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[ - ] Was discussing 529s at family dinner this weekend and SIL said they don't save for DC (529 or otherwise) bc they can't afford to with her SAH and her SAH is the greatest gift she could give her children and trumps any financial savings she might have for them. I stayed out of it but keep thinking about her comment 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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Sanctimmomminess aside, she's not wrong. Her kids will get more FA if there is no well to tap. By dutifully saving for college, you will have the personal honor of paying full price. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am at a crossroads. Always thought I wanted one child. We bought a small apartment, planned for life with one. But DD is now 2.5 and I find myself yearning for another. Likely need to move OOS to make it work. Seriously considering that. Don't want to uproot and then not have another, but also scared of waiting to get pregnant and then making the move. Anyone btdt? Am I crazy? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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just do it. have #2. [ Reply | More ]
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np: why do you say that? [ Reply | More ]
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I have 2 :) [ Reply | More ]
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pp: cute. I have 1, debating a second like OP is, but leaning more toward not. Just curious. [ Reply | More ]
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I never planned on having any and then changed my mind at 35. Now 2 years later, Im thinking of #2. I don't plan on uprooting my life to do so though. Is that the only reason you want to move out of state? If so, I'd stay and just make due with a smaller place. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: we are in a small 1bed right now. Burbs would still be tight unless we moved very Far East and I want to be able to see my family. Need my income in ny area [ Reply | More ]
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that's the problem with planning... mindsets change. I have two, they're 3.5 years apart. it's very reasonable to manage. they entertain each other, and take care of each other. so beautiful to see. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] TTC and not drinking between ovulation and expected period. Am I being neurotic? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How much drinking were you planning? One drink is not going to matter but I wouldn't get wasted either. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeeepppp and you know it, too. Still, it won't hurt if you are knocked up to phase out of booze that much earlier. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 otherwise it will be that much more annoying once you are pregnant [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. If alcohol really hampered fertility no one would get pregnant on spring break or at Mardi Gras. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do you go about finding a therapist aside from google obviously? I mean, how do you know if it will be a good fit? What to look for? etc. TIA! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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you need to meet them once to see if you 're a good fit or at the least talk to them on the phone [ Reply | More ]
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ask for recommendations, look on a site like zocdoc that has lots of reviews, see if there is a specific type of therapy you want (CBT, etc) [ Reply | More ]
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Also, most good ones will talk with you on the phone for 10-15 minutes beforehand to make sure a good fit [ Reply | More ]
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Mine treated our first meeting as deciding whether id want to work with her or not. So , like it was not assumed that i'd pick her, and she asked at the end of the session if i thought we would be a good fit or if i wanted to think about it and let her know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Consider if they take your insurnace. Also try emailing some and asking if they have availability. Some will be nicer than others and you will get a good vibe. Some will say they dont have availabilty . You probably have anxiety which makes you wanna over analyze everything ... speaking from experience here... just dig in and start emailing and calling. It will shake out. [ Reply | More ]
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You may need to see a few before finding a good fit. Look through your insurance and see what type of therapy they practice. Meet them and go over your needs in person. You should know fairly quickly if you click w them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Neighbor always walks with heels upstairs at all hours. Even though there are rugs in her apartment, main areas have uncovered spaces where she walks. I’ve talked it over with her and with the building, but it seems like nothing is going to change. Based on the fact that I live in an urban apartment, I guess I am just going to have to suck it up. I need tips on how to cope with the noise, so that it doesn’t upset me. Any ideas? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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Sound-proof your apt and stop complaining [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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i rent, and was told i am not aloud to touch a thing. btw, i am trying to find a way to live with this, so i don't have to complain. not everyone finds it easy to deal with this kind of thing in their own home. we are all different, with different thresholds for disturbances. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a neighbor who worked nights and slept days - he had a problem with my alarm - told him to f off. [ Reply | More ]
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when is she walking around? what hours of the day? [ Reply | More ]
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Why does it matter? [ Reply | More ]
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matter if your expectations are realistic. [ Reply | More ]
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It's unrealistic to expect people not to walk in their apartments, at any time. [ Reply | More ]
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you are totally right but if it's 2am, i don't think it's a problem to ask her neighbor to remove her shoes. the neighbor would be in her right not to remove them but it would be nice. op kinda sounds a bit unrealistic though that's why i asked. [ Reply | More ]
