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[ - ] cheap day spas? I would do spa castle bu im freaked out with that lady who found a dead body in her hot tub... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yeah a dead body ruins a hot tub experience [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] ombre hair color for 36 yo? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sure [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Looking for a nice, well cut casual tshirt that will come down past my waist. Any recs? Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nope, I am on the eternal hunt for this item. The ones at madewell aren't bad but they are so thin, every line of your bra is visible. [ Reply | More ]
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How tall are you? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have a fever blister on my lip that is healing. Anything I can do to speed up the process? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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you mean herpes? [ Reply | More ]
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np Fever blisters are not the same thing as cold sores. Cold sores = oral herpes [ Reply | More ]
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OP-This. [ Reply | More ]
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NNP: Fever blisters are cold sores. Google it. [ Reply | More ]
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please get off my post. you are uneducated [ Reply | More ]
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Do you mean canker sores? [ Reply | More ]
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no I mean a fever blister [ Reply | More ]
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You are dilusional. [ Reply | More ]
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please get off my post [ Reply | More ]
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wrong, they are the same [ Reply | More ]
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please get off my post [ Reply | More ]
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Herpecin L - I get mine at Drugstore.com. Use it everyday. And over time breakouts will diminish or go away entirely. Use morning and night. [ Reply | More ]
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What is a fever blister? I get cold sores fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
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It is a cold sore. [ Reply | More ]
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no it is different. please get off my post [ Reply | More ]
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Google says they're the same. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG they're the same - get over yourself! [ Reply | More ]
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Please get off my post [ Reply | More ]
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Omg. Just own it! [ Reply | More ]
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get off my post, please [ Reply | More ]
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You should can use Valtrex. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] peanut butter poll: chunky vs smooth / sweetened vs unsweetened / salted vs no salt / flavorings vs just the peanuts ? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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skippy. all the way. smooth. [ Reply | More ]
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Chunky Jif [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Chunky, unsweetened, indifferent re salted, no flavorings. Can't stand the chemically sweetened ones. [ Reply | More ]
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No salt chunky. [ Reply | More ]
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Unsalted plain peanut butter. I alternate crunchy and smooth. [ Reply | More ]
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Salted, chunky, no sweeteners/flavors [ Reply | More ]
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Hate palm oil, so just the peanuts. [ Reply | More ]
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Smooth JIF. [ Reply | More ]
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Chunky, unsweetened, unsalted...grind my own sprinkling of sea salt. [ Reply | More ]
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Chunky, salted... no sugar. Cant stand Jif or Skippy. Love Smucker's All Natural Chunky PB [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do you deal with a husband who claims to be happy to handle the kids while you get some time to do what you want, but when he does it always devolves into him yelling at them before throwing the Ipad at them so they leave him alone? I say I need, say, an hour to go to the gym on the weekend. No problem. Before I even leave the house he's yelling at the 3 year old to stop bothering him, before yelling upstairs to the older kid to come down immediately and eat something for lunch or else. So I get home an hour later and the 3 year old is still on the Ipad and the 8 year old is "punished" in his room for talking back after his father yelled at him. It's not even worth it for me to go out anymore if I have to spend an hour cleaning up whatever mess was caused while I was out. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Your DH sounds like an ass. [ Reply | More ]
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+ a million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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You have to learn to let go. You have to learn to let him parent the best way he can, while you get "ME" time. If you don't, you will never relax. That's the first thing. Secondly, 3 year olds are just difficult, and yes I'm generalizing. Once the youngest turns 4, things get easier. [ Reply | More ]
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I completely disagree. DH needs to learn how to be a parent to his children. An iPad is not a babysitter. You need to be on the same page about discipline. I get that kids are frustrating and hard, but it's pretty pathetic that there are so many DHs who cannot manage their own kids for even an hour without their wives. I know this is a common scenario. The DHs may be the ones in the wrong, but the wives allow it to happen. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Listen, I agree with what you wrote, but it's just an hour. If the kid is on it constantly, then no. At least this guy will happily let her get away for some "ME" time. I know some DHs who don't even do that. [ Reply | More ]
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NP And that's acceptable? How low is the bar? [ Reply | More ]
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seriously! the issue is that it's pretty awful that a father can even be with his kids for an hour by himself. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. And make DH and dcs clean up their own mess. Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm totally on the side of don't micromanage DHs but a DH should be able to watch a 3 yo without said 3 yo being on the iPad for the entire time. [ Reply | More ]
