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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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those skeezy canadians [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:21 AM Flag
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Damn him...for not sharing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Annoyed and miffed with my direct supervisor at work. I screwed up something that was very minor a week or 2 ago (I told the client basic information but did not extract more information that would have been helpful for my job) and my supervisor nicely met with me privately to warn me that her manager would likely get complaints about it...but I diffused the situation so well that management opted to conduct a dept-wide to handle this particularly "difficult" client. As it turns out, other co workers who dealt with this client/account also had issues similar to me...so what does my direct supervisor do now? She writes me a scathing email summarizing all the items I screwed up on and how to do handle a similar situation in the future should it happen again. The email was only to me (unless she used the blind cc feature) but I can't fathom what purpose sending me this email would do. I already know very well how I screwed up, I don't need it to be hit over my head like a baseball bat to make me see it!! Ugh. Should I start preparing my résumé for another job? I am worried now that maybe she has a hidden agenda.? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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Posts like this make me feel better about being unemployed. I hate work shit like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag
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She's documenting your screw-up in written format. You had better start looking for another job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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stop freaking her out. her manager just wants to document her file with this incident. It doesn't mean that this incident alone is enough to push her out the door. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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But it was directed to just me. She randomly audits my work as require by dept policy, but all my prior reports were given good reviews. She has little to no say in my actual employment (my dept is small but it's part of an international corporation). Ultimately it's her boss's boss who wields the pink slip hammer. If she really wanted to screw me over, wouldn't she at least cc Human Resources and her boss? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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Not necessary for her to do this unless you majorly fucked up, which you deny doing. And I would only expect HR to be cc'd if you were about to be fired or put on a performance plan that day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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I think its a CYA email in case there are future issues with your performance. I am sure she will file it away. If this truly is a minor issue, then you should not be worried. But since she wrote you a scathing email I think it was a bit more substantial of an error than you think. That doesn't mean she will fire you, etc, just that she wants it on record in case similar performance issues arise again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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NP: Also, expect some mention on your periodic performance evaluation, maybe reflected in a shitty merit increase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag
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Thanks.,I've been at my company 4 years and have receiver a raise and bonus every year. I am worried because this seems more serious than I ever envisioned. I really don't know what purpose it would serve for her as a CYA exercise. The results of my meeting with the difficult client was documented by a 3rd party which is how it travelled up the chain of command..and I feel like I was singled out because other coworkers would blow off this client knowing that it would be unlikely to go public. I feel like a have a giant "Hit Me" sign on my back now at work !. -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag
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And should I write back saying I wasn't aware of how we should have dealt with this particular client before that day? Or just let the email stay there? -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Just ran into someone whose kid went to pre-school with mine (she lives in the nabe so I've seen them occasionally over the years). Her dc went to a tt; mine to public (g&t, then specialized high). Turns out they are both going to the same very, very good college. To be frank, over the years I've been very envious her, how she and dh have enough money to send dcs private. But now I feel pretty darned good! I know this is shallow, and that her kid probably had a lovelier, more "handmade" education and probably met some super-connected people who will help him in the future, but heck, the truth is, our kids are going to wind up at the same place. It's really an interesting feeling. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.24.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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That's awesome and it validates what I believed all along..parenting really is the other 1/2 of a child's academic success. I went to a state college and a food chunk if my college dorm-mates were students from Stuyvesant, Cooper Union, Bronx Science, Brooklyn Tech- and I remember feeling like absolute crap when I got rejected from Stuy...lol. Seriously, it's not where you come from but where you are going that matters. You should celebrate! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag
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^^ good chunk (not food chunk)- damn autocorrect lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag
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You lost me at "nabe". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:18 AM Flag
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Um, I think that's pretty common slang. But maybe you think that makes OP too public schoolish? God I love UB! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:28 AM Flag
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OR - And I love public schools! But can't stand nabe. It needs to go on the 'made-up words you can't stand' post. Tweens speak like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag
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I think only tweens from the 1980s talk like this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:29 AM Flag
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she won't have super connected people from private k-12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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I dunno, I went to Dalton in the 80s and I sheepishly admit that some of my classmates came from really connected families. I got my first job, at a network news show, through by best friend's dad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag
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that's pretty sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag
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Your dc should be proud of herself/himself. As for you, it is shallow, but as long as you acknowledge that, then I don't think feeling that way is hurting anybody. But just remember: you probably wasted a lot of energy over the years feeling envious when you should have just let it go. And if things hadn't turned out the way they did, you'd still feel envious. If you have another dc, don't repeat that cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag
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OP: you're really wise for a UB person! I thought those same things myself, I mean, what would have happened if my kid hadn't done so well academically? DC would still have been awesome. I wasted a lot of years feeling bad and now I realize that was idiotic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:28 AM Flag
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Not to harsh your mellow, and I really do hope for the best for your dd, but just because they ended up at the same college doesn't mean they'll have the same experience while they're there or that they will have similar outcomes afterward. BTDT as a student from a mediocre educational background who ended up at a top college. I was simply NOT prepared for a lot of the college coursework, and I often struggled. My classmates who had always gone to top schools had a breadth and depth to their pre-college education that mine didn't come close to. I'm sorry to sound so negative. I hope your dd's experience is better than mine was, and you're right to be proud of her and feel good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Is weed really making Amanda Bynes crazy? Just weed? Can it do that? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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No she needs help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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Weed is what made that guy in FL eat the other guy's face off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag
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That was bath salts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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np. No, they speculated that was it, because people on bath salts do sometimes behave that way, but it turned out not to be that. It wasn't pot either, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:16 AM Flag
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spice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag
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^ To clarify, I believe he did test positive for marijuana--it was in his system. The guy was crazy, and like many mentally ill people, he was likely trying to self medicate with the pot, but that's obviously not what made him do what he did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag
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np: actually he tested negative for bath salts. They still don't know what made him do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag
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Wow! I didn't know that, how strange [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag
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He tested positive for marijuana in his system. That was it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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Drugs make people behave in strange ways, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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No that is an untreated mental disorder [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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weed is much stronger now so if you're on the edge it can exacerbate a mental problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:14 AM Flag
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This. I have personally seen this happen and it's been documented. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Not that we have the option yet, but Anderson or Speyer? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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Baby names? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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lolz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:26 AM Flag
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Speyer. Anderson is amazing but I think the small classes and all the extras would make choose Speyer. But like you would be happy with either option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:23 AM Flag
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speyer spam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:31 AM Flag
[ - ] How hard is it to replace your own locks? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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In theory, it's straightforward. In practice, it's never as easy as you think it's going to be. Make sure you don't have to start messing on with drilling new holes in the door. Choose your locks carefully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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I locked myself in the bathroom while replacing the handle. Could not get out. Thank G-d DH came home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:09 AM Flag
[ - ] I got my first credit card 9 months ago & only have $1500 limit. A few weeks ago my credit score was 770 but when i applied for an increase 3 months ago it was denied bc my credit history is too short. I am buying a house tomorrow too so I am not sure what the new mortgage will do to my credit right away. I need to spend probably about $3000 at Home Depot in the next two weeks. Is it worth applying for a Home Depot credit card for the 10% off? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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Whoa. What crazy bank is giving you a mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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Sorry didn't think I had to add that I'm not in New York - buying a 200k house in Boston [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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That's irrelevant. It's nuts that a bank would give you a mortgage with so little credit history! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag
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ITA. Do you mind sharing, how much down and what rate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag
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Easy, don't spend money you don't have! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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She's not, she wants the credit card for the discount. Get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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np: Then why did she apply for a credit line increase on the original card? And I agree that it's crazy that a bank will lend money for a house but will not increase the credit line above $1500. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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No, she needs the card because she can't get the limit extended on her cc AND she wants 10% off. Don't spend money you don't have! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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are you a teenager? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:16 AM Flag
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You are an adult buying a home and you have never before had a credit card? And where in Boston are you finding a place for $200K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:32 AM Flag
[ - ] I am thinking of getting a personal trainer. Is it worth it? I am unfit and would like to get fit and toned. What should I say my goals are? I will also do pilates once a week. I ran 5ks the other day with no problem as an indication of my fitness level. I just look untoned and I feel sluggish. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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Fuck you, you are not unfit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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It was the first exercise I had done in months...I think more mental than anything and I was very sore the next day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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I'd fuck you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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Just do Pilates or Yoga. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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I have a personal trainer. However, I am not very motivated. I only go to the gym if I have an appointment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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Op you sound like me. Has the personal trainer done anything for you? Are you fitter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag
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I am very fit, however I see the trainer 4 times a week. I also used to see a nutritionist sincere diet was super bad, I've cleaned it up and no longer see her ( she was super pricey) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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Ooh interesting. How did the nutritionist help you? I am interested in seeing one as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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I thought I was eating healthy. In reality, I was eating too much of the wrong things. She gave me easy options, based on what I like. We went through my pantry, threw out things I don't need, made shopping list of better things, really just being accountable helped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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You sound like me. I could run a 5k but I am soft. Have been debating the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:22 AM Flag
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How do you just get up and run a 5k if you don't exercise? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I am a hairy gorilla 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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Shave that nappy shit, now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag
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better than being an orangutan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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Is it really though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] I am actually close to having to go look what tinder is, the spamming is working! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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You promised you would stop :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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I really was a NP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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It's either a easily combustible material or a shitty shitty dating app....who the fuck cares. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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not me anymore now that I know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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Eh, it's nothing big. It's a dating app for phones. Someone earlier explained it so people wouldn't go make hits on the site because of the spamming, probably on page 3 now, let me see if I can find it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:46 AM Flag
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Explanation: http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55106758 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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Read my pussy lips...No one cares!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:54 AM Flag
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Someone cared enough to ask, as I might have had I logged on and it was taking up two pages of spamming. Close your pussy lips now, no one wants to see them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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You're obviously the tinder OP, still trying to sling your wares. Come here and give my clit a little kiss, then piss off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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Little bit drunk there, aren't you? (And obviously somewhat sex-deprived.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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Chicken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:17 AM Flag
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This doesn't make sense, so I suppose you are still drunk and sex-deprived. Bless your heart. Have a good night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:19 AM Flag
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Slink away, loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:22 AM Flag
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It seems counter-intuitive to promote this app on a site for mostly married women some men too). It basically connects you with people you or your friends know. What married woman or man wants to look for sex this way? CL casual encounters seems more appropriate here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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I agree, this site is not the place for that type of advertising. Many women here are married...the few who are single aren't coming here to find a date..lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible to change how management/co workers perceive you in the work place? Ran into a former coworker at another company who hinted that when she was at my firm, people perceived me as aloof, not personable and unapproachable, and thati had a "holier than thou" smugness to me. I work for a mid sized law firm and I tend to be aloof because I need silence in my office to concentrate, and I don't really care much for gossip. On my last work performance review, my boss encourages me to mingle more at social events but otherwise I got a giant raise (8%) and a glowing work review..but my social standing at work isn't strong, my former coworker was really my "gossip" social feed to other coworkers and now I basically keep to myself. I can't afford to quit this job either (best retirement benefits of any law firm I will ever work for given my shitty resume) so how do I fix this? I really don't want t be known in the office as the silent weirdo...I'm not a naturally social person, but I have to change this perception STAT if I want to make a run for a manager position in another 3-5 years...! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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To to events, ask people to lunch, smile , always smile [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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Start by just smiling at people as you walk by them in the halls. Maybe that will lead to hellos and how are you, etc. slowly weave yourself into the social culture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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I know someone like you (could be you!), and you really need to smile at people when you see them in the hallway, or in the cafeteria - it can make a world of difference. And seem genuinely glad to see them. If you don't like big mix and mingle events (I don't), start reaching out to one or two women you know there and set up lunches - tell them you have a project or an idea that you'd like their input on and the think of one. Use that as an entree to ask about their lives, their kids, etc. You don't have to gossip to be part of the mix. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Thanks for all the suggestions!, yes I do smile, I have a round face and am generally happy..but I am TERRIBLE at small talk. I do t have much in common with the majority of my coworkers - many are women like me, but they are older, with grown kids, and other people in my title are more aggressive,with the shop talk. I tend to be very efficient and will do a lot of administrative tasks instead of letting it trickle down to more junior coworkers because I hate confrontation and don't want to be disappointed with the work product. The lunch idea sounds swell, I think I can try that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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Umm try not to use words like swell.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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You are starting to see the problem, lol -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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We all hate small talk, really. Maybe start following sports so you have that to chat about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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How does one hint that you were aloof, not personable, unapproachable, smug, and holier than thou? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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Her body language and just how she discussed prior incidents at work a year ago where she described staffers saying "XYZ" and I really had NO idea that how I handled a certain situation led people to label me that way. -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Love this. President Obama's prom pictures 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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http://timeswampland.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/obama_prom_photos_0011.jpg?w=720&h=480&crop=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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One of these is not like the others... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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Where are the Asians? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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He was so cute when he was a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Also, 5 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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Oh, ITA. He's remarkably good looking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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Yes, he is a very attractive wealth redistributionist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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I don't think fuglies get elected president. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Explain Richard Nixon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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Wasn't he a ladies man? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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He was a fugly ladies man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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For sad ladies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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George bush sr and jr? Yuck! [ Reply | More
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I don't love them but they arent physically revolting [ Reply | More
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Prom? They were all drinking! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Love him. He looks good there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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How dare he date a white woman!! What were her parents thinking letting her go out with him? She must have went without permission. Sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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You make me sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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Job well done then!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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God what a cute pic! Honestly he's the only president ever I've ever felt any remote connection to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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Sorry, you must be black. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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I am whiter than white. I dont even have any genetic background that tans well. [ Reply | More
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Somethings wrong with you then... [ Reply | More
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Ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag
[ - ] 11.5 yo dd is miserable every time she visits her old school that her brother still attends. misses her old friends desperately and seems very depressed lately. long story - but we moved her out of the school in part b/c of things she was complaining about (not enough academic challenge in large part). but now she is just destroyed over not being there. should I be paying attention to this? Should I try to move her back? what to do - she is incredibly sad for months over this and hates her current school. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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You have posted about this for a while. You can't just keep moving her around. She's got to stick it out. Don't play into the drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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op-:( i am just heartbroken over this. she is so sad and its not changing. the kids in the current school in her grade are little shi**s - hate to say it but its true..so many issues. i am asking her to stick out being in a place where she isn't liked by anyone in her grade. the whole thing is awful and my fault. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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You can look for another school but not old one - you left for a reason [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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you gave her what she asked for. Next time you can use your better judgement as the parent. And hopefully she'll learn to be careful what she askes for. Look- I spent my junior high days wildly unpopular, called ethnic slurs, no friends. I'm stronger for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:26 AM Flag
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Most girls that age are awful relax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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op-she is in early puberty. that is the other issue. she is way ahead of development with kids in her grade at current school - but not in old school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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I must know what was old school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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Stop being heartbroken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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Don't look back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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i would switch her back, you tried something that didn't work, but she needs to be happy. get her a tutor who can help her to stay stimulated, GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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np: Old school won't take her back because of all the switching. OP has posted about this for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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Although I agree with the OR in theory, THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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She's going to be PMSing for the next couple of years. It's your job to make decisions for her based on logic, not emotion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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Why did you move her out of her old school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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op-it was my fault. she was adjusting and i had a lot of serious stuff going on. had limited bandwidth to process what she was dealing with and was like fine - you want to switch back, lets do it. mistake. but i was spread so thin and operating on like 2 brain cells. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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Switch her back then! Don't make the problem worse by letting this whole ordeal last longer. Fix the mistake. Move on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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Sometimes it just takes one friend. She's a little old for this, but can you get on a committee or two so you can get to know some other moms of girls her age and see if you can find a way to get them together -- brunch at your house, etc., with the moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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op-she has friends in older grades - but not hers. she knows the girls but they are not her style. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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You were me a year ago. DD was in a school that was a great fit socially but that was mediocre academically. Then we moved to a school with stronger academics (which she liked), but that turned out not to be a good fit socially. We moved to another (hopefully our last school that has a great MS/HS). Seriously, it's like night and day. She is so much happier--she is thriving in all areas. Not that there aren't some bumps with other kids sometimes, but overall, it's a great fit for her and for the family. As a parent, you know the difference between garden variety ups and downs and a truly bad fit. MS is a fragile time for girls. If she is unhappy and her confidence is suffering, make a switch. I wouldn't go back to the first school (necessarily, though you could), but use it as an opportunity to really think about the right fit for your dd. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] It's tinder time. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:15 AM Flag
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You are ruining page 1 so we have to keep going to page 2 to see the real posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:26 AM Flag
[ - ] If you could ask God one thing what would it be? 85 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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Please me make a size 4 again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:08 AM Flag
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Deep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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Thank you. I need divine intervention at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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Do you live in NYC? I have really never seen anything that makes me believe you guys are just in some kind of crazy miserable food prison. You have the best food around you, and yet you can't really eat any of it. I'm size 16, married, have great kids, have great friends, lots of money, I have fun and even get into a bathing suit. I feel bad for you that you somehow get humiliated if you are not a size 4. I know you probably are reading this and think, well, but I don't matter, I'm not in NYC, you don't care about people like me. But we care about people like you. And you sound miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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How great wish I could be like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Maybe he's concentrating on Oklahoma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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You're not really there are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:15 AM Flag
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Where? Asking god to make me a size 4? Nope. Not there. Wait. Let me ask now... NO. Still not a 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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of course I am always here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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world peace... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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Cliche [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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It's a cliche for a reason [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:12 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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nah. people have to want peace. we don't have unrest and wars because the war gods put them there. they happen because people care more about something else than peace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:30 AM Flag
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Where did I put my keys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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Now that's a waste of a God question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:21 AM Flag
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in your back pocket [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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If you are there, how did you let so many atrocities happen like the holocaust? I think about that a lot and often wonder how did something like that ever happen. Makes me lose faith in humanity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:14 AM Flag
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He hates the Jews [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:14 AM Flag
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No that couldn't be right. PEOPLE hate Jews. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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Ugh here comes the Jew bashing - I'm a Jew and I will fight hard - get ready ladies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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I am not Jew bashing. I am Jewish. I just meant that other people hate us and that it's not god. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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I love the Jews. Don't mess with them or I will mess with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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Okay, Newtown then. Does he hate sweet little children and devoted teachers too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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A lot of other people were killed in the holocaust, dummy. Not to take away from the Jews, but gypsies, gays, poles, Slavs, political dissidents. Hitler hated everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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Oh stop - you're clearly a goy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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I am a goy who had family in labor camps so shove it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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You never hear 6 million gays were murdered or 6 million gypsies - these groups don't have their own museu,s or movies - gimme a break - find your own hardship or plague - the Jews have a lock on the holocaust [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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Right on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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That wasn't my point at all. Relax. My point was horrible things happen because they happen, not because god lets them happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:26 AM Flag
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So you don't know either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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How would anyone know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Sounds like a wholly different point...but listen sister we're letting you off the hook here... Bc you know we Jews are compassionate and forgiving [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:35 AM Flag
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Where's your museum? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:46 AM Flag
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So true. Millions of other people weren't nearly wiped out. Jews suffered the most and that is very clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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Like I said, not to take away from the Jews. I'm not having a suffering contest here. I love Jewish people, I'm just saying the holocaust was horrible for a lot of people and "God let it happen" for them too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:25 AM Flag
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Revisionist post - that's not what you said, but ok - fellow Jew here - ill take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Read the original post, I pretty much said the same thing. After you guys hitler had a list of people he was after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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Yep - the people who hid the Jews!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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I think most of Eastern Europe was next. The guy was a fucking loon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Maybe but it's still a Jewish thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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I get it but people who are not Jewish truly don't understand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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I am not Jewish and I agree with this. I can't imagine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Good question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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What did you really do on day 7? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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Played solitaire [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Rocked out with his cock out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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What happens after you die? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:26 AM Flag
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why how would that help you in this life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:21 AM Flag
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My parents are both gone, I would like to know if there is an afterlife [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:21 AM Flag
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Why are men such idiots? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:21 AM Flag
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Did you find Margaret self centered? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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Lol!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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Thx - I thought it was clever - wasn't sure anyone would get it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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No she was honest about what she wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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Why am I here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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How can I make my SIL like me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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why do you need her to like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:36 AM Flag
