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[ - ] I realize the frames I bought (coach, from Target optical) are not me. I find I need to wear the glasses all the time now. What are the best online retailers for frames I can try out? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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Tr on? You need to go to various stores! Took me many trips [ Reply | More ]
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Warby Parker. Not many let you try them on. [ Reply | More ]
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They all let you try on if go in person. I went to at least 10 different eye glass stores looking for my frames last summer [ Reply | More ]
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All were UES ish plus Costco and target [ Reply | More ]
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OP said ONLINE. [ Reply | More ]
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d'oh! [ Reply | More ]
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Next time just go to Lenscrafters and try on, then order for cheaper online. Lenscrafters carries Coach, for example. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Am I an awful person because I don’t want to date a guy because he is an Uber driver? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No. I had to choose between a writer guy I was in love with who tended bar, and a nice guy I wasn't even closely sexually attracted to but who was in med school. [ Reply | More ]
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually I've mentioned it on UB in previous years and how both our marriages actually turned out (because one of them married the girl he cheated on me with). [ Reply | More ]
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Who did you pick? [ Reply | More ]
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He can pick you up for dates. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Beginning of a rom com. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a sweet Uber Driver who was also a Paramedic for Mount Sanai. He was such a doll. He was just making extra money because he only has a 4 day shift, but 15 hour days. He said he gets bored on the other days and saves that money towards buying a new house. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] A 15-year old neighbor will babysit my children (3 and 5) on Saturday evening. How much should I pay her (Manhattan)? TYIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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$15 an hour plus dinner (either food from your fridge or money for take-out). [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry to hijack... would that be the same for a recent college grad? [ Reply | More ]
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You need to ask her how much she charges. [ Reply | More ]
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I asked her and she told me that she has not babysat for anyone except her siblings so she does not know. [ Reply | More ]
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I work at a college and the student work study pay is only $11/hr. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need my ladies of UB to help. DH has a job interview next week. He is 57. He wants to look as young as possible without looking like he is trying too hard. We live in flyover in a small town -- dumpy fashion. Interview will be in Chicago. Please help! Photos or places to shop? 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:08 AM Flag
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Also please bear in mind, we are middle class people. Job is in media. [ Reply | More ]
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Get a good hair cut. [ Reply | More ]
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Color hair if gray [ Reply | More ]
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NO [ Reply | More ]
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Luckily, he has most of his hair and it's thick. A little gray on the sides. He is not overweight, thanks a lot Heart Attack [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have time to shop? Close to a Nordstrom? [ Reply | More ]
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I can get to a Nordstrom. What do I buy? [ Reply | More ]
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I think he goes and gets someone on the floor to help him [ Reply | More ]
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Yes they are great if you go in and explain what you are looking for. [ Reply | More ]
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Even in Detroit? I know if I go to my local Macy's, they won't be good [ Reply | More ]
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I think Nordstrom is pretty solid. Worth the shot. [ Reply | More ]
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TY [ Reply | More ]
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I’m in the Detroit area, the Nordstrom at Somerset is great, Partridge Creek would work as well, but I would send him to Somerset if you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:29 AM Flag
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Thank you. We are closer to 12 Oaks, but I thought Somerset would be better. Hey, where in the D do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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I’m in Grosse Pointe, forgot about Twelve Oaks, but I would still go to Somerset. [ Reply | More ]
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Which of the pointes? If this gig does not work out, he may take something in Detroit and I was looking at the Pointes. Do you really think South HS is a must? I feel like North has some nice things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:39 AM Flag
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PS. Sorry to hijack my own post, I guess! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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I’m in the Park and work downtown. All of the Pointes are convenient for commuting there, but being the closest is nice! I think you can get a lot of great things at North, we are in the South district, but only at the elementary level right now. How old are DCs? Any sports? [ Reply | More ]
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DDs are in choir and I see that South has kind of a cheesy show choir program. North looks a little more sophisticated. They are in orchestra. Son runs xc and track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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I think Park has the best/newest parks, right? Do you feel safe? I do worry about kids going to North from very poor area of HW [ Reply | More ]
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I feel that we would love the Pointes if it comes to this. Thank you for answering my questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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Park has the best parks by far (although Farms is pretty good). We love having the movie theater as part of our park too. I feel 100% safe, and personally I think the Park is benefiting the most from the revitalization downtown in terms of home values. People who are moving here from out of the area to work downtown are almost always picking the park. I don’t know much about the choirs at the school, but I do know overall the arts programs are very highly regarded. Sports at South are great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:53 AM Flag
