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[ - ] Can someone recommend a sunhat to me that isn't completely ugly? Preferably one not too large (I can't pull off that large, about to go the Kentucky Derby hat look) and preferably available online. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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I like the straw cowboy style hats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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I just wear a baseball cap and pull my ponytail through the back. That's my style both running and walking around. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there a hat that doesn't make you a million times hotter? That's the hat i want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:29 PM Flag
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White hats. I wore a baseball cap while I lived in FL, others wore more bucket with brim (smaller ones). Just wear a hat. It's important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your tweens doing this week/summer break? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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I just put my 11 y/o on the bus to sleepaway camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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Girls’ mountain biking daycamp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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She's in an 8 week travel camp. They do a few overnighters too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Day camp. 2 academic, one gymnastics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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sleepaway camp with a focus on sailing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Sports camp - that’s all she wants to do, focus on her sport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some travel ideas- our plans to visit my parents in another state have been thwarted due to them having some health issues that they have to deal with and they’re not up to having us. In the event that we can get the airline to waive the rebooking fee (something I’ve successfully done before), where should we go? It’s for the third week in August so pretty last minute and I know so many places are all booked up. Feeling overwhelmed trying to figure this out. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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What state whereyou flying to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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We were (or maybe still are) flying to TX. Coming from nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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^and we could find places to stay/things to do there, but in late August any outdoor activity would be pretty miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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Where to in Texas? It’ll be hot but people live there year ‘round. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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Nova Scotia, Finger Lakes, Lake Superior, Vancouver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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Nova Scotia seems like a nice choice; wondering if they still have availability? And we’d need to get expedited passports for our kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:58 PM Flag
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i think I would do one of the great lakes in Michigan or the Pacific NW if I could find a couple nice places to stay. Makes the passports a non-issue (but I would start the non-expedited process on those for next year). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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OR- same. Don’t know if NS is worth it if you have to go through the passport stress. Look into Apostle Islands, Mackinac Island, Pictured Rocks, Sleeping Bear Dunes, Boundary Waters Canoe area... all gorgeous Great Lakes areas. You could probably do more than one of them depending on where you fly in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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Op: Michigan lakes sound promising.....just texted a friend who’s from Michigan for recommendations. Thanks for the ideas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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If you want to stay domestic California. Can do the SF/Monterey area or SoCal. How long and how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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We have one week; kids are11 and 13 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Yellowstone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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I've found that things open up the third week of August. Parts of the country are back in school already and many students start sports and other things that week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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This. We went to South Dakota one year at the end of August and there were almost zero families with kids. School starts much earlier in other parts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD. going to family camp (kids old sleepaway camp) next month. I’ve always taken Amtrak and a local shuttle but the shuttle is now out of business and there’s no good way to get there. I’ve emailed a number of times over the last few weeks to ask for guidance/ see if other families want to rent a small bus etc and very uncharacteristically have yet to hear back. Usually get responses same day from this staff. I’m one to get easily annoyed and cut someone off when I get a bad vibe and I don’t want to do that in this case. Talk me off the ledge? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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Offs princess. Rent a car and drive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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Not really a driver. Also cost prohibitive rn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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Did you price? Amtrack plus shuttle equals? How much more is car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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How many people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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let it go. people are busy - they have kids there right now (right?) and should be focused on the kids. it is annoying, but see if you can find a local car service/cabby and make plans ahead of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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sorry, but i would not think to contact camp or have them coordinate this. I would rent a car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:20 PM Flag
