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[ - ] Nanny- the mom told me Wednesday that I would get off at 1pm today, that the dad will have half a day and come straight home to relieve me. Two hours later and he's still not here and I did not receive a call or text from him. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Text mom if she knows what's up [ Reply | More ]
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you should have called him at 115pm. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Let me make out clear. I'm not complaining about not being able to leave early. I think it's odd that he has not communicated with me that he will be late. [ Reply | More ]
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sometimes you have to induce action- text him and say "I was told you were coming at 1pm. I have to go home soon to take my llama to the vet" [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! Ok. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is it fair to say that Passiac is the new "hotspot" for real estate/development in the NJ suburbs of Manhattan? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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For cheap housing? It's not a great town, and the schools aren't great either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] made my first pie as a peace offering to DH. it looks so ugly but it is def one of the best apple pies i've ever tasted. woot! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yum. ugly ones are the good ones [ Reply | More ]
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haha i'd upload a picture but its really embarrassing how ugly it looks. definitely not a baker [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any tricks for making your period lighter? My blood flow is too heavy. I have a small fibroid and occassional ovarian cysts that come and go. Naturopath suggested taking DIM, which is basically broccoli pills, to sop up extra estrogen. Anyone tried other things that worked? I've heard loading up on Advil makes you bleed less due to less inflammation.... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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Mirena IUD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Mirena will also help you gain weight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Are you generally in good health? Or could you do better with diet, exercise or sleep? [ Reply | More ]
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have been working on sleep for a while but this is a hard nut to crack. excellent on diet and regular moderate exercise [ Reply | More ]
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Work out harder [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] my first grade kid's teacher wants to talk to me about her inability to read sight words. I've noticed she's not learning to read as quickly as others. DH says no big deal, he couldn't read until sometime in grade one, and then he caught up fast. Calm me down. No big deal, right? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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i think you should call a place called lindamood bell. my son had this exact problem and they helped him immensely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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So go talk to her. Maybe she will even get extra help with an experienced teacher who can better help. What's the harm? they all learn at a different pace so don't feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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I'm sure much will change during the year but they are holding everyone to the average standard. Give the appearance of working hard and let nature do it's magic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Oh, please don't worry. This is still early days. If there's a problem, the teacher wants to be on it, and she is being proactive. Just listen to her and make a plan. FWIW, my dc didn't figure it out until midway through the year, and by june was reading 3rd grade level. They take a big leap when they're ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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thanks everyone! [ Reply | More ]
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Public or private ? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] there's a certain kind of hyper-professional PR person who makes me hate the human race. I feel like I'm talking to an actor playing the role of a human, they're so artificial and plastic. But they're also so slick I feel like at the end of the day they win their argument even when they don't know what they're talking about. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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THIS IS MY SIL. She is exhausting. & just the worst in every way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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^^anyone feel me here? It doesn't have to be a PR girl. I'm sure the world is full of people like this. I don't think they're bad people, but they walk around wearing masks. Their whole professional life is devoted to being as proper as possible, and they don't seem real. [ Reply | More ]
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I think they're bad people. They would do ANYTHING if it were a means to an end... [ Reply | More ]
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i know exactly what you're talking about and that was a great way to describe it. it's incredible. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ok, it's Halloween. Hit us with the spookiest thing that has happened to you! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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We had a woman who apparently was the ex girlfriend of a previous owner of our house stalking/harassing us. She had been institutionalized off and on and whenever she was "out" she'd come around. At first it was almost funny yet very sad. She was a tiny little Asian woman who would scream that she knew we were hiding him and on and on. When I was pregnant she was escalating and would send people over to our house (usually homeless people whom she paid) to kick our door, scream at us, throw things, nothing major. One day she jumped out on my dh when he was getting out of his car, screaming "I found you..." She decided dh was her ex and that he had gotten surgery to fool her but it was true love blah blah. When dd was 3 weeks old I walked into her room at 5:30am and the woman was looking in the window screaming that that was her and "Mark's" baby and that she was his true love and she would raise his baby. We moved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Okay that is beyond creepy. Did you ever call the police??? Especially when she was staring at your baby through the window and threatening to kidnap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Yes. Called the police every time. Documented based on their advice but unfortunately there was not a lot anyone could do, she would always be released after an arbitrary amount of time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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Even after she was staring through your windows in the middle of hte night screaming that your baby belonged to her? At the very least you should have ended up with a restraining order that sent her to jail each time she broke it. So terrible for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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She had family that police would sometimes turn her over to. We did have a restraining order abd she was held several times for violating it but this was over a several year time period and she would always end up being released [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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this is why i laugh anytime says call 311 to solve a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Yeah it's insane how little power we have to protect ourselves from the insane. We have to wait for them to commit a horrendous crime. Even when her behavior was clearly escalating the police basically said "sorry, good luck". She was throwing things once while I was on 911 and they said if anyone was injured she would be arrested so dh went outside and took a rock to the shoulder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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uh that is not spooky--it's just psycho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Totally psycho... & it was pretty fucking scary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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OMG, that's crazy and sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Dd has a large, visible birthmark and I am always afraid this woman will somehow find her again and kidnap her... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] DD 10 just got her school pictures back and has been running around showing everyone and saying "don't you think I am pretty?" and "Look how pretty I look, I think I am the prettiest girl in my class!" Here's the thing: obviously she's beautiful to us, and I think we have made a mistake telling her this all the time - but she has a facial deformity that I am not sure she is aware of just yet (basically, her face is markedly assymetrical and she will probably need surgery when she's older). Obviously when she runs around saying these things, it throws people off. She's done it like 4 times since early dismissal. What do you think I should say to her? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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So you're saying she's really ugly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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no, but she's not - but I'm saying you're really a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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op. I'm saying it would be inappropriate to run around to anyone saying "I'm the prettiest" but it's really jarring for her to be running around saying it in her case. I'm not sure if I should just go with it and let her say what she wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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I don't know, maybe not even a UB question. I was just ready to say "I think your pictures look great" and she was down the road with it before I knew what was happening. "I think I have the best pictures of anyone" - she has showed the lady at the optometrist, the optometrist, her brother and his friend, the friend's parents ... I know we always tell her she's beautiful and she's the prettiest girl anywhere. But I didn't totally expect this result. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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Tell her that it is rude to show off. She's 10, she knows she looks different, and it sounds like she is overcompensating and daring others to tell her anything other than how beautiful she is. Tell her that what she is doing is showing off, and it's not appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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at 10, she knows. and btw, telling her she's the prettiest girl around is pretty ridiculous, even if she were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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np: i understand you have probably been trying to make her confident in her appearance but this behavior would be a bad idea even for a stunning child. it's bragging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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np do not "go with it". I would definitely tell her that while it is fine to say that to me (the mom) she should never say this to others. then I would say something about how while it is nice to be pretty, there are many things that are more important - to be nice, smart, hardworking, talented, etc, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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I agree. I'd add humble. Maybe telling her that gloating over how pretty you are can make others either insecure about their own looks or make them dislike you for being so into yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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this is very strange behavior; I think you messed up by focusing too much of your attention on appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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NP--well, that was an easy shot. Who the heck knows how what we say to our children will pan out? It is entirely possible that their telling her she is beautiful, will, in the long run, help her self-esteem. OP--I think you address it the way you said it above--it is inappropriate, for ANY 10 yr old girl to run around saying that. Maybe you can guide her that it is more polite to say "I am so happy with my picture!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Tell her it's not a nice to fish for compliments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Say that yes she is pretty but you were referring to an inner beauty most of all. The inner beauty and character and personality and life of a person is more beautiful than a photo. Try to work in that it's not polite to ask strangers if you are pretty or not because that's not how we judge ourselves. Her confidence in herself and how kind and polite and good to other people is what makes her pretty. It's not nice to run around and brag to others about how pretty she is. You don't want to do that because that's vanity. Just know that it's 1000 times more important to be a pretty person on the inside than on the outside. She needs to get this now because it's going to get harder as a teen when they start obsessing over looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Don't say anything. Just tell her it's not polite to talk about how pretty you are outside the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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op. Yeah. I am thinking along these lines. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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I think you need to do more than tell her to stop bragging- she needs to stop being hyperfocused on external appearances especially considering she has a facial deformity. She should be learning that true beauty is on the inside. Make her read Wonder or something. She's 10- old enough to realize she looks different I am quite sure, and probably very insecure about it hence all of the showmanship about her appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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op - that could be very true. I think I've just been so close to the problem and no one really talks a lot about it (for obvious reasons). We've been focused on compensating for her but I think you're right that we made the mistake in focusing on external appearance at all. Although if she were to ask me "mommy am I pretty" and I responded "you're pretty on the inside" that one still makes me hesitate. It's not really answering the question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Say "I think you're the most beautiful girl in the world, because I am your mother. But the important type of beauty is on the inside- where your brain and your heart are." [ Reply | More ]