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I have noticed that the area around North is more affordable, which I guess tells me that near South is more popular. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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Correct in general. Also south is ranked higher than north in many areas. I’m assuming not all Dcs are in HS? brownell will divide between north and south and defer all feeds to south. I liked the idea of staying with the same kids so we made sure to be in the Defer district for MS. Also Defer has more diversity than Brownell (what little there is) and I wanted DC to not be in a total bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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NP: He has to buy it. A good suit, tailored well. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: ok got it [ Reply | More ]
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Brooks bros - classic but ask about current popular styles with 40 yr olds [ Reply | More ]
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I think expensive [ Reply | More ]
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No, way too expensive for frumpy mens clothes [ Reply | More ]
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Crest white strips [ Reply | More ]
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Good call [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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If he wears glasses make sure he has trendy (but not crazy) frames that are flattering. Good investment if he is trying to stay active in workforce. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, good idea. He wears contacts but does need reading glasses. He wears 1.00 glasses from the hardware [ Reply | More ]
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He just said "maybe I should buy better reading glasses " lol [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Get him some Eyebobs stat. [ Reply | More ]
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Looking that up now. [ Reply | More ]
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$1.00 that is [ Reply | More ]
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NO perfume! [ Reply | More ]
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He would never. He is Mister Plain Man [ Reply | More ]
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Good grooming - nice haircut, eyebrows are trimmed, nails clean, no aftershave or cologne. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yes. THANK YOU. he gets a dumb buzz at the local supercuts. I need to make him an appointment with my person. [ Reply | More ]
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Good expensive shoes! And a decent watch. [ Reply | More ]
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He wears a Timex. ha. [ Reply | More ]
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That's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:36 AM Flag
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MI Mom from above, don’t know your budget for this job interview makeover, but the Shinola outlet at Great Lakes Crossing has a great selection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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I like Shinola. He turns his nose up at the cost. Very thrifty man...sigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:42 AM Flag
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I would do one of the slim blazers with dark slim jeans ( look at J Crew men for ideas) and a simple button down in blue or white with the top button open. also the J Crew type buck shoes or laced kind of preppy boot. [ Reply | More ]
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Nooooooooo [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know about jeans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:35 AM Flag
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Nonono. Unless he is the editor of Marie Claire magazine and also gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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Op: my husband thinks he should wear gray three season pants and his navy blazer. This might be okay, but it seems old guy. Also, he lost weight, so these wardrobe staples of his will be ill fitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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He needs a suit, not separates that don't match. He'll be able to keep it forever and wear it to other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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no suits! [ Reply | More ]
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No. Suit. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: yes,thank you, will do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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omg - three season pants ?? this sounds like something my Dad , 82 wears. Slacks. [ Reply | More ]
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wrong. it's exactly right. would do a more expensive pair of jeans maybe tho. [ Reply | More ]
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good answer. boot doesn't need to preppy at all though. [ Reply | More ]
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Also, once you get the basics taken care of like suit, shoes, haircut, etc., remember that he doesn't have to fit in perfectly. Part of his charm will be that he is from a small town and it will be okay to seem different. [ Reply | More ]
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my dh is in media. he'd wear black jeans, black, short hip boots, t shirt and a slim fitting button down in an interesting color like olive that isn't the kind of shirt that you tuck in, and an interesting blazer. good luck to your dh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. I just had my first airborne nut reaction. Two kids got in my uber pool and I had a very bad reaction. Luckily I am ok but the aftermath of an attack lasts about a week. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ugh I’m sorry to hear :-( [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like you’re not a candidate for uber pool. Hope you feel better soon. [ Reply | More ]
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oh no! did you have to use an epipen? Is benedryl enough? That is really scary. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/o from divorced 48 year old post below. I think if I ever become divorced or widowed, I probably would just want to single the rest of my life. Dating with kids sounds so stressful, and I’m a very independent person. Anyone else feel this way? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Totally. I think women who date are nuts. Give me my serene apartment and let me stay up as late as I want and not have some man here using my towels and expecting me to make coffee for him. [ Reply | More ]
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This is now me. I am 45, recently divorced with two early teens. I will never re-marry. I'd like to date but I want my own space and my independence. I hope to grow my enduring friendships with my friends and siblings. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Sounds perfect to me [ Reply | More ]
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This is what women with no sex drive feel. Many of my friends say the same. [ Reply | More ]