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can't you tell your husband that he isn;t allowed to raise his voice with the kids? (serious question) [ Reply | More ]
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Then he says - fine, then you handle them. [ Reply | More ]
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i'm going to take a break from UB. so many women who married assholes without having a clue what they were getting into. it's disheartening [ Reply | More ]
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You can remind him that they are HIS children too and that it's beyond pathetic that he can't be with them alone for an hour. And depressing as hell that he doesn't want to. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't really work. He thinks he spends a ton of time with them and that what he's doing is perfectly normal. Which is what's so screwed up about it - that if I say I disagree with how he interacts with them, he just says he doesn't know what I'm talking about because he's doing it just fine. [ Reply | More ]
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he's not going to get to be a better parent by doing less parenting. but you can reasonably talk with him about being on the same page discipline-wise -- what behavior gets punished, and how, should be consistent. [ Reply | More ]
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Does he have a job? Is he able to function at this job without getting fired? He needs to approach dealing with the kids like a job. Failure isn't an option, passing it off isn't an option, he needs to learn how to relate and deal with them even in difficult times. If men can run the world for thousands of years they can deal with a 3 year old for a few hours. We have to stop letting them push this shit off on us because "they can't deal". If they can't deal, then let women run the country and all the fortune 500 companies. [ Reply | More ]
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He agrees to watch the kids but he resents it because he believes it is "your job." Get a friendly babysitter and you'll all be happier. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am a very low-key, life-long vegetarian, I am guessing the majority of my coworkers and acquaintances don't even notice that I don't eat meat. However, my meat-loving in-laws go apeshit over my diet. Sunday we were at a cookout, my FIL plopped a small piece of steak on my plate (almost defiantly) that was already full of salad and side dishes. Without fanfare, I gave it to my DH, got glared at by my MIL, lectured by FIL. I ended up leaving the table and taking a walk. I know my DH has told them many times to knock it off, yet they will not stop hounding me. I am pregnant, doc says I am fine, our toddler eats some meat but doesn't really seem to like it. I hate the drama with them at mealtime, so fucking ridiculous. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do they have a problem with you being vegetarian? I would say something to them. [ Reply | More ]
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They think it's abnormal and they like to draw attention to it. When they come to our house for dinner, my husband grills meat, it's not like they are eating alfalfa sprouts and tofu. They are opinionated loudmouths, sigh. [ Reply | More ]
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np: FWIW, if you started eating meat they'd probably find something else to be jerks about. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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This! nnp. [ Reply | More ]
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are you a vegetarian to piss them off? do you eat enough protein for the baby? [ Reply | More ]
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Do you see the part where she's a life-long vegetarian? [ Reply | More ]
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She just said it was life long. Why would she be a vegetarian to piss them off? You have a strange idea about motive. [ Reply | More ]
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I was raised vegetarian, not trying to piss anybody off. I have already given birth to a healthy child who eats meat. My current pregnancy is normal. Yes, I eat plenty of protein and have a regular OB who says everything is fine. [ Reply | More ]
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do they pull this stuff when you are not PG? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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that makes it actually better. It shows in their own crazy way that they care about you- not just trying to protect their grand baby inside you. Have you approached them in a way that shows appreciation for their concern? [ Reply | More ]
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You sound completely normal and sane. They sound like asses. [ Reply | More ]
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i hear you. My FIL used to serve vegetarians (including his own children) spaghetti and meatballs, because "pasta is vegetarian." Be thankful your husband has your back and remember, they're creating teh drama, not you. [ Reply | More ]
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What an ass. [ Reply | More ]
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What an ass. [ Reply | More ]
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Do they do this all the time, or just now because you are pregnant? [ Reply | More ]
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All the time, sigh [ Reply | More ]
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They sound awful. I would understand a bit if it was just because they were worried about the baby, but I guess not. There's not much you can do. It sounds like you have a supportive DH, which is good. Maybe you can have DH remind his parents that you don't eat meat and to please stop giving it you? [ Reply | More ]
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You can't change them but you can change how you deal with them. Take the plate with the meat. Eat everything but the meat. Don't say anything anymore. But at every with them take a bit of the meat and leave it untouched on your plate. they will either stop forcing it on you if they realize you never it eat it or won't even notice that you don't eat it. But they always notice if you turn it down. [ Reply | More ]
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but don't you think its a little rude fro the FIL to put food on her plate uninvited? [ Reply | More ]
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Very rude! [ Reply | More ]
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Very rude! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I do think so. I'm addressing the bigger issue, not this one that has passed. [ Reply | More ]
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Totally. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope you don't have to see them very often. [ Reply | More ]
