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[ - ] I think DH may have been fired from his job. He has been coming home for long lunches with me everyday and comes home early every night. He has also been a lot more careful with money. He has never been this way in the past because we both have successful careers. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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If you have a successful career, how does he come home for long lunches with you everyday? Wouldn't you be at work too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:08 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't he just tell you? What is his job? Try asking him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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call him at the work office number [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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I am guessing something has happened. Maybe his firm lost some work or a big client. Maybe he has been given x months to look. Be gentle, but get him to talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] RE people, I'm offered a one year renewal lease for 3,000 or two year lease for 3050....I do want to stay for 2 years. So I would be stupid not to take the two year lease, right? Or is the rent bubble going to burst one year from now? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:57 AM Flag
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I do not see rent bubble bursting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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Not in the 3K per month range [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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Tell us more about the apt -- size and general location. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My FIL had a disability that makes his walking unsteady. He also is a very proud and headstrong person who views himself very much the "patriarch". I will be out of town next month and he and MIL will be here with 8 month old dc. Nanny will still be here full time. I have major concerns about him carrying dc up and down our steep stairs. Thus far, I've been able to circumvent it by doing it myself or running over to "help" him when he starts to. It makes me angry he can't see how dangerous it is. What should I do? Tell him that he should not be carrying dc up and down stairs? Tell MIL (who is totally weak willed?) tell nanny? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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you need to make different child care arrangements. you are not comfortable with this one and con't control what happens when you are not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:48 AM Flag
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where is dh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:49 AM Flag
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DH will be working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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does he share your same fears? if so, he needs to speak to his parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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ffs - when you see him doing it, just say "please don't carry him up the stairs, you are too unsteady" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:00 PM Flag
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You have to understand, this level of direct challenge would rock the world order of my fucked up inlaws. I bite my tongue on all levels of things, for the sake of family harmony, but this situation has me worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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As I said, yo have to make other arrangements. Can MIL travel with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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No. I have Childcare arrangements with the nanny. They are coming bc we have a terrible relationship and I try to be away when they are here. Everyone is happier. I want kids to know in laws, but I can't stand them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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get your dh behind you on this one if you feel that strongly about it, if you are not willing to speak up, then it must not be that important [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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Op sounds as weak willed as her MIL... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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Op sounds as weak willed as her MIL... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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Np- Stop seeing this as some sort of soap opera story line and see it for what it is- a person with a disability that causes him to fall often WILL fall while holding your baby. Let him hold her while sitting on the couch. Hate to tell you this, but this is the easiest of problems you will likely encounter as a new mom. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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Np: I disagree, because this is a problem of family dynamics, not about being a new mom. OP has said she's worried about the time she's not there, not the time when she can set the baby in his lap. And that she is risking ww3 by challenging him on his ability to carry the baby. She knows that it's likely that he'll drop the baby, she's asking about how to manage this difficult family dynamic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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This is my third dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:18 PM Flag
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Get DH to speak to him in private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:18 PM Flag
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You either have to face him and tell him, have DH tell him (could backfire if DH wimps out) or have nanny on board with you to get DB up the stairs. Which sounds most plausible to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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Agreed, this is one of those times you have to be an advocate for your kid. It's a tough one, but you can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:20 PM Flag
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OP: I think you are right and I will ask DH to say something. We just moved into this house, so wasn't a problem with older two dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] More nanny issues: Nanny is being paid FT wages. She works mostly part time, and is supposed to be available on snow days, sick/convalescent days, school holidays, etc. I ask her to come in at 8am one day then don't leave for work till 9:30 (after running an errand for sick DC), and she texts me that she is annoyed that I asked her to come in when I am still there, and I should have more respect for her time. Same nanny goes out of town for the weekend, returning just before she is supposed to pick DC up from school at 12:30 on Monday, frequently. Eventually I need her to be there one Monday morning bc of snow day, and she is not available, and I have to stay home from work bc she is out of town. I tell her this is unacceptable, and she fires back that she doesn't work Monday mornings. WDYT/D? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:34 AM Flag
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Had same only nanny constantly made doctors appointments during after-school hours or school breaks...also was annoyed if I was home and just didn't care if kids at that point making it impossible for me to get anything done so I had to go to library to do our taxes for example. Long story shirt: I hire housekeeper nanny who works ft, makes $200 less a week than old nanny and does ALL housekeeping + always there to do childcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:39 AM Flag
