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[ - ] Applying to K. If DD got good feedback via PSD and we write a first choice letter, does that mean he's a likely admit? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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I meant DS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Anything can change until you get that letter. We got good fb, sent first choice, and ended up on WL. We did get off WL but man was it a stressful week. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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that happened to us. but we didn't feel at all safe until the school called. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:38 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O of library party. DD got invited to build a bear party last week, invite said to bring '$20-30 to participate and refreshments will be provided." is this normal nowadays? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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i've never been to one like that. i'd not do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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op here. should i send DD...? we can afford it but the whole thing rubbed me the wrong way and the girl is not a close friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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did the invite say no gifts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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nope! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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That's insane. How rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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never seen that before. awful. if you can't afford don't invite! we don't have $$$ so we have a few friends at home, or take kids to matinee movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:36 AM Flag
[ - ] J here! Still 139 (from 148.) Had cauliflower gratin for dinner. Nom. :) 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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omg! congrats J! didn't see that you had broken 140lbs. keep at it sista' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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do you have a goal weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Tbh I want to get down to my old 110-115 range. (I'm short, 5'3") I know that's a ways away, but I think I can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Thanks! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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congrats! i was just thinking today how much i admire people who successfully lose weight (i have a naturally thinner build, could stand to lose a few pounds but know i never will)--i could never have so much self control! you rock! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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Thanks so much! You rock too for your kind words. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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how'd you lose the 9 lbs so far? and what height are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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I'm short, so I'm pretty chub at the moment. 5'3". Mostly cutting back calories and lots of walking. I could definitely use more cardio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Should I indulge DH's fetish and let him give me an enema? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Um.. So you can do anal or is the enema his fetish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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The enema seems to be the main event here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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P.U. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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I see. Sure, why not? Doesn't sound fun at all though. Ugh.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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LOL is this for reals?? I'm a RN, and give enemas all the time. It can get messy. put a lot of towels underneath you and try to hold it for as long as you can before you relieve yourself. GL and Godspeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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How exactly will this go down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
[ - ] It's the middle of Chanukah, and dd asked if we could go shopping for clothes. Um, no. You just got and are still getting some nice presents. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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How old is she? How often do you take her shopping? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Thank you for being a sane parent. +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody got or has had rheumatoid arthritis or know someone who has? I'd like to talk remission if anyone is available. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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I know 3 people with it. Does it ever go into remission? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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I've been off all meds for 5 months because of an illness. Nothing so far but I get stiffness here and there and it makes me nervous. I guess you don't know anyone who's gone into spontaneous remission without drugs, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Not that I am aware of. The people I know are on drugs. And those drugs have bad side effects. Say hello to osteoporosis at a young age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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How old are these women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Around 40, but they were diagnosed with RA in their 20s and 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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only my mom when she stopped eating wheat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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How long had she had RA when she went into remission? Is she off meds? Also, how long in remission? I'm nervous about its coming back. I hear it's more debilitating when it returns after remission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Nigger! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:24 AM Flag
[ - ] NYC moms, what are your favorite boutique stores? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Intermix, scoop, anik, olive and bette [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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Bird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone love getting dressed up to go to work ( not counting fashion industry). I find myself looking forward to it. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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no, sah and LOVE looking like hell. dh, not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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What do you do? What do you wear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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I work at a non-profit. I don't wear anything too outrageous, sheath dress, pencil skirt and silk blouse, jeans and blazer on casual friday. I do really like wearing clothes that I know flatter me, that I really like. It helps me be confident, and it encourages me to keep my weight in check, which I do by eating well and exercising, which in turn help my mood. It's all one big cycle of looking my best and feeling my best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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Your subordinates think you are a super bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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np: why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Np. Uh oh. I'm just like OR so everyone must think I'm a bitch, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Yes, love it. I was disappointed to find the dress code at my new office more casual, but I still dress up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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What do you wear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Mostly pencil skirts and silk blouses, shift dresses and occasionally pants with blazers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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I posted above. I wear the same and I am the most dressed up at my office, but I feel like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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OP: me too. I love pencil skirt and silk blouse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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I don't every day but if I'm going out that evening I do. Dresses, shoes, jeans and blazer, suits... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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I used to enjoy it, not LOVE it. I used to wear a size 2 and had nicer clothing. Now I am heavier, still clinging to the idea that I will get back to a size 2, so I don't buy new clothing in my larger size. So I look like shit most of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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This is me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Right? I look at my closet. Some beautiful stuff in there. 90% is too tight on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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Hell no, love wearing jeans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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me too - the best thing that ever happened to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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I used to love it when I lived in colder climes and could wear a variety of clothes. Then I moved to the tropics. It was all about how little clothing I could wear and still look professional. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:24 AM Flag
