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[ - ] I need a vacation. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Me too, Sugar. Come pick me up and we'll go on a road trip. Bring bolt cutters and a change of clothes, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Hey, Inmate Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] have been working form home this week. I have been cooking lunch and putting kids to bed this week but today had a conf call and couldn't do bed time. Kids started jumping on beds and making a lot of noise so nanny decided to just take them out of the bedroom and let them run around... I am seriously starting to question her judgement. I wonder if she does this when I am out or if she was resentful that I didn't do the nap time today and decided to be passive agressive 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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why lol? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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I don't understand. It sounds like they were disturbing you and she took them away so you could do your conference call? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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She took them out of their bedroom and let them run around next to the room where I was on a call while screaming their heads off. I couldn't come out and put them to bed. I did as soon as the call was over an hour passed their usual nap time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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It sounds like she was really unhelpful. But I would add... I have been home w young kids when DH is "working from home" and it's extremely difficult to keep them quiet, etc. They are used to being free to play in their home, not trying to play quietly in an office. Plus they want to hang out with the parent who is at home because it's exciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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I didn't ask her to keep them quite. I asked her to put them down for nap since I had to be on a conf call. She has done this for years. I don't usually work from home. How does she handle this when I am not here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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Poorly, in all likelihood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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pp: they probably just go to bed when you're not there. young kids act out when their routines are disturbed. not justifying the way she handled this particular instance, but i imagine it's not everyday that they run wild at nap time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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The nanny probably thought you wanted to do naptime, since you were home and rarely get to do that. So she waited till you were off the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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I asked her to do bed time today. She put them to bed she just let them out when they started to rile up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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She sounds like a bitch. I would worry about what happens when she isn't there. Next time, you know, before call, pull her aside and tell her not to pull shit like this. Most nannies are lazy and you have to tell them what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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^^^meant when you are not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o In the Overhyped thread, there's a debate over whether Star Wars is overrated. My husband and I spent a very lazy weekend marathoning a bunch of sci-fi movies earlier this month. We were shocked to find out how bored we were by the original Star Wars trilogy (which we both loved for years and watched many times) and how outdated it seemed. We fast-forwarded through most of them. I now think the best Star Wars movies was the sixth one, Return of The Sith. (The first two in that second trilogy were so bad I never want to see them again.) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^^Also surprisingly good on a rewatch: Independence Day. Cheesy dialogue, yes, but overall that was a really good movie. So was Superman II. Both, sad to say, were more enjoyable than the Star Wars movies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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I agree with the first part. The first trilogy didn't age well, but I can't stand any in the second trilogy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is it that the only retort or argument SAHMs seem to have is 'you're jealous'? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Because it's true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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I am jelous of SAHMs with ft help and of SAHMs with school aged kids. I am not at all jealous of SAHMs with no help and 2+ young kids. Taking care of a baby and a toddler with no help is my idea of hell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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SAHs who are hanging out on UB are definitely not taking care of 2+ young kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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Because why does anyone else care about another woman's decision? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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It's not. You forgot, "why did you have kids if you're not going to raise them." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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This one is my favorite. I'm sure all of the working fathers out there are relieved to know they aren't raising their own children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't want my daughters to grow up in a world where daddies make the money and mommy tends to the house. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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so you are getting an abortion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Oh please. I was a SAHM for 12 years. Now I have a part time job. Kids know I want to work full time again especially when they're at college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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^But if you were going to clean my house, do the laundry and watch my kids for free all these years you should have told me. Also drive my sons to their sport from manhattan to NJ five days a week! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Kids "know" you want to work again...but will you? what are your options?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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make whatever choices you want for your family and don't try to dictate other women's choices. what difference does it make to you if somebody else is a SAHM? It is none of your business and I suspect you are jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Oh dear god, what is with all of the SAHMs needing to think everybody is jealous of them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Why else would it bother you? It doesn't affect you at all. I never think about WOHMs for one moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Is your thinking so limited that you can not understand why this is problematic other than 'omg, you're jealous'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Well, let's be realistic. Everyone, men and women, would like to have the option of someone else paying all of the bills while they stay home and put their feet up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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I suspect you are insecure if all you can conjure up is that everybody is jealous of you. Having a society where women stay home and men work makes a difference to everybody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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no it doesn't. Few families can even afford it, it has become a luxury. you are weirdly focused on something that doesn't involve you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Look at the stats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Dont have children then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Exactly. The real feminists are rolling in their graves over this throwback generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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oh ok. So are you against SAHDS too? Since both parents should contribute equally, shouldn't they get jobs? Or is there a special reason that they are ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Yes. Haven't you ever heard of competitive advantage and specialization? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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are you against SAHDs or not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Model it then. My mom was WOH and I know it cab be done successfully [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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you take care of your family. Don't worry so much about what your neigbors do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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I want my kids to grow up in a world where careers are flexible and both spouses can scale back/ramp up as family needs change. Guess I better move to Sweden. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Well, the best place to start is with yourself. My only goal with DD is to make sure that she can stand on her own in this world and have the guts to stand up for herself and to make the right choices for herself. How she puts that into practice will be up to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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How about the goal of feeding, clothing and housing herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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I am one of the older members on this site and I agree. As I wrote below, having women in the workplace gives women in general a huge edge and has allowed for many changes in this country. When I was younger, middle and upper middle class women only had the option to take 'mommy jobs' and now we have the opportunity to pursue what we please and have a chance at making an impact in the world. We need more women in the workplace, in politics, etc. and you cannot accomplish change in the world by allowing men to take the reigns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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then don't spend to much time in europe. their women's place is in the home. and the ones who work rarely have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Remember back before Angela Merkel was Chancellor, when she was advocating for equal mandatory parental leave for men, and a (male) politician struck it down immediately and announced, "German men do not want to stay home from work to change diapers"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Whenever these fights start I wonder - don't any of the SAHMs have boys? If you believe that it's wonderful for men to go work their lives away while their wives tend the home and children, do you tell your sons "one day when you grow up you'll find a lovely girl who will raise your kids while you go to work every day!" Is that the dream? That your sons find a woman that they will happily support in her quest to be a stay at home parent? Because I have boys and that's certainly not my dream for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Excellent point. The moms on here will be grousing about their lazy DILs who do nothing while their sons bring home the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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I don't want my son to marry some princess who has a daily housekeeper, an au pair, and a baby nurse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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I don't want my daughters to grow up in a world where mommies and daddies make the money and nanny raises them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Ha! That speaks volumes about values. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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This again? If you are WOHM why are you posting here so much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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She is on her break from Walmart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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It wasn't even like that in my world--and I'm 53. My mother had a career. All of my friends' mothers had career. Daughters were expected to have careers. UB turns back the clock to the 1950s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I saw a thread late last night about an article saying women at top tier colleges largely prefer to be SAHMs. Someone replied and said "That's very unfortunate." Can you explain why you feel this way? Unfortunate for their bosses maybe. Not for their kids. I think that's very fortunate for society that kids grow up with a loving and educated mother. Do you not think this benefits kids or do you just think the benefits of corporations should take priority over the benefits of kids? 165 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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How does this benefit kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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How does having a highly educated mother benefit kids? Um, in very aspect of their lives. Clearly you didn't have an educated mother if you can't figure this out.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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A highly educated mother has to be a SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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No one said that. Try and keep up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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The entire OP is about women who get a "top tier" education and then SAH. Or are you skipping some sentences? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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"largely prefer to be SAHMs" does not equal "has to be a SAHM". Reading comprehension problems much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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np You know damn well that you meant that it's better for kids if their mothers are SAHPs. I'm guessing you are far more interested in trolling than in children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Insecure WOHM twisting the argument in order to find some way to get offended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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She is saying it's odd that it would be considered unfortunate that some women want to do this. She did not say all women should do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Even the uber-SAHMs like to brag about how nowadays women have "choices". If it is true that "women at top tier colleges largely prefer to be SAHMs" (before they are married or have kids) then they don't in fact believe they have a meaningful choices to have a career and have a family, and that IS unfortunate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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I disagree. You can believe you have that choice and not prefer it to staying home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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the same woman who goes top tier or state will be an equally good and well enough educated mother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Duh. What's your point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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My point is that its not what the woman would PREFER. You have to be in a financial position to make this preference... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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1950s throwbacks looking to get an MRS degree shouldn't be taking up precious spots from people who actually want to accomplish something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Raising kids is accomplishing something. Go back to pushing paper where you are a so "accomplished" lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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do you really honestly believe WOHMs don't raise their kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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I'm sure you use that degree every day in "raising kids". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Studies show educate mothers are the best predictor of childhood success in all aspects. Grades, happiness, health, college placement, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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Yes but that it mostly because these types of mothers have more financial resources and employment options, not because they are better at raising children than mothers who don't attend a so called "TT" school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Correlation doesn't imply causation. If you had paid attention in class instead of spending your time eyefucking fellow students, you might have learned that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yes, the abcs and multiplication tables require a phd to explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Sorry you don't think your kid deserves an intelligent caretaker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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Sorry you don't think your dc deserves a successful female role model. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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They're not mutually exclusive. You just sound like you hire cheap illiterate caretakers & think your kids don't suffer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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np: most people have jobs, not amazingly successful and interesting careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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So most women who attend TT colleges graduate and become receptionists or work retail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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no, most office jobs are boring. you are delusional if you think having a cubicle makes you a high-powered individual [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Intelligence and educated are not the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Nice attempt at a straw man argument. Yes a mother who went to Harvard would be much better able to explain AP English and AP physics to her daughter than a community college graduate mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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While true, the mother who is actively employed and using that knowledge on a daily basis is more likely to correctly remember physics (let's make her an engineer for argument's sake) than someone who has not revisited the material for 15-20 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Convenient for your argument that she's an engineer. A more intelligent woman could look up the information and more easily explain it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Well you used physics as an example so I chose a profession where one would regularly use physics. If this woman is so intelligent why does she have to look up the information? Your premise appeared to imply that her education is so wonderful that she is a content subject area expert without looking stuff up. Nobody has to attend a TT school in order to know how to look stuff up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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If she's that highly educated, she can go out and earn a great living and make a difference, while her husband SAH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Nothing to do with the topic at hand... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Define the topic at hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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The "topic at hand" is whether a parent with a "top tier" education should stay home to use that education to benefit her or his children or go to work and benefit other people, too. If a couple decides that the children are better off with a SAHP, the obvious solution is for the less-educated parent to SAH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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lazy SAHD alert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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As opposed to a lazy SAHM alert? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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LOL, not a "loving and educated father selflessly using that education to benefit his children" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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sexist idiot alert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Why spend all that money and take the spot from a woman who will actually use it to build a career. College is supposed to be career prep, not stay at home Mom prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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"college is supposed to be...." F [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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+1 There are perfectly nice finishing schools for women who just want to lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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They don't meet husbands at finishing school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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the $$$ is spent studying and learning. Intelligence helps with life, not just a job. Also TT colleges are where smart women look for future high-earning spouses. Sorry to be all 1950s on you, but its' true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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+1 Serious and intelligent women go to research universities, not to "TT colleges". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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You throwbacks are the reason there is still so much prejudice against women in our society. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Again, attending college does not magically give you intelligence. I assume you attended college, correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Technical vocational programs are career prep. College is not career prep. A liberal arts education is or the purposes of intellectual growth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Many people can't understand this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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You can get a liberal arts education for free at the library. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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You can get vocational education for free at the library too. Heard of the Dewey decimal system? Whole section on vocational prep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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How quaintly MC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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and punitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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This. Disdain for the liberal arts is the biggest indicator of a lower middle class person. Calling college "career prep" is a dead giveaway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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And disdain for women that use their brains and provided for their families is the biggest indicator of laziness and sexism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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This!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Look. I have plenty of friends with TT educations who for various reasons decided SAHM is the right choice for them. But - I also see the point - as a FT WoHM - that it heightens the expectation that we are all going to quit to SAHM, or won't work hard/dont take work seriously. I married someone fairly well-off and get asked a lot by other female co-workers why I even bother to work. It is mind-boggling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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If you only use your brain when your employer tells you to and not at home as a mother, then you wouldn't have gotten into a top school anyway sweetie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Your trolls aren't even clever any more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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wow, this site is so appalling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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meant for other poster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Hi PP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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I don't think I have ever met a person with such a hideous personality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Your jealousy of SAHMs is seeping out of you. You hey someone's personality for defending a liberal arts education? She never even made any personal attacks in you? Insecure much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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I stayed at home for four years, but please go back and read your comment. You sound like am awful person. The classism, your blatant feelings of superiority, it is disgusting. Really disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Don't be so defensive, sweetie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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You sound like a real ass and I grew up uc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Do you ever step back and realize that this site has made you an awful person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Replying to yourself again crazy person? Who are you even talking to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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+10000. If you can't see the value in a liberal arts education then you aren't very well educated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Hi pp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Why should a career woman take a spot from a mother who will use her education to benefit her kids rather than benefit some corporation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Because toddlers don't understand quantum mechanics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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And kids are always toddlers for life and every college graduate graduate knows quantum mechanics. Wow you are dumb. Having a liberal arts eduction is extremely beneficial to a woman's kids. Better to benefit kids than corporations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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A career woman benefits society and women as a whole. You don't need an advanced degree to benefit your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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+10000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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You don't need an advanced degree to have a career either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Well, we know for certain that you didn't get an advanced degree with that logic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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I'm sure that political science degree is going to make her so much better as a mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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If the "future career woman" had been good enough, she would have gotten the spot in the first place. Nobody took it away from her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Oh please, we all know that wealthy people can grease the wheel and get into certain institutions even if they don't belong there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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The career is the problem, these women typically go in to demanding, male dominated fields and find motherhood and career impossible to balance. Usually they marry men in similar professions and most families do not want both parents working 60 hours a week. Something has to give. Better maternity leave and more flex time positions would address this, I know so many women who are SAHMs by default, very few actually choose it (TT college grad here) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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It's sad that you think of college as career prep. College is about learning, broadening your horizons, meeting all different kinds of people, figuring out what you are interested in. Why is getting an accounting degree to work at Ernst&Young more beneficial to society than getting say an art history degree and passing that knowledge on to your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Let me tell you something. If my daughter is going to cost me $500k for college tuition to learn about cavemen and butterflies and come out with no skills to support herself financially - even in the interim until she allegedly meets a man who can afford her a SAHM lifestyle - I would not be pleased. I don't care if it's a PhD in paleolithic butterflies from UPENN. I am not having it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Good lord. You may as well send them to be refrigerator technicians- I can assure you the one that I know is better off than most people I know AND will get a sweet pension. College is more than vocational school. Also, fyi "pre law" is not a real major. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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^and this kind of attitude is depressing because cavemen and butterflies are actually interesting topics - the history of mankind, science...this is why the US is going down the tubes. Sheer lack of curiosity in anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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We get it. You're MC. Ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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And then what? If you have daughters they are going to do the same thing? 1/2 of the human race's talent is always going to be concentrated on benefiting a tiny number of people? That seems awfully wasteful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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But just because I want to be a SAHM doesn't mean I know for sure I'll have that option. And I might change my mind later about SAH. 18 years old is not the time to be deciding definitively that you're going to SAH for the rest of your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Just because a college student wants to be a SAHM doesn't mean it will necessarily happen. Get an education and be prepared to take care of yourself, even if you ultimately want to SAH. It's better than not going to college and sitting around waiting to find someone to support you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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the reason for this is that they find a dh there who makes enough $$ for this woman to SAHM or she has family money in the first place and connections to go to IVY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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It all depends on how much money the parents have. DH and I have more than enough money to send DDs to grad school and then they will SAHM. But for families without a lot of money, it is a waste to spend down retirement savings to send DDs to grad school only to have them SAHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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My Aunt's family spent down much of their retirement to send family members to education programs that they never used. That was money down the drain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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You are either stupid or very nearsighted. Education is never "down the drain". What happens if the DH divorces them, dies, becomes unemployed? Women should always reach their maximum educational potential before getting married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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The things my paycheck provide (food, clothing, shelter, their own education) benefit my kids, thank you very much. It's really unfortunate that you can't even conceive of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Look, if you need the money then by all means work. But if you have tens of millions in the bank I do not think it helps your kids to work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Oh, FFS! Don't you have somewhere you need to go and be "loving". Since that's all you think women are or should be capable of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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She is too stuck up her ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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No one said they didn't.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Look, in order to SAHM you either need a trust fund or you need a DH with $$$. One or the other. TT education does not factor in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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This is such a ridiculous Manhattan-centric notion. I SAH and I have so many friends who SAH. Nobody has any family money, and our DHs don't make $$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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This. If your DH makes above average, you can SAHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Not in Manhattan. Only 13% of the men with jobs in Manhattan can support a SAHM living in Manhattan. 13% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Duh. That's why I said it was a "Manhattan-centric" notion. We live on my DH's $140K salary, paid off our mortgage a few years ago, save aggressively, and enjoy a comfortable life. This is in a suburb of NYC. DH drives about 20 minutes to work and eats dinner with us each night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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The problem is that there is a lack of well educated women in the workforce and politics, etc. Our daughters will continue to suffer because the intelligent, well educated women who could very well make a change in this world decide to stay at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Martyr mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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I am not a martyr, I am actually far older than most women on this site and I have seen the way having women in the workforce changes and shifts the place of women in society. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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No one wants to fight the battle and give up time with their kids to do so. Sad but true. I don't want to work 80hours a week and never see my kids to blaze a trail for women. I may be selfish but my kids take priority [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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Some women are more fulfilled by a successful career than feeding cheerios and cleaning up diaper explosions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Why have kids if that's all that you think of them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Lol, this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Some women are more fulfilled by reading books to their kids and helping them develop so up-emotionally than pushing papers for a boss to make some corporation richer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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Do you think all women with careers do is work for corporations? You are showing your limited work and life experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: do you think most women work for non-profits? Talk about a narrow view of the world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Lol. So now it's corporations or non-profits? Those are the two options you can think of? How about entrepreneurs, inventors, activists, politicians, doctors, professors, researchers, engineers, advancements in any kind of field that help make the world better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Do you really think all mothers do is change diapers and feed their kids Cheerios? You are showing your limited parenting and life experiences [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Develop socio-emotionally* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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You are totally missing the point. Surveys show that the vast majority of moms in America prefer not to work. SAHM is attractive to most. But as a general rule, moms married to high earning husbands are more likely to SAHM that moms not married to high earning husbands. So going to a school that leads to a high earning husband is a step along the path to SAHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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LOL, I think surveys would show that the vast majority of PEOPLE in America prefer not to work. Aspiring SAHMS just get to say "I want to be a loving and educated mother" versus "I'm not interested". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Not working outside the home is attractive to a lot of people. Why do you think the lotto is so popular? I'd like to see these surveys you reference because I bet they include data that is a little more in depth than what you describe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Look, I think the evidence shows that women married to wealthy men are more likely to have a fancy lifestyle than your typical working woman. That makes the idea of a career even less appealing for many women. I know plenty of highly educated, wonderful mom's. I am not in a place to judge. Working is the right choice for me personally, and I wish more Moms worked so we had more power to increase wages and flexibility for women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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Of course women married to wealthy men will have a fancier lifestyle...I don't think that is in dispute. I don't think that it is factor, though, in why people may not want to work. I agree with your point that working people need more flexibility, and I think that is one of the prime reasons that people throw in the towel. I have a fairly flexible position and even with that it is hard sometimes. I also think that this whole "wealthy" thing is primarily an urban one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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It has to do with leverage. If you are a SAHM at best your degree is helping your own 2 or 3 kids, and really I don't see how it is helping them at all. Meanwhile if you are in the working world your education can be put to use to effect the lives of thousands or millions of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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There are very few people worldwide whose work affects the lives of thousands or millions of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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The odds are better if you have the intelligence and drive to go to a top school. But instead you'll spend your time changing diapers and cleaning up around the house. What a waste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Do your children know you feel that way about their care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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Do you homeschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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np I do. How is this related? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Most of these people going on and on about not letting nannies raise their kids are perfectly happy to let teachers raise their kids. At least the homeshcoolers aren't hypocrites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Because making a corporation richer and selling a few more widgets is so meaningful compared to spending time raising the kids you chose to create. What a waste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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most degrees that allow one to help people don't pay well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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If you have tens of millions in the bank you can afford a job that helps people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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if you have tens of millions you can help people without doing much work yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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Unless you are doing groundbreaking scientific research, your corporate job is useless. No you are not affecting millions of people. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Whatever gets you through the day of watching soaps waiting for the kids to come home and telling yourself that it's a noble way to be spending your time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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It is funny how you think working women only benefit corporations. Are you sure you are top tier educated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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You sound dumb, like really dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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typical bitter WOHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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It is a waste of a spot. If you want to study Eastern European languages, be out guest, but don't take a spot in Harvard's medical school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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A large percentage of the women with Harvard Medical degrees marry husbands with $$ and then stop working. The average female Harvard trained doctor works HALF the lifetime hours as the average male Harvard trained doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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That's makes people think that Harvard should just not admit women. And they aren't totally wrong. These MRS people are traitors to their gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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this whole notion of a "spot" is really juvenile. Lives and ambitions change. For example, many people enter med school when they are 22/23. Are you exactly what you thought you would become