• Filter the conversation
[ - ] Florida is such an insane place! I didn't know that a court could make you mutilate your child or else... send you to jail. Insanity. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/22/heather-hironimus-circumcision_n_7422820.html 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
»
It's only the backwards United States that circumcises infant males for non religious reasons. 80% of the world's men are intact and suffer no ill consequence. Only the backwards United States and sub Saharan Africa believes a flawed hiv study and uses skewed data to sway parents toward circumcision. Other, more forward thinking nations have rightly discredited them. The U.S. has it wrong, not the other 80% of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
[ - ] I post all month about bsi and absolutely no helpful responses, now no one from UB made it into that school - what gives? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
»
It's a very closed community. The families that go there don't share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] ps 290 or LL? 290 is around the corner but LL is not far. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
»
You know the answer to this in your heart of hearts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 AM Flag
»
LL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O: "Alpha males are in finance, Big law, politics. I'm not knocking software engineers, frankly they are probably a nicer group of guys than the alphas to be married to. -np" How are finance guys alpha and software engineers aren't when software engineers make more money? What make an alpha male if not money and influence? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
»
Power. Not the kind bought with money. Person to person, who on an animal level is more powerful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
»
Power comes from money and influence, which is something those building the technology of the future would have much moreso than lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 AM Flag
»
+1 it's always about the money because it's what makes the world go round. most career politicians are rolling in it, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
»
So to summarize alpha male = male with lots of money, no? So software engineers making 500k would be every bit as alpha male as finance and Biglaw guys making 500k. Yet op says this isn't the case and that they have to either be in finance, law, or politics, Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
»
What is "the kind bought with money"? Politics would seem to be bought power. Engineer and STEM fields seems more like earned power than any other field. A business can be passed from a father to his son without any earned merit. Not the case with STEM fields. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
»
my husband made millions upon millions. mit science grad. they don't have to be mutually exclusive. often they are one and the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
»
^^ he made his millions in finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
»
The quants that truly made it are the exception and you know it. OP is probably referring to run of the mill programmers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
»
why is that different from programmers? my dh started out programming for a hedge fund desk. that is a very common job out of stem schools -- something involving coding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
»
That's almost (not exactly, I realize) like saying programmer = Bill Gates. We all know there are loads upon loads that make a perfect decent living with a combination of job security or ability to get thr next job right away but they are nonetheless making $85k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
»
run of the mil programmers make 200k in Silicon Valley. Not a bad deal. the top ones make 500k+. the entrepreneurial ones who succeed make millions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
»
what doesn't have to be mutually exclusive? What else has your DH done aside from finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
»
what else should he do? most people do one thing in their life. i'm saying stem engineers and finance alpha can the one and the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
»
ok, so you're saying your DH was s software engineer who happened to also work in finance? gotcha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 AM Flag
»
My DH made millions as an engineer too. I think engineers have far more positive influence in the world than lawyers and finance guys fwiw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
»
finance guys makes the world go round. people who don't understand that need to take some econ. lawyers' benefits, especially in the last 40 years, is more dubious. and my harvard law bil agrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:46 AM Flag
»
remember, engineers cannot make their vision come true without investor capital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone heard of Anderson not working out for a child? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
»
Has any school ever worked out for everyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 AM Flag
»
A mom recently posted her sin was an Anderson grad and unemployed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
»
That's a fairly serious spin on her child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:34 AM Flag
»
Im OP just suddenly getting anxious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Did you ever date a guy that you felt was only going to marry someone that came from a wealthy family? I did. He is miserable now. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 AM Flag
»
are you saying he married you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:15 AM Flag
»
No. He married someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:17 AM Flag
»
I did not come from wealth. Guess he got what he deserved! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:17 AM Flag
»