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How far is it? Maybe a local taxi service? You can google it. My friend made $$ in a place as a local Uber driver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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Now there's some common sense right there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Just finished BLL yesterday. **SPOILERS** If you realized you never loved your husband the way Bonnie did, do you leave, or stay together for your daughter's sake? Felt bad for the little girl but Bonnie's so young to be trapped in a loveless marriage... (hope it goes without saying that I'm not actually worried about fictional characters, just people out there who might be experiencing this in real life) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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Not having watched the show, I think you stay. You had a choice, your child didn’t get one. But if you’re married to a dangerous psychopath like my father, you get the hell out anyway you can. My mom did us no favors staying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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SPOILER: my general thought is that there is too much going on in her life -- the Perry thing and dealing with both her mom's abusive behavior and her mom's stroke. she is making this about him when it really isn't. he is too good of a husband to leave without giving the marriage a real shot, and she is not emotionally in a place to give it a shot. she needs to grieve her mom, get some therapy and give her marriage a real shot after that. she is young enough to give it 18 months to get herself in a healthy place and then make life altering decisions for herself and her daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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No I think she realizes she has made choices based on motivations driven by dysfunction. She knows this 100%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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maybe. doesn't necessarily make them bad choices. there is a lot going on in her life right now. all I am saying is that she should take some time to process it and make a decisions when she is on solid ground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Np. In what ways was he a dangerous psychopath? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:45 PM Flag
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Meant for OR above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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I think it's more than just not being in love. You do not have to be "in love" all the time to be married. But, you have to have at least some reasons for wanting to stay in the marriage. If you have to tell your spouse out loud, "I don't love you, I never loved you" then you are pretty much saying "there's nothing about you that makes me want to be with you." Harsh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I am starting Whole 30 today. Wish me luck! Huge sugar addict here 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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I did it for about 2 weeks and felt great and very satisfied. Not even sure why I stopped other than laziness. I need to Restart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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thank you- that is encouraging! I have high cholesterol and high blood sugar levels so need to fix my diet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Good luck :) my DH did it and lost 25 lbs in one month. He does a modified version of it now and is keeping it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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nice! I am doing it more for health than weight loss. Was your dh overweight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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Me too. Let us know updates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My 10 yo DS was diagnosed with mono. The doctor said it's dormant mono, which I think means it's not contagious? Has anyone had experience with dormant mono? Not sure what to expect, if anything. It showed up in a blood test, but I haven't seen any symptoms in him. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:15 PM Flag
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Doesn’t that mean he had mono in the past? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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I'd think it was fine, but you can call dr. for more clarification. That's what they are there for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I was dropping off my toddler DC and preschool camp yesterday morning. The elevator doors opened on the 2nd fl and he darted off the elevator to run to his classroom, and I ran after him. A nanny holding a baby was walking towards me/the elevator at the same time, but I couldn’t hold it and the doors closed. As she walked past me, she muttered, “fucking bitch” at me. I was shocked. How would you have responded? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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You don't respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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I wouldn't have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldnt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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How do you know she's a nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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I know the mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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In that case (and I'm sure most of UB would disagree with me, depending on your relationship I would let the mom know. I'm not sure I'd want someone who reacts to a minor inconvenience like that watching my kids. People are insane, what if one day she's carrying the baby and calls the wrong person a fucking bitch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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I would want to know too. I was surprised because the nanny comes off as sugar sweet, but I think it’s an act now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:01 PM Flag
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It kind of points to an extreme lack of judgement if she's trying to start fights at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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Or maybe she was surprised or having a bad day or any number of things that could have set her off at that moment. OP, I run into assholes every day. There's no rhyme or reason to their asshole-ness, but it happens. Don't let it run your day. Some guy on the subway the other day (who appeared totally normal), started telling me that I was disgusting. Everyone was staring at me and him. I got off at my stop and went about my day without giving it another thought. It's his problem not mine. If he wants to be a miserable human being, let him. Doesn't affect my life in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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I wouldn't want him watching children either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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Let it go. Or in the alternative, tell the mom and try to get her arrested for child abuse. Anything. Whining about it here doesn't change anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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You need to tell the mom! I work in a summer program in the administration and I would absolutely want to know behavior like that as would the mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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NP she'll just deny it. Or say that you're a liar because she was saying something else entirely - "flower bunch"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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At least then her behavior be on moms radar. If something like this happens in future then mom may pay more attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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“God Bless” while looking at her like an Exorcist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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np -- haha I like this!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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This is the best come back, lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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Excuse me? Then you go chase my kid and I’ll,hold the door. Then keep moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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Do what Ser Jorah did when the Second Sons were rude to Danerys: hold your sword hilt and snap "hold your tongue!