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[ - ] am i being oversensitive? this week it feels like nobody has returned my emails. off the top of my head - thanking a friend for hosting us at a dinner party, and asking when we can have them over. trying to connect with another friend who has been away, trying to plan a playdate now that she's back. emailing another friend offering to talk about our recent trip to a place she's planning to go, and offering her our guidebooks. an email to a former colleague who moved to my town, offering to meet her for lunch at a local place, and offering to watch her kids if she needs space to unpack. and more emails that are trivial hey-how-you-doing. but nobody has responded in days. what gives? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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its midsummer. Everyone disconnects. Downtime at its finest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Is your bday coming up? Maybe everyone is planning a surprise party and doesn't want to spoil it? Just trying to be positive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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op: lol not at all, but that is a happy thought! thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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Vacations! Also most people are swamped at work ancestry half the office is gone. Many kids are home for the summer, no time to do anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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^^ancestry?! And [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Stop emailing. Pick up the phone and talk to people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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no thanks, please email - much easier to pull up calendar, etc. when on laptop versus, calling me on my cell and me answer in the grocery store with nothing to write with and no way to check my calendar, dh's and kids to see if it works out or not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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NP. Phone calls don't work for me. Email is much better. Even text is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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If I'm away for awhile, I need at least a week to get back into the swing of things. Can't handle a playdate. Don't take that one personally. Your other friend may not want to hear about your recent trip - people are too caught up in their own lives. Just drop off the guidebooks with no strings. It was nice of you to offer to watch the other person's kids. Overall I think you are being nice but maybe a little overbearing and maybe coming across as needy to reach out to so many people and want their time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Trouble in the Farina camp. Resignations from her own hand-picked people. Still waiting on some direction and an agenda: http://ny.chalkbeat.org/2014/07/24/top-deputy-reshuffles-instructional-office-amid-slew-of-departures/#.U9JV37FIokS 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.25.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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it's a newly reconstituted division, not weird not to be settled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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It is unusual that hand picked people would leave. They must be fed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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"Some said Bloomberg veterans who intended to stay, particularly those with little teaching experience, felt shunned because of their work in the previous administration. " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Bloomberg brought to many to the DOE without any teaching experience whatsoever! including every single one of his chancellors, what a disgrace! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Maybe you know since you are pro-Farina. What does she plan to do with the failing schools? I haven't seen the resolution? What about the overcrowding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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She is clearly not a leader. She needs some lessons fast, but it might not be in her nature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the latest on Avenues? Or Mandell? Are they still in business? Is the tuition climbing? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Terrible that you can never find Avenues' tuition. And Mandell isn't Mandell any more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Mandell isn't Mandell any more?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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It was sold to the Rocket Group [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do we send so much money to support the Israeli army? 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Instead of the Palestinians or instead of no one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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the whole world is against Israel's occupation of Palestine except from USA. Israel is a huge liability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Oh, boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Pity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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Embarrassment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Because they are the only democratic country in the Middle East and bc the us realizes that Jews need a safe haven since there have been multiple attempts to eradicate us!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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This argument is old. It has nothing to do with democracy. It's about the fact that if we don't, the forced nation creating we did in the Middle East will fail, because it was a mistake to drop a bunch if Jews into a wildfire a d take land from someone else. No one is entitled to creating a nation for their religion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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OP: but we didn't create this nation, did we? Wasn't it the League of Nations who divided up the land and created the nation state of Israel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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Yeah, you can say the UN did this, but it was really the us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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OP: I am just trying to understand this conflict. Why did we create a nation state of Israel while pushing out the Arabs and essentially doing the exact same thing everyone did to the Jews? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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"we" didn't. the UN did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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^^^and probably great britain was more influential than the us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Disagree, more the UK, they got the area after WWI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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here's USA all alone defending Israel's crimes, USA gives away it's moral compass defending these criminals: https://twitter.com/UNGeneva/status/491989140045848576 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Right! the problem is that Israel stole Palestine's land. There's no solution other than giving that land back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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OP: I understand that it is the only democratic nation, but if they are so powerful, why do they need our money? And, as for your second, argument it was every other nation that tried to eradicate the jews, why are we the only ones paying "reparations"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Because this is rhetoric. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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They have literally no other friends; similar democratic values; the U.S. has a large Jewish population; the country spends almost half its budget on defense- supporting them against terrorists is totally legit. The problem is not Israel. It is with Palestinians cleaning themselves up to be a responsible recognizable state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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OP: I understand that perspective, but I also understand that Palestine would have revolted all of these years because we TOOK their land and gave it to the Jews. They were promised that Palestine would be their own independent nation when GB asked them to support them in overtaking the ottoman empire during WWI while also promising the Jews their own independent nation state....then the league of nations divided the land and gave a majority of it to the jews. Could you imagine if this happened in the US? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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It did happen in the U.S. Do you see any Indians east of the Mississippi River? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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The Palestinians can have their state, as far as I am concerned, IF they can prove they can run a functioning, responsible government. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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who the fuck are you to tell other nation how to run its country! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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they bulk of the land went to the palestinians. israel got disjointed pieces. then the arabs declared war on israel bc they were incensed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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It's this (or was 50yrs ago) but, let's be honest, it's also oil and maintaining a toehold there in a country that is beholden to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Don't kid yourself. They don't care about anyone other than themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Don't kid yourself, there would be no permitted US military presence or involvement anywhere in the Middle East absent Israel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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We could have chosen to stay in Iraq, Afghanistan, Kuwait and I believe we do have bases in or near UAE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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OP: and Israel won't even let us keep a base there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Israel GIVES NOTHING to USA. It's a huge liability as by siding with it we end up alienating every other country on the planet. USA should move to neutral position and let Israel deal with its policies issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Had we not been involved in the region via Israel for so long, the Arab countries would have stopped playing nice long ago. We have nuclear weapons, they have oil - so we both have trump cards of sorts. The difference is that the effectiveness of terrorism has lessened the power of ours bc everybody knows we don't ever want to use them. Sure, we could have unilaterally invaded other counties in the name of promoting democracy but without Israel, the conversation would have been very different for a very long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Every other country in the world but USA considers Israel a terrorist state. That word isn't singling out the side you think it does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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no they don't. they are beholden to the arabs for oil. without it, arab countries would be similar to the poorest countries in africa, with all the tribal violence. as it is, there is a ton of arab/muslim infighting in all the arab countries. the us and the uk know israel is the only reasonable partner over there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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I think you latched into the word terrorism and didn't read anything else in my post. I'm taking about the his rival context that got us here and how it would be very very different and possibly not in a good way for us had Israel not been created. I don't entirely disagree as to the problem know but it's a bit like good 'ol GWBs wars that we can quite extract ourselves from, though at least the initial formation and defense of Israel had better motives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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which makes them differ how compared to the Palestinians? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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and don't forget: $$$$$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Watching how Israel treats Palestine, it's no wonder that they get kick out from every place they've live in. At some point the people they abuse say enough and retaliates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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We send an equal amount to arab countries, which have tons of oil $$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Because Jews control everything. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Yes we are!! There aren't many of us but we sure are a successful bunch. Pretty amazing isn't it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Do not are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Asians are dominating now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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I'm American, but so glad they do! 80% of them are against Israel. Things are changing finally for the Palestinians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Go away anti-Semite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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This is actually kind of true. The job that Israel has done to more or less own the US Congress is a remarkable example of lobbying. There is not a politician around who would ever speak ill of Israel, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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AIPAC sucks, no doubt. i wish DC would have demanded them to go fight on the front line in exchange for the $3BL in weapons USA gives Israel each year. At least that way, USA could get rid of AIPAC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Because it's the only stable democracy in the middle east. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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too bad it's a terrorist state [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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you should definitely send some $$$ to hamas then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Xoxoxo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Given the death toll, Hamas is a walk on the park compared to the Israeli killing machine. built to defend it's land grabbing. That's what has to be solved: the land that Israel STOLE has to go back to Palestine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Hey weirdo go put on your bhurka [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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ok, so reach out to hamas and let me know how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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you sound as brainwashed as AIPAC's people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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i support aipac wholeheartedly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Random fashion question - do any of you have a leather biker style jacket? I am seeing them everywhere for fall and love the look but wonder if it is a practical buy for NYC, seems like the weather goes from too hot for leather to too cold for a short jacket within a couple of weeks so there really isn't much time to wear it. I could do "vegan leather" (love that pleather has a fancy name now) but they usually look kind of cheap. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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If you do leather, it is best to do quality leather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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That piece is a fun fashion piece, but it ends there. Don't get one because you think you'll be wearing it as your everyday jacket. It's a statement you won't be wearing everyday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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I love the kind of soft drapey leather jackets I've seen but i am too worried that they will be too much $ for quality for something that will go out of style! I have your same dilemma! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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Fur. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Go to Zara or H&M and get a cheap knock off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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Vegan leather is not 'vegan' at all since it is TERRIBLE for the environment and anti all that vegans care about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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[ - ] We are getting so excited for our DD to attend Harvard this September! (The dorm shopping is getting a bit much, however, at this point) Just wanted to encourage all of you who do not send your kids to what UB terms 'tt' that public school kids excel in the very same way. Our dd went to public school all her life and get acceptances from H and St. Anything can happen, parents! Try your best, give your kid the best you can, support and love them and their potential is limitless! Good luck to all parents sending off DC's to college this September!!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Congrats to DD. I'm sure she'll have a great experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Good job! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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It's an exciting time. I totally second what you're saying about public schools. Having a college bound dd myself, I know dozens of kids who have just graduated the best NYC public high schools. They are headed to all to colleges and universities that people here salivate over. One could potentially try to make a case that the smaller, seminar style classes at some of the TT privates prepares kids in a more targeted way for college, but the kids I know are bright, well-educated and plenty prepared to handle whatever comes their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Congrats to you all. What will she be studying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Ex who took me to dinner and wanted to reconcile is away with another woman. Done done done. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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So sorry..... Don't bother with him any more. Head up high and good things will come your way - BETTER things : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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I knew I shouldn't have gone - feel like a dope but you know what I think it gave me the closure I needed - he hasn't changed a bit and likely never will. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Don't mind him, love. He's only a bollocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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What's a bollocks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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an odd working class British-ism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Fitness moms--I basically took this entire week off from working out. I normally run or workout 5 days a week. Skipping a week every couple months isn't terrible, is it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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It will set you back terribly. It will take you 2-3 days to get back into your old self. Terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Re- lax!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take it easy on yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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eh, you'll be fine. it will take you about 2 days to get back to your normal distance/stamina. that's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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Do you feel fat now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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no. I don't work out to be skinny. I work out for my mind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Maybe your mind needs a little holiday then. Enjoy the time off! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Your body needs a rest. It's ok. Don't overdo it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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OP--I know. I normally only have 2 challenging workouts per week. The other 2-3 are easy jogging or yoga/pilates something on a mat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Sometimes after a week like this I will do the elliptical for an hour instead of running. It kind of gets the blood flowing again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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I think it is good actually, I was sick all week and took off too, now I am feeling better and excited to get out running again this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter is 12 years old and just found out that her Dad was married before he and I. She confided in my Mother and she told me that she is pretty upset over it. This was something we didn't want to share with her but now feel that it has to be addressed. Any advice? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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stop indulging your overly dramatic dd. This should not make an iota of difference to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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This. It's not like he hid a second family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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My advice is to not keep secrets in general. Why don't you just talk to her about it and find out why she's upset? This seems like a small issue and maybe she just has a few fears over what that means. If I were her, I'd be afraid of what else you were hiding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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+1. She also now needs to be reassured that he didn't bail on another woman for you (any kids?) and that he won't do the same again. Her steady foundation just became wobbly bc you chose to hide it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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How did she find out? Why in the world would you hide that? So stupid. A cousin of mine is doing this and I was at her first wedding. Anyone could tell her kids not even thinking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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What do you mean, why would I hide it? She's 12 - is it something that should be the topic over dinner? Just come out and tell her, well your Dad was married before. He was 24 years old, married for two years - never saw her again. It was a decision made at a very young age for him that he regrets. There are no children. I didn't really think that it was something that needed to be shared. She found out by one of her older cousins in passing. I am going to be completely honest with her, just looking for advice on how to go about making her feel that her Dad could still be the same hero he has always been to her, even though there was someone that came before me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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just tell her you are sorry it never came up, but it was not a secret and not something that either your husband or you think about on any regular basis - DONE, next drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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I know someone who is adopted and everyone knows except him. Everyone. So crazy. He is 30. Np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Were you the OW? That is the only reason you would hide that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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I found out as an adult that my dad had been married before. I'm mature enough to realize it's not a big deal, but it was still unsettling. Not the previous marriage but the fact they chose to hide it from me for decades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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too strange, why is dd upset by it? She sounds a little dramatic, but I guess being 12 is drama city - GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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This is interesting - both my husband and I were married before (no kids, divorced for years before we met each other) and I don't think we've said anything to our son (8 yo). Not because we're hiding anything, but there's no relevance to his life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] An UWS mom told me that more than 50% of the kids who go to PS 333 are Jewish. Is that true!? Is it common in the other schools in the UWS? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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sounds sky high to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:44 PM Flag
