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[ - ] Who ARE these people paying their nannies $30/hr?!? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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I prob do many weeks since I pay a weekly salary and haven't needed her much this year. In another year I'll probably not have her any more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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Moms with SN kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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People who don't care about $$ and have too much if it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] How much HHI does one need with 2 kids in private for one to be a SAHM? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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450 at the minimum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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That's high! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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My neighbor is SAHM. She has a full time help, 2 kids in private, always uses uber, 3 international vacations a year. She once mentioned that HHI is $600k, but I really don't believe her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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Housing costs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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$5000/month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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Unless it's a lesbian couple, only one could be a SAHM. You mean, for one to be a SAHP. Well, you don't, since people here think only women can raise kids, but that's another story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Today my manager was silently watching what I was doing on my computer screen. I coincidentally turned my back and realized him looking towards me and my screen. It made me really uncomfortable. Is this an acceptable behaviour? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Ugh, I hate this. Was he just chilling there? I used to have a manager who would rifle through my desk if she needed something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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no, he was watching my screen. when I turned and saw him asked me what was on my screen - something work related. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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^^ but still it was very uncomfortable for me. now, I feel like I'm being watched all the time. my desk is facing the wall, so when i sit my back is towards the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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Was his dick out? Coincidentally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] 3 random thoughts you have right now: 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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I love Larry David, I hate work, I think I have sinus cancer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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(1) UB sucks; (2) I'm not your bitch, don't hang your shit on me; and (3) DD finally went to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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"I won't help my SIL clean up" mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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The wet varnish on the new hardwood smells baaaad, I am too tired to get up and eat, the dogs need grooming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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i wish i had some candy [ Reply | More ]
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I'm hungry so maybe I lost weight, my anti anxieties aren't working, I want to stay in bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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Damn, that Ben Barnes makes one sexy Sam Adams, too bad Sons of Liberty is now over on history channel, I wonder if the real Sam Adams was that sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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That show makes our founding fathers look like a bunch of Williamsburg hipsters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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Maybe...but shmexy!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I miss Sue Simmons on Channel 4; don't want to clean up from dinner; how the hell is it only Tuesday night? [ Reply | More ]
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OMG, ily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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Should take dogs out but there's 22" of snow and it's freezing, everyone on UB is tired and cranky, how to keep DB's entertained on 2nd snow day tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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1) how many times can I watch Big Bang Theory repeats 2) I hate packing school lunches 3) I need a pedicure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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1. Why am I going to spend $1k on a kids' birthday party, WTF I should move to Kentucky. 2. Why does it say about me thatI have mixed feelings that my work-husband got engaged yesterday to his super young girlfriend, whom I like. 3. Where can I get Oscar screeners [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Sassy Tarot Mom here. Got something on your mind? Want me to answer some yes/no or either/or questions before bed? (No health questions, please.) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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Will my job situation change for the positive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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STM: Setting up your spread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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STM: Unfortunately, no. I pulled The Devil for your general situation; in this case, I believe it is a warning to use your discretion to preserve yourself (in terms of finances and things that are a drain on your energy) wherever possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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TY! Am I better off looking for a new job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Will I have to work forever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Do you see me in a relationship soon? What kind of guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] To the nannies on this board. What makes you happy about your job or the parents you work with? We are in the midst of nanny searching and want a nanny that feels respected and happy in our home. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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kids that love me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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okay well it is our first baby so im pretty sure the baby will love my breasts and the bottle my boob milk is coming from. what else please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Parents who are not over controlling. I'd like to run my own show. I know what I am doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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$30 per hour, credit card usage, metrocard, unlimited supply of food [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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I am not a nanny. A but of advise my friend gave me which was totally different from my mindset but has proven very useful. She said, don't hire any nanny who implicitly or explicitly asks you what you can do for her. Only hire one who is focused on what she can do for you. She will be the one who will value your family and her job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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Clear upfront communications regarding job expectations, regular performance reviews where we discuss and agree to changes in job structures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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Not a nanny, but we had a typed up agreement on how things like sick days, holidays, etc. were to be handled, as well as food in the house, behavior when late, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Big law or hedge fund? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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Don't practice law unless you really want to practice law. That's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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i meant for husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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Doesn't the above comment apply to whomever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Oh, silly me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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This is the most UB exchange I've ever seen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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If you think you have a shot at both, you probably have a shot at neither. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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They both attract equally high caliber douche canoes. Big law can be more intellectual though. Pick your poison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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Hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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40 hours tops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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For both professions? I doubt that's true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Hello, sarcasm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Serious questions. While I like the earnings potential, I also don't want to just be married to money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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But the money doesn't compare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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Which one makes more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Neither. Private Equity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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I lump that in with hedge funds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] My (just turned) 3 year old still takes a pacifier at nap and bedtime. I know I need to get rid of it but have been putting it off. Please tell me what's worked for you. Thanks! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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you realize you created this problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Bitch alert. [ Reply | More ]
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Dumbass alert. [ Reply | More ]
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Twatricia ... how ARE you???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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+ Google [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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We made a big deal about putting it in the mailbox for the binky-fairy to collect for all the little babies that needed them. DD totally went for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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Cold turkey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Throw it in the trash already! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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How pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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We sent it to the new baby cousin. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. Paying $22 for a crappy book because you can't take away a 3 yo's infant paci?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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parents these days have no backbone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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Cut the tip off of all of them. He may carry them around for a while but he will stop sucking them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Listen, my sister in law was treating me like her personal servant. She would have me clean up while everybody (including her) was off in the living room, or she would run off with her buddies and have me watch her kids. I got tired of being treated like that and snapped, no need for the vitrol. The fact that so many of you think it is acceptable to treat guests like that is very telling. When they visit my house I go out of my way to serve them. I bring them out to dinner, invite them to do all of the touristy NY stuff, I would NEVER treat her the way she treated me. In my book, that is simply unacceptable. My mother taught me that a host always goes out of her way to make sure that a guest is entertained and comfortable. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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+1 i grew up middle class and i would never request that a guest served me in any way, even a relation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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by "served" you mean that she asked OP to clean up after an activity she did with her niece and nephew in the living room. Apparently, OP thought it was good guest behavior to leave toys strewn about because they weren't her kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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She has different manners. So what? Get off your hoity toity ass, bitch. A lot of people on this site think their way is the best but the fact is she has different expectations, you can't be lazy. It is HER HOME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Your first post was boring enough, did not require a second post. She's rude, you're rude. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I agree with you but at the same time I was always taught to be a helpful guest or at least offer help. A good host/hostess will not take advantage of a guest and vice versa. Having said that everyone snaps at one point or another. Simply back up, take the high road, and apologize for your outburst whether justified or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I did offer to help clear up the table... I was left alone while she went off to visit in the living room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Your brother should have helped you. Or one of the other guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:57 AM Flag
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That would be a little weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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It sounds like you have communication issues in your relationship. Also when you offer to do something you shouldn't harbor bad feelings when taken up on that offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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Your mother never taught you how to be a good guest, though. Or good family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I agree with you. SIL relationships can be very difficult and layered. Very territorial. It sounds like she is trying to put you in your place. Your response was not very kind but sometimes we can't help it. I have difficult SILs and I have sucked it up for many years but I did explode at one once after many years of mistreatment. I apologized the next day though. I don't think she knew what hit her and was surprised by my reaction. Wait until tomorrow and then have a sit down. Apologize but explain why you got so angry. Unfortunately, we can't pick our inlaws. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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That's how I felt, it was as if she was making sure I knew she was "in charge". I don't think she expected me to say anything or lash out, because I tend to be very passive and accepting around her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Just curious where are you from and where is she from? Does she maybe resent your lifestyle and feel like she needs to keep you beneath her in her home. Sounds similar to my crazy ex-SIL. I have another crazy SIL who loves to slam cabinets when I visit (which is never now). If you offer to help her clean the kitchen you are a nuisance but if you don't you are rude. Can't win. If I must visit her town, I always stay in a hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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We are both from the same small town. However, I left at 14 to go to boarding school (spent boarding school and college years around Boston) and now live in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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sit down? OP should really leave after the things she said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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You both suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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There is no "correct" or "proper" or even acceptable thing to do in this situation. You hate each other. Period. Thus, all normal civility and judgments go out the window. I have a relative who does this. She has told her DIL (and anyone else who will listen) that she hates her. Then, she regales us all about how the DIL didn't serve her first at the luncheon, etc. Are you kidding me? You hate each other! You're lucky she doesn't throw it in your face! Move on and stop torturing each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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My mother taught me to be a gracious guest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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"entertained and comfortable"? That's a joke. She has children and is running a house. You come, single, for to stay for a week and are asked to clean up after activities you did with your niece and nephew and you blow up on her after TWO days? Crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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I'm married and I also have DC? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thoughts? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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What neighborhood is this? Those bricks inside are hideous and the kitchen needs gutting. Good price if it's a good neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Bedford Stuyvesant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I like pie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Why was 80's pop music better and more catchy than pop music today? And I'm 24, so you can't accuse me of nostalgia for my youth! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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I think so. Love to dance to 80s tunes with my 2yp DD. [ Reply | More ]
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It was good in that it was the music of my youth. i think people naturally gravitate toward the music of their youth and say it was the best/greatest. I will admit that it had a lot of good hooks, and it was special in the sense that it was a total departure from the 70s. [ Reply | More ]
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Funny, I'm 25 and spent today watching 80s/90s movies and thinking "These movies are SO MUCH BETTER than the shit that comes out these days!" [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Waiting, waiting and more waiting. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] What's our chance of getting into EC? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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12% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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How did you figure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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I picked a random percentage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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LOL. Thanks for the humor. I need it right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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Sure. GL. Hope you get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Will it be too hot for children in Arizona in June - second half of June? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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People in AZ don't hang out outside in the summer unless they go hiking in the mountains. [ Reply | More ]
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If they don't hang out outside then I doubt they are hiking around either. If anything they are lounging by a pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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They make a trip out of it, drive four hours north. I go to AZ once a year and am always surprised I like those trips whereas here in NYC we only drive 2 hours max [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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YES. It is so, so hot in the summer. Hot like wear an oven mitt to open your car door hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:48 AM Flag
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Hot but not humid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:50 AM Flag
[ - ] There is a poster here who absolutely hates SAHM, especially those with full time help. What's her problem? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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I hate the argument about it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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op- i agree. No need to argue. Personal choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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jelly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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You sound like a former fatty turned soul cycle devotee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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No, she sounds like a Russian hooker turned SoulCycle devotee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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I'm a SAHM with help and I admonish you to please wipe the word "jelly" from your vocabulary unless you're speaking of a fruit preservative. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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Clearly. It's that simple. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Haven't see her. Did she recently visit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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She was just on bashing the poster (SAHM) who feels a sense of financial security because of 10 yo worth of expenses in saving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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Okay, I'll take your word for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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There are a lot. We find SAHMs annoying to the cause. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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What is your problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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Just told you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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Sorry you are poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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I am a man who hates them. Honestly deep down its probably because I'm so jealous of them. The women I see in my town live an outstanding quality of life and I could afford to do the same but I'm so worried of the stigma. I envy the ease with which they can transition to a life of leisure, which honestly is what they're doing. [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing wrong with life of leisure. No virtue in suffering. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think the same holds true for men? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, life is short, follow your heart for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Etiquette questions: !. When sending online invite for kids' bday party, do you keep the guest list hidden? 2. How do you handle a party where you can only invite a small amount of guests so you send the invite to your first list but, once declines come in, you offer those spots to others? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
