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05.25.13, 05:42 PM
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St. Lucia is GORGEOUS! Went last summer with DH and three DC.
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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I would not go to the Caribbean in summer. Dreadful.
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05.25.13, 05:50 PM
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We have babysitting arrangement available only during the summer months.
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05.25.13, 05:45 PM
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You obviously haven't been. It's near the equator, so the temps are not much different than any other time. And it's way nicer than being in the city
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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I have not only been but I have several spent summers in the Caribbean. I would not go: mosquitos, dengue fever, hurricanes, ridiculous heat. And the Caribbean is closer to the Tropic of Cancer, not the equator. It does change and it does matter.
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05.25.13, 05:48 PM
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Turks and Caicos
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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The water is beautiful
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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Turks and Caicos
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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05.25.13, 05:41 PM
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05.25.13, 05:43 PM
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I'm so sorry that a paragraph is too long for you to read.
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05.25.13, 05:42 PM
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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Ugh, sounds like my DH exactly. I will be watching this.
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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Too long to read.
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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Ok, I am going to give it to you straight and by the way, I am so sorry. I used to have your DH. he will never ever get another job again. He is ok with the status quo (even if he says he is not). He is ok with you pulling ALL of the weight and even better, he gets to sit back and do nothing. This is an innate character trait that will not go away. he will never ever find a job he'll want (there will always be something wrong with it). Not only that, but he has given you evidence that even if he does have a job, he does not take it seriously.
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05.25.13, 05:39 PM
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My DH is like this. A lower level job is not good enough because they will put him on linked in and then he will never get any higher level job again. Meanwhile the higher level jobs are not interested in him. He manages his "investments". We had to move to a lower col area to save money and now - surprise- there are no job openings here. I am at the end of my rope.
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05.25.13, 05:49 PM
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God, I am having flashbacks. I used to apply for tons of jobs for my ex. While working and going to school (no DC's). he would do absolutely nothing all day (well, I later found out, he was doing crack). Then I would get home, have to go grocery shopping and cook. While his sorry ass did nothing except complain about how no one would let him show his goddamn potential.
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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You know the answer here. Dump the parasite. He'll have a job in no time. And he'll be married again next year and having more kids the year after.
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05.25.13, 05:40 PM
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He'll only get a job if she stops supporting his loser ass. And then, he'll only have that job long enough to trap his next victim. Men like this are becoming more and more normal. he's a straight-up loser and I believe you should call him, tell hiim very matter-of-factly that he is a loser and you no longer want to be married to a loser. Then, go on down and file those papers.
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05.25.13, 05:43 PM
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Definitely is becoming more of a trend as women are in the workforce and doing well.
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05.25.13, 05:53 PM
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Am really sorry too, OP. I think DH is depressed which would explain the overall lack of drive to get up off his butt and support his family. This lack of drive is only made worse by your OVERDRIVE to support the family so it's really hurting him inside. That being said, sounds like he resents you for being the one taking care of everything and he's lashing out (with those nasty comments about your weight etc) I think it's ultimatum time and you give him 1, 2, 3 months to get his act together completely or you are filing for divorce. You sound like a real gem, so keep focusing on you and your kids and if DH wakes up and realizes he's missing the boat on you then so be it - his loss!
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05.25.13, 05:52 PM
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Oh and the fact that he puts you down is his insurance that you will never leave him. My ex used to do this with me. He's being intentionally cruel to you, refuses to support his 4 children, and is ok with his mommy paying his way. He is a bonafide loser and nothing will ever change that. The good news is, you sound incredibly hard-working and resourceful. I would personally quit my job and then file for divorce (so he cannot get alimony from you)
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05.25.13, 05:41 PM
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Your kids will be better off with you happy and fulfilled (instead of the model of you pulling all the weight, always). Please, please begin to think of leaving him. A great weight will lift. You have the wherewithal to give your kids a decent life and they'll visit dad but you deserve a loving, present (non-deadbeat) mate. Why throw love away on this guy?
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05.25.13, 05:46 PM
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It is amazing that multiple women want to reproduce with this man.