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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Or have one of your dragons do a drive by when they are waiting for the bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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No, put Cersei in charge: the two scenes where she gets revenge were mesmerizing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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I would tell the mom out of concern for the child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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The fact that she doesn’t get why you didn’t hold the elevator is telling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] On ACT, if DC scores a 36 overall, but not in each individual section, would you recommend retaking? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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are you serious??????????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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I’m sat - but what school does dc want. What were the individual # [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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Brown, Yale, Dartmouth, MIT, Cal Tech. 34 science, 35 STEM, the rest 36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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^^^I think you see why I ask. I'm going to ignore the other posters for now. Personally I don't think that this will make or break an acceptance, but UB seems to know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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What major and interests [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Science, of course:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Ughhh. How much prep went into first time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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And grades in science? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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Not a ton, tbh. Her science grades are great and she LOVES it. I honestly blame (harsh word, sorry) her school for not providing the resources she needs, but I know she could have learned it on her own if she knew exactly what to study [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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DC redid 1520 sat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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Sorry. 1530 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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No -1520. Sorry!! [ Reply | More ]
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Results? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Worked out extremely well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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NP-DS retook ACT and lost a point. So not worth it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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This is a 35 at most. You can't get a 34 and still get a 36 overall. It's a great score of course - just setting expectations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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So the report is incorrect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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^^^the average is definitely a 36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:40 PM Flag
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how can that be? the 34 (and 35) would pull the average down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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My mistake-36, 36, 36, 34 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 PM Flag
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34 in science? 36 in everything else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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You are ridiculous, please don't say anything to your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Just curious. What do you make of the relationship between Britney Spears and Sam Asghari? Real love or is he gay? A user for fame? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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lol like anyone here cares [ Reply | More ]
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This. I just realized I haven't thought about Britney Spears in a long time, until I saw this post. [ Reply | More ]
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Am I supposed to make something out of it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:27 PM Flag
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The whole Britney situation is very bizarre. How she's still under legal conservatorship is just insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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This is simply the worst type of gossiping. Fuck off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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Np-why does this make you so angry? They are public figures [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:53 PM Flag
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I love her. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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Maybe all 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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They’ve been together awhiie considering the entertainment industry and her mental health issues so maybe if it’s not love love then there’s genuine affection involved, right? I like her and I am rooting for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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I heard he is paid to look after her, which I hope is not true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I would say about once a week this happens. DH is so stressed about getting to work on time, he turns into the biggest f asshole. This morning, as an example, I was facetiming with my older DC, who is at sleepaway; my younger DC was joining me. It was 7:08am. Younger DC does not need to be outside for the bus until 7:45am. Younger DC was totally ready, except he had not brushed his hair, which takes, maybe 5 seconds total. DH starts screaming, "LETS GO! GO BRUSH YOUR HAIR!" I say, "Leave him alone, what is your problem, there is plenty of time, we are talking to DC" He starts hissing and moaning, slamming things, and mopes around. He walks DC downstairs at 7:45am, and comes back with a coffee and breakfast thing for me. He says, "I am sorry we had words". I said, "I don't want your piece of sh!t breakfast, throw it away, and we did not 'have words'. You are simply a f asshole. Either apologize properly, or don't bother." Before you even go there... Yes, I work, I make 5X what he makes, in a truly stressful job. So he has no right to be this stressed, over such nonsense. I am so sick of it and want to punch him in the face.... What to do? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:19 PM Flag
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I agree that his reactions need to be put in check, but I'm similar to your DH in that I have an unreasonable fear of being late and it creates a lot of anxiety for me. I would lose your framing of this as "he has no right to be this stressed." That's just silly. He might benefit from some CBT therapy to help with his anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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ok. he is really nice guy otherwise. I hate to be so mean, but his job is truly so insignificant to our lives - I don't know why he takes it so seriously. Like he refuses to take a day off, leave early, get in late. It is a source of major fighting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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Again, you're denigrating what he does and I find this distasteful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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Said so nicely. OP, WTF! Get a handle on your anger. People work for many reasons, money isn't everything. Boiling everything down to $ is probably why you are driven to be a high earner but that isn't everyone and it isn't the one right way to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:45 PM Flag
