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[ - ] Why are you awake, and what brings you to ub? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 10:30 AM Flag
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I live in Europe, and I'm just kind of relaxing. Also a guy, but work in an industry that UB talks about a lot, so I stumbled in here a few years ago and occasionally check back in. (More info than you probably wanted.) What about you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:43 AM Flag
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Education, big law, or finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:01 PM Flag
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Education--I'm a teacher. I moved to NYC to teach at a school and when I googled around to figure out its reputation/environment, UB kept coming up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:03 PM Flag
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Interesting. Can I ask how your experience teaching at a presumably "TT" school here measures against where you teach in Europe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:07 PM Flag
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The dogs tell me when to wake up. This morning it was at 6:30, they don't care if it's Sunday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:55 AM Flag
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What type of dogs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:59 AM Flag
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All medium size mixes, two olders age 12 and 11, and two young, 2 years and a 9 month old. We got them all through one of those rescues that brings them up from the southern states. Not really the plan to have 4 dogs at once but we've had very good experiences with older dogs teaching the "routine" to the younger ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:10 PM Flag
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Awake. I picked up dh from the airport this morning otherwise I'd be at mass with dc. I'm mad at him so I'm at the coffee shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:59 AM Flag
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Mad that you missed mass, or for something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:04 PM Flag
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Mad that when he's away he doesn't communicate. When I'm away I call him in the morning and before bed and he's no more busy than I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:07 PM Flag
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Yes! Killing time before taking son to a sports activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:01 PM Flag
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I'm on UB while I have my morning cup of coffee. Trying to figure out how to prioritize my day. Apartment is a disaster but I have things to do for grad school and work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:02 PM Flag
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What are you studying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:04 PM Flag
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Clean for an hour now then you have the rest of the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:08 PM Flag
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I admire that you are doing both! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:11 PM Flag
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I live in Europe (NL). Former New Yorker and just like it here :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:07 PM Flag
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Completely hung over and can't sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Went out tonight - was the first time in a long time I did y have my hair blown out for dinner. I realized no one , literally no one has curly hair anymore. I felt like andamned mess. I have been trying to not give I. To keratin but do I have to??? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:53 AM Flag
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I love curly hair. If mine was curly I would wear it all wild and not get a blowout. Don't give in, it's much more attractive and interesting to be curly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:35 AM Flag
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Agree. Don't fight it, DD has stick straight hair and is asking for a curling iron. She's nine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:47 AM Flag
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Yes. One always wants what one doesn't have. I have hair that would never hold a curl & envy you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:16 AM Flag
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Straight looks prettier but not if it takes a toll on you. Convenience matters, too. Do the best with what you have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:06 PM Flag
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Why do you think straight looks prettier ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one who didn't realize until now that Gary Oldman was once married to Uma Thurman? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:44 AM Flag
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Also, spell check wants Uma to be Zumba, which is kind of hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:45 AM Flag
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No way! Really! Wow, i didnt know this..going to Wiki now.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:48 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:23 AM Flag
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I knew about it at the time but since forgot neither of them has been relevant for a while [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:56 AM Flag
[ - ] All this effort to save heroin addicts seems like a waste to me. If they want to ruin their lives, they can have at it. I don't think drugs should be illegal, but I also don't think we need to spend tax money on trying to save these people from killing themselves. They chose to do heroin. Let them suffer the consequences of that. I would rather see this tax money go towards universal healthcare, free in state university tuition for all who get accepted, and help for immigrants to learn English and gain skills. Helping people who actually WANT to help themselves, not scum who do heroin while they have kids at home. Honestly, fuck them. I have no sympathy for those who CHOSE to make poor decisions that risk their lives and then expect others to save them and bail them out. Just let them die. Innocent people are dying in this country due to lack of affordable health care. They should be the priority, not heroin addicts. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:38 AM Flag
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This seems personal for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:39 AM Flag
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Not at all. I actually don't know a single person who does heroin or has done heroin (that I know of.) I keep hearing what an epidemic it is in news articles, but I know no one who does heroin or is impacted by it. I just read a news article about it though talking about the expense to tax payers and how this is a police priority and how they spend more of their days dealing with heroin addicts trying to save them. Just seems like a waste of resources. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:42 AM Flag
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I kind of agree, but I'm a small government person across the board. I wouldn't spend the tax money on healthcare or tuition either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:46 AM Flag
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What about free in state tuition to those who gets accepted to the flagship school in that state? So only one free school and then the rest have tuition. Just seems like the US is so many decades behind Europe in this. I went to private schools and was fortunate enough to have a wealthy family that paid my tuition, but I think it's a tragedy that so many of my peers from my private college have 500k in students debt from college and grad school together. I think at the very least there should be one tuition free state university in each state. And then kids who get in there would have free tuition and maybe room and board as well. All merit based, so grades, test scores, and other admissions factors would play in to who gets this benefit and the schools would decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:52 AM Flag
