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[ - ] s/o SAHMs and what bugs me about them. My SIL bugs me that she sacrificed her career to raise her 1 child. She ditched her nursing career right out of college for a job that paid less than a babysitter in NYC. Meanwhile she has her DH doing a 2.5 hr commute each way while she is the wonderful mother hanging out in the backyard pool they cannot afford and is on deep credit debt. That bugs me that my DH thinks that she is a sacrificial lamb and a "natural born mother" when I need to work and actually have a very lucrative career and pull way more than 50% of the financial and home burden in my home. I actually love my SIL but it annoys me that everyone thins she is so great for not working when she never ever wanted to work. She could not even bother to breastfeed. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I doubt they think she is great "for not working." She probably is an awesome person, which you yourself admitted. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound so bitter, resentful, and, dare I say it, jealous! [ Reply | More ]
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She has her husband commuting? He has no free will? [ Reply | More ]
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Stop being like this. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, immediately. [ Reply | More ]
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This. Bitterness turns into cancer. True story [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Real Estate brokers make so much money for doing nothing. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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This is the next industry that will be turned on its head. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh. I felt like mine worked really hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Omg. Dh just caught a snake in the garage. It's under a bucket. Now what? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You have to move. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
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This is the only reasonable solution -op [ Reply | More ]
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no no they burn the house down. then move. [ Reply | More ]
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Omg this. Where there is one...... [ Reply | More ]
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#theburbs [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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How big is it? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't want to know anything about it. Found its skin last week [ Reply | More ]
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Omg!! Where do you live? How did he catch it? [ Reply | More ]
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LA. Don't worry there are no snakes anywhere near NYC! Lol. I'm afraid it's a rattler and he's trying to be a hero! Rocking db right now... [ Reply | More ]
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dinner for tom [ Reply | More ]
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1. Open garage door; 2. drag bucket along floor until it is outside garage; 3. close garage door; 4. Lift up bucket; 5. Run away from snake. It's probably completely harmless, but without knowing anything more, assume it is not. [ Reply | More ]
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It's a rattlesnake she said [ Reply | More ]
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You can hear a rattlesnake. Is it shaking it's rattle? Are you in California? [ Reply | More ]
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How could she possibly hear it from inside the house, in the upstairs bathroom behind a closed door on top of the toilet seat?? [ Reply | More ]
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Haha [ Reply | More ]
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Slip a big piece of cardboard under, bring it outside and let it go. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
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Does he know what kind it is? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, the SNAKE kind. [ Reply | More ]
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If you think it's poisonous call animal control [ Reply | More ]
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Animal control or cut its head off with a shovel if you can manage. Or shoot it. [ Reply | More ]
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No need for such violence. Just let it go outside. [ Reply | More ]
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Not if its poisonous. [ Reply | More ]
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Drive your car over the bucket. Repeat 67 times. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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ily [ Reply | More ]
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Love this!! [ Reply | More ]
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Get its e-mail address and see if it has an account on Ashley Madison. I'll bet it does. [ Reply | More ]
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You ladies are funny tonight. [ Reply | More ]
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Update: He slide the bucket outside then pulled the car up next to the bucket and tipped it over with a broom handle. Snake slithered away, no rattle. Obviously we are still moving but since db is asleep burning the place down will have to wait until tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
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Great. Now he knows your license plate number AND where you live. Also, he can smell your baby. Sleep well tonight. [ Reply | More ]
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can we say, belt? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I haven't had en eye exam in 4 years. Just had my eyes tested and my eyesight improved! How is this possible? I even had the optometrist run through the test again to make sure that the Rx was correct. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:57 AM Flag
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You've been exercising the muscles more. [ Reply | More ]
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Those tests are BS. My vision tanked after I turned 45. I can't read unless I move the words into a certain spot. I went to an ophthalmologist for something unrelated and she said my vision is perfect, better than 20/20. Um, sorry lady, that's impossible. [ Reply | More ]
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The same thing happened to me! I hadn't gone in about five years. I was bracing myself for bad news because my vision was no longer as clear with those same pair of glasses. Turned out, the glasses were now too strong and I needed a weaker prescription. I thought it was unheard of. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I have company. So bizarre. Everything else has gone to pot in my old age that I didn't expect something to improve, but I'll take it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think there are a lot of kids that end up being gifted, that just do not do well on the G&T test? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No. The test is pretty accurate in my experience. [ Reply | More ]
