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General Topics 03.31.15, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you pay an extra night in a hotel at $400 a night vs staying with in laws ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not if it would offend the ILs thst we rejected their hospitality. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, i hate staying with people in their home - does not matter if it is inlaws or friends [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is it easier to get into a catholic high school from a catholic middle school for DD ? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it could be helpful if she's a borderline candidate. most of the kids from our catholic k-8 are going to catholic hs, so while they compete for spots, they are also well prepared, and principal is connected so can help. but i think it only comes into play for scholarships and waiting lists, the TACHS is the most important thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some ideas for funny April fools jokes to pull on DC. Any ideas? Thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Someone suggested filling the lunchbox with popcorn. I just might do that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] SAH neighbor mom asks every week if someone else can pick up her DD and bring her home from an after school activity. Her excuse is that her DB is napping at that time. Husband is a realtor. Just find it annoying that she never offers to return the favor. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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say NO. It feels great when you do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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Next time say "yes, I was meaning to ask if you could bring the kids to school tomorrow morning." Thr time after that, the same thing, "sure, csn do drop them off tomorrow morning?" She will figure it out and stop asking or it could be a win win [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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that is annoying but you can also never let people take advantage of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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You're right. I don't mind helping people out when I can b/c who knows when I'll need a favor but this is just getting too frequent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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do it once or twice but all the time? that is very annoying. is she even offering to pay you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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She needs to get her act together and find a way to handle this. I'd just continue to be unavailable. Or offer her up solutions she doesn't want to hear. That's what I do when people badget me about stuff. 'Oh! I know this great pinch sitters number. Let me email it to you.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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Is her child with the child of the person she is asking? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my kid is in the same activity. It's just that she doesn't want to bother making the effort to pick up. If she was at work or had some other legitimate conflict it would be different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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Sleeping baby is a pretty legit one in my book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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There are some moms who don't always "talk" to me unless they need me to pick up their dcs from school. I do that one favor and it's back to not talking. Now you know who your real friends are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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If it's really going out of your way, then I understand. But if it's not making a difference, then don't resent her for not offering. There are times in your life when you are in a position to help others and times when you need help. If you ask her and she refuses, that's one thing. But she probably knows that with a baby, she's not in a position to help often so doesn't offer. Cut her slack. There may be a time when you are in that place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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Maybe she gets no sleep at night and her baby is colicky. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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She asks someone different every week, so it's not like she's asking you to do it. Geez, lady. If you don't want to help her out, don't. But some day you might need help from someone and i hope they treat you more kindly than you deserve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Do private school consultants know anything about what schools are really like or only about the admissions process? Can they help you if you are unhappy with current school and want to switch your child but want the real 411 on other schools before doing this? Or can they only help you with essays/ applications etc...? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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we had one who was very helpful in describing the schools and helping us see what each was known for. she also helped with essay writing and interview prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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Thanks -- I have a very well-behaved, very academic (or rather, very interested in all academics) boy who is in a school that isn't giving him enough and that has too many behavioral problems. I'm looking for a place where he can find some nerd friends and where the teachers will give him as much work as he wants (so it doesn't all fall to me). I'm willing to re-apply every year if I knew there was a place for him -- I just don't want to move him and find it was a bad move. [ Reply | More ]
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I think Trevor is a school you might want to pursue. GL. And yes, a consultant can help in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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I agree with Trevor being a great option! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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Trevor is not known for being the most "academic" or "nerdy" of schools, but nothing wrong with seeing what a consultant has to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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It's very individualized. If a student needs/wants more, Trevor will provide that challenge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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I would suggest spending $250 to join the Parent's League first -- meet with one of their consultants (who are excellent) before you pay $$$ for a private consultant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I won't say which actor I am in this scenario, but please give me your opinion. A 26 year old, recently married daughter is demanding to spend lots of time with her father (not like walks in the park, but wants to go to expensive plays and dinners). The father says he can't make her a "priority" because he's on his third wife and trying to conceive the third set of children with third wife. Third wife says 26-year-old has a DH and should focus on him instead of demanding tons of time as a 26 year old with her father. Thoughts? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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Ew. I can't relate to this at all. I'm 30 and have actively avoided spending time with my dad since I was like 10 yo. He's an annoying asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Lol, that's what I was thinking! Weird [ Reply | More ]
