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[ - ] having a slumber party for 4 10 year old boys - ideas for activities/stuff to do? i have to fill up a couple of hours in the afternoon as well as eve... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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playstation, nintendo, wii [ Reply | More ]
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Playground. Sparklers outside at night. Movie. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moms with college-aged kids: what do you think about this? Many state schools like U of M, U of Wisc, U of Az, UNC are facing huge budget shortages due to political action within the state. To survive, some of these schools will be raising out-of-state tuition 10K next year to address the shortfall. What is likely to be the outcome of this? Will these degrees have lesser value? Will the schools stay in existence. We were considering a large state school for DD who plans on studying engineering. She is also an athlete. Not sure what to think? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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Why would they have lesser value? If anything, the rising cost of all tuition (public and private) will increase the talent pool of kids at U of I (who can't afford Northwestern anymore) and make that degree even MORE worthwhile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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OP: Because the cuts are huge--like 300 million dollars--it will affect the quality of the libraries, the teachers, the facilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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^^plus we hadn't anticipated paying NYU prices for a state school--worried tuition will increase 5-10K each year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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Not sure if it devalues the degree overall, but I could foresee these universities accepting lower-quality applicants from out of state just to get the tuition. Over time, that could impact the reputation of the school. [ Reply | More ]
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It means the pool of out of state candidates will be weaker and top students will start looking at alternatives like the University of Alabama which has outstanding scholarships for top students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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State Universities as above will always exist. Perhaps services will be cut (or even satellite campuses closed) but UNC, UM not going anywhere. As someone who lives in a state with a top public university (one sought out by people out of state) I am all for it. If they wanted to, the entire school could be filled entirely in-state with highly qualified kids. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] This probably has been answered a thousand times, but what labels do you guys use for clothes in camp? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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embroidery or sharpie [ Reply | More ]
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does sharpie go through the clothes and is visible on the other side? [ Reply | More ]
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You write the name on the tag, not the actual clothes NP [ Reply | More ]
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thanks. what about iron-ons? [ Reply | More ]
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sharpie [ Reply | More ]
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i bought these stickers ones. maybe mabel's labels or something like that. you just stick it on the tag and they stay on. easy. [ Reply | More ]
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label daddy stickers [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] "36% of Americans under age 65 with private health plans were enrolled in an HDHP in 2014" These plans barely existed back in 2008. My prediction? The shift towards HDHP will continue unabated, and will make the traditional plans (those with low deductibles) go the way of the do-do. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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This is exactly what should happen. Insurance should be used for unpredictable, expensive events, not for everyday expenses like check-ups and ongoing prescriptions. Can you imagine how much car insurance would cost if people expected it to cover oil changes and detailing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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THIS!!! I'm sick and tired of paying high health care costs to cover for the ton of fat and lazy people who enjoy eating like pigs. If they have to go to bankruptcy due to their health care bills, so be it. These people aren't helping me to pay my rent to make sure I have a roof over my head, why should I help them with the cost of their bad habits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Diet and exercise doesn't prevent every chronic illness. Sometimes it's in the genes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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So what? Are people who inherit a house free and clear from their parents paying my rent because I didn't have their luck? They aren't. If they were, I would be more willing to pay for their bad genes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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My point was you too may have these bad genes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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+1. I know a handful of people diagnosed with cancer with no family history, good diets, etc. It can happen to anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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So what? Should public policy be designed so that I benefit at each turn? The reality in USA is that it's running out of healthy people due to preventable epidemics (like obesity). The cost shifting these people were doing against healthy people might be in part to blame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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I doubt if you'd be so cocktail if you were diagnosed with pancreatic cancer tomorrow. You are just spouting talking points. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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^^^cocky not cocktail. Autocorrect is hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Do you really think that "pancreatic cancer" is preventable? Preventable cancer in USA is the most common: SKIN cancer. In 80%-90% of lung cancer cases the sick person was a smoker (so you can consider that one preventable as well, but not as much as skin cancer). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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Here's hoping you font get into a car accident etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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But that's the whole point. Catastrophic and unexpected accidents and illnesses should be covered by insurance (that everyone should have to pay for), while daily blood pressure medication for overweight, underexercised people should be paid out of pocket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Daily blood pressure medication isn't responsible for high insurance premiums. Chronic illnesses that require lots of care/testing and hospital stays are where the expense comes from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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The expense comes from a lot of areas, from coverage for unnecessary care to overbilling. Health insurance needs to be separated from preventive and maintenance care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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THIS!!! and for the most part those are preventable. I'm not ok about paying for those. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't disagree. The only problem here is that pregnancy/maternal care is very expensive (even for healthy people) because of the high risk potential. So women between 25-45 will be penalized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Well, the father of the baby is a man and pays that pregnancy and delivery cost as part of the household as well. Kids are not only an expense of the mother. In USA private companies tend to give employees 2 options: individual or family coverage (in which families with many kids gets subsidized by families with 1 or 2 kids only). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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But if the insurance comes from the wife's job, then the family will pay a higher rate -- even if she and the family are otherwise healthy -- if she is of childbearing years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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People perceive risk differently, and some people have chronic medical conditions. I do not think typical health plans will disappear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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They will run out of healthy people to free ride, because they will keep on switching to HDHP options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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again, the perception of risk issue becomes important. "healthy people" have infertility issues, get cancer, have accidents resulting in injuries, have premature babies, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Healthy people are fertile in the usual fertile time-frame. Infertility is a disease, and not a whole lot of the cost is covered by traditional plans anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Aside from skin cancer which is the most preventible and lung cancer due to smoking (80%-90%) of the cases, cancer is uncertain. The type of disease the existence of insurance was created to cover. Health insurance as defined right now in USA actually incentivizes preventable chronic diseases through cost shifting of a cost that lacks uncertainty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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It will depend on whether premiums of traditional plans increase faster than HDHP premiums. My bet is that they will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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I bet the HDHP plans start to increase pretty rapidly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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i'm terrified of this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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Why? Don't you like for the healthy not to be abused any longer? Don't assume that the healthy are rich and wealthy. I'd much rather have a system in which the sick with assets and income have to use their assets and income to pay their bills instead of being allowed to free ride say, healthy renters who barely make it each month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Are "redshirted kids" punished in college admissions for having to repeat one year? Or do they have the same admission rates as kids who didn't need to repeat a year? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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You don't understand redshirting apparently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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People actually redshirt when kids are really young in order to have an ADVANTAGE in college admissions (theoretically getting better grades/higher scores, more talented at athletics/art/music, more mature, etc). I guess your question is if college admission committees look at a child's birthdate, note that they were redshirted, and then "deduct" a few points when assessing their application-- i've never heard about this. Anyone know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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i wouldn't be so sure about that, because applicants who are younger than the normal age often get a boost. seems logical that the reverse would be true. but i don't think it's a huge factor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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NP: Curious, how do you know this? Have a DD who is one of the youngest [ Reply | More ]
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Of course not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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doubt it. seems like their bday is not nesc even on the application [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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redshirted means they started K late (like at 6), not that they repeated a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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In NYC publics, the redshirted children ARE THE SAME AGE as the rest of the country. It's that stupid Dec 31 cutoff. So no. In addition, the NYC privates are often older (due to their eY cutoff. So No; age is not a factor in college admits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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NYC mom thought that it would hurt in MS application (or wished it would). It doesn't. As a matter of fact - in elementary the record says "overage". In ms same child's record drops that. Also, NYC is transient - so many move here there are a thallus children in the classroom who are older than the redshirted child. [ Reply | More ]
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thallus? [ Reply | More ]
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I HATE PEOPLE THAT RS; MY NYC PUB G&T DEC 27TH KID WILL EAT THESE FOR LUNCH BECAUSE HE IS CHALLENGED MUCH MORE THAN THESE RS BORED MAMMOTHS [ Reply | More ]
