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[ - ] It is so slow on here today. Wonder how crazy it will get on Sept. 2? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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My birthday? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My nanny spends the entire 2 to 2 1/2 hours of kids nap resting but then does chores when kids are awake. This seams to eat into her ability to make healthy meals for them and it cuts outdoor time as well. Am I being ridiculous in finding it annoying that she can't do some prep during the nap? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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Maybe she preps loudly so she has to lay low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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its not about the noise for sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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just get a new nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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the new one may not be any better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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I had the same issue and I discussed this with her. I said that her rest is 1 hour of the nap and the rest of the time I am asking her to cook or clean on the days that she does not cook. Worked out well after we had the explicit discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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How do you know what she does during the day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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That is what I do but I would expect my nanny to finish chores when they are napping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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OP: I think some people are faster then others. I am able to cook an entire healthy dinner in 15-20 minutes but same dinner would take my nanny an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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how many hours per day does your nanny work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] ARIS to be updated with grades on 8/29 according to Farina. https://www.facebook.com/insideschools 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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so she will strech it to right before school starts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got my period after my second month of trying after 2 m/c in a row (had all the testing done, I just have crappy luck - have one dc age 3). I know every BFN is hard, but this one is really crushing me. It's not been 12 months since we started trying at all (before the m/cs). I don't know how to keep up the motivation and I feel like it's turning me into a bitter person.... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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how old are you? can you afford to stop trying and just let it happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Hang in there. I remember the BFN's after my miscarriage. In all it took about a year to have our DC and we were about to give up. You spend all your 20's looking forward to your period (or at least the fact that you aren't pregnant) and your 30/40's feeling differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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You were ready to give up after a year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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OR: Yes. I wasn't sold on the idea of a baby. I didn't want to pursue any fertility treatments and frankly didn't want to spend another 12 months disappointed. I had something very specific that came up that would have delayed any trying for six months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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I'm sorry :(, I've been there. It's tough, and it took us a while. But keep going. Try acupuncture. I believe it helped me - it helped a friend of mine and she recommended it to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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^^But it is no quick fix. You'd have to commit to doing it for a while. She did it for 7 months. I did it for 3 or 4 months before we conceived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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You just can't let it consume you. Go out, have fun and enjoy your marriage. I had 5 miscarriages over the course of 10 years. We finally got one to stick and we not have a wonderful baby boy. Along the way, we traveled, enjoyed each other's company and made the most of our child-free years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What grade did your children learn organic chemistry? is it k or 1st? My DD is just going into 1st and though we taught her alkanes and enantiomers over the summer, I worry that she may already be behind her peers. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Lol. I went to a doctor who took it at Cw Post over the summer. She couldn't pass it at Syracuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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I grew up outside the US and we learned multiplication tables at the end of 2nd grade. There is nothing wrong with below question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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there's something wrong with the responder who said 3yos can do it, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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or: yes this I would agree with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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I'm that responder, why do you think there is something wrong with me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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or: for a 3 yo its pure memorization which will fade if they stop practicing. what is the point of this exercise. at 3 they are better off reciting poems IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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Not at all! They are not memorizing in Montessori, they understand the math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Same responder here (Montessori teacher) I believe that if you familiarized yourself with our math materials, you would quickly see how some three-year-olds can understand multiplication and division. The genius with Montessori is how effective the method makes abstract concepts concrete--especially in math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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My kids started with the very basics of organic chemistry in K. They didn't get into the more detailed aspects until first grade. I think your DD sounds like her knowledge is right in line with what's expected. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need some perspective, please. I am a child of immigrants from another very conservative and very traditional country. My parents came to the US as adults, and have always continued to live according to the values of their home country. I was raised here (NYC) very immersed in their culture, but also in American culture. We are having a major disagreement. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years; he is 28, I am 26. I make $39k a year at a non-profit, he makes over $100k a year. He says that we will get married once he makes some career transitions so he can be more stable. The problem is this: my parents argue that my boyfriend should be covering my expenses; paying my rent, paying my bills. They say that that's what a man does when he's serious about a woman, and that it's a mandatory thing in their native country. They say that since he doesn't, he is taking advantage of me and mistreating me. My boyfriend is American. I was raised very immersed in their culture so I honestly don't know. Are they right? What is the American standard in this situation? They insist that I am not being treated well, but I read so much about "independent women" in American culture. Any input would be greatly appreciated. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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Why are they involved in your finances? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Not necessarily my finances, but they are arguing that he is not treating me well, especially for all the time that has passed. In their culture, men show that they are serious by financially supporting a woman. They say this means he is not serious, and he's not fulfilling his obligations. One thing they love to point to is that, by society's "standards", I am far more physically attractive than he is, but he has many great personality traits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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I come from an immigrant tradition, where couples didn't really "date". I'm sure it's similar with you -- I'm not talking arranged marriages -- but a couple would date for a few months and then get married. Once that happened, then in theory, the husband supports the wife. The problem here is that your parents are trying to navigate this concept of "dating" where you are an "official couple" but still "independent people." My parents had lots of similar advice for me, and fortunately I did not listen to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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I'm curious - why fortunately? Also, their argument is that so much time has passed and he is not "fulfilling his obligations" to me, in their perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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So many red flags. One: Your parents shouldn't be involved in making financial decision about your boyfriend's money. Two: After five years, he either wants to marry you or not. There is no "career transitions" for stability if he makes over 100K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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+1. I didn't see the part about how you've been dating for 5 years. I think your parents are trying to tell you that he should shit of get off the pot. You're in the prime of your dating life. Don't waste your pretty! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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His transition involves maybe quitting his job for a while and being very tight; he calls it "volatility" and says he doesn't want to expose our relationship to that. I have never given him a reason that I wouldn't be there for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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I dont agree #2 is a red flag, particularly at 28 in NYC. Further, there are plenty of ways to stabilize your career above 100k- it is still a time of major change at that age and presumed seniority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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oh yeah, esp if OP makes only 40k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Do you and bf live together? Also agree with PP that your parents are over involved here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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We don't live together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Things are different in this country. Men do no do this for women they are planning on marrying. They do it for mistresses. That is the way it is here. Explain this to your parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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WHAT? For their mistresses????? I guess I am young enough to not have yet entered this world of spouses and mistresses yet, but I am totally shocked by this comments. That sounds so strange! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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a dh: If you live together you might co-mingle funds and the split/input might not be 50/50. I have never known a guy who did what your parents are suggesting. And have only heard of it where wealthy married guys were "keeping" a woman on the side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] what grade do children learn how to multiply and divide? Is it 1st or 2nd grade? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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3rd [ Reply | More ]
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I think they start learning the times tables in 2nd grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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Definitely not 1st. 2nd or 3rd depending on how advanced the school is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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2nd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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A little bit of multiplying in 2nd grade. They do multiplication/division for real in 3rd. I taught DS at home, it seemed so silly to wait for 3rd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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It depends on the school. My daughter was multiplying and dividing in preschool when she was 4 because it was a montessori school and they encourage children who show interest in something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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DS did division in K. But it was in the form of a story and sometimes involved fractions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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1st grade at Success Academy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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I'm a Montessori teacher. Our four- and five-year-olds learn multiplication and division. Also some three-year-olds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Long division in 4th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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My kids did skip counting (which is the basis of multiplication) K and first. Real multiplication I guess was right after that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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foundation beginning in second grade. truly starts in third [ Reply | More ]
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3rd at nyc public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids seem to eat a lot. They are 2 and 4. They have oatmeal or similar for breakfast around 7 am. Then 2nd breakfast such as omelet or french toast around 9:30. Then they have soup for lunch at around 12:30. Then they wake from nap and eat cereal with milk around 3:30. Then they eat full dinner of some sort of vegetable, grain, and meat for dinner at around 6:30. Is this normal? Is this a good diet for this age? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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My DSs eat a ton too. They are 4 and 5 and would eat with similar frequency. Basically two breakfasts, a substantial lunch, afternoon snack, dinner and then snacks after dinner. My DH and I say quite frequently that we need to start saving for when they are teenagers. And before I get flamed, no they are not over-weight (15th and 25th percentile in weight - so skinny). They are super active kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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do you think the type of food I serve is good? what do you serve? Its hard to provide variety when they are eating every 2 1/2 hours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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sounds great and balanced. Are either of them chubby or both in the normal range? What about you and dh, are you heavy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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No none of us are heavy. I am not concerned with their weight but just healthy habits and healthy diet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Sounds like they're eating real food and not filling up on Goldfish crackers and fruit squeezy pouches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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My kids subsist on light and love. I would kill for them to have this diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] any good websites/blogs for lunch ideas for school? or anyone care to chime in? tia! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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I am ashamed to admit it but after a while I just defaulted to packing either pasta or a sandwitch with fruit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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sandwitches are the meanest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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i think this sounds fine. i hate packing lunch every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] what are good and healthy afternoon snacks for a 3 and a 5 yo? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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carrots and hummus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Cut up veggies or fruit, nuts, popcorn, crackers, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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np - at what age did you let kids each popcorn and nuts? (I'm thinking of choking hazard and not sure when that ends). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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My 2 yo has been eating both for a while, maybe 6 months? Supervised of course but once they are good chewers i wasn't concerned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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I think that carrots and grapes are a bigger choking hazard than popcorn and nuts. I know a kid that needed a Heimlich for mango. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Apple w pb, greek yogurt w fruit, ham and cheese wrapped in mini tortillas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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Apples with peanut butter, cheese and whole wheat crackers, yogurt with fresh fruit, unsweetened cereal and banana, fruit smoothie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think an exhusband paying 1/2 of college expenses plus child support is unfair? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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No sounds fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Listen - my ex-husband is paying 80% college tuition and this is why. If colleges looked at just my income of about 80K- I would get HUGE tuition discounts. However, with my ex husband's income, our combined income goes up to about 300K - and thus we will get no tuition discounts. So it is actually his income that is driving the cost of college (even taking away my income - 80K - he would get no discounts). Please keep this in mind when working out your divorce deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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OP - very good point. I hadn't thought of it this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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yep - I work in higher ed - haha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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No. The child carries 1/2 his DNA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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I assume what you are actually asking is once a child turns 18 in jurisdictions where child support extends to 21 should a father be required to pay child support on top of 1/2 of tuition? I will take the 1/2 tuition. or at least there should be some significant reduction in child support (assuming no other children under 18 in home). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Disagree, if 1/2 tuition, of course CS should continue. If 1/2 tuition, room and board, then some reduction if no other kids at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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sorry that is what I meant - I used tuition, but meant college expenses, which is the language OP used. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Of course it's unfair. But, when you have some women who think their financial responsibility to their kids ends when they get married this is what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Is the mother supposed to move? Housing is the biggest expense in NY. Is the kid supposed to sleep on the couch summers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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Horror of horrors! She'd have to MOVE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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fuck you. what is your problem??? Many of us divorced women - like myself - would NEVER have considered having children without a husband because WE COULD NOT AFFORD IT. If my husband decides to leave the marriage and his kids to chase another woman, he should continue to pay AS IF HE WERE STILL PART OF THE FAMILY. And if he had not decided to leave the family, it would be a given that he would be paying half college and significant sums to the considerable costs of raising children. WTF??????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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The 'kid' (adult in the eyes of the law) can work and live on his own over the summers instead of running back to mommy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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Or dad could not be a cheap asshole to the life he created. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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I don't see why it's any of the court's business. There are plenty of married couples that are cheap assholes and no one says they should be forced to pay for their adult children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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You get divorced, you pay the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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That is what happened when you get divorced, court gets involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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Divorced parents are less likely to pay for college, why should that be taxpayers problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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If the (only?) DC is in college then what is the rest of the child support going to pay for? College is where the DC is living, not at ex spouses home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Most go home over summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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Why should the mother shoulder the burden of a grown child who cannot stand on his/her own two feet just yet? child support for a college student is fair if the mother cannot realistically get him/her to move out and live on his/her own. maybe the father should have been a better father by teaching his child to be a self-sufficient adult. People with two parents generally turn out better and are more well-adjusted, child support is the price you pay for subverting the natural order and producing a slightly f'ed up kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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I do not think you can look at one part of a divorce/child support agreement isolated from the rest. I agreed to no alimony but very generous college, law school and retirement/settlement. It worked for me, but now ex's current wife is furious over money. His career will come to an end soon. Not my problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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some parents don't pay any college. can he afford it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:20 PM Flag
