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[ - ] Have any of you had the presence of echogenic bowel spotted at the 20 week anatomy scan? I did today and am slightly freaking out, even though I read that in most cases it's overly sensitive ultrasound equipment. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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No I had a spot on the heart detected which is a marker for Down syndrome. The maternal fetal medicine doctor couldn't find what the tech had shown me. Panic for nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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YES! I freaked out for no reason. The new ultrasounds pick up all sorts of things now. DS is 2.5 and no issues at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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Don't freak out about these things! They can be very subjective findings and need to he taken in the context of everything else (eg. echogenic focus in heart is irrelevant if you've had a normal cell free DNA test). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:20 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o When someone repeatedly turns you down when you invite them to visit are you obligated to still keep inviting them? I have invited my sister for years to visit and she refuses. We are currently estranged so I don't really care for her to visit anyways, but if I ever invite my parents and not her and her family she becomes enraged. Then we invite her the next time and she turns us down again. This has happened at least15 times. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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don't invite her. ignore her tantrum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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That's stupid. She just wants attention. Refuse to give it to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Tell her directly that repeatedly declining your invites hurts your feelings and gives you the message that she doesn't want to be invited. Hopefully that will help clear the air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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does she express her rage to you? then tell her this, that you have never had her accept an invitation so you figure she doesn't want any. if she's expressing it other people, its not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you balance wanting a "slow" lifetyle (lots of evenings and weekends at home cooking, reading, yard work, family game nights) with the constant busy barrage of social obligations? i want a "slow" life, but i also want all my friends, and parties, and invites. i find that invites dry up if you keep saying no. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Invite people to your house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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this is confusing. you want people to invite you places so you can say no and do yard work instead? there are a limited number of hours in a week--use them as you wish! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] This will be a shot in the dark but anyone on here use Boston IVF? What was your experience? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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They turned off all the lights and gave me a shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Having loads of stomach issues (will be seeing Dr soon...), and want to change my diet drastically as I can see improvements with mild changes. So, trying to cut Dairy, Wheat, Red Meat and Alcohol. Breakfast is my dillema - I don't like too much fruit in the AM, maybe a smoothie (whey, banana, almond milk...) or banana. I am allergic to eggs too. What else can I eat that will be healthy and keep me full until lunch? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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I like chicken in the morning. Or oatmeal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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I eat plain greek yougurt with slivered almonds and fruit everyday- blueberries, strawberries, nectarines, etc. it is very filling. Not dairy free though but does have the good bacteria for your gut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Whey is dairy. I like oatmeal with cinnamon, nuts and raisins. This black rice breakfast pudding is easy to make and really wonderful: http://www.mynewroots.org/site/2014/01/coconut-black-rice-breakfast-pudding/ and there is also this recipe, which I haven't tried yet: http://www.mynewroots.org/site/2014/07/raspberry-ripple-buckwheat-porridge/ Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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You can make quinoa breakfast cereal and use almond or soy milk. Martha stewart has recipe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:13 PM Flag
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polenta with smoked salmon. ezekiel bread with sliced zucchini and tomato jam. tofu scramble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Oatmeal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to get a sense of who's on here. Do you prefer interesting jewelry (from street vendors, art shows, travels across the world) or recognizable jewelry (Cartier love bracelet, Hermes bangles, David Yurman)? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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i don't wear much jewelry. generally, i only wear my wedding and engagement rings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Me too, plus diamond studs my grandmother gave me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:22 PM Flag
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i wear zero jewelry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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are you shilling for noonday or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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interesting, but that's for earrings which are all i wear besides my pretty basic rings and watch. i'm not a big label person in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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I don't wear jewelry either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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All of my jewelry is inherited and it's mostly all European gold. I don't like flashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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I have some expensive pieces but am really into cute costume jewelry lately. This year I have been into stacking bracelets around my watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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hate anything recognizable. I wear my engagement/wedding rings, my late mother's ring, and a variety of hanging bead earrings I get at a kiosk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I wear more classic and expensive jewelry than costume or funky, though I like that too. I don't need my nice stuff to be recognizable as a certain brand though, just nice stone and cut. Fwiw, I don't have tons of jewelry, but what I have is fairly nice. If I had better sense of style I would experiment more . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] After how many days of a kid crying and refusing to go into the classroom will he be thrown out of private? Age 9. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.20.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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wow age 9 is rather old for that isn't it? did something happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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I got him in by suppressing this information via a 504 plan. Not a nyc private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Take the kid's cue and get outta Dodge. Why suffer?