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[ - ] Anyone use a birth/postpartum doula? I have had two friends recommend using one. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, 13 years ago. It was great for me as I have very few family members [ Reply | More ]
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I used a doula once I got home, to support breast feeding. She ended up being much more touchy-feely crunchy than I thought she would, and I found it annoying to have her around. [ Reply | More ]
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Like touching your boobs and stuff? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: lol. No. I am pretty practical and she was much more kumbaya than she seemed at the interview. Like super zen and a little judgmental of things that were not. I also don't like having people I don't know well around, so I couldn't wait for her to leave. [ Reply | More ]
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Imagine. A crunchy doula. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: It was 2001. I had never heard of a doula. My impression was that they provided breast-feeding support. I didn't realize it was a whole thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] VENT: Parent's weekend at my freshman DD's college. One girl in DD's friend group makes a dinner reservation for the friends and parents at the most expensive restaurant in town. Not just simple expensive—extremely expensive. Cheapest entree is $42. It is wholly unnecessary when taking out college kids. The kid who made the reservation did not get input from anyone else, and her mom didn't hold her back! I grudgingly went. An expensive bottle of wine is ordered. AND 2 of the 6 girls do not even have parents there -- so I am paying for these other girls too! It cost me $175. Here's the kicker: At the end of the meal, all the parents said, "Let's make this an annual tradition." GRRRRR. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:02 PM Flag
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That is annoying [ Reply | More ]
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Yikes. That's crazy!! Where does your kid go to college that there's a restaurant like that around anyway? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't want to out her/myself. It's a famous college town, though. Not a big city, but it has a good food scene. [ Reply | More ]
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Give us an example? Like I remember when I went to Penn in the '80s, whenever parents would come, they always took their kids to Bookbinders, which was a very touristy/fairly pricey restaurant, even though Philly had lots of other places that would have been more fun, cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:13 PM Flag
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An example of what? [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't want to out myself if I were you, either. You sound cheap as hell. [ Reply | More ]
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eh, $175 is not much at all for a nice dinner for you and dd and whatever you chipped in for the stray girls. Your dd will have to figure out a way to keep up with her crowd though -- Aspen and St Bart's aint cheap. [ Reply | More ]
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It IS a lot. And it is totally RUDE for the student/parent who just decided that this is where all 11 of us were going to go. The Mexican restaurant down the street has excellent food and would have been more fun. [ Reply | More ]
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also might have added up to $175. For two people plus drinks, plus kicking in for girls whose parents weren't there? Really really does not seem expensive to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:14 PM Flag
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No, it's not a lot. It's actually pretty sad that you can't drop 175 on a nice group dinner for parents' weekend. I could do this when I was in my twenties making 40K. I think I did. Suck it up, mom. Your dd goes to college. Don't ruin it for her by being the cheap parent. I hope you did not share any of these thoughts with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:15 PM Flag
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Eh. The friends group will change over several times. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it a college town where there is one nice fancy restaurant? And the students can only afford to go with parents? [ Reply | More ]
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There are a lot of GREAT restaurants in this town. This one happens to be the most expensive, by far. I would MAYBE consider going there for graduation or another very special occasion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:12 PM Flag
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This has to be down south or out west. [ Reply | More ]
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Or up north or out east. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
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I would be pissed. Not about the money, but at people who have zero clues on how to function in real world. It's not always me me me. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Exactly! I am having trouble putting this behind me. I am just infuriated that an 18 year old made this decision and the mom did not intervene. Chutzpah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:15 PM Flag
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Your dd has chosen this friend group. She wants to get out of her LMC upbringing and seems to be doing a good job. GREAT for her! [ Reply | More ]
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Likely they won't all be friends next year and beyond. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm glad you are not my mom. sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds fun. What's the big problem? [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Am I in for that? There was no such thing as Parent's Weekend when I went to college. My parents never met another set of parents in my entire undergraduate and graduate (2 degrees) career. [ Reply | More ]
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Getting a free dinner at an expensive restaurant when one of your friend's parents come to town is an old tradition. However, it's not for the kids to make reservations on someone else's dime. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Two families from my UES preschool are going to Town. What is it like? Thinking about for ds for next year. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:56 PM Flag
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Unless you have a sibling or other preference, save the postage. [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you say that I only hear really good things about the school [ Reply | More ]
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She's saying you can't get in. [ Reply | More ]
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Doesn't every school have sibling/ connection preferences? Why are they different? [ Reply | More ]
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Can we just say for the sake of this conversation that getting in is a possibility? What is the school like? [ Reply | More ]
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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They have a nursery school. And 2 kindergartens. Approx 1/2 to 2/3 of class I would guess are siblings and from NS [ Reply | More ]
