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[ - ] I'm feeling so down. I don't want to start a new week. Anyone else? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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Suicide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Due to work? Work sucks. Monday's really suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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Work, dh is mad at me, dc are whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Here. Today sucked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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Wine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there a Juris Doctor in the house? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Juris Doctor, or someone actually admitted to practice law? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Yes, I admit that I practice law [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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That's cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Hlac 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] I want to be STIMmed 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] If you didn't do a one year birthday party for your DB, what did you do ? I really don't want a party but feel guilty/peer pressured into having one. I think DH is disappointed/sad. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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We made a "cake" consisting of fruits and decorated around with real flowers and stuck a candle in it. DD was delighted. She has not memory of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Why? We all have our celebrations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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But real cake isn't too much to ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Give it up. It was a fruit thing we got at Greek bakery. No, it wasn't a real "cake" but it was fun nonetheless. What's your problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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Nice cupcake or piece of cake to smash, a party hat for her to dismember, some pictures. Grandparents and maybe mom group friends are all that's required. It's really just for proof in her baby book years later that you did something :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Grandparents are in two different countries (other than where we are) and I don't have any mommy friends tbh. It's really just DB, DH and I. We have a few friends who don't have children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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I invited all my SAHM friends over for wine at 10am and we played baby games and I served hors d'oevres and then we had a small chocolate cake for my daughter and one for the mummies. We all posed around my daughter who was covered with chocolate. everyone loved it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Let DH plan it then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Cupcake with candle. Balloons. FIL happened to be in town, so he came to dinner. End of story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Invited our family over for a picnic lunch. We had wine, juice, sandwiches, balloons. Had a small smash cake for db, cupcakes for the kids and the adults ate our wedding cake we saved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Have a party. 4 year old DD loves looking at the pictures and everyone had fun. We just did a BBQ in the park and had a clown for the older kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I am in shock. A good friend for 25 years is facing federal child pornography charges. The defense is he viewed for one week ever, in a period when he had significant trauma in his life, and it was self-destructive behavior like drinking, drugs, cutting, etc. might be in others. No other evidence of pedophilia uncovered, and he denies other actions, or even arousal by the viewing. Does this wash? Two hours ago I would've said NO, but... he's been my friend for most of my life, and a good person up until this bombshell. What do I believe? What do I do (besides, obviously, not have my kids around him just in case)? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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I think the difference between those other actions and the child porn thing is that the other actions hurt only himself... but every time someone views child porn, not only are those children violated, but the market for hideous things like that increases. The more people who view it "just once" because "I was curious" or "I was in a rough patch", well, the more of a market there is for it and the more kids that will fall victim to that market. So he can be in a bad patch all he wants- he's helping put innocent children in an even worse patch. Just like you can't say "I was in a bad patch, so I hit my kids" and expect to get away with it, you can't get away with doing this either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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I enjoy hitting my kids, hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Does not wash. People in a bad spot drink, smoke, do drugs, watch too much porn -- but NOT child porn. No one has ONE bad week in their life they decide to get through by viewing child porn -- having never viewed it before, or acted out against a child before.. that's just crazy. This is likely a secret he has been keeping for many, many years. It's not something that just randomly happens midlife for one week - it develops over time at a young age, just like every other part of your sexuality. Your friend is seriously sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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This. Who is like, "oh my girlfriend broke up with me and my father died suddenly, I think I'll watch some little kids get raped on video". No. It was probably a long standing issue- perhaps this is the first time he acted on it? But I guarantee it's not the first time he had thoughts about wanting to view it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Amazingly, I know two people who have gone through this. In both cases each was trolling chat rooms and received large files of pornographic photos. In each case the majority of pics in the file were of adults. But a few of underage girls were embedded in the file. I am told that this is how people "fish" for others with similar interests. I don't know if it's true, but it is what I have heard. Perhaps this happened with your friend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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PS for those of you with DHs who like chat rooms...and from what I hear it's a lot of them...warn them about accepting files. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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They wouldn't bring federal charges for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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Hard to say: did you read the actual criminal complaint. It should be enlightening as to the actual activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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I've clicked into certain things that could be construed as really weird and questionable when I'm buzzed and in a very extreme or careless mood. But when federal charges are brought they have generally decided that the people involved have deliberately downloaded or viewed multiple times or have involved their credit card information. They don't bring charges because someone once looked up how to build a bomb and never looked at it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Um, I don't think VIEWing child porn is illegal. He is lying to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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+1 it's not. OP, read the actual criminal complaint like others said [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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op: how would I find this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Federal case? Then look up website for the charging US Attorney. For Manhattan/Bronx it would be Southern District New York. Tell us what you find. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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op: it was downloaded in order to view. He admits he knew what the contents were. There is a history of family abuse that sparked curiosity, in addition to the major trauma. According to him, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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sure.. so if someone reads about a child being tortured and beaten and they're "curious" to see what that's like so they download a video of a real life child being tortured and beaten to death and watch it and thats a fine excuse. WTF? this guy is sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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op: no, this is something I've never done, and it sickens me to think about. But, I viewed the gunman's video of the murder of those two poor journalists. Is this on a continuum, where we're different levels of asshole? Or is his something totally different? That's the hard question for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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np. I know someone who was accused of a sexual crime. The stuff that came out in the trial was minimal and let the jury decide based on their own feelings about the demeanor of the witnesses and defendant. They found him guilty and he was sentenced to prison time. What came out in trial and in the news was only a percentage of what the DA actually had access to, it all just wasn't admissible at trial. He was tried for molesting a single minor girl. That there had been multiple complaints about him that were not followed up ... that was all inadmissible at trial. He's still in the community and there are people who believe he was wrongly accused because of "one girl." It wasn't "one girl." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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how did he getcaught if he only did it for a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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op: said he was on the dark web, curious, and the site he chose to be curious about was run by the government as a sting. He admits he did it. He denies any other wrongdoing. I am too shocked to think clearly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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How do you even get on the dark web? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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op: I have no idea. I never even heard of the phrase before this past week, in some news article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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pedophilia is a mental illness, not a one time curiosity. it wasn't his first time for sure. who is just "curious" to see children being raped and abused? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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I don't think you can judge a person on his worst moment. But yes, keep your kids away. He will be on the registry a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Whats the question here? Seems no question to me this guy is a pedo. Why are you trying to rationalize some kind of innocence? Are you a DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Jace? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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Viewing it for five minutes is too much. The guy is a disgusting pervert. I hope he's convicted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Please forgive my ignorance. DC has a friend in first grade who is Muslim, and her mother wears a headscarf. This weekend we saw them for the first time in a while and the little girl was wearing a scarf similar to her mother. I thought Muslim women started wearing headscarves at puberty, but I didn't want to ask her about it. Does anyone know if this is a common practice (of course she could have just been wearing it for one time). 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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No real rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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^^^some do I when they want, some when they hit puberty and some when they get married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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The building up the street is almost totally Muslim and the girls there seem to start wearing them around the age of 8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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When I was in Afghanistan the girls started wearing headscarves around 7 or 8, and a hijab at puberty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Fuck you, terrorist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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Lovely. Perhaps she was there with an ngo or in the military. You sound so bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Muslim bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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He's the "Kike" person below too. Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Thank you, I was in the military. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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The Taliban? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Thanks. This girl is barely 6, and her family seems pretty "liberal" (mom only wears a loose scarf, no hijab). Maybe she just wanted to look like mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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You're thinking too hard about this. Could be any number of reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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The mom and I are friendly but I don't know if it's appropriate to ask questions about this. We have talked a bit about religion in the past and I am curious because I know my kids will be curious. We are a dual-religion family and trying to raise our kids to have a good understanding of all major religions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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She'll probably be glad to talk about it. We live in a large Arabic neighborhood and they welcome questions. The opposite is worse, I believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Thanks. We are definitely in an area with diversity but not a lot of Muslims. If I have an opportunity I will ask her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Mixed standards in my neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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I think "the rule" is usually when they first have their period but many girls choose to wear it earlier. one of the families I know has an 8 year old girl and a 3 year old girl- the 8 year old usually wears a hijab but every now and then I see her without one. And the 3 year old wears one also, but always rips hers off when she's outdoors in the heat and her mom just puts it under the stroller when she does it, it's not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:13 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o. I know a really weird, nerdy woman who had a child via sperm donor (she's not married). She is small and mousy, and the kid is like a Viking. Also a really good athlete. I find it so bizarre. She clearly chose sperm with certain traits. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Why is this bizarre? Should she have chosen loser sperm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Sure. Woman in my office chose sperm of different race [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Mind your own beeswax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Why do you care? Everyone, even couples, looks for certain traits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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God, I've seen it all. My in-laws adopted a boy from Russian. He's huge and handsome. They are small and nerdy. No hidden agenda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Good for her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I am kind of nerdy and socially awkward. I am secretly proud that my ds is a cool jock (he's also a good student). Flame away 72 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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rock on, nerd mom. why shouldn't you be happy that your kid isn't dealing with something that makes you anxious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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why would anyone flame you? who wouldn't be relieved to know that their child was high status as well as high achieving and athletic? you especially, since you know how it feels to be uncool. bully for you that your son dodged that bullet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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only in low IQ schools is being a jock a status symbol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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hi op [ Reply | More ]
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fake. Nerds are smarter than that and would be disappointed to have a kid who is a jock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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This. Nerds are also smart enough to know that studies show that the "cool" kids in high school end up losers in life while the nerds are the ones who get the best jobs and make the most money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Uh...this is not true at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Everyone knows this is true. Everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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This study refers to middle school, not High school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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Did you never attend high school? It's a pretty universal fact that the cool kids in high school ended up going to shitty colleges and not going well in life. Very few jocks make it into the NFL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Mmmmk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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LMFAO. This chick thinks her son will go pro. He's "special" and "different" from all the other talented athletes. HAHAHAHAHA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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She never said he will go pro. You sound unhinged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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I actually doubt that was OP. Just a mother of another jock who is sad that he's going to be a bald loser by the time he's in his 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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You seem autistic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Her ds gets good grades so he's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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He's not stupid. He got a really high psat score and will likely attend hyp for his sport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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ITA, unless he's that rare kid who is a jock and a nerd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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What adult says "cool"? The only people who use that word are 5th graders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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what sports does he do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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probably football. He'll have dementia at age 53, but hey at least he will have been cool in high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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Op. My grandfather played high school football, died at age 94 with no dementia. [ Reply | More ]
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Cool story. I know someone who smoked and never got lung cancer. I guess I should give my kids cigarettes! The studies must be wrong! [ Reply | More ]
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You didn't get into very good colleges did you [ Reply | More ]
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Op. I have two Ivy degrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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sure you do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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So you're smart enough to be aware of the negative cognitive implications of head injuries from football, but you just don't really care about your son's health? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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My grandfather, great uncles, father, uncles all played football. None have dementia, which is beating the odds considering 1/3 of all elderly people get Alzheimer's. Our family isn't prone to problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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lol, next she's going to tell us they are immune to crashes when driving drunk too [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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If you were actually an Ivy grad, you would be smart enough to know that a sample size of 10 does not a conclusion imply [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Most brain studies have been done on long term and nfl players. Not high school players. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Yes, I do [ Reply | More ]
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oh ok, so you're a sociopath who gets sexually turned on from the aggression of sports and live through your son despite the negative consequences on his mental development. Got it. That's cool. you do you. I guess you'll likely be dead by the time he starts forgetting the names of his kids at age 57. [ Reply | More ]
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You're insane. -not op [ Reply | More ]
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your inability to differentiate between correlation and causation tells a different story. But it's cute that you think your story is believable. -signed, actual Ivy grad who can easily spot fake Ivy grads like yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Not fake. You sound crazy though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Lots of people play high school football and don't develop brain issues. You sound a bit anxious. [ Reply | More ]
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WRONNEG. You are moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Then you know that football over 80 years ago with leather helmets, smaller/slower players, and less hitting is nothing like football today, where they basically wear body armor and lead with their heads. [ Reply | More ]
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You are clueless. Helmets have software which record the impact of hits. It's much more advanced today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Op. Football, ice hockey, lacrosse [ Reply | More ]