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np: How did you find the housekeeper nanny? This is exactly what I need/want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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Posted an ad on care and sitter. Got a million responses, interview a 100 people over phone and maybe 15/20 in person. Did weekend trial. It was a pain but I made sure she could cook well, was quick and good enough with the kids + easy to manage. It was pain but worth it at the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:46 AM Flag
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Thanks, it is tough to weed through all the responses on care - but I did it for evening sitters and it was so worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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^ is this same nanny who used your computer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:52 AM Flag
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I tend to give nannies the benefit of the doubt but this one sounds like a problem. You should be better at managing her though. She is being paid for those hours, that is how you are respecting her time. What you are doing doesn't matter, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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This is exactly what i told her. She talks back like she is the manager, tells me what I am doing wrong. I am admittedly a non-confrontational person & bad manager, but have made these expectations clear, reminded her she IS being paid for her time, and taken exception to her attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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get a new nanny and set expectations up from the beginning - or if you think you can reset boundaries with this one go for it - but you have to speak up and remind her what the expectations are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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OP did set expectations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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does not sound like it if nanny thinks she gets monday mornings off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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most of the time it doesn't matter. Occasionally she will text me "oh, my bus is getting in late" then I have to keep him in after school for an hour or whatever. This time it was a full-on morning, and she was out of town. She says not her faulty bc her bus was delayed by snow, I maintain she knew storm was coming and should have planned to be home ahead of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:09 PM Flag
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How is this even a question? fire yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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T.H.I.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:49 AM Flag
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Agreed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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OP: I did and feel so much better, just reality testing here. Have a temp replacement & now starting the whole process over gain, sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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What did nanny say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Np* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Nanny with this schedule: Because I'm typically not required to work during the day, I schedule Dr/dentist/ad hoc appointments that aren't always easy to reschedule. I have been told to be available for certain things at the last minute. The one time there was a conflict I asked my boss if a readjustment was possible, her dh made it clear it was a huge burden for HIM (who I never see or hear from fwiw). This arrangement has its advantages but people have the expectation of owning your ass, even over trivially flexible things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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If someone works a schedule, they are expected to be there as needed unless they have requested vacation or are sick, etc. that doesn't really seem like ownership. If you must schedule appointments during what are work hours, make a leave request. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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This. You are being paid to be "on call" - that is the arrangement. On call means that if you are needed during that time, you go in. Imagine an "on call" doctor who says, oh sorry, I can't make it to that emergency, I have something else planned because I'm not usually needed at that time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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Exactly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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"Can I finish the back nine first, I didn't think you would have patients at the hospital today" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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If they are paying you to be available FT and you are cashing the checks, they do own your ass for that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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The job I took was billed as 'lots of paid free time'. The words 'on call' weren't spoken of nor are on my contract. They can think they own me if they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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Perfect example of nanny attitude problem. The more you give, the more you take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny has been told not to use by desktop computer to show DC movies. DH and I do use it for this but I have asked her not to. She still does, and when I confront her on it, launches into explanation of why it is ok bc we do it, and bc she only accesses netflix. I repeatedly tell her that the point is she has been asked not to, and is still doing it. She continues to argue. WWYT/D? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:39 AM Flag
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^my desktop computer. has all my personal info on it, photos, everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:40 AM Flag
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Password protect it and don't share password with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:42 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:10 AM Flag
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OP: I did this, but then sometime unlock it and forget to rechange [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:27 AM Flag
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just log out when you are done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:29 AM Flag
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I replied below about replacing. Here is why: your nanny is showing your dcs that it is ok to disregard your wishes and to not do what you say. I am sure there are more examples of this than just the computer given your description. She thinks she knows best and your wishes are irrelevant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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Yup, see my second post above. SHe has this attitude that she is in charge even directly disregarding things I ask her to do, talking back, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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Licking computer etc is not the solution to this problem. You know what you need to do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:40 AM Flag
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lol licking the computer solves so little these days. funny typo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:47 AM Flag
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I have similar issue and I am going to replace her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:10 AM Flag
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Give the kids their own iPad or Kindle Fire to watch Netflix [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:28 AM Flag