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I know two families who got in as well and neither are siblings/connected. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe they are the same two [ Reply | More ]
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We toured it and really liked it. Nice kids, nice families. Has an unassuming vibe but there are some high powered type parents there. Not TT according to UB (a criteria which I dont prescribe to personally) but the kids go onto great high schools. DS was waitlisted. You should definitely check it out for your child, but know that if you really want it then you have to voice that from the beginning to the DOA. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ds approaching 13th birthday and it seems that there are no obvious signs of puberty. He has not changed in the pubic region at all and I am concerned he may be underdeveloped in that area. He has mentioned that he is self-conscious about showering in front of others in the locker room. Anyone else BTDT? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:52 PM Flag
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Troll. [ Reply | More ]
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No, but thanks for being completely not helpful. [ Reply | More ]
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Puberty comes at different ages for boys. The differences in middle school are vast. I'd stop showing so much interest in his "pubic region" if i were you....let him talk to a doctor. [ Reply | More ]
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Believe I do not want to be involved. A teammate made a comment akin to "dude you have no d#*k". [ Reply | More ]
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Did you notice when he was a baby anything unusual? [ Reply | More ]
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Not at all! [ Reply | More ]
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What sports is he playing at 13 that he needs to be showering with others in a locker room? [ Reply | More ]
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It is just a quick after practice shower. There are stalls but aparently someone made a comment. [ Reply | More ]
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If your next visit with the ped is close, you can mention it to the doctor. They know how to gently broach these subjects and they seem to have the right things to say. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG! My DS didn't let me get close to the "pubic region" after he was about 10... And I'm the mom who walks around naked! [ Reply | More ]
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He brought it up b/c he was insulted by a comment someone made [ Reply | More ]
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My DS just turned 15 and is just starting puberty. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, that makes me feel better. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] At this point, I should just accept that we're not going to get off any of our wait lists and start working on Plan B? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What's plan B? [ Reply | More ]
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I guess public school. Zoned school sucks. I guess we're going to try and move asap for PS6 or 290. I honestly don't know. Very confused right. [ Reply | More ]
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Which one is your zoned school? [ Reply | More ]
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527 [ Reply | More ]
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I thought public school admission is closed, hour does this plan work out practically? [ Reply | More ]
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I guess it doesn't. I've been told if we move in by March 1st and can prove we have a lease for two months by May 1st, it could work out? But honestly, I don't really know what I'm talking about. This is based on what friends have told me. I really should have worked on a Plan B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:14 PM Flag
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Try Success if they're still open for lottery application. We were R2 and shutout last year. Gave up so so district for SA. Very happy so far, although really loathe the early hours and long commute. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! Will look into it! [ Reply | More ]
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Which are your wait lists? Some could work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:55 PM Flag
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Chapin, Marymount and Sacred Heart. A few other schools have told us that their wait lists are now closed. [ Reply | More ]
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Which schools closed already? I bet you will get off one of those tomorrow morning. [ Reply | More ]
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Brearley and Dalton. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you get any acceptances? [ Reply | More ]
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No. All wait lists. [ Reply | More ]
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good luck op, maybe one of them will still come through -- hoping for you! [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, you will get in one of those! Chin up! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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Have you spoken with anyone at Chapin? [ Reply | More ]
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Twice yesterday but nothing since then. [ Reply | More ]
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Public? [ Reply | More ]
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It might sound crazy, but at this point you should plan on visiting AD tomorrow morning. [ Reply | More ]
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Really? Just show up? Not to sound mean but won't I look crazy? [ Reply | More ]
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responses aren't due until tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 545 and still decent light out. Spring is coming,ladies! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, it will be here on Saturday! [ Reply | More ]
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why, what's Saturday? [ Reply | More ]
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I have been absolutely loving it being 5pm and not feeling like midnight [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If dh and I and odd start hugging each other a lot more in front of 20 month Ds, will that help him become more affectionate? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Are you affectionate with your child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:40 PM Flag
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Yes, but he doesn't like affection for some reason unless on his terms. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean by "on his terms"? [ Reply | More ]
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He will come up to us for a hug. We've been hugging and h Kissing him his whole life but he always pulls away. [ Reply | More ]
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He feels smothered. [ Reply | More ]
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That's because if he's not sleepy, you're boring him [ Reply | More ]
