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[ - ] Random, but is it normal to cry alot? Or is it indicative of other issues? I just read a post from a friend/acquaintance announcing that their dog has just died. I looked through the pictures of the dog and immediately started bawling. I only even met the dog once, but couldn't stop crying. Yesterday I cried watching coverage of the cyclone in Mozambique, and last week cried a few times about the mosque shooting. Sometimes after arguing about silly things with DH, I'll get frustrated and cry. It's just weird to me bc by all accounts I'm a very happy person, love my life, and am pretty strong so I'm not generally sensitive and don't get my feelings hurt easily, so what gives? Normal? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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Lucinda Williams: Am I too blue for you? Am I too blue? When I cry like the sky Like the sky sometimes Am I too blue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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This is purely my experience, but I am just a crier. I cry easily when things upset or overwhelm me (or happy things, too). I also consider myself overall a very happy and positive person. I don't think it necessarily means anything is "wrong." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:45 PM Flag
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I am a crier and cry very easily but I attribute that to having grown up with a verbally abusive mother. I am now well adjusted and stable, very positive person but some things just trigger me and I cry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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I cry constantly from February through April. I think I'm generally depressed. Maybe that's you as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Taking my 11 year old DS to Manhattan for a few days over spring break and would like to see a show. Lion King, Aladdin, or something else? FWIW, he's never been to a broadway show. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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lion king is great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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Lion King is wonderful. I was very pleasantly surprised by how great Aladdin was - I enjoyed it a lot, and my dc loved it. I just saw My Fair Lady with my dc (10), and it was tremendous. You can't go wrong with any of these 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I saw a post yesterday, but it didn't get a lot of responses. would not taking the state test harm dd when applying to middle school? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:38 PM Flag
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some middle schools have 1000+ applicants for 100 seats. And more than half have kids have mid double 4's. Why would they take a kid who opted out over another with double 4's. What are you trying to hid, would be my first thought? And, why cant your kid follow rules like the rest? [ Reply | More ]
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this is not how MS think at all. there are a million reason why a kid would not take the test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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if already in ny state public, what would be a reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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They have kids who move here from outside nyc who have never taken the tests. They also have private schools kids switching over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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that I get. but if you just opt out that day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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You need to check with each MS. They have their own rubrics - some give state tests a great deal of weight, others not. But you're certainly not the first to opt out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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What district and what schools do you want to apply to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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district 2, not sure where will be applying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Why are you opting out? Are you against the test in general or concerned DC won't score well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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OP has to say what district. I am in D15 and opt out rate here was very high even before the new diversity plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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op she has adhd, does not test well, but is a good student, lots of 4's and some 3's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I just took a whole Adderall pill instead of half like I usually take. Kinda scared. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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You should be fine. Drink lots of water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:29 PM Flag
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How many mg? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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20 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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You'll be ok. Make sure to eat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] DH has been seeing a psychiatrist for anxiety meds for a couple of months. At his last appointment, he told her that he wasn't getting a lot of sleep because our two year old DD is sleeping in our bed. Her response was "I know a good behavioral therapist for her." WTF? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:17 PM Flag
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why is a two year old sleeping in your bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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OP - Once we moved the new baby into her room, she refused to sleep in there. It is 100% our fault, but I don't see it as a behavioral problem on DD's part. We're working on getting her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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Therapists help people do whatever they're working on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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not flaming at all, but there is working at it, just do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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A problem was mentioned. Her colleague addresses that problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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well, if he/you not sleeping, she needs to not be in your bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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sorry, bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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OP - I completely agree, but a therapist? Is this really a behavioral problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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It is a behavior that is inconvenient and helps no one. It would be ideal if you could modify that behavior. It's a free country, do whatever you want, they're trying to help you get sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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I agree recommending a therapist for cosleeping with a 2yo is too much. I was so anti-co-sleeping until we had DB2 and we just couldn't deal with the night time waking up. Modifying such behaviors that are highly comforting to toddlers is very difficult and it takes time. Behavioral therapist is too much. Make a plan how to wean DD from the cosleeping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Until age 37 I had fabulous hair. Wavy/loose curls, abundant, gorgeous golden color. Since then it has fallen out and thinned to the point that my ponytail is now less than a single pigtail used to be; elastic goes around it 3+ times. Is there anything I can do to reverse this? Just seems to get worse and worse. I don't look like a freak yet but it's a shadow of what it once was. People in salons used to ask to make their hair like mine; now it's sad-looking. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:16 PM Flag
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I am not a big advocate of hormone bc breast cancer is in my family but you may need them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:18 PM Flag
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But I'm not menopausal yet. Still getting period like clockwork. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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Maybe spironolactone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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Maybe spironolactone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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I'm afraid this is going to be me. Sigh. Biotin pills, and avoid washing and blow drying any more than absolutely necessary! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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does biotin work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Just remember that any blood tests you get could be affected by biotin, so be sure to let the doctor know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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I used to have auburn hair. Now it's brown. My bff from childhood saw me recently and said "what happened to your hair". Idk why it's brown. People ask me where my kids got their red hair and I can't answer "from me". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Me too. With each pregnancy I lost it and it never really came back. [ Reply | More ]
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But the kids have good hair, right? Mine do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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I was hoping they’d get their dad’s (he has awesome hair, full and thick even at 45) but I think they got mine. I hope they don’t go bald like every man and woman on my side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:38 PM Flag
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Rogaine men’s foam 2x/day religiously [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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Well you’re getting older [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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There was a great article in the most recent Colubmia Alumni magazine (cover story). A woman MD/researcher (can't recall name) found a possible cure for hair loss. They tested on Alpecea patients and I think 70% had hair regrowth. She is treating the hair follicles like IVF - growing outside the body then implanting. Amazing stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Hypnobirthing??? What in the world is this? Sister in law is doing this for her baby’s birth. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:05 PM Flag
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It is a birthing technique that has been around a very long time; friend used it to have her now-24 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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It's a fairly common relaxation technique for labor. I know quite a few people who've done it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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I did this with my second baby and it made a huge difference! It is basically mindfulness techniques applied to laboring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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I had my 3rd naturally because the dipshits wouldn't admit me to L&D until it was too late for an epi. My best technique to deal with it was screaming. I screamed through the contractions and then through the stitches. Worked great. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] HR parents: how long are personnel files kept by a company? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not an HR person but I think it depends on state and federal requirements, which can range from 3 to 6 years for payroll and benefits stuff. Now that almost everything is electronic, things can probably last into perpetuity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I have to deliver a very important presentation on Wednesday for which I am woefully underprepared. I have been working on this project for months non-stop, but still not enough time. I am panicking. I know that I am going to be grilled, and I am feeling extremely unconfident (but would be best, obviously, not to let this show). Does anyone have any tips for a situation like this? I somehow have to present information and respond to questions in a way that suggests that I am competent and well informed, even though I feel overwhelmed. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:44 PM Flag
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Write down all of the questions you are likely to be asked, and then write down the answers and practice them out loud in front of a mirror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:46 PM Flag
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Okay, thank you. This sounds very rational. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:49 PM Flag
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np: Whenever I have to give a presentation I practice saying it in the shower, over and over. Agree with practicing answers for questions. And if something comes up you can't answer, respond that is a great question and you will research and follow up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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Is there someone who is better at it who can make the presentation for you to give? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:06 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:19 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are well informed but not competent. At this point any presentation is better than none. Start with something simple so you have anything to show for your self and build out as time allows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:07 PM Flag
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Unfortunately I am not well informed either! I know quite a lot about the topic, but I will be speaking with experts who know far more about it than I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:29 PM Flag
