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[ - ] NYC pools are thug magnets. I hate the summertime. 77th St. is like a trip to the ghetto, with rude and rowdy kids from the Bronx. Ugh! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Let me pat you on the back for a sec. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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77th on the East Side or the West side [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Well I don't know if you are trolling me or not, but the pools in Manhattan are very safe compared to pools elsewhere. In Sweden, the Muslim immigrants use the public swimming pools to rape blonde children. http://vladtepesblog.com/2011/02/26/20-refugees-rape-11-year-old-in-sweden/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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How is that at all relevant to 77th Street ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Watch your plural language when referring to one incident. Makes you sound ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Not just one incident. Many incidents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Your blog cite only referred to one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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[ - ] My nanny does a great job, works for us Monday thru Friday. On the weekends she drives for Uber. She is using the car we provided to her at the start of her employment. How would you feel about this? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Lol. Well what's your percent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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No percent, I mean she has the weekends off so she can do what she wants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I'm searching for feelings, but I have none so far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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What is your exposure if there is an accident? Is the car in your name? who pays the insurance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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This is my only concern. Is it properly insured? What liability do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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The car is in her name. Basically, in order to avoid liability, when she started working for us, DH and I put the car in to her name. Our contract stipulates that when she stops working for us she returns the car to us and transfers ownership back to us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Who pays for the car insurance? That might be an issue as you'd need more than regular personal-use insurance, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Where does she pick up the people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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We are in the Hamptons for the summer, and I thought nanny would go to the beach or something on weekends. But instead she parks her car right near the LIRR station and grabs people just as they get off the train and ping uber. Most of the people she are driving are husbands who are taking the train in from Manhattan to get back to families that are out here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Sometimes the nanny picks up guys her own age, basically early twenties groups of guys that have share houses, some of these share houses have thirty people crammed in from what she tells me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I thought the Hamptons made share houses illegal... WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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If she is the owner of record, why the hell do you care? Do you want the car on weekends so you can drive for Uber instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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I am not concerned, I am just asking the other moms here what they think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Bullshit. Go find a hobby, drive the car for Uber yourself, or demand a Soprano-like taste from the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Not to be smug or offensive, but all these nanny posts make me glad that I'm able to be home with our children. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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I am SAHM but the posts are clearly always skewed towards the moms who have problems. I'm sure lots of moms have nanny relationships that work really well, you just don't see people posting about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Very true. And lots of wack-jobs on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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The nanny posts are silly troll posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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Troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Nope, I couldn't deal with employing someone to take care of our kids and then worry about vacations, staying late, no shoes, arriving late which will make me late for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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^no show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Well, it's true right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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I don't know. I don't have a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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You realize those are all troll posts, correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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The one below, nanny expectations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Yes especially that one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Not all posts are troll posts! I wouldn't doubt all of it is real [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Hi troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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I hate staying home with the kids. Work is my sanity saver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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you want to be smug and offensive. Just own it. Signed mom who was a SAHM for five years. Whenever someone says, i don't want to be a bitch or whatever, that is exactly what they want to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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That's cool. I WOH and have never felt smug about the nanny people (we don't have one either). I'm glad we are a loving and close family. Nanny or no. Doesn't really matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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You sound overwhelmed at the thought of managing someone, so I am glad you're a SAHM and not a WOHM. It's ok, not everyone is cut out for working. Good thing you got a DH to support you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] To buy or rent a pied e terre in Manhattan or not to...... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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I own one and love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Awesome! Where do you live and how old are the kids?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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dcs in their 20s, live in Greenwich, pied a terre on UES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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Oh ok! We have little kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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How often do you use it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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I lived there for 3 months at one time, and use it about every other weekend for 1-3 nights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Unpack from Holiday weekend? Or just leave everything for the Nanny tomorrow? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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This is a tiresome trolling attempt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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LOL. It is actually a real post. I feel guilty if I leave it all for the nanny but I dread doing it myself. She usually unpacks our bags but this weekend the amount of laundry is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Do your own fucking laundry. Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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No need for swearing. We pay our nanny well and to do housework. I don't see why Mom (by default) should be doing the laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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Dad and kids can do laundry, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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lazy asses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Why do it when you pay for someone else to do it? I don't understand the guilt in that or the sanctimoniousness of people who can't afford to hire help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Get it started so it isn't impossible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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you cannot be this lazy, unpack and sort your laundry - throw a load in and put away your toiletries. Nanny can handle whatever you don't get to but at least put your fucking suitcases away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I asked about private health ins for my mom 2 weeks ago. Someone keeps posting about Medicaid. My mom has 100k in savings. So I don't believe she will qualify. I just want her to be covered. Money not an issue. But pre existing conditions must be covered. Was told Medicare enrollment occurs 1/1-3/31 and then kicks in July 1st. Is that correct? We will pay for that. Thx for your help 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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Medicare is different from Medicaid. Medicare - you need to have covered employment or I think you can pay for it. It is not needs tested. Medicaid is means tested. In any event, thank for bringing your mom to this country and sopping up benefits taxpayers pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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Your mother doesn't qualify for Medicare. Read this to understand why: http://www.aarp.org/health/medicare-insurance/info-04-2011/medicare-eligibility.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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I think you can buy your way in. Sucks to be a US taxpayer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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You did not read correctly. Her mother would have to be a resident for at least 5 years to buy her way in. Her mother will simply have to buy insurance and pay whatever it costs. Once she is here 5 years she can buy her way into Medicare, but she will still pay the premiums. You have to pay into the system via 10 years of work (you or your spouse) to fully qualify. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I know my nanny is annoyed that i did not pay her for the 4th. I give her 56 hours of pto and 8 paid holidays. She can kiss my ass 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Did she have the 3rd off? If so, don't see a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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She took 2 and 3rd off as pto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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So, no she didn't have it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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Exactly. The 3rd should have been a paid holiday IMHO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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8 days is generous. My guess is two days at Christmas, two at Thanksgiving, one each New Years, MKL, Presidents day, Memorial Day and Labor day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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July 3rd is not a holiday! If a holiday falls on the weekend you don't get a day off of work necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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July 3rd was a federally recognized holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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You're clueless. July 3rd was the observed holiday, so if you get the major holidays off Friday July 3rd was a paid holiday off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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You sound like a great employer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Enough trolling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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so what are the 8 holidays you pay for? its fine if one of them is not july 4, but if you promised her 8 of them, then give them to her - why you don't have this figured out already is beyond me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: my 4 year old daughter asks for "bath time with Daddy" as her gift now. Every time she has the chance for a present or a reward (birthday, eating all her dinner, etc.), she now asks to "take a bath with Daddy." So I fill the tub with bubbles so she's not traumatized to see the naked male form yet, then I get in quickly and cover up, then she strips and gets in and starts splashing around. Could be cute if it ended there, but then she sits down and tries to wiggle back against me, and I have to keep her at bay. She'll stand up, shake her little tush, and talk about how good the warm water feels, and she'll go up to the faucet, turn it on, and wash herself under the stream, cooing and sometimes looking over her shoulder at me. Then my wife walks by the open bathroom door and gives a look I can only describe as jealousy. After bath time is over and I'm all dried up, my wife gives me the silent treatment for the rest of the night. I'll come up and start talking about the neighbors or ask her about her day at work, and she'll just sort of go "hmph" and keep her back to me. WTF, no one told me being a husband and father was going to be like this. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Go away. You and your same posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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np. I guess if he's here, he's not doing greater harm in the world. Maybe we're keeping him from committing greater crimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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I've never seen this post before - NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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On a good night when he's on a roll he'll post it at least ten times or more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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that's a bad night, not a good night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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Actually, it sounds like an excellent night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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bully for you - it's been posted many, many times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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I've seen it a few times over the last month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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np. Oh, is this a repost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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OMG lol - NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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You keep posting this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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Repeat post. Yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Reality check. My DH left me about 8 weeks ago. I am truly hoping to reconcile. How long is it realistic to wait? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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^^ I should add that we never really fought, I don't nag and we had a decent sex life up until about 3 months ago when he announced he wanted out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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A lot of people on this board will disagree with me, but if reconciIiation is something you want, I think your best strategy is to roll over and agree to everything, tell him that you only want him to be happy, and just ask if he will consider holding off on divorce for a little while until he's sure it is what he wants. If he is adamant about going through with a divorce, then lawyer up (which I hope you've already done). However, if he is actually confused, it may give him time to sort out his feelings. Even better, if there's someone else, it gives you a chance to turn into the nice one when the gf starts nagging him to move things along. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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If he is not confused she will end up with nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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That's why I said she should already have a lawyer. Act as if he's not coming back; let *him* think he can. It's the only way to turn a man around: to become unavailable and bend with the wind and let them go. Only then is there a chance. But, you're right, if they're determined to be gone - they're gone. I've known of husbands who have come back after much longer, though. 8 weeks is nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Thanks. It is sort of the strategy I have resorted to after a period of tears and asking him to reconsider before he left the house as I didn't want to tell DCs. Since he left, I ask nothing of him, am pleasant when we have interactions surrounding DCs and have been super flexible in response to any requests. I am not financially dependent on him and have consulted a lawyer as I don't want to screw myself over. For now, I'll continue to concentrate on my DCs, spending time with friends and enjoy the life I do have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Why in the world would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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I don't really believe he knows what he is doing. And it sounds contrived but I want our family to stay intact and after soo many years together, it is difficult to grasp giving up on the relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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np. You don't really know this yet. Lots of DHs go through a period of time in mid-life where they go through a very real transition where they do crazy things. Some people here get all upset when the phrase "midlife crisis* is mentioned, but it was 100% real for me. It was like my DH flipped a switch, and it wasn't just me and the marriage. He ignored his friends, his family and the kids. He got all new friends, started spending crazy money on them (he had the money to spend). No one knew what the hell was wrong with him. Even his business partners sat him down at one point and said if he didn't straighten his shit out, they were going to collectively kick him out of the partnership. He just went through this phase (it lasted a few years) where it was "fuck everything." He ultimately came through it, but it took a few years and he had to hit a rock bottom. All that time we didn't get divorced, and we weren't separated, but he did come and go as he wished. And sometimes he'd disappear for days. I had the lawyer ready to go, but ultimately he imploded on his own, and when it happened, I was still there. His "friends" not so much. Don't think all men know what they are doing when this kind of thing happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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I'm sorry - but I find that a terrible example for you to set for your kids. I cannot imagine letting your kids see that it's okay for their dad to treat their mom this way. Awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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My kids didn't know. If they asked where dad was, I just said he was working. I'm pretty sure quite a few other moms tell their kids the same thing. The kids don't know any different if you are good about how you handle yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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MIDLIFE assholes leave the first wife for the sad sack girl at work. And decide that they are "soul mates" with the idiot 25 year old at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Thanks for this perspective. My DH is negative about anyone and everything in his life, his family, friends, work, etc. This apparently is all my fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Seems you live in a world of nasty people. No one I know has done this type of stuff where they fight through lawyers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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He's a sociopath. He's not confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Yes, I disagree. 99% certain he is having an affair. Best chances for reconciliation are to enforce consequences quickly and swiftly, which means going no-contact (just email necessary info about the kids) and getting your ducks in a row and filing for divorce ASAP. By being nice to him you are rewarding sh*tty behavior and allowing him to have his cake and eat it, too--and he will string you and the OW as long as he possibly he cani [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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or. I think I agree with you in the way that you go no contact - but I recommend doing it in the positive way. Don't punish, just let go. The more you punish and turn into the "mom" figure, the more you reduce the potential for them to come back to you. Even if they decide they want to come back, you've created the scenario where the only way they can do it is with their tail between their legs. "Please mommy let me come home now." Men won't do that. They'll bite off their nose to spite their face if you make them humiliate themselves doing it. Did your husband come back to you under your scenario? Did the husbands of any of your friends come crawling back? I just don't see it working. I see it as making sure you are divorced in short order. OP doesn't want that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. I don't play the role of bitch well. I keep contact to a minimum and no discussion of us or our relationship. I feel like I should at least give it some time before I file. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Regarding the "string you and the OW along as long as he possibly can" ... from another perspective, I respectfully call it "letting the whole thing play out." That's based on the premise that the OW is not a real tried and true love, and is basically just an infatuation that will burn out in good time. He doesn't share a life with her. He shares a life with you. Only you can decide whether you want to hand your husband over to the OW and make her a permanent part of all of your lives, or take the very real chance that she'll grow less attractive over time. I decided I didn't want OW as the potential stepmother of my children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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I don't think he is having an affair but I am sure he'd like to date a 28 year old. The reason I say this is that I have access to his iCloud and he just signed up for a dating site this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Stop this insanity! People reconcile, there is probably no affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Won't work. OP is screwed. She should look for a caretaker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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I don't need one. I can afford my lifestyle as it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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He's an asshole. Stop saying he is "SCARED" or "CONFUSED". This is what sociopaths tell women. ' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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OP here..mine says none of these things. What he says is he feels caged and wants freedom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Your dh is either a sociopath or a narcissist. This is probably a fake post but these are the facts. Women whose DHs left them were involved with sociopaths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I don't think he is a sociopath. He may be narcisstic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Pease don't listen to these people. Dh may just need some time. Wait a little longer, dh will be back. Affairs are less common than one would think. These people watch too much tv drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: I had gay sex last night and I think I'm traumatized. I've had a "sissy" fantasy for a long time. The idea of being a woman really turns me on or at least it does while I'm alone. Last night, I decided to go all the way and have sex with an actual man and it was absolutely terrible. I walked into his apartment and he started fondling me and calling me sexy but I was not into it at all. I didn't want to disappoint him and ended up going all the way, but the entire experience was horrendous. I woke up today and I don't feel like myself at all. I'm shaky and a nervous wreck. I feel like I've made a huge mistake and basically destroyed my masculinity for nothing. Its honestly making me sick to my stomach. I try not to think about it, but the thoughts of him touching and caressing me come back and then I feel like puking. I'm almost wish I would die. I have no idea what to do. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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┬╗ sometimes one has to experiment across the spectrum to be confident in their sexuality. now you have lived out that fantasy, and know that it is not for you. you live and learn. stop thinking about it and move forward. i think the bigger issue is the betrayal to your wife. i would definitely not tell her if you are 100% sure you are not gay. just bury that experience deep in a closet. your life is ruined if she finds out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Reddit is for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Hey troll...What are you getting out of these post. You are on a women's board for god sake. You probably are sitting at your computer in dirty underwear, wanking your tiny penis. I'm sorry you are an ugly person who is never going to get a date but this is sad and pathetic. You don't even post original crap. Just the same crap you stole over and over again. You are sad. Get help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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I woke up today and I don't feel like myself at all. I'm shaky and a nervous wreck. I feel like I've made a huge mistake and basically destroyed my masculinity for nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Fag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Fag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Again with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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I thought you had gay sex last night and were "torn" about it because you enjoyed. God, I'm confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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Nice triy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here: When I was 14 I faked sick so I could stay home from school one day. I slept for most of the morning, then got up for lunch. Around one I was hanging out in my room, still in my pajamas, waiting for the Saved by the Bell syndication episodes to start, and as you do when you're 14 and bored I decided to beat off. I pulled off my pajama bottoms and got down on the floor, put a paper towel down, started going at myself, looking up at the poster of pamela anderson on the wall, thinking about her, thinking about a girl at school. Then suddenly I look up and my own mom is standing at the doorway, completely silent. I stopped, I started spluttering excuses. She just put her finger up to her lips. Didn't say a fucking word. Then--and I shit you not--she raises a hand to one of the thin shoulder straps holding her dress up. She pulls its thread loose, then reaches for the other shoulder and does the same. Lets her dress top fall. It slid down her skin and then revealed two perfectly round, gorgeous tits. I just stared. I'd never seen live tits before. I could see the nipples harden. I came right there. Right across the paper towel in front of me and onto part of the carpet. Then I look up and she's already pulled her dress back up. Tells me to get some rest. Later that night she makes me my favorite dinner, and we sit there, the whole family, at the dinner table, just eating, nothing's changed. I still don't know why she did it. But I do know (and this haunts me) that I'll probably never see a pair of tits as perfect and as beautiful as those. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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Can you go back to reddit... [ Reply | More ]
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You again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I see the three day weekend has pissed a lot of parents off. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What [ Reply | More ]
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tahW [ Reply | More ]
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Meaning? [ Reply | More ]
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┬┐gninaeM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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All the nanny post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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I smoked some weed while DD was over at a friend's house, cleaned my apartment, got some "good" ideas and prepping to go back to work tomorrow. Life is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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funny dh and I were just talking about maybe having a hit or two, the kids are out and we are just putzing around today - yes we are having a nice day [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I know, so relaxing, even without the added stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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agreed - love having a day to relax [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] People with nannies, what's your HHI? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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Varies but always $750k+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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About 800, but we cut down to aupair when youngest in first grade (burb mom) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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Really varies. 400k in some years, up to three million in a great year [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you people take your nanny with you to the hamptons? We found it better to hire a local Hamptons girl to nanny for the summer and give our Manhattan nanny the summer off as paid vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Our Manhattan nanny has all her friends and her boyfriend in Manhattan. Too hard for her to be stuck in the Hamptons, [ Reply | More ]
