• Filter the conversation
[ - ] What is NOKD? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:57 AM Flag
»
It is supposed to be NKOTB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:59 AM Flag
»
not our kind, dear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Nanny - If you want housekeeping to be performed by your nanny, you have to include this upfront in the job description. I, for one, don't do any laundry/non-kid related clean ups. There are many who do, however, so if you want that you have to ask for it. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:52 AM Flag
»
Let me guess, you use urbanbaby while the baby sleeps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:53 AM Flag
»
Yes, I do use the internet while the child is napping and my employers are aware of that. My duties are to the child, not the house. While the child is resting and doesn't need my care, I observe and play around on the internet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:54 AM Flag
»
You got lucky. Most employers would not be okay with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:00 AM Flag
»
Employer: who doesn't know this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:37 AM Flag
»
Look in the most popular post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:54 AM Flag
»
Would you take your kids to swim lessons where you get in the water? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:37 AM Flag
»
Her kids or the kids she is watching? If the latter - did the employer specify this in the job requirement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:55 AM Flag
»
Her nanny kids. I will post this tomorrow. I am curious to get more feedback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:46 AM Flag
»
I've never been to classes like that, but for one family I brought the kids regularly to the pool in their building and I got in the water with them. I, however, was a live in and they were old enough that I could shower briefly afterwards. Is this a reference to something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:56 AM Flag
»
Why do you need to shower afterwards? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:56 AM Flag
»
The sticky chlorine feeling bothers me (doesn't it bother everybody). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I never thought it would happen to me: I've got the menopausal gut. I used to run, was always tall and thin. Now I'm tall and flabby. Nothing fits right. I hate the sight of me. Ugh. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 04.17.14, 03:40 AM Flag
»
welcome to middle age. as a grandmother of a friend said, getting old ain't for sissies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:27 AM Flag
»
I know. I see all these cute young things in the short skirts and cute shoes that I used to wear and I want to say "Oh yeah, I used to look like that too! Live it up, it doesn't last!" But that would be bitter, wouldn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:31 AM Flag
»
i hear ya. youth is wasted on the young, isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:50 AM Flag
»
Preach! I too was always tall and thin and when I laid down, my belly was absolutely concave. When I had my hyst. about 7 years ago, my Gyn said, "Well you sure have kept your girlish figure." (Which was kind of weird, but I'll take it, lol) Then the nurse that scrubbed my belly said, "Oh, you have a tiny tummy!" Now I weight the same, but just last night, I tried on an old belt that I used to use years ago, even when my weight was a little more, and I can't EVEN get it around me. I thought I was going to be "the one" who escaped it, but nah..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:33 AM Flag
»
we all think we are going to be the one to escape it, but... sigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:51 AM Flag
»
Oh, honey, I feel your pain! I also don't skimp on the martinis and wine, but the age is definitely hitting me hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:35 AM Flag
»
you need the martinis and wine to cope, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:37 AM Flag
»
at least you weigh the same. I weigh 10 pounds more but it feels - and looks - like 20! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:53 AM Flag
»
ain't it the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:38 AM Flag
»
may I ask how old you are? I'm 45 and I'm seriously about to call my doctor….I never fluctuate more than 3 to 4 pounds…I'm talking in like 15 to 20 years (also the tall/thin scenario) and this winter I seem to have gained a solid 7 pounds! And I'm worried that something is up with my thyroid or something? It was the worst winter and rarely did i get out an exercise but I feel like something is just off. Is this what happens at 45? I can only fit in 2 pairs of jeans and I own like 12! What goes on that causes this in middle age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:00 AM Flag
»
i think you will very likely be srprised to find that your hormones and everything else is normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:01 AM Flag
»
^^ less muscle mass slows down metabolism big time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:02 AM Flag
[ - ] The UB bitches are definitely back 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:37 AM Flag
»
you ought to know, being one and all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:22 AM Flag
»
what happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] My sister is raising our other sister's daughter (other sister passed away). I've noticed that she doesn't put as much time and attention into our niece as she does to her kids. Slathers her kids in sunscreen, let's niece burn. Fixes her kids' hair perfectly and dresses them to the nines, let niece look like an asylum patient. Buys her kids expensive presents, buys niece cheap presents. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:23 AM Flag
»
Don't judge unless you are willing to take the child in yourself. MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:24 AM Flag
»
Can you take niece in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:24 AM Flag
»
I don't have the resources do to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:24 AM Flag
»
Do what you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:42 AM Flag
»
I cannot do anything in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:44 AM Flag
»
Fake. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:29 AM Flag
»
