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[ - ] What's the name of the delivery service that will go get you food from any restaurant at any hour? (Not seamless, etc.) This is the one that sends someone to restaurants that wouldn't do takeout, like Nobu or Danielle. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Postmates? [ Reply | More ]
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Just googled it. That might be it. My IL's are housebound and sometimes want to order out from their favorite restaurant which doesn't do takeout. Sounds like this service might work. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Googled Postmates. They get horrible reviews. A reviewer mentioned Caviar but that seems to be only from restaurants on their list. Is there some other service? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Overweight moms? What do you do to remind yourself you're fat during the day, so you stay on track? I don't "feel" fat - I take 6 flights of stairs up to the office twice a day, bicycle and play sports with DCs on weekends, and usually feel active & healthy. But then I see myself in the mirror, and I am just too fat. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Are you sure you are actually fat? Ht/wt? You sound like you have body dysmorphia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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I'm 5'7" and 170 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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... I don't. It's not important to me anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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That's so negative! I don't remind myself that I'm something bad, I remind myself of my positive goals (e.g., someone nearby was cooking some awesome smelling spicy breakfast sausages this morning, which made me want to find them and grab them off the plate, but I need to be healthy for db, so I had fruit instead, which was also good! not as good, but good ;o) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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If you can do that, you're not really fat. Post your stats. [ Reply | More ]
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What is your diet like? Please describe it in detail and I will give you honest and friendly advice. No flames, promise. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What games do/did your 5-6yos enjoy playing? My kids are 3 and 5 and currently into uno and other simple card games, 5yo likes chess as well. Wonder what else we should try? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Crazy 8s, checkers, Connect Four [ Reply | More ]
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Yahtzee [ Reply | More ]
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gassy gus [ Reply | More ]
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Zingo for sure - never heard of it until one DC received as a gift, and littler kids just love it. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yes we have that. [ Reply | More ]
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Snakes and Ladders [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Which dentist specialist deals with gum diseases? Any recommendations in NYC or Brooklyn? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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endodontist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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You could always ask your regular dentist who they like to work with. Often work travels between specialists back and forth to the regular dentist, and if they have a standing relationship, it can be easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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You realize Brooklyn is part of NYC, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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funny. [ Reply | More ]
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periodontist [ Reply | More ]
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Remember that Friends episode where Rachel was dating a guy that was exactly like Ross and he was a periodontist? It was early in the series. [ Reply | More ]
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Periodontist [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Going to be in Amsterdam with DH and DS (14,9). Not huge museum people in terms of "let's linger and read every painting description," but want to take in the major museums (Van Gogh, Rijksmuseum, Anne Frank, Hermitage). Anyone ever use one of the "museum passes" while in Amsterdam? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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OP: iAmsterdam, Museumkaart, Holland Pass. Can't tell if it's worth it money-wise (seem to break about even with the admissions of the major museums) but maybe for the convenience factor? Thoughts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I used to go on vacation to the south of France, then for a few years we went to Italy. I really really want to go back to France, but last year I couldn't take off, and this year we bought a house, so don't have any spare cash. I miss it though and really want to go back next summer. Where should we go? Any nice towns you would recommend? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Drive around the Cote D'Azure. Lovely trip! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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^^either that or drive around the Loire Valley to see the Chateaux. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Go to Montreal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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No, try Quebec City instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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No, try Quebec City instead. [ Reply | More ]
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Beaune & environs for the best wine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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If you can't afford Antibes or want a bit more country experience, you can go just a few miles north of the towns on the sea and be in real Provence. E.g. Grasse and the perfume industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] be careful when you ignore beggars, some of them will choke you if you do jot give them money 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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thanks deblasio [ Reply | More ]
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omg [ Reply | More ]
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violent beggar choked and robbed a man Thursday night in Central Park when his requests for money were denied, authorities said. [ Reply | More ]
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Bring back funding for in-patient mental health services and we won't have this problem. Or, just wait until the poor rise up and bring back the guillotine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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LOL thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Just curious. Would something like that even be possible here in the US today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Absolutely. This is exactly why Congress pushes back on every proposal that would lead toward direct democracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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I remember talking about this once at dinner. My FIL (an economics professor) said that all he believes it would take would be a paralyzing strike in a major urban area by the working masses. Not some "occupy wall street" business with a bunch of college kids who want to pretend it's Berkeley in 1969. He had a whole theory about it. It really freaked my MIL out. Good times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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id be one of them [ Reply | More ]