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This is what is great about aupairs, they all want to see different areas. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^We have places at the cape and florida, they are happy going to each place at least twice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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That's insane. You are paying for two nannies during the summer? No thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Why not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Np: how do u find a girl in he Hamptons? I need to find a reliable part time helper there so I can go out to dinners. Thx [ Reply | More ]
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How many kids and what are the ages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Ugh, the Hamptons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:29 PM Flag
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Do girls in the Hamptons accept nanny jobs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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The girls that grew up in Montauk are not wealthy, Many of their dads are fisherman . These Montauk girls are happy to nanny [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I didn't the question about taking a nanny on vacation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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About $1.2 m [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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OP: writing too fast. I wanted to make it clear that I did not ask the question about taking nannies on vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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How is that relevant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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OP: It was an obnoxious question, and I don't want anyone to think that I asked it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Our HHI is $2mn, we have three DCs and two nannies. Two FT WOH parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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$140k [ Reply | More ]
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250k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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About $270K [ Reply | More ]
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About 300k [ Reply | More ]
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About $385K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] DW is pregnant with our first. Where can I buy a Millson pram in or around NYC. If they do not make them anymore, what would be a similar style currently made. My mom got rid of my boyhood Millson and I really want by db to have one. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Silver Cross [ Reply | More ]
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Google is your friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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Does your wife want one? [ Reply | More ]
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They are not very practical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA on hiring a nanny: set expectations low. Nannies all get lazy. They all start feeling entitled. They all stop working hard. Your unearned generosity wont be appreciated. Here's my advice. 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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1. No separate vacation time from your vacation. They take vacation when you do. That's it. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't agree with your premise or #2 (we give a month) but we do follow this rule. [ Reply | More ]
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2. One week net salary is the expected bonus. Don't set a higher expectation. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. This is why I switched to aupairs. Yes, they go after a year or two, and yes, the do less than nannies, but they do what they are paid for. [ Reply | More ]
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Aupairs will try to sleep with your husband to get money. [ Reply | More ]
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3. If you give a credit card, you expect a receipt. Charges must all be authorized and for the kids. Dont even allow them to do things like buy bottled water or a snack for themselves, because they'll expect it. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. Give typed list for groceries. We do not allow bottled water. NYC water is fine. Use filter if you want. Everyone in house gets re-usable water bottle. [ Reply | More ]
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True. Any generosity is taken for grantedd [ Reply | More ]
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4. Nannies take public transport, not cabs. Period. [ Reply | More ]
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5. Cabfare and dinner only for staying after 8:30 pm [ Reply | More ]
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Even this is BS. They can take public transport like most everyone who isn't working in a law firm [ Reply | More ]
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6. Try to be on time for releasing the nanny, but dont get in the habit of paying overtime if you are late, or if you occasionally ask them to come early. Flexibility in hours around the margins is part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
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ITTA my experience has unfortunately been that the more generous I am the more lazy and entitled nanny gets. Has never worked out well [ Reply | More ]
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This this this. [ Reply | More ]
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7. Part of the job is doing laundry. Including yours. [ Reply | More ]
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What?! You had me until this. You're talking about a nanny, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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This is a joke, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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Transparent troll attempt to get into MP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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Facts though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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No. Facts. Women hate working for other women. [ Reply | More ]
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8. Children eat home cooked meals, not takeout. It should be a rare instance where the nanny is buying a meal for the kids outside of the house. If the kids need to eat outside of the house, the nanny should be packing food for the day. [ Reply | More ]
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9. The house should be tidy when you get home. It isn't their job to scrub floors and toilets, but the toys should be put away, and the kitchen area should be clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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NY employers are crappy. That's why they have a revolving door of crappy nannies. [ Reply | More ]
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Basically i suggest a detailed contract that spells out everything so nanny can not get lazy [ Reply | More ]
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10. If there is downtime because the kid is napping or in school, the nanny should be doing something productive for the household. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Wow, never followed this ridiculous advice and had an awesome nanny for the years we needed it (parted on great terms a few years ago and now another family is lucky enough to have her). I realize your fondest wish is to live in Downton Abbey but that isn't happening OP...maybe change your views if you want to keep staff and not be on here complaining about why your nanny is not what you expected. [ Reply | More ]
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11. Part of the job is being organized. If your nanny is disorganized, forgetful, etc. she needs to be fired. [ Reply | More ]
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What i did when hiring nanny was i told her that i would get a serious cleaning lady to do deep clean two days a week. But that the other days, nanny was responsible for keeping the house organized. Nanny needed to fill dishwasher and essentially be housekeeper on days without a cleaning lady [ Reply | More ]
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12. The nanny should be expected to check out high quality childrens books from the library, not a bunch of crap like "Captain Underpants." Yes, this means your nanny needs to ask the childrens' librarians for book recommendations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:54 PM Flag
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Vacation is a tough issue. I used to take nanny on three week vacations to .europe and she was worried that she could not be apart from boyfriend for that long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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Probably the boyfriend cheated.. Wouldn't any twentysomething guy cheat if deprived of sex for that ling? [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh, then the guy is a loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:22 PM Flag
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13. W/r/t cell phone usage, a few brief calls during the day is fine. But if your nanny is spending 30 minutes on the phone at a time, it's time for a new nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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14. When you send a text or call the nanny, you get a return text or call within 5 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
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T h i s [ Reply | More ]
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What if she is in the shower [ Reply | More ]
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Ok so a good compromise is to do shorter vacarions. I told my nanny that The family goes on eight weeks of vacation a year but that she was only required to go with us on the vacations of eight days or less that worked well for us [ Reply | More ]
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15. Playdates should be made with children your child wants to play with -- not with children who happen to have a babysitter from the same Carribean island. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Nannies come from all over the world.You're a true idiot [ Reply | More ]
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Hee. [ Reply | More ]
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16. Come home and visit the park at unexpected times. What you see is what is happening when you're not there. If you dont like what you see, fire the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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I provided nanny with iphone and ipad that she carries with her. She doesn't know that with " find my iphone" i know exactly where she is at all times. I have caught her lying a few times [ Reply | More ]
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Like what? [ Reply | More ]
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Ok so i asked her how much time she spent at playground and she said two hours when find my iphone showed it was really one hour at the park and one hour in Forever 21. Nanny was shopping for slutty clothes when she promised she would be at park [ Reply | More ]
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Did you confront? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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Nannies put the kid in the stroller and go shopping all the time. It's them and the Orthodox Jewish women. It's like a Saturday Night Live sketch. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. And nanny cam. I can't believe people don't do nanny cam. My friends found out all kinds of shit on nanny cam. [ Reply | More ]
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17. Attitude matters. Come to work with a fucking smile on your face. If you're sullen, I'm looking for a new nanny pronto. [ Reply | More ]
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What about social issues? In the Nanny Diaries Scarlett started dating a guy who was in the same building as the family that employed her [ Reply | More ]
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18. Don't tolerate lateness. 8:00 am means 8:00 am, not 8:05 am. Nip any lateness in the bud early. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think it's because there's no room for advancement in the field? Like most nannies leave a job with three kids at top of pay scale. Then have to go back to a lower rate for one kid. I think the whole industry is screwed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:59 PM Flag
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How so [ Reply | More ]
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19. Your child should be learning something from your nanny -- letters, reading, math. If this isn't happening, your nanny sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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Than do daycare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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20. During the summer, your nanny needs to make weekly plans. "Going to the park" is not a plan. Your nanny should have planned, scheduled, and structured time (as well as unstructured time) scheduled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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21. Have a running to-do list. Your nanny should be crossing things off it, and you should be adding things to it. The list should never run out of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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22. She can help herself to a reasonable amount of food, but dont accept your nanny cleaning out your groceries at an unreasonable pace. If she eats that much, she needs to pack her own lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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This is why i only hire skinny nannies. The fatties eat twice as much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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So many fat nannies out there. And they feed the kids goldfish. Disgusting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Agree. And they start to hate the mom who makes money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Our nanny works five days each week, sometimes Mon - Fri and other times Tues - Sat. She worked Mon to Friday this weekend as she wanted Saturday off for the holiday. Do I need to pay her an extra holiday since she wasn't here? July 4 is one of the holidays we pay for per her contract. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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Omg! People, get your head out of your ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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Nanny here. It goes a long way if you do. Clarify your contract that holidays on non working days will/won't be observed. I wish my boss at least have me an additional vacation day to use at their convenience to make up for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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if it is specifically in the contract that she will receive compensation for July 4th' and there is no distinction as to whether she must actually be there, then yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course. And Friday was the holiday off (post offices, Wall Street, etc closed) [ Reply | More ]
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Post office was open Friday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Friday was the federal holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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It was closed on Saturday July fourth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Wall Street was open [ Reply | More ]
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