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crazy. why don't you just tell them no more contact w you or DH and DCs if they mention it one more time? seriously, take control of your life [ Reply | More ]
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My DH was vegetarian for many years. At first I was respectful but it started to drive me nuts after a while. You are setting yourself apart and not engaging with the family in shared, communal meals. This kind of thing is important to people. As I told my DH, you don't have to be all-or-nothing to stand by your principles. Having some meat once in a while because it's something oyur family loves and wants to share with you is not that big a deal in the long run. That said, your inlaws are rude in trying to pressure you. I can see why they may be miffed, but it's still your call. [ Reply | More ]
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WTF? I'm not even vegetarian...why does he have to eat meat to satisfy you? everyone should just back off and not care who is eating what [ Reply | More ]
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Because there are dishes I love, and love to cook, and that I inherited from several generations of my family, that I would like to continue making part of my family's traditions. Not all the time, but once in a while. A meal where every member of the family has his or her own food is not a family meal. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Oh come on - There are a gazillion vegetarian meal ideas on Pinterest that every family member would love. It's not like you have to re-invent the wheel for a vegetarian. [ Reply | More ]
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What are you missing? I want to cook my (ethnic) dishes from my family, and I like them the way they are. We can cook the vegetarian stuff from Pinterest the other 5 days of the week. [ Reply | More ]
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so you cook that and your husband eats the sides. no biggie -- this is my family at thanksgiving. not eating turkey doens't mean we can't participate in the meal. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not a vegetarian either, but this sounds very selfish. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, asking someone to share something you love once in a while is totally selfish. eyeroll. This is why vegetarians are the worst! Maybe they should marry each other then, and stop demanding that everyone else cater to their choices without any compromise. [ Reply | More ]
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It's messed up that you pressured your husband to abandon a principle he cared about. If my DH pulled this on me, I would be livid. NP. [ Reply | More ]
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That's total BS. If your DH made himself a PB&J sandwich every time you cooked something, it would bother you. That's basically what inflexible vegetarians do. The other party shouldn't have to give up all preferences and traditions because one party feels like being on a moral high horse about food. [ Reply | More ]
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he's only making that PB&J if you refuse to have any vegetarian dishes as part of your meal. [ Reply | More ]
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Op said she was a low-key vegetarian. To me, that means flexible. If your DH made a PB&J each time, yes, he was inflexible, and skewed your image of all vegetarians. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry. The DH married a vegetarian. End of story. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound incredibly uptight. Why not make your meals inclusive? Why did he have to pile the meat on to fit in? I'm from a German meat-centric household, and even my family makes food available for people who don't eat meat. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, you are a little bit weird. Think of a food that you really don't like, something that makes you gag. Now imagine that your dh insisted you eat some it whenever he want you to because he finds it insulting and driving a wedge between the two of you. Don't you think it's weird & controlling? [ Reply | More ]
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Is your toddler healthy? I'm lactose intolerant, and MIL will make meals that include dairy when she's here. (Which reminds me I need to go buy extra bagels to pop in the toaster for which she makes Alfredo, or something this weekend.) [ Reply | More ]
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why can't you just take a lactaid pill and eat dairy every now and then? that's what i do. and dd too. [ Reply | More ]
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I would tell my DH I was not going to see them any more, or bring my children to see them, if they continued to be so disrespectful to me, and let him handle it. And I would mean it, btw, and would do the same to my own parents (though I would handle directly in that case). I find this behavior unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Next will be the drama over the Easter ham, LOL. I will try the suggestion of just eating around it, leaving the piece of meat untouched on the plate.....sort of passive-aggressive!. Like I said in original,post, very few people notice that I don't eat meat, There is ALWAYS plenty for me to eat at parties, shared meals, restaurants but for some reason, my in-laws are really laser-focused on what I don't eat. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you think there's something wrong with an HYP grad in a low-level position in her 40's? Do you have different expectations for HYP? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Depends. What do you consider to be a low-level position? Is he/she part-time? [ Reply | More ]
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as an HYP grad, no. [ Reply | More ]
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I know so many of these people. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I would assume she leaned out and prioritized things other than her career [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Most people aren't the boss, regardless of where they went to school. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any Maplewood people on or who know a lot about Maplewood?? Is it really called "Park Slope West"? Is it really suppose to be amazing? http://forum.maplewoodonline.com/discussion/94129/brooklyn-maplewood#Item_99 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Everyone I know who moved there talks constantly how it's Park Slope in the suburbs. Like trying to convince themselves more than me. Then the ' you have to move here...if you are looking to get out of the city, move here..move here...'. And because we still haven't moved there, people come out to our place every weekend to go out/hang out. [ Reply | More ]
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Where is your place now? you don't want to move there? [ Reply | More ]