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but its racists to not give money, so liberals are not affected [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What is it with people who have the middle name Paige always using their middle name. I know so many... 5 off the top of my head 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Don't know a one. Are you in Kansas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Manhattan. 2 of the ones I'm thinking of live here... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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Because their first name is Jennifer. [ Reply | More ]
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that's 5 more Paiges than I know [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you could choose what would you get? A beach house in France, a city apartment in Rome or in Vienna? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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well, the beach house in France is seasonal. Also, depending on the apartment as well [ Reply | More ]
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beach house in France, no uses for the other two choices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Definitely not Rome. Too littered and dirty, too many tourists 6 months out of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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What part of France? Mediterranean beach or Atlantic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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OP. I would say Mediterranean - it's hypothetical though, because I don't have the options IRL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Vienna can be expensive, but it would give you easy access to so much of Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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This. And you can use it year round, depending on what you want to do (Christmas markets, access to skiing in winters, culture, shopping, cuisine, hiking and lakes, gorgeous pools in summer). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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+1 And the carnival balls. I'm too old, but it would be fun to sit in a café and see all of the young people dressed & going to the balls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Or taking your teenage children to the balls. Btw, a lot of adults and senior go as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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I want the apt in Paris. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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How often would you go and what would you so there on your visits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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....do there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Have one. It's lovely. I'm dreaming about a place in Provence. [ Reply | More ]
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god I hated Rome, rude, horrible. locals are horrible to tourists [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] The fact that Soda drinks are still allowed to be purchased using Food Stamps is a testament to how easy politicians on "both" sides can be bought and sold 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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zzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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and this is the problem, Americans care more about kardashians than issues affecting the country [ Reply | More ]
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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meh. i have food stamps and don't buy soda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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and the point is people should not be told what to buy on food stamps, however, they should be educated that the giant corporations selling them that crap have a republican agenda and that their health is being shat on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Many of these women have poor impulse control. Education will not work [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know them personally? How do you know they have poor impulse control? [ Reply | More ]
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You must be joking. All sociological research shows the poor have weaker impulse control than middle class [ Reply | More ]
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you must feel so much better about yourself, comparing your impulses to the "their" omg [ Reply | More ]
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^^theirs [ Reply | More ]
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That's a gross misrepresentation of the research, which shows that the cognitive overhead of being poor reduces decision making capability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Soda makes you thirsty. And that's how people get fat by trying to quench their thirst with ... more soda. Yes, they need to be educated. Food=fuel. Put shitty fuel in and what do you expect you will get as output? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Instead of giving welfare moms money to buy soda how about money to get Norplant? [ Reply | More ]
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i have food stamps and do not buy soda. I would also never get a Norplant because of the high risks [ Reply | More ]
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I like you. You sound sensible [ Reply | More ]
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I never understood why EBT does not pay for hot food. There are homeless people who need hot food during the winter [ Reply | More ]
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and by the way, this artist sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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The bigger story behind the food-stamp-hating videos from Mr. EBT and Chapter [ Reply | More ]
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Chapter's website, which hosts the video, and "Creative Indie Artists," which produced her song and video, are both projects of Christopher A. Jackson, a White man from California whose other job is as an executive for KROQUE, a military apparel contractor. The Fact Evangelist found the link to the apparel contractor raised questions about the origin of this music project. [ Reply | More ]
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There is a sweet irony here. The guy behind the videos runs a business selling military apparel to the military. Ergo, he is just as reliant on exploiting government handouts as the characters he creates. [ Reply | More ]
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Soda is just sugar. If you can ban some forms of sugar, you'd have to ban others, like ... sugar. What can you not use food stamps for? Cigs and booze? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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It's only for food items. You can't use it to buy non food things like shampoo etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I guess I'm glad not to have to know. [ Reply | More ]
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and its original intention is healthy food only to supplement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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People don't need to be given things. They need help. People on UB don't realize that many people can fall on hard times. If they're helped instead of enabled when they do, they can make it. All prior assistance should be repaid at that time. [ Reply | More ]
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I could never repay for the prior assistance because of the astronomic school loans [ Reply | More ]
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The fact that they're still legally sold in this country baffles me. [ Reply | More ]
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oh ffs. Soda is not the debil. There are bigger issues in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How many calories a day to lost 10 lbs? 5'4", 150 lbs. Also how do I survive hunger? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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MFP app will calculate calories but probably about 1600 depending on age. If you don't want to be hungry..lots of veggies, some fruits and protein. [ Reply | More ]
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my food plan? [ Reply | More ]
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My fitness pal [ Reply | More ]
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ok thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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You need a deficit of 3500 calories to lose one pound. So burn 35,000 more calories than you eat, and you'll lose ten pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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However you probably can only burn about 1 lb of fat a week, a larger calorie deficit will likely lead to muscle loss which will lower your metabolism and make you look worse. This is after the first week when you can likely lose 3-4 lbs with fluid loss, especially if you eat less salt and processed food. [ Reply | More ]
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Timing is up to OP. 5 weeks, 10 weeks, 20 weeks, ... [ Reply | More ]
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The point is you probably won't sustainably lose 10 lbs in 2 weeks, for most people two months is a more feasible time frame without losing muscle. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: 10 weeks would be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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For most people what they know as hunger is actually a mild addiction to processed foods and sugars. If you can eliminate these from your diet it will become much easier to lose weight after 2 weeks, but there is no doubt that the first 2 weeks will be difficult. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: ok cut all sugar? ugh. also carbohydrates or is bread ok for sandwiches? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I also find that sometimes it's misdirected thirst. [ Reply | More ]
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People survive hunger all the time. Starvation is the problem and I don't think you have that. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Have you gone on summer vacation yet? Where did you do? What were the top 3 things you remember about your trip? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i'm already planning my winter and spring vacations. [ Reply | More ]
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No. August 8th!! [ Reply | More ]
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We are doing 2 short one week trips. The first we went to a National Park and the things I remember are the pure beauty of it, a particular hike where we same with DCs under a waterfall and the quality of family time since there was no cell reception/TVs, etc. The next is a beach vacation in Hawaii. [ Reply | More ]
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Oops..swam [ Reply | More ]
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Which NP did you visit? [ Reply | More ]
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"2 short one week trips." Do you appreciate how divorced from most people's reality you are, even leaving out Hawaii as a destination? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Philadelphia and the Hamptons. Cheesesteak. Beach. Reading my nieces first chapter book with her. [ Reply | More ]
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My kids playing on a tire swing on the most amazing beach -- all alone. Snorkeling, swimming with turtles and sailing with my kids --- so fun! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ordered new glasses last week. Regret my choice. Ugh. Get a second pair? Too late to change the order 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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save them as a gift. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think anyone is going to want my bifocals... [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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How can you give glasses as a gift? Here's my prosthetic leg. Thought you'd like it. [ Reply | More ]
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Stick with your original decision. There was a reason you chose them in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly! I chose a pair, shopped around, slept on it, went back to order them and they had gotten some new frames in in the meantime. I tried one of the new ones and changed my mind on the spot. The ones I ordered look better on me but I like the ones originally wanted more, if that makes sense... [ Reply | More ]
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Np I know exactly what you mean. When your top choice simply doesn't suit you best, annoying. Get them both. If you wear them every day having two to choose from makes sense. Are they very similar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Get a $100 pair from warby Parker if you like what they have [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I should have. But I really want a certain pair that I originally picked out and should've stuck with :( wah wah, I know... [ Reply | More ]
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Send your Rx to Warby Parker and get some you like. They're relatively cheap, like $99 if I remember correctly. [ Reply | More ]
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^ I just saw the post right above mine, oops! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] to the misinformed, gullible lady here who thinks Trump will be creating jobs for Americans, think again, I know you can do it!! xoxo 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Donald Trump is staking his run for U.S. president in part on a vow to protect American jobs. But this month, one of his companies, the elite Mar-a-Lago Club resort in Florida, applied to import 70 foreign workers to serve as cooks, wait staff and cleaners. A Reuters analysis of U.S. government data reveals that this is business as usual in the New York property magnate's empire. Trump owns companies that have sought to import at least 1,100 foreign workers on temporary visas since 2000, according to U.S. Department of Labor data reviewed by Reuters. Most of the applications were approved, the data show. [ Reply | More ]
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Those workers will at least be vetted (no criminals, drugs smugglers, folks who just want an anchor baby) [ Reply | More ]
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Why can't he hire Americans? [ Reply | More ]
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because Americans actually are better off on welfare and food stamps and free housing than work low end jobs [ Reply | More ]
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The candidate's foreign talent hunt included applications for an assistant golf-course superintendent, an assistant hotel manager and a banquet manager. [ Reply | More ]
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so what? no one is perfect. I skip desert 90 percent of the time but not one hundred [ Reply | More ]
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awwwww, the republican way of thinking. [ Reply | More ]
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rump has positioned himself as a champion of American workers whose livelihoods are threatened by illegal foreign laborers and the offshoring of U.S. jobs. “I will be the greatest jobs president that God every created," he said in announcing his candidacy on June 16. "I will bring back our jobs from China, Mexico and other places. I will bring back jobs and our money." [ Reply | More ]
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vote Trump. And remember that it is the Koch Brothers that want fifty million dirt poor Latinos to move to the USA asap. only Trump can defeat the kochs [ Reply | More ]
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omg [ Reply | More ]
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Last pol who created jobs was FDR. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thinking of trying some new academic motivation strategies for my 10 year old son this school year. He is bright (and personable, athletic, kind etc) but goofy, easily distracted and undisciplined about homework, etc. Thinking of agreeing that if he completes his homework and independent study (reading and writing) everyday WITHOUT us having to remind him - ie, via self-discipline - then he gets a fun reward at winter break. Thoughts? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sounds like a recipe for failure lol. What kid can remember every single day without error? [ Reply | More ]
