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[ - ] DH punched me in the back of the head several months ago so hard it was throbbing for 4 days. My mother was visiting at the time and I did tell her but did not call cops or anything. No real violence otherwise except verbal abuse and getting pushed around sometimes and I admit to have pushing back. I don't want divorce but don't want dc to see me yelled at most nights. Does he have anything to fear custody wise with this major close fisted punch? It was 100% a concussion as I had one skiing before and the throbbing and not being able to move head was the same. I just brought it up tonight and DH said I should have called the cops "if I wanted too." I did not call cops because I have never been hit and didn't think of it and also my mother was visiting. I know it sounds like we are trash but surprisingly UMC people. Obviously we are heading to divorce. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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A punch from 4 months ago for which there is no proof? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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I don't know, but I hope your situation improves soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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No, because you didn't report it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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op: I didn't think it would matter in the grand scheme of things but I did tell my mother who was there at the time but did not see it. I think we will just do regular joint custody which should be fine until dc is older and may make DH angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:05 AM Flag
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Younger DCs can be aggravating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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op: I know. DH may just give full custody with the agreement he can take dc anytime he wants reasonably. He has never been alone with dc in 4 years. Always with me or with his family. I think he will be better off having dc for events with friends and family than just hanging out at home just because it is his day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:31 AM Flag
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also because you didnt seek medical treatment or otherwise document it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:15 AM Flag
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op: That is what I thought. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:27 AM Flag
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I have a question... do you get a concussion just from banging your head? Like, if I'm getting out of the car and bump my head, is it automatically a concussion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:29 AM Flag
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op: No. A concussion is pretty severe head trauma that makes the brain swell. I can't imagine you hitting your head so hard getting out of a car unless you were severely intoxicated or on drugs. I am not a neurologist so I think there are minor concussions but when you get a serious one like punched in the head you know it. It is so painful you cant turn your head quickly and a sneeze or a cough is extremely painful. You just have to lay down for several days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I've lived in both places. What do you want to know? Do you have little kids? The Roosevelt island day nursery on roosevelt is a fantastic preschool and also has a babies and toddlers program if you'll need that. Ps217 also rapidly improving and will only get better with the partnership with cornell 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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^ Whoops - meant this for the below re roosevelt island vs LIC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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Op. Thank you. One thing I'm wondering is if it feels like a community. I am mostly a SAHM so I will be spending a lot of time there. I lived in Manhattan in my 20s and loved it but I'm wondering if I'm too used to having a lot of space. Plus my toddler is very active [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:49 AM Flag
[ - ] We are moving from CA and considering living in one of the new buildings on Long Island City or Roosevelt Island - me, DH, and 16 month old. What is it like living out there? Are there young families? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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I think Roosevelt Island is amazing, my family is considering moving there too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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Bad ideas. Look at BK or Morninside Heights or Queens first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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No way. Depends on personality and needs and where DH will work. Presumably midtown east [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Yes, midtown east. I consult on a freelance basis so will be home most of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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you will be bored [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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np, I know these areas well. it depends in your personality. if you need crowds and activity around u, avoid these two. if u are a homebody and enjoy time with family then do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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Think of it this way. manhattan is like north beach a constant hum of activity. Roosevelt Island is like Marin, sort of tranquil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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RI is a prison. I like playing tennis there but would never live there. No point in paying the NYC 4% resident income tax to live in a place with no retail and not easy access to Manhattan- might be different if you didn't have to take a bus to the F subway or if the tram went further in, but it's not that easy to get to Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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Lots of young families on roosevelt island. Lovely green space and playgrounds. Bad restaurant choices for now but will improve. Also short ride to manhattan and Astoria in queens with great restaurants. LIC also good. But more of a bedroom community in past when I lived there. RI extremely family friendly and VERY international if that's a plus. Will you have a car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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Op. We do have a car. What do you mean by international? I'm intrigurd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:46 AM Flag
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See my accidental post above op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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We moved from CA to the UES, and it has been great. Close to private schools and the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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+1. Yorkvile. CS park and river walk and ps 290. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Op. This was our original choice but it seems like you can get a lot more space out there. My 16 mo is super active and wants to be outside a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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Op. This was our original choice but it seems like you can get a lot more space out there. My 16 mo is super active and wants to be outside a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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LIC and esp RI do not compare to UES from a neighborhood and kids services standpoint. Yes there are some families but not like UES- there are 30 preschools in the UES alone- for all I know there might not be any in RI or LIC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.04.15, 05:17 AM Flag
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