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no way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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?? 50% is huge! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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i believe it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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Highly unlikely. 63% white, hard to believe that 90% of white kids are Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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if not 90, 70 percent is totally realistic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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70% and upward is very realistic in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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way too Jewish to my taste [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Go away - your nokd anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Bronx is highly Latino, Queen multi-racial and not Jewish... the issue is that the Jewish seem concentrated in the UWS and UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Doubtful- arent there a lot of project kids in PS333? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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doubt it, it's a rigged lottery system, very Jewish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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This year it wasn't rigged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Its open to all of D3. While purportedly by lottery, no one believes the lottery is fair. They don't even give numbers to WL kids. Absurd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you say to your 3-4 year old when you ask them to do something and they don't comply? What kind of wording/tone and tricks do you use to get a child that age to listen and do what he is asked? thank you. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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Are you talking about a flat-out "no", or is she just too hard to pull away from what she is doing, to get her to do something else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Ha-my office is going from cubicles to open concept. My coworker is all up in arms over it. Guess she is scared that people will see she doesn't do any work. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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I work like a dog and I would hate open concept. People would see that I sit with my one leg under me and I roll my eyes on conference calls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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+1 I didn't renew a contract two years ago because they went open office. It was too noisy to get any work done, and there were constant distractions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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I have worked in both and I hated open concept! Could never get focused and concentrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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It does suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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One of the buildings in my company just moved to open concept and everyone has their headphones on all day to avoid distraction and the theoretical collaboration that was a driver for the change is non existent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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This. I said they should give out helmets with virtual reality of ocean in the background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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This woman does NOTHING. She picked an end cube so no one can see her. She claims she never makes mistakes-well that's hard to do when you don't do anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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Is she claiming that her productivity will be affected ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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she'll do even less now - gl with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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it's DEHUMANIZING even to the hardest and most productive workers. You are stripped of any sense of privacy. It's corporate prison. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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This again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Why do you need privacy at work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Basically, your company is saying 'We don't give a CRAP about you and how you feel'. Do you really want to work for such a place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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I don't care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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My company did that 2 years ago and it was a period when a good handful of my team started looking elsewhere. Our dpt head was a real jerk about it and he lost some really creative people due to his being as a---- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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I love open concept, I hated being isolated in a cubicle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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Even worse, my office moved from cubicles to open concept where you had no set spot, you could "reserve" a seat for up to 2 wks at a time, and store your stuff in a small rolling file cabinet or locker each night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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oh my god. that his horrible. Do they have docking stations at least? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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That sound awfully disruptive and inconsistent. Those bosses are total idiots and ought to be fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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I worked at a place with hoteling and rolling cabinet and it was gorgeous. No big deal with reserving (online). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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I HATE OPEN CONCEPT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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The open concept is pretty much awful, whether it's a hospital ward, a jail or an office: no privacy and no consideration for others. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:44 PM Flag
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it really is the worst, been in it before and it just sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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That is the worst! More offices are pulling down cube walls. Bad enough to sit in cubes but you can't even look up without seeing someone's mug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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I love open concept. I much prefer it and am so glad my office is open. I was miserable at a job that wasn't open, it was so lonely. I love to bounce ideas off people, have people bounce ideas off me, etc. Most of my professional career has been in an open office and I feel like it's really helped me grow too by exposing me to people of all levels. My SVP boss sits two seats over and we chat all the time. It's nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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my worse nightmare....i work on very detailed spreadsheets most days, I don't need people trying to bounce ideas off me or around me when every they feel like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you or did you end your marriage bc the sex was blah and always was and always will be and you felt totally and completely hopeless in the department? Thx 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:49 AM Flag
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no but I'm sensing that sex isn't as important to me as it seems to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:41 AM Flag
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Nope. (As I'm still married, and the sex is near-dead and pretty terrible when it flickers) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:42 AM Flag