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agree. df is divorced in her late '40's and is constantly dating. loves sex. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. I’m fine on my own. [ Reply | More ]
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i feel like second marriages sound like such a horror show! [ Reply | More ]
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+1MM [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] East Coast Beach Towns. Besides Outer Banks, which towns in any oceanfront town on the Eastern Seaboard have a lot of actual houses for rent ...Not condos ....( i.e. ; searched Hilton Head and Tybee Island , just coming up with condo developments) . ... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Wrightsville Beach. Maybe Pawley’s Island and Litchfield. [ Reply | More ]
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Love Pawleys Island. Maybe also Murrell’s Inlet. [ Reply | More ]
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Holden Beach. [ Reply | More ]
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Avalon NJ [ Reply | More ]
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Oak Island, Figure Eight Island [ Reply | More ]
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Cape May, Delaware beach towns, Nantucket, Martha’s Vineyard, Maine [ Reply | More ]
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Long Beach Island, NJ [ Reply | More ]
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Avalon or Stone Harbor in NJ [ Reply | More ]
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Nantucket! [ Reply | More ]
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I read a blogger who goes to Kiawah Island [ Reply | More ]
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Margate or Ventnor in Atlantic County in NJ. I rented a wonderful house in Ventnor once. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is the going rate for a FT (50 hours) nanny for one infant in Manhattan? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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$700-900/week [ Reply | More ]
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
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For 50 hours? More like at least $1,000, especially because you're supposed to pay time and a half for more than 40 hours. I don't know anyone in Manhattan who pays less than $20 an hour.... [ Reply | More ]
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You can say 20/then when you make offer, make it like 17 plus OT [ Reply | More ]
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the nanny would still expect $1000 for 50 hours.... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I took a “cool rich” mom friend out to my favorite bar/restaurant one night. She just invited me to her bday dinner and she’s having it at my stop. I was so nervous she would like me or my recommendation, so now I’m really flattered that she chose this place!! I know, csb. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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aw congrats. I know its hard to make mom friends, i know how you feel! [ Reply | More ]
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Haha I’m glad you understand the feeling. I just feel like a loser most of the time. This under the radar spot has been a favorite of mine for almost a decade. [ Reply | More ]
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What neighborhood [ Reply | More ]
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West village [ Reply | More ]
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Wow what’s the place? [ Reply | More ]
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Bell book candle [ Reply | More ]
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I went there once with my cool mom friends too! [ Reply | More ]
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Cool! [ Reply | More ]
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S/o: I don’t go to many of these but I’d like to host one this year... when one invites people to their own bday party, so one cover the expense of food/drink 100%? Or just the drinks..? This feels so awkward to me, pls advise! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Starting a new job that requires “business attire” after a career of casual dress code. I’m in my 40s but follow fashion and like a slightly edgy look. Don’t want to spend a fortune. Suggestions on where to shop ? I already know about Theory, prefer somethings little more forward and also less expensive 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My advice (same age, same boat) - buy some basics that are less edgy, more classic and well made - shells, trousers, etc. Soend extra for those pieces (or spend a lot of time in consignment stores). Go edgy / fashion forward with jackets / sweaters / shoes. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I would 100% recommend that you get a stylist. They can get the best deals and have an eye for multipurpose clothes. Mine isn’t working anymore but I found her through my hairdresser. [ Reply | More ]
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Kooples for suits and pants. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you I will check this out ! [ Reply | More ]
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In the past would have said lord n Taylor sale decks for suits. Maybe Macy’s now? But both not fashion forward. A Suit is pretty vanilla! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you, but i don’t need suits. Something like tight black pants and a silk top would probably work and be more my style. [ Reply | More ]
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That’s not business attire [ Reply | More ]
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I would buy a few basic pieces to get you through the first week or two, until you see what other women at your level actually wear. Very few women in my office still wear suits every day, even when the guys are in suits and ties. I hate pants suits, so I wear mostly dresses. [ Reply | More ]
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I have occasional luck w Uniqlo’s special collections. But I agree with above that simple staples plus edgier accents or shorter term pieces work well. [ Reply | More ]
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A dress in ponte-like fabric and a jacket. For suits, jcrew/talbots. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is Banksy? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Mystery artist [ Reply | More ]
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Are you some special breed of lazy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Banksy [ Reply | More ]
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No, I was showing off that I knew the final Jeopardy answer. Aren't we all watching simultaneous like? [ Reply | More ]
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P.S. I totally got "Pitcairn" yesterday but didn't post. You can ask DH if you don't believe me. [ Reply | More ]
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Sad that you need to brag about it here where no one cares. [ Reply | More ]
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Well I would get ample Kudos at home, but DH is away this week. But you need only suffer through six more of these posts. Are you always monitoring UB in the evening? [ Reply | More ]
