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[ - ] Do children who get shut out of 2s programs ever successfully apply for the 3s programs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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To the same school, probably not, but there are so many more 3s programs than 2s. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] After years of hard work I am finally getting promoted and get to move to a much bigger office. I just finished packing my stuff and reminiscing/reflecting how far I've come, basically reviving a dead career after a truly horrible marriage&divorce. I called home to let DC and the sitter know what time to expect me as I'm running later than planned. I was feeling a lot of pride before the call but DC started crying that he never gets to see me and I'm going to be home so late and can't I just stay home for the rest of the week. Back to feeling like crap, nothing is ever good enough. I have to work because xdh is a deadbeat dad. Just venting on the train home... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Congrats on the hard work but try to be understanding of dc. I assume the deadbeat also doesn't spend any meaningful time with ds so you are it for him. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes that is true. I do everything for DC ( not complaining). It's been tough for the both of us but I was just feeling proud of myself and then very guilty. [ Reply | More ]
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You should feel proud mama! Make the best of your situation and just love on your son. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
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Don't sweat the small stuff, this could have happened even if you had a partner. Celebrate your victories and then go home and love your kids. Yes you will be late but you are doing everything you can. Similar situation when dcs were 6&8, it was soo hard trying to rebuild with one salary and being a single mom-- but I regret being so stressed. My kids just wanted me there, sometimes I was there but still feeling guilty and not present. Now dcs are in HS and doing really well but I wish I had been a little more focused and a little less stressed about their lives not being "perfect". [ Reply | More ]
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+1000. My biggest regret is being so stressed that I wasn't present in a way my dc's deserved. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks... Sometimes I need reminders that he won't always need me like this and just go with the flow instead of stressing over stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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They will be proud of you when they are older. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^CPA mom. DD is now 19, and loves to tell all her friends about my job. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you for sharing that. I have been trying to be more'present' and enjoy all the neediness because I do know eventually he'll won't need me. [ Reply | More ]
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I remember when my ds' were 7 and 4. When sitter dropped them off to me at work they would coming running down the street screaming "Mommy!" and give me big hugs. They are now 15 and 12 and barely look up when I come in the house. Please enjoy these times because they will go by fast. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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congrats on the promotion, sounds like you deserve it! Re DC kids HATE it when things are different than expectations (they are like old people that way..), remember mine freaked out when I had to go into work for a couple of hours on a Saturday once, even though she was home with DH watching a movie or something..just hadn't seen it coming. Don't worry about it, just try to keep him on top of your schedule :) [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I appreciate everyone's stories ....not feeling like a bad mom anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Families with teen DCs. What time do you eat dinner Mon-Thurs on school nights? Is 7:30 normal or late? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:15 AM Flag
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Around 6:30 to 7:00, depending on when we get home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:17 AM Flag
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Same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:28 AM Flag
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Late for us. That being said, with everyone's schedules, we don't always eat together anymore. Sometimes dcs are starving when they get home and I'd rather have them eat a real dinner a 530 rather than snack their way through until a later dinner. Plus, with all their hw, they would rather jsut eat something quick many times [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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NP. Exact same thing happening at my house w/9th grade DS, especially when he was running cross country all of Aug, Sept & Oct. Starving the moment he got home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:44 AM Flag
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late. eat by 630, but we are home by 530 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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Around 7, but everyone eats at different times during the week because of sports/aftershool schedules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:25 AM Flag
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Kids at 6:00, sometimes with us, too. We all eat together weekends and non-school days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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7:30 is late. We eat sometime between 6 and 7. My tenn kid's friends all head out around 6 when they are over, so I think they have similar dinnertimes. They need to leave enough time for homework afterward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:59 AM Flag
[ - ] The Affair final season. Do you think NOah & Helen end up back together, and it's as if the whole thing didn't really matter in the end??? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It was all a dream? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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That’s the set up right now. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe. Like they are living one of the novels he wrote. [ Reply | More ]
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If it ends that way, St. Elsewhere snow globe-style, I *might* get past the episode in Season 3 where I was completely put off this show [ Reply | More ]
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which episode? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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Has the season started??? [ Reply | More ]
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nah...this message isn't really timely....I just thought about it if the talk of affairs below. [ Reply | More ]
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there is one more season ...as a huge fan of the show, all seasons ( except the brendan fraser season ) i actually thought this could tie up the whole series. like we dont need a fifth season. [ Reply | More ]
