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General Topics 12.18.14, 11:01 PM Flag
[ - ] How crucial are sliding doors on a car? Do they make that big of a difference in convenience for parents? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Easier to open the doors in tight parking places without damaging your or their car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Ever noticed how SJPs DCs look nothing like her, but both DDs look exactly like MB? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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That's the case with a lot of people I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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But it is both DDs who look nothing like her. [ Reply | More ]
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Didn't they use surrogate? Maybe not her eggs? Or maybe the kids just don't look like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] We went to our DD's holiday concert a few nights ago and all the parents stand in line in order to get good seats. We went an hour early and were in the middle of the line. Just as the doors opened, some Chinese parents began bum-rushing to the front and cut hundreds of people. People in the front were so in shock that they just kind of stood there. This is a Christian school so I think people were being extra nice, but seriously? It gave me flashbacks to my time in China. Would have been hilarious if a brawl broke out. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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I was with you until you got to Christian school. Do you think people are nicer there then at a secular school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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This is a Christian school in progressive LA. I'm actually shocked a fight didn't break out. It was seriously insane what they did. Can't stop thinking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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I am a poster from LA who once commented on similar cultural differences. Not making a sweeping judgment per se, but just noting that the influx of folks from China add a very different vibe to local cultural events. I was flamed to holy hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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What I don't understand about this is why don't they realize that that they're making a terrible impression on everyone around them. Do they not care what people think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 11:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I have heard that they google the parents. Parents who are in interesting or careers that show that they are intellectually gifted are put in the slots for the first weekend. The slots are all about genetics. So basically if you are a loser or in finance your kids get shuffled to the second weekend. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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That would be the best UB poll ever. "R2 time slot, parents' careers and degrees, most embarrassing recent Facebook post." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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hilarious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Who is they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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OP: I was told that the admissions team at Hunter does this. This is why we get our time/date slot so long after the cut-off is released. Think about it.. if it was just random or something simple they would give you an appointment right away. They have an entire team of googlers in the admissions office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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LOL. Good one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Forgive my cattiness but my exDH really put me through the ringer (cheater, cheap, etc.) Now he has a new GF, older like us, but never married. She was slim and fresh-looking when they started dated when she was 39. Seeing her photos with him on Facebook now and she's ballooned, now 42, still not married to him and no kids. My read: she's getting sucked into his miserableness, isn't she? I'm actually feeling sorry for her. Am I totally not seeing this accurately? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:47 PM Flag
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blech could be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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You aren't feeling sorry for her. You are thrilled!! As I would be too. You obviously have kids and she doesn't. It's called Schadenfreude and it's natural. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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OP here: I guess I could be thrilled. I am feel more vindicated that I got out for the right reasons (was feeling like maybe I should stay and he'd change, etc.) even though I don't have actual tangible reasons to think this, that's why I ask here. It's just a gut feeling based on her appearance. I will add, exDH looks HAPPY and really into her which I'm actually glad about too. I just keep putting myself in her shoes and I think, damn girl, don't you see what's going on? He's manipulating you and bringing you down. And now you're just about too old to move on and have kids elsewhere. Which, weirdly, I think that dynamic is actually why my exDH is happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:59 PM Flag
[ - ] It wouldn't be Christmas if you didn't spend 36 hours of it sleeping in an airport because of a winter storm, and they've already got a hashtag for the east-coast storm that will roll in on Dec. 24: #Santabomb 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Yup, I spent Christmas in Chicago one year. 3 nights by myself. Sucked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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I understand spending the night but how can it be 36 hours and why wouldn't you check into a hotel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 11:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Stevie Wonder has had a ninth child. This is his second with his current girlfriend; he assures her that he's not seeing anyone else. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Stevie Wonder isn't seeing anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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"You didn't happen to see... anyone at all." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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What else is new. He is a fucking rich OLD guy. RICH OLD guys get women after them. So they can spawn as long as possible. He can spawn till he's 70. Doesn't mean that these women give a shit about him. They are looking for the cash. In the past, women wouldn't fuck him because he was too old and couldn't hunt or whatever. Things have changed. Science has shown us that old guys give birth to lesser progeny. But these young women don't give a shit about that. They want the cash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Actually, the younger the "spouse"/"girlfriend" is the more chance that she is cheating. He may or may not know that the kid is his. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't have any actual insight into the Europe trip situation, but I am imagining that the invited friends may have felt awkward providing their parents with the details (friend's parents paying, etc) because they didn't want to embarrass their own parents (implication: "friend's family knows we are poor"). 