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[ - ] Do you have a DH who is very negative? I really can't stand it anymore. It's like living with Eeyore or with someone who walks around with a perpetual rain cloud above their heads. And for the most part, our lives are fine -- healthy, happy kids, good finances, good jobs. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:20 PM Flag
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Depressed? Mid-life crisis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:22 PM Flag
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My very good friend's husband is like this. I think he was just raised this way. His whole family just complains all the time. i think they think it's interesting to complain. I don't think they realize that it's basically like dumping poison on a conversation. It's hard to be around. She's starting to really be on him about it because she doesn't want her kids picking it up. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Q: is the YSL crease-less under eye concealer as good as their claim? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No undereye concealer is truly creaseless. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Need a really nice gift idea. Going to friends beach house for the weekend. Need something more than just the usual. They have been amazing friends this past year as our child had some health issues. Want to give them something above and beyond the usual hostess gifts! TYIA. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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A night at the Ritz in NYC and a gc to a restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
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Case of wine [ Reply | More ]
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a ballon ride [ Reply | More ]
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You know them better than us. Would they appreciate a case of wine, a gc to a great restaurant, a couples spa day, a weekend away at a hotel? [ Reply | More ]
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nice ideas! np. [ Reply | More ]
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Love these! Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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Are the preppy? Call Monograms Off Madison - they'll put something together for you. Or die-hard NY-ers? Zabars gift basket is always a crowd-pleaser. Or a cashmere blanket (monogramed if that's their style). Personalized lacquer tray from Parker Thatch (this is a certain look, only get if you know it's them). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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Thank you! These are great ideas. [ Reply | More ]
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Kiehls gift basket...love the Creme De Corps! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can't believe NPR is not covering Awan arrest. Fucking unbelievable. What is going on in the corridors of power? Why do we donate to this station? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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Lol at NPR = corridors of power! [ Reply | More ]
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How does Clinton somehow control NPR despite being completely defunct & irrelevant? They won't even *mention* this arrrest amid their stories about turning cow dung into fuel of the future. Fucking insanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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Do you expect them to precisely represent your own political views? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:14 PM Flag
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I expect them to report important news. Sue me! [ Reply | More ]
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Wasserman Schultz looks like an Anti-Semitic cartoon character from WW2 propaganda. Odds are she called a friend to bury the story. [ Reply | More ]
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Well she threatened the DC police with 'consequences' to return the laptops, and by all appearances has had many people killed as well, so nothing is out of the question! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] HR/hiring manager moms: I am currently in the market for a new job- what is the right answer for "are you actively interviewing?" I never know how to answer that question. Also, I am looking for similar jobs but in a different industry. Advice on how to sell myself? Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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As a hiring manager, I never asked that question. But I would say the answer should always be yes. Lets them know you're in demand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:15 PM Flag
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What's the truth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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Say yes you are actively interviewing. They want to know if they can stall on an offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm told by my current and past bosses that I need to trust people will come through and do their jobs. Yet I'm held responsible when they do not (after being told by my boss to lay off and let the person do it in their own time). Which is it? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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It's both. The "lay off" comment...what exactly do you do to manage your subordinates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:14 PM Flag
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I am clear with desired outcome/what we're trying to achieve, and ask them to figure out what they think is best way to get there, and offer to help them if they are stuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:17 PM Flag
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How often do you check in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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Not every hour. If I don't hear something for a day, I'll check in, especially if it's due to a client soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:22 PM Flag
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You post about this over and over. The problem seems to be you. What you think is a positive trait is repeatedly being perceived negatively. You need to change your attitude, your tone and your demeanor before you lose your job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:14 PM Flag
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Specific examples, please. I do not micromanage. I have been told I spoon-feed people and need to let them figure things out. [ Reply | More ]
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As a hiring manager, I never asked that question. But I would say the answer should always be yes. Lets them know you're in demand. [ Reply | More ]
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^ sorry meant for post above [ Reply | More ]
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Industry? [ Reply | More ]
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Client services in a media/marketing/PR firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] TRUMP to ban all Transgender people from serving in the military. Just announced on Twitter. When can we start seriously talking impeachment for this BIGOT? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:10 PM Flag
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I heard that covers 15,000 members. He's such an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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Fairly certain all their members have been surgically removed. [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone covers their member, transwomen tuck. [ Reply | More ]
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And he writes it like a HR announcement from a ball bearing factory middle manager: https://mobile.twitter.com/realDonaldTrump/status/890193981585444864 [ Reply | More ]
