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[ - ] SHSAT - if you are interested in the debate and Mayor de Blasio's concerns, this is an interesting quote from an article that might help you understand: 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^^"Critics point out that none of the few dozen Success Academy 8th graders who took the entrance exam over the past two years did well enough to get into one of the city’s eight selective public high schools. Although the test is difficult, and less than one-fifth of applicants are admitted each year, it is perplexing that no Success students, many of whom scored at the advanced level on the state exams, made the cut. Only 10 percent of students admitted this year were black or Latino (52 percent identified as Asian), and the wisdom of basing admittance entirely on this one exam is being debated in New York City." [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ds always goes to the bathroom during his tutoring session even if I remind him to go before she arrives. How can I gently let him know this is not ok. That's a $10 bathroom break! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Just make it a rule. Or he owes you $10 if he goes. [ Reply | More ]
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He needs a break during tutoring. Maybe there's a way to restructure the hour so he does something easy in the middle? [ Reply | More ]
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It's only one hour though! And the tutor transitions between activities. Should I set a two min bathroom break timer? I think it's just an avoidance strategy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] None of my 12 and 10 yo DDs' friends like movies such as Star Wars, Xmen etc. is it that unusual for girls to enjoy sci fi and thrillers? I love them so maybe that's why they like them... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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My 10 year old is counting the days until Star Wars! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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The Star Wars movies are really bad, compared to other sci fi movies (bad dialogue, bad plot writing, bad acting, bad directing), so kids today are not buying into it the way we did in the 80s and when Episode I came out. Not liking Star Wars is actually a sign of good taste. X-Men isn't much better. Your kids grew up on the movies you liked, so of course they like them, but it's time for them to be seeing new movies with their friends and developing their own likes & dislikes, too. There are sci fi & thriller movies out now that are far better quality, and there are non-sci fi movies that they might end up preferring because they watched them on their own or with their friends, not with their parents. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The public crucifixion of Britt McHenry continues. Now they've got her former classmates emailing tips and they've tapped her twitter feed. good god. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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She made her bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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the towing company is no angel. has a reputation for illegal towing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think it's strange that a 34yo man has never been in a long term relationship? He works in finance and is very busy, travels internationally a lot, and he's had a few girlfriends, but never a serious relationship. Thoughts? gay? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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player or closeted gay. use your imagination to figure out what he's doing on his international travels. if this is a romantic prospect i think the frequent travel is a red flag, not the apparent lack of prior ltr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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what would closeted gay even look like? I mean, why would he be pursuing a dating relationship with a female if this is how he felt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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you'd be surprised. not every dude who likes dudes wants it to be known. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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It's common among those who travel a lot for business. You have to be of a certain mind set to handle an international travel schedule. It doesn't leave time for relationships or families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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IDK. I dated a guy like this (not finance) and at the time I dated him, he had had like one 6 month relationship in his early 20s and then a bit of dating but not very much. It was a little weird though he was an incredibly nice guy. I think his niceness being a bit shy and introverted were the main reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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Smart. Enjoying life, focusing on career, not getting dragged down by obligations, keeping all options open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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It's unsuual, but there could be a lot of reasons. He could be shy, introverted, or low self esteem with dating. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 31 (I married him). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Small penis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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are you dating (or consider dating) this guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I had to get a new iPhone and when I tried to sync to iTunes my music transfers, but my playlists do not. How do I do this? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Google your exact question and you will be amazed at the amount of Apple support boards that will have previously answered another users same question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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That was such a nicer way to answer that then the mom who always says, "Google is your friend." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] My FIL makes me so sad. Last year, MIL died of cancer at home in a hospital bed on the first floor of their home - she was receiving hospice care. Their bedroom was on the second floor. On the night that she died, he heard her call out to him, but he says that he was afraid to go to her because he couldn't be with her when she died. He finally gathered the courage to see her at 5am and, of course, she had been dead for hours. I would be so sad if DH ignored me in such a situation! Why are men such babies?!? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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My dh held his mother and his child as they died. Not all men are babies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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Wow, that's so sad. I never want to question the behavior of grieving people because I can't imagine being in their shoes. But that's very sad for MIL. I guess FIL will just have to carry the burden of knowing that he chose to not be there for her. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think people should be judged on one action during stress where they might have behaved more unselfishly but didn't do anything evil. Was your FIL a good husband during all the years he and MIL were married? That is far more important. [ Reply | More ]