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if they wanted a cliff hanger which is more customary it should have ended with alison being found dead, that would have been shocking enough for a season finale !! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you live in Nyc can you give me any tips on how to get a decent rental apartment for 2 dcs and a large dog? Any sites or winter specials? Anything to avoid? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How much do you want to spend? How many bedrooms? Are you working? What neighborhood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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Look at Inwood [ Reply | More ]
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Roosevelt Island [ Reply | More ]
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+100. [ Reply | More ]
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6-7k, UWS or UES [ Reply | More ]
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Budget? Neighborhood ? What breed is dog? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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6-7 per month. Golden Retriever, approx 80 pounds [ Reply | More ]
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Golden Retrievers don't belong in an apartment. You suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Your dog is going to be the issue not your kids. Check for pet friendly rentals [ Reply | More ]
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How old are your kids? Schools? [ Reply | More ]
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Middle and HS, younger (11) on UWS and older downtown. [ Reply | More ]
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do they share a room ? [ Reply | More ]
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StuyTown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:44 AM Flag
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Dog is too big. The limit is 40 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
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Streeteasy. Look for No Fee. But like PPs above said, some larger managed buildings can be picky about pets over 20 lbs, so include that in your search. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you need a high-rise/doorman/etc.? If not, you can find a good-sized two bedroom that is OK with pets for $3K-ish in Hamilton Heights. [ Reply | More ]
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Riverside Blvd, look in the Equity rentals. 140, 160 and 180. No fee. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ and dog-friendly [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Planning a trip to Maine next summer. Any tips? I’m thinking boothbay? Sister is coming with her one year old and I didn’t want her to have to travel too far from the airport. Would appreciate any hotel suggestions! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Maine mom here. What do you like to do? Boothbay is lovely, it is a bit of a drive from the airport but not too bad I guess. There is a teeny little aquarium there that seems like it wont be great but their touch tank is amazing, My kids could spend hours there when they were little. The botanical gardens is also pretty extraordinary. Honestly though you could stay in or around Portland with even more stuff to do and less driving. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: There's also a cute little railway village in Boothbay! My kids loved it. [ Reply | More ]
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Where would you stay in Portland? Are there beaches nearby? Boothbay looked about 1 hr from the airport. Thanks so much for your help. I’m really flexible. There’s two grandparents and like six of us “kids” and then our kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Lots of great beaches close to Portland: in Cape Elizabeth there’s Crescent Beach and Kettle Cove, in Scarborough you’ve got Scarborough Beach, Higgins Beach, Ferry beach, Pine Point. Being in or near Portland is great also because if the weather is bad there are plenty of indoor options, also you can hop on the ferry out to nearby islands very easily. Not trying to dissuade you from Boothbay, it’s a charming little spot, it just depends on what kind of a trip you’re looking for. If I had a group like that I might look to rent a house at Higgins Beach which is a totally charming little neighborhood in Scarborough about a 10 minute drive from downtown Portland. I don’t really know much about the hotels but with kids could be nice to have a house for the flexibility I would think. [ Reply | More ]
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I was looking into a house on a golf course. We need a lot of activities to keep everyone busy. I took a screen shot of your tips though. I appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
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My pleasure and hope you have a great trip up here! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I love instant mashed potatoes and french fries. I think I would fit in better in a trailer park any in commuting distance of NYC. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What? Everyone likes mashed potatoes and fries [ Reply | More ]
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LOL, she said 'instant' - aka, mashed potatoes out of a box. Just add water! [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry I meant what heathen does not embrace instant mashed potatoes ?! They are a miracle in the kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
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People with tastebuds do not agree [ Reply | More ]
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You sit on a throne of potato lies [ Reply | More ]
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NYC is a big place. You think we don't eat fries? [ Reply | More ]
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Ha ha me too on the instant mashed potatoes! I hide them under all the healthy and respectable groceries in my cart [ Reply | More ]
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how much do you weigh? [ Reply | More ]
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350 [ Reply | More ]
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how much do you weigh? [ Reply | More ]
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I love fries. I also love ridged potato chips and stick them in sandwiches. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would be some good safety schools for a dc with a 94 average but 3s on test scores? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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District ? [ Reply | More ]
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Hs or MS? [ Reply | More ]
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Oops. Sorry. It's for hs and we are D2. Don't think those grades will get him into the ones he really wants like Lab or Baruch. He doesn't like Beacon so that's out. [ Reply | More ]
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He still has a shot at Baruch and Lab and doesn't hurt you to rank them. Safety schools -- Museum, Essex St, Frank McCourt, East Side Community, HS for Environmental Studies Honors Program, Manhattan Hunter Science, Manhattan Village Academy (but they have very strict rules so read them first) [ Reply | More ]
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^^and SOF [ Reply | More ]
