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[ - ] Have one DD and cannot get pregnant again because of health concerns. Should we go for a gestational carrier or is it too weird. DH will not consider adoption. So it's an only or a gestational carrier. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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What's the health concern? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Severe preeclampsia and premature birth with DD [ Reply | More ]
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Severe preeclampsia and premature birth with DD [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think it's that weird, if you have the $$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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You didn't mention how strong your desire is for a second kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I really, really one one and DD wants a sibling. The whole situation makes me very sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Did you mean surrogate mother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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Yes, but my eggs and DH sperm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Sure, why not? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Teavana Oprah Chai Tea... why on earth did Starbucks get into that? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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affirmative action [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Middle school results are out. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Middle school results are out. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Your child knows? [ Reply | More ]
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Picking up tomorrow morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] So frustrated with pediatrician's office. They refuse to make appointments when I ask. Then when I ask, they are all booked. Now they will not give my child an appointment that is required for him to attend camp. Any advice? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Get a new pediatrician. Done. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Can anyone recommend? Upper East Side, as far east as Lex or UWS [ Reply | More ]
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Pediatric associates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Minute clinic does camp physicals [ Reply | More ]
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What is minute clinic? [ Reply | More ]
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CVS' walk-in doctor's office [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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It's the clinic that's inside of cvs [ Reply | More ]
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How much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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70 bucks I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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No problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Seems shockingly easy. Not in every CVS, though. Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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Change practices. Done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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There are exceptions, certainly, but why do medical office workers all seem so limited? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? You have to make these appointments months in advance. Everyone needs the exact same appointment you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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op - this is my point. I try to make them far in advance and they say "the dr doesn't open her calendar this far in advance." I leave with NO appointment. Then I call and they say sorry, dr is booked, F me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Did you ask how far in advance doc opened her appts? Seems like a simple thing to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Out them here!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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some practices will fill out a medical form based on the last appointment. my DD's pediatrician does not require an appointment for medical forms if there was a recent visit let them know and if they still are not accommodating, then go to another pediatrician. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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This. We simply pay $10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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my pediatrician doesn't accept payment for filing out a form. was shocked to hear this and really appreciated it. (thought i needed a full appointment each time) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Used to be free but I guess they had enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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By the way I don't mind paying always felt bad asking year after year with multiple activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a father who used to take us on vacation once a year to yell at us if we mentioned any of our other family members then abandoned us at age 14 and now lives as a hermit and doesn't acknowledge any family members at all. I was raised by a single mother who, as an example, wrote a letter to a priest under my name when I was getting married at age 27 requesting that he get in contact with me since I really wanted to get involved in church again (which of course I did not) without telling me. Since my father refused to support us financially at all, we went to the local public school which was fine, but which also involved getting mugged four times in or directly around the school grounds. I know we're all supposed to be able to just "get over" ourselves, but am I really supposed to be just fine? It doesn't seem right to toy with people's upbringing and then tell them to just be OK and normal. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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It's up to you whether you want to be "normal." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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This. My parents died when I was four. I was taken in by my aunt who did not want me. I remember one time I was sucking my thumb and she got mad and literally rubbed a soiled poo diaper on my face. I grew up and chose to not dwell and try to give my kids the childhood I did not have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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^this was just one instance of abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Yes, you have to just get over it. My dad completely abandoned me. I am not going to let that define my life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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+1. My best friend's dad did a complete ditch out of the blue when she was in grade school. You would never know it. She's totally fine and happy and I think it's because it's a conscious choice. She wasn't going to let that a-hole make her bitter for life. The only thing she won't ever do is not work. She never wants to feel vulnerable financially. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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OP: I'd venture to say, humbly, that she's likely not totally fine. Trust me, I don't lead with the whole "my dad won't admit I exist" thing, but it colors lots of decisions and interactions I make and have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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My DH's dad took off when he was 9. Yes, it did shape who he is today. He made a choice to be the opposite of his father. He's successful, took care of his mom until she died. He's a great father to our DCs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Does your name start with a G? If yes and you live in the burbs, I might know you. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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Yes. As an adult you have a choice. Make peace with the past. Let go and live. So many things... Hate rots the vessel.... Forgive free YOU not them... People make mistakes. Parents are people. You are not a perfect parent. Neither am I. The key is to be the best "Jane" you can be. Put your energy there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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I'm not mad. I'm just kind of pissed that I was raised in a way that was highly likely to cause me to be maladjusted and now everyone figures it should be easy to just be fine and OK. Why can't I just be fucked up because of the things that were done that I had no choice over? We all have to get over everything. You push someone to the bottom of a hill then tell them - why don't you choose to climb the hill? It's your choice, you know. We'll just hang out up here at the top and look down on you and wonder why you're not here yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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NP: Have you talked to a therapist about these issues? If not, I think it would really help. How old are you now? I think it's fine to be pissed, but I think you have to decide how long you're going to be pissed for. It can't just be ongoing for life or you will have an awful life. Make a decision about it. I'm going to be pissed for 6 more months and in that time I'm going to go see a shrink and talk all this shit out. Then I'm going to close that chapter and only focus on the positives in my life that I am in control of. Don't let external things that happened to you when you had no hope of changing things dictate your whole life. I'm not saying you don't have challenges. But I think you need to be very proactive about how you view them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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You can be fucked up and blame others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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The question is, is that what you choose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Let it go, make sure you have the life you want. When parents get old and start needing your attention, they will be shit out of luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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It's a novel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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You are so cute! My mother was a prostitute, I was molested by my father and later raped. Everyone has a sob story. Now really get over yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA: Was asking about underpants to wear under gym clothes with no vpl. Someone suggested VS sport. Got a few pairs and they are the most uncomfortable underwear I have ever had on. Awful. I know VS had inferior quality stuff but these are the worst. No I'm not fat. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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Do you wear thongs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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honestly, if you wash your gym clothes every time, why not just go commando? [ Reply | More ]
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op: I don't wash them everyday and I think that would be even more uncomfortable. I don't like thongs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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ew [ Reply | More ]
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who cares about a vpl when they are working out? [ Reply | More ]
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this x 1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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I never understood this. People understand about underwear. (TBH I also never had this problem where my underwear is jumping out at people) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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fabletics has some great workout underwear - thongs and boyshorts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm married the wrong DH. I chose poorly. I confess my mistake. Can I have a do-over? I'm at year 14 and am done, so done. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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Tell us what is wrong with him, we will tell you how bad or not so bad it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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Cons: No sex no money no brains no social skills no romance no ideas no plans. The pros: Great Dad, let's me do what I want, helps me with everything in his limited way. 14 years I've looked only at pros but I'm 44 and really I need a change, I can't anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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/ as UB as my witness I tried everything under the sun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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I'm sure you have, men have a stubborn way about them. What does he contribute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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He's a work horse around the house, never says no to anything I ask - if he's capable of it. So I'm off the hook for a lot of household chores but today I found out when I left him to setup health insurance he bought two refi at policies, so literally he cannot do anything beyond basics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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I can see why the cons would make you feel the way you do. Why no money? Is he not ambitious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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I don't know. I thought I picked well. See below re car accident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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What does your DH do for a living? How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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One DC, age 7, slight SN. Zero money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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That's tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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I see these women with rich lawyer baker finance DHs and I can't bear it. They are not perfect but at least there is some stability [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Well slight SN doesn't sound too bad, esp. if you don't have other DC's to worry about. If you could become financially independent, you could manage on your own (though I am not necessarily advising that! Don't know enough about the situation) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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:( kids involved? How is he with the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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what the heck happened? when did you discover this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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Honestly he was in a minor traffic accident and his personality changed dramatically. He's literally like a second child, completely helpless but also like a puppy in wanting to please. I'm crying as I write this, I can't bear being so alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Was there a head injury in the accident? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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Yes but they are puzzled because nothing showed in scans. He's been monitored closely. This happened a few weeks after wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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How did his personality change? What was he like before the car accident? What drew you to him initially? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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This sounds like therapy questions from 11 yards ago. I need help moving forward. It doesn't matter what drew me to him I messed up, he wa the wrong choice and I've suffered for 14 years and cannot bear it anymore, I cannot keep paying for this mistake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Pp: Sorry! I am not a therapist and did not mean to weird you out with my q's-- was just trying to get a better sense of the situation. Is he at least handsome and emotionally supportive?.... Sounds like maybe you have reached the end of your rope and need a trial separation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Of course you can end the marriage, but you should do so only if you're ready for the consequences. Do you have DC? If so, that makes it a lot more complicated. If not, then in your place I would go ahead, if I were sure. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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Aww so sorry :( how has the traffic accident affected him? Physical or more mental ? Is he working ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Mental. He works at his own business but everyday I have to take on more of the work because he's flailing. Meanwhile I'm tryi to get my own career off the ground. Plus time with DC, my love, and I feel it all caving in. If you know me IRL you would be shocked to hear me say this. I hide everything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Can you move back home? Will DHS parents take care of him? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thoughts on HILLARY? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's in all caps. [ Reply | More ]
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I knew I shouldn'ta done that. [ Reply | More ]
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No one every should. All caps is awful. Tell me this was a one time offense. :) [ Reply | More ]
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It was. If I could take it back, I would. [ Reply | More ]
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NOT REALLY I LIKE HER THOUGH. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't like her ever since I found out she voted to invade Iraq. [ Reply | More ]
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Better than any republican [ Reply | More ]
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Had to get excited about her. [ Reply | More ]
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Yipeeeee!! [ Reply | More ]
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DUMB TWAT [ Reply | More ]
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And you sound so intelligent with such an expansive vocabulary. [ Reply | More ]
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Hardly [ Reply | More ]
