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[ - ] Our dd is currently enrolled in a toddler's program twice a week in a tt preschool in Manhattan. We just got our first letter from the school requesting contributions to their Annual Fund. The school doesn't publish their "deficit" percentage and I'm quite lost at how much is expected from us in terms of donation. Any guidance from some more experienced parents? I know the school also has a fundraising gala in Feb where we will also be asked to contribute. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 12.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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there are NO TT preschools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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we are at a regular old neighborhood preschool, but there are schools that are known for being feeders to the TT Ks (or privates generally) and those often are referred to as TT preschools. I think the whole TT concept is silly - just find the school that's right for your kid and your family - but I thnk many people know what OP means by the term, and expectations at those schools might be different from elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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OP: i'm with you. but you get my point. let's call it a preschool that sends their graduates to tt schools. or maybe, let's just call it "an expensive preschool program". whatever we want to call it. what are they expecting in terms of our donation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Well, I am the "Europe trip" poster. Whether you think I am fake or not, the update is that the mom ended up on the phone with my DH since he was the one to book the tickets and the hotel. The mom wanted to know what amount of parental supervision there would be, and DH said none, because we are not going on the trip. I guess there was some hedging on the details by the other boy until she finally looked us up to call us directly. At the moment, it remains unclear if he will actually go. We are hoping he does. Away, yes, now I know the flights and the hotel. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Still fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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NP - Who cares if it's fake? Isn't it interesting to think about? I could see myself as both mothers, and it's probably good practice to see beyond my own parenting dilemmas with a 9 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Hi OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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Honestly I'd just talk to the mom on the phone and apologize if this trip you're giving your son is causing a rift in her home- you didn't realize it would cause problems for the friend's parents (her) and if she doesn't want her son to go, that's fine with you and send your apologies. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Wow you are very sensible person, kudos to you, I really mean it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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I was going to write something similar (and I ended my last response with "the end" so OR and I are on the same wavelength) - sounds like the mom did not have all the details about the nature of the trip. Call her and tell her you did not realize when you spoke earlier that she was unaware it was just the 20-year-olds going, that you understand if it is not comfortable for her, and that there would be no hard feelings if he were unable to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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She is a fool if she keeps her kid from this experience. I know a lot of people here have this thing that kid's who get these things are super spoiled, and maybe they are, but it does not mean they are bad people. Most of my roommates in college were very well off. I attended HYP for about 2500 a year, split between my divorced parents, who worked their whole lives. I would have loved to have had ski trips in winter and island trips for spring break, but they could not pay for it. My friends still grew up to be upstanding people who have college aged kids today (who are good kids). The only difference between them and me today is that they had many more memories. I can't pay for anyone else's kids vacations, but I try to send my dd on all the trips in school she can take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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He is still 20 right? Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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If you do lose the 2k, it is your own fault for not checking with the parents. You may be hands off, but presuming everyone else would be was foolish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Actually, as I said earlier, it was my DH who booked it all. He asked if the other parents were OK with this. It is news to us that they might not be now, but your point about having trusted the kids is a valid one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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It might be, if they were kids instead of adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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That sucks. I think what you and your DH did was such a nice thing. the boys are 20! not 15. I think this would have been a great opportunity for them to travel, learn different cultures, learn how to plan an itinerary, explore and be responsible while having fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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I don't want to take this in a new direction, but would you mind sharing a little about the SES/culture of your family and the other two? Maybe info like small town, first-generation, blue-collar. Again, not trying to turn this into a troll-worthy post, but trying to wrap my head around it. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] How do families in NYC do things like laundry and grocery shopping when it rains? Assuming they don't have their own laundry unit. Deliver everything? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Flyover moms. This board is full of them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Umbrellas is something that it is used everywhere even in Manhattan as incredible this may sound [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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But with kids? And people use umbrellas while hauling laundry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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No, I'm in LA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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I do laundry in my basement so the weather doesn't matter. When it rains I wear a hood and carry an umbrella. We are like mailmen we go out no matter the weather. We have to. I actually like that about NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Good summary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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and if there are really no groceries, delivery and tip well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Many buildings have laundry rooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Those are the days that I hate living in NYC! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Keep the kitchen stocked and stay ahead on laundry, so there's never a day you "have to" go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Laundry: go in the rain or wait (assuming no laundry in building). Groceries: go in the rain, have it delivered from store, order from fresh direct. Going in the rain is really not a big deal. Umbrella or hood, subway/bus/taxi if more than a few blocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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^^^ Completely a non-issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Why so many posts about Hunter K but when I post about Hunter HS nobody cares? Aren't there as many DCs of UBers who are qualified for HS? Lack of interest can't be because of timing - HS exam is in about three weeks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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because by that point, your DC should be able to do the apps on his own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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DC qualified for HCHS exam. We are skipping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Tips for creating a delicious cheese plate for holiday party this weekend? What are some winners? Good pairings? How many cheeses?? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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how many people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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About 8 adults and a bunch of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Make sure you have cubes of something bland for the kids and lots more crackers than you think you'll need. Separate plates, ideally a separate table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I would head right out to the nearest cheese shop and ask their advice....they are pros. If I were on the west side, I'd head for zabars. Sahadis in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Murray cheese also [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Oh, yeah. Making me want some cheese right now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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+1 I've been really happy when I left the choices to the expert cheese shop guys behind the counter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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^^ make sure you have those little tags naming the cheeses; otherwise you'll be answering questions all night about them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Excellent advice; I would ask the cheese people at Fairway or Agata (on 79th) what they recommend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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I don't know about pairings, but humboldt fog should be in the mix. I would also do something like drunken goat for a mild cheese and some stinky runny (delicious) kind unless you hate that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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I love it all! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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LOVE Humboldt fog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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I love manchego with either fig spread or a quince paste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Yum! good ideas thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] I ended up with a work trip to the town my old college boyfriend lives in. I emailed him and invited he and his wife out for drinks, since it's probably been 15 years since I've seen him or really caught up with him (we're both married with kids now). He emailed back that he'd love to get together (didn't mention the wife) and we made a plan to meet at a restaurant. However, he has now had to cancel basically because his wife "won't let him" have drinks with me - he is clearly very embarrassed by this. He used to be such a strong, confident guy. I can't even imagine giving my DH such a directive. How emasculating and immature! It's a public place, and she was even invited. It's no big deal to me, but I am sad for him because it sounds like he married a very insecure woman. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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Lol. It's something to you if you're "sad for him" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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*invited him and his wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Did the dw not want to go or did he not invite her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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No idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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I wouldn't want to go out for a drink with my dh and his ex girlfriend and wouldn't want him going either. If anything he's an asshole for throwing his wife under the bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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I would never look someone up after 15yrs... that's so weird to me and wouldn't care to see any exes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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THIS. x10000. Why would you do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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We've not been totally out of touch for all those years, just Christmas card/Facebook kind of friends keeping up loosely with one another. We don't live near each other, so it's the first time there would have been an opportunity to catch up in person. I would take the opportunity to catch up in person with plenty of people from college that I've stayed in similar touch with if I went to their town for another reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have boundary issues if you can't see the distinction between catching up with a college friend and having a drink with your ex boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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I guess maybe I do, since it seems pretty much all the same to me at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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No everyone's different but a lot of people (I'd even say most) would be uncomfortable with something like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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For better or for worse she is uncomfortable with her dh hanging out with his ex's. It's right that her dh doesn't do it then and he shouldn't have shared the reason with you. I personally don't think it would be a big deal particularly since you included her in the invitation but who knows, she may have good reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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I agree with this completely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Flying on vacation Saturday - best apps and movies for a 4 year old and a 2 year old boy? Nothing scary! thanks in advance! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Winnie the Pooh movie. Episodes of their favorite shows. Sago mini bug builder and pet cafe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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Curious george movie. mickey mouse episodes are excruciating for me, but boys love it and it passes the plane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I ordered pictures to affix to our Christmas Cards and they arrived blurry. I double checked the photo on our computer and it looks 1000x better. Is there a place in Manhattan that you trust for quick, quality printing? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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These days it's cheaper in the long run to print them out on photo paper at home. We have a Canon MX892 color printer that has Bluetooth so you can print from your cell phone too. When you buy the printer, you'll get some free photo paper with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] So we have a sitter 2 days a week (17 hrs) thurs and friday. We agreed to salary, 2 weeks vacation (one our choice and one hers) metro card etc. She was hinting that we should give her the Fridays after christmas and new years off. Those are going to be DH and my days to ourselves. Would you pay her for those days? We're not going away on vacation but want to go and do adult things in the city together. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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I'd give her the days off. Get an evening sitter and go out in the evening. Everyone wants those days off this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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I know but I want the time to do what I want. And we can't find a sitter because, well everyone is out of town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Sucks being a parent. Yes, I'm a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Even if you are, there are times that it sucks. And wanting a bit of a vacation to be ME rather than mom/me or work/me is what I would like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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I would like many things I can't have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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i think the point here is that op can have them. i work on days i'm scheduled to work, so should you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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Nanny- I didn't post that comment although I do agree with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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OP I agree with it too. There are a ton of things I can't have. I don't think this is a have/can't have situation. Just trying to figure out how to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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np- what about asking her to come in Monday after Christmas instead of Friday after Christmas, to give her the long weekend and take your day with your DH Monday instead? Provided you are both off work Monday, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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I think she has another job. But I could ask her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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OK just asked her. If she can't do it I will still talk with DH about if giving just the one friday off should count as one of her "weeks" off - seems strange to do for just one day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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And the OP can have this. Because she's paying for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Parents need alone time just like any other adult couple. There is nothing wrong with OP wanting a day to relax with her husband, on a day that her sitter is scheduled to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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You have those days off from work, don't you? Why don't you ask her if she would mind working one of those two days? Or have re another sitter for the holidays? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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She hasn't said that she would have a problem working, just I can tell that she is hoping to be off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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If she hasn't asked then I wouldn't say a word about it. She can request days off like an adult if she wants days off. I agree that offering for her to come in a couple of hours late would be a nice gesture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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OK, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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I'd offer her to come in later than usual- maybe 10 or 11am- but tell her that you would like her to work those days. If she cannot, then they're definitely unpaid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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What adult things? Im genuinely curious to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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museums, lunch alone, etc. Over the summer we took 4 days where kids went to camp and we went to a water park, coney island etc. It's nice to be just us again without it being "date night"/dinner/movie etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Yeah. That's not really adult things. Ask her to babysit that night for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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You didn't have kids with you and you CHOSE to go to a water park? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Yes we did. And had a great time. [ Reply | More ]
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np- i wondered that myself! haha [ Reply | More ]
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Did any part of you feel guilty seeing other children at Coney island or the water park? If I had a free day, I wouldn't do anything child related. I would get drunk during the day and have loud sex while the sun was out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Well we did drink at Coney Island. No guilt. It was great to go around and do the things we wanted to do with no wining or diapers or anythign. We also did adult stuff one day (wine tasting and hiking to Storm King) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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Omg! Here comes the bombs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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bombs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:18 PM Flag
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It's not her business why you need her to work those days- I'd just say you really expected her to be able to come in since they are her scheduled work days- maybe work out a half day with her for after Christmas. But I wouldn't pay her if she says she can't come in at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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You get to be a horrible parent and a horrible employer at the same time. You have the days off because of the holidays - give them to your nanny, and by the way, spend them with your children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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I am with my children 5 days a week. They see me plenty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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She could give her off after Christmas but ask her to come in after New Years - I think that would be fair- I mean who really has big plans on Jan 2 anyways? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Ask her to babysit at night or come in the afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Current or rejected Hunter moms: any truth to this first weekend/second weekend rumor or is it bunk. Did your dv have a first or second weekend R2 and did they get in? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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my vagina didn't get into Hunter. I guess she's not gifted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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I have no idea which weekend dc went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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dv? darling/damn vagina? HAHAHA [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ DC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] can someone please write a quick "cliff notes" for the hunter admission process for the out-of-towner folks? tia 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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If you're not in Manhattan, why do you even care? You can't apply, anyway. BTW, Google is your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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well karma is your friend and i hope your snowflake does not make it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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LOL joke's on you, since he's already in. But wishing you that karma right back! [ Reply | More ]
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there is always middle and high school sweethart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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^^^ and college also [ Reply | More ]
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NP Once you are in K, you are there until 12th grade, flyover mom. [ Reply | More ]
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did you miss the part about college dimwit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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He'll be just fine, since he's double HYP legacy for 3 generations. But thanks for your concern! [ Reply | More ]
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riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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I'm sorry that you don't believe HYP legacies exist. I'm sure you haven't come across many in the area where you live. [ Reply | More ]
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NP This is so fake that I've chocked on my pretzel [ Reply | More ]