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24/7. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL 'some special breed of lazy' I'm stealing that. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Camp parents: What do first year camp counselors usually earn? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No idea. Enough I hope; our camp prohibits tipping. [ Reply | More ]
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My guess is peanuts, but they probably have no expenses and nowhere to spend their money. (I am assuming you mean sleepaway) [ Reply | More ]
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I work at a camp and the counselors make less than minimum wage, a lot less, but it is an affluent camp and the parents tip really well, thank goodness. I always feel really bad for them, most of them work really hard. [ Reply | More ]
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Sleep away? Not much, but they get room and board and get to use all the sports / water equipment. Wonderful, fun summer! Plus they won't spend any money! [ Reply | More ]
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Like $2000 for the summer. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] First world problems. Snarky answers not needed. For 18+ years, give or take a few years, I was a SAHM for my DD. Where we live, no school bus, etc. Activities not at school, etc. My DH travelled constantly. Often 4-5 days a week. She had an operation one year and medical issues, etc. Starting in 11th grade, he started a new WAHM job. She started driving. We have a small house in a city area and instead of me finally enjoying the freedom, I now find spaced out of my house. He takes over every room some how and makes a lot of noise and mess. I miss my routine, the quiet and looking forward to the year or two that she was home but I wasn’t always needed. I don’t want to get a job just bc I just want to feel like I have nowhere to go in my own home. Anyone else? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, but I feel sad reading this and hope things improve. We have a small house in a city also, my dh works from home a lot and it is hard. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks. I feel bad that I am so bothered but i was used to my routine, quiet to recover and freedom to move about. He buzzes around constantly and just drives me bonkers. I go in our room (very small) to just get some privacy but it makes me feel gross and I am so much less productive. I used to run the ship. He works in my DDs old study room so she is in her bed or kitchen now. It’s like he took it all over but if you bring it up he gets upset. IDK. [ Reply | More ]
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My dh has an office in the backyard. Do this! [ Reply | More ]
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...you just built a small office. He thinks it’s a waste of money. He said he has the door closed but he is in and out constantly bc nature of his job not 24 hours in front of computer. [ Reply | More ]
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This! Just get him a 6 man tent. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there any corner you can set up that’s just for you? [ Reply | More ]
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...I did that for about a year in the kitchen and did a little online job but that was even worse. He is always in there. He takes long lunches and puts on old comedy shows very loudly. Miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:22 AM Flag
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No, but in the 1950s when it was common for the DH to WOH and the DW to SAH forever many women complained when their husbands retired and started spending their days at home. They also expected constant service from the wives. Maybe he could get an office out of the home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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...he says no need [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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So tell him there is a need! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:40 AM Flag
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My DH is a SAHD and if he ever complained about me spending time in the house I pay for, I’d flip F out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:21 AM Flag
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OP: I don’t mind that he’s home per se but his job is not always in front of computer/in office. He has taken over my DD’s study room, back bedroom for working out and using bathroom and sleeping if he snores, always in the kitchen, family computer and front room/den to watch TV or Netflix. All that is left is our bedroom and DDs bedroom. I used to use DDs room to work out, the kitchen and home computer were vital and the front room for being up with DD at night studying or otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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...also after so many years of doing the day and night routine solo. The mess, food, laundry, space and just feeling like I have someone watching me all day is just hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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Do you stay in one room all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:03 AM Flag
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...I try to get out for some reason whether errands or gym sometimes but can’t stay out forever but yes, mostly just go to my room bc he is basically in every room and it’s loud and messy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:56 AM Flag
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...in the nice weather, I can go in the porch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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That’s you minding that’s he’s home... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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...if he had an office and mostly stayed there but I guess bc he had taken over all of my areas where I had my routine as well as DDs studybarea just seems suffocating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:29 AM Flag
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Why does he mostly need to stay in the office? It’s HIS HOUSE TOO. I get that it’s an adjustment, but it’s not OK to resent him just for being home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:45 AM Flag
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Her issue is that he is roaming the house creating messes all day long. I get it OP, my dh doesn't create messes but he needs his own space. If I am wherever he is, he can't work. Even if I am not doing anything disruptive. It is tough to get used to this new dynamic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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Again, his house too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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...OP: Its our house but he has made it his house. Every room is his...his clothes, stuff, computer bookmarks, messes, TVs always in his channels...and he is never really in his office my DD has a great study area and as the SAHM I had the kitchen area. Now we just go upstairs. He has all the electronics at night and the kitchen and messes and TV during the day. It’s a compromise. We had another bedroom but he took DDs study room bc he liked the light better. I get it but he also uses the backroom for other things. Working out. Clothes depot. Napping. Own bathroom bc downstairs during the day. It will work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:52 AM Flag
