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[ - ] T minus 14 days until DD is 18 months old. Still not walking. Arrrrgh. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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NBD [ Reply | More ]
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Call 311 and get and Early Intervention evaluation. Do it TODAY. [ Reply | More ]
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If they ask your preference of agency, request YAI or the Variety Cody Gifford House. You will get free PT from the state, and they will help you and advise you. It's great. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do you redshirt your kid? Ds has a late December birthday. Is it possible at an NYC public? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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NO [ Reply | More ]
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No. Move to burbs if you want to do that. Or do private school, where the calendar is different. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you red shirt, put them in private K and then switch them to public firsts? [ Reply | More ]
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Hide them in a closet for a year. [ Reply | More ]
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No but it seems like it's not too uncommon to see kids repeating kindergarten in public [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] From the MP Post: Elizabeth Warren never used being a native american to her advantage. She didn't go after the Harvard job, they recruited her, and put her NA heritage on her professor bio. It's never been "I deserve special treatment because I'm NA" but: "this cool thing about me is I'm part NA." And it's not a ridiculous stretch, she is from Oklahoma. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Hello, Elizabeth PR! [ Reply | More ]
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I know it's a rant, but picking on someone because of their race is wrong. It's wrong when it was BO birth certificate and it's wrong when EW gets call Pocahontas. If you can't understand this, you are a nasty racist just like our president. [ Reply | More ]
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your attitude is extremely aggressive. wow. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sacred Heart tour guide claimed in a coy way, that there are a few Celebrity kids attending. Anyone know which ? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I cant imagine a tour guide thinking it was ok to mention that on a tour. [ Reply | More ]
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They're just normal parents. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it is a big deal. totally inappropriate to even hint at that [ Reply | More ]
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
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you must not know any celebs, if you think some don't have behavior and tendencies that are far from "normal" [ Reply | More ]
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This. I would be royally pissed off. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh, what a turn off. Who wants to deal with a school who thinks this is even ok to say. [ Reply | More ]
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agree . but then again it just reflects that one parent who has loose lips. i think overall CSH is discreet [ Reply | More ]
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This is OUTRAGEOUS!!! This is none of your business and if you make a decision on where to send YOUR kid based on where other "celebrities" whose kids might not even be that intelligent, it just shows how puny your own brain is. [ Reply | More ]
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This is OUTRAGEOUS!!! This is none of your business and if you make a decision on where to send YOUR kid based on where other "celebrities" whose kids might not even be that intelligent, it just shows how puny your own brain is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
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You must be joking that a school would say such a thing. Highly inappropriate. [ Reply | More ]
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agree [ Reply | More ]
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there are celeb kids at almost all the privates . no big deal . but very bizarre to hint at it on a tour [ Reply | More ]
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Plus a truly A list family will demand special consideration (with good reason, for security concerns etc) and will be disruptive to the school. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Single dude - the fact the Keith Reniere can get so many beautiful women gives me hope. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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go away [ Reply | More ]
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well there is one less [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever had blood in urine (only visible in lab test) that was NOT a UTI or menstrual? What was it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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2 of my friends did. totally fine. idiopathic. go to a conservative urologist who doesn't send every patient in for a CT scan. [ Reply | More ]
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Why would you want to be conservative? Is it preferable to have undiagnosed bladder or kidney cancer? [ Reply | More ]
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a ct scan is like 100 xrays, you go to a dumb urologist and i will go to the best one who knows from other tests that it is not cancer. [ Reply | More ]
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Could be kidney stones. Are your uric acid levels high? Do a blood test too [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Standard blood work done by gen practitioner was fine. [ Reply | More ]
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EBOLA [ Reply | More ]
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Go away, Ebola mom. You're not funny. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my DH. Turns out it was hemmeroids. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow would rectal blood from a man get into a urine sample? I can see a female because they are at least close [ Reply | More ]
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I was thinking the same thing. In this case, blood would show up in bowel movements. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dd took the first assessment course for SHSAT. Scored Waaaay below her class average. So now I'm wondering - is it even worth pursuing this course (I did suspect her choices for specialized HS would be limited, and didn't really count on it), or drop it? Moreover, I'm wondering if this is an indication on how she'll do for the ELAs and Math state tests this year (i.e., i'm freaking out). 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, it is worth pursuing! it's nice to have choices, so if she is willing to to do the prep, let her. [ Reply | More ]
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she is doing it unwillingly. I'm afraid she'll go to classes, but not really doing all that much work at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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Sounds like she doesn't want to go to a SHSAT school or feels that she will not be able to compete. Talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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So then she probably won't get a SHS offer. But if she is ok with that, let it be. Though having been through this process a few times, I will tell you that even those kids who don't want an offer, are still happy to have a choice. What are her grades like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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Would she even be happy at a SH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:37 PM Flag
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no. but I wanted to keep options open. but maybe we won't really have options anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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Don't use as an option if she will be behind her peers and won't be happy. So many other better schools for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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Have you maybe wondered if she did not care about the test or specialized HS as to the reason why she did poorly on the test? Talk to her about what she wants to do first before freaking out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:37 PM Flag
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Is her shsat score on a par with her grades? What are her interests? [ Reply | More ]
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interests are phone, mostly. grades - she is ok. Bs. the score is really below average. [ Reply | More ]
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I would not push it then. See if she can drop it. [ Reply | More ]
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Only do it if she is really interested. We just went through it this year. Dd was really determined to get into a SHS. While she did not make Stuy cutoff, she is really happy with the SHS offer she has received and chose it over another excellent HS. GL! [ Reply | More ]
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How did your dc prepare for the test? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:58 PM Flag
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Attended a couple of courses, which were pretty useless material-wise but slightly helpful in time management. She worked with a tutor for the math portion of SHSAT and self-studied for the ELA portion. [ Reply | More ]
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Where did your dd do the assessment? Maybe it's not accurate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:56 PM Flag
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I wouldn't put this pressure on her if it's not her interest. I'd think she's not likely to get into one. Tutoring is not going to give her that much of a leg up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How to do Grandparent's Day when you have no grandparents who can attend? My side, she's in her 90s with dimentia and mental illness. Also in another state. His side, overseas. Thought of asking a teacher who loves her and who she loves as well, but it would be an hour drive for her to come. Could offer lunch after. Any other thoughts? Can't think of anyone to ask. Should I just go in place of a grandparent if I can't find anyone? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:32 PM Flag
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At our school, an Aunt or an Uncle or even a friend of family of any age can go. Kids don't care who it is. My friend at work went to my DD's Grandparents' Day. DD was thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
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No aunts or uncles? If really no one, yes, you go. But the teacher would probably be tickled by the invitation. [ Reply | More ]
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The teacher is a big ask with that length of drive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:39 PM Flag
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Find a family friend or an adult she is close to. The age doesn't matter. I go to grandparents day for one of my friends and she does the same for me. [ Reply | More ]
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No grandparents here. Cousin came. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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I've been to grandparents day for my nephews, and my friends' kids. It's all good. I'd ask the teacher. For a kid I loved, I'd drive an hour. Especially if I got lunch after, lol. [ Reply | More ]
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schools usually say grandparent or special friend. totally fine to ask teacher . or an aunt uncle, cousin close family friend etc [ Reply | More ]
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I'm going in place of the grandparents, all of whom live far away. I'm the grandparent proxy. I take loads of videos and photos for the grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, this stuff is over wrought. In our preK we had those days and I didn't like it b/c of this reason. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I can't believe I'm admitting this but I'm starting to admire Melania. I believe she was an escort and she sold her soul to the devil but she is the only bright light in the White House. She is a reluctant hero and has endured humiliation after humiliation but still stands tall. That is admirable. What do you think she will do when this is all over? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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And unlike dummy DT she actually appears to be improving at her job. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see her as standing tall. I see her as standing frozen like a deer in headlights. I'm sure she'll leave him when this is all over. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
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If Melania put Donald in the doghouse, she sure isn't showing. She is very classy. Proud to have her as first lady. [ Reply | More ]
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"Bright light?" She just tries to avoid whatever she can. [ Reply | More ]
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lol, alrighty then. Lipstick on a pig, sorry [ Reply | More ]
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I would say pity as opposed to admire. She did marry him. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, Svetlana, you should go be an "escort;" surely it pays better than being an Internet troll? Many more rubles! [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not Svetlana. I'm a former model and posted here during the election, when the nude photos of Melania came out that I had serious reservations about her ever being a legitimate model. It made MP as some of you may recall. I still don't feel sorry for her. She sold her soul but I think she is evolving and it's interesting to watch. [ Reply | More ]
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I love the way she wiggles her hand out of his. Very telling. She loves her son, too. [ Reply | More ]
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I never cared about a single FLOTUS and I'm not going to get into it now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Mom's of boys: What steps are you taking to ensure your DB/DBs marry a TT girl? There seems to always be discussion about girls marrying TT men, what's the other side of this? I've always believed that marriage is the easiest way for a woman to skip a class level or two, but what about boys? Is it possible for them? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Dont sexually harass women, be polite, be handsome, be a hard worker, be physically fit, be funny, loving and non-bi-polar. [ Reply | More ]
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This is important because children largely gain intelligence from their mothers. [ Reply | More ]
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It is easier for a woman to marry TT because women won't date men without "prospects" (job, money, home). [ Reply | More ]
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Define TT woman..... [ Reply | More ]
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Highly educated, reasonable looking, successful career or family money, socially normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:40 PM Flag
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In this instance it's very specific to the man, but generally someone who will be a good partner. If the man is truly a high flyer, you will need a wife who will be the woman behind the man, which is a very hard job that gets no respect. If the man is more typical he will need a partner who can get in the trenches with him. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks this is the advice I'm looking for. So if you raise a TT DS, he needs to find a wife who is an equal and can partner with him in life. [ Reply | More ]
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I think so. There are very few successful man who don't have a great partner because it give them such a huge advantage. [ Reply | More ]
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An attractive, high-earning man always has been and always will be in the catbird seat when it comes to picking women. That’s why there is less discussion about it. The ball is already in their court. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: But what do you need to do to get them into that catbird seat? [ Reply | More ]
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Get them on a path to a high-paying job. Being attractive will also help, but TBH a lot of fat, ugly men still do fine as long as they make enough money. [ Reply | More ]
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But many attractive, high-earning man ends up marrying a loser wife just because she's pretty. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And then she leaves him taking half of his money while she's SAH. [ Reply | More ]
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That’s true, but that has nothing to do with their ability to find or attract a higher quality woman. [ Reply | More ]
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Escort to First Lady is a true American success story. Very Cinderella or Pretty Woman. [ Reply | More ]
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whops, meant for above. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok troll [ Reply | More ]
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Why did you use an apostrophe in the word "Moms?" Unbelievable how illiterate some people are. [ Reply | More ]
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Because it's early in the morning and I haven't had any caffeine yet. My apologies for not proofreading. Have a blessed day, bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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One shouldn't need coffee to know not to use an apostrophe in a simple plural noun, villain. [ Reply | More ]
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My ds is gay. He's about to marry a great guy who has an independent business. They are happy. That's all I care about in life. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If price and monthlies are pretty much the same, would you choose a full service building in D3 (in 90s) or full floor loft in a small boutique with no amenities in D2? The building in D2 is in Chelsea/Union Square area but the street is not ideal (too much foot traffic and homeless people here and there as the building is near subway station). We don't know where DCs will go to school yet but are thinking about Hill schools. However, there is no guarantee so that's why we are considering D2 area as well. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I meant a small boutique building with less than 10 units [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:22 PM Flag
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90s [ Reply | More ]
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If you are 100% private, then D3. But otherwise D2. Which street in Chelsea? Problem with small buildings is that monthlies tend to rise dramatically as there are not many units to cover the costs [ Reply | More ]
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OP - monthlies for the one in D2 is really low because of commercial space. I don't want to out myself but it is below 20th street. [ Reply | More ]
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Definitely Chelsea/Union Square..D2....full floor is great....no side neighbors [ Reply | More ]
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Hill school commute would be hell from chelsea/union square area. You want to be either far uptown or far west (close to west side highway). [ Reply | More ]
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D2 loft but I hate the UES. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - 3 building is in UWS, not UES. [ Reply | More ]
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I would go UWS. I have a friend who lives on 6th ave in Chelsea, and it sucks. [ Reply | More ]
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D2 loft. think beyond the immediate years - kids will be independently mobile very soon. Central downtown location makes their/your lives much easier. DS was commuting to UES for school from Chelsea on his own from 5th grade on - easily got to afterschool and evening activities, friends etc. in late MS and HS. Just because you think DCs MIGHT get into hill schools doesn't mean they will. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like it is too early for you to buy. I personally think that full-service is pretty much a waste after kids are out of strollers but ymmv. I also prefer life downtown. Rent in D2 and wait for your private admissions before you commit. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My H asked for a divorce out of the blue (I had been unhappy but he always claimed he was fine) on a Wednesday last summer, Thursday I received papers from his attorney. He hasn’t moved out, nothing has been signed. The pain is almost unbearable. The children and I are suffering and he seems to just enjoying his midlife crisis. Has anyone else had to live with soon to be ex like this? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Have you asked him when he plans to move out? [ Reply | More ]
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His attorney won’t allow him to. But once the papers are signed I guess he will. [ Reply | More ]
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have you started to negotiate his draft of the divorce papers? [ Reply | More ]
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No experience but I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry [ Reply | More ]
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I have a flash of my own pain when reading your post. that same period of my own life, which was shorter than what you are describing, was the hardest period of my life. trust me when I say, the divorce itself is less painful than what you are experiencing. you need to meet in a mutual place, describe to him the pain he is causing in as neutral a way as possible, see how he responds, and if his response is to stay in this awful, unfair, cruel limbo because it is safe and convenient and working for him, you need take steps to end your marriage, initiate the divorce and get you and your kids to a better place. [ Reply | More ]
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Op here, I’m sorry you had this pain as well. We are”negotiating” a settlement. His lawyer won’t let j leave and mine doesn’t want me to leave either. [ Reply | More ]
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what is left to negotiate over? you have to factor in the cost of this pain. i would also be implementing any proposed child care settlement now - i.e., if he is supposed to have the kids 50% of the time, then starting now, he is making the kids dinner and overseeing their homework 50% of the time; the food you buy is for you and the kids on your days, you do not go anywhere near his laundry, create a chore wheel where he either cleans the bathroom 50% of the time, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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this seems like a good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:40 PM Flag
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get a lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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also, if he goes out on a friday night, you go out on saturday -- you can go to a yoga class or a coffee shop or an independent bookstore -- it doesn't need to be crazy -- just small steps. [ Reply | More ]
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what if i want to go to Barnes & Nobles? are moms going thru divorce not allowed to frequent chain bookstores? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm in DC. all of B&Ns have closed (so sad), but go wherever you want (though I am pretty sure the you of this response isn't OP). [ Reply | More ]
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no just a snarky poster. i do agree with your point, just found it funny that you highlighted "independent" bookstore instead of just saying bookstore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:53 PM Flag
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I was flashing back to my own first post-divorce forays to Politics and Prose -- an independent bookstore in DC. it also has a cafe with live music at times so it was a good way for me to feel I had gone "out" even though it was just me, by myself, looking at books and having a cup of tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
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Do you have a lawyer? Get him out. [ Reply | More ]
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oh my gosh, i'm so sorry. where does he sleep , what do the children know ? how old are they ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:31 PM Flag
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He sleeps in a small room in the apt. We haven’t told kids but they know something is wrong and they are suffering from anxiety. They are 7 and 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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ugh. He needs to step it up and help the kids. its devastating to hear they are "suffering from anxiety". i dont want to pick on you - but what are YOU doing to help them, are you planning fun events on weekends, do you have a lawyer. is your DH a masochist that he is not willing to help his children ? and last question - why is it taking so long , is it going to take a full year ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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and PS - hope you have your own lawyer - and why cant you move out ? do you have money ? [ Reply | More ]
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the money is joint, she should be able to fix this problem by speeding up the process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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Yes,I’m taking care of them as best I can. Living life and having as much fun stuff as possible, my parents are stepping in to be supportive as well. I have a lawyer and I’m following their advice which is to stay put. He probably is a masochist. But I do not have any money. And please don’t flame me or tell me how stupid I am for doing this. But I’m a stay at home mom. He wanted me to stay home, it made sense financially. And yes I realize I screwed myself. [ Reply | More ]
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are you going to have to work once the divorce is finalized or are you guys in good shape financially. He will have to support the kids for a while obviously. [ Reply | More ]
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you should definitely be going back to school right now during the 50% of the time he needs to be caring for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. It’s been 3+ years since mine asked for a divorce out of the blue. He moved out but has filed nothing and I refuse to facilitate the divorce he asked for. [ Reply | More ]
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how are expenses handled? are you moving on with your life - dating, etc. does he see the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
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We both make enough to cover expenses...my lawyer says in the end their will be an accounting so not to worry so much about it. With work and the DCs, not much time for dating but I have gone on a few dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:03 PM Flag
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I went through this - he didn't ask you for divorce - he sued you to break a marriage contract - get an attorney, start documenting the physical abuse and fear of having him around, instigate a fight, call police have him arrested, then argue Bishop v Bishop to preserve status quo and move on with your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:38 PM Flag
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where does OP say physical abuse by DH? you are an awful woman to instigate a fight and call the police. No wonder you are divorced, you sound bat shit crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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this is just standard divorce advice, you need to establish primary custody as quickly as possible to preserve child support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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calling the police to have DH arrested is not standard divorce practice. It appears you are a lawyer, but you are suggesting lying. do you lie often for your clients? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:47 PM Flag
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+1 poster sounds insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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insane? I ended up with a good tax free income and a beach house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:46 PM Flag
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getting a beach house doesn't rule out you being insane. You are just comparing yourself to a high class escort. how much did you "earn" per year of the marriage. I feel bad for your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:51 PM Flag
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don't forget she is suggesting lying to the police. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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Can you ask him to please have mercy on you and the children, and just move out. Or, get the two of you in mediation, stat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:40 PM Flag
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fuck mercy go for his wallet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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the formulas are pretty much set. no need to "go for his wallet". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:48 PM Flag
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it took almost 9 months for him to formalize the papers? what took so long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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My friend had this problem. He refused to leave. She rented a studio and was in the family Apt in the evenings until the kids went to bed and then showed up in the mornings before they woke up to make breakfast. She couldn’t stay the night with him there ...too much. Every other Saturday night she had him watch the kids. This went on for nearly 2 years. It didn’t impact her custody at all and her Ex had to pay for the adjustment in living costs (ie the Apt he refused to leave was like $8500k a month and the studio less than $2k so he had to pay her for the time she did not live in the Apt overnight). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:47 PM Flag
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what does the husband get out of not moving out. this is just a wierd situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:50 PM Flag
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He didn’t want the divorce. Friend found out he had a mistress for 8 years and that he was also cheating on the mistress. He wanted to say he was sorry and for her to forgive him. Meanwhile, the PI her lawyer hired caught him continuing to cheat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:53 PM Flag
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They have 3 kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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the guy sounds lovely. what a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Business moms: I own my own business and have a small (6+) staff—almost ten years. Problem: try as I might, I can’t ever take a real vacation, as in truly clearing the brain completely, no work or thinking about work for an entire week. The reason is that clients are still all over me and don’t leave me alone, much as I try to delegate. Any advice? I Can’t shut down my office for a week. Thank you in advance. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:14 PM Flag
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There is no way out but to groom a successor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:15 PM Flag
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Fellow business owner mom: I always go away with my family over holidays. Fourth of July, Thanksgiving, Easter. I still have to answer my phone, but it tends to be quieter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:18 PM Flag
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Is the problem that clients are still coming to you first? If so, your OOO message and your voice mail should both say “I am out of the office until X date and will return all messages at that point. Please reach out to Mary Smith at xxx-xxx-xxxx in the meantime” Or is the problem that you don’t have a “Mary Smith” who you can rely on to send clients to? If that’s the problem, you need to start either grooming one or hire one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:21 PM Flag
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OP: that’s basically what it says, but “Mary Smith” isn’t senior enough to make real-time decisions. I jump in in that case since I don’t want a huge mess to mop up when I return! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:27 PM Flag
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You need to start looking around for a right-hand man. I know that they don’t come cheap, but if you can find someone with the skill set to manage clients on their own, the business they will be able to support will more than pay for their salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:31 PM Flag
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OP. I have been trying to find this person for years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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What obstacles are you running into? You can find them? They don’t stay? They don’t live up to expectations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:48 PM Flag
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NP: I have this question too. In my business, if I trained a mini-me, she would eventually go out on her own to make more money. But for two-three years, before she broke away, I'd be able to go on vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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OP: I have interviewed many! The combination of education, strategy chops, presentability, work ethic, a kind of street smarts, leadership, creativity, personableness—so hard to find. I’ve asked every CEO I admire to recommend and it’s never the right fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:03 PM Flag
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You need to hire someone who you trust to make decisions. The problem is they won’t be cheap and probably require good benefits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:33 PM Flag
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It doesn't work that way when you own the business, you have to answer the phone. There are huge upsides to being a business owner, for example I'm on UB at 9:30 while I ruminate on a proposal and no one will ever complain, but I always answer the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:29 PM Flag
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OR- I own my own business as well. I let my clients know when I will be out of town and I make sure that everything is running ahead of schedule during those times. Sure, there are some fire drills that can’t be avoided, but my “2nd in command” is included on projects the whole way through and is able to manage things while I am gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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Sure, you prep as best you can to be gone, but if someone, especially someone from you office is calling you when they know you are on vacation, and you own the place, you need to answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
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What sort of business? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:22 PM Flag
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OP: business development and advising CEO’s. Lots of high-level interaction with top staff and corporate Boards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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No possible way. I finally escaped one week to get married, was on email and phone calls the entire morning until it came time to get ready and dressed at 2 pm in the afternoon. I finally sold my business as it severely affected my ability to get pregnant and was taking a huge toll on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:32 PM Flag
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OP: thanks for letting me know this. So few women business owners I can ask for advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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What kind of business? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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You need to groom and empower a right-hand gal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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This is the brakes as long as you don't give anyone real power. What sort of things are "real-time" decisions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone feel this way? My dd has been in boarding school for high school. Was very painful for me at first but made the adjustments. But now that she’a going to college I have become depressed. I feel as though her childhood is officially over, but more importantly, I am feeling auch a mournful sense of separation anxiety. Was it bad for anyone when they sent their kids off to college—whether high School was boarding or local? And if so, how did you cope? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:09 PM Flag
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This is why many UB moms say it is bad to send them away to school. Our kids are only young and under our care for just a short amount of time. I'm sorry for your pain. I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:11 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you. That’s very kind of you to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:34 PM Flag
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Why did you send her to boarding school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:12 PM Flag
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I'm not op but boarding schools give amazing financial aid compared to City Schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:14 PM Flag
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So what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:14 PM Flag
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Well if it's a choice of that and mount Vernon high school... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:17 PM Flag
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OP: good question! Dd had Really good choices here in NYC but fell in live with the boarding school—always been extremely independent and very social. And they did well by her re college—AND she loved it there. Me—I came around because she was so happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:17 PM Flag
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I went to BS and it was the best experience of my life. know that you made a great choice and know that you will continue to have a close relationship w DD even when she is at college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:24 PM Flag
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For some kids it's really good for them. Some really need that sense of independence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:34 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you! I actualy feel very, very close to my DD. I don’t know why I feel that I won’t be able to communicatenwithbher as much when she’s in college. Want to give space but still be close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:35 PM Flag
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there is a lot of downtime for college kids. she will have plenty of time to talk and text, email etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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For me I would only send my dd to boarding school if they really wanted to go. Are you divorced? A SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:15 PM Flag
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OP: happily married 18 years. Have big job, not SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:24 PM Flag
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do you have other kids? or DD is an only? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:30 PM Flag
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OP: dd one and only! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:36 PM Flag
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thats great because you can focus on her alone and not have to divide your free time btwn multiple kids. I also WOH and find it to be such a challenge to give both of my kids enough attention in the little time I have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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I went to BS and then to college not too far from home. Maintained close relationship w parents throughout high school and college. Keep in mind, you can always visit and DD will be home a lot. How far away is college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:22 PM Flag
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OP. Chicago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:24 PM Flag
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thats good! easy flight. she will come home for some long weeekends and holidays. and you can visit and have a fun time in Chicago . My kids are still young so I have no experience w being an empty nester but I know from my own experience in BS and college that I stayed very close to my parents during this time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:27 PM Flag
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OP: thank you. Are you happy you went to BS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:39 PM Flag
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LOVED IT!!! best thing I ever did. I commented above too . still in touch w BS friends 25 yrs later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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I always miss my dd. Not to the point of it being pathological, but she's flown the coop. I can't wait for her to be back for summer but it's not the same even when they come home b/c of friends they see all the time, busy with summer job etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Which statement do you agree with: "Good education comes from a good school." or "Good education comes from home environment regardless of school" 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:09 PM Flag
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The first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:11 PM Flag
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Why is this an either- or? Obviously it’s a combination. Also you know what Mark Twain said about schooling and education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:12 PM Flag
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I would say that even the best school can't make up for an inadequate home environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:17 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:22 PM Flag
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This, but a good family can make up for a bad school. We live in a flyover and my kids go to a fine school, but nothing like the education they would get in a large city. I actually have come to prefer it because I can supplement as I see fit, tailoring to their strengths and weaknesses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:25 PM Flag
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Also they don't have the stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:25 PM Flag
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More the second than the first but if your child is at an awful school, there will be consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:25 PM Flag
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Used to be the first, but these days, many parents find they have to make sure their kids are actually getting the basics, due to Common Core bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:33 PM Flag
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Do you have experience with the Common Core or are you just spouting what you have heard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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I would argue that good education comes from good teachers - wherever they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:35 PM Flag
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OP: fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:38 PM Flag
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I think it is more the school. My kids go to a great school and are getting a way better education than I ever did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone see the NY1 piece on the ms integration efforts on the UWS by Lindsey Christ this AM? It is not on their website yet, but maybe later today. The parents come off as such a-holes at the meeting. Are there a lot of racists up there? I thought it was a bastion of liberalism. 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.25.18, 12:39 PM Flag
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they are liberals when it affects other people but when it comes to their kids no way. that being said, the UWS is losing it's liberalism like it was 25 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:53 PM Flag
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They really look like dicks. And those schools, what do they currently have 10-15% under grade level or ICT? So they raise it to 25%. It is not going to make much difference. The education is the same at a lot of these schools, even poorly performing ones. It is just the student sorting that causes the differences in outcomes which people look for to define "good" schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:54 PM Flag
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The education is not even close to the same. If you have a lot of kids in class who are struggling with fundamentals you cannot move forward and if your child is above grade level, they do absolutely nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:57 PM Flag
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No. The education is pretty similar. I had a kid in a high performing selective and one in a low performing ms, and the teachers were actually better in the low performing one. The curriculum was almost the same except for more access to foreign language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:59 PM Flag
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So the kids in low performing MS also take algebra and geometry in MS? I find that incredibly hard to believe, the ones we toured barely cover pre-algebra. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:25 PM Flag
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Algebra, yes. Geometry, no. Are you saying these UWS ms all teach the kids geometry in ms? Do you even have kids in the NYC schools or are you just a troll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:31 PM Flag
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Yes I do, and one did take geometry in 8th grade. If you want to do calculus as junior in HS, that is the track you ought to be one. The other did the algebra in 8th, but even that is advanced in D3 middle school world, several of the D3 middle schools had kids graduating without algebra. That was a couple years ago so maybe it has changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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Algebra for all is the norm in NYC middle schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:49 PM Flag
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Nope, Algebra is the HS freshman math for most NYC public school students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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np: Not if you attend a selective NYC public middle school, and then a selective HS. You take algebra in 8th, and geometry in 9th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:58 PM Flag
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That's the point, the MSs where the kids pushed out of the top performing ones are not selective at all. Which is why all the parents are up in the arms at the thought of their kids ending up in one of them. Which will happen if a quarter of the seats at the selective schools goes to kids with 1s and 2s on the state tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:02 PM Flag
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At a D3 middle school. right. You are fos. Your dc was at a citywide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:01 PM Flag
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But you wouldn't have a lot of kids, just 25%. right now, they probably have 10%. Not a huge difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:59 PM Flag
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Not for the kids who still get in, but doing this would push 15% of the kids who have 3s and 4s to the lower performing MSs which are substantially worse than Booker T or Computer. D3 does not exactly have a lot of good MS choices, unlike D2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:28 PM Flag
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You don't get it. That would just raise the performance at those "lower performing" schools because it is all about student sorting and not a reflection of what actually goes on day to day at the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:30 PM Flag
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Nobody wants to be the trailblazer because inevitably it would take a few years for this to actually happen. There is a huge drop off in quality below the top three middle schools in D3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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If high kids went there, the schools would do well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:50 PM Flag
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It would not be enough the 15% shed from the 3 'good' middle schools spread around the low achieving ones would not make enough of a difference. And a good portion of those families would bolt for the burbs instead of trying to be a trailblazer anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:56 PM Flag
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Is this about making sure each D3 MS has 10%/15% of kids scoring 1 or 2 in state tests? I don't understand how that should be a diversity initiative. I understand initiatives like % of free lunch help to improve diversity(income). Why would you allow kids who didn't work hard enough to score at grade level to take priority over kids who work hard to be at/above grade level? Kids should still work hard and try hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:00 PM Flag
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100% agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:27 PM Flag
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I completely agree. I also think that the time to address this is probably BEFORE middle school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:03 PM Flag
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Everybody is a liberal until it's their own kid's school... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:48 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:18 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:21 PM Flag
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Lol yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:20 PM Flag
