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[ - ] Since we're discussing random pet peeves-people who don't hold on on the subway! I'm really pregnant, and so many people just hover over me waiting to lose their footing. One guy HAD to do his crossword. One woman nearly fell on me, and when I asked her to please hold on, she took out LATEX GLOVES and put them on first, while scoffing at me. if you're that picky, buy a damned car! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Being pregnant on the subway is a special kind of misery [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Oh, there was also the crazy lady on the UES who basically put her ratty gym bag in my lap. I shoved it off and she yelled, "there's a DOG in there!" [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The Catholic thread is funny especially the poster who refers go herself as Christian and not Catholic. Catholics are the original! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I thought technically Christians were first and they finally got their act together as the catholic church a few hundred years later [ Reply | More ]
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Actually, Jews are the original LOL [ Reply | More ]
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this! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Parenthood has really grown on me. Started out hate watching it a month or so ago, but now I'm really into it. Love the storyline with the adopted kid. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Good show. Lags at times, but overall, excellent. Wished there were more shows like that on TV. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yeah, it's good. I really didn't like it at first, but the storylines have gotten deeper and I like it a lot now. It's a nice show. [ Reply | More ]
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I loved that show. I think it really showed the layer cake that is parenting. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes! It seemed so superficial at the beginning and I really hated it - seemed very flippant in a way. But I love how they've developed the characters and the relationships through the show. Love the brother/sister relationships too. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am obsessed with my baby, yet when I'm holding him, I am just praying that he falls asleep quickly and quietly. When I finally get him down, I then feel guilty leaving him in his crib, so I check on him every 2 minutes and feel like bursting into tears at the sight of his cute, chubby face. What is wrong with me? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nothing :) [ Reply | More ]
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Good grief [ Reply | More ]
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that it is how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
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i am the same way still. 5 minutes after i put my 2 kids down I go back in for another kiss and hug. and they are 5 and 7. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm the same with 4 yo DS. I feel compelled to just squeeze him sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
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DD is 3 and DH and I saw "she's so cute" to each other every night after checking up on her during her sleep. Every night since she was born. [ Reply | More ]
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Very normal. Count the minutes until bedtime and then spend your evenings looking at photos and videos of him. [ Reply | More ]
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yup, this! I thought that I was the only one. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone read that Vanity Fair piece about the marriage of Andrew Cuomo and Kerry Kennedy? It was reasonably sympathetic to both, but what came out is that Cuomo is a total Eddie Haskell. Anyone old enough to get the reference and agree? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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can u pls translate for a 25 yo? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Eddie Haskell was a character in the old tv show "Leave It to Beaver". It was old when I was a kid, but the reference to him was popular in the 1970s. He was actually a brilliantly conceived character -- very subtle for a 1950s sit com [ Reply | More ]
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I don't follow Andrew Cuomo closely enough to laugh, but I know what an Eddie Haskell is [ Reply | More ]
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Eddie Haskell, LOL. That's what my parents call DH behind his back. [ Reply | More ]
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yikes! what is dh like? [ Reply | More ]
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Oh he's great, but he really puts on a show for my parents - still sending flowers to my mom and whatnot. [ Reply | More ]
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get the reference. haven't read the article. on a side note, on the gym tv in the mornings, I sometimes watch bits of the various news channels, and, for some reasons, CNN is the most unwatchable to me. just constant rehash of sensational events that are barely newsworthy. [ Reply | More ]
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Get and love the reference, but don't care enough about AC to apply it. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Well if you read the article, he personifies Eddie Haskell. But seems no one actually read the article AND knows who Eddie Haskell is. Ha - youngsters these days. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought he was dating that semi- homeade sandra dee person. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] It's rude to tell people what you want as a gift. Is it rude to tell people how to spend the money you give them as a gift? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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of course! Why wouldn't you just get them the gift? [ Reply | More ]
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My grandma always used to do that - it was cute when she did it, but in general maybe not. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, unless you mean something like "I hope you'll use this to treat yourself to a relaxing day" but then up to recipient. [ Reply | More ]
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I pet gift-getting hate is when someone gives you money and says 'This is for you to put toward xyz.' [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why does it offend you if a woman or man carry a backpack to work? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It doesn't. I don't even notice. [ Reply | More ]
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Because I associate the style with sports/leisure, and it doesn't go. Like sneakers and a sheath dress. Even if they're nice, designed sneakers, it would look weird to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, let's have someone carry an uncomfortable impractical bag, and give them back issues because your dumbass thinks it is sports/leisure for no reason. [ Reply | More ]
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it offends me when they push that backpack into my face on the subway or bus. take it off on the train/bus. [ Reply | More ]
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Wish I could find a good work backpack that doesn't make me look like a student. My poor back is killing me from lugging around my heavy work-issued laptop :( [ Reply | More ]
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I hate the wheeled luggage even more. If you need to lug that much stuff around with you every day, there's a problem. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 that looks ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