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and he is a boy! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] There really should be a way to opt out of group texts. They mean well, but sitting in my office on this beautiful day while a bunch of SAHM friends coordinate their spontaneous park play date is not fun. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Take a long lunch -- kid free! -- and enjoy the quiet. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you, I intend to! I'm honestly not even sad about missing the park so much, but the constant dings are tiresome. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand why people feel the need to share everything - I hate them too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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+1. I really, really hate group texts. On Mother's Day I received a few with 20+ recipients, and then all day long I'm getting wishes from totally anonymous people on my phone. So annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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You can definitely get out of it. Google how to opt out of group texts. I think you can either 'leave this conversation' or you can turn off group texts in your preferences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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I've actually tried but the iPhone 5 doesn't seem to allow? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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You can turn off group texts in preferences. Will that work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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What version of iOs are you using? Open up the text- at the top it should say "< Messages" on the right, "Group" in the middle and "Details" on the left. Click on "Details". It will take you to another screen with the contacts in the group, then a few options for location, then an option to turn the convo to Do Not Disturb, and finally, an option to "Leave this Conversation". Click on it, et voila! (Or, if you don't want them to think you're rude for leaving the conversation or you don't want to be out permanently, turn on Do Not Disturb- the texts will come through without your text tone going off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Thank you! I have an earlier IOS and this doesn't seem to work... time to update. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you employ a nanny who was an illegal immigrant? How risky is this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Sure. Little risk if you're not a public servant. [ Reply | More ]
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Sauce for the goose: she doesn't want to be reported to INS, and you don't want to be reported to the IRS. [ Reply | More ]
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i wouldn't but i recognize i am part of a tiny minority. The practical legal risk is pretty small. Just,if you do this, please do not go around spouting off about the illegals stealing our jobs. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Scones are never really that good. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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so easy for them to be dry/brick-like. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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ita. [ Reply | More ]
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An excellent point I have refused to admit. [ Reply | More ]
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It really is true. [ Reply | More ]
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Eat a biscuit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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With enough clotted cream and jam they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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I make the best ones. Dried fruit Cream scones. Super easy - they use a cup and and half of heavy cream [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Good scones are *very* good. A friend makes our scones, and they are so good that we eat them plain. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 when scones are good, they are very good indeed. [ Reply | More ]
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+2. [ Reply | More ]
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"Our scones" ...okay lady [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You speak the truth. Dry and tasteless. I don't understand the concept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Brits like terrible food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I love the mini cranberry/orange ones from Whole Foods that come in a tub. But then, they don't exactly taste like traditional scones so that probably doesn't count. They have some moisture to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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They always taste like taking a spoon full of raw bisquick and putting it into your mouth. [ Reply | More ]
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The only reason you get a scone is because the croissants are sold out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Holy Jesus. I have not been to a Walmart in an age, but I am stuck in a strange town for a day and needed to grab a new swimsuit and some cheap camisoles for my dd. what the ever loving hell. Not one but two kids having full on meltdowns at floor level, two people on scooters who asked the person behind Me if they could go ahead, and then they complained when one of my items needed a price check. At least 8 half alive seniors sitting on benches (one sleeping) at the exits, and a woman who had to have been 400 pounds being wheeled around in a chair as she ate out of an open bag of popcorn. It is like the end of civilization. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sounds about right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Really depends on the Walmart. I live in an affluent area and the Walmart is fine. About 5 miles away there is another in an more mixed area and the Walmart is as you described...brings me down to run in there to pick up something, feel like i'm amongst very sad people. And I actually like Walmart, think they are a way that a lot of people can keep grocery costs down etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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NP- I was just going to post an almost identical observation! In our case, one is very nice (or as nice as a new Target)--always orderly, huge skylights so flooded with natural light and brand new, one is always depressing, and one varies on time of day. Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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lol. hilarious description. I had to eat at a denny's in a small town recently and it was like end of civilization. I hadn't seen so many morbidly obese people together in one place ever, including all of the workers. And the more food you ordered, the less it cost. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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NP- how did it cost less the MORE you ordered? It seems like they charge **slightly** more (.75) for the larger vs. 1/2 size portion but still more [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Good date for G&T cut offs https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1ErvOtS3Do0rYb9ajKngqyLr87kBmqdevD61Og7iKEF8/pubhtml TO ADD YOUR RESULTS GO TO https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1S-u0QXxS7zgTJib1diF57paIe7PC6urwBnpMQmXzhi0/viewform?fbzx=2491635865121818435 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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wtf? you expect people to click on that? make it less spammy and don't post twice. links go in the comments [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, I realized I posted two links one to view data and the other to post data. I added the second post to make that clearer - guess I failed. I thought the data was useful, feel free to ignore. When I click on the links they go the data, I don't know why you cannot see the results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] tmi alert - need "morning" sickness advice. seems to just come on randomly - very early in the pregnancy. yesterday i threw up twice while going to collect dc1 from daycare. First time I had a plastic bag, second time it came out very quickly and went through the bag (regular grocery bag). dh suggested ziploc? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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I've heard of people carrying around ziplocs. GL I hope it eases up for you soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Ziploc inside of a grocery bag would be good. Bring wet wipes to clean your face and some mints or something. Carry your "kit" with you at all times. Also include little snacks to head off the nausea. Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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I like to puke in cups. Keep some disposable plastic cups in your purse. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks for the cup/double bag ideas. i just couldn't picture carrying a clear ziploc. now i know i need more than some random gristedes bag [ Reply | More ]
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i have always liked a double bag system when i am sick. two grocery bags seems to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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carry big ziploc bags. sucking limes and popping altoids like crazy helped me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Crackers and ginger ale before your feet hit the floor. Suck on peppermint hard candy (red and white Christmas kind) lavender oil drop on hankies and smell. Do t let stomach get empty. Microwave popcorn helped me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Get flight attendant to steal barf bags [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I'm going through this right now. The best pet is, every time I puke, I pee, so I have to deal with changing pants or sitting on toilet while holding up ziplock. Being a woman is so rewarding! [ Reply | More ]
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Part [ Reply | More ]
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thanks all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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I carried around empty paper or plastic cups. I had to have it in hand and ready because there was NO warning. I was like a baby spitting up lol [ Reply | More ]
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^^^& I agree about crackers BEFORE you get up. There's something about eating them while you're still lying down that helped. Oyster crackers were my favorite, anything larger was gag inducing. I kept a box of them on my nightstand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I think one of the trolls on ub must be that woman with the fat shaming pictures in her personal space. One of the pics say "Just another day of white, fat and hideous. You should go kill yourself" 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^from lily pulitzer [ Reply | More ]
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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it's cute how overly sensitive posters think trolls have signature style, that there is only one of each [insert name]-troll, that they can tell if a poster is +1ing themselves or not, that they can tell if a person is replying to their own post. people really overestimate their own intuition. you can't tell jack shit about anyone from any post here BY DESIGN. let it fly lady. go troll one of the MP threads to let off some steam. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you kidding me? You absolutely can tell some trolls. I agree you generally can't tell when people are +1ing themselves, but you can definitely tell certain trolls apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] We are bringing a babysitter with us for a weekend out of town. Do I propose what we will pay her and let her react or do I ask her what she wants? Any thoughts on what is fair? She will be watching the kids both evenings and on her own for Saturday morning and afternoon and Sunday until we leave. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Are you leaving Friday night or sat? At least $300, up to $600 if she's doing any driving, swimming, is educated, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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We are leaving Friday afternoon. I agree it would be in that range, probably at the higher end of it. Who first proposes the amount? [ Reply | More ]
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Need more info. When on her own will she have access to a car or be walkin distance to activities? Will she have her own room/bathroom? What about Friday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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+1, more details please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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She will be on the beach. We invited her boyfriend too, not sure if he's coming. On Friday, she can either drive with us or on her own. She can bring her car or not. All we need is 6-10 Friday and 3-12 Saturday, but obviously she is inconvenienced for more hours than that (although gets a weekend on the beach). She will have her own room, not sure about bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like a considerate boss. She should receive her full salary for the whole weekend because, regardless of how beautiful the beach is, she really is re-arranging her weekend for you. Have a nice time and use lots of sunblock. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! We love her and try to be. But if we pay 20 an hour that is about $1000 which seems high. No? [ Reply | More ]
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How many DCs and ages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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2 kids, ages 2 and 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Working moms - do you have a Mom Job or do you have hard-charging career that is #1 priority? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Total mom job [ Reply | More ]
