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[ - ] I would like to start a charity project. I don't have a ton of money any ideas 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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Lasagnas of Love - you can make lasagnas for various people who need love most (Haitian orphans, Palestinian refugees, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Snarf!' [ Reply | More
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Saving the world one casserole at a time. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Do you think 2 years is too old for a boy to wear a one-piece romper? Is it too babyish? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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like this: http://www.gymboree.com/shop/dept_item.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446028174&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374303392533&bmUID=1369439119046&productSizeSelected=0&fit_type= [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:44 PM Flag
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I do. But southerners love this stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:44 PM Flag
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Southerner here and I will verify that this is a true statement. For future reference, btw, they are known as "john-johns" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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To me it is a throw back, but that is just my taste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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Is he a very young 2? I always think of 2 as the cut off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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He's 25 months. [ Reply | More
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If he is on the small side, I would do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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By 2 my boys were too rough on their clothes. One pieces don't work on the playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:52 PM Flag
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My son wore them until 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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Yes yes yes yes!! And please do not send a child over one to daycare in anything that buttons up when you have to change them. Super annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does a reasonably good boob job cost? I don't want big boobs, just perkier ones like they used to be before nursing dcs 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:37 PM Flag
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A breast lift is different from an augmentation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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~5k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] okay ladies: here's the situation: i would like to have my ex bf over for dinner when he is in town. we were never in love, never engaged, never lived together. he is a lovely person, now married with a child, like i am. however he is VERY impressive to certain types, incl. my DH. (it's do gooder field impressive-- absolutely nothing to do with $) he and DH are similar background-- very privileged who threw it off for low-paid, do good work both tall and handsome. DH says, yes have him over (we will have other people) however, i don't really think DH can handle it. he is not the most secure person. i have spent time with many of DH's exes, some of whom he perhaps is still a bit in love with and it doesn't bother me (they don't really impress me) but DH is less insecure and i think he might combust despite what he says about "yes, do invite him". so do i 1. take DH at his word. 2. just have private lunch with ex? don't say avoid him because i can't avoid a friend whom I think is a good person. and i really don't want to 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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oops, dh is less secure... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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its dishonest to meet in secret [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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Well I wouldn't do anything in secret if DH is insecure. Try it one time as a group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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I think it is strange how you would just casually say that your dh is still in love with exes...that would make me really uncomfortable let alone me actually having to spend time with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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i know. but i really don't care. not sure why. it's only one. and i thought she was silly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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I think my boyfriend's ex is silly too, which is why I would be really upset if I thought he still loved her. And I wouldn't even put myself in the awkward position of hanging out with her. I found out she worked at a bar he went to with friends once and I was annoyed by it. Long story short, I think hanging out with an ex is detrimental to a relationship, whether you still love him or not. Your DH can say he is fine with it all he wants, but he will regret saying so later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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well my dh can be silly, but he's got a lot of other great qualities. I think it's cause she rejected him. those people always have a bit of sway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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If you care about your marriage you will avoid it all together. Unnecessary drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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This. Knock it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Yes, you can avoid him, actually. I don't care how great a person he is, his acquaintance is not worth problems in your marriage. You don't have to be rude to him, just say, sorry, can't meet up, but have a great trip. Somehow, I think he'll get over it. Now, if there's another reason you don't want to blow him off that you're not telling us (or yourself) like deep down you want the ego trip, well, that's something you need to work on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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op: oh you astute, ladies. I think i still like that he was my BF and he's so great. never wanted to be married to him though. but i also am tired of catering to DH's insecurities. He says he would be happy to have him (like I say with his exes and mean it) so I want to take him at his word even though i know he can't quite take it even if he doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Do you want DH to know this guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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You're off in some way. You say sounding unruffled that dh might still be sort of in love with some of his exes but that it doesn't bother you because they "don't impress you". You both sound immature to be maintaining such close relationships with exes as well. My only advice to you it to grow up and try to be a little less impressed with yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I think one of my good friends is mad at me. About three weeks ago, she returned some stuff she borrowed from me and just left it at my place while I was out. I texted her to say thanks and she didn't respond. Then, a few days later, I found some stuff I borrowed from her and texted her "Hey, send me the address of where you're staying for the next couple weeks, I found some things of yours you might want back!" No response. I texted her to wish her happy bday this morning and she hasn't responded. Bf says that she is a sketchy texter anyway and that I just texted her at bad times. (First time she was getting ready to go out of town, second time she was out of town, third time she had probably gone out the night before and just didn't feel like answering.) Although we are part of a pretty big group of friends and I am sure I would have heard by now if she was mad about something. Wwyd? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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If she continues to act distant, I'd ask her about it (maybe). But if someone wants out of a friendship, they're not likely to tell you, they'll just disappear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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That's what I figure. (And I have had people end friendships by starting unnecessary drama, so I vastly prefer the "graceful fade out.") But she doesn't even want her stuff back? And she still has a ton of my things. I guess that's what's making it so confusing, as silly as that sounds. Even if I wanted to end my friendship with someone, I would at least want to get my stuff back from them if they offered it haha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