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Your experience is wrong. All research says that. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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What's g &t? [ Reply | More ]
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Define gifted? [ Reply | More ]
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It's a range of score on an IQ Test [ Reply | More ]
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My child is pretty darned smart. It was a different process when he went thru - but he was not selected for g&t. Tests extremely well now [ Reply | More ]
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I teach sixth grade at a good D2 middle school. I have no way of knowing what the Gen Ed kids tested as (or if they were tested) but I can tell you the G and T kids are not better students, in terms of tests or grades, than the Gen Ed kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I think there are plenty of average kids who have been prepped or had a good day that unfairly get spots in better schools. [ Reply | More ]
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No. Any gifted child will do well on the G & T, assuming they are able to take the test. The converse is true, one who is not gifted CAN do well, but not the other way around. [ Reply | More ]
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My experience says otherwise. 4 year olds are unpredictable. G&t is not an IQ test [ Reply | More ]
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Sure it is. What do you think it is? [ Reply | More ]
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Stanford Binet (? Is that the Hunter test). Is iq. The g and t is not. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you think a G&T test is? If it's not a test of innate intelligence than what is it a test of? [ Reply | More ]
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Readiness, achievement. There is a difference. Why are we discussing? G&T is not an IQ test. IQ tests are administered by psychs. [ Reply | More ]
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Not necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
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I wasn't aware she was speaking about hunter. Hunter uses a portion of an IQ test. G&T programs do not use SB [ Reply | More ]
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She wasn't. I'm agreeing with you. The Hunter test is an iq test. The g and t test is not. [ Reply | More ]
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I see [ Reply | More ]
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Achievement test [ Reply | More ]
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Achievement of a four year old?! LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you really this clueless or simply being argumentative? [ Reply | More ]
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If the G&T test was a test of achievement then every kid in my son's preschool class would have gotten a 99 as my son did as his preschool prides itself in preparing the kids for this test and the majority of parents are highly educated and hyper involved in their kids' development. Alas most kids did not get such scores. Why? [ Reply | More ]
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Same reason you posted such a silly train of thought. [ Reply | More ]
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This is easy. Google the tests for yourself. OR if you have a friend who is shrink - ask them. [ Reply | More ]
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>>> anyway all you have to do is about five minutes of research on the Internet and you will see that the DOE G&T test is in fact a type of IQ test. [ Reply | More ]
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Can't be. My kid got five points above cutoff on Hunter test which IS iq, and 70th percentile on g and t. Kids who did well on g and t are Kumon kids. Rote memorizers. [ Reply | More ]
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Hunter is PART of an IQ test [ Reply | More ]
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Hunter K that is. 7th is achievement test [ Reply | More ]
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I know. My kid aced the Hunter test which is iq. Bombed the g and t. So they can't both be iq tests or scores would be more correlated. [ Reply | More ]
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I have two kids who have never even heard of Kumon, and will never be enrolled in those second school droid institutions. both scored 99. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure your kids are really smart. I didn't mean all. I just meant you CAN prep for the g and t but not for iq tests. [ Reply | More ]
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4yo kids don't know how to rote memorize. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes they do. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok if you so it must be true. [ Reply | More ]
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They learn their phone number, their address and the alphabet song (among other things) by rote memorization [ Reply | More ]
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The research agrees. Testing four year olds isn't predictive. [ Reply | More ]
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uhm, sure it is. look at A and N - those kids were all tested at 4, and the record speaks for itself. otherwise they would be similiar to gened students in sixth grade. [ Reply | More ]
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My general Ed student scored higher than many nest and Anderson students on SHSAT [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean? You think they will give the wrong answer intentionally? They can either figure it out or not. Knowledge is not unpredictable at all. [ Reply | More ]
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Okie dokie [ Reply | More ]
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agree. you must be smart to do well. that, or incredibly lucky on test day. [ Reply | More ]
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You can be smart but you don't have to be gifted. However, if you are gifted, there is no way you could "accidentally" fail it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would you tell your old self, before having kids, about having kids.... 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's great. Should have started a lot earlier. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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You have no idea how cool it will be to see a person grow into themselves. [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing. Pretty much as expected [ Reply | More ]
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If it's gonna take 10 years before you like them. Think about if you really should have DC [ Reply | More ]
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So not true. [ Reply | More ]
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Do not rely on your DH [ Reply | More ]
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Awful [ Reply | More ]
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True [ Reply | More ]
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For you. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You will go from your old self to 100% caregiver [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh [ Reply | More ]
