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[ - ] For every Oprah/Obama/successful Black businesswoman, career woman or entrepreneur...there are 100 violent drug dealing niggers locked up in jail for life. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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Is it really 100? Obama is an idiot and his wife is an even bigger one so (t)he(y) doesn't count. You should include robert johnson or ben carson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Fuck outta here, homophobe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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For every wealthy old money family there were 100 slaves to help them get there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Sitting right next to the 100's of white child rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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DO NOT FEED THE TROLL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Duggers make me sick. What kind of bs is this? why was children's services not involved. If they had taken a few of the kids away, they would have stopped having so many kids. She basically raised slaves to take care of her younger ones. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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Lol when the show was on, you hens were the first ones loudly clucking your support for these freaks and lecturing everyone to respect their "lifestyle". What exactly were you expecting from a crazy Christian family where the SAHM is basically a breeding cow or a bitch in heat for her hubby at all times? What did you think was actually happening? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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+10000! How is it surprising that something very creepy was going on in that household? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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very true. I only saw the show once and saw that she made the older girls do all the cleaning and child rearing. She did nothing herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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And these idiot housewives here and elsewhere on the Internet were the first ones to defend her too. Some shit about how she was not sexist or misogynist but just a dedicated mom and her sons had duties too etc etc. The SAHMs defending her all along are useless pieces of shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I never really watched the "19 kids and counting.." show but was it any good? Looked freaky from the pictures 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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I believe what he did and was reported is just a small % of what actually happened [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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I watched it. Parts of it was creepy, the women seemed completely brainwashed/robot like. but I liked the little kids and how well behaved they seemed. obviously now, I won't be watching them at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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Who knows..they were probably beaten and abused so they would behave. poor kids... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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No. It's trash for the entertainment of the feeble minded. Can't believe anyone watched that shit...I live in UB "flyover" and wouldn't be caught dead watching that shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if Obama has released a statement in support of Bill Cosby yet. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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You forgot to call him 'Obummer'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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^^ Bummer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. Forgot to put my magazine in my weekend bag! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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download it to your handheld device. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] SIL (dh's sister) and her husband are sort of religious Christians. SIL had surgery today and her husband sent a group text to friends and family letting us know everything went well. Responses included a lot of "praise him" "praise god" and other religious phrases. I'm not Christian and this makes me SO uncomfortable. I'm having trouble articulating why. WDYT? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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Ignore them and send flowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Thanks. I did this morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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+1 This is what I do. --atheist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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I'm not religious at all either - but "SO" uncomfortable? You have issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Because you don't think there's anyone to praise, except maybe the doctor. I'm a Christian, so I'm just spit-balling here. But I sometimes have doubt in my faith, and that's how I feel in those times. (Phone dying so probably can't respond till later if anyone responds to me.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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They're presuming you're with them -- the responders are -- and that's the awkward feeling. Also no one to complain to. So come here and complain! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Exactly! That's why I come here. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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np: Well, to be fair, those people may be hitting REply All, but their messages of "praise him" and all are intended for the religious person who just got surgery, not for OP. I think it's entirely reasonable for them to write that way since they know SIL would appreciate it, even if OP does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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I come from a religious family. I have faith, but definitely a different view on things. I just try and remind myself, in a case like this, it's not about me. i totally kwym, fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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I know it's not at all about me. SIL is sick, so I feel so silly complaining. But here I am having this reaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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^^^ and it's nice to hear that you can relate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone tried rebounding (trampoline) for fitness? I've had a tough year and have had to be on steroids for months because of asthma issues. I've gained a good 40 pounds in a year and am in such a rut that I'm having a hard time getting back into shape. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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Just use a jump rope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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I use the AeroPilates, and it's great. You're horizontal, so no stress on your joints, but it's a great workout. If you do get a rebounder, be careful which one you get. There are two kinds, and one is much softer than the other. You want the softer one. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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I did once and it was fun and I thought it was a good workout. I was out of town and I never saw any classes near my home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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yes - I thought it was great cardio and easier on the joints. give it a try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do think obese people become obese? Obviously by overeating but why the incessant eating? I think it's all emotional eating and they are just trying to stuff something down with food so they dont' have to deal with it. Why is Chris Christie so enormous? What is he hiding?? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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It likely is emotional eating in most cases. I disagree with the "stuff something down so they don't have to deal with it" hypothesis though. I think that for many people food triggers a pleasure/satisfaction response that is frustrated in other ways. It is also a control issue, and a way of reacting to abandonment and neglect. I don't think there is just one answer to the question "Why do people overeat?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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I think they put something in processed food to keep people wanting more and more. I don't think it's possible to get so fat if you aren't eating mostly processed foods (fast food, soda, oreos etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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my coworker is like this. anything in the kitche is fair game, despite having eaten breakfast and lunch which are from a fast food place. it doesn't make sense. i think it is emotional [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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I used to eat five times what I do now and I was a normal weight because I threw it all up (bulimic) and exercised to keep from getting fat. I was always trying to lose weight. I put weight on with pregnancies and kept losing less and less. Lately I have put on about thirty-five pounds in the last five years because 1. I stopped caring about being thin and attracting anyone; 2. Stopped looking st labels for calories and fat content. 3. Became sedentary with kids out of the house and not feeling like socializing - a bit of depression going on there. And 4. Eating late at night after drinking, age and general predisposition to putting on weight if I do not try to keep it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Now I am at a point where I realize I have to turn it around in some way because I am noticing small changes in my mobility, like my lower back hurts if I walk too much, and I get winded climbing stairs. I am mid fifties and should probably weigh 70 lbs less than I do now. Trying to count steps and drink lots of water, mostly I ido 5k to 7k steps a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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He's definitely hiding his penis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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My DH is like a lab. He will eat and drink everything in the house. I can't keep much food, a bag a chips or much alcohol or he will go right through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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I think it's a few things: 1) they don't know what it means to feel good in a physical way; 2) they lack discipline and an ability to delay gratification; 3) they don't believe they could ever reach a normal weight and figure 'what the hell' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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I'm thin and always have been, so it's of no consequence to me. But it does seem to me like weight begets weight, without any additional calories. In other words, there is something metabolically about storing fat that causes the body to keep storing fat. I think that if I ate the same things as an obese person ate, that person would gain more weight than I do. It seems like once you put on weight, the body really, really, really resists taking it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Having a family of kids over this weekend. Any menu ideas? Preferably low maintenace. Dh wants to do something healthier than the burger/hot dog standard bbq. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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taco/taco salad bar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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will they eat red & yellow peppers? bbq chicken skewers with peppers and zuchinni? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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pita bar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I love shooting heroin with my 3 year old DD 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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it's memorial day weekend. surely you have something better to do than troll parenting message boards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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it's like the wierdest thing. like just like all these posts. probably like the same 5 people. wish their was some sort of flag button. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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I think it's 1 person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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¿ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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This particular troll makes the same joke every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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maybe your right. why isn't their IP address bans? or usernames. most online places have gone to usernames. clears stuff up. although given the small community people would probably get outed pretty quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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This is NOT just "a parenting message board", idiot. Get a clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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guess that answers my question. and yes, it is, largely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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What question? You never even asked one. And no, it is not. Most of the posts here are about race, obesity, Obama and that mattress slut. Get a fucking clue. It's not different from any other online message board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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+ 1. And that Duggar kid whom everyone online obsesses over. Also the DC killers. Nothing "parental" about those. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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Are you kidding?. 4/5 of the current most popular threads have to do with kids/parenting. I'd be bored to tears posting here if I didn't have a kid. Nigger! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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okay, so there are posts about race, mattress, etc. how is that at all relevant to a post about shooting heroin with a 3 year old? at least make the posts interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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Stop whining, lady. Stop acting helpless and do something on your own and quit asking for handouts and help from others. If you're bored with your shitty life and marriage, it's not anyone else's problem to entertain you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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good lord, woman. you've been here all afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] The greatest injustice of our generation is how little liquid there is in iced drinks. It looks like a large glass, but it's all ice. So disappointing. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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you can always ask for only a little ice or no ice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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^or move to Europe where they don't use ice in drinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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You, ma'am, are a cut above the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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I always do and they don't listen. Or give me like one less ice cube. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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I always ask for no ice and rarely have an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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Lol +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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"light ice". I have solved this issue. Next I will tackle equal pay! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Psychic mom? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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i am here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:52 PM Flag
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Are things going to work out for me and this scorpio man I'm in love with, or is it done for good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:56 PM Flag
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Make it done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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interesting...do you mean there's a chance for more, but i shouldn't pursue it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Np no he means he's a crazy troll replying to every single post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Not at all. OSPM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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That is exactly what I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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that was not me. [ Reply | More ]
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Your signs are not compatible in a traditional sense. That said, it could be hard going if you end up back together. I am sensing a semi-volatile split. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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1) am I going down a bad path with my new venture? also what do you see for my marriage in the future? my DC? TIA [ Reply | More ]
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not picking up anything at the moment...is the business venture some sort of start up? that is what i am seeing but it is not clear and not sure it is for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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Hi PM. do you see me fining love anytime soon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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i don't see that you are actively pursuing the correct person. there is someone who is attracted to you but you don't notice him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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possibly a co-worker or client. but not clear on that. sorry can't be more helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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Will this house sell fast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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Will I be successful at my new job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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Will I get my "father of the bride house" or the newer house I just put an offer on? [ Reply | More ]
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Will I ever get back to work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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hey! long time no see. how's it looking for my move and how everyone's going to adjust? will dcs like their new school? thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] So they didn't release any of Duggar's victims thankfully but I wonder if they were all his sisters or could it get even more insane if he molested one of his brothers? Mr. ant-Gay hypocrite pedophile. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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His sisters were definitely some of the victims. The reports state they live at home with their parents, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:52 PM Flag
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I know but who is to say the other little boys didn't get molested or were not molesters to their sisters or each other. Too many kids with no supervision. And general weirdness and disrespect for females and no oversight because of the homeschooling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Odd situation in Mexico - various sources reported a large "attack" by an "armed group" near the town of Tanhuato, Michoacan, about 70 miles from the nation's second-largest city of Guadalajara. Then federal officials said it was just some minor disturbances. But then local officials got through to social media and reported a bloodbath, with more than forty killed. Now the feds are making contradictory statements. Are they trying to cover something up? Will Mexico ever pull itself together? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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Mexico will pull itself together when we stop utilizing the drug trade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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So, never? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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Only if drugs remain illegal in the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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Well we are growing them here now so that should help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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That's kind of a cop-out. There's no evidence that "the drug trade" necessarily leads to violence. Japan, for example, has a fairly large illegal drug market, but very minimal associated violence. Why doesn't Mexico adopt the Japanese Yakuza distribution model instead of the failed "warring cartels" model? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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LOL, yeah, in 2099 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Very odd indeed. I have never heard of that before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! 10 yo DS can be really argumentative and bossy with friends. We've been working on this though, of course, most of the time i'm not around to see if he's actually modified his behavior. Was at a birthday party today and stuck around. DS was totally out of control. Being mean and arguing with everyone. What action will be most effective? Do I punish him? Take away his phone? Have him call a few of the boys to apologize? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Just let nature take its course. He will lose his friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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OP. Yes, for starters, he will. I guess I'm hoping to teach him that he needs to change before this happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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you definitely should. "letting nature take its course" sounds like an abdication of parenting responsibility, and there's no guarantee that he'll learn from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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at age 10? mom can say "other kids won't want to keep hanging out with you if you treat them that way, you know". but he's not a toddler. he will absolutely learn from his friends not wanting to play with him, as a direct result of his mean attitude towards them. you really believe he'll learn more from his mom taking away his xbox for a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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op here. look, i agree with you that his friends not wanting to hang out with him will make a huge impact. but i'm also worried about how his behavior will impact him down the road at work, in college, etc. i can't just sit here hoping his friends will turn on him I(which would be heartbreaking anyhow) and that he'll then, adjust himself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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I believe that he may not make the connection between a loss of friends and his own behavior. It's up to his parents to make sure he is aware of the shortcomings of his behavior, talk with him about whether he is acting in an a way intends, and make sure he understands there are consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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op. exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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fair enough. i thought you were implying that mom should be more of a helicopter, so to speak, and that allowing natural consequences was just being lazy. i agree that talking with him about what the natural consequences WILL BE if he doesn't shape up is very important. and explaining why no one likes his bossy attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Drop him off at Ferguson or Baltimore. He will learn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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I'd have taken him home immediately. Told him no more parties until he improves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP. I definitely considered this. There were several other moms there though and I felt like I might look a bit nutty to do that. But yes, I did consider it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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op here. basically, i'm wondering if i can do anything now that will carry that type of weight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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Np- You might have to just do it once. At his age he'll be mortified and it will make a big enough impression that hopefully you will never have to do it again. Wish my mil had done this! Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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op. next time, i'll definitely do it. hard to explain but today, i feel like i would have looked nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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I totally understand. I've done that with my 2.5yo and felt like a whack job but who cares. Kids who pull their mom's hair to do not birthday cake! Lesson learned lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:52 PM Flag
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I think you should give him a warning up front though. Take him to the event, and tell him that if he is mean to his friends, you will take him home. Then follow through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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This. Definitely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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so you let him stay and ruin the birthday party? guess both of you will be losing friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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There's a difference in my book between mean, argumentative, and bossy. I'd be specific about what kind of behavior needs to stop, and what kind can be handled better. Apologies may be in order, but i don't know about calling. Tricky situation, good luck, and good for you for working on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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op. thanks. we've been doing this for the past couple of years. i'm just so frustrated today because i felt like he was back to square one. and for a while, i felt we'd (he'd) made progress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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"I heard you say such and such to your friend. How do you think they felt about that? .... What can you do better next time? " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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op. yes, i did that the entire 30 minute ride home. i just feel like i need to "punish" him in some way. maybe i'm wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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I don't know. I think it is better to make him think for himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Maybe. Just tired of this. Feel like we're going in circles. We always are sure to point out his poor behavior and yet, he doesn't change it at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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at this point, no. let him think about what he did- talking to him like that was perfect i think. his best lesson will be his friends saying "henry is being a jerk, let's go play somewhere else and he's not allowed to come". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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op. i know you're right. it just makes me sad that this will happen and also, i'm just so annoyed that he can't see this and doesn't want to change [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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point it out to him, like you did in the car it sounds like. "how do you think jayden felt when you told him he was wrong over and over? you know, when people keep hearing that kind of thing from a friend, they usually don't want to play with that friend much anymore. be careful, because your friends might not want to play with YOU much anymore if you don't treat them nicely. do you understand how you didn't treat them nicely today? if you don't understand what wasn't nice about it, tell me and i can help you out." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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you seem overly self involved. you're sad that your son will have people reacting honestly to him, but no remorse about him behaving badly at someone's party. no empathy for the people he is shitty towards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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crazy that you let him stay. no consequences so why should he listen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Social therapy - just a few sessions so the therapist can point it out instead of you. Punishment won't help, phone won't help-at that age they don't realize they're doing anything wrong. Personality quirks make it so they think they're fun/always right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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op. we've considered this in the past but when we looked into it, the kids enrolled seemed really extreme and even the one therapist we saw described kids that are really outliers. i know it's hard for me to be objective but i don't think DS belongs in that type of group. In Manhattan. Do you have a place to suggest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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There are some books that can help. Look in the parenting and friendships section. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Choose one or two very specific of the most egregious things he said or did. Ask him what he was trying to accomplish. Ask him to try to think of other ways to accomplish what he wants. I don't think punishment is the answer, teaching him strategies to help himself is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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Does your DH behave or interact in this way? Is he modeling behavior he sees at home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:56 PM Flag
