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[ - ] I got gingivitis from a guy 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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It's contagious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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He didn't floss you? [ Reply | More ]
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No floss, no gloss. [ Reply | More ]
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What else did he give you? [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? Is that really contagious? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How long does it take to evict a tenant for nonpayment of rent? To actually get them removed? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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In NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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In NY? A very long time. They get a chance to "remedy" the situation - ie pay up - and then lots of delays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody else concerned at Ebola on college campuses? There are students and professors returning to school now directly from the infected countries. DD is a Freshman. Is this a silly thing to be worried about? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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Way, way, way low on the list of things to worry about on college campuses. I have a DD in college. I could list dozens of things I could worry about. It would never occur to me worry about ebola. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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It's not even on the list at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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Yes it's a very silly thing to be worried about. [ Reply | More ]
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Drug use, alcohol, crazy roommates, homesickness, etc, etc, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Yes...very crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] So, I know I am late to the scores thing here. Sorry. Just got my Aris password straightened out. Young (December birthday) rising 4th grader in D2 got 3.9E and 4.1M. I know these are decent, but, if he were a year older, would these allow him to test for selective middle schools? Does age factor in at all? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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There are no score cutoffs for selective D2 middle schools. He can test for whichever one he wants. Age does not matter at all. I'm surprised it still concerns you with a 4th grader. Does he act young? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O on marrying DH's who don't do anything. Are you really all that overwhelmed and stretched thin? I ask this seriously. I WOHM in a demanding (oversee large international team in a non-profit), but not very lucrative job. Divorced and raising two DCs who are in high school now, and also very busy. I do all the things you all talk about. Cooking, cleaning, running the household administrative stuff, coordinating family activities, etc. I have never been able to afford help. While I am definitely busy, the "I am so overwhelmed and resentful" feeling just isn't one I get and honestly, even when I was married to a DH who did very little of this, I still didn't have that feeling. This isn't a VBA, I guess I am just somewhat surprised that there really is this widespread sentiment among professional women. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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I totally agree. I have a big job and am single mom. I DO have a nanny who pitches in with some household stuff, but pretty much I do it all. I sometimes wonder if doing it alone is easier because you don't have the expectation that someone else should be helping you. Maybe they are partly feeling frustration at that, but it spills out as overwhelmed by the tasks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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np: you hit it right in the nail. You and OP are doing it all alone b/c you are single parents. You don't expect anyone to do it for you. BUT when there's another adult in the home, you expect help. Instead you get another person to clean up after and do shit for. This is why women (myself included) are resentful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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OP and while I get what you are getting at, I was married for several years and still didn't generally fall into feeling this way. Once and a while, sure, but definitely not a pervasive feeling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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I felt overwhelmed sometimes when my DC were young but by MS, everything was much, much easier. I am not much of a worrier and I try to deal with things as they come. So much angst seems self inflicted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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+1. OP it isn't as if I am not busy. I am. But the worry/stress over how much it sucks that I have too many things to do or whatever just doesn't seem very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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Sing it, sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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yes, it is a vba - seriously. but glad to hear you have it all under control [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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They are whining. I automatically skim over those posts. So tiresome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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Some women are not married to team players. They end up taking care of their DH, too. That causes a lot of the resentment. My DH traveled for long stretches of time. We were all more relaxed when he was away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Please. It was your choice to take care of DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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Just saying it was easier with one less person at home. We never had the problems and resentments that some women on UB write about, hence "they." He always pulled his own weight when he was home. My DH is now very sick and it is my pleasure to be able to take care of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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I get stressed about work on occasion but I certainly don't have any resentment towards my DH about it. I have a high pressure job..it's my choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you generally spend on a hotel each night when traveling? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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for a family vacation? around a thousand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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np: a night? where do you stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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usually four seasons or ritz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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Depends on location. Big US cities, $200-300. Europe, more like $100-150. Mexico, about a buck-fifty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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^ But we never take the kids on vacation with us, so we don't need anything big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Never? You suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Your DC have never been on a vacation? Or is staying with the grands considered a vacation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Really varies, but let's say $250 - 300. More in a city or going to a resort. Kind of depends on what we are doing. If it is a place we will be out all day (National Parks, etc.) we tend to go cheaper. Obviously if we go at peak Spring Break time we pay more. Probably $400-$500. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Generally $600-1000 depending on location, size, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Thinking about trying air b and b. Not the kind where the host is there, the kind where they clear out when you move in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Less than $125. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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I drive a hard bargain. I really shop around. Less than $200/night and more like $100/night. I bid on Priceline whenever possible or stay in bed & breakfasts. I have even gotten screaming deals in London and Paris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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Depends on multiple factors..time if year, where, purpose of the trip, etc. I have spent anywhere between $75-850 on a hotel room in 2014. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Diagnose me. Low fever. Tons of snot. Diarrhea. Sore throat better in first two days. Night sweats. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Ebola. Get your affairs in order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Shit. I was exposed earlier this summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Ebola. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Fucking Ebola!! Are your eyeballs bleeding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Just a little dripping. [ Reply | More ]
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I officially diagnose you with Ebola. Please get thee to your local quarantine centre so you can be sprayed with disinfectant by a nice health worker in a space suit. Try not to rub your bodily fluids on people on your way there - that would be rather rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Pneumonia [ Reply | More ]
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Strep. Feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I am at a friends beach house. Have horrible diarrhea. Should I leave? What should I tell her?? I feel so bad but think everyone will be happier without me here. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Yes, leave. Don't make everyone else sick! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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They are probably already exposed by now, assuming it's contagious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Do you have your own bathroom? Then stay. If you're sharing a bathroom, then leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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Sharing bathroom. Do I just say I'm not well and ask for a ride to the bus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yes, do that. You will be so much more comfortable at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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I would never get on a bus if I had diarrhea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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It has a bathroom. What other choice do I have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Same as belle. Immodium [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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drink entire lime with little bit of water. will stop your diarrhea almost instantly. trust me. it works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Kaopectate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Good bar mitzvah gift? $100 range 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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A multiple of 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Why of 18? Cash only?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Tradition. Checks are fine. [ Reply | More ]
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np: 18 is the jewish lucky number. i'm not jewish and even i know that. i thought everybody did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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In Hebrew, the numerical value of the word "life" is. 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Chai means "Life". Comprised of the letters Chet and Yud, together they form the word "Chai", a word that reflects the importance of life in Judaism. According to the Gematria, a Jewish mystical tradition that assigns a numerological value to Hebrew letters, the Chet has a value of 8 and the Yud has a value of 10, adding up to the number 18. Because of this, the number 18 represents good luck and gifts are often given in multiples of Chai, or 18. It symbolizes giving the recipient the gift of "life" or luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Check for $100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Make it 108 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Arguing with dh in front of dc has become way too normal in our relationship to the point that 6 y/o dd tries to separate us. We need to divorce right? We're f*cking up our dc if we don't divorce right? WWYD? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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No. Divorcing is worse. Argue in private. Btdt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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op: arguments get heated and we yell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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^^^ dd is now saying her head hurts, crying, goes to her room. I'm devastated at what we're doing to her. I think we just need to separate. We do it all the time. On vacation for a week, and we didn't argue 1 day of the vacation. Argued (yelled) the entire time. We just can't get along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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So. Teach your kids conflict resolution. That couples can argue and make up. Don't be such a wimp. You took vows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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op: ummmm……not being a wimp. trying to shield my dd from all the madness, yelling. dh slams door and pushes me on bed and yells while i yell back. this can't be healthy for her. we can't control ourselves once emotions are heated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Then stop it. Get into therapy immediately and get DH into anger management now. Divorce is very very rough on kids. And you. Unless you have your own money, you will be in a rough place too. That is bad for DD too. Think through this. Don't be impulsive. Clearly you are too impulsive already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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"we can't control ourselves" - so you leave it to your 6yo to try and help you out, separating you, trying to stop your arguing. You should be ashamed of yourself - you and your DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Shame isn't helpful! But I do agree that you two have to learn control. This is a horrible way to live, with or without kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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op: I know. I don't see it changing. DH won't do therapy. THis is why I think separating is our best option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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He is willing to separate? Move out? How willing? or will that just lead to more fighting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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op: he says he won't leave dd so yes, more fighting i guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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You