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[ - ] I got married at 25 and always giggle when someone posts how getting married at that (totally normal) age is "flyover" or something. Getting married at 25 means precisely one thing.....your chances of having kids naturally are about 10000 better than these late 30-somethings who spent months with their legs up in stirrups "triggering" themselves or whatever. You're not smarter getting married in peri menopause. You're just older. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Rude [ Reply | More ]
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You sound super smart yourself! My friend had infertility problems at 28. So maybe smug isn't your best path. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too at 27 and now again at 30 [ Reply | More ]
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Anyone who giggles over age 16 does not impress me. [ Reply | More ]
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uh, most women still don't have trouble at late 30's. so it's not "10000 better." most women also finish by late thirties, not begin it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Educators Convicted in School Cheating Scandal http://nyti.ms/1Gh8OqB What did the children learn from this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Here is what I learned: If you want to cheat, you are an idiot if you tell struggling students the answers or change the answers after the fact. What the HECK are those students doing in your school? Get rid of them, stat! That is how you get good test results. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry. Theres are teachers, principals, and superindents that where convicted and carted off in handcuff. The grownups. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't get caught. If you cheat, be careful. [ Reply | More ]
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it's not fair. those children cannot perform to expectations. this is why common core standards have to be eliminated. it hurts the dumb kids as well as the smart kids. it's really good for middle of the road and those slightly behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for stories from women who get married later- mid/late 30's and had more than one kid. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sil married at 35, 2 dds at 37 & 38 (20 months apart) [ Reply | More ]
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I had 2 - one at 38, one a few years later. Got pregnant 4 months after wedding. [ Reply | More ]
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Married at 38. Pregnant at 39, ivf. Baby born at 40. Trying for #2 now at 42, frozen embryo. [ Reply | More ]
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Oy. [ Reply | More ]
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Brave new world indeed. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Worst TV accents: 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Melissa George doing whatever the heck she is doing on The Slap [ Reply | More ]
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lol - I thought that she was supposed to be deaf [ Reply | More ]
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Lolol. She has confused marble mouth. [ Reply | More ]
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Rosie! [ Reply | More ]
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Kathy Bates doing....Baltimore???...on AHS Freak Show [ Reply | More ]
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Julianne Moore doing South Boston on 30 Rock [ Reply | More ]
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That was difficult for everyone. Dear lord. And I love her. [ Reply | More ]
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Best is Jordan Gavaris on Orphan Black - I was shocked when I found out that he wasn't British! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Movies you can watch over and over: 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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All About Eve [ Reply | More ]
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love that one! [ Reply | More ]
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NP me too! Bill's thirty-two. He looks thirty-two. He looked it five years ago, he'll look it twenty years from now. I hate men. [ Reply | More ]
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The Sarah Siddons Award... love that freeze frame as Eve reaches for the statuette..... [ Reply | More ]
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Me- the Talented Mr. Ripley, First Wives Club, Dead Poets Society [ Reply | More ]
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Miracle on Ice, haha. No joke. I'm otherwise a total film snob, but for some reason I watch this over and over again. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, I guess it's just called "Miracle." "Miracle on Ice" is a documentary about the same thing. I could watch that over and over too. [ Reply | More ]
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About ice skating? [ Reply | More ]
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About the 1980 Olympic hockey game between the US and USSR. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
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^With Kurt Russell. High art. [ Reply | More ]
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lol. Now I know what movie you are referring to. [ Reply | More ]
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I can watch the last minute on youtube over and over (of the actual event) that and Keri Strug's one legged vault [ Reply | More ]
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OR-Yes! I love watching that, too! [ Reply | More ]
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The Women- original version [ Reply | More ]
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Wizard of Oz, Frida, The Piano, Mouse Hunt, Close Encounters, Back to the Future, A Place in the Sun. So many, but these came to mind first. [ Reply | More ]
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Moonstruck [ Reply | More ]
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Bull Durham [ Reply | More ]
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Dazed and Confused, Empire Records, The Last of the Mohicans [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. "I WILL FIND YOU" [ Reply | More ]
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Ferris Bueller's Day Off [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Jane Eyre with Michael Fassbender as Mr Rochester - hot damn! [ Reply | More ]
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YES [ Reply | More ]
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grease, back to future, dirty dancing, pretty in pink, [ Reply | More ]
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The Way We Were [ Reply | More ]
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Robert Redford is almost too pretty to be a man in that movie. Hot damn again! [ Reply | More ]
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Shakes the Clown with Bobcat Goldthwait from 1989. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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While You Were Sleeping. If it is on, I have to watch,and I still laugh and cry each time. [ Reply | More ]
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Emma. Pride and Prejudice (BBC). [ Reply | More ]
