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[ - ] Is intelligence mostly genetic or learned? Nature or nurture, in your opinion? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Nature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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It is both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Combo of both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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That's too simple a question. For example, do you consider conditions in the womb nature or nurture? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Aw, sad. Elizabeth Vargas and Marc Cohn are getting divorced and he has the kids. I wonder if she's a really bad drunk when she's drinking. Too bad. I still know the words to his "Walking in Memphis" song... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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She must be a fucking mess for him to get the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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np she just went back to rehab [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Yeah, handing them over to their dad is always the last resort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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I didn't know they were married! I love that song! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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didn't she date michael douglas at some point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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So we know she has HPV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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you don't know anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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Half the planet has HPV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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She may have an awful attorney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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There is no scale of good drunk to bad drunk when a person has a substance abuse problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Last minute NYC bday party ideas for DD turning 8 this sunday...ideas w/small group of friends and/or just family....pls help!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Picnic at Central Park [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Cyclone game? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Bowling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Do bring gifts the first day to the pre-K teacher? Is DS' first day of school and I don't know what is expected or the usual? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Oh my god, no. Signed, teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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no gifts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Of course not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Op- a friend of mine recommended this but I wasn't sure it was appropriated. Thanks for the answers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Yes, absolutely. A Dean & Deluca gift basket, a Cartier tank watch, Birkin bag (crocodile) and a Maserati. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Op- I get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] If you could live anywhere in the U.S., where would you live? And why? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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NYC apartment with a 2nd home on the shore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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San Francisco, is my favorite city in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Maui [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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NYC (where I live) or Miami. Great food and culture, on a coast, and not California. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] To the mom who wrote earlier that she sewed name tags into her son's clothes for when he left for college next week: Please say you're a troll. Otherwise your son is going to SO get made fun of when he's doing laundry (or get it all stolen, on principle). 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Who would even see them? Who looks inside other people's clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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Op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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He will be doing his laundry in a dorm laundry room, I assume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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And what do you envision happening? A kid notices him name on one of the tags. Then the kid says what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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np While I wouldn't bother to do this, I don't think anyone would even notice let alone bother to make fun of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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Lol... Fantastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else's toddler have a really prominent forehead? My DS's forehead is curved, not flat. He doesn't look like a caveman man or "weird" at all, but his forehead is a bit bulgier than other kids'. Of course, WebMD tells me he has "frontal bossing" and tons of diseases. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Getting medical insights from WebMD is about as good as from UB. Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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if it were a problem, your ped would have said something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Np: Not so. Sometimes, cranio stuff is not caught by pediatricians because it's very rare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Who do you tip at dc's camp? And how much? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Uh, no one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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cows, every night you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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No, but I think it might be a regional or East Coast thing? I've never heard of tipping counselors until UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Our camp has sent a letter re who to tip and suggested tip amounts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Change camps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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OP: our camp has an official no-tipping policy but I don't want to be the only one who actually follows it. Plus I'd like to give a little something but there are so many counselors I'm not sure where to start. I wish there were some kind of collection I could contribute to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Counselors, bus counsellor, swim instructor, bus driver [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband (who I think is a narcissist) has just returned from a week-long vacation. He is taking the rest of the week off from work as well. He wants the nanny to still come every day as usual. (We have 17-month-old.) He does not have plans and just stays in our apartment, mostly on the computer. This makes the nanny uncomfortable. I asked my husband to at least go to a coffee shop, and he refuses. I now feel stuck in between the two, trying to manage this situation. I think my husband is being a jerk, but he won't listen to me and thinks that there is nothing wrong with his behavior. My nanny says he doesn't respect us. I don't want to tell my husband that my nanny feels uncomfortable because he might even confront her, at the least he would be rude to her. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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He wants to mack on the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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NP OMG I have not heard that expression in years. ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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It needs a comeback, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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return of the mack [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Me too. Just saw it on HONY recently. 'Twas hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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It's time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Lmao! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Daycare! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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for the DH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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who is behaving like a spoiled brat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Exactly why is she uncomfortable? Just for clarification. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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she is uncomfortable because my husband is socially awkward and weird. he misses out on social cues. he is pushy and makes jokes that are kind of mean-spirited. he is abrasive and rude at times. he is overbearing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Give her some money and ideas and tell her to keep the kid out all day. He sounds like a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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i dream of divorcing him every day and am just waiting to be able to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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is he interacting with her a lot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Sounds like my ex-dh. Are you OK? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Does he make comments to her? Why does she feel uncomfortable? Many nannies work for SAHD/WAHD without a problem, if he is making rude/disrespectful remarks that is a whole other story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Wtf, it's his house. He's allowed to stay home an not be forced to leave bc the nanny wants him gone. You sound like the narcissist, not him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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Nanny is being unreasonable. He can be in his home. There should be an expectation but not assurance of employers being around in any one week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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She has not said why the nanny is uncomfortable. If he is sitting around all day in his underwear riling the toddler up and making messes for the nanny to clean up, I can see her point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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You can only go with what she offers. From the OP, it appears nanny is simply uncomfortable with his presence, despite that it seems to be passive. Left unsaid but a separate discussion is why DH is going on vacations himself and is not doing any childcare while at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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It is weird that a grown ass man chooses to spend the whole day at home online when he has a week off after being on vacation for a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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yes, this is also my problem. i'm sorry, but wouldn't a dad who has been facetiming his DD twice a day for a week actually want to take her to the playground or something when he gets back??? even if the nanny comes for part of the day, why wouldn't he want to be with our DD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Because he is a lazy asshole. I would give her Friday off and tell him to suck it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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She's home alone with some Aspie weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Unless your husband acts weird, your nanny sounds like she has the problem. Your husband is allowed to remain in his own home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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it is not your nanny's place to say that he doesn't respect you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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I'm thinking there is a lot more to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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You're married to my boss. We all hate him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Your DH should be free to come and go in his house a he pleases. Your nanny sounds like a rude pita for trying to kick him out of his own place. If I were your DH I would be so upset with you for sidig with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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The details you give actually make you and your nanny sound pretty unreasonable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Your nanny opines on your marriage? Goodness me, it looks like she's the problem not DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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+1 - it is not her business to comment on your husband, unless he is out of line. You should be backing up your husband on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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I took a nanny job in my twenties where the mom worked at home and it truly sucks. So uncomfortable. I specified that I would not allow this arrangement again when i went on to my next position so the agency did not refer me any WAHMs.And now I have a nanny and I giver her space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Either let her work an half day. Or let her take your dc to her place for the week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Why is he taking vacations alone? Where did he go? Weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted a few days ago about my 3 yo son saying violent things, and got some really awful responses. I took him to the pediatrician yesterday, and she spent a long time talking to him, watching him play, watching him draw, interacting with his siblings, etc. and said he is absolutely fine. She said he is not exhibiting any violent behavior and it's very clear that he's mimicking the ninja turtles as a 3 year old doesn't have the mental capacity to create a scenario where someone is getting their head cut off without first seeing it (the Ninja Turtles cut off the bad robot's heads). So, your little snowflakes will be fine. My monster child isn't going to lock them in a dungeon. Seriously, though, some of your responses were deplorable, and you should really think about the fact that you're talking about a toddler. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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People on here don't have a soul. I learned that very early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Welcome to the world of anonymous responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Yep. People are dicks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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no, they're typing on a computer screen anonymously. Duh. You shouldn't have asked here in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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OP: He's my only boy (I have two daughters and him), and I grew up in a family of 5 girls. I feel like everything he does is new and, frankly, weird. I didn't know if it was a boy thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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So talk to friends or something. Not UB. Cmon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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OP: I don't necessarily want to tell people my son is saying these things if there's an actual problem. Regardless of how people may think they'd react, even if there was no problem with him at all, I fear he would be stigmatized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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No it is not a boy thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Its also a lesson for you to think about what your dc watches on TV and whether a 3 yo should be watching much TV in the first place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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OP: He watched about 5 episodes. Ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Of anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Of ninja turtles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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There are multiple studies that link cartoons with violent behavior in children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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It's 5 too many, obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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I grew up watching a ridiculous amount of TV and somehow managed to be valedictorian of my high-school class and went to an Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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are ninja turtles appropriate for that age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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OP: No, definitely not. My BIL showed it to him, gave him a backpack with NT on it, and he became all-consumed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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then how do you know about the robot head cutting seen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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I called BIL when on Monday night to talk about the things he was saying. He said there was a robot head-cutting-off scene. DS also told me that's why he said it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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If it is so clear cut then why did you post earlier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Because I hadn't talked to him yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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From this post it doesn't seem like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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No, of course it's not appropriate. But she doesn't care about that, she just wanted to vba that her pediatrician's not convinced her snowflake's a unibomber-in-training. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Because he isn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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np: It's just as likely your little gooch goblins are. With a mother like you, I mean... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Meh...at least mine aren't obsessed with murder or suicide yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Give them a few years. I don't think anyone will blame them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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NP: I have an 8 yo boy. No, Ninja Turtles are not a good choice for 3 year olds. We stuck to Nick Jr when DS was little (it used to be called Noggin, if anyone remembers that) But you know what? The 5 or 6 episodes this kid saw aren't going to change him for life either. He may mimic the cartoonish violence for a little while, he may have a nightmare about it if something scared him, but it's such a small, temporary thing. I cannot believe how people get so worked up over a few episodes of a dopey cartoon. It's not like the kid saw hardcore porn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Even if he did, I highly doubt he'd be THAT affected by it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Then why did you post here -- did you expect everyone to tell you that your little monster brat was acting just fine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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He's not a monster brat. And I was looking for people who had experienced similar things, which many people said they had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I didn't see one reply from anyone who experienced what you described [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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np: Really? I saw about 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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+1. I saw several people (even a kindy teacher) say that they'd seen lots of kids do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I read your post and thought most of the responders were out of their minds. He's 3! When my ds was 2, he was running around chasing birds in the park and he said he wanted to make them all dead. No idea where he got that, but he's growing up fine and hasn't murdered any animals or people, to my knowledge. Lesson learned, right? If you're really worried about something, do NOT post on UB! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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^that you're posting this advice on UB is, of course, retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Is it 1992? Are we still using "Retarded" as a pejorative? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Yep, sure are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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np: She probably also still uses "gay" as an insult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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when you post a few sentences, its hard to figure out how often it is happening and to what severity. try some princess shows! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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I was a morbid child and I'm a nice, normal adult (I swear! :-)). I'm sure he's fine. But it never hurts to try to instill empathy. This is a good learning opportunity for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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You know best but pediatrician is not trained for this type of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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LOL are you joking? A pediatrician isn't TRAINED to be able to see if a kid is acting normally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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UB is literally the last place I'd go to for advice on kids. I'd go to 4chan first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Yes, and some of us told you not to worry! Glad we were right. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I spent two years trying to get over the guy I thought was the love of my life. And I posted many an annoying post on here trying to figure out if he would come back. Well now I've been with this new guy for a few months and I love him just as much and probably soon will love him more than the last guy. I never thought I could find love like this again. It's a slightly different flavor of love, but it's still just as beautiful. I'm actually looking forward to life again. :) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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op: :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Save it for your diary. This is forum for complaining. Take your happiness elsewhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I know, right!!! Take it to Facebook, toots! (Kidding!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Your new posts are even more annoying than your old ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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op: lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Wait until the endorphins wear off to make any decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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op: you're right. How long do you think that will be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHM that transitioned to SAHM. What prompted the transition? Dh keeps saying he wants me to quit because we spend too much on our nanny but I'm afraid of losing my income and being dependent. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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As husband and wife, you are dependent on each other whether you work or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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This. Do what you are more happy doing and what makes your family happier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP. I'm completely torn. I enjoy my job and work environment. I'm at a point where I'm poised to move up. I also enjoy being home and I don't know whether we could afford for me to do all of the things I would want to do if I stayed home, such as classes, sending DD to preschool, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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do not leave when you are poised to move up and presumably earn more money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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OP: I see your point but I've always worked and feel like I've contributed financially, even though he makes much more than I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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You contribute in other ways. It might be just for a season anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Almost 5 and 2. The 5 yo has one more year of Pre-K before kindergarten. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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so you have f/t nanny expense for 3 more years, not forever, and maybe not that long. frankly the cost of the nanny for that time is probably less than the loss of your current and potential income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I would never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Why? You won't get those years back that you missed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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So, keep them home from primary school, too. You won't get those years back either. I don't have the attitude that I'm "missing their years" because I work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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+1 I never understood that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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So your husband wants you to stop working because he wants to spend that money elsewhere? He sees you as free labor, apparently. "Oh, wouldn't it be great if I could just make her stay home and not have to write these checks to the nanny every month!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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This! Tell him to stay at home if he wants to save the money on a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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OP: I do bring home a bit more above what we pay for the nanny. We also use my health insurance. With match, I'm saving 14 percent of my salary into my 401K and I max out my pay flex for healthcare. That's money he's not factoring in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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If you are not comfortable with the idea of being a SAHM don't do it, can you work P/T instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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If he is cheap and controlling about money now (as it sounds like he might be), it's going to get worse once you don't work and he is the sole financial support for the family. I wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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OP: That's my fear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Don't do it. It doesn't sound like it's what you want (though of course we'd all like a bit more time at home). The more senior you get, the more options you will have for flexibility, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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I'm just curious. HHI? How much do you earn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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HHI about $500K, sometimes more with his bonus. I make close to $90K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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and how much do you pay your nanny that losing 90Kinincome makes up for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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That's quite plausible. She makes money that's taxed at over 50% marginal rate (FICA + federal + state + city), and the pay to the nanny is not deductible, plus they have to pay employer side taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] where to go for good facial in manhattan? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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My husband would be happy to give you one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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She said "good facial" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Oh, he is thorough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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If it's not a full spackle, I'm passing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone posted yesterday asking 'what coat are you getting this winter?' Do you guys really but new coats every winter? That seems so incredibly wasteful and materialistic. I've worn the same coat for over 10 year. Adults don't change sizes the way kids do. I can see buying a kid a new coat every writer but why an adult? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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CSB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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I need a new one because I got fatter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Just because i want a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Some people just like the new trends, etc. My good winter coat (the one I wear to work) usually lasts about five years. I spend money on other things, though, like good shoes - they are basically my transportation. After this past winter, I wanted to ball up my winter coat and throw it in a corner trash receptacle. I was so sick of that thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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NP I was thinking the same thing last night, didn't have a chance to respond but thought crossed my mind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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It's time for me to get a new one. My current coat has a cigarrette burn, dog bite, grease stain on the front, and a tear on the arm. None of those things were caused by me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How to stop poop blowouts? We are using Pampers Baby Dry and db is almost 6 months. We didn't have this problem with first dc. Suggestions? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Next size diaper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Normally that's what I'd do but we just went up a size! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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are you still breastfeeding? maybe time to introduce some solids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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No, formula fed. Starting solids soon. I hope that helps! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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it will. A lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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plastic pants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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