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[ - ] I've tried Googling, but can't seem to find an answer or fix...the "pull down" calendar on my iPhone is sometimes (though not always) a day behind. Refreshing (swiping down) doesn't fix it. Any other suggestions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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turn it off and on? this works when mine cannot find a network [ Reply | More ]
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OP: worked just now, so thanks! This is a regular issue, but it's certainly possible that I never tried such a reasonable solution. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] s/o of my own post about discontented 11yo ds. What do your ~10yos do when they are at home after school/on weekends? We have some screen time, but it is limited. My dcs spend a lot of time just wandering around, bothering each other, being bored. I cannot engage them in reading, other projects. Even when I have the time to sit down with them and do something or play a game, they are not interested. I am losing my mind. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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have friends over? sports? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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I send mine out to play with friends. Before we lived in a neighborhood where that was possible, it was either an organized activity (i.e. sport) or went to libraries, museums, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Community center, YMCA? I also answered on your original post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Thank you. There is a local boys and girls club; I am looking into additional sports; he is not that interested in going to the general drop-in program. He's not a hobbyist, and we do have friends over a lot, he does play soccer, and he plays outside with neighborhood kids, but when he's not doing that he is actively bored. I will keep trying...it may get better when he's in middle school next year and has more after-school clubs and things. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly...drop him off anyway. If he sees guys doing an activity he'll join in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Teach him to cook. Make a weekend project of having them help repaint a room. Weekend dog sitting at your house. [ Reply | More ]
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Crafts, hobbies? Reading was huge for me at that age... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Play outside! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] TTC should I have tea or can I have a latte? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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you can have either. you can have 1 per day while pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
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Green tea until you conceive. Stress and caffeine messed up my fertility. [ Reply | More ]
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Decaf either [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O on the preschool post. I think engaged and caring parents want what is best for the children and that translates into giving a lot of time and thought to the places where their children will spend any considerable time. This is true across class and educational status. Better educated parents, however, will tend to make different types of decisions and at their best these are the parents who are choosing developmentally appropriate play based preschools with responsive and nurturing teachers and a curriculum that focuses on creativity, positive group dynamics and social behavior, budding independence, and emotional well being. Unfortunately, though, there is a cruel irony taking place among a certain segment of well-educated wealthy Manhattan parents (the same ones who are trying to win the "tournament") where they get caught up in pushing aside the ideals they know are in their child's best interest and instead choosing a school like a commodity, on the basis of the "return" they will see on their investment (social clout, exmissions, and the ability to teach children to perform tasks that are not age-appropriate but "advanced"). In turn, these same parents end up dismayed when these schools treat their children like commodities (diagnosing "delays" that aren't there, brokering them out of kindergartens they want in favor of "better" families, and failing to make the children or families feel understood or happy). 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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This is why we went with a Reggio school. IMO, it is the best school/learning experience for young children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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You do realize that the TT preschools are play based, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Not all of them. [ Reply | More ]
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Most of them are, and there are plenty of less desirable preschools that are not play based. So I don't see what the OP's point is. [ Reply | More ]
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There are some extremely popular schools that are traditional and push reading. [ Reply | More ]
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Which ones aside from Garden House, which isn't even considered the "TT" anyway? I think they are few and far between. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Some would argue it is a TT school. [ Reply | More ]
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Some are, some aren't. But the so called TT preschools are not the ones that do it the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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How would you know this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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There are no TT preschools. [ Reply | More ]
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True, but you know what she means. The ones that tend to send their kids to TT schools and/or have the reputation for doing so. [ Reply | More ]
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There are no TT preschools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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So which schools do it best? I'm curious. [ Reply | More ]
