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[ - ] I had the "race talk" with DD, and it ended up being a lot easier than I had feared. She's 10, and I basically just told her that lots of whiny liberals (especially in a city like NYC) want her to hate herself or denigrate herself because she's white, but not to listen to them, because they're idiots, and they just want to bring her down, and they don't have her interests at heart. I think she gets it. The funny thing is that I'm a fairly doctrinaire liberal in other areas of politics, but the race stuff goes way too far these days. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More ]
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How did she respond? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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Well enough, it seemed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Yeah not like the good ol days when blacks and women knew their place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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NP: I actually prefer those days in some ways. Not in some ways, but in some ways it was better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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You really shouldn't do this. She won't be able to enjoy the full experience when she's separated into a racial affinity group in third grade to be educated about her privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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If you're a racist then you're not a liberal. Stick to Fox News and leave us alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Nothing "racist" about standing up for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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Flagged and collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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My ds came home one day at 7yo and told me he wished he were black (during black history month) because they did everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
[ - ] I am really surprised at the number of people on UB who are clueless about nutrition. newsflash: Cream cheese contains almost ZERO protein. It is NOT equivalent to yogurt or cheese. It is mostly dairy fat, like butter. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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ok! but it tastes much better. I weight 115 lb, so I have no dog in this fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:18 AM Flag
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I don't deny it tastes good. But posters were arguing it's a good source of protein for a kid's lunch. This is incorrect and scary that people believe this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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"it's a good source of protein for a kid's lunch" well... it's scarier that our own Fed gov thinks that ketchup is a vegetable. USA has a very shitty culture when it comes to basic health care maintenance, that's why there are all sorts of preventable epidemics: obesity, diabetes, ADHD drugs, prescription drugs, meth is out of control in flyover... USA is not a "taking care of my own health is my own responsibility" type of country. It's more of a "poor thing! trying meth was a very big MISTAKE, let's pray and help out". In my home country it will be: "what a freaking moron! who on earth tries meth!!! let's make sure we stay away". It's more about prevention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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Oh please, your home country is just as bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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Not at all. There's not such a big issue with alcoholism either. It's the British influence, it's called "the sick man of Europe" for a reason, very unhealthy habits. In my home country, if you are fat you are considered unhealthy, not "big boned". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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What country is this? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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*weigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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yes that, I'm ESL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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Np. Don't make excuses. You fucked up, It happens, you're human. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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You realize your weight has zero to do with nutrition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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And it taste good on EVERYTHING! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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*tastes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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You should get out more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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And eat more cream cheese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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Yum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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Agreed! Most people (despite how many degrees they have_ have No clue about nutrition. Hell, most doctors don't know how to eat well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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I am a medical student and even I knew this about cream cheese. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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^^i can't imagine who wouldn't know this. Maybe someone who is naturally very thin and has never read a label in their lives? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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80% of Americans get confused doing the very simple math on labels. The fact that the quantities are divided in small servings confuses most of them. Not everybody can handle simple math calculations in USA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Why do you keep saying "in USA." People are idiots everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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"I am a medical student and even I knew" I rest my case, standards in USA are rock bottom levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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Standards for medical education are not rock bottom. We do get some training in basic nutrition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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I think she was being facetious... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Than how is there fat free cream cheese smarty pants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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Have you read the ingredients on that? It's like eating a science experiment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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ITA. Look up how low-fat stuff is made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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8 ounces of cream cheese has 16 grams of protein in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Lol 8 oz is an entire container! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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8 oz has cream cheese is 800 calories. Thats like eating an entire tub of cream cheese. Normal serving is 2 tablespoons, lol. Again, another idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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I am surprised by this frequently in real life. I had a doctor try to lecture me on nutrition recently. I looked at her (maybe 5'4", 150) and then down at myself (5'7", 130) and thought "time for a new doctor." I was raised on lean proteins, whole grains, and tons of organic vegetables and fruits. I don't need a generic lecture on nutrition from someone who looks like she hits the doritos a bit too often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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Why was she lecturing you? I feel like you are not telling the wholestory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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missed that post...cream cheese is wonderful and does have it's place....but diet food it isn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
[ - ] I find it shocking and disheartening that Europeans are STILL fighting wars against each other in Europe. In 2015. Soooooo glad I live in America! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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economic wars? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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Is there a war going on in Europe that no one told me about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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Syria is Europe now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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Eastern Ukraine. Insurgency in the southern Caucuses/Chechnya/Dagestan/Ingushetia. The border wars between Armenia and Azerbaijan, including the ongoing Nagorno-Karabakh crisis. The frozen civil war between Moldova and Transnistria. The barely-suppressed Kosovar insurgency in northern Macedonia, which erupted into violence last week. Kosovo itself and the ongoing attacks in Serbs in the north of the country. Those are some examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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because in America we're so civil all.the.time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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and don't fight wars ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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We don't war on our neighbors. We either shoot other Americans or we wage wars far from our land. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
[ - ] For those of you who live in houses or have country houses and like having people over: Isn't having young kids over a lot of work? After guests leave, how much time is spent cleaning up? I like the idea of having people over but the work scares me. :( 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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eh, just take a couple of days to straighten up. no need for an immaculate house. life is short and, friends are good. so, your house gets a little messy - who cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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I LIKE YOU!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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I just put stuff away from a kid that was over LAST WEDNESDAY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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What do you mean by having kids over? For the day, for the weekend? People whose kids do not behave do not get invited back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Invite only friends you know will help out with clean up (but you still will do more work, that's a given) or have a cleaning service come after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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It takes 2 days to recover from any party , we enjoy having people over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm part of a group working with a couple of RE guys looking for a summer rental. It's all being done online and through group emails. I chime in when required. One RE has asked me for my number privately. Is he hitting on me? I can't imagine what he has to say to me outside of a group message. I've not met or spoken to him, I see his gmail photo like he sees mine. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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you don't have to imagine, ask what he wants to speak about. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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But then there'd be no drama!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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How the devil do I know if there are rocks in your field, plow it and find out. If the plow strikes something harder than earth, the point shatters at a sudden blow and the tractor jerks sidewise and dumps you off the seat - because the spring hitch isn’t set to trip quickly enough and it never is – probably you hit a rock. That means the glacier emptied his pocket in your field as well as mine, but the connection with a thing is the only truth that I know of, so plow it. --James Schell Hearst [ Reply | More ]
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What's a RE? Your gmail photo must be pretty cute. [ Reply | More ]
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It doesn't even show my face! I'm standing in Angkor shielding my face from the sun with a parasol. So should I ask him what's up? I'm so bad at this stuff... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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Everyone in business wants your contact infor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Repost for the evening crowd: Has anyone been to Copenhagen? Any recommendations of where to stay/things to do? Traveling this summer with 3 young kids. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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How long will you be there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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We'll be there about 5 days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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Tivoli Gardens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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+1 Or Bakken - world's oldest amusement park [ Reply | More ]
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Little Mermaid statue. [ Reply | More ]
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The botanical gardens are huge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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The view from The Tower at Christiansborg Palace [ Reply | More ]