when you were that age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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that makes no sense at all. Someone with a degree in eastern European languages who fulfills all pre med requirements and gets good MCAT scores would be an interesting candidate for a good medical school...wouldn't the languages be helpful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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It basically comes down to- they don't want to be thought of as dumb, so they get the masters or phd. But working comes with a lot of pressures, like clients and deadlines and hustle, so there's this other path you can take where you have no financial responsibility and none of those other work stresses, and then can take the moral high ground by saying this is the way you REALLY show you care about your dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Yes, you get the TT degrees to prove that you are smart and effective, but then you have kids and stop using them. The TT degrees are to signal who you are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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This is a pretty one sided way to look at it. I am a WOHM but took time off because it was either that or have 2 shifts of nannies and not see my kids during the week. I didn't take the moral high ground, the alternative just seemed unfair to my kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, many women still go to college for MRS degrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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It is not so simple. My nieces wanted to SAHM, but they also wanted a backup plan. They go educations that allow them to earn six figure incomes. That way, if they fail to SAHM they have a way to earn a nice living. Create your own plans! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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This whole discussion is so Manhattan-Centric. Such a taboo in Manhattan to say that you go to a great school in order to find a husband. In London it is accepted that great schools are there to find a mate http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2557949/I-spend-fortune-send-girl-private-school-shell-marry-rich-never-work-An-unashamed-confession-RACHEL-RAGG.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Did Princeton mom advocate meeting DH in TT college and then SAHM? I think she simply advocated meeting DH in TT and then doing whatever you want with your life. She is supportive of TT women having careers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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i went to a tt grad school. most women who had kids chose to stay home. in fact i don't know an exeption. also, i am in industry that is not supportive of mothers - it is scene as a distraction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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There are three separate paths to consider in life. SAHM, WOHM, and SAHM with full time housekeeper. For myself I prefer SAHM with full time housekeeper, and this lifestyle depends on having a certain type of husband [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] What TV shows does your DH like that you are not a fan of? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Masters of Sex on Showtime [ Reply | More ]
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GoT [ Reply | More ]
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Star Trek. It's like there's zero emotional connection between characters in the show. They talk to each other like robots, even the ones who aren't robots. I find the monotone annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Agreed. Husband watches a lot of Sci-fi and he says it's such great analogies to the human condition. Personally, I just watch movies with real type people who show the human condition. Maybe I'm lazy, but I don't need to "decode" a movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Try Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. It's the best one, especially from the third season on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Law and Order SVU and other crime shows, Pawn shop reality shows [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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we dont watch a lot of tv but the ones that come to mind is walking dead, tosh.0. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ are. Oops. originally just had one listed [ Reply | More ]
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game of thrones [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. Must be a guy thing. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not a guy thing. I love both Walking Dead and Game of Thrones. I am a bit of a Sci-Fi nerd tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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I'm actually more into GOT than DH. Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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love game of thrones. It is like a big giant soap opera, although with lots of violence thrown in. [ Reply | More ]
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Twilight Zone [ Reply | More ]
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is he 50? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm 50 and that show is older than me. One thing that is interesting about Twilight Zone is that a lot of famous actors got their start there in bit parts including Robert Redford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Music shows on Palladia. I like music but at the end of the day I don't want to relax to guys talking about chords and stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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vikings [ Reply | More ]
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Bar Rescue. Californication (cancelled thank god) [ Reply | More ]
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I guess sportscenter [ Reply | More ]
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Boardwalk Empire. The Sopranos, when that was on. All sports. Meet the Press. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] is psychic mom on? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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np: Nothing to lol abt. I like psychic mom, and she was helpful to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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Because she knew the future or because she had common sense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Oh, honey... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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You just need a friend. [ Reply | More ]
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I guess you are right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Yes, what is your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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If you were psychic, you'd already know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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No. By definition. [ Reply | More ]
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Hilarious! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Newsweek just put up on the internet a clear video of the police shooting and killing the second man in St Louis http://www.newsweek.com/new-video-police-shooting-2nd-man-st-louis-emerges-266041 64 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Idiot did you even watch the video? The police clearly and repeatedly tell the man to put down the knife. Instead he positions the knife in his hand so it is aiming towards the police and lunges forward at the police in an attacking pose, grunting as he tries to stab police. It is clear on the video. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Yes but the idiots feel that the police being approached by a guy with a knife, should get closer and taser him. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 They shot him within 15 seconds of arriving. Surely there's a better way. [ Reply | More ]
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And it was a steak knife. They could have stood behind the vehicle and they would have been in no danger at all. It was an execution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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And what? Waited for him to stab the clerK [ Reply | More ]
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Which clerk? Did you watch the video? [ Reply | More ]
