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[ - ] Are there many basic notches in Ridgefield CT 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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Bitches^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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so what exactly is a basic bitch? serious question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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Decrying the basic bitch's love of bland, boring products like Ugg boots and Starbucks pumpkin spice lattes is a rhetorical technique that allows the singer to appear cooler by comparison.[9] Rapper Kreayshawn describes a basic bitch as: "A basic bitch is just someone who likes what’s typical to like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Ah, well in that case... Westchester and Fairfield counties are FULL of them. Trust me on that one. - Westchester Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Philosophical question - is it fair to say that I have "been to China" when my only visit was to a far western Muslim-dominated border city? While I was in Kyrgyzstan, I got a visa from the Chinese embassy to cross the border and visit Kashgar, so I did that with a couple friends for a few days. Then we took the bus back to Osh. When most people think of "China," they think - for lack of a better term - of the "ching-chong" parts of the country; not the western Turkic desert region. So have I been inside of the PRC's territorial boundaries? Yeah, sure. But have I been to "China" as that term is usually understood? Well, not really... it's a little bit like someone spending a few days in Puerto Rico then saying she has been to "the US." 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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No it's not. It's more like visiting East New York or Cypress Hills and saying you've been to America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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It's a bigger difference. A lot of the locals speak little if any Chinese, and instead speak local languages like Uyghur, which is a distant branch of modern Turkish rather than any sort of East Asian tongue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Or saying you live in San Francisco when you live in Marin. Not that I have anything against Marin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 AM Flag
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Short answer-Yes, you have been to China. Better answer - I have been to Kashgar in western China. I think this is a much more interesting answer too. I have "only been to HK". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:20 AM Flag
[ - ] I drove almost 10 hours to see an old friend a few months back. We went from chatting weekly to absolutely nothing after the visit. Stayed with him, my DH and DC came along. Can think of absolutely nothing we did or said wrong. Am feeling really angry, like he's pouting or playing games. We are older, btw, in our 50s. Way too old for games like this. It's mind-boggling to me that he would go stone cold like that. I replay the visit and both DH and I feel like we were not really wanted which really pisses me off. Wishing now he'd just said 'don't come' instead of putting on a front for 3 days. People are so fucked up these days. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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He probably thought you were coming alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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No. He did used to have a thing for me but we are supposedly way over that. I'm married, he has someone in his life. It's just bizarre and it's not like he put us up in fabulous circumstances. He is poor and lives with his brother. We made the trip so I could reconnect with him more than just online. I ended up feeling really embarrassed afterwards, like he never really wanted us to come. Can't decide whether to say something or just delete his contact/messaging info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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He's poor and lives with his brother. There's your answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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Explain. I'm clueless, honestly. I don't care if he's poor, I honestly wanted to be friends again with him and I thought we were. Had spoken for months online before visit, including vid chats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Did you stay in a hotel?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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No. Guest bedroom (they have huge condo). He invited us multiple times to stay with them, even when I was saying we should stay in a hotel. I don't think he really wanted us to though. What's really odd is he's not the type of person to play games like that. Normally he'd say what he really thinks. It's baffling to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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NP, you know, what the OP is describing is very common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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A woman driving 10 hours and schlepping her family to hang put with an old guy friend? That's not common at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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OP: what's common about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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See below. It is common for an old friend to decide to fade away out of jealousy. He is jealous of your happy life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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OP: I think you might be right. He is miserable in his life, his job. His 'relationship' is a long-term affair with a married woman who refuses to leave her husband. I have an amazing child, a good DH and a good life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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Let me explain something about human nature. Most humans get jealous. It is hard for most humans to be genuinely close with someone who is more successful then them. jealousy rears its ugly head. It doesn't matter how nice the OP was, this former friend felt jealous and is doing the slow fade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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OP: I think you might be on to something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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Thank you. I try to be helpful, sometimes an outside like me can see things that someone like you, deep in the center of the situation, can not see [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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OP: It's very hurtful. I did nothing to deserve this. We wined and dined him while we were there. I was almost going to leave him some $, but thought better of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Dear OP, what you may not understand is that your sympathy for him may have been interpreted by him as PITY. When people suspect that others pity them, it makes them very angry and resentful. So no matter how much you pity a person do not let on that you pity them. Just pretend to envy and respect them even when you do not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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That's an interesting comment. I don't think what I did came off as sympathy. I did it more as 'payback' for him letting us stay with them. But it's possible, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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I have gotten very lucky. DH and I have made serious wealth. But I have hidden it from all my friends for just this reason. most of my friends would drop me if they knew how much money we had. Similarly, my husband is genuinely nice but I tell my friends that he is sometimes nasty to me, again to prevent my friends from being jealous. so far it has worked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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You're a nice person. I sorry you have to jump through these kinds of hoops, but it's lovely that you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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Np. I find it really bizarre that she would lie that her dh is mean to her. That's messed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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First of all, women who have shitty unpleasant husbands are very jealous of those women that have nice husbands. The jealousy is intense, if you have a perfect husband I advise you to keep it secret or jealousy will rear its ugly head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:35 AM Flag
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But you're just making shit up and your relationship is based on lies and twisting the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 AM Flag
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nnp. She probably brings up some innocent facts that don't reflect well on him. Sometimes I may joke about my dh leaving his clothes on the floor. It can't be all peachy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Im 34 and hes 47...large age difference is making me sad.. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Not that large if everything else works. Be open minded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] What is something you would be/are ashamed to admit, for fear of ostracization (political views, etc)? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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^Not necessarily ashamed, but something you don't talk about because it will make you an outcast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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I don't believe in interracial marriages. Signed liberal, democratic minority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I like you for your honesty. There are two groups that always vote Democrat, both groups want an end to interracial marriage. First group is African American women. Second group is Asian American men. The biggest taboo is to discuss this publicly. So don't do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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Is that true? I never realized that about either group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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Well if you do any research on the imbalances in the mating market you will understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Interesting, why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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Or: people should stick with their own. I've seen white women that have no idea how to deal with their dc hair, and the kids look a mess. Usually, families really don't get along and wish the dc would've stuck with their own. Just makes life easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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^^^ have to also admit that it angers me to see successful minority men with white women when there's such a lack of successful minority men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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Of course, you are just being honest. And of course to other African American women you can express your feelings honestly. but take it from me, do NOT express your true feelings to white women in real life. They can't handle it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Or: I don't talk about it with black women either. Not politically correct to do so so I just keep quiet about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Just know that you are not alone. Most Asian men feel the same way when they see that Asian women prefer men of other races, leaving very few Asian women available to Asian men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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The 98% need to have their taxes raised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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I don't openly discuss the fact that I'm against gay marriage, gay people raising children and all this nonsense about 'transgender.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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I'm all for homosexuality though. It's part of the spectrum. But marriage is for men and women only to create natural families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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OP: I'm realizing this is going to be a particularly hard thread on which to distinguish troll responses from non-troll responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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I think transgender, and maybe even gayness itself, is a form of mental illness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Agree totally on transgender in 99% of all cases. Do not agree on gayness 100%. A small percentage of gay people are mentally ill, but most really are gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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But one of the main functions as a human is to procreate and have babies. When you are attracted to the same sex so that isn't possible doesn't that seem like a bit of a fluke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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I think it's just part of the human spectrum. It's been around since the dawn of time. Native Americans, Greeks... all had homosexuals in their cultures. That's why I believe it's part of the spectrum. But NOT the norm. Gays are hell bent on creating this image of 'normalcy' around homosexuality. I believe they have every right to be gay, but no right to promote it as some sort of norm. John Waters himself said he couldn't fathom why gay people would want to do the very thing (marriage) that made them just like what they weren't - straight people. Be yourself, be gay. But don't try to shove your politics down everyone's throat's by insisting you have 'rights' to marriage. Marriage is a pillar of society and for the good society, should be treated with sanctimony. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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No. There is a belief that gay relatives helped the survival of species by remaining childless and helping to raise nieces and nephews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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If there were genetic "editing" or some kind of fetal enhancements possible at the genetic level, I would take advantage of them. And I would have "the gay gene" deleted from DB's genome if such a thing were found to exist. Without any hesitation at all. And I suspect most women would do the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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I wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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I think affirmative action is bullshit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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+10000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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I believe intelligence is almost entirely genetic, and that is why certain races are not as successful as other racial groups [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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You are of course 100% correct but please be smart and do not let anyone in real life suspect that you feel this way. The consequences could be horrific [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you find that the smartest people you know tend to be the most successful? Or is there a correlation? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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You already view them in a different light knowing that they are successful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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So you feel more like if people know a successful person, they are likely to think/say 'they are really smart' - even if even smarter people you know might not be as successful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Yes. At the same time I used to think the same of people in academia who didn't make a decent living. "If you are so smart why are you so poor?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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Or. Most people are biased. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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The correlation between IQ and income is there. So is the correlation between grit (as measured at age 5) and wealth. BUT when you combine grit and IQ, the correlation is very tight, ie if a child has no grit and no IQ it is very rare for him to make any money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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I guess I meant more in your personal experience. I know statistically there's probably a correlation, but I guess I mean more like the difference between smart and super smart people you might know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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In my field the super smart people make a LOT more money than the simply smart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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How do you test for grit at age 5? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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The marshmallow test works really well at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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"An old Stanford study famously found that preschoolers who could leave a marshmallow alone for 15 minutes in order to gain a second one would go on to do better at life. A new study suggests that the important factor here may not be the self control of the child, but the child's level of trust that the second marshmallow would ever appear." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Interesting! I have to say that in my own observation, children who are able to delay gratification do better in life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Poor people problem: why is there an extra fee of $10 a pop when you buy tickets online? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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OP. ^^A poor people's problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] How often do you twim the hedges? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Are there any areas in which you are far less liberal than your general outlook? For example, I still refer to HIV/AIDS as "GRIDs" (gay-related immune disease), "GAIDS," or "the gay cancer." In the US, it's mostly a gay disease, and in fact, the most common transmission vector for women comes from men who screw other men without protection. I don't see any need to pretend that it isn't a "gay problem." 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:33 AM Flag
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Oh Jesus. Go to bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:34 AM Flag
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Not really. When I was younger, yes. But as I get older I've become more liberal on most specific issues and more consistently so across the board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:39 AM Flag
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I guess it depends what we mean by "liberal." I'm more of an old-line labor-first leftist, so I'm fine with deporting the illegals in order to raise wages for the remaining workers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] 2 glasses of wine after first day of potty training SN 3 1/2 yo. Any advice? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:17 AM Flag
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3rd glass. potty training is rough, even rougher with your circumstances. Carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:23 AM Flag
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Are you already giving tons of exciting juice boxes and treats each time dc goes? Good luck! My advice is to enjoy that glass and go to sleep so you can hit the ground running tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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My dc is not sn but took forever to get poop under control. After almost a year I was getting depressed. Daycare was giving me crap and the holidays were coming up. I dreaded everyone asking about it. Out of desperation I said no tv if you don't poop in the potty. He had exactly one more accident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone decide to go for one "last ditch" dc at the age of 42/43? If so, did it work out well? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:14 AM Flag
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Yes. I have an adorable 13 month old. I'm 45. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:20 AM Flag
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How old are your other dc, if any? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:26 AM Flag
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Sister did, and yes adorable super smart neice visiting--she's amazing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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I'm having one, but it was a surprise rather than something we tried for. Still too soon to tell how it'll work out. Will let you know in another 6 months or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:23 AM Flag
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Are these your first? If not, what's the age gap between? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:26 AM Flag
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I posted a little while back. I have a dd already, much older. We're going to have an age gap of about 14 years. I'm still in shock to be honest, but furtunately everyone else in the family is thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:34 AM Flag
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> FORtunately! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:38 AM Flag
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First DC at 40, second at almost 44. Worked out wonderfully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:34 AM Flag
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So nice to hear all these positive stories. One dc now, 5.5, so would be six years apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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Too old IMO. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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2nd DC at 42, 7 years younger than 1st DC. Age difference turned out to be a plus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Billy had the baby!!!! They named her "Noel Joel". 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:12 AM Flag
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You're really weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:39 AM Flag
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Who is Billy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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Jean King I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Billy bush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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