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[ - ] Anyone use an epilator? Would you recommend? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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laser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I went to a 20th high school reunion a few years back and friended a bunch of people on FB. Sweet holy Moses, the number of them who are pro-Trump is frightening! I've had to un-friend almost all of them. This is what makes me think he can win. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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yep. two americas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Its all relative, you could look at my feed and think I am a foaming at the mouth liberal. Its always the people on the fringe who post crazy things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody know someone irl like napoleon dynamite? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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No, but loved the movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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a guy who used to work in compliance at DH's firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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LOVE [ Reply | More ]
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God, I'm reaching way back on the space/time continuum, but yeah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it okay to wear a blank form fitting dress to a fancy wedding in October? I will be 8 months pregnant. Is it still considered bad taste to wear black to weddings? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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I think you get a bye for being pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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This. People will be impressed that you're upright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Black is totally fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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You want to wear form fitting dress when pregnant. Interesting choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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Eat a dick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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No thank you. I am fasting today. Maybe tomorrow....send your husband [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Eat a bag of dicks tomorrow. Hopefully you choke on one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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np: not everyone gains 50 lbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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I only gained 23 and still would not think of having people see the popping out bellybutton of an 8 mo pregnancy and every dimple on your ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Why do you assume everyone is as disgusting as you were when they were pregnant? I had no belly button pop, no ass dimples, and would still wear whatever the fuck I wanted even if i did. Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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This and I didn't have the belly button thing. Why do women today feel the need to walk around with huge bellies in skin tight clothing. So unappealing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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This. A black one. To a wedding...someone wants attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Everyone wears black in NYC to wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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Everyone wears black in NYC to wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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It depends on the formality of the wedding and where it will be held but I think you are safest to avoid black, white or red. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 7 weeks pregnant and my brain is so fuzzy. For the past two weeks I have felt so out of it I don't feel safe driving. I feel like I have motion sickness and my brain is buzzing like I have a terrible hangover. Has anyone else experienced this? How long did it last? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Yes . Very normal. I was a nauseated zombie those first few weeks. I was back to normal by 12 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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It's pregnancy brain. I have a hard time during pregnancy. Not exactly like yours, but I'm not 100% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Have you started barfing yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone else posted this listing earlier but got no responses--re posting because I'm now interested as well--this looks like a nice apt in a nice complex with gardens. Anyone know about this area? Why are prices so low? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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I'm OP of the other post--anybody? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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^maybe no one's been there and it's completely undiscovered?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Sorry, not familiar with the Bronx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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Bronxville not Bronx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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No it's the Bronx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Bronxdale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Its not low. It is a typical coop price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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143k for 2br? What city are you in?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Corona [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Np here. This board is full of people looking for something more affordable, but any time non-riverdale Bronx is mentioned, crickets. I live in kings ridge and like it a lot. Don't know much about that area other than driving through to orchard beach. It seems nice enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Kingsbridge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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^zoo and nybg are great if you have kids. We drive but this looks like walking distance. Not sure about schools-mine are on uws. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Love a president that thinks it is funny to encourage Russia to steal secrets. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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US citizens have a lot to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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I woke up at 4am, and couldn't get back to sleep. So I got up at 4:30am, made some coffee, and started my day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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Please, he's not president yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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op: It is horrifying that he is actually this close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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Please Trump supporters. Please stop supporting this man. Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