i think it cannot be helped for some people. if you can't do better, leave it be. she'll get her just desserts someday from niece. but niece has to be grateful still because she didn't end up in foster care. where's gramma? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:29 AM Flag
»
Totally fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:51 AM Flag
»
F'KIN FAKE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:56 AM Flag
»
One of the most messed up people I've known grew up like this. She was adopted, then the parents had a biological child. The father was kind, but the mother was a monster who ignored her, treated her like a second-class citizen. It was so painful to watch. I suspect physical abuse as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you marry someone of a different religion. I went on a date with a nice, smart non-Jew. I'm Jewish. Never thought I'd consider going this route, but I'm not getting any younger.... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:09 AM Flag
»
I married an atheist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:26 AM Flag
»
i married a Jew and I am not a Jew. Married happily 14 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:26 AM Flag
»
of course. i'll bet he's willing to let your kids be jewish. and anyway, they will be jewish, regardless of his preference. good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:10 AM Flag
»
Well, genetically they will be half Jewish but in the chalakhic sense they will be Jews, yes...but culturally speaking, in the secular sense, they will be no more Jewish than someone w/ a Jewish father and gentile mother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:41 AM Flag
»
I did but we discussed kids religions early on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:11 AM Flag
»
Plus one. Our values and ethics are totally in sync and that matters most to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:25 AM Flag
»
Depends on if they feel strong about their religion or if they would let you raise DCs with your religion.. and how their family feels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:13 AM Flag
»
Yes. In your case your kids would still be Jewish anyway. Hopefully he would agree to raise them Jewish or even consider conversion himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:19 AM Flag
»
wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:01 AM Flag
»
we are a catholic/muslim couple. 10 years happily married. Kids are under 5 and for now we celebrate holidays from both religions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:23 AM Flag
»
That's so sweet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:59 AM Flag
»
stay away from tom cruise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:23 AM Flag
»
Yes, of course. Your level of comfort depends on how invoked you are with your religion and whether you are open to participating in his (if he has one). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:40 AM Flag
»
Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:29 AM Flag
»
I did. We talked a lot before getting married. Raising the kids Jewish was a deal breaker for me, I was ready to walk if he didn't agree to this. But he did and we just returned home from 3 nights at my parents' for Passover. It was hard enough to find anyone I liked, I didn't want to limit myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:49 AM Flag
»
if you have to ask this question on a board I'm not sure you can handle it. Signed catholic that married a jew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Ex bf is telling me I deserve better. Is it ok to just say thanks? lol 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:05 AM Flag
»
yes, as long as he stays an ex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:08 AM Flag
»
now he wants a sexy pic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:46 AM Flag
»
fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:34 AM Flag
»
lol...I wish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:38 AM Flag
[ - ] My kids aren't babies anymore, my life is blah and both my knees are injured. The ennui is setting in. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:51 AM Flag
»
time for an affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:35 AM Flag
»
OP: people who do this are trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:58 AM Flag
»
i agree, at least trashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:01 AM Flag
»
people do this of every SES; new money, old money, every ethnicity, Ivy League, state school, etc ad infiinitum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Yes, and so matter your HHI, having an affair is trashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
*no matter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:05 AM Flag
»
*shrug* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:51 AM Flag
»
Mine aren't either. Having all sorts of joint issues too! Wish I had more kids but probably because I'm feeling blah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:53 AM Flag
»
Sorry. :-( so what do we do about it?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:00 AM Flag
»
Wish I knew! Traveling is helping a bit for me. My knees probably hurt too much to have a hot and steamy affair anyway! ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:03 AM Flag
»
my dc is still a baby and it's exhausting! Fun, but exhausting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:44 AM Flag
»
OP: don't get me wrong, I'm still exhausted....my kids are little...and I do have fun with them.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:03 AM Flag
»
I know how exhausting it is but next thing you know they are so big. Definitely easier to watch the older grow having a little one behind. Now I just want to stop time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Find a new passion, doesn't have to be an affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:16 AM Flag
»
My passion was running but now I'm injured. Op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] When you were in elementary school, did they try to integrate the retarded kids into regular classes in some fashion (integrative model), or were they mostly separated or tracked into a different set of programs? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:48 AM Flag
»
separated. i wish they'd do it again. there was an autistic kid last year who would disrupt the class. can't do diddley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:10 AM Flag
»