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^^and if I could be a voice of reason here -- those test scores put him at a real disadvantage. I would not let him rule out a school like Beacon where his essay and portfolio could help boost him into acceptance. Beacon is a far better school than many of those other safety schools I listed. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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Manhattan Hunter Science would not be a safety school. It's test score ranges were VERY high in the high school book, FWIW, and it's a straight screen. The others seems more interested in creating broad classes. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have reading comp issues? He doesn't like Beacon. [ Reply | More ]
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No need to be rude. OP's ds is not in a position to be picky. That is all. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. This is so stressful, I can't wait until it's over. [ Reply | More ]
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Calm down. It is so much easier than the ms process in D2. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean by 3s? 3.0? 3.5? 3.75? Still not enough info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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Harvest Collegiate, Harbor School [ Reply | More ]
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Does he have a specific area of interest? If more math-y, an Ed Opt School like High School of Econ and Finance could be an option; I just went on a tour there and really liked. Wouldn't be at the top of our list but it will make our list of 12. If your kid is more into Humanities and/or likes more project-based learning, some of the schools mentioned above could be good. I'd also add i-school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Rental car question: We are renting a car for thanksgiving to drive to see relatives. If Dh and I will both be listed as drivers on the car, do we both need to be there to pick up the car and sign the papers or does only one of us need to be there? He wants me to pick up the car, but he will be the one driving after we have the car, and I think they are going to want both of us to be there for liability reasons to sign the paperwork. Anyone BTDT? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why wouldn't you just call the rental car company you think you might be using, and ask them what their policy is about this? [ Reply | More ]
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They closed at 6. It's 6:31 right now. [ Reply | More ]
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Most rental places have 1800 numbers [ Reply | More ]
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on hold with them now [ Reply | More ]
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Whenever my DH and I have done this, we both needed to be there to sign initially. Now we are Gold customers, and we just pick up the car. We no longer need to sign separately because it is in our contract. [ Reply | More ]
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I have seen it enforced both ways but this is more with the member programs where you chk out at the gate in the car. At the counter, odds are they will want you both there. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm pretty sure you both have to be there. They take your drivers' license info. One rental agency wanted to charge me higher b/c he said unless I had the same last name as dh he couldn't verify we were actually married. I pulled out my copy of our marriage license. LOL.. dh was astounded. I said--uh huh. That's how I roll. [ Reply | More ]
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haha nice [ Reply | More ]
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Married people may drive each other's rented cars without being designated as an official second driver. Only one has to be there. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS! That is the new rule. They didn't even want to see my license and I didn't need to be there. [ Reply | More ]
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Both my DH and I rent cars pretty frequently, and this has virtually always been the case for us--we rent mostly in midwestern and western states. The renter's spouse is allowed to drive the rental car without having to sign the rental agreement. [ Reply | More ]
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I've had to pay extra if I'm a driver on my DH's rental,like $10 per day. We're not gold members, so maybe that's why. [ Reply | More ]
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np: Avis Budget and Enterprise do not charge for spouses, the others do. Some states mandate spouses drive free. [ Reply | More ]
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By law if you drove the car and they found out, they can't do anything about it. They're scamming you. [ Reply | More ]
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This has also been my experience [ Reply | More ]
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think they need photocopy both drivers licsence. so make sure he has both [ Reply | More ]
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Married people count only as one person! One person can pick up and other drive. Totally fine. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O whats the most realistic looking "fake" tree, around 6 - 7 feet is fine. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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fortunoff back yard store has nice selecton [ Reply | More ]
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Check out Balsam Hill, beautiful artificial trees. Online. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can my boss make me use my vacation time for jury duty? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Depends where you live if employer is required to pay you: Eight (8) states require an employer to pay employees while serving jury duty: Alabama, Colorado, Connecticut, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Nebraska, New York, and Tennessee. Otherwise, if you want to get paid beyond what jury duty pays, you need to use your vacation time. [ Reply | More ]
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What if you live in NY but work in NJ? [ Reply | More ]
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In NY, it's illegal. http://www.nyjuror.gov/pdfs/hb_ee.pdf [ Reply | More ]
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I’m really hoping it’s a 1-3 day gig. I am someone who wouldn’t experience total hardship if I had to do it, because I work two jobs. But my main job will pay me over the holidays whereas the other is freelance. I’m a little stressed about how it will play out. [ Reply | More ]
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you just say that your friend talks about one of the lawyers all the time. they dismiss you [ Reply | More ]
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With my luck ill have met someone involved in the case on a dating app. Hahaha [ Reply | More ]
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They dismiss you if you are freelance and need your freelance income to work [ Reply | More ]
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It’s just my rent is so expensive. Haha if I don’t work I’ll be on the street. Kwim? I have iwp type friend but he will never be called because he has multiple residences. [ Reply | More ]
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multiple residences makes you not called for jury duty? [ Reply | More ]