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OP I get it. Use UB as a place to vent. We live in a small apartment and I can't stand if anyone stays home sick. I get nothing done. I think laying out ground rules helps. "Honey I'm going to do bills and emails in the bedroom can you please work at the kitchen table. Or whatever works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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...most ppl on here are WOHMs which I totally respect. I stayed home bc it was just easier with DH gone all the time. I think doubly bad bc I was looking forward to this year or so and now it’s just felt miserable. I go sit in my car in a parking lot and talk to a friend, close my eyes, sit in my room all day bc he just roams about the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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...I literally stayed in bed all day today...not bc I wanted to just didn’t want to go downstairs and didn’t feel like forcing myself out on a dreary day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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DH WOH and I SAHM with a three year old. We’re all together 24/7 unless DH travels for work. We’re in a large home though. It was difficult when we were in a smaller place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:37 AM Flag
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OP: Our house needs to be renovated. I feel we should move for a dedicated space not on main level. He won’t work on lower level (townhouse entry) so need upstairs bedroom. He thinks when DD is in college but all she has is her room. He still has the whole main floor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:40 AM Flag
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...I need to get him off the main floor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:40 AM Flag
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OP. If he was retired, maybe he would go out sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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I 100% understand. Finally, I got dh to rent a small office at a coworking space and he goes there a few days per week. In the end, he enjoys the interaction and structure and I love the alone time. Do you have WeWork or similar where you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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...we do; he’s just against it. I get it. And I don’t. He will pop out now and then to a Starbucks or similar but maybe two hours and yes...I get so much done! I can finally feel like the kitchen is clean, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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I get it. There is nothing like the time at the end of the day, when the house is clean, the laundry is done, dinner is prepped, and I can sit down and read or watch tv for 30 minutes. Then, everyone comes home and I'm back to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:52 AM Flag
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...miss those days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Can you join a gym? go for walks? Go to the library? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:56 AM Flag
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...I do all those things, including take and make calls in the parking lot and even close my eyes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Find a place outside of the home. My Dh started working from home...and he seems to be always here following me around. I joined a great gym, I work out, hang with new friends. It is better for me and better for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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...follows me around and then just hangs around; his job is not that busy like in a 9-5 way but I can only take so much under foot...posted below...found an interim solution [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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I've been wfh ft for years. My dh just started wfh too. At first it drove my nuts, but now it is better. We take a short walk most days and get some stuff around the house done together. Our kids are still fairly young (8 + 10) so getting some time alone together is nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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+1 We go to lunch together at least once a week. The transition was harder but getting better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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...I do like having him home more but he agrees, he can’t really sit as his desk so it’s become a problem. Last year, when I was doing some work in the kitchen it was a bit better but now it’s like he barely uses the office but to make a call. So I also have to watch him barely work. Not easy either but that’s out of my control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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OP: Hi All! Just poke to DH. He is starting to get it. There is a WeWork around the corner. He will do something for three months just so my DD can get back into a study routine...she said that would be good. We can kind of just do a normal schedule for awhile until school is out. He agreed that he is in the kitchen and roaming about (constantly)...perhaps he is coming to the conclusion that he works better in an office or worth a shot. Wish us luck! Thanks for the positive feedback. It’s just for a little while and then we can readjust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone seen the Swedish movie "Force Majeure" on Amazon? The red headed guy is like an extra from Braveheart- so hot! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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Which one, Christopher Hivju?? Ew, he is NOT HOT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:26 AM Flag
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Oh Wikipedia says he's on Game of Thrones, too. Perfect show for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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It's a dark comedy- they're doing a remake (of course) with Will Ferrell and Julia Louis Dreyfuss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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I am so confused by the OP and the 1st 2 responses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:22 AM Flag
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I Really liked this film when it came out a few years ago. An American version is coming out soon - with Will Ferrell. Hmmmmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:34 AM Flag
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I can't see Will Ferrell doing this role well. The most serious I've seen him was in the Lifetime movie he did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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check him out in this - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0420223/ Stranger than Fiction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 12:59 AM Flag
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Totally agree that he is hot! And I don't usually go for red heads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.18.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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