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[ - ] Opinions please. We have three kids whose first names start and end with different sounds. But their nicknames that they go by almost exclusively end in an "ee" sound. I am pregnant with my fourth. Is it weird to give the kid a long name with a nickname also ending in the "ee" sound? I didn't intend for their names to be matchy. They were just the names we liked best. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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you have to list the names and we will tell you [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Sorry. That would give me away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Tell us the names on your list then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Lucille nn Lucy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Most nicknames end that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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dont try too hard, just use a name you like and don't worry about nicknames [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] My watch (which I wear everyday) had been missing for two days and my 1 year old just walked up and handed it to me! Ahhhhhhhh, thank you, Universe 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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nice! I am always so happy when things like that happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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:) maybe s/he took it 2 days ago :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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I'm sure she did and had been beating myself up for leaving it where she could reach it. She is constantly putting on anything of mine she can, shoes, clothes, bags, jewelry, anything she can get her mits on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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:):):) cute and funny [ Reply | More ]
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Only cute or funny because my watch is back! [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like a future klepto. [ Reply | More ]
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NP OMG, she's 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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It starts young. [ Reply | More ]
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Could you send her over here, and tell her I cant find my keys. [ Reply | More ]
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She lives for keys, no prob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My nanny took my 4 week old DB out for a walk today in the stroller. DB looks pink, like she might have gotten a sunburn. Would you be pissed? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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I don't think that's possible in nyc, unless they were in the sun for hours! she is pink from the cool air [ Reply | More ]
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op. We are in the suburbs, it is very sunny today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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in Florida?? [ Reply | More ]
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op. No, NY burbs. The sun is very bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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please count to 10, you have many years ahead of you [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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omg this. OP, this is your first db, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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op Yes, and I know I sound a little nutty. But I'm worried about future melanoma risk. A sunburn at 4 weeks seems like it could have long-term effects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Worrying wont do anything. So do t do it. Carry on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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That's INSANE. But you are insane, it's not your fault, it's hormones. Take everything you think with a grain of salt... btdt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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If anything slightly annoyed. And yeah, I also doubt she is sunburned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Your nanny took your db for fresh air. That's a GOOD thing. I agree she is probably pink because its cool out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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No. Take your own baby for a walk and get a fucking clue. Sorry to be harsh but seriously, don't go down this road of hiring help to free up your time to create problems where there are none... it's an epidemic... [ Reply | More ]
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THIS THIS THIS [ Reply | More ]
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Word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Shut up. Babies need to be covered. [ Reply | More ]
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Word [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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A little sun never killed anyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Actually it kills people all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Why do you have a nanny for a 4 week old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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op. I will be going back to work when db is 3 months old. I thought it would be good to get her used to the nanny before that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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She doesn't even know she's born yet. The only bond that matters is with you. Seriously, you need to attach before you start having her bond with others [ Reply | More ]
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lol, babies have an amazing ability to bond with parents - she's fine having a nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Stfu. Don't worry, op. Babies hardly recognize anybody even at 3 months. You are fine. Get rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Read about the attachment disorder epidemic among families with 40+ hours a week of childcare from infancy. Sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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this. Unless you have another kid, you don't need the nanny to come in until the week before. You have years to leave the kid with the nanny, you need to bond with your baby. You'll never get the newborn period back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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So she can be on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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On Saturday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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No, but I'd talk to her about the sun going forward. She's too little for sunscreen but should definitely be shielded by a light blanket thrown over the stroller or something like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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^^^and it is not too early to get a sunburn, btw. I got one the other day in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] ohh. I feel sad. My sister is 17 years younger than I am and grew up when my parents were truly alcoholic. She had a rotten childhood with a little molestation thrown in. :/ I found out about the molestation years later. She lives in another state and every year I bring her kids up to New York for a few weeks over the summer and take them out everyday. East out.. do fun things. Her older dc is wheelchair bound. I love them both but I feel as though the same thing is happening with my relationship with them as happened with my relationship with my sister. i.e. I don't think my sister likes me. I think she's angry with me and I don't think she respects the life I live. Lately, the older dc gave me a snotty answer on fb and I feel as though I really have had it. The younger dc never calls, or answers my pms on fb. I know he's a boy but, I don't know. I think the mother has trashed me in front of the kids. I don't know. But I think I've had enough. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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When I bring them up to NY is with money I've saved all year. I spend vacation time that I could have spend with my own nuclear family renting a beach house or going on a road trip. I haven't because I've always wanted to be here for my sister's kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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How old are the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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The wheelchair bound dc is now 19. the younger one is 13 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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Why weelchair bound? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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her spinal cord never grew properly. Her upper body, including brain functioning is totally intact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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A 19 year old is a grown man not a kid [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry. Woman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't your sister respect your life? What would she take issue with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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I work. I've always worked. I don't drink or do drugs. I don't "Party" I am just not that person. My sister is the opposite. She had a really rough childhood and she is hurt and has addiction problems herself. I'm just tired of her anger toward me. I'm in my 6th decade and I've just had it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Plus in my last phone call conversation with her I told her not to call me when she is drunk or high. I think that angered her, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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Oh, well that would do it. It's not that she doesn't approve of you or respect you. She feels guilty and judged by you. If she's using the wrong words to complain about this in front of her kids, she is making them feel judged by you, too. Like they are your charity cases, important enough to whisk into your life for a little while but easy to send right back when you've had your fill of them. I recognize the dynamic. Your sister feels threatened by you and is throwing you under the bus to her kids. 13 and 19 are moody/difficult enough ages anyway even without these complications. That sucks, OP, I'm sorry - but you'll probably have to wait until the kids get old enough to get away from their mom and get some more perspective to be able to reconnect with you on a more independent level. Right now they aren't seeing you with clarity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Be the bigger person, take the high road, be the one person these kids can say never failed them. They are at tough ages, love them, they will come around and even if they don't, at least you'll know you did your best. If they want to take a year off from visits, or maybe stagger them so they come one at a time, do that, but don't give up on them. Sounds like they really need you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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This is the right thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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this - you can't blame the kids, they are still young and dependent on their mom....and face it kids love their mom and usually always side with them, just life - don't give up on them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Or again, my family has similar stuff going on and my cousin, at 28, just finally thanked my mom and told her she's the only reason she's alive and even semi okay. [ Reply | More ]
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+1--keep the lines of communication open, even when it's hard. We had a similar situation in our family and when the DC in question reached about 21, she reached back. It's been more than a year now and she is realizing how dysfunctional her core family was. A lot to work through, but I'm glad she had somewhere to turn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Your sister does resent you. I am in a similar boat. You'll need to discuss this with her or it will fester. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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I think it sounds like they are taking advantage of you. Don't be their doormat. Sure, you feel bad for the kids but that doesn't mean they are allowed to be rude to you. You are sad for a reason and try coming up with a solution that doesn't require so much sacrifice on your part but still shows the kids you care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on camp Wohelo? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Here is just one reason why The Other Woman is a completely dumb movie. From a Plot summary: "After discovering her boyfriend is married, a woman tries to get her ruined life back on track. But when she accidentally meets the wife he's been cheating on, she realizes they have much in common, and her sworn enemy becomes her greatest friend." The wife the guy has been cheating on is *her* "SWORN ENEMY" ?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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This doesn't even make sense from the trailer. In the trailer Cameron Diaz only finds out the guy is married when she shows up to his house unannounced for some sexy time. She meets the wife at the same time she finds out he's married. At least that's the way it was in the trailer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some thoughtful advice and no flames please. My 21 month old is a hitter. We have ignored, done timeouts, even smacked her hand. What has worked for you all? My gut says she is frustrated and will be so much better when she can talk but in the meantime this has to stop... any advice is appreciated :( 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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The ladies here are going to tell you to step up the discipline but I bellied the opposite. When you focus on it too much it almost compels the kid to do it. What I have done in this situation is ignore the hitting and instead focus a great deal on the kid that got hit. Say "I'm so sorry! Are you ok? That looked like it hurt you." Lay it on really thick and your 21 mo will be jealous and not get the reward of attention from her behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Then after say to your dd "ok, honey, let's not hurt our friend, let's play and have fun!" to change the mood. If this is happening at play dates there is pressure from the other moms that you have to make a big deal punishing your dd but I do t believe punishing is effective at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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Thanks, I like this and will do this when it involves another kid. A lot of times it's directed at me. If we are home I will stop whatever we are doing and abruptly leave after saying "no hitting". BUT when I'm in public with her and I can't just plop her on the sidewalk and let her tantrum... she sometimes escalates into hair pulling (only in public, at home I'm able to nip it) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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That's tough. Try your best to show her it doesn't phase you. If you respond with anger it's scary to her and she will become more upset. Just remove her from the situation and when she calms down enough to listen say, "It's so sad we had to leave. I was having a really nice time with you but we couldn't stay with you screaming. I hope next time we get to enjoy ourselves." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Our pediatrician told us to tell her she was going to have to live in the bad girl house. [ Reply | More ]