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But if it's government run, there has to be quotas. So whites need straight A's to get accepted, minorities can get B and C's. Then they dumb down the curriculum. Then it isn't a good school. Then only minorities go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:04 AM Flag
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NP: it also means there isn't a decent instate option for good students from MC families [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:49 AM Flag
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I think we can take care of both the "innocent people" and the heroin addicts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:49 AM Flag
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we really can't. A city or town only has so much money in their budget. Dealing with heroin addicts takes away from dealing with other issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:53 AM Flag
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The heroin epidemic is at least partially because the pharmaceutical companies pushed painkillers on america, and people got addicted to painkillers then couldn't get their prescriptions, so turned to heroin. Some of the areas hit the hardest by opiate addiction are areas where blue collar workers are likely to get injured, get prescribed painkillers, then not have the resources to get out of the problem. Addicts aren't just lazy people with no self control, there are a ton of contributing factors. You should watch this documentary http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/frontline/film/chasing-heroin/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:52 AM Flag
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Np: not all addicts start shooting heroine to deal with pain and/or painkiller withdrawal - many do it to try it, including a relative of mine and I have no sympathy for her. She had everything going for her – smart, attractive, popular and she started dating the wrong guy and tried it and now she's in her mid-20s, dropped out of college, has been to rehab multiple times, arrested as an accomplice to a convenience store robbery, almost died/spent months in the hospital, lost most of her hair and will probably have lifelong medical problems because of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:11 AM Flag
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i agree 100%. Im so angry that ICE agents are targeting illegal immigrants who have sick babies in hospitals when resources are better spent going after gang leaders. http://www.npr.org/2017/09/20/552339976/border-patrol-arrests-parents-while-infant-awaits-serious-operation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:53 AM Flag
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Going for the easy targets. Gang leaders are much more work to catch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:06 PM Flag
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zzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:24 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:05 AM Flag
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Why don't you just walk around with a sign that says "I'm an asshole" and save everyone some time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:17 AM Flag
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NP: I disagree. I too don't want my tax dollars wasted on hopeless causes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:36 AM Flag
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Do you think your kids could make one mistake/bad choice and wind up in this situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:25 AM Flag
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NP. I actually don't think one bad choice makes a drug addict. It's more like a series of bad choices and general lack of judgment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:06 PM Flag
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What kind of money do you see being spent "dealing with heroin addicts"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Is there any point to excelling in school? I feel like you just end up with a more stressful job- most of my childhood friends who didn't purse higher education (or at least a whole lot less) have far more fantastic lives. No fertility problems, subsidized housing, more free time, less stress, and just as high a standard of living. Yes, I get that I am whining, but all that school was really hard...and now I have nothing I want and my taxes support their much better lives. Does anyone else feel this way? What a mess. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:32 AM Flag
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How do they have the same standard of living? I can see why a lower stress, less career-obsessed lifestyle could be more pleasant, but that part doesn't make sen to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:35 AM Flag
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sense. sorry -- old, fat fingers on ipad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:35 AM Flag
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Because they all managed to score subsidized housing (loft-law building, Mitchell-Lama, inherited rent control, Penn South etc), with housing being the major expense in NYC. They home school or send their kids to public (free food, childcare, transportation). The free/low-cost housing allowed them the freedom to not work when they were younger, so the ones who wanted kids worked the system and got Medicaid etc. So it all worked out perfectly for them, whereas my million years of undergrad, medschool, and residency left me with debt, infertility, and a job I hate, trying to catch up to where they are. And trust me, as an MD, ain't no subsidizing nothing coming your way, even if you WANT to quit. I feel like I got sucked into a ponzi scheme from which I can't escape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:28 AM Flag
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Right I had the big career and got laid off. I went on unemployment, which led to food stamps and now I'm on Medicaid and I don't need to work. Seeing all these women in high heels and briefcases pushing their kids into school and runnng to wherever they are going doesn't seem great to me. I drop my kid, go shopping, read, watch tv, pick up dc, it's great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:10 AM Flag
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Thank you for your honesty. It's absolutely true, and it's why I'm horrified with the parental obsession with education. Ignorance is bliss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:26 AM Flag
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What kind of career? Are you in NYC? How do you afford housing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:30 AM Flag
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Savings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:34 AM Flag
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What happens when savings are gone? Do you own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:35 AM Flag
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Yes I own two condos and rent them out. Plus I do have pretty big savings and I'm very frugal. I have time to be frugal, shop the discount stores, etc. Plus, I didn't really realize this but it's very expensive to work. The clothes, shoes, haircut, manicures, lunches out with colleagues, it adds up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:39 AM Flag
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Agreed- work costs time. How do you get medicaid and food stamps with so many assets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:42 AM Flag
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Sorry, and money!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:42 AM Flag
