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[ - ] Anybody alone today? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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My in-laws because my moronic MIL is scared of my cousin's dog and refuses to come to t'giving. Whatever- fine be alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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me, but did decide to go to my sil's sisters home for dinner - it was easier than saying no...dc are with their father today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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OP, are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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yeah I am. DC are with ex for most of weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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+1. Its kinda great too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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How are you doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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I am lonely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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I'm sorry that you are lonely today, OP. I hope the day goes fast for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Any LAB families on? We are considering LAB for our ds, but am worried about too much homework. I don't want my child (or family) to be a slave to HW, and I am not a Tiger Mom (at all). Can someone give me a sense of how much homework we are looking at? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.27.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Any good middle school has 2-3 hours a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Guess it must be a crappy middle school, then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Thats BS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Bunk. People like you feed the myth. No benefit after 90 minutes. Teachers have NO training whatsoever in assigning homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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It depends on the kid. My son spends less than an hour on the hw even in 8th grade. I know a classmate who spends 3 hours. It is probably a focus/distraction thing because the work does not seem particularly heavy and not all classes have hw every day. He'll get maybe 10 math problems, read a science passage and answer 5 questions, create a drawing for art, maybe some reading. They don't have many big projects. Most of the work is done in class. They do get homework on weekends and over breaks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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The principal said 45-90 minutes in 6th and ½ hour more for each grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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^ on tuesday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] why do people justify boys acting badly, but when a girls do, they are sluts? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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People who do that are dying off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Zzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Because they are mothers of boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Oh please. No mother raises her son to be a rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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No woman raises her dd to be a slut either, except the ones who spend a lot of time explaining to their dd what's involved in getting a TT dh "on lockdown". In which case, they might be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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You are an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Yeah ok mother of dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Actually, those mothers make certain their DD does not dress like a slut, but rather like marriage material. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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All kinds of people get married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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You want a good man you play the part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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No, but when they do not enforce good behavior, it happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Because they have to blame the girl/woman for a sexual assault or face the reality that it could happen to them or their daughters. The lack of focus on the actual predators in such situations is appalling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Go away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Zzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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So often it's other women who are slut-shaming, put of competition and jealousy. Just like wives who blame the OW rather yhan their cheating husbands. Women need to be more sympathetic to their fellow women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Mmm, OW have their own blame. I agree you should be more upset with your husband, but women who fuck married men are not one of us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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There is a difference between acting promiscuous and being a "slut". I don't think having an active sex life is bad for either gender, but being unethical in your sexual relations is shitty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I don't have any girls, but when you have a boy who is a "handful" ... As their mother, you know them in and out, and they can have extraordinarily poor judgment. And I am talking like, their brains really are not developed. Mine reminded me of a big dumb puppy. He would do things that were incredibly poorly thought out, and then seemingly have no idea why he had gotten himself into a situation. Not at all "rapey" things, all my boys are total gentlemen and all have lovely girlfriends. But the general dumbshittery that teenage boys and young men can get into, with seemingly no reflection beforehand - that, I recognize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] If you go to a store today,do you acknowledge to the workers that they are working on Thanksgiving beyond saying "Happy Thanksgiving?" 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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I hand them little slivers of turkey directly out of my linty pockets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Don't go to the store, so next year fewer people have to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Did you ever think maybe they are happy to be working and making $$ rather than having an unpaid day off? Not everyone is american or has a big family they want to celebrate with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Mmmk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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if it is there, yes people will work - but it is not necessarily a good thing - all people need time off if they think they do or not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Oh so YOU get to decide that they should have an unpaid day off and that it's better for them than earning money? Adults can't decide this for themselves? So paternalistic. Restaurants and movie theatres have been open on thanksgiving for years but there was no FB so people weren't crying in their soup about those "poor poor workers". Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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then they should find a job that works holidays - lots of them out there, i have always worked holidays - seems like you need to get over yourself, why so angry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Restaurants and movie theaters don't open at 2am for consumerist riots over tvs like they do now. I find the whole Black Friday thing revolting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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If you live here you may not be American but you should have the option to take part in our holiday. Immigrants become Americans pretty quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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When I was younger, I liked working holidays for time and a half. Employers took volunteers for holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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I always used to work on thanksgiving, New Year's Eve also. It was prekids, and I really didn't care. Not all that work holidays need/want pity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Of course, but I try not to go to the store. The fewer people who go, the fewer workers they need to come to work on the holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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i wonder if Foxwoods and Mohegan Sun are open, and if they consider Thanksgiving to be a sacred holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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they are open, my brother and his wife are staying at Mohegan tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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This is so crazy. I had divorced parents and celebrated two thanksgivings every year and two Christmases. One parent would get the actual holiday of one and the weekend following the other. They swapped every other year. It is no more magical to have Thanksgiving on actual Thursday as it is to have your birthday party exactly on your birthday ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm going to get caught in a lie about my resume regarding College, that I dropped out of after a semester from 1988! This company already hired me and made an announcement that I would be joining the company. I start in 2 weeks and need to be honest with my new boss. There is no way I can put my foot in that door with a clear conscious. I didn't fabricate to deceive them, I truly have 25 years of experience at top companies, amazing references but without college on my resume, a recruiter wouldn't look at me! I did what I had to do as a requirement for an interview, I feel horrible and need to be honest! How do you think I should handle this? I want her to understand the position I am faced with in job searching without a degree and having to take chances to even get considered! Should I call her on Monday, ask to meet for a cup of coffee and explain myself to her? There was nothing else fabricated in any way on my resume but the education. I felt like I was backed into a wall with my job search, it's just a dead end without it. What does one do in today's job market without a degree? I've worked so hard in my career to be discriminated against because of decisions I made at 19. What choices do those without degrees have? I am so torn and feel such remorse by all of this, I want to crawl under the covers until this can be resolved! Please don't criticize me, first a foremost I am a mother, out of work for the first time in 27 years and I need to support my family, My life savings is gone! 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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The choice of people without a degree is to earn one, if they in fact want one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Also, it isn't only the decision you made at 19, you didn't do anything about it any year after 19! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Why did you put it on your resume? Why not let the 25 years of experience speak for themselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Get a degree. Get it from an online university if you have to, but get it. And you hope you can manage this before you get caught. Don't wallow in the whole emotional aspect of this -- do what you have to do to fix it as quickly as possible and pray that you don't get nailed. Your motivations won't matter if you get caught -- lying your resume is a firing offense pretty much anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Getting a degree now doesn't fix it - she still would have lied on her resume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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But at least then she can look for a new job free from the pressure to lie about college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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The fact that I never had a degree was never an issue until now. I tried submitting my resume based on experience alone and it was useless. Truly just mind blowing. After going through this experience, I plan on pursuing a degree on line as my kids are still small and I need to be home after working all week. I want to try and save this opportunity, if possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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This doesn't add up. You have 25 years experience but your kids are small? Nooope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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If the she's been working since 19 the math could barely work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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+1. Have 15 years of experience (starting when I finished law school at 29) and my DCs are 4 and 6. If I had skipped the education and started working 10 years earlier but had kids at the same age I did, the math would work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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I'm working since I'm 19. My children are 6 and 10, I consider them small and still need me at home as much as possible. Here we go...let the bashing begin! Thanks ladies! Happy Thanksgiving! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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don't say anything to your boss - go get your degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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It's going to take years to get my degree, what do I do for work in the meantime? I've never been out of work in my life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Are you the same poster from a few days ago who lied about having an associates degree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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The only way to fix this is to turn down the job and get a new one you didn't lie to get. Otherwise the lie will follow you forever. If you are really an unemployed single mother you can probably get FA to finish college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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itda. She works her new job, does great work, does not discuss college (and who does discuss college anyway?). She needs the $$. She pursues a new job once she has her degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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THIS. I am a rule follower in every way, but in this case, she needs to support her family. She will NOT find a another job until she has a degree b/c now resumes are all prescreened with computer programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Which is why I added College as entering my apps I wasn't getting acknowledged based on my experience! The entire job search in this day and age is insane! If you do not have X, Y and Z, you're screwed! I didn't lie because I'm looking to advance my career, I just want a foot in the door. I've already agreed to a $40K pay cut! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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What happened with your previous job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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She won't get a job that requires the degree she doesn't have, correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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She could get caught at any time - up for promotion, someone does a background check, etc. She won't be able to network when she changes jobs. It's just a really, really bad idea long-term. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Agree. And her sob story won't help her out. Sorry op, I feel for ya but lying was a bad idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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So confronting my boss before the background check confirms my lie is a bad idea? I just want to be honest as to why I had to fabricate my resume. I need to work and I have to do whatever it takes to land an interview. How many recruiters change resumes to fabricate your experience to match the job description! Why is that okay?! It's so messed up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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Do you claim to have a degree from the school? Or do you indicate you attended? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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My application stated graduating with an AA but my background check I left blank. The background check will let them know that I pulled it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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They're not going to hire you if you admit you lied on your resume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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It is too late for honesty. No recruiter changes recruiters like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Why on earth didn't you let your experience tell your story? I worked for a CEO who didn't have a college degree--after 25 years in the workforce, nobody gives a hoot where you went to school. You should have just listed it as "attended blah blah university" and left it at that. Vague, but not a lie. Rewrite it now to read that way and cross your fingers you don't get caught. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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^^Also, why is this coming up only now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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They are doing an education background check based on the college I put down! I notated on the background check that I did not graduate. They said they would inform company and have them decide how to proceed with the check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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For an associates degree? Wow. I can't believe they would check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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So you really did not go to college at all? Not like you dropped out after 3 years? At this point, there is nothing you can do. Do not tell anyone except your priest or rabbi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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It seems she went for a semester before dropping out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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If I could get a job without a degree, I would but in today's market you can't! Every single company in this city requires it! I worked for over 25 years without a degree. Times have changed! Every recruiter would not agree to see me without a degree on my resume! Not one! Job search engines search for degrees! I need to work and my kids are asking me for gifts for Christmas and it's the first time in my life that I can not provide for them! I get it, I feel like shit, I wish things were different for me but I did what I thought was best and honestly did not think they'd run an education check on me for an entry level position! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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You will not get the job if you admit the lie. You will also not get it if they catch the lie. Your only hope is they do a lazy background check and don't catch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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This. Except in professional jobs, most do not check degrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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I doubt they will check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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If my employee came to me with this I would be required to report it to HR, who would be required to terminate the employee on ethics grounds. I would rather not know or have the person resign on their own rather than waste my time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Easy with the exclamation points. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say a thing and cross your fingers. I doubt they'll fire you if they find out. You may not go as far in the company, but you won't get fired, especially if you are kick ass in your job. My DH just left a company where some of the founders completely and totally lied about their past experience in a major government agency. They used their 'experience' to get themselves hefty salaries, high profile jobs. At a conference, they were exposed (the guy stood up in a Q&A session and said 'you people are lying about who you say you are) by one of the agency's top officials. Absolutely ZERO fallout from this, none. They are still working, they still have their titles and salary. Nobody cares. It's a dirty world out there. I agree that you need to go get your degree so that next time you don't have to lie. You apparently have a conscience and that's a good thing. But I wouldn't worry about any fallout in your current job. But go get that degree, you will fee so much better about yourself! And to anyone here saying you should quit... I disagree. If you can do the job and have the experience, it's enough. Just don't let this pattern continue though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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+1. Get a degree and start looking for a new job as soon as you can put it in your resume and correctly state that you merely attended the other school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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First off you need to understand they don't know you, and despite the fact that you have lied about only this one thing, they will suspect you on everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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^and going forward, use your experience, which is significant, to get other jobs, not a made up resume [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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If you do get the job, immediately start on online degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm going to get caught in a lie about my resume regarding College, that I dropped out of after a semester from 1988! This company already hired me and made an announcement that I would be joining the company. I start in 2 weeks and need to be honest with my new boss. There is no way I can put my foot in that door with a clear conscious. I didn't fabricate to deceive them, I truly have 25 years of experience at top companies, amazing references but without college on my resume, a recruiter wouldn't look at me! I did what I had to do as a requirement for an interview, I feel horrible and need to be honest! How do you think I should handle this? I want her to understand the position I am faced with in job searching without a degree and having to take chances to even get considered! Should I call her on Monday, ask to meet for a cup of coffee and explain myself to her? There was nothing else fabricated in any way on my resume but the education. I felt like I was backed into a wall with my job search, it's just a dead end without it. What does one do in today's job market without a degree? I've worked so hard in my career to be discriminated against because of decisions I made at 19. What choices do those without degrees have? I am so torn and feel such remorse by all of this, I want to crawl under the covers until this can be resolved! Please don't criticize me, first a foremost I am a mother, out of work for the first time in 27 years and I need to support my family, My life savings is gone! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you hang out with your spouse and kids on Thanksgiving? I have to say the holiday isn't all that much fun these days because we have little kids and what it turns into is me chasing my kids around my inlaws house by myself while my wife drinks wine with her mother in the kitchen for three hours. At this point I'd rather just stay home if I'm going to be responsible for them all day anyway. And no, this isn't the one day a year I spend time with them. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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They will play on their own soon enough. I am you but my FIL is great and loves playing with kids. I am thankful mil made dinner and I didn't have to. How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Put in a dvd for a hour...make life easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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So your DW and MIL just stand in the kitchen drinking wine and dinner makes itself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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This. They are cooking, you are watching the kids. Get a grip. If it's stressing you out let them watch a movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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You know what I mean - by the time we get there the food will all be cooking already. They are prepping mirepoix in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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^^AREN'T [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Ugh. You're the worst. After cooking and cleaning all day I bet you're going to demand dw give a break because you're so exhausting from watching dc LOL a change in attitude would be the biggest help- be thankful you get a day to spend with your rambunctious 3 year old, this is his only 3 year old thanksgiving... use the experience to be more appreciative of his primary caregiver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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No, I don't know what you mean. Your MIL is making dinner, your DW is helping and/or keeping her company so she doesn't spend the whole day in the kitchen alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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why are you chasing them about? can't they play by themselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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The three year old will do things like go into their closets,run upstairs, jump on the couch, things like that if I don't stop him. He's three - he will get bored in the house and start getting into trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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why didn't you bring toys for him to play with ? coloring books, etc. have the cousins and or other children watch him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Does your three year old play by himself for three hours at home? Mine is good for twenty minutes before he needs attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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That's par for the course. What's the problem, exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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good god, take him outside and get his energy out - you sound like you have never taken care of a 3 year old before and that it is some incredible feat....i get it you are pissed your dw is ignoring you - but it does not have to be difficult, you are making it that way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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It's not that hard. Put a bunch of toys in a room, close the door, hang out there. There has to be an ebb and flow to the day- do something really physical, outside or roughhouse or whatever, tired him out. Then the next activity can be a puzzle or books or something calm. Think ahead, set yourself (& dc!) up for success... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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But sounds like OP really does not know how to take care of children, including his own. Don't feel sorry for him. When we are with my ILs, I expect he will hang with his parents and I am on point as opposed to running a one on one defense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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I have a 2 yo and 9 month old. We just send them to the playroom. Dh and bil go downstairs and watch football (the kids are welcome to join but don't care to). The women cook. Are you sure you're not hovering? But if not, sounds maybe like a communication problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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^ and like p&p suggested the guys take the kids outside for a bit, roughhouse and run around for an hour, then let the kids do their thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Watch football with him. Go outside now and teach him then when the games come on explain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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You are a parent, not a sitter. This goes with being a parent. Are you a SAHD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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No, but Im with them most of the time. Let me give you an example. My wife woke up with the baby at 6:30 or so and brought him downstairs. 20 minutes later he came into the room and woke me up because she had no idea where he was. Then I was in the basement with our older kid. She literally chased the three three year old down there (in a playful way), sat there for four minutes, then left them both with me and went back upstairs. This happens every time we are home together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Little kids are tough, especially active boys. Suck it up, they will be glued to their iPads in a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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I am with OP. I'm the DW, but my toddler DS is hell in a hand basket at my ILs and DH sits like a lump on the couch the whole time. I think it should be 50/50. Take turns alternating between socializing and protecting innocent bystanders from DS. It's a bitch being "on call" the whole time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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My ils house aka the beige palace (literally everything, even their golden retrievers, is the same shade of light beige) is really uptight to say the least. There are rooms that are wide open as far as floor plan goes but according to mil'a rules- off limits to children. A few hours there feels like a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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You win. My ILs have tons of tchotchkes and breakable stuff, but there are doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I steamed some frozen veggies last night for a chicken dish. I have leftovers that won't be eaten today or tmrw - can I freeze it all? I don't know the rule for re-freezing veggies (once they are cooked) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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You can but they will not taste that great. You can use them in soup or stew after thawing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Yes, they'll be fine for soup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Once again dh wakes up the whole household at 5:30 am. No work today, just his annoying habit! Traveled all day yesterday and 2yo didn't nap. Asked him to please please not wake her this morning. Now I have to bottle it so we can have a nice thanksgiving.... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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What does he do to wake everyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Turns on all the lights, walks around, makes coffee. Opens and closes doors. He will pace by the bed if he thinks I'm asleep and then be "surprised" when I open my eyes- oh you're up already!? He is full of energy like a big dumb puppy happy to have someone to play with... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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^ I'm not a morning person, can you tell? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yes, my dh and I are the opposite. I would never wake him or kids but I wish my dh didn't want to sleep till 11 while I take care if kids. Maybe you should stay in bed and have dh take care if toddler all morning and then maybe he will be quite next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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I just want to sleep til 7. And for dcs to wake on their own, not be woken... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Don't let him go to bed after dinner. Tell him dinner cleanup is his job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Let him? Beyond banging pots and pans over his head I'm over arguing about it. It's an issue for the entire family, he is very aware, refuses to commit to a consistent change. I married a jerk and this is one of the things we all get to deal with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Sorry. My dh was willing to work with me in this. He was reluctant and grumpy but willing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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He will try once in a while but the effort and arguing it takes isn't worth it. So I'm complaining to you guys instead! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Haha. He sounds cute. Annoying but cute. Happy Thanksgiving! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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Today I can consider it cute since we have nothing to do and can nap! Honestly, it is cute that he doesn't want to be alone... but it also so inconsiderate when he wakes the baby and then leaves! Happy thanksgiving :) [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like my DW. Such a pain. She gets up at 4am, then starts talking to you, and is surprised when you wake up... and then complains when I say I'm tired. [ Reply | More ]