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Not so [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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It’s not that they make you use your vacation but they don’t have to pay you for those days either, so if you want to get paid you have to use your PTO [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think they can force you to use your vacation time, but in most states they also aren't required to pay you for the days you are gone. So they can't force you to cancel your February trip because you have jury duty in January, basically, but they also probably don't have to pay you if you don't elect to use pTO. Most large companies will just pay you anyways though. [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DD , 5 came home from school with a hacking cough...shes miserable poor thing...what is the best medicine ...i dont have honey or anything soothing at home... 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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have honey delivered if you need to - it's the best along with steam [ Reply | More ]
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what do you mean steam ? NP [ Reply | More ]
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steam her vag. [ Reply | More ]
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Go finish your homework, Preston. [ Reply | More ]
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Have her sit in the bathroom while you run the hot shower. Play a game (that can get damp) with her there. [ Reply | More ]
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She had school today? [ Reply | More ]
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Avenues had school today [ Reply | More ]
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school in Brooklyn , yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Private schools were on today. [ Reply | More ]
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A lot of private schools were open today. [ Reply | More ]
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Cough drops, chicken noodle soup, fluids. cough drops to stop her from coughing. Chicken noodle soup to clear her out and get nutrition into her. Extra luids to keep her hydrated. Take her temperature. [ Reply | More ]
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NP I'd be careful w/cough drops just b/c she could choke on them. If you can get a delivery, try honey, lemons and Celestial Seasonings Sleepy Time or Peppermint tea. Definitely sit in the bathroom together w/hot shower running so she can inhale the steam. [ Reply | More ]
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Our pediatrician sent out a warning letter about not using cough syrup. So anything else. Sitting in a hot shower can help. Honey. [ Reply | More ]
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huh ? [ Reply | More ]
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No cough syrup for kids. Is this not understandable? [ Reply | More ]
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Come on. You just need to reiterate what your pediatrician said. Don't be a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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? I honestly don't know what your problem was. I was pointing out our ped. warned against cough syrup. But maybe you should take some. You sound uptight. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't recommend cough syrup, you were kind of being a bitch to start with to the other person. Good luck with your child. [ Reply | More ]
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? No idea what you're talking about. I said that our ped. doesn't recommend cough syrup, instead recommends hot steamy showers and honey. This is somehow rude to you???? Weird. I started my own line so no one was responding to anything you said. Learn how to navigate a message board perhaps. BTW, you're flagged. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a sore throat and cough 2 weeks ago. I gargled with warm salt water, drank hot water with lemon and honey and sucked on lozenges. Also, drank lots of water. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] would you send your kid to a postgrad year of boarding school if he doesn't get into his ED college? younger sibling already at the bs. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, I would have him get some real world experience working or traveling or taking classes while working or traveling! [ Reply | More ]
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I would make sure kid has applications ready to go out for regular decision. [ Reply | More ]
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He can always transfer from another college, why another year of HS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:14 PM Flag
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so he has the same experience as the sibling, and sort of a consolation prize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:15 PM Flag
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Sure sounds like a sucky consolation prize, going to high school for one more year after you graduated. What's wrong with going to a school other than his unsuccessful ED choice? Most people are not accepted by their ED school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:47 PM Flag
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a consolation prize for experiencing real life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:51 PM Flag
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That sounds crazy. Why not see where he gets in regular decision? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:16 PM Flag
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No, stupid idea. If he's not competitive after a normal high school career, he's not competitive. He should go where he can get in. I think a 5th years would hurt (like, remedial much?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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My DH did this for basketball. Then went on to play college basketball. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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i just don't get college sports. Why is this necessary? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:29 PM Flag
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He really wanted to play. Rich kid. By accepting him on the team, his family donated tens of millions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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The team ended up with a new stadium. Life isn’t fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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? Fair for what? Running with a ball. OK. Whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:40 PM Flag
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I meant life isn’t fair to all the kids who deserved that spot on the team. At least he didn’t accept a scholarship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:45 PM Flag
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No, I would only allow it if it was for sports and he needed to get eligible for college. Maybe another college is a better fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:24 PM Flag
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I went to boarding school Hell no. Terrible environment. Your DC should do a gap year study abroad program. There are many great ones out there if you look into it. Some international perspective would be far better than a year in a lord of the flies type of environment with younger and more immature students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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did you go to one of the GLADCHEMMS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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Np I went to one listed and all the PGs were there for a sport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:15 AM Flag