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Love the city and no plans to move. Plus, it's not a super small community, and while I'm sure they want the schools to improve, I don't really see that happening anytime soon. [ Reply | More ]
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What else are your friends saying about the town? So they go into the city a lot on weekends? [ Reply | More ]
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The other comments I hear is that it's a pain for commuting. It's horrible commuting into work when it snows b/c the trains stop running. There are some great restaurants there, but they want to dine in nyc with us every weekend. I think they miss the city but can't afford the space they want with the budget they had and therefore moved. [ Reply | More ]
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they are delusional. it's nothing like park slope. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you know? [ Reply | More ]
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because my entire family lives there and it sucks [ Reply | More ]
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Bad schools for sure [ Reply | More ]
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Why does it suck in your opinion, besides the schools? [ Reply | More ]
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One of my co-workers lives there and he seems to really like it (aside from the commute into the city). I've thought about checking it out, but my main concern is that the high school seems to be sub par. [ Reply | More ]
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The schools are an issue. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm trying to keep an open mind. My DH, an MBA, is employed at a Pharma corporation. He has not been promoted as he feels he deserves. However he never pursued other positions outside of the company. Although I wanted to comment on his lack off motivation ti do do, I decided it wasn't my place. In come his friends the majority of whom are not corporate professionals and they tell him about how much money they are making driving for UBER. Well my DH is spending more time than I've ever seen to meet the requirements to work with TLC. Although annoyed, I am trying to remain silent and objective. The thing that annoys most is that my DH is an underachiever who could have gone so much further in his career with a bit more effort. Now at the advice of friends, who drive cabs because the have not other choice, he wants to do the same. Ironically his friends are always talking about how they wished they had gone to college, etc. etc. I am the less degreed, who has been the bread winner for years, advancing in my career allowing him to "figure out" what he wants to do. Now I have to sit around and watch him undertake this new venture to become a cab driver. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously, WTF? [ Reply | More ]
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how much are his friends making at UBER? [ Reply | More ]
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Net 450 per day [ Reply | More ]
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THIS is how you do spam [ Reply | More ]
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I am sorry it really isn't SPAM. I'm just annoyed and wanted to tell as much as I could. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Spam for what? Sounds like she *doesn't* like her husband's Uber plan, which seems to go against the very purpose of spam. [ Reply | More ]
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the purpose of spam is to "reluctantly" show how much people are making. this is well done spam, IMO [ Reply | More ]
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Fair enough, but a paragraph is way too long of a post to be spam. Plus, her answer about how much an Uber driver makes is buried in the comments. [ Reply | More ]
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Wait. He's going to quit pharma to do uber? [ Reply | More ]
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No - his end game is to have a executive car service company but he wants to get to know the ins and outs. [ Reply | More ]
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So he's gonna do uber and pharma at the same time for a while? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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wow. That will be stressful on the family for a while. Can you guys downgrade your lifestyle, since the promotion is not coming in soon enough? [ Reply | More ]
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meh, watching someone else drive an uber does not strike me as too stressful, although it might not be too profitable. presume that driving the uber oneself isn't possible with a FT MBA job. [ Reply | More ]
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If this isn't fake, the friends have not taken into account the wear-and-tear or depreciation costs on the cars from driving with Uber. Once you take into account how little you resell the car for, you don't do that much better than any other per-hour job. You buy the car for $20k, bring in $200 a day, think you are doing great, then you sell the care for $10k. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry. BTDT. He is someone who totally lacks confidence/has an inferiority complex. Being a cabbie is easier...what does he have to prove to anyone ( meaning passengers) other than being able to drive from point a to point b. In his current job and other jobs in corporate life, he would have to constantly prove his worth...and it seems he feels he doesn't have any. Sorry but if he doesn't do Uber, he'll wind up talking about his friend the train ticket taker, or head janitor...something that required you just show up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Plenty of people have business ideas that are going nowhere. It's a true test of a spouse to put up with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] WTF? Tara Reid looks awful. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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has she ever looked well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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That's what 40 year olds look like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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No, not really. [ Reply | More ]
