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[ - ] Doesn't anyone think that it's almost impossible that the Krims would move to the same neighborhood as the Vasquez family and not know that they were already at the school? Or already know the whereabouts of the nanny's sister? i just find it all very far-fetched. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Bitch. They BOTH moved after the murders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Yes, but the Krims moved long after the Vaquezes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Wow. You're very angry. But the Vasquezes moved well before the Krims did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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I haven't thought about it at all, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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I only started thinking about it because of all the chatter here. Otherwise, I don't care at all. Terrible tragedy for the family, nanny, other family, everyone who went to school with them. [ Reply | More ]
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If the Krims didn't want to risk running into the nanny, it would have taken exactly one email to find out where she was and choose their home accordingly. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any 234 parents on? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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hi! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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What do you think of the Krim situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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all ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Please find out if the dad works at cnbc media headquarters in New Jersey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] is it safe to visit japan with my 1-year-old in terms of radiation exposure? no flames please. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Outside of a few very tiny zones (which you would not be allowed to enter, anyway) your 1yo will absorb more radiation and damaging UV from the flight there & back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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+1 Excellent answer. People do not understand radiation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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you are fine. you are more than fine. your wallet, however, is a different story. [ Reply | More ]
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Unless you have family there, a larger issue is how much a 1-year old will actually understand and remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] So with all this Krim/ Vasquez crap. Where is the other nanny in all of this? I can't imagine she would want to face Mrs. Krim or put the child through anything? I don't think she should be punished for her sister's crime but wouldn't you be so horrified if your sister had done this to someone. Would you want to ever risk having to see them? I'd be begging for a delayed pick up at school! 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Probably why she was wearing the sunglasses and hurrying along. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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I suspect she isn't exactly a "look-alike" but she is to the Krims. I think the news reports show she is being pretty considerate short of hiding. She picks up kids quickly and hustles out of there (lots of kids hang out an play). The Krims seem to interpret that as having a guilty conscience, but it seems as if she is trying to be unobtrusive as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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She is a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Yes. She and the other family agreed to it. When they did see each other once, she hurried off quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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so look alike nanny needs to be spanked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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an incidence was bound to occur, that's something both parties had to accept. you can't get a news article when everything doesn't go your way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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It's a small community, they are going to run into each other, it is inevitable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Or- yep sry- that was my point, and it seems the nanny did her best at handeling it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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ITA. It sounds like the Vazquez family was doing their best to accommodate the request--but it's never going to go perfectly, and the Krims have to realize that if they are going to send the kid to this school, encounters will happen. No one is forcing them to send their child there, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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What if she needs to get her charge to some activity after school? She is just doing her job. The family is living their lives. If this is so hard for the Krims, they have plenty of other schools they can send their kids. This just makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Nannies who recommend unstable people should expect to be shunned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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And mothers who hire unstable nannies and leave their kids with them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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They get to start social media shunning campaigns whenever someone says no to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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They suffer more than enough with the death of their children. Ortega has not suffered at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Seems like such an easy thing to fix on their part. If you want something like this done, you have to fix it. You can't expect other parents to model their children's schedules around one tragedy because it made headlines. No other murder would be handled this way. The Krims could pick up early or late, use another door, etc. as others have suggested. Not a difficult situation if you're the one sticking to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Their kid should not have to suffer more. They should sue the Ortega woman for the deliberately false and misleading references if she wont back off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Why should this random kid "suffer". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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you again? you were on the stir article and you obviously know so little about the law, all you are doing is outing yourself every time you post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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I imagine she doesn't think it's fair for her charge to be impacted and also wants to keep her job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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back to my question - does the school have 2 doors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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It doesn't rly matter Imo, what about the streets, neighborhood activities, playgrounds, pta events. The krims have to accept that they will see her (very unfortunate for them) or move elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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I would be horrified as well. But she has a job to do and is trying to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Why should theVasquez girl be made to wait inside like she did something wrong? She is completely innocent! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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children often suffer from parents' bad choices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, like the poor Krim girl suffering from her parents choice to move to this neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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I don't think you want to go down the road of talking about parent's bad choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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No one is saying she should have to wait, if somoeone else, other than the nanny picks them up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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What I find interesting is it seems as if that Vasquez family moved out of the neighborhood, probably because of what happened. They had no way of knowing the Krims would move also and send their kids to the same school. [ Reply | More ]
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Why would they have moved because of what happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] At what grade do you start inviting only a few close friends for DC's birthday parties? I thought around 3rd but DF is saying 1st. Isn't that too early to invite only a select few? DC's school frowns upon excluding and almost everyone invites the entire class at 1st grade. What's your experience? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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I think you make the rules about your kid's birthday parties, not school, not your friends, and not your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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From the beginning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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We invited a few close friends for DC parties at 5th grade. Invite everyone when they are young, DC is still trying to find themselves. Make as many friends as possible. Its a vicious cycle, if don't invite some kids the word will get around. Then you are not invited to other parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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We have always gone with the Miss Manners guide of inviting as many children as the birthday child is old. 6th birthday = 6 or fewer friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Terrible rule. If you have a few 'have to' Invites (neighbors, cousins etc) kid hardly gets tonvite friends. And I do think inviting whole class is nice for younger kds, inclusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Our kids get to choose. We don't do "have to" invitations; that defeats the purpose. We do have a few "have to" kids (like you said, neighbors, etc.) who get turns going to the park or whatever, but birthday guests are birthday child's choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Same in our house. And I would never tell another their rule. Is terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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we started in K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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We always invite everyone. DS is really shy/reserved and his birthday is at the beginning of the school year, so I like to use the party to give DS to meet and hang out with his classmates in an easy setting for him to navigate. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you think is better for a child? To grow up as as one of the least well-off in a very affluent town with very educated, well-traveled families or to grow up as one of the most well-off in a middle-class town? Essentially, do you think it's better to be a small fish in a big pond or a big fish in a small pond? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Money doesn't matter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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don't be naive. it is often the only thing that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Don't be an asshole. Understand others have a different opinion and op asked for just that. State yours but respect others. Manners matter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Parenting matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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op. i fully agree that parents play a major role in shaping their child's outlook. however, other factors come into play, plain and simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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From personal experience, the first is good. My home life was happy, so I didn't mind that I couldn't have & do everything my friends & schoolmates did, and it helped me develop some goals about how I wanted to live my life, what I might want to study and do for a living, where I wanted to travel when I grew up, and what I could live without and still be happy. I think I have taken a few more risks in life because I know I can be happy if I lose everything and have to start over with very little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Surely there is a middle ground? I'd say that's best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I grew up as the first and it was terrible. [ Reply | More ]
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i think latter. maybe partly because being poor in a rich neighborhood sometimes gives kids anxiety (yes, children know who's who of their neighborhoods) and makes for stressful living for the parents. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] This Krim affair obviously has a lot more to do with the mother than the child, who was three when the ordeal occurred. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yeah, that's what i noticed in the post article. they talked a lot about how the mother felt and little about the child, nothing wrong with that but don't mask it as something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Yes, I think mrs. Krim is looking for revenge. She is entitled to her feelings (well entitled), but don't push that on your child. I doubt a child would even make the connection that the Vazquez nanny was at fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I feel terrible for her, of course, but I do hope she had nothing to do with leaking the email. If she did, it's really bullying behavior on her part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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She had to. No other reason for this to make the news, but who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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I think she has gotten used to living her life in public, being a tragic figure and processing her grief that way. It's very sad, of course, but she isn't entitled to a whole community how to live their lives--"or else" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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If the rim dad works in New Jersey why did they stay New York [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Krim [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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My guess is for whatever reasons they lived here before the murders? His job didn't change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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At three, I would have remembered if my siblings were killed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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yes, but you could have gone through seeing the murderers's sister oblivious a couple years later if nobody said otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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If I wanted to avoid this person at all costs, I would not move to manhattan. Or at the very least, I would do my due diligence and find out where she was working before picking a school for my child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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+1 and the article didn't go beyond re-tying her personal emails to friends. Thus, mostly about her feelings. Vazquez family is insensitive at the least and disgusting at the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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if you think a family is "disgusting" for picking up their child, who was apparently attending the school before this incident, at the normal pick up time you are way too involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Why doesn't marina pick up her kid 10 min before the end of school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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The Krims CHOSE to move to this neighborhood and send their kid to this school. Why didn't they do their homework and find out where this nanny was before they did? It would not have taken long since she is still with the same family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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How the hell can you do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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You contact the nanny's last known employer. Follow the trail from there. Turns out the trail was not that long b/c the nanny was still with the same family. This hardly requires crack investigating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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is there only one way in and out of the school? (I'm not in NYC; and every school I have attended or that my kid has attended has had at least 2 doors). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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See, that's what I don't get, can't they stand at opposite sides of the building or use separate exits? I don't think some random girl should have to be separated and wait fifteen minutes, I feel like there is a more logical solution. [ Reply | More ]
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do you think they were trying to reach a reasonable solution by leaking "my heart was racing"? no, it was emotional pandering. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm OR. who is "they"? I don't think the school leaked the email. instead of the 15 minute solution, is there a way they school could have had either family pick up at a different door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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No way the school leaked it, somebody on the Krim side for sure- kind of obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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It's more than likely that email was leaked with the consent of the Krims. They did not get what they wanted from the Vazquezes or the school so they took it public. That's disgusting behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Not even that, it's just plain weird on so many levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Here's the other thing, the nanny's sister has been with the Vazquez family since before the murders. If this was going to be so traumatic for Marina Krim, why did she send her kids to the same school the Vazquez child attends? It would not have been hard to find this out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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How was she supposed to know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Contact the Vazquez family? "We are moving back to NYC, we would like to know if X is still employed by you and if so, what school your child attends. It would be very difficult for us to be in the same community as her and risk seeing her every day, so we'd like to avoid that." [ Reply | More ]
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It cracks me up when a post and a set of responses is obviously just one person. [ Reply | More ]
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well, somebody is replying to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Its not. [ Reply | More ]
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I know, right? No one is talking about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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I brought this up in another post. Clearly she will "remember" her siblings through pictures and videos and stories BUT is she really going to remember the sister of someone she has to seen since she was 3 years old…doubtful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] In March, would you travel with your children to Morocco and/or Turkey or in light of world situations would you avoid these places unless you had to go to them? Considering them for vacation but wondering if we should stay closer to home. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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I would definitely go. I have taken my children with me throughout the Middle East and North Africa among other places, very good memories and a good window into the world for them. [ Reply | More ]
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op. i traveled like this as a child, as well, but the world was different then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Would go elsewhere. Maybe Spain or Greece. [ Reply | More ]
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Turkey is one of the best places I've ever been, but I probably wouldn't go right now. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd rather there than ebola-ridden Texas. [ Reply | More ]
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Istanbul is great. It's a safe and cosmopolitan city. Best of both worlds without being dangerous for vacationers. [ Reply | More ]