yep :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Nope. I am MC and had 2 serious bfs that are super wealthy. Unfortunately or not I married someone educated but also MC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Did 2 serious bfs marry MC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
DH googled me and thought I was loaded for our first few years together, didn't know my dad had drained my trust & lied about a LOT of things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
Did he/does he love you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
Yes and yes. 12 years later, seems like it anyway lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 AM Flag
»
Most of the guys I dated. They are all fine now. All married to wealthy women except one who died and one who is still single. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
Why do you think he only wanted to marry someone of wealth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
He loves money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 AM Flag
»
I think he has found out that all that glitters is not gold. I learned from friend on good authority that he is miserable but will never leave her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
who doesn't. can't usually marry into it, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
True. In US everyone is definitely not equal. Money can mean everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 AM Flag
»
I know a guy like this but I never dated him. He had a long laundry list of qualities his future wife had to have. Accomplishments and fine breeding up the wazoo. He hit 40 without finding his Princess Charming and ended up marrying a tattooed twice-divorced bartender from poor background somewhere in Canada. Two step kids with different fathers. I think his parents and family were dumb-struck. But hey, good for Ms. bartender to marry into some serious $$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 AM Flag
»
that's kind of funny. i guess men hear the ticking of the bio clock and settle just as women do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 AM Flag
»
i knew someone who was very much into status and luxurious living. good guy but it wasn't becoming. i don't know if he's miserable but he hasn't worked out in finance. doing some luxury entertainment venue business. not sure how lucrative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
I was pretty sure a couple of boyfriends wanted me for my money. Husband loves me though :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
»
Yes. I dumped him because I saw I was never going to measure up and didn't need to drag it out. I was getting up there in age and I needed a surer marriage prospect. I ended up marrying an even richer guy who doesn't care about money anyway. I have no idea what happened to my ex but I hope he found his old money darling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Lilian, Lillian or Liliane? Are the variants associated with different things? What is the traditional name? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 AM Flag
»
Lillian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 AM Flag
»
lilian is a spanish variant, lillian is english. liliane looks french to me. I think Lily is the traditional name and the others are derivatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 AM Flag
[ - ] My 8-yo ds and 6-yo dd have a typical sibling relationship. They play and they fight. They have been asking to share a room lately. Should I let them and arrange the furnitures, so we have an extra room for guests? Or should I have them continue to camp out in each other's room when they ask to sleep together? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
I think they're too old to share a room, but that's just me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 AM Flag
»
How odd. Of course they should share! Would be great for bonding. I'm assuming same gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:36 AM Flag
»
Np she said DS and DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
»
let them. you just move it back out if they change their minds. my 10yo and 7yo have conversations now. cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
[ - ] how is baccarat hotel for drinks? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Seriously, why do men's farts smell so much worse than women's farts? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
Idk! A guy friend tried to explain this to me, but i don't get it. Where's a dh on ub when we need one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the Stephan Gaynor school? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
It's a school for kids with varying degrees of LDs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
oh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone read Primates of Park Avenue yet? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:09 AM Flag
»
No. I read UB, no need [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:11 AM Flag
»
+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
Not out until June 2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
my friend who works in publishing read it and said it's hilarious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
Thanks obvious PR person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
No, but I read Assholes of Amsterdam Ave. It was great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
»
Just the post article. I'm not spending money on crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 AM Flag
»
Did you buy Bergdorf Blondes? The Devil Wears Prada? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:35 AM Flag
»
Plum Skyes actually knew what she was writing about. Wednesday was just a loser with her nose squished against the glass watching people who wouldn't give her the time of day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:39 AM Flag
»
No one gives a shit about your stupid book, Wednesday. Get a hobby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
i think it's gonna be good actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
Oh please, will you just stop this PR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
i need to pay the bills too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 AM Flag
»
