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[ - ] Anybody have a kid in both Lab and Salk middle schools? Trying to figure out how to rank. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:29 AM Flag
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Traditionally Lab had most go to SHS. They are going to be cut back most if current plan holds. I would do Salk! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:45 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you all do for NYE? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Why is almost all of my makeup gone by around 4pm? What am I doing wrong? I wear undereye coverup, light foundation, blusk, eye shadow and mascara but by 4 it looks like it's all gone. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:44 AM Flag
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Are you wearing primer and eyeshadow primer? Those help. Still, you have to do a bit of touching up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:48 AM Flag
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I do but forgot today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] biggest regrets so far as a parent/ things you wish you could go back and correct or change? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:29 AM Flag
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You learn from your mistakes. Regret sucks the life out of you. Move forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:33 AM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:45 AM Flag
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I wish I'd gotten a video camera instead of using my stupid crappy phone for the first year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:43 AM Flag
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Ha, speaking of cameras I can't believe I didn't take a single picture at the hospital. I was young, pretty, recovered quickly but my first photo with a baby was much later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:40 AM Flag
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My husband. Cheating asshole. Narcissist who can only think of his own needs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:55 AM Flag
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not really about you as a parent . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:46 AM Flag
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Becoming a parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:14 AM Flag
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harsh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] At what age do you think you had to start putting in effort to be attractive? I think for me it was around 25. Before that I was cute with my uncombed hair in a ponytail, no makeup, sweats and an ugly old t shirt. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:12 AM Flag
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I'm gonna go with age 13. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:14 AM Flag
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+1. Middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:24 AM Flag
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Same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:26 AM Flag
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Still going strong at 42 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:26 AM Flag
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Still going strong at 42 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:26 AM Flag
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I remember always getting dolled up from high school on. To this day, I have never owned sweats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:30 AM Flag
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So funny . I never wore sweats or sneakers as shoes until I was in. my 40's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:53 AM Flag
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It's a slippery slope on the way to giving up. Please tell me you haven't let your hair go gray.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:08 AM Flag
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I guess I worried about it until I was late 20's. Then just everyday stuff. I don't care about clothing/makeup. Happily married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:34 AM Flag
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On special occasions in teens and twenties, only started really putting in effort (make up, shoes not sneakers) on a daily basis in thirties. But I've always had low self esteem about my looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:34 AM Flag
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It's coming soon. I just started wearing make-up somewhat regularly. 46. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:43 AM Flag
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My mother was very glamorous (and she was the president of a bank). Every Sunday we would have a beauty routine with facial masks, nails, deep hair conditioning, etc. She was very into makeup and it rubbed off on me. I remember caring about my appearance starting in jr. high. I was totally dressed up in college, as were many other students. Could have been the school; could have been the time. I remember some of the outfits I wore back then and I was giving it my all! All glam all the time. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:44 AM Flag
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Around 30. In my 20's I was able to kind of coast, I wasn't gorgeous or anything but could look perfectly cute in jeans and no make-up. In my thirties I decided I needed more make-up and had to dress up more to look presentable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:55 AM Flag
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45. I am now 46. I really don't think I blossomed before then. I always looked "cute" not womanly sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:56 AM Flag
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42 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 05:41 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you get over extremely deep resentment towards DH and ILs? I need some holiday coping skills because I can feel the resentment welling up inside -- want to try and nip it in the bud before an extended visit starts. Thanks for any advice. Will watch. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:58 AM Flag
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Same here. Try medium chill and plan some fun things for yourself . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:03 AM Flag
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One word and one word only: weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:09 AM Flag
