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[ - ] I should have gone into finance. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Fianace is for men who wear tall hats. Always has been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Tall hats? Lincoln complex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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No you shouldn't have. I'm sitting here miserable on a conference call about the Volcker Rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you moms go out and dance? There's a few monthly dance parties I go to, and I have some new friends at DC's school I'd like to invite, but am not sure that they dance? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes, I twerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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This made me LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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There is NOTHING more fun than seeing a bunch of buzzed middle aged moms dancing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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To "baby got back" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Eww so gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Dance parties? lol...sounds like a sock hop or something. Once or twice a year I go out with girlfriends for drinks and dancing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Formerly sweet 15 yo dd is starting to put on a seriously bad attitude sometimes and get really mouthy with me. This morning she was late getting out of the house for me to take her to school and I mentioned that I was going to be lucky if I got to my dr appt. on time after dropping her off. She said "Mom, I really don't fucking care what you do with your day, just get me to school before 9" before putting on her headphones and ignoring me for the rest of the ride. What would you have done? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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My kid would have proceeded to walk to school after that. Completely unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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SO THIS. After I took away her headphones, phone, iPad, tablet, and anything else that gives her happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Taken her headphones and dropped her on the side of the road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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OUT! Get out and walk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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+1 and take the phone and headphones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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What a bitch! I have no idea, I have a sweet five year old. I guess it's probably best to let it go in that instant and address it tonight. Serious consequences though, shut that behavior down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Remember that mom who dropped both her girls off on the side of the road for this and she got in trouble? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Pulled over. Taken away headphones. Given her one more chance to get act together and be polite. If not, I agree with making her walk if it was a realistic option. (Not on a highway, many miles away, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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15 yo dropping f bombs? speaking in that fashion. stick my hand out. have her put the headphones in my hand. throw them in the trash as she is dropped off at school. hope she spends the day thinking about how she might apologize for the ridiculousness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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When she gets home you sit her down. You repeat to her what she said. You explain to her (calmly) that what she said was incredibly hurtful and an inappropriate way to speak to anyone. You wait for her to apologize. Ask her what you can do to make sure this never happens again. If she is unable to come up with a solution, you propose 2 different punishments, she can chose the punishment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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+1 And be calm and confident and do not let your emotions get the best of you. Show her how an adult handles adversity. Also after some time goes by try to find out if something is going on with her - trouble at school, friends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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She's on to you - at 15 she's realized that she has more going on than you do. This is her inartful way of saying "look, your job is to get me where I need to be - we both know that it doesn't really matter what time you drop me off, since you don't have anywhere to be that can't be rescheduled." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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This is why some cultures marry girls off at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Why, exactly, are you surprised by this? This is what you taught your DD - to be entitled, self-involved, and to lack self-awareness of the impact such behavior has on others. Be honest: you've been pushy, rude, and demanding towards DDs past teachers, coaches, etc over the course of her development... YOU modeled this behavior and now you are flabbergasted that it's being directed at you? Chickens have come to roost my friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Your children must be incredibly charming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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You sound like the mother to one kid, likely a toddler. You have no clue what you're talking about. Teenagers are hard, plain and simple. Even with the best parents in the world. I have three teens, have never modeled this behavior you speak of, and still have to nip attitude in the bud when appropriate. It's called parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o Segregation. It's funny the government thinks the schools are the answer for diversity. The answer starts before these kids are born. It starts with social services providing education and keeping people working/busy to stay out of crime. But, ya let's take a broken system and make the kids suffer. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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It starts before that even. With individual choices and responsibility. With parents who raise their kids properly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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exactly so how to break the cycle...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a recommendation for a child psychologist in NYC. Elementary level, kid is having anxiety and fear because of recurring situations at school. And recs are appreciated. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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How old and what is happening? Can't the school psych. help you out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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5, school is useless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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CUCARD. They specialize in this. Fantastic psychs. Columbia University Center for Anxiety Related Disorders. Google it. It's right near Columbus Circle. They are the best of the best on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I was reading recently that in some cultures if a woman is wet she is considered a whore but if someone married young she is probably naturally well lubricated most of the time so I wonder what they do to avoid it? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Apparently dry sex is preferred with leads to a higher HIV transmission rate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Thank god I was born in the U.S. So many horrible cultures and religions in this world for women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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So true. It's disgusting. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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Another perv alert. MODERATORS PLEASE GET TO WORK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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I am not a pervert you're crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Its depends, are you wet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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I am not a pervert you're crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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^^^google dry sex Africa AIDS and you will get a ton of hits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Who's they [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: DD attends a school where the parent body has tremendous wealth (multi millionaires and billionaires). We do very well but not by UB standards. I make 125K and dh makes 600K. We live modestly in a small apartment. DD is constantly asking can we afford that? Are we poor? How would you handle. I don't like discussing money. She is almost 12. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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She is old enough for you to explain the facts of life to her. I mean the economic facts of life. That you and dad are in the 1%, but not the .01%. Explain to her now, how most of America lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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op: I've done this to a degree. She just observes the vast difference in lifestyles and makes assumptions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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This. Many grown women here do not seem to understand how wealthy they are. Travel is great for this, it's hard to be mad about not having a beach house after you've been to the third world country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Talk to her about it. Talk to her about wealth, where it comes from, and work, how it is necessary. Talk about what you can and cannot afford. Talk about how wealth does not equal personal value. Talk about what IS important in life. You saying "I don't like discussing money" does not release you from your obligation to try and raise a well-balanced child who IS comfortable talking about money. Its not as if money is some taboo subject... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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This, and if OP is uncomfortable, maybe dad could have conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. You are right. That does make sense. I supposed I was trying to shut down the conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Your HHI is 725k and your main concern is your kid believing that you are poor? Lady, get your head out of your arrogant ass and find some perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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ITA, WTF is wrong with these people. Everyday there is someone like this on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Seriously, at that income there is not much you go without. If your daughter is 12 and doesn't realize that private jets and 4 homes are not normal then she is just as deluded as you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Op here: I do have perspective. She doesn't understand this stuff. We have a very small 2 bedroom apartment. She goes to huge Fifth Avenue and Park Avenue apartments with nannies, cooks and drivers, beach homes, and private planes. I understand why she thinks we are poor. Relatively speaking we are. Btw she is genuinely asking not saying it in a bratty way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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omfg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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I do not believe that the ONLY other people at the school are the uber wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Ita 20-% of kids at private receive financial aid meaning at least 20% are less fortunate than your daughter and many more are just squeaking by. I almost never curse but you are full of shit and if your daughter has a poor complex on a HHI of $725k it's on you! I went to a nyc ttss on a HHI under 100k and did not feel poor because my parents raised me with proper values. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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Rather than explaining why some people have private planes, volunteer at a homeless shelter with her and try explaining why some people go without food or a roof over their head. Now I pray this is fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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If you understand why she feels poor $725k, you need to examine your own issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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You live in NYC. All she has to do is look around to see how people are less fortunate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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Relatively speaking, you are not poor. Take DD to a soup kitchen or something. That might give her some perspective on where on the economic ladder your family stands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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You explain to her that people come from different backgrounds. She is incredibly fortunate that her parents are presumably educated, and can afford to live the type of lifestyle you want to live. There Re many individuals who do not have have the same resources and are forced to make unfathomable choices to survive. In her live she should try and empathize with others who may not have the same freedoms that your income affords. As for friends who appear to have more, thAt wealth can also come at a cost. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors in other families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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why not volunteer together at a homeless shelter. give her some real-life perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Definitely talk to her about it. There is a great writer in the NYT who writes about this. Ron Lieber. He writes about how to talk to kids about money and how to teach them to be smart and generous and NOT spoiled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Op again: Thank you! I will find the article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Boarding school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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You have to talk to her about it. She's obviously noticing. And it's a great opportunity to talk about the fact that you and DH work for a living... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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AND that you are very wealthy compared to most of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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This is why I heart public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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hijack. Our dc is around the same age attends a school with similar wealth factor as the school as the op's dd attends. Our HHI is 75K, and we live in a good sized, but very ancient townhouse we purchased years ago. I also don't like discussing money and have been really vague when questioned about how we can afford it. Dc attends on a huge scholarship. When do I tell him, if ever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Now. There is no reason in the world not to talk about money. Not that you have to tell them the specific numbers, but the general state of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Tell her about careers, salaries, inheritances, investments. She should understand how the world works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Who the fuck are you people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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People with kids in private schools. This is pretty common in Manhattan private schools. It always has been but now kids openly discuss wealth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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this is the main reason why we choose public over private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Renee Zelweger saud "I,m glad i loook likw a differenr perspn." sad, right? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Cosmetic surgery shaming is the new slutshaming [ Reply | More ]
