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[ - ] Post different school philosophies and your stereotypes of what kind of people send their kids to those schools. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Montessori [ Reply | More ]
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Hippies [ Reply | More ]
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Progressive [ Reply | More ]
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Parochial [ Reply | More ]
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Poor [ Reply | More ]
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Private single sex [ Reply | More ]
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Public charter [ Reply | More ]
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Boarding school [ Reply | More ]
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Wasp's with behavior problems or parents who want to get rid of their kids [ Reply | More ]
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Local public [ Reply | More ]
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Suburban public [ Reply | More ]
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Suburban private [ Reply | More ]
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Bilingual [ Reply | More ]
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Schools with no grades [ Reply | More ]
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pathetic [ Reply | More ]
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Art schools [ Reply | More ]
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Homeschool [ Reply | More ]
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Unschool [ Reply | More ]
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This is stupid, and so are you. [ Reply | More ]
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School of Hard Knocks [ Reply | More ]
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Jay Z [ Reply | More ]
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Hard knocks. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What has been your biggest life hardship, and what have you learned from it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Severe anxiety stemming from childhood abuse. I leaned to be very thankful to those who are a positive force in my life [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you wish you would have known going into marriage? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sex is important. Have it even if you don't want to [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Question for the shy introverts who get stressed talking on the phone: The advent of texting has made such a difference to my social anxiety. However, I have a childhood friend who is very un-techie who calls and leaves very long messages on all the phone numbers she has for me (cell, home). I was literally on a ride at Disneyland yesterday and she called my phone three times in succession. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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So just let her know you have social anxiety while talking on the phone and texting helps you feel calmer. Don't blame her for what she doesn't know. It's on you to inform her. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Over the years I have told her a million times, and usually respond to her call with a text. But she is not one to remember stuff like that. I know her and she is the type to sit with her phone (while in a cab with her kids screaming lol) and shoot off call after call until she gets someone to talk to. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, if you've told her a bunch of times and she still can't remember, then she's definitely being inconsiderate. Try avoiding her phone altogether and send her emails? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: We only touch base a few times a year, but the thought of listening to these messages or calling her back (time difference, she likes to talk while doing 4 other things so very chaotic phone conversation). I enjoy once we actually get together, but it causes me ridiculous amount of stress and anxiety anticipating the complicated back and forth, so I put it off and off... Anyone else feel me? [ Reply | More ]
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Just text her back and keep the conversation going through text. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I usually text when she calls. "I see you called, hard to get to the phone., What's up?" But she doesn't really text (she is really, really low-tech), so it is really a "battle of styles." It is only once or twice a year, but it stresses me out so much. Literally yesterday (we were away), I got three successive calls on my cell phone and, when I got home, what I could tell was a very very long VM (DH checked the messages). I don't want to be really difficult and rude, but I get so stressed by it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I hate my life right now. It's too much. Holidays suck with kids and family coming for lunch plus parties ... Ugh!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have a friend at work - got him a t-shirt of his favorite sports team for xmas. Expected him to like it but not to gush about it the way he did. Then I realized, his estranged family is in the UK, he has no family or significant other here, and that may be the only gift he's getting this year. Also realized he is likely spending xmas alone. So while I know holidays can be hectic, be thankful you have people to be with. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Please help out a clueless mom. What does it mean when someone says an elementary school is "too progressive"? That it's not academic enough? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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coddle children's feelings too much and not enough content. One progressive school in NJ doesn't teach any kind of reading/writing until 3rd grade because "kids just aren't ready." [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, OK, I see. TY for clarifying! [ Reply | More ]
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omg WHAT [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, means it's mostly about play and not enough reading and arithmetic [ Reply | More ]
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and they sit on the floor [ Reply | More ]
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NP what does this have to do with anything? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can anyone tell me who makes this jacket Michelle Williams is wearing? Link below thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Home Depot? [ Reply | More ]
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Cabela's in Arizona or Utah [ Reply | More ]