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omg i don't have an iPad myself, not getting one for kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:36 AM Flag
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You sound like a PITA to work for. I would hate it if you were my mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:39 AM Flag
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OR from above: UB often advises moms to go to ridiculous lengths to accommodate shitty nannies and accusing moms of being PITAs, bad managers or not being able to afford nanny. When occupations like that start you know the posters are just out to flame and most likely never employed a ft nanny or are themselves a nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:44 AM Flag
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^Accusations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:48 AM Flag
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you sound spoiled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:44 AM Flag
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any my DC is 4, does not need an iPad or any electronic gadget to entertain himself, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:44 AM Flag
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ok teenager. shouldn't you be studying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:53 AM Flag
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this is not the right nanny for you guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Big fight with DH. We had awesome party tonight that was for kids and parents and had easter egg dyeing and ee hunt and ribs and tons appetizers. All was great but after they left DH was tired and in shitty mood and said i was a bad person because I never wanted more children. Granted we dated on and off since 2007 and could have had at least three but he proposed to me finally in sept of 2011 (while we were both 41) and got pregnant at first try dec 2011 had and emergency sect summer 2012. I told him immediately to do some research on harvesting eggs and surrogates because he was out of work at the time and I had to go back at 42 yrs old and 6 weeks complicated cset. He never did do any research so I assumed he was happy with the great little guy. If you wanted more you would do the leg work right? i assumed that meant he was happy with one. I just turned 45 last week and he is suddenly accusing me of not wanting more children and threatening divorce. wtf? I reminded him of my efforts 3 years ago. don't get it. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:31 AM Flag
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OP: Immature guy who is also about 8 year behind where he should be in career. he wrote rec's for people who worked for him 8 years ago and now he is begging for a job from these same people because he took 5 years off. I think it is his midlife crisis of dealing with reality because he was big frat Ivy college athlete and planned to have money thrown at him and wife who could work and home and get paid and have 4 kids! Who would blame or threaten a 45 yr old woman that she can't have more children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:47 AM Flag
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Typical. Those guys peak too early. Then they are pissed when their luck runs out. Sorry OP he sounds like an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:24 AM Flag
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he's just tired and wants to be an ass. ignore. next time, tell him you'll start the proceedings yourself for mental exhaustion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:57 AM Flag
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are you the one with the alcoholic mom too? tough gig [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:17 AM Flag
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He definitely sounds immature and a bit like he doesn't take responsibility for his life/actions. Have you been to therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:44 AM Flag
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you guys don't seem to communicate well - but this outburst I would ignore for a few days and then bring it up when no one is tired or worried about other things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:31 AM Flag
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wait, you told him to do the research on harvesting eggs? and now that's your "effort"? you two are in the passive aggressive club together. stop blaming each other. talk. don't blame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:34 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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You two are pretty lousy communicators. I would start taking what he's saying seriously now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:40 AM Flag
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Your husband is a major jerk. Are you happy being married to someone like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:51 AM Flag
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Sorry. I would not have married the guy who waited until I was 41 to marry me. He showed you who he was in those 4 dating years. I would agree to divorce so you can focus on more rewarding things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] My 10 year old son told me that one of his friends was acting weird towards him. My son emailed the friend to ask why he was mad at him and the friend responded, "some people are telling me not to be friends with you because you are friends with girls." Also my son told me that boys in the class have formed a club and my son is the only boy who is not a member. I felt so bad hearing this as I thought that this type of thing wouldn't start for another year. And my son has been friends with many of the boys in the class since kindergarten. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:05 AM Flag
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That sounds very catty. I wouldn't have expected this from boys. Sorry to hear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:16 AM Flag
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Sounds harsh but your DS needs new, better friends. Does he play outside sports? Can he make friends there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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^^^ the reason why I am recommending is that his old friends sound like jerks who aren't worth his time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:21 AM Flag
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New school soon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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Do you know any of the other moms to ask what's going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:36 AM Flag
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This. There is always a reason why that one kid in class gets excluded. It may not be right, but 8yos do not have much of a moral compass. Your kid is weird, or smells, or says things the other kids don't like, and they are finding any "reason" not to include him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:19 AM Flag
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NP But maybe his playing with girls is enough for a reason for them to see him as different? Kids like to push out anyone who isn't exactly the same. I doubt it is something as obvious as "weird" or he wouldn't have had friends all the way up until now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:05 AM Flag
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There is something he is doing that makes the other kids not want him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:19 AM Flag
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People think this only happens with girls but boys do the same thing. Usually starts in 3rd or 4th grade. Maybe arrange for some friend time with a few of the boys separately. A lot of these boys are probably sweet but following one ring leader-school counselor mom. [ Reply | More ]
