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[ - ] My husband is so mean to me. He talks to me like his worst enemy. I honestly believe he has aspergers. I have asked him to leave for a month or two. I really need space to wrap my head around this. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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that sucks. Does he have any dependency issues? My husband was much grouchier to me when he drank. [ Reply | More ]
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no he's a workaholic, barely looks up from the computer screen ever. Eye contact maybe 3 times a day. [ Reply | More ]
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that is awful. does he exercise? maybe you can work out with him, men always are more calm if they have a work out routine [ Reply | More ]
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Did he agree to leave? Its a good idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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this doesn't make sense to me. men with asperger's may be difficult to live with but I don't think they would come off as mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you find a therapist for a 10 year old child? I am hesitant to go through the school. He's depressed. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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FiDi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Talk to his pediatrician and get a referral [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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I'd ask the pediatrician for a referral. Agree that involving the school may not be the best idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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You can get a recommendation from any school guidance counselor, or look up local counselors covenient to you who do children and families. With our health plan we don't need a referral and up to 12 visits per calendar year are covered. Past 12 visits the counselor/therapist needs to submit documentation justifying the extra or extended visits. My guess is you could call any school's guidance office and ask for the names of counselors that school uses. Just pretend to have a student at the school. You can call public or private schools. We had no trouble at all. [ Reply | More ]
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If you have other questions look on your health insurance card for a behavior health number - they may also be able to give you the names of children's therapists/counselors who are in-network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Does it matter who interviews you at Brearley? How long are the interviews? Ours was 30 min. Feel like it was short. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Heh, ours was one hour, we got along really well with the head of admissions. Reject! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Why did you get rejected? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you had an experience with older female therapist/friend who tries very hard to mommy you and give you "nurturing" and tells you that you're "irrational" and "difficult" when you try to have an honest discussion with her about what's not working? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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Sounds creepy. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thank you! This lady has been going on and on telling me any time I criticize or question her that I'm "rejecting her nurturing" because I have problems and issues. She makes me feel like I'm damaged and messed up for not wanting to happily accept everything she does. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: yeah, sounds like it's time to cut her loose ASAP. This is not a healthy therapeutic relationship IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Leave her asap [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Opinions on Brooklyn Friends vs. Grace Church for upper school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Traditionally a lot of families have left BF for upper school, not sure if that is changing but the difference in numbers between K and 12th was pretty startling. They have IB which would seem like a big draw to me but the college acceptances have not been that great, last year seemed to be better than previous years but still over past 4 years only one Princeton and one Yale, no kids to Harvard. For over 30k most people expect more. It is a really nice school though, diverse, interesting parents. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sitter is young, sweet, and great. She has told me issues she has had with her landlord. I talked to the guy to provide a reference and he sounded awful. He is clearly trying to take advantage (didn't turn on heat until it was REALLY cold outside, tried to increase rent retroactively when they already had a signed lease). I try to let her know the laws, her rights, etc but when I told DH he asked if we should offer to talk to her landlord. I think that's overstepping but I do want to help her. Thoughts? Her parents are immigrants and she is actually the one who helps them, so they aren't people she can turn to. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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Support her with advice when asked do not call he landlord [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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OP - thanks. That's what I thought. To be clear, DH doesn't want to call him out of the blue but wants to let our sitter know we are fine talking to him if she would like. [ Reply | More ]
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calling won't help if a tenant calling does nothing. Is your DH a lawyer? Then have him write something on company letterhead puporting to be representing her and reminding landlord of his obligations under the lease. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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are you in NY? Tell her to call 311 file a complaint, they will come investigate [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I think the city has made it much easier to make a heat complaint. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] To everyone worried about what Obama did. Don't. Everything he does fails. He never follows through on anything. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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Oh, sad your previous post backfired? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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haha yeah interesting new angle, OP. [ Reply | More ]
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I actually love how it's going to put the GOP on the defensive just in time for the 2016 elections...Hillary thanks you Barry... [ Reply | More ]
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Hilary doesn't have a chance. Americans real Americans not illegal ones are pissed off. Democrats are fucked. Thanks Obama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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Um Latinos are not real Americans?? I beg to differ and I think the true measure of who has a chance will be who the Repugs put up against her. If It's someone like Rand Paul it could be a slam dunk for her. And no I dont think Jeb has a chance at the nomination -- he's too smart and too sensible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O are baby boomers waging financial war on the millennial generation? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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No the millennials are waging war on themselves by being so fucking arrogant and lazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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hey man, we're not all lazy and arrogant. I'm a millennial and I work hard, I get no help from my parents, and I have plenty of friends that are the same. Relax. [ Reply | More ]
