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[ - ] Amal is just turning into another celeb pretty face blah blah 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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Her dress is beyond hideous. She has the WORST taste in clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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Naw. She tries WAY to hard. Her eagerness is all over her face. Like a golden retriever. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ok, feeling crazy sore breasts, emotional, not period time, age 43 44 in July- could this be menopause? When were your first symptoms? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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It's definitely not menopause, since menopause is one point in time--one year without a period. Could be peri-menopause, though. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] WOHM's tell me it gets better. I have a three year old and and 3 month old. Today starts my 3rd week back at work from maternity leave. I can deal with work but coming home and dealing with the whiny toddler is killing me. We are potty training and she had two poop accidents while we were eating dinner. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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It gets so much better! My kids are 2 1/2 years apart. I didn't feel like a human until the baby was about 1yo and then little by little it got easier. They are 9 and 11 now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Thanks you! Everyone says enjoy this time it goes by so fast, but every day is such a fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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My kids are 10, 11, 13. It gets so much easier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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That is where I am. Weekends are toddler drama cute great and work is great but transitioning from a long day to walk in the door and do the second shift with almost 3 year old is brutal. I see why my male co-worker fake working until bed time. Then with all the adorable parts I feel guilty for not being more appreciative for every minute home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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I totally know what you mean about feeling guilty when the cute parts happen. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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The potty stuff is torture [ Reply | More ]
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My kids are now 2 1/2 and 4 1/2 and its pretty easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Dealing with a narcisstic mom and aunt, help please. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Aunt is worse. 50, unmarried and in need of constant validation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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OMG, she's younger than me! [ Reply | More ]
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Me, too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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Do you live with them? Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
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Mom and aunt are within driving distance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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My aunt is like this. My mother was not. Unfortunately my mom passed away and now we have to deal with the aunt. She's the most self-serving person I've ever met. And I never realized what a great job my mom did to shield us from her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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read "the dance of anger". [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you, I will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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My mother has me and my brother and my mom is still married to my father. She always needs validation. Is it insecurity in these personalities? It is so exhausting. I've read about how narcissists need their narcissistic supply, and when they don't get it, a push/pull relationship forms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Op- I have to pull away and step back often. I've read about the push/pull relationship. Both contact me when they have lost favor and try to gain it back. It gets to be exhausting. Often I ostracize myself because DH and I have our own normal stressors like everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:09 AM Flag
[ - ] What type of person becomes a medical examiner, mortician, funeral director, etc. Are they all creepy? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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There's a woman who blogs about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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My great grandfather and my cousin. They were/are good people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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Phaedra [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know about morticians, but I know a few medical examiners and they aren't any creepier than the general public. It is a pretty interesting field, very difficult to get a job in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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My sister married a mortician, they lived over the mortuary! Eventually my BIL went on a different career path. They are not creepy people and my sister used to say living over the mortuary was very quiet, LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I think I figured out Mad Men. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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They all die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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do tell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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OK. Spill! I think Don moves to California and uses his real name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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He w Quits drinking and smoking. [ Reply | More ]
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I want Joan and Peggy to start their own agency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
[ - ] I can't stop laughing a the "Charlotte is so trendy" posts in the most pop. Like the British royal family care what a bunch of insular NYers name their kids. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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There has been a lot of hand-wringing because of this. I find it hilarious too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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Why do you keep posting this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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What? I signed on a bit ago and just read it. I'm not the only one who finds it funny I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Did Madonna do something to her face? Or is it just the picture? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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She's a freak show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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All the young guys she hangs with are gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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She looks amazing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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She's pushing 60. She has admitted to botox, etc. I hope I'm in that good shape in five years, but probably not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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No but her face looks 30 years younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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From the last time I saw her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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Not really. I'm quite familiar with the young Madonna, and her face is that of a 50-something year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Her face is NOT that of a 50 yo. It is botoxed, filled, lifted and stretched. This is not a natural face in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Botoxed and filled is the face of a 50-something year old. Without this, she would look like the rest of us. I'm not fooled, why are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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Look at the picture [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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I did, and it's not the young Madonna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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Yes. Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Facelift too and tons of fillers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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she looks like beyonce. it's the tidal effect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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she looks like she is in her mid-50s, with cheek implants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Ok I know she has has stuff done to her face in the past. I'm talking recently. In this picture she looks way younger. Just to clarify. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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Wow, I have to say she looks good here. She's changed her makeup dramatically and for the better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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She looks great in that pic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Now that we know how Dave Goldberg died I'm so torn up about it. So few good DHs and we have to lose one? Why couldn't it could have been one of the sociopathic narcissists that many of us are/were apparently married to :( 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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speak for yourself. anyway, he wasn't gonna be yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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Why are all of you obsessed with this person??? I have never heard of him. Geez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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Jesus Christ get a real problem. You have no idea what he was like, and he wasn't your husband. Some real weirdos on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:49 AM Flag
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"You have no idea what he was like" all we have been fed so far is PR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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Why does anyone care. I doubt anyone here knew him IRL. He's a dead guy no one knows and OP is canonizing him to the detriment of her own dh. It's so bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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"we"? i never had him to begin with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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There are plenty of wonderful DHs. Don't take the UB population for illustrative of anything more broad or endemic of the population in general. There's a reason so many women on UB don't get along with their husbands, and it isn't all the mens' fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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Maybe it's corny but your post reminded me of the Billy Joel song "Only the good die young." This has been a human issue throughout time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:51 AM Flag
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Actually lots of people die young. Dying is a "human issue". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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OR: I don't disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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I don't think there are so few good dhs. I think there are a lot of unsung heroes. Goldberg got tons of press because of who he is and who his wife is and because they both bragged a lot about what great parents they are. Tons of guys without the cash and the platform to toot their own horn who are just as great as Goldberg. Unsung heroes. Sad Goldberg is dead but let's not canonize him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:52 AM Flag
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Exactly. My brother is one of those people. People don't hear about him (and people on UB would look down him because of his tragectory in life) but he is such an awesome person. If he died, the world would be an empty place for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:54 AM Flag
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People on UB are easily star struck and swayed by marketing for such a bunch of supposedly "doubled Ivied" people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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He was rich and powerful. He was also a good guy. No better than other really good guys maybe. He didn't ask for all this press. Yes, I knew him a bit. It's very sad. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Shit happens. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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Come on. It's sad but nothing close to the tragedy of a child dying. Get a grip, really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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Right?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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Plenty lf good women and children die too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
[ - ] I already know what everyone on this board will say but I want to vent anyway. I've raised DH's daughters from his first marriage for 3 years now, and one of them graduates in May from high school. Her Mom has been totally absent during these years while I have done everything from drive her to school to write her college essays to cook for her- while Mom has literally done nothing. She didn't think to mention to me that her Mom was coming to the graduation and I found out by accident by overhearing it. I said that I would rather not sit together and his daughters were super snotty in response and so you know what? I'm going to go out of town to see my best friend. I don't want to be in the middle of that cluster. She's never even once said thank you for one single thing I've done for her girls and they came to me without any vaccines, way behind academically, with major cases of lice; issues. I was left mostly to deal with it while DH travelled. I'm so done. Rant over. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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You did these favors for DH. Seems like neither parents gave a shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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Ugh, true. He was always gone out of town 80% of the time on work trips and the mom lives in another country. She's never once said thank you to me, it's infuriating really. Sorry to not be the bigger person but no way I am going to sit next to her and her 3 friends while she applauds for the graduation of the kid she ignored all this time. Girls weekend for me. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not a matter of being the bigger person but my guess is the dd feels more attached to you and will be happy to have you there. you may regret not being there in yrs to come. JMO. You're awesome either way. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^and you can sit there and roll your eyes at the bio mom, who won't know anyone there. [ Reply | More ]
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You, I like. [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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Why not be a bigger person? Sounds like you're not a real mom. A real mom would prefer to sit with people she doesn't like than to miss her DD's graduation. I feel sorry for the daughter in question, since looks like mom and stepmom are both more about what they "get", rather than "give" in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:51 AM Flag
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Agree. You should go. Just suck it up and go. What are you telling this girl if you don't go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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HE should be the one thanking you. But let me guess, he pays the bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:54 AM Flag
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You don't get it. You are stepping in to help your DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:55 AM Flag
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Exactly. You did it for dh and for yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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It's okay, you can vent. My mother left our family when I was two, and has never reappeared. If she did, I would give her a piece of mind, and if she tried to pull any fast ones on my adoptive mom, I'd give her some physical consequence. I know that sounds jerky, but really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:47 AM Flag
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Vent. But when you've cooled down and had some time away from the volcano of anger you're experiencing now, think about the message you are sending your step DD if you don't show up, you would be making her graduation about you, when it's about her. I think your loyalty to her should be above all else. Screw the rest if they don't get it. Even step DD may not understand until she is a grown woman, but don't add "and she wouldn't come to my graduation" to her narrative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:54 AM Flag
