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[ - ] DD wants to take her car to college next year. She will be a sophomore. This is an older car (2006 Honda) that her dad (my ex-dh) handed down to her. The car is still owned by him. I say no car on campus. He says yes. Who gets the final word??? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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She's an adult he's an adult. It's between them, unless you have grave doubts about her level of responsibility. (FYI a: I have 2 kids in college. One will be a sophomore next year.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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No car on campus! Who has custody? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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DD has to be older than 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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A car is 1) expensive (especially an older one) 2) college students drink 3) why does she need a car if she lives on campus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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You can discuss responsibility, but you can't stop ex from giving her the car. My DD is on a campus. She likes to get off campus from time to time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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I had primary physical, we had joint legal. After 18, I don't know how much it matters. The problem is, he and I HATE each other and can't really discuss it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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Your ex has the car in his name, she's an adult. Your only authority is moral, and if your dd chooses not to listen to you, you are SOL. She can probably easily do it without your even knowing, don't be surprised. If it makes you feel better, the car is in your ex's name, let him rack up the parking tickets - because on a college campus, that's going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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My Dad gave me (an old) car the minute they were permitted on campus. I love driving and the freedom to get away was a huge mental health boost to me. I'm also not a drinker, so that was not an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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I'm so glad that I went to NYU. My mom would have pulled this shit with me as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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Let her have the car! You prefer her riding in the backs of others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.27.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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Is a last name, not a first name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:09 PM Flag
[ - ] They found several ripped up doctor's notes saying he can't fly. One found from the day of the crash. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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How the fuck did the doc give the note to him and not call his supervisor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Why would any doctor call a supervisor if they think the person would hapoilt take the day off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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It is not he was a secretary who would go to work grumpy or not go to work. Being a pilot is serious matter and someone had to be told that this guy is not able to work anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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Hindsight is 20/20. The doctor would have done anything possible if he thought his note would be ignored. Lol did you criticize the FBI for ignoring all of the warnings about the Boston bomber? Probably not, but a responsible doctor is supposed to have a crystal ball. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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I am sure there are confidentiality laws in Germany like in the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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maybe he knew the doctor was going to, and that's why he had to commit suicide that same day while he still had a chance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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Son of a bitch. I am not opposed to suicide, it is your life to do as you please with it, but I am angry that he took those 149 people and their families with him, so, sick and sad for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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Or as buzzfeed put it, "His doctor told him he was too sick to fly. You'll never believe what he did next" [ Reply | More ]
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didnt realize that was a standard in any country. docs must have a lot of entries in their address books then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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But did the note say he "couldn't fly" "shouldn't fly" or that he had the doctor's endorsement if he himself felt he couldn't or shouldn't fly? Big difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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This. He may have wanted a leave and asked a doctor for a note with a dx. That is not the same as the doctor saying he can't fly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Who gives a fuck. He shouldn't have been a pilot, period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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What a sick fuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds is almost 8 and in second grade. He's very bright, athletic and popular, but since he's very little, he has always been very physical. I know boys like to "horse around" (I had 2 brothers growing up, many male cousins and have two ds), but my older ds seems to take it to the next level too often. He'd never hurt anyone badly or intentionally, but I can't even watch him around some other kids anymore without getting frustrated. Any suggestions? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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My DS is 9 and in 4th grade. How is he so behind? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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NP: How is this answering her question? Also, how is this old? Are you that bad at math? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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np. I'm sure he is turning 8 this year and starting 3d grade in the fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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op: ? Not worth lying about, that information is hardly outing myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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? I was just saying your kid is not behind based on the info you provided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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this! probably was redshirted and RS is known to cause exactly this kind of issues OP is describing; hope moms that are on the fence about RS heed this advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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You need to teach him hands off if he can't be gentle... if not, he's either going to hurt someone or end up considered a bully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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op: I know, but how? Believe me, I've tried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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leave and take him home if he does it. treat him like a puppy--he gets to play if he follows the rules, if he doesn't, game is over. he'll get it. just be consistent, don't act angry towards him (tell him you're not angry, if you need to), but do follow through with threats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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op: Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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Your husband should be wrestling with him and calling him out when he's doing things that are out of bounds so he can calibrate himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Are you a single mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny has been with us for 3 months. Yesterday we had an engagement and we asked her if she could stay later. She happily agreed as she likes OT. We where supposed to be home at 10:30 but came earlier. We found our 10 yo wasn't in bed on a school nigh 1 hour past his bad time. Nanny said that I didn't leave her instructions for his bad time. She also apparently kicked out dc's music teacher because it was in her way of getting younger kids to bed much before their normal bed time on which I did instruct her. She expects the most specific instructions for every little thing. Would you keep her? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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no, the music teacher thing is bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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I would give specific instructions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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I try. I can't think if every scenario especially 3 mo into it you kind if expect to not have to do it as much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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Depends. My nanny doesn't always have the best judgment, but there are other things she does amazingly well (very nurturing with the kids, great at housekeeping and cooking), so I overlook a lot. Are there other things about your nanny that make her worth keeping? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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She isn't amazing in any way. She is flexible and tries to please but will only do what I specifically ask [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:26 PM Flag