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why so shitty to this person? sounds like she tried to talk to the neighbor and the neighbor won't change. Which is fucking rude. Complain to your landlord. [ Reply | More ]
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What hours and what areas? Are your bedrooms under her living areas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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it's just me and dc in a large alcove studio. noise is usually as follows: 6:30am 7:30pm 12:00am - 2:30am (she comes home at various hours depending on the night) [ Reply | More ]
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Are you under a similar studio? Studios do tend to attract younger, noisier people. [ Reply | More ]
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she sucks but believe me, smoker neighbors are WORSE. [ Reply | More ]
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White noise machine in bedrooms? [ Reply | More ]
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Get a surround sound [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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what would you like her to do? and have you ever thought about what you sound like to your downstairs neighbors? do you own? then you can pay about 20k to sound proof your ceiling. otherthan that, suck it up. [ Reply | More ]
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The rudeness of this and other comments is unbelievable. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all… [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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run fans and white noise machines. [ Reply | More ]
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Bitch. Not hard to talk off shoes when you get home. That said, there is nothing you can do about it... [ Reply | More ]
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This is why we always live on the top floor. Used to have a terrible neighbor above us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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I too am very sensitive to noise. Your complaint is not unreasonable. If talking to her or the landlord does not work, then you may have to look at moving. For the time being, a white noise machine may help to ameliorate the stress (and yes, it is stress inducing for those of us who are very sensitive to noise - not everyone can tune it out). I have plenty of sympathy for you. Please ignore the rude nature of some of these responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I get horrible gas after dinner - really stinky. So last 3 nights I did not eat dinner and it was fine. I can't skip dinner forever though, can I? I don't need to lose weight (not VBA). I take probiotics. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What do you usually eat? As much as I love garlic, anything with fresh garlic (sauces; roasted vegetables; etc.) gives me problems immediately after. [ Reply | More ]
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I am vegetarian, lots of veggies. This problem started after I got on an anti-depressant a year ago. The medication is awesome so I can't give that up but the gas is a awful. I try to eat mild stuff for dinner - cereal, peanut butter toast but everything gives me gas. [ Reply | More ]
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beano is good [ Reply | More ]
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+1 for Beano [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Today is my birthday. Not a single person has wished me a happy birthday including my family. You think everyone forgot? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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DH and DCs? Or siblings and parents? [ Reply | More ]
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No nothing. [ Reply | More ]
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Happy Birthday! If it makes you feel better, DH has genuinely forgotten my birthday in the past. My mom never forgets, and for some reasons, birthdays are extremely important to DD, who reminds everyone. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Happy Birthday! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Happy Birthday, Sugar!! We all care. [ Reply | More ]
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Happy birthday [ Reply | More ]
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AH man! SO sorry but if I knew you I would totally sign this to you....."Happy birthday to ya. Happy birth day ya. Happy birthday to ya." (Black girl version/Stevie Wonder version) All jokes aside, Happy Birthday! You are loved and appreciated! [ Reply | More ]
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I would sing not sign. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: signing would have been cooler! [ Reply | More ]
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I was gonna say thanks! But I don't understand sign language [ Reply | More ]
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Is your family in the midst of planning your sister's wedding? I hear Jake Ryan like, LIKES YOU, LIKES YOU. Give him a call. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell jake Ryan I am married, but totally up to having sex with him at the reception [ Reply | More ]
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Ohhh thank you ub! :) [ Reply | More ]
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HAPPPPPPY BIRTHDAY! [ Reply | More ]
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Stuff like this is always happening to me. So long ago, I decided to be my own best friend. I go out and buy myself a present and I make it special for myself. Sometimes this world is shitty- forgive it- and make up for it by treating yourself the way you wish others would treat you. And from me to you. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Also... it is TOTALLY OK to tell people in advance "hey I was thinking for my birthday tuesday we should go out to x restaurant as a family, that would be so fun!" or tell DH you are planning to cook x and it would be fun to go see movie x on your birthady. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone ever use a postpartum girdle? Due in four weeks and thinking about buying one, but they are not cheap. Just wanted to see if they are worth it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I tried one for a day or two. Too itchy, I took it off. I don't know if they work or not [ Reply | More ]
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I did buy one but it ended up being too big once I had the baby so it wasn't effective for me but if I had another, I would definitely get a smaller one. Might as well use the relaxin hormone in your body to your advantage. [ Reply | More ]
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kim k did. and so did jessica alba [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Are M&A biglaw hours better if you do private M&A as opposed to public M&A? What kind of in-house jobs are available if you do private M&A? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, deadlines will be deal driven, not SEC driven, but still there. Jobs with PE shops. [ Reply | More ]
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The key in either case is gettig out of NYC. The culture of working ridiculous hours is ingrained in NYC biglaw in a way it simply isn't elsewhere. 2,000 - 2,200 hours is perfectly fine. You have more opportunities in-house if you do private M&A because you are usually a lot closer to the business and ancillary issues due to deal size. Companies rarely need to hire internally for someone who does M&A but can't handle commercial agreements. They want more generalists. Rare (but not impossible) to find a company that does so my M&A thst it will hire in-house did just that skill. Best would be if you have done a few big public M&A deals (so you you have the experience) but your bread and butter is private. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What kind of people have a 2nd home in the Hamptons? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Tt [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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This? [ Reply | More ]
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People with 2nd homes in the Hamptons. [ Reply | More ]
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Carbon-based, bi-pedal... [ Reply | More ]
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Are there Christians there? [ Reply | More ]
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Bankers,hedge fund, private equity, inherited houses... Some foreigners who like to come for the summer. Mostly NYers who want more spce for their families...Us. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ we once rented from 2 NYU Prof who had a cute house above the highway. The less affluent rent out their houses in Aug which covers their cost for the rest of the year. [ Reply | More ]
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I knew a girl in her 20s who used to go in with others to get this house, it was 25K a month in the 80s. Like 20 people went in on it. All singles. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] No sex before a gynecologist visit? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The gyno doesnt want to see sperm [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Have been away from boyfriend for two weeks. He gets back today. But I will wait until the weekend. :( [ Reply | More ]
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you can give him bj [ Reply | More ]
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None. [ Reply | More ]
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When is your appt? I say 24 hours would be fine. Technically any time you have sex is before your next gyn visit. [ Reply | More ]
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If you are using condoms and take a shower after should be no problem. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] At what age was your child completely potty trained during the day? Wondering if it is wise to select a preschool that requires complete potty training when my daughter seems no where near ready now. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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2.5 exactly. This is so variable though. As is the length of time from showing interest to being trained. [ Reply | More ]
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We did 3-day for my then 2.8yo over Labor Day Weekend before preschool started. He had a few accidents but it wasn't a bid deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] All these dress size posts have me confused. I'm 5'8, 126 pounds, reasonably proportioned and a size eight. Larger women say they're a size four or six - Banana Republic vanity sizing? Conversely, the Barneys private label brand makes me squeeze into its version of size 10. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Total vanity sizing. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I'm 5'3 & 125 and wear a size 4 in some brands. Waaaat? [ Reply | More ]
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Must be vanity sizing. I am 5'6" and only a few lbs less than you... maybe 122 or so? I'm never more than a size four, and I find I'm wearing a size two more and more often. I was this exact weight in college and I was a size six back then. It's comical. If I am a size two, what is a truly tiny petite woman-- a negative number or something? [ Reply | More ]
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I also wonder this about small women, like 5'3" 105 pounds. That's not such an unusual body type -- do they have to shop in the kids' section? [ Reply | More ]
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That's why brands like Banana and Ann Taylor have petite sizes now [ Reply | More ]
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I am same size as you, I wear 6 or an 8 in designer clothes and a 0 in banana republic [ Reply | More ]
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Couture/high-end/designer sizes are "higher" and mainstream sizes (Banana, Gap, Ann Taylor, etc.) are smaller. I just a smidge larger (and shorter) than you with gigantic knockers, and wear a XS/2 in Banana. That shouldn't be. I'm a 38-42 in European sizes, which run more standard. For reference, a supermodel is a size 4-6 in designer sizing. [ Reply | More ]
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Vanity sizing but also height. I'm 5'2" and 120 (therefor, fatter than you in distribution) and I would never fit into a Barney's ten. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm 5'7 and 135 and a size 6 (or a 2 in BR). Maybe you have a larger frame? [ Reply | More ]
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I also am a 2 in BR and I'm 130 and 5'6. [ Reply | More ]
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Vanity sizing. If you are that height and weight I would guess your hips are around 36" inches. which is what a size was back 30 years ago (my day). Now, vanity sizing in many brands would make you a size 2. Totally stupid. Don't worry about it. You have a lovely figure. [ Reply | More ]
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So what. Wear what fits [ Reply | More ]
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Forget sizes. You have a lovely figure at that height and weight. [ Reply | More ]
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