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Friendship over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Where in LA can I actually get a big yard? 0.5 acres is not big. I'm used to NY suburbs but I realize I'm not going to get 5 acres anywhere unless I can afford a 100 million dollar house. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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Where in the NYC area can you get 5 acres? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:27 PM Flag
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The Bronx, the buildings are all burnt out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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Name a burned out building in the Bronx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:54 PM Flag
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Westechester, CT, etc. I live in NJ on a 3 acre property and I'm only 25 mins from Manhattan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:29 PM Flag
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Lol...maybe she means upstate NY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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Why not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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>>>sorry, wrong post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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The valley - Encino, Sherman Oaks, etc. I live on the westside, and you don't get much land around here unless you pay a lot for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Are there nice areas? Does Sherman Oaks extend down from the hills? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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In LA? You're not, not .5 usable flat land, unless you're Tom Cruise or something. For that you have to go to the valley, Sherman Oaks, Burbank, Encino maybe. You could also do Valenica, New Hall, but that's a big commute if you're planing on working in LA proper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:42 PM Flag
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Working in Century City [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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Also I have a dog and 2 dcs so I need a yard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Beverlywood, Westside Village, Cheviot Hills? Big is relative--it's still a city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:54 PM Flag
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Look in Beverly Hills (below Sunset, maybe even below Santa Monica) then. Some land and good public schools. Pricey, yes, but not 100 million pricey and you'll save your sanity as far as commute goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:55 PM Flag
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Honestly, before you can think about where you want to live, you have to figure out where you're going to work. Commute is a big predictor of where you're going to live. You may be used to having land, but here that land may "cost" you a soul crushing commute. [ Reply | More
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I wrote, I'm working in Century City [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I might be the only person who got pregnant on my first ever birth control screw up. At 26. Guess I'm just crazy fertile. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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Half the kids alive today were first ever birth control screw ups. People just don't tend to put that on the birth announcement. Congrats! 26 is a great age to have your first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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Congrats! You will love your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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Nope. I got pregnant with my twins on my first birth control screw-up at 25. Yay super-fertility! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Vent it is very expensive to have bad eyesight. I just spent a small fortune on prescription sunglasses and contacts and I have vision insurance 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:29 PM Flag
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Have you tried Costco for glasses and contacts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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No. I had no idea. I go to a convenient neighborhood place, but have a feeling itis a total ripoff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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Yes! Go to Costco. Ive been going their for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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What are prices and selection like for glasses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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They have low to high end. Low end are usually out for you to try on and high end are in the casings under the counters. You can usually walk in or make an appointment to make sure you're seen. Contacts you can pick up that day and glasses take 1-3 weeks and you pick them up. Usually you can find something flattering. You just reminded me I have to go back there and get new pair of glasses! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
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Are you very nearsighted? How old are you? Asking because my nearsightedness just put me though a procedure to fix a partial retinal tear! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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America's Best ftw. (Closest to NYC is in Union NJ) You make your eye appt there and you get I think 20% off frames and contacts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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I know this first hand. I've been getting my glasses at zennioptical.com. WAY cheaper than buying them at a shop and the same quality, seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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That's why I love our HSA plan. People love to rag on the high-deductible plans - but they're awesome if you have a good one. You can use the HSA $ for glasses, dental, prescriptions. DH's company puts 2k into the account every year. We put another 500$ pre-tax dollars. Preventative care (physicals, vaccines, etc.) are covered 100%. We pay 100% of the negotiated insurance rate for everything else up to $2500. Then insurance kicks in 80% up to 5k out of pocket in the year. Whatever you don't use in the HSA, you can roll over. And we can contribute as much as we want pre-tax. It's the absolute best plan. I have $2500 exposure the first year and the account just builds - we have like 7k in there now. The plan is 8k less out of pocket than my old premium plan / year. Yet another thing that gets a bad name because people don't understand what it is -- like interest-only mortgages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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If you really know what you want, you can order eyeglasses online. You can upload a picture to see how they look on you, though that is not perfect, of course. For things like sunglasses, it might be totally fine. I get eyeglasses for my kids this way. Theirs are $10-$20 usually. I found this after they kept losing and breaking the $200 ones from the neighborhood place or Cohens. It is great if you aren't too picky. You just type in your prescription and choose various options. Look up cheap eyeglasses and you will get a few places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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I have ordered from this place a few times for the kids and twice for myself and been pleased : http://www.cheapglasses123.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:51 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think it makes sense to take a 15 month old to the Bronx Zoo this weekend? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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nope too young [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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If you would enjoy it too then go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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I do - we took our daughter around 18 months and she loved it. It may be bad weather though - and I wouldn't go in the rain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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Central Park Zoo is better for that age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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This, and the prospect park zoo too. Much less crowded. I also like the Staten Island zoo for little kids, but I know how most UBers feel about Staten Island. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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Also Queens Zoo is small. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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Sure, but I would go straight to the children's zoo and pretty much stay there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Aquarium is great for that age - or CP zoo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Over the past 5 years, my work place demographics have changed..I am wondering if its time for me to look for another job,,not to sound racist in any way, but the head boss of my firm was an Italian woman and she got promoted to head up an affiliate office of my large company in Florida. Her underling was an African American guy (I like him, he is funny like Chris Rock) but over the last year, 3 attorneys (also Caucasian) left to follow this woman to Florida and ALL 3 replacements hired to fill those vacancies were 2 African American women and 1 Native American woman. I have no issue with this, I happen to be URM myself (half Dominican/,half Ecuadorian) but in looking at my office now, we have about 65% of the promotions going to African Americans and now the "big three" head honchos in my department are all African American (main boss, the associate director, and the office manager). The culture is also changing since my old boss left, people are coming in at 10 am and if they are the boss' "fave pet" (attractive young black female), they get a pass..whereas the older employees (older white guys) are being pushed to handle heavier accounts, caseloads and front more responsibility with client relations/PR while my boss spends much of his time socializing with his pets and approving vacation days for them with less scrutiny than the older white guys...which makes me wonder, is this a sign my office is going to hell in a hand basket (ie client will realize quality of work product since old boss has substantially declined) or if new boss wants to weed out the employees he doesn't care about? Thoughts, comments or suggestions? (FWIW, I have not had any negative work reviews until over the past 3 months where new boss has been acting more aloof with me socially and not giving me as much complex tasks as other employees..not sure if that means he sees me as a 'pet' or someone targeted for a future termination?). 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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Well, you DO sound racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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really? replace African American with White. Does that seem OK to you? Not every person of color is a shining example of integrity nor is the converse true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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I have found many blacks to be hostile to whites in the workplace. Signed - HR [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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She does not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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How can I be racist if I am a member of a minority group myself? Please understand the gist of my post.,its more about workplace culture and management preferences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:42 PM Flag
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And collapse. [ Reply | More
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You spent more time typing that than actually collapsing the thread, you know that right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:37 PM Flag
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Can you report the boss to someone? Sounds sexist if he/she has something called "face pets." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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Sorry.,I should clarify.i call them pets because I feel like there is favoritism going on..for ex- the office manager and another young female black employee go to lunch almost every day and are so tight knit that she was given the "promotion" or supervising new interns for the office. She gets to roll in at 10:15 am while another employee (white guy) was basically sent an angry email by the office manager asking why he came in at 9:45 am...little things like that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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Reverse racism [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Yes. This is it..but is it grounds to leave my job or should I just stay and see where this goes ?? -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:37 PM Flag
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Leave it will not change unless people stand Up to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
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Yep, I would leave. White people get called racist for doing this, but generally speaking people promote and mentor people they feel comfortable with and that they have common experiences with. And your boss doesn't seem to have too many shared life experiences with you. I would leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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I would sue for racism [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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She would never win and she would ruin her career. Call around to headhunters and get the ball rolling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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I can't call head hunters, I got my current job through a contact (one if the white women who left for Florida) and since my résumé is nothing special (no Ivy League schools, no fancy degrees, mostly great experience and references). I seriously have no idea how to look for another job. -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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This is the problem, I wil not find another job easily because my field is specialized and my salary is in the top range for what I do (over 6 figures). Plus the majority of our competitors are staffed by mostly WASPy type folks that I have ZERO in common with (ie people from Ivy League schools and last names of Kennedy and Johnson, whereas I was born from immigrant parents from South America who didn't know English until I was born). If I go elsewhere, I would stick out like a sore thumb! But at the same time, where I am now, being African American and an Obama supporter = being in the right "clique". I hate this!! -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Why do you talk about politics in the office? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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You lost me at "funny like Chris Rock" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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I didn't know how else to describe him because he does look like Chris Rock and has similar mannerisms!! -OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:51 PM Flag