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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Because op is delusional and wants her kid at hogwarts elementary instead of public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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is something more going on? 9 is a little old for that behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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Yes. This would be a much bigger concern to me than getting thrown out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Not to pry to much but are you going through a divorce or any other problems at home? If you're going through some form of separation/divorce keep the school abreast. They're more inclined to work with the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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No he's always been a terror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Not to be snarky but how'd you get a spot? My dc was like that and we were shut out. DC is much better now at 7 but still has some issues with being impulsive or shutting down and refusing to listen every few months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Outside of nyc, privates are easy to get into. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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He is defiant, doesn't want to go to school ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Can you bribe her? Promise her after school pizza or whatever she likes if she stays calm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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She said "he". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Yes I bribe him with everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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np- I'd be incline to take stuff away for that behavior, not give him more stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Nine is a little old for the crying - but kind of young for the refusing to go to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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With privates the most important thing to do is to work with the school. They don't want to kick kids to the curb but will not tolerate you refusing their feedback regarding behavior/social/emotional issues. It's when you start refusing evaluations, blame the school, teachers, other kids, won't accept constructive criticism that you run into a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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You will likely be counseled out pretty quickly and you were nuts to take him out of public. What has the school said so far? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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He doesn't belong in private so let him get kicked out and go to public, or try to hoodwink another private into taking him. If you feel little Timmy is a genius who needs the intellectual stimulation that only a private can offer, get private tutors. But I'd bet he is just average academically and public will serve him well enough. Plus they can't kick him out just for being a big cry baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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My nephew did this at a Lutheran school in Indianapolis and was thrown out within a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Corn-and-tomato salad: Use raw corn straight off the cob, or blanch it first? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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I'd blanch. Love fresh corn but do not love the milky raw flavor straight off the cob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Blanch just a bit. Totally raw has a little something funky to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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who eats raw corn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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When it is just picked it is actually REALLY good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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I do once in a while. Just a few niblets. It's real sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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I do...use it in lots of recipes. Fresh from a farm stand - wonderful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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I use it raw. It's fine and goes really well with a lime dressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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If you roast it in the oven it is amazing in salads and salsas! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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just microwave first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Where do you prefer to vacation? Somewhere well known but harder to get to and more touristy (nantucket, hamptons) or somewhere less glamorous but easier logistically, like a quiet little town close to a beach? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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Greece! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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I like spots where there is zero, none, no celebrity factor. No south of france, no tulum, no st barth's, no mystique. I like privacy and luxury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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+1 Privacy and uber-luxury every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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Can you name names? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Less touristy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Op: I prefer the quieter, easier to get to option. After visiting friends on nantucket, MV, and the cape during the summers I would never want to commute back and forth every weekend to these places. It would be hell imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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We go from Boston to MV many summer wkends - easy trip to the ferry and we have a junker car on the island. I usually stay out a few wks w/kids so it's mostly dh coming over on Thur night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Can't stop laughing but also kind of jealous. I just saw the FB wedding post of a super annoying ho-bag acquaintance and her new husband looks like her grandpa. She's gonna be very wealthy in a few years assuming her same-age step children don't manage to get her excluded from the will. Would you ever marry an extremely old dude for the money? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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if i were destitute and actually liked him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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If he made me laugh a lot and we had separate bedrooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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I know an old guy who married a young Asian woman he must've picked up in a massage parlor. Um, wow. No I would not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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Old, rich and sick: that winning combination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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No, I grew up poor so I can handle the lifestyle if it ever came down to that again. I too have some friends and acquaintances who married rich old men and did so for the money, not for love. They all have this hard edge, not exactly bitchiness, but a high-stress vibe and standoffish. I don't know if the marriage made them that way, or people like that are the type to gold-dig, but they don't seem to be content. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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np: never, never. Gross. I'd have to let that guy f*** me. No way. I'm not a prostitute. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] is psychic mom on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Hunter moms, G&T moms etc how did you know your DC was really bright at that age (bright enough that you figured you would take a shot at the test). What were some indicators? I have no idea if DC is really smart or just average and very talkative 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Just sign up and take the test. Why do you need to figure it out ahead of time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Didn't you just post the other day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Strangers will comment that your kid is smart. Teachers and family members don't count. If no stranger has commented by now then your kid likely isn't hunter-smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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not true. Hunter mom here. My dd was very quiet until 6. We tested her for Hunter after her ERB was off the charts high. We figured "what the hell!". Her Hunter score was insane as well. Not that she is 7 people mention to us all the time how smart she is but they did not when she was 4. Frankly, I thought she was inquisitive and smart but not a genius by any stretch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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Well I thought I was on to something. I'm told all the time one of my kids is smart (she is) I never hear this about my other kid (she isn't) Nothing wrong with this btw life has all sorts of twists and turns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Rambling stream of consciousness post: My social phobia is back. Meds don't help. I am just sensitive and critical of myself and want to hide. If it were up to me, I'd sit alone and never come out of my shell. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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I am you. I have decided that it's just who I am and simply avoid social situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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It's just because you're not doing it routinely. We're all becoming isolated and insulated with social media and are losing our face to face skills. You need to recover them. Do it slowly. Start by randomly smiling or saying "hi" to strangers. That wasn't so bad, right? Next day start asking people for the time or directions. Not too bad. You'll become a little more empowered. Next, you'll feel comfortable enough to comment on something. "Oh, I've read that book." "Nice weather today." Pretty soon, you'll be having regular conversations and won't be a shut in, paralyzed by paranoia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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^ If it doesn't work you could have a larger anxiety, depression or PTSD or body image disorder stemming from trauma or abuse and require medication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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You need to get out of your own bubble and stop navel gazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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I've decided it's not my own criticism. It's that I can't trust a soul. No one. And if I do, they will either die at somepoint or just go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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Are you ok with living like that? There could be a better way of seeing things and having some hope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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I am trying to see that everything happens for a reason, but it's becoming more and more difficult. I'd rather hide and give up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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No don't Please seek help. You need to be resilient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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People are shit. At least the people I know. Time for new friends and a new life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Me too. watching because I don't know what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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I began to appreciate adult company after my kids were born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Mom's of 2.5 year old dds. Please give mean average number of words your child speaks on a day. I'm starting to get worried about my dd. Thank you 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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At that age, basically none. They all do it differently... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Thank you. This makes me feel better [ Reply | More ]
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Oops, meant to say "me an" not "mean" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Oh my goodness! Is it you, mom whose kid wants to cut off his head and die? Get to the therapist already. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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No! But I did see that post!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Define exactly what "mean words" are to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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MEAN/ AVERAGE= MATH TERM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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Well, the mean is the average, so the post is a little redundant, hence can be misleading. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Oops, and "in a day" darn this phone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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How is her receptive language? Does she understand and follow what you say to her? It's a good sign if receptive lang is there. If she really isn't speaking much get right on an assessment. Early therapy can do wonders. Two of my kids needed this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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My 2 year old speaks up a storm and even in complete sentences. She is very verbal. My cousin's 18 month old pretty much says less than 5 words. I think it is very different with every child. Don't worry : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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My first child spoke as well as a seven year old. She actually spoke at a very young age and by four had the easing level of a ninth grader. My second child barely spoke. All kids are different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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*reading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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She rarely stops talking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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How much tv do they watch? Do you anticipate their needs to where they don't need t talk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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This is such silly questioning. Many, many 2.5 yo don't speak a lot regardless of the answers to these questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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This toddler on the Today Show can read. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzL2ADR47HM [ Reply | More ]