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godfather, bridget jone's diary, talented mr. ripley, jane eyre, pride and prejudice, pretty in pink, the way we were, [ Reply | More ]
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16 Candles, Harry/Sally, Sound of Music, Wizard of Oz [ Reply | More ]
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I watch Godfather 1 and 2 in a marathon every year or so. I see Casablanca once a year. Over and over: Pretty in Pink, Out of Africa, Talented Mr. Ripley, Gladiator, Zero Dark Thirty, Sound of Music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:27 PM Flag
[ - ] There is an inverse correlation between parents being on UB and their kids getting into Ivies. Haven't seen the HYP bragging one might expect in a site like this 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I've been here a long time. Never HYP crazy in the least. Even DD with 2200+ SAT's and 3.7 average at a Specialized HS had no interest in any Ivy. I think most of the HYP yappers are parents of young kids who still think they will be fully in control come college app time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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What?? I literally see it nowhere BUT here. [ Reply | More ]
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Wealthy NYC kids all want to go to Occidental or Oberlin. I know a few with excellent scores who passed on HYP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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You would expect HYP on a site called urbanBABY? Give it a few years -- it is only the last year or two that anyone even cared about high schools. [ Reply | More ]
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Not so. There was HS chatter when DD was applying. She's a freshman in college now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just got teen's NP evaluation results, and had to postpone the discussion with NP. Such an odd path. dc's IQ at 5yo was 126 with significant scatter. by 8, it was 110 with significant scatter, with a dx of ADHD/anxiety, math disorder and writing disorder. At 11, it was 119 with no disorder limited scatter. And now, at 14, it's 130, no scatter. Is this a normal trajectory for a child with ADHD/co-morbid anxiety? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Your poor kid. I'd have anxiety too if my parents were constantly assessing me. [ Reply | More ]
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If you're not aware triennial testing is required by children with special needs, than you don't have an SN (or 2E) child and should count your blessings. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry but it sounds very stressful. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you the parent whose DD raised a spontaneous fever right before her evaluation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Good birthday parties for 4 year old boy. I haven't done the kid birthday party thing yet (only family parties up until now) but thinking will do one for 4. Are they all miserable? Did anyone ever attend one that wasn't bad? I find then to be painful. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Find them. [ Reply | More ]
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Our only organized party was at a puppet theatre when DD was four. A bunch of boys and girls attended and it was great. Entertainment, feed them, send them home. [ Reply | More ]
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Cute idea. Not sure if we have something like that in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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marionette theater in central park has a party room. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: We do. There's Puppetworks in Park Slope and the Swedish cottage in Central Park. [ Reply | More ]
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Swedish marionette theater in Central Park does birthday parties. [ Reply | More ]
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Great idea. [ Reply | More ]
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love them. its nice to meet and talk to dc's friend parents. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I actually enjoyed one that was at Art Farm for that reason. A lot of the other ones involve gym obstacle courses or weird play space parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:09 PM Flag
[ - ] All "UMC" people with $400K HHI need to read this... 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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"She shops solely at ALDI, probably the cheapest grocery chain, avoids organic and processed foods, and relies on cheap food staples such as eggs and beans." Uh. no thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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the horror! lol. [ Reply | More ]
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I only make 250, but ex pays for all childcare and educational needs, can I read it too? [ Reply | More ]
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how do you manage? [ Reply | More ]
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No mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats on your generous divorce package. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Thank you and the QDRO is great too. [ Reply | More ]
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No, you're probably not smart enough [ Reply | More ]
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what about base child support? [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe the rents are too damn high. [ Reply | More ]
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I could not do it, no way would those ingredients add up to that little. I don't live near an aldi but even shopping at costco won't get you there in the NYC area, not even close. Unless they eating tiny portions I have no idea how they make those meals for that little [ Reply | More ]
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I'm always skeptical of this stuff. Not sustainable. And I'm generally frugal about food. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: same here. We're not the UMC people referenced in OP's post, but I think quality food is important. The thing that stuck out to me immediately in the article was "we buy the very cheapest thing available" (paraphrased). I don't mind cheap, and I'm pretty frugal too, but when I hear "cheap" I can't help but thinking extremely processed stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too, no way does she feed all those people and have left overs to make a different meal and spend that little [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. We costco and meal plan and we are still WAY higher than that for family of 6. [ Reply | More ]
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I looked through it. They eat only 1 snack a day and no desserts, ever. A slice of toast and a hard boiled egg is not going to get anyone to lunch, sorry. And a baked potato for lunch? lol [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Younger woman at my office is marrying a guy (not from our office) who has been married before and has 3 YO. She is furious that the ex wont let them take the 3YO (on the mom's time) to a destination wedding in Greece. Yeah, I see this working out. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Hahahhahahah how old is this gem? [ Reply | More ]
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Ex is lucky she even wants to take him. - signed experienced, unwanted stepdaughter [ Reply | More ]
