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[ - ] I tried ice skating for the first time today. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Fake! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] if last name starts with S can DB's first name end with S? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Yes. But it shouldn't start with B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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No, like a tongue twister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Same boat here. We both liked the name james but didn't pick it as first name bc of the S reason and bc I hated all nicknames. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Too German. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I met a great guy in January, we started dating and quickly became exclusive. I've basically been living at his apartment since a few weeks after we met and since my lease is up in June he asked if I want to officially move in. Is this "too soon" - would love advice from anyone who has been in a similar position. I'm finishing up grad school and will start a job this October. He makes significantly more than I do/will but I have a small trust fund. I'm 22 he is 26. He says often that he plans to marry me and I feel the same about him. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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I'd get a ring on it first. You guys are young and dating could drag on indefinitely. In any event, at 22, I wouldn't be so quick to settle down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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We've talked about getting engaged and I expect it will happen later this year. He's pretty transparent about it and we are very much in love. Isn't it a good idea to live with someone before marrying them? I'm nearly 23 and have always been old for my age. I don't think I would have a problem marrying at 25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Talking is not the same thing as doing. If your lease is about to be up, you wouldn't be getting married before your new less expired. You will still live together before getting married. Have you been on UB long? There have been many posts of women who have regretted moving in without a ring. There is NO incentive to buy the cow while getting the milk for free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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You're young enough to be strung along for a while, so I say go for it! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am doing Easter baskets for DC with no candy. DH says I have to put candy in them. Who is right, here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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Dh is right unless dc is diabetic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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There is no right or wrong.. But it is not something worth arguing over - get a chocolate bunny and move on. You don't have to fill the basket with tons of candy - one piece won't hurt. Did you grow up candy-free? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I haven't worked in 12 yrs. used o be in IB. Have an mba from an ivy. Majored in finance and accounting. Do u think a masters in accounting or tax would be the fastest way to get back in, in my 40s? Really want yo go back to work. Thx 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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I wouldn't spendthrift time and $$ on more degrees [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Why do you need another degree to go back to work? How long have you stayed home? I think at this point in your life, you need to network to get into the job field again. Goldman and Chase both have a program that allows women like you to return to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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This. Reach out to your old coworkers, get involved in industry groups, see if you can start with some contract positions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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So does Morgan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Op: even if I haven't worked in 12 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Get back into what? Acct degree will get you into the boring CPA track or a company's finance dept. i would just go become a research associate at a small sell side operation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Ummmmm, written by someone who doesn't understand how virtually impossible it is to get a gig like that when you're in your 40s and haven't worked in 12 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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As if I would care to know. Just find an analyst in a nonbureaucratic smaller brokerage who would rather have a reliable accounting heavy associate vs a 25 yr old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] How does it work if u divorce a richish dad? Assets of 8 mill all acquired during the marriage. 20+ yrs of marriage. Do u get half of the assets and child support if kids under 18? And alimony? Theoretical question bc I SAHM and killed my career for the kids sake. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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You are ME!! I'm watching this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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You are entitled to 50% of assets acquired during marriage + child support + 1/2 of married years in alimony up to some % of his average of last two years income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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You should do pretty well. You'll definitely get half all assets, child support will depend on custody split. If you want alimony, don't be a bitch in the divorce or he'll fight you. I made my X feel like I would never get over losing the love of my life, but if he needed to be happy, I understood - and he gave me everything I asked for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Smart lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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What was your career? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] WE received a notice from the IRS that we were getting a substantial refund for our 2014 taxes. However, we haven't yet filed our taxes for 2014. Anyone else have this situation or a theory as to what is going on? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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Please call the IRS. There is a scam where a thief files a fraudulent return on your behalf and steals the refund. Make sure this isn't happening to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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This. Happened to us this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Ugh, I have heard of this. Worries me as well because I know our accountant has not submitted yet, either. How do they submit a return with all the information needed? Do they just make numbers up? Where do they steal the data? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Did someone steal your identity and file your return before you got around to it? I guess the way that scam works is that they file the return early and have the check deposited in their account or sent to an address that they control. See if you can even file your taxes. If it says you've already filed them, you've been a victim of identity theft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Yes, its a scam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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OP: I think I figured it out. DH's mother died last year and he had an accountant file estate-related taxes (he is only beneficiary) about a month ago. DH isn't home yet but I think this is what it is/ I went on the irs website and we are indeed due this money. But it will immediately go toward our taxes we haven't filed yet. DH had mentioned they would be higher this year because of his inheritance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been unemployed for over 5 years from public relations. Am I officially phased out? Time to start over? Not getting anything. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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I know a person who has been unemployed since 2008. He takes temp jobs as he gets them and is still holding on to hope. You should too. You only need 1 offer to be back in the game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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Is there any other type of job you can do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I made my own bed this morning and clean up breakfast. it took me 15 minutes. I think I am ready to be without a live-in ! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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It's easier than you think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yes!! Although it is not as good as a professional housekeeping services, but it is a liberating feeling that I don't need to rely on someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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Congratulation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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That wasn't a real congratulatory congrats. You should be ashamed of yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Great, now can you operate the dishwasher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Call us when you scrub a toilet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Sure. What's your number? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] do you have an apartment that is big enough, homey enough, comfortable enough for your family? Lucky! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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Yes, I don't think it was luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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Let me guess, finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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You think there is NO luck involved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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Not in my case. It was my goal and it took a lot of work and sacrifices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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It took hard work and sacrifices for me too. And luck. Lots of people work hard and make sacrifices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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If you call painting, sanding floors and tiling bathrooms while living with renovations and working ft for years while trading up properties every 3 to 4 years luck then I super duper lucky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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Yes. We both worked hard in finance. DH still does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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Yes, we are very lucky to have our home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Yup, 3000 sf. Maintenance is 50k a year but we deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Yes, but not great building or location. Building is really a bummer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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I'm alive. Is this luck?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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ok saying lucky - doesn't mean it was all luck. everyone is so defensive on here. However, I don't think it's all working hard either -- I mean not everyone wants to work in finance but finance is monetarily rewarded in a way other professions aren't. The highest monetary rewards don't go to the most hard working or deserving I mean come on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:44 PM Flag
[ - ] When's the best day and time to get fashion advice? Weekday or weekend? TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Weeknight [ Reply | More ]
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right now. I can help m'dear! [ Reply | More ]
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Weekday evening [ Reply | More ]
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What's up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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Looking for some flattering clothes that work with the plus plus size apple shaped body. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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Tunics and slim pants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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thanks do you have any links? I haven't been able to find anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Try saks salon Z. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] were you louder in bed before having DC? i'm paranoid they will hear me so try to be quiet, but it's kind of a buzz kill 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Wait until they're older and can stay up later than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a sahm to our 3 dc. When our first db was born, dh made it known that he wanted me to SAH because he thought it was better for the kids. His own mother was a WOHM and he resented her for it. Well fast forward, now my dh seems jealous of guys whose wives work. He seems really impressed by our neighbors wife who works for Goldman Sachs. He has hinted he wants me to return to work. Problem is, my field isn't like that. Once you're out, you're out. I am very upset by this. I feel like he pulled a bait and switch. 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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14, 12, 8 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Well not really. It's been 14 years - a person can have a change of heart in 14 years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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It's not a bait and switch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Ugh that sucks. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Men are idiots. He probably doesn't remember it was his idea. Talk to him about it. Tell him you want to go back to work but you need help figuring it out because of your field. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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He can't help me figure it out, he knows nothing about my field [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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Yes, but make it his problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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What field? Also, it's very hard to go to work with 3 dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Fashion. I've been out for almost 15 years now. It's not possible to return. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Maybe you can respond to the post above :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Maybe you can do some "impressive" volunteer work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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There isn't any field where you can return after 15 years. Does he want you to get a job in retail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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I know right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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were you a model? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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No, I was a fashion designer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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cool job. you shouldn't have given it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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I know. I regret it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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Did you actually do your own fashion design and got paid a good wage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Then you need to do something else. DH will keep harping at you, making comments and comparing you to other women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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What is your filed. I would say that after 14 years of SAHM you don't really have any field [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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But what about a lawyer or accountant or someone with a trade or skill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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Maybe an accountant could get a starter job in a non profit or something. All skills get outdated. Accounting software is very different today than 15 years ago. You start over. In fashion you would likely be out of work anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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Here is my bitter WOHM translation: he used his mom story as an excuse to have you leave your low paying arts/hobby job to take care if kids as that made more economical sense and now that all kids are older and at school he is starting to feel bitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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But only someone who has no creativity or artistic sensitivity would feel this way