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[ - ] Trying to eat more fish, but If you read about what seafood to avoid and what to eat, you can't really eat much of anything...either full with toxins or endangered, and the few remaining kinds are super expensive. I think I'll stick with my occasional can of sardines. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Take fish oil supplements [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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some health nut doctor told me that's not the same for some reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Isn't it true of most food today? When raw organic vegetables are found to be lacking in some way, there will be absolutely nothing left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] DD has a really dry cough and no fever. Any good recs for a medicine to relieve the symptoms? Of course, I will be calling ped later. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Gurgle with salt water if she is old enough to do that. Herbal teal, humidifier, long hot showers, cough drops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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m not a hippie freak, I just find these are best remedies for a dry cough. [ Reply | More ]
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Love these, TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Try Delsym. Over the counter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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That is what I have been giving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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DS too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Isn't basic TG just a turkey, mashed potatoes and some roasted vegetables? Why so many complaints about the cost of this dinner and amount of cooking? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Because people usually make more than that (desserts, drinks, etc.), and because even what you list can add up to a lot for some people. Don't assume everyone can afford what you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Mine isn't that basic. Not complaining as its my favorite holiday, but cooking for a crowd (ours is 30) is never cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Sure turkey is relatively cheap, but wine and apps, and dessert, and sides, and a nice flower arrangement, and maybe some chocolate. I spent 400 for 10, and the wine is coming out of my stock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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But you are right, you can have a perfectly nice Thanksgiving for not much. Although for some all food is expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Don't guests bring wine and flowers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Usually and chocolate. But I always have some just in case. If my guest bring, we will use theirs and save ours for later (except the flowers of course). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] We're early 30s and ttc. We barely receive any holiday cards. Do you think people are age will eventually start doing this, once they have kids, or are cards on their way out? What about paperless post for holiday cards? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Yes parents of young kids send the most cards. Paperless post is fine, but hasn't really caught on, so you'll be an outlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Acquaintance just texted me: "Oh, DS just got into your son's school." I texted back: "That's great, congratulations! Are you going?" Her reply: "No, I think my school is better." Uh....ok 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Just in or and enjoy the fact that you are superior to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Maybe she meant to say a better fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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I'm just mystified as to why she's texting me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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She's got issues! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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She's impressed with herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Weird. But keep that text to remind yourself there are screwed up people out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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I think she is texting you because she is an insecure bitch. Kill her with kindness and keep away when possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are Christian, do your cards say happy holidays or Merry Christmas? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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Merry Christmas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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I do both. Merry Christmas for family and other friends that are Christian and happy holidays or snorting along those lines for everyone else. I don't see the point of wishing a Jewish person a Merry Christmas! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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That's kind of a good point but expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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I would just do HH but my husband insists on MC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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HH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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MC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Two sets of cards. Happy Holidays for non-Christians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Happy holidays. I keep it generic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Jewish moms: what is the best spelling for Hanukkah? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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That one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Which one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Such one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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The spelling you used is best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Spelling tsuris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Invited to DH's friend's house for Thanksgiving. We expected it to be just the 8 of us. This morning I get told to make enough for 15 people. Really? Isn't it a bit late to double everything? Frustrated. Now I need to go back to the store and basically start over. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Put out a few envelopes in a basket and ask for donations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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That is tasteless, break out the leftovers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Can't stand this "come over and bring food" thing. If you host you should host. Ask your guests to bring wine or cheese, not cook for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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this! I hate potluck type things, people always cancel who are supposed to bring something important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Who told you to make enough for 15? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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DH's friend texted this morning and basically doubled the amount of people! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Just text back saying that its fine but you already have food for 8 so we will all need to share... I would make extra soup or salad and people will not be hungry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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I agree with you, but I have to say that I am so thankful to our host who invited my family of four when our travel plans changed because of the weather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Just stick with what you've already made. There are always so many leftovers anyway, why make more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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This, text back tonight, oops just got your message, sorry , too late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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What are you making? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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the stuffing and a squash dish, an appetizer, cheese plate. To double this is a pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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OK I'm signing off. I sound ungrateful and petty and I'm not. Just grumpy. So, I'm off to figure out what to do. Happy Thanksgiving! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I am having a hard time figuring out what to do. We had a nanny who took care of our 2 yo and picked up our 5 yo from school, cooked and did kids laundry and light housekeeping but she needed to go back to her home country. To prepare for transition we enrolled our 2 yo into daycare which is open 8-5. We paid our nanny 850/wk and now 350 of it is going to daycare. We where sure we could find someone for $500 who would do laundry/housekeeping 3 times a week while kids are at school and then pick up both kids from 2:30-6. I am not able to find anyone I like. We can't afford to pay more. We spent 2 mo transitioning 2 yo to daycare. Do we pull him? WWYD? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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I would probably pull the 2yo since daycare dropoff is extra work I don't want to do. But $500 for that schedule seems reasonable, where are you looking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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I placed an ad on 2 sites, asked friends etc. Everyone I like wants to work ft and make 800+. Daycare is very close so it's really not much extra work to do 2 drop offs vs 1. My dh does the drop off while I get them ready in am and once he leaves I cleanup from b-fast, maybe do a little cooking and leave for work. I have 45 minutes in am before I have to leave. Also, with kids out of the house there is definitely less cooking and cleaning so the volume if work is lower. I am so confused [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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In all your other posts you were firing the nanny. And everyone told you that you wouldn't find someone good at that salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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I don't know what you are talking about. I didn't fire my nanny. I have only looked for a replacement for 1 week. Maybe I am just so used to her I am having hard time seeing someone else doing the job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I am the one who fired my nanny. OP, keep looking. I hired someone who is more of a housekeeper. It's going ok so far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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How many hours does she work? [ Reply | More ]
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35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] What sort of holiday card do you do? Do you use a site like Minted or Shutterfly, plug in the photo and be done? Or do you print photos and apply them to fancy pre printed cards (Crane's?) or do you do one of those long letters with photocopied photos? Are there any alternatives? What are other sites I'm missing? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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Some photographers will print cards for you. Other than that there are other websites, and photo frame cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Walgreens photo, apply to card stock from Paper Source and write a greeting - done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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Shutterfly but not sure if we will use a family photo or a child only photo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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tinyprints [ Reply | More ]
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Shutterfly. Upload photo, choose template, place order. Done in 10 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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Minted. Stamped and ready to go on Monday. So glad to have it out if the way. [ Reply | More ]
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I like minted because you can upload your address file and they print the addresses (much nicer than a label would look). [ Reply | More ]
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You can do this at Tinyprints as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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I used them last year. I didn't recall that feature! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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S/o: How many cards does everyone send out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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175. Ridiculous but we both come from big families and send to some work colleagues.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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I like to order 50. DH likes to order 75. We usually split the difference and order 60. [ Reply | More ]
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100 [ Reply | More ]
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it has grown over the years as we have a big family and lots of school/work friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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This is not a number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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I mail about 100, but then have 30 to 40 I give out to Colleagues and doormen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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140 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Minted. I found the nicest styles there this year. And the most flexibility [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Say you have two kids in an activity, something popular, skill-based, hard to get into, and the older is thriving and loving it. The younger kid is having a terrible time, and you realize in addition to the teacher being cruel, the kid is not learning, and it's a money grab in the lower level because the classes are way too big. Parents are not expected to complain in this field, and you don't want to ruin it for your older kid. what do you do? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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Finish out the term and put younger child in a different activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Yes, this is reasonable. The younger one keeps coming home crying and after supporting the organization I'm pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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Sorry--they ask for the whole year's tuition up front. So there's no exit until June (read that as finish out the year). [ Reply | More ]