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I for one love this jacket, not sure what the flyover moms are griping about! It looks like this Woolrich number from Bloomingdales http://bit.ly/13VA9zU [ Reply | More ]
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thanks! this is perfect! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Golf is a noun, not a verb. I am going to play golf today, not I am going "golfing". Just so you know if you join a CC. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Thanks, Grandma! [ Reply | More ]
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I've been golfing since I was 3, and either is fine. Get the stick out of your ass. [ Reply | More ]
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My father golfed, my brother golfs, I golf etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I am tennis-ing today, tennis is noun also [ Reply | More ]
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Wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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No, you are wrong. Golf is a perfectly acceptable intransitive verb. Here's google n gram for golfing v. play golf https://books.google.com/ngrams/graph?content=golfing%2C+play+golf&year_start=1800&year_end=2000&corpus=15&smoothing=3 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's with the squeegee guy posts? Are they back in Manhattan? I live in Brooklyn and haven't experienced it... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Chicken Littles running around this board. [ Reply | More ]
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If you take the 125st exit off the Triboro, they're always there now. Have been for nearly a year. [ Reply | More ]
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cool I'll check them out over Christmas ;-P [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am the thinking of getting a dog poster. Are they noticeably expensive? Will I be griping about vet bills? Am I basically buying a family member? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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do not do it [ Reply | More ]
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what is a dog poster? [ Reply | More ]
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I think they are making fun of the people who don't know whether to get a dog or not. [ Reply | More ]
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Ahh gotcha. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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a person posting on UB about a dog. Maybe you should stop reading online forums. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? It was just a simple question. [ Reply | More ]
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we are giving our dog away today to a nice family with a big yard... it was a tough 2 years. . yes it gets expensive at least 600-1000/year on shots, grooming, food, etc. Then there's boarding if you go out of town. We spent 700 on a trainer which didn't work so well. Let's see what else. Mental anguish, that's priceless. [ Reply | More ]
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WHAT were you thinking?! [ Reply | More ]
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well we were living in a home with a huge yard etc, then had to relocate to NYC. It would have been ok without the relocation. -OR [ Reply | More ]
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Never buy!! Always Adopt [ Reply | More ]
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Don't do it. Get yourself a new Macbook and a bottle of wine instead. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes to family member. There is a financial committment. That said the rewards of having the right dog (for you) are priceless. [ Reply | More ]
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dogs can be expensive if they have health problems or you need to train them with the help of an expert. yes, you are buying a family member- you have to walk the dog 2-3x a day, feed it 1-3x a day, and make appropriate arrangements for it if you are going to be out of the house all day. no more day trips, for example, unless the dog comes with you. it's a hassle if you aren't a homebody. [ Reply | More ]
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I have probably spent 10-12 grand on each of my dogs in their lifetime. Counting on another possible 5K more each before it's over. [ Reply | More ]
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We just borrow our neighbor's when we want to. [ Reply | More ]
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They probably don't mind at all :) [ Reply | More ]
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Kids walk and enjoy them, they go home after that. Win Win for all. [ Reply | More ]
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This is like having another child. It is a huge responsibility. Dogs need physical and mental stimulation, just like humans or they develop anxiety and strange behaviors. They need adequate walks, playtime, training. You really should not leave them home alone for hours at a stretch (a few is fine but leaving a dog alone for 8-12 hours is negligent and cruel). They need to be treated with love, care and respect. Vet bills are not terrible for regular things but add up quickly. So does grooming. Nail trims & expression of anal glands typically need to be done once a month for some breeds -- that's $100 right there before grooming, food etc. If you are not going to be home you need to pay dogwalker and doggie daycare -- but many are unreliable or shady so select well unless you want your dog to "accidentally" get lost in the park, or contract kennel cough! Oh, and when you want to take a vacation...make sure you have a dog sitter who can stay in the home ($50 a day/night) or send to doggie daycare or boarding. [ Reply | More ]
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There are some really cute posters of dogs out there. Maybe one of Lassie? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] if you could move to any school zone on the UWS or UES, which would it be and why? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ps 6 because it's the best. [ Reply | More ]
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middle school ? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hunter R2 form, question 2: approximately how many questions, out of 16, are you putting for each of seldom, occasionally, frequently, always? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I haven't done it yet, but I would be hesitant to trust responses here. People lie to get a perceived advantage. [ Reply | More ]
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And they lie just to fuck with people [ Reply | More ]
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I see your point, I was just trying to gauge where the others were. Mailed my form in today, done. [ Reply | More ]
