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[ - ] Che guevara on t shirts, this hipster glorification of criminals is awful. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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1985 called. They want their social commentary back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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np: thank you. This is exactly what I wanted to say but you said it better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, yourre right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:20 PM Flag
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but it has gotten worse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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Hipsters are annoying and inauthentic in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] black pants have bleach stains. Can I dye them black? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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No, sorry. They won't look right. Try a black sharpie on the spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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dont laugh, I did the black sharpie thing on the tips of my pointy shoes once, and it worked! [ Reply | More ]
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Laugh? Been doing that since Julia Roberts did it in Pretty Woman! [ Reply | More ]
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I got a pencil eraser sized bleach stain on a pair of yoga pants and used a Sharpie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] is anyone else going a bit stircrazy today? 3yo DS has been up since 7am and I am running out of ideas. It may time to jump in some puddles! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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nap time or quiet time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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Can't he entertain himself ? legos ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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This is why cartoons exist. [ Reply | More ]
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pbskids tv [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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Let him play by himself and come up with his own ideas. Days like this I am glad I don't always entertain my kids. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thinking of career change big law to academia. 2 dcs. Has anyone gone through grad school as an adult with small children? Is it manageable? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:09 PM Flag
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JD / PhD here: do NOT go to graduate school. It will take you 8 years to complete your degree at the very least. There are no academic jobs. Seriously. None. It's insanely competitive. If you didn't go to a prestigious enough law school and do super well (clerking, etc.) you aren't going to be able to get a job at a law school, and just forget about traditional academic departments. If you want to downshift I think going part-time would be a better option. Seriously. Academia is a nightmare right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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Do you want to teach law? or go into a new field? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Has anyone been to NYC mammapalooza? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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Nope. But I have a feeling you'll tell us it's amazing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How young is too young for daycare? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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Newborn [ Reply | More ]
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Under 2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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I'd never send my kid to a daycare center. My sitter took my kid to the park in CP at 98th/5th a few weeks ago. A group from daycare arrived and one of the kids fell from a railing on top of one of the platforms to the ground--landed flat on his back. Probably a 6 or 7' fall. Sitter said all the moms and sitters were looking at each other like "why isn't a worker taking the kid across the street to Mt Sinai." Kid cried for the remaining 45 mins my sitter was there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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That's like saying youd never use a nanny because you once saw a bad nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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My son is at daycare, an awesome one at that. He's 2. He started when he was 1. He's made great little friends and the director and her 2-3 assistants are fantastic, warm but with enough sense to know when to be strict. He has learned a lot. Sure, there are bad daycares just as much as there are crappy nannies. Your role as a parent is to find one that suits you and your child. Your next role is to make sure that the nanny or daycare you choose is responsible and provides a safe and loving environment for your kid. As parents who need to hire outside people to care for our kids are often burdened with finding the best care possible. To the NP above, please think before you say things like "I'd never send my kid to a daycare" off one incident your nanny witnesses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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I wouldn't send my kid to a daycare regardless of that incident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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Depends if full time- I think 6 mos is fine for part time, would wait till 1 for full time. Very child dependent though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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Ps I started dd part time at 4 mos and it was ok but not optimal. Would not have done it tho unless she were in mixed age class (0 - 2) so there would always be staff to hold her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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Pps the other pro about starting earlier they develop an attachment to their caregivers (before sep anxiety starts) and never have the separation issues you'd have if they started at 1. On the negative side, dd has allergies and lung problems so every time she gets sick at daycare it lasts for wks and wks. If next db is the same we'll do a nanny but if not I prefer day care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Mine started at 4-5 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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Mine started at 5 and 7 months and that was fine. We had great staff in the infant room and the director would often jump in as an extra set of hands. Starting between 1 and 2 may be difficult because so many kids have separation anxiety then. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just moved to a high rise in Manhattan. Is it just my building or is it just commonplace for NYers to just ignore their neighbors in the elevator? Nine times out of 10, no acknowledgement and very unresponsive to even a "good morning" or "have a nice day." 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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My building people generally smile or say hi, but not always. But they are always responsive if we do, so be the first to say it and they should follow suit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Don't take it personally. They may be doing you a favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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lol this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:17 PM Flag