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I'd give the younger a choice - stick with it, pull it together during the activity and know she won't have to do it again or quit and sit on the sidelines doing homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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Can't do homework on the sidelines... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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Np- yeah, just pull the younger one. She/he doesn't really like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Pull the younger kid. She sounds miserable! Swallow the cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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This. You can try again in a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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And ask if the cost can be credited towards older DC for next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Sounds like ballet to me! Whatever the subject, I'd let the younger one switch activities and just write the tuition off as a mistake you won't make twice. It happens. Certainly, we can agree it's not your younger child's fault that the tuition is prepaid, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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How'd you know? :) have to say I'm disappointed in the institution, even though at some level I knew it existed to support the company financially, I expected better. [ Reply | More ]
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Wonder whether you can withdraw child, offer to let a scholarship child have her spot, and get a tax deduction for the balance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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It's a great idea--but I wouldn't want to send a scholarship kid into that teacher's lion's den. Maybe a kid in a different class... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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np: we were told no when withdrawing from preschool. School needs to submit corresponding receipt to the IRS and when it was not intended as a gift in the first place, you can't just re characterize tuition. (Maybe they could, but they probably won't bc it could be challenged) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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NP: I'm a choreographer and a retired ballet dancer. If your child is younger than 5 or 6, she's not ready for ballet. Creative movement, fine. Ballet classes for any child younger than 6 is just ridiculous. Sorry your DC isn't happy! I would pull her from the class. : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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She's 8, first level... [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't complain. These are professionals. They know what they're doing. Pull your DC so that she's not miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Ok. Have to disagree a little--the teacher does not know how to teach this age--she does know technique, but her methods are not effective for the early level (beyond my kid). And frankly, professional schools all seem to bring in kids in the upper levels anyway, so they can't speak convinvingly on their superior teaching of the lower levels. My other kid did not start at this school in the early levels (we moved), so this has been eye-opening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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But that said, I will toe the line and bow out gracefully so my older kid doesn't get backlash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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I knew it was ballet because I was a ballet student and I recognize the attitude. Ballet can be a rigid and unforgiving place for a student without the "right" physicality. Anyway, I loved it for a while, but my parents took my sister out and let her play soccer instead. I think if you go to the administration with s smile on your face and say: of course older dd is thriving and we are thrilled with that and we've decided to make a change for younger dd so that she can find her niche" that will work. You won't get your money back but you won't get backlash for older dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Thank you. Do you think ballet schools will ever change? This one seems mired in a different age. I understand the need for discipline and dedication, but there's no need to belittle 8 year olds and pit them against each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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No, I think traditional ballet schools like the one you describe have plenty of customers and therefore have no need to change. But if you're not happy with it, move along, vote with your wallet, find the school that suits your child and your philosophy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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I agree. Not good for child's self esteem. Not worth the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me not feel bad about this one. My housekeeper who passed has a daughter in her early 20s with a baby. I helped the daughter out of a jam a while ago financially by giving her first, last and security for an apartment and a lead on a job. I found out later that she has tended to use the baby to get money from more than one person. I just got a new story by text overnight about how she is going to be evicted on the 1st and can't pay her bills. She just needs another hand up. She knows we have the money which is the problem. I am not comfortable becoming a regular go-to source of income for her, particularly since I know the baby is well cared for and that she continues to get her hair and nails done, owns an iPad, gets child support regularly, doesn't have a social worker etc. 1. what do I say and 2. tell me not to feel guilty. I just have a hard time saying no, even though I know I have to. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:07 PM Flag
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She's going to keep coming back to you unless you stop this. I would send gifts for the baby on birthday and holidays, but I would tell her that you don't have any extra money at this point to help her out. She doesn't know your finances. You can say to her that you've had a bunch of other expenses come up recently and you cannot help her this month, sorry. Send a nice gift for Chirstmas (or whatever holiday she celebrates) and be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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this. sorry, some people are like this. you cant really help her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Can she work for you? Maybe offer to hire her for cleaning a couple of times a month? Equate money you flow to her needs to be given in exchange for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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I wouldn't get into this. You're relationship with her has already been set and she may start resenting. I'm sure her mother would be upset that she is doing this to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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OP. I kind of did this the last time. She came to do work and I basically wildly overpaid her for what she did at the time. She knew it was token work for what I gave her - the 3 months rent. I have now about 3 times to tell her I don't think I can be much help right now - but as soon as I responded there were like 6 more texts that came in. ding ding ding ding ding ding ... like she knew she had me on the line. She is going to lose her daughter and it's not her fault she "hurt her hand" and couldn't work (yes her hand). I even told her she should post it all to FB because she has so many people who love her and who don't seem to know how bad it is. She said she "doesn't like to post personal business to FB." Then she sent a picture of the baby and asked me if I knew of shelters that take in homeless young moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Oy. Don't respond for about a day then. And where is the father - you said she is getting support...and can his family help? [ Reply | More ]
