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[ - ] Have you ever gotten a cortisone shot for a pimple? Wondering if it's worth it. Got a huge one right now that I can tell won't go away for awhile. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Yes, but it was a boil under the skin. Cleared it right up without a scar. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Suggestions for where to look/which brands you recommend for a little suitcase for a 4yo? Thank you. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Just get a normal carry-on side wheelie bag. Don't let kid drag around airport, though. Huge trip hazard for others. [ Reply | More ]
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Pb kids are cute [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just venting-- My mother, who I was extremely close to, died suddenly this summer. I have been devastated, and this holiday season has been brutal. DCs were very close to her to and are really having a hard time with the holidays. My DH, who has NEVER been good at supporting me when I'm down and is just not good when the chips are down in general, got promoted shortly after Mom died and has since thrown himself into work, especially since Thanksgiving. Long hours, weekends, etc. I feel like he's doing this to basically escape being around during this sad, difficult season, and it's really shitty. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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I am so sorry. Get into therapy. You may not be able to fix your DH, but therapy can help you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry about your mom. I know how hard it is (dh's mom died at Christmas a few years ago, and it is still not the same.) I doubt your dh's work habits are an attempt to escape you. He may well feel helpless in the face of your grief, but he's probably just trying to take the only action he can and work hard to support the family financially. Do you have sublings you can talk to? [ Reply | More ]
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Red flag. Eventually when you recover your strength, it will be time to leave him. He is not doing his basic duty as your partner and his children's father. For now, focus fully on looking after you. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] nanny here and the dad texted me this am asking if I wanted to meet for a drink and help him pick out a gift for DW. He said he will pay me for me time. Weird or ok? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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you are so fake [ Reply | More ]
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i don't know, need a male perspective...from my female perspective it's weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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OK. Get the money upfront [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Either/both, depending on your relationship and whether he's skeezy. My brother and male friends often ask for help picking out gifts for wives/girlfriends. My dh asks me to tell him what I want. I don't think thoughtfully shopping for "the perfect gift" is high on most guy's list of favorite hobbies. [ Reply | More ]
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Leans toward weird. Skip the drink, and either go to help pick out gift or if that feels weird say you can't go but happy to help brainstorm in advance or look at pictures of choices if he emails them to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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are you her lingerie size? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Weird. Run. Creep alert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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depends what is YOUR hot factor? [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Has he ever behaved creepily toward you? If not, he may just be clueless and looking for help from someone that knows his wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Weird. Give him some ideas over text and say "No drinks needed!" [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Also, why would you have ideas? He should know his own wife better than the nanny. OR, this is fake and next you'll be telling us he wants you to model lingerie choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Applied to 3 pre-k programs. DS did not separate for 2 of them. :( He goes to nursery school everyday no problem. I'm astounded that all other 3-4 yr olds went off with strangers when asked without drama. I knew there would be drama with my child but still... He is a shy kid. Oh well. At least we tried. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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why can't you stay where you are? [ Reply | More ]
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We can stay 1 more year, which is what we're going to have to do. I just thought applying now would eliminate the craziness of kindergarten apps next year. Hoping DS is ready next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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In your thank you notes, add something like "although DC is slow to warm, be loves going to school and had a great time playing with xyz at the child visit." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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With 1 school he never separated to even go into the classroom! The second school he came out looking for me 10 minutes into the playdate and the third school he was fine. I did write that in the applications and thank you notes, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Plenty of kids have trouble separating. I know it's stressful for you, but it's just who he is. Hopefully he'll get in to one of them. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] What does it mean if on an IQ test, your verbal IQ score is very high but your performance IQ score is not? The tester said this showed a non-verbal learning disability. But he didn't explain what the heck that is or what it involves or how to cope with it. Anyone here have any info? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Any time there's a dramatic discrepancy in various areas - like someone scoring very highly in math but horribly in verbal - it raises the possibility of a learning disability, because most people are fairly consistent in intelligence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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What's weird is that I did very poorly in a lot of the design tests but I'm also really into design when I feel relaxed and calm. The tester said the two brain hemispheres were not working together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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It is only one test, taken at one moment at time. It is not the end-all, be-all that defines who you are. If you think you can gain something from it (did they suggest treament for the disability they diagnosed?), go for it. If you think it's bs, ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] A guy's OKCupid profile 'most private thing you'll admit' answer: I cannot afford to date but am here anyway because I cannot afford to remain single'. :( 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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I think it's probably a joke... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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No. I know him. He's broke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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At least he's an honest bloke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Perhaps he's got a problem with coke. [ Reply | More ]