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NP: My DS is at boarding school and having a great experience. Different things for different kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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What led him to go there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:53 PM Flag
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Np I went to Bs and had amazing experience. But I wouldn’t rec a PG yr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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This — look into AFS or another reputable program. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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Only if there is a sport involved and possible sport recruitment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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I've seen multiple families do this. It's the equivalent of working for a year more before applying to B or L school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:36 AM Flag
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No, I'd have him work. Or go to a different school for two years with the goal of transferring in--I have a nephew who did this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Well I have a question about affairs. For how many of you did an affair of your own lead to a divorce, for better or worse? Did it ever lead to a better marriage? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:08 PM Flag
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is this a way of catching your spouse replying to this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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Lol. If my spouse frequented UB that itself might be grounds for divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:15 PM Flag
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I had an affair with a married man once; mainly emotional, a couple of quick sexual encounters. I actually think it helped his marriage; helped him get through their very rough patch, and helped him decide to recommit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:19 PM Flag
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I'm sure you would like to believe that but I doubt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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This just isn't true. An affair did damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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I think in most cases I would agree with you, but not in this one. If anything I was like therapy for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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uh-huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:41 AM Flag
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You must have been a shitty lay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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You are a selfish bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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Because I have this question? Please explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:37 PM Flag
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lol-you angry UBers are going to get mad at anyone and everyone for anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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An Affair is a symptom of a bad marriage, not a cause, but definitely not a help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:05 AM Flag
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OP: this is my thought, but I hear many people justify them this way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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I really don't agree with this. Everyone has a bad aspect to their marriage. Not everyone has an affair. I think a lot of it is moral conviction and addictive personality types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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This. Also many people don’t mean to have one, it slips quickly from friends to much more and kind of sideswipes you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:59 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you keep an Xmas tree alive and fresh for 4+ weeks ...serious tips please...this is the first year we are buying it 11/26. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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Just water all the time. If you allow it to get dry, the trunk will seal and it will dry out even if there's water added later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:02 PM Flag
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you dont. best we have done is 2 weeks, and then it starts to turn dull, but we have kept it 4 weeks - just makes a mess when get rid of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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We always gets ours by Dec. 1st, keep until about New Year's. Can get dry, but not usually a big deal. I prefer to have early, enjoy the season early (not get stressed about getting one when everything else is busy). Just lots of water, and you can also buy a solution where you buy the tree (not sure if it does anything). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:23 PM Flag
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we do the same, but its really really dead by nyears [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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Lots of fresh water and don't put it over a heater vent/close to nearby vents. That said, it's still going to be dry the last week or so. You're getting it very early! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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It won't be "alive," but it should keep drinking water for a few weeks. Once it stops don't keep it around too long. And when you get it home slice the bottom off fresh and put it into water immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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Can you do that with a kitchen butcher knife? I don't have a saw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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No, you need a saw. It's a tree trunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:14 PM Flag
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They'll usually do it for you right as you buy it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:23 PM Flag
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Get them to do it where you buy it, they should have a saw. If they don't, go somewhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:24 PM Flag
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I also use that product they give you at the tree store to put in the water. I can't think of the name of it. It's nutrients for the tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:07 PM Flag