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Lol yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:34 PM Flag
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Is this the 199 vs. 191 fiasco? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:51 PM Flag
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No, there is a proposal to set aside 25% of seats in all D3 ms for kids who got a 1 or 2 on the state tests and that can also overlap with ICT requirements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:56 PM Flag
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This is fine in theory if classes are then academically tracked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:11 PM Flag
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This is a tale as old as time in NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 12:55 PM Flag
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Saw that. Brutal. These parents come off as entitled clueless people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:00 PM Flag
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What were they saying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:03 PM Flag
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There was a principal that said the parents were offensive and someone saying that the parents thought that because of their socioeconomic status, their kids were more deserving of a good education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:07 PM Flag
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They would fit in well at this site and no doubt some of them are here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:13 PM Flag
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LOL. I guarantee this. [ Reply | More ]
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Pat Kiernan and Christ also had a discussion which was not too flattering to those parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:31 PM Flag
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Are they pushing racial diversity or academic diversity? I'm not a big proponent of academic adversity. I believe kids learn best when with similar level peers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:23 PM Flag
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I believe its socioeconomic diversity which encompasses both racial diversity and academic diversity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:29 PM Flag
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I'm ok with SEC diversity. But posters above are saying they are forcing schools to take a certain number of kids with 1's and 2's. I'm all for academic tracking at the MS and HS level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:34 PM Flag
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They are pushing academic diversity, i.e. forcing schools to take a certain number of kids with 1s and 2s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:56 PM Flag
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Just send your DCs to TT private school to ensure that they mix with the right element. Problem solved. It’s the UB way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:24 PM Flag
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I hate to say this but I believe this whole heartedly. I'm black and UMC. We can afford to send our DCs to private school and have done so since K. The thought of public school is frightening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:30 PM Flag
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Good. I hope they enact this plan. It is about time. The entitled can move if they don't like it. They certainly have the means. They are acting like babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:32 PM Flag
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How is it entitled to want your hard working, high scoring child to go to a middle school with other hard working and high scoring kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:42 PM Flag
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Do you know the meaning of entitled? Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:46 PM Flag
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That's not entitled. That is merit, sorry. My kids have been in both situations, and being around peers at the same academic level makes a world of difference. Are you even a NYC public school parent. Do you have any idea how low perfomring you need to be in order to get a 1 on a state test? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:48 PM Flag
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The integration effort is about academic diversity, not racial/income diversity (although probably indirectly related). I don't think parents will have an issue if priority is given to kids qualified for free lunch to boost income and racial diversity (a number of schools in the city are doing so) if the kids deserve to get in based on academic performance. However, reserving spots for students who are below grade level (1 and 2 in state test) is just wrong - you have to reward kids who work hard. I also think this sends the wrong message to the kids: you don't have to work hard at all and there will be a good MS spot waiting for you. This is really ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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WTF is wrong with you? These kids in the school that "earned it" have access to resources that other kids can't even dream of. Stop saying this is all about merit when it's not. Those poor performing kids if given the opportunity and I don't know, money for tutors, new computers, etc could end up OUT performing your precious white brilliant snowflakes. But maybe that's really what you'r'e afraid of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:41 PM Flag
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+1. Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:47 PM Flag
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How do you know this? There is nobody looking at their SES or which elementary school they came from. Just their test scores. It could well be UMC kids with IEPs and learning issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:50 PM Flag
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But it's not and we all know this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:53 PM Flag
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Guess what, there are plenty of low income kids who don't have the opportunity (tutors, new computers etc.) and they work hard to do well enough/outperform the more privileged kids. They deserve to get in. I was actually one of them - grew up dirt poor and went to really bad ES and MS and ended up at a SHS through hard work. But this current initiative will essentially give a free pass to a broader population of under-performing kids. I am all for giving people a chance but you can't just have a blanket diversity initiative to do so. You need to add a level of screening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:51 PM Flag
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Thanks white lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldn't have such a problem if they would track the kids--honors, gen ed, remedial. You could have the fluidity of moving kids year to year without totally destroying the prospects for high achieving kids. That's how the suburban schools do it and it seems to work for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 01:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.18, 02:00 PM Flag
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