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[ - ] In your experience, do you think most women are better looking than they themselves think they are? Or worse looking than they think they are? Why? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:32 PM Flag
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I don't think there is any formula to this. I think it depends on the woman. It is all related to self esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh is up in bed wanting morning sex. I'm down here with iPad and dogs and tv and coffee. Someone tell me to get my ass off the couch and make my sweet dh happy...ugh, I, so lazy. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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It's V-Day, baby. Go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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Two more upvotes and I'm going. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:30 PM Flag
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No more votes. Go because you love him and want to make him happy. He will be so glad. It's your marriage, not mine :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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just do it. will be over quick and good for the marriage. even tho it dogs, coffee and tv sound better to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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Wish I could go back and not make the same mistakes. I said no a lot. I'm divorced now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me how to find a TT husband. I'm 34, TT education, live in Manhattan, but tend to be insular and at this point don't keep in touch with anyone from college or grad school, so am unconnected. Online dating gets me mediocre people. Sorry I'm (secretly) so snobby). Of course, love and chemistry would trump any of this. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:11 PM Flag
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How attractive are you? Why would a tt husband want to marry you? You don't make it clear what you are offering. A top education does not make you unique. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:14 PM Flag
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Are you active in alumni org? Isnt there a dating service just for ivy grads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:16 PM Flag
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How to find an IVY league educated multi- million $$ earner? Maybe a second time rounder, but most are taken at your age. Maybe you could be a home wrecker if you are that desperate. You will have to come to terms with having all sorts of other baggage in that department. Wait, I have an idea. Why don't you just find a guy who is kind, honest and loves you aside from "TT" status. This is all so ridiculous. Earn some money yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:18 PM Flag
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You are 34 yo single woman in NYC... if you are snobby it's time to get cats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:20 PM Flag
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34 is not that young anymore. Have you had a series of lengthy relationships which have ended? Are you too picky? What's going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:21 PM Flag
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Second the cat suggestion. You're turning into mutton....get more realistic expectations. Notice I didn't say "lower". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:22 PM Flag
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Most are locked down or married by 34. Look for a guy that treats you with respect and comes from a good family. Interested in anyone at work or the gym ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I might be going crazy but I swear maybe like a year ago there was this post by a woman who claimed to be the ex-wife/wife of a "near billionaire" and I am dying to read it again. Anybody have a link? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 11:12 AM Flag
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I vaguely remember her passing through. Not sure what she contributed to or what her plot line was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 11:28 AM Flag
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I remember the post. I forgot the context though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] OK now UB has given me a new insecurity...skiing is something to hide or be embarrassed of? Huh? We ski at local mountains with young children on the weekends. We do not brag or even go to any cool places anymore. When you work it is invariably going to come up on Fridays and Mondays where you are going and what you did on the weekend. I have to get off here as I never thought that was a problem. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:58 AM Flag
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I grew up in the Bronx and never went skiing. Now I know a ton of people who ski. I understand that they grew up wealthier than me but I would never judge them for it. I have never met anyone in real life who feel that people are bragging because they say they went skiing. I would not t worry about it at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 10:42 AM Flag
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You would never judge them for skiing? Is this some sort of joke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:14 PM Flag
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UB has turned weird, it's as though they're testify to turn low-toned unathletic ...something....into a virtue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:15 PM Flag
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I don't ski but that's because I hate it, no judgement go have fun. I guess people are jelly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Enough already with the BS about high Asian IQ. There is no such thing. DOCUMENTED research shows that Asian success in academics is all due to socioeconomic factors. Notice the web site, the references and the authors. : "We find that the Asian-American educational advantage over whites is attributable mainly to Asian students exerting greater academic effort and not to advantages in tested cognitive abilities or socio-demographics. We test explanations for the Asian–white gap in academic effort and find that the gap can be further attributed to (i) cultural differences in beliefs regarding the connection between effort and achievement and (ii) immigration status. Finally, we highlight the potential psychological and social costs associated with Asian-American achievement success." http://www.pnas.org/content/111/23/8416.full 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:34 AM Flag
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Nah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:02 AM Flag
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An interesting question. Are high IQ test scores of Asians caused by their DNA or caused by something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:12 AM Flag
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Best way to test this is to look at Asian babies adopted by whites at birth. These babies were raised culturally white. Did their Iq scores match the white average or the Asian average? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:13 AM Flag
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Interesting but many confounding factors. Here are 2 1)Rich people work so hard they frequently wait until past their fertile years to feel financially secure enough to have a child, 2)Intellectually open-minded and or people in a more intellectually/rich environment are more likely to feel comfortable adopting a child from a different race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:21 AM Flag