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Your poor kid. [ Reply | More ]
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Some things can't be forced. Be yourselves. [ Reply | More ]
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I think that you should for yourself and for DH. If you are worried about DS, talk to your pediatrician. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I know people love to bash Trevor here, but any actual lower school parents on? What do you think of the school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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we really liked it. obviously the only issue is that there are more academically challenging schools with much better college matriculation. that's it. so as a result, most families that get into a "better" school, choose that school. But Trevor is great. We felt the same way about Browning, and I am not trying to diss Browning. We loved it. Had ds not gotten into a school we deemed tt that we also liked, we would have happily sent him there. It's all about value on your investment (and I'm NOT a finance person), but if we are spending $45k+ per kid over 13 years, we want whatever we deem to be the best our money can buy. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is 7 too young for the first Harry Potter? He and I would switch off paragraphs or pages. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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As long as it's not too scRy for the child. My Dd can read it fine, just thinks it's too scary. [ Reply | More ]
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No, first three are fine. [ Reply | More ]
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Reading it now with my 6yo. She's rivited! We will probably just do the first one or two til she's older. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope my 7 yo (in January) got them at Christmas and devoured the first three. He is lobbying for #4 but I have let him read the common sense media that says he needs to be older. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would you wear to a NYC private school interview (for a teaching position)? I am not sure what the teachers who work there wear, but I would assume it's an anything-but-jeans type dress code. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you know anyone who teaches there that you could ask? I would not wear jeans to any interview for any job. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't. And yeah, I won't wear jeans. I just don't want to be ridiculously overdressed. [ Reply | More ]
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Google the school's website and see if there are any photos of teachers in the classroom setting. [ Reply | More ]
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A suit will do. [ Reply | More ]
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this is overkill for a teaching job [ Reply | More ]
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I'd wear a simple dress, tights and flat boots. [ Reply | More ]
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You still want to dress up a bit. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't go by what the teachers wear on a daily basis. It's expected that you'll put a little more effort than that into an interview if you want them to take you seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, that's helpful. [ Reply | More ]
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Lower, middle or upper school? How senior are you? What is the vibe of the school? [ Reply | More ]
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Lower. Head teacher. Relatively traditional. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Helen has sex with her son's surgeon in the basement? Do people commonly do things like this? And she had sex with her BIL? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Who is Helen? [ Reply | More ]
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The Affair [ Reply | More ]
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Her BIL? I don't think so. He was a close friend but not actual brother. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, could not figure out the relationship there. [ Reply | More ]
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College friend of Helen and Noah [ Reply | More ]
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They all went to college together and were tight friends. Friend always had a crush on Helen, but Helen and Noah were a couple. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ski moms - have you taken younger DCs (like 1yo-2yo) to high altitude spot? Worried about altitude sickness in littles. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What's a little? [ Reply | More ]
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little kids [ Reply | More ]
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Meet the Littles, a family like any other but with a few tiny differences! They live in the walls of the Bigg family house where they get everything they need. In return they make sure the Bigg house is always in good repair. [ Reply | More ]
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Love that book, and great for young readers. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like they take good vacations. [ Reply | More ]
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But is that the family of Mr Bigg from SATC? [ Reply | More ]
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Have taken my kids to Utah / Colorado high altitude since they were babies, like 6 months. Just keep them hydrated and they're fine. Pack tylenol in case of headaches but really it's been a non-issue for us. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. Heading to Utah and was worried about my two youngest (baby and 2yo). Oldest (6yo) should be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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np: I would be most cautious with 6 yr old assuming he can already ski - if he is used to east coast he might push it and get headache, etc. just take it easy first day there and drink lots of water. We ski both here and there frequently and this has been our experience. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone get pregnant while on an anti-depressant? Did you taper off? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I got on one after getting pg. [ Reply | More ]
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really? [ Reply | More ]
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Wait, sorry, before getting pg. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you stay on it? Worried that it might affect the baby. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, the levels are fine. On 100 zoloft. It increases chances of birth defects from by less than 1%. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, I'm on 50. My doc says it is fine but was worried. Can you tell I take it for anxiety?!! [ Reply | More ]
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lol, me too. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I was on 75 Zoloft through 2 pregnancies and 2 extended breastfeeding a. We are all totally fine. You will be totally fine op! [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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I took a low dose of celexa during my pregnancy. I had been taking the medicine for years before TTC and went off of it when I first decided to get pregnant but my anxiety was out of control so I went back on. My DD is 2.5 and totally normal. [ Reply | More ]