[ - ] See I was right- Trump misspoke (or claims to have misspoken). He put out a 2nd tweet saying hopes the hack was already done, not encouraging a new hack. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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If Russia or any other country or person has Hillary Clinton's 33,000 illegally deleted emails, perhaps they should share them with the FBI! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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but the FBI is under Obama's control so what's the point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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Until December 31 they are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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but that's too late to stop Hitlery's coronation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Its never too late to just shoot her....mua ha ha ha ha...kidding! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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I don't like her but your comment is really inappropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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and that's why I said "kidding".. unclench please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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np You realize the Secret Service is going to investigate you now. They do not appreciate such jokes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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let them. I got nothing to hide. Unlike many of you here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Bring it, then! They will get nothing if you are that squeaky clean. Unlike us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Someone else said that recently and they were investigated by the FBI. A really dumb remark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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The TSA will strip search and radiate you and then throw you in jail for much less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Paranoid much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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np This is their job, and they are serious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Back tracking again. Can't back track once the nuke has been fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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He never gets in trouble for anything. Neither does she. Hence, the shit show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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you ought to know by now not to take anything he says too seriously. it's not a bell to be unrung or a nuke to be fired. besides, all it does is highlight how irresponsible and criminal Hillary has been trying to store classified information in her backyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Sorry Trump Troll. I take him very seriously. He should be tried for Treason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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He also said Tim Kaine did a bad job as Governor of New Jersey. Kaine is from Virginia. Trump is an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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No way. Chris Christie is gov of NJ, he must have misspoken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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He confused him with Thoman Kean, former Gov of NJ in the 80s. He is an IDIOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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omg. He's a fucking idiot, and traitor to his country! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Indeed. I can't understand how anyone with a modicum of intelligence would vote for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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he's LYING. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do burial urns go for? The type you would put on a mantle? A friend asked me to buy one for her DH's ashes. Tia. The price she quoted me seems high. But idk. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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odd request [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Why are you buying this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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She didn't ask me to buy it. She asked me for the money so she could buy it herself. Why? Idk. She says she can't afford it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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you don't need one. just keep ashes in a nice vase that has a cover. make sure it never falls down lest cat use it for a litter box [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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That would be unfortunate, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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They can be anywhere from 200$ to 3000$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you chase RSVP's for kids parties or just let it go? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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rsvp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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OP: Just re-read post and realized I was not clear. If you are the host and people have not RSVP'd, do you follow up or just assume they cant make it? I know they "viewed" the invite. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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I would assume they are not coming. Any normal person would rsvp especially if it is a venue rather than someone's home. But always count on a few unscheduled gusts to show up anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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why chase? you will look pathetic let it go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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I send one reminder and then let it go. Usually the non-repliers are nos, though I had one family show up without any rsvp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Let it go. A few no responds will show up, though, so be ready for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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This happened to me and I find it so rude. You just show up and you don't bother to let the host know that you are so they can plan for your presence? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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OP: this is my fear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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People are rude. But they also are spaced out, overworked, and get more email than they can deal with. I do not condone this behavior, but don't blow up over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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OR: Yes, I am too. But clearly they remembered the party and planned to attend, so they can't be bothered to click on the little button that says yes, we're coming? I understand totally spacing on the party and never responding and never showing up, it's the planning to attend but not letting the host know I don't get. I'm probably putting too much thought into this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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If you write to people individually, they will usually be shamed and reply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Geez, I like having my period but waiting for it to drop is annoying especially when my cycle is somewhat irregular. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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same here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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op here: i'm taking vitamin c to induce it already. it worked last time, we'll see how it goes now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Try masturbating. It usually helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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already did. nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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why do you like having your period? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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i can't explain it, it just makes me feel good and happy, alive, womanly. and very horny, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Uhhhhh what the fuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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So you bleeding from you know where. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Ugh, in menopause and so happy. Do not miss that mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I'm on my way there, baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] If renovating a city apt., what is your wish list? What would you pay to get/change above other things? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Soundproofing [ Reply | More ]