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I agree, but when you have step kids what you begin to realize is that they will add lots of stuff about you to their narrative that is negative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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There's a difference between her telling her perspective and your writing negative facts into her narrative for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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Well said. And when she is older there is a good chance she will get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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they are kids...i understand not feeling appreciated but they are kids. dh has no opinion? sounds like that is who you really should be angry with, does not sound like he is too involved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:56 AM Flag
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You should go. U did a lot for her and will continue. In ten years you will regret not going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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You're totally entitled to vent. But as a fellow stepmother who also picked up the parenting slack for step-DC's mother (an alcoholic who had a long, time-consuming affair with a married man), I urge you to go to the graduation. They want their mother to be something she isn't and they are entitled to keep trying as long as they want to. I won't go into the odyssey of my stepmothering experience except to say there were some very ugly times but to my surprise, my step-DD wrote me a beautiful letter of thanks as she grew close to adulthood. I never expected it, but will always treasure it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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Take a deep breath, settle down, and cancel the trip. Your SD is being rude to you because she feels comfortable with you, she knows you will be there for her no matter what. Like a toddler can act up with parents because she knows she is loved. Years ( or months) from now you will be glad you went to graduation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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You should go. Take photos for memories, then leave quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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Stepmom here. I ate shit many times for DHs son. I hope he'll appreciate someday. He's a good kid who has made some mistakes. Be the bigger person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Your frustration is valid but now you're behaving like an adolescent. Grow up and go to the graduation. They're kids and it's their mother you're talking about. It's not about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
[ - ] I am in Carrol gardens and they are tearing up the street outside? Wtf? Maybe con Ed- five year old can't sleep - school tomorrow - quarter to nine. Are they allowed to do fhis? Where do I complain? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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Snowflake is tired [ Reply | More ]
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,com [ Reply | More ]
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call 311. Its way too late [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, this a construction noise complaint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Except if its an emergency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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They've been doing this in my neighborhood for years. Years. You'll get used to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Yes. When Con Ed has to do emergency repairs or work on a busy street, they do it on the weekend or at night. [ Reply | More ]
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They've been doing this in my neighborhood for years. Years. You'll get used to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone gotten a permanent hair straightening treatment? Which one and how was it? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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I was just reading about this and wishing today -- I have wavy hair that's going witchy gray, and I'd rather have shiny, manageable pin-straight gray than beautiful color that I still have to style. The formaldehyde freaks me out too much, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:47 AM Flag
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I'm not sure if there's a "permanent" treatment. They all wear off eventually and your hair growing in is obviously not straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:52 AM Flag
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"" that being said, I do Brazilian blowout. [ Reply | More ]
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like it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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Yes. My hair is wavy/curly and w BB I blow dry it straight - but still w body - without even using a brush while blow drying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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does it dry your hair out? [ Reply | More ]
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No. It's crazy shiny and I barely ever get split ends. [ Reply | More ]
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Awesome. How often do you do it? Think it's actually dangerous? [ Reply | More ]
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right, but they are referred to as permanent treatments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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Whatevs. I've always just heard it referred to by type of treatment - Japanese, keratin, etc. Just trying to be helpful and make sure I'm on the same page as OP. [ Reply | More ]
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Perm was the term for getting curly hair before. It is permanent for the hair treated. New hair grows in though, so you always need another "perm". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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I get a Brazilan blowout, it's not permanent but it is so worth. Saves so much blow-drying time. It is annoying because it takes over two hours to do but SO worth it. Schedule one right now, you won't regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Omg DH is standing in the window doing a menacing dance with a rake to agitate our little terrier, who is standing on a table barking. I'm about to pee my pants. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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We are all laughing with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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If you could see his stupid face....hahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:44 AM Flag
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Why do you have a rake? No yard. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a yard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:58 AM Flag
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How do you know she doesn't have a yard. [ Reply | More ]
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Because she knows nothing other than living in an nyc shoebox [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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I live in Manhattan and have a hard. Why can't OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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Cute...it's the little things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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I wish my dh would make me laugh [ Reply | More ]
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Csb [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ugh. I wish I could cure my DD's pollen allergies 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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Pray for me too. It is horrible. [ Reply | More ]
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I know! They seem worse this year than ever. I just bought four bottles of Allegra. Also trying a teaspoon of local honey a day. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] STM are you here? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff how is de blasio or anyone else other than the perp to blame when someone in nyc gets shot? you women are cray cray. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:38 AM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 12:40 AM Flag
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I agree, but saying cray cray makes you sound like a 12 year old. Three years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.05.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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