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[ - ] Starting this January I am going to do a major rehaul of my life...I am a professor going on sabbatical and will finally have the time. I need suggestions a trainer perhaps, nutritionist, therapist, personal stylist? Am I forgetting any categories? Suggestions? live in Brooklyn- but Manhattan good as well... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Do the therapy first (and maybe nutritionist) - you'll find you maybe don't care about the rest of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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I did this a few years ago! I had a group of professionals I called "Team Jane." I had a therapist, personal trainer, nutritional consultant, career counselor, and an awesome hairstylist. I came out of it feeling great. Good luck and enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:42 AM Flag
[ - ] What if anything would you have done in this situation? Was at the grocery store with dc (5). A woman, who was well-dressed, walked by me and muttered a bunch of stuff that I couldn't understand. I thought maybe she was crazy, so avoided her. A while later, she came by and started muttering louder, this time I could make out that she was using a racial slur (I am Asian). I walked away, and then she came up behind me at the checkout line and I avoided her again, and noticed she didn't talk to herself around other people, just me. After checking out, she came up behind me again, and said the racial slur pretty loud, I think dc would've heard if he weren't talking about something else. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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punch her in the face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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Got in her face and cussed her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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ignore and stay away. I am not a minority though. but crazy people should be avoided and should not be engaged with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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I think you handled it well. I don't think I would dignify this with a response. If she's muttering rather than looking you in the eye and saying something, I would assume she's a cowardly nut job and respond accordingly. Not worth risking a confrontation with someone who is crazy in front of your DC, especially when nothing you could have said would change her mind anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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thanks. well, she looked at me, but I just pretended not to notice. I guess my real question is what should I have done differently (if anything) if dc had heard what she said? I doubt he even knows what the slur means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] In my early 40's never been that athletic; feel like my weight is creeping up. I really need to find some kind of exercise that would knock of ten pounds, and tighten up things. Any suggestions? I also have a busy life, full job, and a sn child but need to fit something in. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Rugby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Exercise is great for health but without a change in diet whether through food choices or calorie restriction, there won't be any weight loss. Diet is the bigger part of weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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This. If you are physically lazy but mentally fit, you can just cut down all your calories and get there without moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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in your same situation i got a fitbit, started walking every day, then after i dropped 20 lb i started lifted a few weights at home and doing some modified push-ups and planks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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np-this sounds doable and motivating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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Yoga. It has transformed my body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] I was in a frat at an Ivy. We talked a lot of shit, some of us certainly had misogynistic attitudes from time to time borne out of frustration from not getting laid and general macho posturing. But we didn't hate girls. Really hard to imagine a 7 man coerced gang bang. Much easier for me to imagine one of my brothers kicking the shit out of a brother he saw harrassing a girl. While there were certainly drunken hook-ups, I am unaware of a single rape. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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Dartmouth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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I went to an ivy and was assaulted by a frat boy in front of other frat boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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^^and knew of many other women who had similar experiences [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Ditto. Sorry this happened to you, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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Did you choose to report it or not? So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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Did not report it. Moved on with my life, but I did not have sex for 10 years after the incident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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So awful!! Hope things are better now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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i doubt guys go around bragging that they raped a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Why bother when they can send around the pics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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I assume it takes a bad apple ringleader and a bunch of toadies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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You may be unaware of it, but it certainly did happen. Us women did not have the fortune to be ignorant to rape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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really? because at a big-10 school i saw a drunk girl get undressed and mauled at a frat on my very first night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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OP--I know rape occured but just hard for me to relate to... I was too chicken-shit to even make moves on girls who clearly had interest, let alone force myself on them. Wish I could get those years back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:41 AM Flag
[ - ] I am done with winter and being freezing! Please tell me what is the best fitted down coat to buy? don't want to look like the michelin man...and more important boots! Best boots? waterproof and warm? canadian moms on? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Moncler + LL Bean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Boots L.L. Bean or Sorel. Coat I haven't found one yet but DH loves his L.L. Bean coat while I am trying to talk myself into shelling out for a Canada Goose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Can your 4 yo deal with buttons? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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He uses elevators so yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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I mean on clothing, pants, jackets etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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No. We should probably teach him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Sam Elliott is so hot. Cantb stand the metrosexuals we get today. Real men so hard to find. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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Are you a real woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Is your husband gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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The metrosexuals that you get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Oh I don't have one. Ewwww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
