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[ - ] I hate teenagers 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Sorry, rough day? I actually think they are pretty cool, I have two, one boy and one girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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I actually like my teens, better than preteens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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OP. I just had one have a tantrum on me. He wanted me to schedule his road test for his license, so earlier this week I went on the RMV and walked through the steps to fill out his application. Final instructions were to call on a business day to schedule the test or call anytime on an automated number. He kept saying "but what do I do?!" oh here he comes again. Hold on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Responded above that I have one boy, one girl. It is fine, he will figure it out. Just tell him again that he needs to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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They re exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:00 PM Flag
[ - ] So the new baby on Odd Mom Out is named Langley. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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For some reason I had been thinking it would be Caroline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the best way to hammer home to MIL that 3yo is prone to nightmares and to stop telling him "scary" stuff? He asks to hear about her dreams and she tells him stories that scare him and give him nightmares. We tell her all the time not to make her stories scary but somehow she keeps doing it and we hear her telling him "and the monster came and I was so scared!" and I want to strangle her. We have a baby who is not STTN so it's brutal when our 3yo is also up with nightmares and he STTN normally. The nightmares always come after MIL stories. She knows he was scared by the fireworks last night and I just heard her telling him how the fireworks were so loud and scary that their dog slept in the garage last night. I told DH that I want to threaten to call MIL in the middle of the night anytime I get up with 3yo because of nightmares. I also told DH he is on nightmare duty if mil gives him nightmares and he has been more invested in her stopping but she still does it. Can I insist we cut off all calls if she can't control herself? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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She sounds like my dad, I had to tell my dad if he did it again he would not see his grandchildren. He did it and we cancelled on him for thanksgiving (went to my Mil instead, so a win win for brownie points with the inlaws and teaching my dad a lesson) my mom was so angry at him he never did it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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You can do what you want. I may be wrong, but you sound like my sister and our mom. She is a very loving, engaged grandma, always up for babysitting, kids adore her, etc. but my sister thinks she says "inappropriate" things and frequently blows up at her. But it will be sometng she feels is innocuous (eg reading the fox and the hound to my nephew from our book shelf).. I know it sucks- my 3 yo gets nightmares and our 1 yo has never sttn and wakes up at 5- but your mil really may not be trying to deliberately undermine you. IF she is loving and helpful otherwise, maybe just make a joke out of it and hit her up for some babysitting so you can catch a nap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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She is not loving if she pulls shit like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Give her some appropriate books to read to him. Tell her she is getting one last chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you do? We're very interested in joining a particular country club that is connected to a second home destination outside of NYC. I'll be vague about the details, but it's got exactly what we're looking for. Great time this weekend. It's expensive, but probably affordable. The problem is that every single member is straight and white. I've looked through the membership list and can dig up perhaps two Jews who had married into long-time families (to be fair, we looked last summer at a club in which we'd have been just about the only WASP's). Before I had kids, I'd deride any homogeneous club. My husband believes strongly that people just naturally flock with similar people and that the club isn't being exclusionary but is rather just accepting those who show up at the door (the application process is lengthy, but seems like a low bar as long as you are willing to pay the somewhat exorbitant dues; otoh, we look just like everyone else, so why should they complain? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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I don't get what your question is. Perhaps consider medication to help structure your thinking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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I understood it just fine. Are they OK with joining an exclusionary country club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Then only they can answer that. Duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Country clubs as a general rule cater to particular demographics. Actually I find that it's the Jewish members who prefer to find their own clubs; they prefer to socialize with each other and to have their kids grow up knowing each other despite being in different school districts. Down south I imagine there are some country clubs that are predominantly African American. You're either going to choose a club where you are in the minority, or choose a club where you are in the clear majority. There are no vastly diverse country clubs. Maybe in LA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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whatever, either join or don't seriously you are making this way more than it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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OMG - this!! You like it, you've had fun there, you can afford it, just join up and go for the love of God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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OP here. My bubble worris may relate to my own developmental issues (having fled Lily Pulitzer for Patti Smith years ago). It's helpful to see that at least this sampling of women doesn't think such issues are important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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If you want to join this seemingly racist, homophobic organization be my guest. I will suggest that some research might reveal that not only is everyone straight and white, but also no women allowed to join on their own, only as part of their DH's family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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np. That's interesting. I think the one that my family belongs to has two different kinds of memberships, family and golf. FIL and MIL pay for the family memberships for those of us who will use them, but DH just uses a golf membership. I don't know that it's exclusionary, but I imagine if you were a woman joining on your own, you could be denied based on your not signing up with a family, but I'm pretty sure you could get a golf membership if you wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I know two women in Phily who were no longer allowed to participate in their Club, one after a divorce and one after her husband died. Both could more than afford the fees. First one's DH continued on as a full member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Huh. Interesting. I guess clubs can make their own rules, though. And you can't really get upset when your club with dumb rules enforces them against you. You signed up to play the dumb game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Very unusual for widow not to be allowed to stay. Very. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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NP. Can I just say this is 110% removed from my world? I can't even imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Alpine CC is Jewish. Knickerbocker is wasp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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As for gravitating to your own kind--I can relate. "My people" share my politics and are smart, notwithstanding their educational background. But as a Jew having married two non-Jews, with black, hispanic and WASP-y friends, I don't see "kind" as relating to race, religion, education or economics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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I get what you're saying, it makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately country clubs have different definitions of type of person, typically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Suggestions for great facial in Brooklyn or Manhattan? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Nails Plus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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I like Williamsburg Beauty Spa [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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La mer Baccarat hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Sigh, I am turning 45 next week. My husband keeps asking me what I want to do, and what I would like as a gift. I have no frikin idea, help... We live in NYC. Any suggestions... 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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We do not have unlimited funds. I told my DH to stop with bday, valentines day, anniversary and get me on nice piece of jewelery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Any hobbies? How about a weekend away somewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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I love a day at a spa and I'm happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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A great trip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Why is he so fixated on your age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Jeez, I think OP was communicating her birthday, but not a milestone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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OP: ha, yes this is true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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seems like he's perseverating on you getting old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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OP: focus, ideas? not the age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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You are really reading into what the OP said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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You seem to want one nice piece of jewelry. Figure out a couple places you like or specific types of things you want and let him know. Then open the box from Tiffany or wherever next week and enjoy. Just don't expect it to remake your entire world view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Yes, actually that is a good idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Tell him you want a surprise. A birthday gift becomes a predicament if you have to do the decision and the choosing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] So bored today, just back from vacation. Any suggestions what to do, with DH and 5 year old. In Brooklyn, but can go to Manhattan. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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Anything. Appreciate the city and pick something to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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Are you on crack? How do you have the energy to have just returned from a vacation with young kids only to be bored by 9am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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LOL. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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OP just one kid, and staying home is harder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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exactly, there is always wash to do, food to cook for the week, etc. although maybe op has domestic help and does not have to worry about food shopping and the like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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cleaning and cooking are the antidote to boredom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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sometimes, hard to be bored when busy - at least for me it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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Pretty much anything. Go to the library, the park, pick out some cool ingredients and make a new recipe together, learn a new card game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] private school parents take note: public school exmissions are what they are because many parents need financial aid, there is often a strong cultural pull to stay close to home, and there is a strong anti-Asian bias at most private colleges, especially the Ivys and little Ivys. Something to keep in mind the next time you are looking down your nose at a free ride to SUNY Albany or a Macaulay honors college. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.05.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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Macaulay honors? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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Yes. NP. You are ignorant. Honors at the CUNYs can get a kid into a dorm, and subsidy for computers, internships. It also get access to professors. Pre-pro kids will appreciate this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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I think many kids who go to public HS, even in burbs, are basically told, Ivy (or equivalent) or SUNY, but we will give you money for professional school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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You mean the super smart ones can't think for themselves and just "get told"? That's funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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uh, if they can pay for it themselves, they can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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uh, they can and do in fact pay for themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Not unless they get financial aid. Many, many families are in that area of too well off for financial aid, but cannot pay the full way. College financial aid is NOT the same as NYC TT privates, there is a lower hurdle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Those that want to, will find a way. The rest will go on boards like this, explaining how much smarter they are than everyone else and whining about how the deck is stacked against them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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You are nuts. Without financial aid, no kid can afford a top (or even close to top) private without family help. Signed, mom who went to Wharton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Judging by your boorish nature and grammar composition, you're the Stuy OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Nope, good burb public. As to boorish? Look in the mirror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Westchester mom from the other thread, that likes to root for Stuy. Well hello looney tunes! LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Strange that a "Wharton grad" doesn't know about loans and work-study programs. My relative went to Williams and is about to graduate from Columbia Law with only minor help from her parents. Oh yeah, and she's actually Caucasian unlike you. Talk about the deck being stacked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Once you get past the top 25 or so colleges, which certainly includes Williams, you will be expected to take on lots of student loans on top of scholarships and work-study. I agree that unless you're in that situation that a flagship state university makes far more sense. Also, ask your relative how much debt she took on to go to Columbia Law. Unless she was able to get one of their few need based scholarships she almost certainly is facing 100-300K in debt for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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So you are now confirming that this "nuts" thing is possible if you in fact apply yourself instead of simply whining about the situation. (and yes, she will be a couple hundred grand in debt when she graduates) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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That's a great decision. Go to SUNY for free, but with the requirement that you waste the next 3-4 years of your life in grad school. Brilliant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Most want to go to grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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np--Does SUNY have that many scholarships? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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As usual, there is a problem with you "brilliant" thinking. It would seem like you need a top undergrad education in order to get into a top graduate program. Here's a study for you: Out of 119 grad students in the top 10 Philosophy only 3 (THREE!!!) universities ranked >50 are represented. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/angst/201111/realities-studying-philosophy-non-elite-school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Note taken of Stuy parent trying to explain away the well below par college placement of the "all that and more" school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Note taken from private school parent terrified of having curve busting kids admitted to her dcs college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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ITA. Most Stuy kids end up dramatically underperforming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Just for laughs, why would I be terrified? You should get some psychiatric help, posting all this garbage and answering your own question is only making you sicker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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It's Ivies. If you are going to post about education, at least appear to be slightly educated yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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I know how to spell "pedant" correctly, but thanks for your observation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I only look down my nose at morons like you that go shouting from every rooftop about how "crazy good" Stuy is and how crappy and undeserving everything else is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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wtf is a little Ivy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Another Stuy mom that can't google? How many of you are there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Just answer instead of being passive aggressive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Why would anyone bother answering if you are too lazy to go on google an type "little ivies". You are obviously trolling and are not actually interested in the answer, which you could so easily obtain yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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That term used to refer to Amherst, Williams, and Wesleyan. Of course Wesleyan has turned into a decadent school for those who didn't make it into Brown. Now lots of private liberal arts colleges slyly use that term to describe themselves so that parents can justify spending 60-70K/yr on college for their snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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It still refers to a select group of colleges that are consistently ranked top 20 for undergrad education. I can assure you that "snowflakes" worked much harder to get there and graduate with honors than anyone who settled for a SUNY school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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You are aware that the strong anti-Asian bias originates from the cheating that Asians are well known for? As evidenced by the cheating scandal at your school. You reap what you sow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Just imagine how good private school college placement would be if 30% weren't on financial aid. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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"LOL" at 30%. Try 15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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The top private schools are all closer to 30%, Roxbury Latin is actually 37%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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and by the way Roxbury Latin beats the pants off Stuy in every conceivable category. So if Stuy education is "crazy good", then what do you call Roxbury Latin education? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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but that 30% is an unusual demographic. A chunk at my school are academic parents who get a small stipend that doesn't approach a full ride; and those kids gtend to be supersmart overachievers whose parents went to elite schools but just don't have lucrative jobs. And the African-American and Hispanic kids who sometimes get most of their tuition paid are a rare group: the kids and parents are tough enough to fight their way in to a white world and then thrive. Hats off to them. But these two disparate groups at the elite, small private schools are likely to be heavily recruited by elite colleges. In contrast, my assumption is that many Stuy families will continue to want free education and avoid taking on educational debt. And that is going to make it tough to go to any of the private colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Don't you think thay this unusual demographic compares pretty well with the supersmart overachievers that a school like Stuy claims to have. ? By the way I do not agree with them all being supersmart overachievers, at least not in our private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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I think the higher ranking liberal arts colleges are much more open to Asian applicants than the ivies seem to be. If I were a strong Asian applicant, I would look at Williams, Amherst, Swarthmore, Haverford, Vassar and any of the NESCACs. Many of these schools promise to meet full demonstrated need as well. In general, a student from a low-income family pays less for a liberal arts college than for a state university. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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That has been our experience as well. Anyone claiming that low income families can't afford top 20 undergrad colleges, have simply not done their homework or don't want to put in the effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been to a medium, healer, psychic, etc and had a good experience? I need a recommendation in NYC... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Again with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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yes until I get some answers, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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You got the only answer you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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no I didn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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This isn't going to solve your problems or improve your life. Get a better game plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Go to confession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been in recovery from alcoholism for 4 years and my life is better than I could have ever imagined. The morning after the 4th of July, at the beach, on line at Starbucks, and I just gave myself a hallelujah that I'm am not the hungover people in front of me : ) 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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hallelelujah, sister sober 20 years and still staying the same thing- are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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OP: You rock sister, well done! Live in NJ suburbs, have a beach house on LBI. [ Reply | More ]
