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[ - ] Charlotte is so cute. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I know. I like looking at them. Life starts handing you all sorts of challenges as time goes on. It's nice to see a family that is still shiny and new. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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but what is the little prince wearing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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They said it was some cute romper thing based on something his dad wore at the same age. I liked the little buttons on the shirt that probably hook into loops on the shorts so his shirt always stays tucked in. sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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He always looks absolutely adorable. I want to pinch his cheeks so bad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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He is Mr. Personality, which is funny because both his parents seem kind of boring. He looks a lot like Kate's dad to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Both of his parents seem slightly introverted, kind, and sweet. That is a personality, one that I prefer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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They dress him in the kind of things Prince Charles wore when little in the 50s or whatever..think even William had less traditional clothes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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I love kate's look [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I have an almost 3 and 5 yo kids. They make insane amount of noise. Is this normal. How do you reach young dc to not scream and run around most of the time. So annoying! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Get a job and hire a nanny, who has experience raising children and can do it better and more effectively than you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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I do WOH. I think the nanny is the one who set this horrible pattern. They where much better behave with our old nanny who moved away 6 mo ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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don't even bother answering these troll responders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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It is normal. They are learning voice modulation. Just keep correctly them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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^correcting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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This. And set the right example. Don't ever yell indoors, don't raise your voice when you get angry, impatient, or excited. Don't run or stomp on the stairs. Don't slam doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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It's normal. If you want to feel immediately better about your situation, watch autism meltdown videos on youtube. You will immediately realize just how normal your kids are, and what some other parents have to go through. It will stop your frustration in 60 seconds and leave you feeling grateful for your very normal kids, who just like to play loudly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] How old were your DC when they memorized your phone number and address (in case they get separated from you and need to ask for help)? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Address age 3.5. Phone number age 5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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We taught each of them a little song with our address when they were 2-3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Pretty young, but can't remember exact age under 5. We also discussed what to do if separated on the subway. That was a big one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there any non trolls on right now? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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I'm not a troll. Just a mom with no kids for the weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Good to know there is at least one other real person on right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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I know, it's dead today. But the weekend is over and it will start up again soon, I'm telling myself to enjoy the boredom. I have one who will be coming home from a weekend with cousins in a few hours, and I will have four 20-year olds (one my son) coming in around 10pm to sleep over and catch an early flight for a 5 day trip together. I think my son is bringing his laundry. That should be fun to do really late at night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Yup, UES near Carl schurz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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Bay Ridge, Brooklyn here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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I am real!!! I live in a bunker in Helena Montanna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Hee, hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Nigger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Doubt it. If you were smart, you would know the nuances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for sleep away camps in the NorthEast? Not too fancy or expensive, but it doesn't have to be shabby. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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You are a little late, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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for next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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Any Y camp- Jewell, Fuller, Frost Valley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Yes to frost valley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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for a boy or a girl? How many weeks? How old are dc and what are you looking for in a camp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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boy. he'll be 11. he likes a little of everything. it would be great if it also had horseback riding. not something that is sports heavy but yes, to some sports. he would also find lake activities fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Camp Rotary in MA, you can go by individual weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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92 md street y has sleep away by the week, I think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] A little seven-year-old boy was shot dead in Chicago last night. No arrests, even though "the community" probably knows who pulled the trigger. How can anyone stand to live in that violent nightmare of a city? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Inability to get out, resignation to living with the devil you know. Their kids get shot. Lots of the "rest of us" in other places die in auto accidents in our cars. It just becomes something you are used to. You're not going to get rid of your car and move somewhere where you don't have to drive, even if you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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I live in that violent nightmare of a city just fine. What happen to that boy was a tragedy, and I'm getting sick of hearing about the violence myself. But don't paint Chicago as a war torn city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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I'm OR. I didn't read or hear about the story, but I'm presuming it was a neighborhood related incident. And they happen in every city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Just as long as you stick to the white neighborhoods, nothing to worry about. Well it is true that Rahm's teenage son was mugged across the street from where they live but that's just part of urban living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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There was a shooting at the Navy Pier last night. That's downtown Chicago. A supposedly "safe" area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Oh shut up. There are black neighborhood here that are totally safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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If you're getting sick of hearing about the violence, then why not demand that your city's leaders put an end to it through better crime-fighting tactics? That would also save many lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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What do you think they're doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Not a damn thing, apparently. That's why Chicago's murder rate continues to be four times higher than NYC's rate, even though NYC actually had a higher rate in the early 1990's than Chicago's rate back then. There's no excuse; just incompetence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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Ok. You're right, I'm wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Eh, whatever. Chances are he would have killed someone else and ended up in jail at some point in his life. Niggers = SCUM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] African girls miss a week of school in Africa because of their periods. It's called the week of SHAME. Just saying. This is just ONE of the many reasons that African girls miss opportunities in Africa. Do any of you know this? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Yes. But I'll add, it's by tribe/country, not overall by the continent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Oh....OK. That makes it alright....Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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So millions of African girls lives don't matter. You know it's millions right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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OR: just saying that it should be identified at the place. How would you feel if everyone judged us on certain groups in the U.S.? There are a lot of Africans who don't practice this shit. Identify source and solve or address problem there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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Why are you so resistant to this issue? I agree that this is a huge problem. But, when talking about this, we need to address the source of the problem. It just creates biases when you lump everything together. Oh, maybe that's the point of OP, to denegrate all Africans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Doesn't matter if they don't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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This. Also, it's not just Africa - there are still a lot of places in Asia, South & Central America, and pockets of the west (North America/Europe) where this happens. But it's slowly changing. We're lucky enough to be born here and now - but remember that WE did not do the work that achieved the standards we live by, so we aren't really in a position to judge other people's progress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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No. We need to judge everyone. If we are going to judge ourselves then we need to point the finger elsewhere as well. The world has gotten smaller and we need to fight for women's rights everywhere. It can go South just as quickly here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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Girls lives don't MATTER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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You notice that this post isn't getting any responses. If some idiot posts about private schools vs. public. Tons of responses. UB women are superficial idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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I am an immigrant and I have experienced things that you think you care about and makes you more enlighten. I find your comment egocentric. Of course most people will care more about their child's school more. It's human nature and completely normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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+1 on all counts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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You don't have a daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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I care in the sense that I have a daughter and I see how sexism is rampand across the world and predators attack women, millions of women are beaten by their partners every year in the US alone. Hindreds of thousands are raped. Thousands are murderd. But id a black guy gets killed by a white cop everyone goes nuts. Something is wrong here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Your post isn't clear. Are you saying that you stayed home because you had your weak of "shame"? Please explain yourself. Don't be vague. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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I care about my daughter's futuer. Incare about the future of women. Women's rights are important to me. They should be important to you too. The world is a better place when women and girls are empowered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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They have to stay at home because that don't have access to sanitary pads and use rags, that are washed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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Here's how to help and make a real difference for a little bit of money. http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/sabrina-rubli/menstrual-cups-east-africa_b_6313436.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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http://www.femmeinternational.org/donate-now.html For only $35 you can support these girls and young women in a meaningful way. Thanks for posting, OP. I've been meaning to contribute for months, but now I'm going to do it and hope others will too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:53 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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LOL niggers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:53 PM Flag
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What is wrong with you? Why are you are so pathetic and obviously miserable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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sad to read this comment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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Just an MRA troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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Africans barely count as human. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC pools are thug magnets. I hate the summertime. 77th St. is like a trip to the ghetto, with rude and rowdy kids from the Bronx. Ugh! 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Let me pat you on the back for a sec. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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77th on the East Side or the West side [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Well I don't know if you are trolling me or not, but the pools in Manhattan are very safe compared to pools elsewhere. In Sweden, the Muslim immigrants use the public swimming pools to rape blonde children. http://vladtepesblog.com/2011/02/26/20-refugees-rape-11-year-old-in-sweden/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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How is that at all relevant to 77th Street ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Watch your plural language when referring to one incident. Makes you sound ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Not just one incident. Many incidents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Your blog cite only referred to one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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I don't need your "many" examples. The site you post is an anti-immigrant blog. We know how you feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Do you know who Vlad Tepes is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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No who is he [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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He is Vlad the Impaler written about as Dracula. I'd be careful reading blogs like these because they tend to be very racist and conservative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Vlad Tepes was a merciless ruler so it's kind of like posting from a blog named hitler.com or someone similar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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I don't agree with that analogy. Dracula was not an anti semite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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I'm talking about merciless killer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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^^^ the point is whomever admires a ruler of this sort will have very narrow and skewed views [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Are you the OR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Then how would you trust this resource? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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*^^not OR, I just happen to know who Vlad Tepes is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Well you refuse to believe what is written on the first web site about he hate crimes, what about reading Haaretz? http://www.haaretz.com/jewish-world/jewish-world-news/attack-on-jewish-community-in-sweden-follows-surge-of-hate-crimes-1.467351 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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The local Chabad rabbi, Shneur Kesselman, claims to have personally experienced around 90 anti-Semitic incidents since moving to Malmo seven years ago. Most attacks are believed to have been committed by Muslims [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Within the next ten years, Sweden will be judenrein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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Why do they project kids go to the UES to play in the pool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Isn't the pool really far from the subway - how do they get to the pool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP: This is the point, they walk along 77th St. which is bad enough usually, but now on hot days it is overrun with rude, spitting, swearing kids from the projects snapping towels at each others' asses and hooting at every girl that walks by. It's awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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No idea. They come down to use the John Jay pool at 77th but really should be using the Thomas Jefferson pool at 112th, in their own neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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OMG! They're coming to your public pool! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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Why not go to the pool where they are welcome? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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So they're not welcome at your pool? Okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Then don't go. Also, consider joining a private pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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This is New York Times liberalism. Public places not safe? Rather than demand this change, you instead change your life so that you don't have to figure out how to reconcile your progressive beliefs with reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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Why should other people have to change to suit your delicate sensibilities? "Oh, clutch my pearls! Children being rowdy and snapping towels! In (gasp!) my own neighborhood!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Is rather be a "thug" than a dried up, nasty racist bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Get raped then. Niggerlover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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Jesus. Niggers are SO gross and annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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Sounds like your dc will be well served to spend some time away from you and with people of different backgrounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:56 PM Flag
[ - ] My nanny does a great job, works for us Monday thru Friday. On the weekends she drives for Uber. She is using the car we provided to her at the start of her employment. How would you feel about this? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Lol. Well what's your percent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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No percent, I mean she has the weekends off so she can do what she wants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I'm searching for feelings, but I have none so far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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What is your exposure if there is an accident? Is the car in your name? who pays the insurance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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This is my only concern. Is it properly insured? What liability do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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The car is in her name. Basically, in order to avoid liability, when she started working for us, DH and I put the car in to her name. Our contract stipulates that when she stops working for us she returns the car to us and transfers ownership back to us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Lawyer here. You don't avoid liability by putting the car in here name. Negligent entrustment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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+1 The contract is proof that the car really belongs to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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Who pays for the car insurance? That might be an issue as you'd need more than regular personal-use insurance, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Where does she pick up the people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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We are in the Hamptons for the summer, and I thought nanny would go to the beach or something on weekends. But instead she parks her car right near the LIRR station and grabs people just as they get off the train and ping uber. Most of the people she are driving are husbands who are taking the train in from Manhattan to get back to families that are out here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Sometimes the nanny picks up guys her own age, basically early twenties groups of guys that have share houses, some of these share houses have thirty people crammed in from what she tells me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I thought the Hamptons made share houses illegal... WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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If she is the owner of record, why the hell do you care? Do you want the car on weekends so you can drive for Uber instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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I am not concerned, I am just asking the other moms here what they think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Bullshit. Go find a hobby, drive the car for Uber yourself, or demand a Soprano-like taste from the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Fine, unless I'd put some kind of cap on the mileage in our work agreement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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She sounds enterprising. More power to her. Better than partying her life away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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I would be fine with it as long as she's not working too much that she's tired on Mondays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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I would take the car away for weekends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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That seems like a lot of extra wear and tear/depreciation on the car. Are you really okay with that? Also, what if all the extra marginal driving means the nanny gets in a car crash that she otherwise wouldn'tve and has to take time off unexpectedly, or worse? This would make me nervous. I'd only really be okay with this if the nanny really buys the car from me for fair market value at the outset, with the stipulation that we'd buy it back at its (depreciated) fair market value when she leaves. Well, actually, I'd still be nervous about the nanny taking herself out of commission with a crash, but I can't tell a grown person what to do with their free time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Not to be smug or offensive, but all these nanny posts make me glad that I'm able to be home with our children. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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I am SAHM but the posts are clearly always skewed towards the moms who have problems. I'm sure lots of moms have nanny relationships that work really well, you just don't see people posting about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Very true. And lots of wack-jobs on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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The nanny posts are silly troll posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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the worst are the ones who complain of how much their nanny eats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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Troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Nope, I couldn't deal with employing someone to take care of our kids and then worry about vacations, staying late, no shoes, arriving late which will make me late for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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^no show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Well, it's true right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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I don't know. I don't have a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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You realize those are all troll posts, correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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The one below, nanny expectations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Yes especially that one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Not all posts are troll posts! I wouldn't doubt all of it is real [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Hi troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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I am sure they aren't trolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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I hate staying home with the kids. Work is my sanity saver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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you want to be smug and offensive. Just own it. Signed mom who was a SAHM for five years. Whenever someone says, i don't want to be a bitch or whatever, that is exactly what they want to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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That's cool. I WOH and have never felt smug about the nanny people (we don't have one either). I'm glad we are a loving and close family. Nanny or no. Doesn't really matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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You sound overwhelmed at the thought of managing someone, so I am glad you're a SAHM and not a WOHM. It's ok, not everyone is cut out for working. Good thing you got a DH to support you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Lol! +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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np: why are YOU glad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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I don't have to work with her. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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"Not to be smug or offensive, but I'm smug and offensive." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] To buy or rent a pied e terre in Manhattan or not to...... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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I own one and love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Awesome! Where do you live and how old are the kids?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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dcs in their 20s, live in Greenwich, pied a terre on UES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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Oh ok! We have little kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Why do you need one if you already live in the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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How often do you use it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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I lived there for 3 months at one time, and use it about every other weekend for 1-3 nights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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HHI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Out of sight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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What's the difference between a pied a terre and an apartment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Unpack from Holiday weekend? Or just leave everything for the Nanny tomorrow? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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This is a tiresome trolling attempt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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LOL. It is actually a real post. I feel guilty if I leave it all for the nanny but I dread doing it myself. She usually unpacks our bags but this weekend the amount of laundry is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Do your own fucking laundry. Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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No need for swearing. We pay our nanny well and to do housework. I don't see why Mom (by default) should be doing the laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Dad and kids can do laundry, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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lazy asses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Why do it when you pay for someone else to do it? I don't understand the guilt in that or the sanctimoniousness of people who can't afford to hire help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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+1. I pay our nanny to do this work. It makes my life easier. If or likes doing laundry, scrubbing toilets or moping floors on weekends she is welcome to it. I am not a super high earner but I make in an hour what it will cost to outsource 5 hours of housekeeping. It is smarter fore to do an hour of professional work instead. It's opportunity cost [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Get it started so it isn't impossible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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you cannot be this lazy, unpack and sort your laundry - throw a load in and put away your toiletries. Nanny can handle whatever you don't get to but at least put your fucking suitcases away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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wow, so much anger that OP can afford household help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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no anger - sorry I swear for the hell of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I asked about private health ins for my mom 2 weeks ago. Someone keeps posting about Medicaid. My mom has 100k in savings. So I don't believe she will qualify. I just want her to be covered. Money not an issue. But pre existing conditions must be covered. Was told Medicare enrollment occurs 1/1-3/31 and then kicks in July 1st. Is that correct? We will pay for that. Thx for your help 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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Medicare is different from Medicaid. Medicare - you need to have covered employment or I think you can pay for it. It is not needs tested. Medicaid is means tested. In any event, thank for bringing your mom to this country and sopping up benefits taxpayers pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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NP. And who are you? A native American who was here in the 17th century? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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Your mother doesn't qualify for Medicare. Read this to understand why: http://www.aarp.org/health/medicare-insurance/info-04-2011/medicare-eligibility.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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I think you can buy your way in. Sucks to be a US taxpayer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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You did not read correctly. Her mother would have to be a resident for at least 5 years to buy her way in. Her mother will simply have to buy insurance and pay whatever it costs. Once she is here 5 years she can buy her way into Medicare, but she will still pay the premiums. You have to pay into the system via 10 years of work (you or your spouse) to fully qualify. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I know my nanny is annoyed that i did not pay her for the 4th. I give her 56 hours of pto and 8 paid holidays. She can kiss my ass 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Did she have the 3rd off? If so, don't see a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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She took 2 and 3rd off as pto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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So, no she didn't have it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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Exactly. The 3rd should have been a paid holiday IMHO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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8 days is generous. My guess is two days at Christmas, two at Thanksgiving, one each New Years, MKL, Presidents day, Memorial Day and Labor day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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July 3rd is not a holiday! If a holiday falls on the weekend you don't get a day off of work necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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July 3rd was a federally recognized holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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You're clueless. July 3rd was the observed holiday, so if you get the major holidays off Friday July 3rd was a paid holiday off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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You sound like a great employer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Enough trolling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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so what are the 8 holidays you pay for? its fine if one of them is not july 4, but if you promised her 8 of them, then give them to her - why you don't have this figured out already is beyond me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: my 4 year old daughter asks for "bath time with Daddy" as her gift now. Every time she has the chance for a present or a reward (birthday, eating all her dinner, etc.), she now asks to "take a bath with Daddy." So I fill the tub with bubbles so she's not traumatized to see the naked male form yet, then I get in quickly and cover up, then she strips and gets in and starts splashing around. Could be cute if it ended there, but then she sits down and tries to wiggle back against me, and I have to keep her at bay. She'll stand up, shake her little tush, and talk about how good the warm water feels, and she'll go up to the faucet, turn it on, and wash herself under the stream, cooing and sometimes looking over her shoulder at me. Then my wife walks by the open bathroom door and gives a look I can only describe as jealousy. After bath time is over and I'm all dried up, my wife gives me the silent treatment for the rest of the night. I'll come up and start talking about the neighbors or ask her about her day at work, and she'll just sort of go "hmph" and keep her back to me. WTF, no one told me being a husband and father was going to be like this. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Go away. You and your same posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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np. I guess if he's here, he's not doing greater harm in the world. Maybe we're keeping him from committing greater crimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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I've never seen this post before - NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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On a good night when he's on a roll he'll post it at least ten times or more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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that's a bad night, not a good night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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Actually, it sounds like an excellent night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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bully for you - it's been posted many, many times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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I've seen it a few times over the last month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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np. Oh, is this a repost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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OMG lol - NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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You keep posting this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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Repeat post. Yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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Flagged and collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Reality check. My DH left me about 8 weeks ago. I am truly hoping to reconcile. How long is it realistic to wait? 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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^^ I should add that we never really fought, I don't nag and we had a decent sex life up until about 3 months ago when he announced he wanted out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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He's a sociopath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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A lot of people on this board will disagree with me, but if reconciIiation is something you want, I think your best strategy is to roll over and agree to everything, tell him that you only want him to be happy, and just ask if he will consider holding off on divorce for a little while until he's sure it is what he wants. If he is adamant about going through with a divorce, then lawyer up (which I hope you've already done). However, if he is actually confused, it may give him time to sort out his feelings. Even better, if there's someone else, it gives you a chance to turn into the nice one when the gf starts nagging him to move things along. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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If he is not confused she will end up with nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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That's why I said she should already have a lawyer. Act as if he's not coming back; let *him* think he can. It's the only way to turn a man around: to become unavailable and bend with the wind and let them go. Only then is there a chance. But, you're right, if they're determined to be gone - they're gone. I've known of husbands who have come back after much longer, though. 