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Some people need to carry two computers for their job (if they have clients with strict privacy). [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just don't enjoy sushi. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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More for me! [ Reply | More ]
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STOP EATING FISH OCEAN KILLER [ Reply | More ]
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Oh puff. Stop using all caps. [ Reply | More ]
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very similar to oral [ Reply | More ]
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It doesn't taste like anything. I find it very unsatisfying. [ Reply | More ]
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you sound fat [ Reply | More ]
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Are you eating it with the soy ginger and wasabi? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes and it is pretty much tasteless except for the wasabi and soy (the ginger is eaten as palate cleanser between bites). I just don't like bland food. [ Reply | More ]
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I consider sushi a subtle food. I wouldn't call it bland. [ Reply | More ]
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I could eat it every night for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
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It's good with lots of ginger but I hate the mushy consistency of the avocado they always put in there. [ Reply | More ]
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I love sushi rice. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The most popular post about the 25 yo makes me so mad. I'm 25 and I graft every day for a pitiful salary because I haven't earned my stripes to command anything better. She's on 75k and throwing a tantrum? Fire her and give me the job. I'd photocopy til 3am for 75k. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Come work for me, please? [ Reply | More ]
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If I got a serious job offer I would leave my role in a heartbeat. I've sent out some applications this morning, so we shall see. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you. What do you do now? Being 25 sucks in so many ways. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm actually an intern right now doing enterprise risk. The money sucks but the team (3 of us) is great. The issue is that everybody seems to coast through their days doing very little. When I come to the end of this internship I will still be a graduate relying on my master's degree to get me a job. I need something structured, with some training. I want another internship where I learn some fucking marketable skills. This job was fun for the first month, until I realized that I won't benefit from learning nothing. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh, I'm sorry. It's so hard. What do you ultimately want to do? [ Reply | More ]
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I really enjoy enterprise risk and business resilience. I'd like to work in the financial sector but my master's degree is in security and risk. It's really hard to get a foot in the door in the banking world without a math or economics degree. [ Reply | More ]
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What about compliance? I know a few people who work in that area who love it. [ Reply | More ]
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^and forgive me, I am a lawyer who knows nothing about banking - what you said just sounded related to compliance. :) [ Reply | More ]
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Compliance has been mentioned. It's been suggested that I take ownership of compliance as the head of that does not do very much. I'm keen to get to grips with it, it's a struggle when nobody is forthcoming with help, or the time to sit down and discuss it. It's tough. I can begin to take ownership and get my head around it, but eventually I am going to need some guidance. [ Reply | More ]
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Hmmm. Can you use LinkedIn or other connections you have to reach out to people who work in compliance? Maybe they can point you in the right direction just to get started. [ Reply | More ]
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What's graft [ Reply | More ]
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lol - that person is just a cunt. There was a 27yo attorney who demanded equity in our mid-size firm because he felt his salary was too low. He threw a tantrum one day when the partners laughed him out of the office. He quit and has been unemployed for over a year. I am 30yo and would never consider making such a demand. [ Reply | More ]
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NO. OMG that's horrendous. I posted on that thread about the baby lawyer whining about being too smart for the work she was given, but that is terrible. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, we thought it was hilarious. He cc'd the whole office on his resignation email. Classic. [ Reply | More ]
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That's a mess. Why do people do that? You should have submitted it to Above the Law. [ Reply | More ]
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np: when i was a jr associate and was the person sending the faxes late at night(which tells you how long ago that was) I was pissed off but i for sure never complained to anyone at my office about it. And i was pissed because nobody asked the male associates to do it. you gotta pay your dues. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is a good place to look at modern furniture, in particular sofas? Need something that is a step up from Room & Board / Crate & Barrel / Bludot. Any ideas? In NYC and happy to go look in person. The only think I can think of is ABC, but there must be other places? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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DWR, hive modern [ Reply | More ]
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Bo Concept [ Reply | More ]
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Cheap [ Reply | More ]
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Really? I thought it was upper-mid-range. [ Reply | More ]
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Hate Bo Concept. It looks so flimsy for the price. [ Reply | More ]
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Mitchell Gold + Bob Williams [ Reply | More ]
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NP-Hate this stuff. So tacky. [ Reply | More ]
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Soho as a lot of furniture stores. I'd just go walk around and look. DWR is a good idea also. [ Reply | More ]
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I think this is what I need to do. Any specific places? [ Reply | More ]
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What's wrong with Room and Board? [ Reply | More ]
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NP--wondering same. I think it can be staid and boring, but stuff is well made and the solid wood pieces are usually very nice. [ Reply | More ]
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I like there stuff and great for the price point, but I think there upholstered furniture doesn't always wear that well. Looking for the next step up. [ Reply | More ]
