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[ - ] My boobs have gotten so big during pregnancy. Tell me what really happens to them after the baby comes out. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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They get even bigger. Signed, went from a 34B to a 40DD, now a 34C 3 years later. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Anyone have a wood dining table that actually stands up to use? Any recommendations for actual table or type of wood or finish? Looking for something that will serve as our only dining table and homework central. What do you think of a glass topper - tacky? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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Solid pine table from ikea , ruined two other expensive tables during homework. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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But isn't pine the softest wood (ie most prone to dents, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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My parents have had the same Stickley for 36 years - it still looks new. They have a protective cover that they throw on it when we're not eating - it has felt on the side that goes on the table and a harder top surface. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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tablecloths, and they shouldn't be the desk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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Something inexpensive from Crate & Barrel. We had a glass topped table as a child; it broke at least once a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Did you have a repeat C section or VBAC? How did you make your decision? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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some doctors don't give you that choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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nor do some babies. [ Reply | More
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Then you make the choice when you pick that doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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C section. Docs told me dc may be down syndrome but was too late for abortion. Decided I couldn't got through labor and birth vbac and opted c. Very stressful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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good luck. down babies are hard on your lives but blessing to your soul. i hope both of you do really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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good luck. down babies are hard on your lives but blessing to your soul. i hope both of you do really well. [ Reply | More
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I had an unplanned C-section and am having another in a couple of months. I did not need to be convinced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] No flames please. I've always had ADD, grew up miserably failing school, never bring able to finish a book, and recently it's become much worse. I'm a mom of two and gave become incredibly disorganized, easily distracted and I can't read anything without going over it 5 times. I've just been prescribed Ritalin for the first time in my life. My ADD has never been treated before. Am I crazy to be doing this? I really want to get out of this fog but living life on stimulants is kinda scary. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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Try it...it may help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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First of all, HUGS! I would not do the medication route, but I am not you. If this works for you, great, if not, don't be discouraged and maybe give a try to alternative methods. Maybe feedback, meditation, therapy of some sort..Whatever it is you are on the right path and are trying to help yourself (and your family). Good luck. God Bless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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Ritalin has helped DH (who is ADD) a lot. Much better than Stratera and some of the other newer ones that he's tried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Life on the stimulants sounds a helluva lot better than what you currently have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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Not crazy at all. If you had tried other non med methods to cope and it's not working, and you feel like your life would be improved on the med, why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Wow thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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good lord, try the meds [ Reply | More
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Seems like you do not have a choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Any advice would be appreciated - We're having a small but elegant wedding. We are really into food and eat everything, but our families are very different - one side is meat & potatoes, the other side is all about seafood. What do you think about having 3-4 action stations (with 1 chef/carver at each station), but everyone has to get up and get their own food? Would love the food to be a topic of conversation. Or better to do a multi-course dinner, knowing that some courses are going to be wasted? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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i would do a sit down multi-course and give options for the main so they can choose seafood or meat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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It would likely be a 10-12 course meal. Does that change your opinion at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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OTT. PITA. Show off not elegant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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can you name the 12 courses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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I would love to be at your wedding but it sounds like the families would not appreciate it, although they might surprise you. Will they truly not eat anything or just have preferences? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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yea, this is just too weird. sounds like the Hatfields and McCoys are marrying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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Sorry, buffet not elegant under any conditions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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You are so wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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I would serve surf and turf and call it a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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good choice. enjoy your wedding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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I agree with this - unless you are at a top top place the skills of the servers aren't that great. Also the food tends to have sat out before service. I like the idea that people get only what they want and it is given to them closer to the time it is actually eaten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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I like your idea as well. I think this kind of wedding is fun, although it is less formal. Up to you whether less formal is ok. It would be fine with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:49 PM Flag
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absolutely less formal and I wouldn't use elegant for a buffet (even if you call it a carving station) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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You are so wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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This is the standard in the south (the multiple stations). I love this kind of thing because you get to take what you really like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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This. We had stations and it worked out great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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Buffet (action stations) seems like the perfect way to turn this into a non-issue. Don't see an issue with "getting their own food." There's lots of mixing and mingling at a wedding anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Offer 3 choices for dinner - steak, seafood and chicken. allow guests to pick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:45 PM Flag