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Blind trust [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:48 AM Flag
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Oh, smart. I want to be you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:50 AM Flag
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This really spoke to me- tell me as much about your life as you are willing to share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:31 AM Flag
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I'm not sure what else you want to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:35 AM Flag
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Career? Married? What are your plans/desires re: work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:37 AM Flag
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That's the whole point, I don't have a career and I'm happy. I had one in publishing, made a lot of money and then when I got laid off I decided to take some time off and took off to France instead of getting another job right away. So we spent a month driving around France, going to wineries, long lunches, etc. Now, that was living. So I had my big career, it ended abruptly and I decided to call it a day. I sometimes miss work and interacting with people but not enough that I plan to ever go back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:46 AM Flag
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are you married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:25 AM Flag
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Divorced [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:09 PM Flag
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That's the joy of socialism for you ; it always rewards the mediocre [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 09:21 AM Flag
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If you are implying I’m mediocre, I’m curious why you think that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:10 PM Flag
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I guess I also wonder, if you are bright, why people always push you towards a high-stress career. Intelligent and academic don't mean driven, or ambitious or resilient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:34 AM Flag
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People think bright people should earn a lot of money, because most dumb people believe success is financial. The truly bright don't fall for the high stress lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:23 AM Flag
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It's not a money thing- finance pays better and doesn't take a ton of education. It's the relentless obsession with education. But your point is well taken. Thank you, although it's too late for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:25 AM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone up? 12:30 Sunday morning eastern time. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:32 AM Flag
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Me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:54 AM Flag
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me. sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:06 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:24 AM Flag
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Sleep well! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Which schools require a FC letter in order to accept your child? Dalton and Ethical no? How about SS schools like Spence and Brearley? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.24.17, 04:09 AM Flag
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Bump. I'm interested in the same but for the Brooklyn schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:09 AM Flag
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Your PSD should tell you this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:24 AM Flag
[ - ] There are almost 50% more murders in Chicago on Sundays than any other day - why do you think this is? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:55 AM Flag
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they arent working [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:58 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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Sundays technically start Saturday night though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:10 AM Flag
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Go to bed Boris! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:58 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:57 AM Flag
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more people drinking on weekends. studies show most crimes are committed while drunk. lots of drinking happens on Sundays with football games and the like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:03 AM Flag
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makes sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:13 AM Flag
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post link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:03 AM Flag
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same reason why there are more murders in the summers. more alcohol consumption [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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This sounds reasonable. But why are you so obsessed with crime in Chicago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:11 AM Flag
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Because Black Lives Matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:14 AM Flag
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I'm not op. I just took a criminology class in college and this is something I remember from my class. Other things that stood out to me were that the best way to deter crime from a house or store is to have bright lights around the property since criminals don't want to be seen. I would guess op is from Chicago or otherwise interested in crime statistics maybe because she was a victim of a crime. Or maybe just because she finds criminology interesting. My criminology class was my favorite college class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:15 AM Flag
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God [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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this reminds me of that New Girl episode where Shmidt goes "Are you the criminals?! From the statsitics!?" hahahahahahaha https://twitter.com/newgirlonfox/status/842843018608574464?lang=en [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:18 AM Flag
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The murders are happening late Saturday night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:23 AM Flag
[ - ] best 7 seater. help. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:47 AM Flag
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Minivan, sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Acadia - Gmc - look no further [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:54 AM Flag
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Tesla Model X [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I did that Baby Foot Japanese foot peel two weeks ago and am enjoying watching gross sheets of skin peel off my heels. I will be doing this periodically again forever, I think. I have done keratin treatments, IPL, Botox, lash extensions, laser hair removal, pulse dye laser for capillaries around my nose...if it works, I will try it. What beauty treatments or products have you tried and loved? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:39 AM Flag
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Get some self respect and dignity in who you are... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:43 AM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:44 AM Flag
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You are working on the exterior of the car when it's the engine that matters [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:57 AM Flag
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I'm obsessed with baby foot! Peeling that skin off gives me a weird sense of pleasure and accomplishment. I wish I could do one now, but I'm pregnant so will have to wait until I'm done breastfeeding to do it again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:43 AM Flag