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I like that description. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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"Thank you" meanwhile this guy never served a day in the military with his fake bone spurs disease to dodge the draft. What a coward. Truly a sad day for America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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"Additionally, those people are weird and disgusting." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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Impeach b/c wants the extremely mentally ill out of the military? Huh? O era has given you unrealistic expectations of what we are doing as a country. [ Reply | More ]
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How does he define transgender? [ Reply | More ]
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he sounds practical like Bloomberg when he was Mayor. no big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:15 PM Flag
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LMAO...Trump? Practical??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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Er, when he does something impeachable. Right now, he's just getting on with his job, and doing it in exactly the way we expected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I may not get a townhouse on the UES after all. The stairs... And the buildings seems narrow. Looking for a penthouse condo now with skylights and a big terrace since I want lots of outdoor plants. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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i know it's a first world problem but $18mil won't get me a double-wide townhouse. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh poor you! [ Reply | More ]
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K. [ Reply | More ]
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It's just like a trailer, you need a doublewide. [ Reply | More ]
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it really is. i saw a bunch of them and didn't understand how one could possibly arrange the furniture in a way that looks generous without it feeling squeezed. but loved some of the backyards, ah the trees... [ Reply | More ]
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Goog choice. We warned you about the stairs. [ Reply | More ]
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haha, you remember me. yeah, i didn't think it would be an issue but it may be with young kids running around, having to get their stuff etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I bought one. The stairs do suck. So I moved into an elevator building and no joke, I put on 10 pounds! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Does anyone watch RHOC? I know I shouldn't, but I can't stop. Man, Shannon's personal trainer is so mean. He just keeps saying 'wow' in a disgusted manner about her weight gain. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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They are dramatic for TV ratings. TV is not real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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HE WAS TERRIBLE. He should be fired. If you aren't already, start listening to "Watch What Crappens" podcast. It's the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:06 PM Flag
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OP: Oh, I saw that go by the other day. Ok, I'll put it on my list. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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I was just about to recommend wwc too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:17 PM Flag
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Agree! The podcast is the only reason I still watch all these crap shows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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What a successful tactic to get viewers! You're thinking about it when you aren't even watching the show and you're going to tune back in in the hopes of seeing the trainer say more mean things. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Well, I'm actually watching it right now. But yes, their tactics work because I'll keep tuning in. I enjoy their crazy even if it's made up. Junk food TV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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Sounds like he's been on ub. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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Shannon has a serious anger management problem. She overreacts to every single comment. If I were David, I'd leave the day the kids turn 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] To moms of older DCs: Did your DC have a hard time putting together a balanced college list? Schools are so competitive that it seems like everything is either a reach or a safety. It's almost impossible to find matches because even if scores/grades fit, the percentage acceptance rates turns them into reaches. Ideas for schools in the middle welcome! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Older mom here. Yes and yes (2 kids). I thought they each had a balanced list but there were more rejections and WL than anticipated. Impossible to suggest schools without knowing the following: do you need financial aid? Where does DC want to be (East Coast, South, Midwest, West)? Size of school? 1-3000? Bigger? Huge? Their stats (GPA, SAT/ACT, school rank if they rank). Oh and gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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DS, top GPA at TT HS, 35 ACT (superscores to 36); wants medium to large; flexible on geography [ Reply | More ]
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Medium is fine; huge is fine; just not small [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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He'll have no problem with those stats. How about UVA, Michigan, Wash U, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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Michigan and Wash U are on list, although everyone says Michigan is against NYC kids b/c they think they are using it as a safety. He also has UNC and GTech and a broad range of U Cal system schools. Hard to find any privates besides Wash U at that level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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What do you mean by "hard to find any privates besides Wash U at that level"? How about Cornell, Duke, Penn, Northwestern, etc? They're all medium - large schools and a little less competitive than the tippy top. Acceptance rates are similar to Wash U. Keep in mind that acceptance rates are for all students that apply, not for students with your DS's great stats. As it has become easier to apply to more schools, the acceptance percentages have gone down but that does not mean it is actually more competitive for well-qualified students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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Cool! So you probably already have Wash U on his list and Emory. Schools in the middle would be maybe Tulane? Safety would be College of Charleston. U of Michigan would be more of a match. I'd also post on College Confidential in the Parents Forum. Stay away from the "chance me" threads -- they make my tummy hurt. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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I agree on College Confidential. Posts are so funny! Should my DC retake a Chem SAT 2 that was a 790! I kid you not. [ Reply | More ]
