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[ - ] Went into work today and colleague smelled like a brewery. He often reeks of alcohol. Kind of sad. I like him but it's none of my business, I realize. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Depends on what your business is among other things ... I might say something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:52 AM Flag
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His office is right beside my boss's office. There is no way that she does not notice. He and I work mostly in parallel roles so his drinking does not impact my work. It's just a bad odor and a little disconcerting that someone in my field would show up for work hammered on a regular basis. We are attorneys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:01 AM Flag
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Hmmm me too ... just did an mcle credit on this, the speaker made the point that speaking up CAN make a difference. Grab a coffee sometime and consider saying something. Or put a 12-step brochure in an interoffice envelope and put "from a friend" on it. Or not, but give it some thought before ruling it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:05 AM Flag
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Interesting. What else did the speaker say? A few years ago I had another colleague who drank heavily on the job. I spoke to our boss about it because he and I worked closely together and I was concerned that his drinking would impact our work. My boss never did anything about it. I feel like it's a management issue and if management knows and does nothing, I just need to ignore it as long as it does not impact my work. In terms of helping him work out his issues, I don't want to meddle in his personal life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:14 AM Flag
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There's a few ways to looks at it. Sure, it definitely is a management issue. It's also a human issue -- you may decide to say something because you are part of the same community and concerned/affected by the conduct (or maybe you decide not due to privacy concerns or other reasons). I could also see the possibility for professional ethics to creep in, if for example you have reason to believe your colleague's conduct is harming a client who is arguably or actually your client as well. If you are a partner, you would also have a financial stake too in the quality of lawyering the clients are getting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:23 AM Flag
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If I were a partner, I would have said something by now. It's totally unprofessional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:39 AM Flag
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He may need you to notice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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Like his drinking is a cry for help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:23 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's what I was thinking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:24 AM Flag
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Nah. He did not know that I would be there. I think more likely he expected to tie one on in peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:40 AM Flag
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Well, cries for help aren't conscious decisions. You said he often reeks of alcohol. IHe clearly has a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Can one have mono and not know it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:42 AM Flag
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Noway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Yes. There are mild forms. I know several people who didn't know at least for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:58 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I've never been properly in love. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:40 AM Flag
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you have to find the right person and build a life togehter. love follows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:41 AM Flag
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Me neither [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:41 AM Flag
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+1 I really thought I found the one when I turned 40, but he was just a user [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:46 AM Flag
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I thought love is what starts the building of the life together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Not necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:53 AM Flag
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no, there has to be fondness. but there is no love until you've been throgh some shit together. you haven't been through shit until you've at least had to budget household expenses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:03 AM Flag
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Not always [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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np Not for us. We married for practical reasons, and then grew to love each other over the first four or five years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 08:17 AM Flag
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But I've bet you've been cheated; been mistreated... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:37 AM Flag
[ - ] STM or OTM are you here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:37 AM Flag
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OTM here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:38 AM Flag
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Hi. I hired the husband and wife team. He seems like such a nice guy and we really think alike a lot. So happy. Hope it works out as you said it would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:43 AM Flag
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But STM has seen this other person not working out for me and she didn't. Do you think I will find someone else soon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:44 AM Flag
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STM here. Hope it works out. Your card was very clearly positive. But I'm confused. ..What other person are you talking about? Can you clarify your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:04 AM Flag
[ - ] ha ha, suckers. so glad to be done with that nyc weather! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:37 AM Flag
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I'm excited!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Sassy tarot mom? It's OTM. Wanna chat? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:25 AM Flag
[ - ] We found a beautiful apartment in an amazing location for a great price. Only problem: there's one big, huge "great room" with kitchen, dining area, and family room area. No walls, totally open. Is this weird? Entry way opens into this and theres a sliding door off the family room area that leads to hallway with bedrooms. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:25 AM Flag
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usually, people get acclimated to everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:29 AM Flag
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This is what they call loft living. You need nice furniture piece to show case the space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:33 AM Flag
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I'm not cool enough for this haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Trashy Italian weddings are the best. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:18 AM Flag
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yes. where else can you fistpump to 'shots' after being stuffed with a million different types of foods? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:21 AM Flag
