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[ - ] Yesterday, my cousin told me that her DH was thinking of buying a handgun for their apartment. I told her that I would like to know if they did end up keeping a gun in the house, because I probably wouldn't want my DC going over there in that case. Has anyone ever been in this situation? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:03 PM Flag
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You'd be surprised how many people have handguns in your home. People you never would have thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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OP: You don't think it's their responsibility to tell parents about it, given the statistics? I would also want to know if someone had a really aggressive attack dog at her house before allowing my kids there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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We refused to interact with in-laws until they showed us where and how they locked their weapons. Wish we had questioned them earlier because they had several other weapons we did not know about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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It depends on how they store it. In a safe taken apart, fine. Loaded in a drawer, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Men are so stupid. They should not marry women based on their looks alone as their children will inherit intelligence genes from their mothers. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:49 PM Flag
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Once I bought a pair of red pants but when I got home I realized that it was a mistake, that I would never wear red pants in public. I did wear them once, though, since it seemed like such a waste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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The original poster is correct, but most highly educated men are ALREADY following her advice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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Read "Coming Apart" The book clearly shows that highly educated men are rejecting the hot looking but stupid women when it comes time to marry and instead marrying women who are very similar to them in intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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Even post-child bearing years? [ Reply | More
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They think with the little head, not the big head. [ Reply | More
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Manhattan is filled with good looking ultra low IQ women ... these women have no trouble getting pumped and dumped but very much difficulty marrying at the level they want to marry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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You mean their sons will. Heritability in girls is more complex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Yes but men want smart sons more than they want smart daughters. As men who marry only for looks don't care about female intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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This is where Jews get it right - you never know who the father might be! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Am 40 weeks and all the names I think are cute for baby girls are not what I want for my DD as a woman. Sigh. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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Choose a good name fir a woman and find a super cute nickname. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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I like this! Thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] It's kind of sad. It was predominately African Americans that marched, protested, wrote, etc. for the civil rights that other groups have received the benefit of, yet it is African Americans that are being left behind as those other groups prosper. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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What other groups are you referencing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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I'm primarily speaking about other minority groups of color: Asians, Latinos, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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Things are a lot better than 1952. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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What other groups received the benefit from the civil rights movement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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Seriously? Affirmative action does not solely help African Americans. Diversity policies which give a leg up in terms of everything from government contracts to school admissions do not solely help African Americans----and all of this stems from civil rights legislature. Civil Rights legislature is the bedrock for so much of the equal access platform that our society is built upon-- all the way down to the idea that all students should have equal access to public school education which has helped not only other minority groups of color (example: in many parts of Texas and CA, Latino and Asian students could not attend the same schools as whites) BUT also students who are in special education programs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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You really cannot be serious. Truly, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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If you're talking about gay Americans, they are only beginning to get civil rights. If you're talking about women, there are still serious gender inequalities. So I have the same question as PP, who has benefited in a lopsided way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:49 PM Flag
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I mentioned above that I was primarily speaking about other groups of color. In regards to gays....you have to first be willing to stand up and be counted in order for any change to come about. People of color have the advantage of having visible presentation of their minority status. I will also say that much of the platform for access that gay activism is based upon stems from the rights garnered during the civil rights era---as many of the activists themselves acknowledge. In regards to the serious gender inequalities that are still present in our society----uhhh...there are also still serious racial inequalities. The legislature simply presents the starting point and an avenue from which to seek redress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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^ Again I was speaking about other minority groups of color, I was not referring to gays or women as the activist community for both groups has often overlapped with civil rights activism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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I ask that OP look at the socioeconomic data. Blacks that score high on the standardized tests are actually doing dramatically better than blacks were in the civil rights movement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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There is an overall bifurcation in our whole economy with high scorers earning dramatically more money than they used to and low scorers earning less. Affects all races [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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op: I acknowledge that...the problem is, how many blacks are scoring high on the standardized tests? 2% making it out while the 98% live dysfunctional lives is not a sign of progress. People either forget or don't know that in the African American community, there was ALWAYS a talented tenth (as Dubois called them). These are people that due to their familial and community support system were going to be successful no matter what concerns affected the majority of blacks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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Well, OP I agree with everything you said. However, the issues you cite are not really "black" issues. In all communities in America those children who score high on the standardized tests have much better life outcomes than those that score low. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:04 PM Flag
