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[ - ] What do you do if your MIL posts racist crap on Facebook all day long? DO you engage, unfriend or ignore? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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#2, then #3. [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore [ Reply | More ]
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Unfollow [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ha - I just spent the past FOUR HOURS trying to track down an old frenemy on the internet and I FOUND THEM !! Sweet Victory !! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Why did you want to track them down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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It was just in the back of my mind. Someone posted something earlier in one of the Owen LaBrie threads which sounded a lot like a story I'd heard about a guy I knew from home at one point. It took me an age because he had managed to scrub a bunch of his information from the internet because of the scandal, but some evidence of where he is still exists. I'm not going to do anything. [ Reply | More ]
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Why did it take so long? And what are you going to do with the info? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Quitting nanny here. Made it with no nap today. The dad was pissed when I handed over a tantruming grouchy kid. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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And here I was about to ask you about what kind of quilt you were making. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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My grandma quilts. Not me. [ Reply | More ]
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You didn't let the kid nap on purpose to be mean to the parents? Or they asked you to not let him nap? Either way, seems kind of cruel towards the kid to do that to him on purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Would love some book recommendations or tips for handling my four year old son. He's killing me - impulsive, doesn't listen, doesn't respond to punishment or reward. Please tell me this phase will pass. I can't leave him alone for even a second to go to the bathroom because he annoys his sister or otherwise causes some disturbance. Thanks in advance. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Dr spock [ Reply | More ]
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Hire an ABA therapist and do what she says. [ Reply | More ]
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Thinking about this. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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My son needs it, but there are so many kids not on the spectrum who would benefit from it. But you must follow through with what the therapist teaches you. It can be life changing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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How Toddlers Thrive. It's awesome! Geared toward kids 1-6. [ Reply | More ]
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Kazdin Method for parenting defiant child. His books are good. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you rather DS be gay, or dead? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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How is this even a question? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 dead, obviously [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
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insta-collapse. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry your DS is a homo. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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dead. [ Reply | More ]
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Dead [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think the suburbs would be less boring if you have 4 kids? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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I have 2 in suburbs, I don't find it boring. I WOH though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Me too, I love the burbs *hides under a chair* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Depends. If they are young it can be more boring because play dates are hard to plan (not as many people want to invite all 4 over, if only one is going to one then the others are bummed). Hard to coordinate activities for everyone (can't do 4 different things and very few activities accommodate different ages). But I think as they are older and more independent it will be better. Always having a gang of kids around and other parents coming and going can be fun, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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I guess these hints apply to city life too though. [ Reply | More ]
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*things* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] American are very stupid and will go to hell for the murder of my wife Michelle Ong May Ee in order to use me for their politics. michelle obama dickhead has been fuck by other dickheads Singapore ISD led by lee kok fatt is responsible for the death of my wife Michelle Ong May Ee and led her to an affair using NASA alpha brainwave satellite by US dickhead obama to control her human brain frequency. Evident Im a cat E.T status recorded. Lee, down 3 to go lee kok fatt nick and my wife female int agent. NASA brain wave satellite validity is affirmed throughout worldwide intelligence agencies. obama dickhead is the causer of both Malaysia airlines disaster by US chief dod and us has the free will to move and manipulate their satellite over countries in space. Al Gore really is a useless piece of shit on my intelligence network.American just go to hell! obama dickhead, a member of African national congress secret society. All black dickheads are complete mentally handicapped retarded. Quarantine all dickheads inside America and Africa. Easy to start a civil war using dickhead. Dickhead are stupid use as cheap labor. They get lesser black on show to promote their stupidity like that dickhead obama. Dickheads are very stupid, irritating and ridiculous retards. To topple the US government, get another party to take over and the successor will expose the predecessor black ops covert operations including hijacking 2 malaysia air craft, middle east oil crisis and brain wave satellite abuses. American GO TO HELL x 3 Dickheads shit! Justified! Americans love to take others invention and proclaimed that themselves invented it to look good as world super power. Talk about piracy what a jerk. Please rename black house. If u see a dickhead walking and feeling nausea, say SHIT keep walking black son. What is the difference between obama dickhead, black shit dickheads and a cockroach? None u step on them immediately. All black dickheads are meant to be callously destroyed in the end 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Hi, Marcus! NASA here...just thought we'd say hi! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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And yes, we're watching you. And we have those recordings. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] It is so sad watching my 70 year old mother care for my dying 94 year old grandma. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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I am so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever heard a drone? This summer while we were camping, some a$$hole flew a drone over the campground. It made me hate humanity. I was seriously going to follow it to see where it landed and give them a piece of my mind. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Yes. A drone flew right over my head while I was playing golf. They should be illegal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Hit it with one of your clubs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Ha, I should have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Carry a shotgun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Carry a shotgun. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. They routinely fly over our house. It's maddening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Have you reported it to the police or to someone? Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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It's not illegal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Drones are so annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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I don't think they should be able to be used on other people's property. I do want to get one for my family's ranch though to look at the land. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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What are the drones for? Something military? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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There's a story in the Daily News about a monk who was sunbathing on top of a wind turbine when a drone flew by and took video of him. Poor guy can't even get privacy at the top of a turbine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Some guy in, I think, Texas, shot one down with a gun. It belonged to his neighbor, who was snooping around in his yard. He actually got arrested (the shooter). Unreal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Memo to self: if you down a drone, wear a mask and immediately disable the camera. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 7th grader begged me to let him play football this year, and I said yes. I feel like a horrible mother. To make things worse, I'm a doctor. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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I know a neurologist whose son plays football. What can you do? If they want to play, they play. [ Reply | More ]
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Fake, a neurologist wouldn't let her son get brain damage. [ Reply | More ]
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Not fake. [ Reply | More ]
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Dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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I would not let my kid play football. What's wrong with you??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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Believe me, I feel horrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Hopefully he will not like it as much as he thought he would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I hope you're right. I was hoping he'd do tennis instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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SATAN [ Reply | More ]
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Me too :( [ Reply | More ]
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Glad I have company here :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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What position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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They haven't started yet, but I anticipate he will play either offensive or defensive line. He's big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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Well if he's big he probably is less likely to get hurt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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I refuse to allow my son to play football. My BFF's brother is a retired NFL player and he says he would NEVER allow his son to play. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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My neighbor is a doctor and her son plays football. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Doesn't mean it's a good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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There are links between concussions and many neurological diseases like alzheimers. So my son I'm not going to let him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we sent thank you letter via email? Is it best to send it via mail? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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depends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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Depends on the occasion. For wedding gifts, handwritten is best. Most other thank yous can be done over email [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Sorry, I meant thank you letter after job interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Yes,definitely email, because in an office sometimes people don't check their mailboxes that often and they might think you never thanked them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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But I thought the tradition is to mail a thank you letter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Not for an interview. Email is better. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Email is better because by the time a snail mail letter arrives, they might have already made the decision. Most interviewers expect email thank yous these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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Could I have the same content for thank you letters to two people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Two people in the same organization? No [ Reply | More ]
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I thought thank you letter is just a formality. Do people really compare the notes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Oh, then email is best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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We still send via mail for our kid's birthdays, as does everyone else we know, but I would really like to switch - I think a good rule of thumb should be that if the invitation was via e-mail, the thank you can be too, but if the invitation was snail mailed (like for a wedding), the invitation should be snail mailed too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
[ - ] My cousin's daughter fell pregnant at 16. When I heard, i was livid and called the young man to find out that he was 23 years old. I wanted her mother to press charges but she wouldn't. We discovered that she lied about her age, repeatedly had sex with him and that he was not her first. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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What's the point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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good for them for taking responsibility. but LOL re: "fell pregnant" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
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A similar think happened to an old childhood friend. She admitted to lying and no charges were pressed. [ Reply | More ]
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In many states, it will be a question of how reasonable was his reliance on her representation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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The parents would have to press charges. Her parents chose not to and quite frankly I think that's the right decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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If we do not encourage girls to press charges, these things will not stop. Owen had been to harassment training, and that did not help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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What things will not stop? A girl lying about her age to sleep with an older guy? I'm not talking about Owen. [ Reply | More ]