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Those are my people. It's not a wedding if there's not penne vodka being served. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:27 AM Flag
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why is pv trashy? i don't like it but don't think it's trashy. but i'm curious of the provenance of an italian dish with a distinctly russian ingredient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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It's not that the dish itself is trashy, it's that EVERYONE serves the exact same thing. They don't know why, but they just serve it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:41 AM Flag
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Those are my people. It's not a wedding if there's not penne vodka being served. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:27 AM Flag
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what makes them trashy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:38 AM Flag
[ - ] My husband has a net worth in the low nine figures and I still work, any questions? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:09 AM Flag
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*I think it is so funny that nobody would think less of a man who worked (despite having family money or having a wife that was wealthy) but women are discredited for having actual jobs if they "don't have to work". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:10 AM Flag
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no one gets discredited. but face it, work usually sucks. i'm in your position and am never going to work. well, sometimes i think about doing something because i think it might be fun but i'd never want to do anything because i'd have to. and i'm done with finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:18 AM Flag
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Your title is Vice President of some Bullshit Relations of DH's Foundation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:11 AM Flag
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No, I have a real job working in an unrelated field. I have been told to "volunteer" or do something for "the sake of mankind" on several occasions, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:12 AM Flag
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Then you must really like your work. More than I say about me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:13 AM Flag
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same here. so freaking glad to not be working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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same here. so freaking glad to not be working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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You are a hero [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:15 AM Flag
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what does dh think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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He doesn't care, he knows I would go crazy if I didn't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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He obviously doesn't need to work anymore either and he chooses to. I see no difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 07:33 AM Flag
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Would you still work of his net worth were in the high nine figures? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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Just wondering why you bothered to make that distinction. I mean, at nine figures, how does low vs high matter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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I mean to make the distinction that we weren't becoming billionaires anytime soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:23 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:25 AM Flag
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seriously? what's the diff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:21 AM Flag
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Or: I mean tit tongue in cheek. Thought it was funny that she specified low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:23 AM Flag
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^^^ meant it! Funny typo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:24 AM Flag
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well, you know, it doesn't make a difference in lifestyle but it could be a lifetime of difference in absolute dollar amount/earnings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:32 AM Flag
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Did he accumulate that net worth after you married or before/inherited? We're you already established in your career when you met (or when he got so wealthy)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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He had family money when we married. I was getting my PhD when we got married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:22 AM Flag
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well La Di Da [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:24 AM Flag
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Nope. None. Zilch. Zero. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:28 AM Flag
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no, but it's smart to keep working and maintain your own identity. esp if you have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:37 AM Flag
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np: just too lazy for that. i don't know how i came out so lame when my mother was so ambitious and hard working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:39 AM Flag
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I get it, but c'mon. That's not a real job. You're not stressing or struggling to keep it. It's pretty much a day hobby, no? I would love job security, but who needs that when you don't need your job. Not discrediting your work ethic, but it is widely differentlial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:56 AM Flag
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Not really, lucky you. Hope he is at least hawt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:58 AM Flag
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I like my job. But not that much. I'd pursue some kind of a creative hobby if I had that kind of coin in my family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:45 AM Flag
[ - ] My husband has a net worth in the low nine figures and I still work, any questions? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:09 AM Flag
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Why would your dh's net worth affect your ability or interest in working? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:24 AM Flag
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well most people work because they need the money. that's the deal with most people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:45 AM Flag
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Why is this even a question ? Makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:35 AM Flag
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Why is this even a question ? Makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:35 AM Flag
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Mine has 5 figures. Should kill self? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:56 AM Flag
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maybe just cut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:04 AM Flag
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Already do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 07:14 AM Flag
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