Yes, I did. Its so poorly written. Just a piece of crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
like the way you just spelled "its?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:24 AM Flag
»
see, I'm already affected by that contagious crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 AM Flag
»
I won't give money to that lying scum sucker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 AM Flag
»
wonder if UB is in it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:23 AM Flag
»
It's a dumb book. The nyt article was enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 AM Flag
»
stupid article. desperate claims and PR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 AM Flag
»
Given that her NYT piece seems like it was written by a 5th grader, no I won't be reading it. Was she trying to dumb down her writing for mass audience or is she really that dumb in real life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:33 AM Flag
»
Why? I'll read all about it here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Are anyone's allergies awful this week? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:08 AM Flag
»
mine! Took Allegra D But made me shaky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:09 AM Flag
»
YES!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:10 AM Flag
»
I can't go to Riverside Park, all the elm tree seeds on the ground make me cough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:11 AM Flag
»
Super, and I never had it before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:11 AM Flag
»
+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
what should o take? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
»
NP. Allegra gives me the most relief, but really strange, unsettling dreams. I stick with Claritin. Zyrtec can be good too, but stopped working for me after a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
Itchy eyes, nose throat sneezing like crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to Bonaroo? Husband's friends are going and getting VIP treatment bc they are connected to sponsor, he wants me to go. SEems hot and like a lot of kids???? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:07 AM Flag
»
I'm so old I don't know what that is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:11 AM Flag
»
seriously? you don't know what bonarroo is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 AM Flag
»
^ okay. I googled. I did know about this event, name just didn't register. Def know people who have gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
I don't either. I thought it was pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:25 AM Flag
»
So what if it's hot and kids? Go!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Really can't stand Dh and want out. I know that I will never find ONE guy that makes me happy for the rest of my life. I have been in and out of love for my whole life. Knowing this information, is divorce still worth it? He is a good father, by the way. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:03 AM Flag
»
Work on making yourself happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 AM Flag
»
I know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:05 AM Flag
»
He is the only source my unhappiness- permenent source. i can fire a nanny if I am unhappy with her. There is an end to every job if I can't stand a certain co-worker. But it is scary to think about living my life with this guy for as long as I live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:11 AM Flag
»
Get out now. Life is to short [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
Do I continue to date and never get married again since I know that I can't really stand one person forever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 AM Flag
»
Yes. Don't get married unless you want to! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:15 AM Flag
»
Have you gone through a divorce? Is it really worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:17 AM Flag
»
I am separated from a tyrant. He is horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 AM Flag
»
Whats wrong with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Sounds like OP is the one with problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 AM Flag
»
Nah, just cheat on him all the time. I want out too but half of my stuff isn't as nice as all of it. Men die sooner then you can go on a gigolo cruise with the insurance money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
if you don't have cancer by then and are still alive yourself. Sure men die faster, but women die slower. That being said, don't divorce. If it's between divorcing and cheating, then just cheat and keep quiet about it. Don't punish your kids for your selfishness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:35 AM Flag
»
You sound flippant and selfish. Don't do that to your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
^ instead of dating, fall in love with your dh again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
This. It isn't just you now. Get a life outside of your marriage, learn something new. Appreciate your dh. Fall in love with him. Be good to your kids. Divorce with kids is hell, and it's double hell for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:32 AM Flag
»
Stay married. Don't be stupid and punish your kids. If he's a good dad and not abusive, stay put and work on being a better wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:34 AM Flag
[ - ] I absolutely love sleeping in my Sleepys expensive double bed but I think DH and I would be much happier with more space. I figure just go for King size but any recommendations of a super comfortable bed that would have built in storage drawers underneath? I have Container Store boxes and stuff now but so much dust collects and I would love a comfortable bed with drawers. Thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:00 AM Flag
»
You realize a mattress and bed frame are two separate things? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 AM Flag
»
+1 people always comment on my sealy posturpedic in plush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 AM Flag
»
Kondo that shit! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:12 AM Flag