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Do you understand why he was taking the video? What had just happened in the store? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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He took to cans of soda. Definitely a death penalty worthy crime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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No, he told the clerk he had a weapon. [ Reply | More ]
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Why don't we just take away police guns and vests and just let them get killed every day too? [ Reply | More ]
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Why are policeman such sissies ? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes they should be like hollywood movie cops, karate kicking, hand to hand combat, [ Reply | More ]
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They should be less like trigger-happy wimps. [ Reply | More ]
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You should be a cop then since you're so tough. [ Reply | More ]
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Their job isn't *that* dangerous. The number 1 cause of death of LEOs is heart disease. [ Reply | More ]
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lol. is this true? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Commercial fishing is more than 10 times more deadly. I don't see anyone saying we should be spending billions of dollars to prevent just one fisherman from dying. The hero worship by authoritarian of white trash thugs in uniforms in this country is sick, sick, sick. [ Reply | More ]
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Fishermen aren't protecting us from thugs. [ Reply | More ]
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Cops are the thugs we need protecting from. [ Reply | More ]
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Not the cops I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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Yeah, that's because they don't beat the shit out of people in their own neighborhood, Breezy Point. They come to our neighborhoods to crack heads first, and take names later. At the end of the day, they crawl back home to their gated community by the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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The fact that you know cops says everything we need to know about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Yes some people I grew up with became cops after college. [ Reply | More ]
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WT [ Reply | More ]
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+100000000 [ Reply | More ]
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That would be a good start. [ Reply | More ]
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YouTube also has clips from the film "West Side Story." My favorite is the "America" number featuring Rita Moreno. [ Reply | More ]
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Love that [ Reply | More ]
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+1 NP - Black mom here: "Ooooh Officer Krupke, we're down on our knees. Cause no one wants a fella with a social disease! Officer Krupke, what are we to doooooo?.......Gee, Officer Krupke -----KRUP YOU!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Why not produce a video every time a cop shoots a suspect? The videos will show 90% + of the shooting are justified [ Reply | More ]
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Yes notice how the owner of the phone was saying how crazy the guy was, guarding the sodas he just stole, etc., until he got shot while walking toward the police. [ Reply | More ]
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Only 90% is problematic in a country with due process and presumed innocence. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean? Policing is not an exact science, you have to leave room for error in all human enterprises [ Reply | More ]
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If this were the case, why would cops be opposed to implementing this policy (which they are)? [ Reply | More ]
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One man had a WEAPON. The other man was unarmed. But every time an UNARMED African American teenager is killed, we have to believe he was about to take a gun away from the person wielding it. Can you imagine an African American going around waving a gun at people, but then getting to kill them because they tried to stop him! People have such a double standard. The person with the gun has the power. That's why we love guns! If it was so easy for the criminal to take away the gun and every time you pulled it out you are in grave danger of your own life, then why do people like guns anyway? This video is not about an UNARMED person. If you think the police would have shot this man AFTER he dropped the knife, then you are insane. [ Reply | More ]
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They think the guy needed to stab the officer in the billet proof vest first. [ Reply | More ]
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*bullet [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Brilliant stated: The person with the gun has the power. That's why we Americans love our guns! [ Reply | More ]
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Here is the NYPD choke murder of Eric Garner: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYSnp1UGVGc [ Reply | More ]
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Garner died because he was so fat. not because of unreasonable force [ Reply | More ]
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You don't have to lose your head over it. [ Reply | More ]
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No according to the coroner. [ Reply | More ]
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Why wasn't the black female cop doing CPR? Is she a racist too? [ Reply | More ]
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IMO, these protests have little to do with race and everything to do with cops vs. the rest of us. The majority of us (white and black) have had bad experiences with these sociopaths. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 sometimes it's a black cop abusing someone. it's a brotherhood. [ Reply | More ]
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Murderers [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
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In this video, it is clear that if the perpetrator would only drop the knife, he would be alive . But instead of dropping it he lunged at the police [ Reply | More ]
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He said he wanted them to shoot him. He wants his family to be able to sue. It was suicide. [ Reply | More ]
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yep, suicide by cop. [ Reply | More ]
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There was no lunge. He was swaying back and forth. [ Reply | More ]
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You should be a cop. [ Reply | More ]
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They'd murder me for not respecting the cop code of omerta. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, some blacks commit suicide by cop. Well documented phenom. Their hatred for whites is such that they want to ruin the life of a white cop as they die. [ Reply | More ]
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I was just going to write this. [ Reply | More ]
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If blacks commit suicide by shooting themselves they only ruin their own life. But if they deliberately provoke white cops in to shooting them, they get the pleasure of ruining the white cop's life. Watch the video that is clearly what happens here [ Reply | More ]
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And their mommas get $$$$$$$$ [ Reply | More ]
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"Life can be bright in America!" [ Reply | More ]
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"If you can fight in America!" [ Reply | More ]
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"Better be White in America!" [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nanny here: I have been with the same family for over 3 years I adore the LO so he is not the problem, but my schedule has changed and I have been assigned household chores, I agreed to them because I need the hours, tbh I hate them. I think is time to move on and find another job, what is the best way to approach this with the family? How much time should I give them to find someone else? I still need to find another job. TIA 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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do you have another position already? Our nanny has worked for us for 4 years and kids are going to start school and I need her to do more housekeeping. I don't want to fire her but would prefer someone else as she isn't good at housekeeping. My ideal scenario would be if she helped me in transitioning kids into school for 2 weeks and then told me she doesn't like the new arrangement but will do it while she looks for a new job and I look for a new nanny. You run a risk of her telling you to leave right there and then but I would be very happy if my nanny did this and would work with her on timing [ Reply | More ]