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How much is the rent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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At this point I've got like 20 texts. I've sent back like 3 just putting the ball back in her court. She's not on drugs or anything but I know for her mom she was chronically getting into trouble and making bad decisions. I think she has lived with an aunt who also had enough of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Then I would be straight with her and say it's inappropriate to keep texting you. I would remind her that you helped her out in the past. She has family like her aunt and she needs to rely on them at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Does she want you to take care of her baby? Or is this just for guilt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Either you give her a gift in memory of/tribute to her late mother or you don't. It sounds like you don't want to, so don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Sounds like op has already done this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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Seems like the other $ was given before the housekeeper died. OP certainly doesn't have to give money. What i noticed was that she's struggling with her own self-image as a generous person, and belittling the housekeeper's kid so that she can continue her own self-image. Separate the two, make your decision, and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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I don't agree. I think she probably cared for her housekeeper so she's feels a little guilty about not helping to support her daughter. That said, it's crazy to assume financial responsibility for her. Seems like she's given her a bit of money already. People need to learn to be self sufficient and stand on their own feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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We aren't disagreeing here. I have no beef with OP. she should think like a foundation--is this an effective use of her grant money? What are her criteria? Extreme need? family connection! Potential for turnaround? Take the guilt out of the decision making, no need for it here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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OP I'm not going to object to that characterization. I don't want to feel bad and I do know I'm being played a little. Just because it's somewhat self-serving and unpleasant to hear, doesn't mean it's not true to some extent. I'm trying to make a decision that makes me feel incredibly guilty and trying not to feel guilty about it. It's probably a tall order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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OP yes. This is what we did the first time. Generally we have a policy - we will help anyone out financially once. But that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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So does the death affect your policy? That's the question here, not her nails and iPad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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OP. No, it has to be a policy. Everyone has emergencies, but some people will seem to have more emergencies than others. This one just has a few more heartstrings that are going to bother me. But oh well. I know it's not truly a street thing (she's not in the projects, she has a car, she has dogs, live in boyfriend, child support) but I think it might be a case of everyone else saying "no more" to her as well, because I have not heard from her in 6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, some people don't get the concept of one time help. They think they've found a cash cow. I have btdt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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OP God this is not going anywhere. I have now made several suggestions including the name of a shelter that takes parents with dependent children and she said that's no help because she couldn't bring her boyfriend or her pets. She sent me texts from the aunt saying the aunt would take the baby until she gets on her feet and she said she will be on the streets before she loses time with her child. Basically she is throwing every excuse at me about why nothing will work except a check, which she hasn't yet said. I just told her I'm sorry but seems like she has some adult decisions to make and I wish her a lot of luck, I know she's got this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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It's a tough one. It's so much easier in a way to ask through text than face to face. Sounds like she's going to be tough to shake. But you are not the income stream that will solve her problems (does she have a job?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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OP thanks you guys. I think I just needed to have a few thoughts and mentally walk through this. Her mom was someone who worked for us part time (she was an independent contractor with employees, not live in). Her daughter is not someone who is otherwise in my life except on Facebook (damn FB once again) and I don't emotionally mean anything to her that I am aware of. She basically said she was just making sure she had asked everyone and I was her last hope - so she's getting turned down for what she wants up the chain for other reasons. Putting it out here did make me do some more self-examination about my own possible motives. I wouldn't feel any better giving her money. I would just feel like I got taken and I would just postpone the time when I needed to say I coudn't help again. It might as well be today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I am looking for a weekly or daily routine other than the usual stuff that my kids will remember and I will enjoy doing with them. Any suggestions? Kids are 10 and 7? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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Game night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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the usual: movie night, cook a new recipe every week together, game night. Try a new museum every weekend, rock climbing every saturday(?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.26.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.26.14, 11:28 AM Flag
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