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[ - ] When you attend a party, what's the minimum amount of time you can stay before it's considered rude to leave? The party is an adult's birthday. No kids in attendance. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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You can tell the host you are double-booked and are trying to make both events so will just stop by for a short time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm sorry to bring this up, but just saw a tweet about how NYC small high schools (recently found to have better results) "cream" students so results meaningless. All these criticisms that schools (like SA) only do well because they "cream" is a HUGE acknowledgement that peer effects on learning are HUGE. And yet there is NO tracking in public schools because ed researchers insist that mixed-ability classrooms don't harm high performing kids and help low-performing kids. So which is it? If schools get results by separating out motivated kids, then shouldn't ALL schools be doing this??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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Education is a scarce resource and unless you are a public school who is forced to take all comers, you can be selective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Each NYC high school has selection criteria and you can find that at schools.nyc.gov. But the kids they choose are not always the kids they end up with. The schools can send in the list of kids they want but ultimately it is some computer that makes the final decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] 14 year old DD says she HATES her 12 year old sister. I need useful, helpful advice on how to make through this already rocky period. It's hurtful to me to hear one child say they hate the other and to know that's actually how she's feeling and I'm scared they may both actually feel this way and that if may never change. This isn't how I imagined their relationship playing out. TIA. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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We've been through this with my 7yo feeling this way towards her 5yo sister. I try to make her look at how she would feel if her sister said / felt those things. Try to show her through empathy. Also, don't make them be together, establish special relationships with each of them separately and once things are smooth, then try to join a few things. Bottom line, don't force it, try to let the repair happen organically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Why does she dislike her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP: Younger one is not as neat, leaves clothes laying around. That's the biggest pain point. Younger one also not as athletically gifted and doesn't make as good as grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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np: Is your older daughter overly dramatic? Why does she care about her sister's grades and athletic ability? How do you respond when this comes up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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YOunger child should be taught to respect her sisters space and realize that alhtough they are sisters, their are boundaries. my ds tells little one to get out of his room all the time. lil one can be a pain because he is so cute and cuddly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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What is the problem, exactly? Is there a reason as to why they don't get along other than regular sibling rivalry stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Please don't let it bother you. My sister and I said things like this, and now, as adults we are each other's best friends. Insist that everyone be civil, but do not insist on them being friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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+1. My sister (4 years older) and I hated each other until I was out of college. Now we're best friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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Tell her she doesn't have to like her but she has to be respectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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+1 My sister, brother, and I never liked each other. And we definitely hated each other as teenagers. We still don't get along well and don't spend time together except at holidays & birthdays with our parents. But we are polite and pleasant when we have to be together, because our parents wouldn't accept less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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Great example. OP, they probably do had a fundamental personality conflict and it may very well never change. So try to eliminate talk of like/love/hate and focus on basic human decency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Did you read SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY? I liked that book! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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I can't remember ever feeling I hated my sister, but it definitely took until well into our adult years before we became friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] If I live 2.8 miles from Anderson (UES), do you think my DC will get a yellow bus pickup? I know they say they will do a yellow bus or a Metrocard, but I can't imagine doing the 40 min+ 4 times a day, every day. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Anderson parents have private bus routes I think. Or carpool or vans or what have you. Call the school I'm sure they can help you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Huh? The citywide public school? That's on the UWS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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between .5 miles and 5 miles in the same borough gets a bus, so, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Chubby? 5'4" and 150 pounds 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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not by much - maybe 20 pounds depending on your frame/body type? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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LMAO .. I agree with you but I like how you say "not by much" before suggesting she lose 13% of her weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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well put in that way I agree 20 lbs sounds like a lot more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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I would say so - I'm 5'4 and 136 and I definitely feel chubby :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Same height as you and I look decent at 145 so no, you're prob. looking good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Not really. I am 5'10" and 160 and think I look generally OK. I used to hover just under 140 and I think I was too thin. I also have NO boobs, so the weight is in my gut and my butt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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You're 6 inches taller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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obese - 5' 8'' 185lbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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op: I'm actually 5'8" and 130 - living in the Midwest - and think the above is chubby. Lingering debate from yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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what are your measurements? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I love Halloween. Looking for spooky stories to read or listen to! (like Jezebel usually has a post of spooky stories). Any advice on where to look? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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go to reddit and look for their subreddit "creepypasta stories" it has all the infamous internet ghost stories [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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I like true stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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some think its true. and there are things on there about murders etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What are you wearing today? Please also describe what kind if coat/jacket and boots or shoes. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Jeans, blouse, flats, parka shawl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Lululemon pants, lane Bryant tee shirt, flip flops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Black skirt, black tights, blouse, oxfords, rain parka. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Black skinny jeans, knitted socks I made when I was crafty because I'm always cold, knee high boots, V-neck tee, scarf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Cords, t-shirt, cardigan, ballet fllats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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White shorts and pink linen shirt. No shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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Crisp white button down, black/gray grandpa cardigan, black skinny jeans, black & ivory flats. Wore DH's Columbia raincoat today as mine was at the cleaners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Black leather Band of Outsiders bomber jacket, Supergas, gray sweatshirt and Current/Elliot jeans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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DVF dress, ballet flats, black tights. Freezing my tush off though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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This dress https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/dresses/cocktail/PRDOVR~11102/11102.jsp, brown cardigan for now, brown tights, brown booties. Wildly regretting the whole outfit right now. Coat: Burberry trench, Bag: J Crew Downing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] What does PITA stand for? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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Pain In The A$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Pain in the ass. Really you've never heard this before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a DC in 2nd grade in Catholic school with a Sept 15th birthday. It seems all the schools want us to have him repeat 2nd, because he missed the Sept 1 cutoff? He's doing well in school, should we just wait til Middle School? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 10.23.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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They want you to repeat because he would be the youngest by far and would not be competitive with his classmates. His classmates will also hit puberty earlier so he'll be a year behind in Middle School. I'd stick with the program if you want him to succeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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NO! They will never forgive you if you wait until then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Do what they want you to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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ITD -- do what's right for your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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She thinks she knows better than the school about what is right for her child but she may be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Or she may be right. The school will also get an extra year of tuition out of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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She said "all schools" want to do this so I guess her judgment is better than everyone elses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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No , I mean should we keep him in his current school and try to apply in Middle school, so he won't have to repeat any grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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It will be harder for him to compete against other children who are a year older but if you think that's best, do as you will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD wants a north face back back. Tacky? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Chuckling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Presumably she has seen other people at school with a North Face backpack and wants one too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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You should teach your daughter how you should never worry about what other people do or think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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What's wrong with Northface? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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black people like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Ridiculous. In California plenty of people of every color wear north face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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i agree its ridic but i bet that's the problem OP has. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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North face and coach are brands for the poors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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What about Patagonia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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So pitiful. Wear what you want and have some confidence in yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I know I can google recipe but I want a your take on the tastiest and quickest pork chops. TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Drizzle olive oil in the bottom of a baking dish. Sprinkle with salt & pepper. Lay the pork chops down in the dish. Surround with chopped root vegetables. Drizzle with more olive oil and sprinkle more salt & pepper. Bake in the oven for 30-40 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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Thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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at 375 degrees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Leaving corporate life to go contractor in a few months. Waited till now because the house is empty all day and I can actually work! Would have been hard with babies/toddlers/preschoolers. Excited. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Gl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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Thank you! Have been working hard at work or parenting (only little kids so far) all my adult life and exited to try something new. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel bad for my kids that I'm so bad at crafts and sewing. There are going to be so many awesome, homemade Halloween costumes at their schools next Friday! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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I'm sure you won't be the only one buying a costume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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They aren't going to notice. And the store-bought costumes are much better than they used to be. Remember the plastic masks and robes?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Yes, I remember too, that the "robes" were also made of plastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Honestly, I made costumes over the years and DD didn't really care. It was more about me than her (the fun of me doing it). This year she is going in a non-homemade custom and is perfectly happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Oh they'll notice alright--some of the costumes are really incredible. I wish I had a creative bone in my body! Just the patience to put together an elaborate costume would be nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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the best homemade costumes i have seen were clever rather than elaborate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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+1 the more elaborate ones just make you look like a total helicopter mom IMHO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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You can always accessorize, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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The ability to accessorize is what sets us apart from the animals, my love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Christmas gift ideas for DC 16 yo girl, 15 yo boy, 11 yo girl and 7yo boy? TIA 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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Car, motorcycle, laptop, iPhone. (j/k) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Love this. [ Reply | More ]