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If you have been preparing for months in what way are you underprepared? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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A high level of expertise is expected and I haven't been able to acquire it within the timeframe (sounds like a lot of time, I know, but in fact it was not enough given how much material I've needed to go through) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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If you have been preparing for months in what way are you underprepared? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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Every single time I have ever felt this way (as in, for almost every presentation I have ever given) it has gone way more smoothly than I anticipated. If you have been working on this for months, you are way more familiar with the info than anyone else in the room. Also, you will be suprised how many people are spaced out and not really interested in the info (source: how many important presentations have you sat through and not asked a single question?). The advice above about writing down questions is good. Also have a “good question, this is outside the scope of the project at this stage but something we are prepared to consider as it progresses,” and “while that is an interesting point, it’s not something of impact to xyz project.” Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:14 PM Flag
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Have those canned responses ready to deflect from irrelevant observations/ questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:15 PM Flag
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Okay, thank you. This is really helpful. The problem is that there will in fact be experts in the room who do care about the topic. They will be friendly but they will also pose difficult questions. I think that everyone's advice is spot on though. I will start rehearsing some lines later tonight.... Really hoping that I can somehow get through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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Sometimes you can go to the crowd when you want to deflect. "This is an issue I hadn't considered, is anyone else here confronting that as well?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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Thank you. These are great suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
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If all the answers were known, there'd be nothing to discuss. Every project is a work in progress. Just highlight what is unknown as being interesting and worth exploring. [ Reply | More ]
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You don’t know what you don’t know. I have very esteemed colleague who says this. Tell them you don’t know and will look into it. Thanks for the feedback and good point. You can’t chanfe what they think of you. I personally have respect for people for trying. FWIW I am in the exact situation you are and also very scared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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Yes, you're right. I cannot "bs" my way through this particular presentation. Everyone in the room will know if I say something incorrect. I am trying to come up with an elegant way of admitting when I've been pushed to the limits of my knowledge (something that is certain to happen). Best of luck with your presentation! I hope you knock it out of the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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Thanks--another good idea. I really appreciate everyone's help! I've given many presentations before, but the structure of this one will be different (almost more of an interview than a presentation) and it is the single most daunting challenge that I have had to face in my career to date. I'm very nervous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Good luck! Please post back and let us know how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Do people with lots of friends sometimes feel like they have no friends, because their confidence wavers based on mood swings or some other reason? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:28 PM Flag
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I'd have to ask them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:32 PM Flag
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op: I used to have a decent amount of friends before SN dc changed my life, and I think even then, my mood affected that perception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:33 PM Flag
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Okay, well, there's a study of one. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Not the optimal time to ask, but it's morning coffee at work moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:35 PM Flag
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Of course. Everyone feels like this at some point because everyone has moments of insecurity and a lack of confidence. Ride it out. You will feel differently by the end of the day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:51 PM Flag
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I have a very dear friend who is the most socially active person I know, but if you ask her she would say she gets lonely and never goes out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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YES. me. I feel like I have no friends. Then out of the blue two friends called this week concerned how I am doing and thanking me for connecting them to each other and to a larger group of friends. It was really heartening and unexpected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] At 46 I still take the same birth control pill I have for years, the gyn says to stop at 50. I skip the pills sometimes, and I stop for a period every couple of months or so. I'm mainly using it for mental health reasons, since it took me the longest to get pg with my 3rd ten years ago (9 months of trying), so I don't think I'll get pg. My psychiatrist says she had a patient who couldn't stop hormones until 72 because it threw her into depression when she tried to stop. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:27 PM Flag