[ - ] What is tacky about a potluck wedding? Where I am from everybody had potluck weddings at the local church. They were fun, everybody would dance and have a great time. We would always look forward to the best dishes that everybody knew so and so would bring. I can assure you these weddings were ten times as fun as the hundred thousand dollar snob fests I have attended in NY. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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These women have no concept of reality. They think buffet dinners are tacky too, where I grew up in the south hat is what the richest people had. Buffets seem to offer better variety and are far more enjoyable than sit down meals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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I think a picnic is nicer than a potluck. Hosts should out out wine and fruit and cheese platters and cookies and tell guests to bring their own sandwiches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Bringing your own food, especially sandwiches, isn't fun. At a potluck everybody brings a dish and you all share in the feast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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It all depends on your attitude and outlook on life. A positive, non-judgmental person would have a great time at a potluck. The informal atmosphere, everyone coming together to help out at the wedding, the variety of food. A negative, judgmental beyatch will think that's beneath her. Me? I'm just happy to mean something enough to the couple that they want me there to share their special day. Potluck, buffet, formal sit down - doesn't matter. Cheers to the happy couple!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I just wanted to know what to bring. I've never heard of this, but I want to bring something good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Where is it located? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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In the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Is there anything you can bring to celebrate the heritage or nationality of either the bride or groom or their family? Some sort of traditional food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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They are southern, I can't think of a southern finger food beyond deviled eggs which are messy to transport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Friend chicken, fried okra, hush puppies, pork n beans, cobbler [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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Apple pie, red velvet cake, potato salad, cole slaw, sweet tea, cornbread, pinto beans with ham [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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Bc your guests shouldn't have to work at or for your wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Never done it but that would be fun. (That said, I love to cook and can be really competitive.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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The only way this works is if everyone lives in a 5 mile radius. No one wants to have to prepare food, then travel several hours by car, much less fly cross country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Lol, we're having a destination wedding and it's potluck! Kosher foods, only! Can't wait to see you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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I am not a fan of potlucks so that is kind of off-putting to me, at every potluck I have ever been to there is a bunch of terrible food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Catered food is bad enough already, potluck is even worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody have any cures for my creaky apartment floors? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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I wish I knew the name of it, but there is a system where they put tiny dowels between the boards and it keeps them from running together and squeaking. It is fairly inexpensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Rugs? [ Reply | More ]
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Rugs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Rugs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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The floors will still squeak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP:Rugs are quite useless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Oh please think think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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My parents used it years ago, do a search on google. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Cornstarch on the wooden floor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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First things to determine, 1. is it a few floor boards which are creaking or a lot of them. 2. Is there a sub floor? (I'm assuming you don't have access from below.) is this a parquet type floor or just straight boards? (Or something else?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] do any of you regret your divorce? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Not me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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No, but he was so awful I never would have asked this question. If you're at all doubtful that divorce is the right decision, then you should stay and work on your marriage. Being alone is not easy, especially when raising kids and as you get older. I think the alternative has to be downright hellish to make it worthwhile to leave, given how hard the divorce will be on everyone and how minimally your situation is likely to improve if at all. Most likely you will get a temporary rush of freedom and possibility followed by years of loneliness and struggle when reality sets in. And then your ex-dh will remarry just to rub salt in the wound. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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Dc is 2 and I'm unhappy. It isn't hell but I may as well be a single mom because dh is never here. I'm tempted to divorce now and spare dc the heartache of it in the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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no heartache - dc will see them even less if you divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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you have said some very important things here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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is this bc of the new study that finds 54% of divorcees regret it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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I did not see that study! I want to get out of my marriage so badly but i cannot imagine life on the other side. My DH is impossible (seriously, I have written about half of the terrible DH posts this afternoon), but then I wonder will I just end up with bigger problems? Is it wrong to stay even though the marriage is unfixable only because it is better than leaving? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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NP: I spent a good three years debating whether to leave DH. The closer I came to leaving, tje clearer the picture I had of all the practicalities. It would not have been a low-stress life, but I would so love to be free of DH. I finally decided to stay because leaving DC to be exposed to DH without me there as a buffer would be cruel and illogical--why would I abandon DC to spend time with someone unbearable to be with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Are you ready for a serious drop in lifestyle? If yes, then go for it. I'm a single parent (100% on my own) and many of my friends who divorce are only focused on how unhappy they are and see the freedom. And that may be the best option. But I feel like none of them really assess just how expensive keeping up 2 households is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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In case of OP below her dh doesn't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Is guacamole fattening? Say i have it with sliced green peppers, is that a healthy snack? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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It is fattening but its a good source of fat for your body so just don't gorge on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Op. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Either have it on a chip or not at all, IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Op. Believe me. I want to, but I'll give the peppers a try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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you've got to portion control it. Personally I'd pick a different snack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Not the healthiest, I'm afraid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you bring to a potluck wedding reception? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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A way to tell them how cheap they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Besides that. Believe me, l agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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Don't be snippy. If they are sticking to a budget, good for them. Better than some of the over-the-top extravaganza people go into debt for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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I would never go to a potluck wedding reception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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I have to, I have known this person since childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Better you stay home - you don't sound like too much fun anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Baked beans and then everybody can dance to their own music [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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that's very GIRLS. I like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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Me too. Nice change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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A bag of chips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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I'd ask what they would like/need. Somehow they must be keeping track to avoid getting all desserts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Muffin tops or pudding skins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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A catering platter (from citarella or balduccis if NYC). Maybe a cheese platter or a small sandwich platter. I agree a potluck wedding is horrendous, but I'll play along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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wine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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on second thought, beer might be more appropriate here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Bucket of kfc. Is this the couple that forgot to book their honeymoon suite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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Cut up fresh fruit. Easy to do yourself if you have time and easy to outsource if you need to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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True but at most parties no one touches the crudites or fresh fruit. Parents always put it on their kids' plates and it remains untouched. I know this is a wedding but I think same thing would apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Really? IME the fruit always goes (not so much the veggies). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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I've never been to an event where the fresh fruit and veg did not get eaten. Maybe if this is in kentucky or the like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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I'm from KY and we eat fruit and vegetables, believe it or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Lies you tell!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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People I have met from kentucky, LA, etc have generally not been exposed to a wide range of foods and are especially averse to vegetables. One woman I met had never had spinach before. Another did not ever eat any veg. And another, who lived in LA, was very suspicious of gumbo and refused to eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Shut up, moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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pp If you're talking about the hillbilly types it's true they woudn't be exposed to a wide range. But a basic fruit tray would be fine even with them. And the middle class would be well aware of fruits and vegetables. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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You sound... pleasant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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I once was in a grocery store and a woman picked up a plum and said - what's this? She was serious. But she was from Ohio. (and I am saying this with humor!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Why all the snark? I went to a great pot luck reception earlier on Martha's Vineyard. BBQ was provided and close friends and family brought sides. Couple was on a budget. It was lots of fun. Band members were friends of the groom. I brought a ham, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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np: ITTA. I love weddings and would be happy to bring something if invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Same here. It'd be a nice change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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It's tacky to invite people to come to a wedding, which generally involves a good bit of expense, and then not even provide them with a meal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Be that as it may, I have to go and I want to bring something that will be appreciated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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I think this is just something rich people think. In more middle class families it is not considered tacky at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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I'm middle class and consider it tacky. You can always find other ways. My dh and I did not have much money at all when we got married. We asked a local restaurant we went to all the time to provide simple cheese trays, veg, meats, etc. and had the wedding in a park. Overall cost was $3k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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My point is that many people don't think this is tacky. It's more like a fun tradition to many people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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I agree. Lots of ways to get the job done. That's the fun of weddings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Then people can decline. We just went to a similar event on Shelter Island - mostly locals. Out of towners were not asked to contribute. It was not at "tacky" event at all. Just two very broke people with only one, not rich,parent alive. We had lots of fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Let me just stick a ham in my carry on bag, then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Spam might be better in that situation. Protective can and lots of preservatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Hot artichoke dip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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pigs in a blanket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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I'm thinking some kind of smoked fish platter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Empanadas, samosas, rice balls, something like that where everyone can just grab one but it's a hearty and filling little nugget of food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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A big tray of mac and cheese. Put a protein in it if you want to go crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] How did someone die at Timber lake? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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They were shot for not wearing a suit and tie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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They don't know yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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you mean like the water park in MN? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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I don't know. She went to nightingale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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What happened!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Idk. It is all over facebook with no details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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honestly, people are so obnoxious. why post about someone's tragedy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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Parents started a charity already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Youcaring page [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Then don't start a charity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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what do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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They don't know or haven't announced it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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The camps website doesnt really say much just that they do not know what caused her health to deteriorate. Does not seem like an accident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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Maybe she had a condition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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the sleepaway camp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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At the camp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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I am looking at sleepaway camps for 7 year old and this sort of stuff terrifies me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Could have been an aneurysm or something not related to the camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Not for nothing, your kid could theoretically die at home. Accidents happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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me too but it sounds like she died bc of health reasons? but 7 y.o. is way too young, IMO. no wonder you're nervous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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The girl that died was 9. dd would not go until almost 9 (she is nearly 8) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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does she want to go? has she been asking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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or - dying to go. her older cousins go and she wants to as well. I never went to camp so not pushing at all. DH went and loved it so it is really up to dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Where is Timber Lake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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catskills [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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This could ruin the camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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how often is there a death at camp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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NP the camp my dad attended in the Catskills closed down because of a riflery accident resulting in death [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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oh god! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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it does happen. i remember about 10 yrs ago, 3 boys (CITs) died while going rafting on a day off from camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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yes. wow, that was fast. so sad. now all their friends must be getting married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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No not for natural causes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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That is so sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] This is going to sound like a weird question but I am meeting a friend for dinner who recently had a baby and the baby is only 2.5 months old. DH remarked how its not a good idea to take the baby outside as a newborn because it could get sick, catch something, etc. I have never heard of this..Is he making this up or is there some truth to that? Friend is eager to have me meet her child so she says she has been taking him out all over the place since she is home on mat leave..Thoughts? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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2.5 mo is long to be adhering to that ideology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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2.5 months is still a newborn though? shouldnt the baby be home all day wrapped in blankets until he grows some more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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OMG! lol -- yes, no db leaves the home at 2.5 months!!! How young are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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I am in my late 30s. Obviously not a parent and I dont have many close friends who have babies, weirdly enough. DH is much much older and no kids in our close knit family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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Ok, but if you think about it, you will realize that keeping a baby inside for 2 1/2 months is a LOOOONG time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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It is "old person" wisdom not to take babies out for at least a few weeks, especially in the winter. But there's no need to stay at home and isolated with a newborn unless they are immune compromised. Avoid going into situations where you know people are ill but otherwise live your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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It's summer, not flu season. Totally fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Your dh is crazy. I have 3 kids including a 4 week old and they've all been "out" from the first day home. My newborn has been to 4 kid birthday parties, about 8 restaurants and every playground in our neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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OP: ok that makes more sense..lol. I dont know why my DH said that..he must have meant something else then. Thank you ladies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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In this city/country its hard to stay indoors for days unless you have help. I was out and about with DB2 since he was 3 days old. He didn't catch anything. Just don't touch the baby's hands [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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1st few wks but shouldn't be a problem by now. Is you dh a ped? What does he know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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And I still took her outside, just not to a crowded place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Your DH is silly. Nothing wrong with taking a baby out at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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