My school had a push-in program, similar to what the educational vogue is right now (although many schools and districts still are not doing push-in). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Retard tracked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:11 AM Flag
»
this made me laugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:02 AM Flag
»
Sounds like you were on that track yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:41 AM Flag
»
R-word.org [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:41 AM Flag
»
totally separate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:58 AM Flag
»
yes, it worked out okay, but we had a small group about 12 kids they had their own classes, but moved in and out of "regular" classes for things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:59 AM Flag
»
They were in the room down the hall. BTW, we don't use "retarded" anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:17 AM Flag
»
YOU don't use retarded anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:03 AM Flag
»
Polite society doesn't either, np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
I'm not polite and I don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:06 AM Flag
»
Yuck, trashy and LC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:59 AM Flag
»
Clearly (on both counts) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:38 AM Flag
»
You know who else uses that word--assholes and cunts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:07 AM Flag
»
And you know who else are assholes and cunts? People who use the words "assholes" and "cunts," so I guess I'll see you in hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:11 AM Flag
»
Oh honey, I'm already there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:14 AM Flag
»
oh, then. i don't take opinions from hella. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:27 AM Flag
»
This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:39 AM Flag
»
I'm using "retarded" in the accurate medical sense of mental cretinism; not as an insult or slur. So, it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:22 AM Flag
»
It's not fine, but nice try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:26 AM Flag
»
You're confusing two uses of the word - the pejorative ("Haha, Billy dropped the ball, what a retard!") with the descriptive ("An IQ composite score of under 65 on the WAIS is considered a strong indicator of mental retardation"). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:12 AM Flag
»
but you don't call that mental cretinism except to be an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:15 AM Flag
»
No, I'm not. I know everything you know AND understand that the term retard is not commonly used even in the medical profession. What do you do for work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:32 AM Flag
»
but why shouldn't it? it's like "remedial." remedial means to make better. kids used to take remedial classes to remedy their academic weaknesses. now, slow kids take "accelerated math" because they are being taught at an accelerated rate from their lower base. that is retarded and totally bastardizes the use of the word "accelerated." by the same token, "retarded" mean slowed down, as in mentally slow because, well, mentally retarded people are mentally slow compared to others. people are just retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:41 AM Flag
»
one can use the term "nigger" to refer to black people, and even if they use it in a non-derogatory way, it is still a hateful word to use. still not ok. hth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:12 AM Flag
»
That term was ALWAYS a slur. A comparable usage would be something like the set of terms "caucasoid" "mongoloid" and "africanoid" to describe skeletal anatomy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:14 AM Flag
»
thank you for the more accurate parallel. i think together we provided an adequate argument for not calling kids tards anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:40 AM Flag
»
how could nigger not be derogatory. it is not negro. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:16 AM Flag
»
well, if it's in regards to mental cretinism... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:12 AM Flag
»
This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:40 AM Flag
»
R-word.org [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:37 AM Flag
»
You couldnt just say Special Needs, OP? Really??..., [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:40 AM Flag
»
everyone has special needs. don't be retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:47 AM Flag
»
NOKD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 04:01 AM Flag
»
That was a looooooong time ago. Since I don't remember knowing any retarded kids in elementary school, I have to assume that they were in totally different classes. When I was in jr/sr high school, there was a set of twins that were not quite right. I didn't know whether they were "retarded" or not until 30 years after HS graduation when they wrote their life stories in the book they handed out at the reunion. I remember my friends and I discussing how surprised we were that they were as "retarded" as those handwritten notes let on. We just thought they were weird in school. They were integrated into classes but got extra help, I suppose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:26 AM Flag
»
They were part of the school community and in classes as appropriate / as ability allowed. In my graduating class, we had a classmate who had been in HS for 7 years - the entire community came out to see him graduate - whether they were there for another graduate or not... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a good app for counting carbs? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:47 AM Flag
»
there is no great app for it. stop eating bread, pasta, root veg. eat 2 servings of fruit a day, endless veg and lean protein. no app necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:08 AM Flag
»
What about grains, nuts, beans, cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:19 AM Flag
»
No grains or beans. Limit nuts and cheese to reasonable snacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Cheese has no carbs. Nuts very little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:05 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of guys with the "sexy academic" look? You know what I mean - close-cropped beard, surrounded by books, with a strong muscular build underneath a muted but well-fitting suit jacket over a button-down dress shirt with no tie. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:41 AM Flag