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I am in Brooklyn, good to see another sober person here.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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How did you do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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OP: 30 day inpatient rehab. Honestly the best gift I ever received. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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4 years clean here too! It is so nice to feel clear headed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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OP: Rock on sister! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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That's awesome. My husband quit drinking a little over a year ago. Our relationship is much better and he is a much calmer, healthier person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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My relationship with my dh and our 2 boys is so strong and full of love and laughs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Sorry :( [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 07.05.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Fantastic! I am not in your exact situation, but I have been making a deliberate effort not to drink as much this year because I like not being hungover, and in my old age just a few drinks would do it to me. It feels wonderful. Enjoy your clear head on this beautiful morning :). If you are a mom or dad, your kids are thankful too (ACOA here) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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OP: I'm an ACOA too. My dh and our 2 boys (12 & 11) are just amazing, everyday we're so grateful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Must have been pretty awful for you to be this grateful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Good for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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What was your bottom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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OP: I really didn't have one. It was just time to stop, I was ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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One day at a time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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good for you! mornings are horrible while hung over and this morning is so beautiful could not imagine having it dragged down because of a hangover [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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aren't you a peach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.05.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Congratulations. I wish I had the courage to do this. I go through periods of abstinence, but then I'm back to opening the bottle of wine again…. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Lush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Congrats on getting sober. Maybe the people in the line in front of you had a wonderful time last night with a few glasses of wine and are still enjoying the morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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OP: I'm guessing it was more of an all day/night bender judging from the smell and last night's makeup running down her face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I currently have a job and am doing job search. Is it a good idea to put down my salary request in the cover letter? For me, if the money is lower, I don't want to move. Also, I may be overqualified for some position, but if they know my requested salary is within their range, then they may consider me, right? What do you think? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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I'm in medicine, and I can't imagine putting that in a letter of inquiry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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The letter is all about what you can do for them. Do not put $$ there [ Reply | More ]
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CPA, no one in my field would do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Do not do it! Discuss it when you get an offer. I once applied for a job where they specifically asked for it to be included, so I put it in the cover letter. They then circulated both the cover letter and resume to the people who were interviewing me, including people in lower level positions. I got so much shade in that interview, since my salary was higher than most of the people interviewing me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Agree with all the above. Cover letter is to sell yourself to them. You could get an interview, realize this isn't the right level for you and still make a connection that eventually gets you a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you think Billy Joel pays in alimony to all this ex wives? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:17 AM Flag
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The first wife got a big payout. I don't think Christie got a ton, she left him, and she's been married twice since. There was a prenup for sure with Katie (pretty sure she got a payout and her restaurant). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:17 AM Flag
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I looked it up. Had no idea how much he has basically bungled his way through life, and I forgot about the former brother in law who stole 30 million from him. http://pagesix.com/2014/10/26/how-billy-joels-three-wives-stole-his-heart-and-his-money/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:29 AM Flag
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This article illustrates how some women are like heat seeking missiles towards men who they think have money. I mean, Billy Joel? Gross. And Elle Macpherson and Christie Brinkley were competing for him? Gross on so many levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Elle made a career out of seeking out richer and richer men. She is now married to a billionaire. I wonder who her next upgrade will be. Warren Buffett? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Interesting. Didn't know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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MYOB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:46 AM Flag
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He's an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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Sort of sounds like it. The 1st wife was married to a friend with a baby when he decided he was in love with her. Seems like basically he's just been a sucker his whole life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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A brilliant one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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Who needs to sober up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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who cares! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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Why does he keep getting married? Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Rod Stewart has 8 children by 5 different mothers. These guys have more money than sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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When you're rich and famous, you are living in a different world. He's not necessarily an idiot - he probably enjoys himself more than most men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Probably more than most, but probably not as much as you'd think. He's enjoying himself like someone dead drunk is enjoying themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 yo with terrible tantrums. Dh fights me on how to discipline (even though I've been doing it for 4 years). I want to send to room to cool down, not give into the screaming and the kicking. He wants to sit there and try and talk to her like a rational adult (while screaming) then start screaming himself and then spank her. I lose my temper too but lately the tantrums are scary. Anyone btdt? What would you suggest? I don't need to be judged, just help. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 AM Flag