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I don't like the serve yourself, carry your food, stand in line, food as conversation thing at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:45 PM Flag
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Gross really gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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what is gross about three different choices? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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I have never had good food at a wedding that offered this - if food is going to be part of the focus you are not getting it in a place like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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How would that be gross? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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Why can't you do a formal dinner with the guests choosing their app and entree ahead of time? E.g., crab cakes and baked salmon vs. asparagus wraps and filet mignon? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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I love stations. It flows well, makes the event more social instead of being glued to your table, and you can have more of a variety of food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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I like stations. More mingling, reasons for people to get up, move around, talk. Formal, sit downs stiffle the energy, especially if you have a lot of people who rarely see one another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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Stations...do no food is wasted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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you mean not taken home by the staff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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we did stations at our wedding, and generally people loved it. got people to socialize and try different foods. our friends said it was the most fun wedding they'd ever been to since they weren't seated for hours. we had servers bring food to our grandparents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:49 PM Flag
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That sounds fun. Did you have a small wedding? Did your guests have to stand in line? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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I do not like buffet style wedding. It feels more casual. doesn't seem elegant. Offer meat or seafood (and/or vegetable if any of your guests are vegetarians) choices for their main course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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I don't mind buffets but I don't think of them as elegant. They can be fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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She's not talking about steam table buffet - she's talking about stations offering higher end foods some prepare a la minuit - I like weddings like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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one thing I have NEVER talked about or remembered from a wedding is the food. absolutely the least important thing - sorry but that is just the reality. the only thing people would remember is if it was bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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I disagree. If you love food, than you remember the amazing and the bad (but obviously, not the mediocre) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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Then I guess you need to decide whether your families are as "foodie" as you are. If not, then you may be disappointed in the lack of response to your careful planning for a special meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Unless the seafood people actually don't eat meat (rather than simply preferring seafood), I would just go all out meat-heavy for the dinner. Wedding dinners are difficult and delicate seafood dishes often don't translate well at all. But meat is much more forgiving. You can do a great cold seafood bar with drinks as part of a cocktail hour, where you also have crackers and good cheeses for the meat-eaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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^^^ oh, and I love food too, but imo weddings are not the time for food as topic of conversation. Save that for intimate dinners with friends. For a wedding, you're better off going with safe but tasty and filling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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I love this idea! But my concern is that my parents & wedding party are going to be with us to take pictures during cocktail hour (our timeline at the venue is kind of tight!), so they wouldn't get any of the seafood. op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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I don't think it matters to guests so long as they get food, drink, and it won't be super confusing and the old people don't have to get up and wait on line. But otherwise, I think buffet is fine, table service, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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I would do a variety of appetizers and skip a formal sit-down dinner for a small wedding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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how many people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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About 50. op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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i don't like the all out buffet but i went a wedding once that had multiple small food stations - say one for every 2-3 tables and each station had the same assortment of foods. you didn't wait in line bc the staff would go to your table and tell you it was your turn and the station was a manageable size near to where you were sitting. kind of like family style. food was excellent and i always recommend it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do when your friend's child is difficult? She has a 2 yr old boy who throws a lot of tantrums and throws things in the house, ie toy trains and such. He yells and screams a lot also. I know it must be so so hard. I want to have play dates and be supportive. How do I make things easier for them and us? Should I just meet her at a park instead? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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park sounds good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:45 PM Flag
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or her house...if he makes a super mess or breaks things you are not going to be as upset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Going to a neutral location is probably best. Unfortunately this happened to me. I liked this mom very much, but her dc was a problem from day one. Tantrums, bad mouth, poor impulse control. Eventually I had to fade the friendship towards 5th and 6th grades because he was getting into trouble at school and becoming violent with other kids. I felt bad for her, but I was not going to make my child be his only friend out of friendship with his mother. He eventually dropped out of high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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are you on your second family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:49 PM Flag