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He's just a bit of a poke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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And has taken one too many a toke. [ Reply | More ]
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Those sites are full of losers. So unappealing in person that they have to resort to online dating. [ Reply | More ]
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OK Luddite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are both mid-level associates at biglaw firms in NYC. He has been told he is a partnership prospect, but we're not sure we want to rely on those assurances in planning our future, since he wouldn't be the first associate to be passed over. We are starting to plan our family, and I am trying to decide whether to SAH once we have kids. His comp will be in the mid-300s in 2015 with the new bonus increases, and I'm honestly not sure whether that is a high enough HHI to enable me to stay at home. We would probably move to Westchester from the city if I quit my job. Anyone in a similar situation - did you wait a few years until DH actually made partner before you had kids/started SAH? How has it worked out for you so far? For the record, DH and I both went to law school straight from undergrad, so we wouldn't be *that* old by the time he made partner, although still above what I would consider the "ideal" age to become a first-time parent. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.22.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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How old are the two of you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Both recently turned 30. We haven't even started officially TTC, we're just beginning to plan out our family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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I know spouses who made the choice to go in-house before having kids, specifically to be able to have a more manageable WOH option, if SAH couldn't happen right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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This is also something I've been considering. It seems to me like most in-house jobs would be 9:30-6:30 hours, with a little work over the weekend. Way more manageable than biglaw hours, but I'm not sure I could handle coming home around 7:00 and seeing the kids only for an hour or two before their bedtime....that would be tough for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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I think 300k is plenty to live on in NYC, personally. And if he doesn't make partner, he can get a job working as in house counsel for some company making more than 300k I'm sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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This is actually pretty tough! Those jobs don't necessarily pay over 300 other than to GC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP here. Don't want to reveal too much info about DH's practice, but he is in somewhat of a niche area where in-house counsel can get paid well over 300 if they go in-house at a high enough level of seniority. That being said, the in-house compensation would be nowhere near what he would make if he were a partner at his firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Oh. I am not a lawyer so I wouldn't know, really. My sister is some sort of in house lawyer for an insurance company and she makes about 600k a year- this is a job she took when she was passed over for partner, and the insurance company had been a client of her firms so they knew her and liked her. So perhaps her situation is pretty unusual. Either way, 300k is a perfectly reasonable salary for an NYC family [ Reply | More ]
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OP again. I'm mostly concerned about the school situation. I obviously don't have kids yet so I'm not familiar with the ins and outs of school zoning, but it seems like it is really difficult to get your kids into the best public schools, and $40k/year for private is not exactly an affordable option even with a mid-$300k salary. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have high student debt? DH and I live on mid 300 with 3 kids in NYC and we both work. [ Reply | More ]
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No student debt remaining, we paid it off pretty aggressively. [ Reply | More ]
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Mid 300s is enough money [ Reply | More ]
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Yay another woman wasting her education and career. Sounds great. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a female biglaw partner? Sorry you missed out on all the best parts of your kids' lives and are bitter as a result. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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how much do you earn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Same as DH. Same year in law school and now same level of seniority in biglaw. We currently live on his income alone and are planning to bank mine (before, we were using it to pay off student loans), so my leaving work wouldn't result in any change to our standard of living if it were just the two of us. DCs are expensive though. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hunter applicants: our preschool told us teacher forms see due on the 9th (parent stuff due on the 5th). I say this to respond to earlier post from someone who was worried, but also to find out if anyone else has heard the same. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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^^^ are due [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ are due [ Reply | More ]