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He falls asleep on the couch after dinner every night. I do cleanup bath/bedtime with dcs by myself. Then he wakes before dawn and wants company. I am losing it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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You need to make plans after dinner which take you out of house. Your DH sounds incredibly inconsiderate and you are also enabling him. [ Reply | More ]
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Whenever it's not a holiday I get flamed for complaining because he works and I'm a sahm. (He doesn't need to be in the office until 9am, he spends hours working out before work) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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he sounds annoying - when you bring this up, what's he say? - is he always so self absorbed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody not doing anything today? WOHM exhausted but feeling like I am letting DS down. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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NOTHING. Eatinf and hanging out. Maybe a board game if I feel ambitious later... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Are you at least putting on a meal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Putting on? We will be eating meals, including Thanksgivign dinner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Do you mean nothing but TG dinner? Then yes, we are doing nothing. Kids are 2,4,9 so we hardly ever do anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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We will have a family meal at some point (not turkey). But we are celebrating just by hanging out it our pajamas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I was on a bus in Manhattan last night and these 8 boys - high school - were rambunctious bordering on menacing. One who was black kept saying, you kill me, I kill YOU to people sitting around. Another said loudly this is a stick up then okay, hand over your iPhones. They did not stop and it kept escalating. A lot of "bitch" and c-word. At one calm moment I looked over at them (I was sitting near them) and said, "what grade are you in?" one answered: 11th. And I said, you should KNOW BETTER. I repeated it. They picked up again luckily not targeting me but I thought to myself, what if I were my 15 yo daughter, of slight build and shy manner, traveling alone on this bus? I have no doubt they would have targeted her. I am boiling mad at the whole world of boys and men who would act badly and egg each other on in a group - those UVA criminals. I think they should administer a test to all 7th grade boys to see whether they would harm a girl if egged on by a group of friends - then take those who fail into a massive behavioral modification/teaching program. How on earth will we change this? 53 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
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It was rattling. And I had just read that Rolling Stone piece on the UVA frat rape. And news of Ferguson riots spreading... come on. You have never felt menaced by a group of men (even if young men)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Oh honey, you live in NYC because you love the "culture" and "diversity". Embrace it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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This is different from culture and diversity. This is males who in a pack turn into something that even individually they would not be, do things they would not do. It is hateful and, yes, dangerous! And this is not about NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Yeah I hate those menacing packs of yeshiva boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Sure, but she could get off the bus. You are being dramatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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OP: that makes it right? [ Reply | More ]
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It's life, teach your dd how to manage herself and keep herself safe, it is the best you can do. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I tried to think about what I would have her do. Ignore them, then get off bus at earliest opportunity, yes. Get and stay close to other people. I have no confidence in any of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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You are a ninny. [ Reply | More ]
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why is she a ninny, something like that happened to my dd, she got off early and so did the group of boys, so glad she thought to go into a store and explain what was going on. she waited there till my dh came to get her, the boys were still hanging out front when he got there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Did he engage with them at all? Yell at them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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my dh is a 6'3" aa man, he walked over to them and said, "i am the the father of all the girls you have ever bothered, watch your back" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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^^^he did not yell it, he spoke very softly and calmly... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Your husband is quite a man. Chris Rock complimented men like your DH https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=f3PJF0YE-x4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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lol, my dh mentions that video every time he sees black people acting badly... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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So she did the right thing, good for her. You were smart and told your dd how to handle herself. This woman is wringing her hands and acting helpless. Empower your daughters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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but what if there was no place for her to go, my dd was very lucky that day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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What if the sky falls, chicken little? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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so you are justifying boys behaving badly? good for you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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No, I'm saying you can't control that so worry about what you can control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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you must be a parent of an asshole acting boy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Nope, 2 girls. You can't control what other people do, you can only protect yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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but if boys a taught how to treat others they would not act like asses when you are not around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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I have no control over that, I don't believe in banging my head against a wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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I am sure that is what the moms of the UVA frat boys would say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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You are so dim. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Lady, either protect your dd or keep whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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can't protect them when you are not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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good luck to your dds with a mom like you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Sorry OP no ones biting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Why do whites not have the right to ride the bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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What a stupid response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Fine, wallow in hysteria. Suit yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Not hysteria [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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middle school teacher here - we have been having a lot of boy/girl problems (harassing and bullying). yesterday i just had a sit down discussion about self-respect and respect of the opposite sex. i went on about how would the boys feel if someone treated their mother, sister, aunt, grandmother or future daughter that way. they all looked so shocked like they never thought about it before, i hope something sunk in... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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^^^and wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Good for you. Was this just you and your class? Or school wide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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i'm the ss teacher, had the talk with all my classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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You are awesome!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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i just hope some of it stuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Good for you. The problem is that nobody calls kids like this on their behavior. If everyone were willing to tell them to knock it off and back up others who did, the kids would learn what's acceptable and bus/subway rides would be much better. [ Reply | More ]
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This. I haven't lived in NY for twenty years. I was on a crosstown bus when back when and a bunch of private school kids got on. All white. They sat all over the bus (though they were clearly friends) and talked back and forth in loud voices and everything they said was shocking (and I'm not a prude) and sexual. Dicks, p***ies, and more. People were so shocked and most got off. No one said a word to these kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Good for you for calling them out. Unreal. Behavior is unacceptable. I would be terrified if I encountered them too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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They act like thugs because of their low intelligence. Come on, you never see Asian kids doing this sort of thing. It is OP's political correctness that prevents her from telling the truth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Hey,Asian RM mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Hey right back at you. Isn't my perspective valid here? The OP is talking about non asian teenagers acting like thugs. All I am doing is showing that Asian teens do not act this way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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It is irrelevant. It's like telling us you are wearing a blue sweater, it is useless info just because you have nothing else to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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No you aren't welcome here. Go away. Preferably back to China, which much be a paradise given that it's filled with übermenschen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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There a hugely popular website where black teens post videos of black teens committing violence. Read the ratings. No equivalent web site exists for Asians http://m.worldstarhiphop.com/ [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you. I've seen this kind of behavior on the subway and I just change cars--I'm afraid of what might happen if I speak up. Our stupid porno culture has ruined many boys and men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Porno culture plus one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Of course the usual racism would make you clutch your pearls even more because-gasp- one was BLACK, but newsflash-this is not a Black thing. And I would have been more disturbed by him saying "you kill me, I kill you." He realized this country finds Black life worthless, and that is the message sent to young en like him daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Any dentist moms on? I have been scrupulous about not allowing DD (now 11) to have juice or juice boxes very often, and she has never had a cavity. Now she has discovered juice boxes and would like to bring one to school for lunch every day. I am totally not worried about her eating habits or her weight (she is extremely athletic, very fit etc.) but don't want to allow her to rot her teeth. Is a juice box worse than a cookie etc.? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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it's more about wasted calories, you are better off with a piece of fruit than a juice box. i would make a deal of juice boxes twice a week, not everyday... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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OP: She eats plenty of fruit, but i also want to allow 'treats' so as not to get to the eating disorders etc . poster below mentions... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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And cue eating disorders in 2 years or the freshman 15 in 7. Just let her have the juice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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I had a juice box (fruit punch) with my lunch every day for school and have never had a cavity (mid 30s now) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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tell her to drink water after the juice box if you are freaked out over it but if she has good dental hygiene and is not falling asleep overnight while drinking the juice she should be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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OP: lol. yes, leaning towards just letting her have it..actually have been letting her have it, just wondering if its a great idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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6oz a day max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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LOL, an 11y.o. who "just discovered" juice boxes. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Happy Thanksgiving! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Same to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd turning 6 an I don't have a bday party planned!! 25 kids! What should I do? Willing to spend a bit since the past 5 years have been small and at home. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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where do you live? We did our last part at construction kids in Brooklyn. It wasn't crazy expensive and it's a nice change from many other types of parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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25 KIDS! ARE NUTS? child turns 6 invite six children... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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25kids? Sounds like you should just go to pump it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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Chuck E. Cheese. Go early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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