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[ - ] What does the spare in spare ribs mean? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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It means the cow/pig didn't need them anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Took me less than 10 seconds to find the answer to this with Google. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] last night I ordered 1 calzone and 2 salads and it was $36. Doesn't that seem like a lot of money for a small pizza place? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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But it's NEW YAHWK THE GREATEST CITY IN THE WULD! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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Bitter bitter bitter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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That does seem excessive. Was this a giant calzone for 3 or 4 people to share and big, gourmet salads, or what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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no. 2 small regular salads and the calzone was for 2 people. I won't order from there again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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No, not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Depends on where and how big. But yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have guidance on ps 166 g&t versus ps 87? thanks for any advice! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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166 parent. We have people who have chosen it over 87. Pros- all g&t in the class (usually 99 or 98) so higher median Cons commute and friends from all over UWS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] I really think that rich people that complain about life are such whiners/cry babies; unless it is a pretty serious health issue money can solve anything these days. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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right? should i buy my pied-a-terre in manhattan or paris, i can't decide ugh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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np- no really. my full time housekeeper drinks my diet cokes. What do I say to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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If you're worried about the cost of diet coke, you're not that rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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#FirstWorldProblems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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#FirstWorldProblems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Maybe you should get off this site then as that's pretty much what we're here to discuss. You'll just end up feeling annoyed and frustrated like 95% of the time and then giving angry, unhelpful "advice". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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How rich is rich in your opinion is the cut-off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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NP- I've always thought this was such a good question when people complain about "rich people"- does it just mean people richer than you? Or is there some sort of objective definition we're using here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Why couldn't it be inclusive of you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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It could be, but usually when people are complaining about "rich people", they aren't complaining about themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP millions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Assets or investments? Two or hundreds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Np, if you have any millions you are rich. You are in the very top percent of earners in the whole world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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+1 i really do not understand why some rich people do not use their $ to make their life easier (like hiring more help) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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It's adorable that you think money makes problems go away. Money makes SOME problems go away, but it also brings with it other problems, and other problems are completely unrelated to money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Any laundry experts on? I absentmindedly threw my 5 pastel/white colored blouses and shirts into the laundry along with 3 black pantsm underwear and sweaters. Result: all light colored clothes have dark gray patches and I am upset. My best white blouse has a black-grayish smudge below the armpit area. Is there any way to fix this or should I just give up and buy another white shirt? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Soak in oxyclean for 4-6 hours, really works! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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should i use hot or cold water when soaking? I pulled the clothes out of the dryer yesterday morning. Is it too late? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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np: It is most likely too late. Once you subject stains to heat like a dryer or iron, it tends to lock in the stain. Give it a shot, but don't hold your breath. You can also try those color absorbing sheets that you throw in the washer. Wash the light clothes again with a color absorbing sheet and see if that takes out any of the residual dye. Again, because you already put the clothes in the dryer, they are probably ruined, but the only thing you have to lose is money buying the sheets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Sadly, I have to agree. Once heat has been applied a stain is usually set. But try soaking in an enzyme solution (Biz, Oxyclean). Or bleach the truly white clothes--don't use too much or you'll have shredded fabric. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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Warm, don't give up, have seen some miracles! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think the key is to raising a child to have self-confidence? I worry that my Fourth Grader is starting to focus on what he is not good at rather than those things at which he excels. Don't want an arrogant kid but I do want him to have high self-esteem. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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NP: Id' love to know the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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+1 watching this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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When he does focus on what he's "not" good at, don't automatically dismiss that or deflect with "well, you're good at xyz!" Instead, help him point out the path to get better at those things he's worried about, focusing on the small steps along that path that he IS good at (and how he got good at those things - was it time? or practice?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Hell if I know. I think my mom did everything right, and I struggle enormously with confidence. I have been successful, but feel like it is all a fraud. Sometimes, it's just a matter of character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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this is really common among high achieving people, it's called Imposter Syndrome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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With my kids, i just try to teach that everyone has skills and weaknesses. One person's skills in an area dont make them better than someone else. The good athlete might be bad a chess. The good reader bad at math. No one is great across the board. If their deficit in an area bothers them they should work on it. If it doesnt it is OK to be mediocre in that area. Just teach them not to be a sad sack or a doormat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Praise effort not results [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Over the past month, three times, I've come down with what I believe is a head cold. Symptoms come on quickly (stuffed nose, sore throat, stuffed ears), peak and then dissipate completely. Honestly, I'm better for five days and then, the cycle starts again. My mother keeps saying it's allergies but they don't usually take this course, right? I thought the symptoms are more stagnant. wdyt? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Allergies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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+1 sounds like my symptoms. Allegra is a must for me this time of year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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I've had the same thing, and have been thinking it's allergies as well. The symptoms this year are more similar to a cold for me as well, but since it comes and goes and nobody else in my house has "caught" it, I deduced allergies. Plus, everyone keeps saying how horrible pollen is this year - so could make sense that the symptoms are that much worse this year than in past? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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op. exactly same situation here. i'm the only one who keeps coming down with the mystery illness. just still strikes me as strange that the course the illness takes seems like a viral illness. i'll be totally symptom free for a few days and then, it all gradually rears up again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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My dd's allergies are different every spring. So yes, it sounds like allergies. Try the neti-pot. It really helps clear the sinuses out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Sounds like allergies to me. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Nest+M or Riverdale for K? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Yikes. Where do you live??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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NEst [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Ethical Culture/Fieldston Diversity-Affinity Group experiment. Yes, it sounds messy and segregating BUT isn't the point of combating prejudices that it's going to be uncomfortable? Since when is having discussions a bad thing. In every other context, parents and educators always stress the importance of talking things through and having open discussions, so why not try it this way. If it fails, then it fails, but the current status quo of most schools of not discussing it all to purportedly achieve colorblindness is not working. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.28.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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What exactly is not working, besides self hating whites apologizing profusely for the color of their own skin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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OP, ILY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Read something about this in New York magazine. Sounds like a good plan to me based on what I read, and it makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Worthy of an experiment but sounds weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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I think the white and asian kids should say that the problem they have with black kids is the lower bar for affirmative action, and the fact that so many black kids are screwed up criminals. See how that goes over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I have the greatest daughter in the world. She is very smart and has such a dry sense of humor. She is so resilient and has over come so much 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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How old is she? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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What has she overcome? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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What has she overcome? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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wait until she gets married... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] ISO wedding gift advice. Have not been to one in awhile. Now going to one for younger coworker of DH. Coworker considers DH a mentor. While not on same team, they are very friendly. Giving cash. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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What is your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Oops, sorry. How much should we give in cash? $200? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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why not just give a gift from their registry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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registry is nearly full and DH knows that cash would be appreciated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Why cash? Is this a ganstah wedding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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Oy. The young couple is paying for about half the wedding. DH also knows that they have student loans. Believes they will appreciate/use the cash rather than a third set of mixing bowls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Tbh they are better off not spending on a wedding. Don't believe in the cover your plate cash money mentality [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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That's because the people in your circle all had and have their weddings paid for by other people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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No, it's a wedding that is taking place after 1978. I'm sure you think you're doing the right thing by bringing a blender as a wedding gift but that's not how we do it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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300-500 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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this - if nyc wedding 500 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Wth?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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I got married 14 yrs ago and the gift from coworkers was about 250-300 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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I got married 14 yrs ago and the gift from coworkers was about 250-300 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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We give $500 for coworkers. More for friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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We give $500 for coworkers. More for friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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$200-$300 depending on your budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] How many of you think about the person you'll want to be 10 years from now and try to put things in place now to get there? I feel like the vast majority of people I know just do what they want to do today or tomorrow or next month and then they're 55 year olds who get laid off or divorced or injured and then look around saying - oh no, what should I do now!! 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Good question! I am 39 yrs old now and am in a place where I need to figure out how to cement myself for future opportunities. I'd love to know how some of my peers get elected to Board of Directors, etc. I am just a small law firm attorney, married in suburbia. I have already achieved some financial security (got my 8 month emergency fund like Suze Orman suggested), and I contribute 15% of my paycheck toward my 401K. But professionally, I am stuck (my firm is in house and I cant really lateral to other firms because my health benefits right now are so amazing pays 90% of medical bills- theres no way I would get these benfits unless I went to BigLaw which I refuse to do). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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OP: I'm also 39 living in the burbs and have been elected to two Boards in the past 18 months or so. A lot of it is just about making yourself available. I work with not-for-profits. I can't tell you how many dozens and dozens of them are desperate to get a young attorney on their Board. No, it's not a college or a hospital or the Met, but I guarantee there are 10 organizations within 30 minutes of your house that would throw you a parade if you contacted them to see how you could get more involved as a volunteer and ultimately a Board member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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PP: I would love to know how!!! What type of organizations? I really am not active AT ALL with my local bar associations. I think I am a member of the NY State Bar but only for discounts on CLE. I was a member of the NYC Bar Assoc'n but my law firm transferred me to their satellite office in NY Surburbs so I dont commute into NYC anymore. The local county bar assoc'n has crazy high dues (like $ 500/yr because I graduated law school in 2000). Not sure where to even learn about these Boards?? Is there a MeetUp group set up for this stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Super easy. Start with something you're into. Music, art, hiking, archery, early childhood reading, food banks, whatever. There is bound to be an organization around your area that is working on something of interest to you. Check them out, read their 990 on guidestar to make sure they're not totally full of shit, then just reach out and ask to volunteer your legal services. That will give a great sense of if they have their shit together or not, if they have a process to bring you in. See what you think, see how you like working with them, and after a few months or a year drop a hint that you'd like to serve on the Board. It's very much like dating. You start slow and see how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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It's painfully obvious that this is op having a conversation with herself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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PP: actually no. But thanks for the advice. I actually do have a hobby (music, I was a piano performance minor in college). Maybe I cam do something with that. I just dont care much for doing legal services (my firm doesnt allow it actually unless its labelled as pro bono). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Yeah, of course it will be pro-bono. Of course you're not getting paid as a volunteer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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I didn't give you advice. I said it was obvious you are the op. No advice anywhere in my post, op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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So it sounds like you're feeling a bit superior this morning. Are you just surrounding yourself with friends that you really don't like or respect...or are you upset about something in your own life and just lashing out a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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NP: Wow. Projecting much? I didnt get that vibe from OP at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Perhaps I put too much tone in it...but her last sentence seemed a bit snide, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I'll admit to being a touch snide. Because I see a lot of people my age and older just kind of dicking around with no direction and no focus and no idea of what they're trying to accomplish, which is just fine for them. But then they get to be in their mid 50s or 60s and crave sympathy when they find themselves in a bad spot. And yes, I do think of these people - I feel bad for you, but I don't have sympathy for the fact that you didn't spend the time to put the right things in place for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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You sound horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Well, I guess I see this type of thing in friends too who don't plan for the future incredibly well. But it doesn't bother me. I like them for who they are and they'll figure their crap out at some point. They're not asking to move in