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[ - ] For the AM crowd. Spoiled DH threatens to divorce me if I don't have a second child. We are 45! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Tell him you will try, stay on pill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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He's going to divorce you if you don't get pregnant? Sounds like a keeper to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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How old is your dc? I am 46 and youngest is 8. I cannot imagine having another db at this age - I would be 64 when they graduated from hs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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He's still angry? What's going on?!? [ Reply | More ]
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Think we need more context. Was the plan to have 2? Did you have the first recently? Did you want 2 but changed mind? Is he willing to adopt? [ Reply | More ]
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Haha. Try harder the next time, troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Who does something like this? I scheduled a play date with my DD's friend - the plan was to pick her up and take them to the movies. The other mom, who knows that I work, suggested Friday. I suggested the weekend (since I work) and she picked Sunday. This morning, 3 hours before the movie, she emailed me that her DH wants to take the kids to the beach (FL) and they can't meet us. Wth? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Plans change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Blowing off people like that - especially little kids is not ok, IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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short notice, but that sounds ok to me. nothing to get worked up over. plans come up, and sundays are usually family days anyways no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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NP. ESL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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no just horrible at grammar. shoot me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Are you a SAHM or WOHM? When do you schedule play dates if you WOHM and your kids are I aftercare? And why would you agree in Saturday just to cancel on Sunday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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^^^ in aftercare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I have a newborn so haven't really done the play date thing yet. but i can understand why she was being inconsiderate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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Sounds like the dad just decided spontaneously. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I don't have eye/vision insurance and I need a basic exam and updated prescription. Any places or doctors on the Upper West Side who are reasonable? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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If you go to costco, you should try their optical dept. I believe its 85? for a full exam and they their other optical services is very cheap/reasonable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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*their [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Warby Parker [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] She makes no sense 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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What's not to understand? She wants attention, and needs some sort of story to make herself remotely interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Lol ok. I couldn't understand his it "ruined her life" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] How many TVs do you have in your house and where are they? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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one in the living room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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np. Same [ Reply | More ]
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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+1 I don't think TVs belong in bedrooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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2 - one in my bedroom and one in the living room. The one in the bedroom only gets streaming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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one in living room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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eleven. master, living room, gym, clubhouse (3), kitchen, library, 2 bedrooms, rec room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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Oh wait. 1 in bathroom but it's not connected to cable currently, and so it just looks like a mirror. [ Reply | More ]
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np. That is a large house. Do you have 19 children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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No. two. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you the Queen of Versailles ?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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I don't know. Maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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One. Living room [ Reply | More ]
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3 living room, den, masterbedroom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Don't have affairs with married men. If they're married and haven't already left their wives to be with you, that means that they don't want you. There is no getting around that. There's no competing with a man's wife for his affection. Also, if he cheated on his wife, he will cheat on you. Lastly, just be single. We're living in the last days, so things like earthly relationships are irrelevant, anyway. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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My sister had an affair with a married man, and he did leave his wife. It is hell on my sister. Most of his money goes to ex and his kids from first family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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ouch. karma! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Love this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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^^^The ex wife has school age kids, an aupair, and works about 25 hours a week. My sister woks full time (more then 40), they jockey between nanny and CC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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This is expected and your sister has some gall to complain after taking part in the destruction of a family. [ Reply | More ]
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OR, she doesnt complain, I am commenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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You lost me at end of days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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this wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Thanks for the cheery post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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What if the OW is also married? Do two negatives make a positive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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Nope, it doubles the negative [ Reply | More ]