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I think your attitude is problem here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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Ok you must be fake. Otherwise, you're insufferable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:42 PM Flag
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Maybe he’d fight less if you actually acted like you respected his work. Just because you make more money doesn’t make you better. It’s important to him. And maybe, as a previous poster said, he may have anxiety around timeliness. I’m everywhere earlier because I hate being late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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+ 1. I also get stressed about getting late. It has nothing to do with job related stress or money I make. I think both of you are in wrong here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Your reaction also seems quite extreme and not helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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This . You're as overreactive and annoying as him. You deserve each other. A proper apology? What is this 1899? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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This is a really bad fake story. Can you try again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:32 PM Flag
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oh stop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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He was definitely in the wrong for the way he acted but you come across as a totally unlikeable and unbearable person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:32 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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Have some empathy for your husband - he clearly has anxiety over being late & your reaction that you want to punch him in the face is extreme. The amount of money you make or the stress of YOUR job has nothing to do with it. Good grief. He needs to learn better coping skills & you need to develop some understanding. Tbh though but the hostility in your post tells me it's not about this issue - you guys have other problems so my suggestion is to get some help (meaning counseling). Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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I know, I am angry about many other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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So get some help & figure out what's really going on. It'll be so much better for you, your husband & kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:25 PM Flag
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Earning 5x what he does doesn't give you the right to be an ass either. And sorry from the description, your actions were over the top and worse than his. If you are not a troll I'd suggest that you both need to work on communicating in a healthier manner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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Your DH clearly hates his job and hates that he cannot be more than he is. You missed a chance to just thank him for the coffee and breakfast thing, maybe even a hug. You were so wrong. You think he doesn't know that you make 5X he does, think again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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He does not need to snap at me when I do nothing wrong. You are a doormat btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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You are off your rocker. Yikes. He was anxious about being late and he apologized and you were a grade A asshole. Take some meds or something. No wonder he is anxious if this is how you treat him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:42 PM Flag
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Anxious about being late 40 minutes in advance? He needs to get a fucking grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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Not saying he wasn't wrong, but she was massively more wrong. Do you want to be married, OP? You were awful to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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Your kids weren't hope then I guess, thank god. You handled that incredibly badly and are going to fuck up your kids if you treat their other parent like that in front of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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You need to get a grip on your anger. Seriously [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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Does he drop off DC on the way to work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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I usually do - he did today. Drop off involves walking downstairs to our lobby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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Everyone's criticizing the Op, but with certain people you need to stand up to them and let them know their behavior is unacceptable. My DH doesn't respond to nice, but he responds if I go nuclear on him. Op's dh needs medication for his anxiety. I would hate to deal with a DH like hers and would probably lose it on him too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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You may be right but it’s clear OP needs anger management classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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Not just anger management classes. There's a clear disrespect for her spouse here and it sounds like she doesn't value him at all. I'd be on edge too if someone treated my work, etc. as "insignificant." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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It's not insignificant - it's just not a source of terrible worry. He can take more risks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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Risk means cutting corner at work ? Leaving early and showing up late and skipping work ? It’s not risk taking, it’s sloppiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Are u kidding me? This isn't a situation where you have to "stand up" to someone for inappropriate behavior --- her husband has anxiety & needs help for it. No amount of "standing up" to him is going to fix it. And btw, there are other healthier ways to let people know their behavior is unacceptable besides "going nuclear" on them. Ai yi yi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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He was wrong but you were worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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op. you are all a bunch of pussies and doormats. bye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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op. the rest of the story is that not only do I earn a ton, working my ass off, but I also manage the entire household and kids. And every single little issue is my responsibility. He is like a baby. He refuses to help with the mundane tasks, and its not like I have tons of time either - I just figure it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yep, here you are. You choose him as your husband. Explains how good you are in your decisions. You basically just figured it out and now wining here like baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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Put him in the straitjacket until he calms down. If he's going to be late, he can be REALLY late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:07 PM Flag