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Why should anyone, of any race, with low standardized test scores live in NYC? NYC is very expensive and very competitive. people with low test scores get low paying jobs and feel shitty about themselves. Low scoring people should move to less expensive, friendlier, less competitive places [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] This site is dead isn't it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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It definitely seems to be in its death throes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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too many trolls, mean people and it gets tiresome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I am literally capable of most anything. I want to start a business and be rich. I have no idea what business to start. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:41 PM Flag
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Let us know when you've decided. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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Banana stand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:08 PM Flag
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x 1000000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I sailed in the Caribbean and the people there are feral. I would never hire a Caribbean person to come to my home. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:34 PM Flag
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caribbean nannies! LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:34 PM Flag
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You sound delightful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:41 PM Flag
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Feral? Really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:41 PM Flag
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Yes. Feral. I wrote this originally elsewhere and this is the perfect word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:40 PM Flag
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Get back on your cruise ship, Trashy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:47 PM Flag
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Sounds like that's the only place you've met Caribbean folks, on your trashy cruise where they have a fake plastic smile as you waddle off the boat. The people who live on the islands are rude, mean, pissed off, and violent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:44 PM Flag
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All of them. Every single one? And you think you are a cut above anyone somehow? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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My family is from there and we're not feral thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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Here are the islands I've been to: Bahamas (about 16 islands including the major ones), Cuba, Haiti/Dominican Republic, all US Virigin Islands (inhabited), all British Virgin Islands (inhabited), Bermuda (though not technically Caribbean), St. Barth's, St. Maarten (French and Dutch sides), Saba, Anguilla, Antigua, St. Vincent, Guadeloupe, all major Grenadine Islands, the A-B-C islands, Margarita Islands. So, yes, I do know much about the weather, the summertime, and the feral nastiness of the inhabitants who hate visitors and tourism yet suckle from its teat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:11 PM Flag
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Why do you go to so many if you think so little of the people? FWIW my family is not from any of those islands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] HRAAAAAAAAAAK!!!! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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Greetings magic penguin!! Have a herring and take a load off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:31 PM Flag
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Tough day with the kids. Need something a bit stronger than that!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:27 PM Flag
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Herringarita? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:33 PM Flag
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Smeltini? Tuna & tonic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:29 PM Flag
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Bass-hopper! [ Reply | More
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Nice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:37 PM Flag
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Dark & fishy? Bloody herring? [ Reply | More
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HRAK-AND-TAN? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:40 PM Flag
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White Puffin? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:39 PM Flag
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Or a Hraaak Russian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] How often do you wear the same outfit to work? Not sure how often I should put the same outfit in rotation and feel like I need to buy more clothes. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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Not more than once every 2 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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Every two weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:41 PM Flag
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Do you change it up a little with a new accessory or new shoes? Or is it the same exact outfit? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:36 PM Flag
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Pretty much exactly the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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In the fall semester, I wore 2 pairs of pants the whole time. Mostly one pair, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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This 100% depends on the industry you work in. You could wear the same suit every day and people would not notice as long as you changed the shirt. if it's business casual and you're not in fashion or something creative where how you dress is supposed to "say something" about you as a part of that industry then just don't repeat the same exact outfit in one week. you can wear the same pants, skirts with different tops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Once a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm giving my desktop computer to someone. How do I wipe it totally clean so that the new user can start fresh? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:21 PM Flag
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Anyone? I can do it one thing at a time, but wondering if there is a faster and easier way to go about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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I would tke it to Tekserv. They know how to do it. PCs come with software to revert it back to the original desktop but I'd want all my information removed by a professional. Unles of Course you are giving it to say your parents or your dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do I give for a confirmation? We went to her Sweet 16 party months ago and spent over $500 on a gift. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:06 PM Flag
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That is nuts. $50 for confirmation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:03 PM Flag
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they are really close family friends who spent as much for dd's Bat Mitzvah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:09 PM Flag
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That is crazy too. A confirmation usually doesn't have the same kind of crazy party as a bat mitzvah. You guys must be loaded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:09 PM Flag