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How much time does the 26 year old want to spend with her dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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This. Yes, parents should want to spend time with their kids, but an adult, married woman shouldn't really need to spend that much time with father (especially if its only do to expensive things). I assume that she didn't get a lot of time with father (if her mother is wife 1 or 2), and now wants him to pony up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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In my world (my role as a daughter and as a mother) parents always want to spend tons of time with their kids. I am on my first/only marriage and my parents were married over 50 years so this is a foreign concept. I think it's sad if the dad doesn't want to devote as much time as his daughter wants to their relationship but it's probably a limitation she has to accept since he is unwilling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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You're the third wife. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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op: No, I am my DH's first wife (and I'm old). I feel sorry for the 26 year old, actually. Though I think demanding to go to plays and restaurants is a poor way of showing you want to spend time with a parent but I get where she's coming from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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Is the 26 year old your kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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Then why do you know so much about the situation? How are you still involved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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Why does the dd want to spend so much time w her dad? Is it unusual compared w how much time she spent before? Is she angling for inheritance, or trying to get in the way if third marriage? Dad sounds gross, btw. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I think she's money hungry, jealous of 3rd wife, and actually genuinely wants to have a relationship with her father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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She sounds troubled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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I don't think a 26 year old can force her dad to spend time with her. He's clearly skilled at evading family obligations. Basically the dad's going to do what the dad is going to do - that's how he rolls. No one's stopped him yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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everyone in this scenario is nuts. [ Reply | More ]
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
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Weird for a 26 yr old that just got married to want to be spending a lot of time with dad [ Reply | More ]
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np. I've actually seen this scenario, minus the third wife wanting to get pregnant. The only daughter from the 1st marriage finally gets the chance to reconnect with Dad after the decade where the 2nd wife completely froze her out, literally told the dad "it's her or me" and dad chose her. Until they divorced and 2nd wife took him for millions. 3d wife is much nicer but daughter from 1st marriage wants to make sure she solidifies her relationship with him/spot in the will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, but in this situation, the daughter is from the 2nd marriage, not the first, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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I think so. I was mostly responding to the adult child of a former marriage trying to connect with dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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I am curious about "a lot" of time... Is it that she asked him to see a play or go to dinner with her once a month sort of thing? [ Reply | More ]
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What's "tons"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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That man should stop having kids. Disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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And then there's this... [ Reply | More ]
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You're wife #1 and I'm guessing the daughter is from wife #2. I don't know if I feel sorry for her...I think by 26 you should have your own sh*t together and not need to act out to get a parent's attention. The whole thing sounds messy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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I am my DH's wife, one and only. The daughter is from wife #1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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You're not telling us how much time the 26 year old wants to spend with her father. [ Reply | More ]
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So you're #3? I reiterate: This sounds like a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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you are an actor? have we heard of you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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Sigh. I guess I'll help you, and you should seriously not send your DCs to whatever 'college' you attended. Actor has many definitions. The one in OP is here: ac┬Ětor, a participant in an action or process. e.g., "employers are key actors within industrial relations" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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Oh god, so weird that your marriage didn't last seeing as you're so lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think that was OP helping you out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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If you're the 2nd wife and this is not your daughter, how do you know any of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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The guy should not be having a third round of kids if he can't spend time with the children he already has in this world. It is normal for a child to want to spend time with their parents, even as adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it odd to see a male doctor for urology issue? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What? My obgyn is a male [ Reply | More ]