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Curious, what is your education level and SAT score? [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Ha! I got a 1590 SAT and I have a doctorate. I know you'll call fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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probably a JD from a tier 4 law school. I guess you can call that a doctorate if it makes you feel better. and unless you're not from the US, I don't believe an educated mom as smart as you claim to be would be okay with her son risking his intellect for the sake of throwing a ball around. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I have a phd. You seem angry. Maybe playing a sport would help regulate your emotions. [ Reply | More ]
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nope, not angry, Just calling your fake. You must be projecting your anger. Maybe therapy would help you with that. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not fake [ Reply | More ]
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np: I have a PhD, and do not believe you have a PhD. Your analytical skills are too poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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You just disagree, and are going to insult me because you can't handle other people making choices you don't agree with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Med student here, 1560 SAT. I will let my son play football if he chooses to. I wouldn't encourage it, but it's up to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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why? What benefits do you think he gets from football that outweigh the health of his brain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Teamwork, leadership, mental toughness. I don't think 4 years of high school football will cause irreparable damage. I wouldn't encourage college football. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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What kind of mom would put her kid in a sport known to cause brain damage? so disgusting. Why don't you sign him up for boxing while you're at it? And maybe enter him in some fight club competitions. Apparently you get off on watching your son get harmed. gross. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. I didn't "put him" in anything. He chose these sports. [ Reply | More ]
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Intelligent mothers realize that the brains of teenagers are not fully formed and their decision making must be moderated by an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Op. When I was a kid, I wanted to play certain sports and my parents would t let me. I never really forgave them. I think it's important to let kids choose what they want, within reason. [ Reply | More ]
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fakey mcfakerton [ Reply | More ]
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Gross [ Reply | More ]
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it's hard for you to make friends in real life, isn't it [ Reply | More ]
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You sound insecure and strivery. yuck [ Reply | More ]
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
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define cook jock... [ Reply | More ]
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zzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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trolltastic [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/o women who are more successful than your dh...what's your dh like? Also successful and driven? Or chill and a home maker? Are you happy in this relationship? What type of dh do you think would be ideal for you? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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My DH is a hard worker and top of his field, just not a lucrative field. Mostly it works for us. He picks up a lot of the home/child duties that happen while I'm working; I've never made it appear that he's 'helping' or 'babysitting'. So many women here beg for help then fume when they don't get it. For us, it's expected and if he likes the lifestyle my income affords, he better be on the same page. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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I'm on the other side - the supporting husband who makes less but is still senior in his field - and your post makes me just as uncomfortable as my own life does sometimes. How can you say "he'd better be on the same page." Or else what? Youll leave? You have all the power and are happy to let him know that you're not afford to use it if you don't get your way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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My DH is a SAHD and he is fun, plays with the kids, cooks well and loves it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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^and to answer your question this lifestyle works great for us as a couple and as a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Giving a cocktail party next wkend with my sil. We are each making 2 apps for about 20 people. Most will bring something. I'm already doing a cheese, cured meats platter. She is doing crudite. A neighbor is bringing pig-in-a-blanket (don't mock, they really move). Any other suggestions? Not too pricey, please. Tia. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Sushi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Thanks but I'm not a fan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Mini quesadillas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Good idea. Do them with tortillas and cut into wedges? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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Too labor intensive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Gorgonzola stuffed dates wrapped in bacon w a drizzle of good honey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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OMG, yes. I'm on my way over. Send address please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP - Those are amazing but I tend to think of them as wintery - not on the porch at the beach. Maybe I'm wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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NP - Yup, a bit more autumnal for me too. But so good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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mini quiches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Ina Garten rosemary roasted cashews. Got the idea here. Now always a big family favorite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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^good for easy make-ahead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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This, add array of olives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Yum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Really good deviled eggs? I did some with spicy candied bacon and they were gone very quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Now that's labor intensive for 20 people. And I LOVE deviled eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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You can cheat and get the eggs that are already hard boiled and peeled! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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7 layer dip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Stupid question about ordering food delivery: Order costs $30.11. All I have is two 20s. Can I give the delivery person the two 20s and tell him/her to keep change as the tip? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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What? A ten dolar tip is excessive. Tell them to give you back 5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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I agree...they will make change for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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OP. I like giving a big tip to make up for the people who under-tip. Money isn't an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Then do it. It's nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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Uh, food delivery people carry change. Did you literally just emerge from under a rock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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OP. I am from a different country and this is basically my first time ordering food. Lol. Sorry to offend you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Of course you can, but it is far more than you need to tip. It would make the delivery person's night. You can also ask for $5 back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Sure, why not? I sometimes give a pretty big tip if it is a lot of food or the driver hit traffic or whatever. The extra 5$ means more to the delivery person than to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
[ - ] When someone tells me about dead people, sick people or other tragedies, I start laughing. Why? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Nervous laughter or cold cunt. You choose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Language! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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Maybe it's just too much for you to deal with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Survival mechanism to handle the underlying real emotion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Coping mechanism. Not the best one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Do you find it funny? Or do you feel nervous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:16 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of giving girls coping skills/options to avoid unwanted intercourse. Unpleasant sexual experiences are part of life. Why teach girls that they are delicate flowers who should be forever haunted by a mistake/bad judgment/negative experience? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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OP: not talking about cases where force/drugs used, but sex is not always magical and equal. If a female is in a situation where thee was intercourse she wasn't 100% thrilled with, why not chalk it up to experience or bad night ? Why must it be a pivotal traumatizing event? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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OP: to me, it seems like the whole over-priaising parenting. "I can't allow my child to ever have an experience where they aren't completely satisfied and happy!" Life isn't always going to be pretty. Better to teach them how to minimize damage and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Fine, mother of boys. Teach your boy that losing his Ivy league acceptance is just something he will have to deal with. Thats life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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As for the SPS situation, I remember when I was in school everyone knew who the asshole boys were, the jocks, the fast ones, etc. we knew who to avoid and who not to, depending on what we wanted. I doubt things have changed that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Maybe the newbies dont know? Doesnt matter, the saying when I went to school was 15 will get you 20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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Age can also be deceiving. Especially at boarding schools. It's often a pretty sophisticated group of kids who have grown up with little supervision, lots of travel and camps, drugs, access to parties with older people in the city, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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She shaved her pubic hair before the date. HELLO? No wonder he was cleared of felony rape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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FUCK YOU MOM OF SONS. ASSHOLE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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He is still facing 11 years (doubt he will get it all, he may get some), and no Harvard and sex offender level II (which will make it difficult for him to go any residential college, given he needs financial aid -- so community college or online classes for him) and may impact career choics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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I think girls are too afraid to out boys. I think girls need to warn each other who the dicks are. and the Senior girls should take care of the Freshman girls and not throw them under the bus, because the boys will CERTAINLY take advantage of any girl they can. They're sociopathic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Wrong. I think young girls aren't as aware as they should be. Things have changed, sadly. It should be FRONT AND CENTER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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OMG for the rest of his life he has to live with the fact he threw away Harvard for sex. The sex offender list doesnt even measure up to the lost of a Harvard graduation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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DON'T CARE!!! He was a dick. Women and girls are ruined for life all the damn time. Let a MAN (he was an 18 year adult) take it in the ass for a change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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I don't give a shit about his HARVARD DEGREE. He fucked up and should pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Right? And if he goes to jail and gets fucked in the ass by crazy prisoners, that's life too. You know, equal rights. I don't give a shit about sick 18 year old MEN who decide that a ninth grade female DOESN'T MATTER. Guess, what? He doesn't matter either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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I agree that it would be best if a girl can rise above what happened to her and determine to succeed despite it, but it's not license for the man to escape punishment for forcing himself on her. But as I thankfully don't speak from experience, I defer to those who have been through this to determine how to shape their view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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OP: I was a student in the 1980s/1990s and went to prep school and colleges often mentioned here. Lots of sloppy fooling around, lots of day-after "yeah, that was probably not a good idea" experiences. never was physically forced to have sex or unwanted pregnancy (those are different situations), but plenty of "ugh, let's just get this over with." But didn't think I was a "victim" , just that it was a,learning experience. I learned what I didn't like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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That was you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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OP. Yes. But I don't think I am so unusual. I just think that this sexual krypton its trend is getting out of hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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I think the internet is encouraging some people to get out of hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP: I was reading about one campus (forget which) where someone trying to kiss someone else is considered unwanted sexual contact akin to rape. Sometimes in life people are