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I heard they were all due on the 5th, and our school received theirs two weeks ago, so I would make sure that everything got in by the 5th, just to be safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Not sure how to push, when the school's response to my inquiry was not to worry, they are due on the 9th. Suggestions? (and now the teachers/staff are all gone until the 5th) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Maybe you should try knowing the basics next time. Seems like common sense to know the timing of things instead of sitting at your computer two days before Christmas asking questions on a random message board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Nope, heard they were due on the 5th. That's why I stayed on top of things and made sure the teacher got the form last week. Stupid moms who wait until the last minute-- serves you right. Hope your kids don't get in. Get your shit together, moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Country Clubs aren't cool(period). It's just how it is. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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okay - thanks for letting us know [ Reply | More ]
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Someone has to tell them. Sheez [ Reply | More ]
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That's fine. We did not join for the cool factor. [ Reply | More ]
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Ewww. [ Reply | More ]
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Haha, what did you join for? So you can meet-up with your girlfriends for a game of tennis, then hit then have your lunches? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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dh likes golf and the kids like swimming and then we meet up for dinner [ Reply | More ]
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So uncool. [ Reply | More ]
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Does anyone under 80 think they are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Apparently lots of women on here do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I don't think they are "cool", but my DH is a big golfer and my kids swim there practically every day in the summer and take tennis lessons in the fall and the spring, plus we have some friends who are also members so it's just a fun thing for us. I'm not a member to impress you. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. This is us exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I was dating a guy for a few weeks. He was texting me several times a day after our last date. I have not heard from him in several days. What is something clever that I can text him. I figured just one last text in case he thought it was me who had faded. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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"Hey! Just saying hi, did you do anything fun over the weekend?" Don't think about it too much. [ Reply | More ]
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this is lame don't say that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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Why play those games? Ask him if he's still interested and let him know that you are. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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How long ago was your last date? Did anything happen at that date to change things? Did you sleep together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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don't do it. he knows your number. [ Reply | More ]
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'x days of work until Xmas binge. Bring on the eggnog! How are you?' [ Reply | More ]
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How dates in how many weeks? Are you still online? Is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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OP - 3 dates in 2 weeks. Did not sleep together. He has been VERY busy. Working lots of OT. Had his son this weekend. I have not seen him online. I think he might think that I am annoyed that he has not had time for me. [ Reply | More ]
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he knows your number. why do we make up excuse after excuse for people??? he is busy, he had he son, he might think i am mad.... He knows your number. [ Reply | More ]
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np I agree with this, but no harm in texting (once): "happy holidays! I'm off to XXX. Enjoy Christmas (or whatever) with your son." [ Reply | More ]
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WRONG. Do not chase. EVER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Oh geez [ Reply | More ]
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Letting a man you've spent some time with know you're thinking about him and wishing him well is not chasing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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If he doesn't like her, he doesn't like her and she has nothing to lose. This is not 6th grade and playing games is lame. There is nothing humiliating or pathetic about wishing happy holidays to an acquaintance and that's not what's going to determine whether this is the romance of the century or a bust. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - You are right. It is rare that I like someone. We seemed to have good chemistry and banter. : - ( [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Yeah see, everyone tells you that having sex too soon puts off men. But here's the thing. Just because you wait to have sex, it doesn't mean you'll find good guys. This guy probably just wants sex. So he has lost interest in you because you don't seem interested in sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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No. No. No. and NO. You do NOTHING at this point. He is not into you. If he was, you'd know it. Do not text or call or anything. Start dating someone else. If he is seriously interested in you, he'll come back. Unlikely, IMO. Move on. Signed, Older, Seen-This-100MM-Times-Before Mom [ Reply | More ]
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OP- I am in my 40s. Divorced with 2 kids. I do know better. Thought I finally had a keeper. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: a text costs you nothing. Send him a text, no need to be clever, be clear about what you want. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why do people cancel plans last minute?? Had 3 play dates last week. All planned at least 2 weeks in advance. Day of, 2 hrs prior... "So and so has the sniffles, we have to cancel". Seriously? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:13 PM Flag