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Pp: then I'd get rid of her. A nanny is supposed to make your life easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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She really isn't doing it. I have to write these long todo lists...I just need a self starter. My old nanny would organize kids toys and books when she had free time or would trim their nails if they got too long etc. this one will do nothing unless I specifically instruct her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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How do you know about music teacher? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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My 10 yo can talk. He also knows what his bad time is and obviously I was angry with him also for not going to bed but she clearly could have asked him what time he usually goes to bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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Although she might like the overtime, I would not ask my nanny to stay later than her work day. It's too long of a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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She started at 2:30 pm yesterday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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No, I would not keep her. One of those things in an evening, perhaps, but it sounds as if she really doesn't care or try and just does what is easier for her. Not the kind of person you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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I think she tries. It's weird. She just doesn't seem to grasp my expectations no matter how I try to explain them to her. I was specific when I interviewed that I need someone who will learn the routine and take over. How do you not think about a child needing to go to bed? All she had to do was say "when is your bed time". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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She's not doing her job, in so many ways. Move on! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Has she never stayed late before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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She has. That's what is so annoying. She doesn't seem to remember things later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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OMG I have one of those. I am letting her go next week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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I don't get the music teacher thing...was he/she there giving a lesson? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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If you paid for it and she kicked him out before it was over that's kind of a huge thing.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Exactly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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^^and I agree with the view that you need a better nanny if she is not amazing in any way. Our nanny (when DD was younger) was amazing and nurturing but could not cook if her life depended on it. I had to leave detailed instruction on how to make a grilled cheese once. But you can overlook one weakness, just not all of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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She can cook and clean and take care of kids but she doesn't do any if it very well if that makes sense. She isn't great in any way but is capable of most tasks. Large % of her time is to cook and clean while kids are in school so I only considered someone who has this skill set but she isn't as good at it as I had hoped yet not a great nanny for kids either. It's like a 50/50 on everything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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I am very specific with my nanny because I am a pain in the ass and like things done a certain way. I would have left bed time instructions for the 10 year old. I am confused by the music thing though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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This. I tend to err on the side of over-explaining things because I think it's easier and doesn't actually take that much time. I do think making the music teacher leave is bizarre, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Caught DH in a lie. A small one about eating dinner last night without me. But it worries me. He lied during our dating as well but that was years ago and I tried to put it behind me. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:14 PM Flag
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get over it, people lie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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It's a little white lie. I lie to my dh about little things too. I'm sure he does as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Haha, sometimes I lie to DH about eating bc I don't want him to know what a pig I really am! Maybe there is a completely innocent explanation, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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What was the reason? That will explain a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Personally, I hate lying and I think people who do it are cowardly and it's a flag for narcissism... the feeling that he enjoys pulling one over on you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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I disagree. I think many lies are due to spouses who make a big stink out of every little thing, and the other spouse does not want to deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there anyone happier on earth than a SAHM who just dropped her kid off at school? The smiles on these women as they walk back to their cars and immediately take out their smartphones to call someone or other. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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I WOHM and my dh just left with kids. I am in pjs browsing UB and have 30 minutes before I have yo leave to a job I like. I am pretty happy right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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Having BTDT in a variety of situations my answer would be that WOH in a job you actually like that gives you a professional identity and doesn't suck the life out of you with hours and stress is more fulfilling than SAH with kids in school and entertaining yourself all day. But SAH is preferable to juggling with a job you hate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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So much envy and bitterness in this crowd. These are all First World concerns, and really not big enough to warrant a tit for tat. People have different circumstances and things that make them happier and fulfilled. As an alternative, there's 1975 Soviet Union, where everyone was equally miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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Where you am adult back then in Soviet Union? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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Or equally happy. How do you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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Mornings can be crazy. I work FT, but still, I get it. It is a daily relief when dcs finally get to school; doesn't mean I'm not happy when they get home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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What is wrong with YOUR life that you are watching other people and drawing stupid conclusions? I'm a WOH btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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I WOH and you have serious issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] We are looking at 2 houses to have a getaway place that I really need as stress is getting to me. Help me choose: #1. Direct lake front with very little land but a nice deck, close to neighbors homes, house has a 1br rental that would help offset costs but because of that the part if the house that would be ours is smaller and not well laid out. Nice views and can swim off the property. #2. Walking distance to the lake beach, brook near by makes beautiful sound, very spacious well laid out house with only one Neighbour and a big lot + garage. Houses cost exactly same and have exact same RE taxes. We have young kids. TYIA 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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Option 2 sounds more relaxing, I dont like being close to neighbors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:03 PM Flag
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Absolutely house #2 is much nicer but would lake front be a huge bonus for kids? Beach is only open 11-7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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No. I'd be more worried about safety with a lakefront house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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I find water view very relaxing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:18 PM Flag
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Yes I am sure both homes would provide a sense if calmness and relief from stress. I just don't know if we should go with a large, comfortable secluded house or a much smaller awkwardly laid out lake front with extra rental income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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Large and comfortable. You want it as s getaway, you don't want your neighbors homes right on top of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Just curious, I am interested in house number 1, can you give me a general idea of where it is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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Where have you looked so far? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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#2. The brook sound will more than make up for the lost view. Distance from neighbors is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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IA but its not just the view. We could swim off our property any time we want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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Are they in the same area? Choose #2. Space and layout are important as kids grow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.27.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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After a certain age kids won't want to go to the weekend house. They will want to be with their friends and play sports or do other activities. Pick the house that works best for the immediate future and is better for resale. You may want to sell by the time kids are in HS. [ Reply | More ]
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