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Not happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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She's too young. But when she's 3 and says she wants to put the new baby on the garbage, get back to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Ha ha, reminds me of what my mother used to do. There was a group home at the the top of our street. Every time I did something wrong my mom marched me up the street and would say - do you want to go in, do you want to go live with the bad girls??? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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Lol. How old were you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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This worked from about 6-10yrs. At around 13 I realized it hadn't been a group home for most of the time. It was a CPS office or something like that. [ Reply | More ]
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Love it! We say we are going to sell him to the gypsies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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DH's mom used to tell him she would drop him off at the witch's house which is a gothic monstrosity in disrepair. He has mentioned it EVERY SINGLE TIME we have even driven by that place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Our parents generation had it going on :) [ Reply | More ]
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I still chuckle when I go to my mom's house. She still lives on the same street. [ Reply | More ]
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This is amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Try hugs and kisses. [ Reply | More ]
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No hitting, hitting hurts over an over. Also - give all the attention to the child who got hit and ignore the hitter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] City Moms: How many activities/classes is your 2 yo doing this summer? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Brooklyn Forest School [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where can I buy shoes for my daughter (sz 34-35) in Manhattan? I usually buy online, but have no time to wait. I'm feeling like just buying payless until online order arrives. Also, she's been dying for this headband that has a big fur ball on the side of it, have you guys seen it anywhere?? Thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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bloomingdales? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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don't shoe stores exist anymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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theres a couple I used to shop at, but ever since she left size 2, it's become increasingly difficult to find her size, 3-4. [ Reply | More ]
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what size? can you translate? [ Reply | More ]
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They do but no one can get to them because would be buyers have no shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't understand folks who say parenting is so difficult and so much work. I have a 5 yo DD and 2 yo DS, so far it's been a total walk in the park. Both were sleeping through the night by 3-4 weeks old, and haven't had any problems since. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lol. Wait until dd is 10 or 11 and get back to us. [ Reply | More ]
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?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Or ds is 5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have easy kids. You're lucky. [ Reply | More ]
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This. I have one easy kid out of 3. He was our second, DH and I thought it was because we were "experts." Then we had number 3. That shut my mouth, it's as much about your children's temperament than your own. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you at any point have any childcare help? [ Reply | More ]
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op. Yes, au pair in the summer. I SAH. [ Reply | More ]
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Baby nurse? Were they breastfed? Curious due to the fact that they both slept so well so early [ Reply | More ]
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op. Both breastfed. I had a babynurse for both, for the first 2 weeks or so. [ Reply | More ]
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^They were both almost 9 pounds at birth. My pediatrician said that their size was why they slept so well so early. They were able to eat enough in the evening so they didn't get hungry during the night. [ Reply | More ]
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are your kids obese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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OP. No, but they are still very big for their ages. Off the charts in height. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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All children struggle at some point. I never experienced sleep deprivation with newborn, doesn't mean I do t believe others do. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe you are naturally very good at this. Do you SAHM/WOHM how helpful is your dh, can you afford all the help you need? [ Reply | More ]
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OP. DH is totally unhelpful. I am a SAHM, very little help during the school year (cleaning lady 1x per week). I had an au pair last summer which worked out great, doing the same thing this summer . [ Reply | More ]
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At what age did your children start nursery school? [ Reply | More ]
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OP. DD started when she was 2yo, turning 3 (she has a fall birthday). DS will start this upcoming fall. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you going to have a third? [ Reply | More ]
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OP. I would like a third or maybe even a fourth. DH is on the fence. It's a point of contention between us. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh honey, those are the easy years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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Maybe you're fortunate to have a personality that is very compatible with motherhood. It's a gift. My sister is like this. She would spend every moment of the day with her kids if she could, to the point of sleeping with them. I've never heard a complaint out of her. She loves everything about being a mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Small kids, small problems. Big kids, big problems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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I'm you except I understand that different circumstances can be hugely difficult. I'd venture to say you know not everyone has the same experience as you, you really can't understand how some people experience difficulty in childrearing? Odd... [ Reply | More ]
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This. If ops dcs are as dense as her she has it coming... [ Reply | More ]
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OP. So far, my dcs do not seem dense. DD will attend a TT next fall :). [ Reply | More ]
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Are you make a concerted effort to help them have an awareness of the world outside their own experience since that's something you struggle with? [ Reply | More ]
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*making [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - i actually think this is a troll and not a real person, no one could be that clueless [ Reply | More ]
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No requirement to "understand" everything. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol @ 3-4 weeks old. Umm okay honey. [ Reply | More ]
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OP. huh? [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe that's what the baby nurse told her. Lol [ Reply | More ]