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Very reasonable comments. As parents we should all think about this and do our own research. Probably not worth flooding UB with this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:31 AM Flag
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Totally agree. Poor whites have enough babies so don't need to adopt. Most adopted Chinese babies go to wealthy, successful families in intellectual communities. There are many in my DC's school on the UES. They did not adopt to be average parents. They are really bright people who had fertility problems and did not even start trying until mid-30's due to the success of the woman's career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 08:07 AM Flag
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Here is an honest and true write up of this. The author says over and over that he WISHES Asians were not smarter than whites, But he is compelled to tell the truth http://www.rense.com/general79/dut.htm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:19 AM Flag
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As somebody who maxed GREs applying to grad school, I can tell you it's mind-blowing the time and energy the Asians put towards test taking. I've even seen them training in groups during some of my travelings. Pretty insane and when in school it doesn't reflect the kind of thinking that's needed to do well in research in STEM. They are so much into cheating, maybe their score-oriented learning pushes them to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:40 AM Flag
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If you think that Asians aren't doing well in STEM research, you haven't looked at the surnames of PhD graduates at any university. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 09:26 AM Flag
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"The psychological and social costs associated wiith Asian American achievement success?" I understand what they're saying but how about the psychological and social costs associated with underrrepresented minority failure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 09:24 AM Flag
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None of these studies can possibly prove causation because you can not randomly assign people to be Asian so there is no way for the control group to be the same except some are Asian. If everyone assumes Asian people are smart and hard working, it affects the confidence of the kids and makes them believe in themselves. Conversely, if AAs are told their whole lives that they are not gifted academically, they internalize that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 10:37 AM Flag
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It is all the factors listed in the article + IQ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:15 PM Flag
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NOKD. No studying your way out of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Blue apron looks good but is there a step down from that? I have never cooked more than pasta. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:07 AM Flag
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I love BA. It's so easy don't worry. It's also made me a much better cook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:13 AM Flag
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op: Really? I was kind of thinking that. I am a scientist so know how to follow directions so I can do that part. However I have never chopped so much a a carrot. DH likes to cook simple things but I think I might enjoy it if I could start in the most simple way. Maybe I will try BA. Otherwise are there cooking tutors that could come to my house and show me how to pick out stuff and cut and cook? where would I find that? I am happy to pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:24 AM Flag
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I would take a cooking class at Whole Foods or something. Would be more fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:47 AM Flag
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op: Cool. I did not even know they had that. Haven't been looking and just heard about blue apron today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Word to your mother 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Crazy how many people on right wing sites think Obama had Scalia killed. People are nuts. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:44 AM Flag
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At the same time, anything is possible. Especially at that level. That's where the really crazy stuff happens because the stakes are so high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:48 AM Flag
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You're fucking insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:05 PM Flag
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It should tell you how much people trust him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:50 AM Flag
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It tells me how racist they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 11:51 AM Flag
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Only this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:05 PM Flag
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I had to edit a book by people alleging that the Clintons had people killed. It became a bestseller, and drove me away from the company. Now I'm unemployed (the Medicaid poster below). Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:07 AM Flag
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Why now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:09 AM Flag
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So Obama can put in who he wants. His statement came literally minutes after the death announcement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:14 AM Flag
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I'm sure they notified him immediately and then waited to tell the public so he would have known for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:25 AM Flag
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I don't want my account "suspended" again but dare I say no one I know thinks that. That is just a silly and crazy thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:24 AM Flag
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Don't you watch Scandal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:37 AM Flag
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Yikes. I said it as a joke. Unfortunately I also made the joke a day before Scalia was killed, er, I mean , died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 10:32 AM Flag
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Rot in hell. You bigoted old fart. I hope Obama puts a dang commie on the court. Clearly in the face of a potential Trump presidency, God made the right call and gave Obama a chance to fix the court. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm on Medicaid, the United Community Plan, and would like to find a therapist. Most of the practitioner listed in this plan's database say that, even though the site lists them, they in fact don't take Medicaid. If I definitely want therapy, what should I do - try to switch to a private plan that covers therapy, look in hospitals etc. for therapists that accept Medicaid, or look for therapists that offer a sliding scale fee system? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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And how terrible is Medicaid, anyway? I lost my job and was offered it at the Unemployment office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:45 AM Flag