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NP Agree the boys can be as nasty as the girls, not sure why we all decided it was "mean girls" only and not "mean boys" too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:05 AM Flag
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Good idea. NOTHING about kids it better on groups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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Question for wiser/older parents, would OP reach out to the teacher b/c it's the whole class excluding one child? I have younger kids so not sure but this seems less like "kid stuff" and more like "bullying" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:20 AM Flag
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poster below. this is not bullying. this is young kids learning who they are and who their friends are. they are testing the boundaries of social behavior. those who push too hard will be excluded after a time. they're working out what it means to be a person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:38 AM Flag
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i am a mom of a 10yr old boy. while he's not yet on email, i have heard about clubs forming and reforming since third grade. sometimes he has been in them and sometimes not. he and i have talked openly about a few things: 1) how it feels to be excluded and why excluding someone isn't right 2) who he wants to be and what kind of friends he wants to have (i.e a bf who will be friends with him regardless of club status) and 3) how to act when he is momentarily excluded from something. net, this happens. help him learn how to handle it himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:37 AM Flag
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He Man Woman Hater's Club? I predict that will not last many years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:39 AM Flag
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years? it won't last weeks... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] How would you react if DH - without any warning - did "the shocker" on you in bed? Would you be upset/angry or would you not really care? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:43 AM Flag
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this would be my reaction: http://youtu.be/KaqC5FnvAEc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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what is the shocker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:01 AM Flag
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It's when he sticks two fingers in the vagina and the little finger into the anus all in one motion. [ Reply | More ]
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What would he get out of that? [ Reply | More ]
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It's a fratboy move (they even have shirts with the logo): https://dubsism.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/shocker-tshirt.jpg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:22 AM Flag
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NP The only thing shocking here is what assholes frat boys are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:06 AM Flag
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How is that shocking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 06:37 AM Flag
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No big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:42 AM Flag
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Fraggot post. Collapsed. Go get your rocks off on porn sites. They're free now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:21 AM Flag
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Why would that be shocking. Sounds tame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:02 AM Flag
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no lube? that would be my only issue, if lubed, no problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:17 AM Flag
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I would wonder why I married an immature moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Talking about gifts - do you give farewell gifts to juniors who leave? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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journal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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What do you mean by "juniors who leave"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Usually give them some company SWAG [ Reply | More ]
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What's that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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Premiums - hats, T-Shirts, mug [ Reply | More ]
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Ewww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you be offended if you gave your boss a holiday gift and s/he didn't say thank you? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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You don't gift up. [ Reply | More ]
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werd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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but better than down -- just go to lunch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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You don't gift down? Who does get gifts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:33 AM Flag
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nobody at the office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:21 AM Flag
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what happened when you handed it to him/her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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I agree. Don't gift up - except for very special occasions. E.g. retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:18 AM Flag
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Yes. That's just basic courtesy when exchanging things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Agree or disagree with this statement: "Hillary Clinton - wrong on Iraq; wrong on Libya. Wrong for America." 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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What's my alternative? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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Jim Webb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Disagree, but my beef is that she is a brand without any noticeable accomplishment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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she's got a lot of fucking accomplishment, knucklehead. too bad she's a dem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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oh come on. the Kardashians are a brand without any accomplishment. Hilary Clinton is plenty accomplished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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she did little as a senator (she wasnt around long enough to get any seniority) and definitely did nothing as SecState. In these travels though, she spanned the entire left half of the political spectrum, so I'm not sure what kind of Dem you're getting as a Pres candidate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:10 AM Flag
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she did plenty in both. but she did a BOATLOAD as first lady of arkansas. but you wouldn't know that because you are an ignoramus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 06:24 AM Flag