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This is my favorite city, but I have yet to go there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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Haha! Why is it your favorite city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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Rent bicycles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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Get ice cream. The ice cream is so popular there that there are top ten lists and competitions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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Experimentarium City, the Open Air Museum, and the Post & Tele Museum [ Reply | More ]
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+1 and the Tycho Brahe Plane arium [ Reply | More ]
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The children's wing at the Louisiana [ Reply | More ]
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Tivoli gardens [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ramona has the table manners of a horse! Disgusting. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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That would be stable manners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Neigh!!! [ Reply | More ]
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WTF is Ramona? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
[ - ] So, 12 killed over the weekend in Chicago. Granted, it was a three day job. Smart money says most of the vics were black. Can we get some riots queued up, please? Get some media stokeage, perhaps? Because that's a lot of Black Lives that Matter. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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AGREE! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.27.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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Gee wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Write this all on a poster board, grab a Mic and speaker, and speak your gospel in the middle of Englewood or little village. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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Oh...no doubt you think I could look forward to an an erudite exchange of ideas as opposed to a childish tantrum resulting in criminal acts? Is that why? [ Reply | More ]
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And what color do you think the perps were? #blacklivesmatter - sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
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I have no idea. Perhaps we'll see when hyperactive media coverage of all these mattering lives focuses on the process of catching the perps and the various trials. [ Reply | More ]
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But...no concern? No months long media circus about how the investigations are unfolding, followed by (hopefully) the trials? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I separated from emotionally abusive spouse 5 months ago, married 11 years. A month ago, an old boyfriend (who is married) started messaging me on FB. He did it know I had separated. He has asked me to meet him for lunch or coffee and has told me he has thought of me often for the past 10 years and hopes we can always be friends. We always had incredible chemistry. I cannot deny I am flattered but I am also afraid this may be opening the door to something more and that scares me. I just got out of a bad situation and am not interested in being the "other woman" ( not even sure he is leaning towards this), but I am in need of good friends at this time in my life. I should just leave this alone and cut off contact, right? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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Sorry for double post!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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tough one. I would most likely meet for coffee but, if you feel sparks, back away. You don't need any drama in your life right now, or ever! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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So sorry you have gone through this. I too was married to an emotionally abusive man (for 27 years!) and am now dating and finding it hard to find someone who will treat me the way I deserve (not the way I'm used to). I was dating a married man (I think these people seek us out) but have stopped doing that and am now finally ok with being alone. Do you have a good therapist? I think (if you can swing it) you would benefit from talking to someone. You don't want to end up with someone who treats you badly, emotionally, psychologically. You need good friends but a married man is probably not the best good friend for you right now. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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This this this. Find a reliable, professional, knowledgeable therapist to be your support. NOT a married ex-boyfriend. No honorable married man would contact a recently divorced ex for "coffee." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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[ - ] 2.5 yo ds bit another kid at preschool today. He's been really into rough horseplay lately after playing with some older boys (3-4 yo) and I think that's probably how the biting got started. (He's also been pushing and wrestling at preschoool recently). Any advice on how to nip this in the bud? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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No biting! Biting hurts! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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The teachers should be handling this. It's almost impossible to stop it from happening when you're not even there. If he does it when you are around- you stop him, get on his level and say exactly "I will not let you bite your friend. That hurts him very much. I will not let you hurt your friend". Then you say "You may sit in my lap until you feel calm" or you take him to another room. Do not punish - it won't be effective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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And expect him to do it a few more times. He's testing and experimenting and will be curious about whether or not you will give him the same response or something different will happen. So just be consistent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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I'm afraid he may get kicked out if it keeps happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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Np doubtful. Biting goes around like a cold. Someone gets bit and when they get mad they get the idea to try biting. unless its a daily occurance for weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:24 AM Flag
[ - ] People on here always say everything is a learning experience and that its great for kids to face hardship and disappointment as a child. They talk about building resiliency, etc. i wonder if everyone here practices what they preach though. Meaning, when your kid has a rough day or something shockingly unfair happens to them, do you truly see this as a good thing ? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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You people are too invested in your dc lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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I teach my kids that from bad comes good. I'm not happy that they are hurt or hurting but I dont try to make everything perfect and I never expect it to be. They are both very good and solid kids. [ Reply | More ]