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I was on it in california and it was great. Just have to find the right people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:52 AM Flag
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Thanks, that makes me feel better. I'm in NYC - any tips on finding a therapist likely to accept it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:05 AM Flag
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Your best bet with Medicaid is prob through an agency. There are some solid agencies in the city. Few private practice people accept it. That said, the same is pretty true to for private insurance. And you will prob have a big copay anyway. Not sure it pays to switch ins for that. Another good option is the post grad institutes offer very reduced tx with trainees who often have many years experience but are getting extra training in a certain modality with expert supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:31 AM Flag
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OP: I so appreciate this!Can you suggest any particular agencies or institutes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:06 PM Flag
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NP: institute for contemporary psychotherapy (ICP), national institute for psychotherapy (NIP), the William A White institute. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:26 PM Flag
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call clinics which educate psychiatry, psychology, and social work trainees. they are generally good, and they're young but get good supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 10:56 AM Flag
[ - ] UB told me account suspended a few weeks ago. So strange as I never post about politics and not even SAH/WAHM crap as I have friends in both and never have felt that was an issue with us and work part-time. I wish the UB people could tell you why you got suspended. That is just weird. Maybe it is part of feeling like you are in junior high and will get cut out of the clique? How many of you get just get suspended? I did nothing wrong. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:36 AM Flag
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I wouldn't read much into it. The policing on this site is obviously terrible as is evidenced by all the spam that is posted after midnight. I am sure it was a random mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:39 AM Flag
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+1. I have posted some outrageous things and never been banned. Random and no w/o reason, don't give it a second thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:42 AM Flag
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op: Thanks. I am so confused that I think that it was that I had saved some posts and they were trying to cut down on storage. I am not offensive and totally lost links to slip-over place on UES, blinds store, some kids books/games. I did nothing wrong. Please tell me what I did wrong for this site. Just weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:47 AM Flag
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^And urbanbaby people it is really lame when someone has done nothing and I had a ton of posts saved on kids furniture, recipes, ski areas, kids parks and vacation spots. Is it normal to just get cut out or did I use too much storage. I could have cut down and it was not that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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Playing coy ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:46 AM Flag
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op: No I think I saved too many links and used up storage now I know to just print them out. I like to think I am smart but I am not that interesting except that I get lots of likes on WSJ and NYT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:50 AM Flag
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Print them out? Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:36 AM Flag
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op: Yes, serious. I have had too many things erased on the internet and most recently my links to children's books, kid's board games recs, and some decorating links. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:52 AM Flag
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I'm not buying this. I think you are probably some crazy racist who can't imagine why she would offend anyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 10:34 AM Flag
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I've been here for 7 years, and talk about controversial things frequently. I also save lots of posts. And I've never been suspended. It was probably just a fluke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:32 AM Flag
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So weird as I said nothing offensive but read so many offensive things. I was shocked to be suspended. What does that even mean? Like I get my account back after a few weeks or months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:49 AM Flag
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It happened to me a month or two ago, for no reason. Weird and annoying, as I lost so many watched posts :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:10 AM Flag
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op: I can't believe how many posts that I lost just for kid and home ideas that are lost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:26 AM Flag
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Exactly! So many helpful ideas, advice, restaurant recs, etc. Some I'd gone back to and some I hadn't yet. Some posts that were just entertaining. I emailed them but never got a reply. I think the system has been getting worse and worse for a few years now. Makes me wonder how long the entropy will last before it all implodes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:34 AM Flag
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op: Same here. And some wacko above just claimed Obama killed a Supreme court justice. Psychos can post here and I am trying to get advice on kid feeding and transitioning from milk, etc. Random thought but the makers of a constitution did a pretty good job with the idea of 3 branches to provide checks and balances. I have not thought of that in decades but basically any president has their hands tied to do too much change or damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:08 AM Flag
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Yep. No matter who gets voted in, not that much chsnges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 08:25 AM Flag
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Don't take it personal but too bad you lost the links. Some wacko probably flagged you for reasons you can't even imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Who do you like more, Brandon or Luke? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:29 AM Flag
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to date or marry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:23 AM Flag
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To date 1st, then marry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:57 AM Flag
[ - ] How many of you think CRUZ and Rubio have tons of BOTOx in their foreheads? Serious Q 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:28 AM Flag
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^^^ oh yes and why are TRUMPs hand and eye a different color- he needs the moderator's tan person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:30 AM Flag
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