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[ - ] My dad's doctor reviewed his chest X-ray. They see two small lumps. She does not know if cancerous . Told him to get another X-ray in six months as a follow up. Is this reason for concern? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Concern? Yes. Panic? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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From what I understand nodules are common and usually they wait 6 mos to make sure they haven't grown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the transfer station still coming to Yorkville? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Yes, but there will be a different approach, not through Asphalt Green, but they will have to use the AG approach for the first year or tow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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So it will go closer to the projects? Won't they complain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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makes little difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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y [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Prince Harry in hiding? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Haben't heard boo about him in a loooong time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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haven't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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In Africa for the summer. And his 7 year exgirlfriend from Africa who is now a lawyer in London, quit her job and moved back to Africa just when Harry left. I'm ashamed I know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Thanks for the update! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Please, someone give me an historical rationale for why it's appropriate for upper class people (and those who aspire to be like them) to aspire to lives of leisure and minimal accomplishment. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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What are you talking about? Most of the really well off people I know work very hard even though they have more than enough not to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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But do their wives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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What's "really well off?" I make 165k a year hubby makes 70k. We live in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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in america everyone pretends to work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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"Work" is striver nonsense for suckers and people with slave morality embedded in their hearts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Or those suckers with families to support and bills to pay and grown up responsibilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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I meant in the context of people who already have money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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What do you mean "appropriate"? And why would people necessarily have a historical rationale for their aspirations? This is a very odd question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, "serious" question here, no flames. Does dh ever paint your toenails for you? I am trying to save money. I soaked, filed and cut my nails. I asked dh to paint since I seem to get very shaky hands whenever I bend over and try to concentrate on something like this. He had a hissy fit and I told him to just forget it. For the record, I am not a shrew and we have a good marriage. I have friends whose dh's don't mind doing this. Thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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No, and he never would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Mina would if I were paralyzed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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No, but he would if I asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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My legs shake when I bend over ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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so weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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Agree with pp above - mine would if I were paralyzed, but I would never ask him to normally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:23 PM Flag
[ - ] It is so obvious republicans test issues here. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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You are crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Most republicans on UB are rich. rich Republicans want to screw the working class. rich Republicans hate Trump and Love the Koch Brothers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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???? This is not op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Most Democrats on UB are rich. UB Democrats want to screw the working class. Glad to see we're bipartisan about something here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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Pay attention, you will see [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Happens each election cycle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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I don't think it's republicans, Bob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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conspiracy theory mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Makes sense. Everyone knows the key swing vote in 2016 is going to be self-centered, affluent moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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That's us! I believe it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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It is so obvious Obama hates this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] When homeless people bathe at chipotle...time to move? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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A homeless man stabbed an upscale baby in Riverside Park [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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An upscale baby? What an odd phrase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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LOL. Too bad it wasn't a downmarket baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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The homeless problem seems to ne escalating in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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lookit up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] What did you do today? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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walked around Vail farmer's market, had brunch including mimosas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Watched 2nd season of West Wing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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(in other words, shockingly little) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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High tailed it home from a vacation-fail! We got a week at someone's home in Rhinebeck from a school auction and got there last night and it was filthy, pool was falling apart. Oh well. Staycation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Cleaned toilets and cured cancer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Church, In n Out for lunch, then helped DH change my brake pads while DD took a nap. Getting ready to make dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Went to Wegman's - I live on the edge! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Church, grocery shopping, food prep for the week. Laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is it that you think so many parents think that their kids are primarily something to be managed? It seems like the primary concern for most parents is arranging and transporting their kids to various activities led by others, making their kids complete assignments given by others, and mostly just getting to a point where they can act as managers of their children. Check in periodically but otherwise leave their kids alone and expect them to act properly. What about actually spending time with your kids? Doing what they want to do, letting them choose how to spend a day instead of shoving them into class/camp/tutoring/lessons every day. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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TLDR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Working moms. Not kidding. The skills that lead to success in work. Women view motherhood as another task to be managed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Nice try, but no. SAHMS are actually worse in my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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I wasn't trying anything. I'm a WOHM. I was responding to op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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I have been WOHM and SAHM, currently WAHM. I have to disagree. It's the WOHMs who do this (and yes, I was one of them). You do go overboard on the activities and lessons, and you're sort of armchair-quarterbacking the whole parenting thing. I'm not crazy about how those years went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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In my experience SAHMS are more like this because they get sick of their kids bothering them all the time. So they decide that keeping their kids busy with other people and ignoring them while they're home is good for their development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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They can be stay at home now - but they worked and are transferring skill set [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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One of my three begs for more and more classes. Sometimes it's the kids asking for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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I haven't witnessed that, but I'm sti in mommy and me stage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Why can't we discuss this phenomenon without it turning into SAH WOH fight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so exhausted today. Prepaid for an exercise class. I'm coming very close to just not showing up. It's $40 down the drain. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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My FIL says money spent is money spent, it's not coming back, you may as well at least do what you want instead of being out of pocket AND doing something you don't want to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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On the contrary, they say exercise is most beneficial when you're most exhausted and not in the mood. You'll feel better after. It's only 45 mins of your day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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It's an hour plus forty minute walking there and back. I'm going to grab a tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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You paid $40 for a class that far away? Sounds like you set yourself up for failure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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if you are still debating, just go!! plan a treat for your walk back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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ITA...so exhausted today but forced myself to sneak off to the gym for 45 minutes and my headache is gone and now I can power through until bedtime! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms with older kids - how can I best foster a good relationship between my kids? Dds are 3 & 6 and ADORE each other. Baby brother is 1 and they love him too. They bicker a tiny bit occasionally, but over all they really get along and love each other. How can I help keep this up as they grow? Please respond if you have tips! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Well they're going to bicker sometimes and that's just pretty normal sibling stuff. Just make sure you teach them respectful language even when they're mad. How to express their frustrations and work things out so eventually they can do it without you and without hurting each other. Basically what's OK and what's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Really good point, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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I wish I knew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I don't know if it's possible to literally make your children feel a certain way about people that you want them to feel, even their siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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That's not what I mean - I just hope they continue to have a strong, healthy, positive relationship. They're off to a good start but perhaps some people have ideas as to how to continue it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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I know what you meant - but that was my honest answer. You can always say "all for one and one for all" - but they're going to have their own personalities that develop and you can't force alliances. Perhaps you can come at it from a different angle, such as discouraging competition by not putting your kids in the same activities, making sure you attend all their different activities equally, making equal time and not just saying "she needs my time because she's still a baby" or "you are the oldest, it's your job to help." I don't know. If we all had these answers, we'd all do it right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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Thanks. Those are all good ideas and I do some of them, and will try to be conscious of the other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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When everyone else says "just do your best" - they mean it :) That's all we can do. Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be responsible. Love your kids. Hope for the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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my view is that you can try your best to foster this, but have no real control over what happens to their relationship once they become late teens. Agree with above responder, allow the bickering but keep it respectful. Encourage family traditions, activities and communication throughout their childhood. Also spend time alone with each of them so they each feel special and value your time. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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All excellent points, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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Don't favor one child over the other. Siblings can usually tell when there is a favorite and it causes problems between them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Agree, it damages both of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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I dont know how to even describe this but here is what NOT to do-- do not pit them against each other, do not complain about one to the other, do not give them personas like x is the "artsy one" and y is the "one who is good at science" or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Do not force them to be friends. Require them to be civil, but that is it. As they get older, hope for the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Reward them together. "Oh, you're playing so nicely together let's have a treat!" or "I love how sisters take such good care of baby" "we're all on the same team!" kind of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Waaay too manipulative. They will hate you and the siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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You do the best that you can, and that is good enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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You don't have to like everyone, but you do have to treat others with respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Just found out ex DH is expecting twins with new wife. What does that mean for our child support? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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it shouldn't mean anything. It's your situation, not his that can impact it. You'd have to go back to court for any changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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Oh wow really? I thought it was based on # of kids for some reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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In NY, based on number and order of kids. Yours come first. So if he divorces second wife, they compute her CS on his income AFTER paying you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Should mean nothing unless he'll now be in a situation where he can't support his new kids at all. Not uncommon for second family to have a lower standard of living than the first kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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If he cannot support his new kids at all, and claims poverty, you can demand that income of new wife be included in any determination of his being in poverty. And if she does not work, you can demand that income be imputed. She may have to work and you stay home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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In NY very little. Of course your kids are likely not to see so much of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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Your dc's father is going to be pushed even further out of his life and you're only thinking about money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Not much she can do about what dad does. If she complained, you would bitch about that. np/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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She could not have gotten a divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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She may have had no choice. NY, and every other state I have heard of has no-fault divorce. One spouse can say, I want a divorce and nothing the other can do. You are a real bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate how my friend refers to her baby as her "little hero." Um, the kid eats, poops, and sleeps. Hero? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Planned Parenthood are the real heroes, using taxpayer money to chop up babies and sell the parts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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I lold [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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Re pp drama I wish they would just offer mammograms and Pap smears and stay out of the abortion business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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And who pray tell would help women seeking abortion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Do they use federal $$ on abortion part of PP. I thought no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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That is annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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New mothers can be obnoxious when they figure out that their baby is unlike all those that have come before them. Just smile and let this phase pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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it's better than little princess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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uh why? Just UB dissing of daughters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:05 PM Flag
[ - ] The episode of Facts of Life where Bruce Jenner is the guest star is on. Blair walks in on him stark naked, admiring his fake boobs in a mirror and masturbating to himself! She tells Natalie about it and Natalie wedges Jenner's face into her buttcrack and rips a massive fart! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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That was what I liked about Facts of Life. Even though the girls all had their differences, they really stuck up for one another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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+1 Natalie would have farted in Bruce Jenner's face no matter who he exposed himself to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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I loved the Facts of Life True Hollywood story where when Blair was supposed to lose her v-card and didn't want to do it, and it was too weird with Tootie and it was implausible with Joe, who was basically everything but openly gay, that Natalie was like "hey that's cool, I'll have sex with Snake." Natalie was pretty great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Didn't she turn out to be gay as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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I had to look this up. Looks like straight but it just didn't happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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That's right, Natalie would give you the shirt off her back. There's no characters like her, Blair, Jo and tootie today!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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It is a beautiful day - go play outside [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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did you think it was weird that bruce just stood there and let natalie take off her g-string panties and slowly wedge his face into her buttcrack? seems like he wanted the fart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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I think at first he did, but if you notice, after Natalie farts in his face, he pukes. I think he got more than he bargained for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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What in the hell was wrong with Mrs. Garrett that she let that sick freak in the house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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I think the story was she had lost her glasses when Bruce first showed up and couldn't see him clearly, so she may have thought he was just an old woman. Then when Tootie found her glasses she took one look at Bruce said "Girls, what the hell is this sick tranny freak doing here?!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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