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05.25.13, 05:54 PM
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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I can think of one particular nanny who proved that.
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05.25.13, 05:40 PM
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There are certain members of every ethnicity that are not trustworthy and others who can be trusted. Many families have both types in the same family.
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05.25.13, 05:40 PM
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Which
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05.25.13, 05:37 PM
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Thanks, we never learned proper grammar in our grade school and I've had hell to pay on UB.
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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Caribbean caregivers rule.
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05.25.13, 05:34 PM
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Caribbean nannies are conditioned to be more inclined to crime
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05.25.13, 05:35 PM
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My husband hired a japanese nanny in order to minimize the risk. Goto wikipedia and you will see japanese commit less crime than caribbeans
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05.25.13, 05:36 PM
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Your husband hired the Nanny? I bet he's fucking her.
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05.25.13, 05:37 PM
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I doubt it. This japanese girl is exceptionally ugly
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05.25.13, 05:46 PM
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He does it from behind.
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05.25.13, 05:41 PM
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Yuck
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05.25.13, 05:49 PM
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I bet you he does.
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05.25.13, 05:53 PM
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WTF?
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05.25.13, 05:37 PM
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Go to wikipedia. It lists the violent crime rate for each group. Clearly shows caribbeans close to the top
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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Caribbeans commit more crime and also do itin a violent way. Supreme court justice breyer was violently assaulted and robbed by caribbeans. Google it
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05.25.13, 05:45 PM
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WTF??????????
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05.25.13, 05:53 PM
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Hello, nanny Krim. Case in
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05.25.13, 05:45 PM
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I sailed in the Caribbean and the people there are feral. I would never hire a Caribbean person to come to my home.
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05.25.13, 05:51 PM
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Ignore all these posts. Caribbean women stand up for themselves and can be tough (in a good way, I think) and are (stereotypically, but it has held true as far as I've seen) not pushovers and not passive. Some women have a problem with this attitude. Good for the kids, in my opinion.
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05.25.13, 05:54 PM
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05.25.13, 05:30 PM
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Can't force DH to do anything if you're the one with higher standards. I'd try to relax your standards until you can train the children to pitch in with the chores and make sure they help clean up their stuff now.
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05.25.13, 05:38 PM
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Kids are 2 and 5. They help, but it's not *really* helpful. The floors are dirty, the bathrooms are dirty, the laundry is piling up. He is a pig to not notice it. We are having people over on Monday and it needs to get done.
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05.25.13, 05:33 PM
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You are at the very peak of your life being difficult and resenting your husband. Best just to figure out how to "get by" until the youngest is 4+ and then this aspect of you life will get easier and easier. Can you afford a cleaner to come once every month or two to help with a thorough cleaning? Hang in there, life with small kids is extremely challenging and tiring, especially with a husband who does not help.
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05.25.13, 05:37 PM
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05.25.13, 05:16 PM
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Sorry, but it really sucks that DH put you in that position. I'm going to talk to mine right now to make sure it doesn't happen to me. Also, you did the right thing. Also, your kid sounds mouthy and disrespectful and there is no way in hell mine would ever get away with that shit. Drop the hammer mama.
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05.25.13, 05:15 PM
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x1000!
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05.25.13, 05:34 PM
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How on earth did your ds know what your dh was asking about on the phone?!
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05.25.13, 05:25 PM
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You are such a killjoy.
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05.25.13, 05:20 PM
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So let them have fire works for memorial day?
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05.25.13, 05:28 PM
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Could you compromise with some sparklers? ITTA about not having fireworks for 8th graders. Crazy!!!
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05.25.13, 05:23 PM
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No she can't! She living with two a-holes! DS deserves to have his party cancelled for that and mom deserves a hug for putting up with douchey DH.
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05.25.13, 05:31 PM
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05.25.13, 05:32 PM
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I have DCs 13 and 15. They can be very dramatic about things like this, proclaiming that they hate their lives. An hour later, everything's fine. I agree it sucks but try to step back and see the bigger picture.