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^^fwiw, I have very typical appearing girls (no deformities, just as pretty as the next girl, nothing that stands out in either direction objectively) and this is exactly what I tell them, although only one of them seems to ever ask. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with that but also wonder if she is starting to have doubts about how she appears to others, and she's asking for some input. Do you talk with her about her looks? (I mean outside of this particular day's events.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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Of course she is- she's fishing for compliments because she is so insecure. She sounds overly focused on external apperance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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op. Not in any negative way. She knows she sees an orthodontist for issues with her teeth that are as a result of her facial issues but everyone there tells her she is beautiful as well. I mean it's not just us. Everyone tells her she's pretty precisely because she's not - but I didn't realize so much that she was really internalizing it as true. It's a moment of maturity that she has not reached yet to understand they don't mean it literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Oprah had a story on this car crash victim who had her face burned off. Oprah kept pointing out that her inner beauty still shined through. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hecfPhLdX6M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Watching SATC reruns. I am completely out of touch, or do these characters set off the charts expectations for female friendships? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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I think they set weird expectations. I have no idea why any of these characters would be friends in real life. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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lol so true. samantha and prudish charlotte? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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and revolting Carrie. Miranda was ok, just a hair string temper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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I thought Miranda was the worst! She was so over the top feminist- in the bad way, like if someone mentioned liking a man she'd be all like "we don't need men!!! don't change for a man!!" like, shut up already Miranda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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were you and i watching the same show? Miranda always wanted to/was dating? She would go through periods, we all do, but she was not an extreme feminist by any means. [ Reply | More ]
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i love miranda!!! i love satc which is mortifying to admit. i think watching it just makes me nostalgic for life pre-cell phones and internet. [ Reply | More ]
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yes! i also strongly dislike carrie the more i watch the reruns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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I think so. But that's the point- the show is very clear that their female friends are their core relationships- no family is ever really mentioned, and men always take a back seat in terms of importance (besides Big, or when Charlotte was married to Trey). They are eachother's primary relationships- which isn't the case for most of the rest of us. [ Reply | More ]
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i love that. i wish that's how my life was.. no family to contend with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help. I am interviewing for a very high-level position. I'm qualified for the job, but am extremely nervous about the interview (which will be with 17 people around a table). Although I am in my mid-40's, I have never worn makeup in my life, and I look tired and schlumpy. I need to be professional and put-together for this. Where can I get a make-up lesson that will help me look good, but natural and comfortable? TIA. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Go to a makeup counter (not sephora or Mac!!!) maybe Bobbi brown, and have it done professionally. Make sure you tell them you need to look professional! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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OP: Why not Sephora or Mac? I called the local Mac store, and they said they do a 90-minute tutorial for $100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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They do a way ott job, you want subtle and polished. Look at their ads... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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& do you need an hour and a half lesson or do you just want it done once? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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The idea about a salon, get a blowout and makeup applied is a great idea. You will feel amazing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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OP: I have to travel to the interview the day of. So, I'm getting my hair done the evening before (best I can do). I can't get makeup done that day. Also, I need to learn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Oh got it. I think you will be very happy with Bobbi brown. Good luck!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP: That's super helpful. Thanks so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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I would do that especially i you're planning on wearing makeup to this job every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^^ but not from Mac [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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I did this once at MAC and told them I wanted a very natural look, almost as I weren't wearing makeup and they did a great job. I rarely wear makeup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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^^^ You can always tone it down and explain what look you're wanting. It's better to interact with a live person who can help you instead of trying to watch beauty tutorials or read how to pick and apply things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Bobbi brown is what you want OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Ask Sephora. Tell them exactly what you want. Then buy something from them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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Yeah, go to Sephora, or a salon that does makeup and ask them to do your hair, makeup and manicure a few hours before your interview. It will help your confidence and you will feel like a million bucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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Do not go to a department store, they'll make you look like a clown. I'd keep it simple: Mix some foundation into moisturizer and smooth it on your face until it's blended. Add mascara (not black unless you are black; go for brown/black) and a natural lip gloss (not too glossy). Buy a hair gloss and rub a very small amount into your hands and smooth through your hair after you blow-dry. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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Makeup Mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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No, but I used to work with beauty editors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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^^^One add--Bobbie Brown does do a nice job of keeping it subtle if you ask them to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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You can go to Sephora before the day the interview and have them show you stuff. They are usually pretty good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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OP: I went to a store to look at makeup, but I have no idea what to buy (what shade, what products, etc.) or how to apply anything. I'm pretty sure I need concealer, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Uhhhhhhhhhh.... don't listen to this person np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Np: totally agree, and start practicing everyday to get comfortable in it. I love the Clinique chubby sticks too. Feel like gloss, look like a little something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Np: totally agree, and start practicing everyday to get comfortable in it. I love the Clinique chubby sticks too. Feel like gloss, look like a little something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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17 people around a table? Geesh. What type of job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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+1 on go and have make up done professionally. If you get the job then worry about every day. Also, don't do the nails day of the interview, unless you are going for gel. Do it the day before so it's all set and can't be ruined and you have less things to do. also get your hair done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Many salons would have hair and make up stylists, so you can have both done the morning before the interview. If you are worried that it will be too much make up, try the make up stylist ahead of time. I always get my hair styled before big work related events or conference: always makes me feel confident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you everyone. I appreciate the support. Wish me luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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If you go to a make up counter be honest and say you need a very professional look. Tell them you will tip well and buy something so they don't try to put every product they can think of on your face. You probably can use a daily tinted moisturizer and a mascara (really easy and quick in the am), so tell them you will buy one of these at least. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Sounds like good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Regents exams: when do kids take the algebra 1 regents? The test looks pretty rigorous. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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We used to take them in 9th; DD took the algebra regents (called "Integrated Algebra" or something like that) in 8th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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I think they split it up so it's not integrated? The integrated had 2nd degree functions which I thought was algebra 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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i thin the "standard" is 9th but there are a good number of kids in MS taking it in 8th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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They take the exam after they take the first year of HS algebra, which was called integrated algebra until this year and now it's common core something else. Many of the top middle schools include this class in their 8th grade curriculum, so that dcs who pass the regents take geometry in 9th grade (which is also a regents course). PSA: it looks rigorous because you haven't done it since 9th grade. It's just algebra. Don't worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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ITDA - I got a 710 on the Math portion of the SATs back in 1980 and I think the 9th grade Algebra is far more difficult than the Algebra I took in high school. Although maybe this OR is much younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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^^PS -- the old Regents exams and answers are available online at regentsprep.org [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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My impression is that they are changing the algebra regents--and other math exams--to emphasize multistep, word problems. That might have something to do with it; I don't know if the math itself is that much harder. Feel lucky that dc passed algebra a couple of years ago before common core devoured the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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it's not hard for me but i thought second degree functions was algebra 2 and beyond. i thought only linear functions for graphing in algebra 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] My MIL does't love our nanny so with that in mind here is what she reported to me after she visited yesterday. 1. She sow nanny rushing with our 2 yo somewhere in the park 15 blocks from our apartment thus passing at least 6 good playgrounds between our place and where she was. This clearly means that instead of spending time at a close by playground she is meeting someone somewhere. 2. When she got back home with dc she set him down and was heating up dinner while dc was screaming and apparently climbed on to the counter and nanny didn't turn around to see what he was doing. She felt insulted when MIL said that its dangerous for him to climb on the counter and took over dinner prep. I also have an older child MIL was spending time with while nanny was with 2 yo. My MIL was very upset. I am not sure what to make of all this and am not sure if she is over-dramatizing it or I am under-reacting. What do you think? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Nanny ignoring toddler while toddler climbs on counter during dinner prep/stove being on/ etc. is a big deal. Nanny taking toddler to a different playground than usual- for whatever reason- is completely fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Ok, so what is the take away for me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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^^ Also, I don't believe nanny took dc to a far away playground. If she was going to take him to a playground she would take him to one close to home. I do believe MIL is right and she was going somewhere either to meet with someone or for some other purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Maybe she's meeting another Nanny friend for a paydate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Given that dinner was not prepared (by the way she was home alone prior to all this without kids and was supposed to make dinner) and also given that she had only 30 minutes longer to be outside before dinner time it is very difficult to understand why she would be rushing somewhere 15 blocks away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Then fire her. You already have your mind set up about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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MIL sounds out of control. If she ONLY said the counter thing, maybe I'd believe it. But to mention the playground thing, who cares? It makes it seem like neither is so serious. Of course it is dangerous to climb on the counter but you don't know if nanny would have caught it a second later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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According to MIL dc was screaming loud enough for MIL to stop playing with older dc and to check what is going on. All nanny had to do was turn her head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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Mil could've grab younger dc so many can make lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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MIL took over making dinner. I have 3 kids. MIL was already with an older dc and nanny only had to handle one child and dinner. Since nanny usually has to handle this without help from MIL I do not understand the point you are trying to make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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The