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Could you make a post where parents can self describe their situation and you can be queen bee and diagnose if we are on the caring side or the evil striver side? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 11yo ds literally got up and started complaining about everything. About how boring it is visiting grandparents (he is not visiting them today). How boring a memorial service we had to go to last fall was. How lame his spring soccer team is going to be. His 9yo dd started chiming in. I just had to kick them out of the kitchen and tell them to go into their rooms. Now they are passively-aggressively loudly "having fun" in there. Trying to remain calm, but they need a serious attitude adjustment today. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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He needs something new and challenging in his life. His complaining is in part age appropriate, but also indicative that he's in a rut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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I agree with this. I have been at a loss. All he is interested in these days is sports/playing soccer with his friends. If he can't do that, he is just wandering around wanting to watch soccer videos on YouTube. I can't get him interested in reading, projects, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Honestly, he needs something else outside the house. He may not be a hobbyist. Isn't there a community center or YMCA nearby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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If he is into soccer that's all good, sign him up for more. I know UB hates sports, kids activities that take up weekend time, but I disagree...my DD is in a competitive sport, uses up time that might be spent on electronics or at mall and keeps her focussed. There are WAY worse things than him playing sports with friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] When you release an accept in a preschool are you supposed to tell them where you are going? I'm not offering the information in my email. But saw a post from someone else saying that they ask. Do you tell them? Sorry. New to the system. New to NY 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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Tell them only if they ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Last year, two of the schools my DC got into asked. I told them which one we chose. [ Reply | More ]
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We told the ones that ask. Nbd. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's the weirdest "Freak Accident" you've witnessed or been a part of? Me: saw a man running down subway stairs to make a train. He slipped at the bottom while swinging left and almost flew in front of the train. Hurt his arm, cracked his glasses (and may have peed his pants). It was a split second and so scary. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I posted about this when it happened. I stil believe I nearly died. I was driving around 35mph down a country road and three horses bolted into the roadway out of some woods to my left. I literally just cleared them by a few feet to miss them. Three 1000 lb horses vs. my car. I swear to God I would have been on any number of news sites the next day. They caught the horses about an hour later. [ Reply | More ]
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I bet your heart stopped. I'm from the country and barely missed deer a few times, but they are smaller than stampeding horses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Saw a kid on a bike hit and killed by an SUV 5 feet in front of my car while I was stopped at a red light. Got out and held his hand while he bled out and died in the street. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. How sad. Did you ever talk to the parents? Was the SUV driver freaking out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Hit and run, the guy turned himself in a few days later. Never spoke to the family, he was 23, recent European immigrant with no family here. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm so sorry. And I'm glad he had you to help him in the end. [ Reply | More ]
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That's terrible ... [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. How sad. Did you ever talk to the parents? Was the SUV driver freaking out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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Answered above, it was a hit and run but the driver turned himself in a few days later and ended up in jail. I had to testify at the trial. The guys family was in.... I think Latvia? I can't remember, but no, never spoke to them though I've thought a lot about trying to find and write to them. [ Reply | More ]
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^the victim, I meant by "guy" sorry [ Reply | More ]
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Did he have any last words? I'm sure he is so grateful to you from beyond, and you testifying at trial helped close the loop. [ Reply | More ]
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I was on a highway and saw a tire come off a tractor trailer ahead in the right lane. The truck limped to the shoulder but the tire had momentum and kept moving forward, crossing diagonally and left in front of the rest of us in our cars. We all just missed it somehow on our side, despite there being little room to change lanes since we were all slowing down. The tire then hit the cement barrier in the median, hopped up about twenty feet, and came down in oncoming traffic - just missed a car there, too, bounced again and came down clear of the other side in the grass. that could have been bad. [ Reply | More ]
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I saw a huge chunk of ice shear off the roof of a van on the highway, it flew back into the windshield of another car as I passed it. The car immediately went to the side of the road and in the rear view mirror I saw it took out the whole windshield, there was just a big hole there. Not sure what happened to the occupants; there was a state trooper on the other side of the highway who witnessed the whole thing so I just kept driving ... [ Reply | More ]
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saw a bike rider in manhattan hit by a truck that was like a block long -- he didn't die immediately and you never want to see what i saw. my knees gave out and i had to sit on the curb. that poor guy. [ Reply | More ]
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Some of my neighbors had a Christmas party one year, we left on the earlier side. One of the guests later came out, slipped on some ice and felt right into one of those orange stakes you put along your driveway so the plows know how to travel. It pierced her eye and her brain and she bled out inside the house on a couch before EMTs could get there. [ Reply | More ]
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Good thread, OP [ Reply | More ]
