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[ - ] Wow, ouch! there are serious Hunter nut jobs here!! I wish they would screen out the parents! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Maybe that's what the parents assessment form is for. I'm hoping! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Do you happen to know if they look at the color of the ink used for the parent essays when evaluating R2 kids? I was talking to another R2 mother in the elevator and she was saying that someone told her that she had heard that Kyla had said that the what parents wrote mattered so I was wondering if that also included the color of the ink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think there's an inverse correlation between the number of pictures a couple posts of themselves on FB and how happy they actually are in real life? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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No. Probably no correlation. Just a sign of narcissism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Oh good theory! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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maybe. when you are happy, it's just not polite to brag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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I have seen it a whole lot when they want to stick it to an ex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Quite often they both have exes. It is so childish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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This! We are SOOOOO happy. This is what true love looks like! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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no, some people are just more like this than others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] OMG. Just spoke on the phone for the first time with a new employee. Her voice sounds *exactly* the same as that of a toxic frenemy I recently finally separated from. How in hell am I going to deal with this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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With humor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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I declined to give feedback to HOUR after an interview once, saying only that I could not fairly assess because everything about the person reminded me of my ex. [ Reply | More ]
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HR [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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are you sure it's not her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o of Europe trip. If I invite my MS DC's friends to our vacation house during the summer...is that a bad idea if the child is from a lower income bracket? It would be just for an overnight trip. DC is concerned that it might make the other child feel bad or it may come off as show offy. DC has never mentioned the house to friends. I just want to provide DC with some company. We don't know any children near the house. Any advice? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Happens all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Op: so invite and not worry about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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No worries. All my friends in boarding school and college were much more well off than I was. It actually showed me parts of American life I had never seen. I was always on my best behavior and learned that not everyone acted like my own family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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I was on substantial financial aid in college and could not afford to go home for Thanksgiving, so every year I went home with a friend--sometimes also for spring break. I always enjoyed myself, but I also learned about how upper-middle-class people lived, and it gave me a concrete idea of the kind of life I should be working towards. This was very valuable for me, and years later, I am so grateful for my friends' parents generosity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a serious question that is going to sound insensitive and ignorant, but I am truly curious and will do my best not to sound bigoted. Why, in lesbian relationships, does one woman often look very masculine? If the more feminine woman wants to be with women, then I understand that. But why be with a woman who looks like a man (when she supposedly isn't sexually interested in men)...Does anyone have any thoughts on this? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I don't think you understand anything about attraction at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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I guess not--can you explain it to me then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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With this logic, my husband of 18 years is gay since I wear my hair short and do not dress feminine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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No, because he is with someone of the opposite sex. Not the same thing at all, logically speaking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Lol. Great logic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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You're confusing sex (male and female) with gender expression (masculine and feminine). Part of being QUEER is rejecting cultural norms about what men and women SHOULD do (i.e. girls should be princesses and marry boy princes, boys should never cry and always wear ties). Once we reject these norms and expectations we are free to follow our hearts wherever they may lead. Many women who identify as lesbian, queer, or bisexual are attracted to people who play with gender expectations, whether they be perceived by straight/mainstream society as "feminine" or "masculine." What you are actually not seeing is that most feminine queer women are not experiencing their gender expression as unmarked "normal" womanhood, but are also performing a gender expression called "femme." Of those who are still paired in butch/femme type relationships (although this is not as common as it used to be), often the more feminine-appearing is performing FEMME identity, and to some extent the lipstick, etc., is considered just as much of a role as a more masculine female who looks "like a man" to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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op- ok thanks, this is the type of academic explanation i was looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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If your question made sense, then straight women everywhere wouldn't be gushing over Shane from the L Word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Go away little boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Question-- did you tell your DC's teacher the SSS for Hunter? I didn't tell her after the test because I didn't want to come off as bragging, but now I'm wondering if I should tell her, so she knows exactly what DC's potential is. Did you give the score report to your DC's teacher? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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Give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I think you can silk screen it on a size 4 t-shirt so every teacher would know dc's potential. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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We didn't tell her. The potential should be obvious to teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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What if there are a couple of other DCs in the same class who are going onto R2? This is my dilemma. I want the teacher to know DC's score so that she doesn't rank him lower than the other kids on the same teacher evaluation form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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is this for real or just to rile up anxious parents because if it is real, it is really really creepy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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What is so creepy about it? Would you not give your CV to a professor who is writing a recommendation for you for grad school? Sorry, but since my DC is 4, this is the only thing he's got. Doesn't seem so outlandish to me. And like I said, if my DC was the only one in his class going to R2, I wouldn't bother, but I want the teacher to know where my DC stands in terms of SSS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Are you the mom who was harassing the other round 2 child from the post below? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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I think you should just breathe and relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Yes, in all four cases we told teachers. Btw, we got 170, 173 and two 177s. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, those are impressive numbers! Did they get in to Hunter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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This is a joke. The top score according to Bright Kids and Aristotle's circle is 160. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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Someone just told me their ds scored 165.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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they are wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Then what is the top score? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Isn't it their job to know this information? If they are wrong, they are really bad at what they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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No, I was being sarcastic. I don't have 4 kids who scored at 170 or above. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Yes, of course they got in. All four. But we decided to go elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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really? Wow, congrats! Where did they end up going, if I may ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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They don't force a rank, they want all the kids to succeed and lady, you sound unhinged. Being an insane parent WILL affect the report [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Mid-/senior-level associate. DW is sick and out of work, so finances are very tight. Don't want to stiff assistant and paralegals but struggling with all tips/binuses. How much should I give. (1 assistant, 2 paralegals.) 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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Ask your colleagues. $100 or less each I would say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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OP: I have heard $100/year of (associate's) seniority for assistant. All over the place for paralegals (from $0 to same $100/year rule-of-thumb). Can't do that, so really asking what is the least I can give without being an Asshole? (I prefer to be generous, but not-an-asshole is pretty much how I need to operate for now.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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I know Kirkland does this for secretaries but I don't think most other firms tip their secretaries so much - that is crazy. Are you sure the paralegals expect something? A $15 bottle of wine would be a nice gesture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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That's what I heard from two friends at other big firms (neither Kirkland). Not comfortable asking here. Not sure paralegals expect anything, so wine or similar may be good idea for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Do they know your wife is sick and out of work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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Assistant knows I've been out a lot and had to take some leave for wife's medical condition, because she enters my time, and I'm sure paralegals have noticed my absences (and probably stress) but they don't directly know anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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I am guessing your assistant has told them, so whatever you do is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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I doubt she's told them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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We don't give tips to paralegals at my firm. Just secretary. As a senior associate, I give $200 or $250 to my one secretary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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Hijack- Not in law, but in finance and we had same thing where we were supposed to tip the trade settlement person, the secretary and the janitors for the floor. I never understood the practice. They are employees just like me. Why am I supposed to give them cash bonuses. Isn't that the job of my employer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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+1 In finance too. Nothing of the sort happens anywhere in this firm, to my knowledge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Have worked at one bulge bracket and two smaller firms. Happpened at the bulge bracket but not the smaller ones. Figured it was standard bulge bracket practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Yes, it's annoying. Standard in law firms though to tip secretary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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How much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] UGHH: Old people who are constantly shouting "He needs a hat!!" when I'm walking ONE block with my two year old in 40 degree weather drive me insane!! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Any age people doing this is annoying Some kids run hot. Just ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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So annoying! My two year old won't wear a hat at all and I can barely get a jacket on her. Luckily we live in Texas and hardly need them in the winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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Exactly--I always have a hat with me and will offer it to him and he refuses---as if you can physically force a toddler to wear a hat!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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so glad i'm not the only one this happens to! he hates hats, it's not even cold and mind your own damn business! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Old people lose their filter past a certain point. It's like late-onset Tourette's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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first sign of dementia [ Reply | More ]
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After taking off and putting on the shoes 6 times, I started to get a perverse pleasure out of pushing around by toddler in his bare feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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LOL. they might drop dead of a heart attack at that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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We did that up to 2yrs - so many nasty looks. [ Reply | More ]
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We did that up to 2yrs - so many nasty looks. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is the greatest tragedy you have faced in life, and what did you learn from it? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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My father died suddenly last year. So far, I haven't learned a thing except how much I miss him. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Five years now and I miss him every day [ Reply | More ]
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mother abandoned me at age 10. Learned to really value commitment in friends and relationships. [ Reply | More ]
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My biological father died while I was deployed overseas. We never had any closure after I found out he was my father. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think I've learned much from it. Maybe not to put things off. [ Reply | More ]