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I like you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it unrealistic for me to want DH to gift me the equity in our apt in a divorce that I don't want? I can afford the mortgage but I cannot afford to buy him out of the equity. He made so many promises and I made financial decisions based on those promises and now he wants a divorce. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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no. have you talked to your lawyer about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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I have not consulted with a lawyer. DH continues to pay all the bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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See a lawyer ASAP. Robert Cohen is very good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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How long have you been married, how many kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Married 17 yrs, two DCs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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I think at most you will get use of apt till youngest in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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*give [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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It's probably unrealistic to hope for. Even if you contest the divorce, creating leverage for yourself in the negotiations, your legal fees will eat up assets. You can certainly ask - you never know, he may be perfectly happy to do so to get a faster divorce - but it may be easier just to sell the apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Contesting a divorce will not put your husband in the mood to gift you the equity in the apartment. You do need to sit down with a competent attorney to figure out what a realistic child support, spousal support and asset split is likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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*give [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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If she asks for the apartment, and he says no, contesting the divorce may cause enough headaches for him to rethink it. But it's not likely enough to be worth paying all of the extra legal fees to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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you can sell the apt later. why do you not want the apt out of curiosity? the value is only going to increase i would think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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Sorry. I want the apartment but I cannot affor give him assets worth the likely $1 mil in equity that would be half his share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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not to be mean, but it sounds like you can't afford the apartment. I would plan on looking to move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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It may be the case. The mortgage is low so I can afford it but all our cash was spent on his business investments so I don't have great chunks to buy him out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Then you own part of his business, too. Trade some of your equity in his business for the equity in the apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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ok, the part about not wanting was really throwing me off. fwiw, i don't think it's unrealistic, good luck with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Sell. If you have $2M in equity in the apartment, and there is still a mortgage on it on top of that, you just need to downsize your life to what you each can afford individually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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The mortgage is very small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Sell. No way he is just going to give you $1M. (If he agrees to give you $1M in property, it's because he has $20M hidden away someplace that you don't know about, so hire an investigator.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I am divorced with 2 DCs. My BF has never been married and has no DCs. It kind of amazes me that he is as ok and supportive of me as he is. I know, CSB, but anyone else in a similar situation? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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how is his mother with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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She is actually very nice and kind towards me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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mid 30s [ Reply | More ]
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How old are the DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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teens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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No wonder. The DCs don't require constant attention and they are soon to be out of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Indeed, they aren't babies. But parenting teens isn't exactly a hands off endeavor either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Of course he is. Right now it's his choice, because he's just the boyfriend and can walk away anytime. Once you get married and it all becomes responsibility, he may feel very different about a lot of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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maybe. I don't necessarily know that marriage is in our future. We both are appreciating and enjoying being in a committed relationship, marriage itself, we'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Yep. He's good with things how they are - he can be supportive to the extent that he likes, and knows that he isn't legally responsible for anything he doesn't choose. It's always easier to stick with things when you know it's your choice and that no one else can hold you to anything you don't want to be held to. You're smart to just decide every day what you can give to each other. [ Reply | More ]