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I actually wasn't thinking when I posted. I was thinking of near misses. This is a reminder of how fragile life is. I'll stop whining about my husband not taking out the garbage now. - OP [ Reply | More ]
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I was on the Saw Mill Parkway, stopped at a traffic light, and watched a car come from behind me and slam on the brakes (he didn't see the light), swerve, and flip over behind me. [ Reply | More ]
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Most responses involve vehicles [ Reply | More ]
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I almost was hit by a train similar to that woman from Ny a few weeks ago. Stopped too late on the tracks and the bar came down behind my car so I could not back up. Train passed in front of my car, horn blaring, just inches away. [ Reply | More ]
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Why couldn't you back up? Wouldn't your car just break the bar? Did you think of pulling forward at all? Just trying to understand this whole thing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have to go to a party where the guests are getting their nails done and my nails are a complete tragedy...bitten down to the nubs and half polished :(. I am embarrassed but after 2 funerals in a row, I couldnt control myself. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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My sister is a chronic nail biter. She went to get a manicure once before a job interview. The manicurist told my sister that her nails were so bad there was nothing that could be done. She said that in all her 20+ years working as a manicurist, that was the only time she couldn't do anything for a client. My sister was mortified. [ Reply | More ]
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Just go. I'm sure they can at least clean them up a little. I have gone with nails in horrible condition and they just do what they can; always leave looking better than when I arrived. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] my mother died last month. when i returned to work, i received a sympathy card signed by everyone. now i can never say this in the real world, but i was disappointed and hurt. i've been here for three weeks. it wasn't my birthday, a sympathy card signed by everyone the way you give a bday card seems to me juvenile. nobody sent flowers or gave to the charity mentioned in the obituary. there was one person, on a much higher level who gave me a mass card and a sympathy card and a hug --- all on her own. am i being unreasonable? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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three years!!! not three wks [ Reply | More ]
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Did any of them come to the wake or funeral? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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no, but it was an hour and a half away so i would never expect that. [ Reply | More ]
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I am sorry for your loss. My father died when I was working at an office. My close coworkers (as in, we worked closely, not that we were that tight) came for a shiva call. Was there anything local your coworkers could have attended? I htink a card from everyone is really thoughtful, actually -- and it's hard for people to know what else to do. BTW A few of my friends/coworkers did donate to a charity but it took mos, so just b/c you have not gotten a donation does not mean it won't happen. THere is no urgency to this donation. Again, so sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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thank you for stopping to write here. i appreciate it. maybe this is just grief. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm really sorry for your loss of your mom. Yes, tbh, I think your expectations on this are a little high. Understandably so, since this is an emotional time. I do think the people you work with directly could/should have said something in person or at least sent a personal email but you shouldn't take it personally that they didn't. Keep in mind, people don't necessarily know how you'd like the situation to be handled - I've had co-workers who lost a parent and were gracious to people who approached them but very clearly did NOT want to discuss the topic in detail with anyone at work. [ Reply | More ]
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fair enough. i am glad i posted here -- i apparently definitely need to get perspective [ Reply | More ]
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A group card is a nice gesture. I'm sorry for your loss, yet in an office with people in their 30s-50s, there will be many parental deaths. This is generally how it is handled. I've gone to service for my close work friends' parents, but rarely. [ Reply | More ]
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This. I'm sorry for your loss OP. [ Reply | More ]
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I am so sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why would someone do this? In the wedding announcement, the groom listed his father's real estate holdings, which are really not that impressive. I just do not get it. http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/01/fashion/weddings/marianna-nadelman-and-jason-rubinov.html?ref=weddings 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Trashy. Carwashes. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: probably laundering his crystal meth money [ Reply | More ]
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And she works for daddy, he went to med school in Grenada. Very Russian [ Reply | More ]
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np. to be honest, the whole family sounds connected to me. Like you don't want to get shot in the head somewhere near the Times building [ Reply | More ]
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"warehouse" + "car washes" + "gas stations in jersey" .... yeah [ Reply | More ]
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Wedding vendors are happy I'm sure...they will be paid in cash. [ Reply | More ]
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I bet this wedding will have amazing food. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I did not even pick up on the Russian thing. That explains everything. I'm a bit slow in the morning. [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up with people like this. This family is SO RICH. I'd say they have at least $30 million in the bank. That's why they brag about it - because they don't care if you think they're tacky - they'll send $500k on their wedding and love doing it. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is the minimum you can sleep and still exercise? If I get less than eight hours I feel so lethargic and can't workout. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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p.s. I think I am having a sleep disturbance from pre menopause that is disturbing my deep sleep cycle because I feel like I've had 3-4 hours when I've been sleeping for 7. Is this possible? [ Reply | More ]