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disagree. but prob not going to make it b/c of sexism, ageism and too much fucking liberalism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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You know - I may change my mind but as of today, I decided that I won't be voting for Hillary in the primary. It was the story in the NY Times that her lawyer said that she cleared her server of all emails. That is a ridiculous thing to do. Of course if the presidential election is between her and Ted Cruz then.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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This is the problem. What alternatives do we have? Even among Dems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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oh, and who would you vote for? elizabeth warren? this is what's wrong with dems. they are idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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And republicans have it all together? I love Paul Ryan but exactly the wrong pick as he was too similar to Romney. And McCain? Sarah palin. not smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:39 AM Flag
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ok. all of them are a billion times better than that idiot elizabeth warren. even palin, elizabeth warren makes her look like truman or eisenhower. that's how bad it is. yet, she's your darling. that's how fucktarded you guys are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 06:25 AM Flag
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Palin is better than Warren? You're delusional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:09 AM Flag
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Hillary deserves this shit more than anyonr else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Is juicing really a good kickstart diet? Just ordered bunch of pressed juices for a week. Pricey but is it worth it? I probably just have bunch of bloat and 7 lbs to lose 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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No you will be moody and will eat more. Get lots of cardio in with lots of water. Stick to basics like tuna, plain chicken, eggs, fruit and string cheese etc. The exercise will curb your appetite. The juice will make you nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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Why string cheese over any other kind of cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:18 AM Flag
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As snack. Pre wrapped and easy to carry. Small portion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:03 AM Flag
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Very high in sugar and will not have you feel full. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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I just do a 72 or 96-hour fast whenever I want to unbloat/lose weight/reset my metabolism. It's not as tough as you'd think. In a lot of ways, simply deciding to eat nothing for a period of time is a lot easier than trying to count calories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 41, period is 2 weeks late, neg test, bloated for a few months. I'm so scared. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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Perimenopause [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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+1 don't worry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Agree, all sorts of crap starts to happen at around 40. IT SUCKS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:12 AM Flag
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What are you scared of? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell me about Right of First Refusal. Worth it? Four hour clause? Weekends only? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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Overnights only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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Really? I am concerned soon to be EX will leave DCs every Saturday he has them for 4-5 hours and the last thing I want to hear is it with OW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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Honestly, you have to parent with this person. You need to trust him. You also need to have your own life and if you always feel like you're on call you won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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Can't you always say no? I really would prefer to be with DCs then have them babysat while I am missing them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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It's too much in each others lives. Do you really want to have to tell him any time you go on a date? You sound pretty convinced, so go for it, but I think it's a bad idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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Coop? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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context? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Sorry...custody provision. Basically, if Ex is not available for 4 hours or an overnight, I have the option of watching DCs and the same would apply if I was not available [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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Thanks, I thought it was some sort of open marriage thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Whatever happened to the Tribeca family the had hired the sister of killer nanny? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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They're living their lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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same nanny? is the little girl still scared? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I the only one who enjoys seeing other people's lavish vacation photos on social media? I think it's awesome that they're going to such cool places and doing such cool things (even if I can't afford to do those things yet)! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:26 AM Flag
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No. I enjoy seeing my friend's pix, whatever they are doing. it makes me feel connected even when we don't see even other often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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= "It's makes me feel connected even though I'm not." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:26 AM Flag
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lol "Happy Birthday to my loose acquaintance!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:30 AM Flag
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I like it too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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Me too. I've outgrown the envy stage tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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I like when I learn about a new resort that has particularly good amenities, or interesting offerings. I love when people post the menu of specialty drinks served at the resort. I steal the recipes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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So, it's really all about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Np. What an odd response. The OP asked for responders' feelings about seeing others' vacation photos. By definition, it is all about the responders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:49 AM Flag
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no. it's all the same. i'm tired of traveling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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Glad you like my vacation pics! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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No - I am happy for my friends and find some inspiration too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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+1. Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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Yes. I like it too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:09 AM Flag
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I like it too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] The third trimester has me feeling restless, and with a weird loneliness. What can I do to have more fun and stay positive? We ordered the nursery furniture, but it all arrived with scratches so it has to go back, which means I can't do much more to get the nursery together. We registered for preschool, the pediatrician, etc. What fun stuff can I do for me to make the time pass? My due date is in June. Did anyone have anything cool on their bucketlist before baby? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:37 AM Flag
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Get a pedi! You're probably too big right now to do it yourself. Also, try to take your mind off it. Go to a museum you've never been to, or read a few books you've been meaning to read (not baby-related). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:39 AM Flag
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Yes. I need to do this. I haven't been going to get my hair done at my usual salon during the pregnancy, because I've been doing a plant-based color at home instead of my usual routine. I have been feeling sheepish about going in, like I cheated on them. I get my hair done at the same place where I usually do my pedicures. But I will make a date to do this. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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Regarding the books, any recommendations? Two people recommended All The Light We Cannot See but I don't know if I'm up for a WWII book if it is going to be a downer while I am hormonal... Also, I heard good things about The Goldfinch, but will it be fluffy enough for a third trimester read? Suggestions welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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OR: I would err toward the side of lighthearted. I remember going through a lot of moodswings toward the end and getting weepy randomly. I don't know if this would be your taste but I read a book called "To Marry an English Lord" about all the daughters of robber baron types in the late Victorian era who married into the British aristocracy (like Jennie Jerome, Winston Churchill's mom; apparently they based the character of Cora in Downton Abbey off of this book). Very interesting. I actually brought it to the hospital and read it during my (LONG) labor. I also love the short stories of Nancy Mitford. Throw in a few trashy movies too - I actually rented Magic Mike when I was nearing my due date (DH made fun of me but it took my mind off things). Best of luck to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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This book sounds like exactly my taste. Reminds me of The Buccaneers. I will download it Thank you. Regarding Magic Mike, LOL I saw it in the theater twice. I didn't even know I was into that! The sequel comes out over 4th of July, when I will be home with a newborn. I have told my girlfriends, of course they should see it, but be prepared to go again when I can leave the house for 2 hours eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:14 AM Flag
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OR: you are awesome. We would be friends. Enjoy your last weeks of pregnancy. My daughter is 10 mo now - can't believe how fast it went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 05:03 AM Flag
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np--Jerome Avenue in the Bronx is named after her family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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SLEEEEEEEP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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preschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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I'll be going back to work after 3 months. It's infant Montessori. I didn't know what else to call it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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Daycare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Tarot mom, will I get good news soon? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:36 AM Flag
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When will I be able to afford my dream home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:38 AM Flag
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When will I stop being so gullible? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:27 AM Flag
[ - ] If you have $5mm to spend on a primary residence in NYC and a summer house any where within 4 hours by car/train from your home, how would you allocate your money and where would you buy? Thanks. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:34 AM Flag
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All $5 on primary, no need for a summer home. It is a PAIN to maintain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:35 AM Flag
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i agrees. get a hotel room. or rent a house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:36 AM Flag
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Summer rentals are so expensive. i am wondering if buying a summer home could potentially be a good investment? Renting is like throwing money away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:38 AM Flag
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why would you want to go to the same place over and over and over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:39 AM Flag
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I guess not. But renting anything for a month gets really expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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have you ever heard of property taxes and maintenance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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I have heard that speaking down to people is not a good way to win friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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have you heard of anonymous forums as a method to make friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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I have heard that many people act more or less the same way in real life vs. anonymous forums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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somehow i don't experience in real life interactions what i read here on UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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np: you guys are killing me. but she's right. it's better to rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Even with property taxes and maintenance it is worth the investment. Seriously. Have done the math. You can also always rent out for a month or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 11:10 AM Flag
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And the great American homeownership myth claims another victim.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 06:11 AM Flag
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$3mm and $2mm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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$3.5mm, $1.5mm (no mortgage on the second home). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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we're in Sagaponack and the overhead is roughly $60k p/y [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Why does the second home have to be so close to NY? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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3.5m in the city and 1.5m on the north fork. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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we bought for under two in the city and it's now worth 3-3.5. bought a 3M place in east hampton. so 50/50. [ Reply | More ]
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