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I show the list. Let's people coordinate rides, know who they can ask about the party, etc. Just add people later if you want to, but I think it's a little weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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you have a B list? so mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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The place has a flat fee for X amount of children. DC has many more friends that he'd like to invite. So we don't want seats to go empty. Do I just invite say 35 kids and just hope no one extra shows? Or that at least 30 show? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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I keep the list private and invite all guests at the same time, figuring a couple won't be able to make it. If all accept I suck it up. Moms talk amongst each other about this shit and I won't be that mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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op: I would never discuss invite list with other moms. I don't hang with that type of crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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I wasn't clear; if you don't think that at some point there is an awareness that one was on the A list or the B list you are deluding yourself [ Reply | More ]
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There are two groups: dear friends and then parents of DC's friends whom I do not even know (new school). So all on the dear friends list are invited, plus a few new school, and then any declines open up to new school list. I'm not worried the two groups will chat - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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yes re hidden, and don't allow for more than one adult to be included if you want to limit siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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I don't want to limit siblings, I'm inviting our close friends. Would love everyone to come. But also don't want seats to go empty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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1. hide the list; 2. send out invites well in advance so that if you are going to substitute new kids for declines no one feels that they were invited at the last minute; I don't think that there's anything wrong with a b-list for a kid's party -- there are always competing concerns of size and cost when you have a party. My dc has been on the b-list and I did not think he was less wanted at the event because there were others who the host wanted more. It's not like planning a wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:06 AM Flag
[ - ] It is crazy that some people on this site think leaving guests to clean up or expecting them to watch your children is appropriate. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:37 AM Flag
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This site is very low class these days. No WASPs left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:37 AM Flag
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+1 really isn't urbanbaby, if OP had posted a few years ago outrage would be directed at the sister. now, not so much. i feel like buying these people a copy of miss manners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:38 AM Flag
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I think that tends to be the problem. I'm not engaging in the previous thread, but I do believe a big problem on this site is that posters tend to be very middle class, middle American and they don't understand how you engage in UMC/UC circles. I would never ask a guest to clean up, if they offered, fine. But to ask a guest, especially an in law? Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:39 AM Flag
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I think it's MC/UMC (especially new money). Poor people less likely to ask than MC/UMC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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Jew with good manners here and I agree it's taken a turn for the worse around here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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Definitely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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I think the context is important. I just glanced at that post and both behaviors seemed a little over the top. When I'm a guest at my family's house, I do pitch in because I want to. I wouldn't expect anyone to do it my own place though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:40 AM Flag
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The same ones who hate SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:41 AM Flag
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It's very classless, for sure. OP's reaction wasn't appropriate but we all have outbursts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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I grew up poor and I agree. This is something you see with UMC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:44 AM Flag
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You are a relative, not "company". And to erupt at your SIL is low class on your part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:45 AM Flag
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You don't treat a relative like a servant. My eruption was emotional reaction, I snapped at her. We all do it- I never treat her like that when she visits my home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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I have never snapped at a relative! We always stay in a hotel, BTW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:49 AM Flag
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I stay in hotels when visiting others, but there is nothing to do but visit relatives in my hometown and therefor, no reason to visit if we aren't staying with family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:53 AM Flag
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As one of the posters who thought OP was wrong, I completely agree that her SIL was rude. However, every WASP handbook would instruct OP to respectfully decline or just accept the request. I don't think insulting a family member and insisting on one's superiority are UC qualities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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I lashed out, I was tired and annoyed- it got to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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OR: Understood, but your whole attitude seems wrong to me (I am a GUEST!!!). She seems very rude, but this is your family, and you are staying with them. Watch some kids, load some dishes, go home, and next time stay in a hotel. No yelling and 3 year long fight needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 04:00 AM Flag
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Meh. Sounds like these people don't understand that guests should never stay more than 2 nights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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