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Sex is and always has been what you describe in my marriage. It's incredibly frustrating but I'm not going anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:46 AM Flag
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It depends what sex represents to you. Personally, I'd stay as long as there was love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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Have you talked with you dh about it? Or is he selfish in bed? I know people try to pretend sex is not as important, but it is, i had that issue with my dh and we talked about it, the sex is not terrific but i can tell he is trying to please me, for me that is more than enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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^^ maybe you need to go back to the basics, take a weekend getaway together, go out as a couple more often. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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The bigger question is why you got married in the first place if this is something you would consider leaving over now. $$? Biological clock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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Yes. I did this and married someone much more compatible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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Did you have kids? I have 2 - feel terrible leaving but have only this one life and want more from jt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] To Ramona Mario eyes glazing over, mentally checking out poster from yesterday: I totally agree. So what do you suppose the bargain was? What did Mario get in return? I know that now Ramona forgives the cheating, but what about at the beginning? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:39 AM Flag
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I think they have a certain kind of NYC marriage where she fits the bill in a lot of ways. She's in very good shape and is very attractive; she pays very close attention to her sense of style (whether you are 100% on board with it or not, at least Mario seems to like it). If she's sometimes a bit rough on the edges socially (her upbringing peeks through quite a bit), at least she doesn't commit the cardinal sin of being boring or not having anything to say. She's independent and a quick thinker and a good businesswoman. She has certainly proved to be a good choice to raise their daughter. I see what attracted Mario to Ramona in the beginning and what has more or less kept him around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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What has happened in the meantime is pretty common in marriages of 20+ years. Even pretty gets boring when it's the same. Outspoken becomes annoying and always having something to say becomes "give it a rest." She probably never nagged him in the early years and the nagging creeps in. There was probably also a huge power dynamic shift when Ramona became a housewife - she became the "name" in the house and the one people stopped in the streets. Message boards kind of dumped on him for having wandering eyes and she probably got on his case for that. In many ways I think he's been emasculated in a few different directions by the housewives years and the result was that he took a stand and acted out with another woman. Whether he wanted to prove it to her or to himself that it could be done, who knows. I do think it snapped her head on straight that maybe she needed to re-evaluate where their marriage was headed and why. Him as well. Whatever talks they've had behind scenes, seems they have both decided they need to fix some things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:52 AM Flag
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You have thought about this waaayyyy too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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or. They remind me a lot of a few actual couples I know, including my parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:00 PM Flag
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just dont watch the show anymore. you're better than that trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Link,please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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He puts up with her drinking and lets himself be humiliated on television. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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and watch is wife humiliate herself as well as their children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My marriage is crumbling. It is scary and painful to think of the future and navigating through a separation and divorce, yet I do not have enough will and stamina to stay married. Is this an indication that I am ready to end it? I am so confused and conflicted. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:29 AM Flag
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I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Do you have children? Yes I think that if you truly in your heart do not feel you have the will and stamina to stay married and work on the relationship then it is probably time to end it. But as always, try everything, if you love him and want it to work, try counseling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:23 AM Flag
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Thank you. I am in counseling now. The counselor suggested that I think about what would need to happen from my perspective to work on/save our relationship, such as couples therapy, home responsibilities. However, I should only request these things if I want to work on our relationship. If I want out, then it is not fair to him to have him jump through hoops and then ultimately want to still end it....which I agree with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:41 AM Flag
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Eh. If he did those things it much change the whole dynamic and make the marriage salvageable. I think you need to put your kids feelings above your DH. It's so much more unfair to them not to even try than it is to DH for him to put in a little effort only to have it not work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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Or he might not bother. Either way, OP will know. I find the whole "I'd stay married if he'd only take the garbage out once in a while" such bullshit....if you're in it, that's not going to move the needle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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At least try to work on it, if after that the relationship still broken move on, at least you tried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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Talk to a therapist. Talk to your family. AVOID any advise on UB. This place is not real, you know. Best of luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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THIS AND THIS. Don't come on here for serious, real advice. This board is a joke so don't listen to anyone here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:50 PM Flag
[ - ] worst anniversary this week. dh and i rented a hotel room to get away and have some time to ourselves because we have small children. he spends the whole afternoon on the phone with work which could have waited. we spend 500+ on a mediocre dinner that was so disappointing. dinner put him into a tizzy where he then criticized everything about the hotel and somehow it is all my fault and this place is so "not him" and on and on, i finally just say fuck it lets go home so we did. woke up this morning to a wine hangover and screaming toddler. fuck my life. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:22 AM Flag
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Why would you do this in the middle of the week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:49 AM Flag
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Where did you go for dinner? Which hotel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:02 PM Flag
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You set yourself up. When your life is this complicated it's better to do a dinner out in the 'hood and come home. The big fancy dinners are too much for you right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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Go for another date night, low key this time. It's happened to us as well, too ambitious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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