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[ - ] Which Manhattan and Brooklyn private schools are known for having nice kids and families? Are there any schools that you think of as having bullying type cultures? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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imo, bullies everywhere. Only takes one nasty kid to ruin your kid's entire experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:10 PM Flag
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Oh please. It's your job to give your DC the tools to prevent exactly that. "Nasty" people don't disappear, they're present your entire life. Your DC is your job...do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:12 PM Flag
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Np: Great idea! Blame the victim and his or her parents!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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NP: How is this blaming the victim or parents. Responder is merely stating that there are jerks at all phases in life. You probably can't avoid them. If your kid runs into a kid that sucks, then don't play with them. Meet other kids. You're not going to be able to find a school that has a 100% no jerks policy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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NNP: it's nowhere near as simple as "just play with someone else" when you have a small group of kids that are together from K-13 (not so easy to just find new friends) and on top of that you have all the social media that takes thing out of the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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This is true. Bullies don't disappear. They grow up, graduate and start trolling the Internet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Np, we live outside NY and our kids' school had a very effective anti bullying campaign that really succeeded in changing the mind of kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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That is wonderful. I am glad to hear it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] i have friends over at my weekend house. they just asked if they could stay an extra night - i felt very put on spot and said im sure its fine i just need to check w dh. Dh does not want them to but does not want to seem like the bad guy.. I know im wrong here, but I didnt know what else to say!! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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that's annoying, but i would probably just suck it up too. a little bold of them to ask!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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i know! i feel bad bec dh is annoyed but i didnt know what else to say. argh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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is there something fun to do today where you can all be out of the house? did they at least buy you dinner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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they did theyve been fantastic guests, bought us dinner bottle of wine and gifts for my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:10 PM Flag
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Oh then let them stay. Throw something out there for karma's sake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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i dont mind but my husband is annoyed at me and i feel like crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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if they are good friends tell them what you told us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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take your tongue and tell a lie, that your dh reminded you that you are expecting relatives tomorrow and want to spend the day cleaning up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:08 PM Flag
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Why do they want to stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, they put you in a totally awkward spot. There's no way you can think up a lie that quickly and it's lame of you to put it on DH. You were kind of forced to say yes. I would just say yes and then put it in your mental notes for these particular guests. The next time they come, make sure you have 'plans' the day they leave so that you have an out if they pull this again. Are they very close friends? Normally this wouldn't bug me at all if it were incredibly close friends. But medium friends, it's kind of lame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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thanks. ifeel like its too late/awkward to say no now.. but next time i know better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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hamptons? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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are they good friends? just say i'm sorry maybe next time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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^^^and if they are not good friends, who needs users? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Tell them your DH has something planned for Valentine's Day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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Ugh, I have a friend like this. Always asking to use my place. I never ask any big favors from her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Turned 35 in the fall and I've been gaining weight since. I changed my eating habits and generally eat veggies and protein now. I don't deny myself carbs but I've cut back drastically. I don't have time for exercise but I'm on the go all day. The things I used to do in the past to lose weight don't work anymore. I can't bear to look in the mirror anymore. I look fine with clothes on but my naked body is just not what it used to be. I'm dreading the summer when my arms and legs are out in full view. Anyone been there? I feel like I just need to accept it but I can't. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:39 PM Flag
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What is your life like that you are so terrified of not looking your best all the time? Or aging naturally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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35 is way too young to feel this way. You are lying to yourself about your diet, exercise routine, or both. Do mix of core exercises and cardio religiously, and be very strict about what you eat. Limit alcohol and sugar. You will not only lose weight, your body shape will improve dramatically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:03 PM Flag
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Yep, it's usually in the mid-thirties that your metabolism starts giving you the finger and all your usual tricks no longer work. You basically have to be very cognizant of how many calories you're ingesting each day. I think that most people don't have a really good idea of how many calories are in certain foods. Even if they're healthy foods, if your portion size is large, you're still ingesting more than you potentially need. Start tracking and get a better sense of how much your intake is. Exercise is not going to help you lose weight unless you're doing an ungodly amount. It's all food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm the one asking last night if i can have sushi while breastfeeding. So i did, and was up all night throwing up. Must be food poisoning. Can i still breastfeed? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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Pump and dump a couple. Weird coincidence ...how sick were you, exactly? I had a friend who had a bad piece of sushi and it didn't present so much as a night of vomiting as a night of wishing for instant death. He was shitting green stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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OP: No diarrhea, just vomiting. I'm waiting till 9am to call pediatrician. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Oh you poor thing...ugh! Well, guess you just lost a few pounds of baby weight! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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You definitely can eat it while breastfeeding. There is no issue with that. Good poisoning is another story. Just have liquids. Wash your hands well and keep nursing if you feel comfortable. What do you need Ped for? Unless you are very drunk or have drugs in yur system (some kinds not all) there is no issue with nursing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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OP: I read online that some bacteria may pass to BM during food poisoning, made me worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Is that normal for a 7 weeks old to sleep throughout the night? She ate at 10:30am and is still sleeping (we cosleep). Should i wake her up? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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are you bf? are you sure she;s eating enough? how is her weight gain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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Pumping and bottlefeeding. This is the first night she did not wake up. Weight gain is normal, she is already 11 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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obvs im not a doc but if she's getting enough calories i would just try to enjoy!!! my friends kids both started sleeping thru the night around this time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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It's fine. Just keep an eye on her calorie intake and growth. If she seems extra sleep during the day call ped. If she seems happy and content when she wakes up no problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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At 11 lbs I wouldn't worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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Yes, fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:26 PM Flag
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She's fine...be prepared for her to eat all day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Don't wake her up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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+1. Mine did this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a TT income in NYC? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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At least $1mm if you have kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] In your experience, do you think most women are better looking than they themselves think they are? Or worse looking than they think they are? Why? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:32 PM Flag
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I don't think there is any formula to this. I think it depends on the woman. It is all related to self esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:35 PM Flag
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I think above poster is right pretty much - but I think that women tend to think they are a little better looking than they are are, which I think is a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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I disagree. I think women think they are not as nice looking as they really are - even women who seem very confident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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We must be from different areas? Most women I know have a healthy attitude about how they look - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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I think I'm better looking than I am. I'm regularly surprised when I look in a window or mirror during the day and I'm actually about 15% less hot than I walk around thinking I am. It kind of cracks me up. I don't have higher self esteem than the next person, I think I'm just kind of delusional. The only time this didn't hold true was when I was pregnant. My hair and skin were incredible, think they brought me up that 15% during those months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh is up in bed wanting morning sex. I'm down here with iPad and dogs and tv and coffee. Someone tell me to get my ass off the couch and make my sweet dh happy...ugh, I, so lazy. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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It's V-Day, baby. Go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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Two more upvotes and I'm going. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:30 PM Flag
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No more votes. Go because you love him and want to make him happy. He will be so glad. It's your marriage, not mine :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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Back!! I'd already left, I was sort of kidding about the upvotes. Dh headed to the kitchen to poach eggs now...such a win. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:52 PM Flag
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you are wonderful OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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I knew my home girls would get me going,..came to the right place for inspiration. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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just do it. will be over quick and good for the marriage. even tho it dogs, coffee and tv sound better to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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Did it! It was exactly short and sweet...so much quicker in the mornings. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:52 PM Flag
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Yeah, they're on deck in the mornings. Doesn't take much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:03 PM Flag
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Wish I could go back and not make the same mistakes. I said no a lot. I'm divorced now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:32 PM Flag
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Op: that should make you run, not walk. Go get him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:36 PM Flag
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run op run! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:38 PM Flag
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I DID. lol. I'm back now, dogs coffee and UB here waiting for me. It was worth the effort. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:53 PM Flag
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See, not so bad !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:57 PM Flag
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Not at all! I need to remember this next time I'm debating this question...the upside is so much greater than the potential downside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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seriously! he's making you poached eggs now. go be with him- plan something fun for the day. and report back to us how it's going. i'm watching this one. it's so cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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Thanks! I'm 51 so no spring chicken but love my dh and want another 20 (at least!) years with him. I'm heading for the kitchen to make the eng muffins...happy Vday everyone. So glad I asked on here. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:06 PM Flag
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Divorced lady even put me over the edge. He's getting a blowie today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:58 PM Flag
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you're welcome - divorced lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:58 PM Flag
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LOL. My DH too!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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you'll have fun - do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:35 PM Flag
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Do you have kids? I have an insane 2.5yo and wish I still had the opportunity for moments like that on Sunday mornings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:57 PM Flag
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Old ones. College ones. It was def harder 15 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Puerto Rico a good vacation place? Limited options. Any recs for places to stay? Thanks!!! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:20 PM Flag
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I've stayed at the Ritz there. It wasn't a great Ritz but it's super easy to get to Puerto Rico. Old San Juan is very cool and my boys loved visiting the old forts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:52 PM Flag
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thanks! how far is old san juan from the ritz? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me how to find a TT husband. I'm 34, TT education, live in Manhattan, but tend to be insular and at this point don't keep in touch with anyone from college or grad school, so am unconnected. Online dating gets me mediocre people. Sorry I'm (secretly) so snobby). Of course, love and chemistry would trump any of this. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:11 PM Flag
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How attractive are you? Why would a tt husband want to marry you? You don't make it clear what you are offering. A top education does not make you unique. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:14 PM Flag
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Are you active in alumni org? Isnt there a dating service just for ivy grads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:16 PM Flag
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There used to be. They ended up opening it to like 30 other "acceptable" schools. Nothing wrong with that of course, but somewhat different than the original premise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:00 PM Flag
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There are actually a number of them now. All with the same idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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How to find an IVY league educated multi- million $$ earner? Maybe a second time rounder, but most are taken at your age. Maybe you could be a home wrecker if you are that desperate. You will have to come to terms with having all sorts of other baggage in that department. Wait, I have an idea. Why don't you just find a guy who is kind, honest and loves you aside from "TT" status. This is all so ridiculous. Earn some money yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:18 PM Flag
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You are 34 yo single woman in NYC... if you are snobby it's time to get cats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:20 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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34 is not that young anymore. Have you had a series of lengthy relationships which have ended? Are you too picky? What's going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:21 PM Flag
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Second the cat suggestion. You're turning into mutton....get more realistic expectations. Notice I didn't say "lower". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:22 PM Flag
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Most are locked down or married by 34. Look for a guy that treats you with respect and comes from a good family. Interested in anyone at work or the gym ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:22 PM Flag
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OP: I have all these degrading thoughts about my own age on a daily basis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:45 PM Flag
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At what age did you start having them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:47 PM Flag
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NYC is a tough place to find a husband. Be a bit more open minded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:47 PM Flag
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Either move or reframe your hunt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:51 PM Flag
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Bar at the 4 seasons, join ny athletic club and an exclusive gym like the reebok club, hamptons share house with upscale crowd. Make sure you look your best, blowouts, gym, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:47 PM Flag
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hamptons share house @34? blech [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:55 PM Flag
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OR: agree it doesn't sound so fun but I've heard of several people meeting like that. You just need to get out there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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Bar at the 4 seasons, join ny athletic club and an exclusive gym like the reebok club, hamptons share house with upscale crowd. Make sure you look your best, blowouts, gym, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:47 PM Flag
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DH here (income and education would qualify me as "TT"): first, get in shape (if you're not already), and make sure you take pride in your appearance every day. Pursue your own interests and hobbies with abandon - join groups involved with things you care about. Better chance meeting someone like minded that way as opposed to in a bar or online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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np: what's your income? how did you meet your wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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Mid 7 figures. Ironically, I met my wife online many years ago, though I don't generally think that's a good way to meet people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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PS. My now wife couldn't have cared less about my income or career prospects when we met (though she did like that I was driven). She was just looking for a nice person she was into both physically and intellectually, and I was looking for the same. So OP, maybe focus on that and forget about all this TT business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:00 PM Flag
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I would move, honestly. Unless you are extremely attractive, it's going to be really tough. I moved to CA at 29 because I saw the writing on the wall, got married to a wonderful dh and now am back with our toddler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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Where did you go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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San Francisco [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:03 PM Flag
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You don't have any friends from college or grad school? This seems strange to me. Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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Head down to Stone street after work for a drink at Ulysses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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She's too old for that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 02:03 PM Flag
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Honestly, you have to look for a guy who's short and homely but well educated and makes good $$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:39 PM Flag
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I would get out of Manhattan. I am close to 40 and all my friends who were single at 34 still are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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