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Life long democrat here. Voted for democrats for every Democratic presidential candidate since I was 18 starting with Bill. HATE HER. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Women I am not jealous of: 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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second wives [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
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wohms [ Reply | More ]
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sahms [ Reply | More ]
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first wives [ Reply | More ]
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women with 4+ kids [ Reply | More ]
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so true! even moms with 3 kids [ Reply | More ]
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childless women [ Reply | More ]
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aka barren shrews [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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married women [ Reply | More ]
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single women [ Reply | More ]
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law partners [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Hillary [ Reply | More ]
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women married to rich older men [ Reply | More ]
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This is my dream scenario. They feel lucky to have you, you live a life of unimaginable comfort, and there's no sex [ Reply | More ]
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women with step kids [ Reply | More ]
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marine biologists [ Reply | More ]
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??? [ Reply | More ]
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That's totally random [ Reply | More ]
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NP I think a marine biologist posts on UB from time to time. Also a forensic anthropologist or something like that. [ Reply | More ]
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wives of politicans [ Reply | More ]
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married women who don't love their husbands, have to work a job they hate and have annoying children. [ Reply | More ]
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hey fck off that is me! [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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This is a lot of people I know, actually. [ Reply | More ]
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women who've had lots of boyfriends [ Reply | More ]
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Amal. [ Reply | More ]
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women who met their husband young [ Reply | More ]
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20's young or teens young? For me it's teens young. I couldn't imagine marrying anyone I met in my teens whether it be 13 or 19. [ Reply | More ]
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Bruca Jenner [ Reply | More ]
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You mean Belinda. [ Reply | More ]
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very thin women [ Reply | More ]
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Why would I be jealous of anyone? [ Reply | More ]
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women with hot bodies and ugly faces [ Reply | More ]
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double ivies [ Reply | More ]
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nyc lifers [ Reply | More ]
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women who live in the suburbs [ Reply | More ]
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Stepmothers [ Reply | More ]
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Women who are paranoid about what they eat and how much just to stay thin. Life's too short. [ Reply | More ]
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Wives of professional athletes. [ Reply | More ]
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I know some that are completely normal/happy. [ Reply | More ]
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Funny, I don't! [ Reply | More ]
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Inmate Mom. Having to wear a jumpsuit all the time. [ Reply | More ]
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Women who have a lot of money because they work constantly and never see their family. [ Reply | More ]
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Anyone married to Bob Durst. Or Donald Trump. [ Reply | More ]
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I'll add Harvey Weinstein and Ronald Perlman. Oh and Peter Brant too. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would pay be for FT in-house counsel (one of many) for a F100 CA-based wine/beverage company? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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$100k-$400k - depending on practice area, years of experience, title, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] If you can't get your baby to sleep through the night by two months, you are just lazy and doing a whole hell of a lot wrong. I've had two children and gotten both on sleep schedules starting at 3 weeks. SIL has 3 DCs and she always says that she can't get them to sleep through the night until 8 or 9 months. I think she's just trying to make up reasons why she needs to SAH. Lazy and selfish for the baby. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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Please share your methods. [ Reply | More ]
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Whatever. People are all different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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you are incredibly stoopid. my babies slept through the night starting around 3 months, because i was lucky and had healthy non-colicky babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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another bitchy SIL! [ Reply | More ]
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In the same fashion if you ignore the needs of a 2-month-old you are neglecting him. [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely. This is why kids in orphanages have a tough time developing. Mothers are supposed to respond to the needs of their tiny babies. That's why most developed countries have maternity leaves of around 1 year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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How is it "selfish for the baby"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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lack of sleep disrupts brain development [ Reply | More ]
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So does lack of nurturing parenting and lack of fats in the diet. [ Reply | More ]
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Or improper nutrition because mommy decided you didn't need to eat from 7am-7pm [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Your SIL's kids will grow up smarter and more successful because they have a caring mom. Your kids will grow up deficient in many ways because you sound like an abusive person in general. [ Reply | More ]
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stfu [ Reply | More ]
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+1 and this is a troll anyway. a childless troll i'd bet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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My friend thought this too. She got her kids on an early sleep schedule and thought she was brilliant. Yet her 8 year old still sucks his thumb, which I suspect he learned to self soothe, and the 7 year old sucks her fingers and rubs her belly when tired or nervous. I'm not saying it can't be done, but don't be so quick to pat yourself on the back. [ Reply | More ]