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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it's a fake post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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OP: Maybe. But even when I was in college (late 80s/early 90s), college students all took this trip: some UMC kids had their parents finance, some worked summers/part-time to finance, many did some combination. I would like to hear a bit more about the demographics of the invited families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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I was in college then and not "ALL" kids took this trip. I spent Christmas break working and being with my family, as did most of my friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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OP: NOt necessarily over Xmas break. Many kids went over the summer. We "backpacked" and stayed at hostels. My parents paid for me, but I informally went with a bunch of others from my college who were going. We had varying means, but the fun was staying at the hostels and traveling by train and, yes, drinking and doing drugs in different countries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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np - My parents would have killed me if I didn't spend Christmas break with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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OP: Just trying to see it from the other families' point of view, because it seems that one of the friends didn't initially tell his parents about the logistics (i.e. who is paying, who is going). There may be a pride issue, or at least a lack of communication issue (as a mother of a DS, I can totally see this happening too lol). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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Still weird, though, to have the mom of a 20 yo calling the mom of one of his college friends. I couldn't picture my parents calling any of my college friends' parents, except in extreme circumstances. If they wanted details about my trip (and I'm sure they'd want some details, but not a detailed itinerary or anything) they would have just asked me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I agree. But could be that the parent felt blindsided and had assumed it was a family trip, for example. Also, I can see a parent wanting to touch base with the host's parents to get more information in terms of determining how much money for incidentals, etc., they would need to give their kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you tip your garage? We pay over $400 and I don't know what to tip.... We use it a few times a week, sometimes more sometimes less... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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$25 to each attendant, $40-50 to manager ??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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We pay about $300 a mon and just gave $125. That's about what other customers told me they gave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
[ - ] These Hunter posts are sheer madness... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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The number of them? The venom? The crazy theories? I know it's all of it, but what in particular. To me it is the crazy neurotic theories that are most striking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who experienced an ectopic pregnancy ever find out "why." I had one a few months ago. I have never to my knowledge had any STD which could have resulted in PID and scarring of the fallopian tubes, but I can't stop obsessing over the idea that maybe I had something when I was younger, never had any symptoms and never treated it properly. I know this thinking is pointless, but it is bothering me. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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Do ectopic pregnancies only happen in cases of STD-related PID? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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no, not only, although I have read that that is among the major identifiable causes of scar tissue in the fallopian tubes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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Yes. I think that this is something that women will be educated about in the future. Have had friends who had blocked tubes. Blocked tubes are caused from STDs. But the average women won't know this until about 10 years from now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Then I guess you have your answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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no. have you never taken a health class? WTF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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do you have endometriosis? did you smoke before starting ttc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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Do you have ovarian cycts? Ever had an abnormal pap that resulted in removing some of your cervix? Are you positive you don't have a type of HPV? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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i've never been diagnosed, but have sometimes wondered if i did based on other symptoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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can cause scarring of fallopian tube and often doesn't have obvious symptoms. what made you wonder? they can check your tubes if you are worried but fyi i had terrible endo, was paranoid that i would not be able to get pregnant as a result, and proceeded to have normal/healthy pregnancies. ectopic also can be a fluke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:45 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, meddling coworker just walked down a narrow hallway where my boss, client & I were standing. She excused herself to step between client & I, and then while boss was speaking to client, started talking to me about an unrelated matter. I feel like I am getting a little paranoid, but it's hard to believe she is not actively trying to literally put herself between me and the clients. (This is the same one I posted about days ago and earlier today). 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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*between client & me. And, "I'm sorry, coworker, we're in the middle of a conversation here. I'll swing by your desk in a few minutes to talk about what you need. Thanks." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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yes, client & me, of course. i'm not thinking these posts through carefully. I just quickly answered her question and turned back to the client. am i sounding paranoid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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maybe hard to know based on this little bit of info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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maybe, but it seems like more she does not respect you maybe not actually wanting to take your client, but definitely does not think you have "authority" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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Can you link your other posts? I did not see them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 11:00 PM Flag
[ - ] CDC reports gonorrhea rates have declined for the first time in 30 years. Slow clap. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Slow "clap"? lol [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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Pun intended? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Our dd is currently enrolled in a toddler's program twice a week in a tt preschool in Manhattan. We just got our first letter from the school requesting contributions to their Annual Fund. The school doesn't publish their "deficit" percentage and I'm quite lost at how much is expected from us in terms of donation. Any guidance from some more experienced parents? I know the school also has a fundraising gala in Feb where we will also be asked to contribute. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 12.