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tumescent liposuction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:05 AM Flag
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post link to the place where you did the foot peel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:25 AM Flag
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How long does the peeling on your feet last? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:26 AM Flag
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i've never heard of a baby foot. can you explain what the process was like for you? did it hurt? I've had chemical face peels and they hurt so I stopped doing them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:26 AM Flag
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Np: first you wash your feet/soak in water to prep then, wear the booties for about an hour, remove and wash feet - that's it. No pain unless you have a cut on your foot - the instructions advise you not to use them if you do you have a cut on your foot. The peeling starts anywhere from 3 to 6 days after you do the treatment and, for me, lasts a week or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:18 AM Flag
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what's IPL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:26 AM Flag
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you sound vain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:27 AM Flag
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do you live in LA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:27 AM Flag
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you sound very in the know about beauty products. what kind of face cream would you recommend for someone with slight acne and combination skin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:34 AM Flag
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Love my laser hair removal -- wish I'd done it years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:38 AM Flag
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Home acid peels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:25 AM Flag
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LOVE Baby Foot! It's gross, but fascinating, to see the skin flake off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:13 AM Flag
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Where did you get the laser for capillaries? In NYC? I need this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 08:53 AM Flag
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Where did you get the laser for capillaries? In NYC? I need this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 08:53 AM Flag
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That sounds right up my alley. I love purging things on my body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Most reliably enjoyable activity? For me it's shopping or gardening. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:30 AM Flag
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We can't be friends. I don't like those two things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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Napping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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I was going to say that, but a nap interrupted is the worst. So, I've got nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:36 AM Flag
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Reading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:38 AM Flag
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Cooking and drinking wine. Or, just drinking wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:13 AM Flag
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Masturbation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:45 AM Flag
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Napping, laying on the beach, glass of wine outside (patio, roofdeck, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:47 AM Flag
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Watching Hallmark movies in bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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tennis! I am learning now..love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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reading a good book and eating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:06 AM Flag
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while laying in the shade by the ocean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:06 AM Flag
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trolling UB and other online sites. not in a mean way, just a funny way. I posted the link 3 threads above with the clip from the show New Girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:28 AM Flag
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Going to a coffee shop and reading a book while having a coffee and pastry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:36 AM Flag
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Cooking, bike riding, swimming, flirting with someone who reciprocates... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:41 AM Flag
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Lying on the beach, hanging out with my son, hanging out with my friends, shopping, getting ideas from pinterest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you believe in "ancestor memories"? The pseudoscientific notion that experiences, visions, emotions, etc. can be passed down from previous generations to become inborn into their descendants? So for example, it is sometimes reported that East Asians will experience intense "ancestor memories" when visiting the central Asian steppes from which their ancient tribes had originally evolved, as though these places became bound to their deep genetic memory. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:26 AM Flag
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In that case, I must have been Tahitian. Cried and said I'm home when I first stepped off the plane. And it really felt like I was coming home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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You were probably just drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:14 AM Flag
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Not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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Just read a fiction story about this. Don't believe in it. It's called a thousand June's or something? Emily Henry. I didn't care for the book but if this interests you, you will like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:47 AM Flag
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I don't think it's as crazy as it sounds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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That is not the way memory works. Take a class on the brain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:07 AM Flag
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It's not that simple. Not only is there no such thing as a "comprehensive" map of memory storage within a human (or even mammalian) brain at a purely cellular level, there is in fact no scientific agreement about how determinitively-ancestral genetic factors such as epigenetic expression correlates to cellular neurology. In other words, what are the pathways by which "epigenetic influence" transits from the genome to some specific neurological transmitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:14 AM Flag
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of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you know any boys who are into ballet who are older than, say, 12? Is this a college hook? All the parents talk about are their alma maters. Can imagine they'll be okay with a kid who joins a company 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:17 AM Flag
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If they get a job th a major company I think they'll be okay. They don't want struggling dancers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:18 AM Flag