with me or to try to get me to pay for their dinners out. I guess I just don't understand why you'd devote time to being frustrated with them. Enjoy their personalities if you truly like them. If you don't, then let them go. But it just seems fairly judgy to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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I pretty much am the person I want to be 10 years from now (though I couldn't have said the same 10 years ago). Hoping to still grow, learn and adapt, of course, and keep saving money in preparation for the time when I can no longer work. Maybe it's because I got married and had kids in my late 30s that I'm not really in a "panic" mode about growing old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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I prefer to live and enjoy the now while financially preparing for the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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You can't control the future...divorce/injury happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Right. But you can control whether your a 55 year old with no recent work history or a 55 year old with a graduate degree and a professional network if you do get divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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A lot of that is irrelevant. You have absolutely NO CLUE. Let me guess: you are way younger than 55! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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OP said she is 39. I am also 39 and I dont think she is cluless at all. I think some people do live like Peter Pan. I know a college classmate who spent 15 years bouncing from job to job as a waitress/low management at restaurant chains in NY, FL and CA. Finally comes to NY to "settle down" and from age 30-40 becomes a SAHM and decides she wants to do a grad degree in early 40s but lacks stamina to complete GRE/GMAT/LSAT/etc so takes another dead end job and is complacent..I think this is the scenario that lends itself to finding a person reach age 55, have something like illness/divorce happen and no idea how to cope. I fear this becausee I recently had a cancer scare and now I guard my job with its full time health benefits like I guard my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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And this is the person who will be craving sympathy from everyone she knows when she has to rent a one bedroom apartment 15 years from now, telling everyone how its just "not fair". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Having excellent work experience and a graduate degree and professional network is no guarantee of a job at 55, either. I can think of many people who are out of the workforce at 50 and can't get back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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NP: I think OP sounds like the type of person who, while making some smart decisions and being responsible, has also gotten quite lucky in life. She hasn't had any missteps as far as she's concerned and considers this entirely due to her actions. It makes her feel better about herself to believe that everyone else who runs into trouble is just making the wrong decisions. She's safe that way. Random things can't go wrong to her...she makes the right decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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OP: I can sort of see how that might come across, but no, I've certainly made bad decisions. But you're right, I haven't made any giant missteps because I don't put myself in a position where a mistake is going to lead to awful consequences. I get that some people get sick, or have family who gets sick. That is a completely unforseeable problem. But honestly - am I lucky that I didn't marry a kind of an asshole guy 10 years older than me who already had preteen kids and then quit my job to have two kids in rapid succession with him, only to be divorced after five years of marriage? Is that bad luck or a bad decision? Is it luck that I work all day, then come home and take online courses to rack up enough pre-requisites so that I can move into a more stable and family friendly career instead of spending my days at PTO meetings and Jamberry parties? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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I would be fine if you were just worried about yourself and making your own great decisions. Where you lose me and start to sound smug is when you focus so much on others (supposed friends) and their missteps. We all don't have the same experience in life. Try to be more gracious with others and less self-congratulatory about yourself. If you really dislike these people, please stop hanging out with them. I would hate it if someone like you stayed in my circle despite having a very serious dislike for me because I didn't make the 'right' life decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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But isnt this all of us? Tahts why the saying goes "While men make plans, God laughs". and "Life is what happens when you are busy making plans." This is universal. But we should at least plan to be in control of the things we CAN control (like our finances, our career choice, how we spend our time, etc). Everything else is just up to chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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I'd love to plan 10 years down the line, but like many people while we live within our means, every dollar is pretty much accounted for (401k, 529, vacation budget, etc.) Career-wise, I am already very senior, although I have started thinking about my next act and how best to accomplish it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Most people I know seem to have a pretty clear idea of where they see themselves in ten years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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I think about this all of the time. Sometimes I think I worry about the future too much and have a hard time enjoying the present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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I think most people believe if they work hard at the present the future will work out. I'm a planner so I always have a 5 yr plan but I know I'm rare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] My local paper has a section called "Promotions/New Jobs: see who's moving up" which showcases local residents going to new companies, appointed to board of directors, etc. Every couple of months I see the same 2 or 3 real estate agencies with at least 10 new faces being highlighted. Century21 alone has 8 new women as "sales agents". At least 5 of these ladies have zero real estate background (one was a DJ in a radio station).. Can someone explain what the appeal is for anyone to go into Real Estate Sales and why so many agencies keep hiring non-experienced people? The real estate in my area isnt even Manhattan or Park Ave so what gives? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Very easy. Because it's a business with a very low barrier to entry and the brokers have no incentive to not have as many agents as possible working for them. It's really no money out of their pocket to have five or 15 or 50 agents out working under them, and they get a cut of whatever gets sold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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+1. not sure why this is a mystery to OP. Cute that she reads the local paper. I throw away the entire Sunday Times sometimes because i don't have time to read it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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OP: I read the local paper online during my lunch break. I love the Sunday Times..I try to wade through all of it on a lazy Sunday afternoon but my job has crazy hours so I rarely have time to just surf the web aimless like I am doing today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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This. It's all commission. All the agency has to provide is a small shared desk space. And every SAHM thinks she can make great PT money between 10-2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Yes. They hear about their neighbor's house being sold and calculate the commission and think they'll make $100,000 a year by selling four houses a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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OP: Dont these clueless women realize that not all homes magically sell themselves and that so many factors are at play- especially when some owners are now bypassing agents and choosing FSBO listings on MLS w/o the need for realtors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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No. They also don't realize that they will have to work their tail off evenings, weekends, on the phone, 24/7. It's not just an excuse for ladies to dress fancy and walk through homes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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OP: I know zero about real estate and commission structures. I was just curious to see why this business is still flourishing considering the local RE market in my NY suburb is kinda crappy (in my town, some homes are still vacant from Hurricane Sandy). Just wondered why women still pursue these dead end jobs - it seems going from Sales Agent to a RE Broker that makes good $$ is a long, difficult road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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They don't need the money, or have other skills, or don't want to or can't work FT in a real job (that is, they are SAHM). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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a) it requires zero qualification, b) many entrants think they know the market- it is something commonly discussion in regular life, c) hours are flexible (so they think). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of camp post- has anyone just not spent the $$$ on NYC camps and the kids had a great summer nonetheless? I work FT so I always want to kids busy but the price for 2 in camp this summer is literally breaking the bank. Anyone BTDT? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Not literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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I'm assuming your kids are older so that childcare isn't an issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP: We have a nanny as well. We have a little baby at home as well as 2 in camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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That's good. I imagine they can have just as much fun hanging out. Maybe they could go to a week camp or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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We had a part-time nanny, and my DH (freelancer) handled childcare the rest of the time. It was actually fine: we did a few specialty camps, i.e. science, baseball. The rest of the time, DS learned to amuse himself while DH got work done, and sometimes they'd take bike rides or go hiking or swimming. The lack of structure was a very nice contrast to the intense school year. I recommend it highly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Depends on the age and the alternative. My DCs have a great time with MIL but she lives in a huge house with a pool and takes them everywhere from horseback riding to the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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where does MIL live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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CT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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What option do you have? Babysitter? Mine does awesome stuff with kids. Beach, parks, pool, can be great with right babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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that's right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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do they play well together? do they have any neighborhood friends to play with? will the nanny get them outside? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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I have 3 kids (7yo, 3yo, and 1 yo) and a full time nanny. This summer, the nanny will care for the baby, and we are hiring another younger/funner baby sitter to do daily activities around the city with the older 2 kids (only part of the day with the 3yo) and another pair of siblings we are friends with. We are essentially creating our own camp for about 1/3 of the price of regular day camps. Lets see how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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My mother never put me in camp, and I was fine. No biggie to leave them home and just kind of prepare some activities some days, nothing other days. It's summer vacation. They should relax. Unfortunately, I don't have that option and my kid will be going to camp. Can you find cheaper camp options? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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At what age? I'm all for free-range kids, but I imagine you were at least 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some good Creativity for Kids or Crayola toys for a 9 year old boy and 6 year old girl? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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My son is hard core into magniformers right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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Love the Marker Maker! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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