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So you didn't do the hard part in the beginning, you have help with cleaning and you have summer help. You are lucky and should probably shut up. [ Reply | More ]
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Am I the only one who smells a troll?! [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. And the sister post. I think that chick who makes up scenarios is on. [ Reply | More ]
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A troll would still be here arguing but when the OP promptly stfu I tend to think she is real and hopefully ashamed... [ Reply | More ]
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A troll would still be here arguing but when the OP promptly stfu I tend to think she is real and hopefully ashamed... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Kindergarten spots... when will the DOE make the announcement?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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nyc school are on vacation, when they come back! Friday! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What makes life today easier for most families compared to our parents generation? Lets say we are talking white MC and lower sections of UMC. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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washers and dryers. disposable diapers. [ Reply | More ]
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Your parents didn't nave a washing machine? How old are you? How old where you when you got potty trained? Also, did your mom work ft? [ Reply | More ]
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I am 55. I think they had a washer back then, but no dryer. Clothes were hung outside to dry on clothesline. My mother did not work (VERY few mothers did back then). I have no idea how old when potty trained. [ Reply | More ]
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I am 53. My parents always had a dryer. My mother worked (was an executive). It was rare that a mother didn't work in the town where I lived (SF Bay Area). [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in the suburbs of NY. I did not know a single working mother, looking back. I guess different areas were different. [ Reply | More ]
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np. I am 33 and also from the NYC suburbs. I think there was ONE working mother in my elementary school class. [ Reply | More ]
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sounds like maybe your parents were upper middle class then - it was a real luxury to have appliances like a washer/dryer [ Reply | More ]
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It wasn't! [ Reply | More ]
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It was NOT a luxury to have a washer and dryer in the 1960s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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See link below. Your head is/was up your ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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This. I hate the dumb argumentative people on this site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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in my neighborhood it was, wasn't until the 70's did their income rise to a point where they could have one - we were then considered the rich ones on the block [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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^^Also in 1960, only 40% of homes had washing machines! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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"From 1938 through the 1960s, the cost of owning a dryer remained out of reach for most people." http://www.easyapplianceparts.com/resources/History-and-Advancements-of-the-Washer-and-Dryer.aspx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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So my life is easier because I have a dried and work 9+ hours a day. Lucky me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Also, we has a lot less clothing and didn't wash jeans after wearing them for 1 hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Why are you angry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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better health care, vaccines. I remember my sister being in the hospital with measles at 5 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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Direct line of communication between people by cell or text no matter if you're home at the land line or not. Instant Email over writing letters with stamps and delivering to post office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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The Internet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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+1 million! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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Heck, I didn't have access to the internet until I was in my mid-to-late 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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sometimes that makes it worse like when you waste time on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Remember when you had to go to the library and look stuff up in encyclopedias. That's funny to remember that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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No way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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credit cards, flow of information - internet, TV (not just 3 stations and it ending at 11 p.m. or whatever time it was), cheap communication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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OP: Healthcare is the only one above that is even remotely true and most vaccines where already there then. So all the talk of how we are clueless about difficulties of life amounts to Internet and email. Who is clueless? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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NP. I am 58 and I got measles and mumps as a kid. Disposable diapers did not exist; my mother had to use cloth. We did not have a dryer machine until I was around 10 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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I think there is a big difference between the 1950s and today. Maybe not so much between the 70s/80s and today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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You are my mothers age. What made your life more difficult than mine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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And I did agree with healthcare somewhat but it's not really significantly different since 70ies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Yes, I agree. The big difference in lifestyle is between you and your grandmother, not you and your mother, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I had my kids in the 80s and 90s. I'd say it's not much different than it is today. Like the above poster said, the real difference is between the 1950s and today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Grocery delivery [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you feel responsible for a person you recommend for a position at your place of employment? If they perform badly is it a reflection of you? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Yes, very much so. At least until they have proven themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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The thing is I work in law and I recommended an admin I use to work with in the past. She was a good worker when I knew her and still is but she seems to have developed extreme anxiety and hostility. She's not fitting in at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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Different climate at this firm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Can you pull her aside and have an honest discussion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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maybe you can peak up about it? Like tell someone that you didn't know that she developed this condition? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Yes be very careful with recommendations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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yes, one of the reasons I don't/won't recommend people....but if you already have an the person is not working out - it is not your fault, but it's hard to separate it imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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No, I don't think it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Is she a total crazy pants? Tell her to stop sneaking into the bathroom to wash her hair, would ya? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Yes, of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been getting calls from a local number. When I first looked up the number online, it traces to a business that is no longer in existence. I have called the number back and it says it is not in service. The few other times I have picked up, there seems to be a pause like someone's on the other end, and then the number clicks. I just got another call from this same number and i picked it up. A man asked for me by my last name. I said "she's not here at the moment may I take a message?" and he asked me Who I was. I replied "May I ask who's calling please?" and he hung up on me. What the hell. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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Is your husband ha ins an affair? Are you behind on bills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Not behind on bills. Not sure why it would be a man who would be on the other end. I was actually wondering if they're trying to find out if I'm home or not. You know, like a burglary thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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Do you live in a house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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Yes, I'm on LI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Eek. Is there a way to block that one number? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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np In your situation, I'd call your local police and tell them what happened. If there have been a bunch of burglaries recently, you might be able to help them up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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You know what? You are right. I'm going to do that right now, just need to look up the non-emergency line again. I forgot what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Calls from heaven [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Next time say "officer this is the call" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP - that's not bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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Yes sound excited. Worked for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Hahaha. Add, "Code blue! Code blue! Take him now!!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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Ugh. We had massive problems with this sort of thing. I put all our numbers on do-not-call registry last summer, so "only" get five to ten calls a week now. But a few years ago? Wow. Constant calls from collection agents with names like Ms. Jones looking for my husband--like five a day. We pay our credit card balance in full monthly. It took probably six months for them to give it up. The one before that (probably three years ago) was super scary. A man who kept calling dh about some "business". Number in Jamaica. The last time he called he said that he was a 'man of the cloth' and to tell dh to call back immediately. I told him if he ever called again, we'd call the cops. Last call. Nowadays, it's just the robocall about my current credit card balance. I let a call on Monday connect and flushed the toilet under the receiver. No calls since! lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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That "man of the cloth" thing is weird. Love the idea of flushing the toilet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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Try it! So far, it's worked, because I got no calls Tues through Thurs. Also, I always search the numbers and leave posts on whocalledme and similar. And I complain formally on donotcall.gov. They have forms. Non political or charitable robocalls are illegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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How often? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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I'd say it started several months ago? Sometimes it's maybe 2x a week and then other weeks go by with nothing. I was wondering if they called today checking to see if anyone's away for Easter weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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The number has probably called 12-15 times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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check your credit report and make sure nothing crazy is on it - could be a debt collector that has it wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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np Real collection agencies have traceable numbers and wouldn't hang up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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The only times I've ever been called by a debt collector they are happy to stay on the line and get information out of me. One call was trying to track down my brother. Another one was ours but we were disputing the debt and weren't going to pay it and I told them so. Either way it would seem if they are calling you that they would like to talk to you instead of hanging up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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It is "Caller ID spoofing" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caller_ID_spoofing . Lots of problems with it. Some carriers have detect but they care about their billing, bot about you being bothered. You can always call your carrier and make them trace the call but it won't solve anything really. Whoever calls you, can switch the displayed number in no time. Sounds like scammers to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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Wow - thanks. That's interesting information. That would explain why the number is "not in service" when I have called back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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np Try poster above's "officer this is the call" trick and see what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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That's the best (only) way to verify. I deal with this almost daily (professionally) and that's the first test I do - I call the displayed number. "Not in service" means telemarketer or scammer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Sil told mil she won't come to Easter because I always have a new car or something to make her feel bad. I wear nothing but black casual clothing, don't even bring a purse with me so as not to be showy. What else can I do? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Your MIL should not have told you that. Not nice (to either you or to her daughter). The woman clearly had boundary issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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I asked why we haven't seen them in so long. She didn't want to tell me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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Oh and we are both her DiLs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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So you have boundary issues. If you want to know, ask SIL. Don't gossip with MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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Ok. Sil and I don't speak on the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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Do you always have a new something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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Np: MIL's jealousy is annoying. That is how you isolate people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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So you think it is really mil's jealousy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Yes unless you are purposely being flashy, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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No I'm not flashy at all. I think it may be because mil wants anniversary presents and parties and we don't bite at her hints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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Maybe new shoes?? We make sure we park far away from mil's house, they're the ones who always ask what car we have. It isn't like we have a Bentley. Normal cars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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That's ridiculous. You shouldn't have to park far away. They are punishing you for their own bad feelings? Why is everyone in the family accommodating them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Sil was the first daughter in law. She had the first baby who she used as a pawn to get free babysitting, etc. she is also very competitive and brags about weird things like her grocery bill. I say nothing so that I can't get in trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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You guys have a very weird dynamic. Even the way you're complaining about her is weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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Yea I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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np Who cares? If she isn't bragging about her stuff, sil needs to grow up and stop being such a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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lol, aren't you married to her son? tell DH to call his mother and find out what's up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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Dh is so avoidant he would never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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then fine, MIL does not come to Easter - you will all be happier that she is not there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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can you read? it is SIL who won't come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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you are correct, read it wrong - but sentiment still the same...SIL does not come to Easter, op can enjoy rather than dealing with the drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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Sil won't come to my mil's house. And while SIL really is a petty jealous person, I'm probably also being used as an excuse so they can have their friends over on Easter and not have to see mil. So that pisses me off too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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yes, that would piss me off, but at least you don't have to deal with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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Well, do you have a "new car or something" this year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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Blame the victim. Np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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so what if she does?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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I don't know. I go shopping once a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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This is her issue, not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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nothing you can do. She sounds like a narcissist.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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wear something showy. It's Easter. BTW, what is your new car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Best and nicest Caribbean resort for families? Fun for kids but also fun for adults. A good pool a must! Thx 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Marriott Aruba. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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I really liked Atlantis. I didn't think I would, but I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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HOw much are you willing to spend per room per night? and when do you want to go? Because there's $1200 a night best and there's perfectly fine for $300-400 a night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Carlisle Bay in Antigua is well set up for families [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Turks and Caicos - Somerset [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] The amount of seriously sheltered people on this site is disgusting. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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+1 I have the urge to shake some sense into these people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Life will probably do that at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't get it. Which posts are pissing you off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Cracks me up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Isn't this the charm of Urban Baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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I read that as "seriously shattered" and that is true, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Cracks me up too. Caregiver here, with Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:49 PM Flag
[ - ] WOH Moms of 4 or more: Do you have 2 nannies? How do you make it work? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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I have a nanny from 8-6, and a housekeeper from 3-6. The housekeeper can also watch a kid or two. I then have someone who comes and cooks 5 dinners once a week. Weekends - we are solo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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How much does each cost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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May I ask what field? I am preg with my fourth and thinking of going back to work in a few months, but not sure I'd it's feasible. Even with help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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I had to get pm housekeeper/helper with 3rd. It really really depends on the age of the kids. I my kids where 10, 8, 5 and db then I and 1 nanny could handle. 3 kids under 4 are a different story [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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op. Did you WOH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Are you having twins? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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op. Yes. And I have a 3 yo and a 1 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Wow. Good luck. Sounds like you'll have a very full and hopefully happy home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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op. I am terrified. I am still in shock that I conceived twins, dr said it's because I'm older (40). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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Can you afford 2? If so it would be best for everyone. Even if one is part time and more of a housekeeper/helper (errands etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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