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my room and board couch just hit the sidewalk. leather peeled all off after 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Today an old lady asked me not to let my kids use chalk at the park. Wtf? I read the rules. Not prohibited. But many things are that happen anyway. She wouldn't let it go so I just said I wasn't interested in having that conversation. Don't most kids do chalk?? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I tell old biddies like this, "You must have had a miserable childhood." Then turn away and ignore. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her that there's nothing wrong with using chalk at the park. [ Reply | More ]
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tell her to myob [ Reply | More ]
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I would smile and nod and ignore just like I do with all the dumb things annoying old ladies tell me. Chalk is fine at the park! [ Reply | More ]
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my father had a fit once with chalk on the driveway....did not matter to him that with rain/water it comes right off...some people are just particular [ Reply | More ]
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Was it on his driveway? If so, that's different. [ Reply | More ]
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my driveway - I knew from childhood never on his driveway, but I could not believe he would get so anxious over my driveway [ Reply | More ]
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Was it on his driveway? If so, that's different. [ Reply | More ]
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She likely thinks it's an eye sore. Like graffiti on the ground. I sort of agree but I'd never tell a kid not to use chalk. [ Reply | More ]
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It washes away when it rains. Not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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That is crazy! Some people are so weird! [ Reply | More ]
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She doesn't want you messing up the park. [ Reply | More ]
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'I don't speak English.' [ Reply | More ]
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"Damn foreigners!" [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. "Not talk at the park? Why shouldn't they be able to talk at the park?! You're nuts,lady." [ Reply | More ]
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I say this to everyone stranger who annoys me and the message is very clear to them. Better than any response to just about every obnoxious thing that can be said. [ Reply | More ]
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engrish is even better [ Reply | More ]
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Kids shouldn't use chalk where people sit. (I'm talking about you who allow your children to chalk the concrete walls at Washington Market Park that people use for seats.) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is 'wigger' a socialy acceptable term to use? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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What is that? [ Reply | More ]
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It's a portmanteau of white and the n-word. [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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Op- ok. My coworker used this term today to describe the kids in his neighborhood. I get what he means, but I thought there was a better way to say it? What's a synonym for this? [ Reply | More ]
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public school kids [ Reply | More ]
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Cultural appropriators [ Reply | More ]
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NP: What did he even mean? That the kids in his neighborhood like hip-hop and Nikes? That's every teen everywhere today. My teenage DS' go to an elite private school and ALL of the kids are into the hip-hop culture. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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There's something truly ridiculous about elite private school kids walking around acting like street hoods. Sorry. I'd be so embarrassed if that was my child. [ Reply | More ]
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Haha! You clearly don't have teenagers. They don't act like "street thugs" they just like musicians like Lil Wayne and Wiz Khalifa and are in to nice tennis shoes. Kids are in to trends... [ Reply | More ]
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Oops. Sorry. "Street hoods." [ Reply | More ]
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How about "kid"? [ Reply | More ]
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Wannabe [ Reply | More ]
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Poser [ Reply | More ]
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Try-hards. [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely not under any circumstances. It means "white n-word." Please don't be that person. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! Dh and I were just discussing this, there's no real accurate alternative. Wannabe thug? [ Reply | More ]
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It is evocative of a pejorative, so it is disfavored. That said, it describes a unique type of white person, namely "white kids who act ghetto", so I say the word is fine because of its brevity [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is Zyrtec known to wipe people out, more than Benadryl? I took it for the first time last night and just woke up now at 1:30 pm. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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More tahn allegra, for sure. Try allegra instead. [ Reply | More ]
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Doctor said only Zyrtec. I've never had a drug wipe me out like this before! [ Reply | More ]
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I've been taking it for years and have never had drowsiness. [ Reply | More ]
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Me either. Op. Is just sick and tired. [ Reply | More ]
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for me, not more than benedryl, which is the sleepiest for me, then zyrtec, then allegra. If I recall, Zyrtec and benedryl cross the blood brain barrier and allegra and claritin don't. [ Reply | More ]
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I can only take Claritin D. Zyrtec gives me a headache. Benadryl wipes me out. [ Reply | More ]
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for me it is - i can only take it at night and have to take it early in the evening or I wake up hung over feeling [ Reply | More ]
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Op: it must have variable effects depending on the person. I slept for over 14 hours! [ Reply | More ]
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In my experience the opposite. benadryl knocks me out, zyrtec doesn't do much of anything. Claritin is sort of in between. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I almost hate to add to the religion & MIL war that is going on UB, but I guess it's just that time of the year. Here's my problem. I am Jewish and DH & ILs are not. I have always been very low key about my Jewishness. I don't discuss it because I know my ILs have a tendency towards bigoted language, which I think is more of an issue of language and age than actual hatred. Nonetheless, I don't bother explaining stuff to them because it's just too foreign for them to understand. Since the children have gotten older and more understanding, I realize how important solidifying their Jewish heritage is as my family lives far away and we spend all Christian holidays with the ILs. I realize that many view Easter as a secular holiday. I do not. I have been uncomfortable with the DCs celebrating Easter with my ILs for years, but now that they are school age, I am very uncomfortable with it. At their young age, I am not of the universalist bent. When they are older and have a stronger notion of their cultural identity, I have no issue with them celebrating Easter with friends or family, but right now, I want them to understand the importance of Passover. I have asked DH if we can just come up with plans for the holiday so that we are out of town, rather than explain our absence. He is ok with it, but now MIL wants to do an Easter Part II next weekend. Thoughts? Should I just come out and explain it? I feel that they will not understand. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Just say that you don't want to celebrate Easter. [ Reply | More ]
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whatever she said, tldr [ Reply | More ]
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what did u and dh decide before u had dcs [ Reply | More ]
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Or what are you and dh deciding now? If you agree to raise your kids Jewish, he needs to let his mother know that. [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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DH and I used to live in NY and my ILs live in Miami (which we relocated to 6 years ago), so we always celebrated Passover on our own. Only after we moved to Miami did we begin to celebrate Easter because MIL wanted to do Easter baskets and eggs with the kids. She also serves a ham, which is like the cherry on the sundae to me, but I have never said a word about it. I should have placed boundaries years ago, but I was trying to get on their good side and now I am just feeling resentful of the whole situation. Especially since my parents have passed, I feel like my kids have lost their Jewish grandparents and are now left with this commercialized holiday that competes with Passover. [ Reply | More ]
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np: i am sorry, i don't mean to kick you while you are down, but you might as well throw in the white flag. your jewish lineage ends with you. [ Reply | More ]
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Not necessarily. It takes effort, especially given that she's lost her parents yet lives near ils. [ Reply | More ]
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Np I think the answer isn't to take away your dcs exposure to those experiences, instead it seems you miss your own parents and it might be healing to make the effort to fully celebrate all the Jewish holidays and educate your dcs, get them involved and learning [ Reply | More ]
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OP - Yes, my kids go to religious school and we are active in our temple, so it's not like they do not have an exposure to Judaism. We observe Shabbat most every week. You are right that during this holiday season, I feel the loss of my parents and it's starting to hurt to see MIL so insistent that her holidays are most important. When I explained that the DCs could not spend the night this weekend and she shrugged it off like it's just a silly holiday and the true holiday is Easter. It's just her way of speaking to me and the DCs about our Jewish holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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it sounds like u r trying to passive aggressively bully ur dh into making ur kids. if you planned to celebrate both why should stop? just do your own separate passover thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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No, it wasn't that we agreed to celebrate both. DH is totally on board with raising the DCs Jewish. DH has all but converted himself, he has no ties to Christianity. The reason why we were celebrating it is because MIL wanted to do this with her grandkids and since we lived in the area, we indulged her. It's not like we do this at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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your kids are smart enough to understand the difference - I would not worry about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Ok, perhaps you are right and I am just making this about my parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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you sound uptight. just go to easter and then have a mini-seder to balance it out. no big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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MIL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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Tell MIL the Last Supper was a Seder. Have them over! Hang the DaVinci painting over the table where MIL and FIL can see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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op - My ILs are the type who would act awkward and lightly make fun of things as they occur. I have experienced this during the few times we invited them to events at my children's religious school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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I think ultimately the choice is yours to do what you are comfortable with. that said, I don't think your kids will have trouble with a cultural identity if you are sending them to a religious school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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^ also, I am sorry about your parents. I think some of your feelings on this may be tied to grief over that. if it is dh's extended family that is a problem, then don't celebrate with them, but don't blame his parents for the extending family craziness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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op - Yes, you are right. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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They are in Jewish school? I think you need to let it go. The ILs get it. Having an Easter egg hunt on a different weekend is not remotely the same thing. These are DHs family traditions and they ar e just as important as religious traditikns for many non-practicing/religious families. I think it would be fair to resist this Sunday, but not next weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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op - Yes, they are in religious school. You are right, I will let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Fun Fact: Except that it wasn't. No seders as depicted by DaVinci during the time when Jesus lived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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Dh is Jewish and I converted and we allow dcs celebrate both. It's always been known that grandma & grandpa, my parents, are Christian and celebrate Christian holidays, we can celebrate with them but we are Jewish and celebrate Jewish holidays. You control how much Judaism they're exposed to, make Easter a drop in the bucket. It's also part of your dcs culture and heritage even if it's not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Your position and pov is completely well reasoned and valid (and sounds like dh is on same page). Can you comfortably celebrate the easter bunny side of easter wtihout the religous piece? If not, I think you just have to say that you don't want to celerate Easter. That's that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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I'm with this poster and the last supper being a sedar. dinner and anything you are okay with celebrating on a non-religious manner. if nothing, then do nothing related to easter. we have had jewish friends attend DD's egg hunt, and have done shabbat