[ - ] ARGH, DCs preschool has class gifts, it's our 3rd year at the school and every year we did this and seems like everyone else followed suit (e.g. didn't give teachers other stuff). This year, however it seemed like at least a few families brought in extra stuff. Now I feel crummy. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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you're way too sensitive. it's preschool. what are the repercussions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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no repercussions, i think the teachers are amazing and am more annoyed that it may not seem that way since we didn't do anything extra [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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puhleez. just appearances. people know when you appreciate them, even without gifts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Teacher here- this is true. I would rather have a supportive parent all year long than a difficult parent bearing gifts! If there is a class gift, it is overkill to give another present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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ty! an honest teacher! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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OP- thanks! I am so glad to hear this. While at school today the teacher was talking about being out of stuff for the classroom? And I know she buys stuff out of pocket. Maybe ask her about some supplies...Or give her a gift card to dollar tree in the new year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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Honest? Wow, this is a pleasant surprise. Thank you! Teachers Rock! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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have given teachers extra stuff in the past but not this year. it's not as if teachers think badly of you and, it's a very nice class gift they get. I just can't do it all around the holidays. maybe I'll do something during teacher apprec week... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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It isn't too late if you feel an extra gift is necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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school out until the new year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Ok, give a New Year's gift or move past it. All will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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omg. a new year's gift? in addition to christmas? wtf is the world coming to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever fired a nanny or housekeeper? If so, why? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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cuz didn't like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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I had a babysitter who took care of dc for five hours each week. She would text me ten minutes before her shift should have started to tell me that she was sick and would not be coming. I made up an excuse as to why i was going to switch to a different sitter. I think her mom still suspects that i was fibbing. (I see the mom often) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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Yes, p/t nanny. She would cancel last minute with explanations like, "I drank too much coffee yesterday and didn't sleep well," or, "I have to study." I told her it seemed like she wasn't that into it and she was shocked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Lol. Was she in her early 20s? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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Honestly, we went through a few. The first time, she was growing her business (good for her) and at first brought helpers (which I was fine with) but she then stopped coming and the people who she sent varied/were poorly trained. The next was very unreliable, lots of last minute cancellations etc. Have now had the third for 2+ years, no problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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^^housekeeper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Drank a lot of wine and just want to cuddle up w/ my golden retriever tonight. She's so damn cute and never complains about ANYTHING! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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Unconditional love is the BEST! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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dogs are prob the only ones capable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh went to another country for 7 days. It has been lovely. He will be back tonight. Ugh. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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You have problems lady! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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my DH is gone till sunday. I loved it for the first day, and now I'm missing him a lot :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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this, too, shall pass. lol. it's ok, come on. you've done it for years now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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Mine came back yesterday after 5 days. The house was pristine, I relaxed with dc after work then watched whatever I wanted on tv after they went to bed. It was great while it lasted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Yes! The house was so clean and tidy! And dc was less stressed out. Usually dh exacerbates any conflict or meltdown with dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Yet all of you claim to not believe many of us single moms are very happy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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Not I!! I am intensely envious of your lives and admire you. You must be awesome moms. Big hug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I just want to say, I have gotten so much helpful advice on here. And thanks in part to UB, my DC made it to R2 for Hunter. If he gets in, I will share the good karma and post what they do in R2! :) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:48 AM Flag
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Aw. My dc is also going to R2. When is your session? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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1st weekend. I'm glad I'll get it over with sooner rather than later. I'll be so relieved when it's all over, one way or another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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What kind of advice from here helped get your DC to R2? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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I think the one that helped me the most was the mom who told me what tester to pick. I think the tester was an excellent fit for my DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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Which tester? Initials? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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RA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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She tested my first DC too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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Did your DC get in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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But you don't get to pick, you have a list of 3 or 4! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Someone posted some tips last year about Hunter-- super helpful. I wish I could track that OP down, I would love to get her something for Xmas! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
[ - ] How can I become a kinder person? I come home at the end of the day run ragged and look over my day and there were a hundred small choices I made that seem to sum up into me doing things that are hurtful to people, tuning out while subordinates talk, getting impatient with DH and frustrated with DCs, etc. I feel like my one-glass-of-chardonnay self is a good person but (or because) she's not around other people most of the time 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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accept who you are. be kind when you can, don't beat yourself when you cannot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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Do random acts of kindness throughout the day, it really helps. The other day I found a guys wallet in a cab and tracked him down to return it; the other day someone had an expired metro card and I swiped her on the bus; tonight my DD got (yet another) Elsa doll from a relative for Hanukkah, so we are bringing it to the woman that did my nails today and told me she had a DD same age as my DD and is obsessed with Frozen. These little things make me feel good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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This. Yesterday I gave the woman I see for brow waxing (9x year, tops) and gave her more then would be standard for a holiday gift/tip ($40). She was blown away. It made me feel better then a lot of other holiday giving, even charitable acts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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My mood dramatically improved when I got a less stressful job and made other changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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What did you used to do? What do you do now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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I am an attorney and moved to a different position in my office. Still an attorney but have much less stressful/demanding responsibilities. It allows me to work from home one day a week and leave by 5 with no problem every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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That's fantastic. Is it recruiting or pro bono coordinator type position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Are there things that stress you out that you can cut out? Even meetings or other things that aren't truly essential to your job. This week, I backed out of something I should of b/c I knew it was going to send me over the edge if I went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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THIS - it's anxiety, stress, exhaustion. You reach your limit and snap. The reason "one glass of chardonnay you" is nicer is because that woman had time to sit down, take a deep breath, and do something for herself. Build in some breaks throughout the day, be kind to YOURSELF, take a moment alone before you walk into your home to greet your kids so you're not frazzled before you start. And remember that the real bitches aren't stewing about the million small unkindnesses they did throughout the day, they're oblivious - you're an ok person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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OR- I love your response, esp part about real bitches...so true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Why do Asian men make the most convincing transsexuals? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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They are smaller-boned and shorter, like women [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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Only some Asian men from countries like Thailand, Vietnam, Laos etc. are convincing. Many Asian men of Chinese or Korean descent are extremely unconvincing. Prominent transsexual Meredith Talusan is Filipina and if you Google her you can see she isn't even convincing in her own self-portraits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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But are they more convincing than men of other races, is the question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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I heard the lady boys in thailand start taking hormones before puberty. Apparently they sell hormones OTC, more easily accessible. Google the lady boy pageant in thailand, those guys are way prettier than i'll ever be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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thailand? i've seen a lot more of them in the philippines. they are fairly common there, but thailand? really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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omg, go google. hold on let me find the link for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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no way are those boys... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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every.single.one.of.them. I showed this to DH and asked if he thought they were hot, and then proudly announced they were LADY BOYSSSSS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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well, waddya know? they have one of those in the philippines, too, apparently. http://www.barnorama.com/miss-ladyboy-2012/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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hahaha more lady boys. I think the thai ladyboys are prettier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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maybe. i did not know this about the thai. i'm kind of surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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or: I'm Asian American, and I knew about the thai, but I had no idea about the flipino ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Maybe that's somewhere to take my ds for growth hormones if we want him to be on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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i don't know. ask your mama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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Ha this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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My DD's godfather is Sri Lankan and is very masculine looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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east Asian, not turdskin... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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they are not muslim. dang. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Almost every woman I know who has been married 10+ years has a marriage that is, maybe not necessarily on the rocks, but, they're not doing great. You? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:40 AM Flag
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divorced at year 12, after two terrible years. I do know some people who seem fine, but who really knows what goes on behind closed doors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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really? 10 years seems like a pretty reliable number for things to last at least five to seven years more. but what do i know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:43 AM Flag
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yes, what do you know about other people? nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:45 AM Flag
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i'm just thinking if people can make through ten years, they've seen everything -- kids, jobs coming and going, purchasing a house, selling a house, in-laws, waning of libido. just figure you've made it over the hump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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op - the "hump" can last a long time. and it's sustaining life in that hump that's the hard part. any of those issues can be the big one. all hard to deal with so, if one partner is a bad communicator, sensitive or just hard to deal w/ or if IL's are really diff or if job situation is difficult - makes Life very hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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you're really projecting your life onto other people. not everyone has that particular experience [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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you sound unduly angry. why is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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married for 2, but together for 5. Even though we are relatively new in our marriage, I feel like we've gone through everything you just mentioned. Despite it all, we've been able to work through everything and I feel like we are really happy right now. Hoping we got hit early, but maybe can coast now for the next couple years, haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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we've been married for 11+. the kids was the hardest. so if you've had a baby and survived it, then that's probably a good sign. 2 years of marriage seems kind of short to judge yet but good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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thanks, we got thrown a couple curve balls our first year of marriage. things are finally settling down. I think the most important thing we learned was how to communicate, and DH finally has my back when it comes to his mom. no kids yet, just had a mc. so I guess we will see what happens when kids finally enter into the picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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hmmm. that's a big one. get ready! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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op - not so hard to make it last, but, possibly not so happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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this. and why not acknowledge your mistake and move on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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my "mistake" - you mean, in my choice of someone to marry? if so, I made a commitment and, he's a great father, provider and person overall. we're just really different. not the end of the world but... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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I wasn't talking about YOU, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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oh, ok... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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we're doing pretty well. 11 years+. we have a lot of money so that helps some things. he's a pretty easy going guy, which helps, also. and i've mellowed out as i've gotten older, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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op - money doesn't seem to help us. we're very comfortable and both of us frugal so, no money doesn't even figure into the equation. he's so not easy going, that's the problem. wound up and sensitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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yeah, that would suck. dh is a good guy. he used to be more of an ass but always a good guy. he's mellowed out some like i have as he's gotten older, too. we're 44. how about you? maybe age would help, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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I'm 43 and he's 42...don't see personalities changing anytime soon. we're just really different. He's a wound up, high achiever city boy doctor and and I'm a laid back, nature loving, yoga girl (also a health provider, not MD and I don't work much). It's okay but, I wonder what life would have been like w/ someone I'm more compatible with. whatev! we have two beautiful, healthy boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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i'm surprised you guys got together. what worked in the beginning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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we were early 30's and, it was time to settle down for each of us. met, had fun together and it all happened really fast. when life is easy (no kids, money, etc) it's easy to get along. it's the long haul that brings out the differences. he's really a good guy just maybe for someone else. ugh, I feel terrible saying that. hoping our kids hold us together, we're both really committed to making it work and, most of the time we get along fine....does that sound miserable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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actually, no. you sound really far from miserable. like maybe 75% to happy. little kids make things hard. maybe hold on longer (as you plan) and see what happens. kindness helps. comes more easily with mellowing out (with age). good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Doing really well, but we are both professionally in a groove and don't have children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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totally different situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:45 AM Flag
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Or - agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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no shit. things are SO much easier without children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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np: Not necessarily. When I first married DH, we had to deal with my mother's Alzheimer's. That was far more difficult than the children who came later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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ok, yeah, well, most of us haven't had to deal with parental health issues yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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Exactly. You ain't seen nothing yet, people! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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12 years here. pretty happy here,KOW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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Almost 10 years, happy. We try to limit the stress in our lives, it helps us be calm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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We've been married 15 years and still really love each other, unless dh is some kind of psycho carrying on a secret life I don't know about. DH is really kind and funny, he makes me laugh. 3 kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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Ugh. I am over my husband. He's a miserable downer who steals my joy. He has gotten much worse as time goes on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Someone I know professionally to be a scumbag has asked me to recommend his kid at ds's school (they are applying for K). WWYD?i 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:38 AM Flag
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Oh no. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:38 AM Flag
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I'm sorry, I don't know your child well enough to write a recommendation. OR I've already written recommendations for this year. Or simply, I don't write recommendations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:39 AM Flag
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He didn't ask for a written letter, just to pop in to admissions. I said sure. Now what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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tepid rec [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:41 AM Flag
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I'd be honest with either the school (do you really want that family there?) or let him know you're not very good at writing Isuzu things. I'd go with the first option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:41 AM Flag
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^^ Isuzu? I don't even know what I was trying to say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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What if I'm honest and then the kid gets in? I'm not a board member or anyone who has real pull at the school. Then I'll feel like it was discussed among admissions and who knows who else and they came down against my word, and I'll always wonder who thinks I'm a jerk or untrustworthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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Which could hurt you if you ever really want to go to bat for someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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just don't do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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Am thinking about this versus being honest with the school. Could it get back to him? Or what if they take the kid anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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Well, I guess that's an option... be honest with the school. he'll never know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Could the DOA out me to PSD? Not by name necessarily, but to say that someone tipped her off that the family wasn't a good fit. How candid are the debriefing sessions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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I would just "forget" to do it. Don't be honest w the school. It could get back to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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+1 or send a lukewarm letter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Enjoy lording your power over him!! Srsly, how do people even ask for this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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I was surprised that he reads people so poorly that he thought I would have good things to say about him. I guess I'm too fake friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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More likely he is scummier than you thought possible. Is he your superior? Bc that could get awkward. What are you going to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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