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I know! And every so often, a fight breaks out in the Parent Café and the mods have to shut it down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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Use the websites that take GPA and SAT/ACT and give you a list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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Impossible without stats and geographical preference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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My DD's college counselor helped her put together a list but I agree with you. NYU is a reach on her list, which was a surprise to me. I don't exactly think of NYU undergrad as rigorous but their acceptance rates are relatively low. Are you in NYC? DD's "likely" schools are Skidmore, Union and Lafayette. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:04 PM Flag
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Thanks. Helpful. Problem is that acceptance rates are so low everywhere that there really is no school that is a match. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:10 PM Flag
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Lehigh? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: DS LOVED NYU. I get why it is a reach. There is so much going on there and the acceptance rates are low despite score ranges. [ Reply | More ]
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location, location [ Reply | More ]
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a good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there evidence transgender people incur higher medical costs? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Uh well there are the medical bills from the transition, which non-trans people don't have. [ Reply | More ]
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And when that is completed? [ Reply | More ]
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CNN ran the study with estimates. About $8M out of $49 Billion. Look at the CNN graphic. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure that is not biased at all. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it is a government study actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:15 PM Flag
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Let's put it this way - you don't have to pay to surgically remove most normal peoples' dongs. [ Reply | More ]
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my SIL was a nurse in the army. Always stationed in the US so I guess a part of the "reserves" and it was ridiculous to me how many benefits she had. Tuition, amazing health care, basically treated like a unionized member... The army drastically needs a budget cut to make it leaner, but claiming trans people contribute to higher medical costs seems like a weak argument [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Do you really think that is his main reason? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Might head up to Maine for a few days next week by myself. What's there to see and do in Portland? Any swimming beaches? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:58 PM Flag
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That sounds awesome. Can you bring me back a lobster roll? [ Reply | More ]
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Haha. Sure. From where? I have a few days off. Going to greyhound up and fly back to keep it cheap. [ Reply | More ]
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Great museum; have lunch at Duck Fat and dinner at Fore Street. Sorry -- you asked about beaches. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Westchester pool club recommendations? East would be best. Jewish. Sporty DH and DC (though I don't know that they'd join any teams). 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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Larchmont Yacht Club? [ Reply | More ]
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that's a wasp-a-torium [ Reply | More ]
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Jewish and sporty? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: haha, I know! Not golf. But good at tennis. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm hungry, but I want to workout. I feel too tired to workout, but once I get going I'll probably be okay. Help me solve this terrible dilemma. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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Eat and then workout. What am I missing? [ Reply | More ]
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How can you workout on a full stomach or any food in you? Weighs you down, cramps, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:55 PM Flag
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I was assuming it would be something light, not a heavy meal. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 like half a banana [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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Work out and then eat. Even if I feel too tired to work out at the beginning of a workout, I feel great by the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:52 PM Flag
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+1. I hate working out after eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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Have a glass of water or a sports drink and go work out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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Sports drinks are awful. Stick with water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Eat something small then workout. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] This is a csb: I know a sweet girl who is about to get married to an extremely selfish man. He treats her like a princess but everyone else can see through it and he treats everyone else selfishly. I can't do anything about it but watch it go down in flames. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^^apologizing for bad grammar in advance. [ Reply | More ]
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True. It's best to let people make their own mistakes. Plus, people often make marital choices based on comfort, which means repeating some relationship dynamic from the past. This may be why it "works" for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:46 PM Flag
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If he treats her well, what's it to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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OP, you are correct. I didn't mention the part that they were dating when he was still married to someone else but that is the least of their problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:48 PM Flag
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She obviously knows what she's marrying then. Nothing for you to do other than watch. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - yeah I guess. I think I see myself in her. She's about 10 years younger than me and I remember how I was at that age. gullible and stupid. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh no. This is what happened to me. Classic narcissist. She's in the love-bombing stage. [ Reply | More ]
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what's your story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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sadness and whiskey [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] One of my best friends has become an alcoholic but will do anything to hide this truth. This has resulted in all kinds of lies and covering up, and then getting very angry when she is called out on this behavior. I worry about her a lot but think she has turned into a different person. Is it possible she has had some sort of psychotic break that caused this? She was the most honest, reliable person in the world until this started 2 years ago, and now I barely recognize her. People who don't know her well don't know about this because she is so smart and good at hiding the truth. I feel sad. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:42 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. It's her own business to get clean and there is nothing you can do. Time to break it off and stay away. People like this only bring other people down and you don't need the negativity in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:45 PM Flag
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Really? It's so hard. This is one of my best friends for many, many years. I don't want to abandon her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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What do you think you can do for her? She's the engineer of her crazy train. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:48 PM Flag
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Yet she could give a rat's ass about abandoning you. Don't be a martyr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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I know, you're right. Over and over she has gone totally MIA, not shown up for things, not returned calls (always because she's drunk, but then she denies it), and I keep chasing her down, trying to maintain the connection. You're right, I think, but I read this article recently about how addicts need more connectedness not less, so I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:52 PM Flag
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You seemed attracted to saving her but you can't. This is a fool's errand and your time could be better spent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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Should I say something to her or just fade away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:55 PM Flag
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Either way. You could tell her that you believe she has a problem with alcohol and needs to seek help but until she seeks help, you cannot in contact. Tell her you love her and she is one of the most honest and reliable people you've ever known and you're here to support her when she's ready to get well. [ Reply | More ]
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She claims she is working with a therapist and doing what she can to control things, but then these behaviors happen. I actually don't know if she is lying about being in therapy. When I asked her DH about it, he said, "That would be good if she is seeing someone," (as in, it was news to him). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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Does her DH think she has a problem? Or are they drinking together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:07 PM Flag
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He does. I think they might still drink together. He won't talk to me (or anyone) about it anymore. At first, he was talking to me and others, and it was harmful to their relationship because she felt like everyone was talking behind her back, and so she wasn't trusting him anymore, etc. I think now she is pretty honest with him but no one else. But he won't talk much about what is going on with her, so it's impossible to get the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Does she reach out to you anymore or is it always you chasing her down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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Mainly the latter. But she does reach out too. She was mad at me for a while for calling her DH, but she seems over it lately and is reaching out more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:23 PM Flag
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Fade. She knows where you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:20 PM Flag
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Is she on UB? Can you casually mention the posts from sober moms and acknowledge how hard it is for people to stop drinking and they need the support of good friends. Then just be silent. She'll probably deny or be hostile, but you have now established a safe supportive place for her to ask more when she's ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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No, but I might do this. She is very proud and a perfectionist, so she has not connected to other people at AA meetings and stuff. I think she thinks, "I'm not like these people." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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I think both of the sober mom posters (and there may be more) on UB felt the same way about AA. If I can find her post, one of them mentioned these blogs she liked reading. Tired of thinking about drinking; pickled. They might help your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:14 PM Flag
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Thanks! Please let me know if you find it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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Ok found it! You are a good friend. Based on your description of her, I bet she is terrified that she can't get a handle on this. She is probably used to putting her mind to something and getting it to go her way. Addiction is an awful gremlin that takes hold of your brain. Here's the sober mom post where she talks about different blogs: http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55724511 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] About to embark on a one-week vacation with my parents and extended family. Parents are AVID Trump fans and no one else in the family is. Advice on how to steer all conversations away from this topic? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:40 PM Flag
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I would dive straight in with a conversation with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:42 PM Flag
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lol. NOO. My siblings want to do the waspy "let's avoid the topic" dance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:42 PM Flag
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Wasp wisdom is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:51 PM Flag
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Tell them you don't want to talk about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:42 PM Flag
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Your parents sound like smart cookies to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:43 PM Flag
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So, Russian troll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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I have (secretly) been agreement and disagreement with my parents on a number of topics but I simply don't talk politics myself. They have their rant, I am silent for a couple of seconds and then I change the topic. Like it never happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:43 PM Flag
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You can't steer people away. You can just be non-responsive. If the extended family and your parents both want to discuss politics, who are you to stop them? Just take the kids and do something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:52 PM Flag
[ - ] How can I style some of my summer midi dresses to wear this fall? TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:40 PM Flag
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Motorcycle jackets and strappy flats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:41 PM Flag
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That sounds good. Any closed shoe/ boot/ tights options for when it is a little colder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:43 PM Flag
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Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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http://advicefromatwentysomething.com/what-to-wear-when-visiting-san-francisco/#_a5y_p=5754702 (I don't read the blog, but found the pic on Pinterest) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.17, 01:46 PM Flag
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