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Get a fake tree. I've had mine for going on 15 years now. No hitchhiker insects and mites, no watering, no needles, no 2 people with clenched teeth fucking around trying to get the stand to keep the tree straight upright, and best of all, no trips to buy a tree every year and then have to get rid of it. Kids love warmth, lights & decorating a tree. They really don't care if it's "a real tree." It's a parent thing and apparently a city thing. We in the suburbs have our share of fucking trees outside already. We don't want to drag them into our homes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:11 PM Flag
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Maybe you in the suburbs also have an abundance of storage space for plastic monstrosities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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This is also true. But I am amazed at the effort you guys go to every year to gripe about tracking stuff into the house and then you bring a real live tree in. Yeah you're going to get dead mites and things. And it's far worse of a fire hazard and a tip-over hazard than a fake tree (that pretty much looks like your real tree) that sits nestled in its stand. You're not going to convince me. I literally live in the heart of conservation land, I had a "Christmas tree farm" planted in my yard because the previous owners thought it was charming, then never cut the trees down. They're like 30 feet high right now. I'm trying to do you a favor. You're insisting that you want to do things the most difficult way possible for the same result. You are trying to impress your friends, not your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:17 PM Flag
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+1. if lived in burbs would get fake. but no place to store in 1300 sq ft [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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Geez relax. I live in burbs and prefer a real tree but no need to be so nasty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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lol i know whats burb mom's problem ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:27 PM Flag
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It is anti-burb mom who is nasty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:45 PM Flag
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Also, I used to get horrible respiratory symptoms every Christmas. Major “colds” and bronchitis. I saw a piece on Christmas trees and what come in on them and realized I was triggering my mold allergy every year. I haven’t been sick in years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:28 AM Flag
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Check the water every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:16 PM Flag
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Spritzing the branches with water every day helps too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:24 PM Flag
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np: Do you just spritz right on top of all of the ornaments and lights? That seems like it would ruin them/cause problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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This. Idiot advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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Trees are all cut at the same time, before Thanksgiving. Water well, keep away from heat. If possible, keep house cool during this period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Just moved to manhattan and grocery prices are... wow. Is ordering online less expensive than local supermarkets - any suggestions? I am in east 50's. thanks 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:51 PM Flag
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use fresh direct . no other option. there are several coupouns will give you 50 off your first order too . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:53 PM Flag
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I don't think there's a Trader Joe's near you, is there? Or Fairway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:55 PM Flag
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Weekend trips to Fairway and Costco is the only way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:02 PM Flag
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Join Amazon Prime and order all paper goods, soaps, etc from Amazon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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NP. Are they cheaper for that stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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No, try Walgreen for paper goods [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:58 AM Flag
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i drive to burbs or target on 116th once a month and stock up on essentials. yes, in manhattan expensive - and watch fairway - they overcharge on at least 1 item, per trip based on listed price!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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Hate Fairway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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I do our big monthly shop for nonperishables at Walmart when we're at the country house. Shhh. Don't tell my Park Slope neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:06 PM Flag
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Walmart.com free shipping with orders of $35 or more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:10 PM Flag
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Trader Joes or Fresh Direct. Fairway by Kips Bay and get it delivered. A 1/2 gallon of organic milk is 3.29 at TJ and 7.99 at my local Dagastinos which is gross anyway. Same with eggs. You can fill in at the Whole Foods on E 57th, but you should do FD, TJ, or Amazon Fresh. If you are Prime you can get whole foods delivered as well for free [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:12 PM Flag
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Ooh. Interesting about free Whole Foods delivery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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Trader Joe's all the way! I do 90% of my shopping there for this very reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:19 PM Flag
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and they deliver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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Yeah. Can’t be beat on price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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I drive out to NJ once a month and stock up on canned goods, cereal, basics. Cereal is about $2.50 a box and here at my local supermarket it's $6.50 for the same box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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It’s insane. I wish Trader Joe’s would come to the West Village! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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Just moved out of the city --- and wow, what a relief! I think my food/dinigh is about 25-30 percent of what it was before. No more $7 cereal and $2 waters on the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:43 PM Flag
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np; frozen waffles for kids are 3.99 vs. 2.50 on sale in burbs. bread is 2.79 vs. 3.99. every item at least $1 more in city [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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Yep. It's ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:01 AM Flag
