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[ - ] Did anyone get a confirm of their Round 2 confirm? Today is the deadline and I'm stressing they didn't receive my email for some reason. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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yes, we received a confirmation email thanking us for confirming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been stewing about this all night. I received a Christmas card last night from ExDH, with the OW, their new baby and my DCs. Signed, Love The "Smith" Family. I'm at a complete loss of words, it's like she stepped into my life and couldn't be happier. The marriage ended badly, so I have no idea why they even sent a card. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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throw it away and enjoy the holidays. burn it. [ Reply | More ]
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=( [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I just can't get over her smiling with her arm around my DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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I'm sorry - making the card was tacky enough. Sending one to you is beyond what anyone with a shred of decency would do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I am so sorry, what asses. Sounds like Betty Buckley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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they sent the card because I am sure your dc wanted you to see it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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np. sounds like the kids could have seen it when they were at the dad's house. i'm usually pretty forgiving of the daily slights and misdeeds people do, but this seems jerky and intentional to me. OP, I am sorry. nothing to do, but let it go and be glad you have enough empathy never to act like she does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Are you an OW? They could have given to kid. You are as big an ass. [ Reply | More ]
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OP, I've actually been decent to this woman. I feel sorry for her because I see her making the same mistake I made 17 years ago. But now I am feeling vengeful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Idiots. This is why you only send pictures with kids on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry about this. You have every right to stew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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OW probably sent it to you. Screw that beyotch. Know that this has a lot more to do with her than you. Try not to let her ruin your holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Eww. Just eww. Don't throw it out before discussing it with your children though. It's very likely they asked for you to receive one. If they didn't I would tell ex that it's not necessary to send you his new family's Christmas card again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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To rub it in your face for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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get over yourself. maybe it was an olve branch. i can see why he dumped you [ Reply | More ]
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olive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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An olive branch? Like the olive branch North Koreas sent us with the Sony hacking/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O on wasp post. what are old-money attributes, and how do these differ by ethnicity/nationality? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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are you bored? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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no, just curious about the way people on here seem to think old money is interchangeable with wasp. interested to know what old money looks like in say italians or jews. are they basically all the same after a few generations of fancy private schools and luxury living? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] So what's the range for PSAT scores for 9th graders? My daughter got her scores back yesterday and I'm wondering how they compare. What scores do you all consider excellent, very good, okay, worth worrying about? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Add another 0 to the end to get a score that corrlates to SAT scoring. I'd say anything above 1800 for a freshman is impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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why did you take this in 9th grade? [ Reply | More ]
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NP some schools, e.g., SHS, do it for statistical purposes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Yep. The whole 9th grade took them at my daughter's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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My son had 148. I know it's only 9th grade but not really thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Mine got a 155. Feeling the same way. (And curious how much they'll go up "automatically" as he gets older.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Old version or new version of the PSAT? You do know it's changing, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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what was her score? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Sorry, I need to vent: I sound like an ungrateful bitch but the holidays are crazy. Buying gifts for everyone, work gets nuts as people want to finish the year. And my in-laws all will buy gifts online (and of course on super sale) and will send them for me to wrap. So I get to wrap my gifts and their stupid gifts. I almost want to tell them not to bother. Sorry, ungrateful rant over. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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First world problems. Many people would give anything to have any gifts at all to wrap. You understand that you are ungrateful, which is more than many on this board, but you need to really step back and get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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OP: I'm not particularly grateful for the nameless, faceless, anonymous packages I'm being sent from Amazon, and I don't believe that gifts are necessary or in any way important in the grand scheme of things. I'd rather they send something they actually gave some thought about or made an effort to send rather than putting in a credit card number and hitting send for me to then wrap prettily and pretend they did it. Just how I feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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NP: You sound stressed. I get it. The holidays are a stressful time for a lot of us. It makes me feel like I'm the only one holding the family together and for what? A tissue of empty rituals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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op: thanks for understanding, I'm exhausted and burnt out. I don't know if I'm coming or going just keeping up with the work that has piled up as the clients try to check out next week, and the school deliverables, and gift identifying, purchasing and wrapping. I just can't bear one more frigging thing. I understand and expected people to respond telling me how ungrateful I am, "give anything to have gifts" etc. Of course, I get it. But there is also the view in this country that you must have a gift, any gift. So my in-laws (retired, plenty of time on their hands) spend five minutes going on line, clicking send and dumping some anonymous gift on my to then spend my already scarce time wrapping and presenting appropriately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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My family agreed, no gifts for anyone over 18 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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My family does Secret Santana for the adults. So we only have to buy one adult gift. It takes the craziness out of the holiday and gives us an excuse to get together as a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Just because something was bought online does not mean no thought was put into it. How does walking into a store give more thought? Buy gift bags for the gifts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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OP: I can tell you: it involved zero thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the Central Park zoo fun at this time of year? For an afternoon visit before seeing Santa at the Plaza? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't it be? Take DC when they're feeding the seals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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its always fun for the kids. Just dress warmly and if its really too cold, go into the tropics zone. Its like a sauna in there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh's response in light of all the NY independent school exmissions craziness: "I agree that all the elite private schools will mold a perfect banker, Washington lobbyist, Harvard graduate. I believe that. But a dreamer? A painter, a scientist, a writer? Someone who matters? Will he have time to dream and be happy if we start to push all the pressure down on him. I just have hard time believing that is what I want for my son" 56 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Dalton [ Reply | More ]
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You married the right one. Good job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Smart guy. Go with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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This is a unique perspective in these environs. But nice to hear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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OP: so ok, then what school will offer and nurture the kind of environment that dh speaks of???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Laguardia HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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If we're talking private schools I think St Ann's does its best with that, within the parameters of everything else. They just accepted my friend's daughter: she is a stay at home mom and her husband is a well established tattoo artist. Neither has a trust fund or private jet or any connections whatsoever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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but now they are easily identifiable on a public board [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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how did they hear before the deadline? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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I know them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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how did they "just" get accepted? it is before the date [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know anything about this school. They didn't "just" get accepted, she was accepted in the summer I think and goes there now. Settle down for crying out loud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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NP: how else should people interpret YOUR words. ??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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me too.... just emailed them to tell them someone is posting here about their school status [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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why do people on UB get so snarky?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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because it is outrageous to post info that so specifically identifies a family that is not your own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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especially since they have been close to vest about this in private -- given their connection [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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what a stupid post -- they are obviously legacies or how else would the dd have gotten in at this time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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or: nope, absolutely not legacies. Neither parent is even from this state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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most people do not hope their children grow up to be tattoo artists but whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Quite possibly the public gen-ed down the block. Worked for us. What he says goes ditto for G&T, at least at the elementary level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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why do you think so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Felt like too much of a pressure-cooker (and too much travel) for a younger dc. FWIW, we did go G&T at the middle-school level. We loved our gen-ed and felt dc was fine there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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what felt like a pressure cooker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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G&T elementary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Local public. Not even a question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Public school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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totally with your dh but, that's me. Life is short and we need to slow down, have less, blah, blah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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As a father, who was a doctor said to his son who was a violinist and bemoaning his role in the world, "Yes, what I do saves lives, but what you do makes those lives worth living." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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thank you for this. [ Reply | More ]
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The violinist is Daniel Heifetz, BTW. I was interviewing him. Completely true statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Disagree. Scientists and doctors do more to make "life worth living" than anyone else. think of your child not dying of infectious disease, your kid being saved from death because he/she got surgery after a car wreck. Let's be real here. Signed, artist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Agreed. - lapsed violinist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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His dad was just trying to make him feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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Awesome. 100% awesome. I completely agree. I've always been fascinated by the moms and posters here on UB who are obsessed that their preschool will ultimately lead to Wharton or Harvard. Why the hell do parents dream that their children grow up to be bankers and corporate lawyers? I know a lot of both and many are the saddest most soulless people I've ever met. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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ITA: I'm the mom of a musician. He's really musically brilliant and earning a nice little living at it. plus he couldn't be happier. [ Reply | More ]
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or: I completely agree. And earning a nice living is a bonus, but earning millions and being miserable is pathetic but far more common and accepted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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And it's eaning millions and insisting that a lavish lifestyle is the ONLY acceptable way to live. Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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So nice to hear all these responses when I thought I was alone in this respect. It has to be about the mom, about bragging rights, because it certainly doesn't take the kids into consideration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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or: I agree. It's so the parents can say their child grew up to be a doctor, banker or lawyer. Happiness is an afterthought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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What I love (hate) are those on this board who claim to be wealthy (and expect the same of their kids), and claim to be cultured yet disparage artists and musicians. Sorry,,,no music or art for you if you can't respect the work that goes into it and empathize with the sorry state of remuneration for artists in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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I don't know. My dad was a musician and my mother was a teacher. They struggled, argued about money, and they weren't happy. My dad was out late at a lot of weddings and "gigs" and ultimately it was a pretty good cover for various affairs that he had. I wouldn't recommend it as a career. I would rather my kids did something to earn enough money to do what they love on the side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Mom of musician here: my DS is still young, in his early 20's. I always say that now is the time for him to pursue music wholeheartedly. If he ever decides to change course, he will know his reasons and stand a much better chance of not living full of regret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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You are lovely in supporting DS. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Agreed. Ex-musician here. Lots of my friends who continue to pursue music full - time are struggling financially and they are not happy. [ Reply | More ]
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We left private school for this reason. It's a soul-killing grind. [ Reply | More ]
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This is a very good rationalization for coddling your child and not pushing him to be the best he can be, I hope you have a cozy basement for him to live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Wow.... [ Reply | More ]
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I meant Wow in a bad way. Just feel sorry for these myopic people who can't see poetry in life [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Get real people. People who matter... painter!???! wtf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Seriously. The painter matters more than the cardiologist... In what universe? [ Reply | More ]
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Idealistic. I assume you've never really been poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh has barely spoken to me since Sunday - we were in bed and he wanted to have sex, I was still fully clothed but into it (the idea, I mean) and he was just scratching my back or something and maybe had kissed me a few times, we were talking, etc. I said I needed to check something on my phone (schedule for the next day), rolled over and looked at phone. He flipped, I apologized. Realized I'm in the wrong but, seriously, time for him to get over it and move on. He doesn't think he's overreacting. Btw, first time offense for me - he's much more techy than I am and barely looks up when I talk to him where there is a screen involved. Thoughts? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I can relate - my wife does very similar stuff. It's infuriating. I don't think you realize how shitty it feels to try to have sex with your own wife and have her say "yeah, I guess, just let me dick around on my phone for a minute." It shows that you're kind of doing him a favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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op - totally agree but, I apologized. I move forward when he acts shitty - which is not infrequently. His behavior here is widening the gap. Now, I don't really feel like talking to him. I'm much more laid back than him so, I just can't understand his way of dealing w/ this which is so immature imo. I would have moved forward after one day. [ Reply | More ]
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lol. About 50% of the time I *AM* doing dh a favor. But I don't disagree with the OR's point -- no need to telegraph that to dh. If I were OP, I'd apologize, have some mad sex tonight and just remember for the future that checking your phone before sex pisses him off. We all have things that bug us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Tonight, get on your knees and blow him. Remember to look him in the eye while you swallow his load. All is forgiven. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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op - ha! wouldn't have been out of the question last night but, he told me that he didn't want "to touch me for a while" - not going to jump him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Interesting. Are we proving our submission here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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No, after swallowing, give him a deep french kiss, give him a "taste" of his own medicine (cum) if he is still pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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or: is this a DH or DW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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op - okay, now you are weirding me out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Go to him, apologize, tell him you know how he feels and you would feel the same way. Tell him (if it's true) that you were distracted about something for work the next day and had to get it out of your head before you could get into sex. For me that is true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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op - did this last night. He said that it was an affront to his manhood or something. ugh, so freakin' dramatic. Guess I just have to let him get over it but, it's the holidays and we have multiple parties this wknd, including one at our house for family. hate having to pretend that all is well. [ Reply | More ]
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This sounds completely crazy but we all do it. I am realizing how often I check my phone and it is insane. It is completely habit. In your defense, you could have wanted to clear your mind but what we are actually doing is filling it. The neuroscience is that the same reward centers that are stimulated in the brain in addiction are set off when we check email, fb etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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op - I was worried I had left something off of my schedule for the next day. I don't surf a lot but, totally get what you are saying. He's on his screens much more than I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on familiar with Summit NJ? looking to possibly move there - specifically wondering about Mountain Ave. Is it a busy busy street? Any great/bad areas? All advice welcome. Thanks. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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I live in NJ.. I would suggest you not to move anywhere in NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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because of...? taxes? schools? being the butt of jokes? We were considering CT or Rye area too. But grandparents are out there in jersey so seemed to make sense. what don't you like? [ Reply | More ]