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Most people don't want sick kids at their house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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Everyone is overscheduled, frazzled, and frantic at this time of year, and a lot of people are sick. Count your blessings to get some free time! [ Reply | More ]
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I'd much rather that than a sick kid show up infecting us right before Christmas! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
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Op: but they're not that sick. My kids have runny noses all winter, practically. It's just odd that it was 3 in a row. And I bought food for one of the get togethers because it was during dinner time. They're all my friends, but I wouldn't cancel last second unless it were an emergency [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, with friends, I feel comfortable saying "Just a heads up, Dylan is a little sick - are you okay with me bringing him?" With people I don't know, I err on side of caution [ Reply | More ]
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np: some kids are more miserable than others when they are sick. i canceled playdate night before for my 6yo because he was running a low grade fever together with his cold this weekend and i didn't want to risk that he would not be up for it this morning and cancel at the last munute. right call on my part as he's still fully sick, but he MIGHT have woken up feeling better and then canceled for nothing. [ Reply | More ]
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Given the timing, people are more likely to err on the side of caution and not risk their kids getting sicker. No one wants to be sick on Xmas or to have to cancel holiday parties, waste Nutcracker tickets, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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This. If it were my kid, 3 days before Christmas, I'd totally err on the side of caution and have him rest up all day just in case he's fighting something off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Not everyone else treats kids getting together to play as something to be cancelled only in event of family emergency. If my kid is under the weather, or we're not having a good day, or we realized we have too much on our plates that day, of course we cancel. But I'm also not someone who "schedules" playdates like 2-3 weeks in advance, for this very reason. If my kids want to have a friend over one day, we call around and see if anyone is free and wants to come over. Much simpler that way. [ Reply | More ]
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2 weeks is VERY far out to plan a play date. My guess is it doesn't fit in their schedule any longer - especially given the time of year, but they don't feel comfortable saying that to you. I'd loosen up a little, maybe not plan so far in advance or give them an out by saying 'if we can make it happen' so they don't feel the pressure. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, they didn't know kid was going to be sick. Did you want them to show up sick? [ Reply | More ]
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I am the opposite. I hate when people DO show up and their kid is hacking up a lung or has a non-stop dripping nose. Especially right before a holiday. [ Reply | More ]
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Spinoff- do people really plan little kids playdates more than 2 weeks in advance? I'd assume the majority of these would end up being cancelled to be honest. [ Reply | More ]
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I can see it around the holidays. [ Reply | More ]
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I hate people who bring sick kids to playdates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What treatments help if your eyes don't work well together and one of them is a bit of an wandering eye i.e Strabismus? I also get confused between my left and right sides all the time. If I cross my arms or legs, I can't tell which one is right and which one is left. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Surgery. Eye exercises are useless. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh no, really? Is the surgery expensive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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That will depend on your insurance coverage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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^It should be covered (as it's medically necessary) but that's all subject to whatever deductibles, co-insurance, etc. you are subject to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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Vision therapy is very controversial, but you really need to see a neuropsych and maybe a neurologist for a full workup since there is obviously more going on. This is not an issue for UB. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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Every physician I've talked to about this just laughs it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Getting confused about which side is which is a huge red flag for neurological issues. My dc did OT for something unrelated and the ot noticed he didn't "cross the midline" and told us to get a consult. Just do it. Better to be over-cautious and have them tell you it's minor and fixable than let it get progressively worse. It sounds (in my totally unprofessional opinion, speaking only as someone who's gone through this with dc) like your proprioceptive system or vestibular system is off. [ Reply | More ]
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They are! I struggle a lot with balance issues and I constantly bump into myself! Like I'll bump my elbow onto my jaw or my knees will bump into each other! This happens a lot with me. I also have a lot of confusion about whether to use my right hand or my left hand even though I'm right-handed. But apparently I was lefty when I was a toddler. I've tried so hard to discuss all this with physicians over the years but they just act like it's no big deal and like I'm overreacting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Okay, fuck them. You should see a neurologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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This isn't an issue for a regular MD. It's pretty specialized. My dc was also ambidextrous as a toddler and the neuropsych said that is a red flag, too. I know it is expensive and probably feels like overkill, but I would go get a neuro consult. They will test all this and likely recommend an opthamologist exam and OT as well. A lot of the exercises the OT prescribed really helped my dc, and simple vision exercises at home fixed the wandering eye (I would expect it to be harder with an adult, unfortunately). The longer you wait, the harder it will be to fix, I think. [ Reply | More ]