[ - ] So whats the best way to get back in the workforce after being a SAHM for 10 years. I have a BA. I can't afford to get my masters yet. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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B.A. in what? What are you interests and prior work experience? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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Management. I worked as a secretary after graduating but the company has since went out of business plus my grammar has taken a drastic decline after 4 kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Clearly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Thanks for the dig. I really need that right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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Thin skin isn't going to get you very far in a serious job search. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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np: Do you have any suggestions other than insulting OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Sounds like you need to brush up on the current software to be an admin assistant or perhaps a secretary or medical billing person in a doctor's office? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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I checked into medical billing, but I only saw 2 year courses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] I hate when people post pics of strangers on twitter etc. that is just so creepy and intrusive. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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me too. so mean spirited too, sometimes. who cares if they're dressed horribly or are really obese. no reason to publicize it to the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] What are the differences between new money jews and old money jews? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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not much frankly... old money jews are just richer generally, more compounding... and therefore more established in the high class, philanthropic scene [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Same as the difference between new money and old money WASPS's. Old money more likely to be philanthropic, understated, some sense of obligation to society. However not that easy to identify new vs. old money immediately upon meeting them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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The amount of time their families have had money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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old money jews=Martha's Vineyard, Fire Island, Caneel Bay. New money jews= hamptons, jersey shore, Beaches turks and caicos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
[ - ] General advice for 43 year old? Maybe having mid life crisis... also for some reason want to sleep with everyone, one of my clients, a college student I met, the hot soccer player on the subway today.... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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Some women get a surge in their sex drive in their early forties which is their last chance to get pregnant. When everyone starts to look good it's a sure sign that I'm ovulating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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do it! (safely and intelligently of course!)I am almost 50, menopausal and the libido is going, going, gone. I miss having that real NEED! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone here had success with therapy? For what kind of issues, and how long were you in therapy? Also, any suggestions of a good therapist in NYC or Brpoklyn? Also, curious what people actually pay, and if insurance pays any of it...thanks 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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Therapy works best for people who are generally mentally healthy but are going through a trying situation (grief, etc.) or have a specific problem to sort out. I have spent years in therapy trying to be happy; it's good that i have someone to talk to, but I do not pretend it has ever actually helped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Hi, I'm Tarot Mom. I have time for one or two readings :) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Will my contract get renewed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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I think it will, thought maybe not right away. It seems that when you are at your best you are confident, optimistic, and successful; but you also have a dark streak that makes you doubt, naysay and possibly self-sabotage. You need to curtail that negativity, because it can and will influence people around you-they will believe you are as bad off as you make yourself seem. Be patient and proceed with cautious optimism; you will soon be reaping the rewards of your hard work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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You are good. Many thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Will I ever get closure from a painful situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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It's clear from your cards that you're yearning for solace and for kindness and wisdom to guide you through a challenging time. It seems this situation has left you doubting yourself and your own judgment. Try to relax and let go of some of your burden (is it shame, or guilt?) It may still be dark out, but the stars are beautiful, and you have some starlight coming your way. You will through this and be ok, but you MUST avoid the temptation to wade back in to troubled waters. If some vice is involved, avoid it all costs; and make sure you don't interfere in the problem's of others, even if you are trying to help. You need to remove yourself from the strife, look inward, and work on repairing the damage done to your psyche. Closure will ultimately come from forgiving yourself and learning to trust yourself again. That means you need to make small, clear decisions with the best of intentions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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What is the best way to deal with/what will happen with my "bad apple" employee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Where will I find a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Getty lonely, DH used to call text me during the day. Thats has slowness down or even stopped, not I text and he doesn't even answer me half the time We are both super busy at work, but still I am feeling the distance ... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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You post this every other day. If you spent less time complaining about it and actually talking to him, maybe you wouldn't have this problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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Why are you feeling this way on a Saturday evening? Is he at work now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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Stop posting this. Zzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Do you have a date planned soon? Text a babysitter and get two nights on the calendar. Do something fun, not just dinner. Something he will really like too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Repost: Talk me off a ledge, having a work flirtation, he is great shoulders and and an accent, and I keep thinking of him renting the hotel next-door to my work in midtown...i am married but things have been slightly rocky. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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you just posted this recently. we talked you off the cliff. now you're back on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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never got off the cliff, that is why it is posted again :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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I hope his name is Cliff, because the would be awesome. For purposes of this discussion, may we name hot coworker with an accent "Cliff"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone have lasik? I am so tired of contacts but so afraid to get it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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a few people i know that have had it had great results, but no they are in glasses again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Hmmm.. really?! I thought you were set for life. In that case I'll reconsider [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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It lasts about 10 years. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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np: That's kind of depressing. How old were they when they got the surgery? I guess our eyes are always changing anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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or: i think it lasted for a good ten years and then glasses. yes, our eyes are always changing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone not received a hand written thank you note from Spence? Friends all claimed to have gotten them, but not us. Are we the only one? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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I guess you were forgettable. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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dunno but i love spence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Lost in the mail if you didn't get one. They send them to all applicants. As does every school that sends notes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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