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I laugh everytime I see this- reminds me of the article talking about Google CEO Schmidt absolutely insisting any apt he bought in NYC be 100% soundproof. I shudder how sick he must be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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I want a mudroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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storage/built-ins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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this! Storage. Storage. Storage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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Walk in closets [ Reply | More ]
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*Walking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Soundproof windows, walk in closet, ample kitchen and other storage (coat and linen closets), washer & dryer, open floor plan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone explain or provide a link to help me understand what the Clinton Administration is being accused of and how they're defending themselves? I need to be able to speak intelligently about it when I see my in laws. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Don't discuss politics with close friends or relatives if they are on the opposite side. This is how you break relationships, and develop enemies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Hilary is being accused of hating Chipotle, a strong AMERICAN company. They have fabricated a lie that she has been there and dined, but there is no evidence that she visited except for the one time in an effort to kill the story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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As Secretary of State, she had meetings and made deals with countries who in return planted the E. Coli. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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In the hours after a US embassy in Benghazi was attacked, she claimed that a protest and riots due to the release of an anti-muslim video had turned violent. When IN FACT it was a premeditated attack by terrorists upset about the video which ONLY THEN turned to protest and riots against the video. She later cleared the air in a day or so after investigating but it was too late, and now we know her pants are on fire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what employers are looking for when they do a background check? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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What are you trying to hide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Convictions; lawsuits; etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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your ties to the Clinton Foundation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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If you are going to work with children, they are looking for child abuse. If you are going to drive a firetruck, they are looking for driving recklessly or drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Depends on industry. Generally though convicions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Your credit history [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Isn't that a credit check? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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+1. Financial problems can make people do desperate things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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like what? it is very hard to steal money from a company in certain positions. I think this is companies just being nosy. Years ago a company would not dream of checking your persona history other than to call to verify references. I hate this assumption that people in financial problems would actually steal at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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Isn't part of a routine background check. it's separate and needs a separate release form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, so trump made a mistake by egging Russia on, but the server is long shut down. Either they have the emails or they don't. But all this has made me thing. Clearly Assange hates Clinton. Will he be strategically timing more leaks? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Russia has the emails and will release them in good time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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The FBI director must be shitting in his pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Was the FBI able to recover everything? I thought she wiped it before they could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I am guessing there is stuff they overlooked. whether on purpose or inadvertent, who knows [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I want my sister (and possibly my mother) with me in the delivery room with me instead of dh. Has anyone here done the same? Will I regret it? Would it be too many cooks in the kitchen to also have a doula? 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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I had my mom and a doula with me but also dh. As long as they (other than the doula) know to keep their mouth shut will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Was this in NYC? Do they allow that many people in the room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Not NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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I would include dh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Even if he says he doesn't really want to be there? (if I'm making him sound awful he isn't; just terrified) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I mean I guess you can't force him but it's a really significant moment for him to miss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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He needs to man up and support you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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HE is terrified? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Np: my husband said he didn't want to be in the delivery room, that is, until the time came and he was right there by my side. Your husband may change his mind when the time actually comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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Thank you. I'm hoping this is what happens, but I don't want him in the room unless he wants to be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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I would push him on this one. He should be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Maybe, but I don't want to be worried about him when I should be focusing on something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Why would you be worried about him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Maybe worried isn't the right word, but I don't want anyone there who doesn't want to be there. Even if they "should" be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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Do what you'd like. I find it absurd that you all would feed his mental illness like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Is that how he plans to approach fatherhood too? Just show up when he wants and you'll handle the rest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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I don't think so but it's my first time. Generally he avoids things he doesn't want to do but more than makes up for it in other ways. Like he won't cook but afterwards he'll put leftovers away, clean the kitchen, and fill then empty the dishwasher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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Whhooo boy. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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This is incorrect. This "dads in the delivery room" phenomenon is relatively new. It may change how he views you as a woman, OP...not all guys are into the stretched swollen bleeding ripped vag thing. Tread lightly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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If this is his reaction he IS a dick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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it isn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Yes back when they used to chain women to the bed and heavily sedate them and just let the baby come as it will. Let's go back to that time. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Eh. I can think of worse things than some nice heavy sedation. Wake me when baby is cleaned up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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Mmmm...that's not really how it worked.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Why would you have to chain a heavily sedated person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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Not sure how skipping the birth of his child due to irrational fear makes him less of a dick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Not sure how you can decide a person is a dick based on one thing. Oops forgot this was UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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I didn't say he was a dick I just said I didn't get how the part about him being terrified would somehow make it better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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You don't think it's better to sit out because you have anxiety issues, rather than saying "that's gross, don't want to see it?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Correct. I think you figure out how to deal because it is the birth of your child. He doesn't have to look if he doesn't want to see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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Ok. I disagree with you but you're entitled to your own opinion. I don't think they're equal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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np I don't understand why irrational anxiety is a reason to bail on your wife while she is delivering your baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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(sounds more like a reason to get some counseling for your rampant anxiety issues) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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What is being done to address his anxiety problems? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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He is in therapy for his anxiety about being in the room when the baby is born? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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in general he's in therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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And their advice is to just avoid situations that make him anxious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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The doula is great. The others could be an issue or a help depending on their ability to keep quiet and stay out of the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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I started w doula, sister, MIL, mom and husband in room. Ended with doula and DH. Sis and moms were happy they could be part of the experience but when it got intense they had to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Definitely would not cut dh out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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omg! Why? You DH is having this baby with you. Unless he is a total dick. Why would you want child's father distanced from day one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Why? I would rather die than have my mother and sister in the delivery room. It was only DH and I in the room. If you want mom and sis there, fine, but don't leave out DH. Even if he says he doesn't care, you're not setting a very good tone for parenting together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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this +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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DH should be there. It's HIS baby, not your mom's or sister's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Too many cooks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Is this your first delivery? OP, it's up to you. You know your mom and sis. If they can be low-key, unobtrusive and supportive then wonderful, especially if you think your DH cannot be. It wasn't that long ago that it was expected for dads to wait in the waiting room. Ps- What does this say about me? I would have been fine w/just the nurse (my darling mom is dead and no sisters). DH was there with an understanding that he was not to look south of the border. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I find this so weird. You all are afraid of you husbands witnessing childbirth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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The miracle of birth is not for every man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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I had my 2 best friends in and out before I started pushing. Then when shit got real, it was just dh and I. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Include whoever you'd like but no way should your DH skip it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Were your mom and your sister in bed with you while you and DH made the baby? No? Then they don't need to be in the delivery room either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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The doctors weren't there either. Nor the doula. What does that have to do with anything. The people she has there would be for support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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I think she is a) momma's girl who never grew up. b) seen way too many movies c) never had a baby before [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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That's nonsense. Nothing strange about wanting the support of someone who has been through it before. Espescially your own mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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No, just no! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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np: because she says so, that's why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Haha,yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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that's right...because I say so...lol! No, because you may not want your mother and sister witnessing you shitting on the table and passing gas like a tired horse. Of course, you may not want your DH to witness that either. I heard this actually happens to some women [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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In that case you ask them to leave. Also what you are describing is not at all common (a tiny bit of poop but that's all bc the colon is blocked. CertainlyCertainly not passing gas). Obviously she is okay with them being there for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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Correct on c and probably b but definitely not a. I moved out when I was 17 and have been on my own since then. Not sure I want my mom to be there but she's been great when I'm sick or injured. DH too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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DH should be there. Just don't let him below your waist...no good can come of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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My DH was actually really impressed with the whole below the waist process. Found it really awe inspiring. But of course OP your DH doesn't have to look if he's not wanting to see that. He really should be there though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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What is he terrified of? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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I would divorce you if I were your dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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You can always have them leave. I thought I would want people there then ended up asking everyone but dh to leave. If you think you want them there have them come along with the understanding that you may ask them to step out as things progress. I do think dh should be there but to each their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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(I also know people who had several family members with them and loved it. So you might! Just be sure they know you may change your mind) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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Why don't you bring granpa, grandma and aunt Bessie as well? Hell, invite the whole clan while you're at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Serious question: I'm getting married soon. Why does everyone ask me what type of job I plan to get when I finish grad school? These are people who know that I'm getting married too, not strangers. Isn't it sort of obvious that many women will be SAHMs and have kids after getting married? After all, there's not really a point to getting married instead of cohabitation get if you don't plan to have kids. All of my friends who got married had kids within a year and became SAHMs. Not that I am trying to do whatever they do, I'm just saying that given the fact that many of you are SAHMs and given the fact that SAHMs exist, why are people assuming that I wouldn't be a SAHM after getting married and having kids? If women have a choice, why do people assume I'm conversation with me that there is no choice but to work? 66 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Why don't you drop out of grad school then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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op: how does that follow? Why would I drop out of grad school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Are you pursing a professional degree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Pursuing sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: I wouldn't consider a PhD a professional degree, but maybe some people would. I consider profession degrees to be things like med school, dentistry school, optometry school, nursing school. Law school maybe, but an argument could be made on the opposite side as well for that I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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op: this will be my final year. Doing a PhD has been a goal of mine since before I even met my fiancé, and is important to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't you use it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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op: I don't think I need to have a paid job in order to "use it." I will use my knowledge every day of my life. I would also like to write essays and books on the side maybe when I'm older after my future kids are off to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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And who do you think will be interested in the essays and books of someone who has never worked a day in their field? Also, you're placing too much on having children and enjoying being a mother. It isn't for everyone, even people who are sure they will be SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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op: who would be interested in reading books and essays from a mom with a PhD in psychology from an Ivy League school who is also a mom? Lots of people. Have you never read mom blogs or parenting magazines or scarymommy.com? Again, I don't subscribe to your philosophy that motherhood isn't work. I think there is a massage audience when it comes to parenting books and parenting essays. As for your point about not liking being a SAHM, well it's not like I have to sign a binding contract to SAHM for life so I think I will be fine. I could get full or part time nannies if necessary although at this point I don't plan to do that since I plan to be an attachment parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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I never said mothering isn't work. Also, I didn't know your field, but unless you're planning to write unpaid vanity pieces, I don't think anyone will be very interested, sorry. And good luck with the attachment parenting, you might want to work on your anger management before you have a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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op: lol I don't have anger management issues. I'm a very chill person, and all my friends say this about me too. Very hard to get me upset about something since I'm very open minded to alternative issues. No one who knows me in real life has wer said I have anger issues. As for the audience of my books, I already have people asking me to write books and wanting to read what I write. My field is child psychology, so yes my PhD will be very helpful in that regard. Sorry you are such an angry and jealous person that you feel the need to shit on the goals of others because you are insecure. Hopefully you can work on that in therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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I have a PhD in Clinical Psych and I'm a SAHM but no, no one A. cares about a Psych PhD from an Ivy because most of the top rated programs aren't at Ivies, B. wants to read a book by anyone without work experience. Are you still doing your course work or have you done your internship? What work did you do will doing your courses? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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bec in this PC world, it is more risky to offend by asking if you will stay home than if you will work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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op: Can you explain how that question would be more offensive? Generally I think asking either or questions are less offensive than making assumptions. Not that I am really offended when people assume I won't be a SAHM, I mean they are just making small talk and seeing what I'm up to and all, but I do find it curious that they never mention the SAHM option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Female power = I can work or even I should work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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op: why do you feel that way? And are you subscribing to the philosophy that motherhood isn't work? For some people it's not and they just try and keep their kids alive, but that's not the kind of mom I will be. I will be very involved and hands on, as studies show that is what is best for cognitive and emotional development. No such thing as too much love. Problems come when the opposite is the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Hi Future SAHM. Yes, why would people make any other assumption? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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op: Why would people make any other assumption than a WOHM? Well because SAHMs exist in the world in pretty significant numbers. The logic seems pretty straight forward, so I'm nt sure what you are asking exactly. Do you not understand my question, or do you disagree with something I said? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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I'm brushing you aside. Sorry, not playing today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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op: lol, clearly you are a troll so no loss on my end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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+until children are present it is natural for people to think you will work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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Ahh, future SAHM troll. I wish you well but a little part of me hopes you're infertile so you end up working because you can't justify being a SAHW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: lol aren't you a sweetheart. And why do you assume I would work if I were infertile? Why am I trying to justify things to? Would someone stop me from being a SAHW? Fiancé would be fine with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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You are insufferable. What do you plan to contribute to society in your life? I'm a mom of 3 kids which is plenty of work, but I also run a business and see value in both SAHM and WOHM options. But if I just stayed home without kids I really don't know what my point in life would be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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op: you're the one spending your time trolling someone half your age while I'm being perfectly polite, so seems like you the insufferable one here. Sad that you don't think SAHMs contribute anything to society. I disagree. And I don't think churning the wheels of capitalism and owning a business for the sake of owning a business really contributed anything meaningful to society for what it's worth. Unless your business is making insulin pumps or something that actually helps people the world would be just fine without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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You are so clueless it's funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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op: lol your trolling is cute. Come back when you have something of substance to say. Your lack of intelligence is showing, dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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ILY. Infertility would perhaps humble this brat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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op: jealous troll alert. Notice you are twice my age and yet I am being the polite one here while you are embarrassing yourself. I feel sorry for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Excuse me? You have no idea who I am. And since you asked, I'm actually 32 and think you're a brat. And I was married at 25 and had a db at 26 and already had my degree so in that respect I "beat" you. You're the one calling everyone who disagrees with you a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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op: you had a PhD at 26? Mmkay troll. And I will have my PhD from a better school than you and also will have more kids and more money than you so I actually "beat" you but pretty pathetic that you have the mentality of a 10 year old. I don't think of life as a one upping game but the fact that you do says a lot about your deep rooted insecurity. You want to work on that in therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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I had a MA at 23 and was working on my PhD when i had my first, finished it the following year. From Yale. I don't know how many kids you plan to have but I have 3, I have tons of money and you are the one with the serious insecurity to be seeking validation from strangers on an anonymous board. Good luck with your life, I am sure it will work out perfectly for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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op: you sound very bitter and sad. Congrats on the PhD that's always something to be proud of. But I wonder if you are actually even telling the truth since I would think someone with a PhD from Yale would be smart enough to understand the concept of intellectual curiosity. My post has nothing to do with insecurity. I ask honest questions on UB since I like the authenticity that comes with anonymity. If you were happy with your life, you wouldn't feel a need to troll me and make weird competitions about age at PhD completion. I traveled before starting my PhD and have probably been to far more countries than you, so in that sense I "beat" you as well. If you were as smart as you claim to be, you would realize that the metrics and goals one uses to determine their life success differ by person. I certainly wouldn't want to end up like you since you sound bitter and miserable and view everyone as competition [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Lol, more kids = "beating" someone on life. Yes, this is why you see so many UMC families with nine kids, and just one kid in poor/rural/inner-city/developing-country/religious-nut-job families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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27 year old SAHM wannabe? We are not playing today. Let's let this post die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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op: who is we, you and your other personalities? I know you struggle with comprehending the fact that you can't speak for other people, but you should work on that. And if you have nothing to add to the conversation feel free to move on or start your own thread. Your trolling here is pointless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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You are a troll but I will bite. Most people don't have unlimited trust funds and unless you do it would not be a good use of time or money to go to grad school if you have no plan to work. Many