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[ - ] Anyone have terrible anxiety? I had it totally under control and it's flaring up these week and I'm going so crazy. Reading into everything, nightmares, can't sleep, convinced my relationship and life are falling apart. :( wish this would end. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Mine got worse when I was PMSing. If that's not you, is there something else that triggered it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Yes, my mom is in town. I'm just so torn. I want to talk to my boyfriend about it but I know I'm not thinking normally and I don't want to seem 'crazy' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Have you higher than normal level of caffeine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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I don't drink caffeine except and occasional cup of tea. None today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Torn because she gets on your nerves yet you want to spend time with her? My anxiety/craziness diminishes when I journal my feelings. There are no bad feelings. Your feelings need to be felt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Its Friday! What are your plans for the weekend? Me, we are going for one last beach day out to NJ shore. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.28.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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I have to go away for the WE with BIL & SIL. Kill me now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I hear ya. Where are you heading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Newport I plan to be drunk for as much as the time of possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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The Barclays tomorrow and then the beach club on Sunday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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going upstate to Accord to visit a friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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Spending tomorrow in Laguna Beach or La Jolla - depending on how far I feel like driving. Church and house cleaning on Sunday, followed by family dinner at my parents house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Do you live in SD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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No, Pasadena. It's too hot to stay inland! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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What beach? Which ones have good parking, etc.? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Barnegat Beach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Heading out east with boyfriend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Fair and chilling by the pool. So sad it is almost over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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Squeezing in camping trip bf start of school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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I am thinking of going to the beach but it's been a little chilly these past few days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Jim Gilmore is a pos. FU asswipe. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Who dat?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Eh - he doesn't want to overturn the 2nd amdmt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 27, and reading all the sad posts on here about DH's who cheat and gaslight and want to "remain friends" with OWs and then maybe leave their wives anyway is scaring the shit out of me when it comes to the idea of marriage. I have a wonderful boyfriend who I love so much and I can't imagine him ever doing anything like this. But I guess everyone says that, don't they? Do you think UB overrepresents these occurrences and the sad and miserable women are on here while the happy ones are not posting? Or is cheating on your wife just so common but not talked about in person that I just expect that my future DH will cheat at some point and start preparing for that reality now? So many stories of DHs who lied to their wives and then made them miserable. I'm scared. Is there anything I can do to avoid being in that camp someday? As far as I know, I've never been cheated on by a boyfriend, and I know I've never cheated on anyone. I feel so bad for the MP woman I had a nightmare last night about her. How common it is it make it 50 years in a marriage without being cheated on or left for another woman? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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op: oops that was long. TLDR: so many stories of cheating DHs on here. Is there anything someone not yet married can do to try and prevent this from becoming a reality? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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It's an anonymous board. This is where people come when life is VERY effed up and they can't talk about it with their friends. Just like when you look up a weird headache you're having on the Internet, you will find lots of stories of brain tumors and other scary things when chances are, for you, it's just a headache. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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well stated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Definitely over represented here. I think because it is hard to talk about these things IRL. People come here to commiserate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Cheating happens all the time. I am 29 and no longer believe in marriage. I want a child and if I don't find someone that I want to be my husband by 35 I will consider other avenues for having a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I got married after many of my friends. I went into marriage knowing many men cheat. Oh, and many women cheat, too. Many of my friends divorced in a knee jerk reaction to cheating and regretted it later. Also, they took it so very personally. I told dh from day 1 the rules if he was ever tempted - condoms required, no outside kids, no draining marital assets, no crazy bitches calling me/knocking on my door. I went into marriage believing marriage is not a deal killer (some other things are with me, but not that). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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lol that cheating is not a deal killer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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This is me. I'm actually interested in polygamy. Lol as long as he pays for private school for my two kids he can have a few other wives and mistresses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Other wives?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Sure. I am more interested in having children than dealing with a husband. They are so annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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If you think you've never been cheated on, you're probably pretty naive, but there ARE men who don't cheat. DH doesn't, neither do any of his friends. DH's father didn't. However, many of my ex-boyfriends did. Honestly, I'm grateful for those experiences b/c I know the signs and symptoms. It would take too long to lay it all out here, but if I had to come up with rules, I'd say: 1) Look at his parents' relationship. Should be still together, respectful of each other, no history of cheating, obviously (but may be hard to know if DH wasn't aware); 2) Does he have self-esteem that isn't tied to anything (e.g., his career, relationship status, income, etc.); 3) If ever suspicious, don't confront until you have enough facts. Watch and investigate. Then, let him build his own web of lies; 4) The simplest explanation is usually the correct one. I.e., No, he didn't get the condom from his drunk friend who wanted him to hold it for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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^^Ooo. That was longer than I thought, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Don't