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Former Rd 2-er here: I answered honestly. Probably 2/3ds were frequently and 1/3 occasionally. I can't remember if I had any seldom answers - maybe one or two. [ Reply | More ]
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I had about half frequently and half occasionally, with 1-2 seldom and always. [ Reply | More ]
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4 seldom, 4 occasionally, 4 frequently and 4 always [ Reply | More ]
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I put always on all 16. When I spoke to Kyla she implied always was always the best answer. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: The two families I know with DCs at Hunter put always for all of them. I think that is Bright Kids tells you to do as well. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best public elementary schools on UES? Is there a website where you can easily see and sort NYC public elementary schools by state test scores? I remember one, but I can't find it. TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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theschoolboards - they list the top 20 by boro and city each year and then someone answers questions on specific schools. [ Reply | More ]
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Insideschools [ Reply | More ]
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common knowledge is ps 6 followed by 290. but i am a west sider. [ Reply | More ]
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Typically it's 6, 290, 158, 183 and the ranking of scores amongst them changes sometimes (ELA vs Math, eg). They all do well, each have strengths [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Have you ever gotten a cortisone shot for a pimple? Wondering if it's worth it. Got a huge one right now that I can tell won't go away for awhile. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, but it was a boil under the skin. Cleared it right up without a scar. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. I get them all the time. It's amazing. I have cystic acne. Finally did acutane so I hope those days are over! [ Reply | More ]
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yes, very effective. [ Reply | More ]
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covered by insurance. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes 100% do it. Pricey (for what it is if you do it often) but worth it! [ Reply | More ]
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np how much do they usually cost? [ Reply | More ]
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OP:Thanks for the responses, made an appointment for today! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Suggestions for where to look/which brands you recommend for a little suitcase for a 4yo? Thank you. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Just get a normal carry-on side wheelie bag. Don't let kid drag around airport, though. Huge trip hazard for others. [ Reply | More ]
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Pb kids are cute [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just venting-- My mother, who I was extremely close to, died suddenly this summer. I have been devastated, and this holiday season has been brutal. DCs were very close to her to and are really having a hard time with the holidays. My DH, who has NEVER been good at supporting me when I'm down and is just not good when the chips are down in general, got promoted shortly after Mom died and has since thrown himself into work, especially since Thanksgiving. Long hours, weekends, etc. I feel like he's doing this to basically escape being around during this sad, difficult season, and it's really shitty. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I am so sorry. Get into therapy. You may not be able to fix your DH, but therapy can help you. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I feel like I do need to talk to someone. Losing Mom so suddenly was really hard... we were so close and talked on the phone every day. The DCs are so devastated too. My DH was also close to Mom, but is not good with showing feelings and has never seemed to know what to do with me when I'm not "myself"... and I certainly haven't been 100% myself, especially with Thanksgiving and Christmas. Honestly, I feel kind of abandoned in a weird way, between losing Mom and DH's total absence. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I went through this a few years ago when I was younger, I was very close with my mom as well. I think you should suggest therapy to DH as well maybe. It might make him understand the effort he needs to make. In the mean time, take care of yourself and try to focus on the good memories you had with your mom at christmastime. A good hard cry helps quite a bit. It will get easier. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I'm sorry you went through this too. It's really hard. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I went through this a few years ago when I was younger, I was very close with my mom as well. I think you should suggest therapy to DH as well maybe. It might make him understand the effort he needs to make. In the mean time, take care of yourself and try to focus on the good memories you had with your mom at christmastime. A good hard cry helps quite a bit. It will get easier. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm so sorry about your mom. I know how hard it is (dh's mom died at Christmas a few years ago, and it is still not the same.) I doubt your dh's work habits are an attempt to escape you. He may well feel helpless in the face of your grief, but he's probably just trying to take the only action he can and work hard to support the family financially. Do you have sublings you can talk to? [ Reply | More ]
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This. This is escapist behavior common to many if not most men. Be grateful he's throwing himself into work - not drugs, gambling or women. Because that happens, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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OP: That's a good perspective. Work has always been his "escape route". Years ago, we went through a terrible scare when there was a chance something very serious was wrong with our oldest DC (DC turned out to be ok, thank God). I know DH was terrified, and he threw himself into work and was very emotionally absent to me. Back then I felt I turned to my mom for the support I needed during that scare, but this time I guess his absence feels worse because I don't have her anymore to lean on. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I agree that DH may feel helpless. He's never seemed to know what to do when I'm sad or anxious. He has some Aspie traits. I am an only child, so no siblings. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Keep in mind that many people feel helpless in the face of others who are grieving. They avoid the one grieving. It's a weak trait but not a mean one. [ Reply | More ]