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05.25.13, 05:34 PM
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Um, kids need to go home now. If your 8th grader treats you like this now, I don't want to know how he'll act at 16!
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05.25.13, 05:36 PM
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DD (5) told me yesterday that I am stupid and her little sister is ruining her life. I feel for you and I am afraid it will get worse.
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05.25.13, 05:31 PM
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05.25.13, 05:10 PM
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She probably has imperfect relations with a lot of people.
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05.25.13, 05:13 PM
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She may or may not. But you sound like an idiot.
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05.25.13, 05:22 PM
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She'll make comments to me like "your children are going to need therapy" and she's never met them. It's weird.
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05.25.13, 05:24 PM
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Wow, that is weird. Have you done or said anything to warrant that level of hostility?
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05.25.13, 05:28 PM
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I'm thinking she's jealous and really wanted kids
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05.25.13, 05:31 PM
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But still. Jesus, if someone said that to me, I would have responded none too kindly. But I have a temper. What did you do? How the hell do you respond to that statement? I am angry for you, especially if she has never seen your kids. Do you have some crazy beliefs, like never saying no to your kids, breastfeeding until the age of 10, cry-it-out on your two-week-old? I just cannot fathom having a coworker say this, unless completely in jest.
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05.25.13, 05:27 PM
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My kids do crazy things and say crazy stuff-they are 3 and 6-I'm not telling her anything from now on. I just ignored her.
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05.25.13, 05:30 PM
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Maybe not. That's you projecting. A lot of people don't want anything to do with children.
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05.25.13, 05:34 PM
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That's not "kind of cold."
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05.25.13, 05:31 PM
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She's made comments like "I'm not here to make friends" but I don't understand why she can't be pleasant
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05.25.13, 05:45 PM
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probably from the stories you have told about your kids and your family in general...she's just jabbing at you....learn to chill
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05.25.13, 05:48 PM
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No, sounds like you have issues. You know nothing about other people's lives. Don't project your weird insecurities and prejudices on other people, loser.
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05.25.13, 05:19 PM
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Snap.
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05.25.13, 05:21 PM
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Wow, are you the woman she's talking about?
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05.25.13, 05:23 PM
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And you know nothing about any of the people involved either. Who's projecting now?
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05.25.13, 05:39 PM
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05.25.13, 05:01 PM
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Never seen one. Link?
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05.25.13, 04:58 PM
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Gross. Child as mannequin.
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05.25.13, 05:04 PM
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Gross. Child as mannequin.
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05.25.13, 04:58 PM
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I know I'm going to hell for saying this but...those kids creep me out.
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05.25.13, 05:01 PM
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Holy hell. Seems dangerous to post those. Inviting weirdos into her life...
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05.25.13, 05:02 PM
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This. Plus, it is narcissistic, to say the least.
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05.25.13, 05:27 PM
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That's just weird...
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05.25.13, 05:12 PM
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Her kids clothes are really not that cute.
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05.25.13, 05:12 PM
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The girls clothes are cuter than the boys.
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05.25.13, 05:15 PM
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Disagree.
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05.25.13, 05:13 PM
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Really? Agree to disagree then. I wouldn't wouldn't put my ds in half those clothes. At least the girl has dresses, shoes that could see my dd wearing.
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05.25.13, 05:16 PM
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I only looked at the first four or five posts when I responded. Looked through some more and I guess you're right. I honestly am not a fan of either child's clothes though.
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05.25.13, 05:18 PM
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Yeah, nothing really that special or interesting.
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05.25.13, 05:21 PM
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np ITA. Though some of the girl stuff was bad (like the bell bottoms). The boy's stuff was super bad--dino t with seersucker shorts? Colors and fabrics didn't go together at all.
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05.25.13, 05:29 PM
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Yikes! What's with the flower bell bottoms? Says she bought at garage sale for four bucks. I say she overpaid...
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05.25.13, 05:19 PM
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Can't imagine buying DC clothes at a garage sale.
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05.25.13, 05:18 PM
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They seem really poor.
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05.25.13, 05:13 PM
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awful.