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What is it a red flag for? Should I see a neuropsychiatrist or a neurologist per se? Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Pinocchio? [ Reply | More ]
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I'd go for a neuro-ophthalmologist before neuropsych. [ Reply | More ]
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Would he be able to help me with my left-right issues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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hold up your hands (palms facing away from you), with your thumbs pointed out - your left arm/hand makes an L shape for left, your right hand/arm does not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Yeah I have some tricks like that as well that I use but imagine every single time someone gives you directions or you have to turn or anything like that, you experience panic and confusion because you can't figure out which one is which? Something seems off, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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I guess, I have never had a firm grasp of left right, but I don't let it get me into a panic - As for directions I have learned to ask North/South/East/West - I do better with that type of direction versus saying left or write. Good luck getting to the bottom of it - panic is no fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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^^lol, not sure where write came from - should be right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Probably, though I don't know if they would perform the surgery to correct the strabismus. Have you seen an ophthalmologist at all? (Skip optometrists, they can't help you.) You could start with an ophthalmologist - ask them if they perform strabismus surgery before going to an appt - and if they feel you need to see a neuro-ophthalm, they can send you to one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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np My friend's daughter was able to correct strabismus with special glasses and exercises. Don't rush into surgery, especially it doesn't sound like eyesight is the only issue here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Thanks! Yeah, I have a whole host of left vs right issues. My left eye is the weaker one btw and the one afflicted with the strabismus. What kind of doctor did your friend's daughter see? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Get an evaluation, but don't fear the surgery. It's common and effective. cost depends on insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking to buy/rent in the UWS over the next couple of years and send DCs to public school. It seems PS87, PS9, PS199, PS166, PS84, PS452 are good - agree? How are PS163 and PS75? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 12.22.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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I've just done pretty much the same exact research and we landed in PS 166 - PS 9 would have been my preferred but apartments seemed a bit more available/affordable in 166. I got the impression that PS 84 was not quite up to par with the others you listed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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84? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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Not 163 or 75 - avoid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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199 might get rezoned so I'd be careful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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PS199 is the best, then PS87. The rest are not all that great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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199 is not that great. Very crowded and the new principal is so-so. I'd go for 87 or 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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I would not do 84 and I would put 166 a tier below what you have their. I would avoid 163 and 75. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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^^there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Pregnant with DB #2 and already petrified and dreading L&D. I never got the "birth amnesia" like you're supposed to get. Talk me down. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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My doctor told me to have a stiff drink when I felt labor coming on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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op: ha! That's what they told my mother. She had 3 rum and cokes. I was induced last time, so heavily medicated, but it wasn't pleasant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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I am old school. I say do what your mom did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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op: she did natural for all three of us, and water birth. So the odds are not good I will repeat. Maybe just the rum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I am going to stop breastfeeding( exclusive pumping) after 7 months. I am so sad and guilty. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Don't feel sad or guilty - 7 months is amazing! I EP'ed for a year, it was insane. Probably wouldn't go that long the next time around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Don't be silly. I stopped at 6 months because it was July an I just couldn't take it any more. My DS is remarkably healthy. Yours will be absolutely fine too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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if you are sad and guilty, why stopping? I stopped because I hated it and saw no reason to continue, was not sad or guilty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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I want to stop it because it's killing me. My posture is really bad while pumping and now back hurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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You will be so relieved and once you stop the guilt will pass in no time. You'll have more time for db, be more rested and in a better mood, and you can feel good knowing you did it for so long. Pumping is miserable! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.22.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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