»
Love. Definite swoon. But I am a nerd. A well-adjusted one, but still a nerd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:01 AM Flag
»
just know that there's some deep insecurity under that if you're talking about an actual academic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:02 AM Flag
»
True. I didn't know it until I married it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Most academics not sexy, but when one is, it is hot. My gross professor has a pony tail, no chin, and is balding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:47 AM Flag
»
beard is a deal breaker for me. don't find it sexy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:57 AM Flag
»
Ditto. Everything else sounds good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:43 AM Flag
»
That was my sociology teacher in college. I had such a mad crush, wonder if he knew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] I have a major crush on my ob gyn. I've read about this happening, but can't believe it is happening to me! Has anyone been there? Should I switch docs? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:36 AM Flag
»
how can you let her look at your vagina when you're thinking about having sex with her? change docs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:40 AM Flag
»
It's a male doc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:40 AM Flag
»
exact same sentiment; switch pronouns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:41 AM Flag
»
i don't see why you should. he's just delivering your baby and prob not mutual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:46 AM Flag
»
How will you feel when you poop on the table in front of him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:06 AM Flag
»
I would switch. Btdt. It was annoying. So much easier after the switch. Seriously. You need to feel comfortable with your doc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:32 AM Flag
»
It's not really him, it's just hero worship for the guy who holds your and db's lives in his hands. Deal w it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:28 AM Flag
»
What's his initials? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:29 AM Flag
»
is he hot? single? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I still call my MIL and FIL Mr. _____and Mrs. _______. DH and I have been married for 10 years. They've never corrected me. It's very awkward. I try not to call them anything if I can avoid it. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:35 AM Flag
»
me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:56 AM Flag
»
+ 1 I avoid my in laws. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:38 AM Flag
»
This is the case for a family member I think it's so weird. And she took her dh's last name so she is Mrs. --- too. So odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:00 AM Flag
»
Are they Swedish? Because that would be really awkward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:02 AM Flag
»
Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:46 AM Flag
»
my dh does it with my parents but i don't with my mil. i just call her mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:47 AM Flag
»
I also chose mom and dad, but it wasn't difficult because I call my parents by a different language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Me too. They're Chinese, if it matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:50 AM Flag
»
Np - DH calls my (Chinese) parents "grandma" and "grandpa". They never told him to call the, by first names and mr/mrs. X is so formal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:54 AM Flag
»
guess they don't like you that much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:51 AM Flag
»
sounds like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:00 AM Flag
»
How old are they?! Bizarre that they didn't say "call me x," when you first met. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:45 AM Flag
»
because they didn't like her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:31 AM Flag
»
My fil told me to call me by his first name the second we got engaged. We lived together for 10 years. Incidentally, I always called his step-mom by her first name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:52 AM Flag
[ - ] What should we do in NYC this Sat with 2 dss, age 3 and 6? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:27 AM Flag
»
Mommy poppins.com has a list of Easter stuff and some of it is on Saturday if you are interested. Could be fun to check out even if you're not Christian--that's why we live in nyc, to check out things outside our immediate zone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:16 AM Flag
»
cma [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that BSI and the new citywide school in queens have a no-homework policy in early grades (or K?). Is this anywhere is writing? (I think it's a great policy and would like to make a case for it at our district G&T) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.17.14, 02:26 AM Flag
»
Our district G&T gave out a weekly hw packet in K but it was optional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:44 AM Flag
»
Which school? That is great. Honestly my kid will probably love HW but I am opposed to it being mandatory in early years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:34 AM Flag
»
I'm in favor of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:53 AM Flag
»
OMG, I would kill for optional!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:17 AM Flag
»
I loved school and am a total nerd but the idea of homework in kindergarten is so bizarre. I think suggested acivities/things to work on are perfect, maybe a reading list for parents to read to their kids, but required work? No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:08 AM Flag
[ - ] I look down upon so-called "humanities" majors who cannot read Latin or Greek. What do you think the "artes humaniores" are, anyway? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:25 AM Flag
»
That's pretty intense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:43 AM Flag
»
Jeez, get a problem. Why look down on anyone not a convicted murderer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:44 AM Flag
»
This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:46 AM Flag
»
You sound like a nightmare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:32 AM Flag
»