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I wished the grandma would've let the child I took care of suck her thumb. She Kept swatting it out of her mouth, now the child has no idea how to soothe herself at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Be honest. You used Nyquil? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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Letting a baby cry literally makes they lose brain cells. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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::eyeroll:: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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Read up on it. Sorry you allowed your baby to lose precious brain cells. All that breast milk for nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Read up on it. Sorry you allowed your baby to lose precious brain cells. All that breast milk for nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Ok, troll! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Any idea what the compensation for a mid-level or above partner at Cravath would be? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 04.27.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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profits per partner are available. Would depend on the partner and the area. Trying to blackmail someone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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no - trying to wonder what my sister's dh makes. been there since 2001. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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easily $1m and rising. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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thx. they are incredibly frugal. i've always been curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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MYOB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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NP: Oh please. It's an anonymous board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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so settle down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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YOU DON'T NEED TO KNOW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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GET A JOB!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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GROW UP AND STOP BEING SO JEALOUS OF YOUR SISTER [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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np: OMG - get some help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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I'm sure you have wondered from time to time how much someone makes. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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need to borrow $$? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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No does not depend on the area. Cravath's partnership is strict lockstep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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OP: what does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Every partner makes the same amount regardless of clients, etc. The only thing that changes your compensation is age. You make more as you get older, then as you hit near retirement age your draw drops off to encourage you to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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interesting. never knew that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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Strict lockstep is overrated. Signed Inmate Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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hi goldiggerella you can go to the date with him, we give you green light! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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see above. no need for a husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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$250-300k/yr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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NP: for a partner? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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oops, sorry, reading comp fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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Depends what you mean by mid level, but above 2 on the way to 3mm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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been there since 2001 or 2002. without outing him, he's head of his dept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Head of dep't means nothing at CSM. 01 means he made partner in 08. I'd say still a young partner - mid 40s, right? Anyway, 2mm is a fair guess. Maybe more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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thanks. honestly, i'm just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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$ ≠ contentedness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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yes, i know. they are content, happy, etc. just curious as they are extremely frugal imo (other than kids in private school) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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if he makes 10K or 1B, what difference does it make to your life? You don't have your sister's life and just because she married rich doesn't mean she's happy or getting a big chunk of it in the divorce settlement, and she's doesn't have to share one thin dime with you. trust me, you'll be happier if you just put this out of your head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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she didn't marry rich. he's made his way fair and square. my siblings and i have all done well financially. i'm just curious about the lawyer income. not all curiosity is based in envy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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What does this even mean? I don't think this OP has indicated ANY of what you just said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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So fucking high. $2 million-$4 million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I just checked - average profits per partner were $3.5 million in 2012. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_law_firms_by_profits_per_partner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] whats for dinner? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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grits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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wv in da house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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Beef [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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beer and ribs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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matzah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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stir fry of beef, coconut milk, curry paste, red bell pepper, etc and rice [ Reply | More ]
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Leftover lasagna [ Reply | More ]
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Pasta, meat balls, vegetables [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Stir fry chicken, onions, garlic, mushrooms, broccoli, squash, bell pepper, and carrots with brown rice fusilli. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Indian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Engagement chicken, ratatouille [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] DH EX wife keeps texting my phone. UGH 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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saying what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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how is to get second dibs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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stfu...you sound like a bitter hag.op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Rambles on and on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Yet you are the one who married a person with baggage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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Do you like my leftover scraps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] My sister has been having a really hard time conceiving. She's on her second round of IVF and I don't think she can try again. She's 35 and I'm 38 and have 2 DCs and am done. I am thinking of offering to be a gestational surrogate. We are fairly close, but have had our share of ups and downs over the years. Am I too old to do this? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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yes. too old. pitch in for a hired surrogate if you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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How much is it? Knowing my sister, I don't think she'd be up for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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i've heard from friends that surrogacy is $100k soup to nuts, whatever that means [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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We were told aroud $120k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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someone just said $200k in another thread. never heard of it costing that much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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at 38 dr probably will not approve. it's just asking for trouble anyway, but best of luck to your sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Your are not too old. You can do it up until menopause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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What is her problem? If it's her eggs, it will not help you to carry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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agree. what is her issue? if it's a uterine defect, then surrogate is the only way. if it's her eggs, a surrogate will be of no use. 35 is too young IMO to be going through this, i'm really sorry that she is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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