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Whoa. Ageism! I was gorgeous at forty. And looked young. What people don't realize is that as long as you keep that estrogen, baby, you are good. It's post-menopause that brings on the disaster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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It isn't, but keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Do you think I've never met one? I know many 40 year olds. This is what they look like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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wow. this is depressing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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Woah, she was rough when she was young...this takes the cake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] This weather sucks. It's a little warmer but the cloudiness and rain is annoying. What kind of summer are weathermen predicting? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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IDK, but I hope it's like last summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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I hope it comes soon, comes on strong and lasts until the end of October! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes. Yes. And then autumn starts and doesn't end until Christmas and then next winter is approximately three months long. Without snow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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Or: :). Or maybe I should move? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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How is the weather where you are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Sounds like she's in NYC... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Yeah and the weather looks like it will continue to suck over the next 10 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Snow predicted tomorrow. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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Not in NYC - supposed to be partly sunny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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tonight! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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They won't really know. Our weather satellites are all way out of date because funding for updating was suspended during the financial crisis and it hasn't yet been reinstated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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Sigh. Between this weather and my never-ending pregnancy, I am thisclose to completely losing it. [ Reply | More ]
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Right? When are you due? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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End of May. Ugh, still 9 weeks away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Need custom drapes. Two sets of windows. Not crazy expensive. Where to go/call in Manhattan or Brooklyn? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Restoration Hardware or Pottery Barn. [ Reply | More ]
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they do custom?? [ Reply | More ]
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anthropology [ Reply | More ]
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Drape is a verb. You need draperies. This is a pet peeve of mine and you stepped on it. My bad to correct. I know. BUT DRAPE IS A VERB AS IN I DRAPE MY COAT OVER THE BACK OF THE CHAIR, WHICH SITS IN FRONT OF MY DRAPERIES, A NOUN. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] i am eating too many oreos. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Vanilla or chocolate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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I just ate 4 Samoas... [ Reply | More ]
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I just ate a pack of rainbow mentos and a pack of peanut butter m&ms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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They have peanut butter cup Oreos now. My new downfall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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have you had fried oreos? [ Reply | More ]
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I like the ones dipped in white chocolate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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*drooling* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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I'll join you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm Jewish, DH and his family are not. DD calls my parents Bubbie and Zaydie. Is this so hard to remember and pronounce? MIL cannot seem to get those words out of her mouth when she talks about my parents. She says to my dd, "Are you looking forward to seeing... now let me see if I remember how to say it... how do you pronounce it? Oh, let's see... it starts with a "b"..." and on and on. What is that (besides annoying to me)? 78 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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My inlaws do a similar thing with my DC's nicknames for my parents (having nothing to do with religious stuff) - there is a weird competitive element between sets of grandparents I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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it's just passive aggressive, she's saying "I THINK THOSE NAMES ARE WIERD" in her own bitchy little way. Just interrupt and say "you know it's Bubbie, Susan. You always ask this." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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OP: this is exactly it, but if I ever said that to her... I don't know what would happen. No one talks directly to each other that way in DH's family. It's so weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Awful. My ex-in laws lived in northern NJ, worked on Wall Street and new tons of Jews. But when it came to talking about them (us) it was always "Oooh, I love those little round hats that they wear. What are those called again?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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If those are the only two words she forgets how to pronounce then, yes. Totally annoying and disrespectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Well, she also didn't like the words chuppah and ketubah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Because she's a grown woman who is embarrassed to be using childish words? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: foreign, yes. Childish, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP: what else is she supposed to say to my toddler? Are you looking forward to seeing Nancy and Irving? DD would not know what she is taking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Grandma and Grandpa. FYI if you see reform enough to marry a Christian (as I did ). Bubbe and Zaydie is an affectation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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np--you really can judge that from what has posted here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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+1 it's not her tradition/religion and she's old. why would you expect her to remember? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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np: if she can remember someone's name, she can remember this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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so many bigger problems in the world, let it go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Non Jewish: Is this what Jewish people call grandma and grandpa? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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np: eastern european jews, yes. My grandparents were Bubbie and Zaydie, as are my parents. I won't be. We are fairly observant and have a strong identity, but I feel too removed from the eastern european immigrant experience to really use it, when the time comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Thanks. Jewish culture is prevalent here. Big Jewish community in London but the culture isn't as commonly known. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Yes, it's Yiddish. Not everyone uses those names, but many do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Jewish mom here: It's what Jewish dcs called grandma and grandpa like 50 years ago. They are old Yiddish terms. I didn't know anyone still used them anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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I'm not Jewish, but have a friend who uses these terms (kids are late teens) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^and as far as I know the family is not particularly religious (they celebrate Christmas, more or less) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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Well, I guess I've learned something today. I thought these terms were basically dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Is this an isolated thing or does she pull other annoying crap along those lines? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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I mentioned above, she almost fell off her chair when we discussed the chuppah at our wedding. And you can see her looking at her watch during the ketubah signing on our wedding video. Our rabbi does a lovely ketubah signing ceremony, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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This is all about you looking to get your back up about her hating Jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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OP: I actually think it's what another poster said, it's provincial and maybe rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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You just sound like you are looking for any excuse to be angry with MIL and feel like a victim here. I feel sorry for her. In your eyes she will never be able to do anything right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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OP: Frankly, she does plenty right. And I acknowledge that to her and everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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OP: oh, and last year she sent us four loaves of bread for Passover. Not as part of a gift basket or anything, just in their own, four loaves of bread. I posted here about it and got sort of flamed, but I thought she was trying to tell me something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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She was trying to be nice - and obviously does not know the rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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np: LOL. She was not trying to be nice. Who sends someone four loaves of bread for a holiday? OP, she is trying to piss you off. What a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why do you make it about religion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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not a lot of non-jews speak yiddish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP: because I don't know any other cultural group that uses Bubbie and Zaydie. I think religion is relevant in this story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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It sounds to me like you are trying to read anti-Semitism into it, just because MIL and FIL cannot remember terms that are foreign to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Really? Two easy words that are important to their granddaughter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yes - really! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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To granddaughter or to you??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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np: ok, so they're just generally provincial and rude, not anti-semitic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Basically - yes - except, there is nothing wrong with being provincial, and some people just cannot remember names. They are not intentionally trying to be rude. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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if these are the only two names they can't remember, its rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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How many other foreign language names have they been asked to learn and master? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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well, if they live in america, probably more than two. Maria? Juan? Pierre? Barack? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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Maria, Juan and Pierre will be a lot more familiar to most people, and there is a reason why Barack tends to go by his last name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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See the second OR's response. It's probably not. Dont make it worse than it has to be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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She just feels stupid saying it. I'm from a foreign culture where everyone has nicknames that sound somewhat ridiculous in English. My American DH is the only one who calls everyone by their given names because he just can't stand it. I have a cousin whose nickname is "Pussi," lol, so I don't hold it against him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Totally and purposefully dis-respectful. After only reading this post I've got their names down pat, as well as the reason. And I'm not jewish. [ Reply | More ]
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She is old - and she struggles with names. My kids call my mother "mormor" - Danish for mother's mother - or grandma. My MIL struggle to get it right, but she tries, and I don' think there is any implied scorn here. Get off your horse and relax. [ Reply | More ]