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Commonplace [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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you should speak first then, but don't sweat it. I have gotten used to it and some days actually relish it. We had one neighbor who was showing up at our door with her DD (almost daily) during all hours of day for an impromptu playdate -- and THAT was just annoying as hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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When I was young living on the UES, I loved that. I lived in Georgia briefly and the first day like 10 people showed up at my door asking me to go to church with them. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What should Michael Bolton do in response to all the people who mistakenly call him instead of Optimum for cable TV service? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Change his phone number [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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Make a lot of $ on the commercial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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hahaha...Michael Bolton...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GI6CfKcMhjY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] How is the preschool scene in LA? Do we stand a chance if we're not on a WL when DB is born and are MC (but with interesting non-industry careers)? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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LMAO for real? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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Is the original poster a troll or just stupid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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Los angeles pre schools are much easier to get in to than manhattan pre schools. No worries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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May i ask what neighborhood the original poster lives in [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is anybody else's 5yo a messy eater? Its driving me insane. I have her lean forward and eat and yet there are crumbs in her lap. She invariably gets some food in her hair too. Argh! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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My 6 yo is like this, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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My 6yo & 7yo re both messy eaters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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My 6yo & 7yo re both messy eaters. [ Reply | More ]
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My 6yo & 7yo re both messy eaters. [ Reply | More ]
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my 6 year old is an all around mess. clothes always flithy at the end of the day. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is there any elegant solution to this situation - we hired a nanny last year, through an agency, we like her but she has had several personal issues so she hasn't always been available to work. She recommended a friend of hers to fill in who's exceptional. The original nanny has now told us she can no longer work the schedule we had all agreed to at first. Our preference is to keep her friend because she's a much better fit for us, but the original nanny has told her friend not to agree to take the job because she wants us to work around her new schedule.. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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Fire original and hire the friend - if she doesn't say yes find another [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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OP - the problem is that the friend is loyal to our original nanny and we don't want to create any strive. We've offered to provide a reference for original nanny to find a better fit but she still seems to be bitter about it for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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You don't need the drama you need an exceptional nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Agreed, I was just trying to figure out if there's a no drama way to deal with this and there does not seem to be. Everyone is saying to just start a new search for what we need, which hasn't changed since last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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It is up to you, you know who you like best, but I would fire the old nanny, sounds manipulative to me, just tell her it is not going to work, maybe then her friend cAn take the job or you may have to find someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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Thanks, I'm a FT WOHM so am trying to avoid a totally new search and the disruption to DCs but I guess this is the only real solution [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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You are paying her, you set the hours not the nanny, find someone else. Just tell her is not going to work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:47 PM Flag
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The friend told you this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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You are too busy for this drama. Get a brand new nanny. The other 2 can fill in for babysitting nights. Competition is good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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Nanny here: Honestly there is not going to be an elegant solution to this. You set a schedule and you find someone who can provide those hours, your current nanny is not able to do this, I find ridiculous that you have to accommodate the time for her and no professional that your nanny is expecting you to do so. Just be honest, " things are not working out" then it is up to her friend if she wants to take the job or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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Pp- if the nanny stills not allowing her friend to take the job, it just shows how selfish and greedy she is, you still win getting rid of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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OP - where can I find a professional nanny who's great with DCs, articulate and internet savvy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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Internet savvy? [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny : If you are looking for a basic internet knowledge trust me, almost every nanny out there knows how to send an email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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Or look for directions, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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look for new nanny tell the one you have that unless she can work the hours you need you'll have to replace her. Let her know there will be a bonus for staying until you replace her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Trust me the old nanny is going to be bitter because you are firing her, there is not way this is going to have a happy ending. But if it needs to be done, just do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP - and I'm the one who should be bitter! Less than six months after we paid an agency to find her she decided she didn't want to work full time and has been giving us the run around for months. OK it seems like I need to just phase her out and move on. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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Please do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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You didn't get any kind of guarantee from the agency? The one we used did the second search for free when we had to replace our first nanny within a year. The second person we found through them was great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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Which agency? The one we used only gave a 3 month guarantee [ Reply | More ]
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Which agency? The one we used only gave a 3 month guarantee [ Reply | More ]
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I might start a new search from scratch-- the ongoing relationship between old nanny and friend would make me uncomfortable. Especially because the friend listens to the old one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:48 PM Flag
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This, [ Reply | More ]
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x2. We're talking nannies here, not brain surgeons. There are a lot of them out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Still there are a lot of brain surgeons out there, do not dimish someone's job. If you have a great nanny ( and Op is not the case) it may be difficult to find another one. [ Reply | More ]
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Whatever nanny, you are not a brain surgeon and your job is a fucking piece of cake. STFU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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If its not that hard then why don't you raise your own kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:57 PM Flag