8 weeks is nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Thanks. It is sort of the strategy I have resorted to after a period of tears and asking him to reconsider before he left the house as I didn't want to tell DCs. Since he left, I ask nothing of him, am pleasant when we have interactions surrounding DCs and have been super flexible in response to any requests. I am not financially dependent on him and have consulted a lawyer as I don't want to screw myself over. For now, I'll continue to concentrate on my DCs, spending time with friends and enjoy the life I do have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Why in the world would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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I don't really believe he knows what he is doing. And it sounds contrived but I want our family to stay intact and after soo many years together, it is difficult to grasp giving up on the relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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np. You don't really know this yet. Lots of DHs go through a period of time in mid-life where they go through a very real transition where they do crazy things. Some people here get all upset when the phrase "midlife crisis* is mentioned, but it was 100% real for me. It was like my DH flipped a switch, and it wasn't just me and the marriage. He ignored his friends, his family and the kids. He got all new friends, started spending crazy money on them (he had the money to spend). No one knew what the hell was wrong with him. Even his business partners sat him down at one point and said if he didn't straighten his shit out, they were going to collectively kick him out of the partnership. He just went through this phase (it lasted a few years) where it was "fuck everything." He ultimately came through it, but it took a few years and he had to hit a rock bottom. All that time we didn't get divorced, and we weren't separated, but he did come and go as he wished. And sometimes he'd disappear for days. I had the lawyer ready to go, but ultimately he imploded on his own, and when it happened, I was still there. His "friends" not so much. Don't think all men know what they are doing when this kind of thing happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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I'm sorry - but I find that a terrible example for you to set for your kids. I cannot imagine letting your kids see that it's okay for their dad to treat their mom this way. Awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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My kids didn't know. If they asked where dad was, I just said he was working. I'm pretty sure quite a few other moms tell their kids the same thing. The kids don't know any different if you are good about how you handle yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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So you protected him at the expense of your children. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Do you think a man would protect a fucked up wife? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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why would you lie to your children to protect your cheating DH's reputation? you realize the only one this benefits is your DH? he must have been in heaven to have married such a willing enabler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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I'm sure they know more than you think or suspect or at the least are confused. Way to gaslight them for your DH's benefit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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Word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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MIDLIFE assholes leave the first wife for the sad sack girl at work. And decide that they are "soul mates" with the idiot 25 year old at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Thanks for this perspective. My DH is negative about anyone and everything in his life, his family, friends, work, etc. This apparently is all my fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Sure. Because men blame others. Stats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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OP, this is typical cheater behavior. Actually, I would say the biggest red flag of a DH who will cheat is someone who blames everyone else for his problems and misery, especially his wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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So this supposedly worked out for you. So you think that all these other women are going to be OK. They aren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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LEt me ask you what was in it for you? I mean if you divorced, you would most likely have gotten the kids since he was being so erratic and half his money. Why would you stay with such a loser? I would have divorced his ass, taken all his money and kids and started with again with a brand new man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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nnp: Some people have more empathy and stronger willpower than you. They undertand the meaning of "for better and for worse" more than you do, apparently [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Seems you live in a world of nasty people. No one I know has done this type of stuff where they fight through lawyers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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I don't know any women whose husbands left who ended up back together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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He's a sociopath. He's not confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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+1. He knows exactly what he's doing. This is why he might appear confused and indecisive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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Just to reiterate, no married man just leaves without a woman waiting in the wings. Maybe they haven't gotten physical yet, but he is hoping to and he wants to show her he is separated by moving out on you and thereby increase his chances with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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Yes, I disagree. 99% certain he is having an affair. Best chances for reconciliation are to enforce consequences quickly and swiftly, which means going no-contact (just email necessary info about the kids) and getting your ducks in a row and filing for divorce ASAP. By being nice to him you are rewarding sh*tty behavior and allowing him to have his cake and eat it, too--and he will string you and the OW as long as he possibly he cani [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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or. I think I agree with you in the way that you go no contact - but I recommend doing it in the positive way. Don't punish, just let go. The more you punish and turn into the "mom" figure, the more you reduce the potential for them to come back to you. Even if they decide they want to come back, you've created the scenario where the only way they can do it is with their tail between their legs. "Please mommy let me come home now." Men won't do that. They'll bite off their nose to spite their face if you make them humiliate themselves doing it. Did your husband come back to you under your scenario? Did the husbands of any of your friends come crawling back? I just don't see it working. I see it as making sure you are divorced in short order. OP doesn't want that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. I don't play the role of bitch well. I keep contact to a minimum and no discussion of us or our relationship. I feel like I should at least give it some time before I file. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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That's the point. The only reason you should let him back is if he is willing to do anything and everything to make it up to you, even if that means "humiliating" himself. If he doesn't, he is just using you as an easy fall-back option and will likely leave you/cheat on you again. FYI, I have hundreds of emails and texts where my DH begged me to take him back, couldn't live without me, etc., but he wasn't willing to do the actions that show true remorse, so it was a "no go" for me. And he only started begging me to let him back once I filed for divorce. Being "nice" to him just let him feel like he was in the driver's seat and that I would always be there "waiting" for him, so he didn't feel like he had to make any decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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Regarding the "string you and the OW along as long as he possibly can" ... from another perspective, I respectfully call it "letting the whole thing play out." That's based on the premise that the OW is not a real tried and true love, and is basically just an infatuation that will burn out in good time. He doesn't share a life with her. He shares a life with you. Only you can decide whether you want to hand your husband over to the OW and make her a permanent part