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You mean for a woman? I don't know. Maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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Yes, for a woman. [ Reply | More ]
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But the male doctor is specialized in female urology [ Reply | More ]
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I did because I had a specific issue and he was a pro. It wasn't weird, but then I don't mind male doctors in general. [ Reply | More ]
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No. I saw urologists for many years for interstitial cystitis, which is a predominantly female issue, and many of them were male and very helpful. In fact, really, IME most urologists are men. [ Reply | More ]
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PS if you are in NY I recommend NY Urological Associates in midtown [ Reply | More ]
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I always thought "urology" was a male-specific specialty (meaning the doctor treats male urological issues). [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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I went to male for cystoscopy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Ttc and have a sinus infection (I think) heading to doc now but anyone btdt, antibiotics are fine, right? I would find out a week from today it I'm pregnant. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Some antibiotics are safe. Just tell your doctor you might be pg. [ Reply | More ]
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it depends which antibiotic.. some are better than others. avoid cipro for example [ Reply | More ]
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No anti-biotics in the first trimester. I had bronchitis in the first trimester and BEGGED for anti-biotics. Nope. Tell them that you might be pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
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Fuck. My head will explode. It will [ Reply | More ]
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i doubt this can be universally true, i.e, if you had a kidney infection or strep, I bet you would get antibiotics. My guess is that first line antibiotics - amoxicillion, etc. - are relatively okay, but you should avoid others, sp. some of the newest ones. I would do everything I could to avoid - see if you can take sinus rinse, flonase, muxinex and/or pseudofed (that may be too much). [ Reply | More ]
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definitely tell them you might be pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] We are moving to NYC in September - our daughter will be 15 months. We will probably be living on the UES although not sure yet. A few questions for you ladies: -when can I start looking for an apt, and do I definitely need a broker? I think we will be in corporate housing at first. -would I need to start looking into preschool options at this point? Thank you! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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what month will she turn two? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: May 2016 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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You need a broker because they see things first and can get you in before it goes on Street easy. There's not a lot of inventory. RE: SCHOOLS :Some places have two's nursery groups. How long do you plan to stay here? If you're looking to go private for lower school. you should start finding out about the entrance system once you get here. if public, you want to be in a good school zone. Some nurseries are feeders for privates, if you're going public you don't need to get your ducks in a row now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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OP: thank you! We plan to stay long term. We are thinking about parochial school but we really don't know yet. [ Reply | More ]
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There are some great schools like Epiphany downtown and St Ignatius and they are sought after becasue they are good and relatively reasonable. Once you're here I'd check them out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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^^ Neither of these are TT UES preschools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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You don't need a broker if you plan to rent in a large doorman building. The major landlords for those buildings are Glenwood, Related, Milford, TF cornerstone, Rose, Brodsky, and some others. I would start perusing now. You will probably not be able to find availabjlities for a Sept lease start until mid July, but if you are targeting a specific building I would call in advance and note your interest if anything is coming on line. Your dad will be 2.3 in Sept 2016. That is too young for almost all schools I know of on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ meant dd -- darn autocorrect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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THIS x100. OP, you seriously don't need a broker if you can afford one of the big rental companies. We've been very happy with Glenwood and Ralated in the past. Start looking now just to get a sense of prices, what's available and how it moves. Streeteasy.com is a great resource. www.nybits.com has a list of all the rental managing companies. Another one you can look at is http://www.eberhartbros.com, they usually have apartments in smaller buildings. [ Reply | More ]
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Preschools- just get ready to obtain applications from a horde the 1-2 days after Labor Day (a couple you have to repeatedly dial)- you can do light research to cut down the list from the 20+ that are in UES over the summer and then use the open house process to finalize the list in the fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:28 PM Flag
[ - ] DS had a friend from whom we told him to stay away. Apparently they have been communicating over skype and the kid told DS that he was going to call CPS on us because we feed DS organic food, and this is mental abuse. When I called the parents they told us that we are from "Psychos R Us" and hung up on me. Any advice? Pretty shaken up. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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They sound crazy. There's no need to be in touch with these people. Are the DSs super close friends? [ Reply | More ]
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at one point, yes, but we told DS months ago to steer clear of this one and branch out [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe you are taking things too far? [ Reply | More ]
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Even if OP was forcing kale chips down DSs throat, calling someone "Psychos R US" seems a little extreme. But I do wonder why OP called the parents? [ Reply | More ]
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I called them to let them know what their kid is doing and to tell them to keep him away, again. [ Reply | More ]