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And it's a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
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For you. I don't see it that way and would hate it if I did. [ Reply | More ]
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Have fun caring about yourself. You are the apple of your eye. [ Reply | More ]
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Have a c-section [ Reply | More ]
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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You can't imagine how incredible it is until you do it. [ Reply | More ]
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I looked at my resume and cried at what a shell of a person I have become. I love my dc and would have become more of a shell without I think but the life and accomplishments you can do before kids and middle age are priceless. [ Reply | More ]
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Start earlier. Do kegals. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I can't believe ponchos and wedge shoes are back. I'vw gotten rid of mine a few months ago. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Wedges are always in. Ponchos are never. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Ponchos? Really? [ Reply | More ]
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You JUST got rid of your vast collection of ponchos?? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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Mistake. Big mistake. Huge. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone with older dc who are lgbt? When did you know? What were signs? Please no snark. Serious question. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Both my kids...girl & boy. [ Reply | More ]
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wowee [ Reply | More ]
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In my family (grew up in a liberal area) my Parents were of the view that at least one of us 3 siblings would be LGBT and my Mom was really disappointed that none of us identified as LGBT. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Neighbor... Told me when she was five that she felt like a boy. Flash forward six years and she likes girls but no longer feels like a boy. Super nice kid. [ Reply | More ]
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A friend of mine who son is 13 said she has guessed since he was two or three that this was probably the case. Obviously they don't know for sure, he is not sure himself, and 13 is a pretty tough age to be trying to sort all this stuff out and also deal with the social environment at school (so he has not come out to his parents though they have talked about it.) I don't know specifically what they noticed at that young age, but he has a softer somewhat feminine quality to him that his mom said has really been there from his earliest days, [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Has anyone ever had a problem with compulsive shopping? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Can you tell me about it? Do you think it was caused by depression or anxiety? Mine is both and some loneliness [ Reply | More ]
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Depression. Could never really get over it because it's one of those things you're always going to have to do (you can't be "sober" from a shopping addiction) but what made a huge difference was coming into money. Now that whatever I want is accessible it's less desirable. [ Reply | More ]
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Lucky you! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where did you buy your last family room couch 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ikea [ Reply | More ]
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RH [ Reply | More ]
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Carlyle [ Reply | More ]
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Room and board [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Flemington Dept Store. Unless you've been, you have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
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Quatrine. Best sofa ever, 10 years old and still the most perfectly comfortable piece of furniture. Looks great too. [ Reply | More ]
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Crate &. Barrel. Leather sofa bed. Don't really love it..kinda hard [ Reply | More ]
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Ethan allen [ Reply | More ]
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Macy's [ Reply | More ]
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Local consignment store [ Reply | More ]
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I bought a Bob-o-Pedic...never again. It's slowly disintegrating. [ Reply | More ]
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Kohls [ Reply | More ]
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Bloomingdales [ Reply | More ]
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ABC [ Reply | More ]
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Custom Henredon [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Bedtime! I made it. Already tired thinking about tomorrow... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What are you doing? [ Reply | More ]
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Gestating a fetus and trying to keep my eyes open long enough to stuff my face with food. [ Reply | More ]
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How many weeks? Can you sleep in? [ Reply | More ]
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10. No :( have a 3yo [ Reply | More ]
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3yo can turn on TV and eat dry cereal. Start setting it out like cat food for Saturday mornings, seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can one really live off ssdi? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Are you talking about disability benefits? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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If they have to [ Reply | More ]
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that's the idea. [ Reply | More ]
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Forgive me, I'm clueless [ Reply | More ]
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My dd is heading this way. I'm overwhelmed [ Reply | More ]
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why, what is happening? [ Reply | More ]
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I worked with a social service agency and had a lot of clients on disability benefits. Many of them have to rent out rooms (as opposed to renting an apartment) and also do odd jobs here and there to make ends meet. The benefits alone are not necessarily sufficient to get by on but if they work more than a certain number of hours they no longer qualify for them. [ Reply | More ]
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Some can. If you've been on a long time with COLA, it can really get up there. You can make $1,000 a month without interfering with benefits. Which raises the question, if you can make $1,000 a month, why are you on benefits? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If a wedding is on grass, I can wear wedges? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Lmao. Too late for this time!!! [ Reply | More ]
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get a real problem, lady [ Reply | More ]
