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General Topics 08.01.15, 05:21 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.15, 04:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it often a mistake to place children with their grandparents when their own parents are incapable? I saw this story from Orlando where a 12-year-old young man was arrested for attempted murder after trying to shoot a random stranger for being a "faggot" - he was in the legal custody of his grandmother, who was obviously completely incompetent at controlling his behavior. This seems common in the US for some reason - grandma gets custody, has no idea what the kid is doing, and the kid goes off the rails, ending up dead or incarcerated for decades at a young age: 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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What's the alternative? A group home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Some place where the kid can't keep a loaded stolen handgun at home, to begin with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Juvi? These things can't always be controlled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:42 AM Flag
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They seem to be pretty well-controlled in developed nations other than the US, so, that's not really an excuse. Why would you give custody of a violent young man to a clearly senile old lady who has zero chance of influencing his behavior for the better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:49 AM Flag
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That's because of gun control laws in those nations. Without similar laws here it doesn't matter where this boy lives. He can still get his hands on a gun if he really wants to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:53 AM Flag
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More guns means LESS crime, actually: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/More_Guns,_Less_Crime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:55 AM Flag
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A kid doesn't usually end up in the custody of grandparents without some sort of trauma or fucked up childhood. Those conditions are probably conducive to a higher rate of delinquency regardless of the custody arrangements. Would be interesting to see statistics as I doubt the group home/foster care system produces significantly better results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:56 AM Flag
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Shooting at a ladyboy for the fun of it is psychopathic; not just an expected product of "trauma." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:05 AM Flag
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Sure. However if a kid is truly a psychopath, it's not going to matter who has custody. If we're talking in more general terms about juvenile crime though, it's unlikely most kids fall into that category. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:15 AM Flag
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"some sort of trauma or fucked up childhood" the assumption that grandparents can not only compensate for this but are also not responsible for this kind of situation at all is pretty rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:21 AM Flag
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I didn't say that they could. My point is that there may not be any type of custody arrangement that is a panacea for that kind of background. Ideally both relatives and strangers who foster kids would be much better vetted and supported, but that costs money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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It is also pretty rich to assume the grandparents *are* automatically at fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:32 AM Flag
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Not a mistake to place kids with grandparents, but probably a mistake to just leave them there without adequate monitoring or support for the grandparents. All else being equal I think kids are better with family, but I agree with pp, if a child ends up in that situation they are probably vulnerable to start with and they shouldn't just be abandoned to the care of whoever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:09 AM Flag
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THIS!!! Much better in the regular foster care system than with very old people who are way past their peak. The energy is just not there any longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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That depends a great deal on the quality of the foster care system. Which is wildly variable depending on the state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Millenial women, did you register for fine china? If so, which patterns? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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Born in 1980, married in 2006. No fine china. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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Omg. How old were you when you married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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Haha. You must be the poster below who is arguing that mid-life is subjective. It HAS to be you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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Is arithmetic beyond you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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Haha. So this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:56 AM Flag
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I wonder if it will eventually die out. I don't know many young people who want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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A recent article I read says Millenials are registering for "experiences" instead of china, like concert tickets or excursions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:42 AM Flag
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Who the f really wants fine china. It just seems so out of tune with how people really live today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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Married in 2012. Did not register for china. My MIL gave us a set (belonged to DHs grandmother). Still sitting in box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:58 AM Flag
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Married in 2008. Registered for lenox Venetian lace. I have used it but not really since having kids (2011+) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:25 AM Flag
[ - ] FORTY-FIVE MURDERS IN BALTIMORE IN JULY! You did it, Baltimore! You tied your city's all-time record for most murders in a single month, even with 250,000 fewer residents than you had when the old record was set in 1972! Amazing! How'd you guys accomplish this? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Blacks, blacks and more blacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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45 doesn't sound like that much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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It's not, and op is a psycho. 200 murders, then we can talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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In ONE MONTH. In a city of only 620,000. That's astonishing. The annual total is already over 190. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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Let me add some context - in 2013, Vancouver (which has a similar population to Baltimore within city limits) had six murders. All year. The most in any individual month was two. But Baltimore managed to hit 7.5 times that number in just 31 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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That comparison is meaningless, because objectively, it's just not that many murders. 200 murders in an entire year is nothing to get worked up about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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YES IT IS! The US national average murder rate is 4.5 per 100,000 people. That means Baltimore should have NO MORE THAN 28 murders total per year. 45 in a single MONTH is a serious public safety crisis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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200 is huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Men in which industries are the married men most likely to cheat? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Finance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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More than management consulting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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Lol, do you know any men in consulting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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Just one divorced one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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Dh woke up baby and now he's snoring next to me while I listen to DB cry. It's been a half hour and he doesn't seem like he's going back. F my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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finance, sales [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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Straight men in the theater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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ER doctors. They love the adrenaline [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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lawyers, especially litigators. Least likely? Scientists, computer programmers, researchers, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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I read an article about this a few months ago The most likely to cheat were actors, bar tenders, musicians, artists, and lawyers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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Interesting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Professional sports players. To a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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SAHD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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OP: sounds like risk takers, big egos and wounded SAHD egos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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So who is left? Milquetost beta males? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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People who can, determined by travel schedule and income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Are sterling silver gifts still appreciated? I'm thinking of picture frames for hostess gifts, etc. I don't see much silver these days. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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Silver's a pain to polish. A nice thought though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Maybe this went out with our moms' generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Yes. Like brown polished furniture, fine china, hunting prints, red dining rooms and elaborate drapery. And Asian rugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else really dislike going to the playground with their kids? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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Depends... with my 6 year old, it's great - he plays, I hang back and relax on a bench (either alone or chatting with other neighborhood parents). With my toddler, I have to be more on the ball. I don't helicopter or direct her play, but obviously need to be much more vigilant than I am with my older kid, which can be exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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LOVE going to the playground with my kids...for 15 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:09 AM Flag