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agreed. One of the things I like about him is actually that not only is he making choices he is comfortable with, but he is supportive of me doing the same which is important to me as I am pretty independent - there isn't a lot of guilt, obligation, resentment, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm the second wife from below... can I ask what your arrangement is with ex DH re: finances and custody? My DH and his ex have a very different setup to my own ex DH and myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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I don't get any financial help (child support or alimony or anything) from exDH. We share custody, they are with me about 70% of the time. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you for answering the question. I guess there isn't a 'common' agreement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] recently moved to a townhouse community in the suburbs. lots of older women like me (55), divorced, but i really enjoy the young mothers and kids and babies much more. so much life going on here. laughing kids and babies and crying kids and dogs and birds - the 'morning chorus" is so joyful. why in the world would anyone choose an over 55 community. this is life 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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I can't wait to live in an over-55 community. Get those kids off my lawn! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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Once you are done raising your kids, it's tedious to deal with moms who still have them. I'm an older mom and like several of my friends but I want to claw my eyeballs out sometimes when they go on and on about Jeffrey and how they've started eliminating dairy from his diet and Mrs. Snow says now he can concentrate so much better in class, though Mrs. Gibney says he's still not working to his potential in reading. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Need quick advice - I arrived for a wedding (in bridal party) but left all my jewelry at home! Can I rent jewelry in Manhattan ? Need it asap. Tia. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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H&M, Aldo, Zara, Forever 21, Urban Outfitters...got get something pretty, fake and disposable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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JCrew [ Reply | More ]
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Why rent? There is a lot of inexpensive jewelry anywhere in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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What do you need? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Necklace. Diamond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Cubic zirconia from dept store maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Um no. Why do you need a diamond necklace? [ Reply | More ]
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She doesn't want the rest of the wedding party to think she's NOKD, [ Reply | More ]
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Why bother? No one will notice. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree. Does a bride really want all the bridesmaids to upstage her in diamonds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Call someone else in the bridal party and borrow from them! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Rent the runway has stores in NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: My 4 y.o. dd asks for "bath time w/Daddy" as her gift now. Every time she has the chance for a present or a reward (birthday, eating all her dinner, etc.), she now asks to "take a bath with Daddy." So I fill the tub with bubbles so she's not traumatized to see the naked male form yet, then I get in quickly and cover up, then she strips and gets in and starts splashing around. Could be cute if it ended there, but then she sits down and tries to wiggle back against me, and I have to keep her at bay. She'll stand up, shake her little tush, and talk about how good the warm water feels, and she'll go up to the faucet, turn it on, and wash herself under the stream, cooing and sometimes looking over her shoulder at me. Then my wife walks by the open bathroom door and gives a look I can only describe as jealousy. After bath time is over and I'm all dried up, my wife gives me the silent treatment for the rest of the night. I'll come up and start talking about the neighbors or ask her about her day at work, and she'll just sort of go "hmph" and keep her back to me. WTF, no one told me being a husband and father was going to be like this. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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stop posting this over and over and over [ Reply | More ]
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totally gross, man. please get off here. [ Reply | More ]
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She probably thinks it's weird. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see the value in ascribing "weirdness" to caring for a child in a way that takes into account her wishes and happiness. [ Reply | More ]
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Btw, I'm the mother of a daughter. There's definitely a naturally close dynamic between dd and dad. But this goes pretty far and you're encouraging it. I'd feel like it was pretty icky if my DH were doing this. [ Reply | More ]
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Flagged. I hope FBI tracks you. [ Reply | More ]
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Just sent this link to the FBI. [ Reply | More ]
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reported to rbi [ Reply | More ]
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Get help. We understand that pedophiles can't help their mental illness, but there is no excuse for indulging it. If you don't get psychological care, you deserve whatever happens to you when you go to jail. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope someone locks you up in prison so you can get your own shower time. [ Reply | More ]
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this was written by a woman [ Reply | More ]
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this is urban baby, not rural west virginia baby. geez [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do if someone dies in your home? As in, fully dead, like you wake up in the morning and you spouse died of natural causes during the night, and you don't need paramedics. I can't find info online - is there a city or state website with instructions for who to call and what to do next? Everyone I have known who has died, has died in the hospital or in an accident, and paramedics or the hospital dealt with everything. Do you just pick a funeral home and call and ask them to come pick up the body? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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911 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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+1. They will handle it, dead or alive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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911 is for emergencies. Someone who is already dead is not an emergency. Call 311 and they'll guide you through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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You can't know for sure if they are dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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np After someone is dead for 20-30 minutes, it is very, very obvious that he is dead. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes you can. They are cold and blue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Really more yellow, from all of the blood pooling from gravity. It's creepy the first time you see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I've seen two. They were cold and blue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Two refrigerated corpses? Or two bodies an hour after death while their temperature was still at room temperature or above their blood was settling into their back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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This. Corpses don't go blue until they are chilled for preservation, unless they have been poisoned or they died from oxygen deprivation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Two recently dead non refrigerated bodies [ Reply | More ]