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Is there a question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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Why do you stop for a period? That seems to negate the whole point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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To give my system a break from the hormones, but not a long enough break that I lose my mood control and go into menopause (my mom entered menopause at 45). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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???? This makes no sense. Menopause is one moment in time. It is determined retroactively. You have gone through menopause when you have gone one year without a period. The years before menopause is perimenopause and the time after is post-menopause. You are 46. You are most likely in perimenopause with your BCP or without. Your body is going to go through menopause when it is ready to and BCP is not going to postpone that event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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Birth control pills are very safe and may reduce the incidence of certain cancers. (Endometrial and ovarian). That said, there are a few risks (blood clots, similar to the kind people get when on an airplane too long). The interesting thing is that the most likely time to have an issue is the first month or so when starting/restarting the pill. In other word...DONT JUST RANDOMLY stop the pill and restart. You are increasing your risk of a rare complication and you aren’t doing yourself any favors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m getting in this habit of waking up at 5 - getting everything ready for the day. Kids stuff breakfast and lunch then going back to sleep around now and waking up at 10. Is this unhealthy? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:06 PM Flag
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So up from 5-8 and napping from 8-10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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Whatever works. I sometimes snooze on the train to work (get to work by 7:30). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:09 PM Flag
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Are you anxious about getting everything done? I get up early to get everything done too but just end up going to bed early. Are you upset about anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:13 PM Flag
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Yes and yes. Stressed out about things preventing me from early bedtime. But do feel so exhausted after getting stuff done so early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:15 PM Flag
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NP: I think this is fine. There have been a lot of articles recently about how sleep doesn’t need to be a continuous 7-8 hours and some people do better breaking it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:20 PM Flag
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Yeah, it sounds like you are having some anxiety/depression issues at the moment. Doesn't sound like you have them all of the time but maybe something going on now. I would try to work on those issues if you can and then the anxiety will normalize. Exercise and Vitamin C helps - not to get all natural on you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:21 PM Flag
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Helpful! Thanks, I know there’s some stuff going on in my head. I’m all for natural remedies:-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:25 PM Flag
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Sounds like you need a job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:47 PM Flag
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I have one, thanks d [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Get up at 5 but don't go back to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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Do whatever works for you. My mother used to get up at 4:30am and then come home from work at 2pm and take a nap until 5pm. It's how her body worked, she coudln't sleep past 5am no matter what and then just crashed in the afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I am not happy in NYC anymore but don't know where I would want to live. Have two young DCs who are in a great school and I love the community. I feel like I am too old (mid 40's) to start all over again. Anyone else feel like this? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 11:58 AM Flag
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Why aren’t you happy in NYC? Is it money, the stress, other things? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:21 PM Flag
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OP: We make plenty of money for any other place in the country but in NYC it doesn't go as far. Everything seems to be just a little bit harder here and I am not finding the charm anymore in the city. It feels dirty and just a little bit gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:27 PM Flag
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Don't relocate to the Bay Area. Also wlldly expensive! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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Everyplace is crowded and expensive now, except maybe the Midwest. Population has ballooned since we were younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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Do you have family anywhere else? How young are DCs? They can be surprisingly resilient, and so can adults! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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NP: I do. It's expensive and hyper-competitive and crowded. But on the other hand, I love the diversity of it, and I love not having to drive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:39 PM Flag
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I love not having to drive, too. 4 great supermarkets and farmers market within a few blocks walking distance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:05 PM Flag
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As soon as DH's DCs were both in college, we chucked it all and moved abroad. Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 12:42 PM Flag
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That is highly irrelevant to OP's question, but good for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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Hello, are you me? DH and I are pre-kids and ready to GTFO of this place as soon as humanly possible (ie one of us finds a real job in a few other markets we have our eyes on). It was like Disneyworld in our 20s, work hard, play hard, but now it's just a disgusting, grimy expensive cesspool. The charm has completely worn off. Every time we come home from a trip, part of me dies a little inside every time we land at the airport. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:32 PM Flag
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Wow. Some big problems there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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OR - ok maybe this was a bit harsh. I can't tell how much the quality of life has truly deteriorated, or if it's just my patience wearing thin after so many years. But I am frankly tired of spending $4k/mo on a 1br apartment and being accosted by schizophrenic homeless people everywhere I go. To each their own I guess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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But how do you really feel? [ Reply | More ]
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The weather is killing me. I feel like these past two years have been rainy and gray. Fantasize about going someone warm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.25.19, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you buy foreign stamps anywhere in the US or online? Want to buy ahead of going on my trip for postcards... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Where are you going ? And the answer is no. [ Reply | More ]
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