people would like to go to school as a hobby but most don't have the money. People ask you because the majority of people people get a job and work until their first pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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op: so you think that when I am pregnant (or when I announce the pregnancy, rather) the conversation will shift and people will start asking "Do you plan to work after having the baby?" I plan to get pregnant this year during my last year of grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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yes they will. because people think its their business and they have a right to ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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op: interesting. Thank you for the honest response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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pp: Yes, they will ask do you plan to work or "take time off." People don't say "quit forever" but say "take time off because they are only young once and you never get those years back." If you are talking to a WOHM avoid that as either 1) she can't afford it or 2) she may be irritated that she has to choose between work and home. If you say "take time off" they will ask how much and a billion other questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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op: I also don't think you need to have an unlimited trust fund in order to be a SAHM with a graduate degree. I know plenty of people whose parents paid for grad school and who plan to be SAHMs once they are married and get pregnant as well. But maybe you're right that most people with trust funds spend their money on shopping rather than on grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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pp: Most people don't pay for their kids to go to grad school if have no intention of using it. That is silly as most people don't have that kind of money to burn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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Unless you're a spoiled brat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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op: in my circles this is common, but you are definitely correct in our assertion in terms of most people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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From daddy's trust fund to DH's wallet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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I hate how people on here call 'fake,' all the time. But this is fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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My guess: op's field is 18th/19th British century literature and it's taken over her life. She wants to be a Jane Austen character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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op: hehe. Tell me more about the me from your imagination. This is fun. What are my hobbies? What do I look like? What kind of places do I go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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op: nope, I post honest questions which the whole point of why I come here, for the freedom to be completely honest. but I'll play along with your trolling for the sake of debate: why do you think someone in grad school wouldn't want to be a SAHM? Where do you think SAHMs come from? Do you think they are dropped from the sky by fairies and never got an education? Where do you think they were 2 years prior to becoming a SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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because it is a bad use of post-grad resources for a vanity degree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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op: I don't believe post grad degrees are for vanity. It's always a benefit to be educated. And it provides a fall back option for if at some point I wanted to work later on but doing a PhD at that point wouldn't be a viable option. Also why do you assume I hadn't already begun my PhD before meeting my fiancé? Plenty of people start grad school and then meet their DH and then get married and don't work. This happens a lot with law school I have noticed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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1) I think many do want to be SAHMs but unless your parents have money you get a job as a safety net in case something happens with tt dh. If you don't need the money you chose to go to grad school because you like the subject/field and would rather spend pre-kid time on pursuing it further. 2)I don't think SAHMs are dropped from the sky and know them from all fields including HBS and Harvard Law but they worked until the juggle of the first or second kid came along out of interest or sense of accomplishment. 3) Prior to SAHM most women were working. Some were in school but most I know try to get a year or 2 years of work in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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I think you care way too much about what other people think. Just live your life and let others live theirs. Signed, 31 yo SAHM with a PhD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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op: Thanks for the honest reply. It's not so much that I care or am upset by it, it's more curiosity of why they think the way they do. I am fascinated by human psychology. Can you tell me more about your journey through your PhD path to becoming a SAHM? Did you know going into t that you would be a SAHM after or did you meet DH after you already began your PhD? Do you ever get flak from trolls like on here who say you aren't "using" your degree? Do you enjoy being a SAHM? What was the most unexpected part of being a SAHM for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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For our life it made sense for one of us to be an at-home parent. DH is a lawyer and makes a lot more money than I made with my job, and I have a trust fund that brought in quite a bit too. Honestly people don't actually care, a lot of the questions are just conversations. But I also never planned my life out like you did, I certainly didn't expect to meet DH and have kids as young as I did, it just worked out that way. And if it has been different, then I would have had a different life and that would've been fine too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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I have to congratulate this future sahm troll...even though everyone knows it's her, we just can't help but reply. Future sahm, these people are just making conversation. They're not implying anything or thinking too hard about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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OMG you again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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I never believe this retrograde (if that's the word) posts are real. Who stays home until kids are in college and writes books on the side? Who do you think will publish you if you're out of the market? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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because most married women work until they have kids (and afterwards,as well,if not quite as many). especially those that are investing tuition money in their careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Jesus, people, you fell for it again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.27.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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