I look down on people who say "rates humaniores." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:52 AM Flag
»
thanks autocorrect--meant "artes" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:52 AM Flag
»
you probably look down on everyone, so non-Latin readers are in good company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:36 AM Flag
»
Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:36 AM Flag
»
Are you the same person who is so vitriolic about the word "selfie"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:52 AM Flag
»
has selfie been added to the dictionary yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:40 AM Flag
»
Insufferable. You. Not them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:54 AM Flag
»
You posted this already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:55 AM Flag
»
humanities suck but seriously, get real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:47 AM Flag
»
Maybe if you had taken a humanities class your vocabulary would not, like, totally suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:11 AM Flag
»
i'm pretty sure my vocabulary is at least as good as yours and probably better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:00 AM Flag
»
^^ otoh, your math abilities, unlike mine, probably suck out the wazoo. only fools pay for humanities education. you can do that on your own if you have a brain. but maybe that's too taxing for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:02 AM Flag
»
You're culturally insular. I am a humanities major who reads Sanskrit, Persian, Hindi, and yes, a little Greek. The "artes humaniores" are not restricted to Europe. Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:17 AM Flag
»
oooh, burn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:04 AM Flag
»
Latin is the language of philosophy and science. That's how it is. All other contributions from all other non-western languages except Chinese are marginal at best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:21 AM Flag
»
np: no, i think the indians and the arabs contributed a great deal to mathematics. they have a great deal. russian contributed to math as well as to literature. and anyway, you just think that because you are european. there is a lot of intelligence out there just not readily available to you because no one's bothered to translate it into english. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:08 AM Flag
»
So then how come India is so poor and has so many slums? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:13 AM Flag
»
it is a big country with a big mix of ethnicities. there are a lot of wealthy intelligent and enlightened people. but there is also a lot of oppression according to skin color/birth. you cannot have up to 40% of your country be slated for lc without dire economic consequences for the nation as a whole. people have to be free to use their assets and resources to the best possible outcome. look at north korea, just abject poverty versus its southern brethren. and the whole peninsula, too, and i daresay the entire asian continent, started lagging european counterparts because the commoners in those country were too long prohibited from achieving their best. it is worthwhile to note that china was the most advanced country in the world just 600 years ago. political systems and policies have major impacts on economic outlooks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:21 AM Flag
»
Anyone who 'looks down' on anyone is pretty pathetic in my book.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:49 AM Flag
»
You sound like a real peach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Well, dh doesn't totally hate me. We are going through a really, really rough patch. But I saw his work screen saver today and it's a recent picture of me and dd. I was surprised that he wants to see my face at work when we are having a tough time. So I thought that was very sweet and good him as much. Baby steps. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:22 AM Flag
»
That's very, very sweet. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:07 AM Flag
»
Nice. How old is your dd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:08 AM Flag
»
Three. I meant "told" him as much. I also gave him a kiss on the head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:11 AM Flag
»
Just try harder. He may be going through a hard time for any reason and you two should be there for each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:39 AM Flag
»
Op--you know , I would usually be annoyed by your response--I'm going through a hard time too, etc etc--but his gesture makes me say you're right. I will try harder. Suggestions for good first steps? I will work on complimenting him on being a good dad/husband, he really likes that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:41 AM Flag
»
PBI: niceness in the simplest of things. make his favorite meal, greet him with a hug when he gets home, be nice for no reason. when DH and I aren't getting along, remembering that simply being nice is often enough to make him happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Op--thanks. A hug could go a long way we aren't affectionate anymore, even when one of us is sad/crying. I can do that--a hug and a compliment a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:59 AM Flag
»
i suggest you develop that type of expression with one another again. start today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:49 AM Flag
»
Op-I just got out of bed and gave dh a hug around his back while he was working. I also kissed his ear. He was Unfazed and kept typing. Oh well baby steps. Good wife hat--he is exhausted and working furiously so he can go to bed and that's why he didn't respond differently [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:11 AM Flag
»
NP: I was going to say hug too. There have been many times when that has been a bridge for me and my husband to sustain a connection during a rough time. Sometimes I ask for a hug, telling my husband that I could use one. I could use it. It feels a little formal, but it has worked for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:02 AM Flag
»
do it again tomorrow. i've been married awhile. some years are harder than others. just a little attention every day goes a long way. good for you for getting the ball rolling. :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Agree. He should try harder too, but your sentiment is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:55 AM Flag
»
np. Try kissing every day. On the mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:08 AM Flag