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Bring the holiday cheer. Be upbeat. Don’t engage in the negatively. Smile as much as you can. Take nice long walks. Remember you cannot change other people, only can control how you respond. Instead of anticipating resentment, recognize the situation makes you uncomfortable and do the things that will help you relax. I hope you have a wonderful visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:18 AM Flag
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Nope. Get drunk and/or stoned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:52 AM Flag
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i always think of how my ds's wives or whatever will think about me and how i will want them to empathize and understand, and think about the years of my dh's childhood before i came along when they had him and take it from there. it's hard to have patience! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:29 AM Flag
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Understand what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:44 AM Flag
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Why do ppl get married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Sirens for last hour on UES...Lennox Hill area...what is going on 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:40 AM Flag
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Jacques on fire, 85th and 3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:48 AM Flag
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Any other brunch recommendations for this Sunday in the general area? Was looking for a Croque Madame. Maybe Cafe d'Allease? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:30 AM Flag
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I don't like Cafe d'Alsace- I don't know why people do- seems too much like a diner to me. Try Little Frog on 86th and 1st. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:36 AM Flag
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On TV now 3 alarm fire 85th and 2rd Ave. In restaurant, spread to apartments above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:04 AM Flag
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OK, now I know why coops don't like to rent to restaurants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:09 AM Flag
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Get the citizen app! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you ever broken up a relationship that had gotten off track but then got back together and had a happily ever after (or the opposite)? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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My boyfriend of about 2 years and I have gotten stuck in a cycle of fighting about stupid stuff for the past 3 months. It’s hard to remedy the arguments quickly or effectively sometimes because he’s on a special project for work that requires constant and sometimes last minute travel. Our relationship has turned into something I don’t feel healthy being in right now. I think once his work thing is over and we have time to reconnect, there’s a good chance we can get back on track. I’m crazy in love with this guy, he’s my favorite adult in the world, ever, but I need to get out of this toxic rut we’re in. I’d love any advice from anyone who has navigated a similar situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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go say to him right now, it's been a weird few months, but you need to know you are my favorite adult ever. RIGHT NOW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:45 AM Flag
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He knows he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:59 AM Flag
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Exit. I married that guy. Last minute travel and such didn’t change. Fights continued into normal conversation so much so we can’t communciate at all now so even sex sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:46 AM Flag
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And we tried therapy, $50k later no better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:46 AM Flag
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Yikes, that sounds awful for you, I’m sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:59 AM Flag
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Kind of. I broke up with BF after 7 years because he wouldn't get therapy for depression and had anger management issues. We were apart for about 6 months, got back together (he did therapy briefly), We've now been married 14 years- mostly happy, love our kids, but the underlying issues of not managing his depression are still an issue. I recommend you really get clear about your boundaries and expectations (write them down for yourself or tell a trusted, non judgmental friend) and work to make things better for a specified period. If boundaries are crossed, you may need to take a temporary or permanent break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:38 AM Flag
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Thank you. Yeah, I think that, deep down inside, I’m judging and possibly resenting that he doesn’t address issues, insomnia being the biggest. We are usually so happy and things were pretty easy until lately. But, it has come to a point where it’s crossing a boundary I’ve set for myself— to not be in a relationship that is anything else than I will someday want for my little girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:58 AM Flag
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Got back together after ten years apart. Right around when I remembered why we broke up I found out I was pregnant. We have an ever after of co-parenting, but it sure isn’t “happily” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:42 AM Flag
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Dating my ex DH was filled with fights and making up. I refused to see the signs. While I wouldn't change a thing because I have two amazing DCs from the marriage, I would definitely have spent more time understanding what I want and what makes me happy. While no union is perfect, I'd want someone to respect me, who would want to raise me up when I can't, who believes in a team. I will NEVER remarry. Doesn't make any sense. I will likely have a string of long term relationships and keep a close knit group of friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:39 AM Flag
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We haven’t fought much at all before this, but I’ll probably be the same— not marrying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] What can I do to help my assistant find a new life path? There is no future for her where we work for various reasons (academia, long story, irrelevant) and we both know it. She is totally stuck and depressed and is not trained to do anything that would get her a good job, or even a bad job. Has a masters in a non lucrative, creative field (as do I, but I have a bearable day job) and she's not using her training to move forward creatively or financially. She is gorgeous and 31 and isn't even dating. I'm worried about her. How do you help someone who is stuck, or do you just let them be and figure out their own life? When I try to gently bring up some other job avenues she could explore, she seems very upset, on verge of tears. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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OP: By the way I have no say over her employment at my job. She is my "assistant" but assigned by the powers that be. I've done everything I can to help her rise within our workplace and nothing has helped/there is no advancement for her there, is the message I'm getting. Not because she is not great, but because others have more outside experience when they interview for the next level. She cannot get this outside experience in our program. Doesn't matter, just trying to provide background in case people say "promote her", because I can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:13 AM Flag
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Set her up with a rich guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:15 AM Flag
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OP: I am racking my brain and cannot come up with one for her. I would absolutely love to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:17 AM Flag
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hang out at bars/restaurants near private schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:23 AM Flag
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she would fine them online if she is will to date divorce in their 40's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:25 AM Flag
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OP: She doesn't even seem to want to date! I am at a loss. She used to date sometimes but hasn't in well over a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:26 AM Flag
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Jesus, leave her alone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:28 AM Flag
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OP: OK. Point taken. That's what I've been doing, I swear. It's just hard to watch a great person wither on the vine of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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Oh FFS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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Sounds very Woody Allen-esque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:34 AM Flag
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OP: I forgot to mention she is very shy and quiet. I think low self-esteem. Cannot afford therapy. Any other ways I can help her besides listening and trying to celebrate her? I had a friend commit suicide a few years ago and I am terrified she is on a bad path. These are key years and she is wasting them. Sorry for ranting, I guess maybe I sound nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:26 AM Flag
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Maybe stop being so intrusive. You're not her mother and at best work friends don't get so intrusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:29 AM Flag
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OP: I hear you. I will try. If this is what it's going to be like when my kids grow up and have troubles, I'm really going to suck at stepping back. Clearly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:32 AM Flag
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You are a good person for trying. Truly wish I had someone like you to look after my career path! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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I was her at 31 although sounds like I had a better job. Terrible self esteem after a bad break up. Very depressed and athough I wanted nothing more then to get married and have a family, I was too depressed to feel like anyone would want me. I’m also very introverted which did not help. She needs to shake things up even if she has to keep this job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:31 AM Flag
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Did things turn around for you? Sounds like maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:33 AM Flag
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Yes. I married and have a DD. Very happy. But my mid 20s to late 30s were very bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:38 AM Flag
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OP: I'm so glad to hear things changed for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:44 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:49 AM Flag
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Gorgeous & 31? What is the problem again? She can date who she wants, work where she wants (plenty of time to re-train, and for now she can get an ok job anywhere). Your problem (you and her) is that you both seem entrenched in some tiny academic world and cannot see larger than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:35 AM Flag
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OP: Exactly! She just seems so down lately, upon our realization that she will only be screwed over again and again by the powers that be in our tiny stupid work world. I agree with you 1000% that the world is her oyster and I just wish she could see that, but I guess I'd like her to see that on my schedule (now) and not hers, and it's intrusive/inappropriate for me to gently weigh in. I will try to knock it off. She really is gorgeous and smart, just so meek and lately seems so sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:41 AM Flag
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invite her out socially - be the means for her to expand her social circle. introduce her to people. she will make new friends, maybe meet someone, and go from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:41 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you. Great suggestion. Have done this once or twice but need to do it more. You never know where a new friend could lead, work or love-wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] I have an early 2015 MacBook Air that has started to suck air with the fan, etc. Would it be wasteful for me to just upgrade ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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You can almost certainly improve your performance by reinstalling the Mac operating system. Lots of websites can show you how or you can go to the Apple store genius bar. You can also try and reset the SMC: https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201295 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:20 AM Flag
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It may just need a cleaning. Dh's computer was making a racket and the Apple team took it apart and vaccumed out some dust and hair that had gotten in there. If you want to upgrade that's fine, but it's likely a small issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.15.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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