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She should let them take the 3 year old hahahahah imagine that flight with a 3 year old lol [ Reply | More ]
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At least she isn't secretly relieved dc can't come. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
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was she the OW? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How pathetic am I that I'm already looking forward to The Slap? Last week was great even if the actress playing Rosie can't get her accent right. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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totally agree, accent is horrible. love that show too and like you, can't explain why. [ Reply | More ]
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Because everyone is so new York smug on the outside and so flawed behind the scenes [ Reply | More ]
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I'm with you - WFH and watch it every Friday. Pissed off because DS will be home from school on Friday so I can't watch it. LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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I am so fascinated by Rosie - I want her to have her own spin-off tv show. [ Reply | More ]
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I would so watch that. [ Reply | More ]
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Is that a Queens accent? I still don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
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She is Australian and I think she's trying to do a NY accent but it sounds like a mix of Italian and Queens. [ Reply | More ]
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Reminds me of hints of the stalker in orange is the new black [ Reply | More ]
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Just watched last wk's episode on TIVO. Also looking forward to the ending, even though the whole this would never have gotten that far. Rosie is insufferable. [ Reply | More ]
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Did he cheat on her??! [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know! What do you think? [ Reply | More ]
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I like it too, although I do see much room for improvement. [ Reply | More ]
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Melissa George is Australian, and played that same role on the Australian version of The Slap. My theory is that the Australian character had some sort of recognizable regional accent, and so she has been trying to give the American character one too, but hasn't quite figured out what it is yet. I didn't even notice an accent until the 3rd episode, and then it was European(?), and then the next week is was, what, working class Chicago? [ Reply | More ]
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Omg, the slap is a remake too? Can hollywood do anything original? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What type dc would generally put Salk as first choice vs. Lab as first choice (or be a better fit for one school over the other). Know they are both excellent so not asking which is "better"... just trying to understand the differences between these two good schools. TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Salk=self directed and self motivated. The culture is warm and supportive but a lot of the work and feedback is student-led. Teacher may go over the homework and up to kids to correct their work at times so student needs to care about doing the work for learning sake. Lab= more traditional in terms of tests and teaching style [ Reply | More ]
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Location can make the difference, too. for us Lab is a super easy commute, Salk would not be. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is there such a thing as small family daycare in Manhattan, or are there just big corporate daycares? Also when does preschool start - 2? TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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A few preschools will let kids in before 2.6, but for most, they need to be 2.6 before September, so they need to be born by Feb/Mar of 2014 to get in for the Sep 2016 cycle. [ Reply | More ]
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I've heard of several small daycares on the UWS. There was one called Miss Jessica's that several of DD's friends attended years ago. [ Reply | More ]
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There are some family day cares but more in the outer boroughs. Most people in Manhattan wouldn't have space for that. There are not-for-profit day cares in Manhattan. Most kids go to preschool at 3 but some do limited time at 2s programs. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thank you for all these responses. We are moving from SF in September, and my daughter will be almost 16 months (born May 2014). So she would have to wait until Sept 2017 for preschool? And if I wanted to put her into a part time care situation (I do consulting on a freelance basis), would I be better off with a nanny? Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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You can either get her into a) one of the minority of programs that take 2.0-2.6 aged kids (and of those many have young 2s as the primary entrance point) or b) do a 2s playgroup or a separation arts program and apply broadly for 3s. And Manhattan is a nanny city- you'll prob be getting one in either case. [ Reply | More ]
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weecare on 83rd and York. not family, but small with 10ish kids per room. put yourself on wait lists now for sept. most places have 9 month wait....if not more. this place has part time option too, but again has wait. Its not sparkling clean. reasonably priced for nyc, and many of the kids do well on preK tests for g&t and hunter programs. [ Reply | More ]
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should specify...they do daycare/prek all in one. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is anyone addicted to exercise and feels great afterwards, or is it always hell and requires tons of motivation to do it? I am in my third week of an intense routine and loathe it 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I am the second one [ Reply | More ]
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Me too and DH is the first. So fucking annoying lol [ Reply | More ]
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I am totally addicted to it. I get a real high. I posted earlier about having joined a gym a few weeks ago for the first time in years. I do an hour of cardio each time and then stretch. [ Reply | More ]
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so jealous. how long until i'm addicted? maybe i'm immune to that high, because i hate it and get so bored [ Reply | More ]
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You have to really push yourself to get the high and get addicted. Maybe get a trainer occasionally to help you do this and teach you how. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS - np. It takes a while. You have to get in basic good shape first, which is misery, and learn to push through the unpleasant bit and get the endorphins flowing. Have faith! It will come! [ Reply | More ]
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thanks. i can't wait to be on the other side! [ Reply | More ]
