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[ - ] How old are you and do you live in NYC? If not, where do you live? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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34, Austin (formerly NYC) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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41. NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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39. NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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42 UES [ Reply | More ]
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45. Yes and no. Have homes in NYC, LA, London, and Sewickley. [ Reply | More ]
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32. NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] There is a troll on right now. Ugh. Why can't they get rid of her. Nasty woman. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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if there's just one we're in good shape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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I think it's a guy troll one of those gamer jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me I'm insane - saw on FB earlier this week that my HS boyfriend just had a baby. We've each been married for years, I have 2 DCs, but this news made me so upset for some reason. Now I'm caught up listening to indie music from the 90s and wondering what could have been. Make it stop!!! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I've had that happen too. I remember finding out that my HS boyfriend honeymooned in the exact place he and I often talked about visiting while we were together in HS and college. Even though I myself was married and had vacationed in so many cool places with my DH, this was such a weird knife in the heart to me. Indulge the feelings for a little while, then move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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OK good to know I'm not alone in my crazy. Thanks for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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The fantasy is always better than the reality. But there is sweet sorrow in mourning the never-to-be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Aww, perfect description. And I know his wife - they are PERFECT for each other, so I'm happy for them obv, but man it stings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Well written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Ha! Btdt. FB is so weird, we know info about people we really shouldn't know and it's tough to process those emotions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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It's okay to get melancholy and to think of what may have been. It's good to still feel sentimental about an old flame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Same thing happened to me! I was not upset, but I did wonder what could have been, even though I am happily married and have changed so much since high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] 11yo DS told me that his friend sometimes ditches the afterschool tutoring his mother told him to attend to buy candy at the local mart and play basketball for an hour until tutoring is over. I am friends with this mother and torn as to whether I should tell her. My DS doesn't share much about his life with his friends and I want him to feel he can tell me anything. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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MYOB. Preserve the trust between you and DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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so totally agree here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Agree. The boy will have to face the music when he's failing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Is there some way you could casually walk by the basketball court and say, hey, Jack, aren't you supposed to be at tutoring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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If I were the mom I would want to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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and that's more important than your child's trust, they don't forget these things if it gets out. also consider the reprecusions to the relationship between these boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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That's why I'm suggesting she do it in a way that would not indicate her ds told her anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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The mom already knows her son is a slacker. Her finding out and "monitoring" him will only make him more sneaky in other ways. The little guy is an underachiever with poor character. Check back in 30 years and he'll be the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Honestly, this is not a super-serious issue where Jack risks getting hurt or getting in trouble with the law. She is not Jack's mom, so she should stay out of this nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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I don't see the harm. If I just happened to walk by the basketball court and knew the kid was playing hooky I would say something. If I knew the family well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Say to the mom, "I saw Jack at the playground today." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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But that violates her dc's trust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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^Oh, wait, I misunderstood. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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I would tell the mother and tell her not to reveal how she found out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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won't the tutoring tell her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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No. It is offered by the school and the kids can just show up for the hour without scheduling in advance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Then it's kind of up to the mom to ask her dc what he did that day, can I see your work, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Oh geez. Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Who the hell cares? The candy and basketball is probably doing him better than the lame-assed tutoring would anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Signed, non-Ivy Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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If he's Ivy League material, he wouldn't need a tutor in the first place. Ugh this place is infested with strivers. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Not true. You can always do more to get ahead. What do you have against people working hard to better themselves? Are you anti-intellectual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Are you crazy? This boy is your son's competition in school. Do you WANT your friend's son to do better in school than your own son? Let the other kid screw up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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well, I think the mom should mhob but this interpretation of it is really mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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It's not mean at all. It's being competitive and watching the competition self-sabotage. They didn't do anything, the boy is a slacker and won't be an achiever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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That's what I'm thinking too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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You're both amazing. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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This is so minor - it's not your problem, and you shouldn't give it a second thought. If he was ditching to do drugs, that's another story. Buying candy and playing basketball is almost quaint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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I'd be more concerned that my son is friends with such a slacker loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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he's just being a kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone tell me about the Weekday School? Is it hard to get into or more of a neighborhood school? I know it is play-based, but do they also teach some fundamentals? TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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Lovely school, a little off the radar, not so hard to get into because of where it is, good mix of kids - some go local publics, some top privates, and everything in between. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Sounds nice. Is there a mix of some teaching of fundamentals (letters, sounds, a little math) or all play? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] NEST parents--What is grading like in middle school for your DCs? Is it hard to get 90s and above across the board? In your experience, are NEST teachers harsh graders? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.23.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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It's not an easy "A", if you don't put the work in...and there is work involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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IMO no, at least in 7th and 8th grade. As long as dc does all the homework and takes advantage of extra credit if the test scores aren't good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Np. I just learned this recently. That it's practically impossible not to get straight A's in every single ms in my district (2) because they all allow you to retake tests and/or do extra credit to boost your grade. What's the point if this is the case? Everyone gets all A's so aren't the grades meaningless? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Well at NEST there are number grades, so there is obviously a difference between 99 and a 90. And it's not like you can re-take tests. I'm assuming here that most kids are reasonably smart and do study for the first test. So that with hw grade high, even an 80 average on a test plus doing well in every other graded area can bring you up to a 90. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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So you're saying with a few exceptions, every dc has or has a very good chance at getting 90+ in every subject? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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I can't speak for every dc. I am assuming every dc has the ability at NEST to get a 90+. But you have to do ALL your homework, period. And study for tests. The question was are NEST teachers "harsh". I think they give students the opportunity to well. But the kid has to do the work and study. I like that about it -- it's not a place where teachers are giving a 65 on a writing assignment to a kid who worked hard and did it. But I don't call that "easy" - but I would never call it "harsh". It is sensible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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^^PS -- you underestimate the number of students at good middle schools who do NOT do all the work! Not every kid does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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It sounds quite easy to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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This is correct. Most dcs who work reasonably hard find A's easy to come by even at the supposedly "rigorous" schools like Lab, Nest, Anderson, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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np: my dc just graduated, but we did find As were easy to come by as long as homework was done and tests were studied for. The teachers were fairly reasonable, and there were opportunities to get extra credit. That said, the workload was a serious one. If your dc isn't disciplined and motivated, it's a tough place to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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So there aren't any particular teachers who are in a different universe (in terms of grading) at NEST? At older DC's MS, most of the teachers were fair as long as kids really put in the work (and there was a ton of it). But then there was one teacher who was totally different and would give grades that seemed deliberately harsh. It was like a weird ego thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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There was an infamous teacher in 6th grade at NEST like this, but I believe that teacher is gone. But for the most part, no. And I agree - those kinds of deliberately harsh teachers are terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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What school was that? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How did your DH propose to you? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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We picked out the ring together. Then a few weeks later, we took our dogs to the park on a Saturday afternoon and he proposed there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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Lame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Wouldn't be lame to just be at park with dogs. Picking out rings together is a little weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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He showed up at my house, bend on a knee, I was in my Pjs, looked crazy. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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^^^ totally unexpected, he got the ring that same day before heading to my house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Proposed to me on vacation in Greece. Total surprise, I was happily shocked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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On a boat at sunset in the bay. Very surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Racist bitch. How dare you assume my husband PROPOSED to me. Not everyone is like you, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Racist? How stupid are you? I'm a sexist. You don't know the difference? Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I am MUSLIM and Pakistani, you racist piece of shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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lol and? What does that have to do with anything you dumb fuck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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She's a racist bitch for assuming that we all get proposed to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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np: no one said you aren't, how fucking retarded are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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How is OP racist? Is english not your first language you fucking freak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Cheesy proposal alert: DH took me out to dinner (Keen's Steakhouse) and somehow got me to make it my idea to go up the Empire State Building. When we got to the observation deck, he asked if I wanted to try to spot our Brooklyn apt from one of the telescopes. He intentionally dropped the quarter when trying to put it in the slot, and when I looked down to see what he was doing, he was on one knee. Everything froze until I heard a southern tourist scream "oh my gawd yall, he's proposin'". My office faces ESB, so I think of that moment a lot and it still makes me smile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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So sweet it made my toothache. I hope yall are happier than pigs in mud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Brought me to the beach in Malibu. Bought a bottle of wine. Talked, he was being really sentimental and sweet and I was tipsy and sassy and irreverent. I felt like such a jerk when he really got going with his speech and then proposed. I really did not realize what was happening until I saw the ring & our dog was there :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Took me out to dinner at Windows on the World. We were 25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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I loved my proposal. My DH is in medicine and he said he was with a patient who, as a thank you, was going to take us up in a hot air balloon ride over our town. During that hot air balloon ride I'm taking pictures and things and the balloon driver guy asked if I wanted him to take a picture of us. Of course I handed over my camera. After he took the picture he kind of turned around and didn't say much. In my head I'm like, UM, can I have my camera back…..meanwhile as I turn to say something to my DH (boyfriend at the time) he's down on one knee holding the most beautiful ring with a very nervous and happy smile on his face. Then he popped the question. All the while the balloon driver guy was snapping pictures, unbeknownst to me of course. So not only do I have a wonderful proposal story, an amazing husband that I'm still madly in love with 10 years later….but pictures of the proposal, acceptance and after. BEST. DAY, EVER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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After a couple of drinks at a classic NY bar, took me back to our first apartment building together, and got on one knee in front of the door [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o are we all really pretending we'd rather marry Aidan than Big, really?? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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Most moms are politically correct. Terrified of telling the truth. it is PC to say you would not marry for money. But a lie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Aidan had money, though! Remember, he bought Carrie's apartment and the one next door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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It wasn't just over money that she married B? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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^ they had passion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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Aidan was the better guy in the movie. But even In the movie, Carrie and her dusty old uterus chose the money and the apartment, and Aidan hopefully got some nice girl whom he had babies with. [ Reply | More ]
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He did. Carrie runs into him with his baby in the show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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"And her dusty old uterus" omfg lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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I think in real life there are some women who choose not to marry a guy with money. it is just that they regret it later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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I'm not. Np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Aiden was better in pretty much every way except money. And even in the money department he was in great shape, just not as rich as Big. For sure that's who I would pick of the two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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He was boring. Big was sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Big was a whore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I feel the opposite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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I would pick Big, no question. Aiden is the wimpy type b male I can't stand. Also, I find John Corbett irritating, especially when he does the Walgreen's voiceovers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I despised the Auden character. Big all the way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] alright ladies! I know I am boring and that is the only part of this post I will apologize for. So I am the dumbass with the cheating BF, who found out abt the cheating recently just as he was having his tow kids come to visit. Yesterday, he and I spoke on the phone and he was terrible. He wasn't sorry! oh no, he said all I was was a F&89- buddy! And I had had it- I told him to get his tuff out of my house. Now mind you I had said originally, that since his kids were set to come they could still do so. I was willing to provide my apartment for 3 weeks (they are home schooled) despite the cheating. And then we spoke on the phone! I never let me anger runaway- I am always nice and UNDERSTANDING and I out myself last. But I had had it. I ALWAYS the doormat- always. I am always short changed, last considered, utterly humiliated even. So- I took it back and told him NO to the 3 weeks, no to anything that I had to do that involved doing for him. And I CANNOT feel GREAT abt it b/c his two kids are involved and they were supposed to stay in my spacious apartment! UGH!!! Was I ok? Did I go to far? THANKS :)) 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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I read your other posts and I don't think you went too far. It's unfortunate that the children will be in the small grandmother's apartment (is that right?), but it's their dad's fault and it sounds like he's an incredible ass to you. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself! Now don't back down if you start feeling guilty! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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op: yes, grandmas and its a one bedroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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Thank you. This is a huuuge step for me. Lame but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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You're welcome! I don't think it's lame - some people are anti-confontational and people who aren't may recognize that and use it to their advantage. My mom was like that and my dad, while not an ass didn't respect her as much, and when she started standing up for herself their relationship improved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Wasn't this over yesterday? You just need to move on and not feel bad about it otherwise yes you are being a dumbass. You don't owe him or his children anything. Frankly, I would just put his stuff on the curb at a designated time and call it a day. And you might want to get a therapist be use clearly you have self esteem issues that you need to work through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:38 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.23.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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He lived with you and called you a fuck buddy? Telling him to get his stuff was a favor. I would have told him he had better get to the street quickly, because that's where his stuff would be. Where did you meet this loser? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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op; I have known him for 14 years- old friends and we started dating. UGh! I wish I had the balls to say that and do it. the thought crossed my mind but I couldn't go that far. Could you really have done that?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Np: YES. I would and people consider me very nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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Absolutely. I am a reformed door mat. I'm not dramatic in a normal break up, but if a man who was LIVING WITH ME called ME "just a fuck buddy", his stuff would be out the door before he hung up the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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op: I was infuriated! I could feel my cheeks get hot! I was soo angry! I KNOW he had put all these conditions and boundaries on the "relationship". he told me and I accepted- like a fool. Now thinking about- it yes, that was all I was a F*989 buddy- to him. But to find our abt the cheating and still try to be accommodating AND be called a F^*60 buddy! I felt real rage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Way to go! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.23.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Good for you! I am cheering. Do not waver on anything. And I second the suggestion to get some therapy. I'm like you. I put up with abominable treatment from my husband for years. After 2 years of therapy I'm ready to get out. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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op: I do have a therapist- maybe that's why I was able to do this. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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I read your first post and couldn't believe it. This post is so much better! Move on. His kids are his problem. Finds someone who lives and appreciates you. You sound like a nice person but you need to value yourself more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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op: He said I complained too much and I was too negative. But I don't care!!!!! I wasn't going to keep my mouth shut and accept shitty treatment!! I DO deserve more! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Yes you DO. I can tell you are super nice person. This is your chance to learn to put yourself first. You will be surprised but he will respect you more for it no matter what he says. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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^ when my friend had an issue like yours I came over, packed her dh's stuff and took it to my storage. Texted him that he had 3 days to coordinate someone to come her it before its in the trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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op; interesting! so I am not going too far. interesting- its hard to tell when all you are used to saying and doing is what works best for the guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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You were great; now go to the spa and treat yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Good idea! Treat yourself to a special day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Good for you! You deserve much better- you deserve someone who will love you and care about YOU! This is a great first step. Get out there and find a nice, caring person! I'm proud of you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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That was very nice- thank you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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You need to wrap this up, not feel guilty, and move on. Kids or no kids, you just don't need this person in your life. Sorry they are stuck with a dud dad, but not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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I'm still confused as to why you feel badly about the situation with his kids. You act like they're sleeping in the streets now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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op: because that's how I am! they would be happier at my place so I figure I have to provide that for them. And in my mind, I ALWAYS have to improve someone's life but they don't have to do shit for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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^ AND explaining that was useful in and of itself. AND I have to bite my tongue from asking: how can you not feel bad for them? But I know that you don't b/c you are just healthier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Why do you assume they'd be happier or that you're improving their life by them staying with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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You did GREAT!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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THANK YOU. I did! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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I think you did the right thing, they are not your kids and your ex is a dumba$$ that doesn't deserve you, you can do better and you will do better, good luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] It's clear the de Blasio Administration is committed to failing schools. Close to half of Fariña's new superintendents are were principals at underperforming schools. I know failing up is a phenomenon in the US, but it shouldn't be in NYC schools. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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It will be interesting to see how Deblasio and Farina respond to demands from City Council re more integration of city schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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They will change the zones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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np. With all the housing segregation in NYC, that would be a drop in the bucket. There are so few zones where that would make a difference. It would only be at the edges. There are whole districts that have very few white students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Yes, but they could start with dividing up D2, changing it to D2 North and D2South, merging D1 into D2 south and parts of Harlem into D2north. I am not as familiar with other areas, but same type of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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That would not do much. Elementary school kids would still go to the same schools for the most part, and middle schools would become more Asian in the south. In the north, you would only change the schools on the edges. It would not have a significant effect at all for the system even if you diversify a few schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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what if they make all districts choice districts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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That ends up segregating the schools even more. It was supposed to work the opposite way when they originally instituted it, but it hasn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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i know. but we are talking in hypotheticals and i have no confidence in de blasio to actually achieve this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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No way that will happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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I wonder when they will deliver their plan for failing schools. It is odd that de Blasio campaigned on his promise of a better plan for failing schools that did not include closing them, yet now that he is in office, he needed an extension to the Aug deadline because the plans weren't ready. I wonder if he had a plan at all while he was campaigning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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The better plan is that you keep failing schools open so that a Charter cannot take its place. That was always the plan. Oh, and stop grading schools. If a schools cannot receive a failing grade, then it is no longer a failing school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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Aren't they bound by Federal law on this one? NCLB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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All that happens is they lose federal funds. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Since no charter school has shown an interest in teaching the majority of the kids in failing public schools, this is an ignorant remark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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np: you and i disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Someone has to teach the smart kids, because de Blasio has no interest in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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it seems he'd be happy with mediocrity for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Perhaps it is your definition of "underperforming". Does that mean "keeps everyone who enrolls and does their best to teach them and shows improvement?" I'd rather see a principal from an "underperforming" school that teaches all students, then some fresh out of college kid who thinks she is a genius because her handpicked students do well on a standardized test. Teaching STRUGGLING students is the mark of a great teacher, even if they never are 4s. Teaching above average students to remain above average? Sorry, I'm not impressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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These are superintendents, not teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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[ - ] we are doing a holiday open house on a Sunday in December. 2pm-5 (BURBS). There will be a healthy mix of adults and 7-12 year old children. Since it's a drop in, I don't want an RSVP. However, since we are inviting 100+ people, I'd like to get a head count. Do we need to have a bar, or is wine and beer ok. The last time that we did a holiday party was 7 years--a cocktail party for adults, when my DS was 1,5 yr. Also, any ideas on what to serve?? Only finger food only? Cider-yes. A signature cocktail??? I'd like to put have some health hearty salads ?? Need ideas on what to serve. Savory and sweet. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:15 PM Flag
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I would plan on 75% of invited people showing up at some point. Finger foods are fine. Pigs in blankets are popular no matter what people say about them being crass. Crudités, sandwich roll ups, chicken satay, shrimp cocktail, mini egg rolls, variety of cookies. I think beer/wine/cider is fine since it's afternoon. Maybe egg nog too? Just some suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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Beer wine cider is good. Maybe some hard cider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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mulled wine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] DD's friend's brother just graduated from Stuy. He got into Cornell and Hunter College but chose Hunter because of the money. Frankly, even with a great scholarship to Cornell, he could not afford to go there. At Hunter, he is going tuition free (scholarship), plus he can live at home. I don't think people on this board understand how much family money affects college matriculation. So stop comparing private school college matriculation stats to public school matriculation stats. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:15 PM Flag
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I think they do know, it just makes old money feel good to say that they went to Ivy so they can justify it in their own minds...and brag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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I would guess at least a quarter of graduates from most private schools need financial aid for college. It was well over 50% at my child's school (not in NYC). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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^^^ I also think there's a cultural factor in many Asian families of wanting to keep children close to home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:38 PM Flag