»
Is there a specific reason you are going through a hard time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:44 AM Flag
»
We have always been high conflict and fight intensely and meanly. But I just finished a hard pregnancy with lots of health issues, some of which are lingering, so that's hard. Toddler and two month old db is hard. I am being pushed out of work so $ stress and also I don' feel like dh has been supportive. Dh works all the time, around the clock--biglaw. Those are the big issues but we argue about the small stuff too--whether we should require nanny to get mmr vaccine to how to style dd's hair for a wedding. We're just all over the place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:57 AM Flag
»
That's tough. I think it's a good started to compliment him. I hate to throw out the therapy thing.....I haven't done couples but my therapist helped me immensely on how to respond to things that bothered me. I don't go any longer but still use a lot of her strategies. GL...you are not alone! Marriage is a series of ups and downs and small children are often very hard in marriages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:10 AM Flag
»
Op--thanks! We go to therapy but it hasn't helped a lot. It has been interrupted because of my health stuff, though. But I appreciate the comment and I try to remember that we are exhausted from the kids and our jobs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Purchasing a home in a different city with my fiancé, and he doesn't think it's important to be there for the home inspection, despite being told by several people that it makes good sense for us to be there. Granted, it's a 5 hour drive to get there, but I feel it's worth it for this big investment. I am annoyed that fiancé seems lazy about going and this could ultimately be driving us into an uncertain investment. Feel like I'm being more responsible person and it's really bothering me. Who's right? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:20 AM Flag
»
Just go yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:05 AM Flag
»
You shouldn't be purchasing RE with your fiance, can you wait until you are married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:21 AM Flag
»
This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:25 AM Flag
»
Did you hire the inspector? They're getting paid either way so would have no motivation to give false results [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:06 AM Flag
»
the realtor suggested the person. It's a new city for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:23 AM Flag
»
Then yes, absolutely go or get on google and hire someone else to do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:08 AM Flag
»
We once took the realtor's referral and the inspector missed some big issues. I think she wanted to get the deal done. We got some money back from the inspector in the end so all was ok. But I do think you should go to the inspection. You'll get more info. Where is the house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:34 AM Flag
»
You don't have to be there for a home inspection - hire an inspector and have the realtor go with them... Get the report. It's worth the $500. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:06 AM Flag
»
This is true. Always hire your own, same with escrow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:09 AM Flag
»
no, it doesn't matter. the inspector will drum up more new business by making the deal happen via realtor referrals. it doesn't matter who finds him. he will try to make the deal happen if possible and get along with RE agent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:10 AM Flag
»
Exactly. You just reinforced why NOT to take agent referrals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:12 AM Flag
»
but it won't matter if you get him via a homeowner. he will butter up to your agent and the seller's agent that he's never met before. that's how he'll get new business. new business via homeowners is severely scant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:14 AM Flag
»
I guess. It's better to be there. Ask to see everything, ask questions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:28 AM Flag
»
yes if they are in the realtors pocket they might gloss over thigns that maybe you should know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:33 AM Flag
»
you could just go yourself. he won't tell you anything that make it or break it. if he does, it will come out anyway. it's mostly a waste of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:08 AM Flag
»
imo you go, the 3 homes we have bought we have learned so much about by being at the inspection. they point out things regarding mechanical that you might not be aware of (good and bad), where shut off valves are, etc. I think you would be crazy not to be there if you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:32 AM Flag
»
Good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:09 AM Flag
»
Do not hire an inspector recommended by your real estate agent. Remember that your agent wants that house sold! If an inspector is too thorough, the deal could fall through. One of you definitely needs to go to the inspection. It is highly educational. P.S. I would never buy real estate with a fiance. I hope you have a really good contract drawn up to protect yourself in the event things go south. I have witnessed it first-hand and it can get very ugly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:19 AM Flag
»
wish we knew this when we bought our second home (city kids). the inspector found NOTHING, and A LOT was wrong! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:13 AM Flag
»
I went to ours, learned so much about the house, I wouldn't miss it ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:29 AM Flag
»
Oh and we hired our own. Everyone told us to do it this way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:29 AM Flag
»
I went myself and the inspector told me a lot of stuff I wouldn't have known about the house. Annoyed me my husband didn't come fwiw but I'm glad I went and I'm over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 02:29 AM Flag
»
Ditto (about going.) There were many small things that wouldn't go in the report but that he said to put on the "fix within 10 yrs" list, he gave ballpark # on fixes, explained how the house worked and what was worth worrying about. Go in person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.14, 03:49 AM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions