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[ - ] Anyone ever have a mouse problem? DH has sealed every nook and cranny in our kitchen and we're still finding droppings near the oven! We put glue traps under the oven and it's not working. Help! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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When you see a mouse, there are at least 10 mice around. Put rat poison all over the house, or traps, until you catch them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] To the person who posted yesterday that they lost 30 pounds doing intermittent fasting (eating within a 5 hour window)- thank you! Today is my first day trying it. I only made it until 9:30am without eating breakfast though (normal breakfast is at 7am). Not sure if it will work for me or not! Anyone else tried this? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Hi! I'm not the 30 pound person. But I heard about it on here a few months ago and I'm down 15 pounds. I kind of love it. There's a private Facebook group if you want to join that. Tons of support over there and it's kind of fun because it has people on there from all around the globe. Don't worry if the first few days are a bit hard. You have an adjustment period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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I asked about intermittent fasting on a post here a few days ago, but didn't get many replies. Good to get some positive feedback on it. I'm thinking of trying the 5-hour window thing or the 5-day/2-day thing. Watching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Flying to Europe on the red eye (my first time). Will I be most jet lagged the day that I arrive, or, as I've been told by some, the next day? Advice? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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I think the "red eye" is only for California to NY trips, but I could be wrong. I recently flew to Paris from JFK and stayed up all day, walking around. Felt tired but I'm glad I didn't take a nap when I arrived. Tips: drink lots of water and try to sleep on the plane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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and no caffeine or alcohol on the flight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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a red eye is anything where you spend overnight on the plane- going to Europe on an evening flight definitely qualifies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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Don't all flights to Europe leave in the evening or late afternoon? I have never heard of a morning flight to EU. Must be very rare and thus not necessary to specify "red eye" when going to Europe - it's understood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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For Paris, I got to the hotel and dumped bags and then just ran all over the city trying to stay up as late as possible. It's kind of crazy, but helps you adjust. Don't take a nap. You'll never wake up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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No, you won't be jetlagged. Set yourself up to be comfortable on the plane (neck pillow, earplugs, window seat) and sleep for as much of the flight as you can. Then have some caffeine in the morning, and just forget you're in another time zone. You'll just feel like any other day when you didn't get quite enough sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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For me, both. General rule is it takes one hour per time zone travelled to FULLY adjustg, but the first few days are the hardest. Very important ways to get over it: sun and exercise. Even though you want to sleep in the afternoon that first day, drag your ass outside, even if you are stumbling around not noticing anything. Your body takes its cues from the sun. Definitely try to sleep on the plane as much as you can (earplugs, eye shade, ignore the movie selections, ambien if you can). I also take the homeopathic "No Jetlag" stuff and think it helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I used to live in London and did this dozens of times. As soon as the plane takes off, take two sleeping pills, put the eyeshade over your eyes, and recline as far as you can. If you go right to sleep and get at least 3-4 hours of sleep, your body will adjust ok. Then, make sure you get to at least 8 pm London time before sleeping again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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in other words, act like the time zone you are going to as soon as possible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Just stay on European time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] DF gives her 7 y.o. DS coffee every morning -- half of a decaf espresso with a lot of milk and two sugars. She is European. I guess it's healthier than chocolate milk or sugary cereal. Any thoughts on this? I find it rather cute, actually. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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its decaf whats the big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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This. Zero thoughts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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harmless and cute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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Some cultures give kids caffeinated coffee. This doesn't sound like a big deal at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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(Caveat: we all know these studies flip-flop every year.) Coffee is supposed to be high in antioxidants. She might be adding a layer of protection against future cancers. Plus calcium & protein, so, yay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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My 7 yo DD has a little bit of coffee with milk (a tiny almost tea-party set cup -- so probably one or two tablespoons) every morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] My hobby is latching on to people I don't like and telling long, rambling, incoherent stories about my childhood until I can see their heads are about to implode from boredom. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Try knitting instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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That doesn't sound nearly as satisfying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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If your current hobby is how you define satisfying you really need a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Are you someone I deliberately bored to tears recently? You seem to take my hobby very much to heart... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Mine is remapping coworkers' keyboards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Moved to a NJ town a few months ago. What is it with moms who send their kids to Pingry? They act so weird about it, like they're the best thing since slice bread. It's the first thing that comes out of their mouth. Our new neighbor asked where we moved from and then asked which school our kid will be going to. I said public elementary. She looked disappointed and said, oh, well my son goes to Pingry. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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I remember this from when I lived in Short Hills. They'd say it in this hushed tone. Small towns, small people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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How long did you live in SH? Did you move back to the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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I did 10 years there. Moved to Westchester (to shorten my commute). Wish I could have moved back to the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Are the towns different in westchester? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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In terms of moms talking about schools, no. More expensive than SH, for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Right, and moms never do this in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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True. Insert any TT school name instead of Pingry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Planning a party for female relatives as DD got her first period. I want fun theme foods. Any ideas? Tia 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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you are kidding right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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No my mom ignored it when I got my period. I want to celebrate it with my DD. she will always remember it and I hope it will reinforce that she can talk to me about anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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I would have been mortified [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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+10,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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She will definitely remember it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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I admire your odd take on trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Indeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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bananas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Lame. How many times do you have to post this crap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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Not lame and I have never posted this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Liar. I have seen variants on this post half a dozen times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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bloody mary's, blood splatter sugar cookies, red velvet cake, cherry pie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Strawberry jam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Linzer tarts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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I took my DD out to dinner when she got hers. She certainly didn't want a room full of women to know or to celebrate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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First Moon Party!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEcZmT0fiNM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Some cultures do this. When I was a kid I had a camp friend whose family had a party for this. An older relatoce had given her a sanitary pad embroidered with the words "may our blood make you strong." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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ewww.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Serve everything with ketchup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Recruiters-stop making this process difficult. You see a position for someone, call that person ONCE, they send you their resume, submit it and wait to hear back. You do not need to make 5 phone calls before you submit the resume to a company. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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What if they need clarification on your resume? I work for a technical recruiter and people lie so much. The recruiter does not want to be embarrassed in front of their client [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Then you call for clarification-once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Sorry you are having a bad experience. Maybe you are dealing with an inexperienced recruiter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Probably. She called back and said "I think we got disconnected" ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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I had someone just call me about a project manager position after calling me yesterday and sending me two emails. Said they needed to ask me a few questions-after 10 minutes she asked me four times if I had project management experience. I finally hung up the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Is she really breaking up with scott? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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IDGAF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Who is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Well, my little sister chose one of her college friends over me to be her maid of honor. This is the girl who I sacrificed my childhood to protect, and now she does this?... wow, that stings. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Sorry about that, I have a similar relationship with my little siblings and they can be so oblivious sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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Thank you! You're right, she can be very oblivious... I try not to talk about the sacrifices I made, but she had the audacity to say, "well it's my wedding, I'm paying for it." Honey, the only reason you even went to college, much less med school, is because I made sure you had the opportunities I did not. You would be working as a waitress and marrying a bartender if I hadn't taken control of our lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Let it go - she's sounds like a typical ungrateful kid. She has no clue how much you sacrificed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Really? What did you do exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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My father died when I was little and my mother is a train-wreck. She spent her money on drugs and there were a lot of shitty men in our life growing up. I cared for my sister all through the years, did odd jobs when I was younger and started working part time at 14. I did everything for our family. When I was 17 my mother got knocked up and moved in with her loser boyfriend. I got into a good school, but I turned the offer down for a local school because I couldn't leave home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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That was a mistake on her part. Don't compound it by filling yourself with anger. This is a trivial thing in the overall scheme of your lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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That's good advice. I know it is pretty trivial, but it feels like a punch in the gut and I'm having a hard time not feeling so hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Children and younger siblings often don't have a clue how much other people sacrificed to raise them. Think of how ungrateful we all were to our parents u too we had our own children and found out how hard it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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I agree. Now that I'm a parent and have put two kids through college I have a much much better grasp of the sacrifices my parents made. I was oblivious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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When we were younger I hid her from all of the strife in our little world and now she is so peacefully unaware of everything. She knows I turned down an acceptance to a top 20 school to stay home and watch her. She knows I worked all through high school and college in order to support her. I don't get how she is so la dee da about everything I did for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Is it possible that she doesn't know you were protecting her and even thinks something like you were afraid to go away for yourself and so stayed home for reasons having nothing to do with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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She knows I had to stay because there really wasn't any other option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Wow. That is really outstanding of you. I am so sorry you are hurt. How much older are you? I wish I had had an older sister to do the same for me, instead I have the loser bartender brother who was no help to me at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Thank you. I am six years older. Sorry about your brother:/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Thanks. Were you able to have a successful career as well? How did you manage it all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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It was delayed, but I ended up getting into a good graduate school and making it career wise. I ran on five hours of sleep for most of my life, pretty much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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My parents made me choose my little sister as maid of honor. It would have been a family uproar if I didn't. I doubt my sister would choose me. And my parents would make something up as of why she wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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My mom is a younger sister, and says that the parental role her eldest sister took on prevented them from later having a friendship of equals. It may be that your sacrifice (and potential related resentment and entitlement) weigh heavily on her, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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How did you sacrifice your childhood? What were you protecting her from? Does she even know what you sacrificed on her behalf? Are you close now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Are you and your sister best friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Do you maintain an attitude that she is forever beholden to you for sacrifices she never asked you to make? Sounds like she is choosing a path that will enable her to take credit for her own accomplishments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Did you REALLY not have a childhood? I mean, were you all in a refugee camp and you sold yourself to the guards to get her rice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Do SAHMS get upset when other SAHMs go back to work after a long period out of work? My block has a bunch (seriously, like 12) career SAHMs who go with the "I'd love to go back to work, but I just can't find a job!" explanation. I just learned that one of them went back to her old career after 8 years out of work. Do you think the rest of them will be pissed at her for showing that you can actually go back to work if you want to? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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She won't be friends with them anymore so it won't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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I don't know but here is my anecdote: a mom in my school is 50 and has two sons - 7 and 9. Someone asked her is she plans to go back to work, and she hissed "and send my kids to aftercare until 6? No way I would do that!" Another mom went all aggressive on me when I asked her how her new job was (former IB, then divorced SAHM now needs to work as a secretary, which I didn't know). She went on and on how she would never work a finance job and come back at 8pm ever day and miss her children's life just for the money. She knows I work these hours - and I am the sole breadwinner at the moment and have no option. These are the SAHMs in my part of the country.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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I am sorry that they hurt your feelings. I think the net of both of these conversations that whether you work or stay at home or go back to a lesser job, it is a loaded conversation and involves compromise of some sort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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I think women can suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Well that is your opinion. I actually have more respect for women since having children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Even for the catty ones? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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I don't know many catty women. If someone reveals themselves to be catty I don't spend time with them. But the catty people are generally very insecure. I am a down to earth person and they get no payoff being catty to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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You are lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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They really do. If I had to list the five meanest people I know (both in work life and personal life), every single one is a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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who are these people? I really don't know anyone i would describe as "mean" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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+1 she may very well have thought you asked the question precisely because you are still in finance and she is a secretary (ie, that you were the catty one) and so responded defensively. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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I didn't know. The only reason I knew was that my DD told me that her daughter is now in after care because her mom works. I was surprised because she had planned on getting alimony and never work again. I am not that familiar with her life though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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You seem to know what she did before and that she had to go back to work because of divorce. She had no reason to know you were only musing the last snippet of the gossip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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You sound pretty insecure yourself. I was meaning well and congratulating her. Stop projecting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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She is sensitive about her new position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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And her divorce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Maybe stay away from the work topic with people you don't know well then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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I wasn't the one who brought it up. And how is it my fault now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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The first person was expressing her opinion (thoughtlessly). It wasnt meant to insult you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Exactly, she is thoughtless. She could have spoke. The truth and told people that no one will hire her at age 50 with no skills and a 10 yr absence from the work force. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Actually, I was SO insecure about getting back out there (on a consulting basis) after staying at home until youngest was in K. Then I saw two moms successfully relaunch careers after several years out of the workforce, and it totally gave me the courage to make a move. Now my consulting business is doing quite well, and I partly credit the example of these other SAHMs for motivating me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O re: cutting off toxic friends. At what point do you stop being friends with someone if they've said or done something so hurtful you just can't laugh it off, forgive, and move on? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why is this even a question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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I'm looking for people's own experiences as examples of a normal give and take (we're all stressed and say things we don't mean) vs the cut off point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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If you're at the point where you have already labelled someone as toxic and you've been hurt past the point of the ability to forgive, you don't need other people to tell you what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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My rule for myself is that if I'm not willing to address it with the friend, then I have to choose to get over it and move on and not hold it against them. But, that kind of pertains to a 1 or 2 time blunder on a friend's part because we all make errors and need the benefit of the doubt. Though if this is a common occurrence by the friend and they're really more of a frenemy who keeps taking digs at you, then I'd slow fade it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Yes, I have another friend who always make some laughing, negative comment when she sees me. "You look exhausted! You know you're going the wrong way, don't you?" etc. I used to laugh with her; now I'm thinking who needs this shit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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OR: Yeah, I had a friend like this long ago in another city. I think they're just insecure people who are either kind of social dunces or get some weird thrill out of being snarky to their friends. I put up with it for a while, but then I started kind of prepping myself for it and saying things back like 'oh, are you in a bad mood today? are you not feeling well?' Then she's day why and I'd say 'well, you're kind of cranky and being a bit of a mean girl.' Then she stopped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Thanks -- this is helpful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Can you give us some examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Friend lashed out at me during a dinner (we'd all been drinking) then blamed me (in a really low blow that involved our kids). She never apologized in any way shape or form. I have zero desire to renew this friendship. Just wonder if I'm over reacting or if other people have experienced and done the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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Hard to know without knowing what was said [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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How drunk were you guys? Do you think there's any way she just doesn't remember or that she's so embarrassed that she's hoping you forgot? And is this normal behavior from her? Is she kind of a dick...or is she great and this was a one off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Drunkeness reveals what sobriety conceals. If she lashed out while drunk she feels some animosity toward you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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I think that's definitely there. She's very competitive and always needs the spotlight to be on her at all times. I objected to that and she flipped out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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Well sounds like you have your answer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Pretty rude to call her out at dinner in front of other people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Not drunk, really. 1-2 glasses of wine each. It was a one off. But the stuff that came out of her mouth (sorry I can't be more specific) was on the order of "and you realize your kid is stupid, right?" Like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Why would you want to waste your time with this person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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That's my gut too. Just wasn't sure if I was being too sensitive. I've laughed off lots of other things people have said (and I'm sure I've said things that came out wrong too) but this was of another magnitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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If someone insults my child we are done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Same. Or DH. It's on the list of "don't go there". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Ok, well if she's that nasty after a glass or two, then she's just been keeping that under wraps. I would slow fade it for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] ExDH moving to Park Slope (from Manhattan, where I still live). What is it like there? I have heard great things, but have been there exactly once in my lifetime. Also wants DS to change schools, which I wouldn't mind as I don't love where he is now. Anyone care to share opinions? Thanks. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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It is a great neighborhood and community. Take the subway and walk around there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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+1. Go on a weekend. Hit Prospect Park, go have a nice brunch. Maybe at Talde. Get the bacon pad thai, it's delicious. Park Slope is great. And it has great schools. Could you move there too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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Thanks for rec. No, I can't move. Will be kind of a pain but if it's a better situation for DS I can deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Very family friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Thanks, sorry to sound dumb but which subway goes there? I am on UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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The B, F, G, Q mostly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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MILF-land. Doesn't your ex-husband want to date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Off to work and so pissed already. I hate my industry. Constant stress, uncertainty, understaffed so I work the job of two people and low pay and crap benefits. Help 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Let's have a job-switching support group, just for a sec. Are you in publishing or yet another vanishing field? They are moving my cheese over to "content development." Where's yours going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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Ha, you called it. Publishing. I need to get the F out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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But how do we get to content development? Or are you more interested in pr or? What else uses these weirdo skillzzz we've gathered? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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I'm in a back office role but if I had to stay in content development, I'd try to jump to a media company that has a model that works. Digital only platforms for one. There are companies that are making money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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I feel so super old when I try to figure out where the money is: my online life as a reader is like... Verticals. Old school blogs. Not a lot of video, though I'll for sure look at the new vice site. Are you in trade (general interest)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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Publishing has some.of the worsr morale of any industry. It is chronically declaring its own death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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I hate to break it to you but this is virtually every industry that isn't in the public sector. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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Op. This is just not true. I have plenty of friends who work hard, yes, but not nearly the same hours and for the same pay, often more. And even within my industry, there are companies who have figured out a decent revenue model so things are much better. I'm in legacy publishing and it is shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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Is there a way for you to 'care less' while searching for another job/alternate industry to work in? Sometimes when things get super bad at work, I kind of try to just do my job, head down and not take anything too seriously there. And then I focus on it as just a means to an end...I need to work to support my family. And I love my family. Almost like just considering food fuel for your body rather than something to really enjoy. Not a long term plan, but sometimes helps me to just tune out a bit for a few months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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The calmest I ever was at work was when I was pregnant, and I could SO take it or leave it. I had bigger fish to fry. And if you think of it that way, we all do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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Np^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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OR: Yep, I was like this while pregnant too. I just felt like the pregnancy was real life and work was kind of BS that I had to deal with and I really didn't care about it. I mean, I got my work done, but I just didn't sweat shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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That's not a bad idea. Although at times I'm bitter that DH doesn't earn more so I can avoid all this. Although the truth is I wouldn't want that either. Work is important to me, just not this work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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OR: I would try really hard not to go down the bitter with DH path. I just think that's not a healthy route at all. He earns what he earns and he has a job. If you were in that relationship for the money, you may have picked another guy and you might have a much worse relationship or a whole host of other issues. It's fine to be mildly jealous of people who have more money than us, but in the end, it's a really empty place to be. Don't resent your DH. Be happy he has a job. Make adjustments to lower your lifestyle costs if you really don't want to work. Could you move to a less expensive city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Count me in. It's just gotten worse over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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np: Yep, I'm in advertising and it's the same. The only thing that makes me feel better about it is that I do know people who were laid off and still haven't found jobs. So even though I might think my job is crappy, these friends would love to have it. So, I'll count my blessings. And keep spending my lottery winnings in my head...though it might help if I actually played. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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I think it's worse if you feel like you can't quit (you need the money) and/or you can't change careers (too old). Not saying that's you -- but it's definitely me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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What do you do? How much of your job could be automated? Do you have marketable skills that you could go job hunting with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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My job can't be automated at all. It can be sent outside the company but that's mostly very expensive to do bc it requires local workers. I'm much cheaper for the co inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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What do you do? Most jobs can't be automated, but most tasks within a job can be, if you have the right tools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Hmm, interesting. What sort of tools? My entire role is a decision making one so I don't know much that can be automated but it's an interesting idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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The tools depend on the task. Book an hour with an IT guru in your company (or, better yet, a lunch with an IT guru outside your company, to strengthen your own network at the same time) and talk about the small tasks and workflows you do most days. There have been a lot of developments in applications for all of the little things that take up 2 minutes here, 10 minutes there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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She will just increase her chances to get laid off and replaced by a computer if she does that. Not good advice at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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Wrong. If she does her job smarter - eliminating repetitive and unnecessary tasks in order to focus on the tasks that only a person can do - she will accomplish more that is actually valuable to her company. We're talking about automating a workflow, so she can focus on VIP clients and bring in new ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Book publishing here. I feel exactly the same. Too exhausted and overwhelmed to expound on it but...yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Op. Yes. Publishing is just horrendous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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Or top: if I make a meetup or a yahoo group right now we could one day complain about this IRL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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Ok. Here's a little spinning beach ball to indicate that the task is in process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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istheremoretolifethanpublishing-subscribe@yahoogroups.com It's set to private. If we chicken out, it can rest in peace in the internet graveyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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I have the opposite problem. Over the last year I have reviewed each task on my desk, and eliminated the ones no one uses anymore, and using VBA or the IT team to code the ones that shouldn't be manual. Now I only have about 2 hours of work/day. I told my manager I'd like to combine my job with one that is currently vacant, but he doesn't want to lose the headcount. Why can't managers get this stuff sorted out so they have the right number of employees for the work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:58 PM Flag
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Um, that's freaking amazing. I wish I had only 2 hours of work each day and my boss didn't want to increase my load. Can you read books online or do personal crap in the other hours? Work from home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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I use a lot of the time to take courses online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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Can you gove examples of some.of the things you have eliminated or automated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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I have a lot of work that comes in as attachments in emails. I wrote some VBA scripts that pull them out of Outlook, file them in the right folders on the shared drive, and format them in the formats we use (Word docs, Excel, etc.). Anything I do more than once a day in Outlook, Word, Excel, etc., I write a macro for. I had a series of reports I was responsible for that had been part of the job for several years; I talked to each end user, and killed the reports no one really looked at anymore, updated the reports people do use with better formats & info, turned them into dynamic dashboards, and worked with our IT group to run them on internal webpages in real time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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NP Thanks, really nice specifics. I am in awe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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One thing that helped me get through my day is to make my work environment nicer. Cleaned off my desk; hung some art work; got colorful desk organizers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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Same here, except that I am a lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] re-post, repost, THX Has anyone had any experience with Elliot Maskowitz, orthodontist. He comes recommended and I work and I would like to forgo a second opinion. Just braces but a word here would be helpful . THX 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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No, but his Yelp reviews are spotty. 1 great, 2 bad. I think that braces is kind of a big enough deal to make the time for a second opinion. Why don't you go on zocdoc and search for orthodontists in your neighborhood and read all the reviews. I had to pick all new doctors this year due to an insurance change and I love every single one of the new ones I picked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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He's very good. Has done both my children teeth and a few of out friends. Well respected, very nice. You might be able to get cheaper, but I think he's one of the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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op: THX- single working mom, here, and I heard he was the best too, really want to choose wisely, with such limited time to really shop around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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Your very welcome. I've recommend the office several times and everyone who I know who has used him has been happy. DS had his front teeth pushed back when he was hit by a baseball. We called Dr. Moskowitz from the ER and he insisted on seeing DS first thing the next morning. Charged nothing to do this and was at least 1.5 hrs of work to get DS's teeth back in place. Years later his teeth look great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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op: THX [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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You are so annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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op: And you are a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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You post every single day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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and [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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We use him and really like him. My daughter's teeth are looking great. Another year or so to go then child #2 will be his patient. Rosie in the office is the best! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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op: she is nice! phew b/c I had sucha bad experience with my own braces! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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