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It's not hard to get a job if you are a male because there isn't that much competition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:15 AM Flag
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I imagine it might be a hook but not many top school - NYPSM - recruit for dance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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Google Billy Bell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:21 AM Flag
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Elliott [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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Or Rahm Emmanuel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:57 AM Flag
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My dc was "into" ballet and he did so until he was about 16. What's this to you though? Is this a question or a critque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:22 AM Flag
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he a flamer ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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There's your answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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Nothing hotter than a male ballet dancer. It's a hook. Mix ballet with some other form...See this year...so you think you can dance... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:44 AM Flag
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I just met a woman at my gym and her sons hook for getting into Stanford aside from grades was being a really good break dancer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:46 AM Flag
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Stanford loves white break dancers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:07 PM Flag
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Baryshnikov. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:59 AM Flag
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Hi Boris [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:25 AM Flag
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My Df's son is a professional and did not go to college at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 10:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you dropped out of friendships that stopped giving you what you need? Since marrying, a once close friend has (understandably) demoted our friendship from day trips and long lunches to the occasional coffee. I'm not interested in this change. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:08 AM Flag
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Dropped out? No. I'm an adult. I understand that people can have new priorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:16 AM Flag
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I accept people where they are in their life. If they just want the occasional coffee, that's ok. But if you need day trips and long lunches in order to keep the friendship intact, you sound weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:17 AM Flag
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I'd like to drop out of my marriage... snoring took away my sleep. So he got kicked out of the bedroom which killed the sex life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:17 AM Flag
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Ditto, and he refuses to get the snoring fixed. I'm like, there are specialists for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:06 AM Flag
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Your choice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:08 AM Flag
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This happened at first. Most of my friends kids are about 10 and we are back to day trips and long lunches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 12:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do people lie about their age online when tons of people in NYC grew up with them in school, camp, college etc 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:46 AM Flag
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VANITY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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Ridiculous. She looks great for our age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:50 AM Flag
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Yeah well people have screwed up views of themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:52 AM Flag
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My crazy aunt lies about her age on facebook. it's so weird. She's 62 but she claims to be 52. This would mean she was 14 when she has her DD. She was actually 24. And her DD is tagged on her facebook so people can just click on her DD and see how old her DD is what year her DD graduated high school and college so I don't know why my aunt wants to appear like she was a trashy 14 year old mom. Every year on her birthday I say her actual age when I write happy birthday just to fuck with her. She's very vain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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and the weird thing is she would look good for 62 but she would look like shit for someone age 52. i don't get why she does it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:28 AM Flag
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Hahahha I just wanted to hit like on this. I love that you include the age on her bday posts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:01 AM Flag
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yep. Last year I was all "HAPPY 62nd BIRTHDAY AUNT JANE! LOVE YOU!" Am bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:05 AM Flag
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Hahahha I just wanted to hit like on this. I love that you include the age on her bday posts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:01 AM Flag
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In 2017, it's stupid to lie about your age anywhere. Way too easy for anyone to find out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Why do people buy pets? It's added mess to clean up, vet bills, poop and pee everywhere, it dies in 10-15 years and then your kids are sad, and in general they make your house smell bad. Why? What's the benefit? With babies they are helpless for a short period of time but then grow into self sufficient kids capable of conversation and independent action who then turn into teenagers and adults. With pets, it seems like signing up for being a special needs parent to a brain dead kid who shits everywhere. What do you get out of this? Is it some sort of martyr complex thing? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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Some people love animals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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^^& even if they don't love taking care of their animal(s), they love them enough that they don't mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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Most pets are trained and do not go to the bathroom everywhere. They show you unconditional love. They're funny, sweet and cuddly. And you can leave them at home without a babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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Seems like something needy people would do. People who like that animals love them even if they act like a jerk whereas people will unfriend you if you act like a jerk and there will be consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:14 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:25 AM Flag
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That's a really screwed up way to look at things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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not really. why do you think homeless people often have dogs? Dogs love you no matter what. With human friends you have to actually be a decent person to be around. All the meanest people I know have dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:06 AM Flag