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$1500 sounds right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:11 PM Flag
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I can't give more than last time, but I don't want to seem cheap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:08 PM Flag
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I don't care how rich you are - 500$ for a 16YO birthday is beyond OTT if it's not your own child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:11 PM Flag
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Lol. Just give her a blank check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:14 PM Flag
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$50 - $75 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:24 PM Flag
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Isn't confirmation at 14? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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12 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:41 PM Flag
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$100 sound right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:35 PM Flag
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*sounds* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:36 PM Flag
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op: going with this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:37 PM Flag
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That is a very nice gift and $50 for a teenager is still a nice amount of money esp if the child is not a niece or nephew or say the dc of a very close friend. I would have been delighted with 50 for my confirmation. I would be happy if someone gave me a $50 gift now and I am 33. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:02 PM Flag
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Perfect amount [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:38 PM Flag
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Why is she getting confirmed at 16? Isn't it 14? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I started texting with a guy from online an he offered to send me a naked photo. I said no thanks and accused me of being dirty because he meant a fully clothed photo. Then he sent a naked pic anyway. Can I report him to the site? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:57 PM Flag
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Just block him. [ Reply | More
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How do I block a cell phone number? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:11 PM Flag
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Won't do much. Ignore him/block him, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:55 PM Flag
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Men suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag
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Prude, when I first asked you said cool. You owe me a picture now....not going away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:05 PM Flag
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Ignore. If he keeps bothering you then do it. He is a creep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ever have a nanny who kidnapped the kids and held them for ransome? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag
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THAT'S FUCKED UP!!....why, you thinking of it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:38 PM Flag
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No. Someone told me it happened to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:47 PM Flag
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Stop driving yourself crazy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:49 PM Flag
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No it didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag
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Didn't someone on here post about that happening to her family member many years ago? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:53 PM Flag
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My friend's nanny threatened to kill her children with knives and dropped one down a staircase when they were only 3 years old. She was operating under a false identity. It was a NIGHTMARE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:57 PM Flag
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Where did this happen? And when? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag
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Tri state area, about 10 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:00 PM Flag
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Arrested? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:56 PM Flag
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Nope. Someone told the mom in secret that she was insane and she would kill them both if they ever spoke about it. She disappeared after robbing the house the next day. There was no record of her identity anywhere. The kids were too young to tell their parents but shared the details when they were a few years older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag
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How did thy find this gem? Did she have any papers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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I have no idea. Probably not. I would never call her out on it because the abuse devastated their family, but I wonder why mom (WOH, full time) didn't put more work into screening her. Apparently they got her from an "agency." Seems a little irresponsible on their part, since I remember the nanny and something was very off about her-dreads down to her hips and friend always complained about how she wore her clothes and asked for $ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:36 PM Flag
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This sounds fake. [ Reply | More
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or: I wish it was. Would never make up something like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Starting domperidone today to boost my breastmilk supply. Would love to hear from other moms here who took it. Was it successful for you? How long until you saw results? How much of a boost in supply did you see? TIA. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag
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Just don't flop that shit out in public... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:31 PM Flag
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Omg! [ Reply | More
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OH-MY-GOD... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:36 PM Flag
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AhhhHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag
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Plop a tit in there quick ^^^^ [ Reply | More
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ha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:51 PM Flag
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Dom perignon worked for me [ Reply | More
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*hic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:39 PM Flag
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My husband is a pediatric specialist and he wouldn't agree to let me try that due to how it is not regulated by the FDA and not studied extensively for adverse effects to mom and baby. I have heard a lot of anecdotal great stories about increased supply--but be careful. [ Reply | More
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I used Mother's milk tea and that was a minor boost. Keep at it [ Reply | More
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Is DB not satisfied, or are you judging your supply on the pump? [ Reply | More
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Never tried it; just tried fenugreek. Not sure if it helped tho. I just wanted to wish you good luck but if it does not work please be kind to yourself - absolutely nothing to feel guilty about if it (bfing) doesn't work [ Reply | More
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what issues are you having? Is baby latching on and eating well? gaining? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag
