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[ - ] I am married to a DH that will not give up on our marriage. He was unfaithful and over the past few years has lied about things and will manipulate facts to get his way. He picks fights and denies that he did it, wants sex when I don't and has no problem having sex with me when I am not into it and just willing myself to lie there and get it over with but afterward complains about how that makes him feel. He walks around pouting upset that I am not in love with him any more but if we "discuss it" it turns into a long drawn out argument where he looks at me with contempt and blameshifts- BUT he aways wants to talk and gets increasingly angry that I have "shut down" and just don't engage. I know I need out- but my question is this- WTF is he getting out of this relationship? WHY when I tried to file for divorce before did he say he would destroy me and then turn around and call my close friends and family begging them to convince me to stay? He insists I go to counseling for help because I am depressed- why the fuck does this man want to be married to someone who no longer loves him? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Question is why do you indulge him? Divorce him and move on. [ Reply | More ]
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Control [ Reply | More ]
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Well, I would take him up on the counseling. But it sounds like you know what you want regarding the marriage. Get a divorce. It could just be a huge point of pride for him to not get divorced. He should have thought of that before he fooled around. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moms of girls who have btdt. I need your help. I was very close with my mom growing up. We are both nerdy, love school, books, music and art. She was and is my best friend. I don't have this relationship with my own dd at all. She is in 9th grade and absolutely nothing like I was. She wears makeup to school, hangs out with her "popular" friends, goes to parties, is more concerned with socializing than with getting good grades (though she is still a good student, it's not her focus). She has a boyfriend already and I know she has tried alcohol and drugs. She has come home smelling like liquor. Whenever I try to talk to her she yells at me to get out of her business. I feel so depressed about this. I sometimes wish I had tried for #4 (I have 2 ds also) so I could have the girl I wanted. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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curious. is she the second child? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes she is my middle child. [ Reply | More ]
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seen a lot of families where the middle child is often the one with "issues". are you giving her enough alone time with you or dh? [ Reply | More ]
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She doesn't want alone time with us. She's been this way since very young. [ Reply | More ]
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I was with you until your last sentence. Having children does not guarantee you will have a friend for life. You are making this all about you. You are her parent, not her friend. [ Reply | More ]
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You never know what kind of relationship you are going to have with a boy or girl. What about talking to a counselor(by yourself) about ways to approach this? [ Reply | More ]
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it's probably more difficult for you to "fix" it at this point. at what age did she start being like this? how would you let her wear makeup if you don't allow it at a young age? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I dated two men in my 20s. The first was a corporate lawyer in his early 30s. Decent looking and nice guy, but I found him boring and overly academic. Second guy was my knight in shining armor...tall, good looking, life of the party. I married him and we have a terrible marriage. I wish I had married the first guy. I will tell my daughter this. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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What's your message to your daughter-marry the dull stable guy (that's as unlike your father as possible?) You would have had a different set of regrets had you married the other guy, just like all the UB posters who pine away for the sexy artist they dropped for the successful finance guy from within their "boring, stale" marriages. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, boring and stale is better than crazy (my dh is crazy). [ Reply | More ]
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Great message! DD, marry a man you don't like because your instincts are going to be totally wrong! [ Reply | More ]
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Well, mine were wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ann & Roy, Dorothy & Tracy 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] The skin above my knees sags "old lady knees", can I get surgery for this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Lift weights [ Reply | More ]
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I've had them my whole life it seems. I covet jennifer connellys legs. [ Reply | More ]
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No! Her legs are atrocious. I'd rather have Cameron Diaz's legs. [ Reply | More ]
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That's very specific! ;) [ Reply | More ]
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Lol I just saw a picture of her. She's so beautiful sigh. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My ex-husband calls me with all his problems. We are divorced, and I want him out of my life, but he's always in my hair. Today is the day he is with our child, so he call's me every time he can't handle our dc's behavior. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Don't pick up the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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He's going through a midlife crisis. I feel like the bad guy for not being "supportive" of him. But really, I owe him nothing at all. He does't understand divorce means disowning someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Just don't pick up the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Not when you have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Right, you need to be in touch when they have your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Next time schedule yourself for something where you will be unavailable. Tell him that you won't be able to pick up the phone or take texts. [ Reply | More ]
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He doesn't get it. He hears what he wants to hear. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/o. Is there anything you really wanted badly that now with hindsight you're grateful you didn't get? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I really, really wanted a pet monkey as a child. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I wanted to be married with kids by 30 and am glad that I went to grad school instead. Got married at 36 and now have 3 dc [ Reply | More ]
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I really wanted to marry a man who was completely wrong for me. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I wanted to fly. Thought I could if I leapt off a high place. Mean mom wouldn't let me. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How many people do you have in your life who you can call in an emergency? I got into an accident yesterday, car was not drive able afterwards, tried to call dh few times, he kept sending my calls to voicemail. he doesn't understand why I am so pissef today. I had kids with me. Everyone is okay but I am still pissed. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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He purposely did not answer? Did you try texting? [ Reply | More ]
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My phone died. I had to borrow someone's phone to call. I called 10 times in a row and left few voicemails. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, so he didn't know who was calling. He thought it was spam. You should have texted [ Reply | More ]
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I left 3 voicemails [ Reply | More ]
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I don't check my voice mail unless I rexognize the number. Why didn't yo text? [ Reply | More ]
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It was a land line not a cell phone that I was calling from [ Reply | More ]
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What? I think this is fake. [ Reply | More ]
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Why would you think this is fake? It was right outside school. I walked kids back in after insurance exchange and used their landline. My car suspension has issues and it wouldn't drive. I had to call a row truck [ Reply | More ]
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t o w [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah. Everyone on earth has a cell phone. Could've asked to text from anyone's in the unlikely case you didn't have yours. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you one of those people who calls all the time, just to "chat?" My dh does this and I've stopped picking up the phone. It's annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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When you say he kept sending them to voicemail, you mean deliberately sending them there, or he just didn't pick up? Was he at work? [ Reply | More ]
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It would ring and he would send it to voicemail. Normally I don't get upset because it is something that can wait. But I called around kids school pick up and 10 times in a row and left 3 voicemails. [ Reply | More ]
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He should have known this was urgent [ Reply | More ]
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How would he have know this?? [ Reply | More ]
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he doesn't really love you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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what about his kids? [ Reply | More ]
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My DH would never do that. If sends to VM immediately texts to say he is in mtg and asks if everything is okay [ Reply | More ]
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Janitor? [ Reply | More ]
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Um no he's a CEO, so he can do whatever the hell he wants, when he wants [ Reply | More ]
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Lol ok [ Reply | More ]
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I think your dh is a jerk, but it is important for sahms to remember not to bug dh while he is working generally or things like this will happen [ Reply | More ]
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You should have a text code to use when it's a true emergency. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My DH said "your Mom called, she wants her jeans back". So mean 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
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+1! [ Reply | More ]
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What kind of jeans are you wearing? [ Reply | More ]
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Lee stonewashed [ Reply | More ]
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np: he is doing you a favor [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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When you get to a certain age, skinny jeans are a bad idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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Comfort fit [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Ok, I want to be your fairy denim godmother. Tell me your age,height, weight and body type and I will help you find a decent pair of jeans. [ Reply | More ]
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I am 5'4" and around 225. Big butt and thighs. [ Reply | More ]
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^^i am 31 [ Reply | More ]
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So fat. Hardly doubt it matters what kind of jeans you are wearing. Lose weight! [ Reply | More ]
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Hey I though you said you would help me! :( [ Reply | More ]
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OR: that wasn't me. Try flared jeans. The 70s are a strong trend for spring http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=plus&Category=plus_size-bottom-denim&ProductID=2000114739&VariantID= [ Reply | More ]
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I feel like flare leg makes my butt look bigger [ Reply | More ]
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np they only go up to a size 20 can you find something in a 26? [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! Like these [ Reply | More ]
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Be quiet, bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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you said you would help her. don't be a jerk- help her [ Reply | More ]
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^^i am 31 [ Reply | More ]
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There isn't denim that fixes morbid obesity [ Reply | More ]
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np: for you, you need a dark wash, thick jeans. also try bootcut. another brand that might be good is nydj. their cut flatters thicker girls [ Reply | More ]
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NP: can you be mine? 5'2, 135 lbs. I used to be an hourglass before I gained the 20 extra lbs and now I can't get jeans that work. Any suggestions? (40yo) [ Reply | More ]
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Ann Taylor loft straight leg. Np [ Reply | More ]
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TY [ Reply | More ]
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The curvy skinny fit this shape well (at Loft). I have similar proportions a bit taller. And try the petite if you don't have long legs. [ Reply | More ]
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Denim fairy: I agree with straight leg. Also, try the brand DL1961....when I was trying to lose my baby weight, they were the only brand that looked decent on me. They hold you in and don't stretch out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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help me next denim fairy- size 26 [ Reply | More ]