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PS: MIL and FIL also still can't say my sisters' foreign names, after about 20 years of marriage, and you know what, I don't have a major hangover over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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If you have your kids call your parents Bubbie and Zaydie, you are probably pretty religious/culturally observant. Not making a judgment on this, but is there a part of you that had DCs call your parents by these old-fashioned names to stick it to your non-Jewish inlaws? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Good question. My parents were really looking forward to being Bubbie and Zaydie. I didn't really care and I didn't think it was really a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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poster above who said it was e. european. Some people have a cultural attachment to these things and some don't. My sister, who is less observant than I am, and whose children, so far, are not marrying other Jews, will be a Bubbie. I am more observant, keep a kosher home, etc. but would feel odd being a Bubbie. So, hard to figure. [ Reply | More ]
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She's doing it to bug you. Make her a little index card with the names written out phonetically, and sweetly tell her you wrote them down for her since she's having so much trouble remembering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Maybe she's just annoyed by having to call adults silly nicknames. [ Reply | More ]
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They aren't silly nicknames--it's how you say Grandma and Grandpa in Yiddish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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Do you speak Yiddish at home? No? In English, they are silly nicknames. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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No, I don't speak Yiddish at all. It doesn't matter if the names sound "silly" to you. Other languages sometimes do. When talking to dcs, I refer to DH's parents as "grandma" and "grandpa" in their native language, which might sound silly in English, but it's what you do when you want to respect their culture. Either you're really ignorant, xenophobic, dislike Jews, or you just want to stir the pot. Which is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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Wow - you are pretty determined to jam this into the anti-Semitic box here no matter what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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What? I listed three other possible options. I think you're the one with the bone to pick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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You just called the prior poster (which was not me) "ignorant, xenophobic, dislike Jews," - and you call me the one with the bone to pick. OK..... [ Reply | More ]
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I'm foreign, actually. I think, as a poster mentioned below, that you're totally affected and making a federal case out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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If you are foreign, you should understand that there are lots of different languages in the world and they each have their own words for grandparents. Not that complicated. [ Reply | More ]
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np: That is so silly. I know several Opa's who are quite a few generations removed from the boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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^^^not op, btw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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In the language of my family's heritage, Grandma would be "Baba". It does sound silly in English, regardless of its meaning in the other language. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I've heard grandparents called gramps, granny, nanny, nana, pops, - all a little silly but I bet she'd manage it. And im not Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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Yes - but all classic American nicknames - easy to remember for someone who never learned a foreign language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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And they have meaning in english, where "Bubbie" does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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I wrote above. It's an affectation unless you're pretty orthodox or living on the shtetl. Which you are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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I think she just feels silly using nicknames that are intended for the grandchildren to use. It is akward for her. [ Reply | More ]
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How old are your parents? Were they born in the US? [ Reply | More ]
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60s. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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I think she's doing it to needle you. I would ignore. I am not Jewish and it took me all of one second to learn and remember those names, as I do nonna and nonno for Italian friends. Chuppah and ketubah are equally accessible for anyone with a modicum of education and social grace. However, the best way to respond is by not giving her the satisfaction of getting annoyed. Just say "it's Bubbie and Zaydie" as many times as necessary in a polite tone, until she either stops or it becomes obvious to everyone she is doing it on purpose. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! My poor jewish dh was greeted at his first Christmas with my family by my grandpa saying "Merry C... Oh sorry sorry!!! Happy Ha-noo-kah!" Hanukkah was over fwiw [ Reply | More ]
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Who cares? I doubt my ILs remember what DCs call my [Chinese] parents. [ Reply | More ]
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This - signed another foreigner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] SAHMS - Did you get the life you thought you'd get? Now that I'm older I look at these young 20 somethings running around trying to snag the "rich" guys with high paying jobs who will support them and I feel bad for them, like they have no idea of the reality of the dream they're chasing. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Yes and no. I think it is all much more a crap shoot than we imagine. FWIW, I understand your disappointment. [ Reply | More ]
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No, because I wanted to be an actress and an anthropologist and a documentarian and travel the world all the time. Even if I worked, I don't think I'd have this life. [ Reply | More ]
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There's a reason SAHM also spells SHAM [ Reply | More ]
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I have a cousin who seems miserable as a young SAHM. Shared with my sister that she is looking for a PT job because she has to ask her husband for money. [ Reply | More ]
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What about it is not so great? I have my own theories but would be interested to hear. [ Reply | More ]
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Well IME (I am not someone who chased a rich guy btw, just someone who because a SAHM because our family couldn't sustain 2 people working crazy hours) they don't realize that unless you really marry someone making a ton then the reality isn't that fun, lots of cleaning, laundry, dragging the kids around. it is like groundhog day. I loved being home with my kids (back at work now) but it was monotonous to the extreme. We have a good HHI but couldn't afford help to allow me to go to soul cycle and lunch and everyone I know was in the same boat, DH's who made good money but worked a lot, having to do all kid stuff alone, no time for themselves [ Reply | More ]
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OR: It could be great, in theory. It is underappreciated and devalued position. [ Reply | More ]
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It depends on the person, I think. To me it sounds horrible. To Career SAHMs, it's the perfect life. [ Reply | More ]
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No, it is not the perfect life to them. That's the point of the post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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IDA. A lot of women want and get the Career SAHM life. To them, that's bliss. [ Reply | More ]
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I only know one woman who was a "career" SAHM and she's in her 50s, a divorced hypochondriac (very rich, though). Everybody else seems to work until they have kids, take time off and then get back to it at some level, although often not f/t anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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I know dozens - literally, dozens - of career SAHMS. Those are the women I'm talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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My SAHM did everything in her power to ensure that I did not follow in her footsteps. [ Reply | More ]
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There's always one on here [ Reply | More ]
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More or less, yes, but I did not expect that my husband would have a midlife crisis as soon as he "arrived." That was pure hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] DC's teacher just went on maternity leave. They had a long-term sub lined up, but that fell through, so now the former assistant teacher will be the teacher. Yesterday dc told me that because the new assistant they hired was just coming back from vacation and might not make it to school, the teacher had her DH come help with the class for an hour. I think that's weird. Thoughts? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Weird, I'd be pissed unless the DH has been background checked by the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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OP: That's what I'm thinking. DC says the DH was wearing a "visitor" sticker, as opposed to a "volunteer" sticker. I know they do background checks for volunteers, but I don't know about visitors. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: I still wouldn't be cool with that, and I'm not a pita parent (like poster below). "Visitor" to me means grandma is coming in to read a book, or a parent is coming to career day, not a teacher's husband substituting. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yeah, I agree. I'm really not ok with it, but I guess if it's just the one time, it's not worth making a big deal. I want to know what happened with the original sub that was supposed to come, but the school won't tell me. They fired her (I assume) just 2 days before the teacher was going on leave, so I understand they are scrambling for coverage. But having the DH there is bizarre to me. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: I would say something. Write an email. There is a reason that schools have to background check people who come into the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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^and it's a one-time thing this time. Who's to say it won't happen again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I think if it happens again, I might do that. But for all I know, he might be a teacher in another school in the district and has been background-checked already--who knows. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: that's true too. What a weird situation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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OP: I know. It gets weirder every day. They told us months ago the kids were getting this sub, and then two days before she leaves, the teacher tells the kids that Mrs. X is gone and they won't be seeing her again and the assistant (that they've had since the beginning of the year) will now be their teacher. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: so strange. I hate when schools play games or don't have their shit together generally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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wow i wouldn't be ok with any of that and i'm the least pita parent going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know if I should say something or just let it go. It might be a one-time thing since they supposedly have the assistant schedule worked out now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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Was he alone with the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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OP: Not that I know of, unless the teacher went to the bathroom or something. It's a combo class so they need two teachers for the different grades. DC said the teacher's DH was helping them and checking their work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Not OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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What free-for-all school is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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OP: LOL, I shouldn't even say, because it will just encourage stereotypes. It's public school in California. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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def no way in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate when I screw stuff up at work. Worked all weekend on a rush project, just looked in file and saw the copious edits, and now I'm waiting for the phone call telling me I did a shitty job. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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sorry - i always feel that way too. if it was a rush job you did your best right? wait until you hear the oral feedback... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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