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Because I have an important career. I went to an Ivy for a reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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Then don't rag on the person raising your kids for you. [ Reply | More ]
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If a nanny were clever she wouldn't be a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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OP - the second nanny is exceptional, that's why we don't want to lose her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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If her loyalty lies with the other nanny, that's a bit of a problem. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, please. Nearly anyone can take care of kids (some people are better than others) while very few people can be brain surgeons. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell that to the Krims [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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So what happens tomorrow, OP? I would tell her ASAP that unless she can work the hours YOU need, you will have to find someone new. Offer the friend the position and if she is uncomfortable taking the job - start from scratch. Am sorry you are going through this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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We've been making do with her friend who's very flexible and available at short notice. It was just this week that the original nanny told me that she wants us to commit to her new hours. [ Reply | More ]
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I posted earlier--I still don't think that the friend option is great bc of ongoing relationship with old nanny. They will talk, old nanny will press for details, old nanny will already have a grudge against you. Better a clean slate go through agency again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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Thanks you're probably right, we don't have anything to hide, but it does seem that the original nanny thinks we owe her something for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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What kind of solution are you looking for. You can offer the job to the nannies friend, she is free to decline it for whatever reason she likes. It may be that maintaining her friendship is more important than working for you. It's pretty clear you need a new nanny, but you can't expect your current nanny to be happy about losing her job. FWIW I think you need to provide an honest reference for her regardless if she "lets" her friend work for you. That's your obligation as an employer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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OP - agreed, the honest reference would be that she's a great nanny when she shows up, but she has some personal issues that have been a distraction and ultimately her lifestyle has changed and she only wants to work part time. I'm trying to find a solution that will allow the second nanny to feel comfortable staying on to work with us, without losing her friendship with our original nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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I don't think this is an option. It's an awkward situation and the friend taking the job will hurt your current nannies feelings. This is not your problem, but it is the friends problem. How would you feel if you were let go from your job and replaced with a friend who you introduced to the company? Don't you think that would cause some issues in your friendship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:17 PM Flag
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OP - yes, for sure, I understand that perspective. But, if I decided that I couldn't do the job anymore I'd help to find a replacement and be happy to facilitate the transition. I wouldn't have any feelings of ill will or regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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As most posters have said, you need to let this lady go. She is manipulative and not the nanny you need anyway. Why won't agency help you find a new one for a discount rate? If it's less than a year later, they should feel a little responsibility here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss the Sunday cookouts and flea markets in my crazy Serbian Chuch on 25th st. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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Ukrainian Fest on today on East 7th b/t 2nd and 3rd Ave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Oh how terrible, so sad for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Hello Asshole, move on now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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Why the vitriol and venom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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Why the sarcasm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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Host them in your home then. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Name poll: Tara 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nay [ Reply | More ]
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Tera. [ Reply | More ]
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Awful. Striver. [ Reply | More ]
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Terra. [ Reply | More ]
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nay [ Reply | More ]
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I love Tara [ Reply | More ]
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cute. All the women I know who have this name tend to be from country [ Reply | More ]
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Cute [ Reply | More ]
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easy to spell [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DD is at a top BS. Nearly half of her grade is either from NYC or San Francisco. Why do you think this is? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 05.19.13, 05:26 PM Flag
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BS= Boarding School [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:29 PM Flag
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Because self-absorbed parents in NYC and SF can't raise their children on their own [ Reply | More ]
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Jealous? [ Reply | More ]
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Oui, Madamoiselle [ Reply | More ]
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Too funny--is this just the standard response these days when you don't agree? [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. I know this about NY, but wasn't aware of SF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Because some parents in NYC and SF want their children to get a good education at boarding school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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But why not Dearborn or Des Moines? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know why there are not more students from these places. Perhaps you should start a new post. [ Reply | More ]
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But what about parents in other places? Why so many more in SF and NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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$$$$ [ Reply | More ]
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I can't speak about SF but I was shocked at how many parents in NYC are willing to send their young children away on sleep away camps and travel so much for school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:45 PM Flag
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A big part of it is disposable income. Parents with kids in NYC and SF are likely making higher salaries and can afford the 40k+ tuition that these schools charge. If you go to the midwest, there might be some good jobs but the pay scales are lower because COL is so much lower. In addition, these cities draw the liberal, educated types that are likely to find value in prestigious educations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:46 PM Flag
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Which school? NYC I can understand--wanting the kid to experience the outdoors. SF publics not good, lots of money there...not sure why else. Maybe parents want to expose them to east coast striver culture? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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DS is at Deerfield and I've noticed the exact same thing. [ Reply | More ]