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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there are NO TT preschools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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we are at a regular old neighborhood preschool, but there are schools that are known for being feeders to the TT Ks (or privates generally) and those often are referred to as TT preschools. I think the whole TT concept is silly - just find the school that's right for your kid and your family - but I thnk many people know what OP means by the term, and expectations at those schools might be different from elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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OP: i'm with you. but you get my point. let's call it a preschool that sends their graduates to tt schools. or maybe, let's just call it "an expensive preschool program". whatever we want to call it. what are they expecting in terms of our donation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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Ok, then preschools that feed into the TT schools and that have done so for decades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Do you know parents from prior years who you can ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Since it's your first year, $100-$200 is fair. You can always give more at the benefit and later years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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Depends on your hh net worth. If you are a "normal" family, 1k is acceptable. Majority of families at our ues preschool give 2-5k, there are always a few very wealthy families who give 10-25k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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Do they give you contributor levels? This will generally give you an idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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Is this a toddler program that feeds into the preschool? If so then donate in the thousand. $2000 maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Well, I am the "Europe trip" poster. Whether you think I am fake or not, the update is that the mom ended up on the phone with my DH since he was the one to book the tickets and the hotel. The mom wanted to know what amount of parental supervision there would be, and DH said none, because we are not going on the trip. I guess there was some hedging on the details by the other boy until she finally looked us up to call us directly. At the moment, it remains unclear if he will actually go. We are hoping he does. Away, yes, now I know the flights and the hotel. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Still fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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NP - Who cares if it's fake? Isn't it interesting to think about? I could see myself as both mothers, and it's probably good practice to see beyond my own parenting dilemmas with a 9 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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Hi OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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It's clearly interesting to others, because so many people responded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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Honestly I'd just talk to the mom on the phone and apologize if this trip you're giving your son is causing a rift in her home- you didn't realize it would cause problems for the friend's parents (her) and if she doesn't want her son to go, that's fine with you and send your apologies. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Wow you are very sensible person, kudos to you, I really mean it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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I was going to write something similar (and I ended my last response with "the end" so OR and I are on the same wavelength) - sounds like the mom did not have all the details about the nature of the trip. Call her and tell her you did not realize when you spoke earlier that she was unaware it was just the 20-year-olds going, that you understand if it is not comfortable for her, and that there would be no hard feelings if he were unable to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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She is a fool if she keeps her kid from this experience. I know a lot of people here have this thing that kid's who get these things are super spoiled, and maybe they are, but it does not mean they are bad people. Most of my roommates in college were very well off. I attended HYP for about 2500 a year, split between my divorced parents, who worked their whole lives. I would have loved to have had ski trips in winter and island trips for spring break, but they could not pay for it. My friends still grew up to be upstanding people who have college aged kids today (who are good kids). The only difference between them and me today is that they had many more memories. I can't pay for anyone else's kids vacations, but I try to send my dd on all the trips in school she can take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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The experience of underage drinking and sleeping with women in foreign countries? I'd pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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whomp, whomp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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He is still 20 right? Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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If you do lose the 2k, it is your own fault for not checking with the parents. You may be hands off, but presuming everyone else would be was foolish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Actually, as I said earlier, it was my DH who booked it all. He asked if the other parents were OK with this. It is news to us that they might not be now, but your point about having trusted the kids is a valid one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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It might be, if they were kids instead of adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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You can't book an international flight without the kid's passport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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That sucks. I think what you and your DH did was such a nice thing. the boys are 20! not 15. I think this would have been a great opportunity for them to travel, learn different cultures, learn how to plan an itinerary, explore and be responsible while having fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:16 PM Flag
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I think so too, I hope they have a great time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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I don't want to take this in a new direction, but would you mind sharing a little about the SES/culture of your family and the other two? Maybe info like small town, first-generation, blue-collar. Again, not trying to turn this into a troll-worthy post, but trying to wrap my head around it. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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Also, the other kids may not be able to afford the incidentals. The cost will end up more than just food and hotel. A generous offer but still may not be too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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THIS IS FAKE!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:37 PM Flag
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Your son parties and you don't know this but creates trouble around him, and that's trickier overseas. The other mother doesn't want to send her son with an irresponsible kid unsupervised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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this. agree. sounds like it's a trust issue here. either with your son or with hers, or possibly with the third kid. And, no, 20 year olds aren't really adults, especially not 20 year olds whose parents pay for everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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NP: When I did a similar trip (my parents paid for me, not other people), we pretty much drank and did drugs the entire time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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You did nothing wrong. I feel bad for your son's friend because obviously his mother treats him like a child rather than the man he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Sorry but - "she looked us up to call us"? How in the world do you do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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