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[ - ] MIL keeps asking to buy overpriced unnecessary things for DCs (think custom dolls that they don't like). We are not well-off and have no room. WWYD? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:13 PM Flag
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Suggest things they like then. Or do you just not want them to buy anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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I'd rather her not buy anything. We have no room. And could use the money (though I'd never ask). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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Watching this... I might be the SIL version of this. I always ask what my nephews/nieces want, but their parents are busy and I feel like I'm being annoying with these questions. But honestly, I just want to get them something nice because I love them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow Kathleen Turner is really obese! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Weight-loss Moms: these last 5 pounds to lose aren't budging. Any idea, tricks or suggestions? Would really like get this off within 1-2 weeks. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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The last 5 lbs can take a long time...think more like 5-8 weeks. Drink lots of water, cut out all starches and eat small meals five times a day to keep up your metabolism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:16 PM Flag
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count calories and stay below 1500 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Yeah! I am a single mom getting a break for the first time in at least a year this weekend. Going to the beach and looking forward to reading a book under an umbrella and having a leisurely dinner at nice restaurants. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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Great! How long are you going away? Where? Who's watching the kids? You deserve it, have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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Delaware shore, returning on Monday. Ex is watching kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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where are you dumping the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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Why are you such a bitch? (Not OP) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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What book are you planning to read? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:12 PM Flag
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Open to suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:13 PM Flag
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We told you to call the hotline!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Can't google this. What US states have the highest and lowest rates of obesity? Hints: one is in west, one is in east. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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Mississippi for highest rate and Washington for lowest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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Wrong on both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:11 PM Flag
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OK. My other guess on lowest was Colorado. Right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:12 PM Flag
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Alabama highest, Utah lowest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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My guess would be Mississippi and California [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:06 PM Flag
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Alabama for highest and Alaska for lowest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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^or maybe Arizona for lowest...(what can I say, I'm a sucker for alliteration) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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Alabama/Colorado. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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Colorado lowest; Mississippi highest, I'd guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:16 PM Flag
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Colorado has lowest and Alabama or Arkansas has the highest I believe. Didn't google but I remember a study on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Letter to the NYTimes on school safety in OK: Thanks to our meterologists, we have plenty of warning of impending tornadoes. The people of Moore had at least half an hour to an hour to get to safety. However, the children and teachers who died today had no such option. Sadly, they were forced to take shelter in the sheetrocked hallways of buildings shabbily built in the 1960's. No basement. No safe room. A death trap. Perhaps it is time to rethink our priorities and begin re-directing money toward, not only better educating our children, but keeping them safe in school--and not just from crazed gunmen. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:59 PM Flag
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Why didn't they have at least half an hour to an hour to get to safety? Do they not allow cellphones in the schools there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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Please see below--there is really no place to "go" during these events because even though you know a general area where it is going, you don't know any specifics until it is happening. Trying to get parents up to the school to evacuate large amounts of kids would just be foolhardy. People's homes are not nearly as safe as a school building. Think about it this way. This was a neighborhood school. Did you see what the neighborhoods looked like on the news that surrounded that school? They were decimated. The kids were actually safer in the school than at home, even though some of them did tragically lose their lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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Oklahoma mom: I will repeat my comment from below. I was 10 miles away from the tornado as it unfolded. The kids in that building did not have 1/2 an hour to an hour. They had 16 minutes of notice that "somewhere between Moore/Norman/OKC, there is going to be a tornado." Kids in schools are safer than they are at homes. In the history of Oklahoma, kids in school buildings had never been killed even when tornadoes caused direct damage to their buildings. With tornadoes, the more concrete-lined, bigger buildings are by far the safest--and schools are built to high standards. These kids were categorically safer at the school than they would have been in their homes. And for the person that wrote that letter to the NYTimes--7 children at the elementary school died in the basement of the school (they had a basement!) when the water pipes burst and they drowned. Many public schools open to the public as "shelters" during severe weather because the way schools are built makes them so much safer than almost any single-family home--but there is almost nothing that can stand up to the force of 200+ mile per hour winds. This is a freak tornado. The meterologists are saying it may go down as the worst that the world has ever seen. The kids and teachers were just at the wrong place at the wrong time for this truly horrific tornado. If it had been the type of tornado that we are far more used to Oklahoma, the school would have suffered some roof damage and maybe the gymnasium dome would have collapsed--but that would have been it as far as damage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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We all have notice on the days where events like this are possible that somewhere in an area approximately 100 miles wide, tornadoes are more likely than normal. Seriously. Yesterday morning, the meteorologists were saying there was a 10-15% chance of a tornado within a 50-mile radius of the OKC metro area. Now, we take that very seriously, because 10-15% change is substantial. But it could have hit anywhere. The specifics aren't known until there is a tornado on the ground heading on a certain path--and even then (like yesterday), it was heading directly NE, when it suddenly took a right turn and beared directly E through Moore. It is a minute by minute thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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np: I posted before, but thanks Oklahoma mom. This is 100% correct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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np: So, there were hundreds of children in the basement seeking shelter and the pipes burst? I assume they all tried to get out and 7 of them didn't make it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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Oklahoma mom: This is what the stories that have been on our local news have reported. That the kids got trapped in the debris (I can hardly bear to type that). But they were in the basement--which is absolutely the safest place possible to be. There is just no precedent for a tornado of this magnitude in a populated area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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Thank you for this explanation. This event is just mind blowing, I can't imagine being in OK right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone one who works part-time? What field are you in? Did you start out in a PT position or move to PT from FT? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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Attorney at law firm, started FT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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what type of law? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] We need more space. Considering a Harlem brownstone, already live on UUWS and kids are in private. Would you do it? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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Depends on where. East side, no. West side, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:58 PM Flag
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why not the east side? Just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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you've never been to east harlem obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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that's why I am asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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go check it out in person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:12 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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What part of UUWS are you in? And what part of Harlem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m sorry but don’t you want to be involved (as much as possible) in your child’s school because it sends a message to your child on how important school is? You participation validates that. Sending the Nanny at times I can understand when it isn’t possible to be there but sending the nanny all the time or most of the time sends the wrong message to your children. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:50 PM Flag
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what wrong message? that mommy and daddy need to work? get over it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:47 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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Exactly--I can come for my kids' birthday parties and the Christmas party. But the "100th day of school celebration"? I would get fired from work if I took off for everything like that. And my kids would certainly be impacted more from losing my income than they are from not having me show up for those little "events." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:51 PM Flag
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This. 100th day of school give me a break... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:59 PM Flag
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It's ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:06 PM Flag
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Seriously. The schools schedule a million things -- not just two-- throughout the year during working hours. Some (of us) are working hard to afford the tuition, we don't have the luxury of leaving work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:57 PM Flag
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+1000. I wish the school can cut down on their "events". This month alone between 2 kids, there were 4 field trips, two publishing parties, and a science presentation. There are so many more in June as the school year is ending. Seriously, they need to understand parents simply cannot leave their work so often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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^ oh, I didn't mention two PTA meetings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:11 PM Flag
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I actually don't think it's about the schools at all. Mothers like OP complain if there isn't something for them to go to every minute. They have no life and feel the need to vicariously re-live their lives through their kids by being up DCs butt every minute. Personally, I feel bad for these kids. They never learn any independence because even at school their mom is rearing her ugly head every 5 minutes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:58 PM Flag
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+1. My parents didnt hover over me, it worked out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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so work ethic isn't important? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:47 PM Flag
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As I sending the nanny to a PTA mtg? I don't get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:54 PM Flag
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yes so so sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:54 PM Flag
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My mom never, ever went to my school and my grandparents did the same as I'm sure generations before did. I still went and studied and did all the things in supposed to do. Not saying I won't go to db's scool one day, I will, I'm just saying this type of parenting is a newer and we all turned out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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^^school in too old for this iPhone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:57 PM Flag
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ITA. It's important for the kid to understand why they have to go. I'm not on the same level as my kid. I'm the parent. I already went to school. I go to work now. My kid doesn't need to see me at school to understand that they have to go. My mom didn't come to my school. I figured it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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I have never seen the nannies at school events - mostly the non-working moms with the working moms coming to as much as possible. No shortage of the moms showing interest - it is really nice! Sometimes the grandparents go instead but not often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:57 PM Flag
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this plus dads sometimes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:02 PM Flag
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I agree for school shows and stauff but rarely for classroom activities and field trips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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My parents (the grandparents) go to school events a lot for me, bless their hearts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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I once saw a nanny at a parent-teacher conference. Talk about depressing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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Well... perhaps she had a good reason for being there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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For whom? Unless there is an issue, most parent-teacher conferences are BS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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Our nanny is a much better baker than I would ever be! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:04 PM Flag
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Give me a break. Schools invent a bunch of bullshit stuff to be done and task the parents as unpaid labor to do it. Snowflake doesn't need 10 parties a year, teachers don't need a bunch of stuff. It's nonsense. There's nothin worse than a bunch of SAHMs making up crap for the WOHMs to do during the year...."Send I'm a scrapbook page of your DC so we can make a scrapbook for the teacher of her favorite class ever!" "Send in a single flower so we can make a bouquet for teacher!" God I hated that shit....was so happy to get out of elementary school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm convinced ex is a sociopath for too many reasons to list. He lives like an overgrown frat boy, sees his kid at most a day and a half a week, although he's blown off the last two weeks in favor of a vacation with his new girlfriend (despite also being several weeks behind in child support). He is convinced he does no wrong and that I'm still in love with him, which is why I'm so mad about what he's doing (which couldn't be further from the truth - I'd rather stab myself with a rusty fork than ever get back together with him). My question is ... How do I get over my anger and keep it from consuming my life? how do you manage the stress -- anyone in a similar situation? How do I just let go? Should I even pursue him having a relationship with DD or just let him come and go as be pleases? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:50 PM Flag
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How much caffeine have you had this morning? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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Not enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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You need to find a new man! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:51 PM Flag
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Was he this way when you kicked him out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:51 PM Flag
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If he's truly a sociopath, wouldn't it be better to have him spend less time with your dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:52 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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Are you the mom who got pregnant and had a DD with a ManChild boyfriend who lives with a bunch of friends? You were doing something at first where he stayed with you a couple of days a week and provided childcare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:59 PM Flag
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Your angry because he is not suffering, I am guessing you filed for divorce so be happy he is gone - the few weeks behind is a problem go to court if it goes to a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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Is he paying Child Support through the courts? If not, why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I did the 23andme test, and it says I have a mutation for some horrible Ashkenazi disease. Basically, if I marry someone else with this mutation, our kids are likely to be very sick (I don't have the disease; I'm just a carrier). So... this is a real bummer. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:49 PM Flag
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sounds like a bummer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:50 PM Flag
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Hugs :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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I was a carrier for one of these horrible things and fortunately, dh was not. I think many of these are very rare. Also, while it is risky, there is only a 1 in 4 chance that db would actually have the disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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sorry. the good news is you know this and if you fall in love with and marry someone who is also a carrier you can do embryo selection and have a healthy child. your children will also know in advance that they may be carriers and can also avoid the tragic consequences of genetic disease. It's sad, but you have the power now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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Really sorry to hear. But what are the odds that you will end up with this scenario. Better that you know. Also, with many genetic diseases there are ways that you can do a form of IVF (PGD) where you could screen out embryos that did get the mutation. That would be an option if you DID marry someone with the mutation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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Just get your partner tested for this very disease. If your partner is not a carrier, no problem for the kids, nothing else to test. You only do this once, no matter how many kids you have. It's expensive, my old insurance didn't cover my test, I am a carrier for SMA, DH got tested and he was not a carrier, so we didn't need to test amnio fluid. But even if your partner is a carrier, you can test the amniotic fluid collected during amnio, because even in this case, the chance that the baby actually has a disease, not just a carrier, is 50/50. I would not worry, OP, you are not alone and tests exist these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, the good thing is that these things are pretty rare, do you are not very likely to marry another carrier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:57 PM Flag
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So just don't marry an Ashkenazi jewish person who's a carrier. No biggie. It's not like every man on the planet has this mutation. It's probably quite rare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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...and if the man she falls in love with is... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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Adopt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] It seems that the planet is trying to rid itself of us. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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It should do a better job on you.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:54 PM Flag
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I don't disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] What's for lunch? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Egg salad with a side of gummy bears? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:45 PM Flag
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sounds good to me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:52 PM Flag
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fiji water [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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Lasagna with canola oil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:46 PM Flag
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This is hilarious! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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I don't want a salad. What should I get that'll be a caloric equal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:41 PM Flag
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Healthy wrap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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like a whole wheat wrap without any dressing, mayo, or avacado? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:43 PM Flag
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Triscuts and cracker barrel cheese [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:47 PM Flag
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Spinach salad and 4 tea eggs, 2 multigrain rolls, banana [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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That's enough food for a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:52 PM Flag
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You're kidding, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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A lot of vegetables and tiny but if whole grain vegan noodles cooked in coconut milk with green curry paste. Feeling a string pull to the chocolate chip cookies sold downstairs but trying to resist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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stewed mushrooms with loads of vegetables, bacon and a touch of marsala and cream. orange, ginger tea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:49 PM Flag
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mesclun with glazed walnuts, dried cranberries, crumbled Stilton, sliced pears, and walnut vinaigrette [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Sloppy joe and mac and cheese grilled sandwich from the Toast Monster truck. OR the steak and potato grilled sandwich. OR Indian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:46 PM Flag
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I like your style - ever go in the site midtown eats? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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Chicken shwarma with hummus, cucmber salad and tahini from Naf Naf Grill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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salad from chop't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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dinner at a restaurant. probably some wine and cheese! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:58 PM Flag
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