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[ - ] Do cheap shoes make your feet smell more? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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yes, always wear socks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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rubber and plastic will definitely stink more than leather. other than that price does not matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] When does dalton typically hold their spring tours? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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in the sring. yw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] A poem: Tonight at the Olive Garden / My husband and I will dine. / Every dish we eat there / is always a good time. / My children make good grades / they go to an exclusive school. / If you think you can do better / your nothing but a fool! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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We could be best friends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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We could be best friends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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last sentence proves you "nothing but a fool"....btw..olive garden sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I think my New Year's resolution will be to (finally) have an affair. What is yours? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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To get HPV [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Serious one: organization / daily habits. First up, going to bed by midnight during the week. Second, making a schedule for the next day before going to bed. Third, setting out kids' clothes, setting table for breakfast and deciding what they will have for breakfast before going to bed. Fourth, cleaning my room before bed. Fifth, answering all personal correspondence by the next day, latest, even if just to say can't respond more fully now. I know these seem second nature to a lot of you, but they are hard for me and they spiral. It's like I need OT for how to be a person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] my super is a rude and does nothing at all for us during the year. we are moving out in April. can i skip tipping him? i tip the doorman and other staff well. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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I think you should skip tips for the entire staff. You can always give a farewell tip to your favorites when you leave the building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Can he affect the ease of your move-out? Service elevator not available, delaying movers, that sort of thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you punish a kid who ADMITS to wrongdoing? Would that make him afraid to come clean in future? In this case, it's my 8 yo DS and he put a mean note on a girl's desk, but apparently did not write it. I do not want him contributing in any way to making someone sad. I feel like I need to do something. What's appropriate? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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A confession definitely merits some leniency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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i'd tell him i was proud of him for telling the truth, acknowledge it sounds like he knows it was not the right thing to do, and to apologize to the girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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I may get flamed for this, but why don't you ask him? Say, I am very glad that you told me what you did, because I know that you realized it was wrong, that you felt bad about it, and that you had the courage to tell me. You still did something mean, though, by putting the note on her desk. What do you think we should do about that?" (My thoughts on the punishment, btw, are to write the girl an apology. At 8, that's enough. And I wouldn't phrase it as punishment, but as consequence: when you do something mean, you fess up and apologize.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Writing her an apology letter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Yes, no question. But the punishment is far more lenient than if the child has done something bad AND compounded that by lying about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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OP needs to be explicit about that, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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get over yourselves...apology letter? seriously? he is 8 and I assume she is as well.. just tell him to stop working with class bullies and let it be that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] We are having our babysitter come skiing with us for a few days - she's a former ski instructor and has offered to help teach our kids to ski. We are paying for her train fare, skiing costs and whatever she asks for the lessons. What else should we offer her for her time with us? She won't really be "on the clock" but obviously will be staying with us in our house and will probably help out a lot because she's the helpful type. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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you should not pay her for the lesson. she is working for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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What do you mean? We will pay her for the lesson at probably a higher rate than we normally pay ($20/hr) - probably do something like $40/hr for each hour of lessons. Was thinking of offering an additional $100/day for her time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I swear I have the weirdest eating habits..so far today I've had a Fiber one bar, coffee, egg nog, raw broccoli dipped in laughing cow cheese and 2 pickles. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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How do you dip broccoli in a solid cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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laughing cow cheese is really soft. Maybe you're thinking of baby bells? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Haha, sounds like a typical day for me too, although I don't like coffee, fiber one bars or egg nog. I've eaten half a slice of chocolate babka, half a bell pepper, some snap peas and 2 butternut squash raviolis (off dd's lunch plate that she didn't eat) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can you imagine a guy on a men's forum letting us all know what he ate? Women are so odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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op 99% of what we discuss would never appear on a men's forum? do men even have forums? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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they do for weight lifting, sports, a lot of tech forums ... nearly all dudes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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No, on the mens forums it's all about how many squats and pushups and what you are deadlifting and "what do you think of this guys" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Yesterday I ate dried apricots, pirate booty, and raw kale (in rapid sequence, though not all at once) while pasta was boiling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking to move from NYC to the Maplewood/SO area. The daycare wait lists are insane (like most places in the NYC metro area). What are the chances that I could get a temporary nanny for a few months until I get into daycare? Do people do this or do you just hire someone full time and let them go? That seems unfair. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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People definitely do it temporarily. Your best bet might be to go through an agency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Care.com is good. Enjoy the new home - I love the area! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Welcome to the Scene in the Suburbs team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 1st trimester and I'm soooo tired-deep down body tired. Can I just put the TV on and lock the doors and let my 3 yo do what he will while I snooze on the couch? Or is that abusive in some way. The house is totally still child proofed. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I remember that level of tired. I would lean on a wall and come so close to falling asleep. Your body is not your own. I say plug that toddler into a Doc McStuffins marathon and get yourself some sofa time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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Ha, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Absolutely you can and should (assuming you know your DC is not likely to do something nuts). Tell DC to wake you if s/he needs something or when the TV show ends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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go for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Do whatever you need to do to get through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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I would lock the door to my bedroom, turn on the tv for 2 yo and take a nap. He was locked in the room with me and couldn't get out while I slept in the bed next to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Of course you can. I have HG with my pregnancies and when i had to be alone with the kids I would put on the tv and sleep while they watched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Op- thanks all. I thought I was going to get flamed for being a child abuser. I'm generally an active and involved mom, but I just can't right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Shower Thoughts: Mad Men makes me feel like I should be smoking and drinking whiskey. Gilmore Girls makes me want to guzzle coffee instead. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I don't see these as either-or...more like complementary situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Breaking bad got me to smoke meth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] DH has an aunt whom I find odious. She is snobby, eccentric, tone-deaf. She is self-centered and when you get around her she talks and talks and it's all about her illustrious ancestors. I really don't want to spend time with her. I don't even think she was particularly nice to DH as a boy etc. Now my DH is a decent person but not exactly warm-hearted. He swears he just feels sorry for her because she is all alone. I secretly think he wants her to leave us her money - not tons but maybe an estate of $1-2mm (this amount is not life-altering for us). Am I awful for thinking this and not believing it's really his kind heart that forces us to pay court to her every so often? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Not awful. There are plenty of people that would have the money in the back of their heads. Just be polite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP: I should say he's not just a "decent" person, he's a very moral person and very loving to me and our DCs. But not like some soft touch who weeps over the stray kittens or anything... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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I have family members like both your DH and his aunt. I think it is normal for someone to pay an occasional visit to aunts/uncles even if they don't particularly enjoy (or even actively dislike) spending time, and it really is a sense of obligation, pity, responsibility, and not even a little about the money. Doesn' tmean you're awful for thinking that or that it's not in the back of his head, but he does not have to have a bleeding heart to think he ought to visit this lonely self-absorbed aunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Sounds like the aunt is like many similar old people and she's a PITA. Your DH is being practical. Just keep in mind that many of these kinds of old people recognize the money sniffers because they are kind of money-centric themselves, and it makes them feel more powerful to dangle it out when they see people react to it. They are old and increasingly invisible and they feed off the energy they feel like they are generating when they think they can still have some power to make people do things. Even as they resent it. So don't be surprised if she makes your DH dance for a while and in the end still leaves him nothing. She can also probably tell that you don't like her. These people have nothing else to do the live-long day except read people around them like tea-leaves. They have a lot of free time to sniff out the brown-nosers and imagine how surprised you will be when there is nothing in the will for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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I feel the same - like she probably thinks we're in it for the money no matter what DH's true motives. Ironically we could buy and sell her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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She may well know that. It's weird, they want you to acknowledge how important their money is, but get upset at the same time if they feel you are looking in on them for that reason only. Either way, it's nice to look in on her every so often, but i don't doubt you for a second that she is an exhausting and tedious visit. It's a difficult period of time. At least when they go there is little doubt but that they were overdue for the departure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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I know, you can't win with them. I don't wish her dead, I just don't wish to spend time with her. We have very little free time and don't see our other relatives nearly as much as we would wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Keep in mind she's probably not the same person she used to be. You're dealing with all the *stuff* that's left over. All they have left are their delusions of grandeur about the past and about who they need to believe they are. Last chapter of the book and they can't go back, so they tend to rewrite things the way they feel like doing it. It's not your imagination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why you gotta make us all look up odious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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It means she smells funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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OP: I am very supportive of DH's and DCs' relationships with DH's grandparents who are still living, and obviously his parents, and we travel great distances to maintain ties with them. Something about this woman just completely puts me off. I seldom react this way and it's taken me years to conclude that I feel this way about her. I just wish that he would give it up and not drag us to see her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can't you just let him visit with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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and by let I mean have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] UB has broken me! A post earlier said people got an immediate confirmation after sending their R2 confirmation to Hunter. I sent mine a half hour ago and have not received anything back. And yes, I sent to the correct email address (did not hit reply). (1) Are people lying / has anyone else not received a confirm and (2) should I resend at some point or assume it went through? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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We got ours right away, but it went to the spam folder. (It came from a different address then did the original email.) Check your spam folder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Oops, than did . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, I checked spam before posting. Not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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You are kind of losing your mind over this, at least if you're the poster who has posted like 8 times since yesterday. I think you have to maybe make peace with the results not going your way. All your over-revving on this isn't doing you any good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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No, I am not that poster! That's why I said UB has broken me. I haven't posted once and think all the people stressed about which session they got, what to wear, etc. are crazy-pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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^^^ OP again: actually I did post once, in response to all the craziness, I posted that I heard Urban Baby was bought by Hunter so they could see what parents wrote. So I hear you. But now, was there a confirmation email? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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We got ours and everyone else I know got theirs as well and it seems like from hearing from other R2 families that if you did not receive yours by now that Kyla has decided to pass on you and that you should not even bother showing up. Oh, and forget about reaching out to the school or admissions office. From what I've heard Kyla is just really nasty and will hang-up on you immediately after she is done cursing you out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Seems reasonable and in line with what I've heard as well. Thank God for Urban Baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: I understand the instinct to think I am insane - I really do - it has been how I've judged everyone else! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Here is what the email looked like: From: Hccs Hcesadmit [mailto:HCCS-hcesadmit@hccs.hunter.cuny.edu] To: PARENT Subject: RE: Round 2 Appointment Thank you for your confirmation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Received 7 minutes after I sent the confirmation to Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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^^^ Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Now of course I'm doubting everyone, but thank you for responding if that is for real. I am going to focus on my day job and if I don't have a confirmation by 3pm, will decide then whether to resend (bccing DH or something to make sure it goes through). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] My 401k just crossed the 1 mil mark today 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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hi5! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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how long have you had it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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since first year after college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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how old are you now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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mid to late forties lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I tell any young person working in their first job to participate in a 401k, if offered, bc of the time element. It may hurt to not get that money in their paycheck at first, but the payoff is well worth the discomfort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Yep it really adds up if you start early enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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congrats! I am only at 250k and fear I will die of old age at my desk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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250k is not bad at all, it is way more than the average american, not sure what this people will do in retirement, SS will only get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Congratulations! Have you had company matching along the way or had great investment returns, or just got there with max contributions each year? Tell us how it's done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I had it since first year after college and always maxed it out, match varied greatly (I've worked for 5 different companies), very few adjusts during this time, I really think consistency is key, I always had a mix of very aggressive 50% and moderate other 50% within the plan available funds (but 100% equities), always did the rollover to keep the $ in the same place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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which is your current big money maker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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That's great, congrats. Remember that'll only get you a safe $40K/yr at retirement though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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It's more than a lot of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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I am happy for you. I'm 35 and only at 150k. I hope to get past a mil by the time I am in my late 40 (depends on the market). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Can LA moms tell me about Crossroads and Windward schools? Feel free to give a NYC school as a comparison. Can you think of a reason why a family would send kids to these schools (meaning 1 in each school)? TY. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Because they have enough money and time on their hands to fabricate reasons that this is necessary... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Each school has a different personality. crossroads is more artsy and creative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Crossroads equals Saint Anns, Windward equals Trinity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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really? is it more rigorous than harvard-westlake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to look fabulous on new years eve in a dress the juuuuust fits today...considering timing, would you spend your time running or going to Barre classes over the next week? I can budget about an hour/day to work out. FYI..don't need to lose a ton of weight - just want to look fit. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Personally I would do Barre or Pilates - will help you stand in a way that looks lean and healthy, running a lot / daily can make people look gaunt if it is not part of their regular routine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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If it 'just' fits, then I feel like a diet modification to de-puff might be a good idea. Slow down on the carbs for a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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OP: Oh that goes without saying. I'm starving myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Eat a little asparagus every day. Helps get rid of any extra fluid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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OP TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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It just fits then it sounds like you'll be popping out of it in all the good ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a kids' birthday party at Jekyll & Hyde? Thoughts? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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sometimes its nice and sometimes it sucks so go figure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP: yes, the reviews are very mixed. It's $10 less pp at the Greenwich Village location, but I suspect that's because it's less polished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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be wary! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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