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Op- yes I know is a risk but I don't think the parents are going to ask me to leave right then, they still need childcare, I was thinking on giving 3week - 1 month notice, that would give me time find another job and for them to find someone else, they might find someone quicker and I have a couple savings I could use for a month to pay bills even though I hope I don't have to dig into them. I hate and suck at housekeeping I enjoy chasing kids around, reading and doing crafts! good Luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
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its easier to find a new nanny than a good new job. do take care of yourself. you can always offer to work pt with the kids while they look for a new nanny and you look for a new job [ Reply | More ]
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Op- I don't want to let them hanging there, I think I can find a job in a month, or at least I hope. [ Reply | More ]
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Would you still want this job if you could go back to your original schedule? [ Reply | More ]
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Op- Yes. I would, believe it or not I love children and enjoy doing goofy things around with them [ Reply | More ]
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Can you be honest with her about this? You can also be understanding and tell her you don't want to look for a new job but understand you must if she wants the housekeeping too. [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny here. This is what I would do. [ Reply | More ]
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Op- the problem is that the boy I take care for started school 2 days a week in the mornings, so if I want a F/T job I need to justify those hours by doing something else = housekeeping and I can't afford the cut and I don't expect them to pay me for doing nothing either. [ Reply | More ]
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how many hours of work are you talking about? is it like 8 hours? does the family have a night out sitter? did they have a housekeeper before? [ Reply | More ]
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Op- they still have a cleaning person coming twice a week (this person was doing laundry and deep cleaning) but the idea is for me to take over that, it is about 12 hrs a week total when LO is at shool now. [ Reply | More ]
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School*** [ Reply | More ]
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Op- I can't afford to lose 12 hrs a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Standard is 2 weeks notice. [ Reply | More ]
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you need to either go part time with them, keep the housekeeping duties or find a new family. This is the normal progression with school aged kids and I am sure the mom might expect that you would prefer one of these options over the others. [ Reply | More ]
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So our youngest is starting preschool 3x per week this fall. I compromised with nanny - dc is in school 12 hours per week so we really needed her 12 hours less. I lowered her hours by 6 hours (this was necessary) and asked her to work late/weekends when needed to make up the hours. I don't know how this will work I guess she may quit! But, we really can't afford the preschool and also her full time help. Her hours are staying at 40 hours per week. I would hate to lose her because she is great with the kids but the reality is we need less (I work for myself so my schedule is flexible) and if we had to we could hire someone else. Next year we will only need someone about 20 hours per week., [ Reply | More ]
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Op- yes, I think "that time" has arrived for me, I can't afford P/T and I think the best thing for me is to find another f/t job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Do it. They will find someone else. This is pretty much a no brainer. Just give them decent notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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If you can't afford it totally look for another job. I am hoping our nanny will stay because we offer her a certain amount of flexibility while she is in school. [ Reply | More ]
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I would give 3 weeks. Just quit. I want my nanny to leave if she ever gets tired of us. I will not take it personally at all! I want a HAPPY nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Me too! I hope our nanny will not stay if she feels upset by the loss of hours. I don't want to fire her, don't want to lose her but can't afford not to reduce her hours. If she isn't happy I would hope she would leave. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I still* have not upgraded my Iphone to IOS7, as I have had problems with upgrades in the past (devices mysteriously conking out after the 'upgrade'). There are now a couple of apps I want that require it. Will I regret upgrading? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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which phone do u have [ Reply | More ]
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5 [ Reply | More ]
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This upgrade was ok for me- I've had problems with previous ones. [ Reply | More ]
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I haven't upgraded my Iphone 5 either. I was concerned about the about of space IOS 7 takes. Will it crowd out my other apps? TIA. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, I took the plunge and it's downloading now, so I'll let you know. =) On the positive side, I downloaded and got rid of the 1000+ photos on my phone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a former nanny who 'married the father' (and no, I wasn't the other woman, it wasn't nearly that dramatic). Questions? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Who flirted first? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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It was mutual. We were always flirty. [ Reply | More ]
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So you did begin something while he was still married. Disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, but I was careful to tell him I wasn't going to be the other woman. So, yeah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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So he'll be willing to leave for a flirt. Not certain why you would want the guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Have you hired a hot nanny for your children with him? [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP, what the hell? [ Reply | More ]
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
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Shut up Nanny [ Reply | More ]
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Spit, or swallow? [ Reply | More ]
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What was your relationship with the mom like and before things started, did either of them confide in you about problems in their marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My 16 yo son keeps describing himself as a 'furry'. What does this mean? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Flagged and collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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Lord, I will pray for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Collapsing, buh-bye. [ Reply | More ]
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What is going on? Why is everybody collapsing me? Would somebody explain? [ Reply | More ]
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That he has hair coming out of every possible follicle all over his body. [ Reply | More ]
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Hairy, ?? [ Reply | More ]
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Flagged [ Reply | More ]
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TMI. [ Reply | More ]
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