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You're a diamond in the rough my dear. Keep at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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NP: I'm also a Millennial. I have a "real job", have been promoted twice in 3 years, am studying for grad school, and receive no financial help from my parents. The vast majority of my friends are the same as well. [ Reply | More ]
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I wish you both worked for me. Seriously. I was the same when I was in my 20s (37 now), and can't believe some of the crap that goes on with the millenials that work at my office. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm 39, so I'm roughly the same age as you. Be honest - we stepped in shit. Yes, we had a bit of a different experience growing up that made us a bit more industrious, but we also entered the workforce at a time of almost unprecedented economic prosperity and security. When I got my first job after grad school in 1999 with a total of $17,000 in debt the unemployment rate was 4% and the nation was coming off of ten years of historic economic growth. It wasn't as tough to get started as it is now. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I agree. I'm 50 (technically a boomer but don't really identify with the generation) and I had the advantage of low college costs, good job prospects, etc. Having my child, I'm nervous about DD's future to an extent. I had it so easy compared with what "kids" are going through now. [ Reply | More ]
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pp: I graduated in 2003 from law school and the law market was shit. I had $160K in student loan debt and took a relatively low-paying job just to get something going. Had no parental support. It was tough. I agree that it is tough out there now, but the 20-somethings who work with me (without exception), and I also include my 27 year old sister in this, are absolutely ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
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^and I don't understand that correlation between a tough job market / economic circumstances and acting like an entitled brat who wants to tell the bosses their business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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You've got an axe to grind, and want to feel like you had it harder than they do. That's cool, I guess. I don't see it. Also, I don't have such a hard time with these newer workers who won't take shit from their employers. I always hated being the young employee being sent off to my cube to do something I knew was wrong or inefficient or just plain dumb because my boss yelled at me to do it, since I knew I could do it better but wasn't "allowed" to. I have no beef with employees who aren't willing to spin their wheels and placate their bosses to prove their fealty. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I'm 38 and in HR/TA for a multinational. Millennials are no worse or better than any other generation; they're just the latest generation getting beat up on by the media. [ Reply | More ]
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What brand of denture paste do you prefer? [ Reply | More ]
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lol nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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I'm 37, relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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boomers have taken financial advantage of gen x as well. boomers set up and perfected the financial system to their advantage. it's a bit like a ponzi scheme. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. This is a settled matter. Boomers made promises to themselves that they didn't pay for. And now they want the $ (their right). Without paying for it (their entitlement). Millennial is smaller, has to pay for itself, and for the boomers. They are basically fucked by their parents/grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000000 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone applying to an all girls school for K this year? Thoughts so far? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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not done with all the playdates yet. So far we like Chapin, MM, CSH. No idea where we stand though. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] We lost electricity this morning for about 4 hours, and I have 2 months worth of breast milk in the freezer. Do you think it's ok?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. I keep ziploc baggies of frozen water in there for that reason so it will stay cold if the power goes out. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you from FL? We always did this during hurricane season growing up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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No, TX. [ Reply | More ]
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Funny. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Part of the constitution means that the President must enforce the country's laws. Obama's decision not to deport illegal immigrants means he is not upholding an oath he made when he came to the White house. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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zzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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ahh stupidity surfaces [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, it did in the OP. [ Reply | More ]
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absolutely brilliant response. no, seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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As was yours, doll. [ Reply | More ]
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wahhhh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Were Reagan and Bush breaking the law, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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did they not uphold the constitution? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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You do not understand how our government works, and you are clearly not a constitutional law scholar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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gah this times a million. original post is too stupid to even bother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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the constitution is fairly clear on this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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you should be embarrassed. Don't come onto a board with educated people (some of them lawyer!s) and make these sorts of claims. You're just hurting your own position. [ Reply | More ]
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then state your position to clarify what seems so clear to me when reading the constitution [ Reply | More ]
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unfortunately we are all seeing how this gov't works [ Reply | More ]
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Part of the Constitution means that laws can be changed and that interpretations of laws can change. If you truly believed what you typed, you would not be trolling on an anonymous board; you would be working with a real group of lawyers, judges, and legislators to remedy the situation. [ Reply | More ]
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The role of the President within the constitution is very clear. Article 2, Section 3: ". . .he shall take care that the laws be faithfully executed . . ." [ Reply | More ]
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wow you should call Harvard law, I bet they'll beg you to come teach a con law class. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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someone should remind obama that he is not above the constitution [ Reply | More ]
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yeah and since you're such an expert in constitutional law, you should be the one to remind him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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someone should. How is that university of phoenix law degree working out for you? [ Reply | More ]