about working in the arts. The work is not a 'hobby job' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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You are wrong about me. the equivalent to your statement is to say that only someone who doesn't have brains will choose a job that will not support them in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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Op. Your argument is irrelevant because I was doing well financially at my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Op. When I left my job, dh and I were earning equal salaries and I had arguably more opportunity for growth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Why did you agree to leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Op. Because at the time, things were difficult. My boss basically gave me no maternity leave and I wasn't ready to go back to work 2 weeks after db was born. I think I let my emotions get the best of me and I agreed with dh I would stay home. We hadn't made any decisions up that point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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So don't blame it all on dh and act like you only stayed home bc he made you. Take responsibility for your choices as well. Surely you knew you'd have to earn a wage again at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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Afterwards he was the one who pressured me not to go back (db was around 6 months old). I admit I let him pressure me into it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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^^and no, I dont "have" to earn a wage, dh makes enough to support the family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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So your plan now is to never work again ever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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It's hard all around. I'm sorry he's making you feel this way - it's wrong. You should talk to him about it -- and remember all you've done over these years and don't let how you feel now undermine that. Perhaps there is a way to do something you find interesting but not because your husband wants to brag about you at a party. He should realize what he's got and brag about you for much deeper things than what you are doing for work. And frankly, (and keep in mind i'm in the arts) I don't find working at goldman sachs impressive in the least. Is she interesting? loving? engaged in the world? adventurous? Now that's impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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what would have been the point of your working? fashion design is a low paying career, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Op. I did very well. It depends where you work and how good you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Why is it his choice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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Is he really hinting that he wants you to get a paying job? Does he want the income? Could it be that he sees your older DCs becoming more independent and worries about what will fulfill you when the kids eventually leave home? That doesn't have to be job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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Lots of men do that. They want a SAHM so they are off the hook for childcare, then start comparing their wives to others. Sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:25 PM Flag
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At those ages, there is a lot of free time. He will have to pitch in somewhat but working is an option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Op. I don't have a lot of free time between cooking, cleaning, and driving kids around [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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By now the kids are old enough to clean up after themselves. Cooking can't take more than an hour on most days and shopping, ditto. As I said, you're DH will have to help. There are a lot of people in this situation and they get by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Op. Huh? I have no help. Cleaning the house alone takes a huge amount of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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^^ I don't mean cleaning as in putting toy trucks away. I mean deep cleaning the kitchen, stove, bathrooms, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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Every day?? Have the kids help. I had to clean up when I was young. I survived. Hire a cleaning person if you have to for one day a week. Hopefully your additionally salary will cover this. Sounds like you're scared of going back to work. It's not easy and you will be turned down but eventually you'll find a position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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I love responses like this. Somehow WOHMs manage to feed their families and work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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Op. Because they have nannies and housekeepers! Are you dense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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I WOHM ft and don't have a nanny or a housekeeper. Your kids are in school. There is no reason you cannot work. You sound lazy. [ Reply | More ]
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WOHM here, this. I have a full time nanny and a housekeeper twice a week. Also, my kids eat a lot of take out. I can't pretend that I cook and clean as well as a sahm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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I see so many women on here bragging about how their dh's love it that they stay home, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Do you want to work or sah? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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My DH did the same thing - insisted I stay with the kids so he could devote himself completely to his work. That's the way his parents did it. Dad was provider, mom was caretaker at home. Fast forward to our 40's, he decided I was boring and he had "nothing in common with me" and he treated me like some kind of huge burden. Instead he went off with this woman at work who was gee way more super exciting than I was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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This happens all. The. Time. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Flame away but women who spend all day obsessed with their kids become so boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Did you get alimony? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] My boss texts me unnecessarily when I'm not at work. All things that can wait. It's annoying. I can't do anything about it though, right? She gets pusses if I don't respond. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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^^pissed. Weird auto correct-- is that even a word? [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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DON'T RESPOND [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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She gets mad then I have to deal with it when I see her. I just say ok usually. I just feel really infringed upon. When I'm not there, I don't want to think about it. Plus I know she hates her job so she should know better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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She is out of line. Can you talk to HR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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No. I guess I have to suck it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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+1. When she confronts you with her anger say you weren't working. Do this enough and she should stop. Take it to HR if she doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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Actually, I like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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This is bad advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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np I don't think so. If you don't answer a few times, she'll get the hint. signed, mom in management [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Ok Doormat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Text is an unacceptable way to have work communication. She should email. And you should find a new boss. Nothing you do will convince her she's ok. Regarding texting, tell her you need emails because that's how you keep track of your work and to do list. Regarding off hours, she will not change. She will resent you. Find new boss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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One of the only bad things about the job. Not ready to throw put the baby with the bath water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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What if you told her to call you over the weekend instead of texting. Perhaps say you've made a deal with DH that you won't text/email on the weekend or that you've agreed to limit being attached to your phone and will check once a day so she should call with emergencies. It is unlikely that she'll call you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Boss here, would emails bother you? I would never text on a weekend, but sometimes I send an email because I don't want to forget. I don't expect a quick response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of the Ellen Pao case? I think she's justified. I've experienced far too much thinly-veiled discrimination in the workplace. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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Have not read much about it, but I can tell you that in my workplace much of this discrimination is not even spoken at all, so it would be so, so hard to prove. It seems to me like people (including women) are just much happier taking orders from a straight white man. None of their hackles go up. But once a gay man or a woman starts making the requests, they get all pissy. It sucks, but I have no idea how you could prove this widespread bias, which clearly holds women back from leadership positions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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The problem is that the perpetrators are completely oblivious to it. It's no different with implicit bias and racism. Really sucks for women in higher management levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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She and her weirdo husband seem like idiot scam artists [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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ITA. She most likely sued to get money to keep them afloat before all of their assets are seized. Shit's going down! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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I am amazed that they kept her around as long as they did. She sounds like she has a shitty personality and is a PITA to work with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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So do a lot of guys who get promoted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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I am a woman who worked in tech. In the 80s, my boss had a picture of a naked woman in chains on the wall of his office. In the 2000s, my boss had a sonogram of his in-utero son with the testicles circled on his office wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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Yep. Men do these sexist things all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Haven't been to an Easter egg hunt since i was 4. Having 5 kids and parents for cocktails and going to do a little bit of a hunt. Is there anything we can put into eggs besides candy? I have stuffed a bunch of those but I'm think Quarters? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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Why not candy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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op: I said I have stuffed a bunch with candy but was thinking of other ideas. 2 of the kids are overweight and on restricted diets anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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Omg what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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A dollar is more thrilling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Pennies, dimes, nickels, stickers(get a sheet and cut them up). Give out little notebooks and they can put the stickers in their own little book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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stickers or temporary tattoos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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op: This sounds good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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shells [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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No change. So useless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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op: not quarters for 3 year olds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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Definitely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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Just put candy in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Grapes. Kumquats. Pearl onions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Those little balls I see in 50 cent vending machines [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever go in Scary Mommy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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*on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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It's pretty scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] True story: my MIL puréed mcnuggets and fed them to my 6 month old. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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LOL that is so gross. I'm sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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When did this happen? How old is dc now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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This happened today. Good thing she is my second child. With number one I probably would have fainted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Ha, when my dd was 9-12 mo MIL was holding her and I watched her feed her a Diet Coke through a straw. I cringed not wanting to be a bitchy DIL and then watched as DD threw it up all over MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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hahahahahahahaha. WHY WOULD SHE FeED A BABY SODA? omg thanks for the laugh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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no clue and part of me still feels bad for dd that I didn't make MIL stop but I didn't know how to not sound judgemental, like "oh actually she doesn't like soda!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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np. I used to do that all the time. It's a tiny bit of something and it used to keep my babies interested so I could have another 15 or 20 minutes of peace talking with a friend. nbd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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Love it! Did the baby like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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McNuggets are good because they're crispy. Pureeing them would mean they're soft...gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh- who is way behind on child support- now says he is going to take me to court to lower his child support obligations. Anyone btdt? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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Not me, but my sister. If he is in NY, and makes an amount covered by the table (not certain how high it goes, maybe 180), it is table amount, Does he have any reason other than jerk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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He had a salary deduction, although we agreed on a flat amount not tied to a percentage so it technically doesn't count (but based on the current NYS percentages 17% for one kid, 23% for two, etc). But honestly, he is far more behind than just the % of his reduction of salary. What happened with your sister? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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She go the table plus the percent, based on his salary to his plus hers, of medical, child care etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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That's what they do. Happens all the time. They win too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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