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This. Some days you win. Some days you lose. Some days it rains. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, so you are confident you actually carry this out in real life? You've never felt really angry about something negative that happened to your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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We can't control how we feel; we can control how we behave. Even when we are sad or angry about day-to-day rough spots, we can model good ways to express and then bounce back from those emotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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An armchair psychologist in me says we choose our emotions but in the end of the day we are all humans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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Op. But do you feel sad for them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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Stop making your children emotional cripples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Op. Honestly, I am not one of those moms, reason I posted this is because every mom I know in real life jumps to right the wrongs. But here, everyone claims not to be that person. Either some posters are lying to themselves or I just happen to know every helicopter parent in nyc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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I try really hard not to involve myself in the drama. I don't go to the teacher except to clarify. I've never done anythong other than suggest that ds might not want to be friends with someone who made him cry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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Expressing sympathy not the same as feeling sad. [ Reply | More ]
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Shockingly unfair lol [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not a parent, so take this with a grain of salt, but I wish my parents had let me learn things the hard way. Growing up and realizing things don't just magically get better in time has been a really tough pill to swallow. [ Reply | More ]
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Interesting. So did they used to always try to fix things for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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They didn't try to fix everything for me- I was actually probably the least coddled of my friends- I guess for me it was more that they were so on top of me with things that needed to be done (not schoolwork, but other things). I wish they had let me miss a few deadlines and clean up the ensuing mess. I just had an epiphany moment like last week that I keep saying that I want things in my life to change and I don't actually do anything about it, so nothing is actually going to change until I do. It sounds so obvious, but I wish I had learned that at 16 and not 26. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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Did you watch the last episode of southern charm? Land on point blank said " I wished my patents would've showed me some hardship. They worked so hard to make everything pleasant for me and it was a reality out there. The world is not like that at all." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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I didn't, but that's so spot on. I mean, I can't fault my parents for giving me a wonderful, loving childhood- isn't that what every parent wants? But the quarter life crisis is no joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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It's not that it's a "good thing" per se. It is what it is. The point is to teach them the tools to assess the situation, make the best of it, learn whatever lessons can be learned, and move forward without dwelling on the negative/things they can't change. So basically the serenity prayer haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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I look at getting sick the same way. Good for dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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"its great for kids to face hardship and disappointment as a child" For society it's so much better when it's the old who face hardship and disappointment! Childhood is the foundation of an adult life, so it better be happy and stable or there might be deep rooted problems down the road. [ Reply | More ]
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What blithering nonsense. You sound weak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Moms of boys in late HS/college - did your ds spend a lot of time playing video games when younger and did it affect how they did academically, socially or just their life in general? My boys (6 and 8) are not into sports and would spend much more time playing if we didn't limit it. Dh and I argue about this - he would let them play more and I can't stand them and wouldn't care if they never played again. He played them when younger and is a successful doctor so, that's his perspective. I think times/games have changed and now they are more addictive or whatever. Thoughts? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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My son is still little, but I think all the uproar about screen time will fade away. The times are different,screens are part of our lives. If there are some good evidenced based studies out there I'll take look,but I don't see how there could be yet since the kids who grew up with screens aren't even teenagers yet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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yes yes yes -- DS wanted GameCube/PlayStation/Xbox/Xbox360 (I'm aging myself) as soon as it was available. In a way, I saw it as "social" because once they get the headset on, they "play" with their friends but you don't have to have the friends over! So they're engaged with 2-3 players virtually as they game. I don't view it as a negative. My son has a learning disability (not caused by gaming -- had it since Kindergarten). Socially very skilled. Has tons of friends; is a good friend to other. Got into the college of his choice (and had other offers). Is a happy, well adjusted, popular kid. We did avoid ones like Scarface and Grand Theft Auto. Stuck to Assassin's Creed; the sports ones; then later, Call of Duty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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did you limit his playing time when younger than 10? how did you regulate it when he got to be 12/13? I just don't know how to play this and feel like a Nazi sometimes when I yell at them to get off. thanks for answering btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:18 AM Flag