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Fiancé left me for another woman. I learned that true love can crumble to shit, so marry for money. True love is a bonus, but don't base your life on it because it could be gone at any moment. In the end you have to look out for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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My sister died. I learned the Pollyanna approach to chronic illness may play well in TV specials, but optimism doesn't keep anyone alive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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Can you explain this further? What should she have done? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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She had chronic condition that didn't have to be fatal, but could be (and was, for her.) My sister and I were children when she was diagnosed and while my parents were very attentive to her initial treatment, when the acute symptoms were passed, they proceeded with a very strong "Everything will be okay, just act like everything is normal" attitude. Sounds good, but I think they and then my college-age sister ignored the condition. She died in college. I wish we had all taken her condition more seriously. I am far more hands on now with ill friends and family. Everything doesn't always work out for the best on its own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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What was the condition? Diabetes, MS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Jeez, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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I am so sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Had a sick mother growing up and she died when I was in college. My dad lived far away, so it was just her and me, so it was hard. I think I learned that I can handle life's ups and downs and not give up. (Sadly I also learned to worry excessively...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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that is very hard, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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My dad died when I was 11. He was the world's greatest dad, but my mom did just fine. [ Reply | More ]
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Aw [ Reply | More ]
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I am sorry for your loss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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My sister had a foster daughter for nearly two years that she planned to adopt. She was family and we all loved her dearly. Without warning, the judge sent her back to the parents who nearly killed her (shaken baby syndrome). I learned I'm not cut out for foster adoption. I'm crying now just thinking of her. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, that is terrible. Does your sister still get to see her at all? [ Reply | More ]
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Lost mother suddenly in my late 20's [ Reply | More ]
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Death of a child. No matter how bad you do t want tomorrow to come - it always does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Would it bother you if your DC was only one of 6 white kids in his class? Would it make a difference if the rest of the kids were Asian? Black? Hispanic? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Of course not, as long as the boys in the class shared exactly the same values that our family had [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Really, school problems have nothing to do with race. If some kids have good values and other kids have bad values, the kids with bad values mercilessly torture the good kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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LOL! It's Urkel and 50 Cent mom!! We missed you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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My DC was one of a minority of white kids in her MS class. Almost all the rest were Asian-American. It did not bother me or DC. She had a great experience in MS. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like SHS, and it didn't bother me at all. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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OP said, "Would it make a difference if they were Asian or Black/Hispanic." Sounds like you would be OK with the former but not the latter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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No, but I'm a white girl who went to a historically black university and was often the only white person in the class.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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are the rest of them black? then yes. are the rest of them asian? then no. [ Reply | More ]
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Buckley? [ Reply | More ]
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No. DC attends a school that is minority white. (It's majority Asian, but the rest is split pretty evenly between black, white and Hispanic.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] what should I get my 16 yo dd for xmas? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking online at bank statement and DH spent 5k at jewelry store. I don't wear any jewelry ;( 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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D I V O R C E [ Reply | More ]
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Do you wear a watch? [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe time to start ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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That's on the bank statement? Not credit card statement? Did he pay by debit card or check? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Sorry. Confront him. It could be for his mom. [ Reply | More ]
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It's probably your Christmas present. Duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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+1 stay calm OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Her Christmas present is a Joni Mitchell CD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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That movie was so dumb. She was throwing herself at him and it took weeks for him to respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Could be a watch for himself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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okay, I would go to the store and find out exactly what it was before you do anything rash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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^^then wait to see if you get it for xmas/hanukka. if not, then start real snooping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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how would she do that? the store won't disclose that info - even if they would care to look up the exact purchase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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hopefully it's for you ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Back in August I was 161 lbs at 5'6" and UB rightly said I was chunky. 4 months later, I'm down to 141--20 lbs down! My best pre-preggers weight was 132 but that was when I was very stressed and anxious due to life things. What's a healthier goal? 138? 135? I'm 40 also btw. TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Congratulations! At 5'6, 132 is a perfectly healthy weight, but whether it's a reasonable goal for you and a weight you can maintain long term is a different question. If you want to lose a bit more, I'd say try for 2-3 lbs at a time and see how hard you have to work for it and how hard a time you have maintaining it. If it's fine, then try another 2-3 lbs. At some point you will either 1) be content or 2) have extreme difficulty losing more in which case, there's your goal :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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