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Oh crap, dont do CT! [ Reply | More ]
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I live in CT! there are many many towns other than Greenwich, Darien and Westport that are awesome places to live and raise a family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Too far. [ Reply | More ]
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I have heard good things about Rye. [ Reply | More ]
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Too far from the city for my taste. Nice houses. [ Reply | More ]
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optimally would live in the city but not sure about playing the public school game will go well. kids in good elementary but after that seems like such a crap shoot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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The schools are very good and there is a nice SS girls school in the town. If this is your situation, it may work out for you. You have to be willing to pay up for a good house. anything under 1.5 is frowned upon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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we would be going for public schools. i assume the SS girls school is private? Yeah, I am not seeing much under 1.5 - but I don't like new construction (meaning after 1950!). Like the 1920s houses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Yes, the school is private and really nice. Most people want the victorian houses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Try Bergen County... its closer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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thx. [ Reply | More ]
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Tenafly, Cresskill, Demarest, Alpine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Very jewish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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And Koreans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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I like Summit, but be advised, it is like Greenwich, a large portion of people send their kids to private. So your neighbors may not be sending their kids to school with yours. Yes, Mountain Ave is busy, but the older homes set back are fine, but you will not get a neighborhood feel. It works for the private school/country club crowd. [ Reply | More ]
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thx. this is crazy. i wish a magic genie would appear and point me where to go. Usually I like the "process" but this is not fun. What i really want is to stay in NYC but between the cost of maintence on co-op (just like rent...)and the crap shoot of public school placement for middle/high school, I am not sure that is best option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] There's a public school near us that's supposed to be great but the vp reeks of pedophilia -- a very strong vibe I get. He is beloved and been in the school a long time, so clearly I'm wrong. But I cannot get over having this reaction both times I've toured the school over the years. Is this crazy? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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No. Go with your gut. it means NOTHING that he has been there a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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give an example [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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I hat when people say that. Can't she just have a feeling? This is how women work. [ Reply | More ]
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hate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I had the same feeling about the children's librarian in the main branch of our municipal library. I thought "what on earth is this man in his 30s doing here, doing story hour?!" Later I found out that everyone thought the same thing, but he had also been a local resident for ages and had some kind of chronic illness. He actually married another librarian a few years after I first saw him. A dozen years later he's still there playing Santa and the Easter Bunny, new expanded modern library. Everyone loves him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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This is an important point. Sometimes our "strong vibe" is actually based on stereotype and is not valid or rational. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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You are being foolish, and you will be lucky if your children aren't molested. There is zero good reason why a man of his age would have a job like this. But one big bad one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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In his 30s? Hmm, got out of school when jobs were tough, wanted a secure civil service job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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go back to crazytown! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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editor mom: male librarians are some of the nicest people I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Was out last night with lots of finance people. Help me out. Did finance guys cause the crisis and cost us all billions of dollars, or not? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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well, the causes are more than I am able to write here - but, yes, part of the cause were the financial people. There are a few good books out there on the multiple causes of the crisis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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It was a perfect storm. No one thought residential RE loans would crack. The subprime lenders did not get the memo on what Wall Street was doing. Really as simple as that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Government made a tidy profit on the so-called bailouts. And the stockmarket is what, 30% higher that it was before the crash. So not sure how anyone was claiming it cost "billions of dollars". Sure, a bunch of people's homes are under water, but that's not the fault of anyone in finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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You sound like the ex of a finance guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Are you guys serious above - greedy Wall St gambling our money caused an 8 year slump... Totally all their fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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You are very naive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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They "gambled" with an entity that had been stable for decades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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So who did cause it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Yes and no. Greedy people who wanted to buy houses they couldn't afford contributed greatly. However, the 2008 slump was a completely natural part of the economic cycle, and I think people seem to forget that. It would not have been so deep if there had not been so much speculation, but it has happened time and time again in history. It was not an unusual event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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Also, our politicians and their deregulation took