assholes and you need to deal. Not always be a helpless victim [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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You are picking an extreme example to justify rape [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Oh please, not the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Encouraging teen boys to treat 15 year old underage girls like sex slaves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Fuck you. You are ASSUMING you weren't unusual. I knew plenty of NICE girls who were date raped by supposedly NICE guys. Jeez. That's like saying if you were black that nothing happened to YOU personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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That was YOU. Do your really think that 15 year old girl would go to trial for nothing? shit. Why bother with women's rights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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I'm also thinking of situations like the mattress person at Columbia. Well, maybe she learned that anal isn't for her. Why make a huge case out of this? She consented to have sex, it went in a way she didn't expe. But as often as not that it how you learn something a little kinky that you like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Because the world likes to blame girls who are raped. MOMS, women, boys, MEN, blame them 100% of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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OP: but not every unpleasant sexual interaction is a RAPE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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If this girl said no several times (or once) then it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP: I agree, it is unwanted. But is it rape??? People have asked me to do things several times (an errand, to stop talking, etc), rude? Annoying? Yes. But "assault"? Uh, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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uh, not the same as sex. You or your DH needs to talk to your son. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Ugh. You're hopeless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What type of man is right for a very strong confident successful beautiful woman? Should the man be successful too? Or should he just be inert like Oprahs boyfriend? Which would be a better match in your opinion? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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A chill, non competitive type who is ok with his career taking a back seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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SAHD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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A closeted homo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Really?? Wouldn't they get along better if he was successful and driven too?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Not necessarily, if someone needs to take the main responsibility for managing the family. A woman with a career-oriented DH may be pressured to take on lots of home responsibilities, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Hmmm. I see what you mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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I think Oprah's relationship is probably one of the most mature and balanced relationships ever. How long have they been together? 30 years? With no public drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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DH here. My wife is strong, confident and a leader. We get along great with this dynamic. She and I earn about the same. But I love it when she succeeds. Although, I am probably a "type B" (not interested in sports, beer or fast cars) my income is very high and I am successful. Any questions, OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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If some day she did better than you..wud it make you insecure? Who takes care of the home/kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Never. I want her to be successful! I am not in competition with her. There are enough other competitors in the world. We share household and child care 50/50, although I admit she is much more nurturing than I can be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Nice you sound like a good secure guy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Thanks. That is actually how I feel. Also, I should mention that part of this revolves around being self-made successful. I grew up in a very lower income family. So, part of the security comes from having surpasses any possible expectation I (or anyone else) placed on myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Is your wife type A? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Yes. Very. Also much more "uptight": gets wound up quickly. I am just the opposite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Does this work well for the relationship? Doesn't she get on your nerves sometimes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Yes, sometimes. I kind of make it my mission to look at the bigger picture: promotions, career success, material things are all really just a "game". The more important things are not totally in our control: health, death, accidents, how chikdren actually turn out - we can influence but can't control these important things. Actually, "macho" type-A men get on my nerves the most! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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He's actually very successful too. Just not at her level, but really, very few people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else think that the current generation of 17 to 23 year olds is the closest thing to the Woodstock generatiaon we've had since then? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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Definitely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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59 yo here. I have a 17 yo. No, I do not see any similarities between their generation and ours. I see major differences though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Like what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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My generation were raised by the anti-helicopter parents. It's the opposite with current teens. And when I say opposite, I really mean it. When I was 16, I was working at a department store and dating my 22 yo supervisor. My grades were straight Cs. My parents were UMC and were not up my ass about anything. They told me it was my choice if i wanted to go to college or not, but I damn well better have a plan to pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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np: but you still had an opportunity to right the ship, I presume. Childhood and young adulthood today is so cut-throat that if we step out of line, like by getting a year of middling grades, you may not be able to catch up. [ Reply | More ]