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So she will stop being annoying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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Why do I suck so much - please make me better than I am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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Awww, what's wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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You don't suck. You were created in God's image and have in it you to become who you want to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Oy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Ugh :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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Don't be such a cynic. Religion isp powerful for many people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag
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Ewwwwwwww [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:07 AM Flag
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Why is this so sickening? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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Did it ever occur to you that God sucks too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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This I get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Please help me to raise my children to be good caring people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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If? I ask him questions all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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Who? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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Why can't unicorns be real? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:34 AM Flag
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DD go back to sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:43 AM Flag
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It isn't fair!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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I know it isn't, you still have to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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Please take away my fear that keeps me from trying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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poof its gone, now you are brave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:50 AM Flag
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God doesn't exist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:07 AM Flag
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Why do you allow violent acts, especially against children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:28 AM Flag
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i would ask him, "why?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Nanny left DD in park with another nanny to run an errand. She then told DD not to tell me because she would get in trouble. DD told me. WWYD? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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How old is dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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How old is the nanny? If she's 24 I would chalk it up to being young and stupid. If she's 40 gtfo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Fire her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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Seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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Yes seriously. Fire her. It proves she cannot be trusted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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I can't think of any advice, but I'm sorry you probably have to go through the process of finding a new nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:21 AM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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it's not just the lack of judgement, which MAYBE you could explain away. It's telling your dd not to lie. That is bad. Very bad. Fire her, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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^plus this is not the first time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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agree. red flag. what else is she telling dd to lie about? what message does that send dd? would she have done same thing with a boyfriend? what is she lying to you about? untrustworthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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This would be absolutely unacceptable to me. Not the leaving dd at the park with the other nanny, but her request of dd to keep it a secret from me. No way. How long has she worked for you and how do you feel about her otherwise? If you have a long history with her, and if this is the first real issue, consider whether you'd feel comfortable giving her a strong warning and moving on. Otherwise, fire her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:20 AM Flag
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+1. Offense debatable, coverup huge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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Fire her. Telling my kid to lie to me is dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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Fire her. Telling my kid to lie to me is dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:23 AM Flag
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Leaving your DC with another nanny, that presumably she knows is not a big deal. However asking your DC to lie about it is inexcusable. You are dealing with someone who will lie to you about other things, maybe steal from you and is not trustworthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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BTW, OP, how old is your dd, and what did you say to her after she told you what had happened? I think it'd great that she told you in spite of the nanny asking her not to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:28 AM Flag
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I told her that I was so proud of her for telling me. I told her that grown-ups are not supposed to ask kids to keep secrets and when they do, she needs to tell me, just like she did. She was really nervous to tell me and was clearly conflicted. This whole thing is so upsetting. We have a long, wonderful history with the nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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Why is OP not answering a single question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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Sorry, I've been trying to distract myself by figuring out what Tinder is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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ok troll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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Fire her - there's two strikes right there. 1) leaving her and 2) telling her to keep secrets from you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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Ok, I do think you should fire her, but if DD loves her, you could be somewhat punishing her for being a whistle blower. Next time she WILL keep the secret. I would let it go quietly for now, but on the side be working Nanny out in a way that your DD doesn't think it's because she told. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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I know, this is what I keep coming back to. I just can't stand the thought of my DD thinking she's responsible for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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buh-bye Nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:47 AM Flag
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Nanny here: fire her. That's insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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How old is DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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I don't see how that is relevant. Please explain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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I don't think you need to fire her. It was stupid but I don't think evidence of real dishonesty. Have a talk with her and see how it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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Fire her. No question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 04:08 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:07 AM Flag
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try Tinder. Spice up your life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 03:04 AM Flag
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Too Tinder, Too Tinder to quit. [ Reply | More
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