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ok, thanks. same issue - anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
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Which medication are you on? Some are considered safer than others. [ Reply | More ]
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zoloft 50 mg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:54 PM Flag
[ - ] To all of you who had an abortion and think it was the best thing for you, your life would have been ruined, etc. -- why couldn't you have put the baby up for adoption? Would it have ruined your career/education/whatever to have had a baby and not have to raise it? I feel this is option is so overlooked these days. It's always, "Should I keep it or should I abort?" If you think raising a baby would ruin your life, put it up for adoption. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Oh go away, sanctimonious bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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+! [ Reply | More ]
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+1,000. My brother and his wife put a baby up for adoption when they were both college freshman and had been dating just a few months. She was Catholic and wouldn't consider an abortion. They did end up together again after college and eventually married. Now at 46 they say it was the biggest mistake they ever made, because living all of these years knowing they have a child out there somewhere has taken an enormous emotional toll on them both. In other words, you're an idiot and have no clue what you're talking about. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually, I was adopted, so I have some idea. Thankfully, my teenage bio mom got pregnant before Roe V Wade. [ Reply | More ]
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Np - I'm interested in why you feel this qualifies you to pass judgment on others. I thought we were all going to be notified of the second coming, yet here you are in all of your glory making pronouncements on the actions of others. Not even a "hey, Jesus is back, come to the break room for cake at 3:00" email to let us all know you're back? [ Reply | More ]
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wow. Have they tried searching for her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:41 PM Flag
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They've always known where the child is and would make tapes and videos to send her when she was 18, which her adoptive parents were 100% on board with. They told their three children they had about their sister as soon as they were old enough to understand. Her 18th birthday came, they sent The box off, her adoptive parents explained to her what it was and who it was from. A week later it was returned to them unopened. Her adoptive parents felt awful, but understandably weren't going to force her to open it. They never heard from her again. [ Reply | More ]
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That sounds fishy to me. If the adoptive parents were on board with contact, why did they have to wait until she was a legal adult? Usually that's the age when kids can access adoption records without parental consent. I wonder if there was more to it on the adoptive parents side. [ Reply | More ]
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I guess that could be, although they seemed like good people. Waiting until she was 18 was at the recommendation of the counselers at the adoption agency. [ Reply | More ]
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So they'd rather know it was dead? Good night. I imagine they think the mistake was putting the baby up for adoption, not not having an abortion. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, I couldn't carry and give birth to a child and then give it up for adoption - I'm not strong enough for that. I have great admiration for women who do it, so the child will have a "better life." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:31 PM Flag
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Sadly yes, many women's careers will be damaged by having an unplanned pregnancy and giving up the baby. You think people won't judge her for that? Guess again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:35 PM Flag
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It's a damn job -- in this day and age, you'll have more than one. People judge you for all kinds of shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:46 PM Flag
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methinks this attitude to career is why you are incapable of seeing the point of abortions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:50 PM Flag
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She probably doesn't work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:06 PM Flag
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Yes, like having an abortion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:55 PM Flag
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The difference is that abortions don't generally come with a months-long belly-shaped public advertisement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:58 PM Flag
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Or don't have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:36 PM Flag
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Not an option if you already have kids. If you feel like having another kid would ruin your family's lives, you abort, happens all the time, BC can fail and abortion is a way to keep your family size manageable. If you go forward with PG, once the baby is born, he/she is born into your family, it's your baby and you cannot look at it any other way. I cannot fathom giving away my baby, if I already have others and this baby deserves as much as his/her older siblings. When you are early in 1st trimester, it's just a probability that there will even be a baby, often a very small probability given high rates of MC and if you also have other issues. I don't know how you could even compare aborting something that has high chances of MC and doesn't even have a heartbeat yet and giving away a real baby, born into your family, who you had carried for 9 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:37 PM Flag
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Great point, most people don't know that six in 10 (American) women having an abortion already have a child, and more than three in 10 already have two or more children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:44 PM Flag
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By the time you know you're pregnant, your chance of miscarriage is not that high. By the time you have an abortion (particularly young women, who are most likely to have them) it's even lower. I don't understand people who say they could never give a baby up for adoption but have no problem with abortion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:44 PM Flag
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Because it's a live baby you hold in your arms, not a probability of being a healthy baby. And if you are already a mother, you will never give away your child. It's the same thing as giving up your older child for adoption to make space for a new baby, get it? You form attachment, it's natural and hormonal, even single women find it extremely hard to give away their baby, not to mention mothers with multiple kids. And as far as MC is concerned, are you the OBGYN, an expert on that? Many of us had MCs, some multiple ones. Most women, who don't want the baby would abort very very early before week 7, when chances of MC are extremely high, there are medical abortions (pills) that work as early as 4-5 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:56 PM Flag