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np: please. I'm eating a late breakfast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Collapse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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No. 911 is also for death in sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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If they were in hospice you call them. If not you call 911 if you are freaked, or 311 in NYC if you are not freaked. Either way police come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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np. I think the police come by no matter what to basically make sure everything looks above board and that you didn't actually smother your spouse overnight or something. I would imagine you can't just send a dead body directly to the funeral home without some quick official check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Yes, "either way police come" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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wrong. my mother recently died on hospice. the hospice nurse came to declare death. and the funeral home director came to pick her up. no police. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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NYC suburbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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OMG - hospice e cep ruin was stated. Whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Exception [ Reply | More ]
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It's so rude to start a post with "wrong". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Did your spouse die in your home, or are you just wondering about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Just wondering. DH is 56, is a smoker, and gets little exercise but drinks almost every day. I don't think he's going to drop dead today or anything, but it just occurred to me that he's a prime candidate for a stroke or heart attack. If it happens while I'm not home or while we're asleep, I would have no clue who to call or how I get the body moved to the crematorium. Does a body have to go to a hospital first for an official declaration, or can a police officer/medic do that at the scene? Etc. There has to be info online for this - I might just call a funeral home and ask what happens. I'm too old to be clueless when someone dies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Call for ambulance - 911. Not only do they need to come, but also police to make sure no foul play. [ Reply | More ]
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Which is probably mandatory if someone dies in your home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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There are funeral homes nearby. I would check them out ahead of time. I know what to do if DH dies. So does he. DH and I will be cremated so no burial. I'm sorry you're worried. Try to get him to use the e-cigs. I am assuming that he is overweight as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I think I'm far more worried that I'll be too dumb to do the correct things, than that he's going to die anytime soon. He's only ten or fifteen pounds overweight. He tried the e-cigs but didn't like them. I realize I could die of cancer or get hit by a car or whatever, and he could end up outliving me, so at this point it's really more about the realization that I don't know something that seems so basic and common sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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You *might* be overthinking this a bit. If it happens, call 911. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I would probably call my local police business line. I have it programmed into my phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Choose a funeral home and they will coordinate with EMS/hospital/police to collect the body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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This is what you do - my uncle is a funeral director. He gets calls at all hours, he handles everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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I think everyone should know where their local funeral home is located. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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You call 911. They send ambulance (just in case) and they send the coroners office. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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If someone dies you need a doctor (or someone) to certify. If the person was perfectly healthy and is dead, most people would call 911 and just say person seems to have died already. If person is in home hospice because death was expected, call them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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911. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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On the show Time of Death, when the daughter finds her mother (who had stage 4 cancer) dead in her bed, she calls 911 who walks her through making sure her mother is dead. They send police and ambulance just in case and when there's nothing to be done, they help her figure out what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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They would not do this in real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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2 of my grandparents died in their home; 1 of them was expected as she was receiving hospice care. We called the funeral home and they picked up the body in a regular SUV. We were surprised when a black lincoln navigator showed up to pick up my grandmother's body, but the guy said that they do this instead of a hearse in order to avoid attention. If an ambulance or a hearse shows up to your home, all of your neighbors will gawk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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^^^My grandfather was much like your husband, except he was 64 when he died. Had a heart attack at home. My aunt discovered the body and called 911. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Yes. 911. My friends' mom's dh died in his sleep. You call 911 and they take care of it. Nothing else to do. He was old and died in his sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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911 or police. police is better because it's not a true emergency and you don't want to take up resources. you cannot call a funeral home to pick up a body because you need to authorities to get a death cert, etc. these events have to be recorded for public records. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] A student in Germany has filed a Freedom of Information request to see the questions that will be on his exams. Genius. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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LMAO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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LOL, he's probably a filthy JEW [ Reply | More ]