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+1. But, it's only a "mom job" to me. There are other people in similar positions in my firm, for whom this job *is* their "hard-charging #1 priority." The think is -- I took a step down for this job (from law), so in comparison, it *seems* like a mom job. Those for whom this is a step up (from a lower position) see this as their pinnacle. No snark -- just perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Good point. You may not be operating at your full potential, but some are, in the same position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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+1, in house lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Mom job. Thing is, it's the same job I had before, and it was not a mom-job then. But I turned it into one, using up all my political capital. And by staying here rather than moving up or onward, I mommy-tracked my career. It was the right choice -- single mom and cannot spend any more time away from my kid than I do already -- but I am still not at peace with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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+1. Career is sidelined, but I have flexibility. The great compromise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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+1. Sort of. I am an attorney with a lot of flexibility. WAH 3 days a week, leave early when I do go into the office, take breaks to do kid stuff. I am considering scaling back my hours for a paycut but an teetering on the edge right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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tried for hard charging. didn't work. now have mom job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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What ended up not working about it for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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np. I had the same trajectory -- tried the hard-charging job, switched gears after second DC and now have a mom job. What didn't work for me? The hours. Home and work always seemed to need me at the same time. I tried for a while to resolve this, and then I decided: what the hell. There are many good ways to practice my chosen profession. I'm moving on and making my life work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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i could delegate the vast majority of household chores (cleaning service, laundry service, ready made food, child care (spouse did most)), but could not delegate the worry related to dc's health issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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i fail to see how a big law job is doing more for the world than an office admin 'mom job' but i'm a doctor so what do i know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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np: Who said anything about doing more for the world or biglaw? I'm just confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Ita, but I can't tell if "mom job" a slight or a specific type of job for real like caregiver. I've never heard the term before and assume it means offic admin-type work, or typical busywork office jobs. Either way, most hard-charging career types are not in fields that save lives or make a real impact on the world, so who cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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+1. I assume OP means time and effort and not societal value. Many MD jobs are the ideal mom jobs. Experienced people who put in some hard years 10 years ago and now effectively function as nurse practitioners with better pay, more respect and true PT hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Hard charging career moms don't have time for UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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+1. The mom on this board are pretty self-selecting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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I have a career oriented job but family is always a priority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Same. I'm a physician with my own private practice (probably 3/4 time). So "hard-charging", but at the same time, I still feel family is my #1 priority and job is #2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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I have a hard-charging career and I'm the primary breadwinner, but my kids and family are my #1 priority. Also, I am very senior so even though my job is high-powered, I have a lot of flexibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] SAHMS must admit that, objectively, there are ways to have a fulfilling career and be at home and available for their kids for a good amount of time. These jobs do exist, and real life people do hold them. I know dozens of them myself. I don't get why almost every woman wouldn't do everything she could to get one of those kinds of jobs. When I see someone with a gig like that, say like a nurse, I say to myself - why should she have that and not me? It makes me angry and makes me want to do the same thing she did. I can't imagine looking at that kind of arrangement and thinking either a) screw that, who would want to have a job, or b) I can't do that because...... I mean, she did it. Why can't I do it, too? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Some people don't need a job. Those that do choose the best work for their ability and interests. Not everyone is suited to nursing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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And everyone must think like you because... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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OK, I'm taking the bait to say that I have a job like that, and I would leave it tomorrow for the opportunity to not work. I could be very fulfilled in other areas, and I'd love to have more energy to contribute to my family. I am available for my kids a good amount of the time, but that time is often spent with me stressed out and having to get done all the stuff that needs to happen. Granted, this would be different if a) I were passionate about my career (I'm not) and/or b) I made enough to outsource housekeeping, groceries, laundry, etc. (I don't.) People do what is best for them, and some days I feel really lucky to work and some days I feel really jealous. There's no one right answer for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Ok. Thanks for responding. Here's what I wonder. Do you know anyone who has a job you'd rather have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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No, but I know of people who have the perfect job for them. It just wouldn't be the perfect job for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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I think the huge swing factor is the DH, and whether he takes responsibility for childcare--including all the backoffice work of childcare, like ordering new sneakers from Zappos and buying the birthday presents -- and house care, or just "helps." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Some people like/choose to do their own childcare. All the time. Is this unimaginable to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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Don't you usually do this Sunday night or Monday? Do you have to work this weekend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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