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I think you are right to send to her room to cool down, but 4 is kind of old for this, have you talked to the pedetrician? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:44 AM Flag
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Op. Thanks for the response. We recently moved so I think that has something to do with it but what would a pediatrician say? Don't mean to sound daft... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:07 AM Flag
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The doctor could make sure everything is developing normal, however you said you just moved, so that could be it. Have you talked to her about it during a calm time, ask her about why she is doing it? How she feels when she is doing it? And how you could help her not do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:14 AM Flag
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Op. Yes. It's always 'yes mommy I'll try' and a day later were back to the same thing. Yesterday it was over not enough butter on her waffles. Today it was bc there was not enough water in the tub for her bath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:20 AM Flag
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I think your best bet it to walk away or send to her room to cool off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:34 AM Flag
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Op. I also agree she's a little too old for this. She's always been an even tempered child so maybe a late tantrum stage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:08 AM Flag
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So this is a new thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:10 AM Flag
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Op. Oh yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:17 AM Flag
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For how long has this been going on? Did she have this phase at 2 also? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:28 AM Flag
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Think about what this behavior is getting her. Attention? More butter on the waffle? My late 3 is a very sensitive kid. When he gets upset and starts to have a tantrum, I remind him 'yelling doesn't get things done in this house- asking nicely does.' This doesn't work 100% of the time, but almost always works when the tantrum trigger is a small one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 10:11 AM Flag
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Make a chart with pictures that shows her how to calm down (take 3 deep breaths, count to 10, etc). When she is calm, role play an angry situation where she pulls out the chart and uses it to calm down. Do this daily when she is calm and than we she gets angry, try to get her to use the chart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 10:47 AM Flag
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Oh good god. I think op's approach was already spot on. She doesn't need charts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:08 AM Flag
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If the child does not know how to calm down, the mom has to teach her the skill when she is calm. At 4, she needs to do something more than ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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Disagree. Sending her to her room to work it out herself is how she'll learn to calm down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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Why don't you pick up love and logic or similar and read it together. It pretty much says to do what you do but from a neutral perspective [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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DS did this at 2. Timeouts made it worse. I ended up making a chart that had his rules, one of which was no yelling. If he yelled, he would get sent into time out. When the tantrum started, I would pull out the chart and tell him he had two choices - go to time out or give me a hug and calm down. He would choose the hug, and they eventually went away. He is now 5, and in the rare case that he misbehaves I send him to his room to think about it. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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Does your dh have a temper that she's witnessed? Mine is 'hot blooded' type and dd is as well. Not sure if it's nature or nurture. But if you want a calm child you need calm methods so I'd say your method, if it's working for you, is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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If you guys are screaming at her, I wonder where she learns to scream? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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np Please. DH and I never scream. Like I don't know that I've ever heard DH raise his voice in our 19 year marriage. And all of our kids went through a tantrum phase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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Kids will learn tantrums on their own, but this is from the OP: "He... start screaming himself and then spank her. I lose my temper too but lately the tantrums are scary." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Four is not old for this. People warn about the terrible twos, but four you get blindsided by. She is on the cusp of getting a lot of skills and responsibility (from her perspective) and it's frustrating to her that she can't do those things quite yet. It will pass, in the meanwhile you are right for when she is in tantrum mode, but think about having a brief talk with her when she calms down about how she felt and what she can do now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Nerds are so gross. Ugh. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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The candy? No, delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:48 AM Flag
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No, the little boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Nerds were the best! Do they still make them? I have had them in years, and now you made me want them. Combining the flavors was the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else find the Hot Dog Eating Contest winner hot and sexy? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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At least he's not that little Asian man [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] HHI 260K in NYC. Am I MC? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 AM Flag
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Yeap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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LMC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Our HHI is lower than yours (between 225 and 250) and we could not afford to live in NYC. (Well, we can't afford Manhattan or Brooklyn). We live in a lower cost part of Westchester, and I think we are middle class at best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] It is 12:30. I think the neighborhood fireworks can stop now. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Yeah ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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