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If you don't think this is a valid question for UB you've got the wrong idea about what this place is -np [ Reply | More ]
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It's the asking over and over . . . [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not the red dress lady. My wedding is tomorrow. Been trying to decide which dress. Went with a more formal dress. The wedges will look dumb but what can I do? [ Reply | More ]
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You must. [ Reply | More ]
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this. it's the only way [ Reply | More ]
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How many times are you going to ask this ? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not the red dress lady. Wearing blue. Tomorrow. Just discovered ceremony is on grass. At least it isn't sand. [ Reply | More ]
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
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as opposed to what other type of shoe? [ Reply | More ]
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A heel would like nicer with this dress. You can't really wear a wedge with a formal black tie dress lol oh well!! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok UB give me your thoughts - does a serial cheater ever leave for the other woman or is this just a pattern of behavior? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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Pattern. Who would want him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Well I think someone does and he left me for her and I can't watch it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.05.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Maybe but then history repeats itself and there will be a new Ow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Wrong post sorru [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Yes. Over and over again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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Yes to which part? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:33 AM Flag
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Occasionally leaves, yes. But generally cheats again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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He won't change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:45 AM Flag
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My brothers best friend is a serial cheater. Super nice guy but he always leaves current dw or gf for other woman. Three kids by 3 women so far and he acts embarrassed like he had no control over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:56 AM Flag
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I believe it has been reported that 5% of OW happily marry and stay married to the man with whom they were cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Doctor wife just asked me what gerontology is. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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Can we ask the real expert instead...your DH? You are ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:04 AM Flag
[ - ] DS is starting in district G&T next week. He's not reading yet at all. Tried to teach him over the summer and now he can mostly sound out regular 3 letter words, but can't make head or tail of anything irregular and sometimes forgets even easy words. How bad is this? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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Not bad at all. Don't worry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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It seemed like tons of kids in our preschool class were reading - some reading very well. I feel like G&T will be filled with smart, competitive kids and my sweet DS (who is obviously smart in other ways) will be pegged as the class dummy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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Who cares? Your child will be well cared for and loved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Yes, I care if my child is struggling academically. Wouldn't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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Children who struggle don't get into g&t. Are you afraid your child has a learning disability or do fear his assigned reading leveled books will be below others in classroom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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not true. I've known kids in G&T who struggled academically, needed tutors etc. even some that were later discovered to have LDs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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That's why I asked about LD. I stand by my statement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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I'm slightly worried about LD, but more worried that DS will notice he's behind the other kids and feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:35 AM Flag
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Stop. He is going to be happy and enjoy k. If he tells you jake reads level d and he has to read level a, then say ill help you learn if you want me too. In the words of my grandmother, don't borrow trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:38 AM Flag
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Thank you for the reassurance. DS is a very sweet, shy kid and I feel protective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:41 AM Flag
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Then focus on making friends, not being a target instead of reading level. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:49 AM Flag
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G&T mom here. Lots of kids aren't reading when they start K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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They expect them to be reading by the end of the year, though, right? I know this program has high expectations (considered top program in the district). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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he will be reading by mid-October. I promise. Let the teacher do her job and don't sweat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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District G&t has same expectations as general Ed. Don't worry. Your child will be reading by end of k. Mi e learned in nov of k with no drilling at home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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My kids are in a reg, but well regarded public. The oldest started K no ability to read and could read by the end of the year. My second son is starting K next week also w no reading ability. Hopefully it works out for him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:12 AM Flag