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Some people feel love for furry cute creatures. You seem like a robot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:08 AM Flag
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Why do you say that babies grow to be self sufficient and then compare getting a pet to being a parent of an SN DC? Your argument fell apart there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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with babies you raise them to be independent and capable of conversation and independent thought and action. With animals, they will always "need" you so it seems similar to being a special needs parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:16 AM Flag
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you know special needs kids start out as babies right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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yes. my point is that no one goes into parenthood hoping for a special needs kid. Hoping to raise a human being incapable of being independent would b unthinkable to most people. how is that different than pets? Pets will never grow to be independent. they will always he helpless pee and poop machines. why are pets more desirable than special needs kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:21 AM Flag
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Fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:43 AM Flag
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Who cares if kids are sad? Really. Welcome to life. You sound fragile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:43 AM Flag
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because life is hard enough and your job as a parent is to be their support network and bolster them up and make life easier and happier for them and be there for them when bad things happen to them. Introducing more sadness into their life seems pointless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:17 AM Flag
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My sweet dog brings me so much joy I can't imagine life without him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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what is joyful about your pet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:24 AM Flag
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You mean about the experience of having him? So much. They're amazing creatures with distinct personalities and desires. I love the way we can communicate so well. I love how loving he is and the love I have for him. He's my little angel! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:41 AM Flag
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He cracks me up, too. I'm convinced he knows what he's doing when he makes me laugh. I was mowing the lawn today and came back inside and laid down on the floor I was so beat. He came over and put his paw on my arm like he's done before when I've cried. Checking to make sure I'm ok and giving me kisses. Love him!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:43 AM Flag
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okay that's pretty cute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:07 AM Flag
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I consider my little dog an alive piece of art. Looking at him makes me happy. I feel calmer in his presence. I have a child and he grows and changes and is unpredictable, like he is supposed to be. My little dog is the same little dog that doesn't really change, except gets older. I like nurturing and my little dog is the receiver of that and he loves the attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:25 AM Flag
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pets bring you love. and they don't HAVE to pee and poop everywhere-- some people do train their pets. I love my little dog and she's my friend. just my companion- always there for a snuggle. but if you don't like pets- don't get one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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I won't get one. Trying to see what other people think is so great about them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:18 AM Flag
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Pee and poop everywhere? No. If you don't like them don't get one. Why so angry that people do something that makes them and their kids happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:19 AM Flag
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I'm not angry, I'm trying to see what motivates people to purchase pets. To me it seems like signing up to be a special needs mom to a severely brain damaged who will never live independently. You clean up poop and pee and you expect to take care of the kid for life. So why are special needs kids thought of as something awful and pets are thought of as awesome? Both seem undesirable to me. With a special needs kid who deal with the cards you are dealt since presumably you expected a typical kid. but with a pet you KNOW that the pet will never be independent. so why purchase one in the first place? What do you get out of it? It's soft? So are blankets and stuffed animals but much cheaper. Just don't see the upside to pets. Maybe you can explain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:24 AM Flag
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You are obtuse. Blanket is inanimate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:28 AM Flag
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what's so great about an animate soft being? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:08 AM Flag
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Wow. I wouldn't consider a special needs kid awful. At all. I only got a dog because my kid desperately wanted one, but it's been a great addition. I don't have to clean pee and poop. Dog is trained. She's affectionate, playful, and funny. She's a good hiker, runner, and swimmer. She's fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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When I was young, I was devastated when my dog died (I was 16), but that's a testament to how much I loved him. I had so many shy awkward years, and he was always there to snuggle with and be happy to see me. You don't shield kids from grandparents even though they'll die too. It's better to have that joy then to never have it- and only the ones who find joy in the pet will feel sad at its passing. As an adult, we live in the country, don't really know too many people (we move a lot), and I like the companionship of my dog. She also makes me feel safe and protected even though I can't see a neighbor. She requires about 5 minutes of work daily (scoop food/water in the am and pm, open and close the back door for her occasionally). It's not a martyr thing - raising dogs is like one hundredth the work of raising a dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:29 AM Flag
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You can easily google "benefits of dog ownership." For those who find dogs cute, there are many benefits. Obviously they would not apply to dog-dislikers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:31 AM Flag
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I have been caring for my parrot for more years than most UBers have been alive (closing in on 50 years) and each and every day has been a joy, not a chore. You are either a stone cold person or a troll. Animals bring many people happiness. It's not difficult to understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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I get that many people enjoy them. My question was why. Not trolling, just trying to see things from a different perspective and understand. The answers have been good ones. I remember you, parrot mom, from a post many years ago. You got your parrot from an ex boyfriend right? What ever happened to the ex boyfriend? Is he still alive? So are you like 70 then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:11 AM Flag
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Wrong parrot mom. My parents gave me my bird when I was a child. I am in my 50s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:20 AM Flag
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It's a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:20 AM Flag