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I took it. IT worked great and I didn't have to take as much as they recommend. It did give me a headache for the first 2 days or so. It was amazing. I never had to worry about supply again, so no more stress about breastfeeding. [ Reply | More
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I think it took about 2-3 days to kick in also. I woke up one day completely engorged and was able to pump about 1.5 times the amount I did before. [ Reply | More
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Once it kicks in, you can adjust the dosage to suit your needs. If I took the recommended amount, I would be a walking milk factory, so I think I just needed one or two per day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] My friend invited me out to dinner for tonight. She said she had a reservation for 12 and when I aske her what time she gave me the info and five min later said someone else invited another person and I'm no longer invited but I should come after for drinks. I just said no thanks and she said okay. And dh is having a boys night. I'm also pregnant which is why I dot want to go for just drinks. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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wtf. who uninvites someone? this "friend" isn't behaving in a very friend-like manner. [ Reply | More
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This! This friend is a douche [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag
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She invited me to the dinner days ago though. It was very hurtful. And I would have been DD and have a large car. Probably wouldn't have stayed out until 4am, but would have eliminated several taxi rides for half the group. [ Reply | More
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OR - if it were me, I'd ditch her as a friend, permanently. She is not a good person. [ Reply | More
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag
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Your "friend" is horrible. I have actually never heard of that before. So classless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:28 PM Flag
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How rude!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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She's not your friend. You're better than that - find new friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:25 PM Flag
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Ditch this witch! Or put her on blast on fb. What a jerk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag
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Post an unflattering picture of her on FB! And tag it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:23 PM Flag
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You know how to get under her skin. She's a photo nazi and it would only last two seconds and she would never approve it lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:32 PM Flag
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She is terrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:25 PM Flag
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Really?...Cut ties with this "friend"...Wow, not even a little bit cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:34 PM Flag
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Like everyone else, I say she was not acting like a friend, more like a bitch real housewife. Do you know why she did that? Do you not get along with newly invited person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:34 PM Flag
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I don't know most of the other invitees. I'm not sure. I am hurt. She invited me days ago so I gave dh the green light to go out with guys. Now I'm alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:49 PM Flag
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Sorry. (gotta get this bitch back, snarf) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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Dude, she's a bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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Bullet dodged. Remove her from your life and don't look back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag
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Very uncouth. Dump her. Do something fun for yourself tonight - man/ped, movie, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:20 PM Flag
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ITA with other posters- she is not a friend. Hopefully you don't ever have to speak with her again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:20 PM Flag
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she doesn't have basic social decency and clearly clueless about her horrifying behavior. dump her now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Growing up, father was in and out of my life for years at a time starting when I was seven. He never paid any child support and had really bad drinking problems. Long story short, I haven't seen him since I was twenty, which was a little less than ten years ago. He left a message on my phone that he's going to be in NYC in two weeks and would like to have lunch. If he actually just wants to meet and maybe slowly ease back into a relationship, I think I might like that, but I have a feeling that he just wants money. It hurt a lot growing up with out a father and I've worked very hard to get myself where I am financially and I don't think that he is entitled to any of that. My mom, who I was very close with died last year and sometimes it's sad for me not having either parent in my life anymore. Should I chance it and go to lunch with him or is he just a waste of my time at this point? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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go to lunch, but have low expectations [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag
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I would go with the full intention of closure and saying, no... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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Agree with others. Go, but hold your ground if he lets you down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag
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+1 On all above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:35 PM Flag
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Can you talk to him before going out to lunch, and straight out ask him why he wants to do this after all these years? then if he says that he wants to make amends, go with him, but if he hems and haws and you feel that he just wants something (money), you can say no and not set yourself up to be disappointed. I hope you are not disappointed though. xo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag
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No, you should meet with him. It's worth the chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:55 PM Flag
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You might be pleasantly surprised that he wants nothing from you, but be careful about being set up for the long con as well. I have parents like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:38 PM Flag
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My story has some parallels and I am no longer in contact with my father. He was very cold and did not wish to make contact. Therefore, if this was me and he made an effort to want to see me now, although I have no interest in him I would wonder what brought this on. You never know, he could be ill and want to apologise for being an absent father. I would agree to meet but like other posters have said, have low expectations, be prepared to say no to money requests, and be ready to say goodbye. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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I think he is a waste of your time. Even if he was genuine in his desire to reconnect, he will still be a beggar at your table. Trying to get someone he couldn't manage to love or nurture to feel something positive for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:26 PM Flag
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