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Also, torrid has lots of jeans in your size. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you wearing them ironically? If that is not the case, then it's time to go jeans shopping... [ Reply | More ]
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No, I just like them, they are comfy [ Reply | More ]
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HA! Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] DF has three daughters, now adults. Two are gay and one trans. How does this happen? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Genes [ Reply | More ]
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They all might have a mild hormone imbalance. Non classical congenital adrenal hyperplasia or some variant of that [ Reply | More ]
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
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High testosterone in the womb. [ Reply | More ]
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Biology, hormones, younger sibs more likely to come out if they have a role model. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow [ Reply | More ]
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Op: 2 of them are twins, were preemie. Significant? [ Reply | More ]
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& ivf [ Reply | More ]
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The are adults? [ Reply | More ]
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Very young adults [ Reply | More ]
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Prematurity I doubt it, if they're twins there could be a common prenatal factor. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Not trying to start anything, but is DF or father of children somewhat gay-seeming? [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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My friend is the father actually, and definitely not. His wife, I'm not sure, but I'd say she is not terribly feminine. [ Reply | More ]
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My family is similar. I'm one of four children and have a gay sister and a gay brother. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] At what age did your child begin spelling words and reading? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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About 3. Small words of course . [ Reply | More ]
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Very late. Spelling was atrocious, and dc didn't being reading fluently until summer after first grade. I was so worried. [ Reply | More ]
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About 2. Would look at words at grocery store and say the letters. Maybe that's not true spelling. [ Reply | More ]
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Age 6. Happened overnight. 8th grade now, top of her class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I kno statistically speaking the two should be equal but it seems like my friends have overwhelming had same sex kids. Same is true for me. True for you? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I feel like everyone I know on fb and people I'm friends with all had boys. I'm one of the few having a girl [ Reply | More ]
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^^we're all on our first db [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. There is an argument that the ph in a woman's vagina can be more ore less hospitable to x or y sperm depending on her specific hormone levels. Scientists know that dominant female deer conceive male offspring more than 50% of the time. There is some evidence that similar mechanisms work in humans. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, this, and also that some men may have more Y sperm than X sperm, and some more X than Y. [ Reply | More ]
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Look at Henry VIII [ Reply | More ]
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I have a ds and a dd [ Reply | More ]
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Sexratio.com [ Reply | More ]
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this is so interesting [ Reply | More ]
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I'm one of two dd. I have two ds. My mom one of two dd. dad one of two ds. Dh one of two ds. It's sort of weird. My fil was one of two ds as well. [ Reply | More ]
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I can think immediately of two families where one set of parents had all girls and all the girls went on to have all boys. Multiple children in each case. I dk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] God the Knox family is so trashy! Typical Americans, treating this like their college team won a big game. Bring over booze to celebrate. Just gross. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Who? [ Reply | More ]
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Please don't refer to those low life's as "typical Americans" ugh [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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link? I didn't follow the case. Did she commit the murder in your opinion? [ Reply | More ]
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Daily Mail. The old fat parents are making out. Trashy sister photographed with V sign and hollering [ Reply | More ]
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/ relatives bring over booze [ Reply | More ]
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The pictures are ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
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Oh MYOB, what do you care how they celebrate. Like if they'd been eating caviar on a yacht you would have been any happier? [ Reply | More ]
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Caviar on a yacht? Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
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She's complaining that they are being "trashy". She'd be complaining no matter how they celebrated. [ Reply | More ]
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like so much fun. People must invite you out all the time. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow I seemed to have touched a nerve! [ Reply | More ]
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No. Seriously. They must call you for advice on how to properly celebrate so they don't do it incorrectly. [ Reply | More ]
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You're a joy-sucking bitch [ Reply | More ]
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Are you an idiot? She spent 4 years in jail! [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Who is the stupid angry OP bitch? I would like to see her rotting for 4 years in a jail in whatever shithole country she came from, and let's see how would she celebrate when she is released... [ Reply | More ]
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I think she is Korean [ Reply | More ]
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OP is Asian Racist mom. [ Reply | More ]
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They have been through so much, they can celebrate whatever way they want. You are gross! Imagine your 20 year old dd going through what they went through [ Reply | More ]
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