away the safeguard that were put in place after the last big event which made the whole bank debt speculation possible in the first place. There is lots of blame to go around, but it is a natural cycle, and if it hadn't been RE lending, it would have been something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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There is a book about these cycles called Devil Take the Hindmost. It is a really fun read even for someone who doesn't know much about finance. Good holiday present. http://www.amazon.com/Devil-Take-Hindmost-Financial-Speculation/dp/0452281806/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1418999282&sr=8-1&keywords=devil+take+the+hindmost [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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A lot of people were greedy. Finance people, real estate people, people who wanted homes they knew they could not afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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"Finance" is a very broad industry. Very certainly all "finance people" did not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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Why didn't you ask them last night while you sucked two of their cocks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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It was just one of their cocks... (but a big one). I just want to know why people are so down on finance guys. (They're not ALL douchebags). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Who said anything about them? Just a criticism of skanks like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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It was the greedy sleazy mortgage bankers. Wall Street is an innovator. Wall street was simply capitalising on a sector that had been stable and risin for a very long time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Why were the mortgage bankers sleazy. What did they do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you think of someone who lists on their LinkedIn page that they are a corporate attorney in NY but hasn't practiced nor lived in NY for 15 years? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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That they are a liar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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I have not updated mine in 8 years. It's on my list for the holiday break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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This is not the case here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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hahha totally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Thx for the reminder too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Do they have prior corporate law experience? I wouldnt think anything of it - you could still live outside NY and practice corporte law. Signed, an Esq. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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She doesn't at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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i wouldn't really care. Would worry more about someone stalking on Linked In. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Who is stalking. I get unsolicited LinkedIn contacts all the time and usually look to see what the people do. If I know that is really NOT what they are doing, I become suspicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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you are overthinking this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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very dishonest and a little crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] First choice letters? Are you all sending one? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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yes. because i have a first choice. if I didn't, i'd send very effusive i love you letters like i will to my 2nd and 3rd choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Stanley for DD 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Jessica Simpson, are you pregnant again? No, Stanley is a boys name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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And an ugly one at that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Wasn't that Obama's mother's name? Anyway, an odd choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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He had a mother? I thought he was made in a lab. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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He has a mother, just not a father. The father is always missing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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I like it - Stan. solid. stan is your buddy. stan is your pal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Has to be the kind of gal who wants to be a buddy or a pal, though. OP: I would seriously google the lyrics for A Boy Named Sue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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oh shit. i didn't see DD. ummm, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I had to look up where that (paraphrased) quote came from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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and... did you find it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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Flat Stanley books [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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I didn't think about Flat Stanley. Now, imagine what will happen on the playground to a girl named Stanley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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How about Sidney or Sydney instead? (Not sure of "correct" spelling for a girl.) Siddy or Syd sound a lot better than Stan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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I generally like unisex names, but no: Stanley is a boy's name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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OP: Sigh. You see what I was going for, though? I really want to appropriate a boy's name. Sam/antha? Kyle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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^ OP: Blaise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Vivian. Go look through PG Wodehouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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I had a friend in school named Bryan; it worked for her. Also, you could go with a unisex nickname, like Alex or Sam. The nickname doesn't even have to go with the name: Abraham Lincoln II was called "Jack" by everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Stan the Man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Name people you are just completely over. 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Goopie [ Reply | More ]
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DHs ex [ Reply | More ]
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US government [ Reply | More ]
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In laws [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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big bank [ Reply | More ]
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big government [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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The Obamas [ Reply | More ]
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Kartrashians [ Reply | More ]