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He's not calling them Psychos R Us because of the organic food... he's calling them names because they have deemed him unworthy of their son's friendship. I'm sure that hurts the kid a lot. He's 12. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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How old is ds? [ Reply | More ]
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12 [ Reply | More ]
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Why did you want your dc to stay away from the other dc? [ Reply | More ]
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Bad influence, don't share same values [ Reply | More ]
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How is he a bad influence? [ Reply | More ]
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Horrible language, overweight, lazy, plays Grand Theft Auto, bullies DS. [ Reply | More ]
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Some of that is fine, but overweight and lazy? [ Reply | More ]
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Just describes the general demeanor and values [ Reply | More ]
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It may say more about you than them. [ Reply | More ]
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This! Teach your son to be a good influence on others not to shelter himself from everyone who is not exactly like him. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: No it doesn't. You can tell a lot about a family by how fat and lazy their kids are. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes keep your child away from The Fat and Lazy! [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. Plays GTA and is overweight??? Also, I'll bet your snowflake uses horrible language too. Tell us more about the bullying.... [ Reply | More ]
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Must be really horrible bullying since your ds still wants to talk to him [ Reply | More ]
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np. I'd assume because the kid and his family are crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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Curious--Why did you want him to stay away? [ Reply | More ]
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first mistake was calling those dumbass parents. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought I was nipping it in the bud, had no idea that was a bad move. [ Reply | More ]
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Most likely it won't amount to anything, but just in case someone really does make a call to CPS, you may want to document this now, to show that there's a pattern of wacky behavior from them. [ Reply | More ]
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I have been documenting, but once someone does that, what can I really do? [ Reply | More ]
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nothing [ Reply | More ]
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FAKE and LAME [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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A 12 year old calling CPS on another kid's family because they feed the kid organic food isn't going to result in anything. You told your DS to stay away from his friend... don't you think his friend is deeply hurt by this?? [ Reply | More ]
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You shouldn't have called them based on some dumb thing a kid said. [ Reply | More ]
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it wasn't the first time this kid has said something inappropriate. This kid also left our apt at 1:00 AM to go home from a sleepover. Did not tell us he was leaving and kept the front door open. [ Reply | More ]
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You are a loser veal parent [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Why would you call the parents over this? You do sound psycho, sorry. The kids are 12, not 3. [ Reply | More ]
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A kid doesn't come up with the idea to call CPS, that comes directly from the parent. That is why you call the parent. [ Reply | More ]
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This seems like a ridiculous thing to call the parents about. Talk to your son about it and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Did the 4 parents of the kids in DD's class who claim not to have gotten her birthday invite in the mail really not get it? Somehow the eleven others, including all her good friends did... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They threw it out by accident (if it came in the postal mail, or was in a backpack) or it was sent to spam if an e-vite. [ Reply | More ]
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I usually say "I can't find it," leaving open the very real possibility that I lost something. This is why I like evites. You can see who has opened her invitation. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why I prefer email. Everyone gets so much junk mail it's easy to lose the few items that aren't. [ Reply | More ]
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Does it matter? [ Reply | More ]
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I find those post card invites get jammed into the newspaper circulars [ Reply | More ]
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it's why i send multiple reminders. things do get lost/stuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Just an observation or FYI. I work in a rural school in Vermont. Moms are leaving relationships all the time! Dads I know are in charge of five, six kids. It's so shocking. A goodly percentage of the kids in this tiny high school have absent mothers. Even if the marriage was unbearable ... you leave your kids?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Wow, that's pretty awful. I live in NJ, but adore VT... it's sad, but I've read that VT has become a major crossroads for drug trafficking and that it's really taken a toll in rural areas, not to mention the college campuses. Maybe it has something to do w/the absent mom trend you're seeing... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Maybe I should move there and meet one of these dads . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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OP. You could. Big, unruly families. Middle-class, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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I grew up in a big unruly family. I would fit right in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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I don't think it's that, actually bec. it's been going on for years. Our governor called attention to the opiate problem and it probably wasn't such a good idea because now Vermont is sort of stuck with that label. There are a lot of opiates in rural areas now. How about that county in Indiana where there's a huge # of AIDS cases? Anyway, not sure what this is. I hate to be down on women or moms but it seems like ... the New Selfishness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] We live on a quiet cul de sac. My neighbor does not let her kids play in the street when my kids are out there. I have 3 boys ages 8, 6, and 4 and she has two girls. Is she really that scared of my kids? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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everybody is a different kind of parent. you're not any more right than she is. let her do her thing and you can do yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Is there is a history of them not playing nice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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She's veal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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How old are her kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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8 and 5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Oh, that's too bad. Your kids are all the same age and could play together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I know :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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Any reason why she would not let her kids play with your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I don't know, my kids are active and hers are definitiely quieter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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np. Is active a euphemism for aggressive in your kids' case? Be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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Just a passing thought since you posted this. I was behind one of those trucks the other day that has the message "behind a rolling ball comes a running child" and I started to wonder when the last time I had actually ever seen kids playing ball near a street anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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np: I remember learning that during my first drivers ed class at age 15. And I never forgot it. If you see a ball rolling in front of you, hit the breaks because a kid may come next. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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I live in Brooklyn and see kids playing with balls all the time. At playgrounds obviously, but also on the sidewalks. Definitely not unusual here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Maybe they are crazy and wild- but sometimes moms of girls can be prissy or maybe the girls just don't want to be out there with ANY boys. Unless you know for sure that's she's keeping her girls inside because of them, don't make yourself crazy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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np. Best advice here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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Girl moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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Sorry, no. I've got girls - active ones - and would not keep my kids inside. Unless OP isn't being honest about her boys' behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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maybe she thinks your kids are mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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Do her girls play out there when your kids aren't there? Maybe she doesn't want them playing outside without an adult? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:14 PM Flag
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Maybe the girls DON'T WANT to play with your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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np. I don't think OP is saying they must play with her kids. If they were to go outside, would they be compelled to play together? No. So if the neighbor really is keeping her dds inside when OP's kids are out there, that's aort of weird, unless the neighbor has good reason to worry about something happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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Maybe things have happened that your kids considered no big deal (knocked someone down, hit someone with a ball or a stick) but her daughters didn't like. Don't overthink this, but do consider the possibility that three boys is a little much for her kids. (And before you jump down my throat, I have two boys of my own.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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Maybe the girls (or any kids, doesn't have to be female) like to do different activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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np. Well, there's no law that says the kids must play together just because they're all outside. If the neighbor really is keeping her kids indoors bc OP's kids are out there, I doubt this is the explanation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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My kid plays with all of the neighbor kids, but she can get frustrated with the boys who want to play rough (wrestle, arm twisting, hitting games) and who don't back off when she says no, repeatedly. You might want to examine if your kids respect boundaries. I have a boy too and I acknowledge the play style can be very different at that age. I don't think the boys have ill intent, just poor impulse control and they don't seem to understand outweighing my daughter by a good thirty pounds confers a painful advantage in a physical game that she finds unpleasant. She isn't prissy, just not interested in getting hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Exactly this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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Are you sure it's the parent who won't let the kids out? My dd is shy and in this scenario, she would probably only want to go out and play when nobody else is around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Maybe they don't want to? I have 2 boys (8 and 6) and they don't want to play outside when the neighbor's similar-age girls are out there because the girls get annoyed with them kicking balls around. They claim the girls are bossy and won't let them do what they want. I am sure the same is true if my kids are out there and the girls see them, say the boys take over playing soccer and try to boss them around. This is an age where kids of opposite genders typically play differently and not with each other a lot of the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] $160 for 10 minutes of plumbing work, ouch! 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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that's why we like our handyman at our condo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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You found a new job opportunity to rake in lots of $$? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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OP: I wish I could do it so I didn't have to call him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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My plumber charges $95 an hour. I'm in the Boston burbs though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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I am not in NYC either. Virginia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Yep, I think you got ripped off. I remember I woke up one morning with no hot water and it was a simple fix, like just 10 minutes, something with the hot water heater. He just billed me his minimum which was 1/2 hour charge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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What did they need to do? That sounds high unless it includes parts too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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OP: Replaced the tub stopper. The part costs $10. I think I get ripped off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Yeah you did. Usually plumbers charge $80 to walk in the door that covers the first hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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OP: Mad at myself. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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I want to know where plumbers still charge $80/hour. I live in flyover and it's about $100 and has been for at least 10 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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you probably did. oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Is that the drain on the wall of the tub? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know. He didn't change the drain. Just the tub stopper, the thing that keep the water in the tub. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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Do not feel bad. I had the exact same done and was charged $345. I negotiated it down to $240, but felt ripped off too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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That hurts. I lump all of my plumbing matters together and use up the full hour (which is $105 where I live). I just had one out last week and had him do 7 jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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OP: That's the thing. He quoted by the job so if I added more on the to-do list, I will have to pay more. He actually raised the price by $15 after walking in the door and saw the "problem". I thought he found something serious and was shocked when he only changed the stopper. I could have done it but for the lift of me, I could not unscrew the damn screw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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That isn't how most plumbers work. You buy their time. They will do whatever needs doing in that one hour minimum. Next time make sure you ask before you call one out. You could have had him (or her?) clean out your sink drains or install new faucets or showerheads in that hour. I do my own plumbing work, but when I absolutely can't fix something properly, I call the plumber. I am pleased to report that the plumber and his apprentice had a bit of a tricky time fixing the problem that I originally called them out for, so it made paying the money that much more worth it. As a bonus, I had them do a bunch of jobs that I could have done, but why bother? I just said, you have one hour--please do whatever you can on this list in one hour. They did it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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OP: I will try a new plumber next time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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nice strategy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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A lot of the time you can buy the parts at Home Depot and look up how-to videos on Youtube. My husband fixed a broken sink sprayer and a leaky toilet this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds goes to a top public school. Got a call from the English teacher this morning -- "Adam has not turned in any homework this month." That's because his name is not Adam, it's Adrian! Literally cannot believe this. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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Are you saying that they confused two students, or that it was your ds who didn't turn in his homework but the teacher got the name wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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She goes through the homework and checks off the names on her list. she had his name down as Adam so "Adam" got no check marks this month! Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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What? It's almost April. What happened last month and the month before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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I have no idea, he got a b plus in the class for fall term [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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do you think she graded him incorrectly. ds has one teacher who kept calling him by the wrong name too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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I am not sure, in retrospect maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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sigh. feel your pain too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Oh wow! I misunderstood your op but yes, this is crazy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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Oh come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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Come on what? She admitted the mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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Maybe she called the wrong number! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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No, she admitted she had the name wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I am going to help you look on the bright side of this. 1. The teacher, who probably has 35 x 6 classes or over 200 students, bothered to call the parents of a high schooler to let them know. 2. Your son now has the opportunity to go to teacher and explain that she has his name wrong and fix it. The sad part is that politicians keep telling us that we should expect much more from teachers who have almost 200 students whose homework they need to track each day, but that class size is irrelevant. Meanwhile, their rich donors, whose bidding they follow, send their kids who private schools where each teacher has less than half that many students to oversee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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Excellent point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I had a friend whose son got the wrong report card. For a kid with the same last name, but completely different academic track record. Then got put into remedial math for the three months is took for the school to realize they were confusing the two kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Omg lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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WTF! [ Reply | More ]
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