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Because people from this cities have a different perspective of education and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:50 PM Flag
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Lots of money in those cities. Private schools are already 40,000 grand in those cities, so not much more to sent away for boarding school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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Obviously, because that is where there is a lot of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Got a slow cooker, maily because i am not a good cook and hate to spend time in the kitchen. Please share your ways of using it simply. Like cooking the whole squash with two cups of water(did it and am very happy with the result). Also cooked steel cut oatmeal and it was easy. Any other simple suggestion not involving too many ingredients? THANK YOU!!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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pork shouler/bbq sauce. corned beef. pot roast with pots, onions, veggies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:25 PM Flag
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As you wish: 3-4 lb beef roast and two cans of Coke. Cook on low for 7-8 hours or 4 on high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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I like with Dr Pepper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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I have pasta sauce going in my slow cooker today. A couple cans of crushed tomatoes, parsley, garlic, onion, white wine, a little butter, herbs as you wish. I'll cook for 9 hrs on low. Yum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Omg and my fav that I had published in my local paper. In a food processor , combine black olives, a couple garlic cloves, capers, onion, parsley, a little EVOO, into a paste. Smear this paste on boneless skinless chicken thighs, cover in crushed tomatoes, cook on low 8-9 hours. Serve over pasta or rice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I never liked giving bj's because it was hard to do physically, to manuever a certain way up and down in rapid fashion. I don't mind being intimate, but it's hard for me to imagine someone who loves being choked and holding their breath. I like it because it makes them happy, but the mechanics are not enjoyable. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Thanks for sharing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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sounds like there's a issue with size difference here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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I used to be this way but with practice and focus I learned to really enjoy the pleasure I provided DH (and love that he returns the favor!) [ Reply | More ]
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Wait, are you talking about giving head or being choked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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Being choked by a bj. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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Hahaha. It took me a realllly long time to get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:35 PM Flag
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There is nothing enjoyable about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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No reason to hold your breath, and don't choke yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:39 PM Flag
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A good bj doesn't usually involve the giver being "choked and holding their breath." You need to learn how to do it properly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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I give my DH BJ quite often, it doesn't involve chocking or holding your breath. Watch some porn or something, you may be doing it wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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I have a very sensitive gag reflex. I alternate between BJs and sloppy HJs.I use my mouth until it's uncomfortable, then switch until I catch my breath. DH doesn't seem to have a problem with the fact that his dick isn't in my mouth the whole time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have experience with brokers fees in new luxury rental buildings (a single broker/exclusive listing)? I know that standard is 15% or one month but how low can you get them? We moved into a building last year (not a new building/no single broker for the building) and offered 7.5% to the broker and it was accepted without any negotiation. Looking again and just curious... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:16 PM Flag
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I'm in Brooklyn and charge 12%. I have taken 1month if the place is hard to rent. However, at a high end luxury rental I could see taking a lower amount because the broker fee is still high considering the high rental price. How much is your rent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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If you got the broker to do 7.5% chances are it was a building you could have rented on your own and the broker was happy to get any money. Did the building have a leasing agent? As for the new luxury buildings, you shouldn't need a broker for any of those. Check who the management company is on streeteasy and apply directly to them. Let me know if you need to know what items to send them or contact info for the management company. (Former Broker). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I bought a house on a gorgeous property, full of live oaks, mango, lychees palm trees. Loved it until i saw an oak branch fall at a neighbor's yard. I had 2 certified arborists come and assess. They say it looks ok, but you should see these people. They look like hippies. Not very reassuring. Now i just want to cut all the trees but the city would fine me thru the nose. wWyd? 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:14 PM Flag
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what now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:17 PM Flag
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I want a brain transplant. I live in fear walking under this canopy. Home is in a nabe where tree nazis abound and a operation of this magninuted will draw them. I may put it on the market, thank gd its appreciated. It never occurred to me to worry about falling branches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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who do you think become arboritsts? Republicans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:17 PM Flag
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I thought it was nerds, like biology majors, engineer types. These guys are slobs, a rung above hobos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:15 PM Flag
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tree hugging liberals baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:16 PM Flag
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Next time you call the company request clean-shaven arborists wearing suits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:43 PM Flag
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You might want to buy a Sybian :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:12 PM Flag
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Wtf is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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How will cutting your oak trees down help with your hippy neighbors? Do you not like them only because of how they look? Did you actually talk to them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:18 PM Flag
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Read slowly. The neighbors are not hippies, the arborists are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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That is not clear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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Ha! I thought the same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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you need to move to a city and live in an apartment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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Wtf would you cut the trees down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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So a branch doesnt fall on my family or a visitor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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You just have to top them off, not cut them down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:20 PM Flag