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I promise. I always thought I hated exercise. But you have to force yourself every step of the way to push through it until it happens. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe your workout is too intense to be enjoyeable? I do the elliptical, stairstepper, rowing, bike, etc. Everything is challenging but I'm not exhausted afterwards, I feel lots of energy and it lifts my mood. [ Reply | More ]
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I definitely feel energized afterwards, I just hate it during. I keep looking at the clock. I take classes at equinox [ Reply | More ]
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I listen to podcasts and music and workout by the windows and people watch so I don't get too bored. Classes can sometimes be agony bc they really push you. Maybe do a mix of different things. [ Reply | More ]
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i have never felt the "high" that other people get with exercise - it is torture always [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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Same here [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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the latter. i went through a period where i was doing 3 workouts a day for 9 months, and every one required every ounce of will. [ Reply | More ]
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3 a day or week? [ Reply | More ]
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3 a day. 30 minutes of weights and 45 minutes of cardio in the morning, 60-90 minutes of low-intensity aerobic in the afternoon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My heart is breaking, I want another kid so so badly. Secondary infertility is painful. You can't talk about it IRL but fuck it hurts so bad. 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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thats sucks im sorry [ Reply | More ]
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At least you have one. Signed, has none. [ Reply | More ]
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I know, and that's why I don't talk about it IRL. I know I'm beyond lucky to have my one, but it still hurts like hell. [ Reply | More ]
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you can talk about it IRL just have to find the right person. sorry you are having problems. i had 7 ivfs over 4 years - i didn't talk to anyone and wish I had. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, I'm sorry you went through this. I feel like I have no one to talk to. I was getting my head on straight about the whole thing and just suddenly got crazy about it again. [ Reply | More ]
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step away - take a break - don't do all the crazy things for one month. have you seen a specialist yet? Dr. Chung an Cornell is great. [ Reply | More ]
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DH does not want to do intervention at all (he's a "if it's meant to be, it's meant to be" person), but I really want to see someone. [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf?!?!? No way, drag him kicking and screaming to at least a consult. [ Reply | More ]
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Holy crap! I'm contemplating having one IVF. Sorry you had to go through that. [ Reply | More ]
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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36 almost 37 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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still on the young side of old/old side of young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Sorry. I struggled and am finally pregnant, but it was awful. I do wish it was easier for people to talk about. It's so hard on men, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Thanks, congrats to you! DH doesn't want to hear it - is satisfied with one (as am I at the end of the day, I do feel so lucky). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Thanks. Good luck to you as well. Are you trying naturally, or have you done interventions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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No interventions - DH is dead set against starting with it. What about you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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How long have you been trying?x [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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18 months - 1 m/c in the mix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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i'd definitely get a work up.. it might be some simple fix. it'll happen, don't worry. you still have time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Thanks. Doesn't feel that way, but thank you. Maybe I will do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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do it.. go to ob/re and run some hormone tests and an ultrasound and then maybe an HSG. it's so common and no big deal. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Could my regular OB do this? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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ps: it could be so much worse.. imagine if you've had three ivfs and still no baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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True x a thousand, and that's what keeps me in check. That's why I don't talk about it IRL, it just hit me today. Still hard though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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18 months is a long time. have you been using opks? an OB can do it but they are more into delivering babies and not as skilled in getting pregnant. if your insurance covers it, i'd see an RE or an OB who specializes in RE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Yes, I know but that also included a pregnancy and m/c and I don't think we had sex for like 6 months total during that time. So a 12 months is probably more accurate. Thanks for the info though, will look into that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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I've posted before--lost 1st (natural) pregnancy to a very rare, freak genetic disorder at 7.5 months (!) Not remotely related to age either, just dumb luck. Was 35. Then had 4 MCs in a row, then was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve and told it may never happen. I just walked into the fertility clinic and threw my hands up and told the doctor I'd do anything he said if he thought I had a real chance. The guy was kind of a hard-ass, so I knew he wouldn't lie to me. He said I did, put me on 10k worth of meds, and all is looking good--due in 9 days. I would say go ahead and give the interventions a shot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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GL to you, and congrats!!! DH will not ever in a million years spend 10K on meds. He's happy enough with our DS (who I love to pieces, don't get me wrong - that's the other shitty part of this is that the implication is you aren't satisfied with your kid) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Insurance covered the meds, actually, so you can tell that to your DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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^and no, no, I don't think that's the implication at all!