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*Motorcycle, car, laptop, iPhone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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You are j/k but probably on the mark for what they would say. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Ask them! They are all old enough to tell you exactly what the want. You can also give them some catalogs (or the internet) and ask them to make a wish list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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I know but I love a good surprise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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But do they? Surprises miss the mark about 90% of the time and end up being a waste of money. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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What do they like? What is your budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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16 yo DD likes sports, as does 15 yo DS, 10 yo DD is a girly-girl and 7 yo likes all boy toys like cars and Legos but he seems to have all that stuff. Budget is flexible -willing to spend for something special [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the most obscure thing you know about DH- his past, his preferences, etc? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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I'll start. His favorite font is Calibri 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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My DH likes to randomly (like when I'm cooking) pull at my nipples and say pew pew pew like a little boy pretending to shoot at a video game. He's otherwise pretty normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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LOL! My DH (and every man I've dated before) comes at my breasts with crab-hands and a crazed look in his eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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I could never be with a guy like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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big fan of ComicSans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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I like Times New Roman in the street, Wingdings in the sheets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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+1 Calibri is the worst. There are so many good, readable fonts out there - who is lazy enough to just settle for the first default font? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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OP: It's not even settling, it's his actual favorite. You probably won't be surprised to hear his favorite sexual position is missionary and his favorite ice cream flavor is vanilla (both of which are also true). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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My guy likes Verdana 10 and Arial 11. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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When he gets out of the shower he moves his d1ck like an helicopter rotor blade and says "helicopter d!ck, helicopter d1ck"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Haha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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Not helicopter mom. it's Helicopter D!ck Mom ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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he still has his teddy bear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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Awww :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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he is a 6'1, 240 lbs surgeon. NO ONE would believe this, but its adorable. [ Reply | More ]
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When rinsing after brushing his teeth, he uses his fingers to hold his lips closed. I have no idea why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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He gets really excited about the gallon jugs of super cheap, overly sweet fruit punch. I didn't know this until I bought some to use as a mixer for a cocktail. And he's right: it's freaking delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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The professor from X-Men is the reason he originally wanted to get his PhD, and, if he had to pick a super power, it would be empathy/emotional control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Name some articles of clothing (along with the brand) that are very nice/good quality without seeming the least bit tacky or obnoxious 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Uniqlo. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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Allegri trench coat, Acne boots, Splendid T shirts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Hanes underwear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] There's so much bad advice on here about getting into schools. I wonder how much is ignorance, and how much deliberate misinformation? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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Most of it comes from bored flyover moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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You seem like you have an inflated sense of self-importance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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She likes to feel geographically superior and is shocked that people from other parts of the country have taken slots at top schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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How does someone living in Ohio take a slot at Dalton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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The moms are from flyover and moved here. Isn't that what she's talking about? How else could they give advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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np: I think moms who currently live in flyover are giving advice based on what they have read here. There is a lot of role-playing on the internet when forums are anonymous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Oh, get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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As opposed to advice from NYC legacies? What good would that be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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nyc mom here. please stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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like what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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All over the place. For example the response below that kids "stand out" somehow when they're 2/3. No, the PSD is looking for the right families. If the kid is within a broad band of normal, then the family makes all the difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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np- what do you think makes the "right" kind of family? (generally speaking, I know from school or school this could vary) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Wealthy, well-educated, onboard with the school's program, connected (mostly to weed-out PITAs), "safe" diversity, likely to donate/volunteer, seem to fit the desired culture of the community. Families with more of these traits have significantly better chances of getting-in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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I don't think most pre-schools ask where (or even if) the parents went to college, correct? Just wondering how the schools are able to measure wealth/education unless you have a highly recognizable last name... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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And the idea that connections somehow don't matter during the admissions process, just b/c somebody once knew a family that didn't get-in even though they knew a board member. Connections matter A LOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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