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You are an ass. He needs meds for his anxiety not a screaming response from his spouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:26 PM Flag
[ - ] one of my brothers ( have 2 ) just transitioned to a woman - ,,, I never knew until maybe 4 years ago...,, love her- and all cool with my kids her kids etc. BUT - she will never pass ( like the main character in Trans parent ) 6 ft tall-huge feet etc, Super sweet- effeminate- etc... I think kind of in-between ,, of course i will not say - but Hey - I have been a woman 50 years- she maybe 4 ? and not sure it will be affirmed by the world? know that mean? diffulcutl as - woman does not mean having to shave -wear make up et- I think - But of course she has to to try to pass- And i got 2 daughters ,,, so hard... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:10 PM Flag
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That's some interesting punctuation there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:13 PM Flag
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vodka will do that to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:23 PM Flag
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Are you having a stroke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:23 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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I swear I think I must know you IRL bc of the way you worded this post...similar to your fb posts....very hard to follow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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Word salad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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It's not about "passing" you dimwit. It's about her feeling comfortable in her own body, in a way that she never could when she was a man. It's a good kind of selfishness, where she's caring only about how she can live with herself, not how anyone else in the world can live with her. If you, as her sister, can't accept her, that will be fine. She'll find non-blood family, and community, who can and will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] My second DD is leaving for college in less than a month. For some reason I am very anxious this time, maybe because she is more of a homebody, and more anxious than first DD. Or this college was not somewhere she saw herself at but it is the school that accepted her. I am finding myself fixating on stuff I realize is so stupid, like what she needs for her room, I have even looked at the floor plan for her room. I did not do or feel this way with my first. Did anyone else feel this way. I am not a snow flake mom usually, I work and have my own life. I cant figure out this anxiety. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:04 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are just worried that she won't be happy and you are trying to set her up for success with her room, things she will need to be comfortable, etc. I think it just shows that you are a good mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:16 PM Flag
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I felt that way about my second DC too last year. Also, he was going far away (other coast) and that was something I dwelled on. As soon as we got to campus on move-in day, my anxiety went down... there's so much going on and so many kids the same age and they're all figuring it out. It wasn't his first choice either, but he's really happy and successful there now. This isn't much, but I hope it helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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You are doing DD a disservice. She will pick up on this, and will also feel incapable of handling this on her own if you're handling it all for her. Step back and empower her now to make decisions about this stuff and "own" the process. It'll make her more invested and excited for the change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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I looked at the floor plan she dosen't know. And I am letting her handle it. I am thinking about the stuff not buying it. I am also in therapy so I dont do a disservice to her. That is what I want to avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:17 PM Flag
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Is she your last DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] It ha b come pretty clear that DH and I completely uninterested in sex. Not sure where we go from here. I’m fine to be roommates. Is it a problem if we both are fine with it? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:11 AM Flag
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I don't have a problem with it either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:50 AM Flag
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It's fine as long as you two can live knowing that eventually either one or both of you will look for sex somewhere else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:51 AM Flag
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That is not necessarily true at all. UB is obsessed with cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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No, it is a normal human need, we need to have sex, in this instance I would not call it cheating, just an arrangement between two consenting adults [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:16 PM Flag
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Stay in your own lane. No need to worry about what other people do or don't do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:18 PM Flag
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What does this mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:30 PM Flag
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NP: it means everyone is different and at different points in their lives. I've been married for 30 years. Sex was always good when I was younger. It gets tougher the older you get and the longer you're with someone. There's no shame in that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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For some people. There are people quite content to live without it. Whatever works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:34 PM Flag
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Why would you even ask this question unless you are trolling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:23 PM Flag
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My DH said he was fine with it and then ended up leaving me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:31 PM Flag
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Let me make this clear. I would define myself as a whore in my past life before I met my DH (gay dad here). I slept with everything. Now after 8 years of marriage, a couple of kids, work. My DH and I have sex about 2 times a year and we are both fine it. I am not looking elsewhere and neither is he. It is all good with you, focus on what works for you both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:44 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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Monogamy is totally unrealistic and unnatural, think of all the times people have posted here totally shocked because they have found out their husband/partner has been having sex with another person, we all make up whatever makes us happy, the reality is more than likely totally different, if you can live with it go for it, just don't fool yourselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] There was a mom’s night out happy hour last week and the husband of one of the moms stopped by, not for a drink but just a stop by, and wasn’t even friendly. These sto bys have happened 2 other times, once with a dinner and the other time during after a workout class ( not to stay, just a quick stop by). this seems very strange. Control issues? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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Insecurity issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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Even more than control? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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This is what it sounds like. He's insecure and controlling - he's worried that she's not actually out with the girls. It doesn't sound good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:03 PM Flag