with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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op - Thanks. I have tried this in the past and reasoned that so long as we keep it to the easter bunny, I could be fine with it. The problem is that DH's extended family is super Christian and they give the DCs these lectures on Jesus and the importance of being saved....it's just kind of a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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How old are your dcs? You needn't keep them from their family but it's an extra stessor you'll have to teach them to deal with or address yourself. They are Jewish, they are chosen, they do not need to be saved- refer them to their precious bible for the facts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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^^^meaning refer the super Christian relatives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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op - They are 6 and 9 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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NP: totally agree. DH and I are both atheists. My parents are atheists as well but his are not. We celebrate lots of holidays like Easter and Christmas so that our kids aren't left out but just don't get into the religious aspects of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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Whatever you and DH decide; MIL doesn't factor into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] why are UBers so preoccupied with SAHMs? if you choose to work, that's your choice and your priority. you are compensated for your work. what does it matter if someone else chooses to stay at home? (honest question) 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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I don't think most UBers are preoccupied with it. I think there is one poster who posts every. single. day. about the issue to get folks riled up. When s/he doesn't get the response s/he's looking for, they respond to their own thread and get more and more ridiculous until others jump on the crazy train. I'd guess 99.9% of folks here give not one shit about the SAHM/WOHM "debate". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Because it's an invalid choice, to me. It's like saying "well, if you choose to be a heroin addict, that's your choice. Who am I to judge?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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How is it an invalid choice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Because I believe it's a terrible waste for someone to spend their lives not being a productive member of society. I guess that maybe if people really were spending all day volunteering to truly improve their communities that would be OK, but the people I know who say they need to stay home so they can "volunteer" are spending one day a month reading a book at school for 20 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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What's wrong with raising kids? How is that not productive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Seriously! Someone's got to raise the kids, they do not do it themselves. You just wither choose that as your job, or do something else 9-5 because you either need to, or 24/7 would make you crazy. Taking care of kids is not for everyone. Who the f cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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That's an opinion. Not a fact. Your opinion does not make it invalid. SAH is not illegal, it harms no one. Invalid is the wrong word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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It is my opinion that it is invalid, which is why it bothers me so. Better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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NP: I thought "to me" made that clear enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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Np because it's akin to being a heroin addict, duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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get a job (honest advice) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Most don't see to understand that many are only a SAHM for months/years at a time and it's not a lifelong path. Seriously, no one cares about this in real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Everyone knows this and doesn't give it much thought. Sahm troll- we've id'd you. Pick a new topic and see how long it takes us. & not race or religion, those would be a cop out- challenge yourself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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Happy to see you, fellow troll hunter. And I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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It does have an effect on other women. I'm on mat leave and no one takes me seriously when I say I want to come back to work, because the last 10 women in my dept. said the same thing, then decided to SAHM. It's also one reason why family-friendly workplace policies don't get much traction in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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They aren't its just one crazy person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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1. because its not a choice, if i don't work we dont have enough money to live. 2. Sahms tend to make a lot of annoying statements about how busy they are and how they could never leave their children all day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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again, why does it bother you if someone else does have the choise and decides to stay home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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NP_Because they so often ascribe some kind of moral value to it. ie "why have kids if you won't /can't look after them", yadda yadda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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nnp: making your own choice is cool. being rude about someone making a different one is not. and "i don't see how you can possibly leave your children all day!"is being rude, unless you say it to WOH dads, like your husband, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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"We" here had better refer to you and your family, not all families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] My paycheck tomorrow is $3,680.05 (net) 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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weekly or bi weekly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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bi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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38 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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you're doing good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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so your base is about 170k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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what do you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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tech [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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one of the major investment bank ITs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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finance but not banking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Mine is 2300 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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nice, tomorrow also? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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How many kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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1 ds 8 yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Mine is $4000 after insurance and stuff is taken out. :-( I feel poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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You make more than at least 90 percent of Americans. If you feel poor, you might need to rein in your expectations a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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americans? the world! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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I'm sure the percentage is much higher if you include the rest of the world - I was just sticking with what I know for sure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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Way more than just the 90th percentile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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Then stop buying shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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But I have to tithe 20% of my paycheck to the Church of Whole Foods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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What the heck are you eating? Do you have ten kids? I love food, and do my shopping at WF, Trader Joe's and Sprouts. We eat mostly organic and I still normally only spend $100 a week in groceries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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WHAT? What do you make for dinner every night? I spend $150-$200 on produce alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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We eat a lot of pastas, risottos, roasted chicken, soups, salads - normal stuff? We just don't eat tons of red meat. Most of my groceries are produce, but I live in CA so our prices are probably better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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I bring home almost the same but make $140. Nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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I make $150K and bring home $4400 net. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Really? I make $140 and bring home $2620 every two weeks (DC). This includes maxing out 401k, but still. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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mine just hit, $5,689. after health care, transit, 401k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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how much is your contribution towards 401k? What's your base pay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted the book posts last night but then had to sign off. Thanks for all the great suggestions! I enjoyed reading the responses 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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I would link it for you, but when it is on watch it does not give a helpful link anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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OK, just read the first couple of entries. Someone called Atonement "trash." She's right on the others, but not sure where she gets off with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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I read it this morning and put it on watch! That was a good post. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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Can't really take credit, but on behalf of the responders, yw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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OP -- I am right with you! I was an English major and considered myself very well read until about age 30, when I went to grad. school. If you ask me what I'm passionate about, I will still say "literature," but I do not remember the last time I read a book from start to finish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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Glad I'm not alone, but it's bumming me out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I just watched a SAHM in my neighborhood wait until 3:30 when her kids came home from school to go out running. I know for a fact she's home all day. How am I supposed to take these people seriously? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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You suck. Maybe she works from home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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I don't know why, but this cracked me up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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oh no the kiddos are coming, lemme run, run, run [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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maybe she is trying to inspire her kids to fitness by example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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good thought. i like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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Were you "WAH" all day yourself? How do you have any idea what she did today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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I am picturing her at the window, watching their house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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+1. I wonder how long OP had been staking out her house for. Maybe she could have used that time to be with HER children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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No, but I know her and know she doesn't have a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Are you already running out of SAHM bashing ideas? Get it? Running? Bwahahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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Trolltastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Who's watching the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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dog [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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I guess the 12 year old is watching the 9 year old? I don't know, really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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I think you need a new hobby. She's at least going running while your SAH judgmental ass is doing what exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Actually I'm working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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If you're working, how do you know what your neighbor is doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Because I have a window and she ran right past it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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How do you know what she's doing all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Maybe she had other shit going on today. Why are you spying on your neighbors all day you creep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Really? And you're wondering how to take HER seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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