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I've been to both and felt like Turkey was much more Western-friendly than Morocco. [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't be worried about being in Morocco or Turkey, but I would stay aware of events and State Department travel advisories as the trip got closer, just to be ready for any spillover from nearby countries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Moving to the burbs. But which one? Please help me decide. I've narrowed it down to Bronxville and Edgemont. Townhouse in B'ville vs house with big yard in Edgemont. Are the schools in B'ville worth the extra expense? What's life like in either town? We are a small wasp family, not wealthy. Pretty laid back. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Edgemont schools are better, but WASP may be happier in Bronxville. Edgemont gets a lot of kids from apartments in schools, so not much economic discrimnation. [ Reply | More ]
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Really? I thought the Bronxville school was best in Westchester? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
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Average SATs in Bronxville 1867, 1909 in Edgmont, also higher in Scardale and Chappaqua. [ Reply | More ]
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Only if one of your criterion is minimal number of Jews. [ Reply | More ]
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PLease people. The SAT scores are hardly an indicator of "how good the school is", rather an indicator of how "affluent the catchment area is". [ Reply | More ]
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Please explain to me how the Bronxville schools are better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Chappaqua and Scarsdale (both Scarsdale H and Edgemont H) are better than Bronxville in terms of schools. Bronxville is on par with Rye, Rye Brook (Blind Brook) and Armonk. The next best group includes Briarcliff, Rivertowns (Ardsley/Hastings/Irvington), Katonah-Lewisboro (includes Cross River and South Salem), Pleasantville, and Rye Neck (Mamaroneck). These make up the first tier public school districts in Westchester. The rest are from decent to so-so. [ Reply | More ]
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it is quite good. scarsdale is super kid focused in everything, not just the school -- great pools, camps, double bus routes for after-school programs. too bad parents can be pita. edgemont is a little poorer, a little fewer amenities but great schools. you really can't rank them one way or another at that level. you have to go with your budget. [ Reply | More ]
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house in edgemont. no contest. better community, nicer people. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - better schools, nicer people [ Reply | More ]
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i should hope you are quite wealthy if in bronxville. edgemont might be the thing for you if you don't have a lot of cash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] The man I am dating is great in many ways. He treats me well, is respectful, caring, and I enjoy his company. The only area where we are struggling is sex. We were slow to become intimate and the first few times, there were performance issues on his end. Now, his approach seems to be to focus on pleasuring me which while I appreciate, I also want a more mutually satisfying experience. Really not sure how to address this - got married very young and while we had our issues, sex wasn't one of them. So as a single person post-divorce, still feel like I am a little inexperienced in navigating these things. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How old is he? Does he have trouble maintaining an erection, or does he finish too soon? [ Reply | More ]
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34. trouble maintaining. [ Reply | More ]
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Dump. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't agree to be exclusive with him until you have talked about his problem & potential solutions. -OR [ Reply | More ]
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We already are exclusive. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, if you are in an exclusive sexual relationship with him, you should not have a problem discussing sex with him. Talk to him. [ Reply | More ]
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Point taken. [ Reply | More ]
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np It sounds too early to be exclusive. You don't seem to have dated much, and you don't seem to know this man well enough. [ Reply | More ]
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Does he drink? My DH drinks in the evenings and has trouble with sex at night because of it (not maintaining but climaxing). Sex is better for him in the morning or if he abstains from alcohol (or just 1 or 2 drinks). [ Reply | More ]
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He drinks sometimes, but no correlation to this. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, that's young for that. Gay maybe? [ Reply | More ]
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viagra. serious. [ Reply | More ]
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Porn addiction. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.01.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Just imagine having sex with him for the rest of your life. If that prospect doesn't fill you with joy, then dump and move on before you become too emotionally invested. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I know. That is why I am asking for help navigating this, because I don't want the status quo for the long term but I do like the guy. [ Reply | More ]
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So you'd rather have the asshole who treats you like shit but who is good in bed, then? Because if you're looking for a unicorn you're probably going to be looking for a while. I don't know if you've heard about this, but there are all sorts of drugs to fix this issue now. It's kind of not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Anxiety? [ Reply | More ]
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I think that is (or was) a part of it. Though we have now been dating for a decent bit and I would have thought that would have faded some. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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I am telling you - it's porn. You'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of this - in my son's third grade class they are required to go online once a week and complete an online 'class blog.' About half of their homework is also done online. We encourage our son to do his own homework, and he has an old laptop that we let him use for his homework and games. I recently added parental controls to his laptop, which inadvertently blocked the class blog. Instead of telling us that, he took it on himself to go the class website, click the "contact Mrs. X" button, and send his teacher an email that said "I'm blocked from the class blog. Please respond." She responded to my email address, which was included in his post because of the autofill feature, I guess, with a polite but maybe a bit curt response. I explained the situation to her, but I'm thinking this morning - is that cool, for third graders to email their teachers directly? If they're going to have kids starting to use computers in the classroom from Pre-K on, should we not be expecting them to utilize that technology as well? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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I think it shows great initiative on his part. And hurrah for the teacher for making herself accessible to her students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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is this public school. they should not expect every family to have computer and internet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Maybe in her kid's school every family does have computers and Internet. My kids NYC public schools though so and it wasn't a problem, k-12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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THIS THIS THIS. And, I do t allow my 3rd grader to use computer at home. But OP - I ramble... What is the problem? That the teacher was shitty? You have posted about this blog before. Sounds like you hate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I don't like that the blog is public, so every parent (or anyone who just checks out the site) can see what every kid in the class is submitting as homework, but that ship has sailed, I guess. I'm more interested in whether or not it is appropriate for an 8 year old to contact his teacher directly via email. Obviously I never had this problem growing up, so I'm kind of unsure as to the protocol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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The school should provide children with their own email addresses and set up any secure/private/school related sites, blogs and accounts that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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If this is public, that is illegal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Really? It definitely is a public school, and the kids put their first names on their blog posts, so it's pretty easy to figure out who is what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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If you want it to go away, you probably can. But you will be *that* parent. So in your heart of hearts - what is the problem? Is it 100% that you are embarrassed to have the other parents see your child's quality of work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Part of it it that, yes. But part of it is also seeing the other kid's work, too. I don't really want to see what the other kids are doing, since it's a small town and I know at least half the kids in his class and their parents. It's an uncomfortable spot to be in to see the raw work of someone else's kid, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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You don't have to look - so I'm not going to agree with you there. I am against this on principal. But if you want to shut the whiles thing down go Internet safety security route. Any perv can have access and get information about your child right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Is this a private school or public? My opinion is that using computers to this degree with young children is a huge distraction. That said, if they are going to use computers so much for classwork/homework the school should provide secure/private email accounts (school domain) for each student and teach children proper use of the internet and email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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I am so sick of this whole "classroom blog" and school emails and googledocs etc for kids who are 7,8,9 years old. It is so premature. Teachers should be focusing on the basics, putting pen/pencil to paper. Computers are a huge distraction and kids these days don't need to be taught to use them. The fact that teachers/parents think computers need to be taught this young reflects our own insecurities about how rapidly technology is moving/changing, not a fundamental/proven learning experience. Waste of time. I do not allow any screentime on school nights for my elementary aged children and I resent the school undermining that by re [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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school undermining that by requiring participation in a silly classroom blog. Dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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In my kid's school in NJ they've been doing this heavily since second grade because the third grade statewide tests take place all on computer, so they want them to get used to using the computers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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I love you. I agree. My child would be exempt from this (would turn in work on paper) because I will not allow computer use at this age (and my youngest is in 5th) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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I think your kid is much smarter than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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I have no problem with that. I hope to god that he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o on specialized high schools ... did anyone here attend, or know someone who attended, a vocational or agricultural high school? How did that come about, how did it work out, and did you/that person go to college later? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Edgemont mom here. Two kids I know went to the BOCES (County tech school). Very rare here. Both doing great. One girl got licensed in cosmetology, at 24 manages 3 Mac stores, does fine. Other got training in filming, worked on Law and Order SVU (got me in to look at tapings, so fab), and now moved to Georgia where someone is opening up a major production facility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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^^^both of them got the type of training that one would have to pay money for if you go to a for profit school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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^^ no, neither one went to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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I grew up in Queens and know people who went to Aviation HS and John Bowne (which had an agricultural program, I was there for just freshman year). Yes to college, and most went to regular colleges although the ones I remember from Bowne went on to a college called "The New School" somewhere on the lower east side.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Under the NYS Department of Education, LaGuardia is classified as a vocational HS! DS's went there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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That is funny! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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I did but not in NYC. It was an arts school that was kind of embedded in a larger urban high school. I definitely went to college, and actually was practicing professional artist during high school but the school experience itself was not great. Had nothing to do with the arts program per se, but rather that it was embedded in this larger urban high school in my neighborhood which was failing, violent, and rough in just about every way imaginable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Vo tech track in our town was not for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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+1 Vo-ed students in our town had a high employment rate (according to published numbers, not verified personally), but were not tracked for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Bergen tech for aerospace engineering, 100% goes to college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Bergen tech is not a vocational high school. It's more akin to Stuy or BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Bergen academies is more akin to stuy and bs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Yes, I know one and she went to Cornell for agriculture later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do they call them specialized high schools? What do they specialize in? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Brooklyn Tech: tech, Bronx Science: science [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Not so much specializing -.did they in the beginning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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You have to take two periods of each a day at each school, that is specializing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Nope. Brooklyn tech alum. My major was social sciences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Ok. Well at science you had to take two periods of science a day, at least you did when I went there. I thought you did at tech too. I know stuy never did it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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No I would have died lol, I could barely pass freshman year biology. The only "tech" requirement for everyone was one semester of drawing and one semester of shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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At science you had to take a tech drawing class too and there were other science requirements too, nothing TOO crazy, but more than your average high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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You guys are proving ops point. They aren't specialized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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They are, just not exclusively. They still have to provide a well rounded education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Alum here too. There was just 1 non science/math/tech major when I went - social sciences. Plus everyone was required to take drafting and other bs "techie" classes. So yeah, while it's possible to minimize the tech, you can't escape it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Your mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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The originals specialized in the arts, sciences and or engineering: LaGuardia, Stuyvesant,Bronx Science and Brooklyn Tech. Now additional science engineering schools are York, Staten Isoand Tech and the High School for Math, Science and Engineering. American Studies specializes in history and government. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Oh...and Brooklyn Latin, which is humanities focused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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But they really aren't. Specialized I mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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They are a high school, how much do you think they should specialize? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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That is a different topic. I'm still wondering about the name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Originally they were specialized: Bronx Science was established in 1938 as a math and science school for boys, and Stuy was established in 1904 and a manual training school for boys. The Hecht-Calandra Act of 1972 designated the schools, plus Brooklyn Tech, as specialized science and math high schools for New York City, and required a uniform exam in math and science (which became the SHSAT) to be administered for admission to these schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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NO Where is American Studies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Bronx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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It's on the campus of Lehman College in the Bronx. Great school in a beautiful setting. My ds went there. The kids have a ton of work, but the school is small and everyone feels part of the school community, so it's not the anonymous grind that some of the biggest schools can be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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I imagine the term meant something different in the 1930s, when the big 3 SHS were created. Nowadays, the term has pretty much lost its original meaning, as there are excellent humanities classes at Bronx Science and excellent math/science classes at Stuy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Specialize doesn't mean ignoring core classes. It means adding on required classes in the fields of focus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes, in an abstract sense. DD attended Bronx Science, and there is no "field of focus", per se. Even a kid who doesn't want to take AP and post-AP biology, for example, has to take science for 4 years. Likewise, a kid who doesn't want to take AP Literature and AP Composition still has to take English for 4 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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If you don't know, then your child does not need to apply. Wasted of resources. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Kiss my ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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Like I said, don't waste NYC's resources. The few black or Spanish kids need those resources. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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Intelligence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Test prep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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The original mission was to provide a more in-depth and intensive academic experience, with more focused and intellectual kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone go to Beacon open house? Did you like the school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Yes very nice. Loved the atmosphere. High on our list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone use InMail on linkedIn after you apply for a job? I did it the other day and had great success being fast tracked straight to interview... Just curious to see how others use it to make you stand out from the crowd? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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What is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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you can send InMail's to the person who posted the job ad...often it's the CEO so I'd been reluctant but tried it this once. -op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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np - so you applied and then emailed the ceo directly? seems like it could backfire. I haven't btdt myself. It's an interesting question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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