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Mine wasn't reading when entering k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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My G&T DD wasn't reading when she started K either. It's not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Is your DS a fall birthday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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No. Summer birthday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Don't sweat it - REALLY. Early reading doesn't mean kids are smarter (and I am mom of early readers) just that developmentally they were ready sooner. Giving your kid a rich language environment so much more important to his literacy than whether he grasps mechanics of letter sounds at 4, 5 or 6. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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So this. Signed, school psychologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Classic case of non-gifted kid entering the G&T program. The good news for you is there are a lot of gen-ed level(and below) kids in G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:47 AM Flag
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Yes and no. Both my kids were in g& t. One learned to read in 2nd grade. Other could read at age 3. The slower reader surpassed his classmates once he caught on. Both are voracious learners. My oldest has masters degree now and wants a PhD. You can't tell by reading early at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:08 AM Flag
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It's a troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm not looking forward to the fall on UB. DD was shut out of a kindergarten spot in private school. She was waitlisted at all but 2 schools. We needed a lot of FA and I've been told that had a lot to do with it. But it'll be difficult to watch others go through the process knowing their DCs might get a spot and mine did not. I can't say this to anyone in real life. Talk some sense into me UB. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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Where is she going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Local public. We live in an outer borough and the zoned school isn't great. She was in SA last year but we had to move over the summer and lost our slot for first grade. We weren't crazy about SA but I probably would have sent her there over the local school if push came to shove. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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I still feel like this about Hunter and GT. Shut out of H at round 2, shut out of CW and top district with 99%. Still sad and bitter years later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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Try to let that go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Get a grip. That is ridiculous. Smart kids will thrive anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Actually DC has been pretty bored in gen-ed, for years. Hoping for better luck in MS placements. But going in with low expectations this time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:20 AM Flag
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Oy boring people are bored [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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Only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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OK I won't use the word "bored." DC enjoys school, but does not learn anything there. Asks if school will ever be challenging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:33 AM Flag
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My response, there is something to learn each and every day - academically speaking, yes; middle school will be more rigorous - but enjoy where you are for now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:40 AM Flag
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Thanks. I was responding to the OP's comment that it was hard to watch others going through the process. Every time someone tells me their kid got into Hunter or Anderson or top district, or I read the placements on UB, I feel a little sad. That's just the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:08 AM Flag
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It doesn't matter. It truly doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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I keep telling myself this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Start believing yourself. Live life and be happy. Teach dd the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Don't log on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Look, the FA had a ton to do with it. There are just so so so many kids applying for each spot. Is how you are feeling more about sadness about a lost opportunity for DD or more about possibly feeling jealous or embarrassed if someone else gets in while your dd did not. Either way, the feelings are understandable, but might be helpful for you to identify what exactly is making you feel this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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I'm sad about the lost opportunity. I was hoping she would have a better experience at a school that was thoughtful and purposeful about education than one that was more concerned with teaching to the test and keeping students in their seats. My alternative to private school is a failing public school or a militant charter school. There's a little embarrassment about her not getting in but I'm over that. I just wanted better for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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The stuff on the test is good stuff to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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OP-I agree. It's the means to the end that bothers me. I grew up in NYC public schools and there was never so much pressure on us to perform on a test. They taught then tested us on what was taught versus training us on how to take a test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:29 AM Flag
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There isn't any pressure on the children either. Parents need to be cool about it. I'm sure you will be. It's really up to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:33 AM Flag
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Test taking techniques are good to learn too. There are lots of standardized test in early life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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You're both right. I have way more control over her experience than I've been thinking I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:53 AM Flag
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She can try again for 6th grade or 9th and will have a much better chance at that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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I sure hope so! I'm going to try to get her into Prep for Prep after fifth grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:31 AM Flag
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That's a terrific program. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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A lot of privates aren't that thoughtful or purposeful especially in the LS. Your DD will be academically far ahead of the kids in those schools. That will be an advantage later on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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np: this. remember this year's FA applicants will also all be waitlisted. Happens every year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:25 AM Flag