point in trying to make is that grandmas throw a wrench in a day. It could be for two days or two hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Grandmother picked up older dc from school and took dc to activity so nanny only had 1 dc to watch instead of having 2. After the activity MIL came home and spend 30 minutes there to make it easier for nanny. The overlap between nanny and MIL was 30 minutes and it most definitely made nannies evening easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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you have to consider the source. can you arrange for a friend to be around nanny in a week or two after MIL has gone? her report should be more even-handed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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I have seen once my self that the nanny ignored dc climbing on the counter and I figured it was a one time thing. I believe MIL was telling the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Dude! Two year olds climb on things. That's why they're called the terrible two's. You guys as adults are suppose to teach him that it's not ok and stick together with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Yes. Which is what I did do when I had seen it happen He doesn't seem to climb on the counter with me or at least if he does try I don't allow it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Then fire her, saint mommy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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what is your aggression about? I get that you are a nanny but still [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Admit that you don't like the nanny and you want to fire her. Don't put this on grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Your mil is being dramatic. This is why, whenever grandparents come to town for a visit, I give my nanny the time off. It's not fair to her that my family is crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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My MIL was visiting for 2 hours. I have 3 kids and she wanted to spend some one on one time with an older child. I can't pile all three kids on my MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Tell mil to shut up. The kids is difficult to handle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Let me guess what you do for a living [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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I'm a Jedi warrior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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MIL is not paid to watch the children and she is also not paid to come while kids aren't home to pre-make dinner that for some reason wasn't made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think most nannies are terrible, and parents overlook it for whatever reason. In other words, your mil may have a point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Most nannies I have ever had except for this one have always been too overprotective IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Maybe you have then a reason to be over protective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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So did MIL get the kid down or just watch so she could tattle on the nanny? I would let it go but remember it and watch out for it yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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She told the nanny to take the kid down and to watch the kids and took over making dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think after a certain age parents are no longer to blame for their children's mistakes or can the effects of a lifetime of brow beating and subtle emotional neglect continue well into adulthood and be the fault of the parents? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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I actually think once a kid leaves home the parent can neither take blame nor credit for how their child continues to evolve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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they’re always to blame, but it’s up to the kids to get past it and take control of their adult lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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Both. There are happy and successful adults from terrible homes, and great parents with children who end up in trouble. It's a mix of nuture and good/bad luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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THIS. but we are responsible for ourselves after 18, to stop blaming parents and do things that we need to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. Dd and I both have food poisoning from TJ's chili lime chicken burgers! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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The worst! Are you sure? Then call the health dept and the restaurant so they know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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What is this site for? I thought it was for about kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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No, it's for us parents to fuck around with on our down time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Isn't TJ trader joes… not a restaurant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Try not to boot in the elevator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Call 311 and call the store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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It's very difficult to ascertain the origin of food poisoning, as it can sometimes take several days to develop. Also, could be a virus. Feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is turning 7 soon and wanted to invited 3-4 friends. She doesn't want to go to a movie because they have to keep quiet, so something interactive. I was thinking of a dance lesson or something like that. Any suggestions? We are in the UWS 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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That sounds cute! Is there a video game that does that, like something on the wii? Otherwise you coud just play music, feed them, let them watch a fun movie, done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Dance class sounds nice. Also, Ice skating, rock climbing, cupcake baking class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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sleepover? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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OP: Oh no. I won't do that to myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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np: almost sleepover. kids come in pj's in the evening, they play, maybe a craft, dinner (aka pizza and cake), popcorn,movie, then their parents come get them. they don't have to be quiet watching a movie in your living room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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OP: Oh no. I won't do that to myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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why can’t they just play? let them decorate cupcakes, give them beads to make jewelry, put a movie on in the background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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We did the movie and jewelry last year. Wanted to do something different and fun for my to-be 7yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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alice's teacup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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