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nnp I'm a 2nd generation HYP legacy myself. Not uncommon in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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This thread reads like it was taken over by mean teens. Ladies, it's the holiday season. Be nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Yeah, seriously, why do you even care? Honestly, you should be doing better things w/your time than looking up info on schools that are not relevant to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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+1 Wouldn't get sucked into this whole Hunter madness unless I had a dog in the fight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Take a test, get a score. Hunter sets cut-off so 300 kids advance to second round. If you make the cut-off, you provide proof of residency, parental assessment form and preschool provides assessment form. Your DC goes for R2 "play date" type interview. School accepts 25 girls and 25 boys. Of DC was prepped for test, may be disqualified. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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many thanks for this and all the good karma for you and your family in this holiday season :) [ Reply | More ]
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NP If you don't know Hunter gives a rough equivalent to a private school education for free and isn't constrained by any city or state regulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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thanks to you also NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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thanks - you too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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For elementary? Dc takes a Stanford Binet test with a psychologist - one on one - and if dc scores high enough, gets invited to a playdate session with small groups of other children. The school observes and then accepts 25 girls and 25 boys and puts 10 girls and 10 boys onto a waitlist. Every time a child declines to attend, a child with the same sex is admitted off of the waitlist. [ Reply | More ]
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^^For 7th grade (the HS), every child in NYC (all 5 boroughs as opposed to just Manhattan for the elementary school) who scores 90% or above on their 5th grade state tests is invited to take the Hunter test in January of their 6th grade year. The Hunter test has math, reading and essay components. Only kids who score above a certain score on math and reading has their essays read and the kids with the best essays are admitted. Not sure of the number - I think around the top 170 or 180 kids get in. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks for the additional info! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Scenes from the tropical suburbs: 5 fairly hot guys surf casting from the beach. 3 of them have caught fish. The son of one of them is filling a bucket with shells. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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Are you in the suburbs of Malibu? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Tropical? [ Reply | More ]
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Malibu is a suburb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
[ - ] How old were your babies before you let extended family and close friends touch them? For fear of germs/vaccines/etc? BTW this is not in regards to my children, as they are grown well beyond this stage. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.18.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Um at the hospital? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Born [ Reply | More ]
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This never bothered me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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This would only be a concern if your baby were born prematurely or with immune system issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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My baby was born in the thick of flu/RSV season, I still let everyone touch her and hold her (of course) but I did ask if they'd purell their hands first. Maybe I was annoying in their eyes, but I was kind of paranoid about my infant getting RSV. He didn't catch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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At the hospital or when we first came home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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i asked people to wash, but let them hold them from teh very beginning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Adults, immediately. Children way later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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op: so someone I would consider one of my BEST friends had a baby girl a week ago. I wanted to come visit and help out in anyway (I am not sick at all). She asked that keep my distance and not touch the baby until she got her 2 month shots. I am a mother of 3 and someone she has asked for advice from SO much and often says "I hope to be a mom like you"- which I am NOT bragging in the slightest b/c, like all moms, I think I am a complete failure... BUT I am trying to be very understanding, but cannot say it doesn't hurt to have one of my dearest friends tell me not to get too close to her baby or touch her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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my point be hind "be a mom like you" is: it doesn't seem as if she thinks I am a complete asshole or anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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Ugh. All you can do is let her do her thing and be there as she realizes how over the top it is... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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op: She has welcomed me to come see the baby girl (but still not get too close or touch her), but I kind of don't want to go b/c I think I may get emotional. Yes that sounds stupid, I realize that. I would never and will never vocalize this to my friend, btw, just the way I feel. My friend doesn't have any family here and I feel like my husband, myself and our 3 girls are part of her 'family' here. It almost feels as if I would be meeting a niece and not be able to touch her, although I completely realize that isn't what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Sorry that sounds a little crazy to me too... not that big of a deal. Her baby, she needs to do whatever she needs to do to feel comfortable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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op: WHat are you talking about? It's my baby and I can tell her exactly how to do things! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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This. Realize that first time moms are often crazy. And then they get over it. Laugh to yourself and wiish her the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Sorry. She sounds crazy! I hope it wears off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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She's probably just really paranoid and hormonal right now- i'd let it slide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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it's flu season and you have 3 kids... sorry, i don't blame her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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try not to take personally. her ped probably told her this and she is just following every instruction. they do often give this advice because of the risk of strep/meningitis - not because the probability is high but because the consequences are. in reality though, most people ignore. (for what it's worth, jews who have a bris for their sons have a ton of people close enough to touch by day 8.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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I remember avoiding all busy enclosed spaces with DC #1. With #2 we were in the diner on day 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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Day 2 at the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:57 PM Flag
[ - ] All this hype about Hunter calling about prepping makes sense. This is probably why they take 300 kids instead of 250 and also why the score is down from 148/149 to 143. They need a bigger pool because the cheaters are getting flagged. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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While you may be right, I don't see why they can't pick 50 out of 250 even when they get rid of some cheaters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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what does the number of kids have to do w/anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Because if they are eliminating a lot for cheating they will still have a large pool to pick from... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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If everyone is prepping it would seem the cutoff score would go up, not down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you tip a tutor?? Session about to end! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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planning on a $25 GC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Cash is tacky? I have a big box of chocolates for her... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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i wouldn't give cash paper but i'm ok with GC, chocolate you will never know if she eats it (or can/should eat it) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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so chocolate is my only option. Oh well.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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in fact between the 2 i would go with the cash (if this is the only option you have). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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too late. oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I just bought a platter of Italian Christmas cookies that are gluten free for a party I'm giving this weekend. I thought I ought to try one to make sure they were fresh enough and tasted good. They are incredibly good! There are 7 other flavors on the tray and I think I'll have to try them all, right?; Found them at Whole Foods, Glutenetto brand. Kind of wish I didn't have a whole tray of them staring at me right now. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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Dear god. "Glutenetto"?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Who cares what the name is? They're good! I don't think anyone can tell they're gluten free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Glutenetto?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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should be named gluttonetto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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You are clever. ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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OP: and I'm laughing too. because I did try another flavor, sigh. but seriously they have this authentic Italian flavor (anise?) that is awesome. also not too sweet, which I love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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post a picture so we can see what they look like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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There are photos on their website: http://cookiesconamore.com/glutenetto. The ones I have look just like this. The tray they sell at Whole Foods is round, has about 2 dozen in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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They also have these:http://cookiesconamore.com/shop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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^^ the ginger cookies are six-pointed stars for Hanukkah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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Shit, they do look good. I am buying some next time I go to WF! Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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A lot of Italian Christmas cookies were originally made without wheat flour. They use almond "flour" (ground almonds), hazelnut "flour", etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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macaron are gf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm flying back to where I grew up for the holidays and last night I had night sweats and only slept an hour because I'm so afraid of running into my abusive mother. My cousin is having a baby shower and I want to attend, bu I'm too afraid to run into my mother and have a panic attack. Is there a third option besides 1) attend the party and risk running into her and 2) don't attend the party? I really want to support my cousin. Thanks. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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Mail a gift and a nice card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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+2. Baby showers are boring. The anticipatory anxiety is not worth it. Does your mother reach to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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op: Does she reach out to me? No, never. And ya I think I'll go with mailing a gift and nice card. Or having a different cousin bring the gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Ask your cousin if she invited your mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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op: It was an evite. I saw that my mom was on the list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Do not go. Send regrets and a gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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So why are you gojng?!? Write your cousin a nice note or letter and send it with a gift and arrange to see her another time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Oh then, you know the answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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That! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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No. It's binary. Go or not go. There's no halfway go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Sure there is. Meet up with her a different day and give her the present [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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The options were. A)attend party, or B) don't attend party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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wow, that sucks. How old are you? What kind of abuse? Was she an alcoholic? I feel for you, does your cousin know you'd rather not see her? Shame you have to curtail your activities because of her :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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op: Thanks, it's hard. I'm 24. It wasn't alcohol abuse, but may as well have been. Physical and emotional abuse due to a personality disorder. I don't think my cousin really knows. They grew up in a different town, and we didn't see them very often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Are you the poster from a while ago who didn't know whether to attend aunt's funeral (to support cousin) for the same reason? What did you end up doing then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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op: Yes, that was me. I've posted about this before with regard to different events over the past two years. A wedding, a funeral, and a few others. I ended up not going to any of them. I guess I'm hoping some magical solution will one day appear... :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Do you regret that you're missing these events? If the answer is an honest yes, then go, and ignore your mother as best you can. Do it once, for one event. If afterwords, you realize that it was not worth it, then you'll know not to do it again. I'm sorry. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Does your cousin know the situation and is she understanding? Send a gift if you don't go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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^^^ Sorry, see above that your cousin doesn't really know. If this keeps coming up, and you are close to your cousin, you could consider telling her at some point that you are very sorry to miss these milestones but that for good reasons you cannot be in the same room as your mother and do not want to create a scene at events that are about your cousin. in the meantime, yes send a gift and very nice card, maybe ask if you can visit wiht her a different day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Can I ask what happened between you and your mother? You say emotional and physical, but how bad did it get? And how is she reacting to your distance? And FWIW, don't go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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