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No one [ Reply | More ]
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seems too far out in time. I would make the reward more immediate -- like a huge weekly allowance if he does it and bonuses for when he gets good grades. [ Reply | More ]
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Rewards and bribes are not the same. Just sayin [ Reply | More ]
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It's a matter of perspective and positioning. Nothing more [ Reply | More ]
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In my mind a bribe is described in advance: if you do this then I will give you this. A reward is unexpected throught the task and offered up in completion: you did such a good job with your chores this month I'm giving you this as a sign of job well done. In the second, it's obvious the job was the thing. In the first - you can't be sure - and the bribes need to keep increasing to ensure results. JMO [ Reply | More ]
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Throughout [ Reply | More ]
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Well, IDA. Promotions are described in advance: if you do these 100 things you can be a managing director or a partner or the department chief. That's not a bribe. It's the setting and clarification of expectations with a huge reward at the end. [ Reply | More ]
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Right. If you give him the money to spend, it's a bribe. If you spend the money yourself, on something for him, it's a "reward". [ Reply | More ]
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He's a typical 10 year old boy. IMO you keep helping him and showing him how to organize how to time manage and pointing out what works what doesn't. IF you do this thing and he says f it I don't care about bribe - then what? [ Reply | More ]
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OP completely agree and we have been doing this (and plan to continue). I just really want him to develop good habits (but am conflicted about rewarding him for good self-discipline given that's not how it works in life...) [ Reply | More ]
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He's 10. [ Reply | More ]
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10 year old boys don't develop anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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OP hm, good points. Maybe move to weekly with monthly/grade bonuses... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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That's just too much project management. What is the problem and what do you want? You obviously WOH. Who is with him afterschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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eh -- I had that as a kid with two parents working. Believe me, it creates incentives to do as asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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I take it you are female. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I am, but my parents do the same with my nephews and they are HIGHLY responsive. They LOVE their rewards (which, in their case, is getting "points" which they can use to redeem various experiences they want to have and/or things they want to buy). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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OP thanks for actually providing a semi-positive assessment of this! I didn't think it was SO awful... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP lol at obviously WOHM. Yes I do. Husband is home in afternoons/after school and supervises homework, but while our DD (12) has hers done independently by the time I get home, DS has to be nagged and micromanaged constantly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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Bingo. 10 year old boys are not 12 year old girls. It's takes sooooo much longer with boys like this. Just be patient. He will get it - but probably not until 8th grade ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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The issue seems to be your DH. Why is he not the one in charge of making sure HW done? What is the kid doing while you are still at work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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No, the issue is NOT dh. Are you sahd hating mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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I have a 10 yr old DS. He gets home from school. We tell him to finish his homework. He does. I don't really understand the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Lol your DS is not the norm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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He is a typical 10 yr old boy but we have had the same routine for years so he follows it. He also knows there will be no other activities until he is done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Do you have one child? My first child was the same. I thought I was a parenting genius. But now I have two more grade school aged kids and homework time is no longer such a pleasure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Works with multiple DCs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Exactly. It's the child and boys tend to be slower - I LOVE it when self righteous parents have number 2 or 3 and finally understand it was t their brilliant parenting skills afterall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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np: this. Lots of parents don't realize they lucked out, and think everyone else is a parenting incompetent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Take away the distractions. Set up a study area where there is no internet, no games, no non-school books, no tv or radio, nothing but his school work. Set a 25-minute timer; he has to sit and work for 25 minutes, and then he gets a 5-minute break to walk around, go to the bathroom, get something to drink, whatever. Then back for another 25 minutes. Every day - 7 days/week, at the same time. Over 60-120 days, he will develop the habit of focusing and completing his work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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OP this is great. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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We have a no screen time rule during the week unless the assignment requires a computer and then it is done on the kitchen table. Works like a charm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I work in a high school and know a boy like this. He's such a sweetie ... but an air-head. So popular, though. I know you worry but your boy, but with the one I know ... he's so well-liked and smart that he'll be a big success. Notwithstanding all the other stuff. Which, bottom line, isn't important. What we know is: social skills is what makes success and happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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This. My DC is smart but unfocused. I do think the social skills will carry DC through as a successful adult. Maybe not a master of the universe in finance, but DC will carve out a comfortable life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I would love to see a debate between Hillary and Donald. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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That is the one thing that could make me want to vote for Hillary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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nah, Hillary will just come off fake compared to donald [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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