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Its sad that you care about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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She's glad b/c she got lucky and looks pretty great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Drinking already this morning? [ Reply | More ]
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Over this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't get the spammers. They post random words together, not real sentences, with no apparent goal. Who has the time or energy or motivation to do this? Genuinely curious. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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I assumed they were using google translate or similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Oh. What are they trying to do - sell something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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I thought they want to make it seem like a poster suggesting something? This is all assumption based. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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I think the paragraph is put together by a webcrawler program that just grabs snatches of prose from random places. No human is writing that text, in other words. Then they put the weblink at the end and hope for the best. I, too, am skeptical that it generates "traffic" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Like we would know how crazy works? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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We *are* the experts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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No we are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Its might be a troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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i think it is someone who is trying to shut the site down. they've set up some autobot every night to populate the place wiht spam. (yes, i have conspiracy theory issues) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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But wouldn't they do it all day long then? Now it just tells me its time to go to bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you ladies help me out of a rut? I am 44, a stay at home mom and going through perimenopause. I only sleep about six hours and can't sleep past 6:00am. I feel so chronically tired and like a zombie. I also can't nap. I need to break this cycle and nothing is working. My brain feels foggy everyday and I can't concentrate on things. Normal? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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smoke pot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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This made me LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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So it worked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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I'm not the OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Build regular exercise into your life, and take melatonin nightly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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op here: Thanks I know this is the right answer but how do I begin when I'm too tired to exercise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Just do a brisk walk and keep it short to start, 1.5 miles. Notice how good you feel after. Remind yourself of that next time you are trying to talk yourself into getting out there again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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ask dr for sleepint pill [ Reply | More ]
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op again: Thanks but I don't want to take sleep aids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Then stop complaining about not sleeping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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More SEx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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wake up at 530 am and start exercising at 6am. Go to bed by 8 some nights if you need to. Take Melatonin for help some nights too. Lastly eat lots of green and drink green vegetables. Also Adrenal Sense adrenal support is helpful too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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op here: I just ordered the adrenal stuff thank you. I'm going to go guy a green juice and go for a walk. How do I take melatonin? There seem to be big differences in mg? What would you suggest? Tia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHM: WWYD in this situation? My assistant is a lot older than I am and has been here for a long time. My boss asked me to do something, and I've asked her to do it. Now, she's asking me whether it's illegal or not to do this. I feel like not even entertaining her ridiculousness and not respond to her email. WWYD? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Is it legal? [ Reply | More ]
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is it? [ Reply | More ]
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op: yes, it's legal. [ Reply | More ]
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jusr say "yes, asshole" [ Reply | More ]
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op: she's testing me. She's passive aggressive. Not sure how to handle her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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one word email. "yes" [ Reply | More ]
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"Yes, it's legal, thanks for asking." The overly polite approach. [ Reply | More ]
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Remember this and screw her on her review. [ Reply | More ]
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Document. [ Reply | More ]
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Need more details [ Reply | More ]
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"Of course it is legal. Please let me know when it is done." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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or tell her in person "no. we are breaking the law and face 10-15 hard time. Will you help me out?" [ Reply | More ]
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Is she unionized? If not then have her written up. [ Reply | More ]