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Can do 6 hours of sleep and still exercise but would prefer 7 [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not at all sporty or that into exercise, but I do find that it gives me energy. When I'm dragging, I remind myself: "You never regret going, but you do regret not going." I'm someone who does better with tons of sleep, so I get it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What percentage do I tip for a manicure and and a pedicure? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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20 [ Reply | More ]
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It usually costs me 30-35 bucks. I tip 5 to mani person, 5 to pedi person. Or 10 if same woman does both. [ Reply | More ]
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That's excessive. 20% is the guideline. [ Reply | More ]
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I know, but handing 3 or 4 ones to someone after they've scrubbed my feet just seems low. I'm happy to add the extra dollar or two to feel better about the transaction. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I over tip too. Seems fair. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Are we OK with DH's posting here about DW's? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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I hates when my DH posted on here about me, he knew the lingo so everyone thought he was fake. [ Reply | More ]
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Hated^ [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, but we are not okay with extraneous apostrophes. DHs and DWs. [ Reply | More ]
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Haha. Agree. [ Reply | More ]
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Ilu [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Woops sorry [ Reply | More ]
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What, should wives be able to post whatever they like about husbands, but not vice versa? [ Reply | More ]
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It sort of feels like a man walking into a ladies powder room. [ Reply | More ]
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Those posts annoy me. [ Reply | More ]
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I find it odd. My dh would never, ever post on here. He doesn't even know it exists and he would never believe that I would partake in a message board. [ Reply | More ]
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same here. I have even showed my DH the site. It all looks to him like nonsense words. He will look at things on youtube occasionally, but he knows about as much about the internet as I do about xbox games. [ Reply | More ]
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Same here! I would be so turned off if my DH trolled here. How very odd. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't mind it, I don't especially value it, and I don't want my own DH to do it. I can't yet admit to myself that I do it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Flipping channels and came across Dog the Bounty Hunter. Looking at Dog and his wife, I guess there really is someone for everyone. Wow. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Would you risk cheating on her? [ Reply | More ]
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No. She looks like a rough customer. [ Reply | More ]
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Beth doesn't mess around. [ Reply | More ]
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I like her. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where can I buy postage stamps on a Sunday? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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A grocery store. [ Reply | More ]
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UPS store, bodega [ Reply | More ]
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Most corner delis sell them. [ Reply | More ]
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just send an email. [ Reply | More ]
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most Post offices have kiosks in their lobbies [ Reply | More ]
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Duane reade [ Reply | More ]
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Most ATMs [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] When do you have your DC clean up toys (once at end of day or as s/he goes along) and how old is DC? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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As she goes along when I am with them. If they are with dh the house looks like a bomb blew up if he is with them for 2 hours. Kids are 4 & 2 [ Reply | More ]
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OP: do you have a rule about cleaning as they go along? My 4 yo DC claims not to be finished playing with a toy when she has moved onto another and I cannot get her to clean. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, if they want to take a new toy I ask them to put the old one away unless a toy is part of the game like he is building Lego tower and wants to put a car into garage he built. However when I am not in the room they don't follow the rule but will cleanup toys when I tell them. 2 yo is better than the 4 yo. They do out their clothing into hamper when they put on PJs and that's on autopilot. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: Tough crap. :). If toys don't get put away as requested, they go to toy time out for a long time. You're the boss. Don't let those crafty 4 year olds get the better of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Do you constantly monitor kids playing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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No, but it's a small apartment and kitchen looks out onto the family room. So when I see it getting out of hand, I ask them to reign it in. They do have a lot of multipiece toys like puzzles, Legos, colored building blocks. So I really prefer not to start a new box of things while another is all spread out. But I don't care if they have 12 rescuebots out at once. [ Reply | More ]
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+1, but it is a constant battle. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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But when they play with their father, they actually get to play and have fun [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nannies, what should be in the offer letter to our new nanny? We want to be clear but some grey area is unavoidable. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not nanny but just look at park slope survey. They have a sample contract with everything covered. I would lay out specific tasks. [ Reply | More ]
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This. It's not rocket science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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Np. Rocket science comment so snarky and unnecessary. Why are you so mad so early in the day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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I am just always amused at people who put together these contracts. It's like you are drafting a contract to be used against you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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OP here, not at all. Employment is at will so obviously anyone can walk away. I just know it is best to be clear, like Nope - Columbus Day is NOT a paid holiday. The Friday after Thanksgiving is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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I give a paper with a list of paid holidays (mine gets 5 out of 10 that I get), and 2 weeks of vacation of my choosing + 3 personal days if her choosing paid. This is the only paper she gets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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You're probably not the best source of staff management advice then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Probably. I have had 3 nannies who always did what I needed and left when I let them go. Each worked for me for 3+ years. I believe nanny is paid by the hour and exists to do all I need within reason as she is household help. I suck but I don't have nanny problems posted on UB daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Were they good with your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes, every Neighbour with kids in our building (we live in a small building so 4 families with kids ) have now asked me to help find similar nanny to ours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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Ah, you are British. Did you grow up with help? I didn't and have a hard time drawing lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Is the post asking how to be a good employer to nanny started by you? If so, you have good intentions but honestly this attitude will cause issues in the long run. You need to clearly understand that the nanny is there to do what you need. If your objective is to be liked you will be working for the nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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No, I'm not that poster but I do have a "please like me" personality. I do need to work on it. Causes issues in my corporate job too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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np- why not? that seems very reasonable to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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If you are paying her off the books, anything in writing can come back to bite you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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We pay on the books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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I put in salary info, cost of insurance, vacation time, holidays, grand overview of duties other bennies (after a year we give money for her IRA) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] OK -- can we talk tonsillectomy? My five-year-old DS has had strep four times in the past 12 months (the first and this last one needed two rounds of antibiotics to clear), and his pediatrician is recommending surgery. His ENT says that he wants to respect NEH guidelines -- 5 episodes in 2 calendar years, 7 in one calendar year -- but who knows. Anyone's kids have had the surgery? Did it go well? Badly? Would you recommend or not? Anything you could tell me would be most appreciated!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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I would do it. I had it at 7 and never had another sore throat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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Was recovery bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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Not that I recall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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It used to be 3 episodes in a year and then tonsils out. He needs them out, tell him he gets lots of ice cream. He'll be fine too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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I remember how betrayed I felt at age 6 when my throat hurt too much to eat ice cream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Did wonders for my 4 yo. Recovery was quick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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My parents opted against the surgery. Now, at 42, I get strep at the drop of a hat, tonsil stones because my tonsils are huge and pitted, and just overall issues with my tonsils/sore throats. I wish I had had them out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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Good perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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Have the surgery done. In my day, all kids had tonsillectomies. My parents didn't believe in it. When i was 18, I had issues and had to have my tonsils out. Soooo painful (and I have a very high tolerance for pain). There is nothing gained by waiting. Do it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Yeah, just get it done. I got strep three times in two months as a kid, missed a week of school each time, got them out, problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Do it now, before your kid is older. Recovery is MUCH easier when they're young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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My brother had it when we were little. From an older sibling perspective it was no big deal and he never got sick anymore after that, didn't snore (he had apnea). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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