[ - ] What are some movies that no matter how many times you begin watching, can never be bothered seeing the end? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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I can't watch a James Bond movie all the way through. I am into it in the beginning, but then I drift in and out. I don't think I have ever seen the end of one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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lol - me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] What age is middle-aged? 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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29 - 50 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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Surely, it's not in your 20s. Even early 30s is not middle aged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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NP: I bristled at this at first, but then realized that if the average age of death in the US is 78, the midpoint of that is 39. So (since it's an average), give or take a few years, and, realistically, it could definitely be early 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I'll take 38, not 32. I'm 43. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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I'm 42 and still feel wicked immature! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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You can be immature in middle age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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What are you at 51? Elderly? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Good question. Chances are, most people won't live til 102, so I'd say you're on the "other side" of middle age... but not sure there's a word for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Np. I think up until 65 can be considered middle aged. My parents are 62 and don't seem "elderly" in the least [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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The question isn't "how do your parents seem?" The question is middle age and it isn't subjective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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I agree with poster below, actually, who says that it is different for everyone. I do believe that people age at different rates, a lot has to do with attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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What are you talking about? Middle age is the definition of a chronological timeframe. People don't age at different rates. A forty-five year old is forty-five human years old and thus, in mid-life. It matters not whether that person does yoga or gets hit on by 25 yr. olds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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People do age at different rates. Open your eyes. You wOld describe some 55 yos as "elderly," but not others. There are drastic differences especially within socioeconomic levels. Mama June is definitely middle aged and she's 32. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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Oh, Jesus Christ. I just can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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That's because you're fucking aspie and fixated on this strict definition of middle age being half life expectancy. Why did you even ask the question then? Moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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I didn't. Strike 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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You can't even entertain thoughts outside your own narrow viewpoint. Sad. I truly feel sorry for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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You should. I missed out on the "interesting" education you received. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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Well don't you pedantic literalist. Most people view middle age as a somewhat variable concept not a median of the average life expectancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:00 AM Flag
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Yes, that's an advanced age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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Not in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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You sound like someone who believes they will die young. My 95 year old grandparents would consider 51 to be a spring chicken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Starts five years older than whatever I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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40-60 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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Probably [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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60 is by definition not middle age, most people are dead by 80 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Life expectancy is 80 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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45-65 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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Can you not do math? your numbers put the average lifespan at 110. Median lifespan is 84. Then means the middle 20 years are 32-52. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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I don't consider middle age to be strictly half of life expectancy. If it was, why would we even be having this discussion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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I'm 59 and didn't start to feel a change in terms of energy level/aches/pains until around 55. I felt basically the same from ages 20-55, lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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^^so I think middle age doesn't start until late 40s at the earliest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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I work in a doctor's office and it's interesting to hear the doctors describe the patients. "Michelle is a middle-aged woman." "Karen is a young woman." Michelle is 35. Karen is 40. A lot of it depends on the person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Agree with this. Some age faster than others. I also work in a medical setting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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Middle age is a state of mind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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30 to 50 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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lots of women delusional about their age on here. average lifespan is 84. the 42 is the middle of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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40's. It isn't subjective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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Why isn't it subjective? I have a sister who was sending her last child to college at 42, the same year my other sister had her first child --at 41! Two completely different mind sets and life stages. My sister with the older kids seemed much more "middle aged." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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So if your grandmother plays tennis and has a kicky attitude, she's not middle-aged yet? If someone says, "what is your life expectancy," it doesn't mean what age you personally expect to reach. You are answering the question, "what makes you seem old?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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Life expectancy is a fixed number, "middle age" is a life stage, like adolescence, which can have different meaning for different people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Oh my. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Is there a problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Nope. Carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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Agree 100% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:02 AM Flag
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35-59 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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No one is living to be 118. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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Middle age starts when your first child is born, period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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So if you have your first child at 19 you're middle-aged? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Come on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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Yes this is why mama June looks 50 at the age of 32. She had her first kid at age 15 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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No, it's because she's fat and doesn't take care of herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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The US Census lists the category middle age around 45 to 64, while prominent psychologist Erik Erikson saw it ending a little later and defines middle adulthood as between 40 and 65. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the standard diagnostic manual of the American Psychiatric Association, used to define middle age as 40–60, but as of Edition IV (1994) revised the definition upwards to 45–65. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 05:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Used clothing bins for recycling. Supposedly there's a bra donation service for gently used bras. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:17 AM Flag
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Oops posted in the wrong place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Mother of goodness! I am losing it. I haven't shaved my legs in weeks. Dh has been out of the country the whole time and I just stopped working. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:16 AM Flag
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I got divorced and didn't do a bikini wax for 6 years until today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:25 AM Flag
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Why today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:27 AM Flag
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Going to the beach this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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Hurts a lot when it's been that long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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Are you in NY? How have you been wearing long pants in this heat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:27 AM Flag
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^or maybe the long pants thing is a big assumption? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:28 AM Flag
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wearing skirts and hoping b people don't notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Np i am like this. I really believe I'm the only one that notices so I stopped caring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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I got my legs lasered so I never have to shave!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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