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DS (15) plays lots of video games, and has since he was younger. He's pretty much a straight A student, honors track, varsity athlete, active in all aspects you'd hope for. It's a social outlet for him. We put appropriate restrictions on it and adjust accordingly. We monitor as much of the content as we can. As long as he meets all other expectations, we give him the option to spend time engaged in what he enjoys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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op - interesting. problem is that my boys aren't into sports. older one is a STEM kid and huge reader and younger one is just totally into all things electronic and super bright...convinced he will be a computer engineer/Silicon Valley guy or something. wish someone could tell me how to parent these guys in regards to gaming - second guessing myself. think it would be easier if they were very athletic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:23 AM Flag
[ - ] I have nerve damage in my arm ever since a minor surgical procedure. A second doctor has confirmed it. What are next steps if I want to sue the first doctor? Talk to a lawyer? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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Sure he didn't hit your brain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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I deserved that.. I guess I'm wondering if I need to document anything? Do I tell the first doctor about the damage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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How severely is the nerve damage affecting your life? Are there things you can't do. For a lawsuit you will have to put a monetary amount on the damages. For example, if you're a typist making 30K/yr and you can no longer type, you're out of that money for the next 20 years of your life so you could sue for 600K. On the other hand, if it's just causing some discomfort then there might not be much to sue for. Also, if nerve damage is a recognized risk of the procedure, then you might not have a lawsuit at all, just bad luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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ok helpful thank you..it's very uncomfortable and i can't lift weights like i used to but i doubt that will get me far in a court of law. I can still drive, type, eat, bathe etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Oh no, I hope you're not the blood draw OP from the thread that had http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/30/health/30case.html on it. Talk to a lawyer but also look for a doctor who can find out the full extent of the damage and help you recover .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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no that's not me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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I think you should go back to the surgeon for a follow up visit. Just explain the symptoms you're having. Don't go with an accusatory tone. See what he says. It may be a common complication that he knows how to treat so that you get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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Yes talk to lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I was so active this past week: running, sprinting, biking, swimming, doing videos with thr weights but didn't really watch my diet and gained 3 pounds! Sigh. Sometimes I think I'd be better off eating 1000 cal and reading good literature instead of working out. Vent over. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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ditto - i think working out makes me fat. and i don't buy the whole "muscle weighs more than fat" bullshit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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I know you're just venting, but in 20 years you will be glad you put in the effort, because you'll still have muscles, you'll have flexibility, you'll have protection for your joints, tendons, and ligaments, and you'll have good bone density. If all you do is restrict calories and read, you'll snap like a twig before you're 60. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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Well, maybe. All that is recommended is 25 minutes of moderate exercise per day for health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's the bare minimum, and the recommendation for overweight, unfit couch potatoes who need to be told that daily exercise is good for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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You're eating too much food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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This. Start measuring your portions and counting calories. Most people overestimate both how many calories they need and how many calories they eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Op. I know but I get ravenous and go on a carb fest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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NP: I do too :( In particular if I swim I can't control what I eat afterwards. It's really weird and frightening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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OP. Swimming is the worst in this aspect! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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She didn't gain 3 lbs. she needs to poop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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OP. Believe me my Bm is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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It's a myth that exercise helps with weight loss. Often more exercise increases your appetite, which sounds like what happened to you. The key is really counting calories. Give Weight Watchers a try. It's healthy and based on sound science, and it works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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OP. I agree the calorie intake is the key. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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I've been trying to keep my weight down for 20+ years and, I'm convinced it's all related to food. I workout A LOT but, I gain 3-4 lbs every.single.weekend just because I'm not super strict. Activity always stays the same - workout 6 days/week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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I definitely feel like I've gained weight since I joined a gym. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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You are healthier with extra fat and a strong heart and muscles than sedentary and thin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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OP. Yeah I've been buying into this for too long. //I know you're right though// [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:18 AM Flag
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Seriously would you rather have a strong and healthy body or one that is skinny? Skinny and unhealthy is easy, pop pills, smoke and purge. Stay the course, your grandchildren will appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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