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And do you really think he didn't realize her age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Is she responsible for lying or not? I knew what I was doing at sixteen years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Unfortunately parents know that pressung charges won't work. We live in a societty that favora men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Owen "the perv" went to school with these girls and TARGETED 15 yos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Fake post. You have sons and are worried about statutory rape charges. Tell your sons not to have sex with anything that moves and not to believe whatever they are told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Teen pregnancy is common. [ Reply | More ]
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She fell on his penis? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone have a DH who vetos every design choice but refuses to participate in the process? How do you get past this? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Oh God yes. I stop asking him and make an executive decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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^^He was also the same way with baby names. I almost strangled him. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm about to do that. This is madness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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Give him a few options, tell him which one you want and tell him that if he does not choose from among the options you have laid out within __ days, you are going ahead without his input. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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Does not work that way. Nice thought though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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How does it work then? What is your suggestion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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poster above - My DH would say he's not crazy about any of them, not offer any other ideas, and wander off. At which point I feel like I have sufficient justification for pleasing myself. If he wants to redecorate in the future, it's on him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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ITA. If he rejects all of your options, but refuses to provide alternatives, then you are free to proceed on your own terms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I should point out that I wouldn't do this with something really OTT design wise or very $$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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OP - we are talking about area rugs that are about 1k for trade pricing and 6 pillows for our couches at this point. I am losing my mind. We finally have the big ticket items ironed out and it's the devil in these last details that are the sticking point. He does not have a better alternative but rejects everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Stop trying to include him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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I wonder if your DH is like that at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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I am sure he is not. And he is not like this in other areas of our family life. Just home furnishing stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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that's a weird mix. Can you get him just to share some ideas or images with you so you can find stuff that better fits what he's looking for? He doesn't need to shop or buy or decide, but that way you don't have to constantly guess. [ Reply | More ]
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that's a weird mix. Can you get him just to share some ideas or images with you so you can find stuff that better fits what he's looking for? He doesn't need to shop or buy or decide, but that way you don't have to constantly guess. [ Reply | More ]
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I have general ideas, but he will have this idea that anything that looks good/he likes in isolation will work in any room. I don't think things should "match" but I want overall harmony in a room and for it not to look like a garage sale/hand-me-down room. We both really liked a rug, but once I got the sample in the room, I realized that it completely clashed with some art and he has a hard time seeing that just because you like something does not mean that it will work in any room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Maybe open a bottle of wine and write down your preferences. Dh and I couldn't agree on paint colors then we hired a consultant for $300, it turned out to be smart because she came up with colors neither of us thought of, that we both loved [ Reply | More ]
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We actually have a consultant in the mix to try to get over this and he will participate but later say that he really did not like something. Or when I have her come over to whittle down the choices to 3 solid ones he does not like what we came up with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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What if you told him he can have 1 room and decorate it any way he wants, and then you take over the other rooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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I might do that. I'm also going to suggest that it's important to me that we get this done, and he needs to come up with alternatives if what I am coming up with is not working for him. [ Reply | More ]
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Give him a deadline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o on public v private question. What about NYC parochial school? Is this a good middle ground? I don't see people post about this a lot. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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The two good NYC parochial schools are St Ignatius Loyola and Epiphany. [ Reply | More ]
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It's another option but I don't see how it's a middle ground [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe it's out of DOE and cheaper? Better of both worlds? How's curriculum? [ Reply | More ]
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No idea. I have 1 kid in a doe school and another at charter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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it's another option, yes. i know people happy with Loyola, Cathedral (Greek one on 74th St), St Stephen's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] DHs younger was born premature at 7 months. He's fine today but MIL (His mother) still treats him like a baby "well he was born premature and I was told to be careful with him." Um that was 40 years ago. He still lived at home. It's insane! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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LOL! That is pretty funny actually. [ Reply | More ]
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It's funny if you don't have to live with it I guess. My sister was also born at 7 months-married, working. My mother just looks at my MIL with a WTF look. [ Reply | More ]
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My kid was born at 34 weeks and starts at Hunter high school in 2 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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Is she on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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I doubt it-she needs to do BILs laundry and change his sheets and cook his meals for him. He's a [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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"He's a" what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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I was also born preemie at 7 months, and my mother still talks about it whenever I see her. I'm 59 and she's 88. [ Reply | More ]
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^^when I was born, my mother was told to go home and "not hold out too much hope." I think it can be a pretty traumatic experience, especially back then. [ Reply | More ]