»
We had Gothic build a bed with two layers of drawers on each side and storage for big stuff in the middle. Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 AM Flag
»
King? You get mattress from sleepys or something? How much? Any link because that is exactly what I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Describe the ideal woman that you would want your son to marry: 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:58 AM Flag
»
smart, funny, nice to him, not too high maintenance, wants kids, and preferably wants to be a SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:59 AM Flag
»
Awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:17 AM Flag
»
all sounds good but i guess the sah depends on how much he makes, though he will get a sizable inheritance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:29 AM Flag
»
She must love legos, soccer, and ice cream [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:59 AM Flag
»
Is this what your 5 years old son just told you he wants in a wife? haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:00 AM Flag
»
If so, add video games and Phineas and Ferb and mine has the same tastes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:03 AM Flag
»
Yes, and Minecraft with the Pokemon mod added to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:06 AM Flag
»
I LOVE IT!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:06 AM Flag
»
LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:06 AM Flag
»
sweet, graduate school educated, not crazy, kind, comes from a nice family, wants to be a hands on mom whether she works outside the home or inside the home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:00 AM Flag
»
I wrote below about a DH with a good heart..same goes for a DW for my son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:03 AM Flag
»
No VISIBLE tattoos or piercings. No drugs, no guns. No weird diet. Usually happy with her face and body. Hardworking and patient. No violent past. No religious fanatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:05 AM Flag
»
into STEM!!! I want smart grandkids :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:05 AM Flag
»
I want smart grandkids too, but she doesn't have to be in a STEM field to be smart, right? What about Phd students in the social sciences or humanities? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
you don't necessarily have to be very smart to pursue and obtain graduate degrees in those fields. i know plenty of dummies with Ph.D.s in fluffy subjects. in some sense it just means you really like the structure of school and learning. to me, "smart" isn't some thing you can acquire with 30 years of formal schooling. you either are or you aren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:20 AM Flag
»
I agree that there are some not so smart people in PhD programs but there are also some not so smart people in STEM fields. Do you really think being in a STEM field is the best way to tell if a woman is smart? Wouldn't where she went to college or grad school be a better indicator? better than years of formal education, even [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:28 AM Flag
»
+1 it's not a rigorous filter. hard to get a math phd and be stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 AM Flag
»
know two math PhDs who are seriously stupid about many ordinary things, makes you wonder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
»
not hispanic (dh is hispanic and the women are p.i.t.a. putas), trust fund, only child (no inheritance drama and less in-law drama), good health, parents still married, not previously married, can drive a car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:10 AM Flag
»
Why less in law drama with an only child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
np: um...only children don't have siblings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
»
Why can dive a car? In less than 5 years all the cars will be driving themselves anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
or: my dh can't drive and i do all the driving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:15 AM Flag
»
good lord. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 AM Flag
»
A mature adult from a warm loving family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:24 AM Flag
»
Highly educated professor or doctor or whatever he can share intellectual persuits with. Strong enough to have a nice balanced relationship that is not male-dominated. Not religious. Not weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 AM Flag
»
funny, interesting, and kind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
»
oh, and not religious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] I am going to a Jewish cemetery for a tombstone opening and was told I can bring my 4-y.o. dc. Is it really appropriate? May I choose a white outfit for her? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:56 AM Flag
»
What's a tombstone opening? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:57 AM Flag
»
Unveiling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:03 AM Flag
»
It's typically a very short device so 4 yr old should be fine. I can't imagine ever dressing my 4 yo in all white though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:05 AM Flag
»
Op. I just read how someone on Kveller took her kids to the cemetery and they painted stones for their grandmother's grave. I just bought her a pretty white dress with a blue bow, was wondering if it will look appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:09 AM Flag
»
No, no and NO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:07 AM Flag
»
op. why do you say that? Too grave for a kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
That's ridiculous. My son goes with me to the cemetery to visit my dads grave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:13 AM Flag
»
op. How old is your son? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:15 AM Flag
»
8, but has gone since dad died 5 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:27 AM Flag
»
Op. Sorry about your dad.. so what do you think of the outfit? I want to avoid bright colors but white might look too cheerful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 AM Flag