of all of your lives, or take the very real chance that she'll grow less attractive over time. I decided I didn't want OW as the potential stepmother of my children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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you are sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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np: Child of divorce here. I view you as the sad one. Wish my parents would have worked things out after the cheating. Having an abusive stepdad is no fun. I haven't talked to my mother in 10 years and have no plans to. But enjoy having your "pride" because apparently that's more important than your relationship with your kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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so you stayed with your DH even though he had an ongoing affair? how did that turn out? even if the relationship ended he went "back" to you, you know he is just using you as a backup option until he finds his next one, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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nnp: Still seems like a much better alternative to getting a divorce and bringing stepparents into the mix. Then you have no say in how they parent your kids. You can get emotional fulfillment in other places aside from a DH. Having a father figure intact and everyone living together is more important than having a fairy tale romance IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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I don't think he is having an affair but I am sure he'd like to date a 28 year old. The reason I say this is that I have access to his iCloud and he just signed up for a dating site this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Doesn't matter whether he's having an affair. He is itching too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Stop this insanity! People reconcile, there is probably no affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Won't work. OP is screwed. She should look for a caretaker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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I don't need one. I can afford my lifestyle as it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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He's an asshole. Stop saying he is "SCARED" or "CONFUSED". This is what sociopaths tell women. ' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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OP here..mine says none of these things. What he says is he feels caged and wants freedom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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So he's still a sociopath. You will waste more your youth on this guy. Ugh. So sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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Not everyone is a sociopath. Some people actually do get confused [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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This. Stop with the bullshit that cheating equals sociopath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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Men acting badly = men making themselves the victim. That's what a midlife crisis is. There was a time in the not-so-distant past when people actually controlled themselves and manned up. Life isn't "good" as the T-shirt says; it's f**king hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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Best advice on here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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He has another oman. 100% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Your dh is either a sociopath or a narcissist. This is probably a fake post but these are the facts. Women whose DHs left them were involved with sociopaths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I don't think he is a sociopath. He may be narcisstic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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You know that it's the same thing right. shit. Women are such idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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You are very simple minded if you think everyone who cheats is a sociopath or a narcissist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Pease don't listen to these people. Dh may just need some time. Wait a little longer, dh will be back. Affairs are less common than one would think. These people watch too much tv drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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No. He's going to sleep with as many women as he can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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no, he will only come back if Ow dumps him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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8 weeks is nothing. But I know the first weeks feel the longest. For me it was a year. The first 8 weeks were the hardest. It got much easier after 3 months. That's when I stopped crying every day. Now that year just seems like a blur in the grand scheme of things. Good luck, op. Hang in there. I'm going to check back and see how you're doing each week on here. Maybe one of the times you will see my post and respond. I promise, it gets easier. The first 2 months are the worst. The third month of half as bad as the second. And each month after that is easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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So he treated you horribly and you want to reconcile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:01 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: I had gay sex last night and I think I'm traumatized. I've had a "sissy" fantasy for a long time. The idea of being a woman really turns me on or at least it does while I'm alone. Last night, I decided to go all the way and have sex with an actual man and it was absolutely terrible. I walked into his apartment and he started fondling me and calling me sexy but I was not into it at all. I didn't want to disappoint him and ended up going all the way, but the entire experience was horrendous. I woke up today and I don't feel like myself at all. I'm shaky and a nervous wreck. I feel like I've made a huge mistake and basically destroyed my masculinity for nothing. Its honestly making me sick to my stomach. I try not to think about it, but the thoughts of him touching and caressing me come back and then I feel like puking. I'm almost wish I would die. I have no idea what to do. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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ยป sometimes one has to experiment across the spectrum to be confident in their sexuality. now you have lived out that fantasy, and know that it is not for you. you live and learn. stop thinking about it and move forward. i think the bigger issue is the betrayal to your wife. i would definitely not tell her if you are 100% sure you are not gay. just bury that experience deep in a closet. your life is ruined if she finds out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Reddit is for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Hey troll...What are you getting out of these post. You are on a women's board for god sake. You probably are sitting at your computer in dirty underwear, wanking your tiny penis. I'm sorry you are an ugly person who is never going to get a date but this is sad and pathetic. You don't even post original crap. Just the same crap you stole over and over again. You are sad. Get help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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I woke up today and I don't feel like myself at all. I'm shaky and a nervous wreck. I feel like I've made a huge mistake and basically destroyed my masculinity for nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Fag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Fag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Again with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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I thought you had gay sex last night and were "torn" about it because you enjoyed. God, I'm confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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Nice triy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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