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Flagged and collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I know the icy/suburb thing has been discussed a lot recently. But, I am looking for a contrast and comparison of daily life from someone who has experienced both. I have always lived in the city and really not sure what to expect. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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*CITY*/Suburb-sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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this is such a complex question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I know, but maybe the best you can in a nutshell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I live in the suburbs. Right now is the most wonderful time of the year in our area - the weather is gorgeous, everyone is out, kids are playing and riding bikes, helping with gardening, easy to walk to dinner or to the baseball game or to get ice cream after dinner. For us I think the major difference between suburb and city life is that in you need to get comfortable with a more limited but more comfortable routine. So for example - in our area there are three decent neighborhood restaurants to walk to within 8 or 10 minutes, two "upscale" food markets, two pizza joints, and three drug stores. Within a 5 minute drive or a 25 minute walk you can get to eight good restaurants, two theaters, and maybe 15 or 20 cute little shops. Is that enough for you? If you're the kind of person who really enjoys being able to get to 42 different sushi places within 20 minutes then the burbs probably aren't for you. If you're the person who is ok with a handful of good places that you hit up over and over again, then you'll do wonderfully in the burbs. Also, to do well in the suburbs you'll have to like other people. Those who move out here but don't want to have impromptu barbecues in the yard tend not to do so well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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+1 re your comment more comfortable but more limited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Thank you that is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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I am concerned about meeting people/making friends. I am not sure I am so good at it and in the city it is less of a problem to not have a big circle of friends. I feel like in the burbs, people tend to have more groups, which I don't do so great in. Am I wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Are you a sahm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Agree with this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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I live in the suburbs and WOH in the city. I think I get the best of both worlds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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How long is your commute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Aboit 50 minutes door-to-door [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Not too bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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An hour and 40 mins a day! That is a lot of time spent commuting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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I do work during my commute so it's not lost time. Anyway it's worth it to me because quality of life in Burbs is superior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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How so? ANd also, how old are dcs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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They are 7, 5, 2.5. We moved when I got pg with third dc. Best decision we ever made. I like clean air, roomy living quarters, backyards and cute walkable towns...all things you get in the burbs. Quality of life is much better especially for dc. Right now they are playing outside while I catch up on work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Which town? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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What do you mean this? I am asking her a question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Np: She wants to know the answer also or she put her post under the wrong comment. Calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH pays his ex wife CS, 100% daycare fees and100% of her mortgage. I think it's honorable and I would never see SDCs go without, but their mom works FT. Am I unreasonable to ask DH to stop paying her mortgage? He signed the home over to her in the divorce, so it isn't like he hasn't given up half of the home already. He is only required to pay CS and 50% any other bill relating to DCs but he says he doesn't want to shortchange her, since he was the one who asked for the divorce. We live very well, but my SDCs could have their own bedrooms if we could afford a bigger place. 68 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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His call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Counting his dollars, are you? Don't forget, you come 3rd in this marriage, after your kids and his first kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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She can't pay the mortgage alone and they want kids to stay in their home. I've seen this many times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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If it was that then I wouldn't even question it. She can pay the mortgage alone, she has the same job she had when they were married. Her salary isn't a secret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Maybe she spends money on the kids that you do not know. Maybe she is saving for their college. You are really sounding like a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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We have their college fund. She doesn't contribute. She earns 225k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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The question is how much does he earn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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WE. Stop with the WE already if YOU did not contribute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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I DO contribute. I love the kids, I do not love their mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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I sure there is more to this but your anger is misdirected if you have negative feelings regarding the first wife because your DH agreed to a financial arrangement with her before he met you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I have negative feelings towards her new 2k handbags and shoes every week. If it was for the kids I would push him to give more, but it's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Stop monitoring her spending, it's none of your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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So she earns a lot of money, but is not allowed to spend it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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I would like her to spend it on at least 50% of her mortgage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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You are not her financial keeper or