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Had no idea that would be covered. Wonder if our insurance covers. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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^and I don't think you were implying that, but other people do!!! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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wow, what were the 10k worth if meds, if i may ask? did this include iui/ivf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Yes, it was IVF with pretty high doses of stim meds. I think it's par for the course with DOR patients. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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but the 10k was just the meds. The IVF was extra. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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^which we paid for OOP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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ah, i see. thanks.. glad it worked out for you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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thanks. I'll believe it when I'm holding the baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.01.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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it's crazy how much of a silent torture it is. also crazy how hard it can be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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I'm with you. I don't want to be the person who cried when I heard my sister was pregnant again. But I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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I'm sorry - I was just crying because we got an invite to a friend's baby naming. Can't imagine how you feel. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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is this a thing? baby naming celebrations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Jewish tradition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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np: I cried as well. It's so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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It's the worst pain imaginable. I've been trying for two years now.. and I'm like a completely different person than I used to be. Walk around constantly with a heavy heart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Thanks for this, and I'm sorry you are going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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^oh, and if one more person tells me how much I'm messing up DS by making him an only, or asking me when we're having another, I will kill them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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I posted above--I'm an only and I loved it. I want to smack anyone who says this to people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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I would have preferred to remain an only (my brother is 11 years younger than me), which is the biggest irony of the situation. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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i'm an only too and hate how people talk shit about it! someone said recently to me "the only thing worse than one is none" ...i was like, hello? i was one, asshole [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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Ugh, that is awful. Why are people so freaking judgy all the time? I think this whole thing was dredged up today because I'm dreading the big family Passover next week - last year a cousin was like interrogating me over having another kid. STFU already! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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oh, i've basically cut out my entire family whilst dealing with this. my cousins all had babies starting at 26 and seem so smug about it.. i don't even want to deal with them when i'm 35 and still in the midst of this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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:( I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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^I'm an only because I come from a long line of Rh- women, and in the foreign country where I was born, there were no treatments for this. Docs told my mother she could only have one, and after that the next would be born with horrible birth defects or hemolytic disease. Being an only was fine for me, but my parents really suffered. They would have loved more. People can be so insensitive--they have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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So true. People are just rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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I am so sorry, and I don't know what the future holds for you. I had a friend who had 9 miscarriages trying to have a second. It was awful, but she did success. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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I can't imagine 9. Had one and it was enough. I'm petrified of going there again. Darkest place I've ever been in my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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OP: I have to go pick up DS. Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice, this is UB at its finest and you all made me feel 100000% less alone tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Hi me too. Totally relating to all of what you're saying. Ttc for 18 months while dd just gets older and older and I wonder if she'll ever have a sibling or how big the age gap will get... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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you're gone now, but I could have written this myself. 3 years, several pregnancies that all fail, just had a failed IVF. Of course I am grateful for my wonderful ds. But I just got rid of all the baby clothing I had saved because it is so old (ds is 5) and it was so hard, just cried and cried. Need to get rid of stroller and crib but that is hard to do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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yes, i've been there. after 3 miscarriages, had healthy DB at 42; took blood thinners. kids are 7 years apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Any intuitive moms here? When will dh change jobs? Will he take one of the ones with the companies he's talking to now? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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Hi - OTM here. I drew a card for you. The card is the 10 of Coins, which represents wealth! I believe he will get a fantastic offer from one of these companies he's talking to now, and will be reaping the rewards very soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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np: OTM - can I ask you a question? What do you see happening with a global settlement that is speculated to occur in the next few months at DH's firm? Do you see DH receiving a six figure settlement from this? Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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