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STFU and get off this board [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:38 PM Flag
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I totally regret having my abortion 15 years ago. I was at a critical point in my career and didn't even consider carrying it to term. In the end the project I was working on turned to shit. There was horrible fallout that affected everything - I feel like there was a curse on my life for what I did. Then I got saved and my life got back on track - almost exactly at the point I had left off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:38 PM Flag
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There was no curse on your life, you are projecting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:50 PM Flag
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You're either a person who believes in the spiritual unseen aspect of life or not. If you're the former, an abortion is a curse. "while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal." 2 Cor 4:18. "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed" psalm 139:15-16 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart" Jer 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:01 PM Flag
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OP, abortion is murder and will affect your life in eternity. The world says abortion is okay, but you can't go along with the world and God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:03 PM Flag
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Don't you have a cross to bun on someone's lawn? Or some Trump flyers to hand out down at the gun range? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:08 PM Flag
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Yes, my life would have been completely different as I was in high school when I got pregnant. It had nothing to do with my career as I was a child myself and was emotionally incapable of carrying a baby to term. Also, I can't imagine being pregnant and not wanting to keep the baby once it came. I am not pro-abortion, simply pro-choice and I'm glad I had the choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:47 PM Flag
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I had multiple MCs and know a lot of women, who had at least one, I don't believe that life begins at conception, my experience had taught me that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:48 PM Flag
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Oh, for goodness sake. An early abortion is akin to a missed period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:50 PM Flag
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Thissssss you ignoramuses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:53 PM Flag
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And late periods are sometimes very early failed PGs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:58 PM Flag
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Because there are already too many unwanted babies in the world, why add to that number? Why don't you spend you time on improving our adoption system to make sure every abandoned baby or neglected child finds a good family. It would be a much better use for your time, than preaching to UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:50 PM Flag
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All right, how many babies do YOU want to adopt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:51 PM Flag
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Or foster? seems as though OP should open her home up to all of the unwanted children in the foster care system - otherwise she's just a raging hypocrite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:10 PM Flag
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I got pregnant late senior year, but you couldn't tell I was pregnant. I didn't feel right aborting, so I deferred my college until the spring semester after I had the baby and my mother found a good family that couldn't have a child to give the baby to. She is better off and doing well. I see pictures of her occasionally. She is in so many activities & does well in school. I am happy with the way things turned out for everyone, but ultimately you have to make the best decision for you at the time even if that means having an abortion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:56 PM Flag
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Clearly you've not visited your local adoption agency lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:59 PM Flag
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yea, no...was not an option for me, you might think it was, but it wasn't....you can make your own decisions and I'll make mine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:06 PM Flag
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The world really doesn't need a lot of new babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:07 PM Flag
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I already had two kids. There was no way I could explain it to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I have many paper savings binds. Maybe 20k worth. I've lost some over the years. Now they don't even issue savings bonds as paper. Is there any way to recover the lost ones and exchange the paper ones for a digital record? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:26 PM Flag
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Bonds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:39 PM Flag
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There's a website that lets you search for funds in your name that are uncollected - most bonds fall into this category. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:43 PM Flag
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Do you have the link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have any insight on UNIS? I never hear anything about it but am intrigued. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:23 PM Flag
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It's a good school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:32 PM Flag
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my ds goes there, a lot of international students and I like that, but values between nationalities differ. Think Northern European permissiveness, I thought I was cool till I ran into that. Apparently, I am so not cool. Terrible location, IB program is a ridiculous amount of work -- don't like that at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:32 PM Flag
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Describe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:37 PM Flag
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OP: we live closeby and DH is German, we're always sort of curious about it but kids go to public for now. Thx for input. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 10:39 PM Flag
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The HS' reputation isn't great: the brighter kids take the SHSAT and leave for other high schools, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.16, 11:00 PM Flag
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