[ - ] How is the community in Latchmont, NY? TIA. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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it's Larchmont [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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I'm not moving to Larchmont. I'm moving to Latchmont. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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Op: haha, sorry. Typo. I know it's Larchmont. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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French and WASPs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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Lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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If it is your thing. Beautiful sailing club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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I think it's all pretty great except the issue with the high school. They don't have one. If you are going to do private anyway then I would not be bothered by it. If not, I would question the hell out of your real estate person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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Where do the kids go to public high school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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They are bused in to the Bronx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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Kids in Larchmont go to Mamaroneck HS (where DC is now in 11th grade). We have been extremely happy with the HS. It has strong academics and a great, very extensive music program, better than what you will find in most HS, public or private. There is also a very strong performing arts program. People in Larchmont are lovely, friendly and down-to-earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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Only town I would consider moving to from NYC. Distant second is Bronxville. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] 12yo DS left his jacket today at the park. I made him go back and it's gone. WWYD? Should he pay me for it? i want to impress upon him the value of money. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Withhold his allowance for 3 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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If he needs a new one, just tell him to pay. He shouldn't pay for the old one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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OP. That's really just semantics. Of course, he'll need a new one. But I hear you, I guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Right, by making him buy a new one its natural consequences. By making him pay you for the old one and then you buying him a new one- roundabout and annoying. If he can't afford one as nice as the one he lost, even more of a lesson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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What kind of jacket? Is he normally a "good" kid? Depends. I wouldn't have made my son pay me back. He'd have felt awful and that's that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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OP. A jacket from REI. Was expensive for us. And no, he didn't seem to feel awful which is largely why I'm so angry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Chores to make up the $$ value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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OP. I like this. I'm going to do it. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Or just make him buy whatever he can afford to replace it and he'll realize the value (& be reminded whenever he wears his shitty jacket) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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OP here. I might add that he's pretty forgetful and was nonchalant when he told me about the jacket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Chores- so he sees that forgetting isn't worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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Is he in the habit of losing his stuff, or was this more of a fluke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Lost his backpack about 18 months ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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2 items in 18 months isn't a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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I forgot my jacket at work one day this week. Time of year I'm not in a habit because weather keeps changing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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That is what 12 yo boys do. It's also the kind of weather that makes this happen. I'm guessing he would out grow it over summer anyway and need a new on late next fall? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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MIL told me DH used to leave his jacket wherever he went. all. the. time. She said she went through numerous jackers per season. I think she used punishment and it didn't work - fast forward 30 years and DH is completely scatterbrained and misplaces everything. Usually because he's so focused on what he's doing, he can't multi-task. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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one of my boys is like this. drives me crazy. but dh can be like this too. i agree w chores to pay you back. i also rarely buy expensive stuff for this reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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Chores. Honest mistake but he should feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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tell him how much it costs and explain he needs a new one, take him to the store with his allowance and let him buy one he can afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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See in labels with name and number [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Sew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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My mother is like this and has been since we were little I would have to remind her about her shit. What can I do about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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My nanny is like this. Every day she forgets her phone or the charger or something. I had to stop her from bringing dc's stuffed animals out of the house because she would lose them and it was a shit show with the 2 yr olds "lovey" he uses to sleep. At least yours is 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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i really get nuts about these things. it's because they've never had to go without. i smacked dd in the hand five times on the butt with a ruler so she'd remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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