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My 2.25 yo dd talks nonstop. I was the same way according to my mom. She probably has a thousand words if not more, but all kids are different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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I was like this and my sister after me did not say a single word until almost 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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She's my second and her sister was also very verbal, but not as much as she is. I fully expect their younger brother to be a mute ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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My DC started reading at 2.5. For real, I'm no troll. On the otherhand, a kid in her PreK started her first words this summer at camp! So different kids do bloom at different times. Still an eval is in order! [ Reply | More ]
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PLEASE do yourself a favor and ask your pediatrician if you're concerned, not UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do I check ARIS everyday even though I know the scores aren't up yet. What's the latest theory? Are they going to be up next week or do we really have to wait for school to start? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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why do you care so much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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The scores are important to middle school placement. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm you. Sigh. Have a rising 5th grader. I hope the scores will be released this weekend. But it's just a hope. [ Reply | More ]
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Just put it out of your mind until first day of school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend I haven't seen in a while. She's newly sober and I'm supposed to see her at a family function. Is it wrong to drink around her? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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Not wrong, but why do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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It is inconsiderate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Yes. Drink before and after you see her if you must. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Or in the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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retard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are the one who may need some tips from her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Wow-you're sweet, aren't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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Not wrong at all. You are not her keeper, nor responsible for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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+1. Friend is probably a big girl and more than capable of holding her shit together while other people go about their normal business that includes drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Recovering here. I'd rather people not adjust their habits around me. It's different for everyone, of course, but it makes me tense when people feel they need to accommodate my issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Especially if someone starts to open a bottle,and then someone else starts frantically waving, "no no" at them and then runs into the kitchen and whispers to the bottle-opening-person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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That seems to be the input I've heard the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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OR: the recovering person needs to face the reality that they live in a world that continues despite their own restrictions. It is very nice of people to want to make that transition to sober life easier, but honestly, I felt better about myself knowing that I could have fun in situations where others were drinking. It gave me a sense of accomplishment, as weird as that sounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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NO. If anything, she might think it awkward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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You probably won't be the only one that will be drinking in front of her I would safely assume so I wouldn't worry about it too much. She will need to learn how to deal with certain situations for the rest of her life. However, as a true friend, I wouldn't drink in front of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Get an empty coke bottle, wash it out,and then fill it with red wine. I do this all the time when I visit my ILs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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That is kind of funny. It is like the reverse of vodka in the Poland spring bottle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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It's a little unclear what kind of family function you're talking about, but it might be extra-considerate to wait until afterwards to have your drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Yes. I think it depends. Is it a wedding? If so, lots of people will be drinking. A funeral? Also a big drinking occasion. A baptism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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Thanks, nothing huge or special, I'm just visiting my hometown and will be going out to dinner with my mother, brother and his family and my friend and her family. My mother and brother have know her for years but they don't know about her having stopped drinking (she will likely tell them that night) and I anticipate they will order plenty of wine with dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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If they're drinking I guess you can follow their lead: you're all adults. Play it by ear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Take two shots in the bathroom and you're good to go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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if it were me who was sober, i wouldn't want people to act any different around me than usual! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Do you have a problem that you need to drink on this occasion??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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Buy sample size rum from a liquor store, buy diet coke from bar (let her hear you place the order) then go to bathroom and dump the rum from the bottle you bought into the coke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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Also, put some extras in your purse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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Newly sober doesn't mean basketcase who will break down at the mere sight or mention of booze. Part of staying sober is realizing that other people will often be around drinking and it's part of life. Give her some credit. Not all reformed drunks need people to walk on eggshells around them. -signed, reformed drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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If the family function is a prayer breakfast, it might be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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OP: thank you! Fwiw, I certainly don't NEED to drink, but want to support her and not make her feel singled out OR pressured in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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Is everyone else going to be drinking? Like is it a cocktail party? If I walked up to bar with her I would probably get a seltzer, but I wouldn't feel like I had to refrain all day. I would NOT hide alcohol in something else. She will be the one person who will figure that out because that is whay alcoholics do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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