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You are nuts. Just because arborists look like hippies doesn't mean they are not skilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:27 PM Flag
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No - and you obviously are not meant to leave anywhere that has trees - to even think you would cut them down or even joke about cutting them down for no reason is horrible imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:29 PM Flag
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I only want to cut the oaks. The other ones are not so much a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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don't, just have them pruned properly - if you prune regularly the trees will be healthy and less apt to break and lose limbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:36 PM Flag
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The funny thing is, these arborists come and tell you their spiel then send a crew of low wage workers who hack away, often not per plan presented to me. They charge 10x what the mexican with the truck charges and it looks pretty much like the same job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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in a neighborhood where the men wear suits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Friend's DH was paralyzed because a branch fell on him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:21 PM Flag
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Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:27 PM Flag
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Probably hit him on the head or back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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This is my worst fear. The oak bramches are huge! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:29 PM Flag
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in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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^^OR: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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I guess you should get a house in the open plains or desert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:24 PM Flag
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^^^oh wait tornadoes and sand storms might kill you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:25 PM Flag
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A huge branch just fell on my sister's car and totaled the car. Landlord had ignored requests to trim the trees. If you didn't like the beards and tee shirts the tree guys were wearing, get a second opinion. Don't cut trees down just because you didn't realize that your property would require maintanence. We sold our old house after years of tree trimming and gutter cleaning (have you checked the gutters?) new house is so much easier without big trees. Next time we move, we plan to simplify even more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:31 PM Flag
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I really don't understand this post at all. So a branch fell in the neighbors yard...say what now? Why was an arborist needed? Why do you want to cut all the trees? What about the hippies? None of this makes any sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:26 PM Flag
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Go back to your blunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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If only I had one...then maybe this post would make sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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i agree OP sounds so unhinged [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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Look, tree guys are not going to show up in a suit and tie--did they seem to know what they were talking about? Is it a reputable outfit? I'd just have the trees checked regularly--that's what we did when I was growing up. If something needs pruning, you prune it. It's really not that big of a deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:34 PM Flag
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Did you ever have a live oak branch fall down? Thank you btw for saying something useful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:35 PM Flag
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No, we didn't have a problem with falling branches because my parents were proactive about having them checked regularly--we had one enormous old tree in particular on the property that occasionally need a limb removed. (I think it was a sycamore.) We did occasionally lose branches in a really bad storm, but they were in the woods, not in the yard. It sounds as if your neighbors weren't taking care of the trees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:40 PM Flag
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The house is unoccupied so you are correct. I will schedule the tree pruners this week again. TIA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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No problem! The place sounds magnificent, by the way. Enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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It was to me until i realized the danger. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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So you think that people who look like "hippies" don't know what they are talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:44 PM Flag
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I know it. Their worldview is skewed and brain cells missing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Just cut them anyway. If the city can prove you did it figure the fine as the cost of doing business. I never bother with permits for tree removal. They just give the tree huggers advance warning to block your plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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On an unrelated note: where is this property and how much did you pay for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Haha yeah right. So you can call code compliance. Its in a very desirable nabe, on what some say is the most sought after street in the nabe paid over 1mm, will not say more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:56 PM Flag
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First of all, people that say "nabe" are douche bags. Secondly, do you really think anyone cares enough about you to call on you? Only an asshole would cut down the trees, and you certainly sound like one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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Ok. Thanks. You can go fuck yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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OR: actually i just wanted to know if its NYC burbs and which ones have houses like this. 1mm doesnt sound very expensive tho [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Mangoes, lychees and palms dont typically grow in NYC burbs. The house was a steal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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Wow, nutso [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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Have you ever been to a large university with a forestry/environmental management department? The people there tend to look like tree huggers. I wonder why ... maybe if we all put our heads together we could figure it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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If these people had shown up and said that your trees all had buttock cleft blight and had to be taken down, you would be here crying they are untrustworthy and trying to rip you off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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Your buttock cleft is blighted. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 05:55 PM Flag
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PP: Dutch Elm disease seemed so boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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You need to be put down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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Go shave yor legs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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