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[ - ] why do people think longer school days are bad? what do kids do in place of this? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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They want the kids to run and play but in actuality they will just play minecraft once it gets cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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It's bad if they need to nap but don't bc they can't really nap at school mich better to have a 2.5-3.5yo that would take a 2hr nap at home to do than have lunch and a quasi rest time, etc all in the name of stayig at school until 2:30/3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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not really thinking in terms of very young kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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I think she means kids in school, not prek or preschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Then who is she talking about. It's not exactly optional at that point. Thought she was responding to mom below concerned about the older preschoolers going full-day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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I don't have a problem with it if they bring back PE every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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It's teachers that don't want to have to work full time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] are farmers markets usually reasonable or overpriced? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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I find a lot of it overpriced, but still go because I like the quality and want to buy local. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Are school reunions pointless now with facebook? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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That's like saying are lunches pointless or dinner parties or meeting for a drink or coffee.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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I feel like a lot of the appeal was seeing what your classmates are up to, but everyone knows already from facebook [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] There's nothing cute about a clique of 38-year-old mean girls. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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agree. context? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Just the cool mom crew at DC's preschool. I am not trying to become a member (I'm a few years younger) but they are just really icy and mean. I happened to say something polite to one of them (we were in a small waiting area together) and she looked like she was going to puke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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lol. I had one (a class mom) manage not to say hello (even when I said hello!) to me or acknowledge me in any way for the entire year our kids were in the same preschool class. Her one communication with me was an email saying her dc couldn't attend my dc's birthday party because his older brother was playing hockey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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OP I hate that. I try to attribute it to it being her issue, not mine, but part of me feels kind of loser-ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Another time, a mom sent me and two other moms of DCs in the class an e-mail with the subject "friendly reminder" and it was not a reminder because it was the first I knew of it. I responded to her that it was a great idea, blah blah blah, and when I saw her the next time she was so dismissive and rude to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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The problem is you're trying to break into the only group they have control over and that gives them authority. That group of "cool moms" has curated that mystique in order to give them authority and power over the other moms. You can't take that head on. The answer is to establish your own, more impressive authority. I don't know you or your position or your background, but you need to signal that you possess your own more impressive authority that they can't control. It's kryptonite to those people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Do tell more. I know lots of cliques of 38 year olds, not necessarily mean girls (I'm friendly and on the periphery circle) but don't really understand the girl groups at this age. I've always prefered to have my independent friendships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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I find it weird, especially looking back to my mother's friendships during my school years. Her social life had nothing to do with my peers' or friends' parents and her friendships were one on one (in fact, he two closest friends didn't like one another at all). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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My friendships don't have anything to do with my kids' peers. But I do have a "group" of friends that are all friends with each other. We work together, and all hit it off, so the group aspect was just naturally there. I have other friends in addition to this group, but I don't think groups of friends are always weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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my mom was involved in all this weird gossipy, suburban, backstabbing stuff. i just found out there were neighborhood 20 women who took her for chinese food to celebrate her 40th birthday! she fell out with most of them and resented having to go back to work, thus losing her SAHM lifestyle. it's weird to think about her life at my age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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What's to understand? They, like you, have multiple friends. In their case the friends also happen to be friends with each other. Sometimes that's just how it works out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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OP I am all for that. It's the mean, exclusive ones who are really surprising to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Yup. And life is way too short to worry about them. "cool" just does nto matter after age 21. So says the geek who is doing just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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THIS. NO idea if there is a clique of moms at my dc's school because I'm just not that into caring. If people are rude, etc. I figure they're unhappy in some way. This is WITHOUT EXCEPTION the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Not at all cute. But fascinating. SO fascinating! Because it doesn't make any sense. Any rational person should be able to understand that "we're talking about a 15 minute Halloween parade for children. You realize that, right?" But they simply glide past that rationality check and spend 4 weeks planning and talking and emailing and Facebooking and meeting about the Halloween parade, and from the outside I am dumbfounded about why they're bothering to spend so much time on something that could be accomplished in three emails and a phone call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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i am fascinated by this stuff too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Hear, hear. I wonder if this goes on everywhere--or is never-ending middle school a NYC thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I don't know, but please tell me it stops after elementary school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Miserable people only make you feel miserable if you let them. You need to move on, obviously they can't or won't. Stop thinking so much that everything revolves around you and you'll be a lot happier in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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I have a middle schooler and nope. But that particular class/grade is pretty rough socially--parents and kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] One brain-dead pedestrian and one dead pedestrian bc of bicyclists. Just awful. http://nypost.com/2014/09/18/cyclist-slams-into-pedestrian-in-central-park/ 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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I saw this. It should be against the law to bike that fast--especially on a racing bike without brakes. Nobody should train in Central Park! Those poor people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I know. I wonder if they'll lay charges agains the guy involved in yesterday's incident? Last I heard, it wasn't clear who had the light--but he was certainly exceeding the permitted 25 mph. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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He was also in the car lane, where he wasn't supposed to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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I know nothing about cycling, but he apparently had special, brake-less triathlon type handlebars? Still, if he had the time to shout "get out of the way" more than once, how did he not have time to swerve, even if he couldn't actually stop? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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wtf, how do you expect to use a brakeless bike in NYC or anyplace other than a track - this guy is so out of line, feel so bad for that woman and her family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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the car lane thing didn't cause the accident but if she had the light he was clearly in the wrong. it will be interesting to see what they do. they never seem to send anybody to jail when peds get killed by cars. agree that training in CP at that hour should not be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Training in cp should never be done if it puts pedestrians at risk. That poor woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Horrible. I used to live in DUMBO, at the base of the bklyn bridge, where cyclists LOVE to speed into/from manhattan. It was crazy and should def be penalized- the walkway is so narrow and is shared with many walkers and tourists taking pics etc. it should not be their personal speedway... I always thought if they wanted to go so fast, they should use the manhattan bridge... once, when I was admittedly in the way, a cyclist racing down screamed at me, "move, CUNT!" totally crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Well, you were in the way. If you weren't, then he would be out of line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Her being in the way does not constitute that kind of response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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NO, but as a pedestrian and cyclist, if everyone followed the rules of the road, there wouldn't be accidents like this. People walking/standing in bike lanes are extremely stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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I yelled at a guy racing his bike in the running/walking lane yesterday. Right next to a big, empty bike lane! He just flipped me off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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I yelled at couple making out in the bike lane just now--they almost caused me to get hit by a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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I hate cyclists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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ita. I think Bloomberg made a mistake with all those bike lanes. More yahoos on bikes and more traffic congestion isn't a great combo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Total move in the wrong direction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your 4yo still nap? DS hasn't napped in months because he was taking forever to fall asleep at night, but he's always so out of it and sluggish around 1pm. Not sure if I should go back to naps. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Dc almost 4 and hasn't napped in 15 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Not regularly napping, but we have one hour of "quiet time" with books in bed every day. Sometimes he sleeps, sometimes not. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm having a baby in a month and I'm not excited. I haven't bought anything. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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For some people it takes a bit to get used to the idea -- for some it is love at first sight, for others they gradually fall in love with the little person. Give yoruself grace and if a couple weeks in you are still not feeling it, then see a tehrapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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I was the same way. Just make sure you have diapers, some clothes, and a plan for where you're going to have them sleep initially before the baby gets here. The rest you can figure out as you go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Are you happy to be pregnant? I felt the same with DD, but realized it was because I liked being pregnant and was afraid of the upcoming change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Need advice. I'm only 10 years older than my eldest niece (I was a big big accident when my mom was 48) and we are very close. My sister and bil put too much pressure on my niece and nephews. They rarely have a moment to themselves it's always college prep, tutoring, band practice, sports, ect. My nephews rebels by being aggressive and angry most of the time. My niece on the other hand pretends she is fine and has been saving money to run away after hs. The whole family knows this but think she is kidding. I believe her. I think if she got to be a teen more often and do teenage activities, such as social functions, dates, what have you she would snap out of this. I think having some close friends who are preparing for college will encourage her to do the same. I'm not being cynical of my sister's parenting skills but the dcs have 30 minutes "private time" before bed each night to read or whatever and that's it. The rest of the time they are in some activity or with one another in the car, at dinner, at "family game night". She needs privacy and friends and to live like a teen while she still can. I'm about to start residency and I'm planning a marriage. I am pretty busy right now but I am only able to spend time with niece if I'm picking her up or taking her to some lesson because she has no free time. Otherwise, I would ask to maybe spend weekends with her or something. My sister thinks I am taking this too seriously and I know nothing about parenting. I don't but I know what being a 16 year old girl under too much pressure can be like. Sorry so long I need some advice on how to get my sister to take my niece seriously. I'm scared to death she will vanish (although she promises she will keep in touch with me) and we won't hear from her until she has gotten herself into something bad. Anyone survived a teen dd like this? Anyone just like my niece and what was the end result? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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God I hope my sister doesn't see this. I feel bad. They are great parents and I understand she wants them to have more opportunities and structure and less free time than she did as a child but they need to be kids. My niece is an amazing girl. She is so intellectual and kind. I adore all my nieces and nephews but especially her. I've always tried to be a good example for her. It would break my heart if something happened to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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If this is my sister, I'm going to slap you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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How old are the nephews? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I found my husband's porn collection in one of his shoe boxes. Had about 30 Blu-ray movies. We watch the Playboy channel together at times. Didnt think he will would have a porn collection. Should I confront him? WDYT? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Let it go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Leave him alone. I'd feel a sting of sadness, and then be thankful he just watches movies, i.e. doesn't stray. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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He must have some damn big feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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No woman!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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This wouldn't bother me, unless he's into something really horrible like snuff movies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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OP: Has this happen to anyone else? Not sure what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Yes. I don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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dont do anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Worse. I found exbf's exgf's crusty undies at the bottom of his laundry hamper. It was gross! He never asked me to do his laundry again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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What? Meaning you were involved enough that you were doing his laundry yet she handmt been an ex long enoigh for him to do it himself in the interim? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Really? That's his deep dark secret from his wife? That he has some DVDs in a shoebox? Count your blessings, babe. Half the dhs here are on their iPads im'ing women from live porn sites and getting happy ending massages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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i wouldn't even think twice about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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I really hope this is fake. Who watches actual physical porno movies anymore with all the free stuff on the internet? That makes it a little creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Does he obsess over certain porn stars? Does he treat you badly because you're not the one who got away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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OP: The movies are nothing weird, similar movies to what's on Playboy. Watched/googled a few just to make sure. Don't think he is obsessed with the porn stars. Does not treat me bad. Sex life is good. Yes he has big feet :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Is he old? I'm an almost 40 year old guy and the idea of DVD porn is quaint to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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Do you feel your sex life could be better? Do you think porn gets in the way of that? It's the only reason I'd confront (and I have) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Last night my 16 yo son hit his 10 yo brother, knocking him to the ground. My husband is in a rage. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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take away privileges, not much else you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Is this the 10 year old who called his 16 year old brother a bastard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Um, stop the men in your house from feeling entitled to rage at each other. Model non-violence and respect in your home. DH's rage is the heart of the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone want to give stroller help? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Need a stroller that I reclines fully flat for newborn and then fits a 2 year old when nanny goes to do pick-up. I expect that newborn would ride in stroller to preschool, then she would put newborn in carrier and 2 year old would ride home. It's a long walk, at least 20 min each way, so needs to be a comfortable stroller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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uppa baby vista [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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I did look at this one, but it doesn't recline fully flat, the seat always stays at angle even if fully reclined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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We like the Uppababy Vista with the boogie board, that said look at the city mini as it might be a better option if you are starting from scratch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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City mini Baby jogger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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The one that folds the easiest and is the lightest, forget the bassinet, you will use it for too short a time to be helpful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Yes, any suggestions? I was looking at Stokke Scoot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Maclaren techno XT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Thanks. I loved this one (had this for DC 1), but nanny says the brake gets caught on the 4 steps to our building, so she cannot bump it down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Dreading the onset of winter and want to buy the warmest parka available, suitable for wearing to work. Canada Goose? Or Patagonia? Something else? TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Patagonia tres parka is incredibly warm. its has a down inner layer and a gortex outer layer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids started school/nursery-daycare this year. I really can not afford to pay our ft nanny who makes 900/wk (18/hr). WWYD? I can (A) Find a cheaper (probably not as good) ft nanny/housekeeper making roughly $600-700 (B) Offer our nanny $600 for 30 hrs work week and ask her to do more housekeeping (C) hire new PT nanny for 20 hrs at $360/wk and hire a housekeeper to come 2Xweek for another $150-200. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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start with b. if that's a no go, do a. you'd be surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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I was leaning this way. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Well, jeez, for B, I'd be your nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I know its a high rate but it is still better than keeping her at $900. I literally can not afford this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Great photographer recommendations for newborn pics. Friends baby is due in early December and I want to get her a gift card. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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The good ones are uber expensive.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Disagree. They're all fine. Hard to mess up photography these days. And with all the competition, they are cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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^^np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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totally disagree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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disagree! there are a lot of moms who buy a nice camera, call themselves a photographer and charge low rates that are still way high considering the quality of their work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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classic kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a DC who started 1 st grade this year. She is in a bilingual school (English French) and neither is her first language. She had 5 As and 3 Bs on her first report card. I am a bit disappointed. Wdyt? Will she improve? The Bs were in social studies, science, and reading. Math, English, French etc. was As. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Sounds like an excellent report card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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She's learning three languages at the same time and these grades disappoint you? You should chill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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I hope you are a troll. most kids don't get real grades in 1st so I hope so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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So fake. Nobody has a report card yet and where on earth do 1st graders get letter grades? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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I am not in NYC. Schools here start in the middle of August and everyone here gets letter grades. Wth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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In 1st? And there is a report card after 1 month of school? Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Trolltown, USA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Nice try loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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report card already?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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You already have a report card three weeks in? I have a first grader and we just got an email about homework starting up next week... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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