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[ - ] Our building did trick or treating last night. I'm eating candy for breakfast. Ugh. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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I just ate four mini twixes. They are delicious... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Savage Inequalities: Children in America's Schools is a book written by Jonathan Kozol in 1991 that discusses the disparities in education between schools of different classes and races. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Working through your "to read" list? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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relevant to rapes at Bronx school post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Harvard Admissions Office recommends gap year 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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did Zuck take a gap year at andover? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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? and that is relevant how ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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NP: I get it, he's super successful and went to Harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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he also dropped out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Andover and Exter both take kids for gap years but how many kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Sounds like something only the rich can afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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ITA. Of all of my friends, only the one from the uber rich family took a gap year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Not always true, I am from the UK where it is common, I spent most of my gap year waitressing and earning money. I did a little traveling, all paid for by my own earnings and I had $ left over to use at spending money when I went to university. Working ft as a waitress was a really good experience for me and I learned more about life that year than at any other point in my life. I can see why Harvard would look favorably at something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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I doubt the Harvard kids are spending a year waitressing. I assume the expectation is some fancy international experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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sure, are they responsible when you have one less year to save for retirement down the line? They get a one-year-older student less likely to be an immature PITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, because everyone starts saving for retirement at 22. Some lucky ones do, but you are living in a bubble if you think this is the norm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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lol but yes re: immature PITA that can bring their sociopathic problems to your school and damage its reputation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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She is talking about the parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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You still have one less year whenever you do start... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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The kids who can afford a "gap year" aren't the ones for whom a year less retirement savings makes a hoot of difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Obviously this is going to be the trend. Already the oldest boy in DS's grade in freakishly old, he started K at age 6y4m. If he takes a gap year he'll be walking into Freshman year of college at age 20. Insane. I was still 17 when I started college (almost 18). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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this may be a good thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Yeah maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Boys would have to take at least 4 gap years to catch up with the girls. : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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lol! True [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Makes sense for dcs who know they'll need to take on debt. If they can live at home and work even at a low-income job, they can save. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Boring tax/finance question - if you are an independent contractor (1099), roughly how much should you set aside for taxes? Live in NJ. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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i think this is not the place to get a comprehensive answer to a very complicated question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Just looking for a rough estimate - like 50%? 40% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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NP - You can't even begin to consider a rough estimate without a huge amount of other detail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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If you are in top income bracket, 55%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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You're not paying estimated taxes every three months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone masturbated for / in front of your husband? My husband wants to watch me. Not sure how I feel about it. Thoughts? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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perv has arrived [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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prude has arrived [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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I wish my DH would ask me to do something like that. He is so boring in bed. :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Sure. Super sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Do it. Liquid courage if you have to. That's not even that kinky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Mt college aged daughter has long blonde hair. Stunning. I swear it triggers some sort of primitive impulse, some base instinct. If she would pull it back or wear a hoodie she would not be harrassed so much. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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This was me, long blonde hair and blue eyes (that all-American-girl combo). It drew me a lot of unwanted attention, especially when traveling. Mexico and India were especially rough, I got followed, photographed by strangers, groped on public transport and 2 near-misses for full-out sexual assault. Tell her to keep her guard up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] My dh does love me but he expects to put very little effort into our relationship, has zero interest in doing anything together as a couple, makes all my interests sound meaningless and empty, expects me to accommodate his changing needs. He is supportive and nice to me and lives the children. Is this a normal marriage or a failing one? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Who cares about normal. What matters is both people feeling fulfilled. Guessing you aren't? What did you do as a couple before kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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Traveled, watched some offbeat films, went to theatre. He thinks all these things are just meaningless entertainment and he is right but I feel I have no life between job and childcare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Are you sure he finds these meaningless? My DH works a lot, and we joke about how my part-time job is finding and arranging fun activities. I'm always looking out for shows, exhibits, restaurants, etc. These are things he enjoys, but can't get motivated to arrange on his own. I think because of these experiences, we have interesting things to talk about and continued to grow together. Maybe you are seeing it as your interests versus his interests? Are there any activities you can approach as newbies together (eg. cooking class or wine tasting)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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He thinks of all of these as shallow earthly meaningless entertainment things to sometimes humor me with. I guess he evolved and I didn't. I don't work any less than he does by I don't have the interest to be studying theology and meaning of life in my spare time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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What are his wonderful interests that we all should share? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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His belittling your interests troubles me. Like he thinks he's superior and doesn't care what makes you happy. If anything, I'd think I'd stand up for yourself and say you are entitled to some guilty pleasures and he needs to lighten up. Plus, those aren't really even guilty pleasures anyway. He sounds like an insecure nerd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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I don't even think you need to feel fulfilled all the time. That's an illusion. If your life has no major tragedies or challenges that are major burdens, like many people endure, you are blessed. Too many bored people without big problems set the bar way too high. Happiness and fulfillment are temporary pleasures to be enjoyed while they last. They are not constant states. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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so smart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Has this been posted yet? 2 6th graders were raped by 7/8th graders at a school in the Bronx, and if looks like the DOE was trying to keep it quiet: http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/2-teens-charged-raping-2-girls-bronx-middle-school-article-1.1992963 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.31.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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Wow, 14 year old 6'2" and 175 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Mine is 6'4" already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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are they (DOE) pursuing legal action?? Then it is a legal matter.Not exactly the kind of thing you would expect a press re;lease about however they must disclose this happened per the Clery Act (?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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aw snap Clery Act pertains to college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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The students are being charged criminally as juveniles. There will be a suspension hearing where the victims must testify, or the students won't be suspended. The school never disclosed the incident to parents. They tried to keep it quiet until it blew up in the news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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Stuff like this happens in the worst schools. De Blasio and Farina want to soften the discipline guidelines and take out metal detectors in a lot of schools, but I think they don't quite understand what they are dealing with and why those policies were put into place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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is there no legal obligation to notify parents?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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np: I don't think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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I don't know if there is or not, but with every safety issue that has ever come up at any of the schools my kids have attended we got a notification. It seems like an appropriate response and I can see why parents would be upset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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public schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Yes, in the South Bronx at a housing project. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Sorry, though I was replying to a different question. Yes, public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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sorry I meant your kids' school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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read 'Savage Inequalities' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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I saw on NY1 last night parents were upset they never heard about it. I would be furious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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ONE is being is charges as an adult. And they are blaming the girls. Where the hell were the grownups? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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That's ridiculous, it does nothing to serve justice to charge a 14 year old as an adult. It is simply vengeance, misplaced. Oh I supposed the girls placed their vaginas over the guys dicks, yep, their fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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np. Yes, and it was their idea to "switch" partway through. Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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That was last night. Now, they say both are being charged as juveniles. I think the older should be charged as an adult and gets what he deserves in prison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Outrageous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Fucking ridiculous. They rape two girls and there's a question as to whether or not they will be suspended from school? How about expelled? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I am an Asian woman with a light tan and starting to see more than a few gray hairs (sigh). I've stuck with just covering the grays, but am contemplating doing something different with my hair color-wise. I don't really like when I see the very red undertones that often happen when Asian hair is lightened. Any suggestions on how to approach highlights/haircolor etc? Any recs on where to go in NYC to get this done? TIA! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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Go back to China [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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So rude and ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Bitch, please. Take yourself back to the clan or stick your head in the oven. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Sorry, can't help you. 37yo with a full head of black I was born with. I have the browny undertone you speak of, but mine's natural since I've never colored my hair. I've been on the look out for grays but none yet... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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So why would you post if you have nothing to add? Bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Bc she's bragging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] How important are these private school "parent socials"? in 2nd grade...TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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You should go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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More important than you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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Why are they important? I barely ever go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Lord, I don't miss private! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] What's wrong with Facebook today? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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it enables predators; ruins social lives; whores out one's personal data? Oh wait, that's FB every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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To me, it just got boring. I rarely go on anymore. Rarely, rarely post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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I am also thinking of quitting. It's not that I think it is insidious, it's that I have realized I don't even respect half the people there who update. They are all idiots. And I am starting to feel like I am one of them. Now my challenge is to actually remember my password so I can delete my profile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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I am in the process of deleting my account - unfriending those who do not interact with me. I just deleted Linked In. Problem i, I do get some news via FB I would not get elsewhere. Grrr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:44 PM Flag
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I'm off FB. I don't even miss it anymore. My life has only changed for the better because I don't waste precious minutes looking at a high school acquaintance's dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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The problem is their algorithms. There are a very few people I would like to hear from, but the ones I hear from most are those who are constantly updating their status. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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