marry someone just for the money/lifestyle. There are so many posts on here about looking your scary-skinniest best in order to attract a "TT" man who will allow you to SAH with hot and cold running nannies, trendy bags and fourth homes to worry about. If you look for a solid relationship and a real partnership of equals then you can both work, one SAH, roll in money or chose to be more frugal for any reason and you'll have a much better chance of long term happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I'm a husband. The VAST majority of my male friends have never cheated and wouldn't. Honestly, I think there are maybe 7% of guys who are into affairs / cheating once they get settled down and married. And I know a shit ton of the finance guys, and I get drunk with them often enough to know the real story of what they're up to. And honestly, the guys who are predisposed to this kind of behavior make it so blatantly obvious within 10 minutes of meeting them (to me, at least) that it's pretty easy to pick up on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I agree. I've been with my DH for 13 years and married for 10. He is super honest and I know he would never cheat. And my friends have also been married for that amount time have never cheated on their DHs or been cheated on. All of us chose really good guys for good reasons, not just guys made money or had fancy jobs. In marriage there will be ups and downs, particularly with kids, but the key is to focus on the good about your spouse and your life and will all work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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You're talking about dawgs, or serial cheaters. Most cheating comes about from life circumstances. If you're not prepared for it, it could get out of hand. A lot more than 7% of men cheat over the course of their marriage. I'd say 50% of people cheat at some point. You're right that people are likely pre-disposed to it, but if you've never been cheated on, it's hard to tell who those people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Also probably depends what you count as cheating, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Way overrepresented. Even most of the divorced couples didn't have cheating issues. Pick someone for love, not their cash or status or because it is "time.". Stay connected, be your own person and prioritize your relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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I married a "nice guy" that was madly in love with me. He had an emotional affair that I caught. Prob would have turned into something more. I thought I married someone who would never do this. Marriage is a crapshoot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are an FA family how much do you donate towards fundraising events at the school? I already have 3 on my calendar for the beginning of the year 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Not much; sometimes $50; other times $100. Depends on how my finances are looking that month. At the end of the day, I think the school wants to show that they have 100% support from families. We're obviously not going to be the big donors so I give what I can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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This. Even a few dollars - they want to say everyone contributed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Thank you. This seems reasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Zero. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I try to do $100-$150 and also get a match from my company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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how about if you dont get FA, but a family of 3 making 100k, then what do you give? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else have shred custody but you have a whole lot more (i.e. 90%) and exDH is very demanding about being kept in the loop about everything? I don't mean big decisions like college plans, I mean everything from what day school registration is to which specific sport(s) practices teen DCs are attending, whether a friend is sleeping over with DCs, etc. He continually, and very aggressively, accuses me of not co-parenting with him effectively because I don't share these kind of things in general. What is the norm in this kind of situation? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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You are me. To a T. He thinks he is a co-parent, but is not. I share the important stuff, keep him in the loop on schedules, school, etc., but he is a nut about every detail. I ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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So how often do you communicate with him? And when you do, does he ask a bunch of additional question and criticize you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Go to email only, unless emergencies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I answer his emails, always. But I wait 24 - 48 hours if it isn't pressing. One issue he criticized and criticized until I said that I refused to discuss it any more in any way. That if he mentioned it again, I would delete the email without finishing it. It was SO petty and it makes me nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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I will try and do that (and am already to an extent). I do use email with him some, though 50% (at least) of the time he ignores my emails because he is pissed off at me. So then if I do follow-up in phone/conversation, he unleashes a torrent of anger and blame. So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Why are you doing follow up? is it something you need? At most, text him, say I sent you an email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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The only time I follow-up is if I have asked him a direct question - e.g. what weekend this month works for DCs to visit you - and he doesn't answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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I am the OR, we never ever speak. It is too frustrating. We do a very good job of being nice and speaking in front of kids - sit together at things, etc. But one on one is awful, so I limited it to email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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This is not normal. I would first suggest all conversation by email, and when he accuses you of not co-parenting, just politely tell him, I inform you of major items, this is micro manaigng. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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I have moved to mostly email. I like the language in your response. I know it will make him very mad, but it is at least clear and direct. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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OR again: We actually have wording in our agreement that says that minor day to day decision making is up to the parent with whom the children are staying at the time. See if you do. It is fairly standard. Then you can refer back to that. Plus, if the kids are teens, ask him to communicate with them directly if he wants to know about weekend plans like practice and sleepovers. Not putting them in between you two, but rather showing them an interest in their lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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There's an app for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Who's buying flares for the fall? If you are, how old are you? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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No, I find draped pants really uncomfortable, this is why I don't like wearing skirts or dresses. Only pants for me and those that stick close to my body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I have some, bought them earlier in the summer but haven't worn them. They are not extremely flared and with a heel are super flattering. I am 40. Just not sure what shoes to pair with them for fall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I've got a pair and I might do a suede wedge. Lk Bennett has a not clunky one I have my eye on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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oy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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yes, and I'm not even jewish, but that deserved an oy. Hope you find some burberry plaid sunglasses to go with that look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Oh god. Back to the drawing board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Booties! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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I have a pair that are slightly flared (not much), dark wash. I have actually had them a long time and do wear them, 35. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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I am considering. I find them very flattering on my top-heavy body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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no, 47 and I don't think they look good on me and I am not going to spend the time trying to find a pair that does, just to go out of style quickly again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Not me. Will continue to rock the skinny jean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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37, will wear for dressier occasion since I'll be wearing heels on my already tall frame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Not me. I'm too short and have tiny feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate my job. I've worked my ass off, and these people refuse to promote me or give me a raise. I'm so ready to quit, but can't afford to. Please give me tips to survive this craziness. I cry at home over the bull I deal with here. I don't want work to affect my life. Anyone btdt that can provide me with some tips. TIA! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Can you start looking? It'll make you feel better even if you don't find anything quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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op: I have, but haven't dedicated as much time as I should to it. I'm definitely going to ramp up the search. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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GL. I had been in your position. I'd be crying on the way to work (and I don't easily cry). I ended up quitting before I found something else. It was rough, but I had to do it for my state of mind. Definitely start looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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op: thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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np: to OP, don't quit before finding something new. It will be harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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I know excactly what you mean. Planning to start search again after Labor Day vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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+1 make a plan for searching, it will make you feel better, so that even if you don't find something right away, you have a plan. I had bad IBS, that "magically" went away the week I started my new job! It was amazing what stress can do to your body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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I am in the same boat. Hang in there and don't give up. Keep looking for a better job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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op: thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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You could stop working your ass off hoping for a promotion. Disengage, stop caring. Go in, do your work and your work only. If they call you on a drop in productivity you can (if it's true) say "I have been working long and hard for a raise/promotion. I've talked to you many times about wanting a raise/promotion. I was working as if I had those things in the hope that I would get those things. Since it's clear I won't get them, I will be doing the work that is appropriate for my level/salary" Then schedule a few personal days to job hunt and start going home at 5:00. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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This. Stop killing yourself at work. Enforce better boundaries. Be pleasant but do not be a doormat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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How old are you and are you vying for long-term security? Is the grass really greener elsewhere? What kind of raise are we taking about as % of comp and is your pay generally market? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Sorry, sister. I'm in the same place as you. Try to fake it in terms of being cheerful (not grumpy) and maintaining a good work attitude, and do not let your employer walk all over you - boundaries are important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Please take this in the spirit it is intended: Does all your hard work result in something your management wants or values? I have someone on my team who clearly KILLS herself every month to produce a report for me. Every month I thank her for it and let her know what I really need - which is like a tenth of what she gives me to dig through plus a metric I end up pulling for myself. She's worked for me for almost a year and she's not going to be happy at formal review time when I give her this feedback for what will be the 12th time by then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a volunteer possession that I cannot get out of and it's driving me crazy. They don't pay me and I hate how I am tied to the cases. I am so fucking angry right now. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Why can't you get out of it. Simply say these words "I'm so sorry but I can no longer commit to x as of x date." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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II signed an oath stating that I would be on the case until it resolved, but the cases are supposed to resolve in 12 months. I've been assigned to this case since April 2014 and just today, the judge decided that the case would be extended for 6 more months because he's unhappy with the mother. My supervisor said, "Well, I guess we have to stick with it." I told her that I want to quit and she said, "You took an oath to stay on until the case finishes." I am so angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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An oath? What sort of volunteer position requires an oath? If it is volunteer then simply tell them your circumstances have changed and you are unable to volunteer more time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Yes, it's a governmental organization. I did tell her that my circumstances have changed and she doesn't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Apply to the judge to get off the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Maybe an attorney doing pro bono? If so, not the same thing as plain old volunteer work. You have certain obligations as an attorney, whether the case is paid or unpaid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Not an attorney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Is this CASA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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No, but close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Ha, I am about to take a similar case, I think. Should I back out? I really see the need for volunteer attorneys in this area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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I think you've posted here before - sorry to hear the situation has gotten worse. Is the oath legally binding? Sounds like your boss is playing hardball because she doesn't have anyone else to put on your case. If you quit what can she do to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O- TMI, but has anyone noticed that they have a weird body odor or urine odor after drinking strong coffee? I always notice that my pee smells like coffee. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Yes, you are dehydrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Does the dehydration help with odor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Not dehydrated, just have coffee coming out. Pee smells different with different things - ever eat asparagus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I drink a lot of coffee every day and the only time my urine smells like coffee is when I am dehydrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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It's because of the economy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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No. The only thing that has ever changed urine scent is antibiotics (or asparagus) for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] To the person in the MP who pretended to be me re: cheating dh: you are a hateful, spiteful, awful person. I am not a "young, overconfident attorney". I am not really any of the things you are trying to make me out to be. My life is hard enough without a horrible troll the likes of you. Anthropology mom, I would not get in touch to talk to you about this, so if someone does, they're lying. I will continue to post only because some people on here are very helpful. You, on the other hand, are a bully impersonating me as you have tried to do, and in such a horrible way, too. I have been on UB for years, and this is the lowest I have ever seen anyone go. 77 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Huh? Are you fighting with a UB poster??!?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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With a UB poster who pretended to be the OP of this thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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she wasn't pretending to be you. she just put your series of posts together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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She absolutely was pretending to be me, which is clear from both her OP and her responses to some of the input people gave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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NP: she summarized your prior posts, referring to you as "she" and "her". I have no idea if the summary was accurate or not, having thankfully missed the prior posts, but she's definitely not pretending to be you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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I think op has reading comp issues and also does not understand the meaning of op, np, pp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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actually, if you read the MP post, it is written as if it is the person with the problem writing when, in fact, it's an impersonator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Or maybe it was written by the actual original poster who is now claiming to be an impersonator. No way to know and who cares? It's not that interesting or unusual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I've never seen anyone accuse anyone else of that on here. In 6 or 7 years of watching. It's pretty low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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No, it is obvious that it's a parody. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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^^OP just doesn't find it funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Right, and why would she when she's actually going through all that drama? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I think the point was for OP to see how ridiculous she is being. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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I think the point was for OP to see how ridiculous she is being. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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It didn't sound like one, which is why there are some legit responses on there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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There are people on the MP post who offer advice and ask questions. She responds as if she were me. The entire OP of that post is asking the question as if she were me. It's all impersonation, and it's wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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It's all anonymous- no one knows who you are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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it doesn't matter. pretending to be someone else only to try and make fun of them later in the post is never appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Op is acting like she is some known entity on here. It doesn't matter- no one knows who you are or cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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No, I'm not at all. I'm just saying that others shouldn't try to be someone whom they are not. Which seems basic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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If this offends you so much, there are plenty of non-anonymous places for you on the web [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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It's only offensive where someone crosses a line, as that OP did here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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No one has crossed any lines. Except maybe the PG lady with the cheating husband crossing the line into crazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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You sound like you're defending yourself, either for doing it or jumping on the bandwagon. It's not ok, no matter how you slice it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Both posters are probably trolls. Or the same troll. I don't care. If you want to be offended by someone, go look for one of the racists, the anti-Semites or the MRA trolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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They are also offensive. Doesn't stop the Impersonator troll's post from being offensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yep, it's an offensive place. Not for the thin-skinned. The post you are all worked up about I would put in the bottom 5% of offensiveness, even on the off-chance it is true you are a real person being impersonated by a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I agree that you can't be on here and be thin-skinned, but pretending to be another poster is just of a different character than the normally offensive trolls who are on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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You may not have realized this before, but you are frequenting an anonymous, unmoderated website mostly populated by trolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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It's not totally and not always, which is why I have posted over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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Anthropology mom wanted to talk to the poster who put all your posts together, not you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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I just want to make it clear that if someone does get in touch with Anthro mom pretending to have this story, it's fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Anthro mom here. The pp is correct. So you didn't start that post that is in mp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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NO. I did not. And none of the answers to the questions or advice is mine. Nor is that poster's summary of my issues accurate. She is a troll and a fake. Impersonating someone else's painful story just brings this board to a new low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Honey, you are not that special. There have been many much lower lows! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Eh. I've never seen anyone pretend to be another poster on this board. It's one thing to try and summarize what you think are similar issues. It's another to make a post pretending to BE that person. That is low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Really? Becauses I can think offhand of at least a 1/2 dozen cases of someone pretending to be a real, named person because they are trying to do real damage to them in real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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But those are clearly fake. This was someone pretending to be another UB user with a problem, which seems different (not that those other attempts are good things to do -- of course they're not). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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There is no such thing as a "UB user". Assume everything is fake and everyone is a troll. If you want real advice from real people, look elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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I've gotten sincere advice here. That's not the point, really. The point is that what that MP poster did was just wrong. It was cruel and it was wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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See, that's why posting so many times is unproductive. You can't deny that the summary is correct because we have all SEEN your posts repeatedly. You ARE that bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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No, it's not all accurate, actually, but I have gotten some really good and helpful/insightful advice. It was quite productive for me, until that poster decided to do what she did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Ok fotcha. But let me ask, why does it bother you that someone is doing that? You have posted for helpful advice from anon people. Why does it matter if someone pretends to be you if they do it reasonably accurately? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Because it wasn't totally accurate, and because the post was really a pretext for her to be snide and make bullying, hurtful, damaging remarks about the situation. And because, in response to advice some people were trying to give, she pretended to be me, which is just not the right thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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What wasn't accurate about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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That would require me to itemize all the ways that poster got my horrible situation wrong, and I'm just too upset about this at the moment. It may not seem a big deal to you, but pretending to be me in order to make light of the situation, which is hard enough for me as it is, is just cruel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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LOL, you sound an AWFUL lot like the poster you claim wasn't you! Same vague, aggrieved drama queen tone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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ok, so congrats to Impersonator Mom for a great impersonation. Not sure what you want me to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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That's why you look delusional, b/c most of the responders have told you that you are nutty and the ones with actual advice have expressed their concern with your repeated posts after already getting advice. Yet, you characterize it as "helpful." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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this is also an inaccurate summary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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WAIT?! I'm confused who did anthro mom want to talk to? The OP of this post or the fake op? And why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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I guess I asked to talk to the person who appeared to think critically about the poster (creating the list) but perhaps she is also the fake. I would like to talk to almost anyone who is interested in talking to me. anthropologistmom@hotmail.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I imagine that would make it even more interesting to an anthropologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Ooo, one anonymous poster posing as another anonymous poster! Haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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You're fake! No you are! No YOU are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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maybe -- as long as she recognizes it for what it is, which is fake trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Yes and no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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LOL. You are nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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+1. Whatever your husband's problems, you are quite the piece of work yourself. Good luck to that baby (assuming there is one). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Yes, you're right. There's no baby, this is all a big, dramatic fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Op is probably a man that escaped the psyche ward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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On ybm they've gone lower [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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which is why many of us are here, and not on ybm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Retard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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This is extremely bizarre, all around. Can someone please name this poster so we can identify her later? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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Anonymous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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There are lots of women on here with cheating DH's, so easier to name the poster doing the impersonation: Impersonator Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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So, which one is real? Was it just porn, just cheating or some other heinous, evil crime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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She's too upset right now to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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it's not relevant to this post anyway, which is just to call out the MP poster for doing what she did. It's not to rehash the events in question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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But you are saying it was inaccurate, so how can we know going forward what the real story is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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If the impersonator keeps impersonating, you won't. Hopefully, she stops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I've said in other posts what's going on. That MP's summary isn't totally accurate -- some of it is, but much of it isn't. That's not really the point. The point of this post is just to say that pretending to be someone else -- someone with a real problem who is obviously hurting over it -- solely for the purpose of making light of the situation is just wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Maybe they have a similar problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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They don't. One is impersonating the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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^^which I know since I am the one being impersonated . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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It would be really helpful if you identified all your responses with "op" since it seems you have written about half the responses on this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] My 6mo still wakes up 3-4x per night. On a bad night, about twice per week, he'll wake up 5x a night. I am going crazy. He nurses quite a bit during two of those times, which makes me think that he's really hungry, so we've upped his food intake and still no difference. My other two children were only waking once per night at this age, so I don't know what I'm doing differently. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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My second was like that. The only thing that helped was having my husband go in at night so that we could night wean him (still breastfeed as much as you want during the day). We did that later though, like 12mos. I would think you could night wean earlier though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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How many ounces does he get during the day? If you are 100% nursing, pump a little and give him a couple of ounces before he naps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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I nurse him before he takes a nap and goes to bed at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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OK. My advice still stands. I have a 6 month old also (also my third child). I give a bottle of breast milk at night but in the last couple of weeks, he has wanted a little more, so I have been adding 2 ounces and that has done the trick. I have always given him a little bottle of 2-3 ounces of breast milk or formula before each of his three naps, and he happily takes it. He sleeps 7-7. I would cut down on the nursing in the middle of the night too - that is probably more habit than anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Why do you put breast milk into bottles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Because my office doesn't let me bring my baby to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Just curious why the bottles at night when he is with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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I'm not always home by 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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OP - Ok, how much food does he get during the day? We've started oatmeal and butternut squash, 2 oz each. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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We just started oatmeal once a day…probably about an ounce or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Any number of things could be happening. Growth spurts, teething, too distracted during the day to get the nourishment he needs from nursing. I'm sure I'll get flamed but my suggestion is to just bring him back to bed with you, lay on your side and let him nurse while you both go back to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Also you have to remember every child is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] when is it too late to get an epidural? Is it silly to try and labor as long as possible without epidural and then get it towards the end if it's getting to be too much pain? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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NYU used to have a free seminar on meds in childbirth given by head of anesthesia -- if they still have you should go! Lots of myth busting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Not silly. If you truly want to have an unmedicated birth, get a doula. I couldn't have done it without her support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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how bad was the pain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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It was actually manageable. The most painful part only lasted 1 hour at most and then it was over. Most of it is mental, so the doula helps with getting over the fear about what's to come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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NP Bad. Like a flaming corset being squeezed by a mac truck. If you want to do it without, fine but the pain is bad. It's temporary and the baby is permanent, and your body is designed to forget it but don't let anyone tell you it isn't bad in that moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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I didn't want an epidural with my first, but then my doctor gave me pitocin and that went out of the window. I lasted another hour but it was the worst of my life. I should have asked for the epi sooner. With my 3rd, the hospital had this awful requirement that the patient get through two bags of IV fluids before she can get an epidural. That took nearly 2 hours and I was very much into advanced labor at that point, already 6cm dilated. I was very worried that I wasn't going to get the epidural and then the anesthesiologist took forever to get to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Such bulllshit. I got mine at 3cm. That's making it almost impossible to get it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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GET THE EPIDURAL AS SOON AS THEY WILL LET YOU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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My hospital will give you the epidural as late as you want it, as long as you can hold still enough. I labored as long as possible because I wanted to avoid a c-section or being in labor forever. I was 6 cm when I got it - but I actually waited a little too long to get to the hospital because I was in denial. I will say, 100 percent of people I know who went in not totally committed to going without an epidural got one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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I held off epidural until around 7cms each time. First two were Homeric-length births and the last was a couple of hours and I almost missed the anesthesiologist. I had planned to go natural but was too exhausted after all the laboring. Had no problems with pushing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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My epi went in and my daughter was born about 3 minutes later. So there didn't seem to be a time issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Where does a grown-ass woman in NYC go to buy jeans? Under $130 ideal. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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What cut do you want? Madewell has good jeans in that price range but they might be a little young/most of the cuts are skinny, straight, boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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I guess I want straight cut...not too sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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What cut do you want? Madewell has good jeans in that price range but they might be a little young/most of the cuts are skinny, straight, boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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target, old navy . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Lucky brand - in Time Warner shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Nordstrom Rack. Bloomingdales is 15% off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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What brands at Bloomingdale's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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There is a promo right now. You have to try things on - different brands flatter different bodies. Go to the second floor. I like AG and Paige. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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+1 re Paige [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Levis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Bloomingdales [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Just looked online. Some serious deals. Does the Soho one have a lot of jeans? Don't want to go all the way to the mothership. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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They do but obviously not as much as on Lex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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NYDJ at L&T, RL, Style & Co., Charter Club or others at Macy's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Np: This the kind of thing I hate about UB. People passing judgment on freaking jeans! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I would never judge you, Sugar. Ignore the brand and wear what you like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Are you 60+? Just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Flyover mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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How old exactly is a grown ass woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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A grown-ass woman is 37 and size 10 FYI. I love J Brand but cannot spend so much. I have a pair of AG from Anthro sale rack and like them, but Anthro sale rack is very catch-as-catch-can. Filene's used to be good but that's over now. Gap jeans (used to wear) are horrible and after a few hours get all stretched out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I got a pair of AG jeans dirt cheap at Michael's (consignment store on Madison) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Buy J Brand on sale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Where though? Ever tried eBay for this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Everywhere--stores have sales a lot. Too many fakes on ebay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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I order a bunch at Nordstrom Rack and then return what I don't want to the store. You can get J Brand cheap there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Love J too - SO flattering! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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I gave up and ordered Lands End. They look fine (I needed kick-around jeans, not something to wear with "a cute top and kitten heels" for date night) and have held up well. Order a size or even two down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Sometimes homeless people sell clothes on the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I get my 16month old DB to wake up later? He goes to bed at 7:15am and wakes up 5:15am and it's so tough. He naps from 9am-9:30am (I wake him after 30 min to preserver afternoon nap), and then naps 12:30pm-2pm. Would consolidating to one nap help?? How do I go about doing that? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Just let him have his sleep at term - it all changes anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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I wouldn't wake him up from his morning nap just to preserve his afternoon nap. Kids need between 10 - 12 hours of sleep including naps. If he's sleeping those hours, he should be fine. Only way you might be able to get him to wake up later would be to put him down later. Sounds to me like he sleeps fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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op: Thank you. The only thing is. if I don't wake him from morning nap he happily sleeps from 9am-10:30am and then will not nap at all in the afternoon and be a mess by bedtime. It's tricky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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or: so like poster below said, try dropping the morning nap and doing only the afternoon nap. But honestly, your dc sounds like a good sleeper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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op: thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Babies need a lot more than 10 hours! Most need more than 12. you can usually tell by their behavior of they ar getting enough sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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op: yes, he is extremely cranky in the morning so I know he wakes up still tired, but won't go back to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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My 1.5 yo is similar. Hopefully just a phase! It is annoying bc my 3 yo sleeps till 7:30 and we can't go for a walk or anything until she gets up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Putting him down later is a bad idea. Most sleep studies actually say the opposite. Put him down earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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a lot of kids drop to one nap around this time so i would drop that morning nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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this. none of my kids had a morning nap at this age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Silly question, but do you have black out shades? The morning light could be the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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op: I do have blackout shades and agree they are crucial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I think the first trick is always to stop any manipulation and see what the real sleep pattern is. I would stop waking him up for a few weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] This is pretty random, but maybe someone has an idea for me. I'm looking for a piece of furniture that is closed storage on the bottom but open bookshelves on the top (truly open, so that you could see through it from the side view). About 50" wide, 16" deep, quite tall. Anyone have an idea of where I could look? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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I'm sure there's an IKEA hack to make this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:09 PM Flag
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who gives a shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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google wayfair and type in your specs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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This. Was going to make the exact same suggestion. They have filters that let you put in desired height, length, depth ranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Ahh now it makes sense! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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What are you trying to store? I can't even picture what you are describing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Google mid century modern room divider. I'm pretty sure I've seen what you are looking for in that context. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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OP: this ikea thing is perfect, but can i get it in better-than-ikea quality somewhere? it's going to be very visible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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CB2 should have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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I finally gave up because that Ikea thing was the closest I could find to what I wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Sorry TMI but 14 Wks pg and the constipation i just awful. I was hoping it would have eased up by now but it is worse. Any tips? I eat a good amount of greens and fruit but I cant stand this anymore! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Same. Take 2 colace everyday with your prenatal. I take the 100mg, the best . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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I've also tried mirilax, benefiber , and MOM. Colace seems to be the best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Oh man, if your plugged up now wait till you get into your third trimester. Metameucil worked well for me and when that wasn't enough I drank lots of water+colace and metameucil and worked like a charm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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I had to take mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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Citrucel is wonderful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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Are you willing to drink green tea? I swear by Whole Foods green tea. I have a cup every AM and it keeps me regular. (But there is caffeine, so I don't know if you want that while PG.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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miralax [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Do you take zofran for nausea? It made me really constipated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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Nope. Just prenatal which I took in my last pg no problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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TMI but once I was so constipated that stool stuck in between. After 15 mins, I had to use my hand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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Np OMG me too. It was horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Colace and benefiber. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Natural calm! It's a magnesium supplement. Works like a charm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Try eating foods w/ a lot of fiber. Make sure you're eating - I think it's 21g of fiber a day. It tastes gross, but I used to drink prune juice to help me go to the bathroom. A huge glass in the night before bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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I took a prenatal that had stool softener in it and by 3rd tri I was also taking 2 colaces a day. Also had to take milk of magnesia. 2nd tri was better but 1st and 3rd were terrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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drink lots and lots of water, too. the fiber won't help -- and in fact will make things worse -- if you're not drinking enough water for things to get moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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I took Colace and fiber gummies every single day. And half cup of strong coffee helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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FYI, Colace and fiber are basically stool softeners, but won't "get things going" (i.e. act as a stimulant) which is what the coffee helps with. 2 different issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Stool softeners and prune juice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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The iron supplement that I took was called "good iron" or "easy iron" bought at Whole Foods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My 17 month old (chronically poor sleeper) is doing better, but still so sleep deprived (she basically cries and clings all day, rubs eyes, throws tantrums, etc). Bedtime is 7 (cries for about 30 mins), wake up at 5 (I leave her in bed till 6). She usually wakes up screaming a few times in the middle of the night but just for a minute or 2. By 8am she is desperate for a nap - this is the sleep she does best with (falls asleep after only a few minutes of crying). She gets up around 10am. Then in the afternoon she gets extremely crabby. I put her down for a 60 minute "rest" but she falls asleep 1 in 5 days at best. I have tried skipping afternoon nap and putting her down at 6 pm, but then she will just cry and cry till 7:30 (when she usually falls asleep). I have also tried postponing her am nap, but she just melts down completely and takes a very short nap then. She has always gone to sleep on her own without a bottle or paci; has a lovey she is attached to. Any advice or btdt? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Do you have black-out shades? This has made a huge difference for us. When they moves from the light until near total darkness, they start to relax immediately and know what's coming, vs. trying to get them to nap in broad daylight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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yes, thank you for suggestion. Hasn't seemed to help db but helps my older dc so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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What time are you trying to put her down for her afternoon rest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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3 hrs after wake up from first nap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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Why do you think she is a poor sleeper? What do you think contributes? Personality? Nursing? Something else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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She used to be a million times worse so I've always wondered if there was something bothering her, but she is healthy. Her personality is actually very cute (although very stubborn). Had "colic" for 6 months+ and we never found an underlying cause [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Allergies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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No had her tested. She has eczema which indicates allergies but haven't identified any yet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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What about wheat/gluten sensitivity? Might not show up on allergy test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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How would I test for this? Just remove wheat from her diet for a week and see how she does? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Yes, but I would give it a full two weeks. Just do the best you can with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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My dd had eczema and was lactose intolerance - lots of crying. She could have 2 yogurts, but three sent her over the edge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Reflux? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Lay down with her in afternoon? I had to do this it coerce both my kids. They then fell sound asleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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She just screams if I go in there and try to rub her back (will just stand up and scream for over an hour) and would never lie in bed with us- just climbs out and screams/hits if we try to hold her in bed. she is only calmed by being held while one of us is standing up, but I can't do that for an hour [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Maybe that's reflux - doesn't want to lie down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Get a good, comfy rocking chair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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np: what if they are in a crib? Did you lay on the floor, to the same effect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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I don't think cry it out is working for you. You need to halt that and try other strategies. Kid sounds miserable. Try the No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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To me, it sounds like when she is hard to settle and when she is resting, she isn't sleeping well. Can you push back that 8am nap by 10 minutes each day to try to get her on a better schedule? She is right at the cusp of one nap I'd bet but that will never happen if she doesnt stop getting up so early [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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