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[ - ] Stiletto nails - yea? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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God no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Short ones? [ Reply | More ]
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Ugly. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Your 8 yo ds is rude to you during a family/friends get together with other kids. Major backtalking or similar. Do you, a) send him to his room in front of everyone thereby embarrassing him or, b) wait until later, take him aside and talk to him sternly? This did not happen so no more details but, always a possibility. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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I like public humiliation. Or take him to the bedroom in real time and talk to him there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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op - I'm more wondering about the public humiliation part of it. I think it's effective but, wondering what others think....guess you do too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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It's terrible and awful to do that to a kid - trust me on that one. The people who do it are sick people who get off on throwing their power around. There are clearly ways to discipline your kid privately without making him the object of ridicule of everyone around. I'm continually surprised by people who think it's totally fine to treat their kids in ways that would be totally unacceptable to anyone else they've ever met. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Send him to his room immediately. Who cares about him feeling embarrassed, he knows better not to talk back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] So what was the supposed scandal brewing with Brearley? Anyone? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.24.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Molestation. That was what was posted last night. I have no skin in the game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Yikes. Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Good luck. The search engine is impossible here. They said it was a middle school girl, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Scary. And to think they've gone a few years without a scandal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Isn't that the kick in the head school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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Well, I'm glad I'm not spending 40k for that shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Give me a break. There are bad apples everyone. It's how the school handles the bad apple that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Did the teacher get fired or is this just a rumor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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I have no idea, this is based on last nights post. There was a whole debate about how they aren't supposed to talk about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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link please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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oh who cares. it's not going to keep people from listing the school as their top 3 backup options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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as a top 3 backup option [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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You mean the mysterious disappearance of the former HOS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Stop. It's all rumour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Do not discuss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Oh pish. The scandal is the Brearley mom who mortified her daughter by having sex with two teenage boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Was the mom who did this married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Yes, similar to the Eric McLean case. In that case, the father discovered what the mom was doing and shot the teenage boy that was servicing his wife, Eric served only 28 days in jail after being sentenced to jail for reckless homicide in the shooting death of his wife’s teenaged lover. He was later awarded custody of his two sons and his ex-wife was ordered to pay child support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Now that's a real Lifetime movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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That must have taken her 10 whole minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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What took ten minutes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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I was joking, fucking 2 teenage boys would take about 10 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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I think this joker is saying that teeenage boys do not have staying power [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Yes. Sorry. Bad joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Wait, the father discovered that his wife was having sex with a top tier teenage boy and shot dead the teenage boy and then the father was awarded full custody of the kids? [ Reply | More ]
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Wait, the father discovered that his wife was having sex with a top tier teenage boy and shot dead the teenage boy and then the father was awarded full custody of the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Prek/K admissions: do they wait until all playdates for every child are over to make their decisions or do they know if they'll accept/waitlist you as soon as you leave? Is it better to have playdates earlier vs. later (November vs. January)? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.24.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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How would anyone know the answer to this? That aside, we did some late playdates for TT schools in December and got in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Nothing is final until the end but I think it's safe to assume the playdate will effect whether you are in the probably yes, probably no or maybe pile until the admissions committee meets at the very end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Best stroller for db? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Ergo & Maclaren. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Grammar moms: please correct this sentence. Myself and my assistant are available to meet ... Why is it so awkward? TIA! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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My assistant and I are available to meet (?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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My assistant and I are available [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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"My assistant and I are available to meet" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Lets do math next! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Let's;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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My assistant and I... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Misuse of the word myself is my grammar pet peeve. When in doubt, remove the other person and then say the sentence again. You would never say Myself is available to meet. There is your answer (and word it the way the people above all said). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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NP: it just reminds me of Austin Powers - "allow myself to introduce...myself." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Stupid football players always seem to say "myself" in post-game interviews in an attempt to appear "intelligent." Bugs me big time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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They also rape and knock women out, but I can see why that would be the big annoying thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Because you never use "myself" like that. You also refer to yourself second. "My assistant and I...." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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my assistant and I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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College graduate? High school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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"Myself" is a reflexive pronoun, and what you are looking for is a personal pronoun in the nominative case, namely the pronoun "I". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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The correct use of myself is as an object in a sentence where the subject is "I". I gave one piece of pie to my son, one to myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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Well, you don't give a piece of pie to yourself, but.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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I am available to meet... I mean, really, why mention the assistant at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Myself is a reflexive pronoun, you use it to 'reflect back' to an already used pronoun - like "I myself hate the misuse of myself' or at least that's how it was explained to me when I learned English. I think of it as a mirror pronoun, if there is nothing in the mirror already don't use a reflexive pronoun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Gingko Biloba supplements - do they work in terms of improving short-term memory / organization? I am one of those people who misplaces keys or forgets small things on a regular basis. Usually I have it under control but when I screw up, it tends to be a few things at a time in a cluster and it drives DH (very organized person) insane. I've always been this way, and I hate it. Help. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Herbal supplements have not been proven to work. Changing your habits has been shown to work, in people who really want to change. Start with a shelf or bowl inside the front door where you stop, think, and then put your keys/wallet/accessories there every time. Put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it every fifteen minutes, or set an alarm on your phone every fifteen minutes, to remind you to pay attention to what you are doing and not end up on autopilot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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watching this post. I am the same. I have ADD and took Adderall and it worked but I don't like the side effects. I researched and heard that fish oil helps with memory and attention so I've been taking it...that is if I don't lose the bottle haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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I use them sometimes and it seems to help. It might be placebo, but it works for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd might have the flu. Will confirm shortly. Should I cancel thanksgiving? No kids coming other than ours 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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You should tell everyone the situation and explain you will keep him in the bedroom when guests are their. But leave it up to them whether they want to come. Some people care a lot about illness and others not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on PS166? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] is it possible to make a wishlist for a school? need to start having parents donate snacks for kids so would like to use amazon or diapers.com or something. any parents have experience with this? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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donorschoose.org [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Our teachers have wish lists on Amazon. Donors choose is really to raise money from other than parents and isn't really right to use for supplies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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ITA. I saw my dd's school and a desirable D2 high school have donorschoose projects and are listed as "high poverty." WTF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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In their defense, donor's choose automatically designates that status. They see NYC, which has a certain % above poverty line, and designate the region. But that is why teachers shouldn't use it to get thinmgs from their own group of parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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If so many families cannot afford to provide food for their children, to the extent that the class needs donations to provide snacks, I'd say that's high poverty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is jewish and grew up with Hanukkah and I'm not but always had christmas. Neither of us are particularly religious - but we both kind of want our DC to experience both. I'd love to have the mystery of santa bringing the presents etc but at the same time want to include Hanukkah some how. Anyone have any success celebrating both holidays in their home? and if so how do you do it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Growing up we did both. It was fine, lots of fun. As my mother says "you can never have too much celebration." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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We do both. Neither is religious. DC now 5 is psyched to get extra holidays so not a big deal. We do Chanukah and bruchas. We have a small tree. It's just all festive and fun. When DC asks if Santa is real we just say "no one really knows". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Hanukkah Harry on Christmas and Santa on Hanukkah. Change it up a little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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DH is jewish, and we have a tree and a menorah. Practically all of DD's classmates are from interfaith families anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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what school? just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help me brainstorm why dh's brother's wife would call my dh all the time? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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They are having an affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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That is beyond messed up. Step mom, I mean aunt. Step dad, I mean uncle... WTF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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You think that doesn't happen??? I have a bridge to sell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Pretty sure it does. The kids are going to need some major therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Are you a by product of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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LOL no, but I know 3 different families where something like this has happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Maybe his brother is sick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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They like each other and have a good in-law relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Survey says: X [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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aw, you're sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Only recently or consistently over time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Consistently [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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That's pretty strange. Do you think they are sexually attracted to each other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Yes she liked him when they first met and were all single but she ended up with her dh because she thought he was my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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They have a bad marriage or your BILL is abusive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Hmmm, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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They don't have normal boundaries and one of them is enjoying a sexual charge from the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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We need more context. How long has this been going on? Does your DH keep it secret or seem flustered when she calls? How long has she been in the family? What do they seem to talk about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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We've been married two years and it has been going on the whole time. She doesn't call here, only at work. She has been in the family for about 10 years. They talk about her kids, what she's cooking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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They could be friends? Who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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She kind of treats my husband like a servant or additional husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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And she was around 8 years before you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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My guess is your DH was the sad bachelor and they all got to be really good friends and then you came along and she doesn't like you but is still close with him. Or they are banging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Ask your DH. Are they all close? they known each other since high school? Grew up together? Is your BIL nice? Are you nice? You probably know the answer to this question. May be an affair, may be a nice family relationship that is perfectly normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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I'm just annoyed that she doesn't call me. And she asked him to talk off of work to babysit for her kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Maybe she doesn't like you. You do seem suspicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Cutting down on carbs and lost abt 10lbs in a month. Yay! However I have diarrhea all the time. What gives? I have any 25 lbs to lose so happy with the weight loss but my stomach is a freaking wreck. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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yikes. what are you eating? does no carbs mean no fruit as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Not eliminating carbs - just less (i love bread - kill me). Eating lean proteins like chicken & fish, egg whites, greek yogurt, veggies. Not a ton of fruit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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if you have increased the fiber in your diet dramatically in a short period of time, it can wreak havoc on your GI system. Try some digestive enzynes before you eat and a probiotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Switch to lean beef for a week and see what happens. You may be sensitive to salmonella, so even the small amounts that are tolerable for most people are intolerable for you, and without carbs & fiber to (ew) bulk things up, you have a worse reaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Diarrhea is a very common side effect of low-carb diets. For some people but stops after the first few weeks, but for others it doesn't stop. I really don't believe a low-carb diet is terribly healthy, though it can definitely help you lose weight (and especially if you've got chronic diarrhea, you'll lose weight!). Better to eat a normal amount of carbohydrates, but make sure they're minimally processed carbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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This. Eat a balanced diet and quit trying to game your body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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What is a "normal" amount? I'm not cutting out completely, but I don't lose weight if I eat my "normal" carb intake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have experience with a guy who - many months in to dating - still seems nervous about showing affection (cuddling on the couch holding hands, etc.). He will on very rare occasion initiate, and when I do after he gets over his initial nervous response he is fine with it. Thoughts? Never encountered this, especially not from a thoughtful guy who doesn't hesitate to make me a cup of tea without asking, etc. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Age? Gay or has an STD and hasn't worked up the nerve to tell you yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Age 34. We had pretty frank talk about sex so I don't think STD. Obviously we didn't have a frank talk about being gay, but I kind of assume since he pursued me that he is pretty clear that he likes women, not men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Well after you initiate does he seem energetically into it, or still hesitant? Are you guys exclusive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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We are exclusive, yes. After I initiate it he does seem to enjoy it, but as described below, it is like he has to get over a little case of nerves every time. Which seems kind of weird to me as at this point, you would think casual cuddling on the couch while watching TV wouldn't be a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Many months.... but you guys have not yet had sex? I'd be nervous too!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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We have had sex, yes. Not lots of crazy, totally with abandon, early-in-the-relationship kind of sex, but some sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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the tea thing makes me thing he may be british. I have found this is the way with certain british men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Ha, nope. I just like tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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He's not touchy-feely. This is not going to change, btw. There is a woman a few posts down who married a non-cuddler and is not regularly disappointed and dissatisfied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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If you don't like the guys style of affection, I'd consider him a tosser. He's not even worthy of analysis. If he's not breaking down the door to paw on you now, can you imagine how affection-starved you'd be in marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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You may be right. The thing is, if I initiate, he seems to really enjoy it, albeit is awkward for the first few minutes. Almost like a 16 year old who all of a sudden finds a girl snuggling up to him and is sort of in shock and figuring out how exactly he is supposed to hold her while trying to minimize any outward display of nerves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Is this guy kind of an aspergery introvert? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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A bit I guess. Earlier in his life, he has worked through some social anxiety stuff. But he definitely has friends (including long standing ones) that he gets along with well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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This is very weird. I think you have to muster up all your courage and ask him about this. Something is wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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So just straight up ask him why he seems nervous around initiating physical affection? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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a guy here...He's just not that into you. It's that simple. I've been like that with plenty of women but trust me, with my wife I've always loved being affectionate. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Holiday bonus for nanny - 4 days/wk, 40 hrs. NYC. Please advise. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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One week's pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Definitely not two? (I'd obviously prefer one but want to know going rate.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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1-2 weeks pay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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What makes it 2? (Nanny is very well paid, btw and we have one db.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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5 days a week to start [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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How long has she worked for you? We give our nanny her bonus in August, because DH gets his by May/June, and because our nanny has college expenses in the fall. We give her 1 week's pay per year worked, so this year it was 3 weeks' pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Worked for us for about 10 months. I would never do 1 wk per year… what happens when she's at year 4-5? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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She gets a 4-5 week bonus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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1 week bonus plus maybe a small gift w/reciept, card and handmade present from kids, and a big thank you and maybe do it early so she is not guessing about her bonus all holiday season long. 2 weeks btw is wonderful if you can. We often rounded up and did like, 1 1/2 weeks of pay to get to an even $ amt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk to me about double strollers. I have a 2yo and due with db #2 soon. I can't decide on tandem or side-by-side. I noticed with the tandem strollers one db is stuck with a crappy seat (either underneath or one that doesn't recline). But the side-by-sides seem wide. Thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Side-by-sides are rude in cities and in stores/restaurants/other indoor spaces. If you live in the suburbs and will use it mostly outdoors, side-by-side is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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side by sides are hard to maneuver. for tandem, i'd go with the city select or britax b ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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I had a tandem and they fought over who got to sit in the "crappy seat." They liked riding low in the back. Much better size-wise, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Op: Good to know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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We have the City Mini GT and it is great and folds very easy. It goes through standard doors. When our children were smaller we had an iCandy (tandem) but our children are over the weight limitation. I don't know why people say it is rude as long as you are courteous and share the road I don't see a problem. I did prefer the tandem though because it is easier to get through isles but my kids prefer the side by side as they can chit-chat during walks. In the tandem one is always hidden and it is a pain during winter when the are all bundled up and you have to fit them in the back seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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side by sides are awful and don't always fit down aisles of smaller stores - if you're in NYC do not do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] DD (3rd grade) complains that certain girls in her class ignore her. They do not say anything mean, but at the same time do not respond to her when she asks them for something. I told her to stay away from them. Your suggestions? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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I think you're right. What else can she do? If she tries to ingratiate herself to them, they'll just treat her with more contempt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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This. Dead on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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I'd tell her that some people are still working on their social skills and how to be polite. So she should continue to be polite with them but choose to spend her time with other girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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I think what you told your daughter is fine. i would also mention what your daughter tells you to the teacher, so he or she can keep an eye on the classroom dynamics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Girls suck. Hang out with the tomboys and avoid this petty crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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bitches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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This is how girls "bully," through exclusion. It's also why the social/emotional groups the girls schools offer are BS. She should avoid them and seek out friends who are nice and make her feel good about herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Yep. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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This happes a lot nowadays, it seems. Outright bullying isn't tolerated, which is obviously a good thing, but then the kids resort to social exclusion. Have 2 dds at a ss private and this is how it plays out. And it can go on for many years, sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Uh oh, I am applying to SS and this is the one issue that makes me hesitate. I think we may go co-ed if we ate given the choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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4th grade DD told me a similiar story about a person whom she described as "popular" with a "I don't think she likes me" thrown in. I said something to the extent of be polite, appreciate her for who she is, but give a wide berth. DD is far from perfect, but she just doesn't understand random, unsolicited meanness. I really wanted to be more explicit - "it is always the less attractive, slightly pudgy "popular" girls who are vicious. Stay away." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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There are lots of mean girls who are thin and attractive. I would also advise DD to stay away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Yes - that's why I decided not to pass on my prejudice and kept the advice to her general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Argh! Dh's family has decided to crash Christmas. He comes from huge Italian family (he's youngest of 10), and MIL died this fall, so everyone's super-sad. Our Christmas tradition has generally been us hosting my DS and her family of 5 from down south. Two years ago, BIL came to stay because he was going through heinous divorce, and he had a blast, so at MIL's funeral, when everyone was being mournful about the end of good times, he regaled them with tales of fun in NYC during the holidays. Just got emails from the fam that 18 - 18!! - people will be here between the 26th and the 1st. WTF??!! Age range from 18 months to 65. At least they have rented a house nearby, but what on earth am I supposed to do?! They all want "to be together," and "do fun NYC things," and spend time "with your family, too." Oh. my. god. Ideas? I can't even begin to figure out where to take them for one single dinner, beyond Chinatown.... 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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First, its not your problem. Write them a list of suggestions, host one afternoon, and that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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What's second? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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This. Provide suggestions and let them go at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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+1 DH can manage this. Your job is to let DH know how much you can handle, and when, and to be cheerful and welcoming during those times/activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Well, the problem is BIL has regaled them with our traditions that he was included in last time - circus on New Year's Eve, trip to favorite Italian restaurant, blah blah blah, and they all want to come along and be part of it. I am happy to give advice on things to do, but the main impetus of their visit is to be together. So any suggestions for mass outings would be appreciated. I guess ice skating is good... I just don't want this to be my new tradition! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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If you don't want it to be your new tradition, listen to PP and put it all in DH's hands. He plans & organizes, and you go along and be in a good mood. When DH sees how much work is involved, he will make sure it doesn't happen every year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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+1 *Most* men are very good at keeping things simple and saying no to extra work. DH's family, DH's job to organize -- and I guarantee it will all be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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The year my Dad died we did something completely different for the holidays. We just didn't want to be home without him and he died about a week before Christmas. It didn't become our new tradition, but it was a Christmas we will never forget. All being together away in the mountains was just what we needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Sounds fun to me. How old are your kids? They will LOVE it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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OP - my kids are college and older, and they rely on this holiday for seeing my sister's kids, who are the same ages. One sticky point is oldest dd lives overseas, and will only be home for only that week. So my plan is to carve out one night where I tell everyone, my sis and DH's family, that everyone is on their own and we go out with DD, just our family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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You know what? Sounds like fun. Don't stress, enjoy it. Holidays with big families aren't supposed to be perfect, but they are supposed to have a lot of laughs, wine, food, and memories. Specific ideas - ice skating, window displays, Central Park walk, board games at their rented house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Word, I wish I had a big family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Hmmm. Maybe. I have 27 nieces and nephews, and 15 great nieces and nephews. It's overwhelming at times, because everyone wants to be in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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I'm an only and my mom is dead. It sounds nice to have people to enjoy during the holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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NBD. Host one meal, send them to Radio City, St pats, tree, holiday windows. Tell them to eat at tony di napoli. They will have a nyc experience to remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Sometimes the more people, the easier it is to manage / not be overwhelmed by any one personality. And they're not staying with you. Go to Tony's/Carmine's for dinner (UES, UWS and Midtown locations) and then do a pizza night at Patsy's or that well-known spot in LIttle Italy, take them to Radio City for the Christmas Spectacular, go shopping and ice skating in Bryant Park. The fact that MIL died means they need someone to lead this and you're great for doing so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I'm from a big Italian family, though not that big, and probably not so close. What would happen with my family is that some people would participate in some of the activities and some people would participate in others. When we talk about being together, it's more around eating meals - mostly at home - together. Of course the meals are multi-hour affairs - we don't sit at the table for appetizers, but move around the group and catch up, some people here, some people there. My advice is to contact whoever the matriarch is - the one who arranged for the rental probably - and discuss. Don't freak out, those Italian ladies will do most of everything. Relax and enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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I am de facto matriarch. DH has only brothers. So the work is me. I am happy to have people, but it will be enormous work. The fact that they have a house is truly great, but food will be at my house, three meals a day. I know this already. But you guys have cheered me up - a family that is happy to be together is a good problem to have. I am breathing now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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DH is one of ten boys?! And re three meals a day, just order food or go out for things other than breakfast… and do one brunch out. Also, tell DH you're happy to host but will need a cleaning person several of those days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Awesome. I wish I had a big family that wanted to hang out and have fun together over the holidays. You are SO lucky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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your kids will remember this forever, make it for the right reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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On the one hand, I sympathize, but on the other, not so much. We have virtually no family, here in NYC or otherwise, and it's lonely at times - especially around the holidays. Try to focus on the fact that, as problems go, yours is a damned good one to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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The grass is always greener. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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That actually sounds awesome--especially with them renting a house. I wouldn't call that "crashing." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.24.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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