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this is so true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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Once dd starts at her new school, she will love it. And then you can know that it was all meant to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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So the problem is more on UB or in real life? There are a lot of liars on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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Real life. I was applying to private because I genuinely thought it offered a better education not so much to be able to say DC goes there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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I can understand that. But no place is perfect. Can you move to a district with a better school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:32 AM Flag
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I'm working on it. I'll have my PhD next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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Have you considered parochial school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:46 AM Flag
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I did. But I didn't see one I liked enough to pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:51 AM Flag
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Then consider several programs for MS or HS: Prep4Prep, TEAK Fellowship, A Better Chance, Oliver Scholars and others...Spence for instance, takes into consideration request for admissions with FA for graduates from De La Salle Academy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:03 AM Flag
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I'm aware of all those programs. My older DD and I are both alum of one of them. I was just hoping we could avoid them altogether and have her go into K. Thanks for the reminder though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:11 AM Flag
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My kid attends DLSA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else feel this way? I am considered social and I enjoy meeting people socially outside. However, as soon as we plan on hosting people in our home I get resentful. I invariably have fun but am annoyed and resentful right until they come over? Why??? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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Me too! I hate hosting up until the minute guests come in. Still can't figure out why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:03 AM Flag
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I'm the same way. I think it just comes with being an introvert. I'm social and likable as well but it takes a lot out of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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OP: I am an introvert too. Is that why? At the same time I am envious of others who seem to do it effortlessly and happily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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I'm the opposite: I'm a cranky introvert but I like throwing parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Go on a strike. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:20 AM Flag
[ - ] So sick of making dinner so dh can come sit for 5 minutes, inhale it, then walk around and come tell me everything that's wrong with the house/yard while dcs and I try to finish our meal. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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Wow. He's all yours too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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He's under a lot of stress and his outlet is being ocd about the house and yard right now. He's fuming that the sprinkler guy hasn't come yet... better than how he used to deal under pressure but still no picnic. The annoying part is he will remember something out of the blue and be SO upset about it when it wasn't important enough for him to even notice all week... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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I think it either gets you down or you come to a realization that life is too short to deal with that bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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It's circumstantial, I'm doing my best but it's been months and it's tough. He's losing a parent, seems like a classic "big things are out of my control so I'm going to be psycho about minuscule things than I can control" situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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what a tool. have you told him to cut it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Of course. He will be sorry in a few mns but this is the homecoming ritual lately [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Tell him to save it until after the kids go to bed. He's setting a terrible example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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Exactly. He can say whatever he wants, I don't take it that seriously right now but it's terrible for them to hear every day. I think I'm going to change it up so they eat before he comes home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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Go on a strike [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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I'm realizing that I'm doing too much. Overcompensating for what he's going through by doing things we won't necessarily notice or appreciate... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:27 AM Flag
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Carry out . Until he gets over this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:24 AM Flag
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That's the plan for this weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:30 AM Flag
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Give him drink and appetizer. Let him wind down. Then all of you eat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:26 AM Flag
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This is another part of it, he's been getting home later and dcs and I have all been waiting for him so we can eat together. Maybe I need to give it up and let him unwind and eat separately... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:28 AM Flag
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Sp: I'd feed kids earlier and eat w dh late. He can do something with them at bedtime?b does he commute in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:34 AM Flag
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No but he's visiting his parents after work every night before coming home. Trying this dinner arrangement next week for sure. Will help with earlier bedtime for school too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 02:36 AM Flag
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GL! Sound like his parents may be ticking him off prior to coming home too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:10 AM Flag
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Definitely, it's an all around awful situation. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.05.15, 03:31 AM Flag
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