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It was but still....my sister is 60 [ Reply | More ]
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What? [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. So much harder then. Not much people could do then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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To be fair premature birth was A LOT riskier then. My dh was a premie and his mom was told he would be stillborn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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My grandmother used to do this with my mom (also born premature). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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My ds had to have open heart surgery when he was 2 weeks. I am still more careful with him than I am with the other dcs. Plus he is the youngest and only boy and he is only 4. I wonder if i will ever get over that trauma for thinking i would lose him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Not easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] in middle of divorce and trying to settle financial aspects. lawyer thinks DH's offer is low and could likely get $175k - $500K more if it went to trial. trial would cost $100k and i would need to miss a few days of work (just started a new job). worth it to go trial? what would you do? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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do you need the $? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: i could survive without it i suppose, with slightly lower QOL. would be great to have the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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then go get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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Lawyers always say this and always want to go to trial. You win? They were right. You lose? The judge is at fault. Why not figure out what you would consider actually reasonable and propose that DH pay it and you skip the trial? [ Reply | More ]
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What is your own sense of this? Do you think the lawyer is exaggerating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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No, we went through the numbers and it appears that $175K is the absolute lowest a court would order under the law, assuming the judge isn't totally incompetent, which the lawyer conceded is possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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Do you think your ex really wants to litigate this? How much negotiation has gone on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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my lawyer thinks other lawyer is pushing him to litigation to collect fees and that his lawyer is wrong on a number of points. for example, he refuses to reimburse me for legal fees even though he earns 3x what i do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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Do you have a good level of confidence in your own lawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Yes, I do. I actually switched lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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I would roll the dice, see if you get assigned a competent & reasonable judge. If so, keep going forward with the litigation. If the judge is a total nightmare and unpredictable, withdraw the suit and accept DH's offer. It's a risk, but it might be worth taking in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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^^ just want to point out that if you do this, then try to withdraw your lawsuit and accept DH's offer, DH might withdraw his offer. If his offer is already very low, then he will appear to be unreasonable if he reduces his offer further. But it could happen, and then you would have to litigate that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Is it customary that the ex-DH will reimburse the wife for legal fees in this situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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that's the law in NY if DH is the monied spouse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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Oh, then that is totally ridiculous on the part of DH. I would call his bluff and litigate the bastard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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In other words, "would you spend $100K to get $175K to $500K?" Yes, I'll take that deal all day long please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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It's not totally risk free though. Aren't family court judges notoriously awful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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This. I hate the whole court scene. (Went through custody battle.) It's hard to say what a judge will or won't allow. I would take my money and run, for the peace of mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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+10,000. Anyone who thinks judges are unbiased and impartial doesn't know a lot of judges. I was amazed at how much the court referee in my divorce case came out with ill informed prejudicial statements. I've heard from friends that matrimonial judges are even worse. They take an instant dislike to one of you (regardless of facts). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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Well, more like to get $75K to $500K. But of course there is a small chance that I could get less than $75K or even less than what DH is offering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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Roll the dice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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^^$75K to $400K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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^^$75K to $400K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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So it's like this: Should I pay $100K and miss a few days of work for a 90% chance of getting $175K to $500K? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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No basis for estimating chance of success at 90%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Of course lawyer is saying that; he wants to get paid more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: When do you plan what you are wearing for the day (weekday, not weekend). Beginning of the week, night before, in the morning? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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If there's a special event, like I'm giving a presentation or something, I'll do it the night before. Otherwise, the morning of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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In the morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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Wish I were more organized and able to plan the night before, but it's usually a last-minute decision in the morning. My own fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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If there's weather ahead (rain, snow) I'll plan it the night before. If not, morning of [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Same thing every day: no planning involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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What is it specifically? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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I wear a uniform. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:35 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were going to build your family estate (imagine you're an early Vanderbilt or something), where would it be and what would it look like? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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I'll start to worry about that after I make my first billion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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Bushwick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:58 PM Flag