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Stupid comment. [ Reply | More ]
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assuming it was you posting earlier, sarcasm is the lowest form of wit [ Reply | More ]
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Executive Order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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there is no provision in the constitution for this [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for the brush up on conlaw (I'm a lawyer, FWIW). [ Reply | More ]
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good I am glad you paid attention in class [ Reply | More ]
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Yes it is.... but the President has broader responsibilities. [ Reply | More ]
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than upholding the constitution? [ Reply | More ]
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It must be so hard to have to cover up ignorance with outrage. [ Reply | More ]
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ignorance of what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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Judge Posner, one of the most respected jurists in the country and a Reagan appointee, thinks it is clearly constitutional. http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/11/18/constitutional-limits-of-presidential-action-on-immigration-12/the-constitutional-authority-for-executive-orders-on-immigration-is-clear [ Reply | More ]
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That's all well and good, but what do Justices Limbaugh, Hannity, Coulter and Beck have to say? Far more important. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] suppose all countries had open borders. would everyone just pick up and move here? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No. Many would, but it would not be open immigration from developed nations. Even from developing nations many many people value their lifestyle over that of the USA. Contrary to popular belief, not everyone thinks the USA is the greatest nation in the world [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Also, a lot of Americans would pick up and move to other countries. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably not. There weren't any immigration laws in the US prior to the 1875 Page Act and the 1882 Chinese Exclusion Act (only people who had restrictions were prostitutes and convicted criminals), and many people chose to stay in their land of origin. [ Reply | More ]
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That was before there were government benefits. [ Reply | More ]
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You're right, there was just free land. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I would move to Grand Cayman. Then Fiji for a while. ahh... [ Reply | More ]
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I'd go to England or France. Rather spend my old age someplace that actually makes sure old people have a good place to live and food. Yes we save but if Med insurance gets cut and we have no income it can be very scarey here. [ Reply | More ]
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I would get he hell out! [ Reply | More ]
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I would get he hell out! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Running Moms: which running shoe has the best cushioning that you've found? Not a fan of Saucony anymore... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Depends on your feet but I have had success with Brooks and Asics. Can't you go to a running store and try them on/have feet evaluated? [ Reply | More ]
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doing this. [ Reply | More ]
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I also love Nike but I'm sure the real runner moms will flame me. [ Reply | More ]
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Great cushioning. [ Reply | More ]
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which model specifically? [ Reply | More ]
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I have flat feet, so fit is more important than cushioning, though I've worn Sauconys and Brooks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Who are these people who don't believe that girls as young as 12 get disgusting cat calls on the streets? I have to assume these are either men, or women who live in very, very small towns. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm a man, and I honestly can't imagine any guy I know or have known doing this. Are there degenerates out there? Of course. But I've never in my life been in a situation where a guy I know has said something like this, and if he did he'd be immediately ostracized. [ Reply | More ]
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You know good people. My dd (who grew tall and developed early) has been getting hassled since she was 11. She was on a bike the other day and some guy shouted out that he wanted her to ride his cock like she rode the bicycle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Hey, this is not about you or the fantastic, wonderful men you know. This is about children getting sexually harassed. There are men who do this. Just because it's horrifying that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. [ Reply | More ]
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np You are lying, or you are very, very sheltered. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok so you are an upstanding man. Many are not. [ Reply | More ]
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is this specific to nyc? i never got this growing up in the burbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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It's low end white guys & men of various colors, also low end, who do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.14, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I know this is a fantasy, but I would love if Hunter, HM, Trinity, Collegiate, etc. agreed to have every 3rd grader take the 3rd grade NY State math and ELA exam tomorrow. Their scores would not count, but it would be a great means of testing how good those tests are. If 90% of the students in those schools aren't scoring 4s, there is something wrong with the test. The point is seeing whether smart and well-taught 3rd graders can answer the questions easily without massive prepping. If not, there is something wrong with the exams. And I would even say the 4th graders at those schools could take the 3rd grade exam! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You're confusing "prepping" with "covering the same syllabus". Many might fail because of the latter. [ Reply | More ]
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Common Core is what every well-educated student is supposed to know. There is no "syllabus". Are you saying you suspect that those students wouldn't do especially well? [ Reply | More ]
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When you say there is no syllabus, you are exactly wrong - that is what the common core IS. HM, Trinity, etc. do not have to teach to the common core - they can do what they want, at their own pace, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand your point. Are you saying we shouldn't even bother with common core because the best schools in the country know that kids learn more if they are taught at their own pace? [ Reply | More ]
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No one was quite sure what nebulae were, exactly. Their "essential features," Hubble wrote in his dissertation, were that "they are situated outside our solar system, that they present sensible surfaces, and that they should be unresolved into separate stars." But when he started looking at nebulae through the new, more powerful telescope, Hubble found that he could see stars—individual stars—in some of them, including Andromeda. [ Reply | More ]
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