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op: unionized. been here forever. they've tried to get rid of her cause at this point she's doing minimal work, but haven't been able to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I am not handling growing old gracefully. Always have thoughts that DH will cheat with someone younger even though he has given me no signs, and he is not aging so gracefully himself (but I still find him sexy). Anyone feel this too? How do you deal? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You just deal. Unless you want to hire a youthful plaything to make you feel younger again.. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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I think whether a guy cheats is more about the relationship or him than about your looks. Look at Pierce Brosanan' wife. [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly. There are men who cheat on gorgeous 25 year old wives. Look at all the famous athletes and celebrities that cheat on stunning spouses. It's about the man not about you. Think of it this way. Would you cheat on dh because he's aging or if god forbid he had a serious Illness? No, because you love him and are committed to him. If he's a good mad he will afford you the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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I hope so. I literally worry everytime he mentions a new young female associate he works with, or I find him talking to the babysitter for too long. The back story is that he actually did cheat on his long term ex girlfriend before we were together. It was years ago and before me obviously but I can't help but worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Uh... if he told you this ... then basically he was giving you fair warning that at some point he is gonna cheat. This is what is called "informed consent." He informed you about what he does and still went on and consented to marry him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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I feel the same way but I keep it to myself. Dh has no idea. I'm pretty sure he doesn't even notice. I don't find myself attractive any longer so I assume that he doesn't either. The negative voice can do damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Be thankful for your health. I'm sure you'd feel differenty about aging if you were faced with death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Everyone grows old then dies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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you project your future. Meaning, project and predict you aging gracefully and happily with your husband. We manifest things through our thoughts. Change your thought patterns!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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If you feel that all you have (or have had) to offers is looks, then it makes sense you're worried. Your own attraction is based on superficiality so no doubt you married a man who also bases attraction on superficial qualities (ie looks). So yeah, if I were you (thank god I am not because I believe attraction is based on ALOT more than looks) I'd be hella worried. Super helly worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC council to look at school segregation 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Assigning students to schools based on where they live is much more unfair (and results in illegal segregation) than selective HSs (where everyone has a chance to get in). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Its not "illegal" segregation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Sure it is. NYC school districts are NOT separate school districts within the Supreme Court decision of Milliken V. Bradley (decision not requiring Detroit suburbs to join with Detroit). As such, they cannot have lines drawn on segregated basis. Worst example - D2 - covers large area of Manhattan, but is far more white than average. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Actually, the article as talking more about individual elementary school zones. So is PS6 illegal because its zone is a wealthy neighborhood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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The article spoke about the difficult of integrating elementary schools, but it appeared to me that the council members want the entire system looked at. I think that reasonable people can agree that we don't want elementary school kids commuting long distances to school, but that argument loses its validity at the MS and HS level, where D2 students are given preference to schools that in fact are closer to where some non-D2 students live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Sure. The bigger issue is what do you do about it. Open them all up - which would mean you'd have to select either randomly or by some other criteria. The moment you include academic criteria you would get segregation. The moment you make it all random, you'll have every kid of means leaving the system for private school, and so you'd get more segregation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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The courts have done it to many other major cities. NYC should not be above the law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Segregation based on ability is more fair than segregation based on where parents can afford to live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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What is "illegal" about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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The Supreme Court has demanded that segregated districts integrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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The definition of Districts in NYC does not apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Those guys are in over their heads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Agree. They are in over their heads when it comes to the simplest of issues, so this is really out of their league. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Definitely. They can urge re-zoning, but that's about all. They really need to watch it with their minority talk given that Asians are considered a minority and whites are a minority in the NYC school system. They sometimes change the talk to "disadvantaged," but then they need to acknowledge that many of the Asian students are disadvantaged too. They cannot create programs that explicitly mention/benefit blacks and Hispanics without getting into trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] My boyfriend and I did std testing and all of that. I am on the pill, but I would like him to continue using condoms to prevent pregnancy until we are at least engaged! Am I being unrealistic? If I get pregnant in the next six months I have to have an abortion due to a medication I am on. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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And.....? Nobody cares about your birth control practices...it's baffling that you chose to inform us of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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CNM here - No it is a reasonable position to do everything you can to prevent pregnancy, and pills are fine but are not the most effective option so it sounds like you are doing everything you can to protect yourself. You could also consider a method with a better effectiveness record like the IUD or Nexplanon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Read taking charge of your fertility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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we've pulled out for years. no baby (well I have a 7 year old) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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a dh: To prevent pregnancy or because you don't trust him about STDs? Are you disciplined in taking your BCP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Granny mom, fine but does anyone else feel that electronics have completely destroyed this generation? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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You sound like a dinosaur. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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Completely destroyed? No. Yes, I think there are some things we've lost, but we haven't been destroyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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Didn't Plato complain that the teens of his era had gone amuck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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+1 they said the same thing about your generation too. probably blamed television or telephones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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The IPAD and IPHONE is controlling my brain..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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it has destroyed their independence and ability to handle problems on their own. They know they can always call a parent and reach them through the mobile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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YES. Not electronics per se, because the internet is a wonderful tool. Its' the programming/content of what our kids are exposed to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Non- granny mom and yes I agree 100%. We are pathetic drones, obsessed with image crafting and devoid of social graces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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I'm a young mom (well, I was when I had my babies) and I believe technology has in many ways screwed this generation. It's depressing. I'm thankful I had a childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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You sound naive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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No, she doesn't. It pains me to see a kid with his face glued to an iPad. A lot of these kids lack the ability to relate to others without technology being involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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I posted before I was in a 2 Michelin Star restaurant in Paris a few weeks ago and the family next to me had the mom and two kids glued to iPhones. They only put them down to quickly eat each course. The dad was just sitting there. They were Americans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] RZ says she didn't have any work she is just embracing a more healthy lifestyle. Do you believe her? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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nobody does that from a healthy place. sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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the atlantic did a great piece on this. (oddly enough) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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She must think we are morons. She doesn't even look like the same person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Who cares [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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There is not a single celebrity out there without significant work done. Not one. Even the young ones like precious Jennifer lawrence who espouses all this 'I'm so down to earth' nonsense. So why are we picking on RZ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Exactly JL had breast implants, Jennifer Aniston claims she does yoga. She has had botox, filler, trainers and lifts weights like crazy, Angelina has done everything under the sun. They all just lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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it's different when you change your whole face. it just is. if you can't see it, you're lying to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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because the degree of self hatred involved in that much body dysmorphia is startling and sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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I don't think it's self hatred. I think they do one thing, then two, down the line something doesn't come out right so they try and correct it and this is what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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plastic surgeons are taught to really probe folks that want to fundamentally change the way they look. clearly, her surgeons did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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More like narcissism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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because most celebrities make their surgical changes gradually, so that you barely notice. rz stepped out with a different face like no one was supposed to notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Cannot stand JL. She is the least gracious of any celebrity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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Who is RZ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Renee Zellweger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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I don't think she is denying work done, she is just saying that she looks different b/c she feels different and is taking care of herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] 7 weeks pregnant and up until last night I thought my dh wasn't embracing or processing it at all. But last night we were in bed cuddling (I was on my stomach with my arm over him) and he said sweetie I have no idea and because I don't know anything about babies but do you think there's any way you could smush it a little if you lie on your stomach? It's a little naive but I'm really touched that he's feeling connected to and protective of the baby. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Awwww very cute and sweet. Just be ready for sleepless nights (and possible arguments w/ dh over it as a result). GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Thanks ladies :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Hmmmm sounds like a criticism actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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I thought someone might post that but he's not like that. He's not prefect but he doesn't have control issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2014/10/21/international-traveler-held-at-newark-hospital-after-possible-ebola-exposure/ 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Oh great, this is going to start again. EBOOOOOOOOOOLA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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Close the freaking borders!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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A impossible. B stupid. C unnecessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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D: All of the above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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not stupid or unnecessary to close down travel from ebola countries. Why do we need more liberians here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Why do we NEED you here in the US? Serious question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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np: The person in question was on a flight from Belgium. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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close the freaking borders! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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