planner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Too bad. It's none of your fkn business if she works or how much she makes. Women are becoming wise, and making sure their kids are financially cared for in a divorce. Fk you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Do all first wives screw their husband for every penny? If DH & I divorced, I'd want him to take care of the kids. There's nothing attractive about living off your ex husband just because you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Sounds like the husband screwed his first wife by leaving. Likely made her promises and he is keeping them. He is not getting screwed, he made a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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True. If OP were the first wife she would protect her dcs the same way and would be posting about how ex dh doesn't pay child support. OP thinks she's special because she is younger. Every woman is younger at some point. We all get old. We all go through the same stages in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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We do not know back story. Maybe wife moved to big house because her now-ex wanted and she doesn't want kids to be uprooted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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No, they chose the house to be near to her family. They bought it 12 months before he left. He said it was her pick because he knew he wanted out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Most first wives were left by a dh who wanted a younger women, so of course they want to protect their dcs. It's biological. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Yep, but shiny new SM wants a nicer apartment. Even though kids spend more time at moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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They don't. 50/50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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i am sure there is a lot of history that you don't know but he has made his choice. How often are SDCs spending the night at your house anyways? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Every other week. We have them 50% of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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And the other 50% with their mother. You knew the financial arrangement before you married, get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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How much younger are you than ex-wife? Just be honest. you feel hotter than you are by comparing yourself to her. But you are just a woman like everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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10 years younger. I don't feel hotter, she's really pretty and couldn't look more different. I actually questioned why he would go from a wife looking like that to a wife like me. No self pity, she's got a great body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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OMG typical 2nd wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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+1 I only know of one 2nd wife who ever got the upper hand over 1st wife. wth do you expect when you sign on to be 2nd wife? you are literally #2 in every aspect. lower your expectations and you will be happier with your lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Yes you are being unreasonable. If your only concern is that they have their own rooms at you house, your DH gets to make the decision on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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I despise woman that marry a man with baggage,my then want more money for themselves. You should have married someone without an ex and without children. Get a clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Hello! I would just suck it up if I got sloppy seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Leave it alone. You knew this when you got into a relationship with him - that he has a 1st wife and kids and a history that you're not involved in. Be thankful that he's an honorable guy. Someday you may be in her position... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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I wouldn't ask that of him, unless I had to. But I wouldn't feel good about it. He won't be able to support 2 ex wives. I signed up to that, I am fine with it. If we divorced then supporting and raising our kids would be 85% on me. That's what I am signed up for and that's fine by me. [ Reply | More ]
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You signed up for second class status and DH is loving that his two "women" are fighting over resources. It's like monkeys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I'm not fighting, I haven't said anything yet. I thought I'd get advice (from many places) first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Ha! There will not be anything left for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Do you pay into the mortgage for the apt you live in? What percentage of the HHI do you make? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I make 40% of the HHI and I pay into the mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I am willing to bet you earn less than EX dw. If you want bigger apartment then you earn more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Lol, I earn 200k but I am younger than she is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Great. Work on your career and buy a bigger apt for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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What a cliché - -younger second wife wants DH to cut down of support of kids from first marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Hello. You get wet thinking about how you are younger. Other women are younger than you too. Jesus. It's all relative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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+1 and the older she gets, the more younger women there will be. then it's hello wife #3 and OP will be writing about how ex-DH's new wife is such a twat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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I'm OP. My ex DH is married to a Thai bride... I don't suppose she'll be a bigger twat than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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When you get older and have 2+ kids earning $$ isn't easier especially as single mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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How many kids do you have (yours and his)? Sounds like you know (and likely KNEW) about finances when you got married, so STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I was under the impression that she needed it. DH didn't tell me what her salary was until after we were married. I know nothing about her field, and did not realize she earned so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Now your second guessing your DH....nice. I also call FAKE, you said her salary was not a secret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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This. I suspect most of this is a blatant lie. If her DH did feel guilty, unlikely he has kids 50/50. [ Reply | More ]