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Major red flag. Likely an abusive relationship. This is textbook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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I don’t there is physical abusive but maybe emotional? They seem very normal otherwise but by the third time I’m thinking this is weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:00 AM Flag
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Abuse is abuse, whether it is physical or emotional. The pop bus, and unfriendly nature of them, indicate a controlling and possessive behavioral pattern that is consistent with emotional abuse. Most intimate partner abuse occurs between people who appear "very normal otherwise." What do you imagine they would seem like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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^ how does she explain her husband's behavior? That will also be telling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:04 AM Flag
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She doesn’t explain, and didn’t seem overly friendly when he stopped by. She s end to otherwise go along no with him. He has a lot of ev3nts for work and she always attends, also an active social life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:07 AM Flag
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ok none of this sheds light on the situation. You really have no idea what she's dealing with. Sounds worrisome for all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:13 AM Flag
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Should I say something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:15 AM Flag
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Not sure what you could say. But you could certainly focus on being a better friend to her, trying to be available and be there for support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:18 AM Flag
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That you are a busybody and suspect she is being abused? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:45 AM Flag
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I absolutely agree with OR. As for physical, you have no idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:05 AM Flag
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agree, abusive relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:45 AM Flag
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A good friend of mine’s husband has also done this a few times, and I found it similarly disconcerting and weird. They have an extremely co-dependent relationship, and I have always written it off to be that...though control/emotional abuse has crossed my mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:24 AM Flag
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Thi is she is cheating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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Thinks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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Most likely ACCUSES her of cheating, and gaslights her about HIS cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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This sounds plausible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Who knows...but I know that my husband is interested in my life, my friends, et al. Maybe this husband just feel excluded from is wife's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:46 PM Flag
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Enough to stop by three times when she is out with friends? that sounds abnormal. I'm interested in DH's life but wouldn't take a trip to the squash courts to check on his post-game conversations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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He just wandered over to your table to say hi? What's wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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If the wife is making social plans, on her own, and her DH is "stopping by" every time this happens - yeah, it's weird. She can go out on her own without DH checking in on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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This place cracks me up. No evidence other than OP's vague observation and the thing has boiled down to abuse. We don't know what is going on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:01 PM Flag
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I'm not an alarmist, but I find it f-ing weird that this woman's DH needs to "stop by" every time she's doing a solo social activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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So what. If you feel you can intervene and change that dynamic, feel free to do so. Otherwise, you don't know what is going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] What did you do when something fun you used to enjoy doing together with your spouse is no longer fun together? Lame example: loved bowling together, but for the past 3 years you prefer bowling with friends, strangers or alone 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:29 AM Flag
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For you, how does it happen that you’re ending up doing it alone? My experience has been that dh asks me to learn to do things with him and then at some point he stops. I continued skiing on my own until I got a knee injury, although I did teach my brother and he went with me sometimes. He asked me to learn to ride a motorcycle. We did it together for awhile, but I ended up riding alone when he stopped. He asked me to kayak, and eventually he stopped and I found a friend to go with. So I do things however I want to if I choose to continue. He’s certainly introduced me to a wide variety of activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:42 PM Flag
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We used to drink together. Once I stopped drinking, he found a new drinking partner. He's still drinking every single day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] The humidity seems to make me swell. Is this actually possible? I always feel this way. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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I always feel this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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Then, yes, possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:46 AM Flag
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My ring finger swelled up so much that I had to take the rings off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I just finished watching the last season of Red Oaks on Prime. What a nice, feel good show... loved it. Wish there were more like it and like The Marvelous Mrs Meisel... can't wait for the new season. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 AM Flag
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Dying to see the new season of Mrs Maisel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:43 PM Flag
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I loved, loved, loved Red Oaks. It was very Dirty Dancing escapism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:25 PM Flag
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Thanks for the recommendation! Looking for something like this to watch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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