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she'd be better off if you two just socialized without the children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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I'll try this. But wouldn't you pick-up on the fact that our kids no longer get together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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This is why I never mixed my social life with my child's. I have my friends, they have theirs. No problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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Meet at park (or her house, as long as you're not worried about him throwing things at your DC). Does she acknowledge that he's difficult? If so, in a quiet moment, ask how you can help, or how she would prefer you respond while he's having a tantrum. Take her out for a break now and then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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To me, at this age, a lot of kids have a hard time. Mine didn't at 2 but they have had their other tricky ages. I would just be patient, for some kids, this can be a frustrating age. I do agree meeting outside might be less stresful for her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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how long have you been "friends"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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meet at the park and keep your mouth shut unless she asks for help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it's rude to ask our nanny to walk (whenever possible) when picking up kids from school? We live in suburbs, a nice 1/2 mile walk to school (through a park, easy streets). She always drives. DH has even noticed her driving two blocks to the park. Kids have mentioned they would like to walk/bike more. I mentioned this to her, and she said she would, but I'm now feeling a bit guilty and controlling. Thoughts? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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don't feel guilty. It's good for the kids to walk, especially if the park is only two blocks away! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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I don't think it's an outrageous request at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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Okay, thanks! Our nanny is a little overweight, and I'm very into exercise (and I will walk in any condition - rain, snow, etc.), so I don't want to push my standards on her. But I do want kids to have a normal walk if it's not too much to expect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:49 PM Flag
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I am a little overweight. i can still walk :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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a little overweight? how little? i am a cow and i can do 2-3 mile walk on a given day without thinking twice.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Me too!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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Does it seem like it would be physically easy enough for her to do this? If she is older, or very overweight, it might be hard for her. My mom is overweight and I swear she gets winded walking a block. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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She is overweight, but not older. She has talked to me about wanting to lose weight, but she never seems to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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Nanny : I walk almost 2 miles everyday dc are in the stroller when we go for a ride or the pool. I don't find this unreasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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1/2 mile is nothing...15 min max? if she cannot do 1/2 mile how does she take care of your kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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you can't make an adult walk - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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which part is the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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"can't make an adult walk"? sure you can...as in "please walk my kids to the park instead of taking the care....appreciate it, thanks :)" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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^^ the car (not the care) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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We will then agree to disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Did she say yes begrudgingly? Maybe she feels nervous about (or thought you might be) letting the kids walk/ride bikes down the street. How old are DCs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Kids are 2, 4, and 7. She said she would do it, and admitted that my daughter has asked her to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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we walk way more than that every day in the city. she needs to listen to this request. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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i think this is reasonable as long as the weather is nice. she can drive when it's pouring or snow or the temp is 20 degrees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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Former nanny: I used to walk a half-mile each direction to take the kids to and from school. Not a big deal. And I say that having had a bone issue in my ankle at the time, which required surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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No, unless she has some physical issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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My nanny never takes kids out... my advice is to tell your nanny now before she gets used to you being ok with driving and later feels lighted for being told to walk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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Most adults in this country are either overweight or obese and do not want to walk anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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she works for you. You set down some ground rules [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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Of course - but I don't want to be unreasonable. For example, I would walk through the snow, ten degree weather...but I'm not going to make her do that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were 39+, how long would you try to conceive before seeking fertility treatment? Would you think about skipping the other treatments (IUI etc) and going straight to IVF? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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this was us. OB said to try for 6 months, then referred us to a RE. I wouldn't skip IUI, thats how we had our success and much cheaper. [ Reply | More
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I'm not sure I'd even wait the full 6 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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4-6 months, then IVF [ Reply | More
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I would definitely get a full work up done before I started trying. Test everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Suddenly having second thoughts if we choose the right preschool even before starting? Is this normal? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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where are you going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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Children's International Workshop on Union Square. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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NP: I've known ppl who sent their kids their and were happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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Me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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Very normal and remember this when you have to pick an elementary school. As a parent you will be 2nd guessing yourself a lot. Always trust your gut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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Thank you. I think it is a wonderful preschool but now all my neighbors talk about other school in the neighborhood and I feel like maybe we should have gone there. [ Reply | More
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This will always be the story...others will go elsewhere and you will even hear from some that there school is best ;( ....just go with your gut and you will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:38 PM Flag
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It's preschool. Really, if your kids doesn't end up in the perfect environment for circle time and finger painting, I assure you his or her chance to become a justice on the Supreme Court will not be blown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Tell that to all the Manhattan parents with 2-3 year olds. People in NYC worry about preschool/school. Thats just how it is. [ Reply | More