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target at 116 is best option within manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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but since no trader joes on UES, I am not familiar with that store. I see others like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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also know several who take bus to target then $10 car home. they charge you $7 to park, so not much different if doing big shopping [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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My son said 34th st one has food in the basement...haven't been yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:07 AM Flag
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So true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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If you have a car, it's definitely worth a drive to Target, Costco or down to a supermarket in Bay Ridge or the burbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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Hard to make Costco work unless you have a lot of space though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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After living out of state and moving back to midtown last year, I was equally shocked. After trying Fresh Direct first, I found Amazon Prime Now works best and is way cheaper than any of the supermarkets. I use Pea Pod (Stop and Shop sourced online grocery) to supplement fresh items I might not get from Prime in bulk like potatoes, carrots or canned items like beans, sauce as well as boxed items like cereal and mac & cheese for my kids etc. and paper items like paper towels and napkins. You can schedule it a day in advance only but you can add items right until midnight before day of delivery. Toilet paper and other monthly type items are cheapest if you use prime pantry and get the same bulk items every few weeks. We are a family of five...total cost about $800/month. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:56 PM Flag
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Wow! How does Amazon deliver? We don’t have a doorman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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Target for all toiletries, cleaning supplies and paper goods. Then get what you can from (in order) Trader Joes, Fairway and then DAgostino. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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^^^and target for pantry items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:59 PM Flag
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We have Gristedes a block away and it’s such a ripoff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:17 AM Flag
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ours is awful and the fridge case is always broken [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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Hijack. Is Park Slope Food Coop worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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NP: I'm someone who pays a premium for Fresh Direct for the convenience, so having to actually spend time working at a coop doesn't appeal to me at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:41 AM Flag
[ - ] I am looking for a health care plan off the exchange for myself & family. both my husband and i are independent contractors. we make too much to qualify for subsidy. anyone know of a good insurance agent to find a group they can put us into, or a union that has a group plan for independent contractor? we had a plan off the exchange last year through an agent but the agent we dealt with is so unpleasant we are looking for a new one. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:44 PM Flag
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We are the only country in the developed world that ties healthcare to employment. It's crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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This! If everyone had to chip in even 50% of the real cost of health insurance, we would have single payer in no time. People do not understand how much it really costs and how much more expensive it is thanks to the market system. It's mind boggling that health care is provided by companies which make billions off of our premiums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:00 PM Flag
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I think many do understand, btw, the number is on your W-2 (information only, not income) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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Not on my W-2. Only number is how.muxh you pay not how much.employer is paying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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Look at Freelancers Union, they used to offer plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:01 PM Flag
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A lot of these closed up with Obamacare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:52 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:17 AM Flag
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Kind of useless to post this without giving a location. Some states only offer exchange plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:13 PM Flag
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We use MediShare— a discount Christian insurance-like company. We pay $337/mo for a family of 5. $10,000 deductible. We receive a discounted rate at our doctor visits. It’s been great. Might be worth checking out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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What is that? What is the downside? Why doesn't everyone do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:52 PM Flag
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You need to be a Christian— our dc are in Catholic school for example. Downside — they wouldn’t give me a reduced rate for a new Mirena (or to have my old one removed!). Won’t cover pregnancy unless you’re married, etc. It’s been great for our family and I highly recommend it. We live in the Bible belt and many small biz owners/contractors use it. Google it— big article in the WSJ about it last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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Never heard of it. How do you prove your Christian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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Interesting. If you husband has an affair and you contract HIV, do they cover your treatments? Or is that too immoral? I'd imagine there is so much grey area in a plan like this..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.13.18, 12:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a wide brim fabric hat that doesn't look too dorky? I want to be able to pack it (i find that straw crushes). 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:38 PM Flag
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Search “packable hat” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 10:55 PM Flag
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I have a traveling hat from San Diego Hat Company that rolls up. It is straw though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.12.18, 11:07 PM Flag
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