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OR This is true. There's the fantasy that dh will know exactly what you need and come enfold you in his arms and say the right words and all that, but the reality is that you probably need to come right out and tell him. "Please hug me when you get home from work." "I had a hard day thinking about my mom. Could you just hold me and not say anything?" [ Reply | More ]
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Red flag. Eventually when you recover your strength, it will be time to leave him. He is not doing his basic duty as your partner and his children's father. For now, focus fully on looking after you. [ Reply | More ]
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what??? his behavior is pretty common of men. sure, she should talk to him- absolutely. but leave him over not responding appropriately to her grief (and who ever responds appropriately 100% of the time)? seems drastic to me. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I have no thoughts of leaving him. He's a good husband and father and has been for many years, but he's disappointed me in the last couple of months. Nobody would be married if we left each other over disappointing behavior. I am just sad and angry and don't know what to do-- I can't change him, he's never been good in these situations. [ Reply | More ]
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Have you told him how his behavior is affecting you? [ Reply | More ]
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No, I probably should. [ Reply | More ]
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That is the litmus test. See how he reacts when you tell him. And see if his behavior changes for better, worse or stays the same. If nothing improves, let him know once more in a clear and direct way. Then see and decide what you want to do over the long term. A good husband and father is there for his wife and children when they need him most. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I suspect DH would really try, in his lame way, to be more supportive if I told him how much I was hurting. It's silly, but I'm just disappointed that I literally need to spell it out to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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It's not silly at all! You're really downplaying your needs here and elevating his bullshit into some deep angst on his part where he struggles to show you his love and all that. It doesn't matter how lame or clumsy he's being. All he has to do is just be there for you at a time when you need it most. If he's not doing that, then he's abandoning you and your kids. You're making all sorts of romantic stories to get over the simple fact that he's abandoning you when you really need support and love. Whether he's a wimp or lame or whatever excuse you come up with, the fact is you are being abandoned. And you are the one making excuses for him. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry, but these blanket statements are really ridiculous. Humans are imperfect and show love and support in a million intangible ways. OP. like many of us, may not be getting the textbook case of what she "wants" from DH as she mourns, but the mourning process is uncharted territory, and there is no right or wrong way to mourn or to show support. People on UB are so quick to "throw out the bum" over every thing that doesn't meet the Alan Alda test. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I agree with you. DH is not a bum to be thrown out. I've shared the way he has disappointed me-- by clearly being uncomfortable with my grief. But I haven't shared the hundreds of ways he's been a loving, loyal husband and father over 13 years of marriage. I am disappointed and angry with him, but nobody is perfect. This is how DH isn't perfect. [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing's perfect. If you think you will be happier with him being out of your life completely than you are with him in it vs. wanting him there but wanting him to be different - maybe something to think about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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This -- every husband is like this when they finally get the big promotion -- its just lousy timing for OP [ Reply | More ]
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sorry. do you have siblings to support you through this time? [ Reply | More ]
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that is really terrible and i am so sorry. i've been there. it's brutal. come and vent whenever you want. we're here. [ Reply | More ]
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OP, I am so sorry for your loss. My mother died two years ago right after the holidays (was already in the hospital for the holidays). She had been very sick, but over many years had always rallied. So it was a shock. My DH is very emotionally cut-off, so I never relied on him for emotional support. I talked to female friends (some of whom also lost a parent) and eventually a therapist. And, no, I didn't consider my DH's reaction to my mother's death top be a litmus test on whether to leave him! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I am sorry that you too are in this situation-- it's a really shitty club to be in. I really feel like I need therapy for a lot of issues. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: For me, because I spent so many years worrying about my mother (we lived on different coasts, so we didn't see each other much, but talked about 5 times a day) that when she died, I had a crazy amount of pent-up nervous energy with nothing to focus it on. And also all those moments that you would normally share with your mother feel like such a hole in your heart. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yes, there are so many moments we should be sharing and things I would be telling her. I find myself instinctively reaching for the phone when something good happens with one of the kids, but now there's nobody to call. OMG, crying just typing that. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I am at work but needing to cry from typing what I did too. :( [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Slightly off topic, but I had these weird things that went on in the house after my mother died. A clock that stopped at a specific time and wouldn't restart no matter what I did (but eventually started on its own), lights in the yard going on at strange times, just weird stuff. It eventually stopped, which made me sad too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP: I have had some signs too, especially in the first month or two. [ Reply | More ]
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