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Roses are Red, Violets are Red, Everything's Red, it's a metaphor for the human genocide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the NY version of Muswell Hill? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What do you like about Muswell Hill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a DH who is pretty emotionally reserved? Currently in a relationship with someone who might be described this way. His actions reflect care, interest, and thoughtfulness and he is affectionate in certain situations (cuddling during movies) but is otherwise not very forthcoming with how he is feeling. Any insights as to what this is like long-term would be great. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Sounds pretty typical of a man. Coming on too strong too soon is a sign of an unhealthy person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Men are like that. But it could be something of a problem. No way for us to tell. My husband was kind and caring. Not openly affectionate. He morphed into a miserable man who kept his love, affection, feelings locked in a box hidden under the bed. Completely void impossible to deal with. Who knows [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so conflicted. Someone I know has a husband that I have always considered to be a gigantic douche of the highest magnitude, I have heard him at least a dozen times over the years needing to tell people he went to college "in Cambridge." So, I have never really liked that guy, although, privately, I have always thought, good for his wife, she snagged a Harvard guy, so I've always not really completely discounted them, because, Harvard. Randomly this morning I was going through FB and found out he actually went to some place called Lesley University. In Cambridge. Now I am completely questioning my values. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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I have never heard of that school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Well, now you can cross those people off your list of socially acceptable friends! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Now you know he is a douche! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I would probably feel the same way as you did and do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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does he make a great living? I would be more impressed if he does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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OP. They do OK, I guess. Nothing spectacular. In fact I've probably always subconsciously thought of them when reading posts here and agreeing that going to HYP doesn't necessarily mean you're going to have some extraordinary way of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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I'm feeling very weird at realizing my entire perspective of these two people was indeed shaped by thinking i knew where he went to college. I didn't realize I was doing this as much as I apparently did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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It's a small private school in cambridge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Matt Damon's mom teaches there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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He still could be trying to imply to everyone he went to Harvard. Don't discount the douche theory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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I honestly thought it was a women's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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My Mom went there - it used to be a women's teaching college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Should we just be suspicious of any male teacher taking an interest in our children at this point? http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/29/nyregion/bronx-science-teacher-in-child-pornography-case-told-students-youre-a-big-deal.html?&moduleDetail=section-news-2&action=click&contentCollection=N.Y.%20%2F%20Region&region=Footer&module=MoreInSection&pgtype=article 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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My father was a scientist, a professional who worked in education as a volunteer after retiring -- he I would trust. However, because of recent cases including one at a school in my town, I don't trust men who go into teaching from the get go, particularly creepy nerdy ones. Am I wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Yes, you are. 99.9% of the male teachers don't go in to the profession for the pedophilia. As mother of 2 DS in middle and HS, I think we need more male teachers. Some of my kid's best classroom experiences happen to be with male teachers because they understand boys and the way they learn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Be wary if it makes you feel you're doing the right thing. But know that you will be wrong 99.9999999999% of the time. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 8 yo DD is very shy and very different from the other girls in her class. (She's much more intellectual/academic, and not at all into "girly" stuff.) She does lots of after school activities, but never gets invited for play dates. I have tried many times to single out kids I think she'd get along with, and have invited them over, but friendships never seem to take off. DD doesn't seem bothered by it and says she would prefer to read a book at recess or eat lunch alone. Teachers tell me that they love having her in class and wish all of the girls were more like DD. Should I be concerned or just let this be? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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Let her be. Try to find her activities outside of school that are for bookish kids. Writeopia? Many kids find like-minded peers there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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+1 Good advice. At this age, she will probably only find other girls like her in specialized activities. Once she is in college, she'll be surrounded by people like her and it will be great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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My dd is a little like this. As long as she's not bothered by being alone and she's otherwise self-sufficient, it may just be her personality. If it lasts, she'll be the one doing something productive with her time in high school as opposed to running in packs all over the mall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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She sounds like an introvert who needs downtime to recharge during the day in order to make it through school and after school activities which might be all the social interaction she needs right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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+1000! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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She embraces her independence. She's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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My DD is similar, very introverted and a homebody. At 8 she started developing strong friendships in after school activities, and now, at 12, she has a core group of friends at school. It got a bit harder in 5th grade because the other girls started being more interested in boys and more tween things, and DD wanted to still be a "kid." And there were moments when she realized that everyone else was going to many more birthday parties than she was and that bothered her a little. But both eased up fairly quickly. I remember being concerned when she said to me the same thing as your DD, that she didn't mind being alone at school, but it really was that she didn't mind. Some people are more self-contained and happy to be that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Speak with the school counselor. This was my DS. Counselor was able to id other similar boys and he currently has 2-3 good friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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DD was like this. 2 years later she has a group of good friends. I know it's hard but you need to let them find their own way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I was shopping yesterday with my 20 year old niece we were in Soho at Necessary Objects. Nothing in the store is over 50.00 and i have to say some clothing was very cute for the price. Anyway aim turning 40 and i remember when i was a size 2 and now aim a 12 after two kids. I felt down watching all the young girls so skinny and looking fab! I feel like Large Marge and i have to shop quality clothing now. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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You're eating too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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NP I am a size 8 after having been a size 4 pre-DC. I agree - cheap stuff used to look cute on me. Now I spend more because I'm not thin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Well I am UB poor, with HHI of 75K. So I can't by "quality clothing" all the time. I guess the only saving grace is I am still fit and a size 0 so I can get away with some cheaper stuff. Not necessarily the trendy stuff as I am in my 30s not 14, but H&M pencil skirts, slouchy sweaters, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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What size would make you comfortable and realistically healthy? Try not to compare yourself to teen girls. [ Reply | More ]
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Large Marge and in charge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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It's true. When you are thin you can wear anything. When size 12 you need t's spend money & time to fine the right clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny question- I have a PT nanny 25 hours per week guaranteed. Last week we went away for a few days so she only worked 11 hours. I paid her the full 25. She is coming today to help out. Would you pay her for hours worked today in addition to the 25 hours pay she received? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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You should have agreed to this before hand, is the week Sunday to Sunday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Agreed we should have but it was overlooked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Yes that is the defintion of guaranteed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Depends - did the days off count as paid vacation for her, or did you explain that you expected her to make up the hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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I don't expect her to make up the hours, It was a bonus vacation for her. Her third bonus vacation in 6 months. Plus a regular paid vacation she took when we were not away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Yes. She did not ask for you to go on vacation so that's separate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Yes but you could have said before vaca you are switching her hours from weekday to weekend and then you wouldnt be double paying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Came home to find DS has packed all of his stuff up and told me he is dropping out of college. He's out right now looking for apartments for himself. I'm not sure what to do with him he's never been like this before. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Help him move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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I want to help him at some point in his life but not now. I want him to finish college and have a stable income. Right now he has nothing but what DH and I give him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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So who does he think is paying his rent [ Reply | More ]
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Np: Give him nothing then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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I would sit down with him. Figure out what is going. He may just need a semester to regroup. Revisit next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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Oh dear. Can you convince him just to finish semester it's so close. Get the credits just in case - but also allow him to drop and help find apt? [ Reply | More ]
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Getting apartments with what money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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How strange that he wouldn't at least just finish out the spring and drink and skip class for two months with all his friends if he's going to drop out anyway. I guess everyone knows it's much more fun to just go out and get a full time job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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This. He's not even good at dropping out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Be clear that you are not paying his rent for him and that you will discuss his living situation if he remains in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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find out what happened. he could have been sexually assaulted or otherwise traumatized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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He has to get back into school. Perhaps an easy major at a community college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Something happened. There's something going on academically or socially. Signed someone who left college in the middle of fall semester sophomore year and never explained it to my parents. I ended up transferring to a state school and only took me a summer session to catch up. Did fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Narcissistic to get hair extensions for yourself for dc's bat mitzvah 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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No, it's just hair. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope those pictures are forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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Please don't. Hair extensions are gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Narcissistic to judge a person by their choice of fashion and grooming for their once in a lifetime, photographed and viseo'd event. Anything in your own life you need help with? Other than asking the herd how to judge others on things that have little to do with character, etica or kindness? [ Reply | More ]
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It's for me. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Professional photographer in the delivery room? Attention whore? yes or no? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Please don't do this. [ Reply | More ]
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not me, SIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Talk her out of it. Its not a normal thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
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Let's hope it's video [ Reply | More ]
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I only wish that I could have had a strange man with camera pointing at me at that very photogenic moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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