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05.25.13, 05:43 PM
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Weird.
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05.25.13, 04:59 PM
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Like Children With Swag?
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05.25.13, 05:00 PM
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OMG---that's actually a cool take on it. There are some kids who are into the fashion thing as well.
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05.25.13, 05:14 PM
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OR: I know. I like checking them out. Wish they would tag the clothes though. I see some really cute things but don't know where they were purchased!
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05.25.13, 05:11 PM
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Some women are really into clothes. Entire 300 page magazines full of ads exist to sell junk to them. There are more women like this than there are female engineers.
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05.25.13, 05:00 PM
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It's a free country.
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05.25.13, 05:02 PM
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I find it very sad that a mother's entire blog is dedicated to children's clothing and trends. It just seems creepy and desperate. That and extraordinarily BORING
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05.25.13, 05:09 PM
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She should take that pacifier out of the kid's mouth.
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05.25.13, 05:35 PM
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Thank you!
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05.25.13, 05:40 PM
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Gees. I will never post pics of my child like that. You're really asking for trouble. Creeps can track them down easily.
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05.25.13, 05:43 PM
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okay that is just weird and I feel bad for the kids when they grow up
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05.25.13, 04:58 PM
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Went there as a day student in the 80s. Good cookies. First place I tried pot.
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05.25.13, 05:13 PM
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np-Really weird that you would post something like this about a school you attended IMO. I'm calling fake.
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05.25.13, 05:11 PM
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Where would be a better place to try pot.
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05.25.13, 05:32 PM
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What? These actually seem like real memories from a young student. I remember the best cookies from my childhood came from a grocery store, Andronico's. And I remember the first place I tried pot.
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05.25.13, 05:48 PM
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What? These actually seem like real memories from a young student. I remember the best cookies from my childhood came from a grocery store, Andronico's. And I remember the first place I tried pot.
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05.25.13, 05:48 PM
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Hot girl on girl action
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05.25.13, 05:23 PM
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What?
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05.25.13, 05:19 PM
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05.25.13, 04:56 PM
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T-ball maybe? I'm not sure how young that starts, but my brothers and I loved that when we were kids.
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05.25.13, 04:55 PM
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Tennis
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05.25.13, 05:05 PM
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Where in NYC do they have tennis for 4 y/o?
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05.25.13, 05:11 PM
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Sportime at Randalls Island and West Side Tennis Club in Queens both have programs for 4-year-olds
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05.25.13, 05:39 PM
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^ or they used to anyway, worth checking them out.
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05.25.13, 05:40 PM
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RCTA at 95th and Riverside
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05.25.13, 05:41 PM
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sutton east and yorkville tennis clubs
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05.25.13, 05:44 PM
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Swimming. Uws? Try discovery programs - They have dance, martial arts, etc
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05.25.13, 05:07 PM
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05.25.13, 04:49 PM
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I have no idea where a lot of my friends went to high school. This is something that is never discussed.
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05.25.13, 04:46 PM
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05.25.13, 04:47 PM
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I have one acquaintance in a low level job who rarely has a conversation without mentioning she went to one of the Hill schools.
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05.25.13, 04:55 PM
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I don't even know what a "Hill school" is.
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05.25.13, 05:08 PM
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I really don't keep track of my friends like this.
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05.25.13, 04:53 PM
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The most successful person I know went to prep school, Yale undergrad, and Harvard grad.
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05.25.13, 04:54 PM
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No I have not. I have seen both do well. I've seen college make a big difference but not high school
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05.25.13, 04:48 PM
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05.25.13, 05:01 PM
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IMO this really doesn't make a huge difference. I've worked with extremely intelligent, successful people who went to public high schools in Middle America. I currently work w/2 people who went to "TT" NYC privates and they're not identifiably different than anyone else in terms of success or intelligence.
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05.25.13, 05:02 PM
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No. I went to bs and the alumni mag is an ego crusher. Lots of people doing really interesting things-not just the usual Wall St careers, but also achieving in arts, politics, science, humanitarian work.
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05.25.13, 05:09 PM
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