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[ - ] Went into work today and colleague smelled like a brewery. He often reeks of alcohol. Kind of sad. I like him but it's none of my business, I realize. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Depends on what your business is among other things ... I might say something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:52 AM Flag
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His office is right beside my boss's office. There is no way that she does not notice. He and I work mostly in parallel roles so his drinking does not impact my work. It's just a bad odor and a little disconcerting that someone in my field would show up for work hammered on a regular basis. We are attorneys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:01 AM Flag
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Hmmm me too ... just did an mcle credit on this, the speaker made the point that speaking up CAN make a difference. Grab a coffee sometime and consider saying something. Or put a 12-step brochure in an interoffice envelope and put "from a friend" on it. Or not, but give it some thought before ruling it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:05 AM Flag
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Interesting. What else did the speaker say? A few years ago I had another colleague who drank heavily on the job. I spoke to our boss about it because he and I worked closely together and I was concerned that his drinking would impact our work. My boss never did anything about it. I feel like it's a management issue and if management knows and does nothing, I just need to ignore it as long as it does not impact my work. In terms of helping him work out his issues, I don't want to meddle in his personal life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:14 AM Flag
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There's a few ways to looks at it. Sure, it definitely is a management issue. It's also a human issue -- you may decide to say something because you are part of the same community and concerned/affected by the conduct (or maybe you decide not due to privacy concerns or other reasons). I could also see the possibility for professional ethics to creep in, if for example you have reason to believe your colleague's conduct is harming a client who is arguably or actually your client as well. If you are a partner, you would also have a financial stake too in the quality of lawyering the clients are getting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:23 AM Flag
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If I were a partner, I would have said something by now. It's totally unprofessional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:39 AM Flag
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He may need you to notice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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Like his drinking is a cry for help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:23 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's what I was thinking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:24 AM Flag
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Nah. He did not know that I would be there. I think more likely he expected to tie one on in peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:40 AM Flag
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Well, cries for help aren't conscious decisions. You said he often reeks of alcohol. IHe clearly has a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Can one have mono and not know it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:42 AM Flag
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Noway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Yes. There are mild forms. I know several people who didn't know at least for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:58 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I've never been properly in love. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:40 AM Flag
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you have to find the right person and build a life togehter. love follows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:41 AM Flag
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Me neither [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:41 AM Flag
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+1 I really thought I found the one when I turned 40, but he was just a user [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:46 AM Flag
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I thought love is what starts the building of the life together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Not necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:53 AM Flag
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no, there has to be fondness. but there is no love until you've been throgh some shit together. you haven't been through shit until you've at least had to budget household expenses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:03 AM Flag
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Not always [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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np Not for us. We married for practical reasons, and then grew to love each other over the first four or five years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 08:17 AM Flag
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But I've bet you've been cheated; been mistreated... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:37 AM Flag
[ - ] STM or OTM are you here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:37 AM Flag
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OTM here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:38 AM Flag
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Hi. I hired the husband and wife team. He seems like such a nice guy and we really think alike a lot. So happy. Hope it works out as you said it would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:43 AM Flag
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But STM has seen this other person not working out for me and she didn't. Do you think I will find someone else soon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:44 AM Flag
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STM here. Hope it works out. Your card was very clearly positive. But I'm confused. ..What other person are you talking about? Can you clarify your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:04 AM Flag
[ - ] ha ha, suckers. so glad to be done with that nyc weather! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:37 AM Flag
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I'm excited!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 05:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.15, 06:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Sassy tarot mom? It's OTM. Wanna chat? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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