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Pp. I think that's a matter of perception. I have 4 kids, my oldest is 33 and youngest is 17. My older kids have had slip-ups that seemed absolutely devastating at the time, but they recovered. I honestly believe the major difference is more anxiety today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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No way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Are you high? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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This op must be 26 yo wannabe sahm. This is so off the mark, it's funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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I'm 26, but my brother is in this age group. I agree that Millennials are far more open minded than the generation above us and the generation above them (only some of whom are Woodstockers.) I think the openness of Millennials is going to lead a much happier and more tolerable world for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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No. It will lead to men having sex with lots of women (women who are insecure who will give it up on Tinder), then they will wonder why their wives are pissed at them for cheating. Whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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That hadn't crossed my mind. Why do you think this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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The Woodstock generation was unique in that they were so radically different from their parents. Music, culture, art...everything was new and different. There hasn't been as large a generation gap since. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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Justin Bieber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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NO! And I'm almost 52. No comparison at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Who are you cheap asses who have guests over on hot days and then don't turn the ac on? I couldn't wait to get out of there. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Did you ask if they cud turn on the ac? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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That would be rude. I just chugged my water, asked for more and made an excuse to get out after 90 min. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Lol! Are you in LA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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I think it's someone goofing on that poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't understand how people get "addicted" to pain pills. I was using fentanyl "popsicles" for a while after a car wreck due to difficult-to-treat pain resulting from fissures in the pelvic girdle (it was a hoot, let me tell you...). And that's supposedly a powerful opioid with a strong addiction risk profile, but I never saw the appeal; they always made me a bit nauseated, and I had to lay down and watch TV or do nothing whenever I used them, because trying to do other activities would cause me to become faint. I was quite happy when it was no longer necessary to use those things. How could you get ADDICTED to something like that? Are some people's brains just wired wrong? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Not wired "wrong". Some people have different reactions to drugs. Like how some people enjoy marijuana, while others get anxious or paranoid from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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"Wrong" in the sense that their experience of the drug is destructive to their lives. I would say that if (for instance) you had an addictive reaction to turkey sandwiches and had to eat them to the point of constantly puking and becoming hugely obese, your brain is wired wrong in that regard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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Yes. You are SPECIAL. Happy now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Lol this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Some people have the gene. Some are troubled already, and find emotional relief. The world is not limited to your experiences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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You want to feel superior because you are insecure in a different area, like you are plain, have bad skin, or look older than you should. Everyone is different and drug dealers count on people getting addicted. Do you want a medal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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I can see the addictive potential of alcohol, for example. But opioid painkillers? Not in the least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Idiot. Painkillers target certain receptors in the brain, same as alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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I had this conversation with a friend recently. Pain pills make me feel so good that I want to take them all the time. I don't, but I would definitely like to always feel like that. I can understand why people who have other issues get addicted. The pills don't make her feel that way, so she would never want to. Different reactions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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this is strange. of course you must know that not every reax like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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To counter all the smug posters...friend of mine was incapacitated in the hospital for a fairly lengthy time (weeks?) with complications & required pain meds (truly). When the healing was mostly done & the meds cut back, full blown withdrawal symptoms. Now tell me how you control a body's involuntary responses like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Spin off. I've always been very bad at dealing with death. When my BIL was terminally ill in the hospital, I babysat my 3 yo and 5 yo nephews so my sister could be at bedside 24/7 with her husband. I secretly wished he would hurry up and die so I would be relieved of my babysitting duties and could go back to my normal life. Am I evil? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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No. You are normal. I'm also extremely uncomfortable around death and funerals. I know some people who really get into them and I hope that someday the switch gets flipped for me, but they terrify me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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But I loved my BIL, and there I was hoping he would pop off sooner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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So you would have been a less selfish person for wanting him to stay alive longer when you weren't even the one spending time with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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I wanted him to hurry up and die because his illness was inconveniencing me, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Your feeling was normal. First comes grief then often resentment because of the effect on you. It passes. Doesn't mean you did not like him ...just human emotion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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How long did you have to watch them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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2 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Nice of you to have fdone that. How's your sis holding up now? It's ok to feel what you felt. You were just tired and overwhelmed... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. I also didn't have kids of my own yet, so I was really struggling with the kids. My sister is fine now and has since remarried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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if you did love your BIL, you wanted the pain to end. for you, for you sister. for the kids. it might seem as if you were being selfish but it comes out in different ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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You're pretty self-absorbed. But not evil. An evil person refuses to babysit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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