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Can I just buy the Biltmore? Or maybe Hearst Castle - I like the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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I wouldn't plan a family estate. I'd like to have small exquisite homes in Manhattan, Paris, Tuscany, or other places. Not just one big estate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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+1 I wouldn't want anything that requires a live in staff to manage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a resident and newly pg with my first db. Married for 3 years, together for 5. I recently became aware that my dh has been engaging in behavior we'd confronted and discussed while still dating and agreed (mutually I thought) needed to stop completely. He assured me it had, but through a series of coincidences and good/bad luck on my part, I've become aware that the behavior not only has continued but probably never stopped. Unsure of what to do,so tired and sick between work and first trimester, just want to climb in a hole. Family knows I'm pg but not that my marriage is in upheaval; not sure if dh is willing or even capable of making the changes necessary to stay married. Soon I'll make plenty of money and have more flexibility with work/home so should be able to handle single motherhood. Just so angry and disappointed, in myself and him. Wdyt? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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What behavior? You need to be more specific. But without knowing any details, I'd say you're an idiot for marrying someone thinking you could change his "behaviors." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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so what's he doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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He clips his toenails on the bed and doesn't clean it up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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lol, hi dh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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Can't really say....I suspect my SIL reads here and I don't want to put too much out. It's bad though. I need to figure things out for me and db. Him, not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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What? Like there are no other pregnant residents out there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Seriously. Can you not even say he's cheating/selling meth/etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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Chews with mouth open and makes noises like a fat person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Poops and doesn't flush [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Mock my pain :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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At least there are no skid marks involved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Stay with him for the free babysitting until you are done with residency, then bounce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Disagree. You have 6+ months to deal with this. The pregnancy and prospect of losing precious time with his child might be enough of a catalyst for him to take serious action. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Force him to deal with it now. Don't just sit back and ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Ultimatum time: Get treatment to help solve the root of the problem, or you walk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Do you prefer to stay with him and ignore the behavior or be on your own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Is this really you, or is it the imposter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Pretty sure I'm me. How would I not be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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NP: did you just switch law to medicine and move the baby due date around a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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The facts speak for themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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But the nefarious spousal behavior is still a mystery! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Yes, this. No resident would be this stupid and clueless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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:( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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Drugs/ affairs/ gambling/ porn? Spill it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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I'm guessing escorts/prostitutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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I'll go with anonymous gay sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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What I would do would depand on his financial situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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Is it something sexual or related to drugs? Is he a doctor too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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How much longer until your residency is over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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18 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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That is a long time. I am sorry about all of this. My gut says the best thing to do is end the marriage now, without waiting. But I see the logistical obstacles to doing that at this time in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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what kind of medical specialty would allow you to work from home? divorce him before you start making the big bucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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Radiology [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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^^not op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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Without knowing the nature of his behavior, how could you possibly expect us to give useful insights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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I guess I'm just venting...I don't really expect advice. Trying to figure this out while dealing while feeling sick and exhausted all the time is bearing me down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:48 PM Flag
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I hate threads like this. Do not post if you do not want to give details. There was another pregnant Troll who wanted to give divorce. She did not disclose reason as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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Same person, undoubtedly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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Now we know she isn't even employed. She is in law school... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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I'm not an overly confident young lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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I'm so confused! How many of "you" are there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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