up in revealing clothes and then the rest must play catch-up or risk being ignored or passed over. no one talks about it but that's just how it works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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The caller from NC is so angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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he mad cos he don't have no hooker gal of his own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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LMAO and that too, an asian hooker gal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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Is that her race? I couldn't tell. I wasn't sure if white or Asian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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she seems so incompetent anyway, see her stumbling over her words and being inarticulate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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We all pay the hooker gal tax. Society pays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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and yet she still has this job, doesn't she? interesting how this works, eh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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In tuned in to play along and I agree. Her whole role is to ask inane setup questions. She's like a price is right spokesmodel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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ITA. And it is a total shame because a) her job is to ask intelligent questions. and b) she could at least TRY to look professional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] All the design magazines and catalogs are showing brass and gold everything. It is giving me bad 80s flashbacks. And I just replaced all the brass fixtures (including hinges) with brushed nickel last year. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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Well, you are behind the times, I'm sorry to say. Did you not notice an 80s revival was coming with the whole Kelly Wearstler thing??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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Yes, I'm out of it. I wasn't paying a lot of attention to anything but work and the kids last year. This year I have enough time to glance at a magazine occasionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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If you like it, who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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+1 I posted my apartment here once when it was being shown and people said crazy things about it (not good). Like it was clearly a "total gut reno." I loved it, though, and no one else on UB lived there, so cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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How did it work for selling? Do you think it held the price down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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It sold in 48 hours. Location, location :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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As for price, no I think it was fine. It was only $100K less than the mirror unit that had a better kitchen than mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Aw. So sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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LOL I laughed. It was so typically UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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yea, we still have brass everthing, i was too lazy to change out hardware [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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thanks for the heads up! I missed it too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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I've dont a mixture. My preference not to be too match matchy. Brass only looks good imho if its aged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My house is surrounded by tall trees, which give a lot of shade and make my house (or at least some rooms) very dark. I would like to cut them, and found out that it costs 12k to cut one tree. WT? Most of teh money goes toward a permit. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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order some japanese beetles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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don't cut the trees, maybe get a good arborist to prune heavily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:18 PM Flag
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Just get the lower branches trimmed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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Get your trees topped Instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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The part about the permit doesn't sound right at all. I've had 60 foot pines taken down on my property for 3K. You must live in a place where there aren't that many trees? Please, come take some of mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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I am in a state with no income tax, so the strangest things cost a ton of money to make up for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Hmmm. Still doesn't make a lot of sense to me. Tree cutting permit fees go to the local government, not to the state. Alaska and NH are no income tax states that wouldn't worry about residential trees. Even in Florida a tree cutting permit is only $120 and in Texas there was a municipality that charged $55. I look these things up not to call you fake, but to be sure you aren't getting scammed. It really does not make sense to charge thousands of dollars in "fees" to cut a single tree. How else would you clear land to build even a modest $300K home if you had to spend $100K for the land and $8K per tree on the property? It would be rationally prohibitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Dont [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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Think hard. They're good for the environment, increase your home's value, are aesthetically pleasing, keep your air conditioning costs down. In general, unless they're old and going to fall on your house or something, you're better off with them. Permits to cut trees don't cost that much, not even close, you're being scammed. If you cut without a permit and someone calls you in (neighbors like to look at your trees, believe it or not), you're screwed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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I agree with just trimming and thinning them. If you must cut down, wait until next storm, and cut them down yourself and say it was damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you wear a thong bathing suit? It feels very 80s to me. I'm staring at one right now. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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Ew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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So early in the morning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 11:58 AM Flag
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are you in europe? its like 8am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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Goodness. In Europe, it's 2pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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Op- yes. Vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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no, no one wants to see my ass in a thong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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+1000 it's not pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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My ass looks fine size wise, but my skin back there is heinous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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If I had a perfect pre-baby bod, and I was 21 and it was spring break, and I was drunk, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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If you know what actually feels "80s" then you are too old for a thong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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why? what are you trying to prove? even at 21? Looks like you are trying WAY WAY to hard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Because she's European and she don't give an f. She doesn't have your puritanical baggage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Gross [ Reply | More ]
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