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And a bad one at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:25 AM Flag
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+1 So obvious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 05:26 AM Flag
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You seem like a sociopath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:22 AM Flag
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I feel the same. I don't get the value of needy things (pets, children) aside from the momentary joy of their cuteness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:49 AM Flag
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I got a cat because I live in a building and had mice. It was supposed to be a business relationship but I completely fell in love with him. Never had a pet before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] The kids (and maybe my niece/nephew) each get five presents this year: something to read, something to wear, something you need, something you want, and something to watch/listen to/play. And each one gets a certificate for their after school activity of choice. Nothing else. Good idea? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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I like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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Yes, but the kids should do the same for you and DH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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Each? Or altogether? I go insane and go overboard on Christmas until I'm crying while wrapping presents on Christmas Eve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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I don't go overboard but don't follow a formula. An experience, a book, a cool gadget, and a piece of clothing maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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We always go away at Christmas so that is the gift. I'll pack something that is needed on vacation ( like a new swim suit) that Santa brought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 06:30 AM Flag
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You sound so organized. I just throw things into a cart a few weeks before Christmas. Maybe I'll apply this for my oldest. It's getting harder to find things for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Are the women prettier in NYC or in Los Angeles? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:21 AM Flag
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Is this a trick question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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LA is prettier than everywhere. It's their job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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MM spoken by someone who has no clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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Ny native who lived in LA for 11 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:51 AM Flag
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Case in point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:21 AM Flag
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NY women are more natural and therefore more beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:27 AM Flag
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LA, obviously. it's where moves are shot and porn is made. every dumb hot girl from Kansas who wants to make it big as a movie star moves to LA. NYC has hot girls too who work in fashion or PR but nowhere on the same level as LA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:28 AM Flag
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In their 20s LA girls are prettier. After 30 NYC women are prettier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:28 AM Flag
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This. Maybe it's too much sun over there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:30 AM Flag
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No it's too much plastic surgery. -LA mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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^^^ meaning injections too, not just actual surgery [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:34 AM Flag
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ITA. The only standard for pretty in LA is 20 something girls. When the looks fade the town is filled with women trying to look 20 again and they ruin their looks trying to achieve this instead of just looking like an attractive 30 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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This is exactly right. I'm thinking about making an appt right now. It was easy to say never until things started to change [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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Yes and all the rest. I agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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Agree. But NYC women never have as great of bodies as LA women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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NY women more polished [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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Depends on your taste but LA women are "hotter" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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I have lived in both and NYC women are more naturally attractive, but if we're talking 2 women standing next to eachother with makeup on, LA is for sure prettier. Women in LA also have nicer bodies as they ar emore fit. NYC is the land of skinny fat women who dont eat and look great in clothes but are flabby underneath. LA women eat a little more but are much more in shape. So many terrible asses in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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Lol, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:46 AM Flag
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Woman here. Women are prettier in LA but for some reason I found it much easier to date there than NYC. I suspect it's harder for men to meet women there, due to the sprawl, and the gender ratio is reversed there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:42 AM Flag
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I found it easier to meet men in NYC. I am like a 6.5 and it was super hard in LA competing with beautiful women because that is literally ALL men value there. I saw so many guys who made less money than me, who were less attractive, thinking they deserved to date 22 year old super models. NYC at least personality balances it a little bit. Also I am a brunette and I think LA values blondes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:48 AM Flag
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This is crazy but so true. Every guy in la CAN date a 22 year old model if he wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:51 AM Flag
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or. yep, totally. And whats hilarious is of course they come back to me later wanting to meet up because they realized that wasnt all it was cracked up to be. They also would try to talk to me while dating these women because they were bored. I got about 5 messages from random guys I used to date on election night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 02:56 AM Flag
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I had no issues doing in LA, and met my dh there. We relocated to the Bay Area and was shocked at how plain and ugly the women were vs the dh they landed (in the burbs) but I. Sf proper, the guys are so ugly/hipster/effeminate..was glad I met dh in LA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:51 AM Flag
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Dating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 03:51 AM Flag
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Duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.24.17, 04:21 AM Flag
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