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The issue is the binge drinking and hookup culture at college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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in nyc, where private school costs $40k per yr, most should be able to afford college!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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If DS lives at home he grows up to have the values of his family if he goes to college he learns new ones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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His family values may be much better than drunken frat boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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if your kid doesn't have good values by the time they're 18 than you've done something wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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My dc is at Stuy, and I would say that at least half the class are the children of immigrants. PT conferences offer translators. Yes, all of the dcs are very bright, but with 800+ in the class, very few of those who can't afford it will get scholarships to the prestigious private colleges. Lots of dcs go to CUNY and SUNY. For that matter, lots of the middle class dcs do as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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He got into two great schools, and so had the option to take out student loans and opted not to? That's great he got into two great schools, and he's prudent in going with the less expensive one. I'd also applaud his decision to take loans, and go for Cornell. Not sure what the point is. Not everyone can afford college, that's why there are scholarships, pell grants, and loans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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There is a huge amount of loans that middle income people take. I live in Edgemont and we are seeing kids turn down name schools. One of my DDs friends turned down Cornell for Binghamton, now at Georgetown Law. His UG wont matter so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Right, 28 years ago I also took out huge loans - that's what people do if there is a particular school they feel is worth it. I had early success and paid the loans off early. For me, it was worth the debt. I just don't get the 'oh jimmy had to miss out on cornell because he couldn't afford it' - few people can. Some people think certain credentials are worth going into debt for - or they don't. It's not a hardship. MOST people cannot fully fund college with the coin in their bank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Whatever he had to Cornell, it was not a scholarship. Financial aid in the form of loans and grants, yes. But not a scholarship. I don't doubt you when you say he is a smart kid at Hunter, and he may have a scholarship there, but it undermines your position when you don't know the correct terms when it comes to what he forfeited. Sounds like his FA package was just not enough. And it means his parents aren't exactly destitute. They just didn't save wisely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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How do you know he didn't have a partial scholarship? They do exist. I had one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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OR is being deliberately obtuse. She is making the point that Cornell does not provide merit scholarships only need based aid. Big Whoop. OPs point is that kids from Stuy are turning down name schools if they do not get full aid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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But if they really want the school, then they will take out loans... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Hunter is fine if you want to be a teacher or almost anything else that doesn't require a top degree. Why come out saddled with debt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Just because I'm interested, what fields requires a top degree especially undergrad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Banking training programs, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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worth the amount of debt? not in this field, so pardon my asking but is there a great need/chance of getting this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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I know many like him. ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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Is he at Macauley Honors College at CUNY? OP, you don't realize how prestigious that is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Just had a conversation with my niece, who recently graduated from an excellent college and has a good job. She said she might have been better off with $250,000 to spend on graduate school instead of the private college tuition and having to take out more loans for grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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^^I mean, her parents could have given her that money instead of spending it on undergrad college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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I have a similar story. Have enjoyed a lot of success but it is the hard way because I constantly had to prove as was as capable as the ivy grads. Now it doesn't matter since I'm well established. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else still thinking about yesterday's post re: the married woman having an affair and pregnant with her partners child? Her situation is beyond and no I don't think it was fake. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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I do think she is proud of her situation. Almost as if she wanted to show-off to everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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Yes. There's def something there. I wonder how it ends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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She didn't sound panicked enough to me for it to be real. It could be, though. Stranger things have happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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I know someone who was the married woman in this situation. Several years later, she's married to the man she had the affair with, and has a second child by him. So 3 kids total, one by the first husband and two by the second. The oldest child was 18 months when she started the affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Are they happy? Sounds trite but I'm asking. Is she a wretch? I cannot imagine cheating especially w an 18 mo old! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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I believe she's happy. I don't know her well. I suspect she married the man her mom liked on the first go-round and the man she really wanted the 2nd time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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black? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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Stop it. And no--blonde and UMC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.23.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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