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Why wouldn't he have them 50/50? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Not a secret to him then, or to me now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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How many kids do you have? With current DH? From before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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1 with DH. 1 from before. My ex DH pays child support and half of anything else inc. after school care. I took over our mortgage when he moved out because I was the one who lived there! [ Reply | More ]
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That was your agreement it doesn't make your DH's agreement wrong [ Reply | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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What is your point? That she gets a better deal than you did? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Better? I like supporting my kid myself. I wouldn't have a kid I couldn't support irrespective of a father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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That is your choice, it doesn't make it a better one [ Reply | More ]
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Were you the other woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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No, I wasn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Look. You cannot change nor should you judge your DH's agreement with his Ex. Just let it go and focus on the things in life you can change. You sound like you resent your DH's past choices before he met you. They are a part of him, either accept them or decide that you can't and leave him. This is not about the ex-wife, it's about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know what to do if you've been threatened? Hired a 21 year old babysitter. She worked with us a few times but was completely unreliable and wasn't mature or capable enough to deal with small children. I left a negative review. Her mother actually texted me and said some horrendous things, even a threat because we left a negative review about her irresponsible daughter. We haven't replied but kept her text on file. What would you do? Should I ask police what to do or will that make matters worse? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Her daughter is an adult so I have no idea why the mother is getting involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Ignore [ Reply | More ]
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Would you take review down? Or does that give her upper hand and she won? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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This is not a win thing. If you put review up because you sincerely thought she was detrimental to children and people shouldn't hire her, then leave it. If you wrote it be ause you were pissed and being a bitch take it down. From now on - think hard about these types of things proof to acting [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think she can handle being alone with more than one child. And wouldn't leave her alone with a child/children for a long period. Yes, I was pretty specific in the review and stated the facts. But I can take it down because I care about our safety more. [ Reply | More ]
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^ I did say she is unreliable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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So the mother is right to do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Who the fuck cares if the mother is right or wrong? What are you the behavior of others police?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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What is up with parents of millennials. How does this teach young adults to accept accountability and responsibility for their actions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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This isn't a millennial issue. The mother sounds like trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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I'd call the sitter service that you got her from. I'd file a formal complaint with them and I'd call the police and file a harrassment claim too. You never know just how crazy people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Should I tell the service that the mother is made a threat against us? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Absolutely. Best case scenario: Mother was full of crap and just trying to scare you and her dd learns a lesson...worse case, they are batshit crazy and you are right to escalate to defcon 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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What's defcon 5? Yes, I do think she was trying to scare us. But obviously she knows where we live! Can she file a lawsuit if the site removes her daughter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Defcon 5 meaning, call the police and take her threats seriously. Sue you for what exactly? GHe daughter was a shitty babysitter and you said so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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My thought is that - she knows where you live and you have a small child(ren) so I would call the cops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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This is the opposite of how I would handle. Don't escalate. Do not engage crazy. Police WILL NOT KEEP YOUR CHILDREN SAFE. Ridiculous to think they can or will in this situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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What would the police do exactly? Or what can they do?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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You fear a lawsuit? You are an odd duck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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I don't know? She could go nuts. People file lawsuits for anything these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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You don't know that for sure. It just came from her phone. Could be the daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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No, this was def the mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Don't mess with crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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this. You absolutely have to file a report. She knows where you live and you have small children!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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What will a report do? Could she come back at us? I never ever dealt with something like this before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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You need a paper trail in case the mother decides to escalate things with more harassment. But you definitely need to alert the agency. This woman should not be watching other children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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Ok. So the daughter should not be watching children, correct? Because her mother might interfere again, rt? [ Reply | More ]
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