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Oh Yes! [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000 cant stand them. Who watches that show? [ Reply | More ]
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Kim jong un [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Putin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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The School Secretary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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De Blasio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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What a mess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Now he wants to get rid of all the paintings ($80million) in City Hall because its too white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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This must be his DW talking. What does he see in her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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NP: making room for the new portraits of Mayor Chirlane McCray and Deputy Mayor Al Sharpton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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OMG, kill me now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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The crime will kill you by the end of his term. Love it when the boss don't support their troops (NYPD). He does not play his cards well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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this guy is an uncultured jerk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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holy nincompoop. is this guy a joke? not fit for running this city, low class, clueless. biggest failure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Ugh. for all his liberal talk, his administration is pursuing a lawsuit to be able to conduct mass arrests of protesters without having to give them warning so they have a chance to comply first. http://gothamist.com/2014/12/18/de_blasio_mass_arrest.php [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Who the hell voted for him!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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THE SAME THAT VOTED FOR OBAMA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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Not even, dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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Untrue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Is it true he turns up late to everything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Trash-tastic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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One term mayor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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the front desk staff at most doctor's offices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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that's a good one! most miserable people on earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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right up there with the school secretary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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or- you are right. The office ladies at my dd's high school were so unfriendly. I don't know why - they had the ultimate cushy job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Two words: job security. Someone who has that job in a public school is civil service. In private, she is probably Somebody's cousin, but the result is that neither can [easily] be removed from their job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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This! A few I know are okay, but most are obnoxious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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True, and the people who answer the phone after office hours are both rude AND stupid. A bad combination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Stupid answering service. Same experiences as calling the help desk in India or Philippines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Several of my co-workers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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my co-workers who show up late every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Is her name Sohani? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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And then they have the nerve to said everyone leaves early! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Cuomo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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oh i am so proud of him re: fracking. love him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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ME TOO so thrilled! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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He did the right thing. He asked experts. Who spent a long time trying to figure it out. The experts said "its complicated, and uncertain, but my gut hates it, so no". And so he said "no". Good for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Disgusted with. Blatant political whore with big ambition to do better than his daddy did. At any cost (to others). Typical male offspring behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Violent, unstable men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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Madonna. You're in your fifties now. Act it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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I feel this way about J.Lo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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She is acting it. Why are you so prejudiced against older people having fun? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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George Clooney. i don't think he did himself any favors by marrying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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I think he would agree with you. He seems miserable in photos. She preens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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people who bash police officers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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people who bash de Blasio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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What took the PR team so long to show up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Hi Al. Wheres Tawana Brawley? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Hands up dont shoot!!!! I cant breath!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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Or, apparently, spell or punctuate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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People who update their Facebook every 5 minutes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Justin Bieber. I just can't keep pouring my heart and soul into someone who doesn't acknowledge his biggest fans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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I saw him in an interview: is he really that stupid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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The rich. And the super rich. Republicans. Or what passes for them these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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go away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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