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I'm in NYC. Just because a large group of parents have nothing to do with their time but worry about nothing but whether their pre-school is the absolute most optimal environment for their precious snowflake, doesn't mean you have to be one of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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I think it is normal to want the best possible for your kids, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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This is akin to fretting over whether Johnny made a mistake picking Yale over Princeton. You're already sending your kid to an excellent school. Give it a rest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Kind of. Usually going through so much up front work you have a pretty good feel for what all is involved. Was there some new insight or intelligence that is causing your doubt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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OP: No, no changes at all. Just my silly neighbors blabbing about their super intelligent, cool kids are going to this other school (which is very expensive). we looked at so many preschools because of the lack of spaces downtown and the process just seem so random. [ Reply | More
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normal [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Fell off WW wagon- did so well for almost two months but haven't tracked food in almost two weeks,started eating sweets daily, and feel like I'm starting to gain the weight back. Has anyone BTDT? How do I get back with the program? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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stop eating sweets...ta-da! u're back on the program [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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I feel like I had the right mindset before but now I'm too tempted by all the summer treats: ice-cream, cold coffee drinks, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:35 PM Flag
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I really rely on portion control. Soft serve? Yes but baby-size. Iced coffee with milk, not a frappucino, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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op: thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:38 PM Flag
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NP: Or Pinkberry/frozen yogurt instead of real ice cream [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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eat ONE or drink ONE get it out of your system an move on. u dont need to abstain completely this leads to binging..just get some into you to satisfy the need and continue with mindful eating all other times [ Reply | More
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Stay away from those frozen coffee drinks like frappucinos - those have an insane number of calories (i want to say 500+). Personally I would prefer to eat am ice cream cone than drink those calories. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks and you're right- it's 500+ calories. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Yes. You just pick yourself up and re-engage with the program, start tracking again etc. So you gave yourself a little break! Now back to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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Forget about past 2 weeks and begin again. Today. Not Monday :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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WW site boards include similar discussions - may find some help there too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks- will look there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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sugar is addictive so stop that now. Go back to keeping a food log. It's a hard road. There will be slips so don't beat yourself up over this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you please suggest some books for my 6 year old to practice reading? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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Frog and Toad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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henry and mudge [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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LOVE these books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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I'll teach my dog 100 words. Not a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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alexander (with your help) books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the Lower Lab G&T program and physical space far superior to PS 33 G&T? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.19.13, 05:26 PM Flag
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No, both have seen better days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:28 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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LL isn't great physically, but it was excellent for my kiddos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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I toured both and for me personally, I left with a better vibe from LL. I think the content of their programs are comparable. Was not offered either one. My dc is heading to 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Haven't seen 33, but LL is a typical NYC public school. So unless 33 is unusually good or bad they are probably similar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] What does your nanny usually cook for your dc ? Or do you leave everything cooked and ready ? TIA 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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My son loves rice and beans that she makes. I make sure he has a salad or other veggies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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Nanny here. This is something that varies a lot by job. Some employers have the nanny do the cooking, some do it all themself, and everything in between. There's no "right" or even "typical" way for this exactly. Ultimately, the best way to handle this is to decide if you want the nanny to cook, set clear guidelines for what you expect in the contract, and make it clear from the get go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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This. You can't just assume that the nanny will cook healthy meals. If you expect this, you need to make that clear up front. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:25 PM Flag
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Thanks. What kind of things do you cook for the kids ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:25 PM Flag
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In my current job I have a lot of freedom to cook as I please. I like to cook, so I try all kinds of stuff. But the most common things are pasta with various veggies/proteins in a sauce (marinara most often), rice and beans, quesadillas (cheese, maybe a meat, random veggies in a whole wheat flour tortilla), grilled cheese (sometimes with ham or turkey, often with some spinach and tomatos in there), etc. I'll also feed them more experimental stuff like pad thai, beef with snow peas, chili, anything I can think of that I'd like to try cooking really. That happens more occasionally, and they allow me to take enough home for my and DH's dinner (which is actually a great incentive to cook if your nanny enjoys cooking. Kills two birds with one stone!). And of course the kids don't always eat it. Usually I serve this stuff is a fruit and veggie on the side. And there are plenty of meals where we just do stuff like chunks of chicken or a pbj, random veggies and fruits, yogurt, cheese. etc. So it varies, but I try to keep it fairly healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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Thanks ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Oh, and in my case my boss gives me a basic grocery list twice a week, and I do their grocery shopping. I am also allowed to add to this list as needed to make things that I'd like to make. In the beginning my boss did most of the shopping and had a lot of oversight into what I cooked. Overtime I've taken that over and since we know each other well she trusts me not to go crazy with my freedom to cook what I'd like. I've been with them for 3 years, so you might not have this relationship with the nanny on day one. Though if you are clear about what you want them to cook there are plenty who could do this from day one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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That's a good idea to let the nanny take extra home. I might mention this to mine - if she wants to cook more to take home, she can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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Nanny here again: this has been SO nice for me! I enjoy cooking either way. But of course with a lot of little ones it's tempting to get into the habit of just throwing together some fruit and sandwiches everyday. I try to make an effort regardless, but knowing that I can take home part of what I cook is undoubtedly an incentive to get more creative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:38 PM Flag
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Nanny cooks. Varies by day..rice, beans, roast chicken, pasta and meat sauce, vegetables... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Does she cook for all the family or just the kids ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:27 PM Flag
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Mostly for the kids. Sometimes, I'll ask her to marinate some chicken or whatever, but she's not a great cook so I prefer to cook for dh and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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Nanny cooks. This was a requirement for the job. Lots of veggies and protein. I usually buy the groceries and tell her what is available and she figures out what dish to cook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:35 PM Flag
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what are some of her dishes? I do all the cooking myself and i feel like the few times i have asked nanny to take charge she has done pasta and cheese or something not exactly healthy. Would love to get her to cook more but stumped at what kind of dishes would be good (and easy enough) for her to make. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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NP: I've occasionally left recipes for mine when I wanted her to prepare something very specific. Do you have a list of go-to recipes? Apart from that, my nanny often cooks rice with some beans and adds in chopped veggies. Or pasta with chopped veggies. Those seem pretty easy for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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Thanks. We never do rice and beans but that sounds easy and better than just pasta. We usually have leftovers from dinner which db will happily eat but then there's still the other meal (lunch or dinner) that someone needs to prepare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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T h i s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Veggie pizza using whole wheat dough, chicken/vegetable soup, fish with vegetables and quinoa, tortilla rolls-ups with veggies/chicken, turkey meatballs with lots of veggies in, baked sweet potato, chicken curry, frittata with veggies etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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Nanny cooks for kids, and usually there are leftovers that Dh and I eat. We keep food on hand (veggies, rice, beans, tofu, pasta, eggs), and she prepares it however she likes. I have recently talked to her about adding in more veggies (because many were being left unused), but in general it works very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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She generally cooks, sometimes they get take out, sometimes there are leftovers. DH travels a lot more for his job and he was the cook so there's less likely to be leftovers these days, but OTOH, it's more likely that I can just eat whatever she's made for the kids. She makes a vegetable, rice or pasta, chicken/fish/pork/burgers, sometimes potatoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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I make out the menu, she cooks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] So this year the G&T was supposed to be harder but still so many high scores. Are there many more 99's this year compared to last year? Trying to understand, how ps 33 and ps 11 are getting filled with 99s this year compared to previous years. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.19.13, 05:18 PM Flag
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I read somewhere (here most likely but don't have link) that D2 had more 99s than there were G&T sears available and then you still needed to factor in non-99 sibs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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But overall aren't there supposed to be less 99's this year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:28 PM Flag
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the test was meant to be harder, but more scored 99 this year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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the new test was "supposed" to reduce a number of 99s but it ended up having A LOT more 99s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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In part because of the scoring errors (they mistakenly raised the % the OLSAT was worth)--so just as some scores were mistakenly lowered, others were mistakenly raised up. When they corrected the scores, they didn't lower anyone's score even though many dcs should have gotten lower scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:38 PM Flag
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The problem with the new test is that while it's harder, it's also more unusual to get a high score, so the average prepped nyc kid, when compared to a national average ends up with a very high percentile because there's more extreme peaks at the highest end of the curve. That's part of what those parents suing were talking about but their attorney was so bad and their arguments so muddled that, this point was never really addressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Livid. Gave a client advance notice that I would be out of the office and unavailable during a specific time frame, and told him who to contact in my absence. I put a calendar entry/meeting maker on his calendar denoting this, set my out-of-office auto-response as well, and reminded him several times. Briefed my team (in person and in writing) on detailed coverage background and instructions. What did client do? He sent me a bunch of time-sensitive requests and did not copy anyone. My team also never followed up with client, knowing very well that he was sending certain deliverables on certain days (I told them to follow up if they did not receive X or Y). 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:17 PM Flag
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Can I just quit now? It's not worth it to try to use any vacation days when I come back to a huge mess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:18 PM Flag
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ok your client is a penis head...next. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:25 PM Flag
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So passive aggressive on his part. What a jerk. I hope you threw it all back at him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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No, I am trying to maintain grace. I could cry, though. This isn't atypical of his behavior. I am also a little annoyed at some people on my team for not having followed up with him as they did not hear from him (and I told them that if he did not respond or provide X by a certain date, to please follow up - they do know him). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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When my clients behave badly, I let them know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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I did let him know but tried not to seem aggravated about it. I told him how we were very sensitive to the deadlines and I had told him who to contact. But we look stupid because my team did not follow through when they did not hear from him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP again, did not "throw it all back at him" but did tell him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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Tell the client you are unable to work with them anymore. End of story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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I wish! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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Nobody died or anything and it's not the end of the world, but I'm just really frustrated! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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Put a rule in your outlook to forward emails from the client to your team. Set up a distribution list for emails from this client that includes multiple recipients. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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OP my outlook rules only let me file and not forward. Oh, we already have a distribution list but client does not use it despite our constant reminders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:29 PM Flag