just don't want a solution. You want to win. You leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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You guys need to learn how to work things out. Why do you jump to divorce? Make a pact to stop yelling. Just agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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+1 Learn to be polite and pleasant to each other until behind closed doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Try to stay calm in front of your dd. You're stressing her out by fighting. Set ground rules for arguing when she's around, like no yelling, and table the discussion for when she's not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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argue in private. GROW THE FUCK UP and act like adults. WTF is wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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op: we live in a tiny apt. dh yells and then i yell. dc hear us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Don't yell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Figure out better ways to handle your issues. You are teaching your DC that fighting is a way to deal with conflict. Sounds like you are looking for an easy excuse to get out of your marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Isn't it just exhausting to deal with fear and anger by yelling at one another? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Let's assume for a moment this is all your DH's fault and you don't want to fight in front of your DC. If he raises his voice, leave and take your DD. But I think you like to battle. Please, for your child's sake, get it together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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op: not saying at all that my dh is entirely at fault. I argue and yell right back. I try to control myself, but my emotions take over. It's like I become another person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Then leave before you transform. Take a walk. Cool off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age did you start giving your DC an allowance? How much? What chores did you expect them to do to earn their allowance? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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6. No chores tied to allowance, but dc expected to do chores as a member of the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Exactly the same in our house! And a small amount has to go in savings and a small amount to charity of their choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Mine are 13 and 15, no allowance. They do help around the house with washing dishes, laundry, sweeping, etc. in addition to keeping their rooms clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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this was us - kids are now in their 20's and they survived with out allowance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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How does 13 year old (I am guessing 15 year old could work some) have any spending money? Did they ever get allowance and you stopped at some point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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my kids are in their 20's now and never got allowance, if they needed money for something we gave it them within reason - it's not like they need much money for anything - they both also got odd jobs, my daughter always babysat and my son usually did dog walking for the neighbor and also leaves, snow, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Got it. I give allowance, but then they have to buy their own candy for a movie, r snack if they want something I didn't bring, or an app, or a comic book (thought they don't really read them, but once one wanted one). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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Allowance started the summer before kindergarten. Chores started at 2yo. We don't directly link chores to allowance. Everyone works together to take care of our home, and everyone shares in the family income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] What do kids wear on their first day of school? Regular play clothes, or something a bit nicer for first day photos? My 5 yo dd starts next week. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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Depends on income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Op: why would it depend on income? FWIW, hhi is $300k. Dd will be in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Then fancy. If you're ghetto people the kids wear the usual rags. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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You are disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Depends. I think I'll just keep my kid as comfortable as possible and he'll wear his favorite T shirt with shorts. He had a haircut - that's about as good as it's going to get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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DD would always pick out a special outfit. DS could not care less. What would make your DD feel most comfortable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Always a little nicer. Like a polo shirt or SS plaid shirt with khaki shorts and a belt. Nothing over the top. For a girl, maybe let her pick a cute cotton dress or shorts and a cute top. Only if SHE cares though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Whatever they will be comfortable in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Crazy diahrea for a few days now. What should I do to fix this?? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Imodium [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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Isn't there a more natural method? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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The more natural method is to let it, um, take its course. keep yourself hydrated and if it's still here after the weekend, see a dr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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np - when you are uncomfortable who cares about "natural" imodium usually works [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Brat diet works for kids. Bananas, rice, applesauce, toast [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Does it work for adults? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I've also had diarreah for about 5 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Kaopectate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] summer break is over! :( 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have school aged children, what's the optimal number of summer break weeks for you? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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4-6. Same in winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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51 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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NYC public school Teacher here - I say 6 in summer and then add the 2 weeks to winter and spring break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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I understand this from learning perspective, but only if whole country did same. Want to see friends, spend summer with cousins, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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10-12. Love summer. [ Reply | More ]
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same [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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