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Are you bipolar? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
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i just want to add that supervising interns is the crap job. not sure why you think this is the plum. [ Reply | More
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Seriously. In the OP's world, supervising interns = promotion and being given more clients = racism? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Actually in my office it is considered plum because it shows leadership skills and is an extra line management can add to that employees "bio". Another employee was asked to be on the Social Commitee and after 6 months, they promoted her to Junior Managing Director. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Do you work in "The Office"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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If this poster was African American then you would be outraged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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I am going to guess this has more to do with ops personality than her race. She sounds like a royal pill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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Are the new folks competent? Do they show more favoritism than the old folks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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Super racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do some seem to get bent out of shape that some posters on here are childless/not married? I personally like talking about topics NOT related to kids sometimes. And that there are people other than moms providing their perspective on things. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:20 PM Flag
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people just like getting bent b/c where else are they going to do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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It's annoying when you realize that some of the people weighing in on child rearing issues clearly don't have children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:15 PM Flag
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How do you know they don't have kids? Besides, just because someone is not actually rearing a child does not mean they might not have a valid opinion/perspective on some child rearing issues. [ Reply | More
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I am happily child free and recently married. I don't feel any different if I weren't married and I don't really take anything here personally. I have a lot of mom friends and while I don't have any desire to carry my own child, I get a kick out if hearing disaster stories of kids vomiting inside hot cars, screaming in restaurants, etc...I don't read every thread on UB, I collapse all the "my dd/DC/ds is__" posts and any posts asking about nannies, schools or school districts. All other topics are fun to talk about though and that's what keeps me here. -a CF poster. [ Reply | More
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I am not married (but in a relationship) and no kids. I don't remember how I found UB but I like it. I feel like all snark aside, this is a good place to get advice/talk about serious issues without the stupidity of other forums. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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+1. I also like how people tell it like it is without posturing all the time..there is another message board populated by pregnant women or women looking to have kids (TTC) and the amount of hormonal judgmental obsequious-ness in their posts makes me want to scream and throw my IPad out the window..lol. So I stopped reading that board and come here now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any moms with dc's born in December? My dc's birthday is right in between christmas and new years. Tricky time cause I don't know it dc classmates are traveling or have plans. Do you celebrate more towards the beginning of December or wait until January? Dc will be turning three, we usually have a party at our house but now that shes getting older and knows more kids were going to have to find something outside of the home. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:19 PM Flag
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I have DD born in Dec. I love it because we always do Christmas birthday - usually early in Dec. and we decorate cookies or make gingerbread houses. It's a great party activity that can be done indoors and all the kids seem to like it. [ Reply | More
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do you end up chucking the gingerbread house? no one actually eats it in my house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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Of course! Who eats those things when there are Christmas cookies and generally better food around? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:27 PM Flag
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seems so wasteful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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Thats a cute idea! I was thinking this year we would go to a pottery studio and the kids could paint. The ages would range from 3-8. Not too gender specific and they get a nice piece of artwork. Usually I go big at the house parties we've done (decorations, food, goodie bags), kind of sad I can't do those anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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I would do the first week of January. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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NP: I think that would stink. Kids are on holiday meltdown mode; everyone is trying to put decorations away; usually the house is a mess. Seems like kind of a "let down" birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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I am the OR-my birthday is jan 1st. My mon always did a low key pizza party. The party doesn't need to be crazy. People are so stressed before Christmas and often travelling right after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:20 PM Flag
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I have two grown kids w Dec BDays, and we always went out of our ways to make their actual BDay be their special day!! No Christmas decorations went up until Dec 16th; so they never felt cheated. We had their school parties right before Summer when we could swim and have a proper party!! Good luck, it's tricky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:27 PM Flag
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Op. Thanks. Leaning towards beginning of December party, maybe next year I'll try in january. We'll see which one works out best, then eventually dd can decide when she wants to celebrate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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I never understood those moms who think their DB's birthday has to be the "be all end all". I mean, reality is going to hit these kids sooner or later. I'm all for making it a nice day, but holding off on celebrating a religous holiday is oer the top to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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My son is a summer birthday. We are having his big party next week and then having just immediate family party on his birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:27 PM Flag
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Op. that's what we plan on doing. Just immediate family on bday :) although I feel bad that family will have to travel twice (even though their 3-4 hours away). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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I have a thanksgiving baby. We always do bday in early Dec [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Asian fusion (probably we will just order the typical Chinese options) or burgers for dinner tonight? Had a pretty bad day of eating FWIW, although I think both options aren't too good for me. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:17 PM Flag
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I would go with Asian. Thai Can be pretty healthy,depending on what you order. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:26 PM Flag
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Get healthy Asian. Either stemmed chicken or shrimp with veggies and a soup brown rice or sashimi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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That's what we did... although I did get white rice. I feel like brown rice is only marginally better for you given the amount i actually eat and it has so much more arsenic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Sounds like a good compromise. A little brown sauce and you are set. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:30 PM Flag
[ - ] How long did it take you to conceive your DC? How old were you when you started trying? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:17 PM Flag
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Was twenty nine y/o, tried for around eight months with no luck, before going to a fertility doctor. Five months later I was pregnant with triplets :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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OMG triplets! Did you carry to term with them? That's crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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Nope, 34 weeks. I agree, it does get pretty crazy sometimes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:15 PM Flag
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34 weeks with triplets! That is amazing! How long we're you on bedrest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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I was put on bed rest at 26 weeks. Very boring being on bed rest for 8 weeks, but so worth it in the end! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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That's amazing. I am a twin mom and I cannot even imagine how hard it was to carry triplets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Really? How old are your twins? Girls or boys? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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How big were they at birth? Did dr. pressure you to reduce (hope not, of course). I'm always amazed at moms of multiples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:29 PM Flag
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When they were born they were all around 3 Ibs 5 oz give or take an oz. Doctor briefly brought it up as an option, but definitely never pressured. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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One word. Respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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Who was your dr? Hospital? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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Our fertility doctor or my OBGYN? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Posted below... started at 29; miscarried; have 2 DBs now - 30 and 32. Thinking about a third. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:13 PM Flag
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1st one at 35, took about 3 times of unprotected sex. 2nd at 37 took 2 tries. I guess all those years of BC was money well spent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:14 PM Flag
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32-first try, 36-10mo and 40yr- first try [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:16 PM Flag
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1st month at age 32 and again at age 35 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:23 PM Flag
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32, second try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:26 PM Flag
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Got pg on the first try at 34, had a miscarriage and then got pg again on the first try and had db #1. Got pg again at 37 on the first try and had DH #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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Lol.....dB, still have the same DH! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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32-first try; 34-first try; hopefully luck will continue when we try next year (36) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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28yo- 2 mo. 33 yo- 1st shot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:29 PM Flag
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34 pregnant second month and miscarried, pregnant 2 months after that for 1st child, conceived second child in second month of trying at 37. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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28 when I started trying - one month! 2 dds :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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40 with 1st, 42 with 2nd. Took 2 months both times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:31 PM Flag
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Wow what were you eating?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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May I ask why you waited until 40 to conceive? Not to be personal but..was it a case if meeting DH later in life due to career? (Just wondering because I am 36 and recently married and not emotionally ready for motherhood!) thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:50 PM Flag
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3 years. Started trying at 34. Conceived wins at 37 via several rounds of IVF [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Was 27. Conceived the first week we stopped using condoms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:40 PM Flag
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Got PG with my twins accidentally. I was 25. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Were you married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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or: No. We'd actually only been dating for seven months when I got pg. It was all very complicated for a while. We're married now, and very happy, but there was a good couple of months early on when I thought I was going to end up having to go it alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Started trying right before 29th birthday. Took 7 months. Haven't started trying for #2 yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Conceived right away. 27. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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a month - 28 and 29. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any divorced moms or lawyers here? Has anyone done their own divorce settlement? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:14 PM Flag
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I did years ago in Pennsylvania. We didn't have kids though. I drew up the papers using examples from the internet, we both signed it and had it notarized. Very amicable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:19 PM Flag
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We have kids but they are older and only one is small. We have been separated for a very long time so the custody arrangement for the little one will stay the same as before. What else is there to fight about, if he agrees to 50/50 division of bank accounts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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There is a place called "We The People" they will do all of the paperwork for you. Less than one thousand dollars [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone file a complaint against an asshole cabdriver? He purposely drove into non-moving traffic while the West Side Highway was smoothly running. When I told him to turn there, he said did but said "oh there's traffic there also". After getting through one non-moving street, which took 25 minutes with the meter going, he wanted to turn into another non-moving street which feeds into Holland Traffic tunnel. Asshole! If you've filed a complaint like this, what was the outcome? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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I did, they had a little trial and it went on his record. He refuses to take me to Brooklyn and I had just gotten out of the emergency room. When I told him he had to he called me a bitch. I hope he eventually lost his license. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:11 PM Flag
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Woah, what a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:15 PM Flag
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Yikes. I would think they would be more likely to get in trouble for this kind of thing rather than OP's, because the best/least traffic filled route could be considered subjective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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I filed a complaint and they called within a few weeks. I didn't have to go in for the trial, but they took down all my info. I was pissed. I had just gotten 5 stitches in my head and thought I had a concussion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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I hope you did not tip him at all! Asshole cab drivers are the worst. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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next time get out of the cab. He gets his fare and to sit in shitty traffic not making money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Old Moms: Having seen how hard it is to conceive when you aren't really supposed to, will you encourage your DDs to have their children sooner? Like in their 20s? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:11 PM Flag
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I had no trouble at 30 and 32. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:06 PM Flag
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That is not old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:09 PM Flag
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I agree - she said in your twenties though... I wasn't in my twenties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:11 PM Flag
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yes, any old, decrepit moms want to chime in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:07 PM Flag
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LOl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:16 PM Flag
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What? Let me turn on my hearing aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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don't forget to put in the dentures for clear annunciation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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Sure. I'd advise early 30s if possible for dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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Probably before 35, no need for 20s. I had one naturally at 38 but am having trouble with the second in my early 40s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:15 PM Flag
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two banged out so easily at 35 and 38. gave up after 3 months at 41. maybe if i had kept trying but maybe not. so, so easy with the first two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:19 PM Flag
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20's is so 20th century. we should really go back to when we're SUPPOSED to pop them out -- 17! and yes, it's sometimes hard to take on tt workload when heavy with child in 3rd trimester but that's what i'll be strongly urging for dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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wow. relax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Are you asking if we would encourage our DDs to settle for/purse marriage w men they didn't love b their biological clocks were ticking? To be single moms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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I'm saying so many women on here are in their late 30s/early 40s trying to have children and finding it difficult... with that in mind, will anyone encourage their daughters to have their own kids much earlier to avoid that heartache? As for the single mom comment: you don't know how a relationship in your 20s would play out if you had a kid... could be entirely different. Same when you're in your 30s & 40s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:16 PM Flag
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i posted this before. we have some money and i will offer to pay for dd to freeze her eggs at 28 if she's not likely to marry in the next few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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I had no trouble having both my kids in my 40s. However, I do realize I am very lucky. I wouldn't necessarily advise in her 20s, but definitely in her early 30s. You can't predict how your life is going to go. I didn't plan to have kids in my 40s, but I got married late in life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:22 PM Flag
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Exacy. No one PLANS to have kids late i n life so what is the point if "encouraging" dd to not wait? Its extremely obvious to everyone that we shouldnt wait--even those of us who did. We didnt exactly wait voluntarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:47 PM Flag
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I had no issues getting pregnant. My last was at 40yr and I got pg on the first try I want my kids OT have kids when they are ready [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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I had no trouble conceiving at 40 and 42. Also, both my grandmother and mother had babies in the mid to late 30's. I will tell my dd to have her children when she's ready and not be pressured by society, me or anyone for that matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:19 PM Flag
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My mom had me at 40 and I always vowed to have kids much earlier, it didn't happen until 34. Life is unpredictable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:20 PM Flag
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What part of having an "older" mom made you not want to repeat that experience? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:29 PM Flag
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I was always afraid she was going to die, she was a little old fashioned and she had less energy for fun things. No amusement parks or things like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:36 PM Flag
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By the time their DDs are having kids, it will be possible to conceive at 60. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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Well maybe we all need to work on living past 100. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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NP - I'm 47 and fully expect to live to 100. Living to 100 will be common place by that time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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My grandmother lived to be 98, I'll pass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:42 PM Flag
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Why do you assume it was hard to conceive? I had mine at 35 and 38, both conceived on the first try. And with a wonderful man! Can't imagine discouraging a daughter against going this route. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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It was not difficult for me to conceive children at 34 and 37, but I wish I had started earlier so that I had the option of more. I know I could have had more as an old mom, but it would have been too much for me to handle at this age. If DDs were at a point in their life where they were somewhat settled and just dithering about pregnancy, I would urge them to do it sooner rather than later. Otherwise, I would stay out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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I would never suggest having kids before you're ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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