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np: did you have an out of office reply? did he ignore it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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I mentioned above that I did have an out-of-office auto-response. That clearly meant nothing to him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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If he did this presumably his "time-sensative" request didn't get handled right away. Who really suffers from that but him? Boo hoo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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what an a*hole. you are rightfully mad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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We have a client like this. You do what you can ad it seems like you did. I would be most upset with the team that did not follow through as the client seems to be the way he is and that's not going to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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That sucks! You did everything right. I would address your own team, though -- the fact that you can't trust them to follow up is a HUGE problem for you. Can you let anyone go or was this a one-time snafu and normally they are much more on the ball? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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Remind him of this when he blames you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow... Friend is pregnant with her 5th and her oldest isn't even 6 years old yet! All singletons. How.in.the.world...? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:17 PM Flag
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awesome! I love big families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:18 PM Flag
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I do to. Though when your family lives close by to help. I don't know how people have all these kids when their family lives so far away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:20 PM Flag
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Eh. I have 4 and don't live near family. It works out well enough for us. I think it just depends on the family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:15 PM Flag
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Maybe you shouldn't have more kids than you can raise. Why would you expect family to pitch in raising your family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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Oh please, it's also really nice for the kids to be near family. Now of days, most kids hardly know their cousins and see their grandparents once a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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I have a good friend like that too. Blows my mind, but she seems very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:13 PM Flag
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I have four. Youngest is 3 mo. Oldest is 4.2. My first reaction to your post was amazement. Then I realized that could be me in a couple years. Haha. Too tired to think about that right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:14 PM Flag
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Why did you have them so close together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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Just stop already. The world is already over-populated. You are contributing to this problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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The world is not even CLOSE to over-populated. Stop drinking the kool-aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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My coworker has 6 kids...she is not even 39... very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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mormon? Catholic? Orthodox? Latino? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:16 PM Flag
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Nope. Just Christian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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I love big families and am from one but that's amazing. My neighbor has 3 under 4 which I can't even imagine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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Irish catholic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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Too fun. I'm the eldest of 5, and I was 6.5 when my youngest brother was born. The teenage years are going to be hairy, but it's wonderful afterwards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:18 PM Flag
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Do you live near them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:38 PM Flag
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My sister moved to NYC recently, so I live near her now, which is great because I left home for college at 17 and basically never went back. My brothers all still live within an hour drive of one another back in Canada. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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My aunt had 4 singletons in 4 years and had next to no help (her mother lived nearby, but was very ill and died when the youngest was 6 months old). Every one of them says it was chaos in their house for years. They each have 2 DCs - none would have more than that. They all agree that it was among the stupider things their parents did - spreading them out more would have been better for everyone, particularly my aunt, who was physically drained by four pregnancies in four years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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Wow. Do they resent their mom for it in a way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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There was no time for that - she died of ovarian cancer when she was 55. My cousins were all in college or just out (19, 20, 21 & 22). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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That is so sad. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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that is insane! I mean in a good way, but I can't even imagine!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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I have a friend who had 5 kids 8 and under all singletons. Crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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Don't they have cable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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Probably. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Wow! 4 in 7.5 years is what we're doing, and that's all we can handle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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Nice. Did you start have them at a younger age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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First at 28. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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I had 3 in 3 years. Very busy but lovely now they are growing up. We live close to my parents and have an au pair and my DH works from home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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And expecting number 4 now. Love big families. i was an only child and hated it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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Congrats! I'm the above (expecting #4 as well, though not as close together as yours!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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But when is it "Fun" to have 4 or more kids? Having 4 under 4 has to be brutal! Then I elementary school you're driving them to a boat load of activities. Then their crazy bratty in high school and then they're off to college. And you hope to see your grand kids one day... But everyone is having babies at such a late age, who knows? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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Well having that much help should be nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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she obviously wants a big family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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