»
Thank you. Have never been to an unveiling. I think little kids can wear anything though. If she has something darker great, but white is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Describe the ideal guy that you would want your daughter to marry: 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:55 AM Flag
»
respects her, values her intelligence as well her overall personality rather than just her physical appearance, around the same age as her, smart, good character, makes good money in a STEM field like software engineering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:56 AM Flag
»
aka Beta Male [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:59 AM Flag
»
How are the men making big bucks beta males? lol Is an alpha male in your mind a cop who makes 30k a year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:01 AM Flag
»
Software engineering is the highest paying and fastest growing job market. My software engineer DH makes 600k a year in Silicon Valley, as do many of his friends. They are all in their twenties. Enjoy your low IQ "alpha male" who gets into bar fights and can't hold down a job. I'll take my high IQ "beta male" and the high IQ offspring that he gives me any day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:03 AM Flag
»
Alpha males are in finance, Big law, politics. I'm not knocking software engineers, frankly they are probably a nicer group of guys than the alphas to be married to. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:10 AM Flag
»
What is an alpha male to you? A guy who yells a lot and has mistresses on the side? Why would anyone want to be married to that? When I think alpha male I think someone who has lots of money and influence in the world (ie tech executives and high level software engineers.) I suppose the professions you mentioned would also count although lawyers don't make much these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:16 AM Flag
»
If you're in SF then definitely the rich alpha males there are all software engineers. All the good software engineering talent goes to SF, so in NYC the guys at the top of the monetary hierarchy are finance/law/political/media people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:18 AM Flag
»
There are highly paid software engineers in NYC too. Just not as many as in SF. In general a smart and wealthy engineer DH is the way I would advise DD to go. They make good money and aren't the type to be frat boy prostitute lovers like the finance guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:21 AM Flag
»
No, none of those things make a guy an alpha. An alpha is a man other men follow and look up to. He's a leader, he's confident and strong. More directly, he is dominant. Sometimes that translates to being a dickhead, see high school alphas as an example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:26 AM Flag
»
nnp: So by your definition the software engineer described above would be an alpha male. Clearly he is in a leadership role in order to be making 700k a year. And people look up to their bosses and to wealthy men in general. I'm not sure what you think the profession has to do with it. Besides building technology that helps people sure is more admirable than moving money around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
»
smart and good character = beta male? lol. So who do you encourage your daughter to date, ex-cons? The high school football players who go on to get early Alzheimers at age 40? ya, that will set her up for a good life... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:05 AM Flag
»
intelligent, wealthy, close to his family, treats her like a princess, loyal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:57 AM Flag
»
someone like her dad/my DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:57 AM Flag
»
Someone who respects her, challenges her, supports her, does his share in child rearing, has a great job and makes her laugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:57 AM Flag
»
cute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:58 AM Flag
»
someone she meets in college at her ivy league school and they are one another's first love and it ends up working out. If she could be spared the pain of heartbreak, that would be wonderful. Losing a first love is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 02:57 AM Flag
»
You're a freak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:06 AM Flag
»
You're clearly never been in love or been loved. I can see why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:19 AM Flag
»
Good heart, loving, loyal, smart, educated, open minded, thoughtful, kind, mentally stable, friendly, attractive, and a hard worker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:00 AM Flag
»
kind, loving, smart, highly educated, preferably either an engineer or a doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 AM Flag
»
doctors have high rates of alcoholism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 AM Flag
»
not all specialties [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:04 AM Flag
»
And autism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:06 AM Flag
»
Doctors have high rates of autism? Link? I would think those with autism would get weeded out in the intensive interview process that all med schools have for their candidates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:09 AM Flag
»
Lots of yellow and mud doctors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:30 AM Flag
»
not hispanic (dh is hispanic and the men are p.i.t.a. idiotas), trust fund, only child (no inheritance drama and less in-law drama), good health, parents still married, not previously married, can drive a car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:14 AM Flag
»
Can drive a car? That's a